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The Long Game#2 - Niche Down w/ Talia SperdutoIn this conversation, Ryan speaks with Talia Spiriduto, a passionate real estate professional specializing in historic homes. Talia shares her journey into real estate, her love for sustainability, and the importance of making mindful choices in renovation. They discuss the challenges of decision fatigue, the personality traits necessary for success in real estate, and the significance of nurturing one's passions. Talia also highlights her innovative marketing strategies and the allure of historic homes, while contemplating the balance between construction needs and sustainability. The conversation wraps up with Talia's future aspirations and the importance of setting boundaries in work and...2025-01-1442 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 100: Cheers to 4 Years!Listen as Ryan and Talia celebrate their 100th episode and four years of co-hosting The Couples Guide Podcast together.2023-04-3052 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 99: Maximize Your InvestmentListen as Ryan and Talia answer the listener question, “How to get the most out of couples therapy?”2023-04-1643 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 98: Defeating DefensivenessListen as Ryan and Talia answer the listener question, “How to tell a defensive partner they are wrong or they’ve done something you don’t like without making them cry?”2023-04-0242 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 97: Active ListeningListen as Ryan and Talia dive into the fundamental relationship technique of active listening and how to practice it with your partner.2023-03-1936 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 96: Stop Micromanaging Your MarriageListen as Ryan and Talia explore the emotional undertones of micromanagement and how to shift away from micromanaging your partner (and how to feel good about it!).2023-03-0540 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 95: Differing Views On PornographyListen as Ryan and Talia discuss how to tackle the tricky topic of pornography when one partner say Yay and the other partner say Nay.2023-02-1942 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 94: Countdown to KidsListen as Ryan and Talia outline what to discuss with your partner before having kids.
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The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 93: Repairing TrustListen as Ryan and Talia discuss key factors of trust in a relationship and how to repair trust with your partner after a rupture.2023-01-2245 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 92: Redefining "We" in 2023Listen as Ryan and Talia discuss how to approach change in the New Year and collaborate on the new “We'“ you’re hoping for in your relationship.2023-01-0834 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 91: Un-Deck the HallsListen as Ryan and Talia discuss how to debrief from the stress and excitement of the holiday season.2022-12-2542 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 90: Core Beliefs in RelationshipsListen as Ryan and Talia explain just what are core beliefs, including how they influence our sense of self and ourselves in relationship.2022-12-1139 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 89: Thanks for the AppreciationListen as Ryan and Talia discuss how to express appreciation, as well as how to ask for appreciation from your partner.2022-11-2748 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 88: Mid-Life Crisis ConundrumListen as Ryan and Talia answer the listener question “What guidance do you have when a spouse is going through a mid-life crisis?”2022-11-1351 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 87: Stuck in a RutListen as Ryan and Talia respond to the listener comment, “In a bit of a rut, falling in love with a colleague.”2022-10-1642 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 86: Waiting for the Other Shoe to DropListen as Ryan and Talia answer the listener question “Why am I waiting for the other shoe to drop when I’m finally in a healthy relationship?”2022-10-0235 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 85: People Pleasing in RelationshipsListen as Ryan and Talia discuss the challenging dynamic of people pleasing, and how to shift into a more confident and collaborative relationship.2022-09-1847 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 84: Deets Before the First DateListen as Ryan and Talia answer the question “What do you really want to know and how much do you want to know before a first date?”2022-09-0438 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 83: Three Sides to the TruthListen as Ryan and Talia discuss how partners often experience the same event with very different internal experiences, resulting in multiple genuine truths.2022-08-2143 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 82: "He's Not Ready to Date, Should I Wait?"Listen as Ryan and Talia answer the listener question “He told me he’s not in the place to date right now, but wants to date eventually….should I wait?”2022-07-1735 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 81: Knowing if They are "The One"Listen as Ryan and Talia answer the listener question “How do you know if they are ‘The One’?”2022-07-0336 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 80: Go With the FlowListen as Ryan and Talia answer the listener question of how to become less rigid/more flexible in order to prepare for a romantic relationship.2022-06-1943 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 78: Compatibility - Important or Overrated?Listen as Ryan and Talia discuss what goes into relational compatibility, including how to identify and discuss compatibility with your partner.2022-05-0843 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 77: Jammed Up With JealousyListen as Ryan and Talia discuss what’s really going on with jealousy and how to keep it from getting in the way of your relationship.2022-04-2440 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 76: Repack Your BaggageListen as Ryan and Talia discuss how to keep past relationship experiences from taking up space in your current relationship.2022-04-1041 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 75: Connecting Emotional Intimacy and Physical IntimacyListen