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The Creators PodcastSaints: Nikos KazantzakisNikos Kazantzakis (1883–1957) Born in Crete under a strict, war-shadowed household, Kazantzakis spent his life chasing the unanswerable. He studied law in Athens, philosophy in Paris, wandered across Europe and Asia, and wrote like his soul was on fire. During the Nazi occupation, he hid in mountain caves and wrote Zorba The Greek as his joyful resistance. His later books, such as The Last Temptation of Christ, were banned, burned, and condemned by the Church. He didn’t flinch. He called himself a “comrade of struggle.” Kazantzakis wrote to stay free, to dare to ask the questions, and to live with joy...2025-06-1115 minThe Creators PodcastMusicians: Adrianne LenkerAdrianne Lenker (born July 9, 1991) is an American singer, songwriter, and guitarist. Raised in a Minnesota Christian cult and trained in classical guitar before she was old enough to vote, she writes songs like they’re secret doorways—tender, precise, and cracked wide open. As frontwoman of Big Thief and in her solo work, Lenker makes music that feels like eavesdropping on a prayer. Lenker’s music is a resistance to the status quo of corporate sponsorship and proprietary performance. She sings like she’s trying to remember something she once promised herself she'd never forget. Her songs are lullabies for the...2025-05-1315 minThe Creators PodcastLovers: ColetteSidonie-Gabrielle Colette (January 28, 1873 – August 3, 1954) was a French writer, actress, journalist, and sensual force of nature. She wrote with feline precision—every sentence clawed its way toward the body. Toward touch. Toward truth.By the time of her state funeral (the first ever for a French woman of letters), she had already carved her name into French literature. Her work—ranging from the scandalous Claudine series to the tender, brutal Gigi—charted the terrains of female pleasure, aging, solitude, and survival.For More:The Vagabond – a novel of reinvention and romantic resistanceBreak of Day –...2025-05-0622 minThe Creators PodcastVisionaries: Frank StanfordFrank Stanford (August 1, 1948 – June 3, 1978) was an American poet. raised in the muddy backroads of Arkansas, he wrote poems that bleed childhood, violence, love, and death into a single long breath. At twenty-nine, he shot himself three times in the chest. By then he had already built a cult following—drifting through levee camps, graveyards, and cotton fields, gathering the broken dreams of the South into his work.Frank Stanford didn’t write for the academy. He wrote for the haunted. For the kids with dirt on their knees and fire in their belly. For anyone who’s ever love...2025-04-2814 minThe Creators PodcastRebels: Nazim HikmetNazım Hikmet (1902–1963):Born into Ottoman nobility, Nazım Hikmet traded comfort for his convictions. He was a fiery poet and spokesperson for the people. Nazim wrote verses that made governments nervous because they dared to dream of freedom, love, and the dignity of the working class. Imprisoned for his politics, exiled for his words, he spent much of his life behind bars or far from home, smuggling his poems out of prison. For More:Poems of Nazım HikmetHuman Landscapes from My CountryWant to go...2025-04-2114 minThe Creators PodcastSorcerers: Alejandra PizarnikAlejandra Pizarnik (1936–1972) was an Argentine poet, diarist, and linguistic sorceress whose haunting, fragmentary work continues to pulse with life decades after her death. Born to first generation immigrants in Buenos Aires, she struggled with depression, sexuality, and belonging from an early age. Her writing—urgent, confessional, and often devastating—was her way of surviving the silence. She wrote in notebooks, on napkins, in the margins of life. Her work wrestled with exile, desire, madness, and the sacred violence of language itself.Pizarnik didn’t want to be understood. She wanted to remain real. Her poems, many of them no l...2025-04-0715 minThe Creators PodcastHealers: Henry DargerHenry Darger (1892–1973): A reclusive janitor in Chicago who lived and died alone, Henry Darger spent his nights building a world no one ever saw—an epic 15,000-page novel and hundreds of vivid, violent, and childlike illustrations hidden in his one-room apartment. Orphaned young, institutionalized, and forgotten, he conjured a private cosmos where innocence fought back: the Vivian Girls, child-saints with swords, battled monstrous adult regimes in a sprawling war of good and evil.He never shared it. Never exhibited. Never even spoke of it.It was his response to grief. For More:2025-03-3117 minThe Creators PodcastOutlaws: Victoria WoodhullVictoria Woodhull (1838–1927) was an American stockbroker, publisher, spiritualist, and political force who shattered 19th-century norms with unapologetic ambition. Born into poverty, she rose to become the first woman to open a Wall Street brokerage and the first to run for President of the United States. A fierce advocate for women’s suffrage, labor rights, and free love, Woodhull used her newspaper to expose hypocrisy at the highest levels of religion and polite society. Her radical independence and refusal to be silenced made her a target—she was crucified by the press and branded an outlaw and a heretic. Though later e...2025-03-2421 minThe Creators PodcastVisionaries: Hunter S. ThompsonHunter S. Thompson (1937–2005) was a journalist by trade, an outlaw by instinct, and pioneered Gonzo Journalism, a style where objectivity was tossed out the window in favor of truth-telling. He wasn’t just an observer; he was a participant, an agent of chaos in a world already spiraling out of control.From riding with the Hell’s Angels to turning a road trip into a nightmarish dissection of the American Dream, Thompson’s work was both a warning and a war cry. He saw America’s contradictions—its greed, its violence, its doomed idealism—and met them with his own sh...2025-03-1714 minThe Creators PodcastSaints: Simone WeilSimone Weil (1909–1943) was a French philosopher, mystic, and political activist known for her uncompromising commitment to justice and solidarity with the oppressed. A gifted thinker, Weil abandoned a comfortable academic career to work alongside factory laborers and join anti-fascist militias