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Godcaster 2Christine Caine's Life & Leadership Podcast with P... - Ep 69 with Sharon Hodde Miller: Rethinking Church, Calling, and What It Means to Lead with IntegrityIn this episode, host Christine Caine sits down with Sharon Hodde Miller for a dynamic conversation on church leadership, calling, and trusting the Holy Spirit’s leading. Sharon shares how she and her husband planted a church after resisting the call and why leading as co-pastors has reshaped their ministry. They dive into gender roles, church hurt, theological formation, and how to reach a generation with deep skepticism toward religion. Listen in and find encouragement to pursue your calling with renewed boldness!
SHOW NOTES:From “Never” to “Yes” Sharon shares how God radically redirected her and her hu...2025-05-0848 min
Christine Caine's Life & Leadership Podcast with Propel WomenEp 69 with Sharon Hodde Miller: Rethinking Church, Calling, and What It Means to Lead with IntegrityLearn more about Trevecca Nazarene University here.
In this episode, host Christine Caine sits down with Sharon Hodde Miller for a dynamic conversation on church leadership, calling, and trusting the Holy Spirit’s leading. Sharon shares how she and her husband planted a church after resisting the call and why leading as co-pastors has reshaped their ministry. They dive into gender roles, church hurt, theological formation, and how to reach a generation with deep skepticism toward religion. Listen in and find encouragement to pursue your calling with renewed boldness!
SHOW NOTES:From “Neve...2025-05-0847 minChristine Caine's Life & Leadership Podcast with Propel Women VIDEOEp 69 with Sharon Hodde Miller: Rethinking Church, Calling, and What It Means to Lead with IntegrityIn this episode, host Christine Caine sits down with Sharon Hodde Miller for a dynamic conversation on church leadership, calling, and trusting the Holy Spirit’s leading. Sharon shares how she and her husband planted a church after resisting the call and why leading as co-pastors has reshaped their ministry. They dive into gender roles, church hurt, theological formation, and how to reach a generation with deep skepticism toward religion. Listen in and find encouragement to pursue your calling with renewed boldness!
SHOW NOTES:From “Never” to “Yes” Sharon shares how God radically redirected her and her hu...2025-05-0848 min
Susie Larson LiveTaming your craving for control with Sharon Hodde MillerWhether you want to admit it or not, we all want a little more control in our lives. But when we get it, we also seem to get more anxiety and complex problems. Sharon Hodde Miller shares from her book, "The Cost of Control: Why We Crave It, the Anxiety It Gives Us, and the Real Power God Promises." Faith Radio podcasts are made possible by your support. Give now: click here2025-04-0350 min
Theology in the RawChurch Planting, Pastoring Post-Covid, and Cultivating Resilience: Dr. Sharon Hodde MillerDr. Sharon Hodde Miller leads Bright City Church in Durham, NC with her husband, Ike. She also has a PhD on women and calling, and is the author of several books, including her most recent one, The Cost of Control. We talk a lot about pastoral ministry, church planting, and how to cultivate resilience in ministry. Register for the Exiles and Babylon conference: theologyintheraw.com--If you've enjoyed this content, please subscribe to my channel!Support Theology in the Raw through Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/theologyintherawOr y...2025-01-231h 03
Becoming ChurchSharon Hodde Miller: Controlling ChristmasGod has not given us control but He’s given us something better. Especially around the holidays when relationships are strained, our bodies refuse to cooperate and the future is uncertain, control promises security and peace. If only we could put that on our Christmas lists to find wrapped up underneath the tree. But in reality, the more we grasp for the illusion of control, the more it betrays us.
