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Scratch That: Parenting & ReParenting Off Script⚡️ Writing Family Manifestos and Trying AgainWe gave ourselves a homework assignment – huddle up with our partners and our kids and write a little family manifesto. How simple! How fun! How sweet! LOL. Turns out it might be a bit trickier than our rosy idealism pictured. Today, we share the ragged and the spectacular parts of the experience, offer up the manifestos we made, and brainstorm what we want to try next time.Tune In to Hear Up Talk About:🌟 The stakes of manifesto writing that tripped us up from the start.🔍 What the process of this project revealed to us ab...2025-07-2138 minScratch That: Parenting & ReParenting Off Script⚡️ The Parenting Goals We're Letting GoThis episode is a happy goodbye to all the good parenting goals we are sending off to sea. There is only so much we can prioritize, so much energy, so many battles to fight and hills to die on. Today, we each share three parenting goals we really do value, but can't value enough to keep beating our heads against the wall for.Mentioned In Today's Episode:Sarah Knight's TED Talk "The Magic of Not Giving a F***"Our conversation with S. Bear Bergman where he talks about choosing 2-3 things to teach...2025-07-1443 minScratch That: Parenting & ReParenting Off Script🎙️ Parenting Advice That Doesn't Suck with S. Bear BergmanToday on Scratch That we chat with the tender and wise trailblazer S. Bear Bergman. We found Bear when we fell head-over-heels in love with his parenting book, Special Topics In Being a Parent. Unlike so many parenting advice we've read, Bear's approach felt adaptable and possible. It was only after we booked our interview that we realized Bear is a BFD. A founding member of the very first Gay/Straight Alliance, Bear has spent the last several decades telling stories, writing books, and inviting humans into greater justice, equity, and inclusion. He is brimming with deep insight, flexible...2025-07-071h 00Scratch That: Parenting & ReParenting Off Script🎙️ Parenting Advice That Doesn't Suck with S. Bear BergmanToday on Scratch That we chat with the tender and wise trailblazer S. Bear Bergman. We found Bear when we fell head-over-heels in love with his parenting book, Special Topics In Being a Parent. Unlike so many parenting advice we've read, Bear's approach felt adaptable and possible. It was only after we booked our interview that we realized Bear is a BFD. A founding member of the very first Gay/Straight Alliance, Bear has spent the last several decades telling stories, writing books, and inviting humans into greater justice, equity, and inclusion. He is brimming with deep insight, flexible...2025-07-071h 00Scratch That: Parenting & ReParenting Off Script🌪️ How do we parent in public??Do you find yourself feeling extra wobbly when you're parenting in front of other people? Do you care what strangers think when your kid is having a meltdown in the grocery store or at grandma's house? Us too, friends! US TOO. Why is it so hard to hold onto ourselves/our parenting values/the ground beneath us when we're parenting in front of other people? And how else might we think about these moments?Tune in to hear us talk about:🙄 The icky part of parents commiserating with other parents.🏆 The twisty need we hav...2025-06-3045 minScratch That: Parenting & ReParenting Off Script🌪️ How do we talk with our kids about the scary stuff in the world??How do we talk to our kids about war, death, families being separated, floods, guns, violence, any of it? Should we shield them as much and as long as possible? Should we hold their hand as we tell them what we know to be real? How do we balance protecting our kids with equipping them? These questions feel important, the stakes feel high, we're doing our best, and making it up as we go. Today we dive into it as we try to figure out how we want to navigate the conversations that scare us.Tune in...2025-06-2345 minScratch That: Parenting & ReParenting Off Script🎙️Trading the Status Quo for the Risk of a Dream with Kate WienersA year ago, Kate Wieners quit her corporate job to open a cozy, plant-filled bookstore, Monstera's Books. And while it sounds like the pitch for a movie we'd all love, today Kate talks with us about the real-life, fleshed-out story. What stars had to align for her to leave the "good enough" setup she already had for the risk of a dream? What