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Choose InEpisode 107: Empowering Women Series Part 3 - Rising and Thriving After Trauma with Guest Robyn Warner - CEO, Coach, and EntrepreneurRobyn shares her heart-wrenching experiences of how she gained resilience through being assaulted, working through betrayal, choosing divorce, and how she shows up in the world through her many businesses that help women grow and thrive. Outside of motherhood, her biggest passion is empowering and protecting women through safety advocacy, gathering like minded women together to grow and heal, while having fun. Robyn gives a huge discount to her safety course! So listen in for the info. Use code ROXANNE to take advantage of her offer. That link is on her website Robynwarner.co T...2024-03-1151 minChoose InEpisode 99: Stuck in Your Head No MoreAre you stuck in your head overthinking, trying to figure things out, and constantly processing decision making through these thoughts? Staying in your head will cause continuous stress and anxiety as well as creating all sorts of stories that may or may not even be true. Dropping into your emotions, sitting with the feelings you are having, and then allowing those emotions to hold hands with the thoughts in your head; you will be able to come to decisions and take action from a healthier more grounded space... the space of truth rather than decisions based on perceived threat...2023-10-2323 minChoose InEpisode 98: The Taylor Swift Effect - The Phenomenon of Love & Going After our DreamsWhy did the masses go crazy over the relationship between Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce? Let's look inside at what is actually going on with the overwhelming numbers following this and how we feel about it. What emotions have we felt watching these events? Tuning into your inner knowing, creating and setting boundaries, and going after your dreams is all covered in this episode. Whether you follow this story or not, this episode is for you. It's your life and your dreams that need to come to life.2023-10-0921 minChoose InEpisode 95: This CAN Be Your Year! Do YOU Want it?Let's ask ourselves where we are at? Being honest with ourselves is key. Am I in the hamster wheel of not changing, growing, taking action, working on my healing or feeling stuck in any other way? Am I living my dream, experiencing achievement in self, family, relationships, career? Listen in, and see where you are at, if you want to do it different, and how to do that. 2023 feels magical. It can be a year of transformation that comes with ease and flow. Are you ready?!2023-01-0924 minChoose InEpisode 94: You Can Be Okay During the Holiday and Still Stay in Truth Repost: Ep 67The Holidays can feel challenging. Do you have the belief that you should put on a smiling face and pretend all is well until the Holiday is over? I’m challenging that belief. Let’s be truthful about how we are feeling, do things that bring us peace, take action when needed even on Thanksgiving & Christmas, and allow ourselves and others to feel all the emotions that may come up this year.2022-11-0915 minChoose InEpisode 93: Major Healing can come from Breathwork - Repost of episode 69Finding new ways to heal always brings me joy. Breathwork is a modality for healing that doesn't require talk therapy. But rather a series of rhythmic breathing taking you deep into trapped emotion and connecting you with the awareness that you need to release pain, trauma, or to gain overall peace and clarity. This episode discusses what it is and how you can experience it for yourself.2022-10-2419 minChoose InEpisode 92: Let Go & Bloom Into Your ConfidenceWhat do you need to let go of that is holding you captive to feeling your worth and self-confidence? Get curious about that part of you that doesn't feel worth it and doesn't know how to do it. Create a list of who you want to be and what that version of you is deserving of. This will guide you in this season of letting go and preparing you to bloom with new changes and creating a beautiful new part of you.2022-10-1019 minChoose InEpisode 91: I’m Not Breaking, I’m UnfoldingIt may feel like you are breaking and broken and like you are dying in your experience. While that is true in one sense…nothing will be the same as it once was; if you continue to move through and sit with the feelings, it will be an unfolding process into something beautiful, amazing, and you will continue to find more of you. That process brings enlightenment, peace, joy, and relief. Don’t give up. YOU are unfolding.2022-09-2619 minChoose InEpisode 90: Healing for a Lifetime, Not Just a MomentEven 10 years post