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The UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmWhy you’re willing to betray yourself to fit in and how to stop — with Traver BoehmIn this episode I’ll talk about why so many of us find ourselves in a constant cycle of self betrayal all in the name of fitting in and being loved. OY!We all do it to some degree, but once you see how you betray yourself in the name of keeping and creating connection and belonging, your life will change forever. I’ll share with you a single sentence that you can apply to any form of self betrayal so you do just that — see it plane site — and then make the conscious decision to stop living a...2025-05-1909 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmFive things you need to know in a breakup or divorce — with Traver BoehmIn this episode I’ll talk about five of the most important factors for you to consider if you’re in a breakup or divorce.My writing career kicked off with a book about how to use the pain of your breakup or divorce to transform your life, so this is my bread and butter! Since that book I’ve worked with thousands of people who are now on the other side of heartbreak and most are living lives they never thought possible.Knowing these are the keys to the kingdom:— You will be okay, yo...2025-05-0512 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmThe price you pay for being uncommon — with Traver BoehmIn this episode I’ll talk about how and why you need to get past the idea that people who don’t live like you do or even want to, are supposed to understand you.If there’s one thing that needs to be navigated in order to live a life outside of the box — it’s being misunderstood. This comes from family, friends, and of course, perfect strangers who have internet access to you.Learning to work through what’s different about you (these are good things) and owning the fact you can’t have uncommon or UN...2025-04-2108 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmStuck? You’re not afraid of failure or success — w/ Traver BoehmEvery time I have a client say their stuck because they’re afraid of either failure or success I roll my eyes and say — OH LORD. No you’re not. You’re afraid of the unknown. The deep unknown. The things you can’t even conceptualize right now.And — you need to start anyway. Anyone and everyone you know who’s done something outside of their comfort zone has had the exact same stuck feeling. Stick around to the end of this already short episode where I give you three ways to get unstuck immediately.Please do...2025-04-0712 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmLive Nice Guy coaching session — embracing responsibility with Traver Boehm.In this episode you get to peak behind the coaching curtain and watch me work one-on-one with a man who’s struggling bringing structure into his life. This is showing up in his challenge around meal planning and workout programming, as well as the deeper issue at hand:
— This is a protection mechanism keeping him from getting what he really wants.
What does he really want? A deep connection with the men in his life. A deep connection with friends and loved ones. And of course, not take all of the time and energy that he’s spendi...2025-02-0334 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmHow do you heal as a Nice Guy during your breakup? A LIVE Coaching Call.If you’re a Nice Guy, or someone who is going through a breakup or divorce — then this episode is for you.
In this edition of the UNcivilized Podcast, I have a man from my Kill The Nice Guy community who asked me a straight up question:
How do I heal these Nice Guy parts of me?
And boy do we get into it. As someone who figured out he was a Nice Guy during my own divorce, I had a lot to say on this topic.
First about the painful power of init...2025-01-2041 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmHow to help your woman feel safe with Traver BoehmThis is a big topic and one that often gets overlooked or misunderstood by most men. And, here at UNcivilized we’re interested in supporting you in becoming unlike most men. Radically so.
In this solo episode I give you four concrete ways you can shift your own ways to help everyone around you feel safer, especially any woman in your life.
They’re powerful. They’re field tested. And they work.
Enjoy.
Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.
Cheers,
Traver2024-12-1728 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmWhat’s blocking you from your instinct with Traver BoehmI’m taking the mic again for this short yet powerful episode on what I see as a major pain point for me — being disconnected from our instinct and intuition.
What blocks access to this powerful source of guidance and information you ask?
Any shame or guilt you have about being a man.
In this episode I share conversations I’ve had with a number of men in the past week and invite you to challenge anyone who tells you it’s not good to be a man.
I also share with you how you...2024-09-3016 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmOn my father’s passing with Traver BoehmOn Sunday July 7th at 9:30 in the morning, my father passed. I was there with my Mom, holding his hand as he took his final breaths.
While this is a very private moment to share, there are elements to it that I know will touch you and hopefully inspire you in all of your relationships.
In this solo episode I touch on three of the key parts of this experience, one from the wild lead up to the decision of when to go back home, my nightly vigils with him, a hard choice I had...2024-08-2638 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmThree stages of sex and relationship with Traver BoehmI believe there are three levels or stages of relationship you can engage in:
— Extractive & Transactional
— Character & Role Playing
— Sacred, Divine, & Uncivilized
Each stage also has sexual level associated with it…
If you’re curious about what’s available to you relationally and sexually, this is the episode for you. It’s a punch solo where I break down each stage and what you can expect if you’re in it.
Enjoy.
Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.
Cheers,
Traver
2024-07-2926 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmMy two best techniques for building an incredible life — with Traver BoehmLast week I talked about getting your vision board to become your reality and closing the gap between the life you want to be living and the life you are living.
AND — many of you reached out and asked for techniques that you can use if you don’t have a community around you and you can’t afford to hire a coach or a consultant.
I get it. In this short solo episode I share my two favorite techniques for building an amazing life — ones I still use to this day.
Enjoy.
Please d...2024-07-0116 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmDo you need permission to live the life you want to — with Traver BoehmIn my experience of over twenty years of coaching humans, most of you will get stuck in one place — needing permission.
Whether that’s to write your book, start your business, or even just be the healthiest one in your family, permission is a big wall for many people to climb.
And — it may not be the only wall.
