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Life EngineeringFrom Personal Power to Relational Empowerment with Sharon Costanzo | Life Engineering EP 48In this episode of the Life Engineering Podcast, Gabriela and Sharon Costanzo explore the intricate dynamics of relationships through an engineering lens. Sharon shares her journey from a mechanical engineering career to becoming a relationship coach, emphasizing the importance of personal and relational empowerment. The conversation delves into the shift from a push-based approach to a pull-based approach in relationships, highlighting the significance of desire, open communication, and mutual respect. They discuss the challenges of role-based marriages versus partnership marriages and the necessity of third-party support when one partner is disengaged.
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2025-01-0837 min
Respected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real PartnershipReimagining Love and Equality - A Commitment to Men and WomenIn this final episode before the break, Sharon Costanzo reflects on her year, the thought-provoking books and stories that are on her mind, and how it paints her unique perspective as a woman navigating a world dominated by patriarchal structures. Sharon reflects on recent events, including Blake Lively and Jason Baldoni, the overturning of Donald Trump's sexual assault case, and the broader challenges women face when speaking out. With eyes toward the future, Sharon explores how patriarchy limits men, their happiness, their ability to connect deeply, and offers resources and insights for men and women to create equitable relationships...
2025-01-0714 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real PartnershipHow to Feel Less Disappointed, and More Appreciated During the HolidaysThe holidays can be a challenging time for many women, who often find themselves feeling unappreciated and overwhelmed. In this episode of Respected and Connected, Sharon Costanzo explores why this is such a common experience and how to navigate it with grace and confidence. Sharon dives into how phrases like "should" can reinforce harmful societal constructs—and why saying "It means a lot to me" can open the door to meaningful communication. Develop winning strategies for feeling more respected and appreciated, and what to do when you don't feel listened to—before you get mad. Wheth...
2024-12-3130 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real PartnershipWhat to do When It isn't WorkingIn this reflective episode of Respected & Connected, Sharon Costanzo announces that the podcast will be going on hold and shares powerful lessons she's learned along the way. Drawing from her own experiences in business and life, Sharon offers actionable insights on maintaining relational integrity and making aligned decisions. Sharon explores the importance of defining what you want, recognizing what's not working, and breaking free from unhelpful patterns to create meaningful connections. Tune in for inspiration on stepping back, reevaluating priorities, and taking ownership of your happiness and success. Connect with Sharon: Website: https://w...
2024-12-1712 min
All Figured Out with Andrea Barr: Figuring Out Work, Life and Parenting73. How to build a stronger relationship after becoming parents with Sharon CostanzoEp. 73: Figuring out relationships 🤪Navigating a relationship after becoming parents can feel like a juggling act, but it doesn’t have to be overwhelming. In this episode, I sat down with Sharon Costanzo, relationship coach and host of the Respected & Connected podcast, to uncover practical tips for building a successful partnership after kids enter the picture.Sharon shares how her upbringing in the LDS community shaped her perspective on relationships and independence, and how she defied traditional expectations by prioritizing education and autonomy. We also dive into her own struggles in her marriage, the work she a...
2024-12-1251 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real Partnership154. Three Strategies for Getting Your Needs Met in an Intimate RelationshipIn this episode, Sharon discusses three levels of expressing your needs to your partner—invitation, request, and demand — and how each approach is based on how important the issue is to you. Consider these three tools to frame requests in a way that fosters collaboration and mutual respect, helping your partner feel engaged and successful in meeting your needs. Connect with Sharon: Website: https://www.respectedandconnected.com Connect on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/respected_and_connected Connect on facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RespectedConnected Sche...
2024-12-1019 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real Partnership153. Applying an Engineering Mindset to Relationship Goals with Gabriela EmbonSchedule a Gridlock Breakthrough Session and get the clarity and confidence you need to address a relationship challenge: https://www.respectedandconnected.com/gridlock --- Would you be surprised to know that aspects of engineering can be applied to strengthen relationships? Our Guest today, Gabriela Embon, shares with us how the mindset of an engineer can help you set goals, troubleshoot issues, and show up with dedication and commitment when working with your partner. Join us today as Gabriela and Sharon dive into the insights gained from their engineering backgrounds, and how they apply it when...
2024-12-0337 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real Partnership152. Transforming Relationships with Relational Life TherapyHave you ever heard of Relational Life Therapy? It's an incredible tool in couple's therapy! In this episode Sharon takes a moment to describe what Relational Life Therapy is, how it confronts gender norms and empowers couple's to approach each other on an equal field. Learn how RLT can help you show up with love and authenticity to deepen your connection with your partner, and yourself. Website and Linktree: Connect with Sharon Website: https://www.respectedandconnected.com Connect on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/respected_and_connected Connect o...
2024-11-2627 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real Partnership151. Navigating Insecure Attachment with Bev MitelmanHave you ever wondered how your past relationships have shaped your emotional responses to your partner? This episode explores the four different relationship attachment styles. Our Guest today is Bev Mitelman M.A., the founder of Securely Loved. Bev and Sharon dive into attachment styles, and how those subconscious patterns affect how we perceive conflict with our loved ones. Learn about the four key relationship attachment styles; Secure, Anxious Preoccupied, Fearful Avoidant, and Dismissive Avoidant; hear Bev explain how these attachment style form, what patterns they cause us to fall into, and how being aware of your s...
2024-11-1953 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real Partnership150. Disappointment Detox: How to Handle Letdowns in RelationshipsTired of feeling let down or resentful in your relationships? This episode explores the hidden power of disappointment. Sharon dives deep into common mistakes we make when dealing with unmet expectations. Learn practical skills like the "Feedback Wheel" and "Soft Startup" to transform conflict into connection. Discover how to avoid unhealthy coping mechanisms and communicate your needs effectively, even after betrayals or during life transitions. Website and Linktree: Connect with Sharon Website: https://www.respectedandconnected.com Connect on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/respected_and_conn...
2024-11-1231 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real Partnership149. Connection, Boundaries, & Unconditional Love with Zach BeachIs unconditional love a worthwhile aspiration or an unrealistic expectation? In this episode, Zach Beach shares his insights on the concept of unconditional love and how it can be navigated alongside the necessary boundaries in various relationships. He emphasizes the importance of setting intentions and aspirations, the significance of integrating both the relative and absolute aspects of our human experience, and the necessity of maintaining boundaries as a form of self-love. Zach also explores the roles of the heart and mind in understanding life's challenges, accountability, and the evolutionary aspect of social connections. W...
2024-11-0539 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real Partnership148. Setting Reasonable Expectations in Intimate RelationshipsDo you ever hold back in asking for what you want in your relationship because you're not sure if your expectations are reasonable? I hear this all the time. And while I sometimes think that people do have unrealistic expectations of their intimate relationships, I also think that we're asking the wrong question. In this episode, we discuss: A few guiding principles for understanding and communicating your expectations How to be more thoughtful about how you communicate and negotiate getting your needs met The two types of partnership issues and how t...