trauma, I still find parts of me that show up that need healing. I share a vulnerable experience I recently had and how my continued healing work brought this to my attention. Don't let your wounds stay hidden. As the wounded parts of you feel safe to show up, they will. As those parts trust that you will listen, you will continue to be free. Choosing to heal does not mean you are flawed, but that you value your personal well-being and are worth it!2022-09-1228 minChoose InEpisode 89: Working Through TriggersIt’s hard when we’ve been through betrayal to navigate a world where our nervous system is on alert to keep us safe from threats. We want to take action. We want to have control once again of our life. As we heal, our triggers become farther between. What do we do when we are in a public setting and a trigger shows up? How can we manage it? How do we work through it? I use a current trigger as an example to show you what it looks like to feel it and heal it so that you can...2022-08-2224 minChoose InEpisode 88: Are You Blaming Yourself for Reacting to Abusive Behavior?Are you having a reaction to his/her neglect and emotional abuse and then blaming yourself for having a reaction at all? The healthy answer is not to learn to be okay with being treated that way but, rather, learn what fears you have and learn to set boundaries.2022-08-1017 minChoose InEpisode 87: Going From Survival Mode to Peace and ReliefWhen we are barely keeping our head above water we are working from survival and chaos. There is a way to smooth out the water and come to a place of peace and relief. It feels so good knowing it's possible to achieve this. You may feel overwhelmed, unsteady, uncertain, and not know what to do. Listen in and hear how to go from all of those anxious feelings to breathing with ease and finally feeling a reprieve. 2022-07-2536 minChoose InEpisode 86: Push Forward, Slow Down, RepeatWe always come to a plateau or stumbling block when we are healing, moving forward, learning something new, and practicing our tools we’ve been given to achieve growth and change. It’s an important part of the process to push through, then take a break and assess what we need next, and then start moving again. Give yourself love through the entire process. Love when you are pushing through the hard and love when you are sitting down taking a breath. Celebrate your wins and let them build your confidence and strength.2022-07-1123 minChoose InEpisode 85: Take Back Your PowerWhen I was 22 someone close to me told me I needed plastic surgery. I froze. I shrunk. And it wasn't even true. My young self created a belief around that and now at age 50 I am finally letting go of the very last piece of it. It will no longer have any hold on me. Where have you given your power away? What types of things have people told you that you've believed and made yourself small? These things that have been said to you throughout your life and have impacted you negatively don't need to have po...2022-06-2022 minChoose InEpisode 84: Taking Action When We Don’t Feel Ready — Repost of episode 66How do we take action on something when we feel stressed about it, or when emotionally we don't know if we're ready; yet, we know it's something we really need to do? Let's talk Boundaries.2022-06-0626 minChoose InEpisode 83: Feeling Sad Ending a Relationship even though it’s the Right DecisionMaking the right decision does not mean you won’t feel tremendous sadness. In an instagram post by @sitwithsharon she gave 9 reasons we struggle to end relationships. In this episode we discuss each one. Listen in and see where you struggle and how you can heal those beliefs and patterns.2022-05-0934 minChoose InEpisode 82: You are Worth it to Thrive in your Life!What is nudging your heart? What do you need to propel your confidence, value, and self worth to the next level? You are worth investing in yourself in all the ways you need. You can feel strong, empowered, and excited about life. Listen in for ideas on how to get there.2022-04-2526 minChoose InEpisode 81: How Do We have Faith When We Don't Know the Outcome?Looking at anxiety with a new lens and how it can benefit us to take action. Sometimes we have to close our eyes and jump. How do we do that? Listen in to find some tools and tips of how to have faith and how letting go of the outcome actually sets us free.2022-04-1823 minChoose InEpisode 80: Repost of 69: Major Healing can come from Breathwork Virtual Classes now online! Visit the website or bio link on instagram to get signed up. Finding new ways to heal always brings me joy. Breathwork is a modality for healing that doesn't require talk therapy. But