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Her Love Upgrade - Healthy Relationships, Toxic Relationships, Heal Heartbreak, Setting Boundaries, Self-Love21 | Missing Your Ex? Don’t Message Them, Do THIS to Take Back Your Power Instead!Breakups don’t have to break you. In this episode, I share the raw truth about post-breakup panic and the paradigm shifts that helped me move from codependency to confidence — and attract aligned, healthy love.
I’m the first to admit that I used to find it VERY hard to deal with breakups well.
I was an emotional wreck every. single. time. and spent most my waking hours consumed with sadness.
No matter how unjust their behaviour was, how brutal the break up was and how poorly they treated me… the fact is I would ha...2025-04-3025 minHer Love Upgrade - Healthy Relationships, Toxic Relationships, Heal Heartbreak, Setting Boundaries, Self-Love20 | How People Pleasing Fuels Toxic Relationships - and the Bold Shift That Changes EverythingEver feel like no matter how much you give in relationships, it’s never enough?
You end up drained, anxious, or even resentful - despite your best intentions and big heart.
In this episode, we’ll unpack why over-giving and people-pleasing may be keeping you stuck in toxic relationship patterns, and how this subconscious programming could be blocking the love you truly want.
Most importantly, you'll learn practical tools to help you feel safe, loved, and powerful - without having to prove or earn it.
It’s time to stop over-functioning and st...2025-04-1529 minHer Love Upgrade - Healthy Relationships, Toxic Relationships, Heal Heartbreak, Setting Boundaries, Self-Love19 | The 4 Things You Must Do After a Break Up to Heal HeartbreakHealing after a break up?
Sending you hugs - it can feel rough.
I know this first hand… I had A LOT of practice with breakups in the 13 years I was stuck in a toxic cycle.
Believe it or not though, there came a time when I had successfully healed my wounded inner parts, and overcome my limiting love blocking beliefs to the point where I didn’t need a partner - even though I still truly dreamed of enjoying a loving long-term relationship when the time was right.
From that place...2025-04-0838 minHer Love Upgrade - Healthy Relationships, Toxic Relationships, Heal Heartbreak, Setting Boundaries, Self-Love18 | Is Your Boundary Ruining Your Love Life? 5 Shifts to Safely Stop Dating Self-SabotageAre you keeping yourself hidden away behind a bullet-proof boundary that’s keeping you safe from heartbreak, but stifled from love?
While building high walls might seem like the best way to keep you safe from potential pain, there’s a better way to stay protected AND safely allow in abundant love… which is what your True Self wants, for all the right reasons - a.k.a. to experience the joy, growth and divine experience that comes from having an intimate relationship with an aligned partner.
In this episode, we’re breaking down why staying ‘...2025-03-3133 minHer Love Upgrade - Healthy Relationships, Toxic Relationships, Heal Heartbreak, Setting Boundaries, Self-Love17 | Can You Fix a Narcissist?You are a loving, caring, loyal woman who is dedicated to your relationship.
BUT you know in your heart that something’s not quite right here…
Your partner is hard to deal with and their needs come first… but when it’s good, oh my! it feels AMAZING.
You think “If only I could fix them, this relationship could be amazing all the time” ...so you try everything to make them happy and support them, and yet you always seem to be doing it wrong, and feeling anxious all the time.
I see you, ple...2025-03-2427 minHer Love Upgrade - Healthy Relationships, Toxic Relationships, Heal Heartbreak, Setting Boundaries, Self-Love16 | Narcissist and Toxic Relationship Recovery Groups on Facebook - The Lowdown!Have you come across one of the myriad of Toxic Relationship Recovery groups on Facebook?
Whether you are in a toxic relationship and looking for advice on how to deal with an abusive partner or narcissist, or if you are in the healing and recalibration phase after a breakup, it's likely that your search for answers may have led you to one.
As a relationship therapist and coach I dip into these groups every now and then to offer advice, and some of my clients have even been active members of these groups - so I’...2025-03-0439 minHer Love Upgrade - Healthy Relationships, Toxic Relationships, Heal Heartbreak, Setting Boundaries, Self-Love15 | Why You’re Attracting Emotionally Unavailable Partners - The Neuroscience Behind Toxic Relationship PatternsSchool holidays are over - YIPPEE!!!
I can actually finish a thought and have time to do other things than make 25 snack plates a day and keep two children busy 😅
It's SO good to be back, podcasting and serving clients! Thank you for listening and keeping in touch over the past few weeks... it totally filled my cup!
It sounds like the rebrand resonated with many of you - although the podcast is no longer called Breaking Toxic Relationship Patterns, believe me that this is still exactly what you will be doing by listen...2025-02-1828 minHer Love Upgrade - Healthy Relationships, Toxic Relationships, Heal Heartbreak, Setting Boundaries, Self-Love14 | 5 Step Somatic Self-Soothing for Healing Post-Breakup HeartacheAre you suffering with physical tension and discomfort caused by the heartache of a breakup?
