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Resource YourselfGoing From Grinch to Whovian, A Daily Practice: Yuletide Bonus 03From Grinch to Whovian, A daily practice
In this Yuletide Renewal bonus episode, we explore the real spirit of Christmas… not the sparkly, Hallmark version, but the deeper story we keep telling every year for a reason.
Whether it’s the Grinch, Scrooge, George Bailey, or that familiar holiday rom-com plot, these stories aren’t actually about Christmas at all.
They’re about what happens when a heart closes… and what happens when it slowly, imperfectly, opens again.
This episode is a reflection on armoring, exhaustion, disappointment, and the very human rhythm of o...
2025-12-2311 min
Resource YourselfHeld By Life Visualization: Yuletide Bonus 02Held by Life Visualization: Yuletide Bonus #2
In this special Yuletide bonus episode, we rest together inside a gentle hypnotic experience designed to calm your nervous system and soften the ache of aloneness.
You’re guided into an image of floating in a warm, velvety darkness… not an empty or scary dark, but the kind that holds you, like a womb before creation begins.
This episode is about remembering.
Remembering that you belong.
Remembering that you are not separate from life, breath, or love.
Remembering that you don’t have...
2025-12-2311 min
Resource YourselfWhen You’re Here, But Want to Be There: Yuletide Bonus 01When You’re Here, But Want to Be There:
When the Light Has Begun, But You Can’t Feel It Yet
Episode Summary
In this Day Two bonus episode of the Yuletide Renewal, we meet the day just after the Winter Solstice — the moment when the light has technically begun to return, even though it still feels very dark.
In this reflection, Sefora shares honestly about her own relationship with winter, longing for warmth, sunlight, and the ease of summer, and how the Solstice offers a gentle reminder that movement toward the li...
2025-12-2109 min
Resource YourselfLetting the Dark Hold You on The Solstice, Yule Resourcing 00Letting the Dark Hold You on The Solstice,
Yule Resourcing 01 On the Solstice, Rest, and Being Held by Life
Episode Notes
Today is the Winter Solstice, the longest night of the year in the Northern Hemisphere. The turning point where the light begins to return… even if we can’t feel it yet.
In this episode, we pause. Not to fix. Not to set intentions. Not to rush ourselves forward.
But to be.
For many people, this time of year can feel heavy. The dark...
2025-12-2014 min
Resource YourselfThere is ALWAYS a solutionWelcome to Season 2 of the Resource Yourself Podcast.
In this episode, I reintroduce myself and the deeper intention behind this work — not just attachment healing in relationships, but learning how to live from the felt sense that you are supported by life itself.
I share my personal path through anxious–avoidant relationship dynamics, decades of personal growth work, advanced attachment training, and the breakthroughs that changed everything — not only in love, but in how I relate to life, support, and creation.
This episode is about why secure attachment is ultimately about trusting that your n...
2025-12-1314 min
Resource YourselfStaying Steady When the Vision Feels Far AwayIn this episode of the Resource Yourself podcast, we explore what to do when you have a vision for your life — a secure relationship, a fulfilling career, a big world-changing goal — but you’re not there yet.
You’ll hear three powerful distinctions to help you stay connected to your dreams:
1️⃣ Why your deepest desires are meant for you and how life wants to help you create them. 2️⃣ What it means to be in the in-between — the state where your being is catching up with what you’re creating — and how to trust this process. 3️⃣ How t...
2025-07-0130 min
Resource YourselfReturn to Inner Knowing (Resourcing Practice)🎧 Episode Title: Return to Inner Knowing (Resourcing Practice)
📝 Episode Description: If you’ve been spinning in circles, stuck in overthinking, or just craving a moment of deep stillness—this is for you.
In this guided resourcing practice, you’ll be gently led into a meditative experience designed to help you quiet the noise, reconnect with your inner wisdom, and receive the clarity you’ve been searching for.
You’ll be guided into a visualization known as The Temple of Wisdom—a space beyond time, where your inner knowing becomes accessible again.
This episode...
2025-05-2310 min
Resource YourselfBoundaries Like a Bad A**💬 Episode Summary: If the word boundary makes your nervous system flinch a little — this episode is for you.
