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The Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide to...The Last DanceJess and Phil have an important update.
Want to support the podcast? Drop a tip in the virtual tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/the-introverts-guide-to2024-08-2924 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide to...Crossing the street to avoid even your best friendsJess and Phil have a confession. While its widely known that they will avoid acquaintances if they pass them on the street, its time to come clean and admit that they do the same, even if they see really good friends on the street. In this episode they talk about why they do it, and why they (mostly) don't feel bad about it. And why you shouldn't either.
Want to support the podcast? Drop a tip in the virtual tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/the-introverts-guide-to2024-06-0642 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide to...HobbiesThis podcast was inspired by a reddit post, where the OP (Original Poster) complained: I’m an introvert and I don’t have hobbies… how do I get one? In this episode, Jess and Phil talk about hobbies. Is it possible to have hobbies that don't have a social aspect? Does the fear of social hobbies keep some introverts from pursuing hobbies that they might otherwise pursue? Phil and Jess talk about hobbies they are currently pursuing, ones they started and abandoned, and more.
Want to support the podcast? Drop a tip in the virtual tip jar: https...2024-05-2345 minThe Introvert's Guide to...Catching up with Jess and PhilWe've been on hiatus longer than we anticipated. As we do when we come back from a break, we catch up on what's been going on, and let you know why we were away for so long. The TLDR: a lot happened.
Want to support the podcast? Drop a tip in the virtual tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/the-introverts-guide-to2024-05-091h 02The Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide to...When the Boss Says You're Too QuietEver been told your introverted nature is a misfit for your workplace? Well, we've got a story for you! Join us, your introverted hosts Phil Rickaby and Jess Gorman, as we navigate the complexities of introversion in professional settings. One listener shares their experience of being told by a manager that introversion doesn't quite cut it at work. We delve into this, reassuring you that your quiet nature is not equivalent to incompetence and certainly doesn't define your professional capabilities.
As the conversation unfolds, we discuss a unique scenario - being introverted in a gym environment. Drawing...2023-10-1240 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide to...When it feels like extroverts make all the rulesIn this episode, inspired by a reddit post, Jess and Phil talk about how it sometimes seems like extroverts make all the rules in life, and the introverts just have to deal with it.
Want to support the podcast? Drop a tip in the virtual tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/the-introverts-guide-to2023-09-0750 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide to...Being a Part-Time ExtrovertIn this episode, IG2 returns from its hiatus, and Jess an Phil talk about what its like having to pretend to be an extrovert, either at work or in social situations.
Want to support the podcast? Drop a tip in the virtual tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/the-introverts-guide-to2023-08-2446 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide to...A Quick UpdateIn this short episode, Jess and Phil talk about why we missed putting out an episode last week, and why we're going to take about a month's break before getting back to publishing again.
Want to support the podcast? Drop a tip in the virtual tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/the-introverts-guide-to2023-06-0802 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide to...Can Introverts Be LonelyIn this episode, Jess and Phil ponder the question: Can introverts get lonely. They talk about times they have been lonely, what it takes for them to be lonely, how often it happens, and much more. Plus, your social media comments.
Want to support the podcast? Drop a tip in the virtual tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/the-introverts-guide-to2023-04-2750 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide to...Parties (III)On this episode, Jess and Phil revisit that topic that chills introverts to the bone: Parties. In this third episode on the topic, Jess and Phil address questions from introverts about parties and how to deal with them. Also, Jess presents suggestions for any introvert thinking of hosting their own party.
Want to support the podcast? Drop a tip in the virtual tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/the-introverts-guide-to2023-04-1349 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide to...Being BusyIn this episode, Jess and Phil talk about dealing with being busy as introverts. Introverts tend to be sensitive, and so being too busy can be overwhelming. How do Jess and Phil keep from becoming overwhelmed by all the things they have to do? Plus, your suggestions from social media.
Want to support the podcast? Drop a tip in the virtual tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/the-introverts-guide-to2023-03-3045 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide to...The Hill I Will Die On - Jess EditionIn this episode, we return to our "The Hill I Will Die On" series, and this time its Jess with the hill she will die on, which leaves Phil speechless. Listen and let us know: do you agree with Jess? Would you too choose this hill?
Want to support the podcast? Drop a tip in the virtual tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/the-introverts-guide-to2023-03-1646 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide to...Uninvited VisitorsIn this episode, Jess and Phil discuss how to deal with an uninvited visitor, whether friend or family member, and what to do (and perhaps not do) when there's an unexpected knock on the door. Also, your comments on how you have (or have not) dealt with similar situations.
Want to support the podcast? Drop a tip in the virtual tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/the-introverts-guide-to2023-03-0253 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide to...Introverts in Pop CultureIn this episode, Jess and Phil talk about their favourite introverts in pop culture, and which ones that some people think are introverts might not be. Also, listener favourite introverts!