rather a series of rhythmic breathing taking you deep into trapped emotion and connecting you with the awareness that you need to release pain, trauma, or to gain overall peace and clarity. This episode discusses what it is and how you can experience it for yourself.2022-04-1019 minChoose InEpisode 79: It's Time! Let's Get to Feeling BetterOnline virtual Breathwork classes are now available! This short episode goes into the benefits, what you might achieve in doing breathwork, and why it’s so important to try something new if you haven’t already. Revelation Breathwork is a modality that takes your healing or awareness to the next level. Take the risk. Try something new. Do it for you. You are so worth it. It will blow your mind. You will laugh and cry and feel the weight lifted off your shoulders that you didn’t even know was there…until it’s gone. Propel your healing, awareness, goals, and...2022-04-0407 minChoose InEpisode 78: I Just Wish They Would ChangeIt's complicated to wish so badly that someone or something was different and sit and wait for them to change and everything to work out. We can hope and wish all we want, but until we notice our fears of why we feel we need someone else to fix this or us, things won't actually change and we won't feel better. As you follow these steps, you will be on your way to taking back your life and find happiness because you made it happen and not because you waited for someone else to do it for you. 2022-03-2825 minChoose InEpisode 77: Creating Our Own Love StoryWhen we have a plan for what we want, what our core values are, and boundaries for ourselves in what we will and won’t allow in a relationship, we are equipped with what to do when a conflict presents itself. We don’t have to decide in that moment what to do, we already have a plan. 2022-03-2118 minChoose InEpisode 76: Being a People Pleaser is ExhaustingThis customer-facing presentation explores some of our powerful tools that help teachers distribute and collect schoolwork, use apps with their class, keep an eye on student progress, and manage tech in the classroom.2022-03-1424 minChoose InEpisode 75: Focusing on the SolutionWe don't want to spin in what has happened, we want to thrive in the solution. This goes deep into why the solution is our way out of our pain, how to change the negative habit, and the importance in shifting the emphasis on what has happened into what will save us. 2022-03-0725 minChoose InEpisode 74: Practice Who You Want to BeWe are discussing how to break patterns by practicing being different. Examples that are used are: People Pleasing, why we do it and how to change it, and Letting Go of the Past - feeling it, bringing yourself back to the present, and creating a future.2022-02-2223 minChoose InEpisode 73: Repost of our Valentines Episode: Taking Back Trauma Holidays and Turning Them into LoveI took back Valentines Day. Trauma will no longer own me or any other date that brings up past trauma experiences. I teach you a technique to raise your vibration to shift your heart and mind and change the way you view the outcomes of the future.2022-02-1428 minChoose InEpisode 72 Healing Will Come as We Face RealityMy guest Ryan Christiansen LCSW, and my personal counselor for many years, joins us to talk about so many important topics. Healthy Boundaries for ourselves, the harm of Rescuing, the need for consistent effort taking action, and how those things bring us the healing results we desire.2022-02-0742 minChoose InEpisode 71: Getting What You Wish For and Desire is PossibleGetting what you wish for and desire is possible when we surrender and allow God to work miracles in our life. My guest Kisha Prince, Author of Keep Pressin’ Pretty and After-Divorce Coach talks about the amazing potential and life you can live when you allow God to move you, when you accept in your worth that you are so amazing, and live your life full of impact. You have so much to give! Build your strength with courage and get out there and be the best you possible. 2022-01-3151 minChoose InEpisode 70: Partswork and How it Helps Your HealingLearning how to notice what parts of us are wounded and how to heal the past can be done with Partswork (AKA IFS-Internal Family Systems) I walk you through exactly what that looks like, why it works, and how to stay neutral when it comes to dealing with the opposition that for sure shows up in our lives on a regular basis. Past wounds do not have to rule our decisions. It’s possible to clear those and become free and clear. 