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The Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show57: You Asked If Life Gets Better After Divorce—Here’s the TruthQuinn opens up about what life really looks like on the other side of divorce—from the deepest grief to the unexpected gifts. After leaving both a long-term marriage and a high-control religion, Quinn shares how the dismantling of everything familiar gave rise to a life of freedom, integrity, joy, and truth.She doesn't sugarcoat the hard stuff: loneliness, identity loss, financial stress, and fractured relationships. But she also shares the radiant rewards—reclaiming selfhood, sexual liberation, parenting with compassion, and the beauty of building a life that fits like your favorite pair of jeans.Whet...2025-06-1834 min
The Stay or Go Podcast for Women Considering DivorceContinuing the Conversation: What Mayim Bialik’s Breakdown Brought Up With Guest Quinn OtreraEpisode 59: Wow y’all… this one is a wild ride. After the energy of being on Mayim Bialik’s Breakdown, Quinn and I just had to circle back. You know those moments when you’re like, “Wait! I wasn’t done!”—yeah, this episode is all that and more. 😅✨We’re diving into the real talk that didn’t get airtime—reading through your 🔥comments, confronting trolls 🧌, and expanding the convo on divorce, identity, and the emotional minefield that women walk when considering leaving a marriage. We talk about the empathetic Achilles heel that keeps so many women stuck, t...2025-05-271h 49The Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show56: When You Don’t Know What’s Next, Ask ThisThis episode is a love letter to all of us standing at the edge of the unknown.With the school year ending and the summer holding more questions than answers, I share from my own life the real, raw process of navigating uncertainty post-divorce. From ex-husband drama to nursing school limbo, from ICE raid trainings to food rescue volunteering, I talk about the tools I’m using to show up on purpose, no matter what chaos is swirling.You’ll hear:The core question that’s guiding me right now: “Who do I want to be no...2025-05-2122 minThe Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show55: Doing Nothing IS a DecisionIn this episode, Quinn celebrates the end of a school year and reflects on the growth that comes from choosing courage over comfort. They dive deep into what it really costs us—emotionally, spiritually, and practically—when we don’t take action toward the lives we say we want.Drawing on Tony Robbins’ powerful Dickens Process, Jocko Willink’s concept of Extreme Ownership, and the heroine’s journey framework, this episode is your wake-up call to do the hard thing. Whether it’s leaving your house, setting a boundary, calling the therapist, or...2025-05-1423 minThe Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show54: Listener Q & A: The Myth of “Over It” and the Truth About HealingQuinn answers real questions from listeners navigating the post-divorce terrain. From heavy sadness two years out, to rebuilding identity, holding space for your children's pain, and the haunting question, "What if this is it?", Quinn offers bold reframes, warm encouragement, and practical wisdom. They explore why blame feels safe, how to excavate your own desires, and why choosing yourself is the most radical and rewarding act of all. With stories, quotes, and a dose of truth-telling, this episode reminds divorced women that their best life isn’t just possible—it’s unfolding now.What You'll Learn:...2025-05-0728 minThe Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show53: How to SPEAK Up: A Post-Divorce Power MoveWe open the door to one of the most courageous and uncomfortable topics in the glow-up journey: standing up for yourself. From setting legal boundaries to confronting entitlement, Quinn introduces a bold framework to help women move from silence to strength.🧨 Highlights include:A hair transformation and what it sparked internallyThe SPEAK framework for setting and keeping boundariesReal-life stories from clients (and Quinn’s own life) who took courageous actionThe emotional cost of silence vs. the power of self-respectWhy self-betrayal is a form of harm we can stopSPEAK FrameworkS2025-04-3032 minThe Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show52: Tired of Being Strong? This Is for YouIn this fiercely tender episode, Quinn explores sisu—a powerful Finnish word that describes the inner grit that rises when there’s nothing left to give but you keep showing up anyway. Drawing from their own ancestral roots, Quinn reclaims the kind of strength that isn’t about pushing harder, but about remembering who you are when the world goes quiet.This is not about hustle. This is about sacred perseverance. This is not girlboss strength. This is sisu.Through stories, reflection, and a closing guided meditation, Quinn offers practical and soulful ways to reconne...2025-04-2328 minThe Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show51: I Took Fear With Me - And Everything ChangedIn this raw, reflective, and empowering episode, Quinn opens up about the emotional terrain of fear—how it creeps in post-divorce, shows up in our relationships, careers, and even in the state of the world. They share deeply personal moments of walking into the unknown: moving during COVID, raising six kids alone, and heading back to school to become a nurse.With wisdom from Pema Chödrön, Stoic philosophers, and Gavin de Becker’s The Gift of Fear, Quinn unpacks the crucial difference between fear that saves your life and fear that steals it. You'll learn how to...2025-04-1630 minThe Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show50: The Sex Talk You Were Never Supposed to Hear (Convo w/ Britta Jo of The Stay or Go Podcast)🔥 Episode Description: Welcome to the post-divorce pleasure revolution.In this unfiltered, wide-ranging, absolutely juicy episode, Quinn and Britta Jo reunite for one of their signature off-the-cuff intimacy chats. This time? We’re talking orgasms, pleasure, post-divorce sex, religious shame, dating disasters, and reclaiming our deliciously complex female bodies.We cover everything from “tuna can” lovers to the orgasm gap, from purity culture to sex in midlife, and we do it with our signature combo of sass, smarts, and soul.If you’ve ever felt broken, frustrated, ashamed, or just straight-up...2025-04-091h 42
