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Plan PParenting through AdversitySummary
In this episode of the Plan P podcast, we delve into the complexities of parenting adolescents and teens, discussing the unique challenges that arise during this stage of development. We explore the importance of allowing children to face adversity as a means of growth, the individual differences in coping mechanisms, and the critical role of communication in fostering independence. The conversation emphasizes the need for balance between guidance and freedom, the significance of setting boundaries, and the value of patience and understanding in the parenting journey.
Takeaways
Parenting te...2025-07-1624 minPlan PNavigating the Spectrum of ParentingSummary
In this episode of Plan P, we delve into the concept of spectrums as it relates to parenting, particularly in the context of adolescents. We discuss the complexities of neurodiversity, mental health, identity, and the fluidity of emotions. The conversation emphasizes the importance of understanding that everyone is on various spectrums, whether it be related to gender, functionality, or grief. The hosts also touch on the role of community and belonging, as well as the challenges parents face in navigating their children's identities and emotions. The episode concludes with a practical exercise for listeners to identify...2025-07-0225 minPlan PPlease and Thank YouSummary
In this episode of Plan P, we explore the transformative power of simple words like 'please' and 'thank you' in parenting, emphasizing the importance of genuine communication and emotional space. We discuss how these words can foster respect and trust between parents and teenagers, and how creating space for adolescents to express themselves is crucial for their development. The conversation also highlights the significance of authenticity in building relationships and offers practical exercises for parents to strengthen their connections with their children.
Takeaways
The words 'please' and 'thank you...2025-06-1821 minPlan PRe: Considering- College and All the ComplexitiesSummary
In this episode of the Plan P podcast, we delve into the complexities surrounding education, particularly the role of college in today's society. We talk about the historical significance of college as a pathway to success and upward mobility, while also addressing the changing perceptions of education and the increasing financial burden of college tuition. The conversation explores alternative paths such as gap years and non-traditional education, emphasizing the importance of allowing children to make their own choices and the need for parents to navigate their expectations. Ultimately, the episode highlights the value of continuous learning...2025-06-0424 minPlan PBalance between Connection and IndependenceIn this episode, we explore the complex dynamics of parenting during adolescence, focusing on the tension between fostering independence and maintaining connection with our children, and how very challenging it can be as parents to find our place, and find balance. We discuss the importance of clear communication, the role of compassion, and the need for parents to reflect on their own emotional needs. The conversation emphasizes the significance of setting boundaries while allowing children to grow into autonomous individuals, and the necessity of understanding and navigating the challenges that arise during this developmental stage.
Honorable Mentions:2025-05-2125 minPlan PParent's PressureSummary
In this episode of Plan P, hosts we explore the myths and misconceptions surrounding parenting teens. We discuss the pressure parents feel to conform to societal expectations, the importance of honesty and vulnerability in relationships, and the need for open communication with children. The conversation emphasizes that parenting is not about having all the right answers but about being real and connecting with teens on a deeper level.
Mentioned in the Podcast
MSG story was on the “This American Life” podcast episode “668:the Long Fuse”
Takeaways
Parents often believe m...2025-05-0726 minPlan PInterview with Susan Caso
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In this episode of the Plan P podcast, hosts Quinn and Sarah welcome family therapist Susan Caso, who shares her insights on nurturing family relationships, particularly with teens. The conversation explores the importance of emotional connection, effective communication, and the challenges of parenting in the digital age. Susan emphasizes the need for parents to balance authority with vulnerability, acceptance, and the significance of being present in their children's lives. The discussion also touches on the impact of social media on youth and the necessity for parents to model healthy behaviors and self-care. In this c...2025-04-2329 minPlan PConnection to SelfSummary
In this episode of Plan P, we explore the intricate dynamics between parents and their adolescents, emphasizing the importance of self-connection as a foundation for healthy relationships. We discuss the impact of trauma, the role of vulnerability, and the necessity of finding quiet moments for self-reflection. The conversation highlights the significance of modeling behavior and the interconnectedness of self and community, ultimately encouraging listeners to practice gratitude over worry.
Other podcasts We mentioned
Inside circle – Eldra Jackson
Super psyched – Michal Dorcey
Positive Practices (plan p’s 48th Episode)
...2025-04-0921 minPlan PA 27 Year Old Shares Her Teen ExperienceSummary
We are honored and delighted to introduce our listeners to an amazing adult, our daughter-not-in-law, Kiesha AKA our son Harry’s partner! This episode truly is a treat!
