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The Art of PresenceGinetteOn this episode, I am joined by Ginette. She is excited to share an ah-ha moment she had that day about something she had been struggling to understand and is now super clear about. Join us as we practice being present with what is going on for her in this moment. I invite you to notice anything that comes up for you while you listen. Mentioned in this podcast: Rebecca Thompson Hitt at www.consciouslyparenting.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.2024-01-0946 min
Inspire Nation Show with Michael SandlerHow Your Birth Experience Affects Your LIFE! Heal Your Birth Story with Rebecca Thompson HittIf you’ve ever wanted to move past subconscious blocks and negative patterns that are holding you back then do we have the healing birth stories show for you. Today I'll be talking with Rebecca Thompson Hitt about how healing stories can help us get past our traumas, uncover hidden patterns and help us heal our origin wounds. Rebecca Thompson Hitt, the author of three books on conscious parenting, the founder of the consciously parenting newsletter and a pioneer behind healing stories, which are for everyone. Key Topic...2022-09-301h 12
The Consciously Parenting PodcastRaising Boys Q&A: Deescalation TechniquesRaising Boys Welcome to our final conversation with Nathan McTague of The Center for Emotional Education. This portion of the conversation is about deescalation. Rebecca and Nathan look at how intentionally connecting with our children throughout their childhood can help us when we get to the teen years, by giving them and us the tools needed to move through intense emotions as they come up, before they escalate into something hard to handle. They also discuss ways to compassionately work with our teens in those situations where emotions have gotten very intense and the situation...2020-04-1925 minThe Consciously Parenting PodcastRaising Boys Q&A: Maintaining Connection Through the Teen YearsRaising Boys We’re back again with Nathan McTague for more Q&A about raising boys. This portion of the conversation is about teenagers, and how to maintain connection with them as they make their way toward adulthood. There is territory that can be tricky, with developing brains wired differently than before. Emotions often come up that may be more intense than before, and teens have a strong, natural urge to become an individual with one’s own identity. If we have laid the groundwork by modeling healthy relating, by empowering our children to b...2020-04-1943 minThe Consciously Parenting PodcastRaising Boys Q&A: Encouraging connection with othersRaising Boys We’re back this week with Nathan McTague, the co-founder of the Center for Emotional Education and co-creator of the Feeleez line of social and emotional learning tools. He’s a long-time parent educator and full-time father. Our conversation today is about modeling healthy relationships for our children. We want to prepare them to recognize and develop healthy relationships once they go out into the world. Many of us were brought up without this behavior being modeled. Instead, we were simply told the “proper” way to behave. Rebecca and Nathan explore what it means to use relations...2020-04-1925 minThe Consciously Parenting PodcastRaising Boys Q&A: Talking Bodies and SexRaising Boys Q&A: Talking about Bodies and Sex with Your Kids Jamie’s Question: I am loving being a boy-mama. My sons are almost 10 & 12. The “challenges” I’m having are (although I don’t have a “problem” with this – just mystified confusion) why EVERYTHING relates to a penis. Everything. “Heh-heh…that rock looks like a penis, you smell like a penis, that cloud looks like a penis. PENIS.” LOL!! But… why?? I don’t remember hearing girls talk about vaginas. And I’m wondering how much I should “push” to have conversations about sex & sexual...2020-04-1927 minThe Consciously Parenting PodcastRaising Boys Q&A: Healthy MasculinityRaising Boys Q&A: Healthy Masculinity We start our conversation today by discussing toxic masculinity. This can often refer to a way that we culturally train boys becoming men to relate to others in ways that are not respectful or connecting, and then missing empathy and the ability to manage feelings. Healthy people are able to connect with themselves and others, to respect themselves and others, and able to be with their own feelings and the feelings of the people in their lives. We want to talk about the ways that we can...2020-04-1930 minThe Consciously Parenting PodcastRaising Boys Q&A: Wiping, Connection, & RespectRaising Boys I’m excited to welcome Nathan McTague back as we discuss some questions that listeners sent in. We heard from many of you that you enjoyed our discussion about raising emotionally-healthy boys, and we hope you enjoy the Q&A as well. We’ll be spending the next three episodes on listener questions. In this episode, we start with early life and the developmental process that happens, and weaving in empathy and connection as our children grow into adults. Question: Why can’t my kid just wipe? Let’s talk abo...2020-04-1918 minThe Consciously Parenting PodcastRaising Emotionally Healthy Boys (part 2)Raising Boys We’re back again this week with Nathan McTague to continue our discussion on raising emotionally-healthy boys. If you didn’t hear the beginning of our conversation, you can find it here: Episode #40. In this episode, we talk about how to support our children when they are angry or upset. Similar to when children are little, we can use the skill of being patient and waiting, being with them to name their emotions but not trying to make anything specific happen faster. We may feel uncomfortable with them feeling uncomfortable, so we want to fix...2020-04-1919 minThe Consciously Parenting PodcastRaising Emotionally Healthy Boys (part 1)Raising Boys How can we best support our boys when they are young and as they grow into men? There are many cultural messages for boys around feelings, so how do we navigate