The Stay or Go Podcast for Women Considering DivorceThe Sex Talk You Were Never Supposed to Hear With Quinn OtreraEpisode 52:🔥 Buckle up, babes! In this raw and radically honest episode, I’m teaming up with my soul sister Quinn for a full-on, no-holds-barred intimacy chat. We're diving DEEP into the orgasm gap, the tragedy of hetero sex myths, and what it really means to reclaim your body and your pleasure—especially after divorce. 💦We’re pulling back the curtain on everything we were never taught to talk about—from painful sex and religious shame to mind-blowing orgasms and the freedom that comes with saying “I deserve more.” 💥 This one’s juicy, unfiltered, and straight from the heart—and yes, the fire...2025-04-081h 41The Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show49: Vitamin O: Get Yourself Off, Get Your Life BackIn this juicy, heartfelt episode, we’re talking about the orgasm—yes, your orgasm. Whether you’re self-partnered or dancing with a new lover, this episode is your reminder that pleasure is not a luxury—it’s your birthright.We’ll explore:Why orgasm is one of the most effective ways to calm your nervous systemThe difference between how men and women respond to porn and masturbationWhat science says about the health benefits of regular climactic releaseHow sexual shame, bad sex ed, and religious messaging have kept wo...2025-04-0223 minThe Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show48: Burn the Old Story: The Real Glow-Up is Identity WorkEpisode Summary: In this powerful episode, I talk about rewriting your self-concept after divorce—not by looking back, but by imagining forward. Drawing on the work of Benjamin Hardy (Personality Isn’t Permanent), Maxwell Maltz (Psycho-Cybernetics), Dr. Joe Dispenza, and Gay Hendricks (The Big Leap), I break down how identity isn’t fixed, how to start thinking and acting like your future self, and why joy can feel so damn scary when you’ve been stuck in survival mode.I also share my personal story of going from believing I wasn’t “cut out” for school to...2025-03-2628 minThe Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show47: "I Love My Kids, But..." Grieving the Choice to Have ChildrenMotherhood is complicated, and it gets even more complex after divorce. In this deeply honest episode, I dive into something that many moms feel but rarely talk about—grieving the life we didn’t get to live because we had children. Whether you had kids due to religious pressure, cultural expectations, or a desire that later felt different in reality, this conversation is for you.We talk about the messy, conflicting emotions of loving our kids and grieving our lost autonomy. We also explore the guilt, resentment, and cultural expectations that tell moms they must always be grat...2025-03-1926 minThe Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show46: Dear Quinn: Your Post-Divorce Questions, Answered🎙 Episode Summary: In this episode, I dive into YOUR post-divorce questions in a heartfelt and honest Q&A session. From navigating guilt, loneliness, and comparison to embracing second chances and financial independence, we’re tackling it all. Whether you’re 36 or 57, wondering if it’s too late to start over, or struggling with the idea of dating again, this conversation is for you. I share my personal experiences, practical advice, and encouragement to help you create a life you love—on your terms.💌 Topics Covered: ✅ Feeling like it’s too late to start over at 5...2025-03-1237 minThe Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show45: No More Self Sabotage: The ADC MethodEver feel like you’re constantly passing the buck to “future you”? Skipping workouts, putting off tough conversations, avoiding finances—only to leave tomorrow’s self cleaning up today’s mess? In this episode, I introduce a powerful concept: being your own Aide-de-Camp (ADC)—the personal assistant to your future self.I’ll share a hilarious story about my daughter and a schoolyard showdown, drop some Stoic wisdom (Marcus Aurelius, I see you 👀), and show you how to step into this role for yourself. Learn how small, consistent actions today can completely change your life in 6 months, a year, and beyond...2025-03-0527 minThe Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show44: Advice For The Newly Divorced: 5 Skills to Transform Your JourneyI received news from a friend about her divorce being finalized. It begged the question, what skills does a newly divorced women need? The episode is my answer. PostDivorceGlowUp.comEmail: quinn@postdivorceglowup.com2025-02-2622 minThe Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show43: Why Positive Thinking Isn’t the Answer (And What Is)My daughter’s panic attack and what it taught me about emotional flashbacks and healing.Main Topic: Getting to NeutralThe Problem: Why jumping to “you’re fine” or forcing positivity doesn’t help in moments of distress.Emotional Flashbacks: What they are, how they show up unexpectedly, and how past trauma lives in the body.How I Handled It Differently:Allowing emotions to run their course rather than pushing them away.Encouraging her to feel rather than fight her fear.Why neutrality is often a better goal than...2025-02-1927 minThe Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show42: Don't Text Your Ex on Valentines Day! (Seriously, Don't)Valentine’s Day is around the corner, and if you’re staring at your phone, debating whether to text your ex, take a deep breath and listen to this episode first. This time of year stirs up nostalgia, loneliness, and a whole lot of selective memory, making it dangerously easy to romanticize the past. But before you hit send on that "Hope you're doing well..." text, let’s unpack what’s really going on.In this episode, we’ll cover:💌 