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The Work-N-Play PodcastCreative Thinking : The Journey of a Corporate Podcaster w/ Sensi Charlery |Episode 69Sensi Charlery knows what it's like to work and play! During business hours she is a finance professional and after finishing up for the day she takes on the world of a creative entrepreneur. As host of the Secluded Thoughts Podcast, she knows firsthand what it takes to juggle creativity, deadlines, self-development, and a passion for helping others. In this episode we sit down to talk about : - The early years of her fascination with creating online through graphic design, photography, web design, and blogging. - Learning how to build, scale, and...2022-04-181h 17
Secluded Thoughts52. Being misunderstoodSome people are committed to misunderstanding you and if you take the time to constantly defend and explain yourself you'll delay your blessings. Here's what I learned when one of my biggest fears with starting a podcast happened last week.SHOP JOURNALS: https://secludedthoughts.com/journalsLET’S STAY CONNECTED!Subscribe on Youtube: Secluded Thoughtswww.secludedthoughts.com/YoutubeTiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@secludedthoughtsFollow me on Instagram: @sec...2022-03-2731 minSecluded Thoughts52. Being misunderstoodSome people are committed to misunderstanding you and if you take the time to constantly defend and explain yourself you'll delay your blessings. Here's what I learned when one of my biggest fears with starting a podcast happened last week.SHOP JOURNALS: https://secludedthoughts.com/journalsLET’S STAY CONNECTED!Subscribe on Youtube: Secluded Thoughtswww.secludedthoughts.com/YoutubeTiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@secludedthoughtsFollow me on Instagram: @sec...2022-03-2731 minSecluded Thoughts51. Lady in public but bum in privateWe all know you can DRESS for a formal or special event but what does your everyday look say about you? Why do you feel like you should look/smell good or put effort into your appearance only when you're around others?Sis, we're not bums so let's stop acting like it.I say this with pure intentions 2022-03-2031 minSecluded Thoughts51. Lady in public but bum in privateWe all know you can DRESS for a formal or special event but what does your everyday look say about you? Why do you feel like you should look/smell good or put effort into your appearance only when you're around others?Sis, we're not bums so let's stop acting like it.I say this with pure intentions 2022-03-2031 minSecluded Thoughts50. New levels new devilsYou were feeling stagnant in your life and you decided you want a change and then you managed to push passed your fears, procrastination and perfectionism and you finally started working on yourself and embarked on a new journey. But now that you've put in the work and you get to this new level you're struggling and can't really understand why...Why should it be hard and feel kind of depressing to work on yourself? Why are you confused? Why do you have such a hard time resting and giving up control? Why do...2022-03-1326 minSecluded Thoughts50. New levels new devilsYou were feeling stagnant in your life and you decided you want a change and then you managed to push passed your fears, procrastination and perfectionism and you finally started working on yourself and embarked on a new journey. But now that you've put in the work and you get to this new level you're struggling and can't really understand why...Why should it be hard and feel kind of depressing to work on yourself? Why are you confused? Why do you have such a hard time resting and giving up control? Why do...2022-03-1326 minSecluded Thoughts49. To everyone who is constantly disappointed and to those who do the disappointingThis episode is dedicated to everyone who has been disappointed by people who constantly give you their word or make promises to you and never follow through. And don't worry, there's a part of this episode dedicated to letting them know how they're actually doing more wrong to THEMSELVES than to you.If you're like me and you've constantly had people agree to help you or even VOLUNTEER THEIR HELP UNPROVOKED and then NOT FOLLOW THROUGH you're going to love this episode. I've had the misfortune of knowing many people like that and internalizing...2022-03-0624 minSecluded Thoughts49. To everyone who is constantly disappointed and to those who do the disappointingThis episode is dedicated to everyone who has been disappointed by people who constantly give you their word or make promises to you and never follow through. And don't worry, there's a part of this episode dedicated to letting them know how they're actually doing more wrong to THEMSELVES than to you.If you're like me and you've constantly had people agree to help you or even VOLUNTEER THEIR HELP UNPROVOKED and then NOT FOLLOW THROUGH you're going to love this episode. I've had the misfortune of knowing many people like that and internalizing...2022-03-0624 minSecluded Thoughts48. To everyone who feels isolatedIn this episode I talk about how God started isolating me and working on me in 4 areas of my life - drinking, friendships, dating, and confidence/self love. I'm sharing this for anyone who feels like they're going through a period of isolation and they're having a hard time relating to what used to be familiar.When I started going through it I didn't know who to turn to and I didn't know what was happening. Hopefully this episodes makes you feel less alone in your isolation period.When y...2022-02-2736 minSecluded Thoughts48. To everyone who feels isolatedIn this episode I talk about how God started isolating me and working on me in 4 areas of my life - drinking, friendships, dating, and confidence/self love. I'm sharing this for anyone who feels like they're going through a period of isolation and they're having a hard time relating to what used to be familiar.When I started going through it I didn't know who to turn to and I didn't know what was happening. Hopefully this episodes makes you feel less alone in your isolation period.When y...2022-02-2736 minSecluded Thoughts47. To all the perfectionists waiting to startThis episode is dedicated to everyone who has an idea to something and it's been weighing heavy on their heart - whether it's a business, creating content, etc. As a retired perfectionist myself I get it... you want to get everything right before you officially start.You THINK everything is going to go according to plan but it's actually not. Here's what's really going to happen whenever you finally decide to get out of your head and start.Watch this episode on Youtube: https://youtu.be...2022-02-2030 minSecluded Thoughts47. To all the perfectionists waiting to startThis episode is dedicated to everyone who has an idea to something and it's been weighing heavy on their heart - whether it's a business, creating content, etc. As a retired perfectionist myself I get it... you want to get