When our emotions manifest somatically, it can be a powerful sign that our unconscious is trying to tell us something very important.
So how do we listen in?
My favourite way is this easy, gentle and loving 5 step process - and I'm delighted to share it all with you in this episode!
Honour your wonderful self by giving it a little time and quiet space to engage in this powerful 5 step process.
It's a great...2025-01-0821 minHer Love Upgrade - Healthy Relationships, Toxic Relationships, Heal Heartbreak, Setting Boundaries, Self-Love13 | I Don’t Belong In This Club! The Best Way to Meet Potential Partners… Without Nightclubs, Bars or Online Dating AppsAre you wondering where to begin when it comes to meeting someone new?
Does it feel like meeting someone who is worth your time and energy is almost impossible?
Maybe you’re even doubting whether you’re meant for love, or thinking that the only people left are the dregs that no one wants…
While you might have spent much of your late teens and 20’s hitting bars and clubs, these days an ideal night out is more about delicious food and amazing conversation - but who meets someone at a restaurant?!
Online...2024-12-2822 minHer Love Upgrade - Healthy Relationships, Toxic Relationships, Heal Heartbreak, Setting Boundaries, Self-Love12 | The EASIEST Way to Spot Red Flags in a New RelationshipI know you’re scared about being burned yet again… pouring time, energy and love into a relationship that ends up causing heartache and sometimes in quite a traumatic way because you’ve felt blindsided in the past.
Cutting yourself off from love might feel safer, but there’s a part of you that still truly wants a loving, kind partner to dance through life with. That part is your True Self, and it knows better than that fearful ego of yours - which is trying to keep you safe by completely clipping your wings.
S...2024-12-1915 minHer Love Upgrade - Healthy Relationships, Toxic Relationships, Heal Heartbreak, Setting Boundaries, Self-Love11 | Should I Leave My Partner? 3 Clarifying Questions to Ask Yourself Before Breaking UpNeed more clarity before you break up with your partner? This one’s for you.
Tune in to Ep.11 for 3 powerful tools that will help you to make a decision that you’re at peace with.
It took me YEARS and many failed relationships (including a marriage!) to work out these gems, and I’m so excited I get to share them with you to save you the time, energy and heartbreak.
Should you decide your current partner isn’t aligned with your highest and best vision of your life, here’s your permission...2024-12-1717 minHer Love Upgrade - Healthy Relationships, Toxic Relationships, Heal Heartbreak, Setting Boundaries, Self-Love10 | Got the Lonely Christmas Blues? 4 Steps to Feel High Vibe When Single in Holiday SeasonDo you wish Christmas lit you up like fairy lights, instead of reminding you of the loving partner you don’t have?
Is your beautiful smile at gatherings starting to feel a little… strained?
Maybe you find yourself sobbing at Xmas rom-coms, wondering WTF you need to do to get some real good authentic loving in your life.
Lovely lady, I am sending you hugs and so much love… and an entire stuffed-stocking episode full of joy-inducing treats for you!
Crank up your energetic dial and let’s start 2025 off with the high-vibe TU...2024-12-1419 minHer Love Upgrade - Healthy Relationships, Toxic Relationships, Heal Heartbreak, Setting Boundaries, Self-Love9 | 4 Ways to Improve the Energy of Your Corporate Job and WorkplaceIf you are spending precious hours of your week at work, you NEED to make sure that your workplace isn’t negatively affecting your vibration.
Why is this important?
Well, a couple of reasons:
1.) It’s our responsibility to be true to ourselves and shine the loving nature we’ve been gifted in this life so that our light can illuminate the world as much as possible, and
2.) because we get what we ARE, not what we WANT - and it is our responsibility to make sure we are living in the state...2024-12-1126 minHer Love Upgrade - Healthy Relationships, Toxic Relationships, Heal Heartbreak, Setting Boundaries, Self-Love8 | What Am I Doing Wrong? How To Get Out of Your Own Way When It Comes To Attracting a Healthy RelationshipDo you keep looking for the reason you’re not attracting the right parter?
You might find your brain looping, trying to work out what it is you’re doing ‘wrong’.
Maybe other people have told you you’re ‘too picky’, or seem too this and not enough that… one gorgeous lady I work with said people told her she was too TALL! As if!!!