has it been like to be a partner and a parent as she makes this great leap? What is it like to create a third-space community around books and storytelling right now? And does the nervous-scary...2025-06-161h 03Scratch That: Parenting & ReParenting Off Script🌪️ From Preschool to Higher Ed – What We've Learned About LearningWhat does living alongside a toddler reveal to us about our high school and college students? How does time in the classroom inform the way we approach learning with our pre-schoolers? On today's episode, we reflect on our experiences teaching and learning and cobble together a list of guiding principles.Tune in to hear us talk about:✨ Curiosity as sacred.⏱ The cost of separating places and times of learning.🌱 Shame vs safety in a learning environment.❓ The power of asking "silly" questions and admitting you don't know.☁️ Valuing "idle...2025-06-0948 minScratch That: Parenting & ReParenting Off Script⚡️Pregnancy, Gender, and News!As we kick off Pride month, we turn over what it means to bring a new person into a scary world, especially as a queer parent, and the ways pregnancy has helped Caitlin understand and live out their gender.Tune in to hear us talk about:🫢 A super big announcement!❓ Asking questions to understand the ways we experience pregnancy and parenthood differently.⚖️ Caitlin processing the need they felt to choose between being visibly queer and keeping their kids safe in public.🏳️🌈 Why being pregnant with Charlie propelled Caitlin to come out as nonbina...2025-06-0244 minScratch That: Parenting & ReParenting Off Script🎙️ The Hilarious & Heartbreaking with Shane & Hannah BurcawToday on Scratch That we chat with one of the most beloved couples on the internet – Squirmy and Grubs! (Also known as Shane and Hannah Burcaw🤗) They talk with us about what it's like to share their personal lives with an enormous following, how they cope with internet hate and real life ignorance about disability/relationships, why they wrote their new book Interabled: True Stories of Love and Disability, the perspective they've gained through their experience with IVF, and loads more! There was much giggling. There were sobering truths. There was a story about the time Hannah ate edibles and t...2025-05-261h 03
Dad to Dad PodcastSFN Dad To Dad 379 - Rebekah Taussig of Shawnee, KS - Mother, Author, Podcast Host & Disability AdvocateOur guest this week is Rebekah Taussig of Shawnee, KS who is a mother, wife, author, podcast host, outspoken advocate for those with disability and who, herself is a paraplegic. Rebekah and her husband, Micah have been married for seven years and are the proud parents of Otto, who is typical five year old. Rebekah was diagnosed with spine cancer at age one and due to multiple surgeries lost her ability to walk at age four. She was the youngest of six children and despite her disability, still slept on the top bunk upstairs in her fami...2025-05-231h 03Scratch That: Parenting & ReParenting Off Script⚡️Letters from Love a la Elizabeth GilbertIf love incarnate was sitting beside you today, what would they say to you? Today we offer you a little practice that we learned from the one-and-only Elizabeth Gilbert – Letters from Love. We share a tiny how-to and then dive into reading some of our own letters, Caitlin as a seasoned veteran and Rebekah as a fresh newbie. You're invited to write your own letter, too, but even if you don't, we hope this especially tender episode brings you some kind of love today.Mentioned In Today's Episode:Here is Elizabeth Gilbert's how-to guide on Le...2025-05-1932 minScratch That: Parenting & ReParenting Off Script🎙️Good Bad Things with Danny Kurtzman & Steve WayToday on Scratch That we bring you the disabled bromance of your dreams – Danny Kurtzman and Steve Way. You might know Steve from his role on the Hulu series Ramy, and maybe you recognize Danny from his modeling days, but most recently, these two have been in creative collaboration as the leading man (Danny) and executive producer (Steve) of the recent (gorgeous) film Good Bad Things. These two live out the themes of this podcast, literally rewriting the scripts of disability storytelling as actors, screenwriters, producers, and directors. And as they share about their own creative journeys, it's very cl...2025-05-121h 01Scratch That: Parenting & ReParenting Off Script⚡️Start Where You Are (Caitlin Tells Us About Their Online Class)Do you ever feel