2022-01-2420 minChoose InEpisode 69: Major Healing can come from BreathworkFinding new ways to heal always brings me joy. Breathwork is a modality for healing that doesn't require talk therapy. But rather a series of rhythmic breathing taking you deep into trapped emotion and connecting you with the awareness that you need to release pain, trauma, or to gain overall peace and clarity. This episode discusses what it is and how you can experience it for yourself.2022-01-1719 minChoose InEpisode 68: Achieving Goals without the SabotageIf you really want to change something, or add a new thing to your life, the way to get the best outcome is to challenge yourself in small ways. Those little changes can bring about big results.2022-01-1020 minChoose InEpisode 67: You Can Be Okay During the Holiday & Still Stay in TruthThe Christmas holiday can feel challenging. Do you have the belief that you should put on a smiling face and pretend all is well until the Holiday is over? I’m challenging that belief. Let’s be truthful about how we are feeling, do things that bring us peace, take action when needed even on Christmas, and allow ourselves and others to feel all the emotions that may come up this year. God Bless you and Merry Christmas. 2021-12-2015 minChoose InEpisode 66: Taking Action When We Don’t Feel ReadyHow do we take action on something when we feel stressed about it, or when emotionally we don’t know if we’re ready; yet, we know it’s something we really need to do? Lots of Boundary work in this episode. 2021-12-1326 minChoose InEpisode 65: Denial is a Powerful Tool... Against YouDenial is such a powerful tool. We use it to cope with uncertainty, to excuse ourselves from taking needed action, and pretending that we are okay the way things are even if we are not. We can keep living with our eyes pointed to the ground or we can see the truth and experience relief, freedom, and empowerment. We are deserving of positive growth and an abundance of perspective. 2021-12-0619 min
Choose InEpisode 64: What to do for our Kids...Pornography Exposure & Mental HealthUnderstanding our children’s mental health needs is just as important as scheduling their dental check up’s. My guest is Maurice Harker CMHC of Life Changing Services. He passionately shares what to say to our children and how to help arm them with knowledge to face the world of pornography and addiction, as well as being proactive in their mental and emotional health. He gives examples and dialogue of what to do and how to do it when talking with our kids. Don’t rely on yourself to figure it out. Ask the professionals. Maurice knows so much about...2021-11-2937 minChoose InEpisode 63: Tips to Navigate Trauma Response and Triggers (part 3 mini series)Life changes when we suffer from trauma and triggers. It’s hard to go places we used to go, do things we once loved, and participate in activities that we once didn’t think twice about. We want our life back. As we are healing, those triggers show up and can take over. Being prepared ahead of time can help us stay clear and grounded and begin the process of taking back our life. There is hope to be able to be free again and live life to the fullest. It takes time and effort but it is possible. Tips...2021-11-2214 minChoose InEpisode 62: The Judgements From Others About Divorce (part 2 mini series)It’s hard enough to be faced with divorce let alone have our friends and family tell us what we should and shouldn’t be doing. In this mini episode I talk through the judgements we receive and how to handle them.2021-11-1513 minChoose InEpisode 61: Forgiveness is for Me, Not Someone else (part 1 mini series)It’s common when someone who has betrayed us or caused us harm in some way is asking us to forgive and forget. This happens because they will feel better about what they did if we are no longer in pain. In this first episode of our mini series where I will be answering common questions I receive, we go over what forgiveness looks like for us.2021-11-0811 minChoose InEpisode 60: Is Shoe Leather Stew Enough for You in your Relationship?The resiliency of women has been proven throughout time. You are no different. You handle so much, do so much, endure so much. My guest Maurice Harker CMHC of Life-Changing Services boldly shares what to look for when a spouse is choosing recovery from addiction, what you are scientifically deserving of, and that your children will be okay. You don’t want to miss this episode. I was blown away by his insight.2021-11-0133 minChoose InEpisode 59: Excavating Our Life to Create a Blank SlateWhen we are standing in that desolate place in our mind and feel paralyzed and stuck with all that has been lost and not knowing how to feel happy or productive again or the feeling of not knowing how to progress and move forward, create for yourself a blank slate. 