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Robot UnicornRejection Sensitivity And Discipline For Sensitive Kids (Part 2)Is your child an 'orchid' who thrives in the right environment but wilts under pressure? In part 2 of our sensitive kids series, Jess and Scott unpack the powerful 'orchid vs. dandelion' child metaphor, explaining the science behind why your parenting has a profound impact on a sensitive child. They discuss rejection sensitivity, revealing why your child might hide under a table after a simple correction, and why the common advice to 'toughen up' is so damaging, especially for boys. Tune in to learn authoritative, connection-based strategies that turn your child’s sensitivity from a challenge into their greatest strength....
2025-11-2435 minRobot UnicornIs My Child Highly Sensitive? (Part 1)Do you have a child who has epic meltdowns over seemingly small things, such as a shirt tag or a flushing toilet? In part 1 of our 3-part sensitive kids series, Jess and Scott dive deep into the world of the sensitive child, explaining the three core temperaments that kids are born with. They discuss why sensitivity is an innate trait, not something parents cause. Tune in to learn how to nurture resilience and hear about the surprising overlap between high sensitivity and ADHD diagnoses in young children.Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable...
2025-11-1743 minRobot UnicornIn-Laws Stressing You Out? An Expert's Guide To Setting BoundariesIn this episode, Jess is joined by well-known psychologist and couples therapist Dr. Tracy Dalgleish to tackle one of the most common relationship stressors: In-laws. Dr. Tracy breaks down why this dynamic is so challenging and why it's often easier for a husband to argue with his wife than to set a boundary with his mom. Listen to learn the true definition of a boundary (it's not what you think!), how to shift from 'you vs. me' to a united team with your partner, and gain actionable strategies to navigate family gatherings with confidence and peace.
2025-11-101h 00Robot UnicornHow Do I Stop My Child From Whining?In this episode, Jess and Scott dive into why whining triggers such a visceral fight-or-flight reaction in parents and how to manage your own nervous system first. Learn how to uncover the real needs behind the whining. You'll walk away with proactive strategies and a deeper understanding of your child.Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at Nurtured First using the code ROBOTUNICORN.We’d love to hear from you! Have questions you want us to answer on Robot Unicorn? Send us an email: podcast@robotunicorn.net.
2025-11-0328 minRobot Unicorn“I Only Want Mommy!!”: Understanding Parental PreferenceWhy do children sometimes show a clear preference for one parent over the other? In this episode, Jess and Scott explore the psychology and science of parental preference. Drawing on attachment theory, developmental research, and family dynamics studies, we break down why children choose favourites, what influences these patterns, and how parents can respond in ways that strengthen connection, reduce conflict, and support healthy development.Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at Nurtured First using the code ROBOTUNICORN.We’d love to hear from you! Have questions yo...
2025-10-2728 minRobot UnicornFriendship For Girls: Drama, Cliques, And Learning To BelongWhy do friendship conflicts feel so catastrophic for young girls? This week, Jess and Scott dive deep into the complex world of girl friendship drama, exploring why the tween and teen years are a hotbed for relational aggression like gossip, exclusion, and social maneuvering. Learn the crucial difference between normal conflict and bullying that requires your intervention. This episode is packed with insights and practical tips on becoming a 'friendship coach' for your daughter and supporting her in building resilient, healthy relationships.Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at Nurtured First using...
2025-10-2050 minRobot UnicornHow To Use Playfulness As A Powerful Parenting ToolIn this episode, Jess and Scott dive into the incredible power of shifting from a serious, stern approach to a playful one. They explore the brain science behind why play is a child's natural language, making them more receptive and cooperative. Discover the crucial difference between being playful and permissive, and learn how to maintain firm boundaries while still having fun. You'll leave with a toolbox of practical, easy-to-use strategies to transform stressful moments into opportunities for connection, even if you don't consider yourself a 'playful' person.For more on playful parenting, check out...
2025-10-1351 minRobot UnicornQ&A: ADHD, Skeptical Partners, and Staying Connected After KidsWe're opening up the floor and answering your most-asked questions in this listener Q&A episode. We get personal about our recent ADHD diagnoses and how neurodivergence shows up differently for each of us in our marriage. Join us as we explore the heart-wrenching 'birthday sadness' of watching kids grow up, share our journey of getting a skeptical partner on board with a new parenting style, and offer our top tip for staying connected amidst the chaos. This episode is packed with stories, a little F1 banter, and real-life insights for any parent navigating similar challenges.
2025-10-0635 minRobot Unicorn“I’m Being Consistent With My Discipline - Why Isn’t It Working?”Ever feel like the advice to 'just be consistent' isn't working for your family? In this episode, Jess and Scott dive into the power of 'flexible consistency' and why adapting to your child's needs is just as important as holding boundaries. They discuss how to shift your mindset from 'Why won't my child listen?' to 'Why can't they?', exploring concepts like temperament, skills gaps, and behaviour as communication. Learn how to become a 'behaviour detective' to understand the real reason behind your child's actions and move from frustration to a deeper, more effective connection.
2025-09-2948 minRobot UnicornHow To Handle Big After-School MeltdownsWhy is your child perfect at school, only to completely fall apart the moment they get home? This episode dives deep into the common but misunderstood phenomenon of 'After-School Restraint Collapse.' Jess and Scott will help you understand that these explosions are a sign that your child feels safest with you, and give you practical strategies—from co-regulation to creating a 'soft landing'—to help your child decompress and turn these challenging moments into opportunities for connection.Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at Nurtured First using the code ROBOTUNICORN.We...
2025-09-2240 minRobot UnicornWhy Are Some Kids So Strong-Willed And Stubborn!? (REVISIT)In this episode, Scott and Jess revisit a previous episode on strong-willed kids and add new commentary, insights, and stories to help parents understand and connect with their strong-willed kids. Jess and Scott share practical, respectful strategies to transform power struggles into moments of understanding, helping you become the confident, curious leader your child needs. Learn how to work with your child’s nature, not against it, and build a relationship that fosters cooperation instead of conflict.Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at Nurtured First using the...