frozen by the chaos, the mess, the to-do list? There's a big project you really want to dive into, but every time you try to start, you end up scrolling on your phone instead? Or you look out at the suffering in the great wide world and don't know what steps you could possibly take to help? This week, Caitlin introduces us to a sturdy framework their brilliant little brain created to help them in just such moments. And if you dig it, you're in luck, because they're offering a whole juicy online class based...2025-05-0532 minScratch That: Parenting & ReParenting Off Script🌪️ Born Bad? Good Inside? Some Mysterious 3rd Option?On today's episode, it's Dr Becky versus Original Sin! What happens when Good Inside takes on the fall of man? Are our jobs as parents to get out of the way and nurture our kids' inherent goodness? Or are we here to guide them away from their bad instincts? In Scratch That fashion, today's tornado conversation swirls through the gray as we try to piece together a both/and philosophy that can support us through the unwieldy work of learning/teaching how to be a human.Tune in to hear us talk about:🐣 The Easter-weekend mom...2025-04-2837 minScratch That: Parenting & ReParenting Off Script🎙️ Creativity as a Way of Life with Elsie LarsonDo you ever long to explore a totally new creative outlet or try something brand new? Like, I don't know, write a novel? Open a cute little boutique? Or try your hand at jumpstarting an art career? Our guest today has the trickster energy to try it all, throwing off scripts about being too inexperienced or too old to explore, try, and play. Elsie Larson is a mother of two and co-founder of A Beautiful Mess empire she's built with her sister Emma. The two are creative makers to their core, from their vintage clothing boutique Red Velvet (RIP...2025-04-211h 10Scratch That: Parenting & ReParenting Off Script⚡Little Antidotes to Anxiety & Big SolidarityAnyone else feeling a little extra anxious these days? SAME. On today's episode, we share some of the strategies and tools we're using to stay grounded and keep belly-crawling forward.Tune in to hear us talk about:🌥Why taking pictures of the sky calms Caitlin's nervous system.🏘 Caitlin's most annoying anxiety hack.📰 The new way Rebekah is consuming news.🧥 What Rebekah is doing instead of impulsively buying that cardigan from Target.✨ Caitlin rushing toward JOY with the same kind of energy as they rush toward a crisis.🎤 Rebekah...2025-04-1444 min
Off The Grid: Leaving Social Media💏 You CAN Make Friends Without Social Media — with Caitlin Metz & Rebekah TaussigOMG CROSSOVER EPISODE! 🫶 Today on the show, I'm celebrating our 99th episode (and my four-years-off-social-media anniversary!) by sharing a conversation I had with Rebekah Taussig and Caitlin Metz for their podcast Scratch That.We get into things I've NEVER talked about publicly before, including:How my three-year-old self picked my present-day career pathThe four-minute version of my leaving-social-media storyWhat Instagram has meant to Rebekah as a space to share her life & disability advocacyHow social media supports introverts like Caitlin with relationship-building & belongingWays to express your (queer) identity without social mediaThe value of breaking out of o...2025-04-091h 07
Scratch That: Parenting & ReParenting Off Script🎙️ Reimagining Domesticity, Keeping House, & Care Work with Laura DangerIn today's episode, Laura Danger (aka @thatdarnchat) dives into a candid conversation with us about care work, domestic labor, and the powerful/often invisible scripts that shape our life choices, relationship dynamics, and home lives. Offering a unique perspective as a parent with ADHD and bipolar 2, Laura invites us to go off script, tune out default societal expectations, and set the terms for our homes, relationships, and stories.Tune in to hear us talk about:🧑🎨 Being an artsy emo punk feminist who also has a crush on Freddie Prinze Jr.🔎 Learning to decipher our own des...2025-04-0753 min
Scratch That: Parenting & ReParenting Off Script🌪️Honest Parenting Moments: The Pivots, Revisions, and Endless EvolutionsWhat do we do when our parenting strategies aren't working out the way we expected? Or we stumble into a hard parenting fail? On today's episode, we share parenting stories we recorded several months ago on the CosmoParenting podcast. Then we reflect on those stories, honestly naming the ways our strategies are evolving (or not) with time. This is an episode all about the messy, unresolved, ever-shifting work of parenting and peopling.Tune in to hear us talk about:📜 Disrupting old narratives through adaptation.⚖️ The tricky balance of acknowledging pain and also pushing past di...2025-03-3141 min
