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Whole Self PodcastHis Job, Her Job: When submission becomes controlWhat is healthy submission and boundaries in marriage, and when can submission cross the line into control? As a group practice of therapists, we too often see biblical submission used in an unhealthy way. In this episode, licensed, professional counselors Sharon and Kayla discuss the cultural context and biblical understanding of love and submission, how influences in our current culture, like purity culture and our experiences in childhood, impact how we relate to our spouses and operate in our marriages, and what both his and her jobs are in a healthy marriage.
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Tim Mackie...2024-08-2037 minWhole Self PodcastPart 1: 5 Types of NarcissistsA re-release of an old episode! In 2022, we did a series called “Know Thy Trauma.” Throughout multiple episodes, we discussed trauma and its components: generational trauma, attachment styles, triggers, and so much more. This summer, we’re revamping our most popular episodes of that series! To start us off, we have part 1 of 5 types of narcissists. In this episode, counselors Sharon and Cait discuss narcissism and 2 out of the 5 types we commonly see. Vulnerable and covert narcissists can be difficult to spot due to coming off as “givers”, and Sharon and Cait dive into detail about what makes them narcissist...2024-06-2129 minWhole Self PodcastHow Society Puts Men In Boxes- With Guest Matt OwenProfessional counselors Sharon and Kayla are joined by guest Matt Owen, a counselor at the Moore Resilient Group, to discuss the messaging Western culture sends men and what boxes men can be put in as a result. They talk about gender roles, what men are taught about friendships and romantic relationships from a young age, how men are shown to handle emotions, and more. Lastly, they discuss what effect these things can have on men’s mental health and relationships, and what men can do to challenge or work through these narratives.
2024-05-0134 minWhole Self PodcastPt. 4: Gender Roles and Low Sexual Desire In Married WomenLow sexual desire in married women is a topic we encounter a lot in our counseling office, and is more nuanced than you think. Licensed, professional counselors Sharon Wegman and Kayla Seader discuss the factors that contribute to lower sex drive, like gender roles, purity culture, unequal labor divisions in the home, pornography, and more. This episode is a follow up to our episodes on The Mental Load of Women, Weaponized Incompetence, and Boundary Conversations with Your Partner.
Link to the study: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8382213/
The Great Sex Rescue...2024-03-2633 minWhole Self PodcastPop Psychology Part 2Have you seen tons of posts on social media about narcissists, or people breaking off relationships with “toxic” people? In this episode, Sharon and Mandy break down concepts that have been popularized by pop psychology, like narcissism, gaslighting, abuse, trauma, and more to help bring clarity to what is true about these topics and what is not.
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2024-03-0526 minWhole Self PodcastPop Psychology Part 1Pop psychology can encompass any psychological concept, diagnosis, theory, etc, that has been popularized in mainstream media. You might have seen some of the following terms on social media: narcissism, toxicity, gaslighting, triggers, codependency, abuse, or more. In part one, Sharon Wegman (MA, NCP, LPC) and Mandy talk about the rise of pop psychology, why it’s so appealing, it’s validity, and how to discern if what you’re consuming online is quality information.
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2024-02-0523 minWhole Self PodcastChronic Illness and Mental HealthChronic illness impacts not only our physical health, but our mental health as well. The lifestyle changes, dietary changes, relational changes, and more can lead to feelings of isolation, depression, anxiety. Individuals can also go through traumatic experiences amidst those changes and during the process of diagnosis and treatment, which can lead to PTSD.
In this podcast episode, licensed, professional counselor Sharon Wegman talks with Mandy, who was diagnosed with a chronic illness of the GI tract in 2019. They discuss the eastern vs. western mindsets when it comes to long term suffering and the different ways gut...2024-01-0326 minWhole Self PodcastPt. 3: Boundary Conversations with Your PartnerIn the follow up to parts 1 and 2 about the mental load and weaponized incompetence, professional counselors Sharon and Kayla discuss ways to go about talking to your spouse or partner about those topics. There are tips for having a successful conversation, examples of different types of boundaries, and more!