In today’s conversation, Sefora shares why most people (especially anxious attachers) confuse complaints with boundaries, and how that confusion can keep you stuck in protest mode, overgiving, or saying what you don’t want… without ever clearly naming what you do.
You’ll learn why true boundaries are sacred invitations — not walls, not ultimatums — and how to set them from a place of clarity, desire, and self-respect.
From romantic relationships to the chaos of divisive polit...
2025-05-1017 min
Resource YourselfReclaiming Parts of Yourself From OthersEpisode Title: Reclaiming the Parts of You That Love Left Behind
🌀 Episode Summary: In today’s resourcing audio, I’m guiding you through a deeply restorative practice to help you reclaim the parts of yourself you’ve given away—especially in past relationships. Whether it's someone you loved, someone you worked tirelessly for, or even a person or cause you’re still mentally spinning about, this visualization is here to bring your energy back home.
This isn’t about blame. It’s about coming back into wholeness.
You’ll be gently led through a process o...
2025-05-0513 min
Resource YourselfHealing Gets to Feel Good🌿 Episode Summary:
Hello my friend—welcome back to the Resource Yourself podcast. Today, we’re exploring a powerful and often overlooked truth: healing isn’t just about feeling the hard stuff. Healing gets to feel good.
In this episode, I share why goodness—love, safety, beauty, joy—isn’t just a side effect of healing, it’s a requirement. We talk about how nervous system regulation, gratitude, and moments of peace actually lay the foundation for deep transformation.
Whether you’re healing your attachment style, working through grief, navigating injustice, or simply trying to stay grounded in...
2025-04-2614 min
Resource YourselfPeptalk, Movement Audio-You are here for this moment✨ Episode Summary:
This one’s part pep talk, part prayer, part soul-hug.
If you’ve been moving through some tough stuff or just need a reminder that life is on your side — this episode is your call back to truth, love, and presence.
Perfect for your morning walk, your drive across town, or while folding laundry with the windows open — this is your invitation to breathe deeper, release the noise, and remember who the hell you are.
We’ll ground into the here and now, speak to your bigness, and remind your nervous...
2025-04-1907 min
Resource YourselfA Spell for Remembering✨ Episode Summary:
In this deeply supportive and transformational episode of Resource Yourself, I’m sharing one of my favorite tools—something that’s been powerful for me, for my clients, and for the students in my programs. It’s a process I’m calling the Spell of Remembering—and yes, it comes with a magical word: DRACO.
This isn’t just another mindset trick. It’s a way to intervene in the exact moment you feel stuck, shift the unconscious loops you’ve been living inside of, and reconnect with something that’s been waiting beneath the surface of...
2025-04-0826 min
Resource YourselfResourcing in TogethernessThe Two Trees Visualization: Returning to Togetherness 🧘♀️ Episode Summary: In today’s special solo episode, I’m sharing something close to my heart — a calming, grounding visualization from my upcoming Secure Attachment 3-Day Challenge. It's called The Two Trees, and it's more than just a soothing practice. It’s an invitation. This visualization is designed to reconnect you with a deep sense of togetherness — the feeling of being accompanied, supported, and not alone as you move through life. Whether you're facing challenges in love, navigating uncertainty, or simply needing to feel more held and rooted in your body, this episode is a soft l...
2025-04-0516 min
Resource Yourself5 Beliefs That Can BLOCK Secure Attachment, And a Practice to Shift Them.5 Beliefs That Keep You Stuck in Insecure Attachment (and How to Shift Them)
📝 Show Notes: Hey there, and welcome back to the Resource Yourself Podcast with Sefora Janel Ray.
In today’s episode, we’re digging deep into the five sneaky beliefs that keep people trapped in patterns of insecure attachment — even after years of therapy, personal growth, or trying to “do the work.”
Whether you identify with anxious, avoidant, or disorganized attachment (or just feel like love is a struggle), these beliefs might sound painfully familiar: “I can’t get enough support.” “I’m fundamentally alo...
2025-03-2916 min
Resource Yourself#1 thing that will shift you into healthy relationships.The Power of Secure Attachment (Plus a Sneak Peek of the Secure Attachment Challenge!)
Episode Summary:
Understanding secure attachment is powerful enough to transform not just your relationships, but your entire life—your career, your finances, even global issues like political division and war. In this episode, I share why relational skills are the missing piece in our culture and how learning secure attachment can help us build healthier, more connected lives.