2024-10-2921 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real Partnership147. Helping Men Understand Changing Needs & Expectations in Modern Relationships with Kristal DeSantisMen…do you know what your partner needs to feel safe & provided for in today's relationships? Because it has changed. Kristal DeSantis is a marriage and family therapist who specializes in men's issues. She's the author of the book Strong: A Relationship Field Guide for the Modern Man. And she's on the podcast today to talk about some of the ideas and concepts she's learned from working with men and helping them navigate intimate relationships. Topics discussed: How expectations for intimate relationship have changed What do women mean when they say the...
2024-10-2236 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real Partnership146. Navigating Challenging Phases of Relationships: Shifting From Power Struggle to Mature LoveWhat do you do when you're doing your best to use good relationship skills and your partner isn't responding well? If you've ever felt like things go wrong no matter how hard you try, this episode is for you. Topics discussed: Understanding relationship phases - love without knowledge, knowledge without love, and knowing love Identifying common reactions to unmet expectations Choosing healthier strategies for effective communication The importance of patience and persistence in the process of change Website and Linktree: Connect with Sharon We...
2024-10-1529 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real Partnership145. The Enneagram as a Tool for Relationship Growth with Laurel Roberts-MeeseHave you ever used a personality test to help you understand your partner or your relationship better? Today's guest Laurel Roberts-Meese is a therapist who uses the enneagram with individuals and couples to help them understand their fears, motivations, and behaviors better. Topics discussed: The nine enneagram types, their fears, and motivations The enneagram as a trauma informed personality typing system Understanding conflicts in a couple through the lens of the enneagram How understanding each person's fears and motivations can help couples navigate conflict more effectively Website a...
2024-10-0847 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real Partnership144. Avoiding Relationship Ruts: How and When to Get HelpOne question that I get often as a relationship coach is - when should someone see a professional for help with their relationship? A lot of us have an idea of the BIG things that end most relationships like abuse and infidelity, but what about everything else? What about couples that just feel stuck, aren't feeling close, fight too much…but don't know if things are bad enough to warrant investing in getting help? As a relationship coach, I'm a huge advocate for getting help before you're in crisis. And today I want to talk a little bi...
2024-10-0124 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real Partnership143. Redefining Relationship Dynamics: A conversation with Bruce Chalmer & Judy AlexanderHear Sharon on the other end of the mic in this conversation with hosts of the Couples Therapy in Seven Words podcast. Topics discussed: Sharon's personal journey navigating cultural expectations, pursuing a career in engineering, and advocating for a more equitable relationship Navigating gender role conflicts Advocating for yourself by "calling in" instead of "calling out" Website and Linktree: Free Guide: Five Skills for an Intimate, Collaborative Relationship: Respectedandconnected.com/skills Connect with Sharon Website: https://www.respectedandconnected.com Connect on ins...
2024-09-2442 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real Partnership142. Understanding and Reprogramming Attachment Styles with Thais GibsonHave you ever wondered why you and your partner can view the same situation so differently? You can't even agree about what happened and how you should handle it. Trying to make up that difference and get on the same page can be absolutely mind boggling. Today's guest, Thais Gibson, is here to help. We're talking about attachment styles and understanding your relationship through an attachment lens can help you understand each other better and handle your differences more productively. Topics discussed: Moving beyond traditional EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) to address subconscious attachment wounds and p...
2024-09-1742 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real Partnership141. Five Ways to Overcome Resentment in Your MarriageDo you hate feeling resentful toward your partner and not knowing what to do about it? Resentment is a tricky emotion. It tells you that something is wrong, but it's not very good at helping you move forward. It's not fair to you or your partner to stay stuck in resentment. So today I'm sharing five ways to overcome resentment in your marriage, so that you can start enjoying and appreciating your partner again. Topics discussed: Balancing acceptance and advocating for change Understanding the underlying cause of your resentment Ta...
2024-09-1025 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real Partnership140. Creating a Healthy Co-parenting Relationship After Divorce, with Julia HoffmanWe hear all the time that co-parenting with your ex is hard. And it seems almost inevitable that you're going to be arguing and maybe even taking each other to court often between the time that you split until the kids have all grown. Our guest today - Julia Hoffman - says it doesn't have to be that way. You can choose to have a different kind of coparenting relationship, starting with taking full responsibility for creating the kind of experience you want to have. Topics discussed: Challenging the shame and stigma around...
2024-09-0340 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real Partnership139. Four Steps to a Better Marriage with the Better Marriage BlueprintWe hear all the time that marriage is work. But nobody is talking about what that work is, how to work with a less enthusiastic partner, when what you've got is as good as it gets, or when to shift gears and try something else. In this episode, Sharon breaks down her four part framework for realistic, lasting relationship growth. Topics Discussed: How to figure out what relationship advice to follow and what to ignore Why trauma work and regulating your nervous system isn't enough to have the kind o...
2024-08-2717 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real Partnership138. Contemplating Divorce with Anna HowertonWhat should you do if you're unhappy enough in your marriage to consider divorce? Divorce is expensive, it's messy, and complicated. And it's hard for kids. But staying in a marriage that isn't working is also a really hard and painful way to live. Anna Howerton joins the podcast to talk about navigating the divorce contemplation phase. Listen to learn about what to do when you're contemplating divorce, how to determine what can be improved, and when to walk away. Topics Discussed: The importance of taking preventative measures to avoid turning i...
2024-08-2041 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real Partnership137. Setting Boundaries With Difficult BehaviorWould you like to learn how to set boundaries around difficult behavior without creating more drama? In this episode, we dive into the often discussed but misunderstood concept of boundaries. Sharon shares some ideas for de-escalating and neutralizing offensive behavior without being punitive or provocative. Website and Linktree: Get the full show notes and links to the resources mentioned at https://respectedandconnected.com/podcast/b/ep-137 Connect with Sharon Website: https://www.respectedandconnected.com Connect on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/respected_and_connected Connect on...
2024-08-1317 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real Partnership136. How to do Conflict Right with Kat NewportLet's face it. Most of us haven't been taught how to do conflict well. And our lack of skill in tough conversations can really wreak havoc on our relationships. In this episode, host Sharon Costanzo talks to Kat Newport about the principles from her book Smart Conflict. Kat has done some brilliant work identifying and teaching the core skills for navigating conflict. Not only is her process simple and easy to understand, but it's warm and compassionate and empowering. Tune in for tips on how to think about conflict with the end in...