as Ryan and Talia discuss how emotional intimacy and physical intimacy intertwines, relates, and influence one another.2022-03-2737 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 74: Fix Your FocusListen as Ryan and Talia discuss how to spend more time focusing on the bond of your relationship and less time arguing about The Details.2022-03-1440 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 73: Having Needs Doesn't Mean You're NeedyListen as Ryan and Talia share tips and tricks for how to ask for your relationship needs to be heard and fulfilled.2022-02-2737 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 72: Fear of Commitment (Part 2)Listen as Ryan and Talia follow up on last episode’s discussion by looking at three different stages of relationship and how fears of commitment commonly pop-up at each stage.2022-02-1351 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 71: Fear of Commitment (Part 1)Listen as Ryan and Talia discuss what’s really going on when one partner struggles with the fear of commitment and how to navigate scary discussions.2022-01-3037 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 70: Best Defense is a Good OffenseListen as Ryan and Talia discuss what to do when you or your partner ends up in a defensive posture instead of a collaborative posture.2022-01-1735 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 69: New Year, Fresh StartListen as Ryan and Talia discuss how to introduce a fresh start into your relationship on both a big scale and a small scale.2022-01-0237 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 68: Good Cop, Bad CopListen as Ryan and Talia discuss what happens in a relationship when couples take on Good Cop, Bad Cop roles and identify one partner as The Problem.2021-12-1939 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 67: Words vs. ActionsListen as Ryan and Talia discuss the common relationship challenge: when a partner says one thing, but does something else.2021-12-0541 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 66: What to Look for in a PartnerListen as Ryan and Talia answer the listener question “How do I better understand what type of person I’d enjoy being in a relationship with?”2021-11-2123 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 65: Holidays 2021 Survival GuideListen as Ryan and Talia share their latest updates and advice for getting through the holiday season.2021-11-0938 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 64: Different Perspectives on Self-GrowthListen as Ryan and Talia discuss what to do when one member of the couple or relationship likes self-growth and the other doesn’t.2021-10-1030 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 63: Healed Enough to Date?Listen as Ryan and Talia answer the listener question: "How do I know I’m healed enough to date?”2021-09-1241 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 62: A Conversation with Dr. Harpreet MallaListen as Ryan and Talia chat with psychologist Dr. Harpreet Malla about her work supporting couples navigating arranged marriages.2021-08-2946 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 61: The Thrill of the Chase!Listen as Ryan and Talia discuss the reasons why it’s so thrilling to pursue, chase, and date new partners, only to be left feeling unfulfilled once the chase is over.2021-08-1536 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 60: A Conversation With Lee PoveyListen as Ryan and Talia chat with Lee Povey, executive leadership and emotional coach, about his men’s groups and how his “gym for your mind” can help strengthen your relationship.2021-08-0150 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 59: "I Want You" vs. "I Need You"Listen as Ryan and Talia discuss the differences between “wants” and “needs” within the various stages of a relationship.2021-07-1842 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 58: Socially Awkward Swiping - Dating Post-PandemicListen as Ryan and Talia discuss how to navigate the transition back to in-person dating while paying attention to the new dating climate emerging from the pandemic.2021-07-0435 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 57: How to Reintroduce Physical IntimacyListen as Ryan and Talia discuss tips and tricks on how to reintroduce touch, sex, and intimacy after a physical hiatus in a relationship.2021-06-2025 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 56: InfidelityListen as Ryan and Talia discuss the risk factors and emotional experiences of infidelity within a relationship.2021-06-0646 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 55: Emotional RegulationListen as Ryan and Talia discuss the different types of emotional regulation for couples, including the difference between self-regulation and co-regulation.2021-05-2348 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 54: Relationship Life Cycle (Part 3)Listen as Ryan and Talia continue with part 3 of their series all about the different stages of a relationship. In this third part, they talk about when to end a relationship and how to move on after a relationship.2021-05-0952 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 53: Relationship Life Cycle (Part 2)Listen as Ryan and Talia continue with part 2 of their series all about the different stages of a relationship. In this second part, they talk about “How to Plan for the Future” and moving forward in your relationship.2021-04-2541 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 52: Relationship Life Cycle (Part 1)Listen as Ryan and Talia begin a new series all about the different stages of a relationship. In this first part, they answer the listener question “What are the steps to a relationship?” and walk step-by-step up the path of how to begin a new, healthy relationship.2021-04-1145 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 51: Managing Jealousy After InfidelityListen as Ryan and Talia answer the listener question, "How to stop being jealous in a new relationship cause you were badly cheated on in the past one?"2021-03-2833 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 50: ForgivenessListen as Ryan and Talia outline different parts of forgiveness and key tips on how to practice forgiveness in your relationship.2021-03-1436 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 49: How to RepairListen as Ryan and Talia discuss