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Living Beyond the Shadow of Doubt™Episode 170: Trustworthy vs. Riskworthy with Randa StrattonCW: Mention of suicidal ideation.A Native Arizonan, Randa Stratton-Dutcher is a life-coach, digital course creator, retreat facilitator, singer/song-writer, author, cowgirl, mother to 5 and wife to her high-school sweetheart Aaron.You can hear Randa speak on her podcast “Going Dutch” where she discusses all of the above transparently. Randa loves to share light, messages, and assist others in reigniting the light that has dimmed over time. https://goingdutch7.libsyn.comhttps://www.facebook.com/randa.strattonhttps://www.instagram.com/perfectlyimperfectranda/?hl=enhttps://linktr.ee/randa...2025-02-0827 min
She's a Lady PodcastShe remarried her ex husbandRanda Dutcher is telling her story about getting divorced after having 5 kids together and how after being separated for almost 2 years, she remarried her ex. She opens up about some of the things that pushed them apart, and then shares what ultimately brought the two of them back together. We talk about the work that she had to put in for herself, and the mental struggles that she is overcoming. She gives tips for connecting in marriage, how to be a safe person for your souse, and making positive changes. Randa Dutcher is also the author of "Healing...2024-10-0241 min
Going DutchEpisode 56 My Biz Bestie with Business Coach Nicole RoufsIn Episode 56 of the "Going Dutch" podcast, titled "My Biz Bestie," we delve into Nicole Roufs' incredible journey from brokenness to resiliency. Nicole's transition from an esthetician to a holistic health enthusiast was sparked by witnessing the transformative power of chiropractic and homeopathy on her own child. Her dedication led her to co-own a wellness clinic and become a trusted business coach. In this episode, we explore her path to becoming a God-led coach, helping her clients achieve miraculous business success. From Nicole... Get a sneak peek into our coaching journey with a free 30-minute...2023-10-2647 min
Going DutchEpisode 55-What's In Your Toolbox?Join Aaron and me again as we explore a few topics. I apologize for the first time about something. The report on The Shine Bright Retreat, Aaron acknowledges me, and we share how to start your own toolbox. Join me on Instagram: @perfectlyimperfectranda2023-08-2526 min
Going DutchEpisode 54 With Aaron Dutcher: Luck and Universal LawsWhat started out as no fun shifted into laughter. Join my husband Aaron and I on another podcast as we cover many topics. Consistency and the laws of the universe are like the unbreakable rules that govern everything around us. Picture them as the bossy bosses of the universe, telling everything how to behave. These laws are like invisible threads that hold everything together and make sure everything follows a predictable pattern. From the way planets twirl around stars to the tiniest atoms buzzing around, everything sticks to these rules. Think of it like a giant cosmic...2023-07-2735 min
Going DutchEpisode 53: Random Randa Thoughts GOING DUTCH PODCAST EPISODE 53: RANDOM RANDA THOUGHTS God often presents us with small experiences that may seem insignificant at the time. However, these experiences serve as building blocks, teaching us important lessons, connecting us with influential people, and shaping our character. They prepare us for greater accomplishments in the future, revealing the purpose behind each step of our journey. By recognizing and embracing these little experiences, we can fulfill our larger calling with trust in God's guidance. Thoughts on Moses. I started singing in church at 3 years old. Acknowledge those...2023-07-1513 min
Going DutchEpisode 52: Friendship and Retreats With Dawn ShoenbeinBe a part of The Shine Bright Mastermind and Retreat Our guest on this episode of Going Dutch is Dawn Schoenbein. Dawn is an amazing, accomplished, and kind friend as well as a client. Dawn has little sub-communities all over the world. She may not be in close communication with these people all the time, but whenever they connect again, the bond is strong. What Dawn finds has made all the difference is the experiences they shared while they were in the same place. Going through unique experiences, challenges, or times of growth with another...2023-06-2933 min
