Romika Gunn - Podcast Details

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Kinfolk29. No Need to Prove YourselfThere’s no need to prove yourself…to anyone. Ever. It doesn't make you more or less valuable.Because you inherently have value, and once you learn how to respect that, you won’t let anyone else devalue what you know is worthy of respect, love, and consideration.This episode is about just that. In this episode, Romika shares: How to explore our formative beliefs about our worth and inherent valueWhy you need to stop trying to manage other peoples’ responses to youWhere beliefs come fromHow to clarify your boun...2025-04-1447 min

Kinfolk28. Unhappy to Help OthersThis is the 4th part of our Rebellion series, and it's all about why you may feel unhappy to help others.If you’ve ever felt unhappy to help someone, it’s probably because you haven’t waited until these 3 things happen first before you offer your assistance.If you feel like when you try to help others they transfer their failures onto you, or you are met with resistance, or they tend to ask for help for an indefinite amount of time - this episode is for you.In this episode, Romika shares...2025-04-0739 min

Kinfolk27. Existing With FearThis is the 3rd part of our Rebellion Series!This episode is all about fear. Romika shares that she does not believe it is possible to live without fear, but we can all learn how to coexist with it as an every day part of our lives without giving it the power to make our decisions. Fear informs you, it doesn't have the power to decide your next step. You do. In this episode, you will hear:what fear is, and why it is importantwhy we...2025-03-3141 min

Kinfolk26: Surviving Survivor's GuiltThis episode is heavy. This is part 2 of the Rebellion Series, and Romika goes into detail about her struggles with processing through her own survivor’s guilt in hopes to help you process through your own. This is an important conversation because if guilt is left unresolved and unprocessed in a healthy way, guilt is the fastest track to shame, and you are bound to repeat the cycles you were desperate to heal (or rebel) from when you choose to operate out of shame. This episode discusses:How to understand survivor's guilt Why guilt is he...2025-03-2453 min

Kinfolk25. Becoming a Tactical NegotiatorThis is the very first part of our Rebellion Series! This is the first series ever shared on this podcast, and it’s going to be specific, tactical and practical.The first part is all about learning how to be an effective negotiator. Romika shares the fundamental principles that she has learned after being trained as a corporate negotiator in her insurance role.What you will realize quickly having gone through trauma is:1, You are already skilled in this - Romika is just sharing the language and th...2025-03-1737 min

Kinfolk24. Becoming Less DesperateWe’ve all felt desperate. And when you've lived through trauma, there's a reason why you can or have chosen to show up that way, so let's talk about it.In this episode, we will discuss where desperation is rooted, how it shows up, and how we can take the next step to heal.This episode discusses: why we make decisions out of desperation how to get present what it looks like to show up from a place of security and confidence Identifying the right context to pursue dreams Learning how to...2025-03-0336 min

Kinfolk23. The Balance Between Contentment and ComplacencyIt is so hard to know when you're living in contentment or choosing complacency. It's a fine line and a hard balance, and honestly, this episode might not give you the definite answer you're seeking. However, it will help you take the first step. In this episode, Romika shares the backstory of why this is even a topic of discussion, and her approach to identifying how to know if she needs to seek out contentment, or make room for more. This episode highlights: How to manage what you already have How to build out...2025-02-1732 min

Kinfolk22. Living Happily SingleThis episode is all about how to live and navigate through life happily single. It shouldn't come as a surprise to you at this point, that it is a deliberate and intentional pursuit to live your life this way.Romika shares all of her best tips as someone who is doing the same, right alongside you.In this episode, you will hear about:Balancing financesHow to take care of yourself wellInitiating physical touchDiversifying the backgrounds in your support groupDecentering your relationship statusIt goes a long way...2025-02-101h 02

Kinfolk21. The Pursuit of HappinessYou'll want to listen to this episode if there's any question in your mind on whether or not happiness is possible for your life. Spoiler: the answer is the loudest, most obnoxious and enthusiastic, "yes!" ...and to be honest with you, it's probably a lot less difficult than you think it is to pursue true happiness. The catch is: the process is a little daunting. But that's exactly what this episode is about. In this episode, Romika gives you some of the easiest practicals that you'll need to pursue happiness, no matter where you're currently...2025-02-0332 min

Kinfolk20. Sustainable Self-CareIn this episode, Romika dives into the true meaning of self-care, breaking down the difference between simple pampering and the deeper, more transformative work of nurturing your mind, body, and soul. She explores her perspective on sustainable self-care. This episode highlights: Romika shares how she began this journey of self-care Pampering vs. True Self-Care: on why self-care isn’t just about indulging in temporary pleasures, and what true, sustainable self-care involves. Episode 7: How to Become Yourself was referenced in this episode Learning how to do what you need to do now Investing in a li...2025-01-2746 min

Kinfolk19. Before You Quit, Consider ThisIn this episode, Romika believes she can convince you not to quit on your goals in under an hour... This episode is 58 minutes and 12 seconds and it is packed full of so many practical steps to help you understand how to make your goals more manageable, the reasons you couldn't be successful in the past, and what needs to change or be altered in order for you to do what you always sought out to do. This episode includes practicals and insights on: How to know when to move on from...2025-01-2058 min