how to repair and reconnect with your partner after a fight.2021-03-0135 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 48: Anxious - Avoidant Relationship CycleListen as Ryan and Talia do a deep dive into the anxious - avoidant relationship pattern that often feels like a roller coaster of high points and low points that we mistake for love.2021-02-1536 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 47: Unlabeled LoveListen as Ryan and Talia answer the listener question, "What to do when my partner has a strong interest in me but doesn't want a relationship?"2021-02-0133 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 46: Instagram Parameters with PartnersListen as Ryan and Talia discuss how to set boundaries with your significant other, or someone you want to be exclusive with, when you see them like someone else’s picture on Instagram + how to navigate your character in your DM’s.2021-01-1840 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 45: Intentions Prevents TensionListen as Ryan and Talia give some sage advice on setting intentions personally and relationally and how this can benefit long term growth in any relationship.2021-01-0333 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 44: Holiday Survival GuideListen as Ryan and Talia give some sage advice on how to make it through the holiday season during a pandemic - single and ready to jingle or in a relationship - this one is for you.2020-12-1431 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 43: The "Right" RelationshipListen as Ryan and Talia answer the question, "How do I know if this is the ‘right’ relationship?”2020-12-0730 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 42: Fixing FlawsListen as Ryan and Talia answer the question, "Is it okay if my partner is flawed? How can I send him to therapy?”2020-11-2331 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 41: It'll Happen EventuallyListen as Ryan and Talia answer the question, "What should we do if I want to work on our issues and he just says it will happen naturally?” The answer is not ‘run’.2020-11-0941 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 40: Opposites AttractListen as Ryan and Talia answer the question, “What to do when you are starting a relationship with someone who is very different from you?” They go in depth on unpacking this question and potential meanings of the question from a listener.2020-10-2632 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 39: Me Tarzan, You JaneListen as Ryan and Talia answer the question, “Are men really as blunt and simple as they sound when answering questions?” They go in depth on unpacking this question and potential meanings of the question from a listener.2020-10-0447 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 38: Hush or GushListen as Ryan and Talia answer the question, “Are there things you should not talk about in a relationship?”2020-09-1933 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 37: Ghosts of Partners PastListen as Ryan and Talia give some advice on what to do to not let your insecurities about past relationships get the best of you. We all have a past life before we meet our current partner. If you’ve ever had questions, these may be the answers you’ve been waiting for.2020-09-0729 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 36: Should I Stay or Should I Go?Listen as Ryan and Talia answer the question, “If someone lied about their past out of shame, is that forgivable or a red flag?” This is one you won’t want to miss.2020-08-2433 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 35: Negative Sentiment OverrideListen as Ryan and Talia talk about negative sentiment override (NSO), why some couples experience it + how to combat it. NSO is a common occurrence in relationships in which your view of your partner is skewed to the point where positive or neutral experiences are perceived as negative.2020-08-1024 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 34: Attachment StylesListen as Ryan and Talia talk about the three different attachment styles {anxious, avoidant and secure}, where they came from and how these present in relationships + dating.2020-07-2744 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 33: Supporting Your PartnerListen as Ryan and Talia talk about a few different roles you can take when supporting your partner, why sometimes you don’t feel support and how best to ask your partner for the support type you need.2020-07-1232 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 32: How to Bring Joy Into Your RelationshipListen as Ryan and Talia talk about to bring joy into your relationship, increasing happiness between you and your partner as well as how you can maintain the positive perspective.2020-06-2833 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 31: Chronic Stress in a RelationshipListen as Ryan and Talia talk about the effect of stress on a relationship, how to manage it and how individual well-being can combat stressors in a relationship.2020-06-1547 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 30: How to Talk to Your Partner During SexListen as Ryan and Talia talk about how give your partner feedback during sex about what you like, don’t like and would like more of. It’s normal and healthy to state your needs and desires; learn how to do it effectively + in a sexy way.2020-06-0141 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 29: How to Initiate Sex with Your PartnerListen as Ryan and Talia talk about how to initiate sex with your partner, what to say or not say + how to emotionally care for yourself if your attempt doesn’t go as planned.2020-05-1844 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 28: Breaking Up Doesn't Have to Break YouListen as Ryan and Talia talk about how to care for yourself after a break-up, thoughts and feelings you can expect to experience + what you can do to regain a sense of normal.2020-05-0445 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 27: CodependencyListen as Ryan and Talia talk about codependency, what it looks like in relationships, some warning signs, and how to move away from codependency towards co-regulation.2020-04-1943 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 26: Love in the Time of QuarantineListen as Ryan and Talia talk about love in the time of quarantine. Dating in these unprecedented times? You’ll