Going DutchEpisode 51: Just BreatheThe other day, I had an incredible download about where I want to go, who I want to be, and the results I want to have. This led me to reflect on how that version of me would manage my day. One thought that stood out was this: I need to stay in the cold plunge longer. A cold plunge truly helps me reset. The longer I stay in, the greater the shift I feel. It’s one of my favorite tools to use. It’s a reminder that we all need to find a zone of disc...2023-06-2210 min
Going DutchEpisode 50: What Makes You Great Part 2Today’s episode is part 2 of What Makes You Great. This conversation stemmed from a phrase my grandpa Glen Stratton always said: “Don’t forget how great you is.” This is something that has always stuck with me. At times when you need to tap into your strength, remember that your greatness is something that fulfills you, gives you confidence, and allows you to live up to your talents and gifts. What are you compromising on that’s keeping you from being great? Here’s a personal example: I love having fake nails, but I can’t play the instr...2023-06-1511 min
Pop Run RadioPop Run Radio Episode 23 - Randa Stratton DutcherSend us a textOn this episode of Pop Run Radio: Jackie and Maegan interview Randa Stratton Dutcher. Randa is an amazing human inside and out. Mother of 5, Author, Podcaster, Rodeo Queen, Singer/Songwriter, Energy Healer, Life Coach and so much more. Check out her books: You Have A Gift: Shine Bright https://a.co/d/52itGLmHealing Through Broken Relationshipshttps://a.co/d/0JGILonPodcast: Going Dutch https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/going-dutch/id1535350851 Support the showConta...2023-06-051h 03
Going DutchEpisode 49: Suicide Ideation: Mental Health AwarenessWelcome back to another episode. This month is mental health awareness month, which is the focus of today’s episode. Trigger warning: This episode discusses suicide and trauma. I’m back in therapy, and in that space, I’ve been exploring shame. I never thought shame was such a culprit in my life until I started doing this work with my friend Joyce. What it’s revealed to me is that shame has been both a hindrance and a blessing in my life—and I’m ready to be done with it. I have used shame as a m...2023-06-0120 min
Going DutchEpisode 48 "Take a Step" With Jason MowToday we’re joined by special guest Jason Mow, who is the author of four books—three in historical fiction and another as an autobiography. He’s a retired first responder and a very strong person. He is also an incredible speaker who knows how to tell stories that will touch your heart. How can you put yourself out there and feel comfortable with self-promotion? This isn’t something that came naturally to Jason. Early in life, he felt drawn to running toward chaos—which led him to become a soldier and police officer. But when this was taken...2023-05-2235 min
Going DutchEpisode 47 Where To Next?In this episode, I pose the internal question of "Where to next?". In a moment of not knowing what was coming next, I recorded this vulnerable podcast. Being in business takes time and money. Publishing this podcast, publishing books, websites, etc all cost money! Is it worth it? Do I keep going? Listen in as I work through it in real-time. We don't always have to know what is ten steps ahead. We can plan and have dreams. And sometimes it seems futile. God is there waiting for us to keep striving. He will meet u...2023-05-1804 min
Going DutchEpisode 46: Stay In Your Lane with Aaron DutcherMy husband Aaron Dutcher is back on the podcast again on this episode. We have some things in motion right now, but the path is not clear yet. I am a “gather ideas and then throw them at the wall and see what sticks” person, but I also get analysis paralysis. It's an interesting dichotomy. Still, we are planning on melding some cool ideas together and it’s exciting. A few months ago, we found ourselves busier than we’d been in so long. There were breakdowns on both sides, and as we went through that, we took tur...2023-05-1120 min
Going DutchEpisode 45: Women's Month with Hollie WarnickThis time I’m here in the studio with Hollie Warnick, and we decided to take a little time to hit record. Hollie is an author who created a dream journal, a podcaster, and a mom of four. She’s also a fun, playful person who exudes vibrancy. She’s felt free to let that authentic part of herself out more and more over the years. If you haven’t read “Healing Through Broken Relationships” yet, I highly recommend it—and not just because I collaborated on it. These stories are phenomenal. It’s so significant and moving to hear t...2023-05-0417 min
