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Creating an Empowered LifeGratitude and an AnnouncementWe've officially reached 20 episodes of Creating an Empowered Life, and I want to extend my gratitude to you for listening, sharing, and being a part of this journey.Thank you.After 20 episodes, it feels like the right time to take a short creative break. I'll be stepping back briefly to revamp a few systems behind the scenes.In addition to the podcast, I'll be taking another look at the newsletter, the hypnosis sessions, and how everything connects. The goal is to make things smoother, more impactful, and even more aligned with the work...
2025-07-1100 min
Creating an Empowered LifeMaking Better Decisions with Cartesian LogicWe all face decisions that feel complicated or emotionally charged.Sometimes it’s hard to tell what the right next step is or whether there even is a “right” answer.In this episode of Creating an Empowered Life, we explore a powerful decision-making tool from NLP called Cartesian Logic, a framework that helps you slow down, think clearly, and make more intentional choices.You’ll learn how to use four simple, thought-provoking questions to:🔹 Access logic and emotion instead of relying on impulse🔹 Uncover hidden fears and resistance🔹 Make more...
2025-07-0805 min
Creating an Empowered LifeCoaching Isn't MagicWe all want change to feel easier.To finally follow through.To make lasting progress.To stop feeling stuck.In this episode of Creating an Empowered Life, we take a behind-the-scenes look at what coaching is and why real transformation isn’t about magic… It’s about structure and support.You’ll learn how the coaching process helps you:🔹 Clear the emotional baggage holding you back🔹 Create a compelling future that aligns with your values🔹 Take meaningful action and keep momentum goingWe’ll also explore why action...
2025-07-0106 min
Creating an Empowered LifeJamie's JourneyWe all know personal growth takes more than inspiration.It takes tools, practice, and the willingness to do the work, especially when life throws challenges your way.In this episode of Creating an Empowered Life, you’ll hear from Jamie, a client who’s spent the last four years learning and applying what we’ve talked about on this podcast—from the Four Requisites for Change to the Five Principles of Success, and more.Her story is a powerful example of what’s possible when you combine a strong mindset, effective strategy, and genuine fo...
2025-06-2442 min
Creating an Empowered LifeDo What You Can (Even When You Can’t Do It All)We all have days when things don’t go as planned.Maybe you can’t run the full 5 miles.Maybe your schedule gets thrown off.Maybe you don’t hit your original goal.So what do you do?In this episode of Creating an Empowered Life, we explore John Wooden’s advice:“Do not let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do.”You’ll learn how this simple mindset shift can help you:🔹 Stay consistent without falling into all-or-nothing thinking🔹 Build self...
2025-06-1705 min
Creating an Empowered LifeRethinking "1% Better Every Day"You’ve probably heard the phrase “1% better every day.”It sounds motivating, and for some people, it is.Yet when you take a closer look, the phrase starts to fall apart.In this episode of Creating an Empowered Life, we break down why “1% better every day” isn’t as helpful as it seems.You’ll learn:🔹 Why the phrase lacks the specificity needed to guide real progress🔹 How the math behind it creates unrealistic expectations🔹 What to focus on instead to create meaningful, lasting growthWe also explore wh...
2025-06-1006 min
Creating an Empowered LifeYou Don't Have to Fake ItIn this episode of Creating an Empowered Life, Ray challenges the well-worn phrase “Fake it till you make it” and explores why it often backfires. He offers a more grounded, empowering alternative: build on what’s already real. Drawing on NLP concepts, Ray explains how to develop qualities like confidence through practice, rather than relying on performance.Whether you’re working on public speaking, leadership, or simply showing up more fully in life, this episode gives you practical insights to shift from pretending to preparing and create lasting change.🎧 Listen now and discover how to:* Use...
2025-06-0305 min
Creating an Empowered LifeUsing Your Commitments to GrowIn this episode of Creating an Empowered Life, we explore what it means to follow through and what to do when you don’t. Instead of judging the outcome, you’ll learn how to treat your follow-through as feedback, using it to clarify what’s working and where to adjust.You’ll discover how this mindset helps you:🔹 Stop moralizing success or failure🔹 Strengthen self-trust through clearer commitments🔹 Reflect with honesty and curiosity, not pressureWe’ll also walk through practical questions you can use to assess your commitments, improve your strate...