during the Spanish Civil War. Her radical empathy and belief that attention was the purest form of love shaped her philosophy, which continues to inspire activists, theologians, and philosophers. Weil’s life was cut short at 34 due to malnutrition and illness after she limited her diet in solidarity with wartime rations in occupied France.For...2025-03-1010 minThe Creators PodcastRebels: Sartre, Camus, & BeauvoirUnder the iron grip of Nazi-occupied France in 1943, a group of thinkers refused to be silenced. Jean-Paul Sartre, Simone de Beauvoir, and Albert Camus didn’t just write about freedom—they lived it, fought for it, and risked everything to define it. From forging identity papers for the Resistance to running underground newspapers, they rejected passive existence and chose to act. For them, existence was not a given—it was a responsibility. Their ideas, born in the darkest of times, continue to challenge us: What does it mean to be truly free? How do we create meaning in a meanin...2025-03-0321 minThe Creators PodcastMartyrs: Federico García LorcaFederico García Lorca (1898–1936) was a Spanish poet, playwright, and activist whose work burned with passion and political defiance. A champion of the marginalized, he wrote of love, loss, and "duende"—the dark spirit that fuels true art. As fascism tightened its grip on Spain, Lorca’s words became an act of resistance. His poetry gave voice to the oppressed, his plays exposed authoritarian rulers, and his radical vision made him a threat to the regime. In 1936, at the outbreak of the Spanish Civil War, he was assassinated—his body never found. But Lorca never disappeared. His spirit lives in every...2025-02-2424 minThe Creators PodcastOutlaws: Isabelle EberhardtIsabelle Eberhardt (1877–1904) was a Swiss-born writer, traveler, sensualist and mystic who defied societal norms to live as a nomad in North Africa. She rejected European aristocratic life in favor of the desert, where she dressed as a man, converted to Islam, and immersed herself in Bedouin culture. A fearless wanderer and writer, she chronicled the beauty and brutality of her existence, embracing reinvention as a way of life. Her radical freedom made her a threat to colonial powers and outlaw, yet she remained devoted to the open road and the pursuit of self-determination. She died at 27 in a sudden de...2025-02-1722 minThe Creators PodcastLovers: Abelard and HéloïsePeter Abelard & Héloïse were the original star-crossed lovers—12th-century scholars and theologians whose passion ignited scandal, betrayal, and some of the most famous love letters in history. Abelard, a brilliant but arrogant philosopher, met his match in Héloïse, a woman whose intellect rivaled his own. Their affair defied the rigid boundaries of their time, but love came at a brutal cost. Forced apart by violence and fate, they spent their lives writing to one another—letters filled with longing, regret, and a devotion that refused to die. Centuries later, their words still burn, reminding us that love...2025-02-1020 minThe Creators PodcastScientists: Oscar IchazoOscar Ichazo (1931–2020) was a Bolivian philosopher and mystic who sought to map human consciousness and liberate individuals from the illusions of the ego. Founder of the Arica Institute, he blended Eastern traditions, Western psychology, and esoteric wisdom into a rigorous system of self-transcendence.Best known for innovating the Enneagram into a tool for spiritual awakening, Ichazo saw it not as a personality test but as a path to freedom. As his teachings spread, he grew disillusioned by their commercialization, stating, “They took the map but left the territory.” His legacy remains both influential and controversial—a challenge to those...2025-02-0316 minThe Creators PodcastVisionaries: Carmen MondragónCarmen Mondragón (1893–1978), better known as Nahui Olin, was a Mexican poet, painter, and muse whose life blurred the boundaries between art, rebellion, and self-liberation. She was far ahead of her time, and defied societal expectations, embracing her sexuality, intellect, and artistic expression with a fiery intensity.Carmen rejected the constraints of her aristocratic upbringing, immersing herself in Mexico’s vibrant post-revolutionary avant-garde. She became a muse to artists and intellectuals, but saw herself as a creator in her own right—summoning artistry from those who sought to capture her beauty. Her poetry and paintings pulse with a vibra...2025-01-2714 minThe Creators PodcastHealers: María SabinaMaría Sabina (1894–1985) was a Mazatec shaman, healer, and poet whose life bridged the sacred and the worldly. Known as a curandera, she used psilocybin mushrooms—what she called niños santos or "Holy Children"—in ceremonies to heal the sick and connect with the divine. Her chants, rhythmic and poetic, opened pathways to spiritual realms and marked her as a keeper of Indigenous wisdom.Though she became an international symbol of the psychedelic movement, the exposure overwhelmed her community and left her relationship with her people, deeply disrupted. María resisted commodifying her traditions, remaining steadfast in her belief...2025-01-2017 minThe Creators PodcastOutlaws: William S. Burroughs IIWilliam S. Burroughs (1914–1997) was an American novelist, visual artist, and literary innovator whose work redefined the boundaries of art and culture. A Beat Generation icon and counterculture pioneer, Burroughs is often regarded as a founder of postmodernism. Born into privilege but drawn to society’s margins, he spent much of his life battling heroin addiction and chronicling the lives of those on the fringes—the misfits, addicts, and hucksters. Burroughs was inducted into the American Academy and Institute of Arts and Letters, a moment he met with characteristic irony: “Twenty years ago they were saying I belonged in jail, now they...2025-01-1315 min
By Firelight10: Love is Inevitable with Rainier WyldeBetsy Delzer is joined by, Rainier Wylde, transformational author and teacher, who shares insights on love, heartbreak as a heart-opening, and his approach to sharing his writing with the world. Rainier explains how he views experience the full range of emotions and experiences, even the challenging ones, as essential for living a full life.
