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TOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in RelationshipsWhat It Means When The Spark Is Gone EP 131Enroll Today for 30 Days to DifferentDoes your relationship feel… quieter lately? The butterflies are gone. The texts are shorter. Affection feels different. And now your brain is spiraling:Did they lose interest? Is this my fault? Is the spark gone?In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn breaks down what’s actually happening when the intensity fades in a long-term relationship — especially if you struggle with jealousy, insecurity, or fear of abandonment.You’ll learn why early love feels intoxicating, why that high is biolog...
2026-02-1021 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in Relationships3 Lies Insecurity Tells You Ep 130🦋. 30 Days to Different is starting soon - ENROLL TODAYInsecurity doesn’t always scream. Sometimes, it whispers lies that keep us stuck.In this solo episode, Shanenn unpacks the three most convincing lies insecurity tells you—and why they feel so real even when they’re not. Whether it’s the urge to check their phone, overanalyze tone, or control every detail in your relationship… this episode will help you finally understand what’s really driving that behavior and how to stop reacting from fear.This one is for the insecure person who’s exhausted from...
2026-02-0333 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in RelationshipsGet It Out Of Your Jealous Head W/ Annette Furio EP 129If you’ve ever felt stuck in a mental loop, replaying conversations, spiraling into insecurity, or feeling something is wrong but you can’t quite name it—this episode is for you.In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn sits down with Annette Furio, founder of Season Journals, to talk about how journaling can help you slow down, make sense of your thoughts, and create space between what you feel and how you react.f your brain feels loud or stuck, this episode is about giving those thoughts somewhere to go so you can th...
2025-12-3028 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in RelationshipsCalm You vs. Anxious You. Who's Telling The Truth? EP 128In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn breaks down a question so many people quietly struggle with—especially this time of year:Why do I feel calm and trusting with my partner sometimes… and anxious, suspicious, or insecure with them at other times—when nothing has actually changed?As the holidays approach and routines shift, old patterns can resurface. Shanenn explains why these emotional swings don’t mean you’re inconsistent, broken, or ignoring red flags. Instead, they’re signals from your nervous system responding to changing conditions—not changing relationship facts.T...
2025-12-2312 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in RelationshipsHow To Keep Your Reactions From Being Bigger Than the Moment EP 127In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn breaks down why small moments in your relationship can trigger huge emotional reactions.If you’ve ever felt embarrassed by your reaction, overwhelmed by jealousy, or hijacked by anxiety over something that logically felt minor, this episode explains what’s really happening beneath the surface.Shanenn introduces the concept of emotional agility—the ability to feel deeply without losing yourself—and explains why trust, confidence, and security aren’t built by suppressing emotions, but by learning how to stay present with them. This episode offers practical tools to h...
2025-12-1620 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in RelationshipsWhy Your Anxious Attachment Picks Terrible Partners EP 126If you've ever thought "I'm too much," felt shame around your jealousy, or struggled with feeling "needy" in relationships, this episode will be a relief and a revelation. Shanenn sits down with Trevor Hansen, coach and founder of The Art of Healing, to dismantle the shame loop of anxious attachment and show how it can be transformed into self-trust and secure connection.Trevor shares his raw personal story—from toxic relationships and a broken jaw to leaving a high-powered career at Tesla—and the powerful tools he discovered to move from fear to security. This is a must...
2025-12-0240 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in RelationshipsYou're Not a Jerk, You're a Genius EP 125🦋 Join the experience - enroll in 30 Days to Different today!In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn flips the script on what it means to be “the jealous one” in a relationship—and trust us, you’ll never see your spirals the same again.Ever swear you’re not going to snoop, spiral, or snap... and then do it anyway? That doesn’t mean you’re some controlling jerk. It means you’ve got a genius-level nervous system doing exactly what it was wired to do: keep you safe.This solo episode unpacks the...
2025-11-1829 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in RelationshipsDo You Need to Change Your Partner or Your Patterns EP 124Schedule your Discovery Call hereIn this episode of Top Self, Shanenn dives into one of the most exhausting relationship cycles—when you keep second-guessing your partner, breaking up, getting back together, and wondering if they’re “the one.”The truth? Your confusion isn’t about your partner. It’s about your pattern.If you’ve ever caught yourself analyzing every text, tone, or gesture, or if you’re tired of asking “should I stay or should I go?”, this episode will hit home. Shanenn unpacks how fear, se...
2025-10-2839 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in RelationshipsWhat Would Your Life Be Like If You Weren't Jealous EP 123Schedule your FREE Discovery CallIn this powerful solo episode, Shanenn cracks open a question many of us quietly carry:“If I weren’t jealous… who would I be?”From the deck of a cruise ship years ago to the emotional trenches of everyday hypervigilance, Shanenn walks you through how jealousy feels like its become your identity—and how to begin shedding it.She reveals why your brain clings to jealousy like a job, how it tricks you into thinking you're protecting yourself, and the truth...
2025-10-2139 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in RelationshipsIs Alcohol Making Your Jealousy Worse EP 122Schedule your FREE 30-Minute Discovery Call hereIn this episode of Top Self, Shanenn gets real about a silent habit that so many listeners can relate to—but few talk about openly: using alcohol to cope with jealousy, anxiety, and emotional overwhelm in relationships.From the glass of wine that helps you "take the edge off" before date night… to the third drink that leads to a spiral of shame, regret, and disconnection—this episode breaks down what’s really happening when we reach for a drink to manage our feelings.Shanenn...
2025-10-1435 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in RelationshipsWhat Does It Mean If Your Partner Flirts EP 121Schedule your FREE Discovery CallIn this solo episode of Top Self, host Shanenn dives deep into one of the most anxiety-triggering scenarios in relationships: witnessing your partner flirt with someone else. Is it a sign they’re unhappy? Are they secretly interested in someone else? Or…could it mean something entirely different?Drawing from scientific research and her personal journey, Shanenn shares the six core reasons people flirt—and reveals that only one of them is actually about sex. With compassionate insights and a powerful reframe on validation, esteem...
2025-10-0730 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in RelationshipsWhy Your Brain Needs To Talk It Out EP 120Enroll in the Behind Your Jealous Mind Bootcamp starting soon!In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn shares a deeply relatable scenario: it’s 10 p.m., you’re staring at your phone, spiraling over a text that simply says, “Okay, sounds good. Talk to you tomorrow.” If that’s ever sent you into an emotional tailspin, this episode is for you.We explore why relationship insecurity creates an overwhelming urge to process everything out loud—and why your friends might be reaching their limit. Shanenn dives into the neuroscience of emotional regulation, the crit...