Why the urge to text your ex is totally normal—but not a good idea2025-02-1232 minThe Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show41: Loneliness After Divorce: A Hard Truth and a New PerspectiveHey girlfriend, let’s have a real talk. Today, I’m sharing a personal story about loneliness—the kind that sneaks up on you even when you're surrounded by people.My sister, a widow, recently told me she feels completely alone. I get it. I know that feeling well. I see it in my clients all the time. But today, I want to challenge that thought. Because sometimes, "I'm all alone" isn't a fact—it's a story we're telling ourselves.In this episode, we’ll cover:✨ The difference between circumstance and story—wh...2025-02-0525 minThe Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show40: Happy Divorceversary to Me! Four Lessons I’ve LearnedIt’s my fourth divorceversary, and I wouldn’t change a thing. Divorce was just the beginning of my transformation, and in this episode, I’m sharing four lessons I’ve learned along the way.💡 Key Takeaways:1️⃣ Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater. Keep what serves you. Let go of what doesn’t.2️⃣ Find your allies. Some relationships won’t survive your divorce, but new ones will.3️⃣ Take exquisite care of yourself. Take up space, make your own rules, and own your life.4️⃣ Jus...2025-01-2923 minThe Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show39: Chasing Your Glow-Up: The Hard and Beautiful TruthLet’s talk about what it means to go after your big, scary dreams. In this episode, I’m getting personal about my journey back to school at 50 to pursue my goal of becoming a midwife. Spoiler alert: it’s hard, and my brain hurts! But here’s the truth—living with unfulfilled dreams is even harder.This week, I share a conversation with a client chasing her own dream of becoming a composer. She’s feeling the weight of self-doubt, and I had to remind her—and now I’m reminding you—that hard doesn’t mean wrong. Hard mea...2025-01-2227 minThe Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show38: Letting Go, Showing Up: Navigating Custody and Self-TrustIn this heartfelt episode, I share my journey navigating custody decisions after divorce and the lessons learned along the way. From letting go of control to fostering an environment of peace and self-trust, I discuss:The emotional challenges of custody decisions.My personal story of letting my son choose where to live.How creating a thriving environment for yourself can benefit your children.Insights from my clients who are navigating similar decisions.The importance of reframing stories of "abandonment" to empower yourself and your children.Whether you're dealing with custody questions or simply seeking inspiration for your...2025-01-1521 minThe Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show37: The Year of Disappointing OthersHello, my friend! As we dive into the new year, I’m reflecting on an unusual but powerful resolution: the importance of being willing to disappoint others to stay true to yourself.In this episode, I share:A heartfelt conversation with my daughter about her fear of disappointing a close friend as she embarks on a semester abroad.Why so many of us, especially women, feel a deep need to avoid disappointing others, and how this stems from societal and cultural conditioning.Personal stories, including how leaving my marriage and religion required me to face others' di...2025-01-0820 minThe Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show36: Becoming Full of Yourself: Unlocking the Power of the UnconsciousHappy New Year, and welcome to 2025! In this episode, Quinn dives into the magic of new beginnings and the importance of slowing down, being present, and exploring the unconscious to create a life you truly love.What’s Inside This Episode:2025 Goals: Why being present unlocks deeper emotions and clarity.Understanding the Unconscious: Inspired by Carl Jung’s insight: “Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”Tools to Explore Your Unconscious:Dream work and journaling.Active imagination through writing...2025-01-0131 minThe Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show35: The One Thing That Creates Exponential GrowthIn this special Christmas Day episode, Quinn reflects on how her approach to the holidays has evolved over the four years since her divorce. She discusses the importance of managing expectations and focusing on connection and relaxation. The episode further delves into strategies for personal growth post-divorce by providing examples from her coaching practice. The common theme among her clients is identifying and focusing on one impactful goal that can create significant positive changes in their lives. She emphasizes that concentrating on one thing, whether it be health, career, relationships, or self-discovery, can lead to exponential personal growth and...2024-12-2528 minThe Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show34: Pleasure is Mine: Claiming Your Sensual SelfIn this heartfelt episode, Quinn reflects on the importance of living a sensual, embodied life post-divorce. She discusses the concept of sensuality as fully engaging with all five senses and the journey of reclaiming this aspect of life without shame. Drawing from personal experiences and insights from thinkers like Brene Brown and Glennon Doyle, she addresses overcoming societal and religious stigmas around women's bodies and desires. Quinn encourages you to honor your senses, create sensory joy lists, and give yourself permission to savor life fully. The episode underscores the necessity of filling oneself up with sensory pleasures to lead a...2024-12-1826 minThe Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show33: Creating New Post-Divorce TraditionsQuinn discusses her personal journey of redefining traditions after a divorce. She shares how she balances religious and secular celebrations, focuses on creating meaningful and joyful traditions with her family, and emphasizes the importance of traditions for emotional resilience, identity, and