Want to support the podcast? Drop a tip in the virtual tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/the-introverts-guide-to2023-02-1647 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide to...Defining SuccessIn this episode, Jess and Phil talk about what success looks like for introverts, and how the idea of success that some people (usually non-extroverts) talk about, might seem unattainable for an introverted personality.
Want to support the podcast? Drop a tip in the virtual tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/the-introverts-guide-to2023-02-0250 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide to...Am I The DramaIn this episode, Jess plays the role of your "toxic" introvert friend as she and Phil talk about some bad habits that introverts might display that make their lives more difficult, or might cause drama in their lives.
Want to support the podcast? Drop a tip in the virtual tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/the-introverts-guide-to2023-01-1951 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...New Years ResolutionsAround this time of year, those of us who made resolutions for the new year start to wonder if we made the right choice. Some of us may already be feeling like they failed. In this episode Jess and Phil talk about why they don't make resolutions, their past relationship with resolutions, and more.
Also in this episode, Phil mentions an alternative to resolutions: taking stock of the year that was, and deciding what you want more of in the new year. We recommend the Year Compass for this at https://yearcompass.com/
Want to...2023-01-0544 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide to...Surviving the HolidaysThe holiday season can be overwhelming, with family obligations, parties and other gatherings. In this episode, Jess and Phil bring you some suggestions and tips for getting through the holiday season.
Want to support the podcast? Drop a tip in the virtual tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/the-introverts-guide-to2022-12-2243 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide to...Introvert Friendly CareersIn this episode, Jess and Phil try to come up with introvert friendly careers; Phil plays "career coach" for Jess as they try to come up with career choices that feed the introvert rather than ones that drain them.
Links in this episode:
https://www.careershifters.org/expert-advice/how-to-change-career-when-youve-no-idea-what-to-do-next
Want to support the podcast? Drop a tip in the virtual tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/the-introverts-guide-to2022-12-0848 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide to...No longer resenting my introversionIn this episode Jess and Phil talk about how to keep from resenting your introversion. How to stop letting other people's assumptions about what introversion is affect how you feel about yourself, and a reminder of how important it is to say what you need in your relationships.
Links in this episode:
https://getthefriendsyouwant.com/hate-being-an-introvert/
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https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/the-introverts-guide-to2022-11-2450 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide to..."I will die on this hill" 1In this episode, we present Jess and Phil facing off in a semi-regular "game" we're calling "I will die on this hill" in which one of our hosts, presents the other with a controversial statement about a way they interact with the world, and the other reacts and tries to convince them otherwise. Here, Phil tells us what happens when a cafe he goes to knows his order before he gives it, and Jess reacts in horror.
Want to support the podcast? Drop a tip in the virtual tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/the-introverts-guide-to2022-11-1000 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide to...Big Life ChangesIn this episode Jess and Phil talk about big life changes. Jess talks about her recent big life change, as well as another big change (when she moved to a new city). Phil talks about starting a big new job. Also revealed: one of the two loves Temptation Island. Before listening, can you guess who?
Want to support the podcast? Drop a tip in the virtual tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/the-introverts-guide-to2022-10-2747 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide to...Catching up with Jess and PhilJess and Phil are back to the podcast again after 7 months. In this episode we catch up with them and find out what they've been up to (spoiler: Jess had a baby and Phil did a show).
Want to support the podcast? Drop a tip in the virtual tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/the-introverts-guide-to2022-10-1300 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide to...Introverted Actors (with Stageworthy Podcast)Co-host Jess is still on maternity leave, but this week, Phil gives you a special episode from his theatre podcast, Stageworthy: a roundtable discussion with introverted actors. A lot of people think that actors are all extraverts, but as Jess and Phil have mentioned before, this just isn't true. On this episode actor and playwright, Stephen Near; actor & Singer-Songwriter Carolyn Fe; writer, composer & and performer, Kristen Zaza; playwright & performer, Genevieve Adam; writer & actor Michael Ripley, and your usual co-hosts, Jess McAuley and Phil Rickaby talk about being introverted in a profession that seems to expect extraversion.
Support...2022-05-2600 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide to...Being AwkwardIn this episode, Jess and Phil explore awkwardness and what to do when you experience that awkward feeling. Also, Jess will be taking some maternity time, so IG2 will be going on hiatus for a short while. We'll see you back here soon!
Links in this episode:
https://socialpronow.com/blog/socially-awkward/2022-03-2400 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide to...That Friend From High SchoolIn this episode, Jess and Phil answer a question from a listener, who is worried that not wanting to reconnect with a friend from high school makes them a bad person, which leads them to talk about the importance of boundaries, revisit the friend list on social media, and much more.2022-03-1039 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide to...Sensitivity and EmpathyIn this episode, Jess and Phil talk about being (perhaps a little) overly sensitive. Phil admits to not having watched The Office, and Jess considers whether they can still be friends because of that.