everything right before you officially start.You THINK everything is going to go according to plan but it's actually not. Here's what's really going to happen whenever you finally decide to get out of your head and start.Watch this episode on Youtube: https://youtu.be...2022-02-2030 minSecluded Thoughts46. Who do you need to become to achieve your goals?The secret or missing piece to unlocking the life you desire is not in a course or book or in a new skill... it's in BECOMING the type of person that deserves that life.Most of us (including myself) spend so much time working on our strategy for achieving our goals and we never focus on looking within to see what traumas we need to heal, qualities/character traits we need to develop, and what parts of our identity need to go in order to achieve those things.The...2022-02-1325 minSecluded Thoughts46. Who do you need to become to achieve your goals?The secret or missing piece to unlocking the life you desire is not in a course or book or in a new skill... it's in BECOMING the type of person that deserves that life.Most of us (including myself) spend so much time working on our strategy for achieving our goals and we never focus on looking within to see what traumas we need to heal, qualities/character traits we need to develop, and what parts of our identity need to go in order to achieve those things.The...2022-02-1325 minSecluded Thoughts45. How long will you live for others?After living my life based on the expectations of others and in fear of what others may think of me for soooo long I took a big risk last year and started my podcast in an attempt to be true to myself. I battled with the thought of it for 3 months before publishing my first episode and even then I tried to do it anonymously for months and didn't end up sharing it on my Instagram until 8 months later. But what I was expecting and what actually happened was quite different.I stepped out...2022-02-0636 minSecluded Thoughts45. How long will you live for others?After living my life based on the expectations of others and in fear of what others may think of me for soooo long I took a big risk last year and started my podcast in an attempt to be true to myself. I battled with the thought of it for 3 months before publishing my first episode and even then I tried to do it anonymously for months and didn't end up sharing it on my Instagram until 8 months later. But what I was expecting and what actually happened was quite different.I stepped out...2022-02-0636 minSecluded Thoughts44. I need to rest.. but I can'tThis week my body shut down and gave me an ultimatum - it forced me to rest. I feel like I've always been preoccupied with something for most of my life. And I've often felt guilty when I try to rest - if I'm even able to.And in the process of me being forced to rest I learned some very important things. Let's talk about it.Watch on Youtube: https://youtu.be/vfKmCGEd-VQSHOP JOURNALS: https://secludedthoughts...2022-01-3036 minSecluded Thoughts44. I need to rest.. but I can'tThis week my body shut down and gave me an ultimatum - it forced me to rest. I feel like I've always been preoccupied with something for most of my life. And I've often felt guilty when I try to rest - if I'm even able to.And in the process of me being forced to rest I learned some very important things. Let's talk about it.Watch on Youtube: https://youtu.be/vfKmCGEd-VQSHOP JOURNALS: https://secludedthoughts...2022-01-3036 minSecluded Thoughts43. How you REALLY get what you pray forWhen I realized you don't just wake up with the qualities and traits that you prayed for I was SHOCKED. I realized that the way you develop certain things that you pray for like patience, good communication skills or healthy relationships, etc, is actually not the way you probably thought. And if you don't realize it now you'll waste a lot of time in the process. So let's talk about it.SHOP JOURNALS: https://secludedthoughts.com/journalsWatch this episode on Youtube: https://youtu.be/kmJCpfmpIBA2022-01-2324 minSecluded Thoughts43. How you REALLY get what you pray forWhen I realized you don't just wake up with the qualities and traits that you prayed for I was SHOCKED. I realized that the way you develop certain things that you pray for like patience, good communication skills or healthy relationships, etc, is actually not the way you probably thought. And if you don't realize it now you'll waste a lot of time in the process. So let's talk about it.SHOP JOURNALS: https://secludedthoughts.com/journalsWatch this episode on Youtube: https://youtu.be/kmJCpfmpIBA2022-01-2324 minSecluded Thoughts42. Stop waiting to feel like it..just DO ITYou're not always going to feel like doing something but you STILL have to do it! It's not about the thing - it's about the bad habit you'll develop that will make you slack off.In this week's episode I'm going to be transparent on how I've been struggling with consistency lately and I've been slacking off on some things I've been meaning to do simply because I don't feel like doing it. That includes recording this very episode.I hope this resonates with someone.2022-01-1625 minSecluded Thoughts42. Stop waiting to feel like it..just DO ITYou're not always going to feel like doing something but you STILL have to do it! It's not about the thing - it's about the bad habit you'll develop that will make you slack off.In this week's episode I'm going to be transparent on how I've been struggling with consistency lately and I've been slacking off on some things I've been meaning to do simply because I don't feel like doing it. That includes recording this very episode.I hope this resonates with someone.2022-01-1625 minSecluded Thoughts41. Your circle is holding you back sisYour circle will either make you or break you. Many of us are walking around bearing the weight of relationships that are draining us just because it's our family, or "day ones," or even your significant other. But just because you created relationships with these people (or in your family's case.. you were born into it) doesn't mean that all of these relationships are meant to be kept.The best version of yourself is going to require you to be more intentional about the relationships you create and maintain. And sometimes the reason there's...2022-01-0937 minSecluded Thoughts41. Your circle is holding you back sisYour circle will either make you or break you. Many of us are walking around bearing the weight of relationships that are draining us just because it's our family, or "day ones," or even your significant other. But just because you created relationships with these people (or in your family's case.. you were born into it) doesn't mean that all of these relationships are meant to be kept.The best version of yourself is going to require you to be more intentional about the relationships you create and maintain. And sometimes the reason there's...2022-01-0937 minSecluded Thoughts40. STOP ignoring your intuitionYour intuition