community. Through practical tips, she encourages starting small, involving children, harvesting the good from past holidays, and being consistent but flexible. The episode highlights the significance of traditions in cultivating a new, fulfilling life post-divorce.00:00 Introduction and Holiday Context01:26 Navigating Traditions Post-Divorce02:50 The Psychological Benefits of Traditions03:56 Creating New Traditions06:49 Why Traditions...2024-12-1125 minThe Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show32: To Get the Life You Desire, Stop Being NiceQuinn explores the distinction between being nice and being kind, emphasizing the importance of setting clear boundaries and honest communication. Sharing personal anecdotes, including a situation with a lifelong friend and navigating divorce, she highlights the emotional costs and the manipulative nature of being nice. Inspired by teachings from Brene Brown and Tara Brach, the episode discusses practical steps for applying kindness in relationships and personal growth, urging listeners to prioritize self-compassion and authenticity. Practical advice on recognizing self-critical thoughts, setting boundaries, and nurturing true self-worth is provided to help listeners transform their interactions and emotional wellbeing.00:00...2024-12-0436 minThe Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show31: On Looking to the Past (and Tips on Getting an Order of Protection)Quinn reflects on her journey of personal growth and empowerment since her divorce. She shares a recent experience of obtaining an order of protection against her ex-husband, emphasizing the importance of setting boundaries and protecting oneself and one's children. The episode also delves into the concepts of 'the gap' and 'the gain,' encouraging listeners to focus on their progress and accomplishments. With a mix of personal anecdotes and coaching insights, the host offers support to others dealing with harassment and provides a reminder to stay present and grateful during the holiday season.00:00 Introduction and Thanksgiving Greetings2024-11-2718 minThe Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show30: Strategies for Feeling Safe Post-DivorceQuinn addresses the persistent fears many experience post-divorce, particularly those involving threatening interactions with an ex-spouse. She shares a recent personal incident where an unsolicited, threatening letter from her ex triggered intense fear. Offering practical advice, she discusses essential steps for maintaining physical and psychological safety, such as keeping court orders, legal resources, and recording interactions. She emphasizes creating a safe environment through physical distance and mindfulness, and focuses on the importance of feeling and processing fear. Tips for handling stressful communications and building a support network are also provided, offering a comprehensive guide for navigating life after divorce...2024-11-2033 minThe Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show29: How To Make Friends Post-DivorceQuinn shares her journey of making new friends post-divorce, especially in the run-up to 2025. She discusses the importance of friendship in healing and offers practical tips on how to re-establish a social circle after a significant life change. From leveraging past connections and using apps like Bumble BFF, to engaging in community activities and local events, Quinn provides a comprehensive guide to building meaningful relationships. She also emphasizes the importance of being a good friend and offers strategies for nurturing these new connections. Whether you're recently divorced, new to an area, or just looking to expand your social network...2024-11-1326 minThe Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show28: Lies We Tell Ourselves and What To Say InsteadQuinn reflects on the significance of the year's end, encouraging listeners to set goals and embrace change. She offers advice on being honest with oneself, tackling issues like fear of solitude, self-discovery post-divorce, and navigating financial stability. The speaker emphasizes the importance of setting realistic goals, being open to new experiences, and shifting negative narratives to foster a positive and fulfilling future.00:00 Introduction and Seasonal Reflections01:41 Setting Year-End Goals05:14 Honesty in Self-Reflection07:52 Addressing Post-Divorce Challenges19:41 Rewriting Negative Narratives31:06 Taking Action and Moving ForwardPostDivorceGlowUp.com2024-11-0633 minThe Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show27: Intentionally Self-Partnered: Healing, Exploring, & PlayingIn this episode, the Quinn shares her personal journey of self-discovery and empowerment post-divorce. Triggered by a letter from her ex-husband, she reflects on the strength required to navigate life after marriage. She delves into the concept of being 'intentionally self-partnered,' distinguishing it from simply being single or alone. Through her experiences with Britta Jo's community and her own coaching practice, she outlines a framework consisting of healing, exploration, and play. Emphasizing the importance of self-compassion, self-reflection, and the joy of new experiences, she offers guidance on how to build a fulfilling life centered on knowing and loving...2024-10-3026 minThe Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show26: Kids & Divorce Part 2: Post-Divorce Outcomes (Convo with Britta Jo)In this episode, Quinn and Britta dive into life after divorce and all the changes that come with it. 🌿 From navigating new relationships to balancing co-parenting and work, they explore how to embrace the "crisis period" (those first two chaotic years) and use it as an opportunity for growth.They share personal stories, insights from For Better or For Worse: Divorce Reconsidered by E. Mavis Hetherington, and talk about how change, while hard, doesn’t have to be negative. 💪 Whether you're worried about your kids, stepping into dating again, or finding your footing in your career, this episode...2024-10-232h 04