2025-05-2706 min
Creating an Empowered LifeThe Map Is Not the TerritoryWhat if the way you see the world isn’t the world itself and just your version of it?In this episode of Creating an Empowered Life, we look at the idea that the map is not the territory, a reminder that your internal understanding of a situation is not the same as the situation itself.You’ll learn how this mindset can help you:🔹 Separate perception from reality🔹 Communicate more clearly by understanding others’ perspectives🔹 Recognize and update the beliefs that shape your personal “map”We’ll also walk through...
2025-05-2006 min
Creating an Empowered LifeWhy “I Can’t” Isn’t Always What It SeemsWhat if the problem isn’t that you “can’t” and it’s that you don’t know how… yet?In this episode of Creating an Empowered Life, we explore the difference between belief issues and strategy gaps. Both can lead to the same phrase, "I can't do it," and they require very different solutions.You’ll learn how to recognize the real source of the challenge so you can:🔹 Avoid solving the wrong problem🔹 Choose tools that actually fit the situation🔹 Move forward with more clarity and confidenceWhether you’re feeli...
2025-05-1304 min
Creating an Empowered LifeThe Meaning of Communication Is the Response You GetWhat if communication had less to do with what you said and more to do with what the other person heard?In this episode of Creating an Empowered Life, we explore one of the foundational presuppositions of NLP: The meaning of communication is the response you get. This shift in perspective helps you become a more effective communicator, especially when your message isn’t landing the way you hoped.You’ll learn how embracing this mindset can:🔹 Make you more accountable for your message🔹 Help you build stronger trust and connection🔹 Enc...
2025-05-0606 min
Creating an Empowered LifeThere is Only FeedbackWhat if you stopped labeling outcomes as success or failure and started treating them all as feedback?In this episode of Creating an Empowered Life, we explore one of the foundational presuppositions of NLP: There is only feedback. This mindset shift helps you move out of self-criticism and into curiosity, so you can learn, adjust, and grow from every experience.You’ll learn how applying this perspective can:🔹 Reframe setbacks as learning opportunities🔹 Encourage experimentation and creativity🔹 Build resilience so you can bounce back fasterWe’ll also walk thr...
2025-04-2905 min
Creating an Empowered LifeWhy the Models MatterEver been told to “just use your tools” and found yourself wondering which one?In this episode of Creating an Empowered Life, we bring together the core models covered in previous episodes: the Four Requisites for Change, the Five Principles of Success, and Logical Levels. You’ll learn how these models work together and why they matter when you’re trying to create meaningful, lasting change.Instead of guessing what to do next, the models give you structure, clarity, and leverage.🔹 Discover how to choose the right tool for the right moment🔹 Learn t...
2025-04-2205 min
Creating an Empowered LifeUsing Logical Levels to Create ChangeMany people try to change their behavior or environment first and wonder why the change doesn’t last.In this episode of Creating an Empowered Life, we explore how to use Robert Dilts’ Logical Levels model to create real, lasting transformation by starting at the top. You'll learn why top-down change (starting with purpose, identity, and beliefs) creates deeper motivation and alignment than trying to push through with action alone.🔹 Understand the difference between bottom-up and top-down change🔹 Learn how each level of the model influences the others🔹 Get a step-by-step guide to appl...
2025-04-1506 min
Creating an Empowered LifeUnderstanding Logical LevelsEver feel stuck when working toward a goal or unsure where to start making a change?In this episode of Creating an Empowered Life, I introduce Robert Dilts’ Logical Levels—a practical framework for personal and professional growth. You'll learn how to apply this model to any challenge by working through six levels: Environment, Behavior, Capabilities, Beliefs & Values, Identity, and Purpose.This episode walks you through each level so you can pinpoint where change is needed and create deeper alignment across all areas of your life.🔹 Understand how each level influences your success 🔹...