ALWAYS warns you about people and certain situations but most of us tend to ignore it. We're often so bombarded with the expectations of other people and society that we chose to live our lives according to these external influences versus focusing on how we feel about things and what our intuition is trying to tell us.But what you ignore in the beginning will almost always be the reason you walk away from something or someone in the end. So the choice is yours. Are you going to heed the warning...2022-01-0239 minSecluded Thoughts40. STOP ignoring your intuitionYour intuition ALWAYS warns you about people and certain situations but most of us tend to ignore it. We're often so bombarded with the expectations of other people and society that we chose to live our lives according to these external influences versus focusing on how we feel about things and what our intuition is trying to tell us.But what you ignore in the beginning will almost always be the reason you walk away from something or someone in the end. So the choice is yours. Are you going to heed the warning...2022-01-0239 minSecluded Thoughts39. Why you're spreading yourself too thinMany of us have convinced ourselves that "busy" is good and it means you're making progress but you're not. You might be doing a lot but feeling like you're not really accomplishing anything. That's because you're spreading yourself too thin. You have a million different ideas on what to do with your life and your next business idea etc and you're trying to do all of these things but it's not realistic. I've been there. And fortunately I've realized that busy is NOT the same as productive and I'm going to help you sort your life out.2021-12-2645 minSecluded Thoughts39. Why you're spreading yourself too thinMany of us have convinced ourselves that "busy" is good and it means you're making progress but you're not. You might be doing a lot but feeling like you're not really accomplishing anything. That's because you're spreading yourself too thin. You have a million different ideas on what to do with your life and your next business idea etc and you're trying to do all of these things but it's not realistic. I've been there. And fortunately I've realized that busy is NOT the same as productive and I'm going to help you sort your life out.2021-12-2645 minSecluded Thoughts38. Who were you before the world told you who you should be?Do you know the REAL you? Most of us may feel like we're drifting in life and time is passing us by because we're not sure who we are and why we're here. We let social media tell us how we should be living our lives and when our life doesn't look like what we see on social media we feel like failures.But what if what you're envying isn't even what you like?? Have you thought about what you ACTUALLY like and care about? Have you gotten to know who you are? Or a...2021-12-1944 minSecluded Thoughts38. Who were you before the world told you who you should be?Do you know the REAL you? Most of us may feel like we're drifting in life and time is passing us by because we're not sure who we are and why we're here. We let social media tell us how we should be living our lives and when our life doesn't look like what we see on social media we feel like failures.But what if what you're envying isn't even what you like?? Have you thought about what you ACTUALLY like and care about? Have you gotten to know who you are? Or a...2021-12-1944 minSecluded Thoughts37. What to do when people say "You changed"Once you start getting clear on what the best version of yourself looks like you start detaching from your current reality and acting in alignment - even if you don't notice it. You'll start feeling out of place in your current environment and in doing the same things you've always done. It's going to get really and uncomfortable - and even worst when the people in your circle start telling you that you're changing or "switching up."Let's talk about what you can do when this happens.2021-12-1237 minSecluded Thoughts37. What to do when people say "You changed"Once you start getting clear on what the best version of yourself looks like you start detaching from your current reality and acting in alignment - even if you don't notice it. You'll start feeling out of place in your current environment and in doing the same things you've always done. It's going to get really and uncomfortable - and even worst when the people in your circle start telling you that you're changing or "switching up."Let's talk about what you can do when this happens.2021-12-1237 minSecluded Thoughts36. Stop sacrificing yourself for people who don't want your helpHow many times have you sacrificed your peace trying to be there for people who don't want your help? How many times have you tried to steer people in the 'right' direction and they don't take your advice but you still go out of your way to try to guide them? I get it... you think it's noble... but it's not.You can't want more for someone than they want for themselves. You have to understand that sometimes people have to learn from experience in order to make a change in their lives and...2021-12-0533 minSecluded Thoughts36. Stop sacrificing yourself for people who don't want your helpHow many times have you sacrificed your peace trying to be there for people who don't want your help? How many times have you tried to steer people in the 'right' direction and they don't take your advice but you still go out of your way to try to guide them? I get it... you think it's noble... but it's not.You can't want more for someone than they want for themselves. You have to understand that sometimes people have to learn from experience in order to make a change in their lives and...2021-12-0533 minSecluded Thoughts35. This is why you think you're behind in lifeYou were NEVER meant to compete with anyone else. And because you're constantly comparing yourself to other people you feel like you're behind in life or that you're a failure. You can't compare your chapter 2 to someone else's chapter 58. Your life is about running your OWN race. Not running with others or running your own but constantly looking at other people on their own path. Let's fix that, sis.Watch this episode on Youtube: https://youtu.be/ehF8pf9aM-ISign up for alerts about my n...2021-11-2843 minSecluded Thoughts35. This is why you think you're behind in lifeYou were NEVER meant to compete with anyone else. And because you're constantly comparing yourself to other people you feel like you're behind in life or that you're a failure. You can't compare your chapter 2 to someone else's chapter 58. Your life is about running your OWN race. Not running with others or running your own but constantly looking at other people on their own path. Let's fix that, sis.Watch this episode on Youtube: https://youtu.be/ehF8pf9aM-ISign up for alerts about my n...2021-11-2843 minSecluded Thoughts34. People are NOT going to change for youSis... are you dating on potential again? Or