The Stay or Go Podcast for Women Considering DivorceKids and Divorce - Part 2: Post-divorce Outcomes (With Quinn Otrera From the Post-divorce Glow-up Show)Episode 31: Hey y'all, in this episode, Quinn and I dive into life after divorce and all the changes that come with it. 🌿 From navigating new relationships to balancing co-parenting and work, we explore how to embrace the "crisis period" (those first two chaotic years) and use it as an opportunity for growth.We share personal stories, insights from For Better or For Worse: Divorce Reconsidered by E. Mavis Hetherington, and talk about how change, while hard, doesn’t have to be negative. 💪 Whether you're worried about your kids, stepping into dating again, or finding your footing in your car...2024-10-222h 04The Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show25: Kids & Divorce Part 1: Convo With Britta Jo (of the Stay or Go Podcast)Navigating Divorce: Empowerment, Safety, and GrowthQuinn & Britta discuss diverse challenges and personal growth experiences related to post-divorce life, particularly for parents and children. They delve into emotional and financial fears, single parenting, co-parenting dynamics, and the importance of both emotional and physical safety for children. They emphasize personal development through coaching and mind management, reflecting on the gains from overcoming adversity. Topics cover societal and gender expectations, reevaluating motherhood, children's emotional wellbeing, and the benefits of diverse family environments. The narrative also highlights the creation of supportive communities for women and the intricacies of launching group...2024-10-161h 54
The Stay or Go Podcast for Women Considering DivorceKids & Divorce - Part 1: Disadvantages and Benefits (With Quinn Otrera from The Post-Divorce Glow-up Show)Episode 30: In this episode, I’m joined by my bestie and coach, Quinn Otrera from the "Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show" podcast, to tackle a question so many of you ask: Will divorce ruin my kids’ lives? 💔👶 This is part one of our deep dive into the fears and challenges surrounding kids and divorce.Quinn and I open up about our own worries—how we feared our kids would struggle emotionally, fall behind in school, or feel completely lost after our divorces. We break down where these fears come from and what it really means to "ruin" your child’s life. Spoile...2024-10-151h 54The Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show24: Understanding and Healing From Marital RapeIn this episode, Quinn discusses the pervasive issue of marital rape, highlighting a recent high-profile case in France, and expanding on how this issue resonates with her clients' experiences. She delves into the history and misconceptions around marital rape, consent, and coercion, specifically in the context of marriage, including legal and cultural barriers. The episode aims to redefine consent, debunk myths, and offer strategies for healing while encouraging women to reclaim autonomy over their bodies and find a supportive community. She also shares personal anecdotes and insights into how women can begin the journey of recovery and personal empowerment a...2024-10-0944 minThe Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show23: Post-Divorce Name Change Checklist: The Why & The How-ToIn this episode, Quinn discusses her personal journey of changing her name post-divorce, sharing valuable insights and practical tips for others considering the same. Topics covered include reasons for and against changing your name, the emotional and cultural implications, and a detailed step-by-step guide on how to navigate the legal and bureaucratic processes in the United States. The episode emphasizes the empowerment and personal transformation that can come with choosing a new name and offers encouragement for anyone in a similar situation.00:00 Welcome and Personal Update01:22 Developing New Skills03:15 Introduction to Name Change...2024-10-0241 minThe Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show22: Why You Feel Overwhelmed, Unworthy, and Stuck - and How to Get Over ItIn this episode, the Quinn explores the concept of internalized misogyny through the stories of three different women coping with post-divorce challenges. By discussing societal standards that devalue women's contributions, the episode aims to provide insight and practical advice for women to reframe their self-worth and roles in parenting, financial independence, and personal relationships. She also shares valuable resources and encourages listeners to get curious about their own beliefs and seek support if needed.00:00 Introduction and Fall Break02:27 Client Stories: Overwhelmed Single Mom03:41 Client Stories: Career Sacrifices and Self-Worth05:17 Client Stories: Healing and Moving...2024-09-2539 minThe Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show21: Rewrite Your Story: Inspiring Tales of Women Who Thrived Post-DivorceIn this episode, the host shares her transformative day filled with client interactions and personal growth milestones. She emphasizes the power of redefining oneself after divorce, citing inspiring stories of Tina Turner, J.K. Rowling, Eleanor Roosevelt, and Elizabeth Taylor. Through the lens of these remarkable figures, Quinn encourages listeners to identify and take consistent action towards their passions and dreams, pushing past limiting beliefs. The episode culminates with a heartfelt invitation to lean into one’s potential and create a life that feels truly aligned and fulfilling.00:00 Introduction and Personal Reflections02:16 The Power of Alter Ego...2024-09-1825 minThe Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show20: Want to Glow-Up Faster? Do This!In this episode, Quinn discusses the importance of slowing down to process emotions, especially for women recovering from divorce. Using personal anecdotes and client experiences, she highlights how acknowledging and integrating emotions like anger and frustration can lead to significant personal and professional growth. Practical tips for emotional processing and