What do teens wish they could tell their parents? Listen and learn as Kiesha discusses her own adolescent years. This woman is on point, honest and wise as she shares her experiences navigating adolescence, mental health challenges, and family dynamics. The discussion covers the emotional complexities of growing up, the impact of divorce on family relationships, and the importance of communication and support in overcoming struggles. Kie...2025-03-2625 minPlan PMoney Talks (preparing our teens for life)In this episode of Plan P the Podcast we dive into the vital and sometimes confounding topic of teaching financial responsibility and independence to adolescents. We explore effective strategies for parents to guide their teens through conversations about money, making sure to emphasize transparency, age-appropriate lessons, and the importance of saving and investing. Through what we hope is insightful discussion, we highlight how financial education not only prepares teens for adulthood but also fosters gratitude, responsibility, and community involvement. Tune in to discover practical tips for helping your child develop a strong foundation in financial literacy that will last...2025-02-2623 minPlan PTalking bout Love💖 Love Languages & Parenting: Cracking the Code on Connection
It’s February, and whether you’re feeling the romance or just the societal pressure of it all—love is definitely in the air! In this episode of Plan P, we (your favorite married couple of 18 years!) take a deep dive into love languages—Dr. Gary Chapman’s five ways people give and receive love:
✨ Words of Affirmation
✨ Acts of Service
✨ Receiving Gifts
✨ Quality Time
✨ Physical Touch
But here’s the twist: we’re looking at love languages through the lens of parenting—because let’s...2025-02-1223 minPlan PTrust yourselfSummary
Scary as it might sound (and spoiler alert, fear won’t help) you, the loving parent, are actually the expert on that adolescent you know and feel like you don’t know! Sarah and Quinn are here to help you gain a little teeny bit more knowledge and understanding in this area of their expertise, while emphasizing that there are no definitive experts in parenting. Confused? It’s confusing!
There are ways of finding your unique parenting style, setting boundaries, and creating a safe environment for your children to grow.
This conversation highlig...2025-01-2923 minPlan PTao or the WaySummary
In this episode, Sarah and Quinn explore the challenges of parenting adolescents through the lens of Taoism, an ancient and diverse philosophical and religious tradition emphasizing harmony. They discuss the importance of building trust, letting go as the way to hold on, and understanding the flow of parenting. By embracing non-action and allowing children to navigate their own paths, parents can foster deeper connections and encourage autonomy. The conversation emphasizes the need for space, grace, and patience in the parenting journey, ultimately guiding listeners to a more harmonious relationship with their children.
Ta...2025-01-1522 minPlan PNew Year, New purposeCh-ch-cha-changes. It’s a NEW YEAR!
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This communal transition from 2024 to 2025 invites us all to consider our personal values and make conscious New Year’s decisions based on these values as we move forward into a new calendar year. In this conversation, we discuss this topic in the context of bringing our personal values into the group realm as we parent adolescents. Understanding the how-to of communicating with your child while balancing the importance of reflecting on personal values; navigating power dynamics; and fostering respect can feel like a lot. It can be...2025-01-0125 minPlan PHoliday Hurry (or the Perennial Push)In this episode, we remind parents that the holiday season is often a time of rush and pressure, making it even harder to remember to slow down and savor the moment. We explore the difference between urgency and importance, and how to prioritize being present with your family amidst the hustle and bustle.
Happy Holidays!
If this episode helped you feel more centered during the holiday season, please subscribe to Plan P and share it with other parents who could benefit from a little holiday mindfulness. Don’t forget to leave a review and sh...2024-12-0428 minPlan PParenting, Grief, and Growth: A Conversation with Ann FaisonIn this episode, we’re in for a special treat as we sit down with Ann Faison—a mother of two adolescents, artist, author, teacher, wife, and so much more. Ann shares her powerful insights on parenting, particularly the intersection of grief and growth that comes with raising children through all stages.
Ann opens up about her personal journey and the lessons she's learned along the way, especially the importance of providing consistency and encouragement for her children. She speaks beautifully about the challenges of miscommunication in parenting and how it led to transformative change within her fami...2024-11-2034 minPlan PPaying Attention Softly: Building Trust with Your AdolescentIn this episode, we explore the often-repeated advice for parents of adolescents: “Pay attention.” While this can feel intimidating or overwhelming, we discuss how to approach this idea with a sense of softness that can greatly benefit the parent-child relationship during these transformative years.
Discover how a gentle approach to paying attention allows you to notice your adolescent's changes without overwhelming them. Learn the difference between using a magnifying glass or a microscope when observing your child. Curiosity fosters connection, while scrutiny can lead to discomfort.
