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Leadership TipsEpisode 100 - TechnologyEpisode 100Wow! I can't believe I've finally reached 100 episodes. I don't know if you have found any of these Leadership Tips helpful in your life but it would be an encouragement to me if you would let me know. rupchurch@toolstolead.comPicture this: you're steering your ship through uncharted waters. You task is to make sure the ship gets into safe harbor without damage to the ship, crew, or cargo. Yet, like the notations on old sailing charts you can be sure that “Thar be dragons out thar.” That's pretty much what leading in the digi...
2023-11-0813 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 99 - SustainabilitySustainability. I know this can have different meanings in different contexts. In this episode I will look at what it means to find a solution that will work . . . and continue to work!
2023-10-2511 min
2023-10-1109 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 97 - Executive Presence, Pt. 8The final skill/behavior of Executive Presence is resilience. Setbacks and challenges are inevitable. Resilience enables us to confront these hurdles with a sense of grace and poise. It means maintaining composure, remaining composed, and handling difficulties without displaying frustration or agitation. Effective leaders face problems head-on, yet react calmly and thoughtfully.https://toolstolead.com
2023-10-0409 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 96 - Executive Presence, Pt. 7In this episode I talk about part 7 of the 8 skills/behaviors of Executive presence: Thinking Strategically. Thinking strategically is a cornerstone of executive presence because it serves as a tangible demonstration of a leader’s competence and reliability. It showcases a leader’s ability to not only perceive the intricacies of complex situations but also to formulate effective action plans to address them.https://toolstolead.com
2023-09-2009 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 95 - Executive Presence, Pt. 6There are numerous memes and stories emphasizing that judging someone by their appearance is unwise, at the very least. That being said, it is human nature to form impressions quickly, usually within the first few seconds of meeting someone for the first time. While there are several factors that make up that first impression, such as facial expression, body language, voice quality, and some of the other skills/behaviors already discussed about executive presence, Professional Appearance is major factor.https://toolstolead.com
2023-09-1311 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 94 - Executive Presence, Pt. 5The fifth skill/behavior of executive presence is Emotional Intelligence. Emotional intelligence, the ability to understand and manage one's own emotions and intuit the emotions of others, is a crucial component of executive presence. Like Goldilocks testing the temperature of porridge, a "just right" level of emotional intelligence contributes to strong leadership. Check out Emotional Intelligence for Leaders.
2023-09-0612 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 93 - Executive Presence, Pts 1-4 recapIn this episode I am recaping the first four parts of Executive Presence that I've discussed in previous episodes. I've chosen to do this as part of a conversation with Dr. Aaron Metzcar, a good friend and someone well acquainted with leadership. I hope you enjoy the conversation.https://toolstolead.com
2023-08-2318 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 92 - Executive Presence, Pt. 4Executive presence; what is it and how can one acquire it? Unfortunately you won’t find it on the shelf of even the most expensive stores. Rather, it can be seen in individuals who have found the sweet spot of eight different skills/behaviors; a confluence which is rare but attainable by anyone willing to put in the effort. In this episode the skill/behavior that will be covered is Gravitas. Check out the previous episodes in this series for a look at the first three skills/behaviors which contribute to executive presence.https://toolstolead.com
2023-08-1612 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 91 - Executive Presence, Pt. 3In this episode I will be discussing the 3rd skill/behavior of executive presence: Authenticity. Authenticity is a crucial element of executive presence, as it helps to establish trust and credibility. When leaders are genuine and true to themselves, they are more approachable, relatable, and trustworthy. This, in turn, allows them to connect with their team members and stakeholders on a deeper level, leading to better collaboration, communication, and results.https://toolstolead.com
2023-08-0914 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 90 - Executive Presence, Pt. 2Executive presence; what is it and how can one acquire it? Unfortunately you won’t find it on the shelf of even the most expensive stores. Rather, it can be seen in individuals who have found the sweet spot of eight different skills/behaviors; a confluence which is rare but attainable by anyone willing to put in the effort. In part one of this series, I set the stage for understanding the importance of acquiring executive presence and described the first of those eight skills/behaviors, along with what that skill looks like when it is too little represented or to...