that territory? How do we stay respectful of our boys’ biology and neurobiology? We want to make sure we are creating the space for their emotions and really respecting that they’re different than we are as women and moms. In this episode, Rebecca talks with Nathan McTague of The Center for Emotional Education. They discuss how emotion is actually processed in the b...2020-04-1930 minThe Consciously Parenting PodcastMoms’ thoughts about raising boysBoys. Whether you’re expecting a boy or already have one in your family, we want to do our best to raise them to be emotionally healthy members of our families and then their own families one day. But how do we do raise emotionally healthy boys? We begin our podcast series about Raising Boys with a conversation between two moms – Lianne March and Rebecca Thompson Hitt, both moms of boys. Lianne has a 13-year-old son and Rebecca has two sons, aged 14 and 19. Today’s conversation tackles understanding emotional patterns in your family as it...2020-04-1527 minThe Consciously Parenting PodcastYou can put “Sad” in your pocketToday I wanted to share a tool I came up with recently, along the lines of helping kids with separation. I shared a lot of my experience with my son’s difficulty separating in Podcast Episode #17, which was about educational choices but moved into figuring out our kids’ “growing edge” and supporting them where they are, whether it’s about going to school or doing other activities. I have gotten a lot of great feedback from that from other parents who feel pressured to push their kids to separate before they’re ready, or judged because their kids aren’t...2020-04-1509 minThe Consciously Parenting PodcastGun Violence: Supporting Your KidsGun Violence, Safety, and Support for Families Supporting Your Kids - Understanding your child’s perspective of gun violence and how you can support them. Kids will show you that something is bothering them through their behavior, not necessarily with words. They may be more aggressive than usual. They may seem sullen or quieter than normal. They may seem to have more energy. They may start to get sick more frequently or more severely. Our culture may label these things as misbehaviors or unrelated to things that have happened, but I’ve learned that most of t...2020-04-1515 minThe Consciously Parenting PodcastGun Violence: Finding Your Mama BearGun Violence, Safety, and Support for Families Finding your Mama Bear is about your perception of safety and doing something. It’s about the need to keep our children safe and how that impacts our nervous systems. Find ways to be proactive – whether that’s pulling your child out of school until the problems are properly addressed at least in the short term, finding programs or efforts that you support that you feel are moving things in the right direction – whatever that means to you. In the first week of our series on Gun Violenc...2020-04-1512 minThe Consciously Parenting PodcastGun Violence as a Collective TraumaGun Violence, Safety, and Support for Families Safety is one of the most basic human needs, and the repeated occurrence of such attacks on helpless, and often arbitrarily chosen victims, takes away from people’s ability to trust that they will be relatively safe as they go out into their world. The collective trauma that many Americans have experienced in bearing witness to such tragedies in schools and other public spaces, that either are part of their daily environment or resemble them closely, has caused many people to develop an ongoing defensive stance that can resemb...2020-04-1514 minThe Consciously Parenting PodcastGun Violence: Listening to UnderstandGun Violence, Safety, and Support for Families We have a serious problem in the United States of America with gun violence. It feels really scary to us and we’ve felt powerless to make it stop. This podcast series is about gun violence, safety, and support for families, In this first episode, we’re going to be looking at what it takes to really listen to understand, and another way we can look at what’s happening with the boys and men in our culture that I haven’t seen anyone talking about. Next week, we...2020-04-1516 minThe Consciously Parenting PodcastConfronting Gender StereotypesHave you ever been to a toy store with your kids? I’m sure you probably have, even if you try to avoid it. As the mother of 2 boys, I’ve spent my fair share of time at Toys R Us (much to my great dismay). Have you walked through the store and noticed the how the colors indicate whether that section is meant for boys or girls? When I once went to a store looking for a present for a friend’s daughter, I was really surprised by the bright pink aisle and the fact that the to...2020-04-1535 minThe Consciously Parenting PodcastWhen do parents need to step in and help?Last week, we talked to Afsaneh Moradian about the importance of unstructured playtime. Today we continue our conversation with Afsaneh to talk about when and how to let our kids work things out without jumping in to fix it or solve it, and when they really do need our help Much of parenting is about figuring out when to coach, when to intervene, when to be the mama bear and when to watch and have a conversation after. This is very much an art for any person spending time with these developing human beings. Sometimes...2020-04-1526 minThe Consciously Parenting PodcastThe Importance of Unstructured PlaytimeThis week we are beginning a new podcast series about the importnce of unstructured playtime, with Afsaneh Moradian, author of the upcoming book Jamie is Jamie. Unstructured play means kids get to do whatever they want to do, inside or outside, using what is available to them. The main thing is that they are choosing what to do. It is not about an adult offering ideas and suggestions, but the child looks around to see what’s available and chooses what to do. Maybe they will make up some play based on something they saw on...2020-04-1536 minThe Consciously Parenting PodcastTranscending Your TriggersIn this final