2025-09-1547 minRobot UnicornHow To Talk To Kids About Death, Suicide, And Other Difficult TopicsCW: Death, Suicide, Tragedy, DivorceThis week, Jess and Scott tackle difficult conversations: death, suicide, divorce, loss, and tragedy in the news. Drawing from Scott's personal experience with suicide in his family and Jess's expertise as a child therapist, they offer a raw and honest guide to navigating these tricky topics. Listeners will learn the biggest mistakes well-intentioned parents make, why you should never use euphemisms like "went to sleep," and how to support your child (and yourself) through grief. This episode provides the tools you need to handle life's hardest moments with grace...
2025-09-0837 minRobot UnicornLetting Kids Use AI: Smart Move Or Serious Mistake?Is AI a helpful tool or a 'Terminator' situation waiting to happen? In this episode, Jess finally gets to interview Scott as they tackle the complex world of AI safety for kids. They break down the different types of AI your child interacts with daily and reveal the hidden psychological risks. This episode will help you feel more empowered and less anxious about guiding your children through the new digital landscape. Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at Nurtured First using the code ROBOTUNICORN.We’d love to...
2025-09-0148 minRobot UnicornAre You On Your Phone Too Much In Front Of Your Kids?Ever feel a pang of guilt when you look up from your phone to see your child has moved on? You're not alone. In this episode, Jess and Scott tackle the 'parents' paradox', how our phones are both a lifeline and a major source of distraction. They explore the 'digital still face' effect on our kids and the science behind why apps are so hard to put down. Tune in for practical, compassion-focused strategies to break the cycle, reduce your screen time, and reclaim real, meaningful connection with your family.Get 10% OFF parenting courses...
2025-08-2552 minRobot Unicorn“But My Friend’s Parents Let Them…Why Can’t I?”What do you do when your child hits you with the classic line, "But my friend's parents let them!"? This episode tackles the universal parenting challenge of setting and upholding family rules. You'll walk away with practical strategies to communicate your rules effectively, offer choices within boundaries, and build a collaborative family team without giving up your leadership role.Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at Nurtured First using the code ROBOTUNICORN.We’d love to hear from you! Have questions you want us to answer on Ro...
2025-08-1850 minRobot UnicornBiblical Discipline, Deconstruction, And Belonging with Kate BowlerJess sits down with Kate Bowler, historian, pastor, and New York Times bestselling author, to explore parenting, faith, and religious deconstruction. They unpack the history of harsh discipline like sparing the rod, question the idea of biblical discipline, and wrestle with whether kids are inherently sinful. This compassionate conversation offers space to question long-held beliefs, understand the pain of inauthentic belonging, and discover a faith grounded in love and grace, not just rules.Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at Nurtured First using the code ROBOTUNICORN.We’d...
2025-08-111h 09Robot UnicornShould We Force Kids To Say Sorry And Forgive Each Other?Are you tired of forcing your kids to say 'I'm sorry,' only to see them repeat the same behaviour an hour later? In this episode, Jess and Scott dissect the common parenting trap of forced apologies and, more surprisingly, forced forgiveness. They explore why simply demanding these magic words can be meaningless and even teach children to override their own feelings. Discover practical, empathy-building strategies, like action-oriented repair, to move beyond the empty 'sorry' and guide your children toward genuine understanding and stronger relationships.Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at...
2025-08-0434 minRobot UnicornThe Impact Of Birth Order: What All Parents Need To UnderstandAre firstborns natural leaders, and the youngest the rebellious baby? Jess and Scott dismantle the popular—and surprisingly persistent—myths surrounding birth order. Scott shares fascinating research that reveals birth order's impact on personality and intelligence is almost non-existent. They explore the research on birth order and discuss the far more powerful forces that shape who our children become, including genetics, socioeconomic status, and most importantly, your parenting style. Tune in to free yourself from stereotypes and learn what truly matters in raising unique individuals.Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at Nurt...
2025-07-281h 00Robot UnicornThe Tween Years: Peers, Embarrassment, And BelongingIn this episode, Jess and Scott unpack the normal but challenging issues that arise in the tween years. They explore the fascinating science of the developing adolescent brain—explaining why teens have a 'powerful accelerator but underdeveloped brakes'—and discuss the crucial quest for identity that causes them to pull away. Learn how to shift from being a 'manager' to a 'coach,' build a 'social immune system' for your child, and, most importantly, how to stay connected even when they try to push you away.Listen to the episodes Jess and Scott mention in t...
2025-07-2146 minRobot UnicornEveryone Needs Me—But I'm DrowningInspired by a listener's email, this episode dives into the parts of parenting that often go undiscussed. Jess and Scott move beyond simplistic 'self-care' advice to explore realistic ways to nurture yourself amidst the chaos, especially when you feel burnt out and unsupported. Learn the critical difference between being tired and true burnout, discover how to effectively repair your relationship after you've lost your cool, and understand why self-compassion might be the most powerful tool a parent has.Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at Nurtured First using the code ROBOTUNICORN.
2025-07-141h 02Robot UnicornWhat Every Parent Needs To Know About Sibling ConflictTired of being the referee in constant sibling battles? This episode tackles a listener's question about managing the chaos of sibling play, especially between toddlers and preschoolers. We explore the developmental science behind why forcing a two-year-old to share is often a recipe for disaster. Discover a powerful mindset shift from being a frustrated 'referee' to an effective 'coach' who guides children through conflict. Learn practical strategies for fair turn-taking and how to build a loving, supportive team dynamic that will help your kids' relationship flourish for years to come.Listen to the impulse...
2025-07-0733 minRobot UnicornThe Truth Behind Swearing And Rude Language In KidsWhen your sweet child suddenly starts using shocking language, it can be deeply unsettling - but this episode explains why it's often a normal developmental phase rather than a character flaw. Jess and Scott explore how children transition from physical to verbal aggression as they grow, and why words like 'stupid,' 'I hate you,' or even cursing serve different purposes from getting attention to expressing big emotions. You'll learn practical strategies for responding without accidentally reinforcing rude language, how to maintain boundaries without shaming, and the fascinating connection between ADHD and verbal o...
