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An A to Z of Sex with Men2.26 - Z is for Zones, erogenousOur final episode of season 2 is all about Zones (the erogenous kind).
This week our format is a little different. Instead of our usual 'extensive research', we take you through nearly every erogenous zone we and the internet can think of and tell you our own personal feelings about them.
We then discuss our zones-related film, which this time is 'The Piano!' It was intense we loved, but we loved it (and keep away from the darker aspects of it in our discussion).
THANK YOU for coming on our journey with us...
2023-12-031h 46
An A to Z of Sex with Men2.25 - Y is for YouthIn our penultimate episode we turn our minds back to our younger and less experienced days and discuss the tumultuous world of sex and relationships from the perspective of 'the youth'.
It's not all anecdotal of course. We do our usual 'extensive research' and find out what the youth of today think about it all, as well delving a little into relationships with large age gaps.
This week's youth-related film is 'Everybody's Talking About Jamie'. We probably won't be talking about it much in the future, but there were some things we liked about it!
2023-12-031h 22
An A to Z of Sex with Men2.24 - X is for XXX Live Show!It is finally time to release our A to Z LIVE SHOW!!
In this first ever collaboration with the absolutely incredible Glitter & Titter Cabaret, we welcome special guests April Fiasco and Gigi Vin Rouge!
Gigi is a stand-up comedian and burlesque artist
combining sex and statistics like they've never been combined before. Sextistics if you will.
April Fiasco is the showgirl alter-ego of comedian Carmen Ali. A regular on the London Cabaret scene, she is resident host at Sexquisite Events & Co-organiser at Socialist Strip Club Cybertease. She has been featured by TimeOut, The...
2023-09-291h 33
An A to Z of Sex with Men2.23 - W is for With Benefits (friends)This week is all about friendships and relationships that come with added 'benefits'. We discuss the pros and cons of a typical 'with benefits' type setup, and explore what the 'benefits' actually are - is it just sex, or is there more to it? Can you, in fact, have a non-sexual friendship with benefits? We also look back fondly on our own 'with benefits' friends of the past.
This week's 'with benefits' related film is 'Y tu mamá también' directed by Alfonso Cuarón. We thought it was an excellent representation of these types of relationship, whi...
2023-08-271h 23
An A to Z of Sex with Men2.22 - V is for VulvaEpisode P was devoted to Penis, so it's only right that episode V should be all about the Vulva!
And we're not alone, as joining us this week is the lovely professional hula-hooper and graphic designer, Beth!
As we vivaciously vocalise about various things vulvic, we learn about similarities (and differences) in the arousal of different genitals, and discover that the vulva-owners among us know shockingly little about vulvic anatomy.
Our vulva-related film this week was Park Chan-Wook's 2016 film, The Handmaiden. The overall consensus was that we loved it, and were generally happy...
2023-07-261h 28
An A to Z of Sex with Men2.21 - U is for UnderratedThis week is all about celebrating the things that don't get enough attention - i.e. the sexually, sensually, and romantically Underrated!
Based on the anecdotes and experiences of their social circle, Raphael and Jacinta look at the sex and relationship related experiences that are overlooked, but delightful none-the-less, be it a touch of the waist, a caress of a leg, or a comfortable silence.
This week's Underrated-related film is Gilda, because *that* glove peel...
There are no trigger warnings this week!
Contact:
Twitter/Instagram: @atozwithmen
2023-06-091h 07
An A to Z of Sex with Men2.20 - T is for Turn-onsLast season episode T was devoted to Turn-offs, so we thought it only right that this season T should be all about Turn-ons!
We look at top turn-ons in America and Western Europe, as well as unlikely places to be turned and unusual things to be turned on by. We obviously talk all about out own turn-ons, and how we discovered them, and discuss the sexiest scents.
Our film of the week is Happiness, an exploration of problematic and stigmatised turn-ons. This bit is full of trigger warnings, so listen to the film discussion with...
2023-06-021h 38
An A to Z of Sex with Men2.19 - S is for SituationshipsThis episode is all about that previously indefinable type of relationship, The Situationship.
With a lot of help from the glossy mags (and a lot of wading through the heteronormative monogamous agenda), Raphael and Jacinta work out what a 'situationship' actually is, and discuss whether they have ever had one. They look at the pros and cons of a situationship and conclude that (surprise, surprise) it all comes down to communication, really.
