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Grown Man SpeakEpisode 8: Pleasure and Pain - The Cost Of ReliefEpisode DescriptionIn this episode, Rob explores how behaviour actually changes — and why knowing what to do is rarely the problem.Most men understand the basics: eat better, exercise more, slow down, make better choices. Yet understanding alone doesn’t move behaviour. What does move behaviour is the way we experience pleasure, pain, and relief in the moment.Using real examples from health, training, and life, this episode looks at how short-term relief quietly beats long-term payo...
2026-03-2115 minGrown Man SpeakEpisode 7: Workplace Toughness In a Softer WorldA recent article about proposed workplace mental-health reforms in New South Wales got me thinking.On one hand, there’s no doubt some workplaces have caused real psychological harm over the years.Toxic leadership, humiliation disguised as performance management, and pressure that crosses the line into genuine damage.But at the same time, many men are now trying to navigate a world where expectations around resilience, responsibility and emotional safety are shifting rapidly.So where exactly is the line today?Between pressure that builds ca...
2026-03-1321 minGrown Man SpeakEpisode 6: What The GAP is Really About.Episode DescriptionIn this episode, Rob lays out the core idea behind his book The GAP.Many men build an internal survival system early in life — not consciously, but out of necessity. That system can help you cope, adapt, and keep moving. Over time, it can also continue running quietly in the background, shaping decisions, reactions, and pace long after the original conditions are gone.This episode explores why life can look fine on the outside while feeling tight, he...
2026-03-1015 minGrown Man SpeakEpisode 5. Opinions, Internet Trolls and Pauline HansonEpisode DescriptionA comment on social media called me a “complete nobody” sharing “baseless opinions” about things I’m “unqualified” to speak on.Instead of deleting it, I decided to unpack it.Because underneath that one sentence sits something bigger — who we decide gets to speak, who gets dismissed, and how easy it is to start believing the dismissal.In this episode, I explore what actually makes someone a “nobody,” what qualification really means outside of institutions, and why we hand so much power to opinions from people who don’t know us, fund us, or l...
2026-02-2428 minGrown Man SpeakEpisode 4: The Valley Of DespairEpisode DescriptionAfter a big creative push, there’s often a strange, quiet stretch that follows.The work’s been done.The effort’s been spent.But nothing’s reflecting back yet.In this episode, I talk about that uncomfortable gap between effort and results — the phase where doubt creeps in, motivation drops, and a lot of blokes quietly give up.Not because they failed — but because the silence messes with their head.We dig into why this phase feels so destabilising, how our need...
2026-02-1024 minGrown Man SpeakEpisode 3 The Cost of Living a Life That Isn’t Yours — The Invisible PriceMisalignment doesn’t just feel uncomfortable — it costs you.In this episode of Grown Man Speak, Rob follows on from Episode 2 and takes a closer look at how misalignment actually shows up in real life — through behaviour, broken promises, resentment, and loss of trust — and the invisible price we pay when we live with it for too long.This isn’t about quick fixes or seven-step plans. It’s about learning to read the signals your life is already giving you — and understanding what they’re costing you.In this episode...
2026-01-2719 minGrown Man SpeakEpisode 2: You’re Not Fucked — But You’re Not Alright EitherLife can be working — bills paid, responsibilities handled — and still not feel right. Nothing’s falling apart. Nothing obvious is wrong. Yet something’s off.In this episode of Grown Man Speak, Rob talks about that quiet unease many capable men live with but rarely name. Not a breakdown. Not burnout. Just a sense that life feels thin, flat, or slightly disconnected.This isn’t about fixing yourself or chasing happiness. It’s about recognising the signal — and understanding you’re not broken for feeling it.In this episode:
2026-01-1314 minGrown Man SpeakGrown Man Speak Episode 1Welcome to the maiden episode of Grown Man Speak.Episode 1 is an introduction to Grown Man Speak — a podcast for men who’ve lived some life and want to see more clearly what’s been running them.In this opening episode, Rob shares why this podcast exists, a little about his upcoming book The GAP, who this work is for — and just as importantly, what it isn’t. No advice, no fixing, no quick answers — just a place for honest conversation and clearer seeing.This episode sets the tone for what’s to come....
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