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Ven.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkHow to Approach History as a Japanese living with a Korean Spouse🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A Selection from a Dharma Q&A session at Jogyesa Temple,Seoul (June 14, 2019)🔹Question: I have experienced arguing with my husband over historical problems between Korea and Japan. And a few times we almost divorced because of that. Through the many arguments I realized both have strong [patriotism] towards own countries and different opinions based on the education we have been taught. And I feel so pathetic to fight over something we can’t change. What I really want to know is can we resolve complicated and somehow emotional matters due to the...
2025-08-1905 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkCan Body and Mind be Separated?🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A Selection from a Dharma Q&A session at George WashingtonUniversity (Oct. 8, 2014)🔹Question: To what extend to you think the human body and the human mind can operate separately? Do you think that human body can become a separate entity to human mind? If it is possible how can we individuals be enlightened to do that? 🔻Jungto Dharma School(Introduction to Buddhism):https://www.jungtosociety.org/jungto-dharma-school-online-course/ 🔻 All Jungto Society’ssocial platforms: http://linktr.ee/jungtoint
2025-08-1510 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkHow can you manage many travels without getting tired?🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A Selection from a Dharma Q&A session at St. ThomasEpiscopal Church in Sunnyvale, California (Nov. 8, 2014)🔹Question: You are traveling around the world and meeting a lot of people. I looked up and searched Google and saw your schedule. It seems to be overwhelming for a person to be engaged in the very busy schedule. How do you manage and balance the number of talks that put into your schedule? 🔻Jungto Dharma School(Introduction to Buddhism):https://www.jungtosociety.org/jungto-dharma-school-online-course/ 🔻 All Jungto Society’s social platforms...
2025-08-1208 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkWhat Do You Do with Your Dreams?🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A Selection from a Dharma Q&A session at St. ThomasEpiscopal Church in Sunnyvale, California (Nov. 8, 2014)🔹Question: We are going through a series of classes here at St. Thomas Church on the topic of dreams. Symbolism, how to interpret them, and neuro-biological reasons for dreams. Sosome personal questions for you. Do you dream? Could you share any of your dreams? What do you do with your dreams? 🔻Jungto Dharma School(Introduction to Buddhism):https://www.jungtosociety.org/jungto-dharma-school-online-course/ 🔻 All Jungto Society’ssocial platforms: http://linktr.ee/jungtoin
2025-07-2907 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkDesire, Meaning, and Spiritual Practice🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A Selection from a Dharma Q&A session at St. ThomasEpiscopal Church in Sunnyvale, California (Nov. 8, 2014)🔹Question: I study psychology and I actually study goals and motivations, so I am very interested in this topic. You talked about desires. You said there are three categories of desire which was survival needs, relative needs or desire and excessive needs. Because human has more intellect, I was thinking that humans also have desire that’s beyond survival desire. A desire to maintain identity or to accomplish something, or lead a purposeful life, so to say...
2025-07-2509 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkHow Do You Quantify Success?🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A session at Bethesda Chevy Chase Regional Service Center inWashington D.C. (September 18, 2019)🔹Question: Hi. I have a question about what you, from your perspective, what would you quantify as success in life, if not materialistic things, maybe career success and these kinds of ways to measure success? What do you personally, how do you quantify that?🔻Jungto Dharma School(Introduction to Buddhism):https://www.jungtosociety.org/jungto-dharma-school-online-course/ 🔻 All Jungto Society’ssocial platforms: http://linktr.ee/jungtoint
2025-07-2206 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkHow Should I View My Career ?🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A Selection from a Dharma Q&A session in UCLA (Nov. 16,2014)🔹Question: I recently listened to your lecture about careers. And I thought about my job in jewelry industry which in a way allures people to spend money to show off and put emphasis on outer beauty. But I really love my job and my goal is to become a jewelry designer. Whether my designs are for fashion jewelry or high jewelry, it still can mislead people. SoI was wondering about how I should view my career. 🔻Jungto...
2025-07-1811 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkHow to Make Good Choices Using Buddhist Principles?🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A Selection from Casual Conversation with Ven. Pomnyun Sunim (November 14, 2020) 🔹Question: Hello Sunim, I’m very happy to be here and talk to you. I was actually in South Korea for seven years. I worked at Samsung Electronics, then I finally moved to America in Seattle, Washington. So the first time I watched your dharma talk was in 2014 when you gave a talk at Google. From then, because of you, I got interested in Buddhism and understanding Buddhist Principles. So my question today is about how to make good choices using Buddh...
2025-07-1507 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkHow Can I Start Training Myself to Have Gratitude?🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A 2022.2.4🔹Question: It's a real pleasure to see you again, Sunim. I have two questions. The first question is last week you've responded about being in the death bed, diagnosed with acancer and still being grateful. How can I start training myself today so I can get to that state of gratefulness? 🔻Jungto Dharma School(Introduction to Buddhism):https://www.jungtosociety.org/jungto-dharma-school-online-course/ 🔻 All Jungto Society’s social platforms: http://linktr.ee/jungtoint
2025-07-1128 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkAs a Catholic, I Have Conflicting Values About Contraception🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A Selection from Live Dharma Talk with Ven. Pomnyun Sunim(March 6, 2022)🔹Question: Hello! It's nice to meet you in person. I'm Catholic and about to graduate from medical school. I am pro-choice and believe in using contraception. It's something thatI will recommend to my patients if medically necessary. Is it okay to be Catholic and have conflicting values with my religion? 🔻Jungto Dharma School(Introduction to Buddhism):https://www.jungtosociety.org/jungto-dharma-school-online-course/ 🔻 All Jungto Society’ssocial platforms: http://linktr.ee/jungtoint
2025-07-0813 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkThe War in Ukraine and the Possibility of a New Cold War🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A Selection from Live Dharma Talk withVen. Pomnyun Sunim (March 6, 2022)🔹Question: It seems like if I'm not mistaken, Russia's claim is they don't want Ukraine to join these western forces, which is like NATO, and Ukraine leader, including their president, is trying to protect their independence. So in that situation, ofcourse, the citizens are dying daily. So do you think that, like in this kind of situation, a country like Ukraine should try to give up the fighting against Russia for citizens and should they stay neutral? That was my first qu...