2025-06-3046 minRobot UnicornAre Timeouts Really Evidence-Based?Jess and Scott dive deep into the controversial topic of timeouts, examining whether they're truly the evidence-based discipline method many claim. They explore how typical timeout implementation can potentially harm parent-child attachment and fail to teach children the emotional regulation skills they need. Listeners will gain insights into more developmentally appropriate alternatives like 'time-ins' and learn how to critically evaluate evidence-based parenting claims by asking: 'evidence-based for what outcome, under what conditions, and with what potential trade-offs?'Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at Nurtured First u...
2025-06-2333 minRobot UnicornThe Research All Parents Need To Know About PunishmentsJess and Scott break down what research says about approaches like spanking, harsh verbal discipline, threats and bribes — and why authoritative parenting (balancing warmth with structure) leads to better outcomes.This episode is perfect for parents who are curious about non-punitive strategies or who want to raise cooperative kids without relying on fear or control.If you want to learn more about parenting without punishments, check out the Parenting Little Kids course here. Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at Nurtured First using the code ROBOTUNICORN....
2025-06-161h 06Robot UnicornThe Impact Of Social Media, Gaming And Smartphones On KidsA must-listen episode for ALL parents and educators. Jess and Scott tackle the complex world of smartphones and social media use, sharing both research-backed concerns and practical guidance for parents. They explore the fine line between allowing kids to develop necessary digital skills and protecting their developing brains from content that can significantly impact their mental health and social development. Listeners will gain strategies for setting appropriate boundaries, communicating decisions effectively to children, and modelling healthy digital habits that prepare kids for a world where technology is unavoidable but navigable.
2025-06-091h 03Robot UnicornImpulse Control: What Every Parent Needs To KnowJess and Scott dive deep into the science of impulse control in children, explaining why little ones struggle to control their impulses and how parents can effectively support this critical developmental process. They explore brain development across different age groups—from toddlers who are "completely run by impulses" to teens experiencing a rush of emotions while their logical brain struggles to catch up. Listeners will gain practical, science-backed approaches to help navigate impulsive behaviours, understand the "why" behind children's actions, and learn how to balance setting boundaries with maintaining the warm connection that makes chi...
2025-06-0256 minRobot UnicornWhy Kids Need Boredom Now More Than EverJess and Scott dive into the often-misunderstood topic of boredom and its crucial role in child development. They explore why parents fear their children being bored, how screens have become the default solution to downtime, and the surprising developmental benefits that emerge when children learn to navigate unstructured time. You’ll learn practical strategies for teaching children to transform boredom into creativity, including Jess' approach of "getting the good going" and mindfulness techniques for all ages. Whether you're a parent concerned about excessive screen time or an adult who's forgotten how to simply be pre...
2025-05-2656 minRobot UnicornI Love My Kids, But I Resent My Partner—Now What? With Dr. Tracy DIn this insightful episode, psychologist and couples expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish joins Jess to discuss the often unspoken challenges couples face after having children. Dr. Tracy shares both professional expertise and personal vulnerability as she explains why 69% of couples experience a decline in relationship satisfaction after having children, and offers practical strategies for addressing resentment, improving communication, and maintaining connection. Hear more from Dr. Tracy Dalgleish on Instagram. Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at Nurtured First using the code ROBOTUNICORN.We’d lo...
2025-05-1949 minRobot UnicornHow To Reparent Yourself While Raising Your KidsJess and Scott dive deep into reparenting – the art of healing ourselves so that we can show up more authentically as parents. They discuss breaking negative generational patterns, managing guilt and perfectionism, and the power of repair through genuine apologies and behaviour change. You’ll learn practical tools for identifying personal triggers, embracing self-care, and building more secure, trusting relationships with your children. Whether you’re struggling with the pressure to be a “perfect” parent or simply seeking reassurance that your efforts to improve are making a difference, this episode offers a warm, supportive guide for nurturing both yourself and your k...
2025-05-1236 minRobot UnicornPart 2: Trust, Skepticism, And Betrayal: How To Build TrustJess and Scott dive deep into the complexities of trust and healthy skepticism—from childhood friendships to the evolving dynamics of teen and adult relationships. They discuss how children test trust in their early years and the delicate balance between seeking belonging and remaining authentic. The episode offers practical strategies for staying connected with your teen, rebuilding trust after betrayal, and modelling authenticity to your kids. Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at Nurtured First using the code ROBOTUNICORN.We’d love to hear from you! Have quest...
2025-05-0542 minRobot UnicornPart 1: Trust, Skepticism, And Betrayal: Teaching Kids To TrustInside this vulnerable and emotional episode, Jess and Scott talk about how painful betrayal is and how we can learn to trust others. They talk about the difference between healthy skepticism and cynicism. Whether you’re navigating your own trust issues or seeking to give your children the tools for discerning safe from unsafe, this episode offers a combination of heartfelt reflection, evidence-based insights, and practical parenting tips. If you want support teaching your child about red flags in relationships, safe and tricky people, standing up for themselves and more, check out our Body Saf...
2025-04-2852 minRobot UnicornHow To Build Resilience Without TraumaShould you force your kids to do hard things? Does a little trauma make your kids more resilient? Is it true that whatever doesn’t kill you makes you stronger? In this episode, Jess and Scott tackle these questions, teaching the audience how to build resilient children without traumatizing them. Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at Nurtured First using the code ROBOTUNICORN.We’d love to hear from you! Have questions you want us to answer on Robot Unicorn? Send us an email: podcast@robotunicorn.net.