Going DutchEpisode 44: Choose To Risk-With Keira BrintonKeira Brinton joins as a guest today on this episode of Going Dutch. We had just recorded her chapter in our upcoming book. Keira is a newly divorced mother with five kids and also runs a business. At times, she doubts she will be able to do it all: raise five kids, be present in their lives, and do the work she feels called to do. For her, every day is a day of crazy, ferocious risk. She’s jumping and trusting God will be there. She’s been purposefully making changes that fit the vibration she want...2023-04-2743 min
Going DutchEpisode 43: What Makes You Great? Part 1 In this episode, I didn't let my day being thwarted stop me from sharing this message. Recorded during my morning cold plunge because it assists me in being great. In the world, compromise is generally considered a good thing. I challenge you to consider the compromises you make. Do they sacrifice your greatness? Watch this episode on YouTube https://youtu.be/6O4r_6EPi2w Find me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/perfectlyimperfectranda/?hl=en Listen to the complete library of the Goin...2023-04-2106 min
Revitalized Womanhood | A Midlife RevolutionEP31 Healing Through Broken Relationships with Randa Stratton-DutcherOn today’s episode of Revitalized Womanhood, Gina is joined by Randa Stratton-Dutcher, author and fellow podcaster. Randa encourages listeners to identify their individual gifts to ignite their passion and become their best selves. Gina and Randa discuss self-confidence, mental health, and the complexity of marriage. Episode Highlights: 5:42 Randa describes how she got into the collaborative book making process. 11:30 Mental health issues and body image as women. 17:10 Expressing our individual gifts as a means of self confidence and motivation. 33:14 How to find what makes you passionate. ...2023-03-141h 11
I Was Born To Do ThisHealing through Broken Relationships with Randa Stratton- DutcherWow... Today's episode is powerful. Randa and II go deep. Deep in our own personal stories of how we broke and found our strength. Randa is the head-author of our newest collaboration book that Freedom House has published. This book has 17 authors, inlcuding me who tell stories of how they healed through broken relationships. Relationships with religion, marriage, divorce, body image, foster care, loosing a best friend, and more. You can grab a copy of "Healing Through Broken Relationships," on amazon! And grab a free ticket to our Author Summit on January 5, here: https://www.freedomhousepublishingco.com/Brokenrelationshipslivesummit2022-12-1628 min
Going DutchRevitalized Womanhood With Gina TrimmerMy guest today is Gina Trimmer from Revitalized Womanhood. She is going to talk to us about how Revitalized Womanhood began, helping women find their vision, and what it’s like to create a community. Gina’s journey started a long time ago. Even as a young girl, she was creating visions of her future with her friends. Now she realizes the full circle connection between what she does now and her youthful dreams. Family life got in the way for a while, but Gina soon found her purpose in leading this movement for women. The...2022-11-1738 min
Going DutchShame Game/Sound Bowl HealingToday I want to talk about breaking down perceptions and telling the future. You can’t possibly know what the outcome of something will be, so don’t fall into that trap. You have the ability to change the end result. Life isn’t a foregone conclusion. In life, you have an almost certain future. It means that you are stuck in a self-fulfilling prophecy if you always think you know what will happen based on the past. You create the experiences over and over. Recently I had a breakdown, believing I knew how something was go...2022-10-2018 min
Going DutchVictory RecoveryToday I am joined by my husband Aaron and also Brock Bevell from Victory Recovery. Together, we’ll discuss Brocks’ mission and recovery from addiction and how it has deepened his relationship with God. Brock was a police officer before being injured in the line of duty. That was the real turning point for him, as it fuelled his addiction and opioids began to run his life. Ten years later, Brock has been through detox and is now using his experiences to help others by running treatment centers. He is now running a counseling center with a fell...2022-10-1339 min
Going DutchUnstoppable With Jennifer NeilsonMy amazing friend and colleague Jennifer Nielson is on the show today. Jennifer travels the world doing wonderful things for women, helping them to heal. Starting her journey couldn’t begin until she had found her healing. She was looking for peace and clarity in her own life and also had an interest in social psychology. Now, Jennifer has a degree in psychology, healing, and energy work. Using her experiences, she is working to help other women find their peace while always working on herself. Healing is a daily practice. Jennifer is a person that go...2022-08-1129 min