2024-08-0632 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real Partnership135. Seeing Your Relationship Blind Spots with Jessica Myers-AdamsFeel like you're doing too much work in your relationship? Jessica Myers-Adams, a certified therapist and relationship coach talks about the power of being a relationship visionary. We explore practical strategies for improving relationships even in the face of personal challenges & disappointment. We discuss: the importance of self and other differentiation, making every problem your own, and the significance of listening and positive reinforcement in relationships Website and Linktree: Get the full show notes and links to the resources mentioned at https://respectedandconnected.com/podcast/b/ep...
2024-07-3042 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real Partnership134. Stability, Intimacy, and the Power of Faith in Relationships with Dr. Bruce ChalmerCan too much stability in a relationship be a bad thing? Dr. Bruce Chalmer, a psychologist with over 30 years of experience in couples therapy says that often couples get so good at stability in their relationship that they neglect their need for intimacy. We discuss: The tension between stability & intimacy in relationships Bruce's seven word formula for couples work Recovering from infidelity The importance of relying on faith to get through the hard parts Website and Linktree: Get the full show notes and li...
2024-07-2326 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real Partnership133. Challenging the 'Let the Man Lead' Paradigm with Corrie WoodsA very casual conversation with Corrie Woods about our mutual dislike for the very common relationship advice to "let men lead." Website and Linktree: Get the full show notes and links to the resources mentioned at https://respectedandconnected.com/podcast/b/ep-133 Sign up for the next Thriving Together Couples Call: https://www.respectedandconnected.com/together Connect with Sharon Website: https://www.respectedandconnected.com Connect on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/respected_and_connected Connect on facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Res...
2024-07-1653 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real Partnership132. Understanding "Nice Guys" in Relationships with Jason LangeWhat's wrong with being a "Nice Guy" anyway? Jason Lange, a specialist in men's issues, particularly the Nice Guy Syndrome shares his insights on the evolution of men's roles and the importance of being connected with one's power, head, and heart. We discuss: What is the Nice Guy Syndrome and how do men develop it Challenges and misconceptions about Nice Guys Advice for couples and individuals dealing with Nice Guy Syndrome How men and women can create more satisfying, authentic partnerships Website and L...
2024-07-0942 min
Souled-Out SuccessEpisode 10: Coaching Spotlight - Sharon CostanzoSharon is a relationship coach and host of the Respected & Connected podcast. She specializes in helping smart, capable women achieve true teamwork and partnership in their marriage.Sharon is known for her compassionate, optimistic, and pragmatic approach to challenging relationships and offers practical tools and insights for breaking down communication barriers, working through conflict, healing resentment, and fostering more friendship and connection.Website and Linktree: Https://www.bechiracoaching.comhttps://linktr.ee/yaeldubinFree Quiz: :Is IFS Coaching Right for Me?G...
2024-07-0824 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real Partnership131. Defining and Creating a Partnership Marriage with Dr. Julie HanksHave you ever felt hesitant to speak up and advocate for the supportive partnership that you want? Dr. Julie Hanks, a licensed therapist, owner of Wasatch Family Therapy, and well known influencer, shares her insights on creating partnership families and the challenges that often come with this endeavor. We discuss: The concept of aspirational shame and how it prevents women from pursuing their goals and advocating for their spouse's support The importance of valuing unpaid work Key characteristics of a partnership marriage The importance of language and...
2024-07-0233 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real Partnership130. The Pain of Partnering with Men with Dr. Eric FitzMedrudWould you like to experience greater intimacy and connection with your male partner? In this episode, we welcome Eric Fitz Medrud, a therapist specializing in relationships and men's issues. Eric shares his personal journey from struggling with his own desires and ethical values to becoming a specialist in relationship and sexuality therapy. He highlights common misconceptions women have about men's emotional and sexual behaviors, emphasizing the importance of safety, consent, and compassionate communication. Eric also provides practical advice on creating more open and satisfying intimate relationships, and the benefits of becoming an 'erotic team.'
2024-06-2539 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real Partnership129. Reclaiming Intimacy: Navigating Sexual Shame and Marriage with Dr. Tina Schermer SellersWhat did you learn about sex growing up and how is it impacting your marriage? In this enlightening episode, we sit down with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers, an esteemed author and sex therapist, to explore the profound impact of sexual shame on intimacy and relationships. Dr. Sellers shares her extensive knowledge on the subject, drawing from years of experience in helping individuals and couples navigate the complex landscape of sexuality and shame. We delve into topics like the roots of sexual shame, its consequences on our emotional well-being, and practical strategies for healing and reclaiming i...
2024-06-1835 min
Couples Therapy In Seven WordsHelping Couples Create Collaborative Relationships: An Interview with Sharon CostanzoThe video of this episode is at https://brucechalmer.com/sharon-costanzo/.
When our guest in this episode, Sharon Costanzo, got married and had children, she encountered a common problem, no less vexing for being so common: she found she was carrying a disproportionate load of household responsibilities even as she worked outside the home full-time. Her experience, often painful, of working through changes with her husband to create a more collaborative relationship gave her insights and skills that she now shares with her coaching clients.
Sharon’s website is https://www.respectedandconnected.com.
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2024-06-1450 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real Partnership128. What to do When Your Spouse Says NoWhat's the best way to respond when your spouse rejects your carefully considered requests? In this episode, we dive into the often overlooked yet critical topic of dealing with rejection in marriage. Sharon shares valuable insights on maintaining a healthy relationship despite disappointments. Listen to learn how to handle rejection with grace and foster a greater capacity for generosity, vulnerability, and risk-taking within your relationships. Website and Linktree: Get the full show notes and links to the resources mentioned at https://respectedandconnected.com/podcast/b/ep-128 Sign up for th...
2024-06-1117 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real Partnership127. Understanding and Valuing Personality Differences in Relationships with Erin WoodruffDo you ever wonder if your marriage would be easier if your spouse was just a little more like you? In this insightful episode, we delve into the complexities and beauty of personality differences within relationships. Our guest, Erin Woodruff, a life coach who specializes in helping high-achieving women stay happily married to introverts, joins us to share her expertise. Erin provides valuable tips for improving communication and understanding between introverts and extroverts, emphasizing that it's normal to struggle with personality differences and that these differences don't need to be changed for harmonious relationships.
2024-06-0434 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real Partnership126. The Power of Being Free to be Yourself with Megan Gibson Tired of the old advice on the "right" way to get what you need in your relationships? Discover the transformative power of discovering your true identity and how your relationships can benefit with Megan Gibson. We discuss: The journey from people-pleasing to self-empowerment How to identify and let go of false identities Practical tips for aligning your life & relationships with your true self Get the full show notes and links to the resources mentioned at https://respectedandconnected.com/podcast/b/ep-126 === Sign up for the next Thriving Together Couples Call: https://www...
