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Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingScott Kiloby Is a CharlatanScott answers criticisms of his teaching and KI. Join him in his jumpstart group starting May 18: https://kiloby.com/jumpstart
2025-05-1332 min
Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingFiltering Out Reality—Guest Toshi MatsunagaIn this episode, Scott and Toshi talk about how emotional repression can cause you to see, hear, and believe only what feels safe—protecting you from feeling or expressing certain emotions. This can make it difficult to hear or understand work that addresses emotional repression, as the mind filters out anything that might threaten the protective barrier against those emotions.To work with Toshi, book a clarity call:https://kiloby.com/toshiMonthly Nonduality & KI Meeting with Toshi:https://kiloby.com/nonduality-ki
2025-05-1151 min
Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingThe Great Nondual BypassScott began using the term the Great Non-Bypass when he first began introducing emotional repression inquiry to people to denote how widespread spiritual bypassing really is in eastern practices and teachings. That phrase takes note of how systematically avoidant these teachings and practices can be, sometimes not even mentioning or pointing to or helping people process buried emotions even though science has shown that buried emotions are the root of most of our suffering. Now that Scott has co-authored the book *Awake but Sick: The Myth of Immediate Freedom and the Dangers of Spiritual Seeking and Finding* with Toshi...
2025-03-2034 min
Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingBoundaried & ConnectedThis episode delves into Scott's personal approach to living, as well as his insights on personal and business relationships, illustrating how the personal, impersonal, and interpersonal are interconnected through the shared root of suffering. Scott shares his journey on the spiritual path, emphasizing the importance of connecting with both the body and others from the start. He discusses how buried anger and disconnection from his body led him initially to an ascending path that offered a sense of presence but ultimately resulted in more suffering, including two chronic diseases.Scott also explains how this...
2025-03-1043 min
Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingAwake But Sick—Scott’s New BookScott’s new book on the myth of immediate freedom and the dangers of spiritual seeking and finding is out March 14th. Pre-order now: https://kiloby.com/awake-but-sick.
2025-03-0640 min
Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingHow Shadows Connect to SeparationScott goes into depth around how his previous shadow modalities and other such modalities do not get to the very root of the shadows, which is emotional repression. He breaks apart the entire process of how we miss it in our direct experience. We miss for example that we create the sense of separation for safety from the emotional repression, and that our resistance to doing skillful shadow work that gets to the repression is a natural extension of this conditioning with us, the demands separation and suffering over freedom and authenticity. There is a way out and Scott...
2025-03-0426 min
Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingAuthentic v 12 Step RecoveryScott Kiloby & Dan McLintock, the co-founders / developers of the KI, sit down for a podcast discussion about their experience of authentic recovery from addiction (aka resolving their emotional repression) vs what they experienced in 12 Step programs - and their critique of the latter. Come speak to Dan about working with him one on one: https://kiloby.com/dan
2025-02-281h 25
Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingUnderstanding Triggers: The Hidden Root of Our ReactionsIn this episode, Scott explores the origins of relationship triggers and the complex interplay between buried emotions and various trauma responses—such as fight, flight, freeze, or fawn—or self-limiting beliefs that arise when we are triggered. These reactions are often protective mechanisms designed to keep us safe from the buried emotions we have yet to confront. However, these very buried emotions also create the triggers that impact our relationships and overall well-being.On a spiritual or healing path, we may mistakenly engage in awareness-based or inquiry processes aiming to avoid these buri...
2025-02-2733 min
Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingIs It Safe to Care and Love Deeply?In this episode, Scott explores the question: Is it safe to care and love deeply? He distinguishes between genuine care and the superficial empathy often confused with it. Genuine care is embodied, arising from the processing of buried emotions and unmet childhood needs. Scott emphasizes that true safety and love are achieved when we confront our trauma and emotional repression. Many struggle with apathy, stemming from unresolved anger, hurt, or sadness, unknowingly fearing the depth of true love. By recognizing this source, we can break free from apathy and embrace our natural state of caring deeply. To work with...
2025-02-2740 min
Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingAre You Responsible for the Bad in Others?Join Scott in this thought-provoking episode as he tackles the complex question: Are we responsible for the bad in others? Delving into emotional repression, Scott explores how buried anger made him fixate on the bad in others.While acknowledging the real issues and suffering present in the world, Scott aims to help listeners understand how emotional repression contributes to dualities of good and bad. He addresses a listener's question about the listener's sense of responsibility for others' suffering. The sense of responsibility for others' emotional experiences arises from our own unprocessed emotions and codependency.
2025-02-2319 min
Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingI Need Your Love But I’m Afraid of ItIn this podcast, Scott simplifies seemingly complex topics such as avoidant or anxious attachment styles, unmet needs, and other forms of suffering at the surface, connecting them to some very basic conditioning in the body that can be summed up as "I need your love, but I'm afraid of it." If you resonate with the topic of this episode and are interested in joining Scott's March Jumpstart group to learn about emotional repression inquiry, or if you'd like to talk to Scott for free about potentially working with him in his one-on-one 90-day intensive program, visit [https://kiloby.com...
2025-02-1836 min
Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingBeginning Authentic Recovery from AddictionIn preparation for Scott's upcoming podcast with co-developer Dan McLintock on the critique of the 12-step program, Scott explains what authentic recovery means for him. He shares that his journey began only when he started processing the buried emotions that were creating his addictions. The K I Way of recovery is different from many forms of recovery or addiction treatment in the world, but it is supported by a lot of science and leading thinkers, which Scott discusses in this episode. This conversation aims to guide listeners on a different journey into authentic recovery from addiction. If you're interested...
2025-02-1720 min
Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingThe Cost of True Freedom—A Radical Conversation with Toshi MatsunagaIn this exciting episode of the podcast, Scott is thrilled to welcome his co-author and fellow KI co-developer and trainer, Toshi Matsunaga. Scott and Toshi co-authored the book *Awake but Sick: The Myth of Immediate Freedom and the Dangers of Spiritual Seeking and Finding.* They've worked closely together for years developing and simplifying KI emotional repression inquiry. Together, they've explored specifically how spiritual bypassing manifests in spiritual practices, pointers, and frameworks. Their book delves into this topic in detail, supported by scientific insights, and now they want to share their knowledge with you on this podcast. Toshi is set...
2025-02-1552 min
Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingEmpathetic Needism in Social MediaScott was falling asleep one night while listening to something on YouTube when he suddenly woke up to something appalling. He heard a social media influencer, who is very popular but struggles with anger repression, bamboozling her entire audience by not owning her anger repression. Instead, she acted overly empathetic to lure in and maintain her following. Scott, recognizing the profound impact of this behavior, felt compelled to wake up and record this podcast to share the true motivation for his work in KI and explain how it represents a different modality. Listen closely to learn how to dissolve...