the benefits of having an empathetic witness are emphasized. Listeners are encouraged to visit her website for personalized coaching sessions.00:00 Welcome and Warm Wishes01:13 Dreams and Visions Post-Divorce01:45 Three Transformative Experiences03:22 Slowing Down to Process Emotions07:10 The Power of Emotional Release13:05 Practical...2024-09-1123 minThe Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show19: Embracing Anger as a Catalyst For Change (Convo with Britta Jo from The Stay or Go Podcast)Quinn and Britta face down fear, that fiery emotion that many of us try to avoid but inevitably can't. They discuss why embracing fear as a tool for growth and self-awareness is the path forward.They dive into why anger isn't something to fear - it's a powerful teacher and could be the best tool to use for the transformations you seek. Sharing personal stories and insights, they show how embraving anger can lead to breakthroughs, healing, and life that is more authentic and empowered. If you've ever felt like anger is too much or m...2024-09-041h 20The Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show18: Swipe Right or Hold Tight? When to Start Dating After DivorceIn this episode, key topics include the emotional recovery timeline, the impact of self-reflection, rebound relationships, and considerations when children are involved. Quinn emphasizes the importance of individual readiness, healing, and the unique journey of self-discovery through dating. Listeners are encouraged to reflect deeply on their own needs and circumstances while navigating post-divorce life.00:00 Introduction and Personal Experience02:17 The Importance of Dating After Divorce03:04 Understanding the Healing Process07:33 Self-Reflection and Personal Growth10:53 Guidelines for Dating Post-Divorce15:06 Considering Children in New Relationships17:01 Conclusion and Final Thoughts2024-08-2818 min
The Stay or Go Podcast for Women Considering DivorceEmbracing Anger as a Catalyst for Change (With Quinn Otrera from the Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show)Episode 25: Hey loves! 💛 Today, I’m sitting down with my bestie, Quinn, to talk about something we all feel but often avoid—anger. That fiery emotion many of us, especially when considering divorce, are told to suppress.Quinn and I dive into how anger shows up in our lives and why it’s crucial to face it head-on. Anger isn’t something to fear—it’s a powerful signal that something needs to change. We share personal stories and insights on how embracing your anger can lead to breakthroughs, healing, and a life that’s more authentic and empowered.2024-08-271h 21The Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show17: Beyond the Blues: Navigating Post-Divorce DepressionQuinn discusses the prevalence of depression among women and outlines both the emotional and physical symptoms that may occur. The importance of sleep, muscle contraction, and having a supportive listener are emphasized as key strategies for managing depression. The speaker draws distinctions between therapy and coaching, highlights the significance of intentional thinking, and encourages viewers to embrace the introspective period following a divorce. Practical tips for self-care and proactive measures to avoid severe depressive episodes are also shared.00:00 Introduction and Personal Updates01:15 Keyword Research and Post-Divorce Depression01:59 Understanding Post-Divorce Depression02:42 Physical and Emotional Symptoms2024-08-2125 minThe Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show16: "Divorce Destroyed My Family" and Other LiesQuinn shares personal reflections on the positive impacts of divorce, contrasting societal beliefs that divorce destroys families. She discusses the joy of family reunions with her children and debunks the myth that divorce is detrimental, instead framing it as an opportunity for restructuring and growth. The conversation highlights the benefits for both parents and children in post-divorce dynamics, promoting the notion that healthy, happy parents lead to healthy, happy children. The host emphasizes self-awareness, intentional healing, and evolving relationships, drawing on research and personal anecdotes to support her views. She encourages listeners to challenge negative thoughts and embrace new...2024-08-1422 minThe Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show15: When Friendship Fails: From Co-Parenting to Courtroom ConflictsQuinn delves into her summer goal of fostering a better co-parenting relationship with her ex-husband, especially after a frightening health scare involving their son. She outlines the qualities of good and toxic co-parenting, recounts her attempts to improve communication and friendship with her ex, and ultimately discusses how their unresolved conflicts led them to court over a seemingly minor issue of phone access for their children. Despite the legal battles, she emphasizes the importance of maintaining her own standards of effective communication, reliability, respect, cooperation, and focusing on her children's best interests, irrespective of her ex...2024-08-0723 minThe Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show14: In Survival Mode? Try ThisIn this episode, Quinn discusses how important it is to move from survival mode to establishing a long-term vision for life after divorce. She reflects on the challenges of post-divorce life, including the sudden re-marriage of her ex-husband and the impact on her children. She emphasizes the significance of having a future vision that aligns with one’s values and aspirations, sharing her own journey of deciding to pursue a career as a midwife while balancing her current responsibilities. She encourages listeners to seek clarity and set meaningful goals to create a fulfilling and purpose-driven life. The episode concludes wi...2024-07-3127 minThe Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show13: The Call Is Coming From Inside The HouseIn this episode, Quinn shares her journey of finding happiness after divorce, emphasizing the importance of internal mindset