are you in your feelings because someone in your life (family/friend/etc) is not meeting your needs? Are you WAITING on someone to change for you? Let's talk about it.Choosing Me Before We by Christina Arylo - https://amzn.to/3FsPMQTSubscribe on Youtube: Secluded Thoughts - www.secludedthoughts.com/YoutubeWebsite: secludedthoughts.com Follow me on Instagram: @secluded.thoughts2021-11-2139 minSecluded Thoughts34. People are NOT going to change for youSis... are you dating on potential again? Or are you in your feelings because someone in your life (family/friend/etc) is not meeting your needs? Are you WAITING on someone to change for you? Let's talk about it.Choosing Me Before We by Christina Arylo - https://amzn.to/3FsPMQTSubscribe on Youtube: Secluded Thoughts - www.secludedthoughts.com/YoutubeWebsite: secludedthoughts.com Follow me on Instagram: @secluded.thoughts2021-11-2139 minSecluded Thoughts33. Are you giving up or was it just never meant for you?Y'all today I have A WORD for you. People are ALWAYS going to give you "advice" and suggestions - whether it's welcomed or unsolicited but you have to learn to be able to discern what is for you and what isn't. And sometimes it's sound advice - it worked for them. But that doesn't mean it's going to work for you. Sometimes you are just called to do something different.I've literally been struggling to discern whether I was running away from discomfort from growth or if my intuition was just trying to move...2021-11-1424 minSecluded Thoughts33. Are you giving up or was it just never meant for you?Y'all today I have A WORD for you. People are ALWAYS going to give you "advice" and suggestions - whether it's welcomed or unsolicited but you have to learn to be able to discern what is for you and what isn't. And sometimes it's sound advice - it worked for them. But that doesn't mean it's going to work for you. Sometimes you are just called to do something different.I've literally been struggling to discern whether I was running away from discomfort from growth or if my intuition was just trying to move...2021-11-1424 minSecluded Thoughts32. Your environment will always winOne of the best things I've ever heard someone say is that your environment will always trump your willpower. If you want to get fit and live a healthy lifestyle but you keep hanging around people who eat fast food you will give in more times than not. If you want to invest your money but you keep hanging around people who carelessly spend yours you will do the same. If you want to change your life, change your environment.Instead of making goals and trying to achieve them on your own or constantly...2021-11-0733 minSecluded Thoughts32. Your environment will always winOne of the best things I've ever heard someone say is that your environment will always trump your willpower. If you want to get fit and live a healthy lifestyle but you keep hanging around people who eat fast food you will give in more times than not. If you want to invest your money but you keep hanging around people who carelessly spend yours you will do the same. If you want to change your life, change your environment.Instead of making goals and trying to achieve them on your own or constantly...2021-11-0733 minSecluded Thoughts31. Don't put yourself in a boxThere's so much pressure to feel like you need to have your life together by a certain age but it's just not realistic. A lot of us go down one path and think we're locked in for life because of the amount of time we invested in that career but the truth is no one is holding a gun to your head forcing you to keep doing something that's making you unhappy.YOUTUBE LINK: https://youtu.be/90-uDuvxcKYSubscribe to my Youtube Channel: Secluded Thoughts!LET'S STAY C...2021-10-3133 minSecluded Thoughts31. Don't put yourself in a boxThere's so much pressure to feel like you need to have your life together by a certain age but it's just not realistic. A lot of us go down one path and think we're locked in for life because of the amount of time we invested in that career but the truth is no one is holding a gun to your head forcing you to keep doing something that's making you unhappy.YOUTUBE LINK: https://youtu.be/90-uDuvxcKYSubscribe to my Youtube Channel: Secluded Thoughts!LET'S STAY C...2021-10-3133 minSecluded Thoughts30. Why nothing is going your wayThere's a reason why bad things keep happening to you. There's a reason why you feel like you don't have control over your life. There's a reason why you're miserable and say things like "if it's not one thing it's another."The reason is your perspective on accountability vs blame. If you play the blame game you develop a victim mentality which leaves your life at the mercy of everyone else BUT YOU. In this episode I talk about how you can use accountability to take your power back and stop letting life have...2021-10-2431 minSecluded Thoughts30. Why nothing is going your wayThere's a reason why bad things keep happening to you. There's a reason why you feel like you don't have control over your life. There's a reason why you're miserable and say things like "if it's not one thing it's another."The reason is your perspective on accountability vs blame. If you play the blame game you develop a victim mentality which leaves your life at the mercy of everyone else BUT YOU. In this episode I talk about how you can use accountability to take your power back and stop letting life have...2021-10-2431 minSecluded Thoughts29. What no one tells you about leveling upMost of us aspire to become the best version of ourselves but there are some things about the process of leveling up that no one tells you about. The uncomfortable parts that really determine how bad you want to be THAT GIRL / the best version of yourself.In this episode I'll share my experience with the uncomfortable parts about becoming the best version of myself.Watch this episode on Youtube: https://youtu.be/YTLEfEDYf4gSubscribe on Youtube: Secluded Thoughts2021-10-1748 minSecluded Thoughts29. What no one tells you about leveling upMost of us aspire to become the best version of ourselves but there are some things about the process of leveling up that no one tells you about. The uncomfortable parts that really determine how bad you want to be THAT GIRL / the best version of yourself.In this episode I'll share my experience with the uncomfortable parts about becoming the best version of myself.Watch this episode on Youtube: https://youtu.be/YTLEfEDYf4gSubscribe on Youtube: Secluded Thoughts2021-10-1748 minSecluded Thoughts28. Being in love vs just loving someoneHave you ever been in love? Or are you only familiar to a lighter version of love? Or have you been settling? Do you know what it's like to make someone your whole world? And do you know what it's like to then lose that person?In this episode, I'll tell you about my experience. Let me know about yours by leaving a comment on youtube: https://youtu.be/cMiR76LxDZoSubscribe on Youtube: Secluded