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Heart Versus HeadAre Ya a Boxer or a Lumper?Heads tend to compartmentalize everything. Hearts are more likely to flow things together that are linked by similar emotions. This can lead to conflict in a relationship when we don't understand it or assume that our partner does it the same way as we do. Putting things in boxes also makes the Head partner seem like an uncaring narcissist or unfeeling robot. Lumping things together makes the Heart partner seem irrational at times. In this episode, Randy and Beverly offer some insight into why it happens, where it leads and how to resolve the problem. Learn more about the...2025-05-0726 minHeart Versus HeadThe 3 I Love You'sRandy and Beverly dive into how people use things like names, pet names, and familiar phrases to create connectivity in relationships. The things people say might mean different things depending on the context but most couples don't really talk about what these common things really mean... and they're missing out on a really connecting conversation. If you're looking for ways to connect more deeply in every conversation... you'll want to talk about this one. 2025-04-3018 minHeart Versus HeadThere's Some Good Stuff Too, Right?In this episode, Randy and Beverly discuss how relationships are often seen as "bad" in a moment when a broader view might help both partners see things a little differently. When relationships encounter trouble, the human brain goes into protection mode and notices all the bad stuff, while almost completely ignoring the good stuff. Plus, in this episode, you get to learn the word agathokakological and see if your relationship is like a Florida Neighborhood Watch Program. 2025-04-2321 minHeart Versus HeadVNEs: Exploring ExpectationsWell, what did you expect? In this episode, Randy and Beverly explore why Hearts and Heads face so many challenges with expectations and why it is so important to talk about them before the trouble shows up. From completely different vacation expectations to not knowing what to do when our partner is crying... we expect that this episode will have a little something for every couple. 2025-04-1615 minHeart Versus HeadVNEs: Exploring NeedsIn this episode, Randy and Beverly take a deeper look at how needs influence relationship satisfaction and why it's so darn tricky for Hearts and Heads to talk about what they really need in the relationship. From love and respect to topics like intimacy, couples are often focused on the wrong things in the wrong ways. Learn to talk about what you need in a more useful way. 2025-04-0920 min
Heart Versus HeadVNEs: Exploring ValuesIn this episode, Randy and Beverly continue to explore the reasons that couples fight: different values, unmet needs and miscommunicated expectations, VNEs. This episode focuses on values, the deep core beliefs that form in our early years and shape the way we live, communicate and love later in life. 2025-04-0218 minHeart Versus HeadWhy We Fight - Understanding VNEsWhat if you could de-code the conflict in your relationship? In this episode, Randy and Beverly explain the three reasons that couples disagree, argue and fight. By understanding the different values, needs and expectations we have from our partner, we can more easily communicate and find common ground. Relationship disagreements always come down to different values, unmet needs or missed expectations. By understanding these differences, you'll both be more prepared to communicate with understanding and compassion for your partner. If you're ready to break the cycle of conflict in your relationship, it's time to understand VNEs; Values, Needs and...2025-03-2618 minHeart Versus HeadThis Made Me HappyHow much time and energy do you spend trying to keep your partner happy? In this episode, we'll discuss why everyone is going to fail at making someone else constantly happy. If you're ready to stop trying to guess the secret code for your partner's happiness, then give this episode a quick listen. Honesty is less work than mind reading and generally yields better results in relationships. 2025-03-1917 minHeart Versus HeadJust Pick a RestaurantWhy is it so dang hard to make a collaborative decision? Why are Hearts so passive? Why do Heads get so frustrated and short with this stuff? If you've ever argued over something simple - like where to eat - then this podcast will explain how Hearts and Heads can create more natural communication in the relationship so that you both can enjoy a little happiness. 2025-03-1221 minHeart Versus HeadDon't Fix the VentWhy are Head partners constantly trying to fix everything for their Heart partner? When the Heart partner has a bad day, the Head partner is right there to offer generally unwanted advice... and that leads to fights that don't need to happen. If you both want to make your relationship a lot easier, check out this episode as Randy and Beverly dive into why you should never fix a vent. 2025-03-0522 minHeart Versus HeadI'm OffendedRandy and Beverly discuss being offended from the Head and Heart perspective. This episode covers: How triggers sneak into our daily interactions and why not to call your partner a monkey. 2025-02-2620 minHeart Versus HeadCockroaches and KittensA casual conversation turns into a conversation about why Hearts feel so darn much and Heads seem to feel nothing. At all. Ever. Dive deeper with Randy and Beverly as they talk about cockroaches and kittens and much, much more. 2025-02-1923 minHeart Versus HeadWhy Couples Bicker - And How to Make it HelpfulAll couples have petty arguments. You are, after all, two different people. We discuss how to overcome the small disagreements and watch for the bigger issues behind these arguments. We also provide some techniques that Heads and Hearts can use to bicker more effectively... and bring back some fun banter. 2025-02-1322 minHeart Versus HeadValentines DayListen as Randy and Beverly discuss why there's so darn much pressure on Head partners when it comes to Valentine's Day. And they'll share the secret - at least their secret - for making sure that holidays don't turn into fights, even if someone gets a vacuum cleaner. 2025-02-1319 minHeart Versus HeadWhat's All This About Hearts and Heads in RelationshipsA short episode to understand a little bit more about what the hosts are talking about when they talk about "Hearts" and "Heads". Are you the logical partner or the emotional partner who cares about everybody's feelings? Learn how this preference for making decisions is screwing up communication in your relationship and get the basis for the podcast journey you're about to embark on. 2025-02-0612 minHeart Versus HeadWhat Is This Relationship Podcast AboutRandy and Beverly have been Hawaii's leading relationship coaches and personal communication specialists. As a married couple they have run Heart And Head Coaching for more than a decade. Now they're taking what they've learned to the world. What the heck will they even say? And why would it matter? #relationships #couples #heartandhead 2025-02-0617 minHeart Versus HeadWho Are The Hosts of this Relationship PodcastLearn a little more about your hosts, Randy Hampton and Beverly Craddock. They're a married couple and the leading relationship coaches in Hawaii and this episodes explains where they came from... how they met... and how in the hell they got to this point. 2025-02-0610 min