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Reflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellHow to Respond When Your Ex Says Things That Trigger YouSend us a textIn this episode, Sallyanne talks about the activating or triggering comments that can come your way during separation or divorce. Even before you separate. You’ll learn practical, grounded ways to respond (rather than react) without spiralling, without defending yourself, and without giving away your power.We explore: • Why these comments land so deeply • How to separate their words from your worth • Clear, simple boundary-based responses you can use immediately • How to shift from being reactive to being anchored and self-ledThis episode helps y...
2025-12-0421 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellChristmas & Divorce: Letting Go of Holiday ‘Shoulds’ When Your Relationship Feels in LimboSend us a textNavigating separation, uncertainty, and emotional overload during the holidays — without guilt, shame, or pressure.The holidays are supposed to be a wonderful joyful time of the year. But what if your relationship is falling apart, already over, or hanging by a thread?In this episode, Sallyanne talks honestly about the emotional weight of Christmas when you’re navigating separation, divorce, or deep relationship doubt.We unpack the pressure of holiday “shoulds” - the expectations to keep things cheerful, stay together...
2025-11-0627 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellMaking Decisions You Can Trust - About Relationships, Separation, DivorceSend us a textWondering whether to stay or leave a marriage?Thinking about separation or divorce?When you’re sitting in uncertainty, it’s easy to overthink. To rely on our head to bring us to a decision.But clarity doesn’t come from thinking harder. It comes from alignment.In this episode, Sallyanne unpacks the three decision centres - the head, the heart, and the gut - and shares a simple practice to help you bring all three into conversation before making your next big (or small) decisi...
2025-10-3014 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellParallel Parenting Explained: What It Is, Who It’s For & How to Make It WorkSend us a textParallel parenting after divorce is approach for separated parents who struggle with high conflict, dysfunctional interactions or communication breakdowns.In this episode, Sallyanne breaks down what parallel parenting is, who it benefits, and how to put it into practice.We will explore the advantages for you and your children, practical strategies to make it work, and how this approach can bring more peace, stability, and boundaries to co-parenting after divorce or separation.And, how it can be the instigator of a new, more peaceful and co-operative parenting...
2025-09-2520 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellBefore Walking Away From Your Marriage or Leaving Your Relationship, Ask Yourself This…Send us a textLeaving a relationship when nothing is dramatically wrong can feel hard.If your partner's a good person? If no one would understand why you're unhappy?Before walking away from your marriage or leaving your relationship, ask yourself this one thing.In this episode, Sallyanne explores the quiet, complicated space of choosing yourself - even when your relationship isn’t a complete disaster.You’ll learn: 💬 The one question to ask yourself when you're unsure whether to stay or go💬 Why you don...
2025-08-1416 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellHow to Hold It Together While Falling Apart During DivorceSend us a textHow to Hold It Together While Falling Apart During DivorceHow to Keep Going in the Hardest Days of Your Divorce 💙This episode is shared in loving memory of my beautiful Mum, Helen Hartnell, who taught me how to do hard things with kindness, compassion and grace.The early days of separation and divorce are hard - it feels like your whole world is unravelling and there is no solid ground under your feet.And there are other moments through divorce when it feel...
2025-07-1016 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellSex After Divorce: The Liberating Power of Pleasure & PlaySend us a textSex After Divorce: Playful, Pleasure-Focused, and LiberatingAfter a separation or divorce, you get to consciously reframe a whole lot of things and choose to do them completely differently. Sex is one of those things. Post divorce sex can be incredibly liberating… a little intimidating or anxiety inducing, sure, but once you embrace it as part of your reclamation and rediscovery of yourself it can be an amazing, empowering part of your healing.In this episode I talk about focusing on play and pleasure in your...
2024-07-1121 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellDivorce and Mediation - How to "Win"Send us a textHow to "win" your mediation or divorce negotiation.Tune in to learn how to prepare yourself for a successful outcome in your divorce negotiation or mediation.Whether you're just starting the mediation process or in the thick of it, these insights will provide you with strategies to help you navigate divorce and mediation with confidence and clarity.Rather than "winning", the goal is to emerge from the process with a solution that best serves everyone involved, and you feeling empowered and ready to embrace the next chapter...
2024-05-2320 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne Hartnell4 Things You Need to Do to Change Your Experience of Divorce - Part 3Send us a text4 key things that will CHANGE the way you experience divorceListen in as I step you through 4 powerful things you can do, while you're in the middle of divorce, that change your experience and the outcome.Finding the right, values aligned, caring, expert support is crucial in navigating a divorce and it's one of the keys that will change your experience of divorce, so please reach out for an introductory call to discuss how I help my clients.Explore my COACHING PROGRAMS...
2024-05-1627 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellMother's Day After Divorce or When A Marriage Feels HardSend us a textMother's Day after divorce can be hard.Mother's Day when a marriage feels hard, can bring up all the things.This episode is for Mums AND Dads navigating Mother's Day during separation, after divorce or when a marraige feels hard.How to support yourself and your kids through a day that "should" be all about happy families.Go gently,SallyanneWant to work with me?BOOK A CALL to chat through your options
2024-05-0915 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellKey Things That Will Change Your Experience of Divorce - Part 2Send us a textWhile divorce is destabilising and overwhelming and can feel like your life is all of a sudden out of control. there are key things you can do to change your own experience of divorce.This is part 2 of key things you can do to change your divorce experience and create safety, freedom and liberation for yourself.Create the life you most want for yourself after divorce.Support is crucial in navigating a divorce - it's one of the keys that will change your experience of divorce, so...
2024-05-0319 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellKey Things That Will Change Your Experience of Divorce - Part 1Send us a textDivorce is hard, heartbreaking and painful.There's a lot that's outside of your control - not least of all your ex, what they do, say and how they behave.There's a lot about separation, divorce, family law, that is overwhelming, fear inducing and destabilising.Divorce brings so much change, fear and uncertainty.And...There are key things you can do to change your experience of divorce.In this episode, I step you through some of the key things you can do to c...
2024-04-2524 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellDeciding To Leave A Marriage - A Reflect Client StorySend us a textDeciding to leave a marriage. Having the hard conversations about your relationship with your partner, husband, wife. Making the decision to end a long-term relationship. It's hard.And there are so many layers.This is exactly what I support clients through.Making the decision to stay or go.Having the hard conversations to create the change you most want.Leaving. Separation. Divorce. And all that brings with it, practically, socially, emotionally financially.Reclaiming a new version of yourself.Living a liearated life of...