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2023-07-2521 minWhole Self PodcastBoundaries for TeachersIn this episode, professional counselor Sharon Wegman is joined by former-teacher-turned-office-admin Mandy Kaucher to discuss how teachers can set boundaries, and the benefits of doing so. They discuss boundaries with administration, parents, students, and self, as well as things teachers can do to help stave off burnout and improve their mental health.2023-07-1131 minWhole Self PodcastPt. 2: Weaponized IncompetenceIn a follow up to our episode on the mental load, licensed, professional counselors Sharon and Kayla discuss weaponized incompetence, and how that can be used in defense against sharing the mental load in a relationship. Weaponized incompetence occurs when someone attempts to not learn tasks, does them badly, or invalidates them to try and get out of doing them (whether intentionally or subconsciously). Like in an episode of Everybody Loves Raymond, Ray purposefully changes diapers badly so Deborah doesn't ask him to do it again. For additional info, check out our blog post here, or follow us on Instagram...2023-06-2228 minWhole Self PodcastPt. 1: The Mental Load of WomenIn this episode, professional counselors Sharon and Kayla discuss the mental load of women and how it can impact not only the person, but the relationship they're in. They talk about ways to start the discussion with your partner about the mental load to reach a place where things feel more balanced in the relationship.2023-05-3127 min
CREATED TO THRIVE PODCASTHealing from Trauma: Understanding Trauma Responses and Ways to Move Forward with Sharon Wegman | 73Traumatic events can keep us stuck from living the life we desire. Often we don't recognize our own trauma responses in order to experience freedom and healing.
In today's episode, my friend and trauma expert Sharon Wegman, shares the importance of becoming trauma informed, and understanding how traumatic experiences impact on your emotional, mental and physical health, and relationships. Most importantly, how to create a path toward recovery.
Sharon is the owner of Wellsprings Solutions, a faith-based counseling center focusing on healing the body, soul, and spirit. Sharon owns a coaching business called The...2023-02-0835 minWellsprings Solutions Counseling and Wellness ServicesStrategies for Dealing With Emotionally Unhealthy Parents
In this episode, Sharon and office administrator Mandy discuss strategies for dealing with emotionally unhealthy parents as a follow up to part one. They also chat about new changes coming to their office that you can hear at the end of the episode! After this episode, we will be taking a hiatus from our podcast to focus on those changes, so make sure to follow us wherever you stream your podcast, and on Instagram @wholeselftherapists. Check out our website, wellspringssolutions.com, for more announcements and updates on our classes, groups, and programs.
The post Strategies for Dealing...2022-10-1321 minWhole Self PodcastStrategies for Dealing With Emotionally Unhealthy ParentsIn this episode, Sharon and office administrator Mandy discuss strategies for dealing with emotionally unhealthy parents as a follow up to part one. They also chat about new changes coming to their office that you can hear at the end of the episode! After this episode, we will be taking a hiatus from our podcast to focus on those changes, so make sure to follow us wherever you stream your podcast, and on Instagram @wholeselftherapists. Check out our website, wellspringssolutions.com, for more announcements and updates on our classes, groups, and programs.2022-10-1321 minWellsprings Solutions Counseling and Wellness ServicesEmotionally Unhealthy Parents- Part 1
An emotionally unhealthy parent is one who has never worked through their own past or childhood wounds, so they cannot handle hard emotions or feelings. They will often justify not having done so, and show a pattern of unhealthy behaviors and communication. In this episode, therapists Sharon and Cait describe the traits of emotionally unhealthy parents, and give examples of what you might see or hear if you bring a tough emotion or situation to them. Find and follow us on Instagram @wholeselftherapists. For more information, check out the book at the link below! (Affiliate Disclaimer: This is an...2022-09-1522 minWhole Self PodcastEmotionally Unhealthy ParentsAn emotionally unhealthy parent is one who has never worked through their own past or childhood wounds, so they cannot handle hard emotions or feelings. They will often justify not having done so, and show a pattern of unhealthy behaviors and communication. In this episode, therapists Sharon and Cait describe the traits of emotionally unhealthy parents, and give examples of what you might see or hear if you bring a tough emotion or situation to them. Find and follow us on Instagram @wholeselftherapists. For more information, check out the book at the link below! (Affiliate Disclaimer: This is an affiliate...2022-09-1522 minWellsprings Solutions Counseling and Wellness ServicesBack to School: Strategies for Parents
In this episode, counselors Cait and Sharon build off the previous episode about what kids are feeling when it comes times to go back to school. They discuss what anxiety is, how kids experience it, and how important it is for parents to be able to attune to their children’s feelings to help them work through whatever they are experiencing. They give examples of how to attune, and then strategies for parents to help their kids work through their anxiety and prepare for the transition back to school. Follow us on Instagram @wholeselftherapists
The post Back to...2022-08-1615 minWhole Self PodcastBack to School: Strategies for ParentsIn this episode, counselors Cait and Sharon build off the previous episode about what kids are feeling when it comes times to go back to school. They discuss what anxiety is, how kids experience it, and how important it is for parents to be able to attune to their children's feelings to help them work through whatever they are experiencing. They give examples of how to attune, and then strategies for parents to help their kids work through their anxiety and prepare for the transition back to school. Follow us on Instagram @wholeselftherapists2022-08-1615 minWellsprings Solutions Counseling and Wellness ServicesBack to School- What are kids feeling?
