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KFM On DemandThe Daily Grace Podcast - Gazing at God with Sharon Hodde MillerHow often do you stop and reflect on who God is—not just what He’s done for you, but His very nature and character? In this episode, Shelby is joined by author Sharon Hodde Miller to talk about her new devotional, Gazing at God. In a world that constantly turns our eyes inward, Sharon invites us to lift our gaze upward—to behold the beauty, holiness, and faithfulness of God.
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2026-02-1037 minThe Daily Grace PodcastGazing at God with Sharon Hodde MillerHow often do you stop and reflect on who God is—not just what He’s done for you, but His very nature and character? In this episode, Shelby is joined by author Sharon Hodde Miller to talk about her new devotional, Gazing at God. In a world that constantly turns our eyes inward, Sharon invites us to lift our gaze upward—to behold the beauty, holiness, and faithfulness of God.
Every Woman’s Bible
Mark It Up: A Guided Verse Map Journal
Connect with Sharon:
Website | Instagram | Gazing at God
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2026-02-1037 min
The Seacoast Podcast: Things You Won't Hear On Sunday184 - Finding Freedom from Self (w/ Pastor Sharon Hodde Miller)Author of the devotional, "Gazing at God: A 40-Day Journey to Greater Freedom of Self," Pastor Sharon Hodde Miller joins the podcast to discuss the power and the freedom found in turning away from self-centeredness and turning toward God. Pastor Sharon incorporates her personal story into the conversation as she explores self-esteem, ambition, and how one balances an "others-centered life" while also maintaining healthy self-care. At the top of the episode, hosts Ciarrah Lindsay, Bri McLeod, Lynne Stroy, and Joey Svendsen discuss the terminology "moral failure" and whether it's a fitting term for pastors who make significant, i...
2026-01-271h 07
The 1000 Hours Outside Podcast1KHO 639: Escaping the Attention Economy | Sharon Hodde Miller, Gazing at GodIn a culture that trains children to perform their lives instead of live them, Sharon Hodde Miller returns to explore why so many young people feel fragile, insecure, and exhausted and why the solution isn’t more confidence, but a bigger purpose. Drawing from Free of Me and her new devotional Gazing at God, Sharon explains the overlooked root of modern insecurity: we’ve taught kids to evaluate their worth through constant self-focus, endless mirrors, and the metrics of the attention economy. Together, Sharon and Ginny uncover how shrinking our children’s purpose down to “finding themselves” has left them anxio...
2025-12-0356 min
The Happy Home Podcast with Arlene PellicaneSharon Hodde MillerVisit donate.accessmore.com and give today to help fund more episodes and shows like this. We live in a culture obsessed with self-care and personal branding. But what if freedom and happiness is found more in forgetting ourselves and remembering God instead? Sharon Hodde Miller shares from her new devotional, Gazing at God: A 40 Day Journey to Greater Freedom from Self. On today's episode, you'll learn: 3:25 What does it mean to gaze at God 10:36 How to help your kids avoid being self-centered ...
2025-11-2532 min
Reimagining the Good Life with Amy Julia BeckerHow to Break the Self-Improvement Cycle with Sharon Hodde MillerS9 E4 — What if real freedom doesn’t come from more self-esteem—but from self-forgetfulness? Amy Julia Becker and author and pastor Sharon Hodde Miller explore the difference between the false self and the true self—and how thinking about ourselves less without thinking less of ourselves leads to healing, humility, and purpose.00:00 Introduction01:58 Defining Self and Self-Forgetfulness07:33 Understanding the Self and Healing09:50 Noticing Ourselves14:12 False Self vs. True Self16:31 The Concept of Self-Denial19:18 The Role of the Body in Self-Understanding22:08 Embracing Insecurity, Humility, and Limitations29:3...
2025-11-1843 min
Going DeeperOn Compassionate Wardrobes, Self-Righteousness, and What the Self-Esteem Movement Gets Wrong with Sharon Hodde MillerIn this episode of Going Deeper, I talk with Sharon Hodde Miller about the growing problem of self-righteousness among Christians online, especially after Charlie Kirk's assassination. We unpack how the self-esteem movement has shaped how many believers think about identity and worth—and how it fosters the idea that we are called to self-discovery rather than self-denial. Sharon also shares biblical wisdom on modesty and humility in appearance, revealing that modesty may not be so much about covering up as about being intentional about dressing in a way that fosters compassion rather than comparison. Wat...
2025-11-111h 00
Life Between SundaysWhen the Next News Story Breaks with Sharon Hodde MillerIn this episode, I sit down with Christ-follower, author, pastor, and teacher, Sharon Hodde Miller, to talk about what it looks like to find real freedom. Not the kind the world talks about, but the kind that comes when we stop trying to control everything and let God be in charge. We talk about everything from how to respond to the next big news story, to how to tell the difference between the Holy Spirit's nudge and plain old overthinking. Sharon shares wisdom on what healthy responsibility looks like versus unhealthy control, and how surrendering to God's...
2025-10-2943 min
Shifting CultureEp. 348 Sharon Hodde Miller Returns - Gazing at God: Finding Freedom Beyond SelfSharon Hodde Miller returns to Shifting Culture to talk about her new devotional, Gazing at God. Building on her earlier work in Free of Me, Sharon explores how the lies of insecurity and comparison keep us trapped in self-preoccupation and how the way of Jesus frees us to lift our eyes toward God and others. Together we talk about why self-esteem culture falls short, how worship reorients us when we spiral inward, the difference between healing the self and neglecting the self, what true success in the kingdom of God looks like, and how abiding in Christ becomes the...
2025-10-0357 min
LifeAudioThe Love Offering - Breaking Free from Insecurity: A Conversation with Sharon Hodde MillerHave you ever felt the weight of insecurity—wondering if you’re enough, measuring yourself against others, or carrying the burden of impossible expectations? I know I have. That’s why I was so grateful to sit down with Sharon Hodde Miller for this week’s episode of The Love Offering Podcast. Sharon is the author of Free of Me and her newest devotional, Gazing at God. Both books offer a refreshing, hope-filled message: true freedom doesn’t come from fixing ourselves but from fixing our eyes on Him. Sharon invites us to embark on a grace-fi...