2025-07-0428 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkWhat’s the Buddhist Perspective on Suicide?🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A Selection from Casual Conversation with Ven. Pomnyun Sunim(October 17, 2021)🔹Question: During the past year I took your online Buddhism and Sutra classes. I gained a good understanding of original Buddhism and its teaching as a spiritual practice. Iwork as a mental health and addiction counselor. I’ve been applying what I’ve learned from Sutra and Dharma talks to my patients. Most of my patients suffer from prolonged drug use and as a result, have experienced a lot of loss in their life, loved ones, housing, jobs, and their hopes and so...
2025-07-0126 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkI Can't Decide Between Working in a Hospital and Starting My Own Practice🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A 2023. 9. 18🔹Question: Hi, thank you for the opportunity to ask a question. I'm actually a neurologist. I decided to go to a rural Florida to work in the community, thinking that I wanted to build a Parkinson's and movement disorder program from scratch. So, I was brought in and I received no support. It's because of the tight budget in the hospital. I thought that if I started it there, they'll give more support, but in the end, I didn't. So, I decided to leave the hospital. I'm in between deciding...
2025-06-2715 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkI Want to Do a Better Job than My Colleague🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A 2024. 9. 23.🔹Question: Hello, Sunim.Thank you so much for being accessible to ordinary people like me. Thank you. What you just answered felt like you were talking to me directly. I feel like you answered my question. I live in Vancouver, Canada. My job is to help customers achieve their financial goals and their financial well being. So, I'm in a very competitive financial industry. I have sales targets to meet, and how we get business is from referrals from my coworkers. I'm in a specialized work, and there are two peopl...
2025-06-2418 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkWhen Is a Good Time to Retire?🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A 2024. 8. 26🔹Question: Good afternoon, Sunim. Thank you for answering my question and giving me another chance to ask. I suddenly had a couple of situations where I start to realize that I'm get older. I'm hitting 40 now, and the time shocked me. "Oh my God. I'm already at this age." I also did some review of my life and my current evaluation on how I'm working right now. I was thinking, "Is this really how I want to live, and is there something else I need to be doing?" I just kep...
2025-06-2021 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkHow Can I Manage Mistakes as a Medical Doctor?🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A Selection from a Dharma Q&A session at George WashingtonUniversity (Oct. 8, 2014)🔹Question: I'm a medical doctor in Korea. As you know, the doctor's mistakes can be directly connected to patients' death or life. How can I manage it? Or how can I take care of it?🔻Jungto Dharma School(Introduction to Buddhism):https://www.jungtosociety.org/jungto-dharma-school-online-course/ 🔻 All Jungto Society’ssocial platforms: http://linktr.ee/jungtoint
2025-06-1704 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkIs it Ok to Keep My Job?🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A Selection from a Dharma Q&A session at Union TheologicalSeminary (Oct. 2, 2014) 🔹Question: I'm very forgetful person. On daily bases, I've been able to handle it. But I'm a resercher. I'm doing my Ph.D in biomedical sciences. This forgetfulness is hindering to my profession. I'm getting scholarship. It's a good position. They're not kicking me out yet, but I have self doubt. Should I keep doing this? Science is based on proof and evidence and I'm having trouble catching up. Should I still stay in this profession? Am I not taki...
2025-06-1304 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkI Don’t Like My Company Anymore🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A Selection from a Dharma Q & A at Harvard University(Sep. 20, 2017)🔹Question: I am thirty years old, employed for five years. And I worked very happily as a play and my work, my money, I was very happy. I did so many things. And what happenedrecently, my company, they are changing the structure that I don’t like to work there anymore. The company that I put everything in it. So eventually, in a month or so, I will be quitting voluntarily. And ever since I decided my mindset...
2025-06-1010 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkHow Can I Maintain My Patience?🔹Ven Pomnyun’s DharmaQ&A Selection from a Dharma Q&A session at Jogye-sa Temple,Seoul, South Korea (June 15, 2018)🔹Question: My questionis, you live in a very modern society with lots of technology right at ourfingertips which allows us instant gratification. What I would like to know isif you have advice or thoughts about how we maintain our patience in the faceof this growing instant gratification. Patience with the challenges we may facethroughout our daily lives are even more complex. Things that we face that wemay feel we have no control over.🔻Jungto Dharma Scho...
2025-06-0609 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkMy Boss Is Asking For Too Much!🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A Selection from Casual Conversation with Ven. Pomnyun Sunim (November 14, 2020)🔹Question: I’m a scientist, and scientists in the United States at least are expected to work long hours including weekends and holidays. Though this culture is very normal, but in this pandemic time, it’s very difficult to work these hours. Because we have to split up our time with our co-workers, because we cannot be too closed to each other. So the problem is that, it’s not just my boss but I have noticed this and other seni...
2025-06-0311 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkI Don't Like My New Job🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A “I Don't Like My New Job.” Selection from CasualConversation with Ven. Pomnyun Sunim (Septermber 19, 2021)🔹Question: I recently changed my job but I feel a strongfeeling of uncomfortable with my job. I’ve been trying many new things and different responsibilities but my current job is very different from any other job that I had been doing before. I don’t feel comfortable doing it and I also don’t think that I could deliver my best here. And I don’t think I’m fit in this job. Also I’m still not passionat...
2025-05-3023 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkI Love My Job, but the Work Is so Hard🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A 2021/11/14🔹Question: Hello, Sunim Thank you so much for taking thetime to talk to us. I have a similar question. I am an addiction counselor for a nonprofit. I have been doing this for about a year and a half since I graduated college. Your talk, last week, really helped me with feelings of jealousy over salary. And you helped me realize that this is still the job that I want to do. However, I wanted to ask a follow up question about free time, energy, and balance in my life. I a...
2025-05-2726 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkDue to Negative Feedback I'm Losing Career Confidence🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A “Due to Negative Feedback I'm Losing Career Confidence"Selection from Casual Conversation with Ven. Pomnyun Sunim (December 19, 2020)🔹Question: By listening to your wisdom through Youtube for last 3 years, actually increased and improved the perspective of my ilfe dramatically. I've become much happier in my relationships with my husband, my parents, children and friends. My question is related to my job stress. The job I've been doing now is relating to treating children with autism. My job requires assessing children with autism and training therapist providing parent training and provides programs f...