In this episode, professional counselors Cait and Sharon discuss why children might start acting differently when August hits. They explain why kids might start feeling more anxious, and what anxiety looks like in kids who don’t have the language or awareness to explain or name what they’re feeling. Find us on Instagram @wholeselftherapists!
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2022-08-1115 minWhole Self PodcastBack to School- What are kids feeling?In this episode, professional counselors Cait and Sharon discuss why children might start acting differently when August hits. They explain why kids might start feeling more anxious, and what anxiety looks like in kids who don't have the language or awareness to explain or name what they're feeling. Find us on Instagram @wholeselftherapists!2022-08-1115 minWellsprings Solutions Counseling and Wellness ServicesMoney Beliefs
In this episode, professional counselors Cait and Sharon discuss how our adult views and decisions surrounding money were formed and influenced. While it is a topic sometimes seen as taboo or not something everyone wants to discuss, it’s helpful to dig into our feelings and reactions around money- it can tell us a lot about ourselves and our beliefs. Find us on instagram @wholeselftherapists!
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2022-07-2118 minWhole Self PodcastMoney BeliefsIn this episode, professional counselors Cait and Sharon discuss how our adult views and decisions surrounding money were formed and influenced. While it is a topic sometimes seen as taboo or not something everyone wants to discuss, it's helpful to dig into our feelings and reactions around money- it can tell us a lot about ourselves and our beliefs. Find us on instagram @wholeselftherapists!2022-07-2118 minWellsprings Solutions Counseling and Wellness ServicesFood Beliefs
In this episode, professional counselors Sharon and Cait discuss how our relationship with food was influenced and how we might’ve formed our beliefs about it. They discuss the different variables, how to avoid passing unhealthy beliefs to our children, and how to break unhealthy beliefs tied to food. If you are in the state of Pennsylvania and are interested in scheduling with our counselor, Joanna Faljean, visit our website at wellspringssolutions.com. Like, subscribe, and follow us on Instagram @wholeselftherapists
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2022-07-0716 minWhole Self PodcastFood BeliefsIn this episode, professional counselors Sharon and Cait discuss how our relationship with food was influenced and how we might've formed our beliefs about it. They discuss the different variables, how to avoid passing unhealthy beliefs to our children, and how to break unhealthy beliefs tied to food. If you are in the state of Pennsylvania and are interested in scheduling with our counselor, Joanna Faljean, visit our website at wellspringssolutions.com. Like, subscribe, and follow us on Instagram @wholeselftherapists2022-07-0716 minWellsprings Solutions Counseling and Wellness ServicesParenting is Triggering (Part 2)
In this episode, Sharon and Cait follow up on the last episode about how parenting is triggering. They discuss what can trigger parents or caretakers in each age group of newborns/babies, 0-5, and up, and how we can cope when we are triggered.