Going DutchMore On ConnectionGOING DUTCH PODCAST EPISODE 38: More On Connection I’m coming to you on an imperfect morning to be real and vulnerable from a space I love to sit in when I’m at my Dad’s in the summer. First, I really want to share all of the beautiful things I see, hear, and feel: the sound of tractors and crickets to the smell of alfalfa. The smells and sounds from the horses and cattle from a couple of fields away. It feels so good in my soul. The last few days have been a...2022-07-1410 min
Going DutchConnection Is The CureGOING DUTCH PODCAST EPISODE 37: Connection Is The Cure With September Frogley, Founder. She's a woman who rose from the ashes of brokenness to share something magical with the world. September is the oldest of three siblings. Her middle brother, an amazing light in this world, faced a lot of darkness in his life. He dealt with anxiety, depression, and turned to addiction to drugs and alcohol. In the last year of his life, the drugs induced a state of schizophrenia that would not leave him, even in sobriety. In May 2021, her brother committed...2022-07-0727 min
Going DutchThe National Anthem, A Spiritual Experience.GOING DUTCH PODCAST EPISODE 36: The National Anthem, A Spiritual Experience. OH SAY CAN YOU SEE? This question coupled with music is the first line that grabs your attention in The National Anthem. Can you picture it? Francis Scott Key, watching from a ship. He's asking you to envision the picture he's about to paint of his experience on September 13/14, 1814, in The Chesapeake Bay in Maryland. The National Anthem is truly my favorite song. Originally a poem, written after a difficult experience the writer, Francis Scott Key, endured. Before I sing the national anthem, I always take a moment to pray...2022-06-3014 minGoing DutchAngels and Grandkids with Amy HillToday I am joined by Amy Hill, my good friend who is the embodiment of a warm hug. Amy lives in Colorado. Amy is here with me to talk about her spiritual journey and her upcoming book “Angels Speak”. Amy started a journey 6 years ago when she tapped into Muscle Testing Academy. For a year, she had felt the pull, but the logistics of it were keeping her away. After reading “The Answer to How is Yes,” she took the plunge and realized it was where she was supposed to be. Since then, Amy has begun doing energy work and musc...2022-06-0818 min
Going DutchCan I be God's Racehorse?Today, I’m talking about the Kentucky Derby and what the experience led me to reflect upon. It took place just a month before recording this episode and it was amazing. I watched it over and over again, and it made me think about coming in last. Not just on the track, but in life. This gave me pause as I reflected on when I feel alone, and how God has shown me that I am never alone nor beyond hope. The last-seeded horse, “Rich Strike” and jockey, “Sonny Leon”, won the derby this year. Every time...2022-06-0207 min
Going DutchFallen out of love? With Guest Aaron DutcherIn this episode, I’m joined by my favorite guest, my husband, to talk about the ups and downs of our relationship. Since we’ve been married and remarried, we have a few anniversaries around the holidays. We choose to celebrate each year in May, which is the anniversary of our first kiss. We were just teens when we met at a graduation party, and now we’ve officially been kissing for 27 years. We’ve taken the 27 years of gained experience, knowledge, and time taken figuring it out together and poured it into our book. When we talk to people a...2022-05-2540 minGoing DutchEverything Is For You With Dana ParkerDana Parker is an intuitive life coach who has a true gift with words, as you’ll hear in this episode. She is certified in hypnotherapy, sound healing, and energy healing. She’s passionate about gaining the tools needed for her own healing journey and has been teaching personal development for over a decade, elevating the level of feminine voices everywhere she goes. We discuss how the way we speak to ourselves matters. I’ve often described myself as “little Randa,” and while this might be true for my physical self, these words do not describe all I am capabl...2022-05-1939 minGoing DutchSelf Healing, Heals Your WorldDo you invite the divine to bring light and life to your