Links in this episode:
https://introvertdear.com/news/hsp-things-realize/2022-03-0356 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide to...OverthinkingIn this episode, Jess and Phil talk about overthinking. They share times they have found themselves stuck in a thought loop, and how to break out of it.
Links in episode:
https://medium.com/@nishtha04/being-an-introvert-and-an-overthinker-at-the-same-time-c7d5c997a9922022-02-1746 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide to...New BeginningsIn this episode, Jess and Phil talk about new beginnings, and how to handle them, from the first day of a new job, to impending parenthood, and try to find some helpful solutions to dealing with those first days and new beginnings.2022-02-0348 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide to...Making FriendsIn this episode Jess and Phil talk about making friends as an introvert (or even just as an adult), and how difficult that can be.
Links In this Episode
https://nandoodles.medium.com/the-extrovert-s-guide-to-making-friends-everywhere-you-go-4d07cbbe9dd3
https://observer.com/2015/07/an-introverts-guide-to-eating-and-drinking-out/2022-01-201h 01The Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide to...Social Anxiety and "Antisocial"We've all heard it before: introverts are "antisocial". But what does that mean exactly? In this episode, Jess and Phil dive into this question, and whether social anxiety is necessarily a part of being an introvert, or something else entirely. And what do people mean exactly, whey they say we are antisocial?
Links in this episode:
https://www.healthline.com/health/anxiety/introvert-vs-social-anxiety#a-socially-anxious-introvert
https://www.sheknows.com/living/articles/1113071/introvert-vs-antisocial/
Transcript at https://introvertsguideto.com/the-introverts-guide-to-social-anxiety-and-antisocial/2022-01-0650 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...Returning to HolidaysIn this episode, as things begin to open up, and holiday gatherings are starting to happen, Jess and Phil talk about how to deal with the return to gatherings.
Note: This episode was recorded before the current increases in cases of the Omicron variant of the COVID-19 virus. We decided to release this episode, for those who may still find themselves at gatherings this holiday season.2021-12-2300 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...Disproving The Existence of Introvert and ExtrovertIn this episode, Jess and Phil get a little heated as they respond to an article in Inc Magazine entitled T_here Are No Such Things as Introversion or Extroversion_. They have a lot of thoughts.
Links in this episode:
https://www.inc.com/joshua-spodek/there-are-no-such-things-as-introversion-or-extroversion.html2021-12-0949 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...ProcrastinationIn this episode, Jess and Phil talk about procrastination and admit to their worst habits where putting things off is concerned. They also offer some helpful tips for combatting procrastination, including when you might want to just give in to it.
Links in this episode:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201204/the-paradox-procrastination
https://www.psychologyjunkie.com/2019/03/25/heres-how-you-procrastinate-based-on-your-myers-briggs-personality-type/#h-infps-and-isfps-can-procrastinate-about-taking-action2021-11-2553 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...ReturnsOn this episode, Jess and Phil return after their hiatus, and catch you up on a) why the hiatus was necessary - and trust us, its amazing, exciting news - and b) what they have been up to. Also in this episode: how our perceptions of what makes a "crowd" has completely changed, as well as our notebook addictions, and more!2021-11-1147 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide to...Going Back to the OfficeIn this episode, Jess and Phil discuss returning to the office after a year and a half of working from home and provide some helpful tips on how to deal with that return.
Links in this episode:
https://www.truity.com/blog/back-work-survey-introverts-women-and-non-management-employees-may-dread-going-back-office2021-08-0536 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide to...Creativity (with author Meghan Rogers)In this episode, Jess and Phil are joined by author Meghan Rogers to talk about creativity and the introvert.
Meghan Rogers is a writer and an introvert living in the Philadelphia area. She’s the author of the young adult spy series, The Raven Files and the blogger behind createyourownreality.co where she blogs about a handful of topics including introvert life. When she’s not writing, she is most likely to be found on her couch, having opted out of a social invite.
For more information on her books, you can visit her website, www...2021-07-2243 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide to...PerfectionismIn this episode, Jess and Phil discuss the pitfalls of being a perfectionist and suggest ways that an introverted perfectionist can loosen up and let a little imperfection in.
Links in this episode:
https://personalitygrowth.com/how-much-of-a-perfectionist-each-personality-type-is/2021-07-0841 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide to...Defying ExpectationsIn this episode, Jess and Phil talk about the expectations that people have about what an introvert is capable of and defying those expectations.