In this short, potent solo episode I break down the three reasons why most people don’t achieve their dreams and how you can start to change that immediately.
Enjoy.2024-06-2414 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmDeveloping these attributes will change your life with Traver BoehmAfter coaching humans for over 20 years through the good times and the challenges of their lives, I know people and what helps us get past our blocks, our heartbreaks, and our limiting beliefs.
In this solo episode I’ll break down the six attributes I feel you need to either get through a hard time, or engage in a challenging endeavor like building a business, learning to surf, or creating the UNcivilized life of your dreams.
They are:
—Resilience
— Tenacity
— Faith
— Curiosity
— Humor
— Community
...2024-06-1032 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmHow to best support a man on his path — w/ Traver BoehmI get asked this question all the time so let’s dive into it. There are amazing ways you can support your man as he begins therapy, men’s work, or any other path to higher consciousness and healing.
I’ve worked with thousands of men over the years and know these three points are crucial to being there for your man, without letting it take over your own life.
Enjoy.
Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.
Cheers,
Traver
Take our...2024-05-2715 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmLIVE coaching session — Why having poor boundaries makes you angry — with Traver BoehmThis week I again have something special for you, a recorded live coaching session with one of the Kill The Nice Guy graduates.
This episode is for you if you’ve ever struggled with anger and don’t see the connection between having loose or porous boundaries — and the resentment and anger that naturally builds up.
On the call is a man named Kevin who gives and gives and gives and also has a lot of built up anger for the people in his life who end up leaving. This is such a common experience for all of...2024-05-2044 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmIf you’re using anything to escape your life, listen to this — w/ Traver BoehmAt the root of most addictive behavior is a deep dissatisfaction with one or many areas of a man’s life. I know because it wasn’t long ago that I needed to escape from my life multiple times a day with alcohol, marijuana, porn, exercise and work. Just to name a few.
In this episode I share with you the ROOT of this challenge and give you a frame for your life as a man. One that will create the type of life you don’t want to escape from. It’s not magic but it works.2024-05-1315 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmYou’re allowed to leave any relationship — with Traver BoehmThis past month I’ve been on the phone with far too many men who are stuck in bad relationships — and refuse to leave them.
Why? Because they’ve made it some sort of badge of honor to stay and suffer rather than leave and start over. In this episode I break down how you can shift areas of your marriage or relationship, and then why it’s more than okay, no matter what society tells you, to seek your happiness elsewhere.
Enjoy.
Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty. 2024-05-0615 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmNickelodeon, P Diddy, and Andrew Huberman — with Traver BoehmWhat a crazy month in the civilized world, huh? Who ever would have thought such juggernauts as Nickelodeon, P Diddy, AND Andrew Huberman would come to light for being toxic and horrible — at the same time.
For us at UNcivilized, this is a sign that the civilized veil is falling, truth is emerging, and as men — it’s time for us to deal with what’s in our own shadowy closets.
In this solo episode I talk about what I see and most importantly, how you can make positive changes in your own life because of it.2024-04-2211 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmNice Guys —why trying to belong is strangling your authenticity with Traver BoehmI’ve often talked about and taught the notion of Attachment vs Authenticity when it comes to Nice Guy work. And the idea of attachment is real — but it’s taken me a few years of working with it and hearing about it quite often for it truly to stick.
Thus I’m now shifting to talking about Belonging vs Authenticity — especially with but not exclusive to Nice Guys.
In this short solo episode I break down why your need to belong may be strangling you of your authentic expression and I give you three steps on h...2024-04-1520 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmUNcivilized masculinity vs Traditional masculinity with Traver BoehmAn Instagram follower asked me the difference between aspects of Traditional Masculinity and our UNcivilized Masculinity and rather than write him back a novel, I decided to record this solo episode for you.
In it, I jump right to the point and outline what’s great about Traditional Masculinity and — what needed to be upgraded about it. Thus the creation of UNcivilized Masculinity.
I outline what makes us different and why…key word — relationship.
Enjoy.
Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.
Cheers,
Traver2024-04-0812 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmThree massive changes I’ve had from men’s work with Traver BoehmIn this short and punchy solo episode, I answer another question from Instagram:
“What were the most transformative parts of men’s work for you?”
I dive into the top three for you so you can decide for yourself if these are pieces you want to try on yourself.
Outgrowing substances like alcohol, weed, and porn
Getting to be authentically me in men’s groups
Having Michael Gay say, “Set the tone…” and turning the embodiment lightbulb on
Enjoy.
Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.
Cheers,
...2024-03-2515 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmWhere to begin your men’s work journey with Traver Boehm.Last week I was on a call with a man who asked me this profound question, “Where do I begin my men’s work journey? There are so many places I can start from?”In this episode I break down a great starting point for you if you’re about to embark on your men’s work journey, or where to return to if you’ve currently been on a break and aren’t sure where to pick back up.
I also share a new frame for you that takes the edge and anxiety out of...2024-03-1816 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmWhat to do when you struggle finding your purpose with Traver Boehm.In this short solo episode, I break down the two main blocks I see when people try to figure out their purpose.
Knowing why you’re here and what you’re here to do is a BIG deal. And being stuck without knowing either can lead to a lot of undue suffering.
This episode will help ease that suffering and give you a path forward when you’re in between major chapters of your life.
Enjoy.
Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.