2025-02-1235 min
Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingAuthenticity Builds TrustIn this episode, Scott dives deep into building trust through authenticity. He addresses a question from an audience member who is considering engaging in KI but feels hesitant about trusting Scott and the method. Scott shares his own experiences with distrust, which stem from buried anger, and emphasizes that self-trust has been a crucial aspect of his personal journey.He explains that all trust issues ultimately relate back to self-trust, highlighting how emotional repression can hinder our ability to express our true feelings and, consequently, trust others. Scott uses the questioner's concerns to explore...
2025-02-1031 min
Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingWhy Avoidants REALLY CheatIn this episode, Scott explores the hidden dynamics of avoidant attachment style and why individuals may cheat in relationships. This episode is a result of many people asking Scott about the common infidelity among spiritual teachers and how they often don’t address it directly and maturely. Many people have also asked Scott about their cheating spouse or their own history of infidelity, blind to the roots of such behavior. He discusses how unmet emotional needs from childhood often lead to deceptive behaviors and emphasizes that buried emotions, if unacknowledged, can result in...
2025-02-0732 min
Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingThe Burial and Resurrection of Sigmond FreudIn this episode, Scott delves into the intricate factors that shape human motivation and behavior, drawing insights from his recent blogs on Medium. He discusses how our genes, environment, cultures, and conditioning are inseparable, but emphasizes the often-overlooked role of emotional repression in our suffering.The episode examines various perspectives on suffering, including theories from Sigmund Freud, Anna Lembke, and Donald Hoffman. Each offers unique insights, but Scott urges listeners to recognize that merely analyzing these theories isn't enough. True change comes from actively processing buried emotions. Scott also touches on non-dual traditions that...
2025-02-0542 min
Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingAuthentic Compassion and EmpathyScott shares his personal story of transformation as a non-duality teacher, reflecting on how his teachings, while initially beneficial, often helped others sidestep their own unresolved feelings by pointing to presence. This approach inadvertently created an inauthentic experience of compassion and empathy, which he unknowingly transmitted to those who came to his work for support.In this episode, Scott explores how he has come to recognize that authentic compassion is rooted in a genuine desire to alleviate suffering, while authentic empathy involves receiving another's experience free from the distortions of one's own unresolved emotions.
2025-02-0336 min
Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingRumination and the Perpetuation of SufferingIn this episode, Scott delves into a unique and often unexplored topic of how witnessing phenomena coming and going to awareness can perpetuate suffering through the ruminating effect of that kind of practice. For years, Scott lived in the seeing of the waves coming and going to the ocean of awareness, but the question of why the waves were appearing was never addressed until KI helped Scott access, through a vertical practice, the buried emotions that were creating the waves at the surface. Here, Scott warns against not understanding how ego rumination can turn to spiritual rumination, which keeps...
2025-02-0129 min
Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingNeedism—The More Repressed We Are, the More Narcissistic We BehaveIn this episode, Scott calls narcissism "needism" to help reduce the stigma surrounding the subject. He emphasizes that we all have narcissistic tendencies, even if some exhibit more extreme, diagnosable forms. By owning the mechanisms of emotional repression that create a sense of falseness in our lives, we can begin to recognize that we are often operating on unmet childhood needs, particularly the need for love and safety. These needs drive us in relationships and on social media. Unfortunately, many people do not process their own repression before trying to help others, which can lead to codependency in both...
2025-01-2840 min
Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingA Guide to Happiness and Authenticity in RelationshipIn this podcast, Scott delves into how making conscious the mechanism that creates suffering is our opportunity to experience our authentic being and live life without suffering. We have to continue suffering until it feels safe for us to feel and express all that's true, but when it does, we feel chemically balanced and sustainably regulated. We find safety and love within and can offer that in relationship, whereas before we were disconnected from our bodies and each other. Please listen to Scott's guide to happiness and authenticity in relationships: [https://medium.com/@skiloby/guide-to-present-happiness-and-authentic-relationships-6e2b1c5f5334...
2025-01-2711 min
Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingFeels Like I’m Going To Lose My Mind—Bringing Borderline Personality Disorder Into the BodyIn this podcast, Scott shares his insights on borderline personality disorder (BPD) and explores the mind-body connections related to emotional repression that contribute to the fear of abandonment and other distinct patterns associated with BPD. While Scott is not a therapist or a doctor and does not diagnose or treat any conditions, his background as a codeveloper in KI, combined with his personal experiences and ownership of mental health and addiction treatment centers, allows him to discuss the topic from a somatic perspective.Listeners can expect a refreshing viewpoint on BPD, and Scott encourages...
2025-01-2650 min
Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingRediscovering Joy, Love, and Trust Through Processing Domestic Abuse—Scott Interviews SerenaScott talks to KI Mentor Serena Senteshi. Serena shares deeply personal experiences of childhood sexual and physical violence, shedding light on the domestic abuse she endured and the unconscious coping mechanisms she developed to survive.She discusses her journey through intense suffering and mental health challenges, highlighting how KI Emotional Repression Inquiry has been pivotal in her transformation. Through this transformative process, Serena has rediscovered her connection with her body, emotions, and self, as well as her vulnerability, love and trust in relationships with friends, family, and men.
2025-01-221h 03
Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingLove and Narcissism—The Covert Agendas of Buried AngerIn this episode, Scott delves into the complex relationship between love and narcissism, focusing on the covert agendas that stem from buried anger and unmet emotional needs. He emphasizes that when we confront our own narcissistic tendencies, rooted in childhood experiences of seeking safety, love, and approval, we open the door to experiencing authentic love and genuine connection. Scott shares his personal journey as an anger repressor, highlighting how these covert agendas can manifest in subtle ways, often without our awareness, leading to manipulation in relationships.Listeners are urged during the podcast to search...
2025-01-2138 min
Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingFinding Safety and Love WithinIn this episode, Scott delves into the journey of finding safety and love by processing buried emotions through present moment awareness. He shares his experience of identifying with sadness and other vulnerable emotions in relationships, and expressing those feelings to people close to him.Scott reflects on how he believed that his suffering—rooted in hurt, grief, and sadness—was the entirety of his existence from childhood until the age of 40. However, after awakening to non-dual awareness in 2007, he noticed that much of the hurt and sadness began to fade, albeit with a few trig...