2023-08-0212 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 89 - Executive Presence, Pt. 1Executive Presence is that elusive quality which identifies one person as a leader over another, regardless of the title. In these episodes I will describe the eight core skills/behaviors of executive presence and how to acquire them.
2023-07-2614 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 88 - AdversityAdversity always seems to come at an unexpected time, from an unexpected source, or both. When it does come the effect is disruptive. It has the power to throw us off balance even if we have an inkling of its impending arrival.You can prepare for adversity, at least to some extent and in this episode I'll share my personal experience.https://toolstolead.com
2023-07-0408 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 87 - Urgency, Part 2In the last episode I spoke about the necessity of urgency for achieving success. Let me recap the main point: If you can create a sense of urgency for your organization or yourself, and sustain the sense of urgency, you can achieve success. If you cannot generate a sense of urgency, then all the strategic planning in the world will not help you achieve your goals.Without a sense of urgency focused on the right things, apathy and eventually failure are the norm. Urgency is the difference between success and mediocrity. According to John Kotter’s research, as mu...
2023-06-1408 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 86 - UrgencyUrgency is all about achieving success, no matter the area of life. Being urgent about the right things can generate and sustain change; it can facilitate strategic accomplishment. Being urgent about the wrong things generates busy people who accomplish next to nothing.Check out John Kotter's book: A Sense of UrgencyAlso, my website:https://upchurch-consulting.com/ Upchurch Consulting Group
2023-06-0709 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 85 - You are gonna serve somebodyIn 1980, Bob Dylan, a singer and musician, won his first Grammy Award for his song: You’re Gonna Serve Somebody, released in 1979. Part of the lyrics of the song say “you’re gonna serve somebody, it maybe the Lord, it maybe the Devil, but you’re gonna serve somebody.” Dylan was right on target: you’re gonna serve somebody whether you know it or not, whether you like it or not, whether you agree or not, your gonna serve somebody. This is an unavoidable fact, but not a popular one.Acts 4:12 "Salvation is found in no one else for there is...
2023-05-1007 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 84 - Beware PrecedentPrecedent is the small vine growing through the seam of concrete that eventually breaks the slab. Precedent is the small root that eventually grows to fill and close off the drainpipe, causing sewage to back up into the house creating a smelly mess and damage. Precedent refers to decisions or exceptions made to policies that can set a pattern for future behavior, potentially affecting organizational culture, employee expectations and even legal implications.I hope you find this episode helpful. Precedent has definitely been an issue for me in the past.For more on leadership check https...
2023-04-1908 minLeadership TipsEpisode 83 - ComplacencyContentment is NOT the same thing as complacency Complacency is the acceptance of the status quo at a level that relinquishes any personal options for change; like a piece of driftwood floating on the ocean. Complacent people have become fully assimilated by the culture and their circumstances. They stand for nothing, and accomplish little.In this episode learn 7 ways to avoid complacency in your life.for more on leadership check out https://toolstolead.com
2023-04-0710 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 82 - Time ManagementPoor time management is the downfall of many a leader. The ability to understand the difference between the important and everything else can be challenging. Couple that with the pressure of the urgent and you will often find an individual who is literally swamped with work, but accomplishing little.For more Leadership information check out https://upchurch-consulting.com
2023-03-2108 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 81- Self-SabotageIf Sabotage is setting into place forces, usually concealed, which lead to destruction, then self-sabotage is the setting into place forces, which lead to our own failure. Self-sabotage is usually unconscious. It occurs when I behave in a way that undermines, or totally blocks, my ability to reach my goals.For more leadership tips check out https://toolstolead.com
2023-03-1408 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 80 - RightAt the end of the book of Judges in the Bible we find this statement: “In those days Israel had no king; all the people did whatever seemed right in their own eyes.” The understanding being that without a King to provide a common standard, the people tended to default to their own perception of right. The implication, however, is that doing what was right, as defined by each individual, wasn’t necessarily the best way to life. I liken it to the phrase: “Looking out for number one.” This is a recipe for disaster.Toolstolead.com
2023-02-1409 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 79 - Be ConsiderateHere is a shock: not everything is all about YOU. I know that this may come as a surprise. You may feel as if you are the center of the universe, but it simply is not true. Every indication is that the context of LIFE has everything to do with RELATIONSHIPS, and relationships, by definition, includes others. If there is one life lesson you simply MUST get, it is this fact: All of life can be reduced to relationships. The quality of those relationships hinges upon your awareness of the fact that, 1) YOU are not the center, and 2) the way...