2025-09-2337 minThe Love OfferingBreaking Free from Insecurity: A Conversation with Sharon Hodde MillerHave you ever felt the weight of insecurity—wondering if you’re enough, measuring yourself against others, or carrying the burden of impossible expectations? I know I have. That’s why I was so grateful to sit down with Sharon Hodde Miller for this week’s episode of The Love Offering Podcast. Sharon is the author of Free of Me and her newest devotional, Gazing at God. Both books offer a refreshing, hope-filled message: true freedom doesn’t come from fixing ourselves but from fixing our eyes on Him. Sharon invites us to embark on a grace-fi...
2025-09-2337 min
Gather MomsThe Crushing Weight of Mom Culture and How to Be Free with Sharon Hodde MillerWhat if the very thing that feels like it’s making you a “good mom” is actually what’s crushing you?
In this powerful conversation with author, pastor, and mom of three Sharon Hodde Miller, the Gather Moms team dives into the hidden struggles every mom faces: control, comparison, burnout, and the heavy pressure to be everything to everyone.
Sharon shares:
Why “self-focus” (even disguised as selflessness) leaves moms exhausted.
The difference between control and God-given agency — and how it changes your parenting.
How to spot the red flags that motherhood has become your identity.
Prac...
2025-09-1538 min
THINQ Media PodcastThe Fallacy of Control: Sharon Hodde Miller | Episode 346In today's episode, we're featuring a talk from our THINQ library called "The Fallacy of Control" by pastor & author Sharon Hodde Miller. Sharon challenges the cultural lie that tells us control is peace. She describes how the illusion of control only fuels anxiety, fractures relationships, and burdens us with unrealistic expectations. If you're holding too tightly to some things in your life, Sharon will help you look to God's truth and the agency He'sgiven you. Listen now as she points you to look to the Holy Spirit in order to cultivate real power, freedom, and calm in your life...
2025-08-1916 min
The Holy Post677: Ending PEPFAR & Why the Self-Esteem Movement Failed with Sharon Hodde MillerWhen George W. Bush created the PEPFAR program in 2003, it was celebrated by evangelical leaders and has saved more than 26 million lives in Africa from HIV/AIDS. So why weren't evangelicals outraged when Donald Trump killed PEPFAR, which has already resulted in over 75,000 deaths since January? Phil, Skye, and Kaitlyn unpack the arguments for and against PEPFAR, and how evangelical support for "small government" only applies to some programs. Then, Katilyn talks to Sharon Hodde Miller about what the self-esteem movement gets wrong about insecurity, and how we can recover the Christian virtue of service and self-forgetfulness. Also this...
2025-07-091h 25
Enneagram and MarriageWhen Looking Within Becomes Problematic: Gazing at God w/Sharon Hodde Miller, Type 7 (7-3)Tired of the mental exhaustion that comes from constantly wondering what others think of you? In this episode, bestselling author and pastor Sharon Hodde Miller, Enneagram 7 (7-3 pairing) reveals why examining our life without just gazing inward, but also up at God and outwardly to others can also help us to break free from the self-focused scripts that keep us trapped in insecurity. Although some Enneagram patterns fuel self-preoccupation, others fuel giving in excess so today we talk candidly for all types about what it looks like to find true rest in our relationship with God rather than our...
2025-07-0638 min
She Reads Truth PodcastPeople in the Old Testament Week 6 with Sharon Hodde MillerThe lives of prophets and kings in the Old Testament may seem too different to be relevant to us today, but Sharon Hodde Miller joins Raechel and Amanda on the podcast to remind us just how much we can learn about God’s faithfulness throughout history. Tune in now to see God’s heart for His people on full display in this week’s stories from People in the Old Testament!Open your Bibles with us this week! This episode corresponds to Week 6 of She Reads Truth’s People in the Old Testament reading plan. Yo...
2025-06-091h 00
Christine Caine's Life & Leadership Podcast with Propel WomenEp 69 with Sharon Hodde Miller: Rethinking Church, Calling, and What It Means to Lead with IntegrityIn this episode, host Christine Caine sits down with Sharon Hodde Miller for a dynamic conversation on church leadership, calling, and trusting the Holy Spirit’s leading. Sharon shares how she and her husband planted a church after resisting the call and why leading as co-pastors has reshaped their ministry. They dive into gender roles, church hurt, theological formation, and how to reach a generation with deep skepticism toward religion. Listen in and find encouragement to pursue your calling with renewed boldness!
SHOW NOTES:From “Never” to “Yes” Sharon shares how God radically redirected her and her hu...
2025-05-0847 min
Christine Caine's Life & Leadership Podcast with Propel Women VIDEOEp 69 with Sharon Hodde Miller: Rethinking Church, Calling, and What It Means to Lead with IntegrityIn this episode, host Christine Caine sits down with Sharon Hodde Miller for a dynamic conversation on church leadership, calling, and trusting the Holy Spirit’s leading. Sharon shares how she and her husband planted a church after resisting the call and why leading as co-pastors has reshaped their ministry. They dive into gender roles, church hurt, theological formation, and how to reach a generation with deep skepticism toward religion. Listen in and find encouragement to pursue your calling with renewed boldness!
SHOW NOTES:From “Never” to “Yes” Sharon shares how God radically redirected her and her hu...
2025-05-0848 min
Theology in the RawChurch Planting, Pastoring Post-Covid, and Cultivating Resilience: Dr. Sharon Hodde MillerDr. Sharon Hodde Miller leads Bright City Church in Durham, NC with her husband, Ike. She also has a PhD on women and calling, and is the author of several books, including her most recent one, The Cost of Control. We talk a lot about pastoral ministry, church planting, and how to cultivate resilience in ministry. Register for the Exiles and Babylon conference: theologyintheraw.com--If you've enjoyed this content, please subscribe to my channel!Support Theology in the Raw through Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/theologyintherawOr y...
2025-01-231h 02
But I Tell You PodcastEp 02: Sharon Hodde Miller: Anxiety, Fear, and The Cost of Control🎙️ Welcome to the "But I Tell You" Podcast! 🎙️In this episode, we're thrilled to have Dr. Sharon Hodde Miller join us for a deep dive into the complexities of control in our spiritual journey. 🕊️ Dr. Miller, co-pastor of Bright City Church and author of "Free of Me," "Nice," and "The Cost of Control," shares her incredible insights into how control and faith intertwine for Christians, especially in today's uncertain world.🌿 What's Covered in This Episode:- Discover how the pursuit of control can shape our relationships and spirituality.- Learn about the "false gospel"...