2021-07-1925 minChoose InEpisode 58: Repost of our most popular and important Episode. E 23. What Emotional & Verbal Abuse Can Sound LikeRepost of Episode 23. Words, phrases, and actions explaining what verbal and emotional abuse looks like and sounds like. Steps we can take to learn and change these behaviors in ourselves and boundaries we can place to keep safe from others if we are being abused in this way2021-07-1234 minChoose InEpisode 57: Owning Our Worth...We Don't have to Earn it, It's Already There. -With Guest Christine BairdSuch a great interview with Christine Baird. She is a worth expert and teaches others through her podcast "The Worthfull Project" how to own their own worth. Learning that and coming to a place of "knowing" that you don't have to earn your worth fills your soul with love as you come to believe and accept that it's already in you. You just have to remember that it's there and always has been. Remembering changes your life. You now know that you are deserving of all that is good and the effort and time it takes to learn, grow...2021-07-0546 minChoose InEpisode 56: “To Grieve Our Losses Means to Surrender to Our Feelings”Sitting with our feelings allows us to grieve and surrender to the hold they have on us. This allows for peace as we let go. This is where we change our false beliefs, heal past wounds, and overcome the barriers that have been in our way keeping us from succeeding.2021-06-2828 minChoose InEpisode 55: Why Being an Observer in Friendships and Intimate Relationships is so ImportantWe take key points from last weeks interview with Geoff Steurer on being an observer, and show how important that is in all our relationships. Being an observer gives us information and truth so we can accept and make better decisions. 2021-06-1427 minChoose InEpisode 54: What Does it Look Like When My Partner Is Choosing Recovery and What Do I Do For Myself and Personal Healing - With Guest Geoff Steurer LMFTI am talking with Geoff Steurer LMFT about what signs and actions we are looking for and can expect when a partner is trying to build trust back into the marriage after infidelity and betrayal. We cover what that looks like staying in the relationship and also healing personally whether in the marriage or moving forward without our partner. The insight he shares is so helpful and eye opening, and offers clarity so we can make healthy decisions. Seeing our situation clearly will help anyone wanting to improve personally and in their relationship regardless of what they are healing fr...2021-06-0750 minChoose InEpisode 53: Breaking Down Walls from the Other SideWe come up against a wall; sometimes one of our own and other times someone else’s. In this episode I’m talking about a new way to look at these walls and what to do about them. How do we tackle breaking them down? We will be looking at them from a new angle.2021-05-3124 minChoose InEpisode 52: Living Life on PurposeLooking at life, our healing, and what is holding us back from being our truest and best self, will blow our perspective out of the water and change everything! Being completely intentional with what we’re doing and why; asking ourselves the deep questions bring us the greatest discoveries which is equal to adding so much joy. Knowing and learning brings peace.2021-05-2427 minChoose InEpisode 51 CHOOSE IN to Continued Change and GrowthExcitement is brewing as I go over all the things I want to share with you and all that is coming! New empowering tools and tips. 2021-03-1514 minChoose InEpisode 50: Your Mind Will Grow Whatever You PlantWe’ve got to change what we are putting in our mind so we can create new pathways and beliefs if we want our life to improve and receive our desired outcome.2021-03-0827 minChoose InEpisode 49: Learning How and How Not to Save a Person from ThemselvesWe want so badly to save our partner or family member from themselves and their choices. It doesn’t work like we want. We end up losing ourself and our sanity when we exhaust everything on their behalf. But there is a way to offer love, tools, and everything, in a way that heals us and helps us get stronger.2021-03-0126 minChoose InEpisode 48: God is Offering to Save You if You Let HimI was a witness to a domestic violence situation and I acted. God brought safety right to her front door and offered a way to be saved. What’s on your front porch showing you how to be saved, change, take action, etc? Are you letting God show you how to be saved? And are you taking it?2021-02-2217 minChoose InEpisode 47: Taking Back Trauma Holidays and Turning Them into LoveI took back Valentines Day. Trauma will no longer own me or any other date that brings up past trauma experiences. I teach you a technique to raise your vibration to shift your heart and mind and change the way you view the outcomes of the future.2021-02-1428 minChoose InEpisode 46: Rejecting ShameNoticing the shame we carry and feel when we are happy, sad, or being treated poorly will help us learn how to reject it. We will not allow it to have place in us anymore. Shame robs us of feeling good enough and tells us lies about who we are and what are true situation is. We are busting through shame in this episode to find even more healing. 