2024-03-2122 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellLeaving An Abusive RelationshipSend us a text**TRIGGER WARNING** this episode mentions domestic violence and complex ptsd traumaA Q&A discussion with Caroline Parsons of Solo Legal principal lawyer at Solo Legal, where she helps targets of psychological and emotional abuse separate from their intimate partners.Caroline takes a human and empathetic approach to resolving family disputes. With training in trauma-informed practice, she works with clients in a super sensitive way.In memory of Analyn “Logee” Osias who was murdered by her ex-partner in 2023, and of all the women who shou...
2024-03-0744 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellSocial Isolation and Losing Friends After DivorceSend us a textSocial Isolation and Losing Friends After Divorce One of the most difficult, confusing, surprising, even devastating realities of divorce is the loss of so many significant relationships.Your spouse, husband, wife or partner is just the top of a long list of people who will exit from your life, some slowly, some literally overnight.It’s painful, confusing and can leave you socially isolated right at a time when you most need connection, community, care, company and love.Why does it happen?Wha...
2024-02-2918 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellDivorce Truth Bombs You Need To HearSend us a textDivorce Truth Bombs You Need To HearRegardless of where you're at in term of your relationship or divorce - whether you're asking the hard questions about your marriage or relationship, wondering weather to stay or leave, navigating the decision-making process, in the messy middle of separation or divorce, or emerging on the other side and wondering what’s next for you - in this episode I share with you some essential divorce truth bombs you need to hearBook your FREE INTRO CALL call dir...
2024-02-0120 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellReflecting To Create Change - in your life, relationships, as you navigate divorceSend us a textIn this last episode of the year I share a little bit of the back story of Reflect Coaching as well as a process I use with my 1:1 clients - Reflecting to Create Change.Be that in general life, your relationship, as you navigate divorce, consciously uncouple or heal and recover after divorce.I step you through a process to support you to consciously create the change you most want for yourself.For all the details on a one-off deep dive REFRESH SESSION click HERE...
2023-12-2822 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellDating After Divorce - How To Know You're Ready... Or NotSend us a textDating After Divorce - How To Know You're Ready... Or Not.Key signs you're ready (or not) to step out into the world of dating after a breakup, separation or divorce.Tune in for:How you know you're ready to date again.Questions to ask yourself before you launch yourself out into the world of dating after divorce.My 2 rules for dating after divorce.Download my free CHOOSE YOU guidebook - for recovering people pleasers and healing from self-abandonmentPlease rate, review, share...
2023-11-2329 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellWill Divorce and Moving Between Two Homes Damage Your Kids?Send us a textWill Divorce and Moving Between Two Homes Damage Your Kids?My daughter's lived experience.In this extra special episode of the podcast, I chat with my daughter Eva about her memories, reflections and experience as the child of divorced parents and moving between two homes.I ask her:What she remembers about our divorceWhat we did well as divorced parentsWhat she wishes we had done differentlyWhat we could have done betterThe best & the worst things about our family and our divorceHow our divorce has impacted her...
2023-10-1242 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellKey Things You Need To Survive DivorceSend us a textIn this episode, I talk you through 6 key things you need to survive divorce.And yes, you may well need legal & financial advice. You might need a real estate agent or mortgage broker. Yes, you'll need to have some hard conversations with your ex and maybe your kids and...These 6 things underpin everything when it comes to what you need to not only survive your divorce, but reclaim and reorganise your life afterwards, to thrive.FREE DOWNLOADSHow To Have Hard Conversations Guidehttps://www...
2023-08-1016 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellAdvice From the Other Side of Divorce - 20 Things my Divorced Clients Want You to KnowSend us a textWhether you're wondering whether to stay or leave a relationship or marriage, or you're in the middle of your divorce, it can be hard to see a light at the end of what can be a really long tunnel.In this episode I share 20 things my divorced clients (and I) want you to know about life on the other side of divorce.Let these things pull you forward on the hard days.Let them be your lighthouse.And let them help you make your decision...
2023-08-0925 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellThe Biggest Mistakes You Can Make In Your DivorceSend us a textThe Biggest Mistakes You Can Make in your DivorceIn this episode I discuss 4 of the BIG mistakes I see people (not my clients, of course 😉) make in divorce. And, they may surprise you.Divorce mistakes are costly in terms of money, time and energy so avoiding these key mistakes can save you. Time. Effort. Energy. Emotion. And money.Listen to this episode so you don't make these key mistakes in your own divorce. Share it with someone you care about so they can avoid the same cos...
2023-08-0318 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellLiving Together Apart - separated but living under the same roofSend us a textLiving together apart. Living with your ex after separation. Separated but living under the same roof.As I predicted back in January, this is becoming increasingly common for many couples right now. Due to rising costs of living, interest rate rises, mortgage repayments and the rental "crisis" more separated couples are finding themselves living together while they navigate their separation / divorce.In this episode I outline the benefits of at "living together apart" relationship as well as the important things to consider if you find yourselves in th...
2023-07-2725 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellYou Want To Leave But... Deciding Whether To Stay or GoSend us a textYou want to leave but...Your marriage feels hard...You think it's over and you want to leave but...In this episode I share with you:Some things to consider if you want to leave or your marriage / relationship feels hardDecision paralysis vs the dangers of jumping to the endThe difference between healthy challenge or the right kind of "hard" & unhealthy "hard" in relationshipsExplore my COACHING PROGRAMSBook your FREE INTRO CALL
2023-07-2016 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellTwo Things A Struggling Relationship NeedsSend us a textAll relationships go through seasons (there's a whole other episode of the podcast on exactly that- search the podcast to listen)And all relationships have seasons where they feel hard or challengingIf you're in a struggling relationship, asking the hard questions, or unpacking a relationship after separation or divorce, wondering where it all went wrong, this episode is for you.I share the TWO THINGS any relationship needs, especially one that is struggling to survive a tough or wintery season.Please rate & review the...
2023-07-1311 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellDivorce Coaching & Football - what does a divorce coach actually DO?!Send us a textWhat does a divorce coach actually DO?What do you actually DO?I share with you a recent conversation with my 84 year old Dad, where I explain what I do and yes, how it relates to football.If you've enjoyed today's episode, please rate & review the podcast to help others find it. Or share it with someone you know who might need to hear it.Explore my COACHING PROGRAMS Book your FREE INTRO C...