Thoughtswww.secludedthoughts.com/Youtube2021-10-1043 minSecluded Thoughts28. Being in love vs just loving someoneHave you ever been in love? Or are you only familiar to a lighter version of love? Or have you been settling? Do you know what it's like to make someone your whole world? And do you know what it's like to then lose that person?In this episode, I'll tell you about my experience. Let me know about yours by leaving a comment on youtube: https://youtu.be/cMiR76LxDZoSubscribe on Youtube: Secluded Thoughtswww.secludedthoughts.com/Youtube2021-10-1043 minSecluded Thoughts27. You don't have to be strong all the timeBeing strong all of the time or feeling like you have to be strong all the time can sometimes feel like you're in solitary confinement or just being isolated. You may have people around you who care but because you have all these walls up and you're scared of being vulnerable because you don't want to get hurt, you never really form genuine connections with people. You have these surface level experiences with others and you feel drained and overwhelmed because you're the only one who has your back.That was my reality until...2021-10-0333 minSecluded Thoughts27. You don't have to be strong all the timeBeing strong all of the time or feeling like you have to be strong all the time can sometimes feel like you're in solitary confinement or just being isolated. You may have people around you who care but because you have all these walls up and you're scared of being vulnerable because you don't want to get hurt, you never really form genuine connections with people. You have these surface level experiences with others and you feel drained and overwhelmed because you're the only one who has your back.That was my reality until...2021-10-0333 minSecluded Thoughts26. Stop living in mediocrity because you're scared of getting hurt | Pt 2In part 1 I kept it on the surface.. in part 2 we REALLY dive into what it means to feel your emotions to the fullest extent whether good or painful instead of having these half a** experiences because you're afraid of getting hurt.When you're being treated well or you're having a good moment, don't sabotage it. And when you've just experienced something painful, don't avoid it because it'll haunt you.In this episode we'll dive into what happens when you avoid your pain (+ what happened to me when I...2021-09-2639 minSecluded Thoughts26. Stop living in mediocrity because you're scared of getting hurt | Pt 2In part 1 I kept it on the surface.. in part 2 we REALLY dive into what it means to feel your emotions to the fullest extent whether good or painful instead of having these half a** experiences because you're afraid of getting hurt.When you're being treated well or you're having a good moment, don't sabotage it. And when you've just experienced something painful, don't avoid it because it'll haunt you.In this episode we'll dive into what happens when you avoid your pain (+ what happened to me when I...2021-09-2639 minSecluded Thoughts25. Stop suppressing your emotions and living in mediocrity | Pt. 1Sis.. we need to talk about how you keep suppressing your emotions. You know.. avoiding getting too happy because you're afraid to be disappointed or avoiding feeling your pain because it's too much to bear.Suppressing your emotions causes you to live a mediocre life. The question is, is it worth it?Tune in to part one to see what kind of effects this has on you.WATCH ON YOUTUBE: https://youtu.be/EfMpLifECnoSubscribe on...2021-09-1935 minSecluded Thoughts25. Stop suppressing your emotions and living in mediocrity | Pt. 1Sis.. we need to talk about how you keep suppressing your emotions. You know.. avoiding getting too happy because you're afraid to be disappointed or avoiding feeling your pain because it's too much to bear.Suppressing your emotions causes you to live a mediocre life. The question is, is it worth it?Tune in to part one to see what kind of effects this has on you.WATCH ON YOUTUBE: https://youtu.be/EfMpLifECnoSubscribe on...2021-09-1935 minSecluded Thoughts24. Fear of being seen | For those of us that don't want to put ourselves out there...We often hear people talking about the fear of failure and a bunch of other fears but what about the fear of being seen? What about those of us struggling to put ourselves out there because we love staying in our comfort zone and don't want to be put on a pedestal or give up our privacy?If you struggle with the fear of being seen, let's chat. This is a safe space!LET'S STAY CONNECTED!Watch this episode on Youtube: https://youtu.be...2021-09-1229 minSecluded Thoughts24. Fear of being seen | For those of us that don't want to put ourselves out there...We often hear people talking about the fear of failure and a bunch of other fears but what about the fear of being seen? What about those of us struggling to put ourselves out there because we love staying in our comfort zone and don't want to be put on a pedestal or give up our privacy?If you struggle with the fear of being seen, let's chat. This is a safe space!LET'S STAY CONNECTED!Watch this episode on Youtube: https://youtu.be...2021-09-1229 minSecluded Thoughts23. What I've learned since starting a podcastThis will be the last episode of the season.... but is the show over? What did I learn from this podcasting experience? How has it changed me? Why am I ending the season? What's next?Tune in to find out!Subscribe on Youtube: Secluded Thoughtswww.secludedthoughts.com/YoutubeWebsite: secludedthoughts.com Follow me on Instagram: @secluded.thoughtsDirect Link: https://www.instagram.com/secluded.thoughts/Email: hello@secludedthoughts.com2021-09-0533 minSecluded Thoughts23. What I've learned since starting a podcastThis will be the last episode of the season.... but is the show over? What did I learn from this podcasting experience? How has it changed me? Why am I ending the season? What's next?Tune in to find out!Subscribe on Youtube: Secluded Thoughtswww.secludedthoughts.com/YoutubeWebsite: secludedthoughts.com Follow me on Instagram: @secluded.thoughtsDirect Link: https://www.instagram.com/secluded.thoughts/Email: hello@secludedthoughts.com2021-09-0533 minSecluded Thoughts22. Stop letting social media define youSocial media creates a different kind of peer pressure. There's constant pressure to do things a certain way and look up to certain influencers. But there's value in being you.Tune in to chat about why you shouldn't let social media define you.If you like this episode make sure you stay connected:SUBSCRIBE TO MY YOUTUBE CHANNEL FOR VIDEO EPISODES!: www.secludedthoughts.com/YoutubeWebsite: secludedthoughts.com Follow me on I...2021-08-2920 minSecluded Thoughts22. Stop letting social media define youSocial media creates a different kind of peer pressure. There's constant pressure to do things a certain way and look up to certain influencers. But there's value in being you.Tune in to chat about why you shouldn't let social media define you.If you like this episode