Scratch That: Parenting & ReParenting Off Script🎙️ Flipping the Script on Disability with Lucy & James CatchpoleWill these charming Brits be able to withstand Rebekah's gushing?? If you don't yet know who Lucy and James Catchpole are, tune into our episode from last week, "Catchpoles + Andy J Pizza Love Fest." Two disabled parents who run a children's literary agency and write picture books, Lucy and James talk to us about their early experiences with disability, the ways disability shapes their parenting, and how their creative work reframes disability as ordinary, in sharp contrast to the cultural narratives of awe and pity.Tune in to hear us talk about:❤️ Restriction as a libera...2025-03-241h 06
Scratch That: Parenting & ReParenting Off Script🎙️ Catchpoles + Andy J Pizza Love FestOn today's Show-and-Tell episode, we gush about some of our favorite creators: Lucy and James Catchpole (disabled parents and children's book authors, with "more children than working legs") and Andy J Pizza (New York Times bestselling author / illustrator / podcaster). And we want to hear from you, too! Who are the creators lighting up your world these days?Tune in to hear us talk about:🛝 Being a disabled kid on the playground.📝 Subversive representation that flips the script of disability storytelling.🧰 Children's books that give our kids agency🎨 ADHD + art + parenting2025-03-1732 min
Scratch That: Parenting & ReParenting Off Script🎙️ Do We Really Need Social Media? With Amelia HrubyOn today's episode, we talk with the one-and-only, our beloved editor, Amelia Hruby! You've heard her name at the end of every episode and today we bring you her voice. Founder of the feminist podcast studio, Softer Sounds, and host of her own podcast, Off the Grid, Amelia is a prominent and grounding voice in the increasingly anxious world of social media (especially for those of us with our careers tied to that space).In today's episode, we also share about the hard decision to pause our work with Amelia as we try to figure out sustainability...2025-03-101h 09
Scratch That: Parenting & ReParenting Off Script🎙️Redefining Screen Time with Esther Huybreghts & Melissa CashOn today's episode, we get to chat with the creative powerhouses, Esther Huybreghts and Melissa Cash. Driven by the need for good alternatives to overwhelming, addictive children's apps saturating the market, they set out to create an experience that parents could feel good about handing to their kids. They made the thing they needed, and Pok Pok was born — the Apple Design Award-winning preschool app. We are obsessed.If you are also obsessed after listening to Esther and Melissa talk about Pok Pok, use this link to get a 25% discount for a subscription: https://my.playpokpok.com/ch...2025-03-0354 min
Scratch That: Parenting & ReParenting Off Script🌪️How Do We Raise Scrappy/Resilient Kids Sans Trauma?This week on SCRATCH THAT, we grapple with some of our inner Boomer-parenting instincts. What if our kids don't "have it as hard as we did"? How do we make sure we raise them to have scrappy, resilient, creative, trickster energy for the inevitable struggles ahead?Tune in to hear us:⛈️ Name our particular parenting triggers.🧳 Unpack the actual legacy of some of our early childhood struggles.💪 Uncover the deep, troubling belief that struggling makes you real and valid.🧶 Describe the difficulty in watching our kids struggle without intervening.⚙️ Imagi...2025-02-2421 min
Scratch That: Parenting & ReParenting Off Script🎙️ Getting off the conveyor belt of production with Maria BowlerWe cannot wait for you to hear our conversation with Maria Bowler. Maria's life has followed a delightfully winding path from magazine editor to an MA in religious studies, from years studying with nuns to creative coach. She is also who Caitlin wants to be when they grow up and, most recently, an author of the recently released book, Making Time: A New Vision for Crafting a Life Beyond Productivity. At the heart of it, Maria generously offers us tools for getting off the conveyor belt of production and into a life of being/making – a creative life that ke...2025-02-1754 min