discussion with Carrie Contey, we take the topic of triggers beyond the day-to-day experience of stress and struggle to the level of personal transcendence. It’s a delicious conversation that will refuel your parenting energy. Here, we’re offering a broader perspective of what it means to be triggered into a stressful reaction in your daily life with kids. This is the last (wonderful) piece to the puzzle of what to do about being triggered as a parent. Recap: The first step is awareness around your personal stress triggers and how...2020-04-1515 minThe Consciously Parenting PodcastTransforming Your TriggersUnless your parents were highly unique and parented consciously ahead of their time, you were likely disciplined and/or punished for behaviors in an effort to be “socialized.” Mainstream or traditional parenting centered around creating submissive and compliant children who “knew their place.” The shift is underway, however, and children are coming into a place of more respect and understanding. Parents must consciously attend to their own conditioning and wiring in order to parent this way. It takes awareness and commitment to overcome the past and move toward a different future for your family. Transforming reactivi...2020-04-1519 minThe Consciously Parenting PodcastTaming Your Triggers with guest expert Carrie ConteyWe’ve all had them. Some are small, others overwhelming. If you’re here, you’re a step ahead in that you’re aware that you have them. Parenting brings them on in full force. We’re talking about triggers with guest parenting expert Carrie Contey. Triggers are those situations that uniquely activate your stress response. They’re personal and based on individual perceptions. Triggers are so unique and personal because they touch on past pain, often from childhood. The same situation can have one parent outraged while another simply laughs. Triggers wait in the depths of ou...2020-04-1523 minThe Consciously Parenting PodcastEmotional Healing After TraumaFor the past couple of weeks, I have joined Rebecca on The Consciously Parenting Podcast to talk about Healing Stories. I have always loved the concept of Healing Stories, and have been privileged to help several families to heal from difficult births and other experiences with this tool. It’s something we do in our family every single day, to heal the small hurts as well as bigger hurts. Today I want to share more of my own experience with Story Healing after there’s been a trauma. Trigger Warning My story may be triggering to some...2020-04-1535 minThe Consciously Parenting PodcastHealing Stories in Everyday LifeHealing Stories Rebecca and Lianne are back again this week to talk about how stories can help with the small hurts and disappointments of everyday life. Story Healing isn’t just a technique to be used when there is trauma, but it can be an effective tool to help move through normal tantrums and upsets. Consciously Parenting Principle #2 reminds us that there is nothing more important than the parent-child relationship. The discussion today is full of examples of putting the relationship first and strengthening our connection with our children. By slowing down and acknowledging their ev...2020-04-1530 minThe Consciously Parenting PodcastAn Overview of Healing StoriesJoin Rebecca and Lianne March as they discuss Healing Stories in this three-part podcast series. This first episode in the series explains what Healing Stories is all about, as well as more detail about how Healing Stories can help families in the early days and weeks after birth. It’s a common misconception that babies don’t remember things from early in life. It’s true, they may not consciously remember (though some do). However, their bodies definitely remember, and events from the womb and during birth do often have an impact. Rebecca and Lianne have w...2020-04-1536 minThe Consciously Parenting PodcastA Family’s Experience with Special NeedsListen in on another open conversation with Angelle. She’s a mom of 3 children, both adopted and biological, two of whom have special needs. Angelle shares how the family discovered the special needs and how they were diagnosed over time. A story that many can relate to, Angelle went to countless specialists searching for answers and support. The kids were in school, then homeschooled, tutored, public, private…. and back to public schools in a new town. The process of hunting down a solution was crushing Angelle. Once a kind friend pointed her in the...2020-04-1542 minThe Consciously Parenting PodcastOne Family’s Educational JourneyListen in on a heartfelt conversation with Angelle. She’s a mom of 3 children, both adopted and biological. Angelle has learned to work with the challenges familiar to most parents of children with special needs. Angelle and her husband went from searching for diagnoses for their children through a multitude of testing, to leaving public school for traditional homeschooling, then tried unschooling, then to private school, and then back to public school! All along the way, conscious of the choices and the many considerations to take into account. While searching for the right learning environment, An...2020-04-1533 minThe Consciously Parenting PodcastA Focus on Passion in EducationIn my continued conversation with Tanya and her 16 year old son Gavin about their educational choices, you’ll hear a refreshing perspective on following your intuition and trusting yourself. Tanya calls on parents to turn trust we’ve traditionally given to societal systems back to ourselves and our children – whether kids are in schools or not. Gavin shares his perspective on his learning and his current interests, which includes photography. He describes what unschooling looks like for him on a regular day. Both Tanya and Gavin emphasize personal freedom, and the impact it has on...2020-04-1523 minThe Consciously Parenting PodcastFrom Public School to UnschoolingI’d like to introduce you to Tanya and her 16-year-old son, Gavin. They currently live in New York, but I