2024-12-1227 min
Becoming ChurchSharon Hodde Miller: Controlling ChristmasGod has not given us control but He’s given us something better. Especially around the holidays when relationships are strained, our bodies refuse to cooperate and the future is uncertain, control promises security and peace. If only we could put that on our Christmas lists to find wrapped up underneath the tree. But in reality, the more we grasp for the illusion of control, the more it betrays us.
Sharon Hodde Miller will help you replace your anxiety with peace and find unity amidst division. The answer is not just to “let go and let God.” This e...
2024-12-0851 min
We're Going There with Bianca JuarezEp 167: The Cost of Control, Finding Freedom, and Building Stronger Relationships with Sharon Hodde MillerAre you gripping the reins too tightly? Have you ever felt the need to control every aspect of your life, only to realize that control is just an illusion?Today I speak to Sharon Hodde Miller, Pastor, Speaker, Author, and PhD about the often-unacknowledged desire for control. Together, we explore the seductive nature of control, how it often creates illusions of security, and the hidden costs of clinging to it.Some takeaways from our conversation are:
Control is an Illusion: We might think we have more control than...
2024-08-1227 minThe 1000 Hours Outside Podcast1KHO 309: Navigating Anxiety and Uncertainty | Sharon Hodde Miller, The Cost of ControlIn this compelling episode of The 1000 Hours Outside Podcast, host Ginny Yurich sits down with author and pastor Sharon Hodde Miller to explore the intricate relationship between control, anxiety, and our modern world. Sharon shares her observations on the rising levels of anxiety, particularly among college students, and delves into the cultural shifts that have amplified these feelings over recent years.Sharon discusses how our constant access to technology and information has lowered our tolerance for unpredictability and uncertainty, exacerbating anxiety when we attempt to control the uncontrollable. She challenges listeners to reflect on their own habits...
2024-07-0854 min
"But Jesus Drank Wine" & Other Stories That Kept Us StuckEp. 70 Sharon Hodde Miller | Free of Me: Discovering Liberation from Self-PreoccupationJOIN THE BJDW COMMUNITY HERE From the moment we cracked open the pages of her book, "Free Of Me, Why Life Is Better When It's Not About You," we knew we needed Sharon Hodde Miller's wisdom on this pod, and we're incredibly grateful she accepted our invitation. In a world saturated with the "me" mentality, Sharon shines a light on the pervasive impact of self-centeredness across every facet of our lives. It's a message that infiltrates our friendships, marriages, and even our faith, fracturing each in unique yet profound ways. Pursuing self-improvement often leaves us...
2024-04-0144 min
Courage Becomes HerRejection, Compassion, Self-Preoccupation, and Loneliness in Friendship with Pastor, Speaker, Author, Wife, and Mom – Sharon Hodde Miller, Ph.D. Sharon Hodde Miller is an Enneagram 7, wife of 14 years, mom of three kids, and the author of three books. She has a Master of Divinity and a Ph.D. in Educational Studies. She and her husband founded Bright City Church in the Raleigh/Durham area of North Carolina in 2018 and co-pastor the church together. Sharon is a passionate teacher about faith, culture, and the Bible. In this episode of Courage Becomes Her, Sharon talks about the revelation that came to her about self-preoccupation in friendship and how we can reframe rejection in friendship by seeing the woundedness o...
2023-08-1551 min
God Hears Her Podcast131. Jesus, Be My Peace (with Sharon Hodde Miller)Guest Bio: Sharon Hodde Miller, PhD, is teaching pastor at Bright City Church in Durham, North Carolina, which she cofounded with her husband, Ike. Miller is the author of Free of Me and Nice, she has blogged at SheWorships.com for over ten years, has been a regular contributor to Propel, Her.meneutics, and She Reads Truth, and has written for Relevant, Christianity Today, (in)courage, and many other publications and blogs. She lives with Ike and their three children in Durham, North Carolina. Show Summary: Have you ever tried to control a situation or o...
2023-07-0332 min
Holy Unhappiness with Amanda Held OpeltEpisode 1: Work, with Sharon Hodde Miller"Find a job you love, and you'll never work a day in your life." Ever heard this? Ever wonder if it's actually true? Today I'm joined by author and pastor Sharon Hodde Miller to discuss work and labor, which I write about in Chapter 1 of my book.
2023-06-2834 min
The Nothing Is Wasted PodcastEpisode 264 - The Cost of Control in Ministry, Leadership and Marriage with Ike and Sharon Hodde MillerHow do you lead when your own story is full of pain? What is the cost of control when it comes to ministry, leadership and marriage?For Ike and Sharon Hodde Miller, learning to navigate the difficulties in ministry these past few years since church planting and a pandemic has led to some insight into their own hearts. As an adult child of an alcoholic, Ike began to see the way his past was impacting his leadership. Sharon started to notice how her desire for control came at a cost to her soul and her relationships. Together, they have done...
2023-03-231h 10
Christ Presbyterian ChurchThe Cost of Control • Sharon Hodde Miller (Guest Preacher)Author and pastor Sharon Hodde Miller talks about a better way to approach control and the power that God gives us through agency, self-control, and work of Jesus Christ.
2023-01-1529 min
The Art of Leadership DailyAOLD 144 | Sharon Hodde Miller on How Your Words Carry WeightSharon Hodde Miller talks with Carey about how the words you choose, as a leader, carry weight especially in ministry. Get more on this conversation by going to http://theartofleadershipdaily.com/. Brought to you by: The Art of Leadership Academy's Thriving Church Checklist Churches that aren't just surviving but thriving in this season share 8 common traits. To weed out unhealthy areas of your ministry and lead a thriving church, you can get your FREE copy of the Thriving Church Checklist and e-book at https://thrivingchurchchecklist.com/.
2022-12-2806 min
Shifting CultureEp. 86 Sharon Hodde Miller - The Cost of ControlIn this episode Sharon Hodde Miller talks about control and anxiety, burnout, co-leading with your spouse, and stepping into the agency that God has given us.Sharon Hodde Miller, PhD, is teaching pastor at Bright City Church in Durham, North Carolina, which she cofounded with her husband, Ike. The author of Free of Me, Nice, and The Cost of Control. Miller has blogged at SheWorships.com for over ten years, has been a regular contributor to Propel, Her.meneutics, and She Reads Truth, and has written for Relevant, Christianity Today, (in)courage, and many other publications and b...