Scratch That: Parenting & ReParenting Off Script⚡️ Wanna Make a Mix Tape Together?A growing goal for SCRATCH THAT is to find ways for this community to know and connect with each other, so this week, we have a special invitation for our listeners. What is a song that has held you — as a parent and/or a person? A song that has brought you back to the ground/yourself/your values. A song that gave you the thing you needed when you needed it? Would you drop it in the comments below? We'll turn all our songs into a group playlist — a way to feel each other's presence as we go abou...2025-02-1022 min
Scratch That: Parenting & ReParenting Off Script🎙️What paradigms are we building? (Part 2) with Abbie VanMeterLast week, we swirled around the impossible questions of paradigms – What stories did we inherit? What stories are we passing on (intentionally & unintentionally)? Enter – Abbie VanMeter. Abbie is the executive director of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution, the host of the Stories Lived. Stories Told. podcast, the host of the CosmoParenting Podcast, and an incredibly insightful and curious communicator. On this episode, Abbie meets us in the chaotic center of our swirls and offers us new frameworks and tools for the messy work of re/building paradigms as parents and people. We hope you enjoy our sprawli...2025-02-031h 12
Scratch That: Parenting & ReParenting Off Script🌪️ What paradigms are we building? (Part 1)This week on SCRATCH THAT, we process the great and ambiguous responsibility of creating paradigms for our kids — the context for what they will understand as "normal" — the scripts/stories they have about themselves, the world, and their relationship to it. Holding our curiosity in the forefront and never tying any tidy bows, we swirl around our own inheritances and the ones we're passing along. And if you would like some actual tools for navigating this wobbly territory, we can't wait to share next week's very special interview with you!Tune in to hear us talk about:2025-01-2729 min
Scratch That: Parenting & ReParenting Off Script✨ What Brings Us Hope in the Darkness?💔 Why is it hard to feel hopeful right now?✨ Point to something that makes us feel hopeful — tell a story?🌱 Hope as a verb — name a seed we are going to plant?✏️ Caitlin leaves us with three practices they're using to imagine a hopeful future2025-01-2022 min
Scratch That: Parenting & ReParenting Off Script🌪️ What are our core values?Now that we're a few months into making SCRATCH THAT, we take this episode to reflect on the podcast values that are revealing themselves as the most important to us. In this episode, we pull cards from Lisa Congdon's Live Your Values deck and compare notes. What do we want to prioritize? What is the target? What do we want to guide/ground each conversation?This feels like an ongoing collaborative project, and we want you to be a part of it! Would you take a couple of minutes to fill out our Patreon poll? What SCRATCH T...2025-01-1321 min
Scratch That: Parenting & ReParenting Off Script🎙️ An Ode to Therapy : Internal Family Systems with Sacha MardouWe wish every single one of you could sit in the presence of Sacha Mardou. Until that day, we offer you this hearts-out, into-the-depths-of-it-together conversation. Author of the graphic memoir, Past Tense, Sacha shares her story of developing anxiety when she turned 40, going to therapy for the first time, and learning that her childhood story was still with her, waiting for her self-compassion. Rich with insight and never trite, she honors the mess, the nonlinear, the unfixable alongside the hope for meaningful change. Not only did Sacha share her own stories and wisdom, but she embodied a sharp clarity...2025-01-0652 min
Scratch That: Parenting & ReParenting Off Script💌 Dear 2024/2025Last week, Caitlin invited us to mark the turn of the year by writing letters to 2024/2025. Today, we bring you the words that came from that prompt. You will hear tears, a whole lot of heartfelt, both/and reflection, and an invitation to write your own letter/create your own artifact to mark this shift in the calendar.At the end of the episode, Rebekah shares a little bit about how deeply difficult this year has been for her niece and sister. Since recording, the GoFundMe she started for them has exceeded the initial goal! It's been s...2025-01-0128 min