met them when they were living in St. Petersburg, Florida several years ago. I also had the privilege of hosting Gavin for a month in Mexico with my son, so I got to see firsthand what Gavin has been up to for his schooling. I’ve really only known them as an unschooling family, so I did find myself in awe of their journey and where they started, and even what it looked like when they firs...2020-04-1525 minThe Consciously Parenting PodcastThe Old Story and The New Story of Consciously ParentingWhen I became a parent, I had an idea of how I wanted to be in relationship to my son. But I didn’t understand just how much I was carrying around from my own experiences growing up in my own family and in this culture. The Old Story of human development and family life is all about “power over” instead of “working with.” It’s about discipline that really means punishment, and boundaries that really mean to inflict pain on someone else to get them to do what we want. I wanted a different story. This isn’t about...2020-04-1516 minThe Consciously Parenting PodcastConnecting Our Past and FutureWhat are the origins of your concepts of love and respect? Can you separate the way you desire to parent from unhelpful past models? Much of traditional parenting rests on a hierarchy of power and control. Love is a reward, based on meeting certain conditions. Respect is born of fear. If children fear their parents, they will respect them and obey them, hoping to earn their love by meeting their parents' conditions. A new model of consciously parenting is emerging. This model places unconditional love as the basis of all healthy relationships. Respect...2020-04-1509 minThe Consciously Parenting PodcastMeeting Unique NeedsConsciously parenting runs through all areas of life, including learning environments. Instead of pushing through life, rolling over and shutting down emotional responses – both in ourselves and with our children – consciously parenting takes a different route. Children’s emotions are allowed, valued, and approached with care. The totality of each individual’s temperament and perspective is welcomed during day-to-day experiences. Conscious parents feel for the growing edge, and then layer on necessary support. This process changes over time, but open conversations and mutual respect are always involved. While we accept there will always be ebb a...2020-04-1534 minThe Consciously Parenting PodcastChanging Educational PathsHow do you know when it’s time to leap into the unknown and take a new educational path? Can happiness really be the touchstone we turn to when making family decisions? Most of us grew up without the opportunity to choose our own educational path. Once on a particular path, our culture promotes commitment and follow through. “No pain, no gain.” This paradigm makes us feel unsure when we begin to question our current situation and how it makes us feel. Sometimes we aren’t sure we can even look over all the available choices...2020-04-1520 minThe Consciously Parenting PodcastFinding Your Family’s Educational PathWhat did school look like when you were growing up? If you’re like most, you probably went to either a public or private school and you probably had no input into that decision. With the current school climate of testing and lots of homework, many families are really looking at what makes the most sense for their families in terms of how we educate our kids in a way that our parents probably didn’t. It creates a whole series of decisions that add to the craziness of parenting today. Yet deciding on the educ...2020-04-1520 minThe Consciously Parenting PodcastAn Attached Parent for LifeWhat is a “normal parent”? Can conscious parents look to others in our culture for attached parent models? Studies are showing the number of children experiencing healthy emotional attachment are “abysmally low” for a modern and “advanced” society. Is parenting keeping pace with progress? Parents today need courage to step away from the mainstream practices that are failing to foster healthy attachment. We’ve been led to think that parenting with attachment in mind takes more time and effort than traditional parenting – that it’s just a lot of unhappy extra work. The idea that ma...2020-04-1533 minThe Consciously Parenting PodcastIs Your Parenting Leading to Secure Attachment?Maybe you’ve seen the articles and memes, or heard the jokes that portray attachment parenting as extreme, unattainable, and actually harmful to the parents that attempt it. Is attachment parenting realistic? Is it desirable? Is it only for privileged parents? Or is it attainable for all? Must we meet the many “requirements” of attachment parenting for our kids to be happy and healthy? What does it really mean to be an attached parent? Parents today are being given mixed messages about attachment parenting. With heavy workloads, lack of support, children with high needs, and confli...2020-04-1519 minThe Consciously Parenting PodcastWhat is Attachment? Is it different from Attachment Parenting?When I had my first child, I had been studying attachment theory (John Bowlby) and wanted to create a relationship with my child that created a secure base for him. I found attachment parenting and wondered if it would create the “secure attachment” I wanted my son to have – the kind of attachment that would allow him to reach out when he needed, and to be resilient. Knowing that early attachment influenced later well-being, I wanted to figure it out! When I had my son, I used a lot of attachment parenting strategies because they felt good to us...2020-04-1516 minThe Consciously Parenting PodcastWhy I Gave Up PunishmentWhen my son was about 4, I was truly at a cross-road. I wanted to parent with love and respect, but I found myself using punishment to try to change his behaviors. I realized in that process that I didn’t want to hurt my child to teach him how to behave. I didn’t want to deal with him harshly. In the long term I didn’t think that would help him. I knew when I was punished when I