2025-09-2326 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in RelationshipsThis Is Why Your Partner Is Not Meeting Your Needs EP 119In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn breaks down one of the most common communication traps in relationships: expecting your partner to read your mind.Whether you're silently hoping your partner just knows you need a hug—or you're dropping hints that never land—this episode is your guide to getting what you actually need without spiraling, snapping, or shutting down.From attachment styles to the six human needs, Shanenn explains why asking isn’t needy—it’s necessary—and gives you the exact words to use so your partner can...
2025-09-1633 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in RelationshipsIs This What You Needed To Hear EP 118In this powerful episode of Top Self, Shanenn Bryant delivers something your inner child may have never received: acknowledgment, validation, and the words you needed most. This episode is a gentle but honest space for anyone who grew up feeling unseen, unprotected, or responsible for everyone else’s emotions.Shanenn talks about how childhood trauma—whether loud or silent—gets stored in the body and shapes adult patterns. Through reflections on her own healing journey and a moving message written as a voice of apology from the caregiver you never had, this episode offers...
2025-08-0521 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in RelationshipsThis Childhood Shame Is Holding You Back EP 117Schedule Your Free Discovery Call TodayIn this episode of Top Self, Shanenn gets deeply personal, sharing the origin of the podcast and a powerful realization about the hidden shame many people carry from their childhoods. If you’ve ever felt like you had to hide how you grew up—because of addiction, dysfunction, or chaos—this episode is a must-listen.She shares the moment she realized she wasn’t alone in her struggles with jealousy and insecurity, and how our pasts—when left unspoken—can quietly sabotage our relation...
2025-07-2224 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in RelationshipsWhen Safety Feels Scary EP 116Book your FREE Discovery CallEver started pulling away just when things got good? If calm, consistent love feels boring—or even threatening—you’re not broken. You’re human.In this episode, Shanenn explores why “safe” love can trigger your nervous system, especially if you grew up in chaos or experienced emotionally unpredictable relationships. You’ll learn:Why peace can feel like a red flag to a dysregulated nervous systemThe hidden link between chaos and connectionSubtle ways we sabotage healthy love without realizing itA...
2025-07-0117 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in RelationshipsTapping Into Emotional Freedom W/ Amy Vincze EP 115Book Your FREE Discovery Call With ShanennWatch on my Youtube Channel hereIn this episode of Top Self, Shanenn welcomes tapping expert Amy Vincze to explore how tapping can help release jealousy, insecurity, and emotional triggers. With over 17 years of experience, Amy shares how she went from skeptic to certified coach—using tapping to navigate personal trauma, anxiety, and even breast cancer recovery.This isn’t just theory. Amy walks listeners through the science of tapping, the emotional patterns that fuel insecurity, and a powerful guided tapping session to h...
2025-06-2448 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in Relationships3 Stages of Jealousy Management EP 114Book your FREE Discovery Call to see how I can help.🎧 In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn breaks down the 3 stages of jealousy that sabotage emotional security—and how to work through them.If you’ve ever felt stuck in spirals, constantly checking your partner’s phone, or craving reassurance just to get through the day—this episode is for you.Through her own experience and years of coaching clients through jealousy, Shanenn identifies 3 specific levels most people go through: High Alert, Distance Dependent, and Emotionally Equipped. Y...
2025-06-1034 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in RelationshipsA Nervous System Reset For Jealousy EP 113In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn unpacks one of the most misunderstood truths about jealousy: it doesn’t start in your mind—it starts in your body.If you’ve ever told yourself “I’m just going to think positive thoughts” or “I’ll be chill tonight”—only to spiral the moment your partner picks up their phone—then go ahead and hit play now.Shanenn introduces a nervous system-based approach to jealousy, built around her signature BAM Method: Body And Mind. You’ll learn how to stop shaming your reactions, calm your ner...
2025-05-2733 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in RelationshipsUnhealthy Thought Patterns And How To Spot Them w/ Amy Kemp EP 112In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn sits down with thought habit strategist and author Amy Kemp to unpack one of the most damaging patterns women struggle with—tying our self-worth to performance.From subconscious thought loops to resentment signals, Amy shares the surprising truth behind why we feel exhausted, unseen, and over-obligated—and what we can do to reclaim our identity and energy.If you're spiraling in your own pool of thoughts, this episode will help you understand the thought habits secretly draining you and how to replace them...
2025-05-2033 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in Relationships5 Daily Gratitude Habits to Quiet Anxiety and Reclaim Joy w/ Dr. Peggy DeLong EP 111In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn sits down with clinical psychologist and gratitude expert Dr. Peggy DeLong known as The Gratitude Psychologist to explore how gratitude can be a lifeline in life’s hardest seasons.Whether you’re navigating grief, anxiety, or emotional overwhelm, Peggy shares the science and soul behind why gratitude is most powerful on your worst days not your best. From the moment she found comfort in a cup of hazelnut coffee while sitting at her fiancé’s deathbed, to her 5-minute daily gratitude practice, this episode...
2025-05-1330 min
CX Unplugged016 - Leading the Charge: How Boundaries and Recovery Shape Exceptional CX with Shanenn BryantWhat if leadership wasn’t just about driving outcomes, but about modeling well-being, balance, and intentional connection? In this episode of CX Unplugged, host Gabrielle Gonzalez welcomes Shanenn Bryant, https://www.linkedin.com/in/shanenn-bryant/ pattern transformation expert and coach, to explore how the customer experience is shaped by the internal culture we create—starting at the top.Shanenn challenges the conventional definition of “customer” and invites us to see every interaction—internal and external—as a CX opportunity. From setting boundaries to supporting stress recovery, Shanenn delivers thought-provoking insights for leaders who want to build thriving teams that deliver...
2025-05-0633 min
The Radical Healing Podcast with Jessica BetancourtManaging Jealousy and Insecurity to have Healthier Relationships - with Shanenn BryantMy guest today is Shanenn Bryant. Shanenn helps women demolish their patterns and dominate their future. As a Pattern Transformation Expert and founder of Top Self, she bridges the gap between attachment theory and real-world transformation, showing women how to recognize and transform patterns that limit both their personal and professional lives.Combining her certification in Integrated Attachment Theory with nearly a decade of corporate Learning and Development experience, Shanenn demonstrates why "conscious seeing leads to conscious being."Please visit Top Self to learn more....
2025-04-2440 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in RelationshipsDetach From These If You Want Love, Peace, And Clarity w/ Bob Rosen EP 110In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn sits down with psychologist, leadership advisor, and author Bob Rosen to explore what it really means to let go—not of people, but of the stories, fears, and beliefs that silently run your life.Whether you’re obsessively checking your partner’s texts, chasing success but never feeling satisfied, or stuck in pain from your past, Bob’s message is clear: your attachments are stealing your peace.Together, they unpack how detaching from control, perfection, and outdated narratives helps you build emotional security, deeper relationships, and a more g...