Explore how to engage in conversations with your child without immediate reactions. This...2024-11-0621 minPlan PPower Full: Understanding EnablingPower Full: Understanding Enabling
In this episode we talk about empowering our children… and how easy it can be to slip into enabling them. No parent wants to enable their child, we just want to support them. Understanding what enabling is, and what support is can make a huge difference in the lives of parents of adolescents, AKA emerging adults. No matter the age of your child-preteen, teen or young adult, this episode will offer you new awareness and new skills to practice which will help you build the foundation of support that you want to be, and...2024-10-2325 minPlan PGrowing from MistakesParents, particularly parents of preteens, teens and young adults, can find themselves searching for answers to explain their child’s behavior. This often leads to dwelling on perceived parental mistakes made in the past, or mistakes made by others-doctors, teachers, other parents and anyone else who might have had impact on the child.
Human beings make mistakes. In this episode we discuss both the importance of acknowledging mistakes and also how to learn from those mistakes. By understanding what might now, in hindsight, be considered a mistake, parents can strengthen themselves and their relationships with their kids.
...2024-10-0923 minPlan PParenting PartnershipsIn this episode, we’re focusing on the dynamics of cooperative parenting and how to effectively partner with the various adults in your child's life. Everyone involved in a child's life—parents, grandparents, teachers—has the child’s best interests at heart. However, differing opinions and approaches can create challenges. We explore how to navigate these differing perspectives while maintaining a united front.
Parenting less about micromanaging and more about building effective partnerships. We discuss how to foster positive relationships with other adults in your child's life and how these relationships impact your child’s development.
As child...2024-09-2527 minPlan PThree H's - Hear, Help or HugIn this episode, we dive into the complexities of human communication with emerging adults. Navigating your child’s hard feelings can be challenging. We often fall into the trap of trying to solve the problem rather than truly understanding what they need. In this episode we discuss understanding how the instinct to offer solutions might actually stem from a desire to make ourselves feel better. This helps parents understand why this approach doesn’t always work and how it can sometimes make things worse.
We discuss methods that can gently guide your child in identifying their own pain...2024-09-1124 minPlan PPlay Scripts Parents WriteIn this episode, Play Scripts Parents Write we delve into the nature of the stories we create about ourselves, our children, and our families. Join us as we explore how these personal narratives shape our understanding and interactions with our adolescent children. By sharing your own experiences-not the scripts you've created about your child's future- you create space for genuine communication which can lead to new and meaningful connections.
The stories we tell ourselves help us make sense of the world but are not necessarily factual. As parents we tend to interpret our children’s behavior through ou...2024-08-2830 minPlan PBONUS: sneak peek into our lifeBonus episode
A peek behind the scenes in the real life of Sarah and Quinn
In this episode we invite you into a conversation we are having about our communication and laundry. It is just an example of how and why communication between humans is hard. We’ve been married 18 years and have known each other since we were teenagers, and we STILL get caught in the muck!!
So, want to be a fly on the wall? Listen! As always, we’d love to hear your thoughts, responses and questions. connect@planp.us
2024-08-2113 minPlan PPositive PracticesThe Power of Positive Speaking
In this episode we chat about The Power of Positive Speaking. We discuss using words that focus on what we want to achieve or encourage, rather than what we want to avoid or eliminate. This subtle shift can make a big difference in how the message is received. By practicing positivity, we can foster an environment of trust and encouragement rather than criticism.
With adolescents using positive language can promote mutual respect and understanding. It’s about building a relationship based on implied trust rather than suspicion.
Positive sp...2024-08-1425 minPlan PPerspective on Reliability and RegulationEpisode 47: Reliability and Regulation in Parenting
In this episode of Plan P: Parents Helping Parents Pivot Perspectives we deep dive into the concepts of reliability and regulation, focusing on how they impact our relationships, especially with adolescents. We'll break down these terms, explore their significance, and discuss how they shape effective parenting and personal growth.
Reliability in parenting means being dependable and consistent. During adolescence, this reliability becomes crucial as teenagers are navigating significant changes and seeking stability.
Before we can effectively regulate others, especially our children, we need to understand and master se...2024-07-3127 minPlan PPersonalize Your PlanPersonalize Your Plan
Parenting adolescents can be challenging emotionally as we navigate their development. Humans, and human parents, can take things personally, especially when it comes to our children's behaviors and reactions.
When parenting through the preteen, teen and young adult years a crucial question is HOW do we want to personalize, HOW do we want to attach? Connecting to- not cutting off from- your beloved child who is literally physiologically designed to be pushing off into their new adult existence and away from you requires some new skills. In this episode we talk about f...2024-07-1925 minPlan PPositive EngagementYes You CAN
There are many actionable steps which parents CAN take to mitigate the negative effects of social media. Introducing three healthy C’s: Compassion, Communication, Collaboration which when used consistently can have positive effects.