The book mentioned in today’s episode can be found here: https://www.amazon.com/Whole-Brain-Child-Revolutionary-Strategies-Developing/dp/0553386697/ref=asc_df_0553386697/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=312177564685&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=6952193102709236417&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9007410&hvtargid=pla-436541850135&psc=1&tag=&ref=&adgrpid=60258870697&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvadid=312177564685&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=6952193102709236417&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hv...2022-06-1723 minWhole Self PodcastParenting is Triggering (Part 2)In this episode, Sharon and Cait follow up on the last episode about how parenting is triggering. They discuss what can trigger parents or caretakers in each age group of newborns/babies, 0-5, and up, and how we can cope when we are triggered.
The book mentioned in today's episode can be found here: https://www.amazon.com/Whole-Brain-Child-Revolutionary-Strategies-Developing/dp/0553386697/ref=asc_df_0553386697/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=312177564685&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=6952193102709236417&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9007410&hvtargid=pla-436541850135&psc=1&tag=&ref=&adgrpid=60258870697&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvadid=312177564685&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=6952193102709236417&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9007410&hvtargid...2022-06-1723 minWellsprings Solutions Counseling and Wellness ServicesBONUS: Addictions Treatment for Professionals- Thinking Outside of the Box with Ann Bruno
In this bonus episode, Sharon Wegman interviews Ann Bruno, M. Ed., CARC, about her specialty of addictions treatment, and how outside-of-the-box thinking can aid professionals in their recovery. If you are interested in Ann Bruno’s program, The Sober Academy, you can get in touch with her through her email: brunoann1@msn.com or call/text: 520-370-9020.
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2022-06-0922 minWhole Self PodcastBONUS: Addictions Treatment for Professionals- Thinking Outside of the Box with Ann BrunoIn this bonus episode, Sharon Wegman interviews Ann Bruno, M. Ed., CARC, about her specialty of addictions treatment, and how outside-of-the-box thinking can aid professionals in their recovery. If you are interested in Ann Bruno's program, The Sober Academy, you can get in touch with her through her email: brunoann1@msn.com or call/text: 520-370-9020.2022-06-0922 minWellsprings Solutions Counseling and Wellness ServicesParenting is Triggering
In this episode, counselors Sharon and Cait discuss the big emotions we can feel while parenting. They explore the following questions and more: Why can we feel so riled up from our kids? Why can we feel like our bodies are on edge? Why do we want to shut down when our child behaves a certain way? Or have the sudden urge to yell? In the next episode, they explore how parents can cope with feeling triggered in each stage of their child’s life.
The post Parenting is Triggering appeared first on Wellsprings Solutions Counseling and We...2022-06-0217 minWhole Self PodcastParenting is TriggeringIn this episode, counselors Sharon and Cait discuss the big emotions we can feel while parenting. They explore the following questions and more: Why can we feel so riled up from our kids? Why can we feel like our bodies are on edge? Why do we want to shut down when our child behaves a certain way? Or have the sudden urge to yell? In the next episode, they explore how parents can cope with feeling triggered in each stage of their child's life.2022-06-0217 minWellsprings Solutions Counseling and Wellness Services14. Know Thy Workplace Trauma
Do you feel spent after a day at work? Do you find yourself unable to sleep at night, or feeling anxious or sick to your stomach at the thought of going to work? In this final episode in our trauma series, Cait and Sharon discuss workplace trauma. Workplace trauma has always been around, especially in jobs that deal hands-on with trauma (first responders, healthcare workers, etc), but since the start of the pandemic, we have seen more and more jobs become harder and often more traumatic for workers. Listen in to discover how we can develop workplace trauma, how...2022-05-1322 minWhole Self Podcast14. Know Thy Workplace TraumaDo you feel spent after a day at work? Do you find yourself unable to sleep at night, or feeling anxious or sick to your stomach at the thought of going to work? In this final episode in our trauma series, Cait and Sharon discuss workplace trauma. Workplace trauma has always been around, especially in jobs that deal hands-on with trauma (first responders, healthcare workers, etc), but since the start of the pandemic, we have seen more and more jobs become harder and often more traumatic for workers. Listen in to discover how we can develop workplace trauma, how it...2022-05-1322 minWellsprings Solutions Counseling and Wellness Services13. Know Thy Medical Trauma