2025-01-2129 min
Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingIf You See Buddha, Kill Him!Scott shares his personal journey as a non-duality teacher, reflecting on how he once struggled with unresolved anger and the shadows it created in his life. He introduces the Zen saying, "If you see the Buddha on the road, kill him," and explains its significance in understanding the pitfalls of spiritual ego and authority from a repression-informed perspective.Scott emphasizes that true transformation comes from processing buried emotions rather than avoiding them through spirituality. He reveals how the KI emotional repression inquiry helped him confront his own spiritual ego, which involved identification with safer...
2025-01-2029 min
Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingA Comedy of Eros & Big Dick EnergyScott shares a light-hearted personal account of how just about everything that we see is a potential vehicle for transformation. Come have a laugh and a relaxing moment with Scott in his more casual mood that people don’t often see when he is teaching. To read Scott’s article on “Needism,” mentioned in this episode, visit: https://medium.com/@skiloby/needism-the-more-unconscious-we-are-the-more-narcissistic-we-behave-dc63b6cbcf6d.To speak to Scott for Free about his 90 day intensive program, visit https://kiloby.com/scott.
2025-01-1518 min
Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingThe Pain-Pleasure Cycle: New Advancements in KIIn this special episode, revealing upcoming developments in KI, Scott explores how emotional repression influences human behavior through the lens of the pleasure-pain principle. This principle, rooted in early psychological theories, highlights our innate drive to seek pleasure and avoid pain.Using the iceberg model as a framework, Scott categorizes emotional programs into two distinct areas: those that reside above the water, representing our needs for connection, safety, and validation, and those that lie beneath, encompassing the pain-producing programs associated with the repression of anger, sadness, and hurt.This...
2025-01-1357 min
Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingScott Has a Big Announcement!Listen to the announcement in the episode first please!Read Scott’s article mentioned in the episode related to the announcement next: https://medium.com/@skiloby/emotional-repression-and-the-pain-pleasure-principle-e5a531787086.If you’re interested in speaking to Scott for free about his one on one 90 day intensive, or signing up for the Feb KI jumpstart to experience this beta version of KI that’s being developed, visit https://kiloby.com/jumpstart. For the free Clarity Call with Scott, scroll down to the bottom of the page past the jumpstart group information.
2025-01-1013 min
Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingThe Right to SufferScott takes on a unique perspective regarding suffering, asserting that we inherently have a right to suffer, a right we've carried since birth. Conditioned into a sense of separation, our suffering often stems from unprocessed emotions hidden within the body. When we do nothing about our suffering, we are, in essence, exercising this right.As a non-duality teacher, Scott reflects on how many passive practices he offered inadvertently allowed people to continue exercising their right to suffer by avoiding their buried emotions. Through his mentoring in KI emotional repression inquiry, individuals reclaim their power...
2025-01-0946 min
Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingThe Tension Between Freedom and SafetyIn this podcast, Scott explains how emotional repression leads us to unconsciously choose safety and love over freedom. This affects our choice of paths, practices, and teachers, sabotaging our journey. After years on a spiritual path, we might wonder why we still suffer, facing issues like disease, chronic pain, or addiction. The reason is that we unknowingly prioritize safety over true freedom.Although we aim for freedom, our unconscious conditioning keeps us safe but suffering. The Kiloby Inquiries (KI) offer a way to break free by addressing the unconscious drivers of this suffering. To talk to Scott...
2025-01-0830 min
Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingThe Right Context to End SufferingIn this thought-provoking episode, Scott emphasizes the significance of having the right context in our spiritual practices. He clarifies that "right" does not necessarily equate to what is correct or absolutely true, but rather refers to a perspective that guides us toward understanding our experiences in a way that addresses the root of our suffering. Scott explains that if our context diverts us from recognizing how we contribute to our own suffering, we risk falling into an avoidant spiritual path—one that our unconscious mind seeks as a means of safety and love. He highlights that buried emotions, which we...
2025-01-0731 min
Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingI Could Only Be a Soft Boy - My Gender DoublebindIn this thought-provoking episode, Scott shares his personal journey growing up in a gender double bind, feeling unable to fully embrace either masculinity or femininity. Repressing anger made it difficult for him to embody the typical cultural signs of masculinity, while being biologically male prevented him from expressing his femininity without facing bullying. Throughout his life, Scott struggled to find a place within the confines of gender, unaware that his buried anger was at the core of his challenges.Scott explains how discovering and processing not only his buried anger but also his repressed...
2025-01-0634 minScott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingSuffering Won’t Stop Until We Wise UpIn this episode, Scott explores the intricate relationship between our consciousness and the future shaped by advancements in AI and deepfake technology, inspired in part by a song from Aimee Mann and current events. Scott delves into how taking sides—whether politically or otherwise—often serves as a protective mechanism from our unresolved trauma and buried emotions, ultimately perpetuating our suffering. He focuses in part on “sick green” consciousness and how progressive viewpoints are often still driven by old wounds from mom and dad. Instead of aligning with specific conspiracy theories, positions or parties, he advocates for making consciousness and embo...
2025-01-0330 min
Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from Suffering[TRIGGER WARNING]. An Open Letter to Anger Repressors (From Those Who Love You)In this episode, Scott delves into the profound idea that true intimacy and meaningful connections flourish when we allow ourselves to fully experience our emotions and open up to others. While emotional repression often serves as a misguided form of self-protection, it ultimately sabotages our deepest desires for authenticity and closeness.Scott speaks directly and unapologetically, addressing listeners who may feel triggered or uncomfortable with the truths he shares. He emphasizes that for those genuinely ready to engage in deep inner work, this message can be a catalyst for profound change, helping them confront the root of...
2025-01-0227 min
Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingThe Cult of One - Hyper-Independence on an Avoidant Spiritual PathIn this thought-provoking podcast episode, Scott explores the concept of hyper-independence and how it can become a significant hindrance on one's spiritual path. He explains that the insulated barrier created by those on a hyper-independent path often involves neglecting buried emotions, leading them to become their own cult leader, guiding them into the same self-sabotage and avoidance that has been driving them since childhood.Hyper-independence often results in an avoidance of genuine connection, with common negative effects such as addiction, chronic pain, and ongoing emotional distress. He urges listeners to question the unmet needs...
2025-01-0128 min
Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingGrandiose Narcissist or Just Hurt and Afraid?Scott delves deeply into how grandiose narcissism originates from a foundation of repressed hurt and sadness. Scott discusses the complexities of emotional repression, revealing how these buried feelings shape the grandiose persona often seen as a means to meet unmet childhood needs and maintain a supply of validation from others.Scott outlines the intricate relationship between grandiose narcissism and the full spectrum of emotional repression. He emphasizes that anger repressors, frequently unaware of their own covert narcissism, can find themselves triggered and challenged by individuals labeled as grandiose narcissists. This podcast clarifies these relational...