2025-04-2231 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in RelationshipsAre You Guilty Of This Common Habit That Destroys Relationships w/ Jessica Higgins EP 109In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn sits down with relationship and communication expert Dr. Jessica Higgins to unpack one of the sneakiest relationship saboteurs: criticism. Whether you’re nitpicking over the garage door or bottling resentment until it explodes, criticism can quietly damage your emotional connection. Dr. Higgins breaks down why we criticize, how it's often tied to fear, insecurity, or control—and what to do instead. From revealing instead of blaming, to communicating needs without making your partner defensive, this episode is packed with powerful reframes and tools to shift from criticism to connec...
2025-04-1545 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in RelationshipsYou Can't Control Others But THIS Question Will Change Everything w/ Leah Lemberg 108In this powerful episode of Top Self, host Shanenn Bryant sits down with Leah Lemberg, who shares her remarkable journey from growing up in an alcoholic home to becoming 16 years sober and helping others transform their lives. From IV drug use at 18 to finding sobriety and purpose, Leah's story offers hope and practical wisdom for anyone struggling with addiction, unhealthy patterns, or leadership challenges.Golden Nuggets:💎 "How am I complicit in creating the conditions that I say I don't want?" - A powerful question for self-reflection 💎 Creating space in your...
2025-04-0134 min
Why Intervention PodcastAttachment Wounds: How Childhood Trauma Fuels Addiction and Relationship Patterns with Shanenn BryantIn this eye-opening episode of the Why Intervention Podcast, host Christopher Doyle interviews Shanenn Bryant, pattern transformation expert and founder of Top Self, who reveals the hidden connections between childhood experiences and adult relationship patterns. Guest's Info Shanenn Bryant helps women demolish their patterns and dominate their future. As a Pattern Transformation Expert and founder of Top Self, she bridges the gap between attachment theory and real-world transformation, showing women how to recognize and transform patterns that limit both their personal and professional lives. Combining her certification in Integrated Attachment Theory with nearly...
2025-03-211h 03TOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in RelationshipsUninstall Your Triggers w/ Dr. Greg Stewart EP 107In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn sits down with Dr. Greg Stewart, counselor, executive coach, and author to explore why insecurity might be the most valuable emotion we experience. Dr. Stewart shares his powerful framework for understanding emotional triggers and reveals how owning our insecurities can be the key to personal freedom.From his concept of "the house of your heart" to practical techniques like "embrace the digs," Dr. Stewart offers a refreshing perspective on emotional intelligence that can transform how you experience your relationships.Golden Nuggets:💎 "The...
2025-03-1834 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in RelationshipsReframing Friction For Relationship Growth w/ Dr. Rachel Glik EP 106In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn sits down with Dr. Rachel Glik, a licensed professional counselor with over 30 years of experience as a couples and individual therapist. Dr. Glik shares insights from her new book "Soulful Marriage: Healing your Relationship with Responsibility, Growth, Priority, and Purpose," offering her thoughts on how to nurture lasting love and embrace conflict as an opportunity for growth.Golden Episode Nuggets:💎 "The impact of our own personal growth work and turning to ourselves first to transform, evolve, heal, and feel whole is how we create a better imp...
2025-03-0429 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in RelationshipsThe Jealousy Scale - From OK to No Way: A We're Not Fine & Top Self Collaboration EP 105🤣 🤣 Get ready to laugh your way through relationship real talk! In this episode, we're joined by the hilarious duo from the "We're Not Fine" podcast - relationship therapist Dr. Talia Jackson and Doug Jensen - for an unfiltered discussion about those "Is this normal?" relationship questions.Shanenn, Talia, and Doug dive into:The great memorabilia debate: Is it okay to keep items from past relationships?The Instagram thirst trap dilemma: When does looking become liking?The workplace flirting fear: Where's the line between friendly and flirty?Don't Miss Moments:"We're...
2025-02-1856 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in RelationshipsGet Rid Of This Survival Skill EP 103In this powerful episode, Shanenn opens up about childhood trauma and how it shapes our relationship behaviors through hypervigilance.Episode HighlightsThe development of hypervigilance as a childhood survival skillHow childhood experiences with alcoholic parents can create heightened threat detection systemsWhy hypervigilance often gets mistaken for good intuitionThe physical and emotional toll of maintaining constant vigilanceKey Insights70% of children from alcoholic homes develop hypervigilant traits that persist into adulthoodOur body's stress response system gets programmed in childhoodEmotional threats are processed by our...
2025-02-0428 min
Healthy Mind, Healthy LifeUnlocking Resilience with Shanenn Bryant: Mastering Life’s ChallengesIn this episode of Healthy Mind, Healthy Life, Avik Chakraborty sits down with Shanenn Bryant, a transformational coach and advocate for personal empowerment. Shanenn shares her incredible journey of overcoming adversity and building a life of resilience and fulfillment. From navigating challenges to discovering tools for personal growth, this episode is packed with actionable advice to help you thrive.
About Shanenn Bryant: Shanenn Bryant is a transformational coach who specializes in helping individuals overcome obstacles and achieve their true potential. With a wealth of experience in personal development and coaching, Shanenn brings a unique perspective on how...
2025-01-2321 minHealthy Mind, Healthy LifeUnlocking Resilience with Shanenn Bryant: Mastering Life’s ChallengesIn this episode of Healthy Mind, Healthy Life, Avik Chakraborty sits down with Shanenn Bryant, a transformational coach and advocate for personal empowerment. Shanenn shares her incredible journey of overcoming adversity and building a life of resilience and fulfillment. From navigating challenges to discovering tools for personal growth, this episode is packed with actionable advice to help you thrive.
About Shanenn Bryant: Shanenn Bryant is a transformational coach who specializes in helping individuals overcome obstacles and achieve their true potential. With a wealth of experience in personal development and coaching, Shanenn brings a unique perspective on how...
2025-01-2321 min
Thrive Again - Your relationship podcastTransforming Relationship Insecurities: Overcoming Jealousy with Shanenn BryantImagine navigating the turbulent waters of jealousy and insecurity in relationships with newfound clarity and confidence. Shanenn Bryant, our insightful guest and a pattern transformation expert, shares her deeply personal journey from feeling unlovable due to a chaotic childhood and parental divorce to understanding the roots of her own jealousy and insecurity. Shanenn is passionate about breaking the stigma around these emotions and creating a safe space where they can be openly discussed. Her story and expertise promise to guide us toward managing these complex feelings with grace and self-awareness.Join us as we dissect the intricate...