life and purpose? I’m so excited to share that I’ve finished my children’s book, and I’m more than halfway through writing my book about love and marriage. Also, I have an upcoming mastermind, called Shine Bright. This masterclass is about reigniting the light within you that has hidden your gifts or made your purpose feel impossible. It runs from June 1-August 31, 2022. This will be a small group so DM me ASAP to see if this is a fit for you! I’m doi...2022-05-1313 minGoing DutchListen To Your Heart with Joyce BrintonToday I’m chatting with guest Joyce Brinton, an energy healer. She teaches vision board classes, does muscle testing, and is also a mom of four. Joyce and her husband put on amazing classes together, which is where Joyce helped me step into and experience the gift of joy and fulfillment. In 2011, Joyce’s oldest was going to college, and she felt like she had lost her purpose. She herself had an educational background in psychology, but never pursued a career while raising her kids full-time. Unsure what to do next, she decided to create a vision board...2022-05-0522 minGoing DutchNot YetIn today’s episode, I’m sharing what I learned from honoring the message of “not yet”. Finding the right people to connect with is a beautiful space to be in, and this is the space I found myself in at a recent retreat. The environment brought out a collaborative energy and an exchange of ideas that lifted everyone up—even those of us who were working towards different goals. At this retreat, I was determined to start shaping my messaging for a book I’m writing about divorce and marriage, which I hope will promote healing in others. T...2022-04-2815 min
Hollie WouldEpisode 23 Going Dutch interview with the Amazing Randa DutcherIn this episode we get to meet the lovely Randa Stratton-Dutcher. This cowgirl is a life coach, digital course creator, retreat facilitator, singer/songwriter, author, mother to 5, and a wife twice-over to her high-school sweetheart Aaron. You can hear Randa speak on her podcast “Going Dutch” where she discusses all of the above transparently. Randa loves to share light and messages, and assist others in reigniting the light that has dimmed over time. Randa Stratton-Dutcher 4807970515 https://www.facebook.com/randa.stratton https://www.instagram.com/perfectlyimperfectranda/?hl=en https://randa-dutcher.mykajabi.com/offers/5pnDQZ5f/checkout?preview=true https://randa-du...2022-04-2729 minGoing DutchJust Say Yes With Hollie WarnickI am welcoming Hollie Warnick in this episode to talk about empowerment and the power of saying yes. Hollie is a behavioral kinesiologist, author, healer, and mother. She creates art, coursework, journals, and more for wellness and enjoyment. Hollie is also the host of the “Hollie Would” podcast where she takes listeners on a playful, spiritual journey each episode while encouraging others to be authentic and show up in life as they truly are. Growing up, Hollie experienced hardships that shaped the person she’s become today. Her mother was diagnosed with dissociative identity disorder (DID...2022-04-1425 min
Going DutchPerception VS RealityToday on the podcast, I want to talk about perception versus reality. What you think and what is true aren’t always the same thing, and unlearning your perceptions of yourself that are untrue can help you to let go of what holds you back. For most of my life, I have tried to live inside a box of black and white. But, in recent months, I’ve started to see that things are greyer. God is not necessarily black and white, and experiencing Him in this way, without putting parameters on Him and understanding that He doesn’t see...2022-04-0714 minGoing DutchThe Divine Cup of MiraclesI want to talk about the Divine Cup of Miracles and how to keep your own cup full on today’s show. Firstly, I want to share my collaboration with others to create a book. We have created a book about collaborating with the divine, and it was released, February 22, 2022. A portion of the proceeds will be going towards the Centers for Hope, which are will create a place for people to recover from suicidal ideations. You can find this book on Amazon with the link below. https://read.amazon.com/kp/embed?asin=B09T2PJ5L5...2022-03-1813 minGoing DutchHit it Again, You can Do it!When you think you can’t try anymore, just push through once more. When I was little, I lived in a small town in Arizona. My parents were working and going to school. I was lucky to be looked after by other relatives when they were away. Once when my Grandma Stratton was watching me, there