We’re back, and so is the Surgeon General who is considering placing warnings on social media due to addiction concerns. Social media has a pervasive impact on parents and in this episode we discuss what parents can’t and also can do given the addictive nature of social media algorithms and its implications.
How do we wean o...2024-07-0323 minPlan Ppermission is promotionWhat You Permit You Promote
In this episode we discuss the permission slips we give when we allow behaviors. Parents get accustomed to doing something for their child when the child could actually do it themselves as they age.
We parents, all parents we would dare to say, sometimes allow our children to wear us down until we give them what they want. We say to ourselves and others “It’s just not a battle I’m going to fight.” When we engage in this manner, parents are sending a signal of tolerating behaviors, actions and choice...2024-06-1921 minPlan PPersonal Care is Care of SelfCare of Self
Self-Care reminders are ev-er-y-where!! We like to take things apart and putting care in front of self is something that we talk about all the time with parents. We have met many parents who reassure us that they have a lot of self-care practices, and they are still struggling.
Putting care first can be harder than we think. What it first offers is the opportunity to explore who that self is. Who are YOU? What do YOU want which is about you and you alone? You’re a parent, we know yo...2024-06-0621 minPlan PProducing and PracticingProducing and Practicing
Can we all agree, parenting anxious adolescents can be anxiety producing! This week we’re talking about Jonathan Haidt’s latest book, The Anxious Generation. Parents are afraid, schools are stressed, and no surprise, trickle down anxiety, there’s an entire generation awash in anxiety...and the cycle goes around again. It makes total sense that parents are scared given everything that is going on with kids and, well, everything! Parents want what’s best for their kids. We want to keep them safe.
The truth is that humans, and particularly teens, need new e...2024-05-2923 minPlan PPersonal BeliefWhat is a belief? Beliefs are personal, not right or wrong. To believe that there are things we will never understand can be a challenge. Our beliefs about things outside our control inform our attitudes, they can cause us pain and despair, and also joy and release. What we humans can do is shift our attitude. Understanding that we do not hold all control requires a letting go. Believing that there is something, anything, that exists outside of us humans-a spirit, a god, an energy, the stars, flowers, whales, the ocean might not make sense, but it makes sense to...2024-05-2224 minPlan PPlugging in: the power of pausingPlugging into the Power (of Pausing)
Pausing is a great way to invite an adolescent (or, okay, anyone!) into a conversation. Pausing when you are interacting with a preteen, teen or young adult can be hard, they move fast! How do you plug into the pause depends upon the situation and the individuals.
Feeling like a Pushmi-Pullyu, pushing and pulling and going nowhere? Have you tried pushing back- not pushing back to what your child is saying, but just pushing back from the conversation, pushing back from the table and saying “Thank you. I’m full.”...2024-05-1524 minPlan PPersonal PlansProfessionals often call us to consult and ask if a particular family falls under the scope of what we do here as coaches. Generally, the answer is yes, because what we do is help parents make a plan, and often work with them as that plan is implemented. Each family’s plan is completely unique based on what they want.
In this episode we just chat about what we do and how that helps parents build a plan of their own to build a strong healthy bond with their child. As parents of adolescents, we are faced with...2024-05-0821 minPlan PParental DetachmentParenting is a relationship. A relationship which parents do not want to detach from!
Letting a child hit “rock bottom”, “suffer the consequences” or many of the other “tough love” practices (which have been debunked but are very much still out there and are often suggested by friends and family who feel at a loss as to how to help and who often feel the pain themselves).
What we suggest in this episode isn’t radical, it just feels logical - to us.
First consider, what are you attached to?
Your kids-and obvious...2024-05-0123 minPlan PPreparing for the RoadHow to Care, not coddle.
In this episode we discuss what is no secret- there is a generation who are struggling, and parents are concerned. It makes total sense that conscious parents and educators who were aware of the significant spike in poor mental health starting to be observed in 2012 and continuing upward wanted to protect their children from pain.
Jonathan Haidt, in his book The Coddling of the American Mind, suggests that what we inadvertently “protected” kids from was having feelings. Protecting our kids from having hard feelings does not help them, or all of us...2024-04-2420 minPlan PPerspectives on Social MediaSocial Media
We talk with parents A LOT about social media. How do you navigate this social media world? How do you navigate your relationship with your children’s relationship with social media? It’s a lot!