2024-05-2841 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real Partnership125. Navigating Relationship Challenges: Couples vs. Individual WorkMany couples facing relationship issues are faced with the question - do we need help as a couple or do we need to do individual work first? In this episode we're exploring the differences between individual work and couples work and when you should consider each type. We discuss: The risks and benefits of couples work The limitations of individual work when dealing with relationship issues How couples work can provide leverage for personal growth Get the full show notes and links to the resources mentioned at https://respectedandconnected.com/podcast/b/ep-125 ===
2024-05-2111 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real Partnership124. Healing Relationships in the Aftermath of a Child's Suicide with Lark GalleyIn this podcast episode, Sharon interviews Lark Galley, a wife and mother who has experienced the profound grief of losing a son to suicide. Lark shares the challenges this tragedy posed to her marriage and how it has affected both her and her husband's perception of success, personal achievements, and their relationship with each other. We explore the complexity of grief, the importance of allowing vulnerability in the healing process, and how Lark and her husband have worked through their grief individually and as a couple. Additionally, Lark highlights the impactful moments of realization and acceptance that...
2024-05-1432 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real Partnership123. Empowering Your Relationship: Dealing with Burnout and Building ResilienceWorking on your marriage without seeing any noticeable results is exhausting. If you're running out of energy and motivation to work on your marriage, but you're not ready to walk away, this episode is for you. We talk about three reasons we get burned out on working on our relationships and some ideas for how you can address them, so that you can still make progress in your marriage without feeling burned out or settling for less than what you really want. Get the full show notes and links to the resources mentioned...
2024-05-0720 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real Partnership122. Redefining Power and Self-Connection with Violetta ZnorkowskiVioletta Znorkowski is on a mission to close the gender gap from the inside out. Listen in for an insightful conversation about: Recovering from hustle culture Self-leadership Recognizing and releasing emotions that don't serve us Redefining personal empowerment & success Navigating gender biases Get the full show notes and links to the resources mentioned at https://respectedandconnected.com/podcast/b/ep-122 === Sign up for the next Thriving Together Couples Call: https://www.respectedandconnected.com/together Get the Free Guide: Five Reasons Couples Get Stuck in Unproductive Conflict at https://www.res...
2024-04-3029 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real Partnership121. Making The Decision to Seek Help With Your MarriageMaking the decision to get help with your marriage can be difficult, especially if you want help more than your spouse does. If you're on the fence about getting help because you don't know if things are bad enough to warrant it or if you're afraid to rock the boat this episode is for you. We're talking about: signs to look for, the value of third-party perspective, breaking free from passive relationship dynamics, and how to get past your initial resistance to finding help Get the full show notes and links to the...
2024-04-2316 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real Partnership120. How to Rebuild Trust & Connection After a Major Conflict or DisappointmentIf you're in a relationship for any period of time you're going to experience a major conflict or disappointment and that is not easy to deal with. In this episode we share what it takes to rebuild trust and connection after conflict and disappointment so that you can grow together as a couple instead of slowly drifting apart. We discuss: The importance of self-compassion and how it can help you heal and stay grounded during conflict and repair Simple ways to practice mindful self-compassion Practical steps for repair How to recognize when you're not...
2024-04-1622 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real Partnership119. How To Create a Safe Space for Discussing Sensitive IssuesSpoiler alert...safety in intimate relationships is a myth! Many of us hesitate to discuss sensitive issues, even in our most important relationships. But relationships don't work longterm when you can't discuss concerns and issues openly and honestly. In this episode we're talking about things you can do to create more courage, curiosity, & humility in tough conversations so that you can have more honesty and transparency in the relationship without damaging your connection. Get the full show notes and links to the resources mentioned at https://respectedandconnected.com/podcast/b/ep-119 === S...
2024-04-0923 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real Partnership118. Deepening An Awareness of Our Unconscious Patterns in Relationships with Dr. Tonia WinchesterWe're fooling ourselves if we think that every choice we make in our relationships is consciously determined. But how to we access our subconscious so that we can make more conscious and aligned actions toward deeper understanding and connection? Dr. Tonia Winchester joins us on the podcast to talk about how to slow down, question our triggered thoughts, and move forward with more patience and curiositywith ourselves and each other. Get the full show notes and links to the resources mentioned at https://respectedandconnected.com/podcast/b/ep-118 === Sign up...
2024-04-0226 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real Partnership117. Three Effective Strategies for Addressing Conflict as a TeamConflict in our intimate relationships is inevitable. When we're faced with a conflict in an intimate relationship we're trying to achieve two goals at the same time. Maintain a connection with our person and our autonomy. It can be challenging to stay connected when we feel like our personal goals and desires are at risk. And since very few of us were modeled what healthy conflict looks like, it can feel a lot like driving in a foreign country without a map. In today's episode, we're sharing three strategies for addressing conflict as...
2024-03-2629 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real Partnership116. How to Approach Your Partner When You're Upset or FrustratedWe all want happy, healthy relationships. And that can be hard to achieve when you're feeling disappointed or frustrated with your spouse. Sharon shares a few ideas for approaching your partner when you're frustrated so you can address the issue and use a difficult conversation as an opportunity to connect and deepen your relationship. Get the full show notes and links to the resources mentioned at https://respectedandconnected.com/podcast/b/ep-116 === Sign up for the Respected & Connected women's retreat on April 13th at https://www.respectedandconnected.com/retreat Ge...
2024-03-1918 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real Partnership115. How to Talk to Your Partner About the Burden of Invisible Labor with Laura MicklerEvery woman from every walk of life understands the burden of invisible labor. Laura Mickler, a mindset coach and yoga studio owner, joins us on the podcast for an insightful conversation about how to understand and share the burden of the mental load with your partner and family members. We discuss: The concept of invisible labor Why it can be so difficult to share the load Practical tips and strategies for discussing and balancing home responsibilities How to empower family members to notice and take action Follow Laura and learn more about her wo...
2024-03-1226 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real Partnership114. Transforming Relationships, Starting with Yourself with Dr. Marcia Martin Dr. Marsha Martin, a spiritual empowerment counselor and best-selling author, discusses the importance of healing one's relationship with themselves. We discuss: Acceptance and self love as the foundation for personal growth Taking responsibility to shift from blame to personal transformation The role of tools and resources in self-transformation Embracing imprefections to move past the fear of failure and experience more growth Cultivating self-love in difficult relationships and how self-love helps you navigate conflict Learn more about Dr. Marcia Martin and her work at www.mmhearthealer.com Get the full show notes and links...
2024-02-2733 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real Partnership113. Navigating Relationships Through Better Listening with Laura JanusikAre you listening? Really Listening? Laura Janusik, a trainer, coach, consultant, speaker, and researcher talks about the importance of listening in communication. We discuss: How our listening habits shape our interactions The importance of quality listening and it's impact on the quality of our communication The concept of "listening intelligence" and how to improve your ability to listen well The four types of listeners and their strengths The role of empathy in effective listening How men and women are different (and similar) in their listening habits and strategies Advice for those who hesitate to...