Plus, I’m giving you an exclusive sneak peek into my Secure Attachment Challenge, where you’ll learn how secure people create...
2025-03-1521 min
Resource YourselfYou Are Made For These Times- peptalk on the podEpisode Title: You Were Made for These Times
Host: Sefora Janel Ray Episode Summary: In today’s episode, we explore the idea that the challenges you’re facing right now aren’t mistakes or random obstacles—they might be exactly what you came here for.
What if your struggles aren’t just inconveniences but invitations to step into your power? What if you already have the wisdom and resilience to navigate this moment?
Sefora shares a powerful perspective on how life’s difficulties shape us, drawing from ancient hero stories, reincarnation concepts, and the deep know...
2025-03-0109 min
Resource YourselfTransforming Your Resistance-What You Resist Persists.Episode Summary: What you resist, persists.
But what if resistance wasn’t something to fight against—but a doorway into clarity, healing, and action?
In this episode, I explore how resistance can be a portal to resourcing yourself and share six practical steps to work with it instead of pushing it away. Whether you’re resisting a tough conversation, avoiding self-care, feeling overwhelmed by world events, or procrastinating on something important, this episode will help you shift from stuckness to inspired action. I
n This Episode, You’ll Learn:
✅ Why resistance isn’t just...
2025-02-2218 min
Resource YourselfPeptalk, Your Power as a Creator, Supported in ALL Things.Host: Sefora Janel Ray
Episode Overview:
Welcome to the Resource Yourself Podcast—the space where I remind you of the goodness that surrounds you, so you can move through life’s challenges with wisdom, resilience, and grace. In today’s episode, I’m sharing a peptalk about how you are a creator and how life supports you in all things. If you ever find yourself needing a reminder of your power, your purpose, and the support that is always available to you, this episode is for you.
What You’ll Hear in This Episode:
2025-02-1014 min
Resource YourselfFuture Self/ Future World VisualizationHost: Sefora Janel Ray
Episode Summary: In this episode, Sefora guides you through a powerful meditation designed to connect you with your future self—the version of you who has already stepped into the life, love, and security you desire.
Drawing from the wisdom of various healing traditions, she helps you ground into possibility, move beyond fear, and embody the future you want to create.
What You'll Hear in This Episode:
A reflection on how easy it is to imagine endings—of relationships, systems, or the world as we know it—but ho...
2025-01-3117 min
Resource YourselfUse Shadow Work to Reclaim Your Wholeness AND Transform How You Deal With People That Bug the S*** Out of YouWelcome to the Resource Yourself Podcast with Sefora!
🌟 In today’s episode, we’re diving deep into the fascinating and transformative world of shadow work. Shadow work isn’t just about dealing with your inner gremlins—it’s about reclaiming your wholeness and seeing yourself (and others) with more compassion and clarity.
From understanding Carl Jung’s concept of the shadow to exploring the bright shadow (the Beyoncé of your psyche!), this episode will help you navigate your inner world and relationships with wisdom, resilience, and maybe even a bit of humor.
What You’ll Learn in...
2025-01-2530 min
Resource YourselfPermission to Enjoy YourselfHey there,
Welcome to the Resource Yourself Podcast!
I’m Sefora, here to ground you in the goodness that’s all around you, so when life throws you challenges, you can navigate them with wisdom, resilience, and grace.
In this episode, I share a personal story about resistance and how leaning into it helped me uncover a powerful message: Permission to Enjoy Yourself.
We dive into: How life’s struggles and cultural norms can make us forget to enjoy life.
Why enjoying yourself is a radical and necessary act, especi...
2025-01-1723 min
Resource YourselfWho can you trust to help you with attachment work? In this episode of the Resource Yourself podcast, Sefora Janel Ray dives into the essential topic of finding a trustworthy therapist or coach to support your attachment and relationship growth journey. Sefora shares her insights, biases, and personal experiences to guide listeners in making informed decisions about who to work with.
Key Highlights:
The Importance of Rapport and Understanding:
Choose someone you like and feel understood by.
Consider factors such as shared experiences, identity, or relatability, but remember these are just the baseline.
The Value of Experience in Relationship Work:
Seek professionals w...