The situationship related film up for discussion is bernardo Bertolucci's The Dreamers starring Eva Green. They have a lot of effusively good things...
2023-04-121h 18
An A to Z of Sex with Men2.18 - R is for RapeIt's time to talk about that word we hate so much, Rape.
Sadly, rape is something that a LOT of us are survivors of, and Jacinta and Raphael are no exception. It's so important to talk about it and that's exactly what they do. Sharing personal experiences; discussing the inadequate language around rape and sexual assault, and exploring how to support people who have survived rape.
This is a difficult episode with a lot of triggering content so please listen with caution.
Twitter/Instagram: @atozwithmen
Facebook: facebook.com/atozwithmen
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2023-03-241h 57
An A to Z of Sex with Men2.17 - Q is for QuickieRaphael and Jacinta are back with a quip-filled, laughter-fuelled, fast-talking episode all about quickies! They are not alone though, joining them is none other than genealogist, socialite, and all round smutty guy, William Hall. Jumping from orgasms to red wine and white carpets, to blowjobs in the 'bog', sexy teeth-brushing, and #quickiesinthequeueforthequeen, they explore the meaning of 'quickie', the best places to have them, and the best people to have them with. They also have much to say on this week's film, 'Scenes of a Sexual Nature', which definitely oversold on the 'sexual' part.
TW: none
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2023-01-131h 07
An A to Z of Sex with Men2.16 - P is for PenisFor a podcast about sex, there's been remarkably little chat about the specifics of genitalia so far. It's now time to change all that with this week's episode, P is for Penis! (Don't worry, Vulvas will be getting an episode too, you've just gotta wait a few weeks for that one.)
Join Raphael and Jacinta as they talk penis parts (inside and out), penises in art (spoiler: there are a lot), and tell stories of penises they have known and loved.
TW: There are no trigger warnings this week.
Sources and recommendations:
2022-12-121h 10
An A to Z of Sex with Men2.15 - O is for OrgyToday Jacinta and Raphael have not one but TWO guests because, as we establish in the course of the episode, it takes at least four to make an orgy, which just so happens to be the focus of this week's discussion!
The guests in question are drag adjacent performance artist, the fabulous Felix Le Freak (returning after their brilliant appearance in Season 1 episode Q is for Queer), and first time (but no less fabulous) guest, actor, musical theatre performer and educator, Tanya!
With much merriment, the group discuss what an orgy is, how many you ne...
2022-11-211h 25
Põe na EstanteO Alegre Canto da Perdiz, Paulina ChizianeMaria das Dores inaugura a história das mulheres que fundam o mundo e fazem-no seguir. Sua irmã, sua mãe, sua avó, suas filhas são os elos de uma corrente que alarga o tempo e tranca o território. Delfina, Jacinta e outras que vieram e virão se encontram na terra onde branco e negros não são iguais, nem serão; onde homens e mulheres não são iguais, nem serão. Aos pés do montes, elas recolhem lágrimas, curam traumas, superam violências e perpetuam o que sabem fazer e dizer. Como as perdizes...
2022-11-1157 min
An A to Z of Sex with Men2.14 - N is for NudityJacinta and Raphael bare the naked truth in this week's discussion of nudity.
They look at a range of feelings involved with nudity, from shame to confidence and embarrassment to empowerment, and look at the contexts when it is and isn't ok to be naked and why that might be. And of course how nudity should very much be on the nude person's terms, you should never have to take your clothes off if you don't want to!
Having got to a stage in their personal journeys where they're both extremely comfortable with being naked, Ja...
2022-10-241h 33
The End of the RoadSeason 2 Recap: Relive Memorable Moments at the End of the RoadHost Cathy Herholdt is sharing an exciting look back at the most memorable experiences from Season 2 on The End of the Road podcast. Hear about the missional connection of the stories at the end of the road and World Concern. Relive Raphael Leshore’s unique story of how he was a Moran warrior and now he shares his faith with his community. Hear Joshua Bundi’s heartfelt experiences about how he followed God’s call despite roadblocks and challenges. And hear the personal experiences of CRISTA Ministries CEO Jacinta Tegman at the end of the road.