In this episode, counselors Sharon and Cait discuss medical trauma. They describe what it looks like, how it occurs, give examples of different types of medical traumas, and detail strategies for coping with it. For more, follow us on Instagram @wholeselftherapists
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2022-04-2824 minWhole Self Podcast13. Know Thy Medical TraumaIn this episode, counselors Sharon and Cait discuss medical trauma. They describe what it looks like, how it occurs, give examples of different types of medical traumas, and detail strategies for coping with it. For more, follow us on Instagram @wholeselftherapists2022-04-2824 minWellsprings Solutions Counseling and Wellness Services12. Know Thy Healing Timeline
A question we often hear is, “when will I be better?” or, “how long will it take until I don’t feel like this anymore?” In this episode, counselors Cait and Sharon discusses the timeline for healing. They explain the therapeutic process, the 3 things that make healing “go faster”, what to do if you’re unsure if your therapist is a good fit, and more. Follow us Instagram @thewholeselftherapists
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2022-04-1516 minWhole Self Podcast12. Know Thy Healing TimelineA question we often hear is, "when will I be better?" or, "how long will it take until I don't feel like this anymore?" In this episode, counselors Cait and Sharon discusses the timeline for healing. They explain the therapeutic process, the 3 things that make healing "go faster", what to do if you're unsure if your therapist is a good fit, and more. Follow us Instagram @thewholeselftherapists2022-04-1516 minWhole Self Podcast11. Know Thy Spiritual TraumaIn this episode, counselors Sharon and Cait discuss spiritual trauma. They detail what it is and what it can look like, the results it can have on a person, and how important it is to heal our spirits and relationship with spirituality when working toward general healing of the body and mind. For more, follow us on Instagram @wholeselftherapists2022-04-0128 minWellsprings Solutions Counseling and Wellness Services11. Know Thy Spiritual Trauma
In this episode, counselors Sharon and Cait discuss spiritual trauma. They detail what it is and what it can look like, the results it can have on a person, and how important it is to heal our spirits and relationship with spirituality when working toward general healing of the body and mind. For more, follow us on Instagram @wholeselftherapists
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2022-04-0128 minWhole Self Podcast10. Know Thy Narcissists (Part 3)Leaving a relationship with a narcissist can be extremely difficult, especially given the way they cycle through love-bombing, devaluing/abuse, rejection, and then trying to suck you back into the relationship. In this episode, counselors Cait and Sharon discuss what a good constitutes a good apology, how to set boundaries with a narcissist, how to know if you should leave the relationship, and how to go about creating an exit plan to do so safely. For more, follow us on Instagram @wholeselftherapists2022-03-1026 minWellsprings Solutions Counseling and Wellness Services10. Know Thy Narcissists (Part 3)
Leaving a relationship with a narcissist can be extremely difficult, especially given the way they cycle through love-bombing, devaluing/abuse, rejection, and then trying to suck you back into the relationship. In this episode, counselors Cait and Sharon discuss what a good constitutes a good apology, how to set boundaries with a narcissist, how to know if you should leave the relationship, and how to go about creating an exit plan to do so safely. For more, follow us on Instagram @wholeselftherapists
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In this episode, counselors Sharon and Cait discuss the remaining two types of narcissists- classic and malignant. The classic narcissist is the typical archetype of a person who is an exhibitionist with an inflated sense of self, while the malignant narcissist is a very manipulative and exploitive person who frequently hurts others for pleasure. Get your free “5 Types of Narcissists” download here: https://wellspringssolutions.com/resources/ and for more information, follow us on Instagram @wholeselftherapists
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2022-03-0429 minWhole Self Podcast9. Know Thy Narcissists (Part 2)In this episode, counselors Sharon and Cait discuss the remaining two types of narcissists- classic and malignant. The classic narcissist is the typical archetype of a person who is an exhibitionist with an inflated sense of self, while the malignant narcissist is a very manipulative and exploitive person who frequently hurts others for pleasure. Get your free "5 Types of Narcissists" download here: https://wellspringssolutions.com/resources/ and for more information, follow us on Instagram @wholeselftherapists2022-03-0429 minWellsprings Solutions Counseling and Wellness Services8. Know Thy Narcissists (Part 1)