was an animal caught in a trap around the side of the house. She told me to go into the house because she knew she was going to have to put the creature out of its misery. I waited fo...2022-03-1009 minGoing DutchUnities Ripple Effect With Mike StrattonIn today’s episode, I am joined by my father Mike Stratton DSc, PT, ATC, MA. He is also the owner of Stratton Sports Medicine. It seems that there are many divisions in our Nations/World right now. How can we stand up, see that we can have a disagreement and not be disagreeable, and be unified as communities? My dad and I explore this question and a few others in this episode. I hope that as we have witnessed the attack on Ukraine this week. We can ask ourselves these very questions. Find ways to...2022-02-2521 minGoing DutchCowboy Up With Mike StrattonIn today’s episode, I am joined by my father Mike Stratton DSc, PT, ATC, MA. He is also the owner of Stratton Sports Medicine. My dad is one of the greatest friends of my life. He has helped make me who I am today and has been there for me through everything. He has a doctorate in sports, science, and physical therapy and a master’s in athletic training and biomechanics. He has traveled and trained with many celebrities and Olympic athletes. He grew up in a family of eleven siblings and learned how to p...2022-02-1713 minGoing DutchAnd-vs-OrToday, I want to talk about a message that has been getting louder and louder as I came closer to recording. The topic is “and vs or,” and why you don’t have to subscribe to the belief that you have to make choices and be only one thing. As I have been doing my own healing work through my faith and my groups of other strong, creative women, I have come to realize how much I was allowing myself to be limited. I was raised as a singer and performer. My dad always encouraged me to perfor...2022-02-0311 minGoing DutchTaking Up SpaceIn today’s episode, I want to talk about taking up space. Everyone deserves to feel valued and that they matter. A few weeks ago, I had a meeting at church discussing sharing messages of God. A lady described it as a football analogy. Everyone on the team has a part to play and makes a difference, even if they don’t think they do. I looked around and saw a woman I had spoken to a few times and whose daughter I had taught in a class. I had an incredible sense that I should tell her...2022-01-2808 min
Going DutchHeart of a Warrior Part 2 with Jason MowJason Mow is back for the second part of our talk. He is a longtime friend, Army veteran, and ex-police officer. Recently, Jason has written several books, including a biography called Weighed and Measured. For Jason, the warrior within him is not an alter-ego, it is just who he is. It is all-encompassing in every relationship he has. It’s not about being perfect, it is about giving 100%. Can you return back to God at the end of everything and say with all your heart that you have done more than the minimum? A true wa...2022-01-1829 minGoing DutchHeart of a Warrior, Part 2 With Jason MowJason Mow is back for the second part of our talk. He is a longtime friend, Army veteran, and ex-police officer. Recently, Jason has written several books, including a biography called Weighed and Measured. For Jason, the warrior within him is not an alter-ego, it is just who he is. It is all-encompassing in every relationship he has. It’s not about being perfect, it is about giving 100%. Can you return back to God at the end of everything and say with all your heart that you have done more than the minimum? A true wa...2022-01-1829 minGoing DutchHeart of a Warrior Part 1 With Jason MowI am joined by Jason Mow, a longtime friend, Army veteran, and ex-police officer. Recently, Jason has written several books, including a biography called Weighed and Measured. When we met, we were both on a broken road. I was a single mother with five kids and Jason was on crutches, barely able to walk. Sometimes life can be very difficult, but through forgiveness and God, you can get through it. For Jason, being a warrior has many different looks to it. A warrior is someone with a sense of purpose and a willingness to conquer any adversity.2022-01-1136 minGoing DutchWho not HowIn today’s episode, the message I want to give you all is that of understanding your own gifts and talents, along with when to ask for help from others. The month of December has brought so many opportunities. My son made 50 dozen rolls for charity, then we had an order for a further 20 dozen, I was supposed to make several pans of marshmallows, I was hired to