2025-04-211h 02Robot UnicornHow To Talk To Kids About Disabled PeopleIn this episode of Robot Unicorn, Jess and Scott sit down with their close friend and colleague, Brooklyn Marx, a disabled psychotherapist, to explore how to talk about disability honestly and openly with children. Brooklyn shares her personal journey with Spinal Muscular Atrophy (SMA), the challenges of growing up with a disability, and the evolution of her personal identity.Whether you’re a disabled parent, a parent of a disabled child, or simply someone interested in nurturing inclusivity, this episode provides real-world advice and heartfelt insights that encourage us all to view disability as a...
2025-04-141h 11Robot UnicornHow To Be The Leader Your Child NeedsJess and Scott dive deep into what it means to be the leader your child truly needs—especially when faced with the challenge of raising kids who are often labelled as angry, defiant, or difficult. Whether you’re struggling with setting boundaries or simply seeking to understand your child’s emotional world, Jess and Scott provide a roadmap to help you lead with empathy, consistency, and a lot of heart. If you want to hear more about being the leader your child needs, check out our interviews with Dr. MacNamara and Dr. Neufeld: Beyond...
2025-04-0737 minRobot UnicornBeyond Food: A New Way To Look At Picky Eating And Mealtimes with Dr. Deborah MacNamaraFriends, you don’t want to miss this episode. The one and only Dr. MacNamara joins Jess and Scott to dive deep into the topic of food.Discover why nourishment is far more than just calories—it’s about love, care, and the rituals that bring families together. Dr. MacNamara shares compelling research and personal stories that reveal how non-coercive, provider-led approaches can turn picky eating into a journey of growth and connection. Hear more from Dr. MacNamara in her books: Nourished: Connection, Food, and Caring for Our Kids (A...
2025-03-241h 03Robot UnicornSchool Refusal, Anxiety, And Separation StrugglesScott and Jess dive into the pressing issue of school refusal—a challenge affecting children of all ages. They explore the roots of this behaviour, from the natural separation anxiety seen in toddlers to the compounded social, academic, and emotional pressures faced by older children. They also discuss how parental anxiety can inadvertently reinforce a child’s reluctance to attend school. You’ll get tools to understand, support, and nurture your child through these challenging times. If you are looking for more resources to support your child through school refusal, anxiety and separation struggles, we can...
2025-03-1738 minRobot UnicornHow To Help Your Angry ChildScott and Jess explore anger in children (and adults), breaking down why children get angry, how anger is often masked by other emotions, and the role of genetics and environment in shaping behaviour. The episode provides hope for parents struggling with intergenerational anger and practical tools for helping kids learn to cope with overwhelming emotions. If you want to help your child learn tools to cope with their anger, check out The Anger Toolkit here. Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at Nurtured First using the code RO...
2025-03-1056 minRobot Unicorn5 Love Languages: Are They Helpful Or Harmful?Scott and Jess take a deep dive into the popular "Five Love Languages" concept and reveal why this relationship framework might be too simplistic for real-life emotional connection. Jess and Scott cover topics like: codependency, attachment styles, and building trust in relationships. Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at Nurtured First using the code ROBOTUNICORN.We’d love to hear from you! Have questions you want us to answer on Robot Unicorn? Send us an email: podcast@robotunicorn.net. Credits:Edit...
2025-03-0354 minRobot UnicornWhy Children Lie: And What To Do About ItIn this episode, Jess and Scott explore the reasons why children lie and how to help them stop lying. Drawing on personal anecdotes and developmental insights, they explain how different forms of lying emerge as natural parts of childhood while also sharing practical strategies to build a trusting, curiosity-driven relationship with your child. Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at Nurtured First using the code ROBOTUNICORN.We’d love to hear from you! Have questions you want us to answer on Robot Unicorn? Send us an email: pod...
2025-02-2448 minRobot UnicornHow To Become A Playful ParentThis episode of Robot Unicorn is packed with practical ideas that will help you become a more playful parent. On a deeper note, you’ll also learn how to reflect on your own childhood experiences, make sense of the burnout you are feeling, and learn how to bring play back into your life. This is one of Jess and Scott’s favourite episodes to date! Tune in for laughter, heartfelt stories, and actionable ideas that promise to make family life a little more magical.For easy games and playful tools to do with your kids...
2025-02-1753 minRobot UnicornTalking To Kids About Puberty, Porn, And Social Media (Part 2)In part 2 of our puberty series, Jess and Scott discuss the critical intersection of social media, body image, and puberty. They explore how parents can navigate challenging conversations around online content, unrealistic body expectations, and protecting children during this vulnerable developmental stage. They provide practical strategies for parents to have ongoing dialogues about puberty even when they haven't personally experienced what their child is going through. Listen to part 1 of our puberty series here. Get our brand new puberty toolkit for 10% off here using the code ROBOTUNICORN. ...
2025-02-1037 minRobot UnicornTalking To Kids About Puberty, Periods, and Sex (Part 1)In part 1 of our puberty series, Jess and Scott talk about how to have difficult conversations with kids about sex, puberty, periods, and changing bodies. You’ll learn how to talk to your kids about puberty without taking away their innocence or making them feel shame. Get our brand new puberty toolkit for 10% off using the code ROBOTUNICORN. We’d love to hear from you! Have questions you want us to answer on Robot Unicorn? Send us an email: podcast@robotunicorn.net. Credits:Editi...
2025-02-0347 minRobot UnicornFriendship StrugglesIn this episode, Jess and Scott discuss common friendship struggles, bullying, and how to help kids solve problems in their friendships. They also discuss their own experiences with friends growing up. Listeners will get practical takeaways to help them cultivate healthy friendships with their kids. Want more? Check out this episode on kids’ friendships. Or, grab the Friendship Toolkit for 10% OFF using the code ROBOTUNICORN. We’d love to hear from you! Have questions you want us to answer on Robot Unicorn? Send us an emai...
2025-01-2746 minRobot UnicornHow Do You Stop Yourself From Yelling At Your Kids?In this episode, Jess and Scott dive deep into the complexities of parental anger and yelling sparked by a controversial social media post.They explore cycle-breaking, emotional regulation, and practical strategies for staying calm with kids. They share their personal experiences - Scott as someone who broke generational trauma patterns and Jess as a parent working through postpartum struggles. Listeners will gain valuable insights on visualizing the parent they want to be, understanding their triggers, and the power of repair after losing your cool. Th...