2023-07-0613 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellMarriage, Divorce, Relationships & Feminism with Dr Emma FuluSend us a textIn episode I welcome Dr Emma Fulu to discuss marriage, divorce, relationships and feminism.We discuss:The impact of gender on our experience of both marriage & divorceHow feminism can change the way we experience marriage, relationships & divorce & whether it can, in fact save us.Whether as mothers we can "have it all"And why "staying because of the children" may not be the best optionDr Emma Fulu is a researcher, feminist activist and one of the world’s leading experts on violence against women, appearing widely across the me...
2023-06-2936 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellDecluttering After Divorce - An Unexpected GiftSend us a textDECLUTTERING AFTER DIVORCEDivorce is hard. It's painful and challenging.It means loss & grief BUT... there are also gifts that come as a result.One of the unexpected gifts of divorce can be the gift of DECLUTTERING.Choosing what we keep. What we release. What we shed. What we get rid of.There's stuff to declutter. There's relationships, friendships, people to release ourselves from. And there's expectations and stories we can choose to declutter from our lives.Divorce gives us the...
2023-06-2222 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellBird Nesting After DivorceSend us a textBird Nesting after divorce - what it is and how best to make it work for your family.In this episode of Reflect Reclaim & Liberate I step you through:What a Bird Nesting parenting arrangement isWhen it works best (and when it might not)Tips to help you Bird Nest successfully after divorceThe challenges of Bird NestingExplore my COACHING PROGRAMS UNRAVEL - self-paced multi-module course to decide whether to stay or goBook y...
2023-06-1529 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellKeeping Your Legal Costs Down in DivorceSend us a textSimple strategies and smart ways to keep your legal fees down during divorce.Not everyone can "consciously uncouple" and DIY their divorce. Not everyone ends up in family court either.But many separating couples do need legal support, advice and expertise to navigate their property & child caring agreements as they divorce.In this episode I share my tips about how you can minimise the cost of your divorce and keep your legal fees down.Please share it with anyone you know who needs support to...
2023-06-0820 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellThe Cost of Divorce And What It Costs You To StaySend us a textYes, there's a cost to divorce - practical, tangible, financial. Emotional & energetic. And for many, the fear of that cost keeps them stuck.In this episode I lead you through the REAL cost. The cost of staying in an unhappy, unfulfilling, love-less relationship or marriage.If you enjoy this episode PLEASE rate & review it wherever you listen to your podcasts.And if you know someone who is sitting in indecision, or is doubting their choice to leave, please SHARE this episode with them.If you'd...
2023-06-0117 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellCommon Relationship Patterns - healthy, dysfunctional & toxicSend us a textCommon Relationship PatternsThis episode is especially helpful if you're questioning your relationship - past or present - and wondering whether it's dysfunctional or even toxic.Do you have a relationship pattern?Is your relationship pattern healthy?Or are you stuck in a relationship pattern that is dysfunctional or even toxic?If you have a "type" you likely have a relationship or relational pattern.In this episode I talk about common relationship patterns and how they impact us.I address some of the most c...
2023-05-1826 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellMother's Day After Divorce - my gift to you this Mother's DaySend us a textMother's Day after divorce can look and feel very different - and it's NOT ALL BAD!in this episode I speak about how to release yourself from all the "shoulds" surrounding Mother's Day (and any day really) & let go of the expectations.I speak about how you can:Change your expectationsBreak the rules (including your own)CHOOSE your own wayTo all of the mamas, to all of you who have a challenged or tricky relationship with motherhood - sending love & celebration at this time of year...
2023-05-1118 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellReasons You Stay (or stayed) In An Unhappy RelationshipSend us a textAre you stuck in an unhappy, even toxic relationship cycle?Asking the hard questions on loop?Lying awake at night, going round in circles about whether to stay or leave?Or is this something that you did and you're now unpacking and processing all the whys, all the reasons you stayed so long in an unhappy, disconnected, unfulfilling relationship?This episode is for you. I discuss:The reasons we stay in unhappy relationshipsHow not all of these are true or in fact real, but all a...
2023-05-0437 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellUnder & Over Functioning In Relationships & After DivorceSend us a textUnder & over functioning in relationships.Do you feel like you're the only one doing the work in your relationship? That you're doing all the things, holding all the space, keeping everything ticking along, doing all the mental & emotional labour?Or perhaps for you it's the flip side of that. You're passively going along, allowing your partner to take control, take the lead and be the driver.Or was this your reality in a past relationship?You may have an over/under functioning dynamic or relationship...
2023-04-2722 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellSilencing Yourself In Relationships - what it costs you & how to find your voiceSend us a textWHAT IT COSTS YOU TO STAY SILENT in your marriage, in your relationship, after your divorceStaying quiet. Not speaking up. Not voicing wants, needs, desires, hopes, dreams, frustrations, disappointments in relationships is something many of my clients bring to me.In this episode I speak about what it costs to silence yourself in your relationship, in your marriage or after your divorce and how to access & begin to reclaim your voice.Explore my COACHING PROGRAMSBook your
2023-04-2033 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellGuest Episode: David Gale Part 2 - Gender bias in the family law system, legal abuse & kids names.Send us a textIn this episode I continue my conversation with David Gale.David is a Lawyer, Accredited Specialist in Family Law and Director of Gale Family Law, a boutique family law practice in Melbourne.In this second part of the conversation we discuss (among other things):Is the family law system in Australia biased against one gender?Legal abuse as an extension or form of family violenceKids names - what you can / can’t name a child & changing your child’s name afte...
2023-04-1346 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellGuest Episode: David Gale - Child Support, Financial Agreements & Divorce When You Own A Business with David GaleSend us a textIn this episode I welcome David Gale AND I make a special announcement about my upcoming free Masterclass - The One Thing You Can Do To Heal Your Relationship Patterns - access the recordingDavid is a Lawyer, Accredited Specialist in Family Law and Director of Gale Family Law, a boutique family law practice in Melbourne.You can also find him on TikTok as @familylawyer In this 2 part episode we discuss (among other things):The role of a...
2023-04-0645 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellParenting with a Toxic Ex After DivorceSend us a textYou're getting a divorce or your are divorced for really good reasons, right?AND you still have to interact & communicate with your toxic, difficult ex because of the beautiful kids you brought into the world together.Parenting with a tricky, challenging, toxic or even narcissistic ex is loaded.In this episode I step you through some of my tips on how to parent with your toxic ex without losing your mind.If you're ready to go all in on yourself, your relationship or be...