make sure you stay connected:SUBSCRIBE TO MY YOUTUBE CHANNEL FOR VIDEO EPISODES!: www.secludedthoughts.com/YoutubeWebsite: secludedthoughts.com Follow me on I...2021-08-2920 minSecluded Thoughts21. How to thaw out your cold heart with forgivenessChances are there's a lot of pent up resentment in your heart for many people who have hurt you and caused you a lot of pain. And you may look in the mirror and not recognize yourself because you're a different person - the pain changed you. You have walls up now to protect yourself from future pain and disappointment. But what if I told you there was a way to free your soul from all of that negativity?Well there is. And it's called forgiveness. In this episode I'll talk...2021-08-2239 minSecluded Thoughts21. How to thaw out your cold heart with forgivenessChances are there's a lot of pent up resentment in your heart for many people who have hurt you and caused you a lot of pain. And you may look in the mirror and not recognize yourself because you're a different person - the pain changed you. You have walls up now to protect yourself from future pain and disappointment. But what if I told you there was a way to free your soul from all of that negativity?Well there is. And it's called forgiveness. In this episode I'll talk...2021-08-2239 minSecluded Thoughts20. Stop letting TRAUMA BONDS drag you downAre you holding on to trauma bonds??? Do you have people in your life that you once bonded over your struggle with… but you’re now feeling a shift in energy around them because you’ve decided to heal and move on with your life? Let’s talk about it. LET'S STAY CONNECTED:SUBSCRIBE TO MY YOUTUBE CHANNEL FOR VIDEO EPISODES!: www.secludedthoughts.com/YoutubeShow notes: secludedthoughts.com/trauma-bondsWebsite: secludedthoughts.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/secluded.thoughts/Email: hello@secludedth...2021-08-1520 minSecluded Thoughts20. Stop letting TRAUMA BONDS drag you downAre you holding on to trauma bonds??? Do you have people in your life that you once bonded over your struggle with… but you’re now feeling a shift in energy around them because you’ve decided to heal and move on with your life? Let’s talk about it. LET'S STAY CONNECTED:SUBSCRIBE TO MY YOUTUBE CHANNEL FOR VIDEO EPISODES!: www.secludedthoughts.com/YoutubeShow notes: secludedthoughts.com/trauma-bondsWebsite: secludedthoughts.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/secluded.thoughts/Email: hello@secludedth...2021-08-1520 minSecluded Thoughts19. Are you lonely or just alone?How do you know if you're really lonely or just alone? You might be single or by yourself but that doesn't make you lonely. And if you are or have ever been lonely you know how much it SUCKS.So let's talk about what you can do if you're feeling lonely and how to make the best out of your alone time.LET'S STAY CONNECTED!SUBSCRIBE TO MY YOUTUBE CHANNEL FOR VIDEO EPISODES!: www.secludedthoughts.com/YoutubeShow notes...2021-08-0832 minSecluded Thoughts19. Are you lonely or just alone?How do you know if you're really lonely or just alone? You might be single or by yourself but that doesn't make you lonely. And if you are or have ever been lonely you know how much it SUCKS.So let's talk about what you can do if you're feeling lonely and how to make the best out of your alone time.LET'S STAY CONNECTED!SUBSCRIBE TO MY YOUTUBE CHANNEL FOR VIDEO EPISODES!: www.secludedthoughts.com/YoutubeShow notes...2021-08-0832 minSecluded Thoughts18. How to deal with your toxic familyThey say blood is thicker than water. But what do you do when that blood is suffocating you or hindering your growth? How do you deal with toxic family members whom you’re expected to stick by even when they drain you and take so much out of you?Tune in to get some tips on how to deal with these toxic relationships so you can move on and live your best life without cutting ties with your family.RESOURCES (Affiliate links are used):Don’t Settle for...2021-08-0130 minSecluded Thoughts18. How to deal with your toxic familyThey say blood is thicker than water. But what do you do when that blood is suffocating you or hindering your growth? How do you deal with toxic family members whom you’re expected to stick by even when they drain you and take so much out of you?Tune in to get some tips on how to deal with these toxic relationships so you can move on and live your best life without cutting ties with your family.RESOURCES (Affiliate links are used):Don’t Settle for...2021-08-0130 minSecluded Thoughts17. How to deal with self doubt and the imposter syndromeWe ALL struggle with self doubt and imposter syndrome - even the most successful people. But the difference is they push through and do things afraid. If you want to be successful in anything you do that requires you to step outside of your comfort zone, you’re going to have to learn how to do this too. In this episode I’ll give you two things you can do to help overcome your self doubt and manifest the things you want. RESOURCES:Why & how affirmations work: https...2021-07-2535 minSecluded Thoughts17. How to deal with self doubt and the imposter syndromeWe ALL struggle with self doubt and imposter syndrome - even the most successful people. But the difference is they push through and do things afraid. If you want to be successful in anything you do that requires you to step outside of your comfort zone, you’re going to have to learn how to do this too. In this episode I’ll give you two things you can do to help overcome your self doubt and manifest the things you want. RESOURCES:Why & how affirmations work: https...2021-07-2535 minSecluded Thoughts16. Don't forget to unwrap your giftHow much more time are you going to let pass you by before you do that thing you KNOW you need to do? Would you be able to look yourself in the mirror if a year from now you’re doing the same thing you’re doing right now when there’s a bigger calling with your name on it?You have the power to change your life but there may be some fears holding you back. So let’s address them head on in this episode, because your time is now.2021-07-1842 minSecluded Thoughts16. Don't forget to unwrap your giftHow much more time are you going to let pass you by before you do that thing you KNOW you need to do? Would you be able to look yourself in the mirror if a year from now you’re doing the same thing you’re doing right now when there’s a bigger calling with your name on it?You have the power to change your life but there may be some fears holding you back. So let’s address them head on in this episode, because your time is now.2021-07-1842 minSecluded Thoughts15. Most of your time isn't even under your controlDo you know how much of your time is really yours? Are you struggling to do the things you love/want to do because you feel like you don't have enough time?If you're anything like me, you feel like you always need to be doing something and it's hard to slow down and rest. But my inability to relax on the