Links in this episode:
https://hbr.org/2021/01/can-introverts-thrive-in-extroverted-careers2021-06-2439 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide to...Zoom FatigueIn the last 15 months, we've all found ourselves on more video meetings than ever before, and for a lot of introverts, these are more difficult to deal with than in-person meetings. In this episode, Jess and Phil talk about why these are more taxing, and what tips and tricks you can use to get through them.
Links in this episode:
https://www.nationalgeographic.com/science/article/zoom-fatigue-may-be-with-us-for-years-heres-how-well-cope
https://www.nationalgeographic.com/science/article/coronavirus-zoom-fatigue-is-taxing-the-brain-here-is-why-that-happens2021-06-1047 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To..."Introvert Guilt"In response to an email from a listener, Jess and Phil talk about dealing with the guilt that sometimes comes from deciding to miss out on an event, whether work or otherwise.
Links in this episode:
https://createyourownreality.co/how-to-deal-with-introvert-guilt/2021-05-2747 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide to...Dealing With "Clingy" RelationshipsIn this episode, Jess and Phil discuss dealing with "clingy" relationships; those friends that demand more time you can give, or the romantic relationship that anxious or upset if they can't be with you all the time.
Articles referenced in this episode:
https://www.talkspace.com/blog/am-i-clingy-what-to-do/
https://www.brides.com/how-not-to-be-clingy-4176696
https://www.wikihow.com/Gently-Dump-a-Clingy-%22Friend%22
Phil's Patreon: https://patreon.com/philrickaby2021-05-1300 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...Social Media FastingIn this episode Jess and Phil talk about social media fasting, when to go on a fast, when not to, and how to have a more healthy relationship with social media.2021-04-2950 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...Introvert "Turn Ons"In this episode, Jess and Phil talk about things that are just wonderful for an introvert to hear. Those things that make the introvert just...melt. Things like "I have to cancel our plans" or "the party is cancelled", as well as some thing that just aren't.2021-04-1540 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...RoutinesIn this episode, Jess and Phil discuss the importance of Routines, and how they can be very helpful for the introvert. Also: Phil learns a "horrifying" secret about Jess.
Links in this episode:
https://nesslabs.com/habits-routines-rituals2021-04-0140 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...The Myers-Briggs testThis week, Jess and Phil look at the Myers-Briggs test: Its origins, its uses, and it sometimes problematic aspects.
Links in this episode:
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/19048975/)
https://www.myersbriggs.org/my-mbti-personality-type/mbti-basics/c-g-jungs-theory.htm
https://www.dnb.com/business-directory/company-profiles.the_myers-briggs_company.76632dd8acd83e7d95d18ab62c140624.html
https://www.businessinsider.com/the-personality-types-that-earn-the-most-and-least-money-2015-2
https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/give-and-take/201309/goodbye-mbti-the-fad-won-t-die2021-03-1845 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...Dealing With Extroverted FamilyIn this episode, Jess and Phil answer a listener question about the difficulty of dealing with an Extroverted Family member.2021-03-0439 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...Introvert "Super Powers"In this episode, Jess and Phil talk about those talents that tend to be strongest in introverts: the introvert super powers.
Links in this episode:
https://tinybuddha.com/blog/a-love-note-to-introverts-10-superpowers-that-make-you-amazing/2021-02-1835 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...Answers Your QuestionsWe asked our listeners to send us their burning questions about their introvert lives, and we would give our best advice. In this episode, Jess and Phil answer listener questions.2021-02-0438 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...Always Doing It Yourself (And How Not To)Why do so many introverts have difficulty asking for help, whether it's trying to carry too many grocery bags home from the store by yourself, or trying to learn something new. In this episode, Jess and Phil admit their struggles with asking for help, and try to find ways to ask for help when they need it.
Links in this episode:
https://www.16personalities.com/articles/asking-for-help-part-i-harder-for-some-personality-types-than-others2021-01-2139 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...Apartment HuntingIn this episode, Jess and Phil talk about hunting for an apartment as an introvert, as well as the strange relationship between tenant and landlord, and what (for them) makes a good landlord relationship.2021-01-0748 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...is on hiatus until JanuaryJess and Phil are taking a brief hiatus over the holidays, so no new episode this week. But we will be back in January, with more episodes of The Introvert's Guide To...2020-12-1000 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...Being Perceived as QuietEpisode Notes
In this episode, Jess and Phil dig into that phrase that so many introverts hear, "You're so quiet" and try to dig into the truth behind that idea about introverts.
Links in this episode:
https://www.cnbc.com/2019/09/19/acting-extroverted-improves-introverts-wellbeing-happiness.html
https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/quiet-disadvantage-study-finds-extroverts-are-happier-even-when-theyre-really-introverts/2020-11-2641 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...The Introverted LeaderEpisode Notes
In this episode, Jess and Phil talk about finding themselves in leadership roles, what makes a good leader, and how introverts (contrary to some) make great leaders.