2024-12-2739 min
Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingAtomic Resolutions for 2025Happy New Year! In this episode, Scott dives into the concept of New Year's resolutions, highlighting their common nature as often short-lived desires for significant life changes. He reflects on how resolutions like losing weight, becoming more connected, or dropping a compulsion can fail to sustain themselves over time. Scott shares insights from his journey, particularly focusing on emotional repression inquiry—a practice developed to reveal how emotional repression sabotages our success and well-being.After years of struggle, Scott was able to change behaviors quite effortlessly by framing it all differently and developing essential sk...
2024-12-2647 min
Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingMary’s Christmas - The Greatest Gift We Never Give OurselvesIn this episode, Scott shares the poignant story of Mary, who grapples with her challenging relationship with Christmas and her father. As Mary buries herself in work to avoid the painful feelings that arise during the holiday season, her hidden suffering begins to manifest as physical ailments, seemingly connected to her unresolved issues with her dad. Ultimately, she decides to confront the root of her suffering, leading to a shocking revelation about her deep-seated anguish and the feelings of obligation tied to Christmas.Mary's journey is fraught with struggle and introspection. She navigates the...
2024-12-2438 min
Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingThe Original Gaslight - Guest Dan McLintock (KI Co-Developer)In this episode, Scott invites his very special first guest - the innovative Dan McLintock - Co-Developer of KI. Dan and Scott tackle the concept of the original gaslight: how we often believe we’re being gaslit by others while failing to recognize that we gaslight ourselves due to emotional repression from childhood. They dive deep into how this self-deception plays a significant role in meeting our needs and maintaining a false narrative about our lives.Dan and Scott also share their unique journeys and how their histories intertwined to form KI—meet...
2024-12-201h 10
Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingConspiracy Theories - Truth v. TraumaIn this episode, Scott dives into the intriguing world of conspiracy theories, offering a unique perspective that links the beliefs of their proponents to underlying trauma and buried emotions. He explores how these unprocessed feelings can shape an individual's worldview, causing them to project a reality that is deeply influenced by their past experiences. While many seek the truth through these theories, Scott suggests that they often overlook the importance of introspection—ignoring the emotions tied to their childhood experiences. These buried feelings can manifest as strong shadows cast upon figures of authority, like th...
2024-12-1831 min
Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingA New Dimension of Spiritual PracticeJoin Scott in this episode as he dives into the Three Dimensions of Spiritual Practice developed by KI. Scott explores how these dimensions shape our spiritual journeys, detailing the actions we take—or do not take—in our practices. In the first dimension, we sit in stillness, allowing our thoughts and feelings to arise. In the second dimension, we prompt something up from the unconsciousness that would not have otherwise come into awareness without our prompting. Scott emphasizes that the first two dimensions often overlook buried emotions, leading to an inherent bypass in spiritual growth.To address this...
2024-12-1635 min
Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingResentfully Loving - Hidden Angry Roots of Co-DependencyIn this episode, Scott explores the intriguing connection between codependent behavior and buried anger, drawing on scientific and academic research to illuminate this vital topic. Many individuals may exhibit seemingly benign behaviors—such as being overly nice, trying to save or fix others, or prioritizing the feelings of those around them—yet these tendencies often mask deeper, unresolved emotions.Scott reveals how codependent behaviors, while prominent on the surface, can lead to an oversight of the buried anger that fuels these actions. By understanding the hidden roots of codependency, listeners will gain a fresh pers...
2024-12-1321 min
Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingThe Many Faces of Emotional RepressionIn this episode, Scott delves into how emotional repression fuels suffering, highlighting how various forms—such as anxiety, depression, chronic pain, and self-limiting beliefs—are often labeled separately. He reveals that they all stem from the same source: unprocessed emotions. These emotions create suffering as a defense mechanism, keeping us safe from what we've buried. Scott offers a fresh perspective by examining everyday scenarios that may seem unrelated to buried emotions but, in fact, are intricately connected. Tune in to uncover the hidden links between your experiences and emotional repression. To work directly with Scott in one on one ment...
2024-12-1321 min
Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingFeeling Unheard (Because You Can’t Express What’s True for You).In this episode, Scott delves into the profound feelings of being unheard or misunderstood in our relationships. These emotions often stem from our inability to express the authentic feelings we have buried deep within ourselves. Scott explores the origins of identity and how various personas arise to protect us from confronting these buried emotions. Understanding where the feelings of being unseen, unheard, or misunderstood come from is crucial to unraveling the complexities of our emotional experiences.Listeners will gain practical insights that target the root of all identities, regardless of their content. Whether you're struggling...
2024-12-1237 min
Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingOur New Book on the Dangers of Spiritual BypassingIn this exciting podcast, Scott reveals his latest book on the perils of spiritual bypassing, co-authored with the esteemed Toshi Matsunaga. Through extensive research and years of working with clients, Scott and Toshi have uncovered the critical role that emotional repression plays in driving various forms of suffering.The book delves into the inherent bypasses present in many Eastern practices, pointers, and philosophies. Scott and Toshi meticulously examine how buried emotions can undermine the effectiveness of these spiritual approaches, leading to a false sense of peace and a perpetuation of unresolved emotional...
2024-12-1126 min
Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingIt’s Not About What We’re Feeling (It’s About What We’re NOT Feeling)Join Scott in this insightful episode as he explores a profound perspective on suffering. The science tells us that buried emotions create suffering, and Scott dives deep into how this suffering stems from what we’re not feeling. He explains that suffering arises to awareness because it’s safer than buried emotions.Scott discusses how unresolved childhood needs are intricately linked to these buried emotions, leading us to identify with false narratives about ourselves. Instead of navigating a path of avoidance or numbness, he encourages listeners to confront what they’re not feeling—this is the k...