2024-02-1344 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real Partnership112. The Difference Between Good Communication & ManipulationDoes this sound like you...You know you want to communicate better, but you're not quite sure what to do differently? In this episode, we're talking about: The goal of healthy communication (spoiler alert - it's not getting the other person to change) Unhealthy attitudes and behaviors that prevent good communication Five specific skills to improve your communication The one thing you always need to remember to avoid being manipulative Get the full show notes and links to the resources mentioned at https://respectedandconnected.com/podcast/b/ep-112 === Get the Free...
2024-01-3025 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real Partnership111. Making Marriage Work When One Spouse Has ADHD with Kara LawsA heartfelt, hopeful, and practical perspective on how couples can make marriage work when one spouse has ADHD. Kara Laws (the ADHD spouse) shares her story of how she and Jamie have navigated the challenges of marriage, specifically when additional support and understanding is needed. We discuss: The importance of mutual respect in a partnership, regardless of differing challenges and abilities How to support your spouse in figuring out what works without taking over as a parent Specific examples of how executive dysfunction impacts daily routines and how couples can work together to maintain...
2024-01-1643 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real Partnership110. How to Set Practical & Inspiring Relationship Goals (ENCORE EPISODE)If I were to give you my best advice about relationships and whether or not now is the time to put a lot of effort into your relationship development, this is the main question I would ask… "Would you be able to continue with how things are right now indefinitely?" If the answer is no (which it has been for me several times over the course of my 10-year marriage) this episode is for you. In this encore episode (first released in January, 2023) of the Respected & Connected Podcast, we're talking about how to set practical an...
2024-01-0222 min
Respected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real Partnership109. How Imposter Syndrome Shows up in Intimate Relationships with Kamini WoodKamini Wood joins the podcast to talk about the interplay of imposter syndrome and people-pleasing among high achieving women, and how that can show up in intimate relationships. We talk about: Kamini's journey working in the dot.com industry as a project manager and running a law office and how she discovered her true passions from her corporate experience. How motherhood helped reveal her perfectionistic and people-pleasing tendencies. How high-achieving women can regain a sense of worthiness and value to heal their relationships with themselves and others. Connect with Kamini Wood on her website.
2023-12-1926 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real PartnershipGet What You Want for Christmas, and All Year LongAs women, we can have a tricky relationship with asking for and receiving what we want. If this feels tricky for you, it can be particularly painful during the Christmas season. This episode is for you! We're talking about three steps for asking for and receiving what you want - a concept originally taught to me by my mentor Terry Real. === Get the Free E-book: 12 No-BS Rules for Navigating Relationship Challenges at https://www.respectedandconnected.com/nobs Connect with Sharon Website: https://www.respectedandconnected.com Connect on instagram: htt...
2023-12-0525 min
Respected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real Partnership107. Handling High Conflict Situations in Important Relationships | A Conversation with James Keddington and Better Me NationThis episode was originally aired on James Keddington's podcast "Overcome and Become." Thanks James for a great conversation and for allowing us to share on the Respected & Connected podcast. James and I talk about: Handling high confict situations in important relationships Some signs that your relationship with conflict is unhealthy How important our primary relationships are to our overall well being Mindsets that promote healthy relationships, and What you can do when your parents and in-laws are interfering in your marriage and family life Connect with James Keddington and find the Better Me N...
2023-11-211h 01Respected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real PartnershipHow Your Menstrual Cycle Impacts Your RelationshipsElizabeth Tidwell, founder of My Club Red, is on the podcast to talk about how your menstrual cycle impacts your relationships. We discuss: Why you can wake up hating your spouse for no obvious reason. The primary emotions and energies of each phase of your cycle. How to start recognizing the phases of your cycle and using this information to bring more care and awareness to your needs and your relationships. Connect with Elizabeth Tidwell: https://myclubred.com https://www.instagram.com/myclubred === Get the Free E-book: 12 No-BS Rules for Navigating...
2023-11-0738 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real PartnershipThree Skills for Collaborative RelationshipsBoundaries has become such a buzzword in our culture, that it seems like the solution to all of our relational distress. But boundaries are really the first of three skills we need to create a solid foundation for our relationships. If you're feeling frustrated with something happening in any relationship, the three skills you need are Boundaries, Agreements, and Accountability. === Get the Free E-book: 12 No-BS Rules for Navigating Relationship Challenges at https://keeptalkingrevolution.com/nobs Connect with Sharon Website: https://keeptalkingrevolution.com Connect on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/keeptalkingrevolution/ Con...
2023-10-2421 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real PartnershipA Crucial Skill for Messy ConversationsIt's hard to know what to do when a tough conversation isn't going well, but you're afraid that doing the wrong thing will just make things worse. In this episode, we're talking about what to do when tough conversations get off track. We discuss: Signs that more talking will just make things worse. Ways to call a "healthy break." Pitfalls to avoid when you've paused a tough conversation. === Get the Free E-book: 12 No-BS Rules for Navigating Relationship Challenges at https://keeptalkingrevolution.com/nobs Connect with Sharon Website: https://ke...
2023-09-2617 min
The Fit Investor: How To Be Fit Financially, Physically, and FaithfullyEpisode 20: Nurturing Stronger Bonds: A Conversation with Relationship Coach Sharon CostanzoWelcome to another insightful episode of the Fit Investor Podcast! In this installment, we are delighted to introduce our esteemed guest, Sharon Costanzo, a distinguished relationship coach and the host of the "Keep Talking Revolution" podcast.
Sharon's journey is a testament to her unwavering commitment to helping individuals strengthen the most vital aspect of their lives – their relationships. As the founder of "Respected and Connected," a coaching program and community tailored to empower women, she specializes in enhancing communication within marriages. Her mission is to equip women with the tools they need to navigate the often complex an...
2023-09-2052 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real PartnershipUsing Shadow Discovery To Uncover the Causes of Friction and Frustration in Relationships with Catherine La O'In this episode, we're talking about shadow discovery and how it impacts our relationships. Our guest, Catherine La O' says, "To create real change in your life, you must learn to face the parts of yourself that you have avoided until now." We discuss: The concept of shadows and how they show up in our relationships How our personal history shapes the way we perceive different relationship dynamics The way to experience more freedom and connection in our relationships and communities Creating secure and resourced relationships that have the capacity to meet the demands we have...
2023-09-1240 min
Respected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real PartnershipThree Types of ApologyOur society is totally confused about the principles of apology. Apologies are a necessary tool in a healthy relationship. But when they are misunderstood and used incorrectly they can make things worse. In this episode, I'm breaking down three types of apologies. Including what you should never apologize about. Get the full show notes and links to the resources mentioned at https://keeptalkingrevolution.com/podcast/b/ep-100 === Connect with Sharon: Website: https://keeptalkingrevolution.com Connect on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/keeptalkingrevolution/ Connect on facebook: https://www.facebook.com...