Social Media is…..social! We all want to belong and feel significant, at every age, and this is an even more intense yearning during adolescence. There are so many more places to connect and belong on social media, and understanding what is real can get scary for parents. How can you be there for your child in real life, reassu...2024-04-1726 minPlan PRadical Candor: Not Pulling PunchesIn this episode we discuss Kim Scott’s book Radical Candor. Her book will not be found in the family section, because it’s a business book, but stay with us here, radical candor is basically being honest. Doesn’t sound radical, but being honest isn’t always easy. Caring is easy, as parents we care. What Scott talks about is challenging ourselves to get outside our comfort zone or care, and also challenging the individual we love to be honest. Adolescents aren’t stupid, they are also not notoriously honest. Often, we humans, be it in a business or family s...2024-04-1023 minPlan PResiliency isn't pushing past painResilience support
How good are you at moving on after being disappointed or hurt or making a mistake? Resilience is not always easy. It is learned. When our children were younger, they built resilience when they were learning to ride a bike and they fell. Some kids got right back on, some kids cried and wanted to be held while they cried. We met them where they were, trusting that they would learn. The adolescent years are different, and the same. Allowing our children to explore their feelings can be hard for parents, we don’t want our chi...2024-04-0325 minPlan PPractice doesn't make PerfectEveryone knows that practice makes perfect, right? Yeahhhh. And, no! What if you could get away from the pressure of that illusion that perfection is possible? How does this notion of perfection impact our beloved preteen, teen and young adult children, because everywhere you look, they are feeling the pressure. How can we as individuals get away from that terrible weighty notion that we are striving for perfection?
Join us as we ponder and discuss what practice IS if it is not about aiming for perfection.
Just what is this practice thing that we talk ab...2024-03-2724 minPlan PPersonal CarePersonal Care
Taking care of yourself when parenting preteens, teens and young adults can be challenging. We talk honestly about how hard it can be to take care of yourself from the very beginning of the parenting journey, and just when you think you might catch a break-and take a bath or read a book, get a mani-pedi or a massage….” just kidding” say the adolescent years.
In this episode we talk about not just the importance of self-care, because that can feel like pressure, but we explore all the trillions of ways a parent can tak...2024-03-2022 minPlan PPrepare Party Plan ConversationsPlanning Party Planning
The luck of the Irish? Yeahhh, St. Patrick’s Day, as the parent of a teen? Doesn’t always make parents feel so lucky. The kids are growing up and the wearing of the green is oft accompanied by the drinking of the green beer, the green jello shots and well, goodness knows what else they’ve figured out to dye green besides the Chicago River. Everyone loves this holiday? No, not really. In the episode we want to remind you that luck is what you make of things, and, lucky you, this year is ful...2024-03-1336 minPlan PParadoxesParadoxes
Tap into the wisdom of Socrates, the Tao, Rumi and Erykah among others, as we help parents understand how to accept and apply the paradoxes presented by these wise people to parenting teens! If we know that we know nothing about anything, then what could we possibly teach our children?
Ah, the wisdom of the ages is here to help and we are here to help you understand how to embrace it, and embrace your kids who are squirming away. Want to understand how knowing this not-knowing can help parents hear their ado...2024-03-0623 minPlan PThe Power of the Pollyanna PerspectiveThe Power of Pollyanna Perspective
There is much power to be found in positivity WHEN used properly! Pollyana can get a bad rap. We understand why. The ability to genuinely understand how to use, and not abuse or misuse, positivity is complicated. The reason we talk about it in this episode is because it can change interpersonal relationships for the better, which is what parents of adolescents want.
In this episode we’ll teach you some tricks on how to stay honest, and how to stay off the negative train. We want to be clear; posi...2024-02-2821 minPlan PPositive Discipline PerspectivesUnderstanding how to find balance while transitioning from boss of a child, to staying on as the trusted consultant to a young adult deserves a transition team! Sarah and Quin have got you! Parenting adolescents is for many the hardest part of the parenting journey. Staying positive can feel like a challenge but knowing that you have something positive to practice can make a huge difference.
On this week’s episode Quinn and Sarah talk about the huge value of understanding the principles of Positive Disciple Parenting-helping parents shift their view and seeing mistakes as opportunities to learn...2024-02-2128 minPlan PPonder your PartPondering our part is parenting pertinent and also entirely possible. Accountability is the tune this week on the podcast and is a central tenant of secure parenting. Listen to Sarah and Quinn as they discuss listening and understanding where your part begins and ends. How do you find a place to hear different points of view, which your adolescent children are sure to offer!