2025-01-2143 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in RelationshipsStop Acting Like His Mother w/ Dr. Brittany McGeehan Ep: 100This episode is fire! 🔥In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn talks with Dr. Brittany McGeehan, who dropped a major truth bomb that made her stop everything: You’ll have to hit play to hear it. This may be the only thing you need to hear today! Dr. McGeehan, a licensed psychologist and performance coach specializing in empowering high-achieving female CEOs, shares the "Drama Triangle" and why we keep getting stuck in these relationship cycles. And you better believe Shanenn of course asked her how to get off the Drama Triangle cycle.
2025-01-1431 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in RelationshipsThe Next Chapter EP 99Shanenn understands how deeply our patterns are embedded in every corner of our existence. It turns out that relationship anxiety isn't just an isolated phenomenon – it's part of a larger tapestry of how we navigate life's complexities.What We're Diving Into:The revelation that your inner critic has apparently developed a rather impressive portfolio, showing up everywhere in your life from dating, to work, to relationships... all of itWhat Top Self is currently offering so you can make this your year of change.The fascinating discovery that ou...
2025-01-0712 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in RelationshipsNew Year, New Thoughts EP 98What will you be thinking ONE YEAR from now?Will it be the same thoughts you're having today? Will you're focus be on the same things?In this episode, we explore how your life could look totally different one year from now and why your thoughts might be your biggest obstacle to change. Shanenn gives an example of what she calls "heavy thinking" or better known as a thought spiral and suggests you could try to do the opposite.What?Shanenn shares:How your thoughts have l...
2024-12-3107 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in RelationshipsWhy Shame Is Sabotaging Your Relationship (and what to do instead) EP 97🎁 Only a few days left to claim your "Pay-What-You-Can" Coaching Session with me.This episode talks about the crucial difference between guilt and shame, and why one might be secretly sabotaging your relationship growth.Shanenn shares:• How guilt is like your relationship GPS - letting you know when you've made a wrong turn, while shame is more like a brick wall blocking all possible routes 🚧• Why treating yourself like your own mean girl isn't helping (and what Brené Brown has to say about it) 💭Don't Miss Moments:• "...
2024-12-2614 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in RelationshipsThe Connection Formula: Are You Wasting Your Time Worrying? Ep 96Do you enjoy how you're currently spending your time? Do you feel like you use your time wisely? When I am insecure and jealous, I don't! When you're feeling jealous, most likely you are spending your very precious time thinking about your partner rather than spending it on things that bring you joy, not a stomach ache.In this episode, Shanenn and Dr. Adam Dorsay talk about the concept of connection in our modern world. Despite being more technologically connected than ever, many people struggle with loneliness and disconnection. Dr. Dorsay shares insights from his new...
2024-12-1735 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in RelationshipsWhy Your "Everyone Cheats On Me" Story Might Be More Fiction Than Fact Ep 95Ever felt like you're starring in your own personal soap opera where every relationship ends with infidelity? Host Shanenn Bryant unpacks her own journey from "everyone cheats on me" to "huh, maybe I should check my math" in this eye-opening episode.Key Takeaways:A shocking 50% of our memories aren't even accurate (Thanks, Dr. Joe Dispenza, for this incredibly eye-opening fact)Only 20-23% of men cheat in relationships (Sorry to ruin your trust issues with actual statistics)Married people cheat less than unmarried folks (Apparently, putting a ring on it does mean something to both men and...
2024-12-1020 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in RelationshipsThe 'Just So You Know I Know' Protection Strategy EP 94Ever catch yourself saying "just so you know, I know what you COULD be doing" to your partner... even when you're pretty sure they're innocent? In this episode, Shanenn's calling you out when she gets into why we sometimes choose accusation over acceptance, even when our rational brain is screaming the obvious.THE HEART OF ITThe moment your logical brain offers the truth (and why we often ignore it)Why we feel the need to prove we're "not stupid" in relationshipsThe protective pattern of "just so you know I know" statementsHow choosing trust over proof...
2024-11-2622 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in RelationshipsWhy You Control And How To Let Go Of It w/ Joanna Kleinman EP 93🎙️ Where my freaks at? Control Freaks that is. In this episode, we dive deep with psychologist and author Joanna Kleinman to unpack why that voice in your head is working harder than a barista during morning rush hour. Shanenn and Joanna talk about: How your inner critic is just like the mean girl at school when you were growing up and she's been messing with you since you lost your first tooth 🛡️ The Jerry Maguire "you complete me" line is such a bad representation of the way relationships should really work and your relations...
2024-11-1932 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in RelationshipsThe #1 Question To Ask Yourself: Am I Being Honest? EP 92In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn's guest, award-winning psychologist Dr. Courtney Warren opens up about her own struggles with relationship insecurity and shares her thoughts about the lies we tell ourselves. From crying when her college boyfriend went out with friends to becoming an expert on self-deception, Dr. Warren's personal journey and professional wisdom offer hope for anyone wrestling with jealousy and relationship fears.Key Moments:- 2:00 - Why self-honesty is the key to living a fulfilling life- 9:00 - Dr. Warren shares a vulnerable story about her college relationship- 21:00...
2024-11-1241 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in RelationshipsHow To Recover With Your Partner Quickly After A Jealous Meltdown EP 91Feel like your relationship is hanging on by a thread? Do you wonder if too much damage has been done to the relationship? I was there too but you can turn things around. Your relationship can recover from this, but it's might take you going against how you normally feel after an argument to make a difference. It may take you recovering quickly instead of letting the shame and guilt of your actions take over. Apologize to your partner, forgive yourself, and push yourself to get back to normal as quickly as possible.
2024-11-0533 min
Called to Confidence - Personal Development For Kingdom Focused LeadersEp. 57 How Jealousy Hijacks Your Life with Shanenn BryantIn this very personal and candid conversation Shanenn Bryant, a relationship confidence expert shares what most people won't say out loud. This is a needed conversation and I invite you to listen and share this out.Shanenn discusses the issue of jealousy in relationships suggesting that it is often a symptom of deeper personal issues rather than a direct result of a partner's actions. Shanenn said that as relationships become more serious, the stakes are higher and jealousy can intensify. She likened jealousy to an addiction, noting that the constant need for reassurance from a partner can...
2024-11-0136 min
Referrals Done Right#55 - Become Your Top Self w/ Shanenn BryantIn this episode of Referrals Done Right, Scott Grates is joined by certified life coach and podcast host Shanenn Bryant. Together, they dive deep into how limiting beliefs and lack of self-confidence can hinder personal and professional growth, and how to reprogram your mindset for success.Key Takeaways:Self-confidence & Sales: Shanenn shares how low self-confidence can impact sales performance and why addressing deep-rooted insecurities is key to achieving success.Subconscious vs. Conscious Mind: Learn how 95% of your actions stem from your subconscious mind and how reprogramming limiting beliefs can unlock your potential.