was growing up that any behavior change came from a place of fear. If I changed my behavi...2020-04-1516 minThe Consciously Parenting PodcastRespectful Boundaries with Our KidsWe’ve been talking about boundaries – finding them within ourselves and with others outside of our families. Many of the parents I talk to who have trouble with the metaphorical “Uncle Bob” also have a challenge setting boundaries with their own kids. Today’s episode, Christy Farr and Rebecca Thompson Hitt talk about what healthy, respectful and loving boundaries can look like with your kids. What I found really interesting about this conversation is how much overlap there can really be with your child and with the metaphorical “Uncle Bob.” Sometimes it’s a soft boundary and they really didn...2020-04-1421 minThe Consciously Parenting PodcastBoundaries (part 2) with Christy FarrWe’ve all had those moments when we’re just not sure how to handle something from a relative or other person outside the family. Maybe it’s your mother-in-law who just doesn’t understand why your family is vegetarian and keeps feeding your child chicken every time you’re away. Or maybe they’re putting down your parenting in front of your child. What do we do?! There are the people that you just let go when they don’t understand what you’re doing in your family and then there are the others that you need to stay in...2020-04-1421 minThe Consciously Parenting PodcastBoundaries (part 1) with Christy FarrIt seems to be in the air lately. “What do I do about Uncle Bob? He keeps telling me that I’m going to ruin my son the way I’m parenting. It isn’t working for me, but I have no idea what to do about it. I need to preserve this relationship, so I can’t tell him to go fly a kite or whatever else I’d like to tell him to do, but I’m not sure how to navigate it. I don’t really have the tools.” This question has been repeated over and over agai...2020-04-1421 minThe Consciously Parenting PodcastShow Up With What You HaveCreating Community It was 2004. I had a new baby, my partner was traveling a lot for work, we were all on a special diet, my oldest was having a very hard time with life and I was pulling my hair out. My neighbor told me that I should just go get McDonald’s to make my life easier, but that wasn’t really what I really needed or wanted. I needed help and I needed community. Maybe you’ve been in a similar situation yourself? Around this time, a group of friends came together because we all...2020-04-1419 minThe Consciously Parenting PodcastGrowing Community OrganicallyWe’ve been talking with Scott Noelle about creating community. In our final episode of this three-part series, we talk about some real-life examples of how a community of families can come together organically and how our needs and our kids needs change over time. I’ve found in my own experiences of changing needs and changes in the way my community looks that it is so important for us to know ourselves so we can create what our family needs at any given time. It can feel so hard to find community, with so many barriers comp...2020-04-0121 minThe Consciously Parenting PodcastCreating a VillageFinding and creating community where you are means that you need to find other people who hold some similar values. I remember wanting to find others who answered all the questions the same way I did- vaccination, circumcision, co-sleeping, gentle discipline, extended breastfeeding, healthy whole foods, working outside the home, etc. But the reality was that I didn’t find people who had all the same answers. And if I had limited myself to people with all the same answers, I would have missed out on some amazing friendships! For me, I discovered that I wa...2020-04-0131 minThe Consciously Parenting PodcastFrom the Inside-OutFrom the first time I read The Continuum Concept, I was struck by the completely different experiences that indigenous communities had compared to what I was experiencing in my own home alone with my baby all day. I longed for more connection, but had no idea how to create it for myself or my baby. My baby is now an adult, but I still long for this kind of community. I also hear every day from parents who are looking for others to connect with and support one another, whether virtually or in real life.2020-04-0120 minThe Consciously Parenting PodcastAll Behavior is CommunicationAs parents, there are times when we are completely perplexed by our child’s behavior. “Why did she hit another child?” “Why did he just explode over that?!” And even, “Why did I just lose it over that?” Then, most importantly, “What can we do that will really, truly help?” When we remember that All Behavior is a Communication, it’s a starting point to understanding and helping our children to learn. We don’t always understand what our child is communicating through their behavior or what the real needs underneath the be...2020-04-0121 minThe Consciously Parenting PodcastWhat is Your Family's Culture?Reading has always been something that I’ve loved to share with my kids. We’ve explored so many worlds together and have created the shared vocabulary from reading these books together. We enjoy books like Harry Potter and Septimus Heap where there is a whole world fantasy world being created through words. And I have spent countless hours reading out loud to them, snuggled up on the couch with my kids, even when other things weren’t going all that well. That’s what worked for me and my family. But not every family loves to sit and...2020-04-0125 minThe Consciously Parenting PodcastChocolate, Not MedicineIt’s time for our second podcast and our second in a series with Pam Leo, author of Connection Parenting and founder of The Book Fairy Pantry Project. We hope you enjoyed our first conversation about connecting through reading, storytelling, and singing. Today you’ll have access to Part 2 where we talk about what this looks like in daily life. Let us know what you think of this conversation and be sure to share it with your friends if you find it helpful! In our second conversation in our series with Pam Leo, we explore what connection throu...2020-04-0120 min