hear some great advice. If you are in a relationship, whether you live together or not, we have some tips on how to strengthen your relationship.2020-04-0649 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 25: WillingnessListen as Ryan and Talia talk about the importance of the trait of willingness in a partner, some barriers to willingness and how to increase willingness in your partner + your relationship.2020-03-2331 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 24: The Secret is OutListen as Ryan and Talia talk about what happens in therapy when a secret is revealed or when a partner is ready to disclose something they’ve been doing individual work on.2020-03-0944 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 23: Cohabitation Part IIListen as Ryan and Talia continue the discussion of informing + equipping you with the knowledge and research about how cohabitation affects children, the relationship and your child’s well-being into adulthood.2020-02-2447 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 22: 2 Weeks is Too SoonListen as Ryan and Talia discuss how to pace your relationship, what defines “moving too quickly” in a relationship + why this might occur for you.2020-02-1032 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 21: Cohabitation Part IListen as Ryan and Talia discuss the pros and cons of cohabitation (aka living with your S/O without being married), current research and what you may run into.2020-01-2735 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 20: Premarital CounselingListen as Ryan and Talia discuss premarital counseling + therapy, each of their approaches and the benefits of seeking a therapist before you decide on forever with someone!2020-01-1340 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 19: Take a S.E.A.T with your Love LanguageListen as Ryan and Talia discuss the 4 basic functions of behaviors and how they overlap with your love language(s).2019-12-3032 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 18: AcceptanceListen and Ryan and Talia discuss the concept of acceptance, how it relates to relationships + couples therapy and how acceptance of self is the foundation of most things in life.2019-12-1637 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 17: Couples Therapy, Party of 1Listen and Ryan and Talia discuss what to do when you and your partner aren’t on the same page about coming into couples therapy. No, sadly you can’t drag them in unwillingly.2019-12-0138 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 16: Don't Parent Your PartnerListen as Ryan and Talia discuss how to navigate a common issue among couples: your relationship looks more like a parent/child relationship than two adults in love. It can be endearing at first, until the resentment builds.2019-11-1836 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 15: Listener QuestionsListen as Ryan and Talia answer listener questions about sex, dating and relationships.2019-11-0442 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 14: Humor in Therapy? You're Joking.Listen as Ryan and Talia discuss how to utilize humor as a therapeutic intervention + how truly healing laughter can be.2019-10-2140 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 13: Not Everything's a Red Flag (Part 4)Listen as Ryan and Talia discuss when therapist self-disclosure is a red flag, when it’s not + why our culture shies away from therapists talking about themselves in session.2019-10-0635 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 12: Balancing Masculine + Feminine EnergyListen as Ryan and Talia discuss how to balance the masculine + feminine within the context of relationships, couples therapy and individually as therapists.2019-09-2338 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 11: 3 Keys to a Successful RelationshipListen as Ryan and Talia discuss three keys to having a successful relationship.2019-09-0943 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 10: Online Dating (Part 2)Listen and Ryan and Talia continue their discussion about online dating, dating apps + dating etiquette.2019-08-2642 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 9: Online Dating (Part 1)Listen as Ryan and Talia discuss how online dating has changed the dating game, how to be a good match and why you shouldn’t have a fishing picture on your profile.2019-08-1237 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 8: Not Everything's a Red Flag (Part 3)Listen as Ryan and Talia discuss when getting advice from a therapist is a red flag, when it’s not + why our culture shies away from therapists giving advice.2019-07-2939 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 7: Married... with ChildrenListen as Ryan and Talia discuss what it’s like to go to couples therapy when you have kids in your relationship, how to maintain your relational intimacy and how to focus on your relationship within therapy (and on date nights!)2019-07-1536 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 6: The Elephant in the RoomListen as Ryan and Talia discuss how to address the elephant in the room, the benefit of doing so, and why many people chose not to.2019-07-0136 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 5: Not Everything's a Red Flag (Part 2)Listen as Ryan and Talia discuss Part Two of the mini-series “Not Everything’s a Red Flag” in couples therapy, when couples say "It’s my turn!” because the therapist spends time on one partner.2019-06-1835 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 4: Shhh! It’s (Not) a SecretListen as Ryan and Talia discuss what a “no secrets” policy in couples therapy is + why therapists choose to utilize it, or not.2019-06-0439 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 3: Let’s Talk about Sex (in Therapy)!Listen as Ryan and Talia discuss how to bring up the topic of sex to your therapist + common situations we hear in session.2019-05-2034 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 2: Not Everything’s a Red Flag (Part 1)Listen as Ryan and Talia discuss Part One of the mini-series “Not Everything’s a Red Flag” in couples therapy, when couples say "But we fought in therapy!”2019-05-0635 min
The Couple's Guide PodcastEpisode 1: How to Pick a Couples TherapistListen as Ryan and Talia discuss what makes for good couples therapy + how to pick a couples therapist.2019-04-2238 min