sing at a Christmas party, and I had agreed to record a podcast with my friend. I had a minor meltdown, felt overwhelmed, and Aaron asked me what would br...2022-01-0414 minGoing DutchForgiveness: The Gift of FreedomIn today’s episode, the message I want to give you all is that of forgiveness. Forgiveness of others and yourself. This coincides perfectly with the digital course I am launching. Initially, I wrote and recorded this course as part of what I hope to be a larger digital course on self-sabotage in the future, but I wanted to bring something to you all sooner and without the overwhelm. Since an early age, I have been learning about forgiveness. Forgiveness from my parents if I did something wrong, forgiveness from God, and more recently, forgiveness fo...2021-11-2914 minGoing DutchJust Show UpIn today’s episode, the message I want to give you all is to JUST SHOW UP! Coming off of the Shine Bright Retreat and all the healing we did, the subject of this podcast came to me. A few weeks ago, a lady at church talked about a time she was asked to teach a class. She didn’t know how she would be able to do it, or where to start. Her leader’s advice to her? “Just show up.” Leading up to the Shine Bright Retreat, I felt the darkness creeping in and was feeling he...2021-11-1210 minGoing DutchBe Anxious For NothingIn today’s episode I want to talk to you about the message I received last week surrounding anxiety and being anxious for nothing. I have struggled with anxiety throughout my life, as I’m sure many of you have. I worry about social situations, whether or not I’m being the best mother, or even the smallest thing about my day’s plan going wrong. While I meditated on this and thought about how anxiety shows up in my life, I realized something: I love to be in control of every aspect of my life and what’s a...2021-10-2210 min
Going DutchHappy Podcast AnniversaryThis time I am talking about the one-year anniversary of the podcast and reflecting on the support and love that I feel from all of you. 13 is a lucky number for me. Today’s episode is number 13, I was born on the thirteenth and so was my husband, Aaron. It’s only fitting that the one-year anniversary of the podcast falls on the thirteenth episode. I have just returned from a weekend retreat with my coach and several other wonderful women. The healing and vibrancy I felt there was very powerful. Just creating and being in t...2021-10-0112 min
Going DutchInfidelity VS AdulteryIn today’s episode, I am once again joined by my husband Aaron. We discuss the differences between infidelity and adultery, including how to rebuild and heal from them. Infidelity is lying or omitting something, and results in a loss of loyalty and trust. Adultery is the act of cheating on your spouse. Thinking on it, I realized I don’t have fidelity with Aaron regarding finances, so Aaron talks to us about why he needed to control finances closely. We are always taking things on and facing trials. It is important to do your work...2021-09-2443 min
Going DutchMy Highest & Best GoodLet’s talk about what my highest and best good is, what it means, and how it changes depending on where you are. Life is not simple. We all experience trials and hardships that are made for us to help us grow. The suffering from those trials is what is optional. It is okay to be sad or grieve, but what you don’t need is to focus on other peoples’ part in your trials and to wallow in sadness. Find forgiveness in your situation and find someone to work through it with. I am an emp...2021-09-1720 min
Going DutchSelf SabotageWelcome back my husband Aaron. We describe the art of self-sabotage as this: the sum of actions and habits formed to protect, and therefore shut down, from that which would propel you forward into growth. I’ve been thinking about this a lot, because earlier this year I was in a really dark place. My husband joins me in this episode to contribute to the discussion. Sabotage really is an art form. I’ve called it out, and I’m aware of it now. This gives me choice. Getting it out really is the first step. My h...2021-08-0932 min
Going DutchWords Create Your FutureIn Christianity, God created everything spiritually first and then physically. What does that mean? How do we spiritually create something? It’s through thought, but God also uses words. That’s how the world was created. Have you ever considered how you were created? I believe He created us in His image, and we’re here to be like Him. To learn, grow, experience, fail, get back up, and try again. Just as the earth, we’ve also been created by God using words. With that, take a second and think about how powerful words can be...2021-07-1219 min
