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The Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #92 - A Better Way to Set Goals For The New Year and On!In this episode I tackle the topic of goal setting! There are a few key parts for a new way to set goals that I address in the episode. First, there are two types of motivation, "Want-to" and "Have-to" Motivation, the type you have will influence your overall success with achieving your goals! The main part of the episode is dedicated to having goals that are centered in our values. Goals that are value based have lasting power and generates enduring motivation. A value is not something to be achieved, but is something you can only manifest by acting in...
2024-12-1030 min
The Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode # 111 - The Dark Side of MeaningIn this episode I tackle the dark side of meaning making. As humans we instinctively assign meaning to events or experiences we go through. Some of the info I draw from comes from Dr. Benjamin Hardy's book Personality Isn't Permanent. In the book he says "we can generate a premature cognitive commitment about ourselves" this cognitive commitment can be based on mistaken or misinformed meaning of things. Meaning that begins or helps to shape our self-image and how we see the world.
Creating meaning is fundamental to who we are and who we become. As Brene Brown...
2024-06-2623 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan Wynder104 - Working Through Triggers and Defense Mechanisms (Part 2 of 2)In this episode Ryan dives into part 2 of 2. This episode will focus more on the Defense Mechanisms we use to keep us "safe" or to keep us feeling more hurt or pain in our lives. "Most of us do not reenact the experience of the trauma itself. Instead we act out the coping strategy (or defense mechanism) we evolved to deal with the trauma.
Ryan will discuss a number of different defense mechanisms we utilize, including Terrance Real's adaptive child defense, self-abandonment, disconnection, self blame and shame, victim mentality, and the inability to receive. From this episode...
2023-07-1430 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan Wynder103 - Working Through Triggers and Defense Mechanisms (Part 1 of 2)In this episode Ryan breaks down the first of a two part episode. The focus for the first episode will be on Triggers. The word trigger itself has become a hot topic and according to MaryCatherine McDonald and her new book Unbroken, it has become a catchall for any occasion in which we have an emotion that is remotely unpleasant or unwanted. This misconception also leads to a misunderstanding of how we deal with triggers when they happen. We have learned to block and avoid instead of adapting and healing!
There are three things to be mindful...
2023-06-2926 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #93 - Connection is The Cure - With September Frogley (Suicide and Addiction Prevention)In this episode I welcome in my guest September Frogley, she is the founder of Connection is the Cure. The goals of this foundation include: 1. Normalize and encourage ongoing conversations about mental health and suicide prevention, 2. Equip people with prevention strategies, 3. Connect people to resources in the community and each other! September shares her personal story with losing her brother to suicide and how that experience sent her down this path to create this foundation to raise awareness for others. Healing the shame for those suffering and those impacted is hugely tied to our ability to connect and to share...
2023-01-111h 00The Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #91 - 4 Ways to Become More Emotionally MatureIn this episode I approach the topic of Emotional Maturity. I really have connected with this concept because I think we can all use work in this area. Each of us have areas we can improve on when it comes to our emotional maturity. An emotional immature person will find it hard to communicate or process their emotions and can appear selfish or aloof, it also is the lack of ability to regulate our emotions or to sit in emotional discomfort. Emotional immaturity comes from how our developmental needs were not met as children and the modeling we saw f...
2022-12-2226 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #90 - Working with The Shadow and Shame - Part 2In this episode I continue the to discuss working with The Shadow. In particular I focus on the most common manifestation of the Shadow, the inferior shadow. I reference the book The Tools, by Stutz and Michels. Discussion includes why its so important to understand your shadow, how we become dependent on outside sources for approval and validation, and the hiding place for our garbage becomes our inner self. Ultimately we turn something beautiful (inner self) into something we despise (the shadow).
The Force of Self Expression is the tool I outline, which drives us to reveal o...
2022-12-0927 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #89 - Facing Our Demons (The Shadow Self) Part 1In this episode I tackle the topic of the Shadow Self. This concept was introduced early in Psychotherapy history by Carl Jung. The Shadow Self is the part of us we want to hide from the world. For some it is our dark side, others it may be a hurt or trauma they have experienced, it can also be a feeling of unworthiness or less than, or evan a behavior. According to Jung, "there could be no light without shadow, no psychic wholeness without imperfection." The Shadow is everything which one has no wish to be, therefor we must confront...
2022-11-2930 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #88 - Am I My Own Worst Enemy? The Impact of Self-GaslightingIn this episode I explore the concept of self-gaslighting. I found this to be a very interesting concept and wanted to do a show specifically about it. One reason I did this show was that I feel we all can relate in someway to having done this to ourselves. In the episode I break down 5 ways we may be self gaslighting. I also help identify people who may struggle more with the specific types. In addition to what self gaslighting can look like, I also provide things we can do to prevent it. Finally, I provide some affirmations to help...
2022-10-2120 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #87 - How to Break Free From Your Comfort Zone.In this episode I tackle the topic of comfort zones. Much of the episode is based on the book by Jordan Tarver, You Deserve This Shit. Our comfort zone can be both safe and toxic at the same time. Our evaluation of where we sit in that is needed constantly. Complacency is the obvious way we get stuck in our comfort zone, but even complacency has numerous forms we need to be aware of. Breaking free involves building trust in ourselves, giving ourselves permission to be a beginner, and changing our lens about failure. Remember everything in life begins to...