beach in Cancun made me realize something very important about how I'm spending my time. And something tells me you might be struggling with the same problem too.2021-07-1130 minSecluded Thoughts15. Most of your time isn't even under your controlDo you know how much of your time is really yours? Are you struggling to do the things you love/want to do because you feel like you don't have enough time?If you're anything like me, you feel like you always need to be doing something and it's hard to slow down and rest. But my inability to relax on the beach in Cancun made me realize something very important about how I'm spending my time. And something tells me you might be struggling with the same problem too.2021-07-1130 minSecluded Thoughts14. How to get your sh*t together (on autopilot!)Sometimes when we want to make a lifestyle change, start new habits, or accomplish a major goal we often try to do way too much all at once and then we fall short on our plans. I’ve discovered a technique that has allowed me to level up ON AUTOPILOT and it’s literally SO SIMPLE and EASY to do.If you’re ready to start improving different areas of your life to become the best version of yourself, tune in to learn this easy and efficient way to level up on autopilot....2021-07-0425 minSecluded Thoughts14. How to get your sh*t together (on autopilot!)Sometimes when we want to make a lifestyle change, start new habits, or accomplish a major goal we often try to do way too much all at once and then we fall short on our plans. I’ve discovered a technique that has allowed me to level up ON AUTOPILOT and it’s literally SO SIMPLE and EASY to do.If you’re ready to start improving different areas of your life to become the best version of yourself, tune in to learn this easy and efficient way to level up on autopilot....2021-07-0425 minSecluded Thoughts13. It's okay to not have your life figured out yetWe’ve always been expected to know what to do with our lives… but what about those of us who STILL haven’t quite figured it out yet? In this episode we discuss why IT IS OKAY to not have everything figured out and the 2 main things you need to know to help you find out what you want to do with your life.If you’ve been struggling to figure things out and you’ve been feeling lost because you haven’t quite figured out why you’re here yet then this episode is for you.2021-06-2735 minSecluded Thoughts13. It's okay to not have your life figured out yetWe’ve always been expected to know what to do with our lives… but what about those of us who STILL haven’t quite figured it out yet? In this episode we discuss why IT IS OKAY to not have everything figured out and the 2 main things you need to know to help you find out what you want to do with your life.If you’ve been struggling to figure things out and you’ve been feeling lost because you haven’t quite figured out why you’re here yet then this episode is for you.2021-06-2735 minSecluded Thoughts12. Why your pain is necessaryWhile you’re in the middle of a painful experience you might feel like there’s no hope. You might ask why that terrible thing had to happen to you or what you did to deserve such a painful experience. But this episode will challenge you to look at your pain from a different perspective and understand that it’s absolutely necessary that you go through painful experiences in life. Tune in to discover why.LET'S STAY CONNECTED!SUBSCRIBE TO MY YOUTUBE CHANNEL FOR VIDEO EPISODES!: www.secludedthoughts.com/Youtube2021-06-2019 minSecluded Thoughts12. Why your pain is necessaryWhile you’re in the middle of a painful experience you might feel like there’s no hope. You might ask why that terrible thing had to happen to you or what you did to deserve such a painful experience. But this episode will challenge you to look at your pain from a different perspective and understand that it’s absolutely necessary that you go through painful experiences in life. Tune in to discover why.LET'S STAY CONNECTED!SUBSCRIBE TO MY YOUTUBE CHANNEL FOR VIDEO EPISODES!: www.secludedthoughts.com/Youtube2021-06-2019 minSecluded Thoughts11. Stop being so hard on yourself..We tend to be our biggest critics. We’re hard on ourselves when we make mistakes and we compare ourselves to other people a lot. If you’ve been doing this a lot then this episode is for you.LET’S STAY CONNECTED!SUBSCRIBE TO MY YOUTUBE CHANNEL FOR VIDEO EPISODES!: www.secludedthoughts.com/YoutubeWebsite: secludedthoughts.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/secluded.thoughts/Email: hello@secludedthoughts.comSuggest a topic for an episode: https://secludedthoughts.com/suggestionsOur...2021-06-1332 minSecluded Thoughts11. Stop being so hard on yourself..We tend to be our biggest critics. We’re hard on ourselves when we make mistakes and we compare ourselves to other people a lot. If you’ve been doing this a lot then this episode is for you.LET’S STAY CONNECTED!SUBSCRIBE TO MY YOUTUBE CHANNEL FOR VIDEO EPISODES!: www.secludedthoughts.com/YoutubeWebsite: secludedthoughts.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/secluded.thoughts/Email: hello@secludedthoughts.comSuggest a topic for an episode: https://secludedthoughts.com/suggestionsOur...2021-06-1332 minSecluded Thoughts10. You deserve better... but it's not something you wait onIf you think about your relationships with people in terms of “how they treat you” then you’re giving up your power to determine that. Instead, you should see it as “how I allow people to treat me.” And if you haven’t been treated right lately then saying it this way will make you feel defeated but there are things you can do to work on this and stop allowing people to take you for granted. Let’s talk about them.LET'S STAY CONNECTED!SUBSCRIBE TO MY YOUTUBE CHANNEL FOR VIDEO EPISODES!: www...2021-06-0634 minSecluded Thoughts10. You deserve better... but it's not something you wait onIf you think about your relationships with people in terms of “how they treat you” then you’re giving up your power to determine that. Instead, you should see it as “how I allow people to treat me.” And if you haven’t been treated right lately then saying it this way will make you feel defeated but there are things you can do to work on this and stop allowing people to take you for granted. Let’s talk about them.LET'S STAY CONNECTED!SUBSCRIBE TO MY YOUTUBE CHANNEL FOR VIDEO EPISODES!: www...2021-06-0634 minSecluded Thoughts9. How you do one thing is how you do EVERYTHINGHow you do one thing is how you do EVERYTHING. You might think that phrase is BS but tune in to find out how your bad habits create negative patterns that you use to do almost everything that you do. And the worst part is you may not even realize it!In this episode we discuss 3 negative patterns that most people unknowingly apply to everything that they do + what you can do to reverse those patterns. You’ll also discover the secret to building more confidence!LET'S STAY CONNECTED!...2021-05-3027 minSecluded Thoughts9. How you do one