Going DutchSelf CareIn today’s episode, I want to talk about how depletion invites the darkness, how to fight it, and how to bring in the light. When I spoke to my coach Keira earlier this week about all the great things happening in my life recently, we talked about how I still felt exhausted and low. She told me “depletion invites the darkness.” I had heard this before. It reminded me of taking our kids to the USS Midway Museum and seeing a sign that said “if you take care of the ship, she will take care of you.”2021-06-1819 min
Going DutchFEAR NOTIn today’s episode, I want to talk about some things I have touched on in past episodes as well as some new messages. When my son was at boot camp, I wanted to give him strength to continue to go through his training. I sent him a verse from the Book of 2 Kings 6: “FEAR NOT: for they that be with us are more than they that be with them.” The story of Elisha resonates so much right now. There is so much chaos and fear that reaching across is just going to give you more o...2021-05-2021 min
Going DutchPurpose to PeaceI have learned that when you lean into your purpose, despite doubts and imperfections, that purpose gives you passion. It gives you excitement and makes you feel alive. There is peace in purpose. You can know that you are aligned with God and His purpose for you. It isn’t always a comfortable place, but there is peace in it. If you are struggling, I urge you to get the darkness out. Whether it’s on paper or talking to someone you can rely on. If you keep it in, it will consume you. Until you speak it...2021-01-1420 min
Going DutchRebuilding Your Relationship with Guest Aaron DutcherIn today’s episode, I’m continuing my discussion about rebuilding our relationship with my husband Aaron Dutcher. Our main focus is about shifting perspectives, looking for positives, and embracing the God-given gift of agency. Whenever you tell people that you got divorced, or that you got married again, the focus is always on the negative. Both of these things are seen as failures when they should be seen as positives. The tendency to focus on the negative should be shifted. Come from a place of love and abundance, and look at where you are, knowing it is w...2020-12-0313 min
Going DutchRebuilding Your RelationshipIn today’s episode, I am joined by my husband Aaron Dutcher. This podcast is partially named for him, so today I wanted to explain what Going Dutch means to me. Aaron speaks about his tips for rebuilding relationships and we both discuss the way in which partnering with God led us back to each other. For me, Going Dutch has many meanings. To most people, it means going it alone in some way. I tried that. I went it alone in our marriage and I went it alone as a single woman. Now, Going Dutch reminds me...2020-11-1223 min
Going DutchComparison-Thief of JoyIn today’s episode, I want to talk about a topic that is very difficult for me. I’ve been resisting it. I want to tell you about my beautiful friend Julee Brady, other women in my life, and how I realized that comparison was making me the robber of my own happiness. I have a bad habit of comparing myself to the amazing women in my life. I would think that if I could just have what they have, I would be happy. I can testify to you now that that thinking is wrong. It doesn’t matt...2020-11-0421 min
Going DutchSpiritual GiftsIn today’s episode, I have been called to share a message of power and strength with you. A message that will help you re-connect with your divine purpose and find your spiritual gifts. These gifts aren’t wrapped, they aren’t tangible, and they can’t be bought. These gifts are already yours, divinely appointed by God. Let me tell you how I came to find my spiritual gifts. I had a wonderful childhood, filled with family. My parents married young and divorced when I was 5. I lived with my mom and her parents as she went bac...2020-10-2213 min
Going DutchReach Up Not AcrossIn today’s episode, I want to share messages from my heart, given to me from God. I want to talk about how to overcome your struggles and help you understand that you are not alone. When you open yourself up to receive a hand up from God, you are open to do anything without fear. In 2012, as a single mom of 5 kids, I was so scared of being alone. Even though there is so much support for single mothers, I felt unsupported. I would pray every night for help to get me through the next day. It...2020-10-0118 min