2022-12-2051 min
RJW - An RCC PodcastRJW 51 | What Control Costs You with Sharon Hodde MillerIn this episode, Pastor and Author Sharon Hodde Miller describes what's at stake when you attempt to exert control. She describes the various costs along with a healthier alternative. If you've ever lost sleep over worrying about what someone else thinks, desires, or is going to do... this episode is for you. You can find Sharon on Instagram@sharonhmillerOr check out her latest book, The Cost of Control.Want more from Represent Jesus Well - An RCC Podcast?Find it here!InstagramYo...
2022-12-0136 minReimagining the Good Life with Amy Julia BeckerThe Cost of Control with Sharon Hodde MillerHow does control lead to anxiety? How can we let go of the illusion of control and entrust our lives to God? Pastor and author Sharon Hodde Miller joins Amy Julia Becker for a down-to-earth, intellectually astute conversation about the wisdom surrounding control, agency, and influence.__Giveaway: We are giving away a copy of Sharon's latest book: The Cost of Control. To enter to win, share this podcast episode on Instagram, Facebook, or Twitter, and be sure to tag me! The contest will end on Sunday, December 4, at 11:59 pm ET.__Guest Bio:
2022-11-2941 min
Impact Nations Podcast6-11 The Cost of Control (Interview with Sharon Hodde Miller)Send us a textThis week Tim sits down with author and pastor Sharon Hodde Miller to discuss what it looks like to give God control of our lives.You can buy Sharon's newest book The Cost of Control here.To give to the Reaching Higher campaign, visit www.impactnations.com/reaching-higher
2022-11-1856 min
The Learner's Corner with Caleb MasonEpisode 322: Sharon Hodde Miller on the Cost of Control: Why We Crave It, the Anxiety It Gives Us, and the Real Power God PromisesIn this episode, Caleb talks with Sharon Hodde Miller about her book, The Cost of Control and more.Links MentionedSharon Hodde MillerThe Cost of Control: Why We Crave It, the Anxiety It Gives Us, and the Real Power God Promises by Sharon Hodde MillerCaleb's newsletter
2022-11-081h 13
Let's Get To ItEpisode 34: Sharon Hodde Miller: The Cost of ControlKelly speaks with Sharon Hodde Miller, PhD, author of the new book, The Cost of Control: Why We Crave It, the Anxiety It Gives Us, and the Real Power God Promises. Sharon is teaching pastor at Bright City Church in Durham, North Carolina, which she cofounded with her husband, Ike. She is the author of Free of Me and Nice, and the SheWorships.com blog. Today we are talking about her new book, defining control, how it effects relationships, and the difference between agency and control.
2022-10-3141 minGather MomsHELP! I Want to Be in Control with Sharon Hodde MillerAre you a control freak? You’re not alone. As moms, we love to be in control. We want to make sure our kids are safe, have everything they need and have successful lives. Those are all good things! The frustrating news is that we don’t have ultimate control over how our kids’ lives and even our own lives go. The good news is that we have agency. God has given us influence to partner with him as he deploys his mission in this world. Join us in this conversation with Sharon Hodde Miller about what control costs us and...
2022-10-2444 min
Affirming Truths Podcast | Christian Mental Health, EncouragementS4.Bonus| The Cost of Control with Sharon Hodde MillerToday Carla sits down with Pastor and author Sharon Hodde Miller and talks all about her new book - The Cost of Control. We are all guilty of trying to control things that we are not meant to control. That we can't control. Discover how this might be showing up in your life, learn what it's really costing you, and be encouraged with the hope we have in Jesus. Connect with Sharon: https://sheworships.com/ Get Your copy of the Cost of Control: https://amzn.to/3TBkAGn Connect With Ca...
2022-10-2031 min
We're Going There with Bianca JuarezEp 96: Letting Go of Control, Not Being Attached to Outcomes and The Power of Boundaries with Sharon Hodde MillerAre you a self-professed control freak? Does the thought of letting someone else take the lead stresses you out? Is there a strong inner critic that you constantly battle with? Sharon Hodde Miller is an author and a co-pastor alongside her husband. She has wrestled with control in the past and will share with us ways we can tackle our own need for control in an upfront but loving way. In this conversation, we talk about:
• Defining control and our desire to be in control
• Letting go of the need to control everything
• The struggle of the inner critic
• The power of...
2022-10-1728 min
The Carey Nieuwhof Leadership PodcastCNLP 526 | Sharon Hodde Miller on Why So Many Christian Leaders are Control Freaks, the Link Between Control and Anxiety, and How Controlling Leaders Create Church HurtBestselling author and co-lead pastor, Sharon Hodde Miller, talks about control—why so many church leaders are control freaks, the link between control and anxiety, the prosperity Gospel, and how controlling leaders create church hurt. Get more on this episode by going to https://careynieuwhof.com/episode526.
2022-10-131h 09
Life Between SundaysThe Cost of Control with Sharon Hodde MillerToday Adam talks with pastor and author, Sharon Hodde Miller about control. Note: If you're thinking, "Control? I don't have a problem with control," then this episode is definitely for you! Sharon and Adam talk about how control shows up in the places we least expect it, and why your good intentions keep you from realizing the ways you try to control the situations and people closest to you. Sharon also shares how control costs far more than you realize— in your marriage, with your children, in friendships and workplaces, and even in your relationship with Go...
2022-10-0528 min
Two Americas One GodCONTROL | Sharon Hodde MillerCost, Crave, Anxiety, Promise and (so much) more with Sharon Hodde MillerWe were beyond honored to have our good friend and sister Sharon Hodde Miller on for a conversation about the importance of knowledge and information (and how it may not work), spiritual power and abuse, the humanity of PASTORS, the difference between control and stability, and real KPI’s in the church…and so much more. Amen.Thank you for your support! Please don't forget to like, subscribe, rate, review and share on your favorite podcast platform!Also, don't forge...