2024-10-1739 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in RelationshipsHow To Know What You Need EP 89Feeling needy? Do you feel like you're high-maintenance and your constantly asking for things from your partner to make you feel better?It has everything to do with your core wounds and your relationship to self. In this episode, Shanenn share's her acronym S.E.L.F to learn how to identify your personality needs and how to self-source those needs.She shares the importance of becoming the captain of your own ship to maintain emotional balance and independence. Shannen invites you to take small steps towards self-sufficiency and happiness. Don't miss this lig...
2024-10-0830 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in RelationshipsWhy Your Friends Don't Freak Out Like You w/ Jessica DaSilva EP 88How we attach in relationships is everything! That's why we talk about it so much on the podcast and this episode is full of attachment style nuggets you're not going to want to miss. This week, Shanenn has none other than licensed marriage and family therapist and attachment coach Jessica DaSilva. Jessica not only shares her own experiences as a former fearful avoidant but discussed all four types: anxious, dismissive avoidant, fearful avoidant, and secure attachment. If you are wondering why you're friends are quite like you and could give a flying fruit loop about thei...
2024-10-0132 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in RelationshipsWhat You're Doing Isn't Working and Here's Why EP 87If you've been feeling like you are not strong enough to conquer this jealousy thing or you just dont have what it takes to change your life around, I'm here to tell you, that's not it. That's not why so stop beating yourself up. You may just being going about it in the wrong way.In this episode, Shanenn talks about the struggles of managing jealousy and insecurity despite trying various self-help techniques. She shares personal stories, including recent disruptions preventing new episodes, freeing a groundhog, dealing with a trapped skunk, and the misadventures of her skunk-sprayed Ge...
2024-09-2426 min
Transcending Identity014 Shanenn Bryant: Overcoming Jealousy and Insecurity in RelationshipsToday my amazing guest is Shanenn Bryant, a certified relationship coach, podcast host, and dynamic speaker. Shanenn specializes in helping individuals overcome jealousy and transform from fearful and anxious to calm and confident in their relationships. As the founder of Top Self, LLC, Shanenn provides a platform for serving others through coaching, online courses, and a nurturing community space.On her podcast, “Top Self Podcast,” Shanenn engages in candid conversations addressing topics such as insecurity, jealousy, and self-belief. During our time together, Shanenn shares: Her personal journey dealing with jealousy to becoming a re...
2024-05-3044 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in RelationshipsHow To Get What You Need Instead Of Nagging For What You Want w/ Dr. Abby Medcalf EP 75Every time you catch yourself nagging from here on out, you're going to remember this episode.I have such a FIRE guest today. Dr. Abby Medcalf, a relationship expert, psychologist, author, podcast host, and TEDx speaker and she delivers some hard core truths in her very no-nonsense kind of way and one of them is...Don't Have A Victim MentalityRemember your mom saying, you're driving me crazy, or your're going to give me grey hair.... maybe that was just in my house BUThearing statements like these growing up have u...
2024-05-2130 min
Stop Overthinking57. Overcoming Jealousy & Insecurity in Relationships with Shanenn BryantJealousy is an emotion pushed away and not often discussed.
But, its real. It doesn't feel good. It can strain or ruin relationships - so we dive into how to overcome it, build confidence and actually improve your relationships.
This episode includes:
The differences between envy and jealousy
Signals of jealousy (Protection, Projection & Competion)
Building trust in partnerships
Not reacting from fear
Boundaries
Shanenn Bryant, Relationship Confidence Coach, is the founder and CEO of Top Self, a self-development company offering coaching, courses, and...
2024-05-1641 min
Fearless Family BusinessE189: How to Conquer Jealousy and Find Your Self Confidence with Shanenn BryantDiscover how to conquer jealousy through self-confidence, face your demons to reignite passion, and rebuild bonds through empathetic understanding and forgiving grace. This inspiring conversation with Shanenn Bryant will give you the tools to overcome insecurity, regain your flow, and build trustworthy trust in yourself and others.
Learn Shanenn’s self-regulation techniques for managing anxiety and regaining control through self-awareness. Adam and Shanenn also explore how to transform limiting beliefs into unstoppable confidence by rising above fear with courageous self-belief.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
Heal your own wounds to be...
2024-05-1449 min
Relationships Are Your Superpower®Ep. 91 I Building Confident Relationships a Conversation with Shanenn BryantIn this episode, relationship and confidence expert Shannon Bryant discusses the connection between relationships and confidence in both personal and business settings. She emphasizes the importance of being present in our lives and not letting insecurities and jealousies hold us back. The conversation also touches on the topic of women in business and the tendency for women to see each other as threats rather than supporting and uplifting one another. Shannon and Barb Betts discuss the power of self-awareness, reframing negative experiences into positives, and taking action to achieve our goals.TakeawaysBeing present...
2024-05-0828 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideERP 422: How To Work Through Jealousy & Insecure Tendencies In Relationship — Shanenn BryantJealousy is a complex emotional response often triggered by feelings of insecurity and fear of loss, and can profoundly impact personal relationships. It typically arises when an individual perceives a threat to a valued relationship, whether the threat is real or imagined. This emotion can lead to behaviors aimed at preventing loss, such as excessive monitoring or controlling tendencies, yet these actions often exacerbate the fears driving the jealousy. In this episode, we delve into pervasive issues surrounding jealousy, uncovering their origins rooted in individual past experiences and amplified by today's social media-driven culture. The discussion offers...
2024-04-3050 min
Linda's Corner: Inspiration for a Better LifeToxic jealousy - Shanenn Bryant (Extreme jealousy takes over your life)Extreme jealousy is toxic and can damage your relationships and your life. Shanenn Bryant is a relationship confidence expert, educator, podcast host, coach, and the founder and CEO of Top Self. You can reach Shanenn at her website www.topself.com. Some highlights Shanenn shares:What is the difference between "normal" levels of jealousy and "toxic" jealousy?Extreme jealousy usually comes from a lack of self worthPeople suffering from toxic jealousy often experienced dysfunctional relationships growing upExtreme jealousy comes from extreme fearToxic jealousy is not rationalYou can't "prov...
2024-04-2333 min
Sexy Marriage RadioJealousy and Insecurity | Shanenn Bryant #670This week let's talk about jealousy. Shanenn Bryant joins me for a conversation about overcoming jealousy in relationships.
Shanenn shares her personal journey with jealousy and how she discovered that she was not alone in experiencing these feelings. She explains that jealousy is often rooted in past experiences and a lack of self-worth.
The conversation provides practical steps for moving forward and overcoming jealousy, including identifying and changing insecure habits. We also discuss the difference between fear and intuition.