2025-04-0807 min
Creating an Empowered LifeLiteral and Inferential Communication StylesUnderstanding Literal and Inferential Communication StylesEver drop a hint and get no response? Or get frustrated when someone seems to miss what feels obvious? You might be bumping up against a difference in communication style.In this episode of Creating an Empowered Life, we explore a powerful NLP concept: the difference between Literal and Inferential communication styles. This Meta-Program helps explain how people express and interpret meaning and why misunderstandings happen even when everyone has the best intentions.You’ll learn how to recognize both styles, adapt your own approach, and improve yo...
2025-04-0106 min
Creating an Empowered LifeCelebrate at 90%Many people wait until the very end to celebrate their progress and then wonder why they run out of steam.In this episode of Creating an Empowered Life, we explore the strategy of Celebrate at 90%. It’s a simple shift in timing that can help you maintain momentum, reignite motivation, and stay in motion toward your next compelling goal.You’ll learn how this fits into the larger framework of personal transformation and how to apply it using a practical, three-step approach.For more personal development content, visit my Substack.For coac...
2025-03-2506 min
Creating an Empowered LifeThe Five Principles of SuccessWhat does it take to turn goals into results?In this episode of Creating an Empowered Life, we explore The Five Principles of Success—a practical model that helps you take focused, effective action toward your goals. If you're looking for a framework to guide your next steps, these principles will support your ongoing progress.You'll learn how these five principles work together to keep you aligned, adaptable, and in motion so you can stay consistent even when challenges arise.For more personal development content, visit my Substack.For coaching and ot...
2025-03-1807 min
Creating an Empowered LifeThe Four Requisites for ChangeCreating lasting change isn’t just about wanting something different. It’s about intentionally creating it.In this episode of Creating an Empowered Life, we break down The Four Requisites for Change. It’s a simple yet powerful framework for making real, sustainable transformation.We’ll explore the four key elements that drive lasting change: Release Work, Create a Compelling Future, Take Action, and Maintain Focus.By understanding and applying these principles, you can break free from old patterns, stay on track, and create meaningful results in your life.For more personal...
2025-03-1106 min
Creating an Empowered LifeYour Circle of InfluenceWho you surround yourself with has a profound impact on your success and happiness. In this episode of Creating an Empowered Life, we explore the power of your circle of influence and I guide you through a simple yet powerful exercise to assess and design the network that supports your growth.We’ll take a look at the people who guide you, those who are on the journey with you, and those you’re mentoring. It’s an opportunity to reflect, make adjustments, and be intentional about the influences in your life.For more personal develo...
2025-03-0407 min
Creating an Empowered LifeStop Searching, Start Creating MotivationEver feel like your motivation… disappears? You're not alone. In this episode of Creating an Empowered Life, I dive into why some motivation tactics often fail and share a powerful strategy to help you create motivation from within. It's all about aligning your values with a compelling vision for your future. Listen now to learn more!For more personal development content, please visit my Substack.For more information on coaching and other resources, please visit MyCoachRay.com.If you'd like to support the show, please check out the show’s support page. ...
2025-02-2506 min
Civil RhetoricNuero Linguistic Programming with RayIn this episode Ray Ciafardini, Jr. joins us to explore the world of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). Ray shares his journey into NLP, its foundational principles, and how it serves as a tool for personal transformation. The conversation delves into the methodology of NLP, the importance of behavioral flexibility, and the common profiles of clients seeking NLP coaching. Ray emphasizes the significance of results over labels like 'pseudoscience' and outlines the structured approach he takes with clients, including the four requisites for change.
Where to Find Coach Ray:
https://www.mycoachray.com/
https://linktr.ee/mycoachray
2025-02-011h 02
Psyched Minds PodcastCoaching the 5 principles of success, relationship of emotions, belief and actions - Ray CiafardiniRay Ciafardini, Jr. is an NLP coach and trainer. He is certified by the Association for Integrative Psychology (AIP) as a Trainer of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), Mental and Emotional Release® (MER), and hypnosis. Since starting his coaching practice, My Coach Ray, LLC, in 2016, he has helped people create breakthroughs in areas of life such as career, relationships, health, and personal development.