Kinfolk18. Responsibility Displacement: When Helping HurtsIn this episode, Romika shares why it is so hard to allow others to be responsible. She challenges you to give responsibly for others' loads back to them, and shares why it is so important to only carry burdens. In this episode, you will hear: The definition of responsibility displacement The difference between a "load" and a "burden When helping hurts - what you need to do The "Let them" Theory Appropriately responding to others Please rate and leave a review of the podcast on Apple and Spotify to...2025-01-1337 min

Kinfolk17. Refusing to be a People-PleaserThe reason most of have chosen to show up as a people-pleasers is because most of us don't see it as a problem, or haven't considered that we made this decision as a response to our trauma. In this episode, Romika shares exactly why people-pleasing is a problem, and how to reflect on the time in your life when you decided to show up this way, and practicals to show up differently. This episode includes: A reference to the book "Atomic Habits" by James Clear highlights previous episodes, "The Four Principles to Establishing Healthy...2025-01-0642 min

Kinfolk16. Becoming Less AwkwardWe're all awkward. It just that some of us just may be a little more awkward than others...and that's okay! This episode is for my awkward people who are ready to become more tactful in building new relationships, or going deeper with relationships that may be at a shallow standstill. In this episode, Romika discusses: How to embrace discomfort How to have more interesting conversations and drafting a signature question She references the book, "Year of Yes" by Shonda Rhimes. Linked here for you. Follow for more on instagram @kinfolk 2024-07-2222 min

Kinfolk15. Living an Unbothered LifeSometimes it can feel like no matter how hard you try, things just always seem to bother you. If that sounds like you - this episode is the perfect place to start. In this episode, Romika shares 3 key areas that might be preventing you from living your best, unbothered life. This episode includes practicals on how to: Identify weak points in your accessibility work towards acceptance instead of resentment/indifference Narrow down a more unbothered network Please do leave a review, comment, like and share this podcast so that those that need to...2024-07-0827 min

Kinfolk14. How to stay out of TraumaThe way you stay free requires a completely different approach than the strategy you used to get free. In this episode, Romika shares a lot about Game Theory - the science of strategy - so that you can learn how to strategize ways to win at life, instead of just settling to play the game not to lose. This episode includes: Examples of what it looks like to play not to lose 12 thought pattern examples from a worksheet sent to Romika by her therapist from one of their sessions 4 practicals on how to enforce...2024-04-0837 min

Kinfolk13. Maintaining Old FriendshipsIt may seem as though there is a completely different approach needed when it comes to maintaining old friendships (as compared to new friendships), but the truth is: many of the fundamentals are the same! In this episode, Romika shares easy to apply practicals to help strengthen, deepen and maintain the bonds in your older friendships. Define the Relationship (DTR) Make new memories Focus/Prioritize the connection, not the issue Don't assume (good or bad) - ask Please do leave a review, comment, like and share this podcast so that those that...2024-03-2531 min

Kinfolk12. The Paralysis of Perfectionism (and how to heal)Perfectionism is the silent filter that curates your perspective on life - and many times, it's filtering your life, unbeknownst to you. In this episode, Romika wants to help you self-identify the different types of perfectionism. Most perfectionists fall in and out of these 3 categories: the self-oriented perfectionist, the other-oriented perfectionist, and the socially-oriented perfectionist. In short, there are 3 key principles: Learning that everything you do, doesn't need to be the best you've ever done Does it have to be perfect, or is it okay that it's done? Inventory and Delegate Please do...2024-03-1142 min

Kinfolk11. Scarcity Mindset RecoveryIt's hard to talk about life without also addressing your limiting beliefs...we all have them, the hope is that we'll all become more aware of the ones that are influencing our decisions in a negative way. If unchecked, limiting beliefs take on a scarcity mindset. In this episode, Romika takes a deep dive into some of the groundwork that will hopefully help you begin to heal your scarcity mindset by targeting your limiting beliefs first. In short, it comes down to 3 main areas: Your narrative Your influenced decisions, and lastly, Stretching your capacity...2024-02-2637 min

Kinfolk10. The Courage to be DislikedThe courage to be disliked is all about risking rejection. If you are anything like Romika, everything in you will tempt you to skip over this episode, but please stick it out. It'll be worth it if you're a recovering people pleaser who wants to show up more genuinely in life and relationships. 07:07 - Introducing "constraints" 20:28 - You're a people pleaser 26:34 - You don't always need to relate to others 32:55 - Let them The book referenced is called, The Courage to be Disliked by ⁠Ichiro Kishimi⁠ and ⁠Fumitake Koga⁠ Please do leave a rev...2024-02-1936 min

Kinfolk9. Learning to Live in the Present MomentIt can be extremely difficult to live in the present moment....it takes a lot of intention and planning to make it happen for yourself. In this episode, Romika provides you with 3 simple and practical steps to start living in the present moment by telling your time how you want to spend it, instead of feeling pulled in multiple directions and distracted from the present moment. 03:23 - Get organized 14:30 - Stop relying on your past or the fear of the unknown future to determine what you do right now 20:29 - Release yourself from the responsibility of...2024-01-2925 min