2023-03-3033 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellGuest Episode with Amy Taylor Kabbaz - Motherhood, Matrescence, Divorce & Co-ParentingSend us a textIn this fantastic conversation I welcome Amy Taylor-Kabbaz to the podcast.We discuss;Motherhood - can we have it all? How can we know what's coming or prepare ourselves for motherhood or single mama hood?Matrescence - what it is and why we need more conversation about it & what the hell the Maternal Wall isDivorce, healing from infidelity & co-parenting afterwardAllowing ourselves the time & space to feel all that we need to feel after divorceThe powerful healing of words & story telling & of finding our voiceAmy Taylor Kabbaz is a...
2023-03-2347 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellDivorce FAQs Part 3Send us a textIn this third and final (for now, at least) Divorce FAQ episode I addressWhen can kids decide where they live?What is mediation & will it work for us?What is collaborative family law?What is spousal maintenance? Will I get it? Will I have to pay it?What about de facto relationships?And more...Do you need deeper support or more specific answers for your unique situation? Has your most pressing question not been answered?Explore my COACHING P...
2023-03-1623 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellDivorce FAQs - Part 2Send us a textIn this second of 3 episodes on DIVORCE FAQ's I answer questions relating to ALL THINGS KIDS and DIVORCEWhat about the kids?What’s a parenting plan? What are parenting orders?Will I have to pay / receive child support?If I have 50/50 care do I have to pay it?There's also more on kids in FAQs Part 3Need deeper support or more specific answers for your unique situation? Perhaps YOUR question hasn't been answered...Explore my COACHING PROGRAMS
2023-03-0929 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellDIVORCE FAQs - Part 1Send us a textDIVORCE FAQs Part 1 In this first of 3 episodes over coming weeks, I share some of the most frequently asked questions about separation & divorce including:What IS a divorce & how to we go about getting one?How much will it cost?How long will it take?What about divorce if I am LGBTQI?How is our property split decided?Who gets the house & who gets the dog?NEED DEEPER SUPPORT or more specific answers for your unique situation? Explore my COACHING PROGRAMS
2023-03-0236 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellSelf-Love and Healthy Habits During Separation, Divorce and as a single parentSend us a textAs part of the Self-Love Series for February, I spoke with Valerie LaVigne about the self-loving practice of building healthy habits.Valerie is a Health Coach specializing in Healthy Habits. She helps women who are making an impact prioritize their health and wellness, without adding to their already busy schedule, so that they can feel great in their body and show up powerfully for the people depending on them.In this conversation we discussHow the simple habit of making your bed can change your lifeHow to...
2023-02-2339 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellSimple Self Love During Divorce - Part 2Send us a textSimple ways to up level your self-love during separation, divorce & beyond.Part 2 of my top tips to support you to deepen your self-love practice.It's like the oxygen mask analogy - you can't help someone else before you've fitted your own oxygen mask.Self-love during separation or divorce is the same. You can't help your kids. You can't make solid, sound decisions, unless you're looking after yourself first. As your No1 Priority.In this second part of Simple Self Love, I step you through simple...
2023-02-1619 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellSimple Self-Love During Divorce & Beyond - Part 1Send us a textDuring the highly stressful and emotionally charged time around your separation and divorce, self-care is not a luxury. It’s a NECESSITY.If you fall apart, so does everything else.And while we all know that to be true, putting into action self-care & showing ourselves self-love when we are already overloaded, overwhelmed & stressed, can be difficult so... In this Part 1 of 2 episodes on self-love during divorce & beyond, I share with you 15 super simple ways you can show yourself love in the messy middle of separation / divorce & afterwards.
2023-02-0922 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellDating Yourself After DivorceSend us a textDivorce gifts you the chance to reclaim parts of you, parts of your life you may have forgotten, let go of or made small.It gifts you a unique season in life where you can fall in love with yourself all over again.And an opportunity to DATE yourself. Discover what you like, what you love, what sets your soul on fire and the things that really don't.Come with me in this episode on a journey of rediscovering who you are and reclaiming who & how you...
2023-02-0231 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellAnger, Relationships & Divorce - with Benjamin WatkinsSend us a textIn this episode I welcome Benjamin Watkins, Mornington Peninsula’s Premier Performance Counsellor & Coach to discuss:- Anger & how it impacts our capacity to be in relationship- The power of being social after a major life event (hello divorce)- How we can encourage the men in our lives to share how & what they are feeling in safe waysConnect with Benjamin including his "Anger & You" program:Website - www.benjaminwatkins.com.auInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/benjaminwatkinscounselling/Facebook - https://ww...
2023-01-2643 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellTypes of Fear & Why You'll Be OK After DivorceSend us a textThere are two types of fear - Pachad & Yirah. One we can welcome as we stretch or expand ourselves or push outside our comfort zone - like choosing a different path for ourselves & our relationship.If you are wondering whether to stay or leave a relationship, know you're ready but you're scared of what's next, or you are already in the messy middle of separation / divorce this episode is for you.Why you'll be OK after divorce.If you loved this episode (even if you'd rather not...
2023-01-1235 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellDivorce Day & Relationship Predictions for 2023Send us a textIn this episode I discuss what divorce day is & why it's a thing as well as offering you my relationship & divorce predictions for 2023 & beyondIf you love this episode, please share, rate and leave a review so others can find it more easily.Share it with someone who needs to hear itFollow me on INSTAGRAMSallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist How you can work with me Book a free intro call Free...
2023-01-0521 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellBONUS Christmas & Divorce - 12 Days of Christmas Giving to YourselfSend us a textThe last episode for the year, this one's a little bonus episode.At a time of year that can be stressful & overwhelming at the best of times, & can be even more so if you're navigating a challenging relationship, separation or divorce I wanted to give you a little gift. From me to you.And so in this episode I ask a simple question...🎁 What are you giving YOURSELF this season?It's an invitation to NOT leave yourself last on the list this year.And then t...
2022-12-2217 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellHow To Tell Your Kids You're Getting A DivorceSend us a textIn this episode I lead you through my tips, strategies and conversation openers for having the hard, heartbreaking conversation with your kids.I outline the exact process I use with my clients when they tell their kids, so you too can use it.How to tell them.What & what not to tell them.How to answer their questions.Ways to start the conversation.Download your FREE GUIDE: How To Tell Your Kids You're Getting DivorcedIf you love this episode, please follow, rate and leave a r...