2022-10-0425 min
The Human AdventureSporting Events with Ryan Wynder!#026 - There are so many ways to enjoy time together as a family. For Ryan Wynder and his family one of their passions is attending sporting events. In this episode I speak with Ryan Wynder about all his memories and adventures attending sporting events over the years. Ryan is a fan of all types of sports. Basketball, baseball, football and hockey. It doesn't matter. If there is an event Ryan likes to be there. Attending these events has become a way for the Wynders to enjoy time together. Ryan shares his memories of some fun experien...
2022-09-2242 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #86 - 5 Steps to Living a Shame Free Life with Anita MonoduIn this episode my guest Anita Monodu shares with us her 5 step process for helping clients live a shame free life! Those steps include sharing your story, manifesting who you want to be in life without shame and embodying and living a shameless life. A key component to letting go of shame through sharing our story first and foremost with ourselves. Many people stay in denial of their story because they fear the shame that comes with that. Anita also share her “Be, Do, Have” model which a huge mindset shift for all of us if we want to take acti...
2022-09-1738 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #85 - Relationship Pitfalls and How to Work Through Them with Tony OverbayIn this episode I welcome Tony Overbay to the show. Tony is a fellow therapist and podcaster, he host the Virtual Couch and Waking up to Narcissism podcasts. In addition he offers his Magnetic Marriage course to couples. We discuss pitfalls couples fall into and Tony talks about his 4 pillars of communication. While discussing his pillars we also break down how self protection and a lack of vulnerability get in the way of our utilization of these pillars. At times we follow the “script” and other times we are just engaged in freestyle as we discuss valuable components for a bett...
2022-08-1147 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #84 - 5 Ways to Strengthen Your Relationship.This episode is taken from a presentation I gave to a group of couples at church. I was invited to speak on strengthening our marriages/relationships. I talk about 5 things we can do to improve our relationships. Topics include: Intimacy, Goals, Caring, Expressing Love, and Expectations. I hope you enjoy! Follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist or www.ryanwynder.com
2022-06-3037 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #83 - Improving Your Mental Health & Embracing Our HumannessIn honor of Mental Health Awareness Month. In this episode I will discuss 5 things we can do to improve or maintain our mental health. Treat yourself with kindness, surround yourself with good people, learn how to deal with stress, set realistic goals, and get help when you need it. These will all be discussed, including the need to embrace our humanness with grace and kindness. Follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist or my website www.ryanwynder.com
2022-05-2618 min
The Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode # 82 - Sports Performance & Positive MindsetThis is a tutorial video to help youth develop a more positive mindset in connection with sport performance. Things like dealing with failure and disappointment, positive mindset tools, understanding expectations and identity, and the development of your why will all be discussed. The principals and ideas shared can be utilized in a number of different ways. Sports, school, and life all require a positive mindset as well our ability to work through failure. If you or your teen is struggling there are some helpful tools presented in this podcast. To learn more about me you can follow me on Instagram...
2022-05-1124 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #81 - What do Trauma Responses and Will Smith have in common?In this episode I discuss what trauma responses can look like, some of which may surprise you! In an article written by Dr. Melissa DeBose Hankins she talks about the correlation between Will Smiths reactive response at the Academy Awards and his personal trauma, making the connection that what we saw ultimately was a trauma response. She makes a compelling argument in sharing some of Will’s childhood trauma and how it was connected to what happened that night. In addition I discuss trauma responses that I see in my practice and the importance of getting help for the trauma we...
2022-04-1624 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #80 - Your Survivor/Hero StoryIn this episode I look at the benefits of seeing our survivor/story. There is a story in all of us and we need to honor that. Each of us had to overcome obstacles in our life, those challenges have given us strength and skill. Maintaining a victim mindset with our story keeps us stuck in our problems. Positive change is more likely to occur when we are able to do 3 things I discuss in the episode. Not allowing negative occurrences in our life to define us is key to our writing our hero story. Follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist...
2022-04-0726 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #79 - Leveraging our Shame!In this episode I “geek out” a bit over the topic of shame! Shame is a battle for each of us in some way! We all have our triggers for it and it tends to come from old core negative beliefs we have about ourselves. My hope for this episode is that we can all be better at managing our shame, rather than it control us. I discuss what our shame leveraging us looks like and 5 downsides to shame being in charge! I also share how we can improve our shame awareness and resilience as Brene Brown talks about. I also...
2022-03-2522 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #78 - How Radical Honesty Improves Intimacy and Reduces ShameIn this episode I share with you my presentation I gave at the Hope and Healing Workshop. The workshop was dedicated to mental health and addiction recovery. It was a great event with many wonderful presenters. The first part of the presentation contains some overlap from the last episode, the difference being I share more case examples. Then I talk about how Radical Honesty helps to break down shame! That part of the presentation is all new and very powerful. This was an amazing event! Follow me @thevegastherapist on Instagram or my website www.ryanwynder.com
2022-03-1544 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #77 - The Benefits of Radical Honesty: No More Lies!In this episode I tackle the topic of Radical Honesty. It is the practice of telling the truth about things both large and small, especially when doing so exposes our flaws and entails consequences. The first part of the episode is spent discussing the consequences of lying and what it does to our psyche and self esteem. Then I talk about the 3 Benefits of Radical Honesty. 1. Promotes Awareness of our Actions 2. Fosters intimate connections 3.Leads to a truthful autobiography. The episode finishes with a personal challenge that you don’t want to miss! Follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist join my Fa...