2025-01-2033 minRobot UnicornHow Can I Help My Worried Child?In this episode, Jess and Scott discuss how to support anxious or worried kids. Jess, a psychotherapist, shares the "Mind Table" concept - a powerful tool for helping children manage anxiety and difficult emotions. She shares the story of her own daughter's fears and explains how visualizing different emotions as characters sitting around a table can help kids externalize and cope with their worries.Jess and Scott explore why this approach works so well for children and how it differs from simply suppressing emotions. They also include practical tips for parents supporting anxious kids.Listeners...
2025-01-1335 minRobot UnicornIs Screen Time Terrible?Jess and Scott break down the nuanced reality of giving your kids screen time through personal experiences and research-backed insights about gaming, social media, and device use, offering practical guidance for parents.Key takeaways include the importance of being present during screen time, understanding age-appropriate limits, and protecting children through clear boundaries rather than expecting them to self-regulate.Whether you're struggling with screen time battles or trying to make informed decisions about devices and social media for your kids, this episode provides valuable perspective on finding balance in our digital world.Get 10% OFF...
2025-01-0655 minRobot UnicornHow To Set Realistic Parenting Goals For 2025Scott and Jess have a candid discussion about New Year's resolutions and goal-setting, particularly through the lens of parenting and personal growth.They share their plans to prioritize family dinners, create more one-on-one time with each of their three children, and discuss how to teach their kids about resilience and nuanced thinking in an increasingly polarized world.Jess opens up about her journey with people-pleasing and burnout, while Scott reflects on finding balance between his drive for constant learning and the need to slow down.Listeners will gain valuable insights about setting meaningful...
2024-12-3048 minRobot UnicornGrieving Over The Holidays With Libby WardCW: Death, suicide, miscarriageGrieving over the holidays can feel all-consuming and complex. Today, Jess and Scott are joined by returning guest Libby for a raw and honest conversation about navigating grief during the holiday season. They discuss various forms of grief, from the loss of loved ones to mourning relationships with living family members who are estranged or there is a complex relationship.Libby shares her experience losing her father three years ago around Christmas, while Scott opens up about childhood trauma and his grandfather's death. Listeners will gain valuable insights on coping strategies...
2024-12-231h 07Robot UnicornAre You Raising An Entitled Kid?In this episode, Scott and Jess discuss raising resilient children who are not entitled, a common concern they hear from people who are skeptical about the style of parenting Jess teaches.They explore how allowing children to experience natural disappointments and frustrations - while providing emotional support - actually helps develop crucial coping skills. Through practical examples like saying no to extra juice boxes and managing screen time boundaries, they demonstrate how parents can validate feelings while still maintaining limits.Key takeaways from this episode include: The importance of letting kids engage in appropriate...
2024-12-1644 minRobot UnicornShould We Tell Kids Santa Is Real?In this episode, Jess and Scott tackle the polarizing topic of Santa Claus and holiday traditions as they answer the question: "Should we tell kids Santa is real?” They explore different approaches to discussing Santa with children - from treating him as a real person to presenting him as an imaginative character - all while emphasizing the importance of maintaining trust and connection with our kids.Jess and Scott share valuable insights on fostering genuine gratitude during gift-giving, managing children's expectations and behaviours during holiday celebrations, and navigating family dynamics when different belief systems clash.Th...
2024-12-0939 minRobot UnicornThe Hidden Cost Of Keeping Kids BusyIn this episode, Scott and Jess explore the importance of creativity and play - both for children and adults.From strategies for protecting children’s creative spirits to understanding how play helps kids process their experiences to how they are beginning to rekindle their own sense of playfulness as busy parents, this episode is full of practical strategies and insights into the importance of play and creativity both for kids and adults.Jess finishes off the episode with a guided mindfulness exercise, offering a moment of calm reflection on finding a balance between productivity and cr...
2024-12-0251 minRobot UnicornHow To Talk To Kids About Food And Body ImageIn this heartfelt and thought-provoking episode, hosts Scott and Jess explore the complex relationship between food, parenting, and childhood development. Inspired by a viral social media post about body image and food messaging, they explore how parents can foster healthy relationships with food by focusing on family rituals, mindful eating, and meaningful connection rather than restriction.Jess and Scott share personal experiences, including their own family dinner traditions and weekend donut rituals. They reveal how food struggles often point to unmet relational needs and offer practical ways to approach these challenges with empathy and understanding....
2024-11-2538 minRobot UnicornIs Teaching Your Partner About Parenting Exhausting You?In this episode, Jess and Scott answer a listener's question about sharing the mental load of parenting. Jess talks about times when she felt like she carried most of the mental load and how Scott and her now split the work of parenting. They discuss the challenges of balancing roles, especially when one parent feels like the default decision-maker, educator, and emotional support.Key takeaways for listeners include: How to approach conversations about mental load in a way that strengthens your partnership. Strategies to encourage reluctant partners to engage more fully in the parenting journey. Ideas...
2024-11-1841 minRobot UnicornIs It Ok To Tease Your Kids?In this laughter-filled episode, Scott and Jess dive into the delicate balance of teasing and playfulness with kids. They discuss how to be playful without going too far, share hilarious stories about their family's creative characters like "Sean" the hand puppet, and provide practical tips for connecting with children through humour.Some important topics discussed in the episode include: Recognizing how a child's understanding of humour develops with age Respecting boundaries around teasing Using playfulness as a tool to connect with kids and diffuse tense situationsListeners will gain valuable strategies for bringing more fun...
2024-11-1140 minRobot UnicornDo Parents Really Love All Their Kids The Same?In this episode, Jess and Scott dive into the challenges of parenting multiple children and giving each child the love and attention they need.Inspired by a viral social media post, they explore topics like balancing attention between babies and older kids, feelings of guilt and defensiveness as parents, and how children crave connection at all ages.They provide helpful tips for recognizing children's bids for quality time, healing past parenting missteps, and finding small moments to connect amidst the chaos of family life.This heartfelt discussion offers both validation and practical tips...