In this episode, counselors Sharon and Kayla discuss 5 types of narcissists they typically deal with. They define the term narcissist, and in this first part of a two part episode, they discuss the most confusing types of narcissists- Vulnerable and Covert. For more, follow us on Instagram @wholeselftherapists
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2022-02-1830 minWhole Self Podcast8. Know Thy Narcissists (Part 1)In this episode, counselors Sharon and Kayla discuss 5 types of narcissists they typically deal with. They define the term narcissist, and in this first part of a two part episode, they discuss the most confusing types of narcissists- Vulnerable and Covert. For more, follow us on Instagram @wholeselftherapists
Free 5 Types of Narcissists download available here: https://wellspringssolutions.com/resources/2022-02-1830 minWellsprings Solutions Counseling and Wellness Services7. Know Thy Defense Mechanisms
In this episode, counselors Sharon and Kayla discuss coping mechanisms, and the three underlying emotions that usually drive us to employ a defense mechanism. They detail the six ways we tend to respond to these emotions, and why it is important to recognize so we can work to identify the unhealthy defense mechanism and replace it with a healthy coping mechanism. For more, follow us on Instagram @wholeselftherapists
Free Coping Mechanism download available here: https://wellspringssolutions.com/resources/
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2022-02-0330 minWhole Self Podcast7. Know Thy Defense MechanismsIn this episode, counselors Sharon and Kayla discuss coping mechanisms, and the three underlying emotions that usually drive us to employ a defense mechanism. They detail the six ways we tend to respond to these emotions, and why it is important to recognize so we can work to identify the unhealthy defense mechanism and replace it with a healthy coping mechanism. For more, follow us on Instagram @wholeselftherapists
Free Coping Mechanism download available here: https://wellspringssolutions.com/resources/2022-02-0330 minWellsprings Solutions Counseling and Wellness Services6. Know Thy Inner Child
In this episode, counselors Kayla and Sharon discuss the “inner child”, using simple analogies, stories, and real life examples to aid listeners in understanding this concept.They define the term, note why it is important to understand our inner children, how it impacts us in adulthood, and how to begin healing the inner child. Knowing and recognizing our inner child can help us identify why we react to things the way we do, and start to relearn new and healthy behaviors in response to triggering words or events. For more, follow us on Instagram @wholeselftherapists
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Blog...2022-01-2030 minWhole Self Podcast6. Know Thy Inner ChildIn this episode, counselors Kayla and Sharon discuss the “inner child”, using simple analogies, stories, and real life examples to aid listeners in understanding this concept.They define the term, note why it is important to understand our inner children, how it impacts us in adulthood, and how to begin healing the inner child. Knowing and recognizing our inner child can help us identify why we react to things the way we do, and start to relearn new and healthy behaviors in response to triggering words or events. For more, follow us on Instagram @wholeselftherapists
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Blog: https://insighttimer.com/blog/i...2022-01-2030 minWellsprings Solutions Counseling and Wellness Services5. Know Thy Agreements
An agreement is a truth that is decided or agreed. They can be made as the result of some kind of traumatic event, statements or labels from relationships, roles in our childhood homes, or hurts and pains we’ve experienced. These experiences sent some kind of message to ourselves that we then agreed to, and now live our life as if it is truth. When we live our lives as if these agreements were truths, we find that they are binding and limiting as they play out into adulthood. Listen to Kayla and Sharon discuss examples of agreements, how the...2022-01-0634 minWhole Self Podcast5. Know Thy AgreementsAn agreement is a truth that is decided or agreed. They can be made as the result of some kind of traumatic event, statements or labels from relationships, roles in our childhood homes, or hurts and pains we’ve experienced. These experiences sent some kind of message to ourselves that we then agreed to, and now live our life as if it is truth. When we live our lives as if these agreements were truths, we find that they are binding and limiting as they play out into adulthood. Listen to Kayla and Sharon discuss examples of agreements, how they are...2022-01-0634 minWellsprings Solutions Counseling and Wellness Services4. Know Thy Triggers