Learning how to slowly become accountable to ourselves, learning how to model this in our behaviors is how we learn to be account table-through doing. Being accountable is freeing and in this episode yo...2024-02-1430 minPlan PEpisode 26 Prioritize Understanding OthersParents understand the importance of paying attention to and listening to their children. This is a vital part of any healthy relationship. Listening is hard! In this episode Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison discuss and dial into how to take listening to the next level. Listening to understand is next-level listening. One step forward is repeating back exactly what their child said to them. This parroting is a giant step forward from reacting in panic, anger, fear or frustration! Conversations get deeper when listening at this level. You hear more, which allows you to see and hear opportunities for n...2024-02-1429 minPlan PThe Prison of Perception: Coming Face to Face with RealityIn this episode, Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison delve deep into the intricate world of parental perception and its impact on our roles as caregivers. They shine a light on the common tendency to jump to conclusions about our teens' intentions, whether positive or negative, and how this perception can sometimes lead us astray. It becomes evident that our perception can be a confining prison if left unchecked. To break free, the hosts stress the importance of challenging our mindset from a fixed to a growth perspective. They emphasize the value of validating and verifying our perception through third-party...2024-01-3135 minPlan PPlanning & Pivoting: Redefining Our GoalsWhat if success was failure and failure was success? In this thought-provoking episode, Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison delve into the concept of setting and achieving goals, inspired by a compelling Ted Talk by former NFL player Emmanuel Acho. The discussion challenges conventional wisdom surrounding goals, emphasizing the importance of flexibility and adaptation. While goals can provide direction and motivation, they also have the potential to limit us when we become overly fixated on achieving them. Sarah and Quinn invite listeners to explore a different perspective—one where success and failure intertwine and where the journey towards our aspirations ho...2024-01-2433 minPlan PPillars of Trust: Presence, Engagement and ReliabilityHappy New Year! In the first episode of 2024, Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison dive deep into the topic of trust, the cornerstone of strong parent-teen relationships. After a refreshing break over the holidays, they return to explore the dynamics of trust between parents and their teens. Trust is a two-way street, and the hosts discuss how it involves not only trusting our teens to make mistakes and learn but also trusting ourselves as parents. They emphasize that as parents, we set the tone for trust through our presence, engagement, and reliability. Join Sarah and Quinn as they unravel the...2024-01-1735 minPlan PPutting Care First: 2023 Recap & Reflections (Bonus)In this special bonus episode, Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison bid farewell to 2023 with a heartfelt reflection on the growth and stretching they've experienced throughout the year, marked by new ventures, challenges, and the launch of this very podcast, Plan P!
Sarah and Quinn also unveil exciting plans for 2024, offering listeners a sneak peek into what's to come:
"Potty Training to Pot Training" eBook Release: A valuable resource for parents navigating the various stages of child development.
Free Virtual Parent Support Group: A community for parents to connect, share experiences, and support ea...2023-12-1314 minPlan PPainting a Picture of Trust In this final episode of the year, hosts Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison guide parents through the unique challenges of the holiday season's grand finale: New Year's Eve. While Christmas often leans towards family-focused tranquility, New Year's Eve, particularly with teenage and young adult children, requires a different approach.
Sarah and Quinn emphasize the importance of candid conversations with teens and young adults about the significance of a safe New Year's Eve. As children grow older, their desire for more freedom and participation in celebratory events increases. It becomes crucial for parents to discuss responsible dr...2023-12-0634 minPlan PThe Present of Your PresenceIn this heartfelt episode of Plan P, hosts Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison dive into the importance of being truly present, both emotionally and mentally, during the holiday season. Beyond the physical presence, they advocate for intentional mindfulness amidst the hustle and bustle that often engulfs this time of year.
As the rush of holiday preparations can overshadow the true meaning of the season, Sarah and Quinn inspire listeners to ground themselves through mindfulness. The episode explores the significance of bringing consciousness to actions often done unconsciously, fostering a deeper connection with the holiday moments t...2023-11-2927 minPlan PPlanning Ahead for a Stress-Free HolidayIn this insightful follow-up to their discussion on holiday pressures, Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison explore the essential concept of having a family plan in place for a festive, stress-free season. As families evolve and traditions shift with the passing years, it's crucial to engage in open discussions about how you'll spend the holidays.
Sarah and Quinn delve into the various considerations: will it be a getaway, a visit to the in-laws, a quiet evening at home, or perhaps allowing the kids to spend time with friends? The hosts emphasize the importance of managing expectations, e...2023-11-2236 minPlan PPushing Through the Holidays: Check Your PressureIn this episode of Plan P, hosts Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison kick off the holiday season with a candid conversation about pushing through the pressures that often accompany this time of year. While the holidays bring joy for many, they can also weigh heavily on those experiencing loss, such as Quinn, who has navigated the absence of a parent.
Sarah and Quinn delve into the societal expectations that can burden individuals during the holiday season—feeling the pressure to be relentlessly joyful, managing the expectations of a perfect holiday for everyone, and juggling the dem...2023-11-1531 minPlan PPressing Pause: The Truth About Wilderness Programs & Boarding SchoolsIn this timely episode of Plan P, hosts Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison delve into a significant and often debated topic: therapeutic wilderness programs and boarding schools for troubled teens. Drawing from their own personal journey, where they made the challenging decision to send their son to a wilderness program over a decade ago, Sarah and Quinn share their insights and experiences.