Sharon Hodde Miller will help you replace your anxiety with peace and find unity amidst division. The answer is not just to “let go and let God.” This e...2024-12-0851 min
We're Going There with Bianca JuarezEp 167: The Cost of Control, Finding Freedom, and Building Stronger Relationships with Sharon Hodde MillerAre you gripping the reins too tightly? Have you ever felt the need to control every aspect of your life, only to realize that control is just an illusion?Today I speak to Sharon Hodde Miller, Pastor, Speaker, Author, and PhD about the often-unacknowledged desire for control. Together, we explore the seductive nature of control, how it often creates illusions of security, and the hidden costs of clinging to it.Some takeaways from our conversation are:
Control is an Illusion: We might think we have more control than...2024-08-1227 min
The 1000 Hours Outside Podcast1KHO 309: Navigating Anxiety and Uncertainty | Sharon Hodde Miller, The Cost of ControlIn this compelling episode of The 1000 Hours Outside Podcast, host Ginny Yurich sits down with author and pastor Sharon Hodde Miller to explore the intricate relationship between control, anxiety, and our modern world. Sharon shares her observations on the rising levels of anxiety, particularly among college students, and delves into the cultural shifts that have amplified these feelings over recent years.Sharon discusses how our constant access to technology and information has lowered our tolerance for unpredictability and uncertainty, exacerbating anxiety when we attempt to control the uncontrollable. She challenges listeners to reflect on their own habits...2024-07-0858 min
"But Jesus Drank Wine" & Other Stories That Kept Us StuckEp. 70 Sharon Hodde Miller | Free of Me: Discovering Liberation from Self-PreoccupationJOIN THE BJDW COMMUNITY HERE From the moment we cracked open the pages of her book, “Free Of Me, Why Life Is Better When It's Not About You,” we knew we needed Sharon Hodde Miller's wisdom on this pod, and we're incredibly grateful she accepted our invitation. In a world saturated with the "me" mentality, Sharon shines a light on the pervasive impact of self-centeredness across every facet of our lives. It's a message that infiltrates our friendships, marriages, and even our faith, fracturing each in unique yet profound ways. Pursuing self-improvement often leaves us joyl...2024-04-0144 min
Courage Becomes HerRejection, Compassion, Self-Preoccupation, and Loneliness in Friendship with Pastor, Speaker, Author, Wife, and Mom – Sharon Hodde Miller, Ph.D. Sharon Hodde Miller is an Enneagram 7, wife of 14 years, mom of three kids, and the author of three books. She has a Master of Divinity and a Ph.D. in Educational Studies. She and her husband founded Bright City Church in the Raleigh/Durham area of North Carolina in 2018 and co-pastor the church together. Sharon is a passionate teacher about faith, culture, and the Bible. In this episode of Courage Becomes Her, Sharon talks about the revelation that came to her about self-preoccupation in friendship and how we can reframe rejection in friendship by seeing the woundedness o...2023-08-1551 min
God Hears Her PodcastJesus, Be My Peace (with Sharon Hodde Miller)Guest Bio: Sharon Hodde Miller, PhD, is teaching pastor at Bright City Church in Durham, North Carolina, which she cofounded with her husband, Ike. Miller is the author of Free of Me and Nice, she has blogged at SheWorships.com for over ten years, has been a regular contributor to Propel, Her.meneutics, and She Reads Truth, and has written for Relevant, Christianity Today, (in)courage, and many other publications and blogs. She lives with Ike and their three children in Durham, North Carolina. Show Summary: Have you ever tried to control a situation or o...2023-07-0332 minGod Hears Her PodcastJesus, Be My Peace (with Sharon Hodde Miller)Guest Bio: Sharon Hodde Miller, PhD, is teaching pastor at Bright City Church in Durham, North Carolina, which she cofounded with her husband, Ike. Miller is the author of Free of Me and Nice, she has blogged at SheWorships.com for over ten years, has been a regular contributor to Propel, Her.meneutics, and She Reads Truth, and has written for Relevant, Christianity Today, (in)courage, and many other publications and blogs. She lives with Ike and their three children in Durham, North Carolina. Show Summary: Have you ever tried to control a situation or o...2023-07-0332 min
Holy Unhappiness with Amanda Held OpeltEpisode 1: Work, with Sharon Hodde Miller"Find a job you love, and you'll never work a day in your life." Ever heard this? Ever wonder if it's actually true? Today I'm joined by author and pastor Sharon Hodde Miller to discuss work and labor, which I write about in Chapter 1 of my book.2023-06-2834 min