Scratch That: Parenting & ReParenting Off Script⚡️ Document your life – a New Year's practice that isn't yuckyIn today's episode, we reflect on our memories/associations with New Years, and the practices that do/don't feel good around this time of year. We are moving away from new year's resolutions and toward reflective practices that allow us to bear witness to the previous year.Tune in to hear us talk about:🎊 The ways we moved through this holiday when we were young.📓 Caitlin's annual, seasonal, and monthly reflection practices (including picking a yearly word, Lisa Congdon's Live Your Values deck, and reflection guides).🕯️ Caitlin's new practices, including admin adulting da...2024-12-3043 min
Scratch That: Parenting & ReParenting Off Script💌 Offerings for a Holiday WeekAs we gear up for the week of Christmas and all of the layered feelings this stretch of days can bring, we wanted to offer you something good and grounding. To prepare, we gave ourselves a prompt: write a little blessing, love note, prayer for the holiday week. Today, we read them allowed – an offering to ourselves, each other, and you.We would love to hear from you! How are you orienting yourself this week? What feels hard? What feels easy? What feels different than previous years? What are your disco balls on the tree or flashes of...2024-12-2318 min
Scratch That: Parenting & ReParenting Off Script🎙️ How to Human with Lisa OliveraLisa Olivera's words are a uniquely grounding force in a world fueled by algorithms that thrive on speedy-hot-takes, over-simplicity, and one-note narratives. Every time the internet feels like it’s literally going to combust under the strain of loud noises, her steady voice calls us back to our bodies and our inner knowing. We had so many questions for her! And in Lisa-fashion, she met our wonderings with a generous, present, and soft openness, offering reframes and revelations we didn't even know we needed. We're so excited to share this episode with you. 💛Tune in to hear us ta...2024-12-161h 18
Scratch That: Parenting & ReParenting Off Script🌪️ How are we giving (and receiving) gifts?We are in the season of a million gift-giving choices – What do we want to spend money on? How do we find gifts that make people feel seen/loved/celebrated? How do we buy/make gifts with thought and care when we don't have any time? Today, we dive headfirst into our personal gift giving values and offer a giant pile of recommendations (no one is paying us to make!) with the hope that it sparks something for you that feels good.Caitlin, Our Favorite Bougie Bitch, prefers gifts that align with the way their brain functions. Th...2024-12-0943 min
Scratch That: Parenting & ReParenting Off Script⚡️ Rebekah wrote a children's book!Today we bring you a mini mid-week episode to tell you all about Rebekah's forthcoming picture book, We Are the Scrappy Ones.Tune in to hear:🌱 The origin story of the book and who Rebekah wrote it for.👽 A bit about what it felt like for Rebekah to grow up with a disability.🌗 The ways writing about the experience of disability for a younger audience felt very different from other writing projects Rebekah has done.📖 Rebekah read some of the book.PRE-ORDER THE PICTURE BOOK HEREFind us on i...2024-12-0420 min
Scratch That: Parenting & ReParenting Off Script🌪️ How do we teach our kids to be in community with all kinds of different people?This conversation was inspired by a visit Rebekah took to her son's classroom. As he has adjusted to a new school, Rebekah has tried to think more critically about how she wants to lead the conversation (and onslaught of inevitable questions these kids have) about her wheelchair.In SCRATCH THAT fashion, this episode is more in-real-time-processing and back-and-forth questions than a 1-2-3 step plan for raising our babies to have immediate and "perfect" understanding of disability from a very young age. How do we teach our kids how to respond when they notice difference in public? H...2024-12-0243 min
Scratch That: Parenting & ReParenting Off Script🌪️ How do we build new traditions when holidays are triggering AF?Today we tackle what Caitlin refers to as the "cheerful nostalgia and heart-wrenching sorrow" the holidays can bring. For so many of us, this particular time of year comes with a lot of guilt and pressure, hard memories or sadness that the present doesn't look quite like we think it should. Together we process what makes these days hard for the both of us and generate a host of ideas for navigating these both/and days with full hearts and a lot of creative curiosity.🖨️ You can download this little zine, print on 8.5x11 paper and fold it do...2024-11-2545 min