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Website: w...2025-01-1359 minThe Creators PodcastThe Creators Podcast-TrailerHistory has its heroes, but what about the outlaws, the rebels, and the misfits? Where are the creators who tore down walls and built something new in their place? Enter The Creators, the podcast that uncovers the lives of groundbreaking individuals who didn’t just change the rules—they rewrote them entirely.In short episodes, released multiple times a week, we explore the trials, triumphs, and transformative contributions of creators who shaped history, often at great personal cost. Each episode takes you into the story of one unforgettable individual—some you may know, and some you definitely don’t...2025-01-0602 min
The Gently Used Human with Dr. Scott LyonsBest of November - Highlights from Rainier Wylde, Michelle Boulé, Nicole Sachs and Michael GalyonIn this special Best of November episode, we revisit the most impactful moments from our inspiring conversations with Rainier Wylde, Michelle Boulé, Nicole Sachs, and Michael Galyon. Each of these incredible guests brings unique insights into navigating impermanence, embracing movement as a form of self-expression, understanding the protective nature of pain, and finding meaning in the present moment.Whether you’re seeking clarity, healing through movement, or learning to savor the fleeting beauty of life, this episode is packed with actionable wisdom and powerful reflections to guide you on your journey.What You’ll LearnRai...2024-11-2933 min
The Gently Used Human with Dr. Scott LyonsWaking Up to Life with Rainier WyldeIn this compelling episode of The Gently Used Human, Dr. Scott Lyons sits down with Rainier Wylde, a gifted writer, teacher, and guide known for his candid and insightful approach to life’s toughest questions. Rainier has dedicated his life to helping others awaken to their truest selves through the power of honest reflection, creativity, and storytelling. He leads by example, drawing from his own experiences of profound personal loss and transformation to show us how we, too, can break free from the habits of sleepwalking through life.Rainier’s approach blends wisdom from ancient traditions with a mo...2024-11-061h 02
The New Human Experience with Dr. Kevin Preston012 | Rainier Wylde: We Know the Truth
In this podcast episode with Rainier Wylde, we dive deep into the power of unmuting our inner knowing and facing the uncomfortable truths that lead to true magic and transformation.
We explore what sustainability really means—examining how what we consume impacts our lives, hearts, and minds.
Our conversation touches on the gift of pain, the challenge of real connection, and the importance of authenticity in relationships.
We also discuss how growth often carries with it feelings of grief and regret, and how self-compassion plays a vital role in our jo...2024-09-021h 19
The Mark Groves Podcast#404: How Losing a Parent Teaches Us About Love and Life with Rainier WyldeWriter Rainier Wylde shares how his father's death triggered a profound internal shift, moving him from a life of safety to one of bold exploration. We dive into the transformative power of grief, the courage required to live authentically, and the creative alchemy that turns personal suffering into artistic expression. Rainier’s journey from "settler" to "pioneer" reveals the importance of embracing vulnerability, rewriting cultural narratives, and finding meaning in both love and loss. This conversation offers an invitation to us all to engage more deeply with our own stories and live in alignment with our truest self.
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The Labia LoungeRelating Authentically and Shadow Work with Rainier Wylde - Re-releaseThis week in The Labia Lounge I'm serving you up an oldie but a goodie since I had some last minute podcast guest cancellations that meant I don't have a new episode for you this week!This chat with Rainier Wylde was a deep dive into shadow work within long term relationships and how to relate more authentically with others while being informed by your shadow.Rainier is a poet, a deliciously articulate speaker, and a romantic soul at heart, and I think you'll love this chat if you missed it the first time!2024-08-201h 24
Highest Self Podcast®552: How Heartbreak Leads To Greater Heart Opening with Rainier WyldeWe often romanticize the beginnings of love, the butterflies, the excitement of the unknown. But you can’t have those beautiful beginnings without experiencing endings. If there’s anything I’ve learned this past year, it’s that sometimes the endings are the greatest blessings. Sometimes, if you don’t have the courage to leave a relationship, the universe will step in and do it for you. Our society is going through a major love epidemic right now—something I’ve witnessed firsthand over the past year of being single, navigating dates, heartbreaks, false hopes, and those huge...2024-05-281h 20
Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 210: Impermanence and the Transformative Power of Love with Rainier WyldeIn this special Cheaper than Therapy episode, we sit down with our friend Rainier Wylde in person to talk about the often painful truth of love’s impermanence and conditionality, and how love can lead to personal growth. Rainier is a highly sought after mentor and consultant to authors, athletes, business professionals, coaches, healers, and ordinary radicals who want to see change in their world. He is known for his unique blend of spirituality and in depth strategic coaching and is the author of “As You Are: Meditations on Self & Other” and the co-host of Love Like Hell podcast....2024-04-031h 13
Altared PodcastBeing with Life, Loss, and Eachother with Rainier WyldeRainier Wylde had me in tears within the first 4 minutes of this episode. His ability to teach and story tell is astounding so please be ready to be moved. We discuss the power of being with. With each other with ourselves through the myriad of sensations that life presents us. He breaks down what we really need, as opposed to what we think we want, and how to tell the difference. He guides us through processing anger and other "unsavory" sensations. He gives us so much in this episode, that I think it's time for me to stop blabbing...2023-09-2054 min
Speak Your MindRainier Wylde: The Human ExperienceWe had the pleasure of sitting down with podcast host and author of "As You Are: Meditations on Self & Other" Rainier Wylde, to gain deeper insight into the human experience from a uniquely blended lens of psychology and spirituality.