2022-08-1722 min
An A to Z of Sex with Men2.13 - M is for MasculinityRounding off the first half of Season 2, we bring you an in depth discussion on Masculinity, featuring very special guest, Cabaret performer and producer of the fabulous Glitter n Titter Cabaret, Matt Rowan!
Positive, performative, toxic and fragile, Masculinity encompasses a lot of things, but what actually IS it? Is it a useful definition, a societal construct, an outdated term, an intrinsic part of our identities, or possibly all of the above? We're left uncertain, but happy to be part of this important and complex conversation.
Our Masculinity related film this week is the 2020 version o...
2022-07-041h 23
An A to Z of Sex with Men2.12 - L is for LustThis week we're looking at Love's near, dear, and much maligned relation: Lust.
Where Love is the stuff of epic poetry and enduring fiction, Lust is the stuff of banned books and pornos, hidden away behind closed doors and under creaking beds. So why is that? Why is such a strong, and often enjoyable, feeling surrounded by so much stigma?
Join us on a journey of erotic discovery, in which we examine religion's role in our cultural and societal perceptions of Lust; lament the havoc Lust in the workplace can cause; and reminisce about our o...
2022-06-131h 23
An A to Z of Sex with Men2.11 - K is for KissingIn this week's episode K, Raphael and Jacinta are talking all things Kissing!
Whether it's reminiscing about the pillowy lips of partners past and present; deep diving into the science of smooching; discussing kissing compatibility; or explaining the importance of consent when it comes to the platonic peck, they cover it all. Does good kissing equal good sex? Is it bad form to kiss in public (especially if you're straight)? And how does kissing make us feel? Listen now to find out!
Our Kissing film of the week is 2017 Oscar winner, Moonlight. There's a little l...
2022-06-071h 13
An A to Z of Sex with Men2.10 - J is for Just KiddingIn our efforts to find something relevant beginning with J, we came up with... Just Kidding! (In other words, faking it.)
There are of course fake orgasms, which we talk a lot about.
How common are they? Do cis men fake orgasms too?! Are fake orgasms even possible?? Have we ever faked them, or had them faked to us?
But there are, we discover, a lot of other ways of faking or 'just kidding' within romantic and sexual relationships. Can we all honestly say we're completely honest with our partners all of the t...
2022-05-301h 06
An A to Z of Sex with Men2.09 - I is for InfatuationThis week I is for that all powerful, all consuming emotion, Infatuation.
We often compare infatuation with love, but what is the difference (and what are the similarities)? It's erotic, distracting, and at times deeply inappropriate. But can infatuation be a good thing and does it ever lead to, or indeed, co-exist with, love?
Infatuation with people, places and pastimes, we cover it all!
Our infatuation related film of the week is Théo & Hugo. With intense and sexy (unsimulated) sex scenes, a HIV scare, and extensive shots of Parisian streets, there is much to discuss.
2022-05-231h 11
An A to Z of Sex with Men2.08 - H is for HeartbreakThis week Raphael and Jacinta are joined by very special guest, Achim Brandenburg (aka Prosumer) to delve into the topic of Heartbreak.
We look at post-breakup heartbreak, the heartbreak after the loss of a loved one, and the physical impact heartbreak can have on your actual heart. Amongst the usual 'extensive' research, practical (and less practical) advice, witty anecdotes and film discussion, Achim movingly shares his feelings of heartbreak following the recent loss of his close friend, Gary. We feel so privileged to have been able to honour Gary and his memory and legacy on our podcast a...
2022-05-131h 33
An A to Z of Sex with Men2.07 - G is for GenitalsThis week we are getting technical and discussing the all important genitals!
We all have them, we all use them (for peeing if not for sexing), but do we really know them? A bit of research suggests that, no, we don't. Vas deferens anyone? Or what about a mons pubis? In this episode we try to clarify a bit of genital biology, as well as exploring our relationship with our own genitals. Turns out it can be complicated, but ultimately, every genital is different and, more importantly, every genital is gorgeous!
At the end of th...
2022-04-021h 13
An A to Z of Sex with Men2.06 - F is for FetishThis week we're delving into the fabulous and fascinating topic of Fetish. We couldn't do it alone though, so this week we are joined, for the SECOND time, by A to Z favourite, bisexual burlesque beastie, Bambi Bang Bang!
Together we discuss the difference between between fetish and kink, explore some common and less common fetishes, and muse about what our own fetishes might be (if indeed we have any, it seems some of us can wank to anything)!