In this episode expect to learn:
The principles of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) coaching, the importance of understanding emotions, beliefs, and values in shaping behavior, the five principles of success in NLP, the distinction between feeling better and being b...
2024-10-141h 08
Created in the Image of GodRepentance and New Year's Resolution with Ray Ciafardini Jr.| Created in the Image of God Episode 28Join us on Created in the Image of God as we interview Personal Coach/Trainer Ray Ciafardini Jr. in our ongoing exploration of The Role of Religion in Society. Tonight’s show is inspired by Leonard Cohen’s Song “The Future,” which we can’t play because of copyright issues, maybe one day - but we’ll focus on reflection and change in the context of my personal go-to virtue - accountability. In a religious context, this is called “repentance,” - but to lighten up the topic, we’ll look at it through the oversimplified, naive and counterproductive. The popularized ve...
2024-03-271h 02
New Age HumanNAH 18: Exploring the Inner World: A Deep Dive into the Mindset Behind NLPSend us a textIn this episode we bring Ray Ciafardini, Jr. back for a deeper glimpse into the world of neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) and what is actually happening in the mind. Ray stresses that using all of our senses is crucial for effective learning and that we must learn to live in harmony with technology rather than seeing it as a toxic force. He also raises awareness of the use of anchoring in advertising, and how it can influence our emotions and purchasing decisions. We talk about the concept of MK Ultra and how hypnosis can...
2023-01-1147 min
New Age HumanNAH 15: WHAT IS NEUROLIGUISTIC PROGRAMING?Send us a textIn this episode we chat with Ciafardini, Jr., who is an NLP Coach! Ray’s goal is to empower people in their careers, health, and relationships to increase their income, live fulfilling lives, and have amazing relationships.MORE ABOUT RAY:Since starting his coaching practice, My Coach Ray, in 2016, Ray has used an integrative approach to empower people in their careers, health, and relationships to increase their income, live fulfilling lives, and have amazing relationships.Through his programs like Revealing Your Why and the Uncommon Growth Community, pe...
2022-12-2043 min
Business Owner Breakthrough PodcastBetter Language = Better Leader with Ray Ciafardini Jr.Text PeteRay Ciafardini joins me again for another great interview all around the power of language. The words that you use matter and can make you or break you as a leader. Ray’s an NLP coach and goes through some great examples of how words can be misunderstood. So many actionable things to think about in this podcast!Here’s a glance at what you’ll learn from our discussion in this episode:The meaning of communication is in the response we get.It doesn’t matter what you say, it matters what the...
2021-09-2816 min
Business Owner Breakthrough PodcastGuide your team to find their own solutions with Ray Ciafardini Jr.Text PeteThis is a great chat with Ray Ciafardini, an NLP coach and trainer where we discuss a lot of great stuff in a short period of time!Here’s a glance at what you’ll learn from our discussion in this episode:The difference between teaching and telling. Don’t deprive others of handling their own challenges. Work in your zone of genius, and let others work in theirs. The idea that quitting and leaving is better for the organization than someone that quits and stays. Go to www.mycoachray.com to learn mo...
2021-06-2213 min
Retire Well Retire Happy PodcastMore Baby Boomers Are Facing The Poverty Trap in RetirementWe can't all live off social security so where is the other money from? Ray Ciafardini host of the Radical Retirement Podcast helps to shin the light on the number of baby boomers that have not saved for retirement. Nobody wants to end up Old and Broke. So why are so many baby boomers falling into the poverty trap.
2018-10-0427 min
Couples & Money Success SystemCouples And Money Success System Transformational Recruiting With Rhino Ray Part 2 Long Island NYRay Ciafardini’s BeLoved Miracles story is a strong one, with deep roots. The kind of roots which one develops overcoming challenges, together, or not at all. Ray is Head Rhino at Rhino Marketing Concepts twice divorced father of 2 grown sons. After 6 months of getting nowhere looking for a traditional job, he turned to the Internet. There he found a new career as an Internet marketer.Today Ray is contributing to the BeLoved Miracles Team doing Phase I Transformational Recruiting of individuals and couples.Ray just recently you welcomed two new couple to our Cou...
2017-05-0841 min