2022-03-0325 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #76 - Building Resilience, Personal Competence, & Overcoming Self Doubt for Teens.In this episode I share an interview I did for another podcast called Nunn Talks. There was so many great things we talked about I wanted makes sure as many people as possible heard the content. Topics include how anxiety can create apathy, and why apathy can be a dangerous state for teens. We also talk about building resilience and personal competence. What parents can do to help their kids in these areas. Finally we discuss working through self doubt, and I provide 4 things teens can do to work through self doubt. You can follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist or...
2022-02-0253 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #75 - Life Transitions! How We Can Move Through Them Effectively.In this episode I discuss a topic that is applicable to us all! Life Transitions, some are natural and some are thrust upon us. Either way we have to deal with them as they come. I personally have had several transitions this year: Moving, loss of a parent, 2 kids left home, and work transition. I discuss several ways we can improve our ability to have Life Transitions be a positive thing for us. Enjoy! Follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist or my website www.thevegastherapist.com.
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Nunn TalksEPISODE 28: Ryan Wynder; Building Resilience and Personal CompetenceIn this episode, we welcome Westwind alumni and The Vegas Therapist Ryan Wynder to the podcast! Ryan and Austin discuss how parents can help their children build resilience and personal competence during uncertain times.
2022-01-2500 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #74 - Ted Lasso Edition: Stuff, Secrets, & ChoicesIn this episode I pay tribute to one of my favorite shows, Ted Lasso. I do so by breaking down a important episode on mental health. Season 2 focuses a great deal on mental health and the idea we all have stuff and the importance of working through our pain so that it does not control us! I focus on three things from the episode; Our stuff and the importance of working through it, Secrets, in particular secrets that carry toxic shame, and choices. All of these things play a vital role in our mental health and well-being and are worth...
2021-11-0420 min
Mequell Buck: Thriving with Mental IllnessEp. 55: Men and Depression - Ryan Wynder, LMFTMequell and Adam are joined by The Vegas Therapist Ryan Wynder, LMFT for a discussion about the specific challenges that can be faced by men when dealing with depression and other types of mental illnesses. Cultural and societal expectations can create more difficulties for men at work and in relationships with vulnerability, emotion and asking for help.
2021-10-1548 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #73 - Thriving with Mental Illness with Mequell BuckIn this episode I sit down with Mequell Buck, she is an author, speaker, suicide survivor, and hosts a Podcast with her husband Adam. The podcast is called Thriving with Mental Illness. Mequell shares her story of dealing her mental illness (bipolar II diagnosis). We talk about the process for her to get healthy, what was helpful and not helpful for her. She opens up about her suicide attempt and what that meant to her. Mequell shares how her life is better because of this (mental illness) and how it forced her to trim the unimportant things out of her...
2021-09-2843 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #72 - Gaslighting: “You are Not Imaging That!”In this episode I tackle the topic of gaslighting. This tactic is something we have most likely all experienced whether we have recognized it as that or not. Gaslighting can occur in all types of relationships (parent/child, Boss/employee, and romantic). I discuss the signs to look for as well as the stages of Gaslighting in a relationship. The GasLight Tango, why people go along with the gaslighter and the power of fantasy will all be discussed. Finally, I will talk about turning off the gas and how to decide to stay or go in this type of relationship...
2021-09-0329 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #71 - The Mental Health Crisis & Healing Trauma with Theo FleuryIn this episode I welcome back Theo Fleury. Theo is perhaps best known for his time on the ice. But off the rink, his life once carried the markings of a troubled childhood, abuse and coping with emotional pain through addictive and self-destructive behaviours.
Today, Theo defines himself as a victor over trauma and addiction, and a facilitator to those still trying to find their way. His best-selling books, Playing with Fire and Conversations with a Rattlesnake, encourage open sharing and provide practical tools that people seeking help can personally use. These tools are also useful to those who want...
2021-08-1953 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #70 - 3 Things I Recently Learned About LossIn this episode I talk about Loss. I recently lost my mom, who battled cancer for 2.5 years. I just wanted to share my experiences I have had over the last few weeks about grief and loss. I know I am only in the early stages of grief but there are some important things that I learned that I think will benefit anyone else going through this. As a bonus track I also include the talk I gave at my mom’s funeral. Follow me at www.thevegastherapist.com or on Instagram @thevegastherapist
2021-08-1243 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #69 - SELF DOUBT: 4 Strategies on How to Break FreeIn this episode I tackle the topic of self doubt! This is something we all can relate to and have had to deal with at some level in our lives. Self doubt is the mental habit of questioning your own judgement and worth. There are different types of self doubt, including indecisiveness and the Imposter Syndrome that will be discussed. Self Doubt impacts our mental health and can keep us from living our full potential. In the episode I provide 4 tools for helping you break the chains of self doubt. Follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist or go to my website...
2021-07-1620 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #68 - Social Inclusion with @thatlittlemom Rachel WherleyIn this episode I welcome my guest Rachel Wherley to the show. She is better known and famous on Instagram as @thatlittlemom Rachel has mission to promote inclusion in her social media platform. She had to work towards inclusion most of her life and wants others to know not only her story, but how we can be more open as a society and help others feel more included. She attributes her sense of worth and her courage to a great family who never made her feel different or excluded. That gave her the courage to try many things and put...