We also watch the iconic kink film, Secretary and debate how successful it is at portraying f...
2022-03-281h 47
An A to Z of Sex with Men2.05 - E is for EjaculationThis week E is for Ejaculation!
An exhilarating release and the perfect accompaniment to an orgasm, but ohhhh the mess...
Join Raphael and Jacinta as they discuss existentialism, ejaculation etiquette, the science of ejaculation, and get personal about their own ejaculations past and present.
Today's Ejaculation related film is Shortbus and they LOVED it! There is much vocal ejaculating at the film's sex positive perfection. They highly recommend you go watch it immediately!
There are no trigger warnings this week!
Sources and recommendations:
Wikipedia article on ejaculation (with e...
2022-03-201h 13
An A to Z of Sex with Men2.04 - D is for DramaStressful, scary or scintillating, Drama is a prevalent part of many sexual and romantic relationships (not to mention friendships and work relationships)!
Whether it's the drama of first love or fifty-first love; breakup sex or makeup sex; whirlwind romances or relationships that have passed their sell-by-date, Drama is everywhere. What creates drama in a relationship? Is it avoidable? Can it ever be a positive thing? Raphael and Jacinta discuss all this and more, as well as reminiscing over some particularly dramatic relationships in their turbulent sexual pasts.
The film up for discussion this week is Bl...
2022-03-111h 07
An A to Z of Sex with Men2.03 - C is for CommunicationCommunication is essential for any relationship, be it sexual, romantic or platonic, but it's so hard to do!
This week Jacinta and Raphael explore just why that might be, as well as discussing some tips and tricks to make it that little bit easier.
This week's film is Duke of Burgundy, which we have a lot of good things to say about!
There are no trigger warnings this week.
Sources and recommendations:
‘Communication That Truly Connects’
https://www.tonyrobbins.com/stories/date-with-destiny/communication-truly-connects/
‘10 Communication Patterns That Hurt Re...
2022-03-111h 18
An A to Z of Sex with Men2.02 - B is for BreakupsMost of us will have gone through at least one break up (some of us considerably more), whether it was from your childhood crush, your first proper romantic partner, your kid's other parent, or any of the relationships in between. They all seem to happen for different reasons (falling out of love, sleeping with someone else, annoying habits getting that bit *too* annoying, lives simply following different paths) but they are all HARD. To help them explore the variety and similarities within breakups, Raphael and Jacinta have enlisted the help of special guest, the wonderful Flavia Fraser-Cannon. It turns...
2022-02-251h 32
An A to Z of Sex with Men2.01 - A is for ArousalAn A to Z with Men is BACK!
And today is all about aphrodisiacs and erogenous zones, because this week, A... is for Arousal. In a new, Season 2 format, Raphael and Jacinta will be discussing words of the week; answering questions from the audience; doing the usual 'extensive research'; sharing their personal stories, and watching a topic related film. This week it's 90s classic, Cruel Intentions... Listen now to hear just how successful they think it was at exploring the topic of Arousal! Spoiler: Not very...
TW: homophobic language (43:47 - 45:16)
Sources and recommendations:...
2022-02-181h 02
An A to Z of Sex with Men1.26 - Z is for Zipless FucksIt’s been a wild ride and now here we are at our final destination, Z is for Zipless Fucks!
Jacinta and Raphael had no idea what a zipless fuck was so they drafted in some expert help in the form of SPECIAL GUEST, writer and comedian, Michael Cumes. Together they academically analyse the zipless fuck (a term coined by Erica Jong in the novel Fear of Flying by the way) in an attempt to define something so elusive that it’s almost undefinable. Drawing on more ‘personal experience’ and ‘extensive research’ than ever before, they wend their way th...
2021-10-011h 20
An A to Z of Sex with Men1.25b - B is for Bonus - Love in the BedroomWhile we're waiting for episode Z to zoom it's way to you (read: we're still editing it), we thought we'd tide you over with a mini bonus episode, in which we chat love... in the bedroom. Dinners, blowjobs and bondage are all in the mix, but how do you think love can be expressed during the act of sex/fucking/love making etc? We would super love to know!