2023-02-0708 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 78 - RESPECTI like to be treated with respect. I’m sure you feel the same way. When we are treated with respect it resonates within us and bolsters our sense of self and builds self-confidence. When we aren’t treated with respect the opposite occurs. Our self-confidence is shaken and a subtle voice whispers to us that we aren’t worthy of being respected. The reality is that every individual, by virtue of being created in the image of God, is worthy of being treated with respect.If you want to develop your skill in the language of respect and bu...
2023-01-3108 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 77 - Social MediaSocial media is used for all kinds of horrific purposes and contribute to all kinds of problems in our society. But social media also provides an opportunity to connect and bring light on society’s problems and foster solutions that make our world better. As Christians, I think that staying involved in social media is important to redeem it and make it into the kind of tool that will allow the message of God’s love to be heard.For more leadership resources check out https://toolstolead.com
2023-01-2409 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 76 - The Scorpion and the FrogEveryone deserves to be respected and treated like we would treat ourselves. But when someone proves untrustworthy, be careful about continuing to trust, even if they promise that they have changed.For more leadership resources check out https://toolstolead.com
2023-01-1707 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 75 - Leading ChangeIf you are in any position of leadership, at some point you will find yourself being responsible for leading a change initiative. It might be something small within a department, or for the entire organization. Change management is a normal part of leadership, but it can be far more complicated than it appears on the surface. There are four keys to leading an effective change initiative.For more leadership resources check out https://toolstolead.com
2023-01-1008 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 74- Great Followers make the best leadersIt may seem obvious, but you cannot really be a great leader until you have learned how to be a great follower. Unfortunately, most would prefer to skip the follower step and go straight to leadership. While that is understandable, those who do somehow make that leap put themselves and their organizations at a deficit.For more leadership resources check out https://toolstolead.com
2023-01-0308 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 73 - A Critical SpiritOne of the easiest and most practiced habits is to be critical. Being critical seems to be as natural to most of us as breathing. We may disguise it as sarcasm, but the truth is much harsher. It is easy to find fault with situations, organizations, and especially people; the way they drive, the way they talk, the clothes they wear, how slow they move, their age, how much hair they have (or don’t have) and the list goes on and on. It is easy to spew forth our observations, pointing out each fault in detail as if we ar...
2022-12-2708 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 72 - Public SpeakingThe fear of public speaking has often been touted as one of the greatest fears that most people have. The thought of standing in front of a group of people, be it 3 or 4 in a small group or hundreds in an auditorium, and making a speech has a paralyzing effect for most. The ability to speak in public, however, is a crucial skill. Crucial in the sense that those who can overcome their fear and learn to speak confidently to large or small audiences, have the ability to maximize their influence, and thus, their ability to lead more effectively.
2022-12-2009 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 71 - Being Present in the MomentBeing present in the moment is one of the characteristics of level five leaders. The question is: what does it mean to be “present in the moment.” I’m glad you asked. For more leadership resources check out https://toolstolead.com
2022-12-0607 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 70 - Put on your oxygen maskYou know how on an airplane trip the flight attendant goes over the safety instructions before the flight begins? One of the instructions is to take care of your own oxygen mask before trying to help others. The point is that if you do not get oxygen yourself, you will be unable to help others, i.e., you cannot help anyone if you are passed out from lack of oxygen. I think this is sound advice for other parts of your life as well. In this episode I’m going to share with you four different ways to “put on your...