Cheers,
Trave...2024-03-1118 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmThe Darkness - Part 2Why do people fear darkness? The answer lies in its uncontrollability. Darkness stirs up the deepest corners of our minds, like a blank canvas for our deepest fears. It's like being trapped in a horror movie with no escape.
In this second part of our "Darkness" series, Traver Boehm and Katie Sroka are diving deep into the idea of darkness as an entity, unraveling the reasons behind people's profound fear of it.
Looking ahead, there's something on the horizon. As Traver approaches his 49th birthday, he's got some big plans. What's he got in store...2023-10-3037 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmThe Darkness - Part 1Just imagine, 28 days in total darkness – now that's something wild, right? Well, get ready to hear a wild journey through an interview.
In this episode, things take an interesting turn as the interviewer becomes the interviewee. Our dear Katie Sroka takes the host chair and delves into Traver's profound experience: spending 28 days in total darkness.
For those not in the loop, in 2016, Traver found himself locked in a pitch-black room in Guatemala, an event that would dramatically reshape his life. Throughout those demanding 28 days, he grappled with solitude and the absence of light, pushing his ment...2023-10-2332 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmHow'd Traver Get UNcivilized? - Staff Interview with ErinIt's the third and final week for my team to interview me.
This week it's Erin, lovingly referred to as the Director of Traver (we'll explain that title in the podcast). Together we dove into what made and still makes Traver UNcivilized, and a few specific questions from a woman's perspective of how to connect with men. Our conversation perfectly rounds out this series and I hope you love it as much as I did.
Cheers,
Traver
2023-10-0938 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmDigging Deep into Traver's Brain - Staff Interview with MalinaIt's week two for the Team at UNcivilized to interview me!
This week it's Malina, our Director of Operations, and let's just say she isn't thrilled about speaking into a microphone. But like a typical member of the UNcivilized world, she showed up full stop. She's asked me some very deep questions, in typical Malina fashion, and I just love her for it. She made me think and she made me feel. Enjoy!
Cheers,
Traver2023-10-0232 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmTraver's Upbringing - Staff Interview with DeniseThe people who work at Team UNcivilized are as committed to helping end the suffering in men to help the suffering caused by men as I am. For the next few weeks, you'll get to hear them interview me.
First up is Denise. Our Director of Design, Denise does so much more than that. Sure, she was sweating through half this recording, but she also asked me some incredible questions about my own background. Some of it might surprise you.
Cheers,
Traver2023-09-251h 00The UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmMaking sense of boundaries - with Traver BoehmIn this quick and dirty solo episode I’m answering a question I got on Instagram about what exactly boundaries are and how to set them and keep them.
Boundaries are the special sauce of relationships. With them your relationships will thrive and can last forever. Without them you will slowly build up resentment and until you explode. Trust me as I speak from personal experience on this.
I’m diving into how to understand boundaries more deeply, why you need them, and the magic sentence that you can use to enforce them.
Enjo...2023-09-0415 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmWhose rules are you playing by? — with Traver BoehmWe men often don’t stop and ask ourselves, “Whose rules am I playing by? Are they mine? Do they work for me? What if I changed them?”
In this short solo episode I share a conversation I had with a man after Jiujitsu who has changed his entire outlook on life just by questioning whose rules he was living by.
This is especially important for Nice Guys who often aren’t playing by ONE set of someone else’s rules but changing depending on who is in front of them.
This episode is hard hitti...2023-08-2812 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmChange your life as a man by changing this one pattern — with Traver BoehmSo many men are stuck thinking in this one certain way — I have to make everyone else happy before I’ll have a good life. And that’s a death sentence to your hopes, dreams, and confidence.
In this live call with the men in my Kill The Nice Guy Group I dive into how to shift this limiting thought into a powerful one. One that will change every way you exist in the world, and how the world interacts with you.
Cheers,
Traver
If you look at the civilized world and th...2023-08-2135 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmThese secret agreements are killing your relationships with Traver BoehmI wish I had a more easily understood term for the words Covert Contracts, but I don’t…yet.
And — everyone has these secret, one-way agreements in our relationships that slowly build resentment, erode trust, and actually prevent us from getting the very needs we’re desperate to get met from doing just that.
In this solo episode I break down what a Covert Contract is, how you can spot them in your relationship, and how you can STOP using them and instead speak your needs directly. Enjoy
Cheers,
Traver
2023-08-1430 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmWhat to do when you’ve had back to back to back losses with Traver BoehmAny time a potential client tells me they’ve recently had three major losses or setbacks, I take a deep breath and listen carefully. So often this is their soul’s way of completely reorganizing their lives in a far more aligned way than it’s ever been before.
If you’re experiencing back to back or perhaps even three losses in a row, this episode is for you. I’ll break down my own dark night of the soul and how it was a blessing in disguise.
I’ll also give you tangible ways of navigatin...2023-08-0717 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmOvercoming your fear of rejection with Traver BoehmFear of rejection shows up in many less than obvious ways. It can be the difference between speaking your mind and keeping quiet, sharing your post or deleting before anyone gets a chance to read it.
Many people believe there’s a switch you can flip and suddenly this deep fear will just disappear. This is not the case that I have found. However, there are actions you can take and frames you can adopt to make your fear of rejection go from a huge burden in your life to a roommate who lives alone in your ba...2023-07-3115 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmSuperman — don’t make this dating mistake — with Traver BoehmSo many men come to me AFTER a breakup in shock that it happened. The conversation almost immediately starts with, “And I did everything for her, especially all the things her ex’s didn’t do.”