His extensive knowledge, curiosity, and passion for teaching have helped thousands live more courageous and joyful lives, connecting with themselves and those around them in a more rich and intimate way.
Listen to this incredibly insightful conversation now!
As You Are: Meditations on Self & Other
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The Catherine Plano PodcastEP 348: The Power of Epoché with Rainier WyldeReady for an enchanting journey into the depths of love and profound presence?
In this captivating podcast interview, join Rainier Wylde, the mesmerising love philosopher and writer, as he unravels the mysteries of love and its profound connection to being fully present in the moment. With eloquence and wisdom, Rainier shares powerful insights and heart-warming experiences that will leave you pondering the essence of existence.
Imagine suspending your thoughts and emotions, peering at reality without judgment or attachment. Rainier opens the conversation with the thought-provoking concept of epoché, an ancient Greek practice that becomes the g...2023-08-0953 min
The Labia LoungeShadow Work and Relationships with Rainier WyldeThis week in The Labia Lounge I chat with someone I really respect and who's perspectives and experience I value highly. Rainier Wylde is a deep thinker, a poetic wordsmith, and a kind heart, and I was lucky enough to get him on to chat about shadow work and authentic relating.We talk about what shadow work actually is, how we can uncover and recognise our shadow, and how we can start to integrate these parts of ourselves. We discuss why this work is so important and how it relates to the shit that comes up when...2023-05-151h 24
The Blind LeapEp: 1 Rainier Wylde Discovering True Self: Unconfronted Shadows, Icy Egos, And The Noble Fall To Self-AcceptanceEp: 1 Discovering True Self: Unconfronted Shadows, Icy Egos, And The Noble Fall To Self-Acceptance
Rainier Wylde is a writer and teacher who helps people find themselves fully and deeply alive in the present moment. He was a therapist, a professor in psychology, a spiritual director, and host of the podcast Lost Man Standing. He also worked as a landscaper, a warehouse worker, and an abject failure, which has made him realize that living is much more than just a job. Rainier believes that people should be constantly moving and exploring in order to stay...2023-05-1243 minHighest Self Podcast®495: Why Love Is So Difficult - And How It Can Not Be with Rainier WyldeLately, I have found myself fascinated by the topic of love – the most basic yet complex human emotion. Even beyond emotions, it’s a vibration and a lens through which we see life. Love is my number one core value. And it is the thing we all want most in life. This week on Highest Self Podcast I had the honor to sit down with fellow writer, teacher, poet, and coach, Rainier Wylde to explore what it means to be the true embodiment of love, how to give a receive it, and WHY it can also b...2023-05-021h 05
The Creative Visionary16. Your Story is Only Yours to Tell with Rainier Wylde“My story isn't pleasant. It's not sweet and harmonious like the invented stories. It tastes of folly and bewilderment. Of madness and dreams. Like the life of all people who no longer want to lie to themselves.” - Herman Hesse This quote beautifully encapsulates what today's episode is about. Rainier Wylde is a Writer, Author, Teacher and Mentor whose words so accurately describe the human experience. Rainer has had success as a multidimensional human, artist and entrepreneur. And that alone is something to draw inspiration from. If you’ve pre...2023-04-1356 min
The Terri Cole ShowTransformation + Embracing Your Shadow with Rainier WyldeToday's guest is Rainier Wylde, a man who has lived many lives, from managing a Fortune 500 company, to becoming a psychotherapist, to helping people navigate the human soul. I found Rainier on Instagram - what he wrote about resonated so much that I invited him on the show. We largely talk about the messiness of being human -- dating unavailable people, our shadow selves, infidelity, grief, and so much more. Rainier has such a gentle soul, and I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did. Read the show notes for to...2023-04-0638 min
Advanced PretendRainier Wylde - "Rockstar Your Life"This week, Jenn sits down with the amazing and inspirational Rainier Wylde to discuss how to officially and unequivocally "rockstar your life." An experienced teacher, writer, and speaker, Rainier has embraced life for all that it is. He has celebrated its highs and learned from its lows. He has managed a Fortune 500 company and built businesses, he has also elegantly blown them up, burned them down, and started over from scratch. He holds a master's degree in psychology and has spent countless hours working with men and women in navigating the human soul. Through the various positions he has...2023-04-0359 min
The Long Distance Love Bombs Podcast188: Rainier Wylde - How do we best navigate the various seasons of love?Rainier Wylde is a writer, teacher & coach who has inspired, directed, and taught others for the past 20 years about transforming their lives. He brings together an East meets West approach to being fully and deeply alive. He has studied spirituality with Zen masters and Sufi mystics. He has sat under the feet of Jungian depth psychologists and brilliant existential philosophers. His insatiable curiosity and hunger for wisdom have taken him around the globe learning from anyone who could shine a light on deeper transformation. Rainier holds a Master's Degree in Psychology and certifications in Cognitive Behavioral Coaching and Dialectical B...2023-04-011h 23