2022-11-2909 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 69 - Expressed AppreciationExpressed appreciation is a crucial part of being truly human, fully human, emotionally intelligent and self-aware. So, the question is, how human are you? For more resources check out https:toolstolead.com and click on ResourcesAlso, check out my ecourse: Emotional Intelligence for Leaders at https:toolstolead.thinkific.com
2022-11-0808 minLeadership TipsEpisode 68 - Administrative ResolveAdministrative resolve is the willingness of leadership to make hard decisions and then stick with them when the going gets tough. Administrative Resolve is quite possibly the most important aspect of effective leadership because it demonstrates the character of the leader and their ability to follow through.For more resources check out https://toolstolead.com and click on the Resources tab
2022-11-0107 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 67 - I am doing my bestSometimes you will hear people say “I’m doing my best” or “I tried my hardest.” Perhaps you have said these words yourself. If you are genuinely self-aware then that statement might be true, although if you were genuinely self-aware you wouldn’t make such a statement in the first place. Check out my web page at https://upchurch-consulting.comCheck out my blog and resources at https://toolstolead.comCheck out my ecourses at https://toolstolead.thinkific.com
2022-10-1808 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 66 - Confrontation and TearsBeing a leader in the truest sense of the word means that eventually you will have to hold someone accountable. Holding people accountable usually means confronting them with the difference between their actual behavior and the behavior expected by the job. While this is rarely anyone’s favorite part of the job, it comes with the title. Check out the services offered by Upchurch Consulting at https:upchurch-consulting.com also this course on Emotional Intelligence for Leaders at https://toolstolead.thinkific.com
2022-10-1109 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 65 - InfluenceJohn Maxwell, a well-known leadership guru, says that “Leadership is influence and influence is leadership, nothing more and nothing less.” What I know is that influence is the currency of achievement. For more check out my website: toolstolead.com
2022-10-0409 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 64 - Add ValueI sincerely believe that the uppermost thought in our mind as we approach any task, position, or responsibility should be “How can I add value.” I think this applies to every part of life.
2022-09-2707 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 63 - ReputationBenjamin Franklin said, “It takes many good deeds to build a good reputation, and only one bad one to lose it.” Proverbs 22:1 states, “Choose a good reputation over great riches; being held in high esteem is better than silver or gold.” We all have a reputation. These two statements merely reinforce that fact and the importance of being aware of your personal reputation in the various areas of your life.
2022-09-1308 minLeadership TipsEpisode 62 - Personal ReflectionPersonal reflection is the path toward becoming fully self aware and able to have good self-management, core factors in emotional intelligence. There is no time like the present, why not start today?
2022-08-3009 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 61 - Leaders take the InitiativeIf you had to reduce leadership to one word, what would it be? I have heard many different answers to that question, some of the most popular are: influence, innovation, domination, manipulation, persuasion, problem-solver, integrity, character, visionary, communicator, etc. For me, I would have to say that leadership, in one word, is initiative.
2022-08-2308 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 60 - Multitasking Equals MediocrityMultitasking is commonly understood as attempting to do two or more things at the same time. For example, watching television while reading a book or playing a video game, or listening to a lecture while also checking your text message. A LOT of people swear that when they do this they are able to concentrate better, learn more, and are more productive. However, studies have shown that when you attempt to multitask, both activities suffer.
2022-08-1607 minLeadership TipsEpisode 59 - Leaders Make DecisionsLeaders pull together information from a variety of sources and, based on their experience and education, they make a decision. Sometimes the decisions made are good ones. . . and other times, not so good. Typically, if your good decisions outweigh your not-so-good decisions you are going the right direction and develop a reputation for making good choices.
2022-08-0908 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 58 - When to or not to BleedYou can lose a little blood and still be fine. If you lose more blood, you will be weak. If you lose too much blood, you will be dead.
2022-07-1209 minLeadership TipsEpisode 57 - Leaders are LearnersLeaders are learners, at least good leaders are. I mean this in the sense that Leaders never stop actively learning. They are always growing, always eager to pick some bit of information that will help them do a better job in leading their team and achieving their goals.
2022-06-2808 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 56 - 24 HoursLet me share with you one of my pet peeves. It annoys me when anyone uses the excuse of being too busy to do something that is asked of them. Now let me share with you WHY this is a pet peeve. Everybody has the same amount of hours in the day.