Links in this episode:
https://introvertdear.com/news/10-survival-tips-for-introverted-leaders/2020-11-1242 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...Feeding Your RelationshipIn this episode, Jess and Phil respond to a letter from a listener, and dive into how an introvert can feed their relationships, both with friends and partners.
Links in the episode:
https://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/13-things-you-can-make-introvert-feel-loved.html2020-10-2944 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...Friend BreakupsSometimes it is necessary to break up with a friend. This can be a difficult thing to approach, and can lead to confrontations which many of us would rather avoid. In this episode, Jess and Phil provide helpful hints for how to approach a friend break up.
Links in the episode:
https://psych2go.net/10-signs-youve-pissed-introvert-off/2020-10-1550 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...Selective FriendshipsIn this episode, Phil and Jess talk about being selective about their friendships, and keeping their circle of friends small. Phil also learns that he is not a complete a**hole, Jess tells a story about potentially ghosting a friend, and they both get the giggles.
Links in this episode:
https://www.makemebetter.net/why-should-you-choose-your-friends-carefully/2020-10-0152 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...AmbivertsIn this episode, Jess and Phil invited their friend, storyteller, actor, playwright, Carlyn Rhamey to come and discuss life living between the two extremes of Introvert and Extrovert: life as an Ambivert.
Links in this episode:
https://www.wellandgood.com/what-is-an-ambivert/2020-09-1757 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...Self Esteem and Self ConfidenceIn this episode, Phil and Jess talk about dealing with self esteem and self confidence issues. How the stories we tell ourselves matter, and how to be kinder to ourselves.
Links in this episode:
https://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/affirmations.htm2020-09-0339 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...Saying What You NeedIn this episode, Phil and Jess talk about how to do that thing they are always reminding us to do: say what you need. This isn't always easy, so Jess and Phil try to provide helpful advice on how to do this. Also, rather than finding helpful advice on the internet, Jess digs deep into google's nether pages to find terrible advice that you should definintely not follow.2020-08-2042 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...Social Media, FOMO and GuiltIn this episode, Phil & Jess talk about the FOMO (fear of missing out) that can come from seeing others post on Social Media, as well as the self consciousness that some introverts feel about posting.
Links in this episode:
https://www.theodysseyonline.com/how-use-fomo-motivation-when-you-are-introvert
https://www.bustle.com/articles/153339-how-to-avoid-fomo-when-youre-an-introvert2020-08-0635 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...Job HuntingOn this episode, Jess and Phil face the difficulties of Job hunting for the introvert. Both Phil and Jess have been in a position to do hiring as well, so they also offer some suggestions for the job hunter.
Links in this episode:
https://www.glassdoor.com/blog/introverts-guide-to-job-hunting/2020-07-2342 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...Quarantine LifeIn this episode, Jess and Phil check in to talk about how they are "surviving" the quarantine life. Turns out, they are doing pretty well. They also hear from other introverts about how they are doing.2020-07-0943 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...Team Building EventsIn this episode, Jess and Phil discuss the difficulty of team building events and the introvert. Phil has a lot to say on the topic. Jess discovers to her surprise that Phil would be up for a bus ride sing along.
https://www.scienceofpeople.com/team-building-activities/
https://teambonding.com.au/blog/i-hate-team-building-icebreaker-games-for-introverts-and-sceptics/2020-06-2530 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...People PleasingIn this episode, Jess and Phil talk about being people pleasers. Phil realizes that maybe he's more of a people pleaser than he thought. And Jess discovers that she's learned more about how to say no than she thought!
Links in this episode:
https://introvertdear.com/news/the-people-pleasers-guide-to-pleasing-people/
https://www.thathummingbirdlife.com/blog/a-permission-slip-for-friendly-people-pleasing-introverts
https://www.solutionstoallyourproblems.com/5-things-i-had-to-learn-in-order-to-stop-being-a-people-pleaser/2020-06-1138 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...How to Be Cool and PopularIn this episode, Jess and Phil talk about being cool and popular as an introvert, what is “cool”, and whether an introvert can be popular. We also learn that Phil made some unfortunate choices in high school in his quest to be cool, and that Jess was always pretty cool.
Links in this episode:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wHHwE8Y-pqk
https://medium.com/@connectzapp/how-to-be-popular-when-youre-an-introvert-8ed74f47e108
https://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/10-reasons-why-introverts-are-incredibly-attractive-people-2.html2020-05-1441 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...Video Game "Dependency"On this episode, Jess and Phil talk about video games, and if either of them is "dependent" on them. Jess discovers that perhaps Phil isn't quite as dependent as she thought, and Phil discovers that Jess might have a slight addiction to a certain game of crafting in mines.
