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QSATA360Who are you trying to please anyway?I LOVE feedback. But when it comes to feedback, who gives the best feedback in a given situation? And how do the taste buds of that person matter?2019-03-0601 minQSATA360What are the main ingredients in your life?I have an entrepreneur friend who has dedicated a significant amount of time to making the world a better place by helping people to make easy, healthier, food and beverage choices. He's done this once, twice, three times, and the next two ideas are already underway.
After a couple days together and a full day together on Saturday, I came home to what I thought would be a quiet house. Instead, it was full of (mostly) Germans celebrating Carnival. Perhaps the most important celebration of the year in Cologne. And instead of being offered some peace and quiet, I was...2019-03-0502 minQSATA360What are you tied to?This question was inspired by a stranger I met at a sound healing event who had an interesting perspective on "home." He made a comment that all of us are simply tolerant of our home country, and how those of us who have seen other places are able to see the cracks and the dirt so much clearly from the places we are originally from. At the same time, as foreigners, we also see the beauty more easily in the elsewhere(s). But... we're tied to these places we're from, no matter how intolerable they are. I actually didn't resonate...2019-02-2503 minQSATA360Are you making your issue someone else’s problem?This question was inspired by a conversation last week about relationships. And there isn't much of a story behind this one. I appreciate this question as a good reminder. And it gets me thinking... when we find ourselves in a moment of frustration because of someone else... how much of that is about them? And how much of that is actually about us?2019-02-2300 minQSATA360What are these other people thinking?This question was inspired by a story a friend shared about a 10-day silent meditation he went to where aside from no talking, "silent" also meant no reading, no writing, no stimuli. With all this alone time (in the midst of other people) one of the things he got to thinking about was... what are these other people thinking??? And after the meditation was over, he had a chance to actually ask. And realized that he was really bad at guessing what other people are thinking... let alone what they are feeling! It made me wonder... how often do we...2019-02-2202 minQSATA360How much do your feelings (actually) matter?This question was inspired by a conversation with a friend who was arguing that, actually, our feelings don't matter. And to be clear, this is when we're feeling like an "impostor" -- when we feel like we're "not good enough" -- when we're not "worthy" or "able" or "capable" specifically. She believes that these feelings don't matter (not that she's immune either). But that they're simply roadblocks between where we are and where we're trying to go. So is that true? How much, in this case, do your feelings (actually) matter?2019-02-2101 minQSATA360Do you give others the benefit of the doubt?This question was inspired by a conversation with a friend who doesn't hear very well. There's no way you could tell just by looking at him. He's not exactly at an age where one would think hearing loss is such a big deal. Turns out -- it's been a thing since he was 4 or 5. As we were talking about it, he said something that really hit me that he feels some people are thinking about him -- "If this person isn't understanding... there must be something wrong with them." And it got me to wondering... how often do we give...2019-02-2002 minQSATA360What influences the way you organize your thoughts?Inspired a conversation with a friend yesterday around the difference between sentences construction in Chinese and in English. Think of Chinese sentences like bamboo, or blocks, or... LEGO :) and then think about English sentences more of a connected flow. Language can be a big determinant in the way you structure your thoughts, but what else is out there? What are the other factors that contribute to the way and how you think what you think?2019-02-1902 minQSATA360Why are you so afraid of rejection?Inspired by all this extra thinking about relationships this week. One of the biggest things that you, me, most of us fear is getting rejected. "What if they say no? What if they don't like us? Enjoy us? Appreciate us? Want us? Desire us...?" But if we totally flip this thinking around... isn't getting rejected actually freeing? Isn't it the second (maybe even first) best possible answer we can hear from someone? Instead of thinking that "no" takes something away from us -- what does a "no" actually give us? And isn't this true of all relationships -- not just...2019-02-1802 minQSATA360理解 — How do you understand others?Inspired (again) by the group conversation game from the other day. One person, instead of writing a question, simply wrote this one word "理解“ (Li3 jie3) which is one of the words (In Chinese) that means "to understand." They admitted that when it comes to developing a romantic relationship, understanding the other person is one of the biggest roadblocks they face. Which got me thinking... and wondering... how do we understand others? What is the approach we take? How do we know when we get it right (or wrong)? How do we relate to our understanding in the short-term? The longer-term?2019-02-1702 minQSATA360What do we have positive / negative selective memory for? And when?Inspired by a couple conversations over the past couple days. "Relationships" are the first thing that come to my mind. But I wonder... what else do you positively or negatively select memories for? And when does that typically happen? What else is going on? What does the #positive or #negative tag on that memory do for you?2019-02-1601 minQSATA360Just because you understand something more, does that mean you think it’s any less beautiful?Inspired by a group conversation game I was a part of — where everyone in the group came up with a question and then each person would choose from the “deck of questions.” I was struck by one woman who seemed to think she had unwavering feelings for something or someone no matter how many times she saw or interacted with it / them. This was true for movies, for art, and seemingly for people too. Do we see things as less beautiful the more we see them? When is this true? When does the beauty of something grow? And what simply stays...2019-02-1503 minQSATA360What unreasonable boundaries are you setting for yourself?This question was inspired by a conversation with a friend. And still rolling on the big takeaway that I have from the way Tiffany Haddish shares about the stuff that matters. When we say things like... I shouldn't say this... OR I shouldn't do that... why are we putting up the boundaries? What makes what we'd like to say or do so unreasonable? What if we decided to go for it instead?2019-02-1402 minQSATA360What if you just said something OUTLOUD, really loud, and kept saying it OVER and OVER (and over)?This question was inspired by Tiffany Haddish and all the YouTube videos I watched with her interviews on all the late night TV shows. She wrote down what mattered to her (aka her goals) and then started to share them, loud and proud. Not once. Not twice. But probably A LOT of times. What if you did that?2019-02-1302 minQSATA360What if you write the wrong thing a few times?This question was inspired by a YouTube ad for Dan Brown’s Master Class. Why not write the wrong thing a few times? Do we ever really get things right the first time? How right do we get later if we’re willing to be wrong first?2019-02-1202 minQSATA360What transition are you in the middle of?What transition are you in the middle of?
This question was inspired by a yoga class I took yesterday. What happens if we choose to focus on the transition, rather than the starting point or the destination? And beyond simply being "present" through whatever journey you're on... what if you were more present during the pit stops, the off ramps, the space(s) in between?2019-02-1102 minQSATA360Oh that’s not guaranteed... then why bother?This question was inspired by a conversation about relationships last night. What things do you do because it’s a guaranteed? What things do you miss out on because they’re not?2019-02-1002 min