And I know this man was doomed from the start. Why? Who really wants to date Superman? And what man can keep up this facade before falling on his face exhausted?
In this solo episode I outline the Superman Complex in dating and how you can either shift it if you’re in a relationship, or avoid it in your next one.2023-03-2710 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmBlack & White thinking as a man is lazy with Traver BoehmA trend I’ve noticed recently in the Men’s world is a lot of black and white messaging. All men are this. All men do that.
Brothers, this kind of thinking and messaging is seductive because it’s easy. It’s also lazy. Being a man means being on an ever changing spectrum that requires you to ask yourself questions and adjust along the way.
In this solo episode I break this down further and also introduce you to our Behind The Masks of Men series.
Enjoy,
Traver
If you l...2023-02-2009 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmI am a man — with Traver BoehmIn this solo episode I explore the single most important sentence a man can say to himself and know about himself — I am a man.
This conversation stems from the hundreds of men I’ve worked with in my life who were told that “being a man” wasn’t important or was a secondary or tertiary thought.
It is not. It is primary. And when it becomes so in your life, everything changes.
Enjoy,
Traver
If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should sub...2023-01-0906 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmThe 7 Deadly Sins with Traver Boehm — WrathIn the final part of this 7 part solo podcast series on the Civilized vs the UNcivilized view of the Seven Deadly Sins, I’m taking WRATH and breaking it down for you.
I’m looking at how you can make it work for you and how it can upend your life.
These are short, hard hitting solo podcasts as a thank you for all of your support throughout the year.
Enjoy,
Traver
If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our...2022-12-1116 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmThe 7 Deadly Sins with Traver Boehm — GluttonyIn the sixth part of this 7 part solo podcast series on the Civilized vs the UNcivilized view of the Seven Deadly Sins, I’m taking GLUTTONY and breaking it down for you.
I’m looking at how you can make it work for you and how it can upend your life.
These are short, hard hitting solo podcasts as a thank you for all of your support throughout the year.
Enjoy,
Traver
If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our...2022-12-1012 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmThe 7 Deadly Sins with Traver Boehm — SlothIn the fifth part of this 7 part solo podcast series on the Civilized vs the UNcivilized view of the Seven Deadly Sins, I’m taking SLOTH and breaking it down for you.
I’m looking at how you can make it work for you and how it can upend your life.
These are short, hard hitting solo podcasts as a thank you for all of your support throughout the year.
Enjoy,
Traver
If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our...2022-12-0911 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmThe 7 Deadly Sins with Traver Boehm — GreedIn the fourth part of this 7 part solo podcast series on the Civilized vs the UNcivilized view of the Seven Deadly Sins, I’m taking GREED and breaking it down for you.
I’m looking at how you can make it work for you and how it can upend your life.
These are short, hard hitting solo podcasts as a thank you for all of your support throughout the year.
Enjoy,
Traver
If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our...2022-12-0816 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmThe 7 Deadly Sins with Traver Boehm — LustIn the third part of this 7 part solo podcast series on the Civilized vs the UNcivilized view of the Seven Deadly Sins, I’m taking LUST and breaking it down for you.
I’m looking at how you can make it work for you and how it can upend your life.
These are short, hard hitting solo podcasts as a thank you for all of your support throughout the year.
Enjoy,
Traver
If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our...2022-12-0713 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmThe 7 Deadly Sins with Traver Boehm — EnvyIn the second part of this 7 part solo podcast series on the Civilized vs the UNcivilized view of the Seven Deadly Sins, I’m taking ENVY and breaking it down for you.
I’m looking at how you can make it work for you and how it can upend your life.
These are short, hard hitting solo podcasts as a thank you for all of your support throughout the year.
Enjoy,
Traver
If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our...2022-12-0614 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmThe 7 Deadly Sins with Traver Boehm — PrideIn the first part of this 7 part solo podcast series on the Civilized vs the UNcivilized view of the Seven Deadly Sins, I’m taking PRIDE and breaking it down for you.
I’m looking at how you can make it work for you and how it can upend your life.
These are short, hard hitting solo podcasts as a thank you for all of your support throughout the year.
Enjoy,
Traver
If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our...2022-12-0511 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmHow to survive the holidays with Traver BoehmThe holidays can be a trying time for a lot of folks. I know this because so many reach out to me asking for advice on how to deal with a difficult ex, challenging family situations, or being alone.
In this solo episode I give a three point plan on how to not only survive the holidays but how to thrive during them. Give it a listen and feel free to DM me on Instagram @traverboehm with any thoughts you have.
Cheers,
Traver
If you look at the civilized world and...2022-11-1424 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmChange your relationship with the UNKNOWN with Traver BoehmSo many men are frozen.
So many men are riddled with anxiety.
So many men want yet have convinced themselves they cannot have.
Why?
Their fear of the unknown. And the fear they have with the unknown stems from not cultivating a relationship with themselves AND the unknown parts of their lives.
In this solo episode I break down some concrete ways to liberate yourself from the stories in your head and the grip of fear in your stomach and live more fully.
Yours UNcivilized,
...2022-10-3113 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmThe UNcivilized Starter Kit with Traver BoehmFolks,
In this episode I give you three of my favorite tools to take you from civilized to UNcivilized. I’m not going to tell you what they are here, you’re just going to have to listen to the episode!