2021-02-0830 minChoose InEpisode 45: Finding Our Power and Owning ItAs we find our power from deep within we begin to change our circumstances. With each step of change we feel empowered with our growth and healing. We begin to feel happy and proud of ourselves. This joy moves us forward. Healing happens. Life changes. And it feels good. 2021-02-0125 minChoose InEpisode 44: Emotional Resilience and HealingBuilding our emotional resilience will give us the strength we need to find our way out of chaos and onto finding personal healing. 2021-01-2525 minChoose InEpisode 43: Choose to Heal and Thrive in 2021What is up and coming in 2021 with me and Choose In?! Listen in and hear all that is happening so you don’t miss the opportunity to be a part of something meant for you. You can stay where we are or you can take the steps to thrive personally this year! It feels good to feel strong and empowered! You’ve got this.2021-01-1824 minChoose InEpisode 42: Kids: What and How Much to Tell? Will it Harm Them? Addiction and DivorceHow to navigate a child’s well-being when their parent is an addict as well as what’s the impact of the truth and choosing divorce. We cover all of that!2020-12-2139 minChoose InEpisode 41: Unwanted Thoughts and Stories Pop into my Head and cause me problemsBecoming aware, separating truth from fiction, and finding coping strategies, all help with the unwanted triggers that pop into our head creating stories that send us spiraling. That doesn’t have to happen. We can change the outcome. 2020-12-1425 minChoose InEpisode 40: Finding Healing Through the HolidaysThe Holiday Season brings a lot of joy and a lot of pain and sadness for many who have gone through or are going through hard times. This episode covers the heartache as well as talks about finding or making a healing home regardless of what’s missing. There is peace and pain all rolled up in one as we navigate life’s experiences. 2020-12-0826 minChoose InEpisode 39: I Don’t Want My Ego Making My DecisionsIf we learn what the ego is and why it does what it does, we can recognize what to do and how to manage it. We see more clearly how to make decisions based on our authentic self rather than from the protective fearful ego. Life-changing to learn this skill.2020-11-2332 minChoose InEpisode 38: Finding Our Answers by Letting GoLearning to control ourselves, our actions and inactions, show us the truth. Navigating from a clear head provides action and answers. Staying closed and stuck in chaos prevents us from positive thinking and making decisions.2020-11-1627 minChoose InEpisode 37: To Find Our Purpose We Have to SurrenderPride and ego keep up living in unawareness of what we need to gain, what to let go of, and that we can create new beliefs. Letting down our guard shows us what to do and how; and we gain our purpose. We find ourselves. 2020-11-0924 minChoose InEpisode 36: Our Personal Moving Sidewalk of HealingWe are always moving forward watching and noticing what comes into our path. Sometimes it’s to pause and take notice. Other times we see what action to take in our healing of trauma, abuse, betrayal, or personal limitations. We can find hope knowing that we are exactly where we need to be at any given moment. 2020-11-0229 minChoose InEpisode 35: Of course I'm Okay! But Actually I'm NotLearning to tell the truth of what is really going on in our life. You are worth it to let someone know your struggle. You are valuable enough to not hold everything inside alone. Tell the truth. 