This Life Without LimitsTLWL006 // The Gift of Impermanence With Rainier WyldeI am really excited to introduce you to my guest today. Rainier Wylde is an experienced teacher, writer, and speaker, who has embraced life for all that it is. He has celebrated its highs and learned from its lows. He has managed a Fortune 500 company and built businesses. He has also elegantly blown them up, burned them down, and started over from scratch. He holds a masters degree in psychology and has spent countless hours working with men and women in navigating the human soul. Through the various positions he has held, he has discovered that life must be...2023-03-021h 08
A Satisfied MindEp. 86 – Rainier Wylde on Grief, Endings, Hope, Love, Negronis and Rice Cookers.This conversation with Rainier Wylde is great example of why I created this podcast. To learn from people and their lived experience. To provide an opportunity for others to share their stories. To connect more deeply with people at a time when slow, intentional, consciously nurtured connections are replaced by desperate dopamine benders and superficial scrolling frenzies. To learn to listen better. To practice asking better questions. To share the wisdom and perspective of others who are generous enough to share their lives, their lessons and their own questions with me. Rain...2023-02-161h 41
Guidance with Gab: Learn & Unlearn All Things WellnessRainier Wylde: Hidden Desires, What is Love?, Negotiation Vs. CompromiseRainier Wylde- a pioneer, a mentor, a writer & guide for helping others towards embodying their purpose and awakening into their Highest Selves. He focuses on love, identity and shadow integration. This episode we discuss why compromise may not be necessary for relationships. Yep... that's right. We break down what love is- when to work hard and when to let go. We explore identity/ truly knowing ourselves & how that can sometimes play into the stories we tell ourselves about other people. When we embrace our desires, all that we were taught to bury, we finally fall into our true selves.
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Breaking Free Authentically: The Sex Positive Relationship PodcastLiving Wylde and FreeEpisode24: Living Wylde and Free Explicit My guest today is the incredibly wise and authentic Ranier Wylde. We had such an amazing conversation about living the wild and precious life. We have one life and if we aren't enjoying our life, we get to change it. Rainier says, "The people making the rules are miserable." We don't have to listen to them, follow those who have joy in their lives and know how to be happy instead. That will lead you to true freedom.An experienced teacher, writer, and s...2022-12-211h 22
Being BiShameless, Intimate and Authentic with Rainier WyldeAt some point, even the most courageous, adventurous and determined among us run out of steam. And as we look back, its hard to remember how the hell we made it so far in the first place. Nobody really showed us. We just figured it out. Sort of. This time, Jeff welcomes Rainier Wylde and the conversation turns to self discovery, music, love, lust, intimacy, heartbreak, shame, reconnection and more. Plus, Jeff's brand new adult bedtime story, sets shame on fire.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at ht...2022-11-251h 05
Love Like Hell1. Cultivating Friendship Within RomanceWe can often get so wrapped up in maintaining the longevity of a romantic relationship that we become rigid and fixed in our viewpoints. We create rules and boundaries that get in the way of growth and expansion. When the relationship can truly be based in friendship, there is so much more room for new opportunities and new experiences. Today Kristi and Rainer talk about how important it is to keep that friendship alive for a relationship that’s on fire.In this episode of Love Like Hell:Celebrating our partner’s opportunities in l...2022-11-0758 min
The Mark Groves Podcast#239: Healing Through Infidelity with Rainier Wylde & Kristi BornThemes: Relationships, Transformation, Acceptance, Infidelity, Authenticity, Codependency
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In this heartfelt episode, I sit down with power couple Rainier Wylde and Kristi Born as they share the intimate details of how their relationship has evolved through infidelity. We discuss relational pain as a potent catalyst for transformation, the beauty in being honest with ourselves and our partner, and viewing ruptures as an invitation to truth.
About Rainier & Kristi:
Rainier Wylde is an author, teacher, and speaker. He has embraced life for all it is, celebrating its highs and learning from its lows. Rainier has managed a Fortune 500 company and built...2022-10-171h 05
REdesigning Your Relationships LiveEpisode 32: ‘Crack Your Ice’ with Rainier WyldeWe are so excited for this episode and for you to fall in love with life with this author, healer, and coach Rainier Wylde. An experienced teacher, writer, and speaker, Rainier has embraced life for all that it is. He has celebrated its highs and learned from its lows. He has managed a Fortune 500 company and built businesses, he has also elegantly blown them up, burned them down, and started over from scratch. He holds a masters degree in psychology and has spent countless hours working with men and women in navigating the human soul. Through the various positions...2022-08-2650 min
ManTalks PodcastRainier Wylde - Self-Acceptance, Purpose, And How Men Can Show Up
Seriously, it's always a pleasure to speak with Rainier, whose passionate wonder never fails to fire me up. Rainier and I get into some fuller questions in here, ones that we'll definitely be revisiting soon. Listen in for thoughts on how to practice self-acceptance, what these times are asking of us (and men, specifically), the psyche's earliest and most potent defense mechanism, and more.
Rainier Wylde is a teacher, guide, and writer who works with men and women to confront their shadow, find intimate union with the masculine and feminine, and experience spiritual awakening.