The Nothing Is Wasted PodcastEpisode 264 - The Cost of Control in Ministry, Leadership and Marriage with Ike and Sharon Hodde MillerHow do you lead when your own story is full of pain? What is the cost of control when it comes to ministry, leadership and marriage?For Ike and Sharon Hodde Miller, learning to navigate the difficulties in ministry these past few years since church planting and a pandemic has led to some insight into their own hearts. As an adult child of an alcoholic, Ike began to see the way his past was impacting his leadership. Sharon started to notice how her desire for control came at a cost to her soul and her relationships. Together, they have done...2023-03-231h 09
Christ Presbyterian ChurchThe Cost of Control • Sharon Hodde Miller (Guest Preacher)Author and pastor Sharon Hodde Miller talks about a better way to approach control and the power that God gives us through agency, self-control, and work of Jesus Christ.2023-01-1529 min
The Art of Leadership DailyAOLD 144 | Sharon Hodde Miller on How Your Words Carry WeightSharon Hodde Miller talks with Carey about how the words you choose, as a leader, carry weight especially in ministry. Get more on this conversation by going to http://theartofleadershipdaily.com/. Brought to you by: The Art of Leadership Academy's Thriving Church Checklist Churches that aren't just surviving but thriving in this season share 8 common traits. To weed out unhealthy areas of your ministry and lead a thriving church, you can get your FREE copy of the Thriving Church Checklist and e-book at https://thrivingchurchchecklist.com/.2022-12-2806 min
Shifting CultureEp. 86 Sharon Hodde Miller - The Cost of ControlIn this episode Sharon Hodde Miller talks about control and anxiety, burnout, co-leading with your spouse, and stepping into the agency that God has given us.Sharon Hodde Miller, PhD, is teaching pastor at Bright City Church in Durham, North Carolina, which she cofounded with her husband, Ike. The author of Free of Me, Nice, and The Cost of Control. Miller has blogged at SheWorships.com for over ten years, has been a regular contributor to Propel, Her.meneutics, and She Reads Truth, and has written for Relevant, Christianity Today, (in)courage, and many other publications and b...2022-12-2051 min
Worth Your TimeReason to Return Series: Sharon Hodde MillerDon't miss this reprise episode with author Sharon Hodde Miller, who is a church planter and mom of three living in North Carolina. She's the author of the new book, "Cost of Control" (which I loved) and also wrote two other books: "Nice" and "Free of Me." She's got a Ph.D. and a strong voice online and in person, as she writes, preaches and shares the messages God has given her with people across the country. I knew I wanted to ask Sharon to endorse my book right away and was so thankful that...2022-12-0654 min
RJW - An RCC PodcastRJW 51 | What Control Costs You with Sharon Hodde MillerIn this episode, Pastor and Author Sharon Hodde Miller describes what's at stake when you attempt to exert control. She describes the various costs along with a healthier alternative. If you've ever lost sleep over worrying about what someone else thinks, desires, or is going to do... this episode is for you. You can find Sharon on Instagram@sharonhmillerOr check out her latest book, The Cost of Control.Want more from Represent Jesus Well - An RCC Podcast?Find it here!InstagramYo...2022-12-0136 min
Reimagining the Good Life with Amy Julia BeckerThe Cost of Control with Sharon Hodde MillerHow does control lead to anxiety? How can we let go of the illusion of control and entrust our lives to God? Pastor and author Sharon Hodde Miller joins Amy Julia Becker for a down-to-earth, intellectually astute conversation about the wisdom surrounding control, agency, and influence.__Giveaway: We are giving away a copy of Sharon's latest book: The Cost of Control. To enter to win, share this podcast episode on Instagram, Facebook, or Twitter, and be sure to tag me! The contest will end on Sunday, December 4, at 11:59 pm ET.__Guest Bio:2022-11-2941 min
Impact Nations Podcast6-11 The Cost of Control (Interview with Sharon Hodde Miller)This week Tim sits down with author and pastor Sharon Hodde Miller to discuss what it looks like to give God control of our lives.You can buy Sharon's newest book The Cost of Control here.To give to the Reaching Higher campaign, visit www.impactnations.com/reaching-higher2022-11-1856 min
The Learner's Corner with Caleb MasonEpisode 322: Sharon Hodde Miller on the Cost of Control: Why We Crave It, the Anxiety It Gives Us, and the Real Power God PromisesIn this episode, Caleb talks with Sharon Hodde Miller about her book, The Cost of Control and more.Links MentionedSharon Hodde MillerThe Cost of Control: Why We Crave It, the Anxiety It Gives Us, and the Real Power God Promises by Sharon Hodde MillerCaleb's newsletter2022-11-081h 13
Let's Get To ItEpisode 34: Sharon Hodde Miller: The Cost of ControlKelly speaks with Sharon Hodde Miller, PhD, author of the new book, The Cost of Control: Why We Crave It, the Anxiety It Gives Us, and the Real Power God Promises. Sharon is teaching pastor at Bright City Church in Durham, North Carolina, which she cofounded with her husband, Ike. She is the author of Free of Me and Nice, and the SheWorships.com blog. Today we are talking about her new book, defining control, how it effects relationships, and the difference between agency and control. 2022-10-3141 min