2022-10-0453 min
Being Human with Steve CussEpisode 151: Sharon Hodde MillerSharon Hodde Miller is a speaker, author, church planter, co pastor and scholar whose recent book The Cost Of Control is a must read. Sharon diagnoses our control issues, but then sifts them through modern challenges like smart phones and body image. A delightful chat with a sharp and vital thinker. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2022-09-2647 min
Susie Larson Live - Test of Feed SyncSharon Hodde Miller on the power of ChristPastor and author Sharon Hodde Miller shares from her book "The Cost of Control: Why We Crave It, the Anxiety It Gives Us, and the Real Power God Promises". She talks about how to discover the real power God has given us in Christ, to exercise influence over ourselves and our lives.
2022-09-2349 min
What If I'm Wrong?Sharon Hodde Miller: The Cost of ControlKicking off this week's episode, on #blessed Heather sits down with Sharon Hodde Miller and talks about online church. Is online church a blessing that is making us more connected as a body of believers? Or is it a mess that is disconnecting us? Make sure to let us know your thoughts by typing in ViralJesusPod on Instagram or Twitter and using #blessed. As our pod-class journey on healing continues, (don’t forget to listen to previous episodes in the series) Heather sits down with Sharon Hodde Miller to discuss a concept Sharon calls “the cost of control...
2022-09-2256 min
Thrive: Mental Health and the Art of Living FreeThe Cost of Control with Sharon Hodde Miller:: [Episode 115]Hey Friends, As I’ve mentioned, we are in the middle of a year-long series about you learning to live healthier lives. We’re talking about taking small and easy tips to increase your happiness, build better relationships and feel stronger. When I think about freedom and living healthy, we want to look at the fun stuff, but we also need to look at the roadblocks. Today's discussion will shed light on what may prohibit your growth. What is it? Control or, more specifically, the illusion of control. In today’s epis...
2022-09-0939 minBecoming ChurchSharon Hodde Miller: The Cost of ControlBreaking News: *everyone* has control issues, even authors who write about control. Sharon helps us find freedom in understanding that the desire to have order isn't all bad! She and Kristin also talk about their guiding princples on what to share on social media, why church is hard right now and (for a just minute!) skincare.
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The Cost of Control by Sharon Hodde Miller Kristin & Sharon’s clothing rentalThe Cost of Controlling our Body with Jess Co...
2022-09-0449 min
Coffee and Bible Time PodcastHow Letting Go of Control with God’s Power Reduces Anxiety w/ Guest Sharon Hodde MillerToday we are going to be talking about “How we long for control.” I think it’s safe to say that a lot of people strongly desire control. Control over their relationships, control over their jobs, and over their kids. The list could go on and on. We crave control and self-sufficiency! But wanting to constantly be in control can leave us hurting, drained, and anxious. Our guest today, Sharon Hodde Miller, author of the new book, “The Cost of Control: Why We Crave It, The Anxiety It Gives Us, And the Real Power God Promi...
2022-08-231h 07
FrontStage BackStage with Jason Daye - Healthy Leadership for Life and MinistryWe All Crave Control: Avoiding Anxiety & Pastor Burnout - Sharon Hodde Miller - 19 FrontStage BackStage with Jason DayeAs ministry leaders, most of us aren't power hungry, over-controlling pastors or making the latest news headlines. But as humans, all of us can gravitate toward a desire to control. And as pastors, we often want to control how others perceive us, our ministries, and even our families. In this week's conversation on FrontStage BackStage, host Jason Daye is joined by Sharon Hodde Miller. Sharon is a teaching pastor who, along with her husband, planted Bright City Church in Durham, North Carolina. Sharon has also written a number of books, including her latest, The Cost of Control. Today, they...
2022-08-2342 min
Scott Herrold's SOS Radio PodcastSharon Hodde Miller - Getting A Handle On The Issue Of ControlSharon Hodde Miller talks with Scott Herrold about understanding the cost of control. We don't have the ability to control people or circumstances, so why are we working so hard? Sharon explains the mistaken relationship between anxiety and control. She explains where anxiety comes from, and how to embrace the true power God promises. This discussion could be a gamechanger for you!
2022-08-1820 min
Scott Herrold's SOS Radio PodcastSharon Hodde Miller - Getting A Handle On The Issue Of ControlSharon Hodde Miller talks with Scott Herrold about understanding the cost of control. We don't have the ability to control people or circumstances, so why are we working so hard? Sharon explains the mistaken relationship between anxiety and control. She explains where anxiety comes from, and how to embrace the true power God promises. This discussion could be a gamechanger for you!
2022-08-1820 min
Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder?The Cost of Control | EP 311: Sharon Hodde MillerMy guest this week is one of my best friends in the world, Sharon Hodde Miller. Sharon is an author, co-pastor at Bright City Church in North Carolina, and she teaches about faith, culture, and the Bible. She is a wife, mom to three kids, and lover of all things Disney. 5:09 – Sharon 201 This is Sharon's second time on the show. She has spent the past two years pastoring her church during a pandemic and homeschooling her kids. 8:23 – The Cost of Control book Sharon's latest book, The Cost of Control, is about why we crave control, the anxiety it give...
2022-08-171h 11The Daily Grace PodcastThe Cost of Control w/Sharon Hodde MillerMost of us carry the belief that if we could be in control of the people and circumstances around us then life would be better. This belief leads to us exerting massive amounts of energy into controlling everyone and everything. But, somehow our attempts to control our life usually end up hurting and not helping. Can you relate? Today we chat with author, speaker, and church planter Sharon Hodde Miller about her new book The Cost of Control: Why We Crave It, the Anxiety It Gives Us, and the Real Power God Promises. Sharon shares biblical truth to help...
2022-08-1631 min
The Alli Worthington ShowHow to Release Control with Sharon Hodde MillerHey friend! Today, I welcome back to the show one of my dear friends, pastor, author, and speaker, Sharon Hodde Miller. This much-needed conversation about our craving for control and what happens when we don’t deal with it gave me so many things to think about, and I think it will do the same for you!
Be sure to listen in to hear as Sharon shares how the advice she heard about handing control over to God (while entirely true, biblical, good, and important even) wasn’t exactly helpful as she struggled to navigate life in the m...
2022-08-1548 min
That Sounds Fun with Annie F. DownsEpisode 399: Sharon Hodde Miller + The Cost of ControlIs the first 10 minutes of this episode straight up Disney talk? YES.IT.IS. Are Sharon Hodde Miller and I going to start a Disney+Jesus Podcast? MAYBE. My sweet friend, Sharon is back in the studio today to talk about her new book The Cost of Control. Get ready, guys. The conversation about the illusion of control and tolerating uncertainty...PREPARE THE NOTEBOOKS!. . . .It's not too late to be a Chase the Funner! Sign up HERE as we read through Chase the Fun together.. . . .Sign up to receive the AFD...