2024-11-0424 minRobot UnicornHow Can I Protect My Kids From Sexual Abuse?CW: Sexual abuse, grooming, sex-related topicsAfter hearing news about a case of sexual abuse in their community, Jess and Scott are sitting down and answering listener questions about how to talk to kids about body safety and consent in a way that won’t scare kids and will protect them.They provide practical advice for parents on how to have age-appropriate conversations about consent, private parts, and safe/unsafe touches without instilling fear. Some of the specific topics they address include: At what age you should start having these conversations The power of us...
2024-10-2845 minRobot UnicornThe #1 Reason Men Are Silently Struggling With Mental Health with Samir MouraniIn this powerful episode, Scott and Jess are joined by Samir Mourani to have an open and vulnerable conversation about men's mental health. They discuss their personal experiences with anxiety, depression, and emotional breakdowns, sharing how they've worked to overcome societal pressures that discourage men from expressing emotions.A few important topics covered in the episode include: The importance of having close male friendships where you can be vulnerable How bottling up emotions often leads to them coming out as anger later Ways to model healthy masculinity and emotional expression for children The healing power of...
2024-10-211h 03Robot UnicornQ&A: Jess And Scott Get Real About Anxiety, Disagreements, And Personal StrugglesIn this fun and casual Q&A episode, Jess and Scott answer listener questions and give you a peek behind the curtain of their lives and relationship.Discover Scott's favourite quality about Jess, hear about their most rewarding parenting moments and learn how they handle disagreements. They share vulnerable insights about managing social anxiety as public figures and discuss mindset shifts that help them appreciate the challenges of parenting.With plenty of laughs and a few deep moments, this episode offers a chance to get to know Jess and Scott on a more personal level...
2024-10-1439 minRobot UnicornHow Much Do Friendships Matter For Our Kids?Jess and Scott discuss the delicate balance between nurturing children's friendships and maintaining strong parent-child bonds. They discuss the concept of peer orientation, share personal experiences, and offer practical advice for parents navigating their children's social worlds.Key insights include:1. The importance of modelling healthy relationships at home2. How to recognize signs of unhealthy peer orientation3. Strategies for prioritizing family time while supporting friendshipsWhether you're concerned about your child's social life or simply want to foster positive relationships, this episode provides valuable guidance for parents with kids of...
2024-10-0734 minRobot UnicornIs It Ok To Say 'No' To Your Kids?In this solo episode, Jess shares her reflections on a recent conversation she had. The conversation was about whether or not children should hear the word “no” and how parents who follow “this new wave of gentle parenting” are no longer the leaders in their homes.In the episode, Jess shares her thoughts on this view and tackles a common misconception about gentle parenting - that it's too permissive and doesn't allow for setting boundaries. She explains the crucial differences between permissive, authoritarian, and authoritative parenting styles, emphasizing that effective discipline combines warmth with firm boundaries.Jess s...
2024-09-3027 minRobot UnicornWhat Do I Do When My Child Hits?In this solo episode, Jess answers a listener's question. She explores how to become curious about and respond to children’s challenging behaviours like hitting. She breaks down four key reasons why children may hit and provides practical strategies for addressing each root cause.In the episode, Jess covers: How to get curious about why your child is hitting (or engaging in other challenging behaviours) Proactive ways to meet children's needs before hitting occurs How to respond to the big feelings that come after you’ve set a boundary around hitting Recognizing that there’s no one-si...
2024-09-2331 minRobot Unicorn"As A Skeptic Husband, I Couldn't See The Value In Gentle Parenting." A Conversation With Our FriendIn this episode, Jess and Scott sit down with their good friend Josh to discuss the changes he’s made in his parenting style over the last six years. Josh candidly shares his experience raising his highly sensitive son. He talks about how a more traditional approach to discipline wasn’t working and his original skepticism around gentle parenting. This episode is packed with insights for fathers (and parents in general) who might be struggling to find effective ways to discipline without resorting to punitive methods.Listeners will hear about: Josh’s initial resistance to “gentle parentin...
2024-09-1655 minRobot UnicornThe #1 Reason Kids (And Adults) Cling, Whine and Act OutIn this important episode, Jess and Scott dive deep into the root cause of challenging behaviours in both children and adults: separation. Jess explains how our core need for closeness drives many of our reactions, from clingy children to angry adults.Jess shares some eye-opening insights on: Why behaviours like clinging, whining, and crying happen Why kids are so angry all the time Why common parenting strategies make behaviour worse How separation emotions manifest as frantic pursuit, anger, and eventually apathy Why "attention-seeking" behaviours are actually attempts to reconnect The importance of allowing children (and ourselves...
2024-09-0934 minRobot UnicornWhy Does Childhood Trauma Impact Your Parenting? With Dr. CotlerIn this insightful episode, clinical psychologist Dr. Tanya Cotler joins Jess and Scott to explore the complexities of intergenerational trauma and cycle-breaking in parenting. Dr. Cotler shares her expertise on how childhood experiences shape our parenting, the importance of curiosity and compassion in understanding our triggers, and practical ways to build self-awareness and cope with parenting challenges.Listeners will gain valuable insights on: How our bodies hold onto past traumas and how they can resurface in parenting The concept of "repair mapping" to reflect on difficult parenting moments Finding a balance between productivity and mindful pauses...
2024-09-021h 00Robot Unicorn"Why Does Mess Trigger Me So Much!?"In this revealing episode, Jess and Scott dive deep into why a messy house is a major trigger for Jess. They explore how their different upbringings shaped their attitudes towards cleanliness, with Jess craving order while Scott is more relaxed about clutter.Jess opens up about feeling overwhelmed by visual chaos and struggling to be present with her kids when the house is messy. They share practical strategies they've found helpful, like setting boundaries around eating spaces and getting rid of excess toys.Listeners will gain insight into managing their own triggers around household mess...