2021-07-0247 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #67 - The “Good Enough” Crisis.In this episode I discuss of the question of Am I good Enough (especially in the eyes of others) can consume our entire way of living. This question is unmatched in its capacity to both motivate and shame the human spirit. The source of the good enough dilemma is scarcity. Scarcity as Brene Brown describes is the never enough problem. Scarcity thrives in a culture where everyone is hyper aware of “lack.” Scarcity has 3 components: Shame, Comparison, and Disengagement. I also discuss our way out of the Good Enough Crisis! Follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist or visit my website www.thev...
2021-06-2321 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #66 - 5 Tools For Healing in Life and Loss with Heather QuiselIn today’s episode I welcome in Heather Quisel to the show to talk about her life.
Heather has been in the mindset and personal development space coaching business owners and entrepreneurs how to maximize their talents and increase profits through belief, focus, and disciplined actions.
In one unexpected turn of events, her whole life changed...and so did her focus.
The sudden loss of her husband, Larry, in 2018 left Heather to write a new About Me page: one she never wanted to write. But rather than lean into the pain and suffering of widowhood, she chose a story of re...
2021-05-0239 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #65 - An “Extra” Ordinary Adventure with Jared FisherIn this episode I sit down with entrepreneur and business owner Jared Fisher (Las Vegas Cyclery & Escape Adventures). He is an avid cyclist himself and recently finished biking coast to coast, San Diego to Saint Augustine Florida. Jared shares his adventure for life and desire to live in the moment. He takes us through his 5 reasons for going on these adventures. From accomplishing goals to facing your demons, Jared shares a number of great life lessons that we all can learn from. He takes us through some of his most darkest moments along the way and shares how he mustered...
2021-04-061h 08The Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #64 - The Power of Your Story with Nic FitzgeraldIn this episode I sit down with the owner of Friendly Giant Films and Co Author of Million Dollar Story Nic Fitzgerald. Nic is an entrepreneur who has a business that helps other entrepreneurs tell their story to help sell their products and business. He is a master at bringing out the power of our story. Nic shares his own powerful story of following what your passion is despite the challenges that can come with that. In some of his scariest moments, he has to face his fear and bet on himself. This episode will teach you that in life...
2021-03-3044 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #63 - 5 Daily Rituals Couples can use to Cultivate Love & ConnectionIn this episode I discuss how couples can take seemingly insignificant moments and turn them into powerful connecting opportunities! Due to the daily pressures of life time is a precious thing. Taking dull and mindless routines and transforming them into a source of connection and fun takes intentionality that we often lack in our approach with our partner. The 2 biggest connection killers couples face are a) how we spend our time and b) how we use technology. I will outline in this episode 5 moments couples can create rituals for and thus transform them into powerful connecting opportunities! Follow me on...
2021-03-0422 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #62 - Resilience - The Key to Better Mental Health and Happiness.In this episode I take on the topic of resilience. I will draw from Eric Greitens book called Resilience. This is the key to a well loved life. Without some sense of meaningful struggle in our lives, something inside of us begins to breakdown, a part of us begins to die. Resilience requires us to take responsibility for our response to life. Failure is another important component to resilience, we have to rework our relationship with failure, it’s not something that defines us but is simply a part of the process. I will discuss how shielding our youth from st...
2021-02-1224 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #61 - Mindset, Resilience, & Mental Flexibility for You & Your Teen with Justin Su’aMy guest Justin Su’a is the Mental Performance Coach for the Tampa Bay Rays. He has also worked for the Boston Red Sox and the Cleveland Browns. He is the author of Mentally Tough Teens and Parent Pep Talks, and is the host of the Increase Your Impact Podcast. In this episode we dive into the topic of mental toughness and flexibility. Justin talks about the importance of self awareness and living life on purpose with purpose. We discuss how to help teens who are struggling with the 3 C’s and the development of resilience. The importance of feelings in t...
2021-02-0241 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #60 - Finding Your Awesome! With Dr. Spencer HoltIn this episode I sit down with Dr. Spencer Holt, a friend and former Southern Albertan! Spencer is the head of commercial learning at AstraZeneca, he hosts his own Podcast; Small Things Make a Big Difference, and is a leadership coach. We discuss his recent article Journey to Awesome and how you can develop your own awesome. Principals such as purpose, emotional intelligence, people, and focus are apart of the process and journey to awesome! This was a fun episode and has lot of take aways. Follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist or go to my website www.thevegastherapist.com
2021-01-2737 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #59 - What Do Ceilings and Closets Have To Do With A Better You?In this episode I will look at two metaphors and how they relate to us and our overall well-being. This episode is about taking an inventory of your current state. Are you content with your current life? Do accept your “ceiling” or do you want to break through and make this the year for change! What’s in your “closet” that might be keeping you from achieving your goals. It’s not just old clothes! It can be old “stuff” things we may have never took the time to address properly. Let this be the year of change and achievement for you! Follow...
2021-01-1420 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #58 - Improving Intimacy in our Relationship with Janise LoveridgeIn this episode I welcome in my guest Janise Loveridge. Janise is one of the founders of Inspiring Intimacy Games Stuff. Their goal is to help married couples reconnect, unite, and have FUN!
Their hope is that they can help other couples reconnect and enjoy being together. They have created Inspiring Intimacy Games such as:
Better Intimacy/12 Sex Challenges in 12 Months, Twelve Days of Flirty Foreplay, 52 Weeks of I Love You, and Inspiring Intimacy Card Game. Listen in as we discuss the importance of intimacy in your marriage, how to improve your connection and sex life. We discuss ways to...