2025-05-2312 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkI'm Confused by the Sudden Change at Work🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A “I'm Confused by the Sudden Change at Work?” Selection from Casual Conversation with Ven. Pomnyun Sunim (May 16, 2021) 🔹Question: I'm working in a Japanese company. Under the company's system, all employees should move to another department every 5 to 7 years. Last month I was ordered to transfer department from May 1. I've been in my previous department for 6 years since I started working, I'm very confused by the sudden change. This change is a good opportunity for my career, and I thank the company for their consideration. However, after being told to move, I just...
2025-05-2010 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkI Don't See How I Could Ever Develop Empathy for My Father Who Abused Me🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A 2021. 7. 11🔹Question: Thank you so much for taking my question.In listening to past Dharma talks, I heard Sunim describe or talk about developing empathy for those who have created suffering in our lives as a way of overcoming attachment to the past and suffering in the present. Part of what I'm working through is particularly horrific kind of abusemthat I grew up with at the hands of my father. And I don't see how I could ever develop empathy for a person who did to a child, to me, the thin...
2025-05-1620 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkMy Father Has Been Violent to Me Physically and Verbally🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A Selection from Casual Conversation with Ven. Pomnyun Sunim (July 11, 2021) 🔹Question: My father has been violent to me physically and verbally. He hit me and my mom. He always told me you should play a role of a boy. I couldn’t have built basic trust to people and life seems very absurd and unjust. I was diagnosed as depression 15 years ago and another mental disease 2 years ago. He sometimes wrote letters saying that he’s very sorry it’s all for your sake and his childhood was not easy. But he repeate...
2025-05-1322 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkHow Can I Say No to My Father's Wishes?🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A 2024. 11. 3.🔹Question: Questioner)Hello, Sunim. Nice to see you again. Can you hear me, everyone? Yes? OK, good. I drew a map here. My dad lives here, and my sister lived over here. This is north. My dad wants me to move there to this house. He sat me down when I was over at his place last weekend. But I don't want to move there. I'll just admit that. It would really disrupt what's happening in my life right now. The thing is that he helped my sister with this hou...
2025-05-1005 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkMy Grandson Refuses to Live with His Mother🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A 2022.12.18🔹Question: Thank you for allowing me to ask a question. My daughter is going through a divorce, and she is separated from her husband about two months ago. They had agreed to share caring for their 13 year old son and 11 year old daughter by alternating weeks. My grandson refused to stay with his mom when she lived with me, but he said that when she lives on her own, he would live with her. So last month, she got her own place and she drove both children to her new plac...
2025-05-1034 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkHow to Maintain Peace in Your Heart🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A 2022. 10. 09🔹Question: I'm very honored to ask the question, and thank you very much. In June of this year, my dad passed away. We installed a memorial tree and a memorial bench in the honor of my dad to help my grieving mom. My dad was cremated. At the time, we didn't know what to do with his ashes. Recently, my mom wanted to bury his ashes to a cemetery. So, I asked all my siblings sending out an email if they would like to share the cost of the burial...
2025-05-0638 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkMy Children Do Not Appreciate the Support I Provide Them🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A2024. 7. 9🔹Question : Thank you for taking my question. Wespend a lot of time, money, and effort on our kids, or example, on private school, extra curriculum classes, music, and sports. As parents, we are working very hard to support all of these. And we hope that our time, money, and efforts are well spent, and the kids would appreciate it by fully utilizing these opportunities. I know that this is our desire to properly train the kids, and we shouldn't have that desire. However, it's hard to not expect anything. I don't me...
2025-04-2935 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkHow Can I Help My Mother Overcome Her Fear of Change?🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A2024. 7. 9🔹Question : Good morning, Sunim. It's good to see you. Ihave a family-related question today. My mother, who lives alone, would like to sell her home and move to a new house. However, she has a lot of difficulty making decisions, and she's fearful of change. As a result, she suffers from anxiety. My sister has been the main person helping my mother to look for a new home. But, because of my mother's fear of making a decision, she's been unable to choose anywhere. My sister is also reluctant to make a...
2025-04-2518 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkI Feel I'm Being Annoying to My Family.🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&ASelection from Casual Conversation with Ven. Pomnyun Sunim(October 3, 2021)🔹Question : In my family I feel like I’m being sort of annoying to them and I’m not doing enough for them. Usually even if they tell me that I’m doing fine, there’s some part of me that thinks that I’m just being annoying to them and I’m not doing good for them. I just want to know how I can change my mindset so I don’t feel so sad all the time. 🔻Jungto Dhar...
2025-04-2232 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkWhat Kind of Effort Can I Make for a Peaceful Family?🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A2014.11.8 🔹Question : Hi, It is really nice to meet you. I am a Korean who moved to the United States about four years ago. I have a husband who is a Jewish- American and I am a Korean. I wanted to ask you what kind of effort I can make to make a peaceful and loving family in terms of raising children for the family. 🔻Jungto Dharma School(Introduction to Buddhism):https://www.jungtosociety.org/jungto-dharma-school-online-course/ 🔻 All Jungto Society’ssocial platforms: http://linktr.ee/j
2025-04-1815 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkI Don’t Want to Live In Canada Just Because of My Husband🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A Ven. Pomnyun's Answer to " I Don’t Want to Live InCanada Just Because of My Husband." Selection from a Dharma Q&A session at UBC (Oct. 3, 2017)🔹Question: I have a really personal question to ask you. I was born, educated, and worked in Korea. I came here to study temporarily and I fell in love with a guy, who’s Canadian and was born and educated here. Eventually we got married without any approvals from our families. It’s been already 19 years. Now they are super supportive, of course, my family. I r...
2025-04-1514 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkMy Daughter is Just Like My Husband🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A Selection from a Dharma Q&A session at Bethesda ChevyChase Regional Service Center in Washington D.C. (September 18, 2019)🔹Question: It’s been 15 years since I got married and my daughter is 12 years old. Just hitting the beginning of teenager age. Before I even resolved my relationship with myhusband, things that I do not agree with, like his personality-wise or daily habit-wise, I see my daughter displaying the same habits and personalities that my husband has that I’m not crazy about. So I noticed lately that the way I tryto handle...