2024-08-2640 minRobot UnicornThe Daycare Debate: Does Sending A Child to Daycare Ruin Attachment?In this controversial episode, Jess and Scott dive into the heated debate around sending kids to daycare. They explore the "mommy wars" between stay-at-home and working parents - unpacking the guilt, judgement, and insecurities on both sides.Jess offers a nuanced perspective, explaining how quality childcare providers can be an important part of a family’s "village” and how a strong parent-child attachment can be built whether a child is in childcare or at home.Listeners will gain insights on: How to preserve attachment even when using childcare. The importance of finding caregivers who trul...
2024-08-1938 minRobot UnicornWhy Are Some Kids So Strong-Willed And Stubborn!?Listen to our most recent version of this episode with new commentary and discussions here:Apple PodcastsSpotifyIn this eye-opening episode, Jess delves deep into the concept of "strong-willed children" and challenges common assumptions about defiant behaviour.Listeners will gain fresh insights on:Why the "strong-willed" label can be problematic and miss underlying needs.How sensitivity, power dynamics, and leadership struggles contribute to defiance.Practical strategies for addressing stubborn behaviour through curiosity and connection.Ways to provide healthy control and meet children's needs for autonomy.The importance of consistent, empathetic leadership...
2024-08-1234 minRobot Unicorn"You Really Want To Talk About Sleep Training!?"In this episode, Jess and Scott dive deep into the challenges of infant and toddler sleep and parenting through sleep deprivation. Jess opens up about her struggles as a new mom trying to follow rigid sleep training rules and how she eventually found a more attuned, connection-based approach.In the episode, Jess and Scott discuss: The pitfalls of strictly following sleep training methods without considering your child's unique needs. How postpartum anxiety can fuel obsession over sleep schedules. Mindset shifts that can help parents cope better with nighttime wakings. Why attunement and trusting your parental instincts...
2024-08-0541 minRobot Unicorn"Why Are You Always So Defensive?"One of the most common questions Scott and Jess get about Robot Unicorn is: “Was your communication always this good? How did you learn to be less defensive and stop fighting in your relationship?”In this episode, Scott and Jess dive into their journey from high school sweethearts to happily married parents. They share valuable insights on:- How to move past defensiveness and truly listen to your partner- The importance of anticipating each other's needs- Why validating feelings isn't enough - you need to get curious- Ho...
2024-07-2952 minRobot UnicornHow To Set Boundaries With Your Parents With Libby WardThis episode was so incredible that it was hard to choose a title. Other possible titles for this episode included:“How To Heal Your Trauma While Parenting”“Mothering When You Have A Difficult Relationship With Your Mother.”“Breaking Cycles Of People Pleasing And Finding Your Authentic Self.”In this episode of Robot Unicorn, Jess and Scott welcome special guest Libby Ward, founder of Diary of an Honest Mom. Libby opens up about her journey of setting boundaries with her parents, healing from childhood trauma, and finding her authentic self as a mother.
2024-07-221h 15Robot Unicorn"You Don't Spend Enough Time With Me!!"In this episode, Jess and Scott discuss a recent incident in which their child told them that she doesn’t feel like they spend enough time with her. Jess unpacks her feelings of guilt around being a working mom, and Scott helps her understand the deeper reasons behind this guilt.They explore the struggles of dividing time and attention between sick kids and their other children who still crave connection. Jess opens up about her fears, as a parenting expert, of not being a good enough parent herself and the challenges of transitioning from being a stay-at-home mo...
2024-07-1536 minRobot UnicornHow Can I Reduce My Anger and Annoyance As A Highly Sensitive Parent?Scott recently had a situation where he lost his cool with his toddler. In this episode, Jess and Scott unpack what happened and how he could do things differently next time by setting himself up for success as a highly sensitive person.They discuss what it means to be highly sensitive, from noticing subtle textures and needing things a certain way to being more emotionally attuned. Scott shares his own challenges staying calm as a highly sensitive parent, especially when his sensory cup is full.Jess offers practical tips for coping as a highly sensitive...
2024-07-0853 minRobot UnicornFeeling Like A Shell Of Yourself With Sarah LandryCW: Self-Harm, Mental Health Jess sits down with Sarah Landry from The Birds Papaya to discuss the challenges of authentically sharing your mental health struggles online. Sarah opens up about her experience with PMDD (Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder) and the courage it takes to be vulnerable about the messy, uncomfortable parts of life.They explore the delicate balance of modelling a range of emotions to your children while ensuring they don't feel responsible for fixing a parent's struggles. This episode is a must-listen for anyone struggling with their mental health and wanting to raise empathetic kids who understand...
2024-07-011h 09Robot UnicornHow To Teach Kids About Body Safety And Consent: Tricky People, Secrets, And Safety PlansCW: Sexual abuse, grooming, sex-related topicsIn this powerful episode, Jess and Scott discuss the importance of teaching body safety to kids of all ages.Jess has been educating parents about these topics for over a decade, and in this episode, she answers Scott’s questions about why it’s so important for parents and kids to understand body safety and consent.Jess explains how to help children tune into their "uh oh feeling" when something doesn't feel right and how to know the difference between trusted and "tricky" people. She provides concrete exam...
2024-06-2446 minRobot UnicornStruggling With Mental Health After A Baby, And Finding Your Joy Again With Emily And SatyaToday, we dive deep into the trenches of motherhood with special guests Emily Baldoni and Satya Twena, the dynamic duo behind the brand We Are Amma [www.weareamma.com]. These powerhouse women get real about the challenges of parenting in a society that often leaves mothers feeling unseen, undervalued, and utterly exhausted.From the isolating postpartum period to the daily grind of juggling work and family life, Emily and Satya share their personal stories of struggle and triumph. They discuss the importance of building a support system, even if it means creating your own "village" from scratch.