I’ve also got an announcement for you at the end so please listen all the way through and share this with one man in your life for me.
Yours UNcivilized,
Traver
If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our...2022-10-1715 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmIt’s ok to be single — with Traver BoehmIn this solo episode I dive head first into uncharted relationship waters, first talking about why there’s so much shame thrown on men who are single by choice. I then tackle what I think is the REAL relationship issue — the standard relationship paradigm doesn’t work with the male nervous system.
This episode is bound to upset a lot of people, be warned.
Enjoy,
Traver
If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episod...2022-10-0309 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmTurning around a stuck relationship with Traver BoehmIn this solo episode, I take a listener’s challenge he’s having in his relationship and dive into it.
He had found that he and his wife were in a pattern of ending the day sitting on the coach, watching tv night after night. They weren’t talking, they weren’t connecting and they weren’t having sex.
This is an episode for anyone in a relationship or anyone who plans to be in a relationship!
Enjoy,
Traver
If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you...2022-09-1910 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmWhat to do when your spouse suddenly vanishes with Traver BoehmThis solo episode is inspired by another Instagram question I got about how to navigate the loss of marriage when your spouse suddenly ups and leaves and dives right into a brand new relationship.
While I hope this never happens to you, if it does, here are some ways to cope with the loss and move powerfully forward.
Enjoy,
Traver
If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community...2022-09-0514 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmHow to build powerful friendships with other men with Traver BoehmThis episode is inspired by an Instagram message I got asking how I built a powerful network of amazing male friends.
It’s not lost on me that many men suffer from a lack of friendship, or are dissatisfied with the depth they have with their friend group. I count myself as extremely fortunate to have the circle I do.
In this episode I dive into ways that men can build and maintain deep friendships with other men.
Enjoy,
Traver
If you look at the civilized world and think, "no...2022-08-2212 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmDoing the work is not selfish with Traver Boehm This is a major block for so many men — and it shouldn’t be.
Doing personal work, growth work, and/or healing work is the furthest thing from selfish.
In fact, it’s the opposite. The stronger and healthier you make yourself, the more you can provide and guide those around you.
In this quick and dirty solo episode, I dive into all of this. If it lands, please share it with one man in your life.
Cheers,
Traver
If you look at the civilized world and think, "no than...2022-08-0107 min
The UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmWhy do you train? With Traver BoehmIn this solo episode I break down why every man needs to have a physical training regimen. From running to lifting weights to Jiu Jitsu, it matters little.
What matters most is that each man understands it is his RESPONSIBILITY to be in shape, strong and capable.
Enjoy,
Traver
If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so...2022-07-0410 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmThings men are loved for, with Traver BoehmThere’s a single line in Robert Bly’s Iron John that grabbed me.
“The activity men were once loved for is no longer required.”
In this solo episode I look at both sides of the argument for this notion, ending on how Covid and the recent shifts in the world have made men even more needed and our activities even more worthy of celebration.
Enjoy,
Traver
If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a s...2022-06-2011 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmHow to be taken more seriously as a man.In my work with Nice Guys, many of them express a deep desire to be taken more seriously as a man. While this may seem like an elusive goal, completely dependent on the whims of the outside world, it is not.
In this solo episode I dive into the ways you can immediately begin to shift how the world sees you, by shifting how you see yourself.
Enjoy,
Traver
If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't...2022-06-0606 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmHow to develop more confidence with Traver BoehmConfidence is a muscle. While some people may be born with it, many of us had to earn it. In this solo episode I dive into easily applicable ways to build your confidence and embody it fully.
Enjoy,
Traver
If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests...2022-05-2312 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmAcknowledging the wildness in men w/ Traver BoehmThere’s a wildness in men that we as a society don’t acknowledge — to the detriment of us all. When a man has space for his wild expressions and a connection to both the wild inside of him and the wilderness and natural elements around him, his whole life changes.
The flavor of intimacy he brings to his partnerships, his work, and his creative endeavors all becomes richer and more healing.
In this solo episode, I dive into the wild. Join me.
Traver
If you look at the civilized world and th...2022-05-1011 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmAcknowledging the wildness in men w/ Traver BoehmThere’s a wildness in men that we as a society don’t acknowledge — to the detriment of us all. When a man has space for his wild expressions and a connection to both the wild inside of him and the wilderness and natural elements around him, his whole life changes.The flavor of intimacy he brings to his partnerships, his work, and his creative endeavors all becomes richer and more healing.In this solo episode, I dive into the wild. Join me.TraverIf you look at the civilized world and th...2022-05-0911 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmAn initiation idea for teen boys — with Traver BoehmIn this solo episode, I share a quick story of an initiation experience I got to be a part of years ago as my buddy’s son turned 13. It was powerful and will help spark ideas for anyone who has a young man in his or her life.
Enjoy,
Traver
If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, Facebook, or Instagram so you ca...2022-04-2509 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmTo slap or not to slap — with Traver BoehmIn this episode I’m throwing my hat in the ring of the Will Smith, Chris Rock Oscar’s incident and challenging you all to investigate your own values.
Dive into this episode as I dissect some of the public ideas around what it means to be a man and a protector.
Cheers,
Traver
If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my webs...2022-04-1113 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmWhat the hell is men’s work with Traver BoehmIn this solo episode I break down the ever present question of, “What the hell is men’s work?”