Learn more about Shanenn here https://www.topselfpodcast.com/
Takeaways
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2024-04-0338 min
Alison Answers #MissionAwakeHow to Break Free from Jealousy and Insecurity with Shanenn BryantSend us a textIs jealousy dismantling your relationships and self-worth? Join Alison as she sits down with Shanenn Bryant, host of the Top Self podcast, to unravel the complex emotion of jealousy and how it can stem from childhood experiences. Shanenn opens up about her personal journey, transitioning from a past filled with anxiety and jealousy to a present of calm and confidence. She tackles the often-hidden feelings of shame and secrecy that surround jealousy, aiming to shift the perception of this emotion from a flaw to a common human challenge. This candid conversation is a...
2024-03-2758 min
LET’S TALK ATTACHMENTSOvercoming Relationship Jealousy With Shanenn BryantToday on the podcast, we have Shanenn Bryant, a relationship confidence expert, and the host of the Top Self podcast. Shanenn has inspired thousands to break up with bogus beliefs, crack the control code, and overhaul their insecure habits.
We talk about:
-How jealousy can manifest in your relationships.
-How to change your relationship to jealousy.
-Viewing jealousy as a symptom and solution to your underlying attachment wounds.
-Steps to navigate jealousy in a healthy, secure way.
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2024-03-1443 min
The Vision-Driven MarriageTransforming Marriage Through Understanding and Overcoming Jealousy With Shanenn BryantHave you ever felt the sting of jealousy in a relationship and wondered if others struggle with the same silent battle? Shanenn Bryant, a relationship confidence coach with a deeply personal tale of conquering jealousy, joins us on the Vision-Driven Marriage Podcast to shed light on this common yet often unaddressed challenge. Her raw and relatable story begins in the shadow of her father's alcoholism, a journey that led her to realize the widespread nature of jealousy and its effects on trust within relationships. In a heartfelt conversation, Shanenn opens up about the intricacies of building trust...
2024-03-0130 min
The Horny Housewife171- falling for a married person, why your husband masturbates & toxic jealousy ft. Shanenn BryantToday we are joined with Shanenn Bryant discussing insecurity, jealousy & low self worth. Shanenn not only shares her story of being a former obsessive insecure girlie and how she got to the place she is today; but also give us strategies to implement to be more present and aware of how we operate in jealousy. Todays listener questions include a man who has fallen in love with a married woman and is tired of being the side-piece..he feels he deserves more, I had many thoughts. Another listener shares his wife is questioning his solo pleasure time- she found...
2024-02-261h 03
Calming the ChaosJealous Minds - Overcoming Jealousy with Shanenn BryantJealous Minds - Interview with Shanenn BryantToday, our guest is Shanenn Bryant, a relationship confidence expert and one of the select few who focus on jealousy in relationships. Many people have daily anxiety and mistrust of their partners, even without evidence of infidelity. This fear runs so deep from either childhood dysfunction or past infidelity that they’ve now developed insecure habits like checking their partner’s phone, text messages, and social media accounts for any signs of infidelity. Shanenn is here on Calming the Chaos Podcast to discuss jealousy, how it can hurt relationships, and how...
2024-02-1840 min
Awaken Your Inner Awesomeness with Melissa Oatman-A daily dose of spirituality and self improvementHow to Overcome Jealousy in Relationships with Shanenn BryantShanenn Bryant is a relationship jealousy expert and educator helping anxious people relax their mind, achieve change and live their
healthier more present self. Shanenn spent decades struggling with anxiety and jealousy causing her to ruin good relationships
with her jealousy and stay way too long in bad ones because of her insecurities. Today she helps people overcome their jealousy and insecurity.
We're talking today about why jealousy occurs in relationships, how you can change your mindset, and how you can learn from your jealousy. If you have ever felt like you keep repeating the...
2024-02-1431 min
SYNC Your Life PodcastJealousy and Insecurity in Your Relationship: Interview with Shanenn BryantWelcome to the SYNC Your Life podcast episode #211! In this episode, I interview Shanenn Bryant, relationship confidence coach, on the subject of jealousy and insecurity in relationships. Shanenn is a relationship jealousy expert and educator helping anxious people relax their mind, achieve change and live their healthier more present self. She spent decades struggling with anxiety and jealousy causing her to ruin good relationships with her jealousy and stay way too long in bad ones because of her insecurities. Shanenn is dedicated to helping you feel confident in their relationship and feel present again in their own life...
2024-01-1237 min
Couples Therapy In Seven WordsJealousy, Both Toxic and Healthy: An Interview with Shanenn BryantFor the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/shanenn-bryant/.
Our guest today, Shanenn Bryant, describes herself as “a former insecure girl turned relationship confidence expert.” Through her own experiences of healing from toxic jealousy, Shanenn has developed resources to help her clients make the changes they need to gain confidence and improve their relationships.
Shanenn’s website is https://www.topself.com/.
Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message. And you can also sign up for Dr. Cha...
2023-12-2946 min
The Relationship Visionary Podcast#21 The importance of awareness in overcoming jealousy - with Shanenn BryantJoin me for this inspiring conversation with my friend and colleague Shanenn Bryant about all things jealousy. Shanenn is the founder of Top Self and the Top Self Podcast and she is an expert at helping people break the cycle of jealous habits, so it stops affecting their relationships.
We discuss what jealousy is, when it becomes a problem and some of the crucial first steps to take in order to get your control back.
Come check it out, Shanenn is amazing! And if you want more of her, here is where you can find...
2023-11-2452 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in RelationshipsWhat If You Make The Wrong Decision EP 47Ever found yourself stuck at crossroads, unable to decide which path to take? The reality is, every day we are faced with decisions - some small, some life-altering. But here's the catch, the pain of indecision often surpasses the pain of making the 'wrong' decision. You may be held hostage by your own fear and doubt. Turns out, the 'wrong' decision made with the information and emotions at the time, can be the 'right' decision after all. In this episode, you'll discover how to tackle the daunting task of decision-making with newfound confidence. Shanenn shares an...
2023-10-0322 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in RelationshipsWhy You Feel So Out of Control w/ Dr. Catherine Pittman EP 38You know when you feel like you can't control your actions? Your in a massive jealous rant and it seems like some one or some thing has taken over your body. You're saying things and doing things on autopilot as if you cant help what's happening.Shanenn sits down with Dr. Catherine Pittman, author of Rewire Your Anxious Brain, Taming Your Amygdala, and Rewire Your OCD Brain to uncover why this happening and you might be right, you don't have control over it.But, the great news is, she gives you some insight into what's goi...
2023-07-1152 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in RelationshipsOvercoming Jealousy with a New Prospective EP 37Sometimes to get out of a rut, you have to shake things up a bit and changing your perspective on the way you think and communicate about your jealousy might be just what you need.In this episode, Shanenn discusses 3 different areas you could shake things up as it pertains to jealousy.Reframe your approach in both your communication to your partner and your thoughts about how big it is and acknowledge that jealousy may always be present in you to some degree, so you will start by just focusing on instances when it...