2022-08-151h 12
Jesus Over EverythingJOE S8E4 Lisa + Friends: Sharon Hodde MillerToday, Lisa welcomes her friend, pastor and author Sharon Hodde Miller to JOE today. Sharon leads Bright City Church in Durham, NC with her husband, Ike, which they planted together in 2018. Sharon earned her M.Div. from Duke Divinity School, and her PhD from Trinity Evangelical Divinity School, where she researched the topic of women and calling. Lisa and Sharon talk about control, which is the topic of Sharon's latest book, The Cost of Control: Why We Crave it, The Anxiety It Gives Us and the Real Power God Promises. This is a must listen conversation on JOE today.
2022-08-1252 min
Anchored by the SwordSharon Hodde Miller's Freedom Story!Today's conversation with Sharon Hodde Miller is a great one for those of us who have control issues. Her new book, The Cost of Control, comes out next week, August 16th, I would encourage everyone to go order a copy for yourself or for someone in your life who has this struggle. She speaks with such encouragement and grace, yet also not afraid to step on a few toes. I met her several years ago through the socials when I was on the launch team for her second book, Nice and I am so grateful to have now met her...
2022-08-0936 min
The Living Room with Joanna Weaver088: The Cost of Control with Sharon Hodde MillerYou may feel like you can control every situation, but it will come at a high cost.
It’s never too late to turn a controlling habit into a trusting one. In this episode, author and speaker, Sharon Hodde Miller shares from her newest book, The Cost of Control: Why We Crave It, the Anxiety It Gives Us, and the Real Power God Promises Us. Co-pastoring a church with her husband, Ike, control felt like something that brought security and peace, only to find anxiety and a high cost as the true outcome. Sharon helps us all lo...
2022-06-2237 min
The Resilient Pastor08 | Sharon Hodde Miller on Leading in a Culture of Control & AnxietySend us a textSharon Hodde Miller (teaching pastor, author) sits down with Glenn Packiam to talk about managing the anxiety of the people you are leading, differentiating between agency and control and the challenges she has faced leading through the pandemic.Brotherhood Mutual: Get your free Pastor Kit by visiting brotherhoodmutual.com/barna.Want to learn more about the Resilient Pastor initiative? Home PagePodcastCohortCity RoundtablesBookWatch this episode on Youtube: Barna GroupFollow Barna at:Instagram: @barnagroupTwitter: @barnagroupFacebook: Barna GroupConnect with Sharon at sheworships.com.
2022-05-1737 min
The Adventure Before UsPeople Pleasing, Calling & Women in Ministry (w/ Sharon Hodde Miller)Please join me in welcoming Pastor & Author Sharon Hodde Miller to the podcast. In this episode, Jenn and Sharon dialogue back and forth about a number to topics, including dealing with insecurity, shedding labels that aren't from God, standing up for what we believe, and women in ministry. You'll hear stories of struggle, but also stores of overcoming and growing towards the people God has created us to be. The wisdom in this episode overflows with valuable insight and perspectives that can help all of us. Sharon Hodde Miller is a Pastor, Author, Wife, and Mom currently resi...
2022-03-2836 min
The Learner's Corner with Caleb MasonEpisode 250: The Library: Mental Health, Being at Your Best, John Mark Comer, X-Men, and Sharon Hodde MillerIn this episode, Caleb talks about what he's been learning.Links MentionedThe Village NetworkAt Your Best by Carey NieuwhofCarey Nieuwhof Leadership Podcast Episode 440: John Mark ComerThe Best There Is At What He Does: Examining Chris Claremont's X-Men by Jason PowellSharon Hodde Miller Quote
2021-10-2835 min
The Morning RageFree + Flourishing: The One Where We're Free of Ourselves w/ Sharon Hodde MillerIf you liked this episode, we think you'll also enjoy: Free of Me: Why Life is Better When It's Not About You by Sharon Hodde Miller Nice: Why We Love To Be Liked and How God Calls Us To More by Sharon Hodde Miller
2021-10-1256 min
The Cartographers90: How does God invite us to Lead? (with Sharon Hodde Miller)Listen in to this conversation with Sharon Hodde Miller as she and Ashley talk about leadership and limits.LINKSSharon on Instagram and TwitterSharon's latest books, Nice and Free of MeAshley's book: A Spacious LifeGet Pocket Practices and take your Hustle Habit quiz!Get a copy of A Spacious Life: Trading Hustle and Hurry for the Goodness of Limits! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2021-09-2932 min
Hold On PodcastEternity & Seasonal Lattes (An Interview with Sharon Hodde Miller)Thank heaven it's time for PSL! In this episode we chat with Sharon Hodde Miller about Duke University, Autumnal candles, and the Chocolate Chip Cookie at McDonald's. No matter if you like shopping at Target or Walmart (or none of the above) this episode is for you.
2021-08-2556 min
The Jess Connolly PodcastEpisode 102: Sharon Hodde MillerIf you have ever wondered if your mission actually matters, if it is actually worth it, then friend, this is the episode for you. We sat down with our friend Sharon, and her wisdom and encouragement was the exact gift we needed to hear.
If you don’t already know Sharon Hodde Miller, we’re thrilled to introduce you to her. She’s a teaching pastor, an author, a church planter, a wife, and a mom. And she has her doctorate with a focus on women in calling, so of course she’s a gal we wanted to talk...
2021-08-1236 min
Craft & CharacterPreaching towards Discipleship with Sharon Hodde MillerAbout the Episode
In the latest Craft & Character episode, Steve Carter talks with Bright City Church Teaching Pastor Sharon Hodde Miller. Sharon is an accomplished author and a thoughtful communicator who has an incredible ability to put her Ph.D. from Trinity Evangelical Divinity School to good use while also making her messages widely accessible. Sharon and Steve unpack her message, “We are heirs,” from Bright City Church, process how she preps for her talks, and how her words compel people towards becoming disciples of Jesus.
Who is Sharon Hodde Miller?
Sharon leads Bright City Church in Durham, NC with her...
