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Empowering Women In ConversationsPart 3: Beyond People Pleasing: Building a Conscious Relationship That Heals and GrowsWhat was your biggest Takeaway from this Episode! I would Love to hear from you!Part 3: Beyond People Pleasing – Building a Conscious Relationship That Heals and Grows with Shane & Wendy Adamson💬 Episode Summary: In the final installment of our 3-part People Pleasing Recovery Series, we welcome back Shane and Wendy Adamson — a couple who nearly walked away from their marriage, but chose healing, growth, and conscious love instead.Wendy, a former people pleaser and daughter of a narcissist, and Shane, a seasoned therapist with over 30 years of experie...2025-07-1152 min
Help for Loving RelationshipsSummer Break 2025Send us a textIn this episode, we review highlights of 2025 and look forward to final 3 months of 2025 when we return Oct- Dec. We are looking for theme ideas for 2026.Maybe it will be "Resiliency". Other thoughts....? Enjoy your Summer!2025-06-2407 min
Help for Loving RelationshipsHeidi & Alex: Heartache to HappinessSend us a textTune in to hear the inspiring story of a couple who overcame the crippling challenges of depression and behavior that threatened their marriage. Heidi and Alex are courageous and vulnerable to share their story. It details how they met, the periods of heartache, the turning points of growth, the lessons learned, and the joy and connection they now enjoy.  We hope this episode inspires you to take the necessary steps to improve and strengthen your loving relationships.  2025-06-2131 min
Help for Loving RelationshipsEmpowering Women in RelationshipsSend us a textWhat holds women back in relationships? Therapist Anita Sandoval and Shane cover topics includingThe reflex to people please, and how this can be harmful long-termGuilt and cultural expectations that trap women in self-sacrificing rolesThe signs of betrayal trauma and how it hijacks the nervous systemWhat “duty sex” reveals about emotional disconnection. More fulfilling sex happens when both choose to be sexual and it is meaningful & connectingThe warning signs of a "toxic" relationship and what to do next What the markers of healing look like—and how to get thereEmpowered Women de...2025-05-2458 min
Empowering Women In ConversationsFrom People Pleaser to Empowered Woman: Wendy’s Story of Healing & Growth: Part 2What was your biggest Takeaway from this Episode! I would Love to hear from you!From People Pleaser to Empowered Woman: Wendy’s Story of Healing & Growth Series: Empowered & Unfiltered (Part 2 of 3) Guest: Wendy Adamson | Luxury Portrait Photographer & Empowerment AdvocateEpisode Description: What happens when a daughter finally says, “I won’t sacrifice myself for your love anymore”?In this raw and powerful conversation, Wendy Adamson opens up about growing up under the control of a narcissistic mother—and what it...2025-05-2250 minHelp for Loving RelationshipsImpacts of Unresolved TraumaSend us a textShane reviews the literature on trauma as well as shares observations from his 30 years as counselor and from his personal work of healing to share some markers that would indicate that you may be struggling with unresolved Trauma1) He reviews trauma's trauma's impact on physical health and especially the nervous system2) He details how truams is related to mood disorders such as depression and anxiety as well as addictions3) He review how Trauma can have impact on your personal confidence, self-esteem and result in a spiritual or...2025-05-1536 min
Empowering Women In ConversationsHealing the Pleaser Wound: Rebuilding Self-Worth After a Toxic Relationship: Part 1What was your biggest Takeaway from this Episode! I would Love to hear from you!Empowered & Unfiltered: A 3-Part Series on Healing, Empowerment, and Real Connection Guest: Shane Adamson, LCSW, CSAT, CCPSWhat happens when a people pleaser finally decides she’s worthy of more?In this honest and unfiltered conversation, I’m joined by therapist and relationship trauma specialist Shane Adamson, LCSW, , CSAT, CCPS to explore what really lies beneath the urge to overgive, over-accommodate, and lose yourself in relationships that never loved you...2025-05-0959 min
Help for Loving RelationshipsHigh-achieving Men and AddictionSend us a textWe know addiction gets in the way of happiness and relationships, but why is recovery so difficult for high-achieving men? Professional coach Roland Cochrun shares his insights and the realization that making real connections (and discovering your purpose in life) are essential. He is the founder of The Successful Addict recovery group, The Sex Addiction podcast, and author of The High Achiever's Guide to Sex-Addiction Recovery.2025-04-2251 min
Help for Loving RelationshipsHealing Generational Trauma & People-PleasingSend us a textWhat do you do when you didn't receive comfort consistently while growing up? You look for other ways to receive it. That can lead to unhealthy habits that damage relationships even when they give good feelings. Therapist Anita Sandoval & Shane discuss the Still Face Experiment demonstrated on YouTube, trauma treatments, and how re-parenting yourself helps you show up better in romantic relationships. Anita specializes in helping women in failed relationships become their empowered, resilient, authentic selves. Find her community online at https://www.anitasandoval.com/2025-04-1953 min
Help for Loving RelationshipsFinding Peace Retreat—My JourneySend us a textWhat is an intensive therapy retreat like? What benefits does it have over doing a therapy workbook or individual counseling? Shane gives his personal experience of the retreat coming up this fall near Lake Texoma that is designed to help people dig deep into themselves, discover the attachment wounds and negative core beliefs that are holding them back, and re-establish their inner serenity.2025-03-2530 min