The answer seems so elusive that sometimes we just assume it’s something inherent in us, like we’re just not meant to find a partner… like we’re not made to be loved or so...2024-12-0814 minHer Love Upgrade - Healthy Relationships, Toxic Relationships, Heal Heartbreak, Setting Boundaries, Self-Love7 | Protect Yourself From Falling for a Narcissist: 3 ToolsWant to avoid falling into a toxic relationship? Here’s what you need to know…
In Ep 7 you will gain 3 powerful tools that will protect you from getting involved with someone who isn’t in alignment with your highest and best wishes for your life.
If you’d like to feel more confident about avoiding heartbreak, and have the ability to navigate dating with a sense of inherent power - this episode is for you lovely soul! x
I hope this brings you closer to the love and life you’re meant for-
Remy xo...2024-12-0529 minHer Love Upgrade - Healthy Relationships, Toxic Relationships, Heal Heartbreak, Setting Boundaries, Self-Love6 | I Married My Trauma Without Realising It...and It Upgraded My Love Life Beyond Measure - More Evidence of How Things Are ALWAYS Unfolding for Our Growth and Best Interests!When my marriage ended, I felt like I’d been kicked off a cliff…
How did I get here in this mess?
Why had I found myself in this situation?
Where was I going wrong with what I was attracting into my life?
This episode I’m sharing a pivotal story from my life, one that turned out to be so valuable that it propelled me into becoming aware of unconscious beliefs that I had been unknowingly holding to be true, so that I could reassess them and let...2024-11-3028 minHer Love Upgrade - Healthy Relationships, Toxic Relationships, Heal Heartbreak, Setting Boundaries, Self-Love5 | Attracting Partners Who Are All Take, No Give? Strengthen Your Boundaries to Stop Feeling Sucked Dry (Over-Givers and People Pleasers, This Is For YOU! Xx)Feeling like you are giving away your power and are left feeling anxious and depleted?
If you want to enjoy more equitable relationships, this episode will help you to become more aware of codependent thoughts you may be unconsciously harbouring, and teach you how to build effective boundaries.
You will learn three important factors to infuse into your boundary, so it serves you effectively - acting as a filter that protects you and gives you the confidence to pursue loving relationships in a healthy, interdependent way.
Is this...2024-11-2631 minHer Love Upgrade - Healthy Relationships, Toxic Relationships, Heal Heartbreak, Setting Boundaries, Self-Love4 | Part 2: Help Letting Go of Your Ex - From Heartbreak to Expansive PossibilitiesWelcome to part two of a powerful pair of episodes, dedicated to helping you move on from your ex partner. If you haven’t heard Ep 3 yet, you will get the best experience by listening there first.
These episodes will begin to train your subconscious to think about your breakup in a new way that allows you to experience it as being full of expansive possibility - a level up into the life that is your true, aligned preference.
Part two explores:
unwrapping your attachment to your ex relationship
developing conscious awareness of beliefs roote...2024-11-2121 minHer Love Upgrade - Healthy Relationships, Toxic Relationships, Heal Heartbreak, Setting Boundaries, Self-Love3 | Part 1: Help Letting Go of Your Ex - This Will Help END Your Post Breakup Suffering! xEp's 3 & 4 are a powerful pair of episodes, dedicated to helping you move on from your ex partner.
Listening in will begin to train your subconscious to think about your breakup in a new way that allows you to experience it as being full of expansive possibility - a level up into the life that is your true, aligned preference.
Part one covers:
reframing your past
the truth about why our minds keep us stuck in undesirable situations
the magic wand we all have that creates our highest and best lives
mastering our mon...2024-11-1921 minHer Love Upgrade - Healthy Relationships, Toxic Relationships, Heal Heartbreak, Setting Boundaries, Self-Love2 | The 4 VITAL Nutrients That Keep a Relationship HealthyWe are moving on to the 4 CHEC nutrients all relationships need to maintain the 5 healthy root FACTR's we explored in Ep 1.
We kicked off in Ep 1 talking about the 5 VERY important essential roots of a healthy relationship - go take a listen if you want a clear benchmark for:
1.) how healthy your current relationship is, or
2.) to understand what was missing in your previous relationship.
or 3.) to know what you actually want from the healthy, loving relationship you are getting ready to attract!
Before you make like a tree and leaf, t...2024-11-1516 minHer Love Upgrade - Healthy Relationships, Toxic Relationships, Heal Heartbreak, Setting Boundaries, Self-Love1 | The 5 Basics EVERY Healthy Loving Relationship Absolutely MUST HaveThere’s a very important reason I had to make my first episode in this podcast all about the 5 Roots of a Healthy Relationship - because they are ESSENTIAL to know if you want to attract and grow a healthy, loving relationship… a.k.a. the relationship you actually, truly deserve!
If your past relationships have been missing the mark, it’s pretty much certain that its because at least one of these three roots were damaged, shrivelled or just plain non-existent.
Once you know these benchmarks, it becomes so much easier to know with confide...2024-11-1419 min