2024-06-171h 15Robot UnicornSpanking, Timeouts, And Taking Things Away: When Is Punishment Ok?Is there ever a time when it’s ok to punish your kids?! Scott gets curious with Jess in this important episode on punishment.Scott and Jess unpack different forms of punishment, such as spanking, timeouts, and taking things away, and discuss the research on how these impact a child's behaviour and emotional development.Jess explains the research behind these common forms of punishment and how you can effectively discipline instead.Throughout the conversation, Jess and Scott share personal examples from raising their own kids and discuss how to discipline in a...
2024-06-1045 minRobot UnicornSex After Baby, Unlearning Shame, And Finding Your Sexual Self With Shan BoodramIn this fascinating discussion, Jess sits down with world-renowned sexologist Shan Boodram for a discussion about all things sex, shame, and self-discovery. Shan shares her personal journey from curious kid to professional sex educator, shedding light on the challenges and triumphs she's faced along the way.Together, Jess and Shan dive deep into the reasons why talking about sex can be so uncomfortable, exploring the societal conditioning and messages that contribute to feelings of shame and awkwardness around intimacy. They also tackle the importance of comprehensive, age-appropriate sex education and the impact it can have on reducing...
2024-06-031h 18Robot UnicornDo We Overcomplicate Parenting? The Problem With #ParentingExpertsJess shares her personal journey, starting with being a high school student with a passion for helping people, her education in child development, and how she eventually became an online parenting educator.After being on social media for over six years, Jess has noticed some troubling themes in the online parent education space. Jess and Scott discuss the pervasiveness of misinformation and fear-mongering in online parenting advice and share tips for identifying credible, trustworthy guidance.Jess and Scott emphasize the importance of building a strong attachment with your child through simple, everyday acts of love...
2024-05-2747 minRobot UnicornWhat No One Talks About: Baby Sleep, Self-Worth, And Periods With Ashley GreeneWho else loves the Twilight movies? Jess and Scott watched the movies together when they were dating, and today, they talk with one of their favourite actresses from this series, Ashley Greene! In this raw and revealing episode, Ashley opens up about her journey to motherhood and the importance of reparenting yourself first.She openly talks about the challenges of postpartum, like the pressure to get your baby to sleep through the night. Jess and Ashley dive deep into the internal work she did to regulate her emotions and break negative cycles before having her daughter. Ashley...
2024-05-201h 06Robot UnicornForcing Kids To Do Hard Things: Raising Resilient Kids Who Can Tolerate FrustrationIn this raw, unfiltered episode, Jess and Scott dive into the complex topic of pushing kids to do hard things. They explore the fine line between encouraging children to reach their potential vs. pushing them past their limits. Jess vulnerably shares how her own painful childhood experiences make it challenging for her to watch her daughter being pushed.Together, they unpack the key ingredients kids need to build true resilience. This honest, nuanced conversation will make you reflect deeply on how your own past shapes your parenting and what really matters when helping kids tolerate frustration. If...
2024-05-1332 minRobot UnicornFeeling Misunderstood As A Sensitive Child: How Christina Perri Found Her VoiceCW: Miscarriage, Pregnancy Loss, Stillbirth, AlcoholismIn this heartfelt episode, you’ll hear singer-songwriter Christina Perri open up in a profound way. Christina talks to us about her journey from being a sensitive, deeply feeling child to an unexpected superstar. She shares how her deep emotions and sensory processing difficulties made her feel misunderstood and how she found solace in songwriting from a young age.Christina takes us behind the scenes of her sudden rise to fame with the hit song "Jar of Hearts" and how she navigated the challenges that came with fame at an...
2024-05-061h 17Robot UnicornIs It Healthy Eating, Or Is It Trauma? Unpacking Scott's Relationship With FoodIn this episode, we dive deep into our personal histories with food, body image, and the societal pressures that have shaped our relationships with eating. Scott shares his surprising journey to a healthy, intuitive approach to food despite growing up without positive role models, while Jess opens up about her struggles with diet culture, food rules, and the pressure to "bounce back" after having three children.Through our candid conversation, we explore the impact of childhood trauma on Scott's relationship with food and how cooking became a source of escape, control, and comfort for him from a...
2024-04-2942 minRobot UnicornSnickers For Breakfast: How To Let Go Of Perfectionism And Be Less TriggeredIn this raw and insightful episode, we sit down with our close friend Tryphena for a deep dive into the realities of parenting, friendship, and personal growth. Tryphena is Jess’s dear friend, a former educator, a mom of 2, as well as an Indian woman married to a French Canadian man. She opens up about the challenges of raising her neurodivergent son.Jess and Tryphena also explore the power of healing their inner voice. They discuss how your inner critic might be the voice of a caregiver or parent.Through her experiences, Tryphena shares the im...
2024-04-221h 08Robot UnicornWelcome To Robot Unicorn!Welcome to Robot Unicorn! In this trailer, you’ll meet my incredible co-host. We will explain the meaning behind the name and share what you can expect from this show.Robot Unicorn will officially premiere on April 22, 2024, at 5:00 am EST! We can’t wait for you to see all the magic we have in store for you!
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The Motherkind PodcastMOMENT | This will help you when you feel like you are drowning in parenthood with Jess Our Mama VillageWelcome back to Motherkind Moment. Moment is your place on a Monday for calm and connection and maybe even a shift in perspective before the week ahead.This week’s Moment is with Jess who runs Our Mama Village. She is a registered psychotherapist and mum of two little ones.This moment is from a brilliant episode we recorded together in January 2022.I hope you love the clip.You can listen to the clip by clicking above or the full episode here.MOTHERKIND PROGRAMMES AND RESOURCES
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The Motherkind PodcastHow to create a beautiful relationship with your child - that lasts forever with Jess, Our Mama VillageWelcome to this episode of the Motherkind podcast. I am so happy you are here. Thank you for pressing play and listening.This is such a great episode. It is with Jess VanderWier from Our Mama Village.I discovered Jess on Instagram and loved her compassion and her deep experience with families. This is an episode about gentle parenting and we talk about what that means. It’s also about the bigger picture so we are going to dive in together about why we might want to look into our values as parents and have a...
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