2024-12-1035 minScott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingThe Power of How - A Critique of the Work of Eckhart TolleIn this podcast, Scott focuses on Eckhart Tolle’s concept of the “pain body” and how he encourages people to overlook the conditioning of emotional repression hidden in the pain body. Like so many modern non-duality teachings, his work ignores the very root of suffering. Scott goes into all the benefits of Eckhart’s teachings including his articulate discussion of the frequencies of Being but also the massive limitation of his constant pointing to present moment awareness when buried emotions do not arise to awareness and they continue to create suffering. To work directly with Scott, visit https://kiloby.com/scot
2024-12-0547 minScott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingThe Avoidant Hurt and Sadness RepressorIn this episode, Scott explores the lifelong avoidant patterns and strategies of individuals who repress Hurt and Sadness. He likens their experience to dancing around the outer edge of a black hole within their bodies, where they remain unconscious of the darkness that actually holds the light of their true being. Scott emphasizes that while a life of avoidance is intertwined with Hurt and Sadness repression, this same avoidance can transform into a portal for embodied freedom. To work directly with Scott, visit https://kiloby.com/scott.
2024-12-0239 minScott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingPremature Forgiveness.In this episode, Scott explores the connection between buried emotions and the premature quest for forgiveness. He discusses how we often seek forgiveness as a way to avoid facing our internal suffering. Authentic forgiveness comes from confronting and integrating these hidden emotions. As long as we neglect our true feelings about the past, our suffering persists, leading us to rely on external forgiveness and spiritual practices. Scott emphasizes that true emotional liberation can only occur when we acknowledge and forgive the parts of ourselves we’ve hidden away. To work directly with Scott, visit https://kiloby.co...
2024-11-2637 minScott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingShame and the Fear of Being Seen.In this podcast, Scott discusses how shame and guilt serve as protective layers shielding us from deeper, buried emotions. He explains that we often compartmentalize our reality, identifying with parts of ourselves that bring love and approval, while hiding the parts that evoke fear and shame. This division leads to ongoing suffering, with many individuals feeling trapped in shame, mistakenly believing it's the final barrier on their healing journey. Scott suggests that instead of viewing shame as an endpoint, we can dissolve it and address the root of our suffering, recognizing that shame was merely a protective mechanism. By...
2024-11-2531 minScott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingAnxiety Is Mostly Buried AngerIn this episode, Scott discusses the intriguing connection between anxiety and buried anger, highlighting recent scientific findings that suggest a significant link. He emphasizes the importance of verifying if your anxiety stems from repressed anger by taking our free repression test. Scott explains that understanding the mechanism of buried anger reveals why anxiety surfaces as a protective response, allowing us to maintain love and approval as the separate self or false self we present to others. This podcast offers a unique, scientifically supported perspective on how to dissolve anxiety by addressing its root causes. To work directly with Scott...
2024-11-1922 minScott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingHow the Sense of Separation FormsIn this episode, Scott explores the concept of separation from the perspective of the unconscious, highlighting how buried emotions contribute to suffering. He discusses how this sense of separation arises from self-contraction due to trauma experienced in childhood, particularly with unconscious parents. By steering the conversation away from traditional views of the brain and nervous system, Scott emphasizes the importance of direct experience. This approach aims to bring the unconscious to light, ultimately dissolving the feeling of separation. Join Scott as he shares his unique insights on understanding the formation of separation and offers pathways to reverse it, leading...
2024-11-1825 minScott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingMy Aggressive PeaceIn this podcast, Scott delves into the concept of covert aggression that often lurked beneath his seemingly peaceful exterior. He reveals how this behavior coming from buried anger shifted the responsibility for difficult conversations or conflicts onto others, allowing him to maintain a façade of being the "good guy" while avoiding addressing deeper emotional issues. Scott acknowledges that this approach is not only aggressive but also quite mean, especially since it contradicts the peaceful image he projected. He emphasizes that these hard truths can be challenging for those grappling with anger repression, but ultimately, they pave the way t...
2024-11-1624 minScott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingPESD - Post-Election Stress DisorderIn the podcast, Scott introduces the concept of "post-election stress disorder," a term he coined to describe the emotional turmoil experienced after a candidate's loss in a presidential election. He suggests that this suffering often stems from unresolved childhood trauma and affects many people for the duration of the four-year election cycle. Scott takes no position publicly on which candidate is a better fit for office. Instead he focuses on the unconsciousness driving all of us. Scott emphasizes that this ongoing suffering can be alleviated, advocating for a voting mindset rooted in clarity rather than identity politics tied to...
2024-11-1212 minScott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingA Needy PathIn this compelling episode, Scott delves into the profound impact of unmet needs tied to buried emotions on our suffering and our attempts to alleviate that suffering through spiritual practices. He emphasizes that as long as these needs remain unconscious, we find ourselves stuck in an avoidant spiritual path, failing to address the root causes of our distress. This episode is particularly significant as it will be featured as a chapter in an upcoming book co-authored by Scott and Toshi Matsunaga, focusing on the concept of spiritual bypassing and the importance of confronting emotional repression. Scott advocates...
2024-11-1231 minScott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingSimplifying the Attachment Styles - An Energetic DanceIn this podcast episode, Scott explores his personal experiences and insights gained from working with individuals on the topic of the attachment styles in relationship. He simplifies this complex subject into an energetic dance influenced by fundamental needs for love and safety. As long as we remain unconscious of these needs, driven by the fear of intimacy and our own inauthenticity, we find ourselves trapped in cycles of suffering, miscommunication, conflict, and separation. Scott not only simplifies these concepts but also offers a pathway out of this energetic dance of suffering. To work directly with Scott, visit https://kiloby...
2024-11-0822 minScott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingI Can’t Help But Cry on Election Day 2024Politics is personal and we’re often motivated by unprocessed emotion and trauma from childhood to identify with one party or another. Scott breaks down and cries in this episode, not because he’s afraid of one candidate winning over the other, but at the sheer unconsciousness of believing that we can solve the world’s issues from unprocessed trauma. These are also tears of gratitude for Scott being able to deeply care again about world matters after years of avoidance of real issues through bypassing his own emotional repression in spirituality. To work directly with Scott, visit https://kiloby...
2024-11-0533 minScott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingThe Real Scandal in SpiritualityScott breaks down what he sees as the real scandal in spirituality, the attempts to bring avoidant eastern practices to the masses while emotional repression remains untouched in the bodies of students. Scott explains how this is like a ticking time bomb with delayed but devastating results. To work directly with Scott, visit https://kiloby.com/scott.
2024-11-0332 minScott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingYou’ll Discover Real Authenticity and Vulnerability in KI.In this episode, Scott explores the impact of repressing emotions, questioning whether those who suppress their feelings turn into rage-filled individuals or become engulfed in sadness and grief. He emphasizes that true self-discovery comes from addressing the root causes of our suffering. By examining how repressed anger, along with buried feelings of hurt and sadness, often links back to unmet childhood needs, Scott highlights the journey towards vulnerability. He explains that recognizing and integrating these unmet needs allows us to uncover our authentic selves, ultimately paving the way for the relational freedom we seek. For those interested in personalized...