2021-09-2407 min
An A to Z of Sex with Men1.25 - Y is for YesNo means no, but does yes always mean yes? This week it’s time to look at the big Y.E.S. and what it means when we say it. There’s the tentative yes, the spontaneous yes, the considered yes and the all important enthusiastic yes! There’s yes to sex, yes to cuddles, yes to relationships and yes to marriage. What do all these yeses entail? Can yes be said without being spoken? And what’s the difference between ‘yes’, and ‘yeah’? Join Raphael and Jacinta this week as they yak and yarn about all things YES.
TW: There...
2021-09-181h 13
An A to Z of Sex with Men1.24 - X is for X-ratedThis week is a little different folks! Not many things begin with X so Raphael and Jacinta have thrown caution and convention to the wind in this X-RATED drinking game special. X-pect X-cruciating quizzes, X-plicit Would You Rathers, X-posing truths and X-pedient lies, not to mention an X-plosion of alcohol fuelled X-uberance in this X-hilarating X-stravaganza!
There are no trigger warnings this week!
HUGE thank you to our sound technician Flavio Buonerba of TripleFSound! Get in touch with him here for all your sound related needs: https://www.triplefsound.com/
Sources and recommendations:
2021-09-101h 07
An A to Z of Sex with Men1.23 - W is for WankingThis week W is for exactly what you’d think - that’s right… Wanking! In one of the most revealing episodes yet, Raphael and Jacinta discuss what gets them off when they’re on their own; the health benefits of wanking (physical, mental and emotional), and why mutual masturbation is the best. Oh and also how wanking doesn’t make your hands hairy!
Welcome to the wack(ing one out)y world of wanking. It’s wicked, it's wizard, it's wondrous.
There are no trigger warnings this week.
Sources and recommendations:
Does Mastur...
2021-09-0359 min
An A to Z of Sex with Men1.22 - V is for VulnerabilityJacinta and Raphael are addressing their sensitive sides in this week’s episode on vulnerability. Whether it’s sex with strangers, expressing your feelings, or giving your first hand job, there are many ways to feel vulnerable in a sexual context. It sounds scary, but can vulnerability actually be a good thing and, most importantly, can we have good sex without it? Danger, passion, erotic anticipation - they discuss all this and more in this in depth analysis of what it means to be vulnerable.
TW: rape and sexual assault (38:50 - 44:33), harrassment in a sexual context (30:10 - 39:16)
2021-08-2759 min
An A to Z of Sex with Men1.21 - U is for UhhhThis week, Raphael and Jacinta turn their attention to the humble sex noise or, as every porn film would have us believe, ‘uhhh’. Why do we make noise during sex? What noises do we make? How does hearing our partner’s noises make us feel? How do we feel about our own noises? They discuss all this and more in today’s exploration of the sex soundscape - groaning, moaning and gutteral cries abound.
Sources and recommendations:
Shape.com – 'What your sex noises really mean'
https://www.shape.com/lifestyle/sex-and-love/sex-noises
Time mag...
2021-08-2257 min
An A to Z of Sex with Men1.20 - T is for Turn OffsJacinta and Raphael talk a lot about their turn ons in this show, but what about their turn offs? They’ve both experienced being in the mood and raring to go, then a chance turn of phrase, mannerism or unwelcome thought leaves them suddenly cold. But why does it happen and why do those things turn us off? They surveyed their friends and it turns out turn offs are as varied and as particular as turn ons, and that’s fine. Join them for a light hearted discussion on the terrible tribulations of truncating titillations known as turn offs!
2021-08-1346 min
An A to Z of Sex with Men1.19 - S is for Safe SexYou there, come a little clossser, I have a sssecret.... It beginsss with the letter Sss - it’sss for Sssafe Sssexxx! That’s right folks, condoms aren’t just for preventing pregnancies. Ever since the terrifying HIV epidemic of the 80’s, safe sex has been the main method of preventing the transmission of STIs - but the stigma attached to these sordid sicknesses is unjustified. Today’s statistics show that around half of those testing positive with HIV are straight men and women, yet most people still know it as the ‘gay disease’.
From the fear of knowing you...
2021-06-181h 09
An A to Z of Sex with Men1.18 - R is for RomanceIt's the stuff of novels and films; genres of music and artistic movements are named after it; people yearn for it, scoff at it and make grand gestures to achieve it; but what exactly is romance?
Raphael and Jacinta went into this week's recording with a very specific set of ideas and came out with their minds totally turned around. We may think we want that grand gesture, but a freshly brewed cup of coffee can be the most romantic gesture of all. And a romantic fling in a European city may set our pulses racing, but...