This episode serves as an informative guide for parents, emphasizing that therapeutic wilderness programs and boarding schools are just one of many options available. The hosts stress the importance of understanding that there's n...2023-11-0836 minPlan PPassing the Baton: The Transfer of ResponsibilityIn this episode of Plan P, hosts Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison explore the profound shift in parenting dynamics as teens transition into adults. The discussion centers on the crucial difference between being a caregiver and a caretaker. Caretaking, as they emphasize, involves providing care with an expectation of something in return, often tied to control. Caregiving, on the other hand, is the act of providing support, love, and guidance without expecting reciprocity. It's about fostering an environment of trust and empowerment.
The hosts shed light on the empowering concept of giving care—nurturing independence wit...2023-11-0139 minPlan PPreparing for the Fall: How to Avoid Helicopter ParentingIn this episode of Plan P, Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison shed light on the delicate balance of parenting: knowing when to step back. While it's natural to want to help our pre-teens, teens, and young adults navigate life, it's equally crucial to resist the urge to be a helicopter parent. The hosts emphasize the importance of allowing children the space to make mistakes and learn from them. By stepping back, parents foster independence, critical thinking, and problem-solving skills. Unless the situation poses a danger, it's okay to let them face consequences, be it a bad grade or finding...2023-10-2531 minPlan PPathways to Understanding: The Power of “I” in EmotionIn this enlightening episode of Plan P, hosts Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison delve into the intricate world of emotions, exploring the depth and complexity beyond the typical happy-sad-mad spectrum. They emphasize the importance of parents doing the necessary inner work to identify their own feelings and reasons behind them. Recognizing that if expressing emotions is challenging for parents, it naturally becomes difficult for teenagers too.
One key technique discussed is the use of "I" statements, empowering parents and teens alike to express themselves honestly and respectfully. By delving into the nuances of emotions and eq...2023-10-1838 minPlan PPiercings, Tattoos, and Teens: Conversations Beyond the NeedleIn this episode of Plan P, Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison tackle the age-old topic of how to talk to your teenager about getting piercings and tattoos.
Let's face it, every generation has its "thing" that shapes their identity, and in 2023, tattoos and piercings are far less taboo than they might have been decades ago. Many parents worry about job prospects and societal judgments, but Sarah and Quinn are here to remind us that these concerns are often generational.
Join us as we explore the evolution of self-expression and dive into the...2023-10-1117 minPlan PA Permanent Commitment: Relentless Devotion to Hope and TruthJoin us for a heartwarming and insightful episode of Plan P as hosts Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison unveil the deeply personal stories behind their tattoos, each symbolizing profound parenting principles they hold dear. Sarah's tattoo, etched in Spanish, embodies her unwavering commitment to "Relentless Devotion to Hope and Truth." Quinn's ink, a collection of math symbols, encapsulates the powerful sentiment that "Change is Constant." Through candid and touching narratives, Sarah and Quinn invite you into their world, where these enduring values serve as guiding lights in their parenting journey.
Discover the inspiration behind their t...2023-10-0432 minPlan PParental Guidance: How Much Freedom is Too Much Freedom?Join us for an engaging and thought-provoking episode of Plan P where hosts Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison dive headfirst into the age-old parenting question: "How much freedom is too much freedom for your teens?" The resounding answer? It depends. In this candid discussion, Sarah and Quinn explore the delicate balance of giving and limiting freedom for adolescents, emphasizing the importance of trust earned over time.
This episode delves into the art of loosening the reins and allowing your teens to explore the world, all while acknowledging that the ideal level of freedom varies from f...2023-09-2734 minPlan PParenting without Perseverating (Part 2): ACE Your WorriesIn this highly anticipated follow-up episode of Plan P, Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison extend their insightful conversation on conquering the persistent worry that can often dominate the parenting journey. Building upon their previous discussion, they delve deeper into strategies for putting an end to worry as a knee-jerk reaction and instead fostering a conscious approach to dealing with anxiety about the unknown.
Discover their valuable tips to ACE your worries—Awareness, Communication, and Engagement. These essential components form a powerful framework to transform the way you respond to uncertainty, helping you regain control over you...2023-09-2037 minPlan PParenting without Perseverating: Overcoming Fear of the Unknown*Trigger Warning: This episode discusses suicide. Listener discretion advised. We understand that these type of conversations can be emotionally challenging and may evoke a range of feelings for our listeners. If you are personally struggling with thoughts of self-harm or suicide, please reach out to a mental health professional or a crisis hotline. In the United States, you can contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 or 988*
In this enlightening episode of Plan P, hosts Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison delve into the common parental struggle of perseverating (or obsessing) over the fe...2023-09-1330 minPlan PPulling the (Heart) Strings: How to Detach with LoveAs your child blossoms into a full-fledged teenager, the art of parenting takes on new dimensions. In this episode, Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison, delve into the delicate dance of "detaching with love."