2024-10-2531 minScott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingJust the Tip of the Iceberg!In this podcast, Scott explores the concept of duality within ourselves, using the metaphor of an iceberg to illustrate the divide between our visible experiences and the deeper, hidden aspects of our psyche. He emphasizes that while we may focus on the suffering and attempts to alleviate it, there are core fears and emotional repression lurking beneath the surface. Scott discusses how individuals vary in their journey to bring the unconscious to consciousness, which ultimately leads to greater freedom and authenticity in life. He acknowledges the fear associated with confronting buried emotions but encourages...
2024-10-2230 minScott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingThe Narcissism of Emotional RepressionIn the podcast, Scott responds to a question from someone he's training in KI who wondered if clearing emotional repression would make them selfish. Scott explained that, in reality, the opposite is true. He emphasizes that selfishness or narcissism stems from holding back emotions, which leads to the creation of false identities and strategies for gaining love and approval. Scott highlights that the path to overcoming narcissism is through authenticity, which emerges by processing buried emotions and awakening to one’s true nature. To work directly with Scott, visit https://kiloby.com/scott.
2024-10-1830 minScott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingThe Core Frozen Fears Behind Separation and SufferingIn this podcast, Scott explores the concept of emotional repression, highlighting two core fears that contribute to our suffering. The first fear is the fear of expressing repressed emotions, such as anger or sadness. The second fear involves the potential of getting hurt, humiliated, rejected, or losing someone. These fears are often unconscious and stored in the body, leading to emotional distress. Scott emphasizes that genuine spiritual inquiry is straightforward, despite how our systems complicate it for safety. He aims to simplify the understanding of our suffering by focusing on these fundamental drivers. To work directory with Scott, visit...
2024-10-1825 minScott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingAuthentic RelationshipIn this podcast, Scott delves into the concept of authentic relating, emphasizing that true connection is hindered by buried emotions. He explains that when we are driven by unconscious needs for safety, love, and other essentials, we create suffering in our relationships. Many people tend to seek external solutions—like practices or other individuals—to alleviate this suffering, but these attempts are often ineffective due to the underlying unconscious motivations. Scott highlights how one's spiritual healing journey is closely linked to the authenticity, or lack thereof, in relationships. He provides detailed insights into these dynamics and encourages listeners to expl...
2024-10-1430 minScott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingThe Needs You Ignore Become the Suffering You AbhorIn this podcast, Scott discusses how unmet childhood needs for love and safety unconsciously lead us into bypassing on spiritual or healing paths. He explains that suffering, deeply rooted in the unconscious body, shows up in relationships, causing disconnection and prompting us to seek relief through various practices. However, because of buried emotions, these practices often become ways to avoid confronting our pain, perpetuating the search for love and safety that wasn’t met in childhood. The goal isn’t to eliminate suffering but to meet these fundamental needs at a deeper level and to make them conscious, along with...
2024-10-1023 minScott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingThe Repression Barrier and Jumpstarting KIIn this episode, Scott discusses the internal division we experience due to buried emotions and how this creates suffering at the conscious level. Using the iceberg analogy, he explains how most of our emotional struggles lie beneath our awareness, hidden from view.Scott introduces the KI Jump Starter Program, designed for those who need skill development or other help, but prefer a group setting. He elaborates on how this approach relates to the iceberg model of consciousness, helping individuals avoid getting stuck in an unproductive spiritual path. Scott also...
2024-10-0808 minScott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingThe Shaming of AddictsIn this podcast, Scott explains how buried emotions drive addictions, yet we remain unaware of these drivers, allowing shame and the cycle of addiction itself to distract us from the root of it all - for safety and love. Some of our best intentions to recover or help others recover are coming from buried rage. Scott shares his personal experience of growing up ashamed and with anger repression - a recipe for addiction and codependency. His recovery became authentic when he shifted his focus from the addiction to the deeper emotions driving it. To work with Scott directly in...
2024-10-0729 minScott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingEmotional Release or Just Relief?In this episode of Scott's podcast, he delves into the nuances of emotional release on the spiritual healing journey. Scott discusses how, in our quest for spiritual experiences, we may inadvertently focus on releasing emotions that feel safer, rather than addressing the deeper, buried emotions that truly drive our suffering. This emotional repression can lead us to believe that these safer releases are genuine markers of freedom, blinding us to the fact that the root of our pain remains unprocessed. Scott emphasizes that true healing comes not from seeking fleeting emotional experiences, but from pursuing authenticity, freedom, and true...
2024-10-0512 minScott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingAuthentic Listening and the Feeling of Not Being HeardIn this podcast, Scott explores authentic listening and its connection to emotional repression - especially buried anger. He explains that when emotions are buried, it's challenging to listen authentically, as people often freeze, shut down, or flee during difficult conversations. Scott reveals that the common feeling of not being heard actually stems from this emotional repression. He clarifies that true authenticity requires active listening, speaking, and expressing needs and wants in relationships, creating a safe space for genuine connection and full expression of love. To work directly with Scott, visit https://kiloby.com/scott.
2024-09-3029 minScott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingA Death Sentence of “Acceptance” [Trigger Warning]In this episode, Scott shares his journey as a non-dual teacher who bypassed buried anger, leading to chronic nerve pain that almost became a "death sentence." He and other teachers have inadvertently encouraged this bypass in millions of people. Scott reveals how he dissolved the pain by making unconscious anger conscious. He explains why simply resting with deep contractions or chronic pain often reinforces repression, as these sensations contain hidden drivers of suffering. To work with Scott directly, visit https://kiloby.com/scott.
2024-09-2630 minScott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingThe Co-Dependent’s Narcissism ShadowIn this podcast episode, Scott explores Sam, a codependent therapist with buried anger who enters relationships with women who have narcissistic tendencies due to their inability to show empathy. He disconnects from them due to his avoidant nature and then teaches others to maintain repression by labeling less empathetic people as narcissists, reinforcing a narcissism shadow. To work with Scott, visit https://kiloby.com/scott.
2024-09-2426 minScott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingWe Need Addiction (Until We Don’t Anymore)In this podcast, Scott explains that addiction feels as essential as water or air because it helps the system feel safe and loved by keeping buried emotions hidden. The cycle of addiction continues because the need for safety and love stems from these suppressed emotions. Traditional recovery programs and Eastern practices often fail to address this, allowing both addiction and suffering to persist. Scott highlights that both the need for addiction and the desire to quit come from emotional repression. The solution is to dissolve this repression with patience and compassion. To talk to Scott about this work, visit...