2023-08-2925 min
Respected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real PartnershipLetting Go of False Beliefs to Become a More Confident and Successful Parent with Wanda HowardDifferences in parenting philosophies can create a lot of turmoil and friction in our relationships. Not only do we feel stressed and unsure of whether or not we're doing good enough as a parent, but we also often feel the need to get our spouse on board with our plan of action. If you and your spouse aren't on the same page as parents, this will be hard on the couple and the kids. Wanda Howard joins us today to talk about: Redefining success as a parent Letting go of false beliefs about our...
2023-08-1530 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real PartnershipConquering the Fear of Making Things WorseWhen your partner responds negatively in a tough conversation, do you assume it's your fault or get blamed for "making things worse"? Are you compelled to backpedal, smooth things over, or even withdraw your complaint or request? In this episode, I break down the fear many women have when speaking up - the fear of making things worse. We talk about: Where the fear of making things worse comes from. How to recognize that it's time to make a change. Three things you can do to overcome...
2023-08-0121 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real PartnershipWhat You Need to Know (and DO) When You're Always Walking On EggshellsWalking on eggshells in a marriage is more common than you might think. And the best part is, when you stop doing it, your marriage can get a lot better. If you've been walking on eggshells for way too long listen to learn: A simple formula for being more honest (and human) in your relationships How to deal with the inevitable fallout of disrupting the status quo Pitfalls to avoid when you stop taking responsibility for managing others' reactivity === Connect with Sharon Website: https://keeptalkingrevolution.com Connect on instagram: https://www.instagram.c...
2023-07-1814 min
Respected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real PartnershipWhat Driven Men and Women Need to Know About Intimacy with Rhonda Farrhttps://keeptalkingrevolution.com/podcast/b/ep-96As a coach who specializes in working with high-achieving men, Rhonda Farr has some great insight on how to help driven people have more satisfying relationships. Rhonda believes that the key to more connection and intimacy is a greater level of self-intimacy. In this episode of the Keep Talking Revolution podcast, we discuss: Why it's so much easier to blame our partner for a lack of connection than to see our part in our struggles. The power of self-awareness ("self-intimacy") in opening the door to more relational intimacy. How to...
2023-07-0449 min
Breezy Babies- Mom, Parenting, Pregnant, Baby, Breastfeeding, Family, Postpartum156. Hard Conversation And Communicating Your Needs In The Postpartum Period With Guest Sharon Costanzo From Keep Talking Revolution.How to feel better about you, your partner and your relationship in the postpartum period with guest Sharon Costanzo from the Keep Talking Revolution. Sharons free guide for sharing the load at homeSay "hi" to Sharon on Instagram at Keep Talking Revolution Get $50 off a single session with code "BREEZYBABIES" (normally $125)This episode appeared first on the Breezy Babies website.SummaryIntro to the episode. 0:00Welcome to the Breezy babies podcast.Hard conversations and communicating needs in the postpartum period.Sharon’s background. 2:22Sharon is a l...
2023-06-2026 min
Respected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real PartnershipHow to Use Boundaries and Ultimatums to Improve Your Relationshipshttps://keeptalkingrevolution.com/podcast/b/ep-96Everyone knows that ultimatums are bad right? Not necessarily. In today's episode, we're exploring when an ultimatum can be just what's needed to move a relationship forward and how you can know if you're communicating in a way that will damage your relationship or make it better. === Connect with Sharon Website: https://keeptalkingrevolution.com Connect on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/keeptalkingrevolution/ Connect on facebook: https://www.facebook.com/KeepTalkingRevolution Schedule a free call: https://keeptalkingrevolution.com/contact
2023-06-2018 min
Respected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real PartnershipWant to Set a Healthy Boundary? Do This First! With Sherralynn Arnold We've all heard that boundaries are important, but it can be confusing to know where to start. Our guest Sherralynn offers a great tool to get started - your boundary bill of rights. We talk about: What a bill of rights is and how it helps you know what boundaries to set How knowing your "rules of engagement" helps you say "no" more easily and deal with boundary crossers and manipulators A few ideas to get you started creating your own bill of rights Connect with Sherralynn Arnold & buy her book at deardreamer.co...
2023-06-0630 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real PartnershipSolving the Right Problem to Make Your Marriage BetterOne thing all good problem solvers do well is this: they know which problem to focus on to get the most out of their problem-solving efforts. But, how do you know what the "right" problem is to solve? In this episode of the Keep Talking Revolution podcast, we discuss: What kinds of problems are always a problem The difference between shame-based problems and dream-based problems The importance of focus and celebrating small wins when you're tackling tough relationship issues === Connect with Sharon Website: https://keeptalkingrevolution.com Connect on instagram: https://www...
2023-05-2317 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real PartnershipRed Flags & Trailheads: Using the Principles of IFS to Understand Relationship Challenges with Dr. Yael DubinHave you ever looked at your partner and wondered if you missed something important when you started your relationship? Did you miss a red flag, and if so what now? Dr. Yael Dubin offers a different perspective on these common "red flags" and instead offers the perspective that this may just be the trailhead of your healing journey. === Connect with Dr. Yael Dubin Your Personality and You Workbook: Exercises to Better Understand Yourself and Who You Want to Be Bechira Coaching Website Social Media Links Five Keys To Finding Lasting Love free p...
2023-05-0941 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real PartnershipHelping Isn't Sexy: How to Move From Parenting to Partnering in MarriageDo you often feel overwhelmed with everything on your plate? Your spouse wants to help, but deciding what needs to be done, when it happens, and how to do it is still your job. In this episode, I'm talking about how to overcome this dynamic of parenting your spouse so that the help you're getting is actually helpful. We talk about: How to recognize when you're parenting your spouse Two things to stop doing, and two things to start doing to move toward a more equitable partnership How to respond when you've been playing...
2023-04-2518 min
Mom on PurposeWhen Your Husband Doesn't Support Your Dreams with Sharon CostanzoEp 40 When Your Husband Doesn't Support Your Dreams with Sharon CostanzoSharon Costanzo is a relationship and communication coach, and she's on the podcast today to discuss the challenges women face in pursuing their goals and dreams while maintaining their roles within the family. We dove into the importance of being honest and vulnerable with one's spouse, even if it means letting go of control over the conversation's outcome. Sharon empowers women to stop walking on eggshells, and have conversations that matter. What you'll learn in this episode:...
2023-04-1935 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real PartnershipLearning How to Manage Relationship Anxiety Without Being a Bully or a DoormatFollowing up on last week's episode on differentiation, Sharon talks about some of her experiences working through mismatched expectations and conflict over household responsibilities in her marriage. She shares: How being the "golden child" set her up for a habit of over-functioning in marriage How she focused on her own growth and personal work, even when Mario's behavior was unacceptable What's on the other side of the long and painful journey of making room for yourself in a marriage where you once felt exploited and unappreciated === Get the full show notes, podcast transcript...