Connect...2022-08-2241 minCheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 111 The Gifts of Illusions with Rainier Wylde and Kristi BornThis week we’re welcoming Kristi Born and Rainier Wylde who are partners in both life and in podcasts as cohosts of the Love Like Hell podcast. Kristi is a Marriage and Family Therapist who has worked extensively with families, couples, and adolescents in a variety of contexts to bring peace of mind and decrease suffering. Rainier is a teacher, guide, and writer who works with men and women around the world to discover their unacknowledged shadow and forge an intimate union with their masculine and feminine. We talk about their relationship, the immense amount of work inv...2022-06-291h 09Love Like Hell16. It Was Good Until it Wasn’t: Remembering RightlyEverything in life has an ending. When major parts of our lives end or change, it’s easy to look back and only remember the good or only remember the bad. Remembering rightly takes a conscious effort of looking at multiple points of data and recognizing the perspective and feelings of everyone involved. From that place of remembering rightly, we can move forward in truth. This episode takes a look into the steps to do that.In this episode of Love Like Hell:Why we only remember the bad times Not trusting the pas...2022-06-2052 minLove Like Hell15. Let’s Talk About SexSex is the originating source of life. It is such a potency and such a power….and so many of us are so afraid to talk about it. Why is that? This episode dives into the topic of sex. Where did we learn about it, what shapes our perception of it, and why is it such a heavy topic of conversations? Everything gets laid out here.In this episode of Love Like Hell:The first time we talk about sex in relationshipsWhere and how we learn about sex How culture shifts our perception of...2022-06-1349 minLove Like Hell14. What is Marriage? Pt 2Love is expansive and cannot be placed in a box. Marriage is more nuanced than a simple piece of paper or agreement. There’s depth in the journey and how do we navigate that journey, how do we move forward together. What is the real meaning of marriage? What is the real meaning of love? In this episode, Kristi and Rainier open up about their experiences and everything they learned in this journey.In this episode of Love Like Hell:Uncovering where our beliefs about marriage beganThe societal construct we put around marriage Mar...2022-06-0651 minLove Like Hell13. What is Marriage? Pt 1Love is expansive and cannot be placed in a box. Marriage is more nuanced than a simple piece of paper or agreement. There’s depth in the journey and how do we navigate that journey, how do we move forward together. What is the real meaning of marriage? What is the real meaning of love? In this two part episode, Kristi and Rainier open up about their experiences and everything they learned in this journey.In this episode of Love Like Hell:We’re married, now what? The history of marriage: Where did it st...2022-05-3156 min
The Safe HavenThe Art of Reinvention + The Thresholds of Change with Rainier WyldeRainier Wylde is a teacher and writer who, as his son would say, is gifted with how he’s able to make people truly feel things. He has been a successful entrepreneur, a psychotherapist, a professor of psychology, and a spiritual director. His own experiences have contributed to his deep compassion for others, for the world, and for himself. He is committed to writing about living life to the fullest, and teaching others how to access and acknowledge their deepest truths. In this fantastic conversation, Rainier tells us about his decision to walk away from a community he b...2022-05-1636 minLove Like Hell12. Self-BetrayalHow often do we find ourselves losing “our self” in relationships? We have a tendency to self sacrifice and betray our own wants and desires for the perceived needs of another. That tendency is a road to self betrayal. It is profoundly important to both mutually and independently trust ourselves and create an atmosphere where our partner can trust themself. Then we can both accept the whole of ourselves and the self in the other. This episode dives into the personal experiences of this type of self betrayal in Kristi and Rainier’s own relationship.In t...2022-05-1258 minLove Like Hell11. The Real Cost of ResentmentResentment can be like an infection. Once it starts, it can grow and worsen over time. The only way to heal it is to look at the issue, clean out the poison that’s crept in, and then start the process of healing. Without looking at our resentment in a relationship, there is no way to begin to even think about forgiveness. So how do we do it? How do we look our partner in the eyes and say “I resent you for this…..you hurt my feelings in this way?” Learn more in today’s episode....2022-05-0349 minLove Like Hell10. When to ForgiveForgiveness is a multifaceted process. Anything can be forgivable and there can also be times when forgiveness is not an option, at least in the moment. True forgiveness requires responsibility taking and reverence. Forgiveness is a freedom for all parties involved. This episode dives into the nuances of what it means to forgive and be forgiven.In this episode of Love Like Hell:Redefining the unforgivable sin Redemptive vs. punitive justice The forgiveness process & when is the right time to forgive?True forgiveness requires responsibility takingWhen forgiveness is not the right choice2022-04-2559 minLove Like Hell9. Vulnerability Factors: Context MattersMany times, the most challenging thing is to be vulnerable, even with our most intimate relationships. Expressing vulnerability means that the thing we’re expressing may be true of us and the emotions we are trying to avoid can come out, so it’s easier to ignore. That ignoring can eventually lead to crisis in relationship. This episode explains what vulnerability factors are, how to identify them, and work through them.In this episode of Love Like Hell:How emotions change with situational contextHandling actions and emotions during states of overwhelmWhat are vulnerability fact...2022-04-1137 minLove Like Hell8. Playing a part: The mystery of lovingLove is a mystery, but it’s a mystery that’s solvable. So much of how we show up in love, the roles we play, the character we become, comes from our learned experiences as a child. We adapt certain parts in order to fit in and belong. It’s not necessarily a “good” thing or a “bad” thing but understanding the origins of behavior can give us the freedom to make the choice to change the script.In this episode of Love Like Hell:Changing the lens of how we view love The characters...2022-04-0452 minLove Like Hell7. Erotic RecoveryWhen there is a breach of trust, large, small, implicit, or explicit, the thrill of a relationship goes away. The connection is strained and intimacy can be the furthest thing from our minds. Building back that connection through means of erotic recovery is a tool the come back to one another. This episode goes into what erotic recovery means and how to use it.In this episode of Love Like Hell:Bringing safety back to intimacy A breach of trust comes in many formsConnection returns through walking one foot at a