pleasure reading🔑 7 Memoirs & Self-Help Books by People I AdoreToday we dive into other peoples’ lives with this list of seven memoirs and self-help books by people I adore!Tune in to hear how these amazing folks and their books have changed my life for the better. Then find the (affiliate) links below to purchase. These all make great gifts! 🔑 MemoirJoy Enough by Sarah McCollSitting Pretty by Rebekah TaussigHow to Be Alone to Nicole AntoinetteRust Belt Femme by Raechel Ann Jolie 🔑 Self-HelpYou Belong by Sebene SelassieFeel Something, Make Something by Caitlin MetzInner Workout by Taylor Elyse Morrison
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Scratch That: Parenting & ReParenting Off Script⚡️ A Calendar Practice — Or the Beauty That Comes From Our Distinct NeedsToday we bring you a mini mid-week episode to tell you about a resource Caitlin created, fueled by the specific needs of their neurodivergent brain that has expanded into a tool, a practice, a piece of art in so many other homes.Tune in to hear:🎂 A tiny update on how Caitlin has been processing their neurodivergence, especially as they cross the threshold of a birthday that feels big.✨ A poignant insight from a dear friend.🌱 Caitlin learning to recognize some of the tangible beauty that comes from their specific needs.💓 Seve...2024-11-2020 min
Scratch That: Parenting & ReParenting Off Script🎙️ How does a disabled mum approach parenting her disabled son? A joyful conversation with Nina TameToday we're thrilled to bring you our conversation with the aunt you always needed, the one with the funniest memes and all the colors, we can't imagine the internet without her — Nina Tame! Nina is doing powerful, hilarious work to revise the scripts we have around disability that has made its way across the globe (if you don't yet follow her Instagram, go forth and consume), but maybe the most profound evidence of this rewriting shows up in her own little family. Nina grew up disabled and is now the mum to three boys, the third of which shares Ni...2024-11-181h 06
Scratch That: Parenting & ReParenting Off ScriptA Pause & Some Poems for Processing the 2024 Election.We don't have a lot of words right now. No hot takes. No three step plans. We feel heavy, confused, and scared. And while we might have the impulse to shut down, we want to be intentional to bear witness to the untidy snarl of this moment. It didn't feel right to carry along with our regularly programming when so many of us are grieving & afraid right now. So here's a tiny conversation to hold space for a greater pause — for feeling our feelings, for taking deep breaths, for listening to more stories & reflecting on the stories we hold, fo...2024-11-1109 min
Scratch That: Parenting & ReParenting Off Script🌪️ How Do We Talk About Our Internalized Ableism?The conversation we bring you today is especially tender. We decided to sit down to talk about internalized ableism, because Caitlin is grappling with a potentially new diagnosis that has brought up a lot for them. We hope you'll listen to this one with care — as we process together, we lift the lids on some of the ugliest wounds ableism inflicts. And so much is still fresh.The two of us experience internalized ableism differently for a host of reasons — Caitlin feels wobbly even claiming the title of disability and would embody a combination of old and new...2024-11-041h 05
Scratch That: Parenting & ReParenting Off Script🌪️ Where Does My Story End and Yours Begin?When we sat down for this conversation, we fully intended to dive into the tricky choices we have to make when deciding if/how to share about our kids — on social media or a podcast, in writing or conversation. And while we do spend some time trying to parse out that particular challenge, the conversation that unfolded quickly became much deeper. Because a conversation about representing another human is also a conversation about storytelling, perspective, autonomy, and relationship boundaries. And so we ask —👀 What if we don't see things the same way that our kids/parents do?📚...2024-10-2846 min