2023-01-3128 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real PartnershipStuck in a Rut? How to Set Practical & Inspiring Relationship GoalsIf I were to give you my best advice about relationships and whether or not now is the time to put a lot of effort into your relationship development, this is the main question I would ask… "Would you be able to continue with how things are right now indefinitely?" If the answer is no (which it has been for me several times over the course of my 10-year marriage) this episode is for you. In this episode of the Keep Talking Revolution Podcast, we're talking about how to set practical and inspiring relationship goals. We...
2023-01-0321 min
Respected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real PartnershipWrapping Up 2022A year end wrap up for the Keep Talking Revolution Podcast. We talk about the Respected + Connected program, what I've learned in my business and how it impacts my personal life, popular episodes and posts, and what's coming in 2023. Schedule a 15-minute call to apply to join Respected + Connected by January 6th: respectedanconnected.com Listen to this year's most popular episode: keeptalkingrevolutionpodcast.com/ep-65 Join the conversation about why we need to stop blaming moms for raising entitled sons: https://www.instagram.com/p/CYUTnODr4ht/?utm_sou...
2022-12-2721 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real PartnershipHow To Love Your Partner Even If You Don't Know Their Love LanguageHave you ever read a marriage book that came highly recommended to you and it just fell flat? Maybe you start to wonder "what's wrong with me…or what's wrong with us that this thing that has been so helpful for someone else isn't working for us?" Today on the podcast I'm talking about a very popular and often misused marriage book. I'm going to tell you why I think it's so popular, when I think it's useful, how it can be misused, and most importantly – how to love your partner better even if y...
2022-12-2015 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real PartnershipBehind the Scenes of Respected + Connected | Sarah GeorgeRESPECTED AND CONNECTED IS CURRENTLY OPEN FOR ENROLLMENT. Find out more and schedule a free 15-minute call to apply at respectedanconnected.com. This week on the podcast, Sarah George shares her experience participating in the Respected + Connected program and how it's changed her marriage. Sarah shares: How she's learned how to communicate with her husband in a more honest and unscripted way How the weight of having to know the right thing to say and the right time to bring things up has been lifted off her shoulders How having a target t...
2022-12-1332 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real PartnershipWhen A Relationship Feels Like Too Much WorkWhen a relationship feels like too much work the advice to "keep working on yourself" can feel dismissive and insensitive. In this episode, we talk about what to do when working on a relationship feels like rowing a boat with one oar and how to keep up your end of the deal without overdoing it. Get the full show notes and links to all the resources mentioned at keeptalkingrevolutionpodcast.com/ep-79 More about Sharon: Free Guide, "Five Key Elements of a Productive Conversation": keeptalkingrevolution.com/5elements Sc...
2022-12-0621 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real PartnershipScientific Approaches to Resolving Trauma and Optimizing Brain Function | Liliam LlanosLiliam Llanos is a trauma resolution coach who works with individuals on trauma resolution and trains other coaches and practitioners in scientific approaches to trauma resolution. Working on trauma resolution has helped Liliam feel a sense of optimism for the future and stability in her day to day life. But before she could even do the work of trauma resolution, she had to recognize that what she was experiencing was a trauma response. With this knowledge and understanding of what was happening, she was able to learn how to revisit these memories and rewire her br...
2022-11-2937 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real PartnershipA Few Thoughts on Trauma, Healing, & RelationshipsTrauma can make relationships tricky, particularly when we depend on those who hurt us to be part of our healing. If traumatic experiences are making it difficult to feel safe and connected with the people you care about, this episode is for you. I share a few non-expert insights on trauma, healing, and finding security and peace even when the people who hurt us aren't able to comprehend their impact on us. Get the full show notes and links to all the resources mentioned at keeptalkingrevolutionpodcast.com/ep-77 More about Sharon: Free Guide, "F...
2022-11-2217 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real PartnershipHow To Be Copilots in Your Relationship | Asking the Hard Relationship Questions a Discussion with Sharon Costanzo and Vauna Byrd from Joyful Family TalksThis week on the podcast I share an interview I did with Vauna Byrd for her Joyful Family Talks Program. We talk about: How our fear and hesitation to speak up impacts our relationships The unexpected ways that I learned how to approach my husband with my complaints and concerns How I've learned to use my engineering skills to troubleshoot relationship challenges Why therapy might not work Where to start when you're ready to change a relationship The first boundary to set when you're working on improving your boundaries The problem with waiting for the right moment or searching f...
2022-11-1536 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real PartnershipLeading with Feminine Energy | Allyson ChavezThe first question I asked Allyson on the podcast this week was, "What does it mean to lead with feminine energy and how is it empowering?" Allyson shares: What feminine energy is and what it's not Why men and women need both feminine and masculine energies How leading with feminine energy can help us to feel more present and fulfilled in our relationships Get Allyson's free gift: "Feminine and Masculine Energies at a Glance" prosperityapproach.com/ataglance Get the full show notes and links to all the resources mentioned at keeptalkingrevolutionpodcast.c...
2022-11-0845 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real PartnershipThree Steps To Making a Hard Relationship BetterEvery person who struggles with a difficult relationship wants to know what it really takes to save the relationship without losing themselves. Join me this week as I talk about what I have learned from my years of struggling with hostility and resentment in my marriage. And how we have gotten to the point where we can confidently work through any conflict. Listen to this episode to learn: The difference between a healthy boundary and a grab for control The three questions I ask every client who wants to make their relationship better How to inspire...
2022-11-0118 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real PartnershipAm I Responsible for My Partner's Feelings? | Arno KochIs the phrase "Happy Wife, Happy Life" helpful or not? Today's guest Arno Koch says "it depends." We do have a lot of influence on our partner's happiness. And we have responsibility for how we feel. Arno and I discuss the paradox of dependency in our romantic relationships, how we can support each other's happiness, and what it means to depend on each other as relationships become more of a choice that we can choose to end any day. More about Arno: Website: https://imagine-evolution.com/about/ Instagram: https://w...
2022-10-2529 min
Respected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real PartnershipSharing Our Costanzo Family Portrait | Mario, Sharon, & Sara ThingvoldMario and I started meeting with Sara Thingvold at the beginning of the year to create our couple & family portrait. In this episode of the podcast, Mario and I share our portrait, what our experiences were creating the portrait, and how this guiding document has already helped us move through some previously sticky situations more gracefully. I shared the image of our family portrait on social media a couple of weeks ago and I've already gotten a lot of questions about how you can do a portrait for yourself. Whether you're single and...