over external circumstances. She draws parallels between the classic horror film 'When a Stranger Calls' and the internal battles many face post-divorce. The discussion includes insights on self-compassion, mental discipline, and the limitations of external sources of happiness, backed by research. She also offers practical advice, including an unconventional but effective tool to quiet the mind, and highlights the role of coaching in overcoming self-doubt and cultivating a fulfilling post-divorce life.00:00 Introduction and Gratitude for Divorce01:15 Horror...2024-07-2419 minThe Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show12: Dating Diary Part 2: The Rest of My StoryIn this episode, Quinn discusses her personal dating journey, highlighting the differences between her avoidant attachment style and Britta Jo's anxious attachment style highlighted in the last podcast. The episode covers her experiences with first dates, challenges faced, and growth from being judgmental to curious and open. She emphasize the importance of dating apps, overcoming fears, and the value of supportive friends and coaches. Future episodes will explore topics like CPTSD in dating and the 'burned haystack' dating method. The goal is to help listeners discover themselves through dating.00:00 Introduction and Recap of Britta Jo's Journey2024-07-1726 minThe Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show11: Dating Diaries: A Convo With Britta JoIn this insightful episode, Britta Jo shares her personal journey of dating after divorce. As the former coach and current BFF of Quinn, Britta discusses her initial feelings, the healing of her anxious attachment style and CPTSD, and the lessons drawn from various relationships. The conversation also touches on the dynamics of modern dating apps, the challenges of achieving secure attachments, and the impact of dating on their children. Britta and Quinn reflect on the notions of 'good goodbyes,' breakups, and their evolving beliefs about relationships. This episode provides valuable guidance for anyone navigating the complexities of dating...2024-07-101h 37
The Stay or Go Podcast for Women Considering DivorceDating After Divorce (With Quinn Otrera from the Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show)Episode 22: Hey beautiful souls! 🌟In this episode, I'm thrilled to have back my dear friend and former coach, Quinn! 💖 In this episode, I’ll share my post-divorce journey—married young, divorced at 31, and navigating dating with three kids. Quinn, married for 23 years with nine kids, brings her own compelling story of dating post-divorce. 💡We discuss our beliefs about men, dating and motherhood, and dating apps. I dove in head-first, while Quinn was more cautious. 🌊Quinn also shares her transformative experience with plant medicine, which helped her process trauma and reclaim her sense of safety. 🌿✨2024-07-091h 37The Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show10: Your 20-Hour TalentIn this episode, Quinn discusses the exciting opportunities for personal growth and learning new skills that come with life after divorce. Drawing inspiration from Josh Kaufman's theory that one can achieve basic proficiency in nearly any skill with just 20 hours of dedicated, deliberate practice, Quinn outlines a step-by-step process to master new hobbies or talents. Key steps include committing to 20 hours, deconstructing the skill, practicing intentionally without distractions, and obtaining feedback. Examples include learning to play an instrument, building a social network, or picking up new hobbies. The host emphasizes the importance of overcoming internal barriers and encourages listeners...2024-07-0319 minThe Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show9: Ready, Set, Don't Start ...Yet. Do This First.In this episode, Quinn discusses a common mistake many make when trying to implement change: diving straight into action without proper preparation. She introduces an alternative approach called the Trans Theoretical Process of Change, which includes stages such as pre-contemplation, contemplation, preparation, and action. Quinn uses personal experiences and a client's story to illustrate the importance of thorough preparation, self-reflection, and internal work before taking action. Emphasizing the necessity of building a strong foundation, she shares how this method led to significant improvements in her own life and in the lives of others. The episode encourages listeners to consider...2024-06-2626 minThe Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show8: Don't Be Yourself: Crafting Your Alter EgoE:8 This episode explores the concept of the alter ego as a tool for transformation, especially post-divorce. Quinn explains how our self-identity is shaped by the stories we tell ourselves and introduces the theory of narrative identity by Dr. Dan McAdams. Highlighting examples like Beyonce's Sasha Fierce and client stories of Sarah, Lisa, and Emily, the video demonstrates how creating an alter ego can help access different parts of oneself, overcome limiting beliefs, and embrace new opportunities. It provides steps to create and embody an alter ego, encouraging viewers to intentionally craft a new narrative to enhance their lives.2024-06-1922 minThe Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show7: Divorce Is Your Origin StoryIn this episode, we explore the captivating narratives of strong women, both real and fictional, focusing on their heroic journeys and transformations. Quinn reflects on her childhood influences from female superheroes like the Bionic Woman and Wonder Woman, discussing how these characters and their origin stories inspired resilience and strength. The episode delves into the parallels between these heroic tales and the lives of divorced women, highlighting the unique superpowers they develop through their struggles. The discussion emphasizes how divorce can catalyze remarkable personal growth and empowerment, from independence and deep empathy to visionary thinking and shameless p...2024-06-1223 minThe Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show6: My Story: How I Stayed Married & How I LeftThis episode features an enlightening conversation between Quinn Otrera and Britta Jo about Quinn's transformative journey through marriage, divorce, and personal growth. Quinn shares how coaching helped her evolve from resistance to self-empowerment and make the difficult decision to leave her marriage with love and acceptance. The discussion also covers Quinn's transition to becoming a coach for divorced women, promoting personal transformation and a fulfilling life post-divorce. Additionally, the script highlights the launch of Quinn's new podcast aimed at inspiring women to redefine their lives, with hints of future collaborations and mutual promotions between Quinn and the speaker. Their f...2024-06-051h 38