2020-12-1850 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode # 57 - Trauma, Addiction & Negative Beliefs with Dr. Robb KellyIn this episode I welcome in Dr. Robb Kelly a renowned addiction consultant who believes in treating the problem of addiction, not the symptoms. He has worked for many years helping addicts and alcoholics to RECOVER their lives from the disease of addiction. Based on his own experiences working with addicts and alcoholics over the last 20 years. Dr. Kelly was the CEO of a thriving telecommunications company when the walls came crashing down on him due to alcoholism. He ended up homeless and broken on the streets of Manchester, England until he found the courage to save himself. Since recovering, D...
2020-12-021h 00The Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #56 - The Psychology of GratitudeIn this episode I delve into the psychology of gratitude. I have always thought gratitude was a good thing to practice but I have never really looked further into the full benefits it can have on us. Gratitude has a huge impact on the brain and positivity, it helps us feel less pain, have healthier relationships, and numerous other benefits! I will also discuss ways to actively practice gratitude in our lives. Find me at www.thevegastherapist.com or follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist
2020-11-2426 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #55 - Managing Our Discomfort: Now or Later?In this episode I will discuss how we manage the discomfort in our lives. In many cases we manage it by finding ways to avoid it! Some of those ways may be healthy and some unhealthy. However, avoidance only makes the discomfort worse. I will discuss consequences to avoidance and the benefits of facing our discomfort sooner. As Brene Brown says we need to “lean into discomfort.” I will share a variety of examples both personally and from clients. For more about me visit my website www.thevegastherapist.com or follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist
2020-11-1725 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #54 - What is Your “Day 7”In this episode I discuss a recent podcast episode titled “Day 7.” Dax Shepard, the host of the Armchair Expert shares about his addiction relapse and now has seven days of sobriety! My question to the audience is what is your Day 7 issue? What is something in your life that you are not sharing or holding a secret about that is weighing you down? What would that be like for you to be honest about it, to share it with someone.... In the episode I talk about how shame works on us to keep us from feeling like we can be more...
2020-10-1628 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #53 - Suicide Awareness: Suicide Myths, Prevention, Help, and Dealing with LossIn this episode I will continue with the theme for suicide awareness month. I will be discussing 5 myths associated with suicide. Also what we can do to help prevent the possibility of suicide. This includes things like knowing the signs and talking about suicide in a proactive manner. I also give suggestions for ways we can help those struggling with suicidal thoughts. Finally, I talk about loss and how those who have lost loved ones to Suicide can heal. For more info on me go to my website www.thevegastherapist.com. You can also follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist
2020-09-2329 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #52 - “Choose to Stay” Suicide Prevention With Ben Olsen, Dakota Lotus, and Sophie PecoraIn this episode I welcome in my guests Ben Olsen, Dakota Lotus, and Sophie Pecora. They are all singer, song writers and actors! They are 3 teens who recently released a song written by Ben called Choose to Stay. The song is being promoted in connection with Suicide Prevention Month. The song wonderful, inspiring, and has a great message for those who may be contemplating ending their life. I talk to them about the song and what it means to them and also I get their perspective on the challenges teens face and how they handle those struggles themselves. They were...
2020-09-1439 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #51 - Personality Isn’t Permanent with Dr. Benjamin HardyHad the pleasure of having Dr. Benjamin Hardy on the podcast. He is the author of Personality Isn’t Permanent. We had a great discussion about personality development, the impact of trauma on personality, rewriting your story, and the development of your future self. You won’t want to miss. We also discussed how meaning is shaped during emotional experiences which then gets tied to our identity. For more information about Dr. Hardy please visit his website where you can find his free 30 Day Future Self Program. You can also visit my website www.thevegastherapist.com or follow me on Inst...
2020-09-0447 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #50 - Finding Healing From Loss and Trauma: Pam Heggie’s “Therapy Story”In this episode I welcome in my guest Pam Heggie. Pam is married, and is a mom to 7 children, she is a High Fitness Instructor and most importantly an advocate for mental health and therapy. Pam has experienced significant loss in her life, first with her brother, then she lost her twin boys who were born premature, and most recently she lost her dad to cancer. So to say she is an expert in grief and loss is an understatement! We talk about her journey through grief and what brought her to therapy. We also discuss her healing journey with...
2020-08-2059 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #49 - What is Low Grade Depression, Michelle Obama, and Sex Trafficking.In this episode I will tackle the topic of low grade depression. Earlier this week Michelle Obama acknowledged she had been dealing with what she called “low grade depression.” She also spoke about the things that she felt were contributing to her depression. I will define low grade depression or what I often refer to as situational depression and talk about ways we can cope. Treatment can be simple but like with any form of depression finding the motivation to do the things will help is often the challenge. Other factors contributing to depression are stress and loss. I also brie...
2020-08-0820 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #48 - Understanding and Transforming Trauma.In this episode I will be discussing 3 components of Trauma. 1. The science of trauma, which includes understanding how the brain is impacted by trauma. In reference to the book The Body Keeps the Score areas impacted include the amygdala, the frontal lobe, and thalamus areas. The result of damage to the brain is we misinterpret dangerous situation, have a lack of control over emotions and impulses, and experience sensory overload! 2. Help in identifying patterns in our life that are connected to our trauma. We organize our life as if the trauma is continuing, thus creating patterns that are not good...