2022-12-0842 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellWhat Your Kids Need When You're Getting A DivorceSend us a text10 things your kids NEED when you're getting a divorce.In this episode I cover the top 10 things I know your kids need when you're getting a divorce (and they might just surprise you)Ways you can deeply support and hold your kids to move through your divorce in healthy ways.If you loved this episode, found it helpful & supportive I would so appreciate if you could leave a review, share it on your socials or with someone else you know needs to hear it.FREE...
2022-11-2425 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellQuestions To Ask When You're Choosing A Divorce LawyerSend us a textQuestions To Ask When You're Choosing A Divorce Lawyer(Part 2)Choosing your divorce lawyer is something you only want to do once!This episode steps you through some of the questions to ask a potential lawyer before you engage them.Also some questions to ask yourself.If you know things need to change... & you're ready to take your next best step in creating that change for yourself, let's chat.For more information - Blue Knot FoundationSallyanne Hartnell...
2022-11-1733 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellNourishing Your Body & Soul Through Divorce & BeyondSend us a textNourishing Your Body & Your Soul through Divorce & Dating… how to stop living life with the handbrake on with Allyjana Marie AngelesAllyjana Marie Angeles is a Women's Fitness and Mindset Coach & she runs a program called The Empowered Woman ProjectShe loves helping women become stronger physically and mentally, develop a better relationship with food, and reconnect with and learn to love themselves. In this episode we talk about:Health, wellness & why it’s a necessity to focus on it in times of stress (hello divorce)Body...
2022-11-0344 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellSmart Ways to Use Your Money After Divorce - with Marion MaysSend us a textIn this guest episode I welcome Marion Mays & we discuss:Financial Literacy & Money - making it, keeping it, building it, multiplying itThings to consider & how to best utilise your money after divorce Smart & innovative ways to invest in property Why property is a game changer for womenThe power imbalance of divorcing a high net worth, well resourced exKeeping separating couples out of the family court systemMarion is a behavioural Money coach helping people develop their Money IQ and EQ and Founder of Financial Literacy firm Thalia Stanley GroupSh...
2022-10-2059 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellHow To Choose A Divorce Lawyer - Part 1Send us a textHOW DO YOU CHOOSE A DIVORCE LAWYER?Part 1 of a two part episode taking you through how to choose a divorce lawyer.Book your FREE INTRO CALL call directly in my calendar if you’re ready to explore next steps.If you love this episode, please follow, rate and leave a review so others can find it more easily. Share it with someone who needs to hear it 🙏🏽(Special shout out to Cassandra Kalpaxis of Kalpaxis Legal fo...
2022-10-0630 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellMindset in Relationships & DivorceSend us a textWhat is mindset?How does it impact our connections & relationships?How can we shift our mindset when we're in challenging relationships or navigating a divorce?If you love this episode, please follow, rate and leave a review so others can find it more easily. Share it with someone who needs to hear it 🙏🏽Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist How you can work with me Book a free intro call Free Resources & Downloads- Choose You Gu...
2022-08-0434 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellDivorce & MoneySend us a textMoney. Money. Money. It's one of the biggest barriers women face in leaving an unhappy, unhealthy or toxic relationship.Let's not sugar coat it, divorce means division and so.... what about the money?ALL the questions about money & divorce answered for you in this episode.This is general info so please seek specialist legal & financial advice if you are working through separation or divorce.Explore my COACHING PROGRAMS - deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1 coaching experiences for you to explore your...
2022-07-2140 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellBusting Myths About LoveSend us a textThanks to Disney, Hallmark, fairytales & more we all hold & believe stories & myths about LOVE. Even if we don't acknowledge that on a conscious level In this episode I bust 9 Common Myths We Believe About Love.If you love this episode or know someone it would support, please share it. I'd also be grateful if you would rate & leave a review of the podcast so we can get it into the ears of a whole lot more humans who want to reclaim & liberate themselves in life & love.
2022-06-2320 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellSix Kinds of Loving a Healthy Relationship NeedsSend us a textWhat does a healthy relationship need to thrive?Loving is one part of a thriving, healthy relationship.In this episode I share 6 kinds of loving a healthy relationship needs to thrive.If these aren't a part of your current reality, and you want a safe, confidential, supportive way to explore your next steps my online, self-paced course UNRAVEL is a great place to start answering some of your questions & finding solutions.Gently unravelling & pulling things apart, to put them back together in a beautiful new way. ...
2022-06-0918 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellUnravelling a relationship that doesn't feel like you hopedSend us a textWhen your relationship doesn't look or feel like you deeply desire, it's an invitation to UNRAVEL it.🔥 Unpacking your relationship… untangling, unravelling, looking at all the contributing elements (the good, the not so good) 🔥 Asking the big questions…🔥 Deeply desiring change, something more🔥 Dismantling a relationship or choosing to 🔥 Leave an unhappy, unhealthy marriage🔥 Take a new pathDoes not mean you have to burn it all down.UNRAVELLING can be done with deep compassion, kindness, gentleness, grace and this episode ex...
2022-05-2629 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellCan You Be Friends With Your Ex After Divorce?Send us a textCan you be friends with your ex after divorce?(Short answer = yes. Longer answer = nuanced)And why, oh why would you want to?Is conscious uncoupling a real thing?This episode explores those questions & some of the answers.When you can - and when you can't - be friends or at least friendly with your ex.Why you might want to.And how to do it if you do.Explore my COACHING PROGRAMS - deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1...
2022-05-1931 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellGreen Flags in Relationships - what makes a healthy relationship?Send us a textGreen Flags in Relationships & how to know your relationship is healthy.We all seem to know what red flags are (even if sometimes we overlook or ignore them)But what about GREEN flags in relationships?Knowing what you DO wantKnowing what to look forKnowing what makes a relationship healthyThese are your green flags.Some will be specific to you.Some are universal. This episode outlines some of my biggest greenest relationship flags.If you're left with questions...
2022-05-1223 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellCreating A Happy Divorce - With Ben Heldfond & Nikki DeBartoloSend us a textIn this episode I chat with Nikki DeBartolo and Ben Heldfond about how, after their own divorce, they created a happy post-divorce modern family. Though their marriage has been over for over a decade, they still share a happy life with each other and their son Asher, along with their spouses and children.They've even written a book together!You can connect with them at Our Happy DivorceExplore my COACHING PROGRAMS - deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1 coaching experiences for y...