Let’s dive into it, make it simple, and dispel some of the popular misconceptions around the work so many men are now engaging in. Men’s work is the greatest and most necessary path a man can walk in.
Enjoy,
Traver
If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community...2022-03-2815 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmNo one f*cking cares about men? With Traver BoehmIn this solo episode I want to rewrite the current, inaccurate narrative that no one cares about men.
This narrative keeps men stuck, hurting, and leads them to act out in ways that hurt themselves and those who love them.
Let’s shift this. Together.
Cheers,
Traver
If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, Facebook, or Instagram so you ca...2022-03-2110 min
The UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmBeing dangerous but not a danger with Traver BoehmIn this solo episode I dive into the power of creating and disciplining yourself to have a daily practice.
When a man has this, his whole life changes. When he doesn’t, he’s left to the whim of the winds.
Creating a daily ritual to deepen his relationship to his strength helps everyone around him, mostly himself.
Enjoy,
Traver
If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the unci...2022-03-0710 min
The UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmYour soul has already left the building - Traver BoehmOne of the challenging parts of navigating big change is accepting when the change may already have taken place internally for you — but your external circumstances are still the same.
In this solo episode I share a story of leaving my old business and how it felt long before I “left the building.” Recognizing this pattern is a massive step towards traversing it with grace and ease. Change is hard no matter what, understanding the process can make it less so.
Enjoy,
Traver
If you look at the civilized world and think...2022-02-2110 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmThe evolutionary advantage of victimhood with Connor Beaton.In this off the cuff episode, Connor Beaton and I dive into the current social climate and how men can easily get trapped in a victim mentality.
We also look closely at the MGTOW Movement and the challenge of Incel culture.
Enjoy,
Traver
Take our free 60-second quiz to find out if your Nice Guy tendencies are sabotaging your relationships.
If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also...2022-01-311h 26The UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmThe two masculine paradigms to avoid with Traver BoehmThe 1950’s Marlboro Man and The Sensitive New Age Guy — let’s dive into both as we reconnect to some of the basics to start off the year.
In this solo episode I talk about how to recognize what may be challenging you fundamentally as a man, and how to shift out of those negative patterns!
Enjoy,
Traver
If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the UNcivilized community, and connect with m...2022-01-2716 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmYour head, heart, & balls. A breakdown w/ Traver BoehmYour head. Your heart. Your balls.
Learning to differentiate when to use each of these powerful energies is the difference between a life well lived and a life of challenge.
In this solo episode I break each area down and how you can start to integrate the three of them to be your most powerful self.
Cheers,
Traver
If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the UNcivilized community...2022-01-2013 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmWhy I quit drinking alcohol 7 years ago.Seven years ago tonight, I made one of the best decisions of my life — to quit drinking alcohol.
Here’s the most surprising thing to most people about this:
I’m not an alcoholic, nor was I one at the time.
In fact, I wasn’t even considered a heavy drinker and can’t tell you the last time I had gotten drunk.
But I drank what was common for a man my age in the civilized paradigm, a few beers throughout the week and more on weekends.
Nothing crazy, but it adde...2022-01-1722 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmKilling The Nice Guy — Buying Sex and PermissionThis episode is going to upset people, be warned.
In this solo piece I break down how Nice Guys so often turn their romantic partners into one of two archetypes:
A) The Prostitute archetype
B) The Mother archetype
Neither of these is healthy, aligned, or sustainable. Both lead to resentment AND a completely dead sex life.
Dive in, hang on, and prepare to be triggered whether you’re a man or a woman as we break down this extremely common yet often overlooked relationship phenomenon.
Cheers,
Traver...2022-01-1312 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmHow to run the world’s worst cult with David BoydOn a weekly basis, some jackfruit on the interwebs accuses me of running a cult. And I get it, we have t-shirts…we all like each other…and we think outside the box.
In this extremely important episode, Uncivilized Inc President David Boyd and I actually dissect and discuss the truth about the cult we may be running.
Grab your Kool Aid and your love for authority and enjoy!
Cheers,
Traver
If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podc...2022-01-1026 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmTurning your passion into purpose with Dr. Jeremy Goldberg and Leila DyllaPurpose, purpose, purpose.
We hear how important it is to know why we’re here on Earth and what we’re “supposed” to be doing! For men this is doubly important.
But yet for so many people, discovering and/or claiming their purpose is an exercise in frustration and exhaustion.
In this UNcivilized UNplugged episode with Dr. Jeremy Goldberg and Leila Dylla we dive into our best practices for both helping our clients discovering their purposes and how we unlocked our own.
Dive in and enjoy!
ABOUT LEILA DYLLA
Le...2022-01-061h 06The UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmPunching Imposter Syndrome In The Face with Traver BoehmThe Imposter haunts us all. Myself included. Or at least he used to.
I remember a few years back doing the first class of a six class online workshop and anxiously walking around my house afterward waiting for the emails to come in from all of the men who were on the call wanting their money back!
The emails never came…but I also reached out to my good friend Jeremy who said, “Show me the evidence from your old classes where everyone quits on you after the first call. If there’s no evidence there...2021-12-3009 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmHow women support a man on the path with Traver BoehmWhen the divine masculine rises, every broken system in the world will change with it. And not before.
As men find their hearts and feel into all the pain and heartache they have buried, the world has no choice but to shift radically.
And yet this work is not easy. Far from it.