Gather MomsHELP! I Want to Be in Control with Sharon Hodde Miller
Are you a control freak? You’re not alone. As moms, we love to be in control. We want to make sure our kids are safe, have everything they need and have successful lives. Those are all good things! The frustrating news is that we don’t have ultimate control over how our kids’ lives and even our own lives go. The good news is that we have agency. God has given us influence to partner with him as he deploys his mission in this world. Join us in this conversation with Sharon Hodde Miller about what control costs us and...2022-10-2444 min
Affirming Truths Podcast | Christian Mental Health, EncouragementS4.Bonus| The Cost of Control with Sharon Hodde MillerToday Carla sits down with Pastor and author Sharon Hodde Miller and talks all about her new book - The Cost of Control. We are all guilty of trying to control things that we are not meant to control. That we can’t control. Discover how this might be showing up in your life, learn what it’s really costing you, and be encouraged with the hope we have in Jesus. Connect with Sharon: https://sheworships.com/ Get Your copy of the Cost of Control: https://amzn.to/3TBkAGn Connec...2022-10-2031 min
We're Going There with Bianca JuarezEp 96: Letting Go of Control, Not Being Attached to Outcomes and The Power of Boundaries with Sharon Hodde MillerAre you a self-professed control freak? Does the thought of letting someone else take the lead stresses you out? Is there a strong inner critic that you constantly battle with? Sharon Hodde Miller is an author and a co-pastor alongside her husband. She has wrestled with control in the past and will share with us ways we can tackle our own need for control in an upfront but loving way. In this conversation, we talk about:
• Defining control and our desire to be in control
• Letting go of the need to control everything
• The struggle of the inner critic
• The power of...2022-10-1729 min
The Carey Nieuwhof Leadership PodcastCNLP 526 | Sharon Hodde Miller on Why So Many Christian Leaders are Control Freaks, the Link Between Control and Anxiety, and How Controlling Leaders Create Church HurtBestselling author and co-lead pastor, Sharon Hodde Miller, talks about control—why so many church leaders are control freaks, the link between control and anxiety, the prosperity Gospel, and how controlling leaders create church hurt. Get more on this episode by going to https://careynieuwhof.com/episode526.2022-10-131h 09The Carey Nieuwhof Leadership PodcastCNLP 526 | Sharon Hodde Miller on Why So Many Christian Leaders are Control Freaks, the Link Between Control and Anxiety, and How Controlling Leaders Create Church HurtBestselling author and co-lead pastor, Sharon Hodde Miller, talks about control—why so many church leaders are control freaks, the link between control and anxiety, the prosperity Gospel, and how controlling leaders create church hurt. Get more on this episode by going to https://careynieuwhof.com/episode526.2022-10-131h 09
Deeper StillThe Cost of Control: Sharon Hodde MillerKicking off Season Four with author, pastor and teacher Sharon Hodde Miller as she talks about her new book The Cost of the Control: Why We Crave It, The Anxiety It Gives Us, and the Real Power God Promises. Sharon is the co-founder of Bright City Church in Durham, NC. Learn more about Sharon, her ministry and her books at sheworships.com
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The Conversation with Adam WeberEpisode 176 - The Cost of Control with Sharon Hodde MillerToday Adam talks with pastor and author, Sharon Hodde Miller about control. Note: If you’re thinking, “Control? I don’t have a problem with control,” then this episode is definitely for you! Sharon and Adam talk about how control shows up in the places we least expect it, and why your good intentions keep you from realizing the ways you try to control the situations and people closest to you. Sharon also shares how control costs far more than you realize— in your marriage, with your children, in friendships and workplaces, and even in your relationsh...2022-10-0528 min
Two Americas One GodCONTROL | Sharon Hodde MillerCost, Crave, Anxiety, Promise and (so much) more with Sharon Hodde MillerWe were beyond honored to have our good friend and sister Sharon Hodde Miller on for a conversation about the importance of knowledge and information (and how it may not work), spiritual power and abuse, the humanity of PASTORS, the difference between control and stability, and real KPI’s in the church…and so much more. Amen.Thank you for your support! Please don't forget to like, subscribe, rate, review and share on your favorite podcast platform!Also, don't forge...2022-10-0453 min