2025-04-1107 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkHow Do I Respect My Father's View?🔹Ven Pomnyun’s DharmaQ&A Selection from a Dharma Q&A session at Bethesda ChevyChase Regional Service Center in Washington D.C. (September 18, 2019)🔹Question: Hi! My father lives in California. He’s older, he’s disabled. He’s not very healthy. And he’s really strong in his faith in Christianity. So he has a really strong beliefsthat president Trump is there because God put him there. And the only way to have it end] is through Jesus Christ. [He’s also disabled] and he has almost died many times. So I feel that his faith and a lot of...
2025-04-0813 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkI'm Looking After My Mother-in-law with Dementia🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A August 14, 2021🔹Question : My husband and I have been looking after his 87-year-old mother with dementia for the last 6 years. We both had to give up our jobs to look after her in her own home. She does not want to go to a nursing home. This has affected our marriage as well as our physical and mental health. We have asked for help from my husband’s older brother but he does not offer any help. Moreover, he only visits a few times a year. He doesn’t talk to his mom o...
2025-04-0419 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkI Want My Child Custody Back🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A 2021. 4. 5🔹Question : Hello Sunim, Thank you very much for this precious opportunity, I have been watching your videos for many years. I’m from Sweden and right now I’m in Taiwan learning Chinese. I have been separated from my son since 2009 due to perjury. From 2009 until now I have no contact whatsoever with my son. I do not know how he lookslike now. In 2014, the Swedish Court of Appeal stated that my son and I should be reunited. But again, because of foul play, this ruling was annulled by his father...
2025-04-0116 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkI Get Stressed Living With My Mother🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A September 19, 2021🔹Question : I get extremely stressed living with my mother and my husband because of their differences, and also from having to care for my mother-in-law who has cancer. The thing that stresses me a lot is the fact that my mother is helping too much around the house. Now that my mother-in-law is living with us, the amount of work that she’s doing at my house is unbearable and as a daughter, it stressesme out. 🔻Jungto Dharma School(Introduction to Buddhism):https://www.jungtosociety...
2025-03-2814 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkHow Can I Become a Better Parent?🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A 2023. 12. 19🔹Question : (Questioner)I translated my question into English using Google Translator. So, please understand that it may be a bit awkward for other audience members. My question is...first, thank you for your valuable time. I know that this opportunity to ask questions is rare, like today. I thought carefully about what questions I would ask. I have many concerns and questions. I thought about why I have these thoughts and why I'm worried about them. I think it is because my words and actions do not match. As I raise...
2025-03-2506 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkIs There Anything I Can Help Other People When I'm in A Much Better Situation?🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A 2022. 2. 19🔹Question : Hello Sunim. I live in Torrance, California. Thank you for giving me this opportunity to ask you a question.I have a sister who lives with her husband in country side inKorea.They used to be very rich but they lost all their fortune during IMF,so now, their financial situation is rather precarious.They have a son who is in mid 40s. He lives in Seoul with his wife and a daughter.He has a very seriousillness. He's losing his capability to take care of himself slowly and ther...
2025-03-2230 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkShould I Listen to My Parents🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A 2019. 12. 3🔹Question :Bottom of Form I’m recently looking to change careers. And due to incidents with my current living situation, I ended up moving back home with my parents. And it has been very interesting to be once again home and as a master role, a daughter, and not an independent person who is capable of doing whatever I would like, whenever I would like, where I would like in my own space and being sponsible for myself. And so I feel as though a lot of times I must be ob...
2025-03-1809 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkMy Wife is Getting Career Stress a Lot🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A October 10, 2021🔹Question :Bottom of Form My wife and I married a few moths ago, but we’ve been seeing each other for a few years even before then. My question is she has a demanding career, and as a result, she’s stressed from trying to meet both her own and outside expectations. Is there any recommendation or advice as her partner. How I can support more effectively? 🔻Jungto Dharma School(Introduction to Buddhism):https://www.jungtosociety.org/jungto-dharma-school-online-course/ 🔻 Find more at thefollowing links:http://www.jungto...
2025-03-1411 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkMy Mother is Negative Person and It Makes Family Suffer🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A October 10, 2021🔹Question : My mother seems like a very negative person. She tends to criticize and finds something bad in almosteverything and everyone. She doesn't seem to appreciate anything or anyone in her life. I see this makes everyone around her suffer, but especially herself. But I know she can not and will not change by herself. How should I make peacewith this? Sometimes I wish I had no family, because it's nothing but a source of suffering. But please don't tell me just stop seeing her or my family. That may...
2025-03-1114 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkHow Should I Minimize the Karmic Results of My Divorce to My Son?🔹Ven.Pomnyun's Dharma Q&A Selection from Casual Conversation with Ven. Pomnyun Sunim (Aug. 28, 2023) 🔹Question: I'm a mom of a five year old boy.I filed a divorce when my son was 14 months old.Then I went through an extremely high conflict divorce litigation over three years. My son has been living back and forth between my house and his father's ever since.He does not hate his father, but he does not like to go to his house. His lifestyle has a lot of inconsistency and he says he exper...
2025-03-0728 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkI Want My Kids Not Hating Me After Divorce🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A Selection from Casual Conversation with Ven. Pomnyun Sunim (July 19, 2021)🔹Question : I want my kids not hating me when I walk away from their mother for a divorce. What is the buddhist's way to deal with this?🔻Jungto Dharma School(Introduction to Buddhism): https://www.jungtosociety.org/jungto-dharma-school-online-course/ 🔻 Find more at the following links: http://www.jungtosociety.org http://www.pomnyun.com https://www.instagram.com/jungto.society/ https://www.instagram.com/ven.pomnyun.sunim...
2025-02-2712 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkHow to Live a Harmonious and Wise Life🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A 2023. 11. 2.🔹Question : We, as most people, are now living in such fast paced societies, and are so much focused on just one thing, and forget what's really important in our lives. For example, we can be focused on earning money and live almost not knowing what our priority is, like health, family, or even our own happiness. I want to ask Sunim, "In that case, where do we put a breakpoint and how?" Like if we lost where we are, sometimes we have to look back, put a break point, and look...