time in w...2022-03-2954 minLove Like Hell6. The Usual SuspectsWhen relationships don’t work, it’s rarely because of whatever is going on in the present moment. There is a history at play. When that history isn’t brought to the surface, evaluated, accepted, and processed, then patterns continue to play out. This episode takes a look at how where we’ve been can tell us where we’re going next.In this episode of Love Like Hell:Avoidance and pursuit: Uncovering patterns in relating Rewriting our unconscious contractsWhat is shadow workDeciphering defense mechanismsHow history reveals the here and nowFollow...2022-03-2247 minLove Like Hell5. Hope Begins With Being SeenSo many of us are afraid to be seen for who we really are. Sometimes we don’t even want to truly see ourselves. The more we reinforce that pattern of unintentional deception, the harder it is to be honest when we need help to change. It takes courage to change and it takes courage to change. In this episode, Kristi and Rainier discuss what it was like to finally accept where they were and reach out for help. In this episode of Love Like HellReal life crisis and being afraid of bei...2022-03-1456 minLove Like Hell4. Hiding in Plain SightWe all have a tendency to showcase our greatest traits in the beginning of a relationship. We don’t want to go into the shadow side, the mistakes, the challenging questions. We don’t want the other person to run, we want to belong. Eventually we can’t hide anymore and shadows come to light. In this episode, Kristi and Rainier talk about the beginning stages of their relationship and how that shaped their relationship now.In this episode of Love Like HellProjecting our own stories onto others Remembering the roots of relatio...2022-03-0750 minLove Like Hell3. Calling for Backup in CrisisIn the aftermath of an affair, there’s a desperate search. It’s a search for some kind of anchor in a whirling storm that has no end in sight. Shame, guilt, anger, it’s challenging enough to navigate one’s own emotions, let alone another’s. Who can you trust, who can you rely on to be a support, to feel seen, to be heard, without preconceived stories getting in the way. We need backup.In this episode of Love Like HellLooking for help: Who can you rely onUnpacking the paralyzing story of s...2022-02-2838 minLove Like Hell2. ForeshadowingRelationship dynamics, personal roles, how we deal with conflict, these patterns can be passed down for years and years, generation after generation, until someone takes a look at its origin. If we don’t get curious about how our past can affect our future, we can get stuck in the grooves of time. The clues that foreshadow our path are there, are we brave enough to look?In this episode of Love Like HellUncovered family truths Identifying intergenerational patterns and tools for working through them Finding hope when there is seemingly only fear...2022-02-2153 minLove Like Hell1. The Scene of the CrimeWhat happens when the one who brings you the most comfort is the one that hurts you? How many questions come up when you become a stranger to yourself and everything you know about the life you have comes crumbling down in a single moment? To solve a mystery, start at the scene of the crime.In this episode of Love Like HellDiscovering the double life: When your husband becomes a strangerMaking sense of infidelityManaging crises in relationship The rule book for when the one you love is the one who hurt y...2022-02-1445 minLove Like HellLove Like Hell - The TrailerA couple investigates the landscape of modern relationships, exploring their own issues as they reveal how connections are often born, solidify, and at times unravel. Rainier Wylde and Kristi Born (both highly trained as clinical psychotherapists) take an intimate and probing look at the mysteries of committed connections, monogamy, infidelity, marriage, eroticism, forgivingness, attachment and trust. Their story offers a vision of real people taking extraordinary risks, caring courageously and loving like hell.2022-02-0703 min
Reimagining LoveLove Stories: Recovering from Infidelity with Kristi Born & Rainier WyldeOn this Love Stories episode, Dr. Alexandra welcomes on a couple with a stunning story of rebuilding their marriage in the aftermath of infidelity: Kristi Born & Rainier Wylde. Together, they explore the story of their relationship, starting from the day they first met, to the early years of their marriage, to the moment of rupture, and the incredible journey of repair that they continue today. Their story gives us the opportunity to empathize with the pain of infidelity, as well as providing insights about what rebuilding trust can look when both partners are committed to walking forward together.2022-01-251h 36
Mission ManhoodRainier Wylde: As You Are, E27Rainier Wylde is a teacher, writer and facilitator who guides people in the art of working with their unacknowledged shadow, balancing the masculine and feminine, and experiencing spiritual awakening. Rainier has been a successful entrepreneur, a psychotherapist, a professor of psychology, and a spiritual director, but his current focus is speaking to men and women who long to take practical steps towards re-connecting with their essential self in order to live joyful and confident lives. He joins Angela to discuss kryptonite neighbors and solar gods, spiritual teachers and the liberation of the soul. His book, "As You Are" was...2021-12-3041 min
That Sex ChickCreative Lovers Have More Sex with Rainier WyldeTune in with Bryn and her vulnerable conversation with Rainier Wylde as they dive into shadow work, infidelity, stepping into vulnerability and your authentic expression. Rainier embraces life in a poetic way, and this shines through in their conversation—you’ll gain an understanding of your own human experience through his words, and be moved to open deeper to love and allow yourself to be fully met.Today on That Sex Chick:Sex as a creative lover & being more authentic in your expressionShadow work, lies, and infidelitySpeaking vulnerably & risking rejection to be fully seen...2021-12-151h 17
The Lilly PadEpisode 33: The Art and Joy of Selfing with Rainier WyldeRainier Wylde is a teacher, writer, and facilitator who works with men and women around the world in the art of working with your unacknowledged shadow, balancing the masculine & the feminine, and experiencing spiritual awakening. His recent book, As You Are: Meditations on Self and Other, is a collection of musings about what it means to be authentically you and to accept that you are good and worthy of love "as you are," which then empowers us to live fully and authentically with others. Rainier has been a sort of "online mentor" to me for a little over a year...2021-11-1958 min
The Mark Groves Podcast#175: The Complexities of Being Alive with Rainier WyldeThemes: Self-Discovery, Societal Expectations, Individuality, Accountability, Repression
Experienced teacher, writer, and speaker, Rainier Wylde takes us on a journey of the human experience and his struggles with finding his true self. Rainier also shares how society conditions us to wear a cloak of dishonesty, and how we can dissolve the daily illusion we live and learn to be our true selves.