Help for Loving RelationshipsSwimming through the Blue TrenchSend us a textOne of the scariest scenes in Finding Nemo was when Dory & Merlin swam through the blue trench—being afraid and vulnerable out in the open ocean. Men's coach Bob Smith shares his experiences personally and professionally in how doing that—feeling and accepting negative emotions including vulnerability—opens up individual happiness and leads the way to more connection in relationships."When we actually do go to that place of 'this is who I am,' I embrace all of it—the light and the darkness, the good and the bad, the things I...2025-03-0746 minHelp for Loving RelationshipsBalance in Relationship with Self & OthersSend us a textThere are 4 key components to creating balance in relationships, that equilibrium between autonomy and closeness that feels good to both partners, according to psychotherapist David Schnarch:A flexible, solid selfA quiet mind & calm heart (emotional regulation)Grounded response (avoid reactivity, seek first to understand the other)Meaningful endurance (tolerating discomfort for growth)Shane explains Dr. Schnarch’s research in this 30-minute podcast, and here is the article that inspired today’s episode.2025-02-2530 min
Help for Loving RelationshipsDigital Addictions: When screen interfaces replace human facesSend us a textWhat defines problematic screen use? What are the real harms? Whether it’s gaming, social media, or online porn, digital addictions can eat up time, tank productivity, increase anxiety, and hurt what really helps—relationships with loved ones. Counselor Jeremy Edge specializes in teens with gaming addictions and tells us what feeds some of these addictions and how to redirect those we love. His website, Escapingthe.com, has resources including a Family Media Plan from the American Academy of Pediatrics. 2025-02-1134 min
Help for Loving RelationshipsEmpathy & HappinessSend us a textHow does empathy change the dynamic of big, negative emotions? What is it about emotional intelligence that allows us to bring our best selves to relationships? What is cognitive dissonance and why is it easier to change our thinking about our behaviors than to actually change them? Tune in to this and more from therapist Stevie Hall, who leads us on this deep dive into empathy.Stevie has a PhD in psychology as well as specific training in sex therapy, sex addiction, betrayal trauma, complex trauma, attachment theory, and couples therapy...2025-01-2835 minHelp for Loving RelationshipsHappiness Builders and BlockersSend us a text2025 is the year to better understand happiness! In this episode Shane shares what research indicates increases happiness as well as what blocks it. You might be surprised! "Happiness does not have to be a grand adventure—it can just come from simple things." 2025-01-2024 minHelp for Loving RelationshipsHow Holiday Traditions Strengthen RelationshipsSend us a textThey foster connection, create a sense of belonging, and reinforce shared values.  Shane shares some of his own family traditions as well as from asking others what traditions were meaningful to them.  He reminds the listeners to stay tuned to 2025 where the theme will be happiness. What are the ingredients for a happy life. He is open to guests submitting their nominee for someone they know is happy and feels comfortable being interviewed about the ways he/she has created a happy life.  2024-12-2612 min
Help for Loving RelationshipsFrom Rage to ResilienceSend us a textYour world was torn apart by the person you loved the most in the world. Maybe you're still in the relationship, maybe not. Maybe you're trying to decide. What you know is that you don't feel yourself, and you're not getting past it. Therapist Kaylee Dunn talks with Shane about how betrayed partners learn from their anger and channel it to power their transformation. Back to safety and reconnection in relationships again. She and a colleague started the Humans Navigating Betrayal FB group.2024-12-2659 min
Help for Loving RelationshipsFeeling Disconnected in Your Marriage?Send us a textFeeling burned out at home? Not getting the love and support you need? Does your marriage need some work? Coach Shiloh Minor talks with Shane aboutboundariesself-carebeing more generous with yourself noticing the energy you give out, andfinding the right time to ask for what you needThey make a HUGE difference in what you bring to your relationship and getting the love you need!Connect with Shiloh's marriage coaching for women athttps://www.facebook.com/Shiloh.LoveYourMarriage/or https://www.shilohminor.com/2024-11-1946 min
Help for Loving RelationshipsJourney Beyond BetrayalSend us a textAfter the anger, grief, mourning, and loss, is there really hope for a relationship after a betrayal? Kate Conwell gives us a resounding "Yes!" Listen as she & Shane delve into the 3 stages of healing:Safety & stabilizationAnger, grief. . . all the feelingsPost-traumatic growthGetting support with a group really accelerates healing, both for men and women. You can find Kate's groups for women's support at www.journeybeyondbetrayal.com or on Facebook or Instagram. SA Lifeline has recovery groups for both sex addicts and their betrayed partners. Most offer a remote attendance option. Their...2024-11-1337 min
Help for Loving RelationshipsSelf-discovery in Nature, Spirituality, and RelationshipsSend us a textA decade-long journey to heal from PTSD, depression, and addiction took travel writer Brad Wetzler to the Holy Land, India, and the Himalayas. While immersed in nature, spirituality, and relationships with people (and dogs), Brad discovered himself. Self-compassion was a big healer: "When I softened the way I spoke to myself, I began to emerge, and began to feel more connected with my world."Brad's journey is chronicled in his book Into the Soul of the World.2024-06-2732 minHelp for Loving RelationshipsSummer Break & Online Course in the Works!Send us a textThe podcast will be on break from at least July - Sept. Related to that, I am excited to announce a new online course coming soon: Heroic Healing: A Couples' Guide to Healing from Betrayal/InfidelityThis is my first time developing an online course. I am uncertain how much time it will require.  I may take a longer break than just summer months if I need the time for course development. I will give listeners a time we will be back releasing episodes this fall.  If yo...2024-06-2702 min