Links in this episode:
https://www.16personalities.com/articles/game-on-which-personality-types-enjoy-video-games2020-04-3038 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...Questions From ExtrovertsIn this episode, Jess and Phil answer questions that extroverts have for introverts. Questions were solicited from r/extroverts and from social media.2020-04-1640 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...Living with RoommatesIn this episode, Jess and Phil talk about living with roommates, and how to handle roommate socializing as an introvert.
Links in this episode:
https://introvertdear.com/news/introverts-guide-dealing-roommates/
https://ohmyapt.apartmentratings.com/living-with-roommates-as-an-introvert.html
https://www.truity.com/blog/survival-guide-introverts-who-live-extroverts-and-vice-versa2020-04-0245 minThe Introvert's Guide to...Bonus: Extroverts Guide to Social DistancingIn our first ever bonus episode, Jess and Phil have some suggestions for our extroverts who might be struggling with social distancing.2020-03-2610 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...Being Mistaken for ShyIn this episode, Jess and Phil talk about being mistaken for shy, and how often being introverted is conflated with being shy.
Links in this episode:
https://www.inc.com/melanie-curtin/are-you-shy-or-introverted-science-says-this-is-1-primary-difference.html2020-03-1937 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...The Open Concept OfficeIn this episode, Jess and Phil talk about the challenges of working in an open concept office as an introvert.
Links in the episode:
https://medium.com/swlh/the-complete-introverts-guide-to-surviving-an-open-plan-office-f21a5e1072c2
https://www.andymort.com/open-plan-office/
https://introvertdear.com/news/5-tips-to-save-your-sanity-in-an-open-office/
https://www.cofcogroup.com/introverts-guide-to-thriving-in-an-open-plan-office/2020-03-0536 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...Maintaining FriendshipsIn this episode, Jess and Phil come up with strategies to maintain their friendships: from texting, to reminder apps, to (ugh) phone calls.
Links in this episode:
https://www.theaccessproject.org/friends-with-introverts/
https://www.16personalities.com/articles/keeping-in-touch-when-you-are-an-introvert2020-02-2035 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...plays would you ratherLast episode was a little heavy, so this episode is all fun and games: Jess and Phil play Would You Rather, and try to make each other shudder.2020-02-0647 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...GrievingIn this episode, Jess and Phil talk about grieving.
CW: This episode contains a lengthy discussion about death and grief, as well as healthy (and maybe not so healthy) coping mechanisms for introverts. This is a topic that some listeners may find difficult to listen to, and discretion is advised.
Links in this episode:
https://introvertdear.com/news/introverts-and-the-burden-of-grief/
https://whatsyourgrief.com/introverts-and-grief/
https://introvertwhisperer.com/introverts-guide-to-grief-3-truths-about-grief-that-will-help-you-manage-your-process/2020-01-2337 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...The GymIn this episode, Jess and Phil discuss the gym: a place Phil has seldom been (just enough to reinforce his dislike of it), and a place Jess used to spend time. Also: why are there no introvert friendly gyms?
https://medium.com/@mariefranklin/the-introverts-guide-to-going-to-the-gym-e3d5b9454755
https://introvertdear.com/news/how-to-survive-going-to-the-gym-when-youre-an-introvert/
https://blog.goodlifefitness.com/article/survival-tips-for-introverts-at-the-gym2020-01-0944 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...Surviving the HolidaysPhil and Jess provide some advice to introverts on surviving everything from holiday parties, to those seasonal familial obligations.
Episode Links:
https://introvertdear.com/news/introverts-christmas-holidays-exhausting/
https://www.quietrev.com/how-an-introvert-does-thanksgiving/2019-12-2450 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...ConfrontationIn this episode, Jess and Phil talk about dealing with confrontation. Phil admits to being confrontation avoidant, and Jess is a little disappointed.
https://www.reddit.com/r/extroverts/comments/6b005k/extroverts_and_dealing_with_introverted_conflict/
https://introvertspring.com/introverts-and-conflict/
https://www.quietrev.com/an-introverts-guide-to-managing-conflict/2019-12-1242 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...Phone AnxietyIn this episode, Jess and Phil grapple with that old nemesis: the phone call.
Episode Links:
https://www.verywellmind.com/afraid-making-phone-calls-tips-3024317
https://themindsjournal.com/introverts-hate-talking-on-phone/
https://introvertdear.com/news/introvert-phone-call-tips/2019-11-2142 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...WeddingsThis summer Jess got Married. Phil didn't, but he's been to a lot of weddings. In this episode: wedding survival tips.
https://www.brides.com/story/wedding-day-survival-tips-for-introverted-brides
https://www.marriagenamechange.com/blog/wedding-introvert/
https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/soloish/wp/2017/08/30/6-ways-to-make-weddings-more-fun-for-introverts/2019-11-0747 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...Moving to a New CityEpisode Notes
In this episode, Jess and Phil talk about moving to a new city, and how not to be isolated when you don't know anyone.