2025-02-2519 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkIs It Greed to Want to Be Happy and Free Without Giving Up My Desires?🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A 2023.5.5.🔹Question : I wonder why the Buddha didn't return to secular or home life after attaining enlightenment, but continued to live as a homeless and build his monastic order. Couldn't he have tried to become a good king, like honorable, generous, and wise one who really watch out for his people? Was it because he knew that it would be so hard or impossible for a king to be free just like a rich man to enter into the kingdom of heaven? Or did he renounce the worldly pleasure: money, fame, po...
2025-02-2418 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkThe Balance Between Our Own Happiness And Other People’s Happiness🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A
Ven. Pomnyun's Answer to " The Balance Between Our Own
Happiness And Other People’s Happiness” Selection from a Dharma Q&A session at Google (Nov. 10, 2014)
🔹Question : I’m not sure if you are suggesting that appiness is sort of the state that we should ideally be seeking. But if it is, I think to the people that I know who are the happiest and they are actually the people that are most selfish. And I observe that they’re very happy because they spend, you know, all of our time and energy...
2025-02-1405 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkWorldly Life Versus Inward Life🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A Ven. Pomnyun's Answer to "Worldly Life Versus InwardLife Selection from a Dharma Q&A session at Google (Nov. 10, 2014)🔹Question : In your first answer that was a really beautiful. You talked about the importance of the how instead of the what. And I was wondering as people try to go down this path and look more inwards, how do you advise them in terms of spending their time inwards. Maybe people come to you for the monastic tradition. How do you advise people if the career or the worldly life versus m...
2025-02-1106 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkCan I Be Happy While Being Aware?🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A
2019. 12. 24.
🔹Question : I’ve always been a curious person ever since I was a little boy. For example, when there was an ant’s nest, I would watch to see where the ants are going, where they’re
getting their food and the trails they make. Now in English speaking cultures, there’s a saying ignorance is bliss. Actually I’ve found curiosity to be one of the more positive factors in my life. It doesn’t seem like ignorance is bliss, is one of the approaches of the Jungto Society. For example...
2025-02-0722 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkI Want to Help Others Become Happy🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A
2023. 8. 5
🔹Question : I have a goal of impacting the world on a global scale which has involved several reliminary teps including becoming a positive influence for everyone I meet and encounter. I found that impacting veryone around me has been necessary for my own growth because the people I interact with can influence me as well. I have successfully
motivated many people to live prosperous, fulfilling lives. But I have encountered many disconnected people either under trauma or suffering from depression or doubt. They reject the most basic lessons of creating...
2025-02-0420 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkHow Can I Choose Between My Dream and Love?🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A
2019. 7. 2
🔹Question : I’m struggling between pursuing my dream and wanting to be with the person I’m in love. Just to tell you a little bit about myself, I’m a student studying in the
States, and I’m just here for the summer vacation. And my boyfriend is in Korea right now. Would it be unreasonable or ridiculous to follow my heart and decide to be with my boyfriend and not necessarily pursue my dream in the States?
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2025-01-3114 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkTrusting and Loving Someone
🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A
2024. 11. 18
🔹Question : I have a hard time trusting in relationships, especially, in romantic relationships. I have a hard time trusting men because my dad had affairs growing up when I was a child. So, I became pretty certain that I don't want to get married because I subconsciously think that marriage is the path to misery. But because I'm human, I still want to date and be in love. But whenever I get into relationships, I find that I get very anxious and worried about if I could trust th...
2025-01-2812 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkIs There Happiness That Isn't Followed by Suffering?🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A
2023. 11. 8
🔹Question : I am in
Dharma school and learning Buddhism. I learned that we seek happiness which
comes together with sufferings. I wonder what are those examples of happiness
that comes with suffering and are there any happiness that doesn't come with
suffering?
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2025-01-2320 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkHow to Deal with the Relationship between My Girlfriend and My Parents?🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A
2022. 3. 25.
🔹Question : I have a question about how to deal with the relationship between my girlfriend and my parents. Here’s the situation where I struggled a lot. So my personality is a
bit introverted and independent and my parents, they also don’t express their care a lot. But I can feel, I know they care about me, they love me. But sometimes my girlfriend will be mad at me because of how my parents treat me. Because sometimes how my parents behave, from my girlfriend’s perspective it’s like ignoring...
2025-01-1420 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkHow Can I Love and Care for People?🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A 2024. 7. 15.
🔹Question: (Questioner) Hello, I just have a quick
question. You talked about the climate change and that people need to change. For me, it seems clear that people should or even must love and care about each other. But, at the same time, it's painfully clear that we don't. I have some personal experience that I was engaged in some activism.
My experience made me very cynical about even what humans are and what we deserve. Maybe it's wrong for me to want to love people or want people to care a...
2025-01-1006 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkHow to Forgive Criminals🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A 2024. 10. 27
🔹Question : On my wife’s
Buddhist calendar in the house, there’s a statement about not hating or blaming
people at all is enlightenment. My question is, why does this society justify
the incarcerated people that continually commit crimes? Aren’t they to blame?
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2025-01-0710 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkOthers' Expectation Stresses Me Out🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A
Selection from a Dharma Q&A session at George Washington
University (Oct. 8, 2014)
🔹Question: I believe that human desires to be successful is unlimited. I understand why people around you expect so much from you. Sometimes because of this stress I feel that I'm being chased by life rather than taking for granted. I wanted to hear your opinion on how I can better manage my stress and control my mind better.
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2025-01-0309 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkFinding Happiness from Where I Am🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A
Selection from a Dharma Q & A at Harvard University Sep.
20, 2017
🔹Question:
I am a third year undergraduate. This is my first year back after serving two years in the Korean military. I thought, after two years hiatus, I'd be older and wiser. I was in a situation where I didn't have any phone, I didn't have any alcohol. I was surrounded by a bunch of guys all the time. So at night, I
would always dream of coming back to school How amazing it would be. I was always un...
2024-12-3107 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkHow Can I Stop Myself Regretting?
🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A
2024. 10. 7
🔹Question: My question was, as you get older, you look back on things you have done with regrets. People talk about mental health and depression, and I think regrets have something to do with it. How can you work on that?