2025-01-1027 min
Resource YourselfHow to Enjoy Yourself Along the Way Towards GoalsFor some people, goal setting can actually create stress, or depression. How do you enjoy yourself along the way? In this podcast we do a movement visualization and affirmation to focus on things that help us enjoy ourselves as we create better relationships and lives. We presence what is good so that it can fuel our future. For more resources goto www.therapytothrive.com
2025-01-0521 min
Resource YourselfHow I shifted 2 decades of anxious-avoidant patterns and finally got secure, mature love.In this episode, I open up to talk about my own journey with attachment, and how I kept attracting unavailable men over and over again. I break down the 4 things that FINALLY changed my attachment style. For more information about my programs or resources goto www.therapytothrive.com
2024-12-2626 min
Resource YourselfLetting in More LoveIn this episode we talk about letting in more moments of love, more moments of gratitude and awe, and how that can help our nervous system, our attachment styles, and generally increase our experience of joy in life. For more information or to go deeper into this work, check out www.therapytothrive.com
2024-12-1826 min
Resource YourselfAffirmations to Let go of Control, and Reclaim your Power in RelationshipThis is an episode pep talk, filled with affirmations, declarations and proclamations you can say to let go of controlling others, and step into taking responsibility towards the relationships you want to create. For more of this work, goto www.therapytothrive.com
2024-12-1210 min
Resource YourselfConnecting with Your Relationship PowerThis episode is a visualization/meditation to connect you with your relationship power. It's helpful if you have recently gone through a breakup, are working on healing an insecure attachment style, are looking to create more secure relationships (romantic or not) or if you come sometimes feel hopeless or helpless in relationships. Enjoy! (For more support with attachment work, going from anxious attachment to secure, or creating healthy relationships check out all sorts of resources at www.therapytothrive.com)
2024-12-1016 min
Resource YourselfPeptalk, leaning into lifeThis episode is a bonus, on leaning into life, getting your head in a good place to start the day/week, or whenever you need to restart.
2024-12-0205 min
Resource YourselfResourcing Yourself in the HolidaysIn this episode, I break down 4 ways to resource yourself in the holidays, whether you are single or in a relationship. For more of a breakdown, goto www.therapytothrive.com
2024-11-2612 min
Resource Yourself5 Ways to Help Anxious Attachment and Create Secure AttachmentIn this episode, I dive into anxious attachment and 5 tips on how to heal. We look at specific strategies that help secure attachment, the needle movers for healing. Lot's more information at www.therapytothrive.com
2024-11-2326 min
Resource YourselfMonday Visualization- Being Held By LifeThis is a meditation/Visualization to shift out of the Sh**storm of life, and into a place of support, to reset, breathe and re-source yourself.
2024-11-1812 min
Resource YourselfWhat's Possible with Attachment HealingIn this episode, I share why I'm so passionate about attachment healing and what's possible when you work on your attachment style.
2024-11-1511 min
Resource YourselfRe-sourcing Yourself in HeartbreakIn this episode, we look at how to resource yourself in heartbreak. How to stop the part of the brain that wants you to shut down and close off, and how to move forward again.
2024-11-0814 minResource YourselfRe-source Yourself on Election dayHey there, this is a pep-talk, a resourcing episode to set your mood and ground you through today.
2024-11-0508 min
Resource YourselfReceiving the Support of Your AncestorsThis episode is a meditation to receive support from your ancestors. Inspired by the teacher Joanna Macy, and the Work that Reconnects. Sefora leads you to feel the thousands of ancestors going back through time, and let in their wisdom, their care and their love.
2024-11-0425 min
Resource YourselfHow to Spiral UpIn this episode, I introduce the Resource Yourself Podcast, and teach a tool called "Spiraling Up", a way to move from a funk into an empowered state. For more information about Sefora Janel Ray, or to get more tools, goto www.therapytothrive.com
2024-10-3018 min
The Creator’s PlaybookSefora Ray at Kajabi Hero Live!Today’s guest is Sefora Ray, Therapist and founder of therapytothrive.com. Sefora has worked in the field of personal growth and transformation for over 20 years and specializes in working with attachment, relational trauma, self-esteem-supporting individuals, and couples in having fulfilling relationships that fuel the rest of their lives!
Learn more about Sefora below:
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2023-09-0142 min