2022-04-1944 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellMaking Hard Decisions - Should I Stay Or Should I Leave?Send us a textSHOULD I STAY OR SHOULD I GO?Turning circles in the same spot…Asking yourself the same questions on loopWondering whether it’s time, this time, to call it quits on your marriage or relationship.Feeling stuck in & overwhelmed by the inability to make a decision is a lonely, painful place.Should I stay or should I go?You’re worried about #allthethings…Worried you'll regret staying, & equally worried you'll regret leaving.How to make the hard decision?This episode steps you thro...
2022-04-0733 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellSmart Separation & Choosing The Right Family Lawyer For Your Divorce - with Marguerite PicardSend us a textMarguerite Picard is an Accredited Specialist Family Lawyer, Collaborative Practitioner, Mediator, Arbitrator and Collaborative TrainerShe sees her job as a lawyer differently from the way most of the profession sees its job. Having been working in law (& family law) for more than three decades now, her aim these days is to be a facilitator and peacemaker. A co-founder of collaborative alliance MELCA, she has joined with psychologists and financial planners to help separating couples reach agreements, since she believes this is the best way to approach divorce and s...
2022-03-2438 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellQuestions to Ask If You're Thinking Of Leaving Your RelationshipSend us a textWondering whether to stay or leave is a lonely place.And if you've been hanging around there for a while, you'll know it's also🖤 painful🖤 confusing AF🖤 overwhelming🖤 bone achingly exhaustingand it slowly, inexorably chips away at your soulHaving the same old conversations - with yourself or your partner or your best friend - on loop. Unable to find a way out of the spiralling 🌀 that is your thoughts, ideas, opinions, feelings.It's LONELY.OVERWHELMING.EXHAUSTING.This episod...
2022-03-1047 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellCHOOSE YOU in relationships & divorce - part 2Send us a textWhat does it mean to CHOOSE YOU?What does it mean & how does it look to choose ourselves?Choosing yourself, releasing yourself from the stories, the expectations, the conditioning, is brave. It's a revolutionary moment. It can be a holy F💣 kind of moment, but for many of us, it's a long, slow burn leading to a decision. A recognition that it's TIME. This episode explores all of that.CHOOSING YOU is deep work. It's going to shake up, burn down & dismantle some thin...
2022-02-2429 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellChoosing YOU - in life, relationships & divorceSend us a textCHOOSING YOURSELF ISN'T CHOOSING COMFORTChoosing yourself, repeatedly, over & over, every single time isn't always easy, comfortable or convenient. Especially at first, as you heal & move from self-abandonment to self-honouring, choosing yourself doesn't always feel like the “right” thing. It’s a process.An unlearning. A leaning in.This episode explores how we can CHOOSE ourselves. How we can lean into self-trust, self-honouring, move away from self-abandonment & choose ourselves.💚 Need more info first? Book a free intro call💚 Dow...
2022-02-1825 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellHow To Heal from Self AbandonmentSend us a textIn this episode, which is Part 2 of a series on self-abandonment we dive into steps you can take to begin healing this pattern of behaviour.From self-abandonment to self-honouring & choosing YOU.Download your FREE "CHOOSE YOU" guidebook - consciously choose how this next season of your life will look & feel. To intentionally & unapologetically CHOOSE YOU.Join my VIP MAILNG LIST for semi-regular news Check out my COACHING PROGRAMS - deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1 coaching experiences for you to e...
2022-02-1032 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellSelf Abandonment In Relationships - what it is & why we do itSend us a textIf you’re feeling 𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙛𝙪𝙡, 𝙚𝙭𝙝𝙖𝙪𝙨𝙩𝙚𝙙, 𝙩𝙖𝙠𝙚𝙣 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙜𝙧𝙖𝙣𝙩𝙚𝙙, 𝙛𝙧𝙪𝙨𝙩𝙧𝙖𝙩𝙚𝙙 𝙤𝙧 𝙟𝙪𝙨𝙩 𝙥𝙡𝙖𝙞𝙣 𝙍𝘼𝙂𝙀 in your relationship…1. you're not aloneand2. there’s a more than fair chance self-abandonment may be playing a part.In this podcast episode, I explore what self-abandonment is & why do we do it in our relationships.Download your FREE "CHOOSE YOU" guidebook - consciously choose how this next season of your life will look & feel. To intentionally & unapologetically CHOOSE YOU.Join my VIP MAILNG LIST to be the first to know when the Valentine's Day Self Love Bundle is released 💛 & for regular newsBook a FREE INTRO CALL to explore how you can work with meSallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & S...
2022-02-0327 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellThings I Learned From My DivorceSend us a textThis is episode 29 of Reflect Reclaim & Liberate and the last episode for 2021 so it’s a celebration of a kind.Today, in honour of this being the 29th episode, I’m sharing with you 29 lessons from the other side of divorce.If you love this episode, I would be grateful if you could leave a review, share it on your socials or with someone you know might need to hear it. Come over & say hi on Instagram or check out my website for more details If yo...
2021-12-1646 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellBusiness, Motherhood & Relationships with Robyn GoodingSend us a textIn today’s episode I'm sharing the mike with Robyn Gooding who is hands down one of the kindest, most intuitive, wise & soulful coaches - but also humans - I have ever met, whether we are talking business, motherhood or relationships.Robyn is a Certified business and life coach, host of worldwide retreats, proud mama to a daughter, female empowerment super fan [#feminist] and sunshine chaser. She has created her business with women at the core, integrating her signature framework of strategy, systems and soul, to support women in building profitable bu...
2021-12-0944 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellMoney, Divorce and Single Motherhood with Melissa MeagherSend us a textMelissa Meagher is a money mindset & success coach with a passion for finance & making a difference in people's lives (along with a sneaky penchant for a bit of Bon Jovi).In her business Talking Money, Melissa creates a safe space to have real conversations about money and she shows rebellious women how to make a sh*t tonne of money by unapologetically being their bold, audacious selves.She is passionate about women living life on their own terms, so you can well understand why we're drawn to one another!