A question I get weekly from readers and listeners of the female persuasion is:
“How do I support my man, my brother, my son, and every man in my circle who is beginning to walk the path of un...2021-12-1612 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmYou are awesome — the power of momentum with Traver BoehmOne of the stories so many of us carry is that we need to burn our lives to the ground and rebuild from there in order to make any significant change. This is not so.
In this episode I share one of the most impactful lessons I learned from a client about making small shifts that create massive momentum.
That and why I still have a framed Post-It Note in my office from that very woman.
Enjoy,
Traver2021-12-0210 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmDeath by a thousand cuts with Traver BoehmWe all know the big Traumas are things we have to address with professional help. Yet how many of us are walking around with a backpack of little traumas that we’ve deemed too insignificant to address.
In this solo episode I dive into the power of letting go of the accumulated grief so many men and women are still being hurt by.
Enjoy,
Traver2021-11-1810 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmLessons from 4 years of UNcivilized with Traver BoehmYesterday was the four year anniversary of my idea — maybe UNcivilized is the way to go vs being civilized.
What a long strange trip it’s been since! In this solo episode I break down the three main lessons I’ve learned over this journey.
Enjoy,
Traver
If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the UNcivilized community, and connect with me on my website Man UNcivilized.com or Ins...2021-11-0414 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmThe three horsemen of the civilized world with Traver BoehmConfusion. Numbness. Distraction.
These are the three ways the civilized world brings men down, weakens us, and makes us docile. Avoid them at all costs.
In this solo episode I break these down and how you can avoid them.
Enjoy,
Traver
If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the UNcivilized community, and connect with me on my website Man UNcivilized.com or Instagram so you can join in...2021-10-2110 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmTraver Boehm — UNcivilzing your relationship with social media.In this solo episode I break down the outcome of a social media challenge we did in the UNcivilized Nation. I share some of my own journey and some great ways for you to reestablish a healthy relationship with your own social platforms.
Enjoy,
Traver2021-10-0718 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmHow to manage overwhelm with Duey Freeman & Michael GayHow to handle overwhelm?
We are all overwhelmed by different things that happen to us daily, either the excess of information or the pressure we put on ourselves.
Every week in The UNcivilized Nation, we have an unplugged episode, and for this episode, our guests will be Duey Freeman and Michael Gay. Both will share their point of view as therapists about the overwhelm and how to deal with it.
Take our free 60-second quiz to find out if your Nice Guy tendencies are sabotaging your relationships.
ABOUT DUEY FREEMAN
Du...2021-10-0456 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmCelebrating your wins with Traver BoehmIt's not only okay to celebrate your wins, it's important.
Have a close, trusted group of people and celebrate your wins, both big and small.
AND
If you are stuck, know that it’s part of the process. Often times before a big shift is when things feel the most stagnant.
Living outside the box is hard.
Celebrate your wins. Keep working, keeping pushing.
Have a kickass weekend and go be UNcivilized.
If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," the...2021-09-1609 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmNow you know you’re not a sociopath with Traver BoehmIn this solo episode I bring you back to my professional MMA day in sunny Southern California and share how a simple conversation changed my life forever.
So many of you reach out to me asking about when the day will come…the magical day…when suddenly you won’t be afraid to live your life on your terms.
In this episode, I’ll tell you exactly when that day will come.
Enjoy,
Traver
If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you...2021-08-2605 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmWinning makes you different with Traver BoehmIn this episode I dissect a Tim Grover quote and show how it applies so deeply on your path from civilized to UNcivilized. We’ll look at the potential challenges that come with living outside of the box and challenging the collective unconscious.
Buckle up for this, it’s a wild ride.
Cheers,
Traver
If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me o...2021-08-2212 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmThe keys to dating after your divorce with Traver BoehmDating after divorce can be some scary territory, but it doesn’t have to. Here are some keys to making this experience rich, safe, and enjoyable for everyone involved.
Be interesting
Be honest
Be curious
Be Safe
Be a leader
Happy dating,
Traver2021-07-2915 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmBringing consciousness to your relationships with Leila DyllaThrough the years Leila and Traver have both been helping their own communities heal their wounds, deepen their connections and have taught many times together all around the world.
In this episode, Traver welcomes Leila back to the podcast to discuss conscious relationships, connection and waking up to a deeper sense of happiness. They take a deep, deep dive into living more intimately with life, getting to know yourself, healing from past experiences and sitting wholly in the growth process.
Brew yourself a pot of tea, sit down, get comfortable, take a few deep breaths an...2021-07-221h 02The UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmWhat would you stop doing if you knew, with Traver BoehmI spent all of 2016 doing a radical social experiment, living the year as if it were my last one. It change EVERYTHING about how I exist and how I view life.
In this episode, I’m asking you to ponder your existence and what in it you would or would not shift, if you only had five more years on this Earth.
Light. Fluffy. Stuff.
Enjoy,
Traver2021-07-1509 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmWhy you need to change your language immediately with Traver BoehmWords are things.
Words are things.
Words are things.
I can go on but I think you get it. The words we use shape our reality. Therefor the easiest way to change our reality is to change our words.
In this short solo-episode I break this down for you. Enjoy.
Traver2021-06-2808 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmWhat few people will tell you about the UNcivilized path with Traver BoehmWant to know what few people will tell you about leaving the false safety of the conventional world? It’s fucking hard. And lonely. And frustrating.
And oh so worth it.