2020-10-2628 minChoose InEpisode 34: Divorce... How Will I Know?Choosing to divorce is a complicated and painful decision. In this episode, I talk about the questions you can ask yourself, the choice of staying, and both the heartache and benefits if divorce is the right answer for you and your family. Ultimately it’s a decision made between you and God. 2020-10-1931 minChoose InEpisode 33: The Payout of Healing is HUGEWhen we do the healing work in all areas and all levels we become whole. The payout is worth the time, effort, and money. Healing emotionally, spiritually, physically, and mentally is possible as we Choose In to ourselves. You are worth it. God will send just the right tools for you to fully heal. 2020-09-2827 minChoose InEpisode 32: Vulnerability...Scary but Worth itDescription: It is extremely scary to be vulnerable. As we learn the key areas we need it, and develop the skills to practice it, our lives move forward. We get better, feel better, and our relationships greatly improve. Vulnerability is a form of honesty and integrity. It's imperative for growth and healing.2020-09-2127 minChoose InEpisode 31: Recognizing our Heart Wounds Part 2We are looking deep at our heart wounds, talking through how to heal them, and the benefits of love and happiness that come with doing that hard rewarding work.2020-09-0728 minChoose InEpisode 30: Recognizing our Heart Wounds Part 1The walls we formed around our heart were built to protect us. But they will harm us in our present and future, and prevent growth and love, if we don’t heal those wounds. 2020-08-3132 minChoose InEpisode 29: The Fear of the Unknown is Consuming MeLearn how to understand where fear is coming from, how to recognize it, and how to let it go, so you can move out of feeling paralyzed by taking action steps to move forward. 2020-08-2429 minChoose InEpisode 28: How Do I Go Out of Town When I Don't Trust my Spouse?There is a way to live your own life and not be a prisoner to the what if's. Learn the phrases you need that will help you let go of trying to control what he does or does not do so that you can be happy and free.2020-08-1729 min
The Mom VoiceDealing with Addiction & Healing from Betrayal feat. Roxanne Kennedy Granata
Aug. 10, 2020 - In this episode the girls sit down with Roxanne Kennedy Granata to hear her story as the wife of a sex addict. Roxanne is the author of the book "Cutting Ties: Healing from Betrayal Trauma as the Spouse of an Addict" and host of the podcast Choose In. She opens up about many aspects of her experience including how she discovered her husband's addiction to when she knew it was time to separate. Roxanne shares the 20+ year battle that they went on which includes therapy, rehab and the 12 step program. She also talks about Betrayal Trauma, explaining...2020-08-1058 minChoose InEpisode 27: Looking Through a Clear Lens for Future HappinessChoosing the healing work changes everything. Everytime you learn something new it's as if a weight is lifted off your shoulders and you feel lighter and free. My husband Garin joins me for a portion of the episode sharing why he does his healing work even though it's hard. 2020-08-1032 minChoose InEpisode 26: Don’t Turn Back to the Past, Step ForwardDescription: When we are faced with triggers or past trauma, it’s easy to turn back to what feels familiar. Challenge yourself to move through the pain rather than repeat the heartache. 2020-08-0330 minChoose InEpisode 25: Being Vulnerable Brings True FreedomFrom the words of Brene' Brown, "Courage starts with showing up and letting ourselves be seen"...."Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance." 2020-07-2727 minChoose InEpisode 24: Does Your Relationship Have Abusive Dialogue?Listen to these examples to see if this resonates with you. I talk about scenarios where abuse may not be noticed and I give you phrases you can use to set boundaries.2020-06-2931 minChoose InEpisode 23: What Emotional & Verbal Abuse Can Sound LikeWords, phrases, and actions explaining what verbal and emotional abuse looks like and sounds like. Steps we can take to learn and change these behaviors in ourselves and boundaries we can place to keep safe from others if we are being abused in this way2020-06-2232 minChoose InEpisode 22: Being Still and Letting GoWe don’t have to navigate and control everything around us trying to make sure it all works out.2020-06-1532 minChoose InEpisode 21: Crisis Opens Our Eyes to Learning and Transformation.With recent events of chaos and destruction how can we open our eyes to what’s happening in our own homes and learn to see things different so we can take action. 2020-06-0535 minChoose InEpisode 20: What Felt Impossible Actually Saved MeHow to turn what feels impossible into peace and freedom from the chaos of the unknown.2020-06-0130 minChoose InEpisode 19: Gratitude: The Pain Has a PurposeAsking questions to name the pain that is triggering us, leads to validation and letting go, and continuing forward in our healing.2020-05-2535 minChoose InEpisode 18: Why is There Pain When the Trial is OverThere is pain and exhaustion after the work is done and the major part of the trial is over. We discuss why this happens and how to navigate to healing 2020-05-1833 minChoose InEpisode 17: Big or Small, Your Story Matters.Betrayal is shocking regardless of our experience. The heart does not know the difference between pornography addiction and/or face to face infidelity. What you’ve experienced is worth holding space for. It does not need to be compared to another persons trauma. 