2021-08-1052 min
ChurchPulse Weekly058 | Where Pastors Find Their Identity, Preaching to Digital Audiences and Being a Female Pastor with Sharon Hodde MillerSend us a textSharon Hodde Miller (author, speaker and co-lead pastor at Bright City Church) joins Carey and Savannah to discuss where pastors find their identity, the dynamics of preaching to digital audiences, leading as a female pastor and opportunities for smaller churches coming out of the pandemic.
2021-04-2944 min
The Salty ChristianOvercoming Insecurity with Sharon Hodde MillerSend us a textIn this episode, Kevin and Kyle talk to author, speaker and teaching pastor Sharon Hodde Miller about her Book 'Free of Me.' If you struggle with insecurity, low self esteem, comparison issues, approval addiction or the feeling of just not being enough, this episode is for you. Sharon shares her own journey and the truth that set her free.To learn more about Sharon, please visit www.sheworships.comYou can buy her book wherever books are sold. To buy on Amazon, please visit https://www.amazon.com...
2021-03-241h 01
Untidy FaithThe Price of Nice with Sharon Hodde Miller | Rediscovering JesusCan niceness be an enemy of holiness?There’s a lot of talk about the cost of “cancel culture,” but there is less talk about the price we pay by putting niceness ahead of holiness in approaching our communities and its dynamics. Why is that and how do we change that?You’re listening to Happy & Holy, a podcast about discipleship and community and how we meet each other right where we are to be the people of God on planet earth. And when we do, we have the potentia...
2021-02-2232 min
The Devoted Dreamers Podcast157 || [Rewind] How to Wait on Your Dream with Truth and Courage || Sharon Hodde MillerSend us a text Thanks for listening to this Summer Rewind episode of the Devoted Dreamers Podcast! You get all the latest news on Sharon Hodde Miller over on her Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sharonhmiller/ You’ll find the show notes from the original episode with Sharon Hodde Miller here: https://www.merrittonsa.com/podcast/29 A Quick Summary: Sharon Hodde Miller is a teaching pastor at @brightcityrdu, an author, wife, mom, and PhD. In this episode from late 2016 she talks about the lengthy season of preparation God...
2020-07-0143 min
Ready to ThriveEp 59 Cultivate your Soul with Sharon Hodde MillerSharon unpacks the danger of nice Christianity and why we like to be liked. Her latest book was birthed through her desire to speak out against racism but feared how she would be received, after all she was a nice Christian girl. What if being “nice” is keeping us from who we are meant to be as true disciples of Christ?
Sharon Hodde Miller co-leads Bright City Church in Durham, NC alongside her husband Ike. She holds a PhD and is the author of the books Free of Me: Why Life is Better When It’s Not About...
2020-06-1751 min
The Polished PodcastEpisode #126 - Sharon Hodde MillerHave you ever felt like there isn't a place for you in the workplace or the church? Maybe you have a strong personality or are just breaking from the mold of those around you. In our latest episode, Sharon Miller and our host, Kat Armstrong, discuss what it looks like for women to really bring their whole selves to the workplace and the church through the example of bible shero, Lydia. Sharon Hodde Miller leads Bright City Church in Durham, NC with her husband, Ike. She is the author of two books: Free of Me, and Nice, and...
2020-05-2233 minThe Polished PodcastEpisode #126 - Sharon Hodde MillerHave you ever felt like there isn't a place for you in the workplace or the church? Maybe you have a strong personality or are just breaking from the mold of those around you. In our latest episode, Sharon Miller and our host, Kat Armstrong, discuss what it looks like for women to really bring their whole selves to the workplace and the church through the example of bible shero, Lydia. Sharon Hodde Miller leads Bright City Church in Durham, NC with her husband, Ike. She is the author of two books: Free of Me, and Nice, and...
2020-05-2233 min
A Writer's Day041: Book Review of "Nice" by Sharon Hodde MillerLet me know what you think of this episode!So what's wrong with being nice? Isn't that what Christians are supposed to be? In this episode, I review the book, "Nice" by Sharon Hodde Miller, who thoughtfully explains what's wrong with being nice. Music credits:Hymn Of The Mountain by Alexander NakaradaLink: https://filmmusic.io/song/5894-hymn-of-the-mountainLicense: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/Bachs Bouree In Celtic Minor by Alexander NakaradaLink: https://filmmusic.io/song/5869-bachs-bouree-in-celtic-minorLicense: ht...
2020-03-2728 min
Honest Conversations | HeartStrong FaithEp. 40 | No More Playing It Nice | Guest: Sharon Hodde MillerIn a powerful episode of the Honest Conversations podcast, author and speaker Sharon Hodde Miller sits down with Rebecca Carrell and Liz-Rod-on-the-Pod (Rodriguez) to talk about the problem of "niceness" and why the Church needs to reconsider how they interact with the world.
2020-03-0224 min
I-2-I (Inspired to Inspire)Ep. 23: Truth be Told:: A Not So “Nice” Conversation with Sharon Hodde MillerOn this episode, we have the honor and privilege of conversing with pastor, speaker, and author Sharon Hodde Miller. She and her husband captain Bright City Church in Durham, NC. We get full access her latest book: Nice:: Why We LOVE to be Liked and How God Calls Us to More. No...it’s not quite what you think. We simply suggest...read the book. Before that though, scan into this awesome interview with an awesome woman of God who’s challenging modern Christianity as she pioneers the injection of this not so modern biblical principle back into the bloodstream of t...
2020-02-2659 min
Christian Woman Leadership Podcast with Esther Littlefield & Holly CainHow to Avoid the Trap of Niceness and Speak Boldly with Sharon Hodde Miller [Communication Series]Being the "nice Christian girl" has benefits, and it can lead to positive outcomes many times. But what if being nice is the wrong goal for us as Christians? In the final episode of our communication series, Holly and I chat with Sharon Hodde Miller about the issue of niceness. She shares why it's a problem when we make it our goal to be nice, the difference between niceness and kindness, and what niceness stops us from doing. In addition, you get to hear about Sharon's journey as a leader, how God has led her...
2019-12-311h 04
Living With Less PodcastWhy We Love To Be Liked And How God Calls Us to More with Sharon Hodde MillerEpisode 50 is a sit down with Sharon Hodde Miller, author of Nice. She shares her season of wrestling with "niceness". It keeps the peace, wins friends, gains influence, and serves our reputations well. It looks a lot like following Jesus, but it takes all the power and freedom out of our lives. Sharon shares her own battle with this false faith, confesses some of the bad fruits it produced in her life, and she shares biblical wisdom, insight, and deep convictions to lead women Godward in who God is really calling us to be. What m...