2020-07-2839 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #47 - Healing Trauma with NHL Legend Theo Fleury.In this episode NHL Legend Theo Fleury joins the podcast. Theo’s resume includes a World Junior Championship, a Stanley Cup Champion, and he helped Canada win a Gold Medal at the 2002 Olympic Games. He is also an author, his books include “Playing with Fire” and “Conversations with Rattlesnakes”. He is a speaker and a relational trauma expert. You can find him at www.theofleury.life You can also follow him on Instagram @theofleury14. In this episode our focus is on trauma and how to heal our trauma. Theo experienced a great deal of trauma in his early life that led to add...
2020-07-1757 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #46 - Developing Mental Toughness in Sports with Chad Hermansen (Former MLB Player)In this episode I will be discussing the development of mental toughness with young athletes. My guest, former 1st round draft pick, Chad Hermansen weighs in on the topic. Chad has developed a program for young athletes called Mental Edge Training (www.mentaledge.training). You can also find him on YouTube as he interviews and number of coaches and players. We talk about his experiences in the Major leagues and how he dealt with the pressure of being a first round pick and the mental toughness/belief system that caused him some struggles. We discuss the development of young athletes...
2020-06-2453 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #45 - How Avoidance Undermines our Ability to Learn New Things, Face Fears, and be Intimate.In this episode I will be taking on the coping strategy of avoidance. This age old strategy is problematic on so many levels. Avoidance is provoked when our emotions move beyond our comfort zone and our mind tells it’s the easy way to avoid pain! Long term avoidance compounds our difficulties and restricts our capacity to feel... www.thevegastherapist.com. Instagram - @thevegastherapist
2020-06-1628 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #44 - Debunking the “Guy Code” Dealing with Men and Emotions: Special Guest LMFT Tyler RichIn this episode myself and my guest, fellow therapist Tyler Rich, discuss the emotional obstacles men face. We try and debunk the Guy Code, where sharing our emotions is considered weak. We discuss the beliefs and stories we have about our emotions and why sharing them requires us to break down these stories.. Toxic shame is another hot topic we tackle, how men can identify shame and begin the process of working through it. We also discuss obstacles to communicating/connecting in relationships. This is a must listen for both men and women! Check out www.richerlifecounseling.com Also check...
2020-06-0351 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #43 - Why What Your Feeling is Grief.In this episode I will be discussing why what we are feeling right now is most likely grief! Each of us have experienced a number of loses during this pandemic, whether it’s the loss of freedom, a job, a long awaited moment, or even an actual person. The losses are many and the grief is real. I will discuss David Kesslers book Finding Meaning and how we can move through grief in a more effective way. I will also share some of the do’s and dont’s for people that may be needing their grief witnessed. Instagram - @theveg...
2020-05-1925 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #42 - Mother’s Day Edition - Special Guest, My Mom!In this episode I pay tribute to mothers! I talk about the psychology and importance of a mothers love. I also have my mom as a guest. She will share her story of raising 5 boys, her passion for running, and how she has battled cancer twice! Her determination and perseverance is an example to many. She has inspired many along her path of life and I hope you will enjoy what she has to share!
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The Jeff & Heidi ShowEpisode 008 – The Jeff & Heidi Show Podcast with Ryan Wynder – The Vegas TherapistThe Jeff & Heidi ShowJeff Heggie is an entrepreneur and business development coachwww.JeffHeggie.com | www.JeffHeggieCoaching.com Instagram https://www.instagram.com/jeffheggiecoaching/Facebook fb.me/JeffHeggieCoachingLinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffheggie/Heidi Anderson is an entrepreneur and founder of ECI Business Financial Strategieswww.ecibfs.com | www.ecisecurepay.comLinkedIn linkedin.com/in/heidianderson0426/Episode 008: The Jeff & Heidi Show with Ryan Wynder, The Vegas TherapistR...
2020-04-3028 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #41 -Ayelet Shipley: Her Journey Through Anxiety to Helping Others and Much More!In this episode I interview Ayelet Shipley, podcast host of Get Out of Bed, Out of your Head. She is a therapist, a coach, and entrepreneur. She is also wise beyond her years. In the episode she will be sharing her struggle with anxiety as well as tips for those who may be struggling as well. We discuss overcoming feelings of brokenness, being honest in our feelings and many more wonderful things. You won’t want to miss. Www.anxietysecretstoolbox.com. Facebook group - Thrive Beyond Anxiety
2020-04-2544 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #40- “Quarantine Crazy!” - How to Make it Out Healthy and Happy.People are starting to feel the stress of being locked away! In this episode I will be sharing a variety thoughts about feelings, coping, priorities, and a choice or decision we will have when the quarantine comes to an end. A short but sweet episode! @thevegastherapist
2020-04-1813 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #39 - How to Survive the Psychological Impact of Social Distancing!In this episode I will discuss the impact that social distancing can have on our mental health. We are vulnerable to mental health issues without the benefits social connection gives us. I will also provide things to look for in family members, in particular young people that may suggest they are having a more difficult time than we think. Those in the 16-24 age range are the most vulnerable age group to the psychological impact of social distancing. I provide 8 strategies to cope with social distance and help mitigate the psychological impact of what we are all experiencing!