It’s important to know your trauma and story so you can know what triggers you. When you’re able to identify your triggers, you can begin to repave your neural pathways so you can respond differently to what might trigger you in the present. For more information on what triggers are, how to identify them, how they might make you respond, somatic exercises to help you out of a trigger response, and more- listen to Cait and Sharon in our 4th episode of our trauma series. Follow us on Instagram @wholeselftherapists
The post 4. Know Thy Triggers appe...2021-12-0926 minWhole Self Podcast4. Know Thy TriggersIt's important to know your trauma and story so you can know what triggers you. When you're able to identify your triggers, you can begin to repave your neural pathways so you can respond differently to what might trigger you in the present. For more information on what triggers are, how to identify them, how they might make you respond, somatic exercises to help you out of a trigger response, and more- listen to Cait and Sharon in our 4th episode of our trauma series. Follow us on Instagram @wholeselftherapists2021-12-0926 minWellsprings Solutions Counseling and Wellness Services3. Know Thy Attachment Style
Knowing our attachment styles lends us insight into how we view ourselves, relate to other people, and can help us understand our trauma . In this podcast episode, counselors Sharon, Cait and Kayla discuss the importance of knowing your attachment style. They look at the five “A’s” needed in childhood – affection, affirmation, attunement, affect regulation, and attention, how they relate to the five love languages, and describe the different styles of attachment. For more, follow us on Instagram @wholeselftherapists
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2021-11-2633 minWhole Self Podcast3. Know Thy Attachment StyleKnowing our attachment styles lends us insight into how we view ourselves, relate to other people, and can help us understand our trauma . In this podcast episode, counselors Sharon, Cait and Kayla discuss the importance of knowing your attachment style. They look at the five "A's" needed in childhood - affection, affirmation, attunement, affect regulation, and attention, how they relate to the five love languages, and describe the different styles of attachment. For more, follow us on Instagram @wholeselftherapists2021-11-2633 minWellsprings Solutions Counseling and Wellness Services2. Know Thy Parent’s Trauma
The influence of parents is pivotal in child development in cognitive skills, behaviors, social skills, coping skills, and general security. Therefore it is essential to understand our parent’s story and their trauma to gain a greater understanding of ourselves. How did their own traumatic experiences influence how they parented us? How did they model coping skills to us? As we seek a greater understanding of our functioning in life, it is crucial to trace the roots of the previous generations so that we come to understand some of our beliefs resulting from our parent’s traumatic experiences. For example...2021-11-1133 minWhole Self Podcast2. Know Thy Parent’s TraumaThe influence of parents is pivotal in child development in cognitive skills, behaviors, social skills, coping skills, and general security. Therefore it is essential to understand our parent’s story and their trauma to gain a greater understanding of ourselves. How did their own traumatic experiences influence how they parented us? How did they model coping skills to us? As we seek a greater understanding of our functioning in life, it is crucial to trace the roots of the previous generations so that we come to understand some of our beliefs resulting from our parent’s traumatic experiences. For example, was one o...2021-11-1133 min
Whole Self Podcast1. Know Thy TraumaThis episode is our introductory recording in our new series, “Know Thy Trauma.” Sharon Wegman, Cait Beiler, and Kalya Seader explain why each person needs to understand their personal trauma history and how it affects our body, mind, emotions, and relationships. Unknown trauma can evidence itself in depression, anxiety, physical ailments, our ability to focus, our relationships, and a plethora of other symptoms. People fail to understand that the events from their childhood during the critical bonding stage affect them even if they have little memory. Additionally, beliefs formed years in childhood are also part of the foundation from which traum...2021-10-2818 minWellsprings Solutions Counseling and Wellness Services1. Know Thy Trauma
This episode is our introductory recording in our new series, “Know Thy Trauma.” Sharon Wegman, Cait Beiler, and Kalya Seader explain why each person needs to understand their personal trauma history and how it affects our body, mind, emotions, and relationships. Unknown trauma can evidence itself in depression, anxiety, physical ailments, our ability to focus, our relationships, and a plethora of other symptoms. People fail to understand that the events