Links in this episode:
https://verilymag.com/2018/09/an-introverts-guide-to-finding-friends-in-a-new-city
https://www.bustle.com/p/how-to-make-friends-when-you-move-to-a-new-place-as-adult-9086541
https://www.npr.org/podcasts/510350/how-to-make-friends2019-10-2452 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...Parties (revisited)Jess and Phil return to the topic that still plagues them (and many introverts): parties.
Episode Links:
https://www.huffingtonpost.ca/entry/introverts-and-parties_n_562e9982e4b06317990f1037
https://thesocialman.com/the-introverts-guide-to-acing-parties/
https://medium.com/@mollysmithone/how-to-blend-in-at-a-party-when-youre-an-introvert-427f478015c2019-10-1051 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...Knowing You're an IntrovertEpisode Notes
In this episode, Jess and Phil talk about how to know that you're an introvert.
https://introvertdear.com/news/introvert-undeniable-signs/
https://www.verywellmind.com/signs-you-are-an-introvert-2795427
https://www.quora.com/How-do-I-know-if-I-am-an-introvert-1
http://nymag.com/scienceofus/2015/06/apparently-there-are-four-kinds-of-introversion.html2019-09-2654 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...Learning to Love Your IntroversionEpisode Notes
On this episode, Jess and Phil talk about learning to love being an introvert.
Links in this episode:
https://thoughtcatalog.com/bineet-kaur/2017/02/why-i-wholeheartedly-love-being-an-introvert/
https://www.scarymommy.com/benefits-being-introvert/
https://www.theodysseyonline.com/like-being-introvert2019-09-1249 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...is coming backEpisode Notes
We've been away but we're coming back. We went on a hiatus, but we're coming back! Why the hiatus? Jess got married, and Phil did a show. We'll be back with full episodes on Sept 12, 2019.2019-08-0100 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To....Group WorkEpisode Notes
In this episode, Jess and Phil talk about group work, both at school and work, and how to survive it.2019-03-2840 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...Breaking PlansEpisode Notes
On this episode, Jess and Phil discuss the stories we tell when we break plans. Both things we tell other people, and the stories we tell ourselves.
Links in this episode:
https://shesaid.com/23-excuses-every-introvert-has-used-to-get-out-of-goi
https://livewellworryless.com/2016/06/10/being-an-introvert-was-my-excuse-to-disengage/
https://austin.citymomsblog.com/2016/07/27/introversion-personality-trait-not-excuse/
https://www.charismaoncommand.com/introvert-vs-extrovert/
https://www.bustle.com/articles/153339-how-to-avoid-fomo-when-youre-an-introvert
https://introvertdear.com/news/negative-thoughts-ruining-life/2019-03-1458 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...RechargingEpisode Notes
In this episode Jess and Phil explore ways for Introvert's to recharge after exhausting social interactions.
Links from this episode:
https://www.popsugar.com/smart-living/Ways-Introverts-Recharge-39990746
https://louderminds.com/recharge-introvert/
https://strongsensitivesouls.com/recharge-your-energy/
https://www.powerofpositivity.com/5-recharging-techniques-for-introverts/2019-02-2850 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide to...Valentines DayEpisode Notes
In this episode: Valentines Day. Jess and Phil talk about whether Valentines is awesome, or whether it's terrible, and then: some coping mechanisms for dealing with Valentines Day as a single introvert.
Links in this episode:
https://introvertspring.com/still-single/
https://introvertdear.com/news/introvert-alone-on-valentines-day/2019-02-1349 minThe Introvert's Guide to...Introvert's Guide to...Surviving Small TalkEpisode Notes
In this episode Jess and Phil talk about how to survive small talk.
Links from this episode:
http://intentblog.com/10-creative-ways-to-survive-small-talk/
https://www.forbes.com/sites/christinapark/2015/03/30/an-introverts-guide-to-small-talk-eight-painless-tips/#4601ff2574a7
https://journal.media/tips-for-introverts-on-surviving-small-talk
https://lifehacker.com/5913355/how-can-i-turn-small-talk-into-a-conversation2019-01-3144 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide to...Being FixedEpisode Notes
In this episode, Phil and Jess talk about how to deal with those "helpful" people who try and fix your introversion.
Links from this episode:
https://introvertdear.com/news/cant-fix-introverts-not-broken/
https://www.theodysseyonline.com/im-an-introvert-and-dont-need-to-be-fixed
https://www.quora.com/How-do-I-overcome-the-problem-of-being-an-introvert
https://introvertspring.com/open-letter-introverts-feel-broken/2019-01-1749 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...Ordering Take OutEpisode Notes
In this episode, Jess & Phil tackle that most terrible of introvert problems: ordering take out.