2020-04-0528 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #38- Porn Stars are People: Behind the Camera with Ava Devine.In this episode I will be talking to Ava Devine, she has been in the adult entertainment industry for many years now. We will be discussing her story, how she grew up, challenges she faced in her upbringing and addictions she has conquered. She has worked 12 step programs which has helped her with healing and amends for hurt she dealt with in her life. She is a source of strength for many others in her life. Warning this episode does have language and sexual content that some may find offensive. Instagram @theava_devine Twitter @1avadevine
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The Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #37 - Corona, Corona! - Coping With The Impacts of The Virus.In this episode I will discuss the impact the virus is having on our mental health and well being. It is taking control from us and we are being forced into accepting a number of things that we are not wanting to accept. In spite of all this we have an opportunity for growth and to teach valuable life lessons to our kids and those around us. In essence we can decide what impact this will have on us emotionally.
2020-03-2026 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #36 - Healing Trauma: 1 October Mass Shooting.In this episode my guest will discuss her experience of being at the 1 October Mass Shooting in Las Vegas. She details her resulting trauma and the process of healing from such a horrific situation. Anyone who has experienced trauma will benefit from hearing this story and seeing that there is hope for healing.
2020-03-1457 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #35 - Silver Lining Playbook (Therapy Edition): The How to For Life’s Challenges!In this episode I will discuss a framework for moving through life and the obstacles we experience in a more effective way. Our ability to turn adversity into advantage is a defining skill we can all learn. The framework includes the following principles: Decide, Let Go, Doing the Time, Pivoting, and Being Open. Each of these can be applied to any situation or obstacle we face in order to make the most out of it! www.thevegastherapist.com. Instagram: @thevegastherapist. Facebook page: Ryan Wynder- The Vegas Therapist Podcast
2020-03-0634 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #34 - A Man with Dreams Needs a Woman with Vision:The Life of an Entrepreneur Wife.In this episode my guests Collette Brunson and Amber Coppieters will share their experiences of being married to entrepreneurs. They will share about the ups the downs and how they keep their relationships strong! There is a number of life and relationship lessons to take away from these two amazing women. Follow Collette’s podcast: Sharing Her Journey. Instagram @sharingherjourney
2020-02-2655 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #33 - When Life Gives you Lemons, Make Lemonade: Sharing Mark’s Story.In this episode Mark Perry will be sharing his compelling story where he and his wife endured her 3 year battle with colon cancer. This battle was characterized by his wife’s optimism and refusal to allow this disease to define her. Mark and Stacey turned their struggle into a mission that inspired so many people. Listen as Mark shares many life lessons and things we can do to live life to the fullest.
2020-02-1857 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #32 - How to Improve Your Relationship with 6 Basic Needs! (Valentine’s Special)As individuals we have 6 Basic needs that we look to have met in our lives.. Certain needs mean more to us than others and can motivate us in a variety of ways. Improvement of our relationships can happen when we look to meet these needs for each other. If our needs are being met primarily from external sources are relationship may be in danger!
2020-02-1125 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #31- Stop Going Through the Motions: Overdeliver Challenge!This episode is a summary of my conference I attended this last week in Nashville. Great speakers including Tony Robbins and Garrett White. Russell Brunson the cofounder Of Click Funnels gave us a challenge to overdeliver in 2020. I am passing that challenge on to you!
2020-02-0418 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode # 30 - “I Love You, Hate The Porn” - A Couples Journey Through A Pornography Addiction.In this episode my guest couple will share their story of dealing with the husbands addiction to pornography. They will share the struggle of recovery and the hope for healing that came through a dedication to a program. They will discuss how they have rebuilt trust in area that is most difficult to do so..
2020-01-231h 00The Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #29 - Four Keys to a Better Relationship with Kara Urie-Lott.In this episode my guest, fellow therapist Kara Urie-Lott gives couples four keys to improving their relationship. She outlines how she utilizes her Four C’s to help couples build a better relationship. Both of us share stories and insights about our work with couples and things that get in the way of implantation of the Four C’s. This episode does not disappoint!
2020-01-1358 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode # 28 - Does Being a Victim Rob you of a Meaningful Life?In this episode I will discuss the victim mentality or mindset that impacts so many people. You will learn or understand how the victim mentality is created and what drives people to take on this mindset. You will also discover how victims are robbing themselves of a meaningful life! How to deal with a victim and how someone can get out of their victim mindset will be discussed.
2019-12-3028 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #27 - Uncovering The Bonds of Shame: “Dan’s not a bad guy!”In this episode my guest Dan will share his work with shame, dealing with a victim mindset and depression. He shares his insights and realizations along the path of therapy and life.. His open and raw discussion of the battle with shame is very enlightening.
2019-12-1946 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #26 - Am I In or a Target For an Abusive Relationship? Knowing The Signs.In this episode I will discuss what the characteristics of a target are in abusive relationship. Also I will highlight the signs of an abuser, and the things they often do to control and manipulate their victims. If you are in an abusive relationship there is help out there and there is hope for happiness on the other side.
2019-12-0930 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #25 - “Allison’s Story” - Her Journey from Captivity to Freedom.In this episode Allison will share her story of escape from a toxic relationship. She will talk about her magical thinking early on and how her determination to “make him happy” kept her in it. She discusses her journey of healing and finding happiness!
2019-11-2251 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #24- Growing Up With An Addict Parent: The Story of Three Brothers.In this episode you will hear the story of three brothers that grew up with a father who was an addict. The episode will discuss the impact of addiction on a family as well as the brothers ability to bond together to cope with the challenges associated with this problem. They discuss overcoming shame associated with addiction and what they have done to better their lives.
2019-11-1350 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #23 - Shame, Shame, go away! The secret to healing our shame.In this episode I discuss shame and it’s destructive nature. Also how it shows up in our lives. Healing shame through sharing our story with others is how achieve freedom from this awful prison.