All Relationships Can HealFun Friday: Finding PresenceWhen I think of the word presence, I don’t really think of fun. Maybe that’s true for you, too. I think of someone sitting in a lotus position meditating, trying to let the thoughts go and coming back to their breath. That doesn’t sound like FUN to me. Peaceful, yes. But fun, no. But what if I told you that when we’re having fun, we’re actually in the present moment? Today we’re going to be talking about FUN and what it has to do with being more present and some ideas for what it...2019-11-2206 minAll Relationships Can HealThankful Thursday: Self and Community CareWhen a relationship isn’t working well in your life, it’s essential to find ways to take good care of yourself and find the community resources that make that possible. Most of us are under-supported when things are going well, but there is an even bigger chasm between what we need and what we are getting in terms of support when we’re stressed out or having a difficult time. My name is Rebecca Thompson Hitt and this is Thankful Thursday on the All Relationships Can Heal podcast. Today we’re going to be talking about the impo...2019-11-2106 minAll Relationships Can HealWisdom Wednesday: Respectful BoundariesA boundary is when we say ‘no.’ It might be ‘no’ to your toddler playing in the street or a ‘no’ to an unhealthy relationship. Some people have ‘no’ down really well. Others really struggle with it. But very few have the ‘no’ down with room for feelings and respect. This is an essential part of healthy relationships and boundaries are a critical part of healing relationships. I’m Rebecca Thompson Hitt and this is the All Relationships Can Heal podcast. Today is Wisdom Wednesday and we’re talking about Respectful Boundaries. Visit the episode webpage for more at https://consciou...2019-11-2006 minAll Relationships Can HealTime-In Tuesday: Time for FeelingsFeelings are often misunderstood, and a lot of effort goes into distracting our kids and even sometimes ourselves from our feelings. When we can create the space for our own feelings and our kids’ feelings or the feelings of our loved ones, we actually create more opportunity for healing to happen. Today is Time-In Tuesday and we’re talking about feelings and what they have to do with healing. Visit the episode webpage for more at https://consciouslyparenting.com/archpodcasts/24.2019-11-1905 minAll Relationships Can HealMindful Monday: The Stories We BelieveRelationships are created out of the experiences that happen in real life and the stories we make up about the things that happened. These stories can be true or maybe not quite true. And these stories can help us to heal or they can make things worse. Today we’re going to talk about those stories, where they come from, and what that has to do with healing. Visit the episode webpage for more at https://consciouslyparenting.com/archpodcasts/23. 2019-11-1806 minAll Relationships Can HealFun Friday: Why Moving MattersWe’ve been talking about my 8 Guiding Principles and this last week, we’ve explored the first 4. Today, I would love to talk about fun in the midst of healing. We can’t stay in the intensity of the way most people think about healing. AND healing needs to include fun. So much of what we experience that needs to be healed is held in our bodies. And for many of us, that means we disconnect in some ways from our bodies. When our kids are given the space, they move their bodies, sometimes in annoying ways. As adults, we need to do...2019-11-1506 minAll Relationships Can HealThankful for Behaviors ThursdayWhen we think about difficult behaviors, very seldom are we thankful. Most of the time, understandably, we just want those behaviors to stop. So much parenting information suggests that we ignore or we punish behaviors if we don’t like them and that is supposed to make changes. But behaviors actually give us clues about the things that have happened to us earlier in our lives that are trying to heal. What if we could bring curiosity into the behaviors we see in ourselves and in our loved ones? Would that give us more space to actually se...2019-11-1406 minAll Relationships Can HealWisdom Wednesday: Understanding DevelopmentToday on the All Relationships Can Heal podcast, we’re going to be talking about my 3rd guiding principle about our development. When we can understand a little bit more about how we develop and grow and how the growth creates patterns, we can start to understand ourselves and our loved ones in a different light. And the light is where the healing can happen. I’m Rebecca Thompson Hitt and you’re listening to the All Relationships Can Heal podcast and this is Wisdom Wednesday. Visit the episode webpage for more at https://consciouslyparenting.com/archpodcasts/202019-11-1305 minAll Relationships Can HealTime-In Tuesday: Nothing is More Important Than RelationshipSo much of what we learn in our families growing up and through cultural norms is that the only way to teach our children the “right” way of doing anything is to bring in some pain. Think about it. When we give a consequence or we punish, we’re bringing in some pain to “help” someone learn a lesson. It may bring about a temporary behavior change, but what is happening to our relationship? Today is Time-in Tuesday and we’re talking about the things we need to do to shift the way we look at relationships to support the healing that...2019-11-1207 minAll Relationships Can HealMindful Monday: All Relationships Can HealWhat does healing really mean? Whether it is a pattern that's been passed through the generations or something that's happened in your lifetime, whether you're the one who needs to heal or you're wanting to heal a relationship with someone else, we need to know what it means to heal. Today we look at one of the ways we can begin to shift the way we look at relationships with the first guiding principle: All behavior is a communication