2023-07-0426 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in RelationshipsShedding the Shame and Embracing Powerful Emotions w/ Joli Hamilton EP 36Dr. Joli Hamilton, a relationship coach and research psychologist, known for her expertise in the field of jealousy joins the show today.Her research explores the archetypal nature of emotions and their purpose, with a focus on jealousy in both monogamous and non-monogamous relationships.If you still feel embarrassed about your jealousy or continuously ask yourself "Is this normal or is this my jealousy?" then today's episode will mot likely hit the spot.Dr. Hamilton and Shanenn discuss:reframing your perspective on jealousy and recognizing its wisdom, to develop a healthier relationship...
2023-06-2748 min
Neff Inspiration429 Shanenn Bryant: Jealousy Is A Solution, Not A ProblemShanenn Bryant is the founder and CEO of Top Self, a self-development company offering coaching, courses, and community to those with feelings of low self-worth, insecurity, and jealousy in their relationship. Using her instructional design certification and nearly a decade of experience in Learning and Development, Shanenn has developed many sales, systems, and development skills courses and delivered more than 400 training classes. As a relationship confidence expert and the host of the Top Self podcast, Shanenn has inspired thousands to break up with bogus beliefs, crack the control code, and overhaul their insecure habits. Shanen...
2023-06-1451 min
Future Female Leaders224| Improving Your Communication Skills in Email, Meetings, and With Your Boss With Shanenn BryantBook your complimentary Leadership Assessment Call Learn more about the Future Leaders Program Follow the Jealousy Junkie Podcast hosted by Shanenn Bryant Nichole and Shannon discuss ways to improve communication in the workplace. One way is to ask questions separately in bullet points instead of in long paragraphs within an email, allowing the other person to answer each question next to it. Another way is to present information and requests in a table format to allow for more detailed responses and easier communication. These methods help make communication more concise and p...
2023-04-1941 min
Be the DreamOvercoming Jealousy with Shanenn BryantJoin Karaleigh for an interview with the amazing Shanenn Bryant. Shanenn is an ACA (an adult child of an alcoholic) and understands the adult challenges that come from growing up in that environment.
After many years suffering from jealousy and insecurity in relationships, she is now a life coach and the host of the Jealousy Junkie podcast, helping others overcome jealousy, build confidence and reclaim their self-worth. Favorite takeaways: 1. We underestimate how much we can grow and what the future looks like. We think we are stuck in this moment and that what we already know is it- but we...
2023-03-2158 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in Relationships20: Trauma: A Normal Response To An Abnormal Situation w/ Candace AlleyDid you know that toxic stress decreases the size and impairs the function of different regions of the brain that are actually responsible for our learning, our executive functioning, our memory ?Candace Alley, a five time internationally certified coach and the founder and CEO of Trauma Resource Network shares that: trauma is not a particular event, but rather how the brain processes that event every persons healing journey is as individual and unique as your fingerprintstrauma doesn't mean that you're broken or that you've done anything wrong. rather, it's a very normal response to an...
2022-12-0625 min
Relatively Damaged by Damaged ParentsShanenn Bryant - How ACOA Helped Me HealShanenn Bryant is a certified life coach and host of the Top Self podcast to support other ACOA’s and those healing from life challenges who are ready to move from the past and create the life they deserve.
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2022-12-0240 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in Relationships19: Three Things That Slow Your Progress Of Overcoming JealousyOne of the reasons it took me so long to overcome my jealousy is because I kept getting stuck or there would be long periods of time I wasn't working to improve it.I started to notice a pattern of these times and today I am sharing 3 things that could be slowing down your progress of becoming more confident and overcoming jealousy in your relationship.Here are the 3a makeupa breakupa hiccupbut I dive deep into each one and give you some examples I experienced so you know what to look out...
2022-11-2916 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in Relationships18: How Stress Ramps Up Your Jealous Brain w/ Dr. Cindi AckrillDid you know when your brain is operating under duress, all of the "parts" are not coordinating which can ramp up your jealous mind.Our brains have a negative bias because it wants to save us. It wants to keep us safe from danger. But overload causes the brain to get out of symphony.Leader in the field of stress mastery, Dr. Cindi Ackrill shares what stress and comparison does to your brain and the intersection between how grounded you are and when you start to compare.Cindi also shares:ho...
2022-11-2228 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in Relationships17: You Screwed Up Again, Now What?It all feels like its falling apart when you screw up and show your jealous side... AGAIN. But, there is an important mindset to have when you are trying to tame your jealousy and in today's episode, I'm sharing the importance of practicing, not mastering.🦋 30 Days to Different is starting soon! ENROLL TODAY Schedule your FREE Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy DisclaimerTh...
2022-11-1509 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in Relationships16: Simple Habits To Tackle Hard Problems w/ Sarah RamseyLife strategist, relationship specialist, creative solution finder, and heart-centered problem solver, Sarah Ramsey lets a surprisingly simple philosophy guide her: indecision is the enemy of success.Viewing clear decision-making as the ultimate form of self-care, Sarah brings life-changing clarity to formulating solutions for those pesky problems that often seem impenetrable on the surface. Her book, Problem Solved, provides readers with a system for breaking down complex issues into simple, approachable steps so that you can experience life with fewer barriers and greater prosperity.Today, Sarah offers some insight into...
2022-11-0126 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in Relationships15: This O.N.E. Thing Can Shift Your Jealous MindsetIn this quick dump episode, I'm sharing O.N.E. thing I did to break my negative mindset and take off the green lense I saw life through.Our adult brain can be lazy and it wants to refer back to old patterns of information we learned in the past. If those patterns are negative, they stand out even more and shapes the way we view life and approach situations we interpret as similar.To shift these pattens, its all about being open because often its our mindset that keeps us stuck with repeating habits a...
2022-10-2509 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in Relationships14: The Ticket To A New Self-ImageAviation is one of those professions that has always been associated with infidelity and cheating, but Jackie Ulmer believes that every situation is as unique as the people involved.Jackie is a peak performance coach who has been married to a pilot for more than 30 years. She worked in aviation for eight years before becoming a pilot’s wife, meeting lots of regional airline crews and spending time as a crew scheduler and flight attendant along the way. So as you might imagine, Jackie doesn't buy into the stigma about pilots!Instead, she highlights the va...