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2024-12-2712 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkHow Can I Maintain a Peaceful Mindset During a Job Search?🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A
2024. 12. 2
🔹Question: Hello, Sunim. It's really nice meeting you in person. I have a question on my hand, but please bear with me looking through my question because I'm quite nervous. Currently, I'm between jobs and maintain a peaceful mindset despite life's uncertainty. While some people say that being desperate and driven is essential for getting a job or a goal, I also value my hard-earned peaceful life. But, at the same time, I recognize the need for balance and to avoid complacency. So, in this situation, how can I navigate this situation? I don't want to...
2024-12-2405 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkIs Revenge Ever Acceptable?🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A
Selection from a Dharma Q&A (April. 3, 2022)
🔹Question : When my loved one is suffering because of a vicious person, is it okay for me to fight back and take revenge from the person for their actions?
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2024-12-2003 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkI Want to Help Friends at School🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A
Selection from Casual Conversation with Ven. Pomnyun Sunim (October 10, 2021)
🔹Question: Sometimes at school, whenever my friends are hurt, I always go and may help them, but then some of their friends just get there, and then I slack. Can I help too? They
just slack. I don't know what to do. If I try and tell the teacher, they just say. Sometimes I overreact, so what can I do in that situation?
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2024-12-1705 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkI Have No Reason To Forgive My Friend Who Betrayed Me🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A
Selection from a Dharma Q&A session at St. Thomas
Episcopal Church in Sunnyvale, California (Nov. 8, 2014)
🔹Question: As we live, we
encounter problems such as love and betrayal. We encounter people that betray you like friends, business partners or even your loved ones. For me, it's very hard to forgive regardless of what happened. A lot of my friends tell me that I should for give the person regardless of what happened. I think betrayal is worse than getting love because betrayal means that you were being loved and thrown b...
2024-12-1622 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkDealing with Difficult Colleagues🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A
Ven. Pomnyun's Answer to "Dealing
with Difficult Colleagues” Selection from a Dharma Q&A session at Bethesda Chevy Chase Regional Service Center in Washington D.C. (September 18, 2019)
🔹Question : Hello Sunim. So in this [pressure] to perform world, how you can control and how you can keep yourself calm when you are with your aggressive colleagues that always want to hijack your conversation with others, and tries to improvise and take the conversation in their own way. How can you keep calm in that situation?
...
2024-12-1005 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkWhat Do You Recommend Us to Do in Life?🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A
Ven. Pomnyun's Answer to "What Do You Recommend Us to Do in Life?" Selection from a Dharma Q&A session at Union Theological Seminary (Oct. 2, 2014)
🔹Question : If there is anything you would recommend any of us to do in our lifetimes. If there's one thing you would encourage us to do?
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2024-12-0607 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkI Am Really Bad at Anger Control🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A
Ven. Pomnyun's Answer to "I Am Really Bad at Anger
Control "
Selection from a Dharma Q&A session at St. Thomas
Episcopal Church in Sunnyvale, California (Nov. 8, 2014)
🔹Question : I am really bad at anger control. I think I am mature enough to recognize the moment that I lose my control, I just can’t suppress them. And I have a problem suppressing my anger, although I recognize the moment that my brain just goes alright. How can I do better anger control? That’s my questions...
2024-12-0310 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkWhat Should We Know about Marriage?🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A
Ven. Pomnyun's Answer to "What Should We Know about
Marriage?"
Selection from a Dharma Q&A session in UCLA (Nov. 16,
2014)
🔹Question : What should one know about marriage before deciding whether to participate in marriage?
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2024-11-2914 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkWhy do we need to change toxic people?🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A
Selection from a Dharma Q&A session at Harvard
University (Sep. 20, 2017)
🔹Question : My question is
about relationships. With people in our lives, there can be people who are very,
for the lack of a better word, toxic. Sometimes we just give up, try to forgive
them. At that point, we don’t hate them anymore. We don’t dislike them anymore.
We just leave them out of our lives. I was wondering how you would feel about
that? Would you insist that we try to remediate that relatio...
2024-11-2607 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkI Feel I am Less Australian Now🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A
Selection from a Dharma Q&A session
at Jogye-sa Temple, Seoul, Korea (Jun. 15, 2018)
🔹Question: I'm an
Australian university student and I come to Korea to see my parents because
they moved here two years ago, after every semester. So I've lived in Australia
since age one until now and I study there. The issue that I'm facing is that I
love Australia, but I keep feeling that I am less Australian now compared to my
peers and my friends. Because my new home is in Korea now. And after I catch...
2024-11-2207 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkHow can I help people suffering from materialism?🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A
Selection from a Dharma Q&A session at Southdale Library, Minneapolis, Minnesota (Sep 12, 2018)
🔹Question: I have studied a lot of different philosophical spiritual
practices and religions. I come to the conclusion that a lot of our sufferings
are from fixation on materialism from my understanding. Attachment to things,
attachment to homes, attachment to people, attachment to money. At an early age
I realized there was more to this world than what you can feel, the tangible,
the material. I always thought I was a seeker of something beyond the material
...
2024-11-1912 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkWhy do bad things happen to good people?🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A
#understanding #friendship #difference#friendship #difference #understanding #forgive
🔹Question:
Bad things happen to good people. And I have tried to forgive and not think about it. But I continue to think about it and I can't let it go. I need to get peace. How do I achieve peace with what has happened to me that was not good.
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2024-11-1512 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkWhy Do We Get Bored of Things?🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharm Q&A
" Why Do We Get Bored of Things?” Selection from a
Dharma Q&A session at Jogye-sa Temple, Seoul, South Korea (June 15, 2018)
🔹Question: I was
wondering about why we get bored of things. I have smart phone, I bought it
last year, but now I'm bored of it. I have a girlfriend now. But maybe in one
year or maybe in three years, I will be bored and maybe move on. I just wanted
to know, why humans always wait for something to happen, wait for something new
to arrive? Why we cann...
2024-11-1210 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkI Am Being Too Judgmental!🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A
“I am being too judgmental”
Selection from Casual Conversation with Ven. Pomnyun Sunim (November 14, 2020)
🔹Question:
Hello Sunim, I've just graduated from something equivalent to Korean Middle School and will be going to high school soon. Today, my worry is about how I can be less judgmental and become more understanding to others.