2022-06-2109 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 55 - Whose Fault is itLet’s take a look at the phrase: “Whose Fault is it?” From one perspective, when something goes awry, finding out who was responsible seems obvious. Ostensibly, that should be motivated by the desire to figure out what happened so that the problem won’t be repeated. Practically, identifying the responsible party is often the opportunity for blame and shame; for finger pointing and scape-goating.
2022-06-0607 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 54 - Smiling and GenerosityIn this episode, I will be discussing two topics: Smiling and Generosity.
2022-06-0108 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 53 - MotivationDo you know what motivates you? What gives you the energy to accomplish the task set before you? Understanding extrinsic and intrinsic motivation is important in understanding yourself and how to effectively lead others.
2022-05-2408 minLeadership TipsEpisode 52 - A year of episodesWith this being my 52nd episode, I thought I would deviate from my regular pattern. With this episode I have attained the initial goal I set out for myself; to record at least a full year of episodes, one for each week.
2022-05-1707 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 51 - Blood is Thicker than WaterBlood is thicker than water. Literature if full of stories that emphasize that. Knowing that to be true, you can be better prepared to deal with situations and issues by following the tips I’ve shared in this episode.
2022-05-1007 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 50 - Giving and Taking OffenseIn this episode I'm going to be talking about taking offense and giving offense. When someone takes offense easily the aphorism is that “they wear their emotions on their sleeve,” implying that their emotions are so near the surface that they are easily provoked. Such people might be called overly sensitive, or merely emotional. Find out how to deal with this issue in this episode
2022-05-0309 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 49 - That is Just The Way I AmThis might come as a surprise, but it is possible to be genuine and truthful, and still not offend everyone you meet. It does mean, however, that you have to take responsibility for what you are saying and how you are saying things and begin to consider others.
2022-04-1108 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 48 - Attitudes are ContagiousAttitudes are contagious, especially those of the leader. Negativity will sink the morale of everyone around you. It can creep up on you so subtly that you may not even realize it has become a prominent part of your perspective. Before you know it your perceived “sharp analytical perspective” is viewed as disruptive and depressing. You’ve been relegated to the label of “boat rocker” or “rebel without a cause” and lost credibility and influence.
2022-03-2907 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 47 - Good Grammar MattersKnow this, an articulate person, using good grammar, will always have a better chance for being hired or being promoted. You get a choice, but be aware that your choice will long-term implications for you and possibly your family as well.
2022-03-1507 minLeadership TipsEpisode 46 - Tasks Which Define SuccessThere are some tasks that will make the difference between success and failure: at home, work and life in general. These are the Tasks Which Define Success; do those tasks well, and success is assured. Fail to do those tasks, or do them poorly, and mediocrity and failure are in your future.
2022-03-0809 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 45 - General Practical ProverbsGeneral Proverbs for Living a Fulfilling Live - I think you will identify with some of these and perhaps take away a few to apply in your life.
2022-03-0108 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 44 - To Policy or Not to PolicyA policy is a Big Deal. Every organization needs policies in order to operate. Unfortunately, most organizations have WAY too many policies.
2022-02-2207 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 43 - EQ - Relationship Management Pt 2In this episode I will share five techniques for Relationship Management
2022-02-0809 minLeadership TipsEpisode 42 - EQ - Relationship Management Pt 1Relationship Management is the fourth aspect of Emotional Intelligence. In previous episodes I’ve discussed the three other aspects of emotional intelligence: self-awareness, self-management, and social awareness. Now we're going to look at relationship building/management. This fourth part of emotional intelligence is a crucial piece in how we understand and how we are able to take what we've learned and how we've grown in ourselves to be able to apply it in a broader context for greater effect. You could say this is where the rubber meets the road in Emotional Intelligence.
2022-02-0107 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 41 - Email CommunicationHave you ever received an email that reading it leaves you confused, or insulted? I’m sure you have received those emails as well, and possibly sent them too. This episode is for you.
2022-01-2508 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 40 - Working Genius and TeamworkThe Working Genius Model of understanding who you are in relation to how to work smarter can make a real difference in your life. This model that comes out of the work by Patrick Lencioni and his team provides valuable insights that you can use immediately. Hopefully, this episode will start you on a discovery of deeper self-awareness.