2024-09-1820 minScott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingHow to Tell Someone to F*ck Off (Gracefully)Scott is in rare form, clarifying the difference between before and after emotional repression with regard to the timeless human experience of telling others to fu*k off. To work with Scott directly, visit https://kiloby.com/scott
2024-09-1627 minScott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingAngry Monks and Vulnerable Dictators - Where Are They?Scott humorously notes that you'll never find an angry monk or a vulnerable dictator. What we reject is often within us. By embracing all qualities that create separation, we find freedom and authenticity, instead of being trapped in dualistic mirrors. Listen to this light-hearted, impactful talk on true freedom. If you are interested in working with Scott, come talk to him for free: https://kiloby.com/scott
2024-09-1338 minScott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingBeyond the Habit of SufferingOur main habit of unconsciously seeking safety and love is like gravity - it always wins - until we make the unconscious conscious. Listen as Scott explains why some people develop a regular KI practice that ends suffering and brings authenticity and others don’t. The answer lies below the surface. To speak to Scott about the 90-day program he mentions in this episode, visit https://kiloby.com/scott.
2024-09-1133 minScott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingThe Secret Is BuriedWant to manifest success, love, good health, or freedom? The unconscious seeks only safety and love thereby thwarting our efforts. Your unrealized potential is waiting for you in the one place you l’re afraid to look. Scott shares the solution. To work with Scott directly, visit https://kiloby.com/scott.
2024-09-0929 minScott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingThe Source of SeekingScott points to how both our suffering and our efforts to alleviate it often come from the same hidden source. Discover his solution to this seemingly insurmountable doublebind! To work directly with Scott, visit https://kiloby.com/Scott.
2024-09-0528 minScott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingHow to End Suffering 101Scott discusses how the fundamental need to know ourselves as awareness and to allow it all doesn’t get met and we don’t want it to be met because we’re driven by an unconscious need to stay safe and get love. To work directly with Scott, visit https://kiloby.com/scott
2024-09-0137 minScott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from Suffering[Revised] The Future of K.I. - Unmet NeedsScott shares the future of K.I. and how unmet needs become unconscious demands. We create our own suffering. To work directly with Scott, visit https://kiloby.com/scott
2024-08-2333 minScott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingSomething Is Missing on the Avoidant Spiritual PathScott apologies for taking down the episode “The Future of K.I.” There were technical issues with that recording. He has replaced that with this episode and the episode called “Buying and Selling Safety on the Avoidant Spiritual Path.” All of this points to the future of K.I. To work with Scott l, visit https://kiloby.com/scott.
2024-08-2325 minScott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from Suffering[The Future of K.I.] Unmet Needs Become Unconscious Demands on OthersScott takes us to the next step in understanding how we create our own suffering. In this episode, Scott focuses on the three signs of an avoidant spiritual path, as well as how our unmet needs from childhood, when unexpressed, become unconscious demands on others. Visit Scott’s new site to see the services he is currently offering: https://kiloby.com/scott
2024-08-221h 00Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingTo All the Men I’ve Loved Before - A Post-Trauma Open Letter to My Ex’s (11 minutes)Scott shares an honest open letter to all of his past lovers - owning his part and sharing what drove him in those relationships. Listen to this unique five minute podcast special episode to see what life after clearing relationship trauma looks like for Scott. To learn 3D repression inquiry on your own, here’s our do-it-yourself-course which includes live group calls: https://kiloby.com/introduction-to-nrfs-course/. Here’s our seven day Mentorship Discovery Kit: https://kiloby.com/mentorship-discovery-kit/.
2024-08-2111 minScott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingHow Unmet Needs Become Unconscious Demands on OthersScott explains in this short podcast episode how unconscious, unmet needs from childhood are connected to buried emotions and how those needs, especially when unexpressed, become unconscious demands on others. Scott continues to lay out a roadmap for catching yourself on an avoidant spiritual path and discovering that ignoring unmet needs is like arguing in favor of more suffering. To learn 3D repression inquiry on your own, here’s our do-it-yourself-course which includes live group calls: https://kiloby.com/introduction-to-nrfs-course/. Here’s our seven day Mentorship Discovery Kit: https://kiloby.com/mentorship-discovery-kit/.
2024-08-2118 minScott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingThe Repression of the EmpathScott shares his personal transformation from being a very sensitive, introverted, and disconnected kid/adult to authenticity via emotional repression inquiry. Listen for unique insights around where our sensitivity really comes from and why some of us have to hide it. To learn 3D repression inquiry on your own, here’s our do-it-yourself-course which includes live group calls: https://kiloby.com/introduction-to-nrfs-course/. Here’s our seven day Mentorship Discovery Kit: https://kiloby.com/mentorship-discovery-kit/.
2024-08-1653 minScott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingCovert Agendas in Spirituality - 30 min podcast episodeScott picks up the brick at both ends of the emotional repression spectrum and the covert and overt agendas in teachers and helpers. When we are teaching or helping, we have to be concerned first with getting the log out of our own eye and processing any unconsciousness that drives us. If we fail to do that, we enable the continuation of the very suffering we seek to alleviate in others. To learn 3D repression inquiry on your own, here’s our do-it-yourself-course which includes live group calls: https://kiloby.com/introduction-to-nrfs-course/. Here’s our seven day Mentorship Discovery Kit...
2024-08-1435 minScott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingThe Radical TeachingScott shares a radical awakening path which departs significantly from what he would have called “radical” ten years ago. To learn 3D repression inquiry on your own, here’s our do-it-yourself-course which includes live group calls: https://kiloby.com/introduction-to-nrfs-course/. Here’s our seven day Mentorship Discovery Kit: https://kiloby.com/mentorship-discovery-kit/.
2024-08-091h 00Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingSomatic Testing - The Simplest Way to Spot Emotional Repression In Your Body.Scott shows listeners how to take everyday visible suffering like depression, addiction, pain, and resistance and see its connection to buried emotions. To learn KI repression inquiry on your own, here's our do-it-yourself-course which includes live group calls: https://kiloby.com/introduction-to-nrfs-course/. Here's ourseven day Mentorship Discovery Kit: https://kiloby.com/mentorship-discovery-kit/.