I think I tend to be quite judgmental when it comes to making friends and during this process, I tend to lose a lot of good friends. I tend to make a judgment too fast and I think I know e...
2024-11-0810 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkIs There a Line Between Giving and Giving Too Much?🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A
“Is There a Line Between Giving and Giving Too Much?”
Selection from Casual Conversation with Ven. Pomnyun Sunim (September 20, 2023)
🔹Question:
I have been giving lots of my time and energy to a family member to a point it feels imbalanced. I started feeling resentful and bad about myself. What should I do?
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2024-11-0706 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkFinding a Good Teacher Who Will Help You in Your Practice🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A
Selection from Casual Conversation with Ven. Pomnyun Sunim
#pseudo #crime
#good_teacher
🔹Question: My question relates to teaching, finding a
teacher.
How do you know if the teacher you find is a proper or good
teacher?
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2024-11-0108 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkI Don't Feel Like Doing Anything🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma
Q&A
Selection from Casual Conversation with Ven. Pomnyun Sunim
#Freedom #Five precepts
🔹Question: I'd always been driven by these big
ideas, passion, all these abstract thoughts, goals, dreams and things like
that. But a few months ago, I had been sick for a couple of months with COVID. I
initially thought it'd be just like any other cold, but it put me in a really
big depressive spiral. I couldn't do much, I was just home just lying down. It
was not because of physical sickness. Mentally I didn't wan...
2024-10-2910 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkI Always Set Boundaries in Human Relationships🔹Ven Pomnyun’s DharmaQ&A
Selection from Casual Conversation with Ven. Pomnyun Sunim
(A ugust 7, 2021)
#HumanRelationship
#Emotional_Independence
#MulticulturalSociety
🔹Question: My question
today is about friendships or human relationships in general. As I get older, I
don’t get to have the type of friendships that I used to have as a child. I
understand that friends have their own lives and to respect our differences I
always have to set boundaries. And sometimes I find it exhausting just to
maintain this level of emotional independence if you will. Is this becau...
2024-10-2528 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkUsing the Squirrel Analogy to Convey the Buddha's Teachings🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A
Selection from Casual Conversation with Ven. Pomnyun Sunim (2022.9.17)
#understanding
#nature #mental process #respect
🔹Question:
I wasn't expecting to ask you a question, so I need to
remember what I submitted.
The point of the question is that I wanted to revisit the
topic of nature with you.
Last time, I tried, but I wanted to come back
because I don't think my question was fully answered.
I think Sunim really refers to nature as the golden standard
whe...
2024-10-2218 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkHow to Handle a Big Age Gap in a Relationship🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma
Q&A Selection from Casual Conversation with Ven. Pomnyun Sunim (September
11, 2023)
🔹Question: What is true
love? I am in love with someone who is much younger than I am. I am not sure if
we should be together. I’m worried.
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2024-10-1811 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkWhat's the Difference Between Like and Love?🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma
Q&A Ven. Pomnyun's Answer to "What's the Difference Between Like and
Love?" Selection from a Dharma Q&A session at George Washington
University (Oct. 8, 2014)
🔹Question: I have a
question. I have dated with three girls so far. When I look back, none of them
satisfied me. I can say I liked them, but I don't think I loved them at all. I
want to know the difference between to like somebody and to love somebody.
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2024-10-1807 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkI Feel Bad for My Son Growing Up Without a Father.
🔹Ven.Pomnyun's Dharma Q&A
Selection from a Dharma Q&A session at George Washington University (Oct. 8, 2014)
🔹Question: I was dating a guy little over four years ago. I got pregnant. Because where he was in his life, he did not want any more children. When I heard my boy's heartbeat I couldn't terminate. Should I insist on him to sign the birth certificate? My boy has a right to know who his father is. How should I do my prostrations so my boy...I hope he will forgive me. I just want to know how to control myself?
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2024-10-0413 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkI Have a Loved One And There Was a Misunderstanding🔹Ven.Pomnyun's Dharma Q&A
Selection from a Dharma Q&A session at Google (Nov. 10, 2014)
🔹Question:
I have a loved one and there was a misunderstanding.
And there have been many, many years where I've tried to clear up the misunderstanding. And it hasn't clear up.So it's been difficult for me. And the question is, until when do I keep on trying? Or do I just, for my own emotional lightness of being, sever the relationship and move on?
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2024-10-0105 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkHow Do You Distinguish Love from Desire?🔹Ven.Pomnyun's Dharma Q&A
Selection from a Dharma Q&A session at UBC (Oct. 3, 2017)
🔹Question: You spoke I believe in the question by this gentleman here about a mother’s love for a child, but you also spoke in length about desire. And I suppose my question revolves around how you would compromise those two. How would you live a loving life while at the same time attempting to attain your own happiness by removing yourself from desire. How do you distinguish love from desire? Are they distinguishable?
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2024-09-2710 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkCan We Live Only with Love without Darkness?🔹Ven.Pomnyun's Dharma Q&A
Selection from a Dharma Q&A session at Busan City Hall, Busan (June 15, 2019)
🔹Question: my question is, Mister, what do you think about Yin Yang philosophy as there is a day and night, there is love and hate, and the complete contrary is the utopia.
What do you think is the possibility to live only or if there is a possibility to live only with love as according to Buddha’s teaching?
If we look at love or let’s say light is just non-presence of darkness, so if it’s possible actually, if...
2024-09-2719 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkHow To Deal With Lockdown Symptoms🔹Ven.Pomnyun's Dharma Q&A
Ven. Pomnyun's Answer to “How To Deal With Lockdown Symptoms”
Selection from Casual Conversation with Ven. Pomnyun Sunim (August 14, 2021)
🔹Question:
I’m a city dweller in Sydney suffering from lockdown in the Covid.
In the city there’s a lockdown now, we’ve been in lockdown for about 10-12 weeks and sometimes it’s really difficult.
I suffer from stress or increased sensitivity for clutter, noise and I get more anxious, just high stress level.
Sometimes I notice that going outside for running, exercise and that works but it’s not always possible, and I live...
2024-09-1538 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkHow Can I Maintain Peace of Mind While Trying to Achieve My Goals?🔹Ven.Pomnyun's Dharma Q&A
Ven. Pomnyun's Answer to "How Can I Maintain Peace of Mind While Trying to Achieve My Goals?"