Scratch That: Parenting & ReParenting Off Script🎙️ How Do We Talk About Miscarriage and Infertility? with Emma ParkerToday, we share with you a tender conversation with the one-and-only deep-feeler, wholehearted Emma Parker.Emma is a photographer who longs for deep connections, feels inspired by the ways we are all different and also the same, and, for the last two years, has experienced infertility and miscarriage. Emma generously agreed to share some of her story, experience, and insight with Caitlin and Rebekah – two people who do not share this experience – with the hope that it could help give all of us in the Scratch That community new scripts for processing our own unique experiences and showi...2024-10-211h 00
Scratch That: Parenting & ReParenting Off Script📓 What Makes a Baby by Cory Silverberg and Fiona Smyth (book report)We love books. And the best part of loving books is sharing them with our friends.So we’re very excited to kick off our book report series — mini-ish episodes where we’ll talk about our favorite books that guide us as parents and people.Our first pick is the amazing What Makes a Baby by Cory Silverberg and Fiona Smyth.Tune in to hear us gush about this book that will help you explain reproduction to your two year old. Then join us on Patreon to request future book reports and share your f...2024-10-1421 minScratch That: Parenting & ReParenting Off Script🌪️ Do We Have Another Baby?Today we’re taking on the impossible question: do we have another baby? 😵💫Caitlin opens us with a beautiful poem from Joy Sullivan, and then we each share the joys, fears, and swirls of question marks coming up as we consider having a second kid.Listen in as we unpack our feelings about fertility, age, baby fever, finances, mental health, desire, and more — including how an oracle card is helping Rebekah figure out her answer.Then join us on Patreon to continue the conversation! We’d love to hear how you’re approaching this question wi...2024-10-0744 minScratch That: Parenting & ReParenting Off Script🎙️ What Does Disability Teach Us About Building Community? with Alex WegmanAlex Wegman is one of our absolute favorite people on (and off) the internet.She’s a writer, storyteller, homeschooling mom of two, and a lifelong wheelchair user who tells stories about life at the intersection of disability, parenting, friendship, and generally existing in public.Everything she shares has deeply impacted how we approach parenting. So we’re thrilled to have her as our first guest on Scratch That!Tune in to hear about:Cultivating independence for parents & kidsDisability representation in Alex’s childhoodConfronting ableist attitudes toward pregnancy & birthDeconstructing the nuclear familyNew script...2024-09-301h 07Scratch That: Parenting & ReParenting Off Script🌪️ What Is a ‘Real’ Mom?Have you ever felt like maybe you weren’t a “real” parent?When we decided to start a podcast, this was the first thing we wanted to talk about — why our brains keep sending us messages that we aren’t “real” mothers.So today we’re sharing the images of motherhood we’ve seen throughout our lives, and digging into how those images are complicated by disability, queerness, and a desire to parent differently.Listen in as we unpack our vision of what a Real Mom™️ should be. Then join us on Patreon to continue the convers...2024-09-2351 minScratch That: Parenting & ReParenting Off Script🌪️ Dear Listener…Hello and welcome to Scratch That!We (Caitlin & Rebekah) are so thrilled that you — yes you listening to this right now — are here tuning in to this episode.So we wrote you a letter! And had a quick chat about who we are, why we started this show, and how becoming parents ushered us into a new era of reparenting ourselves and rewriting our scripts for family, motherhood, childhood, and so much more.We hope you’ll press play, subscribe wherever you listen, and join us on Patreon to continue these conversations.xo...2024-09-2325 minScratch That: Parenting & ReParenting Off Script✷ Welcome to Scratch ThatWe’re launching a podcast!!! First episodes of SCRATCH THAT: PARENTING & REPARENTING OFF SCRIPT drop September 30th!Two scrappy midwestern authors, who birthed babies in the early days of the pandemic, walk into a bar. Well, one walks in their chunky doc martins and backward cap, the other rolls in on her Ti-lite chair, rocking teeny tiny bangs.Both challenge the norms of parenthood in their own ways — one with their gender, the other with her body — and carry deep curiosity about what it means to be human. Naturally, these wayward misfits hit record and turned...2024-09-1609 min