2021-06-111h 01
An A to Z of Sex with Men1.17 - Q is for QueerJacinta and Raphael have arrived at the quirkiest of letters, and they can’t quite believe how quickly they’ve quoted the alphabet so far. But our ‘Quota of Quickening pulses’ would be quintessentially questionable without qualifying it with a quantity of fabulous Queerness. Q is for Queer and we have not one but TWO quirky guests to question the quagmire of queerdom, bringing their own quixotic quips and queenly quibbles to the quadrat to be queried: drag adjacent artist and performance maker, Felix Le Freak and writer, Georgia Iacovou. Covering umbrella terms (pun intended) to schoolyard mockery, we chat abo...
2021-06-041h 14
An A to Z of Sex with Men1.16 - P is for PornWhat’s the internet for? Yes, whether you think it’s a good thing or bad, we can all agree that porn (for which P stands this week) is everywhere, and there is no place it won’t go. We’ll start things off with a fun quiz (who doesn’t love trivia?) and find out just how much porn there is and how long we watch it for. Can the fantasy of porn ever match reality? Will you ever relive that fantasy you watched on screen? Do you get off on stopping those lemon-stealing whores? Or do you prefer a b...
2021-05-2856 min
An A to Z of Sex with Men1.15 - O is for OrgasmThis week’s episode will make you die. But only a little death - as this week O is for Orgasm! The big O is more complex than anyone ever realised. Oh! What a variety - from the ones that are almost nothing, to the full body experiences that linger; from the first orgasms, to the self-initiated, to the best ones, and everything in between - and that’s without even discussing all the different types of orgasm!
There’s so much to learn this week, from the known to the unknown, from the science to the vast r...
2021-05-2159 min
An A to Z of Sex with Men1.14 - N is for NoJacinta and Raphael are back with a tough one - the word 'No'. Hard to say, hard to hear, yet vitally important, they explore just what our issues with 'No' might be. From milky tea to stroppy men, via many overstepped boundaries, they tell their own stories of ignored and unsaid 'no's. It's a difficult topic but they couldn't have explored it in a safer or more loving space. They hope you feel the love too!
TW: This week deals explicitly with sexual assault, coercion and crossing of boundaries. If any of these are triggers for you...
2021-05-1458 min
An A to Z of Sex with Men1.13 - M is for MythologyIn this week’s episode Jacinta and Raphael go back a few thousand years and uncover some mythical memoirs of monolithic proportions. It seems not much has changed since those ‘good old days’ when heroes and gods roamed the earth, causing confusion with their bows and arrows (and genitals) and epically sized desires. Metamorphosing into “golden showers”, bulls, and a menagerie of other totally mundane and normal things; shacking up with goddesses while leaving your long suffering wife to deal (or not deal) with the fallout; abandoning women on remote islands; hitting men in the head with flying rocks; it’s a mis...
2021-04-1652 min
An A to Z of Sex with Men1.12 - L is for LoveThis week Raphael and Jacinta are loquacious about Love. In a world obsessed with the language OF love, they discover that there isn’t much of a language FOR love. Nothing seems to have been done about this since the days of the Ancient Greeks, so they turn to them for some much needed guidance. From self love (philautia) to lust (eros), via obsession (mania) and long term commitment (pragma), they unpick the eight types of love, applying them to sexual relationships both past and present.
As thorough as the Ancient Greeks were, it looks like Aphrodite sh...
2021-04-0958 min
An A to Z of Sex with Men1.11 - K is for Kink
This week Jacinta and Raphael are tying up all things Kink. Apprehensive to embark on such a topic alone, they are joined by very special guest, 'bisexual burlesque beastie' and all round brilliant bunny, Bambi Bang Bang! (Perhaps we should bring her back for a future B episode?)This week Jacinta and Raphael are tying up all things Kink. Apprehensive to embark on such a topic alone, they are joined by very special guest, 'bisexual burlesque beastie' and all round brilliant bunny, Bambi Bang Bang! (Perhaps we should bring her back for a future B episode?)