Also: here's the silly "are you an introvert or an extrovert based on your pizza order" quiz they talk about in the episode:
http://quizly.co/order-a-pizza-introvert-or-extrovert/2019-01-0331 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide to...Holiday ShoppingEpisode Notes
In this episode, Phil and Jess talk about surviving holiday shopping, self care, and more.
https://introvertdear.com/news/introverts-christmas-holidays-exhausting/
https://introvertdear.com/news/salespeople-introvert-shop/2018-12-2042 minThe Introvert's Guide to...Introvert's Guide To...RelationshipsEpisode Notes
In this episode, Jess & Phil talk about the challenges of being in relationships, both with other introverts and with a gasp Extrovert! Also, an important announcement!
https://www.huffingtonpost.ca/entry/how-to-love-an-introvert_us_58ade64de4b0d0a6ef476aa3
https://psych2go.net/10-things-introverts-need-relationship/
https://introvertspring.com/the-ultimate-introverts-dilemma-in-relationships/
https://www.huffingtonpost.ca/entry/introverts-dating-extroverts_us_5abd5736e4b055e50acc4db82018-08-3043 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide to...House GuestsEpisode Notes
In this episode Jess and Phil talk about house guests, both being and hosting. Also, they share some horror stories about being guests, and also get hung up on the fact that some people don't keep coffee in the house.
http://introvertretreat.com/822/introverted-houseguest-host-without-driving-crazy/
https://www.theadventurouswriter.com/blog/enjoying-house-guests-when-you-rather-they-stay-in-a-hotel/
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2065379/Want-ruin-life-Be-guest-Houseguests-annoying-expensive.html
https://www.reddit.com/r/introvert/comments/30b913/houseguests/2018-08-1647 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...WorkEpisode Notes
Work. We all have to do it. Some workplaces are very social, and others more solitary. But at some point, you have to deal with other people, like coworkers or clients. In this episode, Phil and Jess try to find coping mechanisms for dealing with work.
https://mmlafleur.com/mdash/introvert-guide-to-working-in-office
https://www.huffingtonpost.ca/entry/an-introverts-office-surv_n_3670946
https://medium.com/thrive-global/the-introverts-guide-to-the-workplace-a2429b16c44a
http://www.careercontessa.com/advice/workplace-introverts/
https://www.vogue.com/article/career-tips-for-shy-introverts
https://mylittlepieceofquiet.wordpress.com/2015/11/05/8-retail-survival-tips-for-introverts/
https://medium.com/@lauraaymar/an-introvert-in-retail-3f6cff9687a8
https://www...2018-07-1943 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...DatingEpisode Notes
Sometimes, the thought of going out several times a week to meet a new person, in a crowded cafe or restaurant, or even doing shudder activities is just too much. In this episode, Phil & Jess talk about how to navigate the dating world as an introvert.
https://www.buzzfeed.com/juliareinstein/i-wanna-do-boring-things-with-you
https://www.eharmony.com.au/dating-advice/dating/how-to-date-if-youre-an-introvert
http://www.doctornerdlove.com/dating-introverts/all/1/2018-06-2136 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...NetworkingEpisode Notes
If there is one word that makes an introvert's blood run cold, more than parties, more than general small talk: its Networking. We've all been there. At a networking event that we have to go to, wondering why me?? In this episode, Jess & Phil try to find some ways to deal with Networking that aren't don't go.
https://www.theguardian.com/careers/2015/dec/10/how-to-network-introvert
https://www.themuse.com/advice/an-introverts-guide-to-networking
https://www.thebalance.com/networking-tips-for-introverts-2061377
https://boss.blogs.nytimes.com/2014/10/15/an-introverts-guide-to-networking/
https://businessforum.rogers.com/small-business/posts/networking-101-1797192018-06-0740 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...TravelEpisode Notes
Travel can be fun, but the problem with travel is...other people. In this episode, Phil and Jess try to find ways to deal with travelling and the people we encounter, from the helpful to the less than helpful.
https://youngadventuress.com/2015/01/travel-introvert.html
https://introvertspring.com/ultimate-introvert-travel-guide/
https://www.buzzfeed.com/anniedaly/um-yes-naptime-is-an-activity
http://www.worldofwanderlust.com/introverted-traveler/2018-05-2432 minThe Introvert's Guide to...The Introvert's Guide To...Phil & JessEpisode Notes
The "handshake" episode. Let's meet our hosts, Phil and Jess, and learn a little about them. In this episode: Phil will make an "introvert confession" about encountering acquaintances on the street.2018-05-1037 min