2024-08-081h 08Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingTop Ten Best Things About BoundariesAs an addition to the release of his podcast episode “Sick Good Boy,” Scott gives us his top ten list of great things about boundaries in relationship after a lifetime of anger or other emotional repression. To learn 3D repression inquiry on your own, here’s our do-it-yourself-course which includes live group calls: https://kiloby.com/introduction-to-nrfs-course/. Here’s our seven day Mentorship Discovery Kit: https://kiloby.com/mentorship-discovery-kit/.
2024-08-0609 minScott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingSICK GOOD BOY - How Being Good Was Bad For My Physical, Mental, & Emotional HealthScott shares about Goodism and tells his own story of being a good boy and holding anger back which led to a lifetime of falseness and suffering. All the bad parts come out in this episode where Scott pulls no punches to help those who can’t yet see that the social and relational rewards of being good, peaceful, nice, or perfect carry a massive dark side. To learn 3D repression inquiry on your own, here’s our do-it-yourself-course which includes live group calls: https://kiloby.com/introduction-to-nrfs-course/. Here’s our seven day Mentorship Discovery Kit: https://kiloby.com/mentorship-discovery-kit/.
2024-08-0656 minScott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingTroy Didn’t Trust Himself - A Story of Avoidance and BetrayalScott tells the short story of Troy and Sarah who both cheated on each other for the same reason but neither one could see the real reason. This special episode brings to light the issues discussed in Scott’s recent episode “The Avoidant’s Guide to Authentic Spirituality.” To learn 3D repression inquiry on your own, here’s our do-it-yourself-course which includes live group calls: https://kiloby.com/introduction-to-nrfs-course/. Here’s our seven day Mentorship Discovery Kit: https://kiloby.com/mentorship-discovery-kit/.
2024-07-3039 minScott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingThe Avoidant’s Guide to Authentic SpiritualityScott takes you first through a somatic test to reveal the avoidant programming in your body. He then shows how avoidance, avoidant attachment style, and avoidant personality disorder point to these core programs in the body for purposes of a practice. Scott then explains his guide to authenticity by inviting listeners to journal each day what is actually driving the avoidance. He gives specific inquiries so that you know exactly which programs are behind the pattern. He also explains how to see the “setup” in your own life - how you create suffering unconsciously through the avoidant programming which is conn...
2024-07-291h 16Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from Suffering(4 Min Story) Jean’s Self-Limiting Practice on Self-Limiting IdentitiesScott tells a very short story of working with Jean, a woman focused on how self-limiting identities seemed to be at the core of her suffering. Through a series of inquiries and questions, Jean begins to see that the real culprit is something buried beneath those self-limitations and that her practice itself was keeping her safe from ever getting to the root of things. This is a fictitious story and any resemblance to real life characters is purely coincidental. To learn 3D repression inquiry on your own, here’s our do-it-yourself-course which includes live group calls: https://kiloby.com/introduction-to-nrfs-course/. He...
2024-07-2204 minScott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingThe Case Against AwarenessScott makes the case against awareness and his prior teaching. To learn 3D repression inquiry on your own, here’s our do-it-yourself-course which includes live group calls: https://kiloby.com/introduction-to-nrfs-course/. Here’s our seven day Mentorship Discovery Kit: https://kiloby.com/mentorship-discovery-kit/. The characters in this podcast episode are fictitious and are not based on any real people.
2024-07-2242 min
Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingDom & Sub - A Story of Love & Unconscious Power DynamicsYou’ve never heard a love story like this before. Listen to this hour and a half unique episode where Scott explains very common unconscious emotional power dynamics through a simple story of two people who love each other as best as they can from the trauma that drives them. In this story, Scott takes us through a fictitious story about transformation and how it deeply impacts not only the person experiencing the transformation but also everyone around them. This story touches upon sex, shame, authority issues, addiction, depression, powerlessness, and trauma. In the last segment, Scott explains the set up...
2024-07-161h 29
Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingThe Secret Behind the SecretDid you know that there’s a secret behind the secret? When it comes to manifesting what you want or living in flow or abundance, we absolutely block ourselves from the level of emotional repression. Because repression is buried, we have no idea that that’s where our blocks are coming from. Listen as Scott illuminates the secret behind the secret, which then allows anyone who is earnest to end self-sabotage and have the life that they truly want. To learn 3D repression inquiry on your own, here’s our do-it-yourself-course which includes live group calls: https://kiloby.com/introduction-to-nrfs-course/. Here’s...
2024-07-0918 min
Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingEmotional Repression - We Buried the Real Story of Our Lives (Special Episode)Listen to an intimate and human account of how emotional repression runs our lives. Scott Kiloby is teaching in a new way, telling the hidden narrative of our lives from the unconscious level.
Jack and Jill didn’t run up the hill. Jack went to rehab while Jill bamboozled herself by never getting to the root of her suffering. Listen for the first time as Scott tells everyone’s story and illuminates not only how we create our own suffering but also how we hide that from ourselves so that it will continue.
To learn 3D repression inquiry on your own...
2024-07-0653 min
Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingThe Origin of Control - You Can’t Squeeze Blood from a TurnipWelcome to season two of Scott Kiloby’s podcast. A lot of unique and controversial topics are coming. In this episode, Scott takes us on a wild ride through all the intricacies of control and where it comes from in relationship. Weaving in stories of how he groomed people as a non-dual teacher, Scott gets really personal on the topic of how do people actually transform? If you knew that all of your efforts to control or change others were entirely futile, you would drop those efforts immediately. The issue is, you can’t as long as you have emotional repr...
2024-07-0231 min
Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingFree Nonduality - #9 - Treasures and Traps of Spiritual PracticeIn this special bonus episode, Scott bridges his teaching here on podcast with his recent free non-duality teaching on YouTube. Scott goes into great detail on how and why people pick up practices that give them benefit while also solidifying a deeply unconscious fear-based habit of avoidance. Proposing a practice that doesn’t send us on a bypass, Scott reiterates the 2D inquiries he teaches on YouTube that touch deeply enough into the root of suffering so as not to be just another unskillful or unproductive journey. But there’s a caveat. Listen and find out! To learn 3D repression inqu...
2024-06-171h 45
Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingMaking Self-Realization Authentic - A New Nondual PathUsing a simple and practical context, Scott Kiloby explains Natural Recovery from Suffering and how the work can lead to self-realization. Although that may sound lofty, the realization - when embodied - ends up being simply an authentic human who no longer suffers. Take this free repression test to get started on this path: https://nrfs.co/znnj
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Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from SufferingIntroducing Scott Kiloby’s First Podcast SeriesAfter sixteen years of teaching, Scott is super-excited to begin his first podcast series. In this two minute podcast, Scott explains his excitement and some of the topics he intends to cover.
2023-12-1302 min