2021-04-0258 min
An A to Z of Sex with Men1.10 - J is for JealousyIn this week’s episode J, Raphael and Jacinta tackle that green-eyed monster (for once, not the one-eyed kind), Jealousy…
Facing it head on, they dive into jealousy’s murky depths, its gaping maw, its infernal pits, recalling times they are less than proud of as well as telling some difficult truths from the LGBT+ perspective.
Destructive, senseless and illogical, yet all too prevalent in our romantic and sexual relationships. Is it innate or imposed on us by society? Does jealousy have a role in the game of love, or is it a redundant player, ruinin...
2021-03-2654 min
An A to Z of Sex with Men1.09 - I is for IntimacyIn this week’s Episode I, Jacinta and Raphael discuss the topic of Intimacy. Turns out, it’s more complex than they might have thought! They look at four types of intimacy (physical, emotional, mental and spiritual) and explore which of them, if any, are needed for some truly sexy sex and meaningful love making. Is intimacy indispensable or irrelevant for an impassioned invitation? Listen now to hear their thoughts, then let them know what you think. What’s your favourite type of intimacy and why? They’d love to know!
There are no specific trigger warnings this wee...
2021-03-1947 min
An A to Z of Sex with Men1.08 - H is for HookupsHark! What’s that you hear? Raphael and Jacinta are back?! With the letter H?!! ‘And what’s H for?’ you ask. Horny hopes, humiliating horrors, heartwarming happenings; why it’s the humble Hookup of course!
Hop aboard for a first-hand history of hookups full of helpful hints and heinous howlers. Hilarious, hopeless or horrific? Take from it what you will...
There are no specific trigger warnings this week.
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2021-03-1251 min
1 curadorx, 1 hora1 curadorx, 1 hora: Dinho AraújoDinho Araújo nasceu em Pinheiro, Maranhão, Brasil, em 1985. É artista visual e mestre em Antropologia pela UFPB. Desenvolve pesquisas nas áreas de raça, gênero e performance, atuando como curador junto a instituições, museus e iniciativas independentes. Foi curador da revista Insight Photo, projeto contemplado pelo prêmio Marc Ferrez de Fotografia, 2013. Assumiu a curadoria da 10ª e 11ª Aldeia Sesc Guajajara de Arte (2015/2016), propondo programas de residência, mostras, intervenções, mapping, ações em museus e em diferentes espaços públicos de São Luís. É integrante do Chão SLZ, espaço com programação dinâmica, incluindo con...
2021-03-071h 35
An A to Z of Sex with Men1.07t - Opening the Thesaurus A-GIn this end-of-part-one special, Jacinta & Raphael look back on episodes A - G. Instead of kicking themselves over what they forgot to talk about, they open up the Thesaurus to synonymise, harmonise and fantasise in this reprise of this very special exercise. Get ready to be surprised as they improvise, summarise and advise on the stuff they forgot to memorise! Don’t compromise - be wise and realise you’ll only have yourself to chastise if you miss us finalise the first quarter of our franchise!
Going back through each letter they’ve already covered, Raphael & Jacinta add in...
2021-02-2625 min
An A to Z of Sex with Men1.07 - G is for GenderThis week, Raphael and Jacinta are joined by their first ever very special guest (cue the trumpet!), Joshua Freddie Vaughan! Together they attempt to unpick the complex topic of gender: From language, attraction and ‘types’ to gender expression, education and colonialism - all placed on the metaphorical dissection table as they discuss their own, as well as societal, attitudes toward gender. This garrulous gaggle generates stories that gyrate between the glorious and the garish!
TW: coercion and sexual harassment (48:02-48:56) rape and sexual assault (49:14-53:03)
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2021-02-1259 min
An A to Z of Sex with Men1.06 - F is for FirstsWe all remember many of our firsts. First bicycle, first car, first kiss, first love... From frivolous fun to frustrating flops, every first is full of fascinating findings! With fresh facts, fabulous follies and no fiction whatsoever, Jacinta and Raphael offer up a feast of furtive fantasies and sexual firsts.
TW: Homophobic language (1:27 - 1:30)
Twitter/Instagram: @atozwithmen
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#schrodingerssex #sainsburysfantasy
2021-02-0548 min
An A to Z of Sex with Men1.05 - E is for EmotionWhat connects joy, sadness, contentment and fear? Why, sex of course!
Join Jacinta and Raphael for episode E, where they tackle the torrid topic of… Emotion.