2022-01-1809 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 39 - What Are You Waiting ForAs a rule, we are all more comfortable with just keeping things the way they are, even while complaining about our circumstances. Only the brave will face their reality and choose to act, to embrace new behaviors and thoughts that can lead to a better life.
2022-01-1110 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 38 - Handling the FloodHandling the flood of information that comes at you on any given day can be challenging, or even overwhelming. You receive an email or file attachment you want to keep, but then forget where you have saved it. You place an important document or object in a “safe” place only to forget where that is. It is not just you; it is all of us.
2022-01-0411 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 37 - Social Awareness - Part 3This is the third part in a series looking at Social Awareness as part of Emotional Intelligence. In the previous two episodes I’ve described what Social awareness means and provided a technique for becoming more socially aware. In this episode, I’ll share with you more techniques to help you become more socially aware.
2021-12-2809 minLeadership TipsEpisode 36 - Social Awareness - Part 2This is the second part in a series looking at Social Awareness as part of Emotional Intelligence. In this episode I’m going to share with you one technique on how to become more socially aware.
2021-12-1410 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 35 - Social Awareness - Part 1This is part 1 of a series on Social Awareness, which is the third aspect of emotional intelligence. You can learn to be more socially aware. Doing so will change your life.
2021-12-0710 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 34 - Watch the EyesThis episode is about reading a room by paying attention to what or who other people are looking at. This is an aspect of social awareness which is another part of emotional intelligence discussed in previous episodes
2021-11-3010 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 33 - Provocation and ResponseHave you ever been on the receiving end of a verbal attack that seemed too excessive for the situation? When that happens, it feels as if you have just been hit by a runaway bus careening out of control down the street. You didn’t see it coming and the impact has left you bruised and bloody with your own emotional storm.
2021-11-1610 minLeadership TipsEpisode 32 - RighteousnessIs right defined because of the context of my situation? At what point does our context redefine right and wrong? Should our context define right or is “right” an absolute concept?Check out this episode to find out.
2021-11-0910 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 31 - Just Do ItIf your boss asks you to do something, unless it is unethical or immoral, DO IT! Do whatever is asked of you with excellence and do it ahead of schedule. Let me repeat that: Do whatever is asked of you with excellence and do it ahead of schedule.
2021-11-0210 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 30 - Self Management, Part 4This is part four in a four part series dealing with learning how to practice self-management and gain better control of your emotions and your life. If you haven’t listened to the first three episodes in this series I encourage you to go back and check them before you listen to this episode.
2021-10-1910 minLeadership TipsEpisode 29 - Self Management, Part 3This is part three in a four part series dealing with learning how to practice self-management and gain better control of your emotions and your life. In this episode I’m going to share with you two more techniques that are effective in giving you better self-management of your emotions.
2021-10-1210 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 28 - Self Management, Part 2What I’m going to cover in the next few episodes is how to manage yourself so that you will have a better chance at controlling your emotions before they hijack you and start controlling you. Not eliminate them, but control them so that they don't control you. So I'm going to share with you two methods for controlling your emotions in this episode.
2021-10-0510 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 27 - Self Management, Part 1In this episode, I'm going to build off the information I shared in previous episodes about self-awareness. If you haven’t listened to those episodes, I encourage you to go back and do so. Both self-awareness and self-management are part of Emotional Intelligence. Self-awareness is foundational to Emotional Intelligence and unless you are making progress in that area, what I will be sharing in about Self-Management won’t be as effective for you. However, if you want to truly become more emotionally intelligent you will hit a barrier unless you can practice effective self-management.
2021-09-2810 minLeadership TipsEpisode 26 - Garbage In - Garbage OutGarbage in/Garbage out is an older phrase introduced in the early days of computers. It meant that if the data that was entered into a computer program was incorrect, then the final reports would be equally incorrect. “Fake News” falls into this category as well. In earlier days this was labeled propaganda and was intentionally used to manipulate whole populations. Sadly, that is still the case in far too many instances.