2022-10-1822 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in Relationships13: How Men Think About Dating and Relationships w/ James PreeceJames Preece is UK's top dating coach and often compared to Will Smith in the movie Hitch. In today's episode he shares some differences and similarities of men and women when it comes to dating and relationships.Here are just a few tips and words of wisdom James shares in this episode:Women often unknowingly situate themselves in unapproachable situations. At the gym with their headphones on or going out in packs with our friends.Approaching a new relationship through the lens of an old relationship and assuming we will be treated poorly th...
2022-09-2733 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in Relationships12: Standing Up To Both Your Inner Critic And The Narcissistic One w/ Wendy BeharyIs your partner a narcissist? If you feel like they are, it may be true, so we decided to present 10 warning signs to watch out for so you can know for sure. In this episode you will learn: 1. Learning about narcissism in order to emancipate yourself from self-blame and self-doubt. 2. Understanding that narcissism exists along a spectrum, and that not everyone with narcissistic traits has a personality disorder. 3. Recognizing the role of the inner critic in fueling jealousy and insecurity, and learning how to stand up to it. Here's a breakdown of what is...
2022-09-2035 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in Relationships11: Tap Into The More Wise Part Of You w/ Dr. Ann BalkanskiAll of us tend to lead with our thinking mind, which only makes up about 10% of who we actually are. There are other parts of our brain that have a larger capacity to accurately intake the information around us. However these parts of our mind are difficult to tap into, which is why there are tools such as hypnotherapy that can be used to enter these wiser faculties of our mind and help aid us in dealing with unpleasant feelings and emotions like jealousy. On today’s episode, medical doctor and hypnotherapist Dr. Ann Marie Balkanski shares one...
2022-09-0622 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in Relationships10: How To Tame Your Jealous ActionsIn this episode, Shanenn walks through an exercise she did to stop her jealous actions. She breaks these action habits into two categoriesUndercover Action HabitsDirect Action HabitsDownload the Action Habits Worksheet to follow along to identify and tame your jealous actions.🦋 30 Days to Different is starting soon! ENROLL TODAY Schedule your FREE Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy DisclaimerThe info...
2022-08-3026 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in Relationships09: Is Jealousy Keeping You Ruthless with Dr. Marcia Sirota“We need to understand that being kind to ourselves has nothing to do with stuffing down our feelings or burying them, or smothering them with consumerism or addiction. It's really about looking inward. Seeing what feelings and what needs are there and trying to find realistic and compassionate solutions.” - Dr. Marcia SirotaBeing kind in our society is unfortunately very rare. Not just kindness to others, but kindness to ourselves as well. There seems to be a common theme among society, which is that we experience a lot of negative self...
2022-08-2333 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in Relationships08: Is It Your Fear or Intuition with Dr. Ashlee GreerJealousy can be insidious. It can cause us to unravel and mistrust ourselves to the point of exhaustion. Also, what feels like a deep knowing can oftentimes come across as a possible fear because of how activated our nervous system is at the thought of a partner cheating. Intuition is real and it can be trusted. As long as you know how to differentiate your intuition from anxiety and fear, it can be used as a powerful tool to help guide you in all areas of your life, especially when experiencing jealousy with your p...
2022-08-1632 min
Ruthless Compassion with Dr. Marcia Sirota118 — Shanenn Bryant: Moving Beyond being a "Jealousy Junkie"Shanenn is an ACA (adult child of an alcoholic) survivor and understands the behavior challenges that come with growing up in that environment. After many years of working to overcome jealousy in her own relationships, she is now one of the few who specialize in jealousy (a topic often ignored but many suffer from) and is the host of Jealousy Junkie podcast.
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Originally published 08/11/22
2022-08-1138 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in Relationships07: The 4 Step Apology To Make Things Right with Molly HowesThe truth is, we are hardwired as humans to not want to apologize. It is one of the most difficult things to do on a cultural and neurological level. Feeling as though we did something wrong and that we hurt someone is not the way we want to feel about ourselves, so in an instant our brain chooses to protect itself. However, what if apologizing was looked at through a different lens? What if we used apologies as a way to create better connections with a partner and make big changes that could help elevate relationships.There are so...
2022-08-0933 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in Relationships06: Is Jealousy The Problem or The SolutionHave you ever considered what your jealousy trying to accomplish? If you flip jealousy on it's head and think of it in the best possible way, could it be the solution?Dr. Susan Heilter wrote about this in Psychology Today and it really changed the way I viewed my jealousy. This lead to a super cool exercise that I am sharing with you on today's episode as well as what I discovered from it. 🦋 30 Days to Different is starting soon! ENROLL TODAY Schedule your FREE Discovery Call to...
2022-08-0211 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in Relationships05: Rebuilding The Relationship After Betrayal with Dr. Ruth HarpurThe aftermath of a betrayal can be devastating. So many questions, heartache and challenges that come when there is an affair in a relationship. Could you, should you try to rebuild the relationship?In today's episode, clinical psychologist, Ruth Ann Harpur who specializes in relationships, discusses the delicate work of rebuilding the relationship after a betrayal.Dr. Harpur says often the offender will "drip" information to the offended causing additional trauma with each unveiling of a new detail.She warns being too eager to ask for all the details of the affair but in...
2022-07-1937 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in Relationships02: What's The Root Cause Of Your Jealousy with Dr. Genesis GamesIf you've ever researched..."why am I jealous" you may have been left with more questions than answers. In this episode, Dr. Genesis Games walks you through what may be at the root of your jealousy and insecurities.You'll get a deep dive into each of the attachment styles and why it's important to know yours. Secure AttachmentAnxious AttachmentAvoidant AttachmentCombo of Anxious-Avoidant (relationship fireworks x 10)Wondering how to feel more secure in relationships? Dr. Games also shares 5 ways to move to a secure attachment style to improve relationships.🦋 30 Days to Different is starting soon...
2022-07-1242 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in Relationships04: One Thing To Do When You're On The Verge Of A Meltdown with Jessica HarringtonWhat can you do when you're on the verge of a jealous meltdown or anxiety meltdown? Just need 1 thing you can do differently to allow you to respond versus react? I'm chatting it up with stress management coach Jessica Harrington and she gives you several 1 things you can do in those times you're feeling a little out of control of your emotions.Help Jessica support the American Foundation for Suicide Preventionhttps://supporting.afsp.org/index.cfm?fuseaction=donorDrive.participant&participantID=2611403🦋 30 Days to Different is starting soon! ENROLL TODAY
2022-07-1233 minTOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in Relationships03: The Journey To Overcoming JealousyMy name is Shanenn Bryant, and I'm a transformation coach and one of the few to focus on overcoming jealousy in relationships.For many years, I was extremely insecure and jealous in my relationships and thought it was just the way I am and the way I would always be. I also thought I was the only one who struggled with this.Until one day I was handed a piece of paper from a therapist as she invited me to "not come back" (more about that story later). The paper was what the ACA (Adult ch...
2022-07-1211 min