and what that means for healing is our topic today on Mindful Monday! Visit the episode webpage for m...2019-11-1110 minAll Relationships Can HealFun Friday: Connecting with Your GamerWe've been talking with Alok and Kruti Kanojia, co-founders of Healthy Gamer. We've explored the world of gamers, the kinds of gamers and their real life skills, gifts and talents, and we've explored when gaming is a problem and how to support our gamers. Today, we're talking about having FUN together as a family and finding ways that are fun for all! Visit the episode webpage for more at https://consciouslyparenting.com/archpodcasts/17/2019-11-0810 minAll Relationships Can HealThankful Thursday: 5 Types of Gamers and Real World SkillsWe are talking again with Alok and Kruti Kanojia, the co-founders of Healthy Gamer. We've been talking about technology and gaming and relationships, when we have something we need to be concerned about and listening to our intuition. It's been such a rich conversation. Today we're going to be talking about setting goals as a family and supporting the gamer, which is something that's totally not the way we normally think. We'll be sharing the 5 types of gamers and the real world skills the different types of gamers have. Visit the episode webpage for more at https://co...2019-11-0714 minAll Relationships Can HealWisdom Wednesday: When is Technology a Problem?We're continuing our conversation with Alok and Kruti Kanojia of Healthy Gamer. Today we're exploring the question of when technology and gaming is a problem? While physical health, emotional stability, social growth, real-world outcomes and mental health are some areas to explore, we're most concerned with how can we stay in relationship while we're identifying when something doesn't seem to be working? Visit the episode webpage for more at https://consciouslyparenting.com/archpodcasts/15/2019-11-0620 minAll Relationships Can HealStaying Connected with the Healthy GamerToday, we're continuing our series about Healthy Gaming. Our conversation moves into the disconnections that inevitably happen in families around technology and gaming. How can we stay connected and in communication? How do we support our kids to be healthy gamers and respect everyone's needs and experiences? What can you do when your child doesn't show up for dinner that doesn't involve punishment or unplugging the computer or turning off the internet? Alok (aka Dr. K) and Kruti Kanojia, co-founders of Healthy Gamer, are back to share their insights with us. Visit the episode webpage for more...2019-11-0514 minAll Relationships Can HealMindful Monday: Healthy Gamer, Defining the ChallengesParenting and technology are really challenging for parents, especially for parents who want to stay in connection with their children. This week, we're joined by Alok and Kruti Kanojia, co-founders of Healthy Gamer. We're going to be talking about what the challenges actually are with gaming and technology and how you can know if there's actually a problem. Dr. K is a psychiatrist and healthy gamer himself who nearly failed out of school because of gaming, so he speaks from his personal and professional experiences to help us stay connected to our kids WITH technology. For more...2019-11-0418 minAll Relationships Can HealVulnerability and Sharing Family Stories with Guest Dr. Robert T. MullerVulnerability is a word that’s been made popular, or at least part of the conversation, by Brene Brown’s work. Turns out that being vulnerable is also a huge part of the healing process and so today we’re going to be talking about why and how vulnerability is important. And we’ll also be talking about sharing family stories with our children, what that looks like, and why it’s important. I’m Rebecca Thompson Hitt and this is the All Relationships Can Heal Podcast. Today we finish our conversation with Dr. Robert T. Muller, PhD about his book, Tr...2019-11-0135 minAll Relationships Can HealThe Necessary Ingredients of Healing Our Families with Guest Dr. Robert T. MullerOur third podcast in our series on parenting with trauma centers around the ways we can heal from our own childhoods, from things that have happened to us that are impacting us in our parenting, including some surprising ways that don't involve talking. Our guest, Dr. Robert T Muller, is the author of the book, Trauma and the Struggle to Open Up: From Avoidance to Recovery and Growth. Dr. Muller, PhD, trained at Harvard, is on faculty at the University of Massachusetts and is currently at York University in Toronto. Visit my website for more at https://con...2019-10-3116 minAll Relationships Can HealTriggers in Parenting: When Our Past Comes Knocking with Guest Dr. Robert T. MullerToday, we are continuing our conversation about how parenting is impacted by our own experiences of trauma. These are the moments when we are having a difficult time parenting the way we want to parent, despite trying to shift our behaviors. We’ll be sharing some stories about parents who have been doing their own healing work and what it looked like in their interactions with their kids. Our guest, Dr. Robert T Muller, is the author of the book, Trauma and the Struggle to Open Up: From Avoidance to Recovery and Growth. Dr. Muller, PhD, trained at Ha...2019-10-3024 minAll Relationships Can HealFinding Compassion for Ourselves and Our Own Stories with guest Dr. Robert T. MullerWhen something difficult happens and we're not "over it" soon enough, we often find ourselves judging our own process. Today we're going to be talking about those tender places and why compassion is so important. Our guest, Dr. Robert T Muller, is the author of the book, Trauma and the Struggle to Open Up: From Avoidance to Recovery and Growth. Dr. Muller, PhD, trained at Harvard, is on faculty at the University of Massachusetts and is currently at York University in Toronto. Visit my website for more at https://consciouslyparenting.com/archpodcasts/9/.2019-10-2921 minAll Relationships Can HealThose Triggery Parenting MomentsWe have