2019-12-1138 min
Living IntentionallyStop Being A Nice Christian with Sharon Hodde MillerIn this episode of the Living Intentionally Podcast, I interviewed Sharon Hodde Miller; mom, wife, child of God, teaching pastor, author, writer, speaker, and so many more things. I look up to her so much and I'm especially inspired by her biblical perspective in life. Her latest book Nice: Why We Love to Be Liked and How God Calls Us to More has been so transformative in my life. Listen in to hear us talk more about this book, the motives behind a 'good Christian', and what to do when you realize that someone you care...
2019-12-1029 min
Chasing Freedom ShowIdentifying Your Gifts and Juggling Life - with Sharon Hodde MillerIn this episode of the Chasing Freedom Show, I talk with Sharon Hodde Miller, author of Free of Me and Nice, two incredible books on living a life of faith. We chat about these books, especially where the idea of Nice came from and the illusion of being a good Christian; delving deeper into the motives of our faith. We also discuss gifts - how to identify what they are and how to use them in our lives (it's not always in the way you might have thought). Sharon and her husband have been married for...
2019-12-0556 min
The D6 Family Ministry Podcast#187 | Don't Be Nice - Sharon Hodde MillerSharon Hodde Miller sits down to discuss the differences between niceness and kindness and to share so much more from her book, Nice: Why We Love to Be Liked and How God Calls Us to More.
2019-11-2532 min
GRACEOLOGIE with Gwen SmithNice with Sharon Hodde MillerSharon Hodde Miller joins me for episode #66 to talk about why we love to be liked and why God calls us to more! Episode show notes: www.gwensmith.net/graceologie/66 FREE ONLINE BIBLE STUDY: www.GwenSmith.net/PsalmAdventure Graceologie on INSTA: @graceologie Graceologie on FB: www.facebook.com/graceologie Gwen Smith on INSTA: @GwenSmithMusic Gwen Smith on FB: www.facebook.com/GwenSmithMusic
2019-10-2544 min
The Mary Marantz ShowPeople Pleasing and Afraid to Say No? Why We're Called to So Much More than 'Nice' with Sharon Hodde MillerEver pick up a perfectly round, perfectly red tomato - only to be disappointed at the lack of flavor? Years ago, it was discovered that genes in tomatoes could be altered to make them more pleasing to the eye - but this came at the cost of leaving the tomato with a lackluster taste. Author Sharon Hodde Miller proposes the same thing happens to us when we try too hard to be nice. If you're exhausted from putting on a mask, watering down your effervescent personality, and playing to the double-tap in exchange to 'belong' an...
2019-10-241h 10
Lessons From The Farm | Nicki KoziarzEpisode #38 | How Does Sharon Hodde Miller Do It All?Listen in today as Nicki chats with her friend, Sharon Hodde Miller. CLICK HERE to purchase ticket's to Nicki's Barn Revival CONNECT WITH SHARON Website Twitter Instagram Facebook In this episode, Sharon mentions: Nice by Sharon Hodde Miller Love Kindness by Barry Corey Primal Leadership by Daniel Goleman CONNECT WITH NICKI Website Instagram Twitter Thanks for listening!
2019-10-2439 min
Coffee with AndiS4E1: Being Nice vs. Following Jesus with Sharon Hodde MillerWe're back with an all-new season of #CoffeeWithAndi! Today we launch season 4 with writer, speaker, and copastor, Sharon Hodde Miller. We talk about life, church planting, women in leadership, and her new book, Nice: Why We Love to Be Liked and How God Calls Us to More. This episode is full of great laughs and hard truths, so grab your coffee and let's go. "If we're faking being good, if we're faking being joyful, if we're faking love, ultimately people can tell. It's not convincing to people." – Sharon Hodde Miller Links ment...
2019-10-0952 min
Coffee with AndiS4E1: Being Nice vs. Following Jesus with Sharon Hodde MillerWe're back with an all-new season of #CoffeeWithAndi! Today we launch season 4 with writer, speaker, and copastor, Sharon Hodde Miller. We talk about life, church planting, women in leadership, and her new book, Nice: Why We Love to Be Liked and How God Calls Us to More. This episode is full of great laughs and hard truths, so grab your coffee and let's go. "If we're faking being good, if we're faking being joyful, if we're faking love, ultimately people can tell. It's not convincing to people." – Sharon Hodde Miller Links ment...
2019-10-0952 minThe Alli Worthington ShowSharon Hodde Miller on why nice can be dangerous, women in the ministry, and identifying our strengths.In this episode, I am joined by one of my kindest and most brilliant friends Sharon Hodde Miller to talk about why "nice" can be dangerous.
We'll also talk about women in ministry and what it looks like to have someone call out your gifts and strengths.
In this episode we discuss:
1.The differences between kindness, harshness, and niceness
2.How to do a heart check for your motivations
3. How to respond to and love others well
Favorite quotes:
1. It’s really import...
2019-09-021h 02
That Sounds Fun with Annie F. DownsEpisode 164: Sharon Hodde Miller + NiceI really love listening to anything Sharon Hodde Miller says... from a stage or a book or like today, on the other side of a microphone. She is wise and kind and a truth teller. Her newest book Nice: Why We Love to Be Liked and How God Calls Us To More is a strong read that I think you'll love. (UGH YOU GUYS. ALSO. This episode was recorded the same day at Drew Holcomb and Sheri Lynn which means I SCREWED UP RECORDING IT just like those two. Sheesh. I'm so sorry. So lean in and...
2019-09-0259 minJesus Over EverythingJOE S1E112: Interview with Sharon Hodde MillerOh goodness! So many good things in this conversation Lisa has with Sharon Hodde Miller, teacher, mom, church planter, and author of her latest book "Nice:Nice: Why We Love to Be Liked and How God Calls Us to More". Church planting, women leading in the church and so much more! Links: Website Book Instagram Facebook Twitter Learn more about Lisa at LisaWhittle.com Produced by Unmutable™
Connect with Lisa:Website: https://www.lisawhittle.comSubstack: https://letsbeclear.substack.com...
2019-08-2832 min