2021-12-0238 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellChristmas, Holidays and Divorce - The Grief of Going Solo For Christmas After DivorceSend us a textChristmas. The Holidays. Relationships. Divorce. What a messy mix it can be.This year, perhaps more than any other year, we're craving time with our families & loved ones as the holidays approach. But what if, you're in a season of your relationship that doesn't feel so ho, ho, ho happy? Or, like so many other families, you’ll be spending these holidays, this Christmas apart? Christmas & the holidays can be tricky and bring up ALL. THE. THINGS.Especially if you're already feeling challenged or t...
2021-11-2530 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellChristmas. The Holidays. Relationships. Divorce. And all the "shoulds"Send us a textChristmas can be stressful at the best of times… but how to handle Christmas & the holiday season when you’re feeling challenged in your relationship or you're doing it solo for the first time?The promise & story of the holidays is peace, togetherness and connection, but ironically, as we all know too well, holidays often deliver exactly the opposite – disconnection, frustration, resentment, and relationship tension.And all the “shoulds”... all the things we tell ourselves we “should” be doing. All the stories we tell ourselves about how Christmas "should" look or feel o...
2021-11-1827 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellDo You Remember Who You Used To Be? Finding Yourself After DivorceSend us a textFinding Yourself After Divorce. Do you remember who you used to be?Before all the stories, expectations, responsibilities, all the "shoulds" got in the way.So many of my clients come to me with a sense of feeling like they've lost or lost sight of themselves.This episode is an invitation and an exploration of how to find your way back to yourself.To reconnect to and reclaim who you were, and reset the course for your future.A deepening & a reclaiming of your most...
2021-11-0422 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellThe Life Admin of Divorce & Co-Parenting - with Mia NorthrupSend us a textMia Northrop is a coach, co-host of the Life Admin Life Hacks podcast and co-author of a soon to be released book Life Admin Hacks.Mia supports client to streamline their life admin so they can RECLAIM their free time and mental space, save money, and nurture household harmony.In this episode we discuss:The time & energy that life admin takes, & the impact that can have on relationshipsMental load, what it is & how to even up the balanceOver & under-functioning in relationshipsThe unique life admin challenges of separation...
2021-10-2839 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellWhat's It REALLY like to work with me as your Divorce Coach?Send us a textA big part of my work as a relationship and divorce coach is ASKING the right questions.Questions that:Gently nudge you to look deeper.Encourage you to challenge & stretch yourselfAsk you to be vulnerableChallenge your assumptions, beliefs & the stories you're telling yourselfAsk you to lean into & rebuild your self-trustLead you towards rock solid self-belief & owning your innate worthiness. And trust me when I say, these are BIG questions, but they're asked in the deeply supportive, nurturing & confidential container of a 1:1 coaching experience with me.I...
2021-10-2123 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellWorthiness - How Our Self-Worth Impacts Our Decisions About RelationshipsSend us a textWorthiness & Self-Worth impact our decisions about relationships. Who we choose to be in relationships. How we behave in relationships (& through separation & divorce) and how long we stay in unhappy or unhealthy relationships.In this guest episode I speak with Life & Confidence Coach Evelyn Kelly.Evelyn's mission is supporting ambitious women to create unstoppable self-belief, inner confidence and own their self-worth. She is passionate about helping women to reclaim their power by dialling down their loud inner critic and people-pleasing tendencies, so that they can step into the world with c...
2021-10-1438 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellThe BIG Questions About Divorce from a Divorce CoachSend us a textIn this episode, I share with you the BIG questions I'm most often asked by my clients, by those thinking about working with me, really by anyone who is feeling challenged in or by their relationship, wondering whether to stay or go, or already working their way through the messy middle of a divorce.They are the BIG questions you'll want answers to if you are questioning your relationship or moving through your own separation. Questions about kids, money, parenting, work, life & love.BOOK A CALL
2021-10-0722 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellHow to Know You're In A Toxic Relationship with Caroline Parsons from Solo LegalSend us a textCaroline Parsons is the principal lawyer at Solo Legal. Caroline takes a human and empathetic approach to resolving family disputes. With training in trauma-informed practice, she works with clients in a super sensitive way.**TRIGGER WARNING** this episode mentions domestic violence and complex ptsd traumaWe also drop the F-bomb, mess up and laugh a bit - perfectly imperfectIn this episode we talk about…How to recognise an unhealthy or toxic relationshipKey indicators a relationship that feels challenging is in fact toxicGaslighting & Ma...
2021-09-3050 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellGrief & DivorceSend us a textIt can come as something of a surprise that we grieve a relationship we chose to end, or one that we knew needed to end.In this solo episode, I talk about how (& when) grief shows up when we dismantle a long term relationship, separate or divorce and how to allow & move through it.If this is your current experience, if you're navigating your way through the grief that comes with the end of a relationship, go gently.If you're ready to take your next best step...
2021-09-2318 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellUpdating Your Personal Style After Separation or DivorceSend us a textIn this episode, I welcome Lisa Stockman (aka the Queen Of Personal Styling) who specialises in working with people experiencing life-changing events such a new job, a changing relationship, getting divorced, new adventures in dating, post baby, or another significant life event.In this episode Lisa & I chat about how personal styling & personal coaching are aligned; both centred around empowering our clients to step into who they are, who they most want to be.What personal styling is, and how it makes a profound difference to our se...
2021-09-1629 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellGreat Things About Being A Single MumSend us a textIn this episode I welcome Lucy Good, founder of Beanstalk, an online platform that inspires and supports Australian single mothers with a range of resources and a large interactive, inclusive community. Lucy's mission is to help single mums navigate the maze of separation and divorce, and to confidently rebuild and embrace their new path in life. In this episode:Lucy shares why she started BeanstalkShe helps us bust a few single mum mythsWe talk about changes we would make in our own sin...
2021-09-0946 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellSetting Boundaries in Relationships & Divorce Without Feeling Like A B*%$hSend us a textIn this episode I discuss boundaries - what they are, what they’re not, why they’re necessary and how they actually SUPPORT connection & healthy relationships.Boundaries are critical for us in all relationships - intimate, life-partner relationships, family of origin relationships, parenting, co-parenting relationships, even (especially) with a difficult, toxic or narcissistic ex after divorce.I lead you through the simple 5 step process I use with my relationship coaching and divorce coaching clients to support them to define, set and HOLD their boundaries, without feeling like a B%$#h.