The Stay or Go Podcast for Women Considering DivorceLeaving With Love and Becoming a Post-Divorce Glow-Up Coach With Quinn Otrera (Guest Interview)Episode 19: Hey beautiful souls! 🌟Welcome back to another inspiring episode! Today is extra special because I’m kicking off a series of interviews with past clients by chatting with none other than my best friend, Quinn Otrera. 💖Quinn’s about to launch her podcast, "The Post-Divorce Glow Up Show," and it’s going to be amazing! 🎙️ Quinn has been my personal coach for over two years, guiding me through thick and thin. She’s my go-to for all things mind and heart, and I can’t wait for you to meet her.In this episode, we dive...2024-06-041h 37The Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show5: Consistency Before IntensityE5: Consistency Before IntensityIn this episode of the Post Divorce Glow Up Show, Quinn discusses the importance of building consistency before pursuing intensity, especially in the context of personal growth and transformation. Drawing from her own experiences and those of her clients, Quinn explains how consistency lays the foundation for sustainable progress, helps form lasting habits, prevents burnout, enables continuous learning and adaptation, and builds trust in oneself and others.IntroductionWelcome to episode number five of the post divorce glow up show....The Value of ConsistencyIt...2024-05-2917 min
The Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show1: What Exactly is a Post-Divorce Glow-Up?This podcast episode introduces the host's personal journey from the challenges of a divorce after a 22-year marriage, leaving her faith and moving to a new city; to building a new life filled with joy, strength, and community. She shares her transformation from feeling alone, financially uncertain, and physically weak, to becoming empowered, financially stable, and physically strong. The host aims to guide other divorced women through the process of the 'post-divorce glow up' by focusing on principles such as clarity of values, honesty, embodiment, and aligned action. These principles, she argues, can lead to significant improvements in health...2024-04-3027 min
The Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show2: In Case of Murder: Navigating AccusationsIn this episode of the Post Divorce Glow Up Show, the Quinn shares a deeply personal story about being falsely accused of murder by her ex-husband after their divorce. The accusation revolves around the tragic death of their son in 2003, which her ex-husband exploited to tarnish her reputation by sending a detailed email to family and friends. Despite the horror of these allegations, the host emphasizes the importance of moving forward without letting anger or revenge consume one's life. She provides listeners with a four-step process, inspired by Pete Walker's Complex PTSD from Surviving to Thriving, to cope with...2024-04-3023 minThe Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show3: V is for VendettaThis episode delves into the complexities of personal growth post-divorce, emphasizing the importance of not leveraging this growth as a vendetta against one's ex-spouse. The host shares insights into the negative feedback and misconceptions surrounding post-divorce transformations, highlighting the additional pressures faced by women. Through personal anecdotes and references to literature, the episode explores the dangers of harboring resentment and the powerful impact of self-compassion and unconditional love on healing and rebuilding one's life. The episode concludes with practical advice on handling emotional challenges, emphasizing the significance of thought experiments, self-awareness, and choosing love over vendettas to foster a...2024-04-3028 minThe Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show4: Maximizing Your Post-Divorce Physical TransformationIn episode four of the post-divorce glow up show, the focus is on achieving a physical transformation following a divorce. The host expresses mixed feelings about prioritizing physical changes, emphasizing the importance of inner work as the foundation for any external transformation. Drawing on Maxwell Maltz's 'Psycho Cybernetics', the host elaborates on how self-image and mental blueprints dictate our actions and limits. The episode also covers the host's personal journey and principles for a sustainable physical glow up, which include starting with small, sustainable habits, focusing on strength training, increasing willingness to feel emotions, and prioritizing recovery. These principles...2024-04-3024 min
The Subconscious Coaching PodcastConfessions of an Ex-Mormon W/ Britta Jo and Quinn OtreraDo you ever think about what life would be like if you chose to resign from the Mormon church? This week, I have the absolute pleasure of introducing you to my clients Britta and Quinn - Both of whom Joined the 16 Keys shortly after leaving the Mormon church. This week's episode focuses on their journeys leaving the church of LDS, reclaiming their spirituality, Owning their voices as women, the obstacles + breakthroughs they experienced as Ex-Mo's, and how having one another was keystone to building powerful lives post exodus. This episode contains tons of loving and understanding advice for anyone...2022-03-171h 24