all experienced them. They’re the moments when we’re feeling overwhelmed as a parent. Maybe it’s the way your child doesn’t listen to you when you ask them to do something. Or perhaps it is when your child says no to something they need to do. Or when your child isn’t caring as much as you think they should about school, their room, life, etc. Or they’re being disrespectful to you, your partner, or a sibling. And suddenly a switch flips and you’re no longer rational. You might look back on it lat...2019-10-2805 minAll Relationships Can HealFun Friday: The Importance of Play in HealingPlayfulness and fun are essential parts of life. Our brains are not only really good at learning and processing a lot of information, they’re also good at play. That’s part of our mammalian brains. I’m sure that you’ve seen puppies playing with one another and mother dogs playing with their puppies. Play is a way that we learn and connect with one another. But many of us are really serious and we don’t know how to play. Some of us weren’t really played with as children and some of us didn’t play as chil...2019-10-2507 minAll Relationships Can HealWhy Healing and Gratitude Go Hand in HandAfter all this talk so far this week about dysregulation and feeling unsettled, which happens when a relationship isn’t going well, we’re going to shift a bit into thankfulness. Finding something to be thankful for makes a huge difference in your body and your ability to regulate yourself! This is not about denying something is going poorly or that there isn’t suffering when there is. It’s easy to get sucked into the bad. Actually, our brains are wired to really be on alert for the bad things. That’s what helps us to avoid painful things in th...2019-10-2406 minAll Relationships Can HealWisdom Wednesday: Regulation?Wisdom Wednesday is all about the science behind what I’m talking about on the All Relationships Can Heal podcast. I love the research and translating it into usable information for humans to help make life just a little bit better. Today we're talking about regulation, which is a term used in nearly every scientific discipline, but until recently was nearly absent from parenting information. Regulation is feeling calm in the body, brain, and nervous system. When the body, brain, and nervous system are calm, we can make good choices about our behavior. Find out the ingredients of regulation to help...2019-10-2307 minAll Relationships Can HealTime-in Tuesday: Time-in vs Time outTime-in has become a bit more common a term over the past 5-10 years and the reason is that our new understanding of growing brains supports it. The old way of thinking about time-out was that when a child misbehaves, they need to go away by themselves and think about what they’ve done. Sounds good in theory and it’s probably what was done to you when you were growing up. Time out is based on Behaviorism, which is all about how learning happens through conditioning--positive or negative reinforcement. In short, if you reward “good” behavior and puni...2019-10-2206 minAll Relationships Can HealMindful Monday, Personal SpacePaying attention to our own experience--our thoughts, our felt experience, and what it feels like in your body, is a big part of mindfulness. It’s how we connect to ourselves, how we know what we need. Many people are disconnected from their bodies, from their needs, and from the needs of others. Our first step towards mindfulness is to become more aware of ourselves, the feelings in our bodies, the stories we make up about the things that happen, and figuring out what we need. Healing can’t happen without self-awareness, so it is a huge part...2019-10-2105 minAll Relationships Can HealThe Story of All Relationships Can HealIn our second episode, Rebecca Thompson Hitt shares the story of her own journey as a parent through her own healing stories. From her journey parenting her first son with memories of sitting on the floor in Barnes and Noble reading conflicting parenting books, to the loss of her newborn son from a fatal birth defect. And then learning what healing really looks like in her own life and eventually in the lives of families around the world through Healing Story Circles. Join us for this taste of the story behind the stories on the All Relationships Can Heal...2019-10-1808 minAll Relationships Can HealAll Relationships Can Heal!All Relationships Can Heal. It’s a bold statement, but one that I stand behind. I would argue that most people have a relationship that needs some healing balm. Whether the relationship is with a child, a partner (coupled now or not), your parents, a friend, or your relationship with yourself. I’ve dedicated my life’s work to helping families to do the healing work to make their lives better, to empower them to create relationships that work, that are emotionally healthy, and to finish what is unfinished in whatever way is possible. In order...2019-10-1705 min
ResistanceMomActivist Parenting How do we help our kids make sense of the attacks on our democracy? Can the work of resisting racism and defending democracy be something we can do side by side with our kids? Andrea Hildebran Smith talks with author and family therapist Rebecca Thompson Hitt about making sure we show our kids how to move through trauma to action. 2019-03-0800 minInspire Nation Show with Michael SandlerWHY THE WAY YOUR WERE BORN AFFECTS YOUR LIFE & WHAT YOU NEED TO DO ABOUT IT!!! Rebecca Thompson Hitt MS | Health | Self-HelpIf you’ve ever wanted to move past subconscious blocks and negative patterns that are holding you back then do we have the Healing Stories show for you. Today I’ll be talking with Rebecca Thompson Hitt, the author of three books on conscious parenting, the founder of the consciously parenting newsletter and a pioneer behind healing stories, which are for everyone. And that’s just what I want to talk with her about today. About how healing stories can help us get at our traumas, uncover hidden patterns and help us heal our origin wounds...2017-08-1600 min