Being Human with Steve CussEpisode 151: Sharon Hodde MillerSharon Hodde Miller is a speaker, author, church planter, co pastor and scholar whose recent book The Cost Of Control is a must read. Sharon diagnoses our control issues, but then sifts them through modern challenges like smart phones and body image. A delightful chat with a sharp and vital thinker. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices2022-09-2647 minBeing Human with Steve CussEpisode 151: Sharon Hodde MillerSharon Hodde Miller is a speaker, author, church planter, co pastor and scholar whose recent book The Cost Of Control is a must read. Sharon diagnoses our control issues, but then sifts them through modern challenges like smart phones and body image. A delightful chat with a sharp and vital thinker. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices2022-09-2647 min
Susie Larson Live - Test of Feed SyncSharon Hodde Miller on the power of ChristPastor and author Sharon Hodde Miller shares from her book "The Cost of Control: Why We Crave It, the Anxiety It Gives Us, and the Real Power God Promises". She talks about how to discover the real power God has given us in Christ, to exercise influence over ourselves and our lives.2022-09-2349 min
Susie Larson LiveSharon Hodde Miller on the power of ChristPastor and author Sharon Hodde Miller shares from her book "The Cost of Control: Why We Crave It, the Anxiety It Gives Us, and the Real Power God Promises". She talks about how to discover the real power God has given us in Christ, to exercise influence over ourselves and our lives.2022-09-2349 min
What If I'm Wrong?Sharon Hodde Miller: The Cost of ControlKicking off this week's episode, on #blessed Heather sits down with Sharon Hodde Miller and talks about online church. Is online church a blessing that is making us more connected as a body of believers? Or is it a mess that is disconnecting us? Make sure to let us know your thoughts by typing in ViralJesusPod on Instagram or Twitter and using #blessed. As our pod-class journey on healing continues, (don’t forget to listen to previous episodes in the series) Heather sits down with Sharon Hodde Miller to discuss a concept Sharon calls “the cost of control...2022-09-2256 min
Thrive: Mental Health and the Art of Living FreeThe Cost of Control with Sharon Hodde Miller:: [Episode 115]Hey Friends, As I’ve mentioned, we are in the middle of a year-long series about you learning to live healthier lives. We’re talking about taking small and easy tips to increase your happiness, build better relationships and feel stronger. When I think about freedom and living healthy, we want to look at the fun stuff, but we also need to look at the roadblocks. Today's discussion will shed light on what may prohibit your growth. What is it? Control or, more specifically, the illusion of control. In today’s epis...2022-09-0939 minBecoming ChurchSharon Hodde Miller: The Cost of ControlBreaking News: *everyone* has control issues, even authors who write about control. Sharon helps us find freedom in understanding that the desire to have order isn't all bad! She and Kristin also talk about their guiding princples on what to share on social media, why church is hard right now and (for a just minute!) skincare.
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This Undivided Life#116 Sharon Hodde Miller: The Cost of ControlWhat is the cost to us, to others in our often relentless pursuit of control get us? More anxiety, stress, broken relationships, a loss of reality? Yes and Yes. Join the conversation as Sharon Hodde Miller talks about control and what it costs us, as she shares about her new book, The Cost of Control: Why we crave it, the anxiety it gives us, and the real power God promises. Sharon is a Christ-follower, author, pastor, and teacher.She loves her husband Ike, her kids, and her church, Bright City she co-pastors with her husband Ike. She's a...2022-08-3157 min
Coffee and Bible Time PodcastSeason 4 Ep. 31 - How Letting Go of Control with God’s Power Reduces Anxiety w/ Guest Sharon Hodde MillerToday we are going to be talking about “How we long for control.” I think it’s safe to say that a lot of people strongly desire control. Control over their relationships, control over their jobs, and over their kids. The list could go on and on. We crave control and self-sufficiency! But wanting to constantly be in control can leave us hurting, drained, and anxious. Our guest today, Sharon Hodde Miller, author of the new book, “The Cost of Control: Why We Crave It, The Anxiety It Gives Us, And the Real Power God Promi...2022-08-231h 07
FrontStage BackStage with Jason Daye - Healthy Leadership for Life and MinistryWe All Crave Control: Avoiding Anxiety & Pastor Burnout - Sharon Hodde Miller - 19 FrontStage BackStage with Jason DayeAs ministry leaders, most of us aren't power hungry, over-controlling pastors or making the latest news headlines. But as humans, all of us can gravitate toward a desire to control. And as pastors, we often want to control how others perceive us, our ministries, and even our families. In this week's conversation on FrontStage BackStage, host Jason Daye is joined by Sharon Hodde Miller. Sharon is a teaching pastor who, along with her husband, planted Bright City Church in Durham, North Carolina. Sharon has also written a number of books, including her latest, The Cost of Control. Today, they...2022-08-2342 min