In this episode I share some of the truths you’re bound to experience any time you decide to live your life with authenticity and a lack of support from the conventional world.
Enjoy,
Traver2021-06-1415 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmThe Five stages of grief with Traver BoehmWhen I was in the shit storm of my life a few years back, stumbling upon and studying up on The Five Stages of Grief was monumentally helpful. It gave me a framework for my otherwise frameless experience and helped me take a few deep breaths.
If you’re in it right now, give this short episode a listen. It will help you understand your own process and hopefully bring you some peace.
Cheers,
Traver2021-05-3114 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmWhy you need to be your brother’s keeper with Traver BoehmThis week I’m diving into UNcivilized Ethos Tenet #2 — Be Your Brother’s Keeper.
Now more than ever we need to normalize men supporting other men.
Remember how awesome it was to be on a team? That shit needs to come back and it needs to come back now. No matter your race, creed, socioeconomic status, or hairline — if you’re a man, you need other men in your life.
Give this a listen and take it to heart.
Enjoy,
Traver2021-05-1309 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmHow to practice presence and performance with Traver BoehmIn this solo episode I break down UNcivilized Ethos Tenet #6 — Practice Presence and Performance and give men a better understanding of both what it means to be present and a skill they can practice to develop it.
All of this while not taking away from what is and always will be essential to being a man — how we perform.
Enjoy,
Traver2021-05-0308 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmLooking at men through the eye of Myth with Rick AlexanderEach human being goes through different stages throughout their life, but only one will mark the rest of your life.
Two extraordinary people (me and today's guest, Rick Alexander) decided to join our podcast to create this incredible episode. We will talk about the role of myth in manhood, feminine shaming, the growth as the new problem for humanity, and how to achieve a more profound life for men in order access to their truth.
Rick Alexander has a past in the special forces. Now, his past is only a memory in his new life...2021-04-221h 14The UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmWhy men need to kill their inner Nice Guy with Traver BoehmRaise your hand if you’re a Nice Guy. When asked that five years ago, my hand shot straight up. Now, thank god, it stays down.
If you’re tired of living someone else’s life, hiding from conflict, and praying that you go through life unnoticed, this episode is for you.
If you’re tired of putting everyone else first and falling asleep exhausted but unsatisfied with your own life, this episode is for you.
If you’re tired of wanting more out of life but being afraid to ask — this episode is for you.2021-02-1522 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmHow to have your most powerful year to date with Traver BoehmIn this solo, unedited freestyle episode, I share with you the three powerful frames you can adopt immediately to turn 2021 into your best year yet.
Enjoy,
Traver2021-01-0419 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmWhy you need to know where you’re leaking with Traver BoehmIn this episode we dive into where you may be losing time, energy and attention, and how you can stop doing that immediately!
Enjoy.
Traver2020-11-0911 min
One Mana ShortPersonal Spellbooks with Jake TraverThis week, Russel and Eric welcome our editor Jake Traver (@WCPower9) onto the cast to talk about our personal Signature Spellbooks. First, though, we chat a bit about Double Masters before digging into our lists. We've got the full 24 cards on our website: https://onemanashort.com/2020/08/11/episode-20-personal-signature-spellbooks-with-jake-traver/ Podcast (@OneManaShort) by Eric Landes (@ProggyBoog) and Russel Lee (@RogueArtificer) Edited by Jake Traver (@WCPower9) Music by Eric Landes2020-08-1100 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmWhat kind of man wakes up in your house? Minisode w/ Traver BoehmHere's an expansive question to start your week off right! In this mini solo Monday morning episode I dive into a question that's bound to help you on your path to excellence.
www.manuncivilized.com/thenation to join my expanding men's group!
www.manuncivilized.com/thebook to get your hands on a copy of my book.
Cheers,
Traver2020-08-1016 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmMinisode - The three misconceptions about doing difficult things with Traver BoehmIn this short episode I tackle the three biggest misconceptions about doing things that are difficult. From writing books and launching businesses, to getting divorced and fighting in a cage, I've done some hard things. And...notice the patterns people have and stories they tell themselves about why they can or cannot do the same.
Enjoy.
Men - we have over 60 members in the UNcivilized Nation! If you're tired of being a lone wolf and dealing with the stress of a pandemic on your own - STOP - and join us. This group is the...2020-08-0313 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmMinisode - The power of clean anger with Traver BoehmIn this short minisode, I dive into the benefits of clean anger and the differentiations between anger that runs through your heart and anger that doesn't!
Men -- The Nation wants you! Come join the fastest growing men's group in the land:
www.manuncivilized.com/thenation
Please share and subscribe to my podcast!
Cheers,
Traver2020-07-2716 minThe UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmKilling the Nice Guy 101 with Traver BoehmThe Nice Guy isn't nice. He's a wolf in sheep's clothing. He's a danger.
And he's in pain and there are ways out of that pain. In this episode I dive into the Nice Guy paradigm and give three tools to working your way out of it.
My men's leadership course starts on July 19th! www.manuncivilized.com/hhb to sign up.
If you're looking for an amazing group of men - www.manuncivilized.com/thenation
And to get your hands on a copy (audio as well) of my book: www...2020-07-1313 min
The UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmHow to turn your pain into rocket fuel for your kick ass life w/ Traver BoehmHow to turn your pain into rocket fuel for your kick ass life w/ Traver Boehm by Traver Boehm2019-04-1951 min