2021-09-2110 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 25 - Teachable Spirit: People with a teachable spirit are able to learn from their mistakes and grow to become better. People without a teachable spirit are always defending themselves, and blaming circumstances or others for their failures. If you do not have a teachable spirit, you will constantly wonder why you are being picked on, persecuted… or avoided. In fact, if you regularly feel picked on or persecuted, it could be a sign that you do NOT have a teachable spirit.
2021-09-1410 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 24 - MBWAIn 2011 Ed Fuller wrote a popular book titled: You Can’t Lead with Your Feet on the Desk.” As you can imagine, the central message of the book was the importance of actively engaging your employees where they are, not just from your office. You may not be a manager, yet, however, you should be aware that you could not truly lead or manage people, or lead an organization without being involved, after all, “all of life can be reduced to relationships.”
2021-08-3110 minLeadership TipsEpisode 23 - Self-Awareness, Part 3In the last episode I discussed the first of four ways you can become more self-aware. If you didn’t listen to that episode, or the one before that on self-awareness, I encourage you to go back and give it a listen. In this episode I look at 3 more ways to become more self-aware.
2021-08-2410 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 22 - Self-Awareness, Part 2In the last episode I walked you through using a SWOT analysis to begin exploring the concept of Self-Awareness. If you didn’t listen to that episode I encourage you to go back and give it a listen. So if the first question is “what does it mean to be self-aware?” The second question is, “how do I become self-aware?” Becoming self-aware is an intentional process that doesn't happen automatically. Here's a key piece. If you're going to become emotionally intelligent, and that starts with self-awareness, you're going to have to apply yourself.
2021-08-1710 minLeadership TipsEpisode 21 - Self-Awareness, Part 1I’ve mentioned the importance of self-awareness in previous episodes and would like to dive into that subject more deeply. What does it mean to be self aware? That's a really good question. If you are asking that question, you have already put yourself into a category of people that is beyond what most people actually consider. Being aware of oneself means having an understanding of what's going on inside of you at a level that you can recognize and control. When people used to say, “I need to find myself,” what they're actually trying to do is become self-aware, and mo...
2021-08-1010 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 20 - StressStress will ALWAYS find a way to express itself. Stress might show up in weight gain, weight loss, nail biting, teeth grinding, illness, headache, stomach issues, grouchy attitude, depression, yelling, crying, violence, etc. This is true no matter the type of stress you are experiencing: good or bad, short-term or long-term, or the source of stress
2021-08-0311 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 19 - MentorReally, everybody needs multiple mentors across their entire life. So make it your goal to get as many mentors as possible, in various areas of your life: professional, faith, parenting, recreational, etc. I have had a few that deeply influenced my life. All of my mentors taught me important lessons about what to do and how to live.
2021-07-2709 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 18 - InertiaNewton’s law of inertia was directed at physical objects, however, there is a lesson here that applies to processes and people as well. I think the law of inertia also applies to people, perhaps even more so. Henry Ford is quoted as saying, “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t – you’re right.”
2021-07-2009 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 17 - Expectatiioonsit is largely subconscious, you probably don’t even realize you are doing it, but be assured it is an inescapable part of our human nature. In fact it is this very human act which leads to racism and bigotry of all kinds.
2021-07-1308 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 16 - Do not be DefensiveEventually, someone will confront you about some action you have taken or something you have said. In your mind, this may or may not seem to be to fair. Let me clarify something: your perception at this point is meaningless. I really can’t overstate this: your perception is meaningless until you understand the perspective of the one confronting you.
2021-07-0607 minLeadership TipsEpisode 15 - The Sweetest SoundQuite a number of people will give themselves an excuse when it comes to remembering names, and they have all kinds of excuses, but the bottom line is that it isn’t a priority in their lives. They don’t see the value and can’t be bothered to put out the effort to remember someone else’s name. However, what we make a priority is what we make happen.
2021-06-2907 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 14 - Listening More Than You TalkMost relationships fail because of poor communication. Poor communication is caused, primarily, because of our inability or unwillingness, to listen. In fact, one of the benefits of listening is strengthened relationships. When we listen more than we talk, our marriages improve, our work relationships are improved, our relationships with our children and parents are improved; quite literally learning to listen more and better can transform every relationship in our life.