2020-05-1132 minChoose InEpisode 16: Healthy Boundaries Show an Acceptance of Reality“Stop asking why they keep doing it, and start asking yourself why you keep allowing it”2020-05-0433 minChoose InEpisode 15: Staying Quiet Protects One. Speaking Out Protects ManySpeaking truth is hard to do and hard to hear sometimes but its the way to living in truth and not continually pushing things under the rug as if its not happening all around us. Staying quiet may protect the one, but speaking out protects many.2020-04-2729 minChoose InEpisode 14: Getting Out Of Our Own WaySo much freedom to enjoy when we get out of our own way and remove our false beliefs. 2020-04-2037 minChoose InEpisode 13: Removing our Blinders to see our Grief So we can HealPutting our grief on the table, being open to new ways of seeing, brings us awareness and furthers healing. 2020-04-1336 minChoose InEpisode 12: Love; Letting God InWe are precious to God. We talk about what that means, how we can remember that truth, and how to take advantage of His Love. 2020-04-0632 minChoose InEpisode 11: Wholeness - You Have to ACT in Order to ReceiveYou have to “Act” in order to receive the answers you need that will change your situation. Acting for yourself rather than being “acted upon” will strengthen you so you will be able to make hard decisions when needed. 2020-03-3033 minChoose InEpisode 10: Our Logical and Emotional Brain Need Separate HealingShaming our emotional brain hinders our progress and healing. Learn to accept both our logic and our emotional ways of thinking to reach clarity and healing. 2020-03-2331 minChoose InEpisode 9: Acting From a Place of FearWhen panic and chaos suddenly appear, do I react from a place of fear or of a sound mind? What is my body trying to tell me? 2020-03-1632 minChoose InEpisode 8: Who Am I and How Do I Find HerFinding our worth by using a list and container to unpack and see clear the steps we need to take in order to uncover our worth and become ready to take control of our happiness.2020-03-0930 minChoose InEpisode 7: Two Steps Forward...Ten Steps BackWe all fall short at times. We learn something and then make the same mistake again and again. This episode talks about why this happens and how it's part of our growth and progression.2020-03-0227 minChoose InEpisode 6: The Harm of Denial and EnablingIt's harmful when we try to save another person from the consequence of their choices. If we are in denial of the truth and enable others we are hindering our progress as well as theirs.2020-02-2431 minChoose InEpisode 5: Self Care - How What When WhereIt's important to know how to decompress our stress and anxieties. We talk through many ways to combat overwhelming feelings and return to a state of peace allowing clarity to fill our mind and soul.2020-02-1735 minChoose InEpisode 4: It's Not My Fault. Why Do I Have to Do the Work?We are getting real with the truth about how our behaviors are limiting our progress in finding healing and recovery from trauma.2020-02-1037 minChoose InEpisode 3: This is So Hard...And that's OkayTrauma told me the only way to survive was to see the whole picture. My higher power and the 12-step program told me to take one step at a time.2020-02-0326 minChoose InEpisode 2: First Steps to Healing Betrayal and TraumaIt was time to accept my reality. The truth was staring me in the face. I needed to heal me...but how?2020-01-2718 minChoose InEpisode 1: I thought my Life was a LieEpisode 1: I thought my Life was a Lie: As a survivor of betrayal, infidelity, trauma, and emotional abuse, I Chose In to doing the hard work necessary to see through the manipulation, deceit, and lies that came from being the spouse of an addict.2020-01-2017 minChoose InChoose In TrailerWelcome to the Choose In Podcast! As a survivor of betrayal, infidelity, trauma, and emotional abuse, I Chose In to doing the hard work necessary to see through the manipulation, deceit, and lies that came from being the spouse of an addict. I had to accept that this was my life. The only way to heal was to go through the pain, to see it clear, and work through it. Today, I help others find their way from feeling shattered and hopeless to strong and empowered. You are not alone. You are not the only one that i...2020-01-1801 min