Selection from a Dharma Q&A session
🔹Question:
I'm originally from India and currently living in Italy. So, it gives me immense pleasure to see your dedication and commitment.
I have one question regarding my personal career goal. I'm currently planning to move back to Canada because I graduated from there and looking for jobs there.
Sometimes even with all the hard work and qualifications,it get...
2024-09-1511 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkI Tend to Think Negatively and Worry A Lot🔹Ven.Pomnyun's Dharma Q&A
Ven. Pomnyun's Answer to " I Tend to Think Negatively and Worry A Lot"
Selection from a Dharma Q&A session
🔹Question:
As a practitioner, what efforts should I make after having self-awareness in order to reach nirvana?
For example, I tend to think negatively and worry a lot.
Those worries sometimes are overwhelming. When my parents in Korea don't pick up my calls, I worry that they might be in a car accident or they passed out an...
2024-09-1517 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkMy Coworker Doesn’t Respect Me🔹Ven.Pomnyun's Dharma Q&A
Ven. Pomnyun's Answer to “My Coworker Doesn’t Respect Me”
Selection from Casual Conversation with Ven. Pomnyun Sunim (April 2, 2023)
🔹Question:
"I feel no respect from my coworker. When I put up the painting I did with the residents on the all, my coworkers takes it down and put up the artwork she did with the residents. It has happened repeatedly. And when we have a baking class, she doesn't clean the kitchen area, so I have to clean the kitchen and take out the trash. I want to do my best with th...
2024-09-1526 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkI Am Having a Hard Time Finding a Job🔹Ven.Pomnyun's Dharma Q&A
Ven. Pomnyun's Answer to " I Am Having a Hard Time Finding a Job"
Selection from a Dharma Q&A session Apr. 2. 2023
🔹Question: My question is related to a job search.
I'm currently in Italy living with my family.
After reflecting, I've made the decision to go back to Canada,in the next few months,to look for a job.
I talked to my friends, and they told me it'd be better for me to be...
2024-09-1521 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkI Have Very Strong Likes and Dislikes🔹Ven.Pomnyun's Dharma Q&A
Ven. Pomnyun's Answer to "I Have Very Strong Likes and Dislikes"
Selection from a Dharma Q&A session
🔹Question:
I'm not saying I want to be up front with everybody or I'm not forcing people to follow my way.
But either way, after the conversation, I still feel very puzzled or disturbed.
I think all I want is to express myself honestly.
But it sounds like people feel that my words are being aggressive.
...
2024-09-1517 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkWhat to Do When the Other Party Is UncompromisingVen. Pomnyun's Answer to "What to Do When Other Party Is Uncompromising"
Selection from a Dharma Q&A session (Jan. 23, 2022)
Question:
How to resolve a situation when one side is being harmful and refusing to compromise.
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2024-09-1509 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkLaying Off My Employees is StressfulVen. Pomnyun's Answer to "Laying Off My Employees is Stressful"
Selection from a Dharma Q&A session at George Washington University (Oct. 8, 2014)
Question:
I work in Healthcare. I'm a manager. Sometimes I need to let people go because of performace. It's happening everyday.
We had a case in the U.S on FedEx employee went back to the office after being fired and killed people there.
How can I do my job better at this? I love my job but that is a...
2024-09-1506 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkI Can’t Find Inner Peace#InnerPeace #anxiety
Ven. Pomnyun's Answer to "I Can’t Find Inner Peace."
Selection from a Dharma Q&A session in UCLA (Nov. 16, 2014)
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2024-09-1013 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkI'm Not Sure Why so Many Around Me Have Anxiety#anxiety #suffering
(Questioner) I've just started to start studying Buddhism.
So I have a long way to go. One of the questions is just
come up for me today is " Do you think that anxiety is
a western society problem? I seem to be hearing a lot of people including friends and work colleagues often mentioning how they are suffering from anxiety.
Or do you think people are misinterpreting the word for anxiety?
I just feel everyone i know has anxiety.
I am not sure why.
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2024-09-1010 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkMy Boss Is Asking For Too Much!#WorkStress #COVID19
Ven. Pomnyun's Answer to " How should I react to my boss who asks too much work during this pandemic period?"
Selection from Casual Conversation with Ven. Pomnyun Sunim (November 14, 2020)
Question: I’m a scientist, and scientists in the United States at least are expected to work long hours including weekends and holidays. Though this culture is very normal, but in this pandemic time, it’s very difficult to work these hours. Because we have to split up our time with our co-workers, because we cannot be t...
2024-09-1011 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkI Get Frustrated When My Boss Assigns More Work to Me#OvertimeWorking #ExtraWork
Ven. Pomnyun's Answer to “I Get Frustrated When My Boss Assigns More Work to Me”
Selection from Casual Conversation with Ven. Pomnyun Sunim (June 13, 2021)
Question : I get frustrated and angry when my boss assigns more work to me. I notice that I get frustrated because I don't really care for my boss nor my work, and also because I don't like to stay late doing more work. Working late would be great if I get properly compensated for the overtime, but this is not the case...
2024-09-1022 minVen.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkHow to deal with my anxiety about evaluation pressure at work?Ven. Pomnyun's Answer to “How to deal with my anxiety about evaluation pressure at work?"
Selection from Casual Conversation with Ven. Pomnyun Sunim (November 7, 2021)
I love my job and luckily my coworkers are very supportive.
But my job requires me to prove my ability through various evaluation systems all the time.
While I try not to be bothered by the pressure too much, I often feel anxious and worried.
I talk to myself like it’s okay if I would end up quitting the job, I just...
2024-09-1017 min
Ven.Pomnyun_Sunim's Dharma TalkI Get Super Nervous to Speak in Front of People(Questioner)
Hello, Sunim,
It’s great to meet you today.
I am currently a JTS volunteer, and I am attending meetings and some classes. I am also a facilitator for the English Jungto Dharma School.
As I attend meetings and classes, I’ve realized that I have difficulty expressing myself and communicating clearly with others. Especially, my voice tends to be very soft whenever I speak. In the future, I may need to lead groups and participate in many meetings. I am super nervous about speaking in front of people. I want to over...
2024-09-1020 min