2021-06-2207 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 13 - Saying NoManaging your life demands that sometimes you say NO. However, that can be difficult because of the three "P"s that tend to interfere. This episode takes a look at the barriers to saying no and how to overcome them.
2021-06-1507 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 12 - Being ContentBeing content isn't easy. I know this because it has been true for me. Earlier in my life, I had resigned from my job for what I felt were moral reasons, that I was being asked to do something that was immoral, so I resigned. With a wife and three small children and literally no savings this was a problem. Trusting in God to sustain us during this time was one of the greatest challenges we had faced up to that time.
2021-06-0807 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 11 - Honesty is the Best PolicyIn fact, honesty is the ONLY policy! According to Kouzes and Posner in the Leadership Challenge, Honesty is the single most identified trait of Leaders that others want to follow. Everybody wants their supervisor, their Pastor, their CEO, their Mayor, their Senators and Congressmen, their President to be honest. But, of course, everyone also wants their spouse, their parents, their children, their coworkers, and their friends to be honest as well. It may not be the trait which gets you promoted, but it is definitely the trait, that if not practiced, will get you fired . . . or lead to divorce . . . or...
2021-06-0107 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 10 - Suspect Others May be Smarter Than You AreI have to confess, this is an area where I struggle. I’m embarrassed to say I have a tendency to think more highly of myself than I should. Yet, on too many occasions to count I have been made aware of the truth of this proverb by having people much smarter than I am reveal that fact by their keen insight or superior presentation. So this lesson comes from hard earned experience. If you would like to contact me, you can reach me at this email address: proverbs@upchurch-consulting.coim
2021-05-2507 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 9 - Simple Solutions are BestHumans seem to crave the complex - the more complicated the better - but all that complexity sets us up for failure more often than not. Scale back your Rube Goldberg lifestyle and focus on keeping things simple. If you have any questions or would like to contact me you can email me at proverbs@upchurch-consulting.com
2021-05-1807 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 8 - Things are not always as they seem to beThere is a real difference between reality and perception. Those who are aware of this difference make better decisions and are more careful in forming judgments that can destroy relationships. Things are not always as they seem to be. You can contact me at podcast@upchurch-consulting.com.
2021-05-1107 min
Leadership TipsEpisode 7 - PerseverenceEver felt like quitting? If you are human then the answer to that question is YES! This is not something unique to you alone. we all cope with the temptation to quit. In this episode I'm going to talk about that and why persevering can make a difference. If you have any questions or comments you can email me at proverbs@upchurch-consulting.com
2021-05-0407 minLeadership TipsEpisode 6 - ResilienceResilience is the ability to bounce back when we are faced with the harsh realities of failure and disappointment. It is the defining characteristic of those who succeed in life. In this episode, I examine resilience and how you can become more resilient in your own life. If you have any questions or comments you can email me at proverbs@upchurch-consulting.com
2021-04-2708 minLeadership TipsEpisode 5 - Excellence in All ThingsEver wonder why you seem stuck in mediocrity? This proverb takes a look at why that is the case and proposes a new standard that can radically transform your life. If you have any questions or comments you can email me at proverbs@upchurch-consulting.com
2021-04-2005 minLeadership TipsEpisode 4 - Everything Rises and Falls on LeadershipThis episode takes a look at the importance of leadership in every area of your life - starting with you! Once you realize that EVERYTHING rises and falls on LEADERSHIP, and you part in that, you are more likely to get on a path to personal and professional success. http://upchurch-consulting.com/
2021-04-1306 minLeadership TipsEpisode 3 - All of Life can be Reduced to RelationshipsThis episode touches on a key principle for living a fulfilling life: All of Life Can be Reduced to Relationships - in fact, your relationships define you in ways you may not be aware of. http://upchurch-consulting.com/
2021-04-0607 minLeadership TipsEpisode 2 Guiding PrinciplesThis episode discusses the importance of having guiding principles in your life.
2021-03-3005 minLeadership TipsEpisode 1 IntroductionThis is the first episode of the Proverbs for Living a Fulfilling Life. It is an introduction to the podcast.
2021-03-2303 min