2019-11-0824 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #22- Uncertainty and Vulnerability: The Do’s and Don’ts of managing it in our lives!This episode will focus on our struggle with uncertainty. How uncertainty effects us negatively and what we can do to manage it better in our lives! I will share the number one factor that research has shown to help us with uncertainty in our lives.
2019-10-2837 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #21 - “Houston we have a vulnerability problem!”In this episode we will discuss the challenges we face with being vulnerable in society. How fear drives our lack of vulnerability. Also the emphasis will be on Foreboding Joy, why we do it and what to do about it! Discussion will involve the work of Brene Brown.
2019-10-1029 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #20 - Volume 1: Memoirs of a Vegas Therapist! “It’s Story Time...This episode has no real theme. I just wanted to share some stories of a day in the life of a therapist! Enjoy!
2019-10-0119 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #19 - Intimate Treason: Healing the Trauma and Pain of Relationships.In this episode I will discuss healing from relationships that have a partner who is an addict or abusive. Sorting through ones pain can be overwhelming. I will map out the process of healing that includes claiming your reality, relinquishing magical thinking and grieving the losses suffered in these relationships.
2019-09-2046 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #18 - Male Depression: Why Men Don’t Want to Talk about it!This is episode will discuss the dynamics of male depression. Symptoms and behaviors that are common in male depression.. Cultural norms that keep men stuck in their depression. Also a discussion about suicide and ultimately healing!
2019-09-0536 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan Wynder#17- 1000 consecutive days of Running. The story of dedication, perseverance, and mental health.In this episode my guest Mark Jimenez talks about his achievement of running for 1000 consecutive days! What drove to this.. how running is connected to his mental health and the importance seeking help when we need to.
2019-08-2631 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode 16 - Part 2: “Lets Talk About Sex Baby!”This is the second part of sex and relationships. This episode will focus on ways to improve our sexual relationships. Episode is based on questions emailed In after initial episode. As a part of the episode listeners will be asked to participate in a challenge!!
2019-08-1933 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #15 - Vacation Episode - “Our Story”What is your story? What narrative do you tell about who you are and your life? Do you play the role of a victim, survivor, or hero?
2019-08-0923 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode # 14: Part 1: “Lets Talk about Sex Baby”In this episode I will discuss the benefits to taking about sex in our relationships. Research shows that simply talking about sex with our partners improves frequency and satisfaction. Also I will present 4 things to consider when communicating about sex in our relationships.
2019-07-2826 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #13 - Dealing with Unexpected LossThis episode will cover what we can do to cope with unexpected loss in our lives. This can be a very emotionally challenging process for those impacted. What to look for an expect from those grieving is also covered.
2019-07-0522 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #12 - Social Anxiety: Suffering in Silence.This episode deals with the issues of social anxiety. Social anxiety runs along a spectrum of minor to extreme! The episode offers some understanding behind social anxiety as well some tools to work through it.
2019-06-2427 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode # 11 - Are you a Jimmy Chitwood (Hoosiers) in life or a teammate?What role do u feel like you play in life are you the person everyone counts on in moments of crisis or would you rather be in the role of a supporting cast?
2019-06-1125 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #10 - Strengthening Families: The single most important thing you can do!In this episode I will discuss what we can do to strengthen our families by developing a strong family narrative.
2019-06-0534 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #9 - Part 2: Video Games and Porn, Alarming patterns in young men and what to do about it.This episode will focus on the porn side of the problem. How porn is impacting our young men both sexually and non sexually. Also what the ripple effect is on young men. Finally what we can do as parents to help!
2019-05-2739 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode 8: Part 1: Video Games & Porn: Alarming patterns in young men and what we can do about it.Discuss the alarming pattens happening with young boys and men. What the impact of too much gaming can be and how it is creating long term problems in society as a whole. Part 1 focuses primarily on Video Games.
2019-05-2034 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderEpisode #7 - Addiction and Recovery in Vegas.This episode you will get to hear about the challenges of having an addiction in Las Vegas. But also that recovery is possible here and of course anywhere you are at. There 3 Questions you must ask yourself in relation to your recovery that will learn about in this episode.
2019-05-1241 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderHappiness - How to have more of it in our lives!!In this episode I will discuss how to be Happier In our lives. 3 elements to living a happier life are discussed.
2019-05-0435 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderFamily Roles and their impactHow are family roles and dynamics influence who we are. The challenges of breaking away of from unhealthy roles and moving into a healthier way of living.
2019-04-2537 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderTrauma and PTSD the importance of working through it!Discuss how Trauma has been more prevalent in our society. Avoidance of Trauma memories makes it worse and have more control in our lives.. Working through trauma gives us the opportunity to work through and reconstruct the memories in a more positive way
2019-04-1034 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderRelationship advice with a Vegas twistFacing certain realities in our relationships can be challenging. Sometimes we resort to suppressing or alternating our reality in order to accept or be in our relationship, this can be a dangerous coping strategy that is often met with more problems later on!
2019-04-0324 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderSocial Media: The good, the bad, and the ugly!How social media is creating life comparison, this is connected to greater anxiety and depression in teens. I will also explore the connection to depression in men with social media.
2019-03-2527 minThe Vegas Therapist - Ryan WynderMy story and background for the Vegas Therapist.I wanted to share with you my background and how I became the Vegas Therapist and what to expect in future episodes.
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