thing is how you do EVERYTHINGHow you do one thing is how you do EVERYTHING. You might think that phrase is BS but tune in to find out how your bad habits create negative patterns that you use to do almost everything that you do. And the worst part is you may not even realize it!In this episode we discuss 3 negative patterns that most people unknowingly apply to everything that they do + what you can do to reverse those patterns. You’ll also discover the secret to building more confidence!LET'S STAY CONNECTED!...2021-05-3027 minSecluded Thoughts8. How to ACTUALLY accomplish your goalsWe all have goals that we want to achieve, but do you know HOW to actually achieve them? Do you have a system in place to help you accomplish your goals? If you don’t, here are the 5 techniques I use to accomplish my goals (aka look like I have my life together).RESOURCES MENTIONED:Atomic Habits (Affiliate Link): https://amzn.to/3hznVWmEron on Demand Top 3 Notebook: https://erinondemand.comErin Mae Henry Routine Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CGM8ncbi-kw&t=381sGoogle Ke...2021-05-2429 minSecluded Thoughts8. How to ACTUALLY accomplish your goalsWe all have goals that we want to achieve, but do you know HOW to actually achieve them? Do you have a system in place to help you accomplish your goals? If you don’t, here are the 5 techniques I use to accomplish my goals (aka look like I have my life together).RESOURCES MENTIONED:Atomic Habits (Affiliate Link): https://amzn.to/3hznVWmEron on Demand Top 3 Notebook: https://erinondemand.comErin Mae Henry Routine Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CGM8ncbi-kw&t=381sGoogle Ke...2021-05-2429 minSecluded Thoughts7. 3 things that are either making or breaking you right nowThere may be a lot of reasons for why you are the way you are today. But arguably, the biggest one is your environment - and I don’t just mean your surroundings. There are 3 major aspects of your environment that will influence your behaviors, thoughts, and actions.Tune in to find out what they are and how you can adjust these areas to become the person you want to be. In this episode we get practical and break things down into tangible steps to follow to make progress in your life so you’ll w...2021-05-1621 minSecluded Thoughts7. 3 things that are either making or breaking you right nowThere may be a lot of reasons for why you are the way you are today. But arguably, the biggest one is your environment - and I don’t just mean your surroundings. There are 3 major aspects of your environment that will influence your behaviors, thoughts, and actions.Tune in to find out what they are and how you can adjust these areas to become the person you want to be. In this episode we get practical and break things down into tangible steps to follow to make progress in your life so you’ll w...2021-05-1621 minSecluded Thoughts6. How a victim mentality almost killed me. Literally.When I was 16 I was at the lowest point in my life. I didn’t see a light at the end of the tunnel and almost didn’t live to tell this story. But something out of the ordinary happened and it saved my life. After that experience I went from having a victim mentality to living an abundant life. This is the experience that forever changed my life.Tune in to learn how you can start letting go of your victim mentality and start shifting your perspective to live a life of abundance.2021-05-0959 minSecluded Thoughts6. How a victim mentality almost killed me. Literally.When I was 16 I was at the lowest point in my life. I didn’t see a light at the end of the tunnel and almost didn’t live to tell this story. But something out of the ordinary happened and it saved my life. After that experience I went from having a victim mentality to living an abundant life. This is the experience that forever changed my life.Tune in to learn how you can start letting go of your victim mentality and start shifting your perspective to live a life of abundance.2021-05-0959 minSecluded Thoughts5. Stop looking for Motivation - This is what you need insteadWhen you have an idea that requires you to step outside of your comfort zone and do something new it takes a lot of willpower to take action and do it. You’ve probably been looking for a sign or following your favorite influencers, or looking up motivational videos and quotes on social media to convince you to take action - but that’s not going to work. There’s only one thing that will truly make you take action and move the needle forward. Tune in to find out what it is and how to get started....2021-05-0323 minSecluded Thoughts4. How to Get Rid of the Negativity in Your LifeYou can't have a positive life with a negative mind. If your energy has been low lately it could be because you're constantly being exposed to a lot of negativity. Constant negative exposure leads to negative thinking which will greatly reduce the quality of your life. If you've been struggling to deal with all of the negativity that's being thrown your way, here are some practical steps to take and areas you need to focus on to improve your life.SUBSCRIBE TO MY YOUTUBE CHANNEL FOR VIDEO EPISODES!: www.secludedthoughts.com/Youtube2021-04-2540 minSecluded Thoughts3. You might be more toxic than you thinkAre you aware of your toxic traits? Are you aware of the ways that you are contributing to the toxic situations you find yourself in?Because there's no way you were the victim in all of your relationships. This episode is going to read you your rights. You might feel a little triggered but don't worry I'll be dragging myself in this one too. The purpose of this episode is to promote awareness of your shortcomings and take accountability for them so you can start making changes and manifesting healthy relationships!2021-04-1832 minSecluded Thoughts2. Seeking validation is killing your dreamsDo you ever run to others to validate your ideas about new businesses, financial decisions, career changes, or anything major in your life? Well you're not alone. But depending on who you tell, you're most likely to get discouraged because people can only speak from their limited perspectives. You may be doing this because you lack confidence in yourself and you need someone to cheer you on before you make a big decision. But unfortunately, that's not how you build confidence. And if you rely on others to hype you up before you take risks or make d...2021-04-1119 minSecluded Thoughts1. Perfectionism will get you nowhere - Here's what to focus on insteadPerfectionism can kill your dreams and keep you from making progress in your life.You want to put your best foot forward but you get crippled by all of your excessive planning and focusing on all of the little details so you get nothing done. Then you feel like a failure or that you're off course because of your lack of progress. Here's what you can do about this.SUBSCRIBE TO MY YOUTUBE CHANNEL FOR VIDEO EPISODES!: www.secludedthoughts.com/YoutubeShow notes: https://s...2021-04-0416 min