Discover:
Deeper understanding of the human experience.
You have to be a SELF in order to be in relationships with others.
What fuels us to repress individuality.
What comes next when the mask comes off and it’s time to face...2021-10-2657 min
Sacred Sons PodcastSSP 069 - The Extraordinary Ordinary Life with Rainier WyldeAn experienced teacher, writer, and speaker, Rainier has embraced life for all that it is. He has celebrated its highs and learned from its lows. He has managed a Fortune 500 company and built businesses, he has also elegantly blown them up, burned them down, and started over from scratch. He holds a masters degree in psychology and has spent countless hours working with men and women in navigating the human soul. Through the various positions he has held, he has discovered that life must be claimed to hold any worth. His work is to inspire others to live, fully...2021-10-041h 00Sacred Sons PodcastSSP 069 - The Extraordinary Ordinary Life with Rainier WyldeAn experienced teacher, writer, and speaker, Rainier has embraced life for all that it is. He has celebrated its highs and learned from its lows. He has managed a Fortune 500 company and built businesses, he has also elegantly blown them up, burned them down, and started over from scratch. He holds a masters degree in psychology and has spent countless hours working with men and women in navigating the human soul. Through the various positions he has held, he has discovered that life must be claimed to hold any worth. His work is to inspire others to live, fully...2021-10-041h 00
Starve the Ego Feed the SoulOwning What's Ours - Rainier WyldeTo support the show go here to donate https://donorbox.org/nico-barrazaTo buy Rainier's new book go here https://us.amazon.com/As-You-Are-Meditations-Other/dp/B09BGF93RWIt was such a pleasure to have Mr. Rainier Wylde back on for his second Starve the Ego Feed the Soul appearance. Last Episode Rainier spoke about his infidelity in his marriage and I received many DMs asking me if I could have Rainier back on and perhaps go into how he and his partner Kristi made it through the other end, stronger and more c...2021-09-201h 01
The Rising Man PodcastRMP 191 - The Life-Changing Gift of Tribe with Rainier WyldeTeacher, writer, and speaker, Rainier Wylde, offers profound wisdom on the state of humanity. We dive into the power of community and examine what principles make for a successful tribe. As loneliness and suicidality plague modern man, this topic is extremely important and shows us a better way forward. We also discuss why society is crumbling and how to use story for greater connection. Highlights: Why stories have a unique ability to connect us. How did humanity find itself in its current predicament? Does society condition us to be loners? What’s the...2021-09-1648 minCheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 72 Showing up to Life as It’s Occurring with Rainier WyldeRainier Wylde is a teacher, guide, and writer who works with men and women around the world to discover their unacknowledged shadow and forge an intimate union with their masculine and feminine in order to awaken their wholeness. We talk with Rainier about living authentically and honoring each and every part of our path, his own journey of self-discovery, how we are taught to define love vs the felt sense of it we feel and live out daily, and the sacredness of the word “and.” We also discuss Rainier’s thoughts on what we’ve all been l...2021-09-011h 02
Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 72 Showing up to Life as It’s Occurring with Rainier WyldeRainier Wylde is a teacher, guide, and writer who works with men and women around the world to discover their unacknowledged shadow and forge an intimate union with their masculine and feminine in order to awaken their wholeness.
We talk with Rainier about living authentically and honoring each and every part of our path, his own journey of self-discovery, how we are taught to define love vs the felt sense of it we feel and live out daily, and the sacredness of the word “and.”
We also discuss Rainier’s thoughts on what we’ve all been...2021-09-011h 02Starve the Ego Feed the SoulThere Is No Trying - Rainier WyldeWelcome back everyone! Do me a favor and share this episode with your followers and friends, be sure to tag me @thatbarrazaboy and @rainierwylde on Instagram when you share!Make sure to subscribe to the podcast on both Apple and Spotify and leave us a written review on Apple! It helps the show grow and reach more ears.This excerpt is taken right from Rainier's website: At some point, even the most courageous, adventurous and determined among us run out of steam. And as we look back, its hard to remember how the hell we m...2021-07-0558 min