Navigating the path from active parenting to fostering independence requires finesse, and Sarah and Quinn have the insights you need. Drawing from their personal and professional journeys, they explore the transformative power of trust—trust in your teenager's ability to make decisions and carve their unique path. But it's not a journey without its milestones.
Join us as we u...2023-09-0730 minPlan PPeeling Back the Layers of Mental Health & Recovery from Drug AbuseIt's September, which means it's National Recovery Month!! In honor of this month, Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison are on a mission to break the stigma and get real about the intersection of mental health and substance abuse.
Let's face it – life's a rollercoaster, and sometimes, we all need a little help to navigate the ups and downs. That's where the intersection of mental health and recovery comes into play. Many people turn to substances as a way to cope with unaddressed mental health issues. It's a tough cycle, and it's high time we talked abo...2023-09-0629 minPlan PProducing Trust: Let Others Voluntarily EvolveDive into this week's episode of Plan P as hosts Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison lead the way into a discussion that's all about nurturing trust in your parent-child relationship. In this thought-provoking episode, Sarah and Quinn serve as your expert guides on the journey to foster deep connections and unwavering trust with your child (and yourself!)
Join them as they reveal the vital components that lay the groundwork for a trustworthy relationship: openness, reliability, consistency and understanding. You'll discover how clear communication serves as the cornerstone of trust-building, allowing you to bridge gaps and c...2023-08-2321 minPlan PParenting with Parameters: Pushing, Pulling & Prodding BoundariesGet ready for an eye-opening episode of the Plan P Podcast that dives deep into the art of parenting with boundaries. Join hosts Sarah Pollak & Quinn Faison as they uncover the secrets to establishing effective boundaries for both kids and parents alike.
In "Parenting with Parameters," Sarah and Quinn unveil the key to setting boundaries that truly work – clarity, communication and consequences. Learn how to define limits that are not only understood but also embraced by your children. Discover the power of consequences that are consistent, realistic, and can be upheld, ensuring that boundaries are res...2023-08-1633 minPlan PPrepping the Kids (and Parents) for Back to SchoolHey parents! Ready to tackle the upcoming school year like a pro? Our newest episode on the Plan P Podcast has your back. We're diving into all things "back to school" and sharing some nifty tips to make the transition a breeze for your kiddos (and you, too!).
Join us as we explore the art of effective communication and setting clear expectations. Discover how open dialogue can foster understanding and pave the way for a successful academic journey.
As parents, it's crucial to recognize that our children's ultimate desire is acceptance. Thr...2023-08-0937 minPlan PPotty Training to Pot Training: Managing Transitions From Toddlers to TeenagersJoin us in this week's captivating episode of Plan P, where Sarah Pollak & Quinn Faison delve into the art of managing transitions from a parent's perspective. From the adorable toddler stage to the tumultuous teenage years and beyond, parenting is a series of transformative experiences for both kids and parents.
In this episode, Sarah and Quinn emphasize that parents undergo significant transitions alongside their children. As kids grow, so do parents, navigating their roles, emotions, and responsibilities through each life stage. Discover insightful tips to foster effective communication and create an environment where kids feel seen and heard. The hosts re...2023-08-0233 minPlan POvercoming Parental Peer PressureWelcome back to the Plan P Podcast! In our second episode, "Overcoming Parental Peer Pressure," parenting coaches Sarah Pollak & Quinn Faison tackle a topic often overlooked—the pressure parents face to make the right decisions on their journey of raising their children. Just like teenagers, parents can feel the weight of peers' expectations and judgments, making it challenging to trust their instincts. Sarah and Quinn candidly share their own struggles with seeking approval for their parenting choices, revealing how it affected their confidence and decision-making. Join us to explore effective strategies to break free from this cycle, gain self-assurance, an...2023-07-2626 minPlan PThe Power of PracticeWelcome to the Plan P Podcast! Join certified parenting coaches Sarah Pollak & Quinn Faison as they delve into the transformative power of PRACTICE in parenting. In this episode, they share their personal story of sending their troubled teenage son to a wilderness therapy program when they felt like they were at the end of their rope. Discover their journey of survival, growth, and the loving relationship they built with their now-adult children. Gain practical insights, actionable practices, and hope as you navigate the challenges of raising ever-evolving teenagers. Tune in and be empowered!
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