Kinfolk8. How to be Motivated by TomorrowIt's about time we talk about motivation - how to get it, why we don't feel it, how to work around it so that you can accomplish all of your goals this year. In this episode, Romika is sharing all of the practicals you'll need to be motivated to accomplish your goals by as soon as tomorrow! • 04:10, think in reverse • 07:25, comfort or character • 11:50, reframe your story • 19:34, take more supplements (not what you think) • 25:35, environment • 28:18, be picky about your advisors • 31: 24, movement vs. action • 34:42, WW_D Please...2024-01-2238 min

Kinfolk7. How to Become YourselfOne of the scariest feelings is not feeling like you don't know who you are...or even the next steps to take so that you can figure out who you are. I only know because I've felt that at so many points in my life (and even most recently - last year... for most of 2023). Not this year though. This year, we are facing this fear head on, and I am going to help you identify the next steps you'll need to take in order to reorient yourself, and re-ground yourself in who you are at your core. 04:44 - Intro...2024-01-1531 min

Kinfolk6. Navigating Estranged Relationships in a Healthier WayRelationships are hard....and estranged relationships add several extra layers of complexity and confusion to something that is already tiring, confusing and difficult. In this episode, Romika shares how she feels about her relationships that are currently estranged, and presents practicals so that you can navigate your estranged relationships in a healthy way. 12:43, wallow in self-pity 13:57, get present 20:12, the 5 apology languages 26:26, bringing integrity into the relationship 31:50, keeping peace vs. making peace 34:09, think endgame 37:30, redefining relationships The book that was referenced, was The 5 Apology Languages: The Secret to Healthy Relationships by Gary Chapman and Jennifer Thomas. 2023-11-1339 min

Kinfolk5. Making Friends as AdultsIt is so hard to make new friends as adults, but we also need them - we were designed for community and connection. In this episode, Romika shares how she is currently navigating one of the most lonely seasons of her life, what specific qualities and characteristics she looks for when deciding to invest in a new friendship, and specific practicals you can use right now to create and begin to build new friendships as an adult! 03:30, sitting in the discomfort of loneliness 09:05, why Romika believes she feels lonely right now 13:40, Teachability and Availability 15:03, The 3 categories of friendships...2023-11-0631 min

Kinfolk4. Learning to Respond Instead of ReactIn this episode, Romika defines what a coping mechanism is, how they have served you in outliving your trauma, and 3 healthy and preventative coping mechanisms to adopt that can assist you while you learn how to respond preventatively instead of reactively! 9:20, #1: Name what's vague 21:08, #2: Force a pause 24:53, #3: Communicating what helps and what hurts Please do leave a review, comment, like and share this podcast so that more people can listen and heal too! You can also follow along on social media, including: Instagram, TikTok and Facebook! Instagram: ⁠⁠@kinfolk_podcast⁠⁠ Tiktok: ⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@kinfolkpo...2023-10-3030 min

Kinfolk3. Recovering from Emotional ExhaustionEmotional burn-out is so common, and especially for those of you who have learned how to just push past what you're feeling so that we can just"get the job done." The more you push through, the more probable it becomes that you will experience feelings of burn-out. In this episode, Romika identifies exactly what it is, shares how it has shown up in her own life, and for those of you who are struggling with feeling emotionally burnt-out or exhausted right now, she identifies 3 specific practicals on how to better manage and prevent it! 2023-10-2341 min

Kinfolk2. The 4 Principles of Establishing Healthy BoundariesIn this episode, Romika is breaking down 4 principles you'll need to establish healthy boundaries in both healthy and unhealthy relationships. By the end of this episode, you will learn: - the importance of boundaries - how to think about boundaries - and 4 principles to discover how to create boundaries in a healthy way Boundaries are fundamental for every single relationship you encounter, which is why it is so important to understand how to establish, reinforce, and communicate them. The helpful, and maybe even reassuring part about establishing healthy boundaries is that...2023-10-1629 min

Kinfolk1. The Introduction: Choosing to Live instead of SurviveWelcome to Kinfolk! In this introductory episode, Romika shares her heart behind why she created this podcast! In this episode, she defines and makes a distinction between what it looks like to live and what it looks like to survive. She also shares a vulnerable overview of her story so that those of you who don't know her yet, feel like you better understand her heart and the tone of this podcast going forward. You will be able to listen to weekly episodes that dig deeper into practical ways to love in a healthier way...2023-10-1609 min

Truth Trauma TheologyForgiveness Coaching with Kylie Cross & Romika GunnKylie and Romika have recently launched their coaching business that seeks to help women move forward in the healing process. In this episode we discussing the process of forgiveness and the pitfalls we fall into that keep us stuck. We discuss the misconceptions about forgiveness and how we can develop a healthy definition of forgiveness. Tell us about why you decided to start your podcast and coaching? Why is forgiveness so challenging? What are some ways that forgiveness is taught incorrectly? What does the forgiveness process look like? What resources, books would you recommend? Tell us about how we...2023-06-191h 06