Sex, breakups, love and lust, they all come with their own set of complex emotions, but why is that? They’re not sure they know, but they’re very happy to talk about it!
TW: Coercion (2:58 - 3:36), sexual assault (5:20 - 6:26).
Raphael’s first story deals with themes of emotional abuse. If you would like to skip these specific points the timings are 31:50 - 32:26 and 33:34-35:28. If you’d...
2021-01-2946 min
An A to Z of Sex with Men1.04 - D is for DatingEpisode four! The letter D! D is for Dating! Online dates! Boring dates! Decadent dates! Speedy dates! Dangerous dates! Jacinta and Raphael have done them all and are here to share their romantic recollections with you. Look forward to the date we can all date again. Just don’t order the large white - and don’t ‘date, drink and drive’!
TW: Rape and sexual assault (1:15-2:45, 3:10-4:05, 26:46-27:44), alcohol abuse (36:10-36:20, 37:00-37:20).
Twitter/Instagram: @atozwithmen
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Email: atozwithmen@gmail.com
#havingacoffee #bottomlesswine #fuckdisney
2021-01-2248 min
An A to Z of Sex with Men1.03 - C is for CoercionIn this third chapter, Jacinta and Raphael combat a cruel, carnal and capricious challenge: the letter C! In this chthonic, charismatic and crooked confrontation, the letter C is for Coercion! There’s nothing covert about these corrigible cases from their collective chronicles!
TW: Alcohol abuse, emotional abuse, rape and sexual assault. This episode has, in general, the potential to be triggering for some listeners. Discretion is advised. We reckon the opening stories, as far as the main theme, are pretty safe to listen to and hope you enjoy those if you choose not to listen further. There is...
2021-01-1547 min
An A to Z of Sex with Men1.02 - B is for BlowjobIn their second episode, Jacinta and Raphael pick the low hanging fruit - bananas? No, B is for Blowjob! Fellatio, Head, Nosh, Blowies, Breakfast… (we’re fairly sure on these) - Their milkshake brings all the boys to the yard.
TW: Emotional abuse in the form of coercion and emotional blackmail (26:50-27:36), and unspoken withdrawal of consent (36:26-37:03).
Twitter/Instagram: @atozwithmen
Facebook: facebook.com/atozwithmen
Email: atozwithmen@gmail.com
#sexwithmen #lowhangingfruit #thedyingpuppylook #honolulu #everytesticleisdifferent
2021-01-0845 min
An A to Z of Sex with Men1.01 - A is for AnalFor their pilot episode, Jacinta and Raphael open the dictionary at the start, where A is for Anal! Together they sift through their personal experiences and revelations from the world of anal sex. From pain to poo, nothing is taboo.
TW: Pregnancy & abortion (5:15-5:41), alcohol abuse (3:00-3:44), emotional abuse (3:00-3:44; plus a reference to emotional blackmail at 26:35-26:55), rape and sexual assault (3:00-3:44).
Twitter/Instagram: @atozwithmen
Facebook: facebook.com/atozwithmen
Email: atozwithmen@gmail.com
#sexwithmen #analattention #partnerofthenow
2021-01-0144 min
An A to Z of Sex with Men0 - T is for TeaserWith the help of the alphabet and a plethora of synonyms, ex-housemates Raphael and Jacinta look back on their turbulent sexual experiences with men. Truthful, funny, exposing - their stories range from the poignant, to the sordid, to the downright hilarious.
Their candid tales (they can and they did) explore the complex dynamics of sex with men. Starting with some alphabetical foreplay, the tension builds with sumptuous sexual stories, culminating in a mutual climax of human connection, and followed by a cathartic post-coital cigarette of feminist and LGBTQ+ empowerment.
From Anal Sex to Zipless Fucks, t...
2020-12-1801 min
The McGill Law Journal PodcastLegal Personality of the Environment, part IIn this two-part podcast, we address the concept of Legal Personality of the Environment. This original idea was brought by Christopher Stone in Should Trees Have Standing?, which was published in the 1970s. Nowadays, granting legal personality to the environment is quite appealing for those who wish to protect natural resources for future generations. In this first episode, we meet with Professor Jacinta Ruru, a Māori legal scholar from the Otago University in New Zealand, to discuss the doctrine and its application in New Zealand. More specifically, we discuss the Te Urewera Act, a legislation that grants legal personality to...
2017-11-3024 min