2021-09-0229 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellManaging Stress & Burnout during divorce and beyondSend us a textIn this guest episode I welcome Bianca Marics, clinical Naturopath, certified life and Mindset Coach, who helps women disconnect from stress, chronic fatigue and anxiety, helping them beat burnout. Bianca loves working with the highly stressed and overworked, so the topic today is really her happy place, and the things we are going to talk about today are some of the key foundational practices in building resilience, and reducing stress.We talk about:The main areas & causes of stress for womenStress, the stress response, how it shows up i...
2021-08-2634 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellSocial Isolation & Feeling Frozen Out After DivorceSend us a textDivorce & the reorganisation of our family, our life afterwards involves lots of splitting - of stuff, of money, of property, of time with kids.Something that remains unspoken is that very often, friendships are also “split” and this can leave us feeling “frozen out” of our previous social circles.In this episode I discuss why this happens, how we can support ourselves through it, if it’s happening to us & (importantly) how we can support our friends & loved ones while they navigate their divorce so they don’t feel frozen out.
2021-08-1919 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellMoney & Divorce - financial planning for divorce & beyondSend us a textMoney. Money. Money. It can be an issue in relationships and it's also one of the key topics many of my clients raise & choose to work through, no matter if they are wondering whether to stay or go, or already navigating their separation. In this episode, I chat money with Jordan Vaka, an independent Financial Planner dedicated to helping people feel more confident about money as they go through divorce and rebuild a new version of life afterwards.Jordan is also a massive music fan so we had some...
2021-08-1330 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellMaking Bids & Turning Towards in RelationshipsSend us a textA key indicator of the health & longevity of relationships is how we reach out to connect with each other, often we make bids for connection & how those bids are received.Turning towards - physically & metaphorically or emotionally - another person, responding to a request for or attempt at connection, build trust. It builds a stronger emotional connection, deepens intimacy, leading to greater passion & even better sex.In this episode I discuss what is a "bid" for connection, & how we can respond to bids from each other.
2021-08-0531 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellCreating A Kind Divorce - with Pepe KishSend us a textI am thrilled to welcome Pepe Kish to the podcast in this guest episode of Reflect Reclaim & Liberate.Pepe is the Director and Co-Founder of Balance Family Law and her goal is for kindness to be considered a strength and not a weakness in the practice of law. Her super power is creative problem solving and thinking outside the box ( but also just being a really kind hearted, generous, all round good human),A fellow rebel committed to doing things better, even if it goes against the n...
2021-07-3042 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellLeaning Into Self Trust - in relationships & divorceSend us a textIn this episode, I speak about the power of leaning in to self trust when we feel challenged in our life, in our relationship. I start with defining what self trust means to me, and step you through some strategies for reclaiming our self trust. Leaning IN to a deep sense of self trust as a pathway back to ourselves.I explore how it can be absolutely game changing to lean into self-trust especially when our relationship perhaps doesn’t look or feel quite as we hoped it would or...
2021-07-2329 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellFemale Sensuality & Pleasure - With Lindsay BodhiSend us a textI am incredibly excited to share this juicy episode with you. Lindsay Bodhi is a women’s sensuality teacher and sex & relationship coach and a seriously amazing woman. We talked feminine power & energy, connection, sensuality, joy & pleasure & reclaiming all of that for ourselves as the whole lotta women that we are. In our relationships & in our life.Check out my COACHING PROGRAMS - deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1 coaching experiences for you to explore your next steps. Decide whether to stay or go.Reconnect on a d...
2021-07-1639 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellExploring & Befriending Our Inner Critic - in relationships and divorceSend us a textIn this episode I talk about our inner critic - that inner voice, our ego, our inner mean girl - whatever you call it, we all have one.What it is & why it shows up.How it impacts our ability to form & choose relationships that light us up on all levels.Understanding & accepting she's never really going to 100% go away so how to calm, soothe and befriend our inner critic.How to lean in to self trust, listen with kindness & compassion and release ourselves from...
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Reflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellHaving Easier Conversations about Money - in relationships & lifeSend us a textIn this episode, I'm joined by the amazing powerhouse woman Nicole Alesios - economist, Money Mindset Coach and Speaker who is passionate about helping women find their voice so they can have easier money conversations. Nicole believes in the nourishment of women and communities - that when women lean in and connect with their true value, the money flows and entire communities benefit from their generosity. In this episode we chat about what money mindset is, and how our money personality & money stories impact us and our relationships.If you're r...
2021-07-0222 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellConflict, Communication & Having Challenging Conversations - in relationships, during separation & divorceSend us a textCommunication & Conflict - Tips & Strategies for having Challenging ConversationsIn this episode I share:3 common conflict stylesbarriers to connected communication, including the 4 Horsemen Dr John Gottman uses to predict longevity of relationshipstips to turn towards our partner, our ex, or anyone with whom we need to navigate challenging conversations.And, how successfully navigating our way through conflict, & having hard, connected conversations, connecting with & understanding others, asks that we connect to & understand ourselves first.DOWNLOAD MY FREE GUIDE to having HARD CONVERSATIONS - ...
2021-06-2537 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellUpdating Your Relationship With Yourself After DivorceSend us a textWhile a relationship with another is a beautiful, powerful, wonderful part of life, the relationship you have with yourself underpins everything.In this episode I explore & share how we can find ourselves again, reconnect to ourselves; how we can deepen, strengthen & update our relationship with ourselves. To then show up fully & authentically as our whole selves in our relationships with others.If you're ready to take your next best step in creating the relationship you truly desire or to uncouple and divorce with kindness and compassion let's chat. Book y...
2021-06-1719 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellThe Seasons of RelationshipsSend us a textAll relationships experience seasons, from the initial spring of firsts, to the summer of our glorious honeymoon, through the shedding & transition of autumn and the cold, introspective loneliness of winter. This episode explores the seasons of relationships and how to navigate them, leading you closer to the deeply connected, soulful relationship you most want to create for yourself.Follow me on INSTAGRAMOr simply join my MAILING LIST for regular newsIf you're ready to explore w...
2021-06-1619 minReflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne HartnellWelcome to Reflect Reclaim & LiberateSend us a textWelcome to Reflect, Reclaim & Liberate - a podcast all about finding the space for ALL of you in your life & your relationships.I’m Sallyanne Hartnell, Relationship & Divorce Coach at Reflect Coaching. I’m passionate about supporting clients and listeners to step into their power, reclaim any parts of themselves they’ve lost sight of or hidden away & liberate themselves to create the life & relationships they crave. In this welcome episode I share a little bit about my story, my why. My belief that we don’t have to ac...
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