2022-03-2922 min
Respected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real PartnershipA Whole New Way To Look At Your Relationship | Sara ThingvoldA family portrait - as described in this episode of the podcast - is a tool for determining the shared vision, values, dreams, goals, and purpose of your family relationships. "Envisioning with the end in mind and leaving a legacy we are proud of is really what a family portrait is all about," Sara says. Four outcomes that a portrait can bring for a couple is increased: self-awareness and awareness of your partner clarity of roles and personal responsibility in the relationship commitment to the relationship peace, harmony & joy in the relationship In...
2022-03-2226 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real PartnershipDebunking Relationship Myths | Mario & Sharon CostanzoAccording to Dr. John Gottman, most relationship therapy fails because the therapy is focused solely on helping a couple improve their communication, using a commonly accepted communication technique called active listening. Since Mario and I have seen so many therapists (ahem...at least 6) in our 9-year marriage, we feel particularly qualified to take on these 7 marriage myths that Gottman has debunked. Listen to our conversation about these 7 common relationship myths: Personality problems ruin relationships Common interests keep you together You scratch my back and I'll scratch yours (aka "the fairness trap") Avoiding conflict will r...
2021-08-1739 min
The Soulful MindHow to Have Fulfilling Marriages and Relationships with Sharon CostanzoCan you say that you and your partner have effective communication? Do you argue over who is going to do the dishes or give the kids a bath? Join me as we welcome Sharon Costanzo who struggled with her marriage for 7 years before she found a formula that helped reframe her marriage and create the tools to make improvements.Her mission is to help women have fulfilling relationships where they don't have to choose between speaking up and keeping the peace.Podcast link. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-soulful-mind/IG: angelevangerfb: an...
2021-07-1935 min
#courage1000project3.7 - Speak up for what you want and need - Guest Interview with Sharon CostanzoBeing able to speak up for what you want and need is not always an easy thing to do. We spend our childhoods seeking our parents approval and, when not resolved, we take this into our relationships too. And the whole time... we are abandoning ourselves.
On this episode of the #courage1000project, MellyS The Story Collector interviews Sharon Costanzo about how she found the courage to speak up for what she wanted and needed in life.
Sharon Costanzo is an engineer, relationship coach, wife, and mom. As a child, she learned that striving for perf...
2021-06-3028 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real PartnershipIf you're going to assume...What happens when a tiny disagreement or misunderstanding turns into a huge fight? Usually, at least one of you is assuming the worst of the other. It's easy for this to happen in our close relationships because our history is long and deep. If you assume negative intent, your focus is on fixing the person instead of the problem. There is a victim/villain story playing out and the best you can get is a win/lose outcome. If however, you assume positive intent you can focus on fixing the problem instead of the person, and your...
2021-06-2915 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real PartnershipThe ONE PHRASE that will transform your relationshipsDo you own your wants and needs and ask for them directly, or do you spend a lot of time trying to earn the care that you need by being everything to everyone? In this episode, Sharon shares how she made the transition from trying to earn the care she needed, to openly sharing her wants and needs. Sharon shares a simple phrase that can be used when expressing your needs to avoid the habit of trying to earn support or justify your point of view. Get the full shownotes and links to resources mentioned...
2021-06-0815 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real PartnershipBuilding a relationship you loveMost people don't fall into their dream home on the very first try. And most relationships take effort and intention to smooth out the rough spots and build a solid foundation of trust and affection. Sharon shares 3 lessons she learned when choosing and remodeling a home that illustrates how a "dream relationship" really comes about. Decide what you want and what you can't live without (your "non-negotiables") Look around and figure out how to make something your own Keep your eye on the finish line and persevere through the challenges along the way Get the...
2021-04-1314 min
Respected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real PartnershipConflict & Connection | Sharon & Mario CostanzoA special guest this week! Sharon and Mario talk about their marriage history and what they had to work through to create a "got your back" kind of partnership. Get the full shownotes and links to resources mentioned at https://keeptalkingrevolutionpodcast.com/ep-11
2021-03-3037 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real PartnershipPermission vs SupportWhen it seems like your partner is making all the important decisions for your relationship. You don't have the freedom you need to spend time on rest and leisure activities. And if you disagree on a financial decision, he gets the final say. What can you do? You can try and convince him that he is wrong and he needs to give you more power and autonomy, or you can shift your relationship from a permission-based dynamic to a relationship based on mutual support. Sharon shares 4 keys to making this shift: 1...
2021-03-2319 min
Respected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real PartnershipReconciling After Divorce | Amanda BelsheSharon talks with her childhood friend, Amanda Belshe, about marrying young, having a family, divorcing, and then remarrying a year later. We talk about Amanda's mental health struggles, learning to take care of herself, and then reuniting her family. Get the full shownotes and links to resources mentioned at https://keeptalkingrevolutionpodcast.com/ep-08 https://keeptalkingrevolutionpodcast.com/ep-08
2021-03-0929 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real PartnershipBreaking Conflict PatternsSharon shares 3 ways that you can stop having the same argument over and over again. 1 - Define the pattern 2 - Remove barriers 3 - Envision a different future Get the full shownotes and links to resources mentioned at https://keeptalkingrevolutionpodcast.com/ep-07
2021-03-0213 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real PartnershipNavigating Political Differences | Erin NielsenSharon Talks with Erin Nielsen, a conflict resolution expert about new approaches to navigating political differences. Erin shares her views and expertise on: How people arrive at such different views. What to do instead of framing our differences from the lens of hero/villain. Why compromise doesn't work in politics and what can be done instead. Choosing curiosity over criticism. Get the full shownotes and links to resources mentioned at https://keeptalkingrevolutionpodcast.com/ep-05
2021-02-1620 minRespected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real PartnershipConversation Burnout | 3 Tips to Get Past Dead End ConflictWhat do you do when you're tired of having the same conversation over and over again, but you really need things to change? Sharon shares 3 tips to get past these dead-end conversations and start having more productive, collaborative discussions. Get the full shownotes and links to resources mentioned at https://keeptalkingrevolutionpodcast.com/ep-02
2021-02-0210 min
Respected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real PartnershipAn Introduction to Sharon & Keep Talking RevolutionSharon tells her story of learning to communicate more effectively with her husband. Get the full shownotes and links to resources mentioned at https://keeptalkingrevolutionpodcast.com/ep-01
2021-02-0207 min
THIS is Legit MotherhoodEpisode 56: How To Share the Family Responsibilities with Your Spouse with Sharon CostanzoHave you ever felt like you take on too much? Do you feel like a lot of the household chores fall on your plate? I know in every household, the dynamics are different and the responsibilities are different, but for a mom, sometimes it seems mom takes on TOO much. In this episode, I discuss with Sharon Costanzo how we can better share the household and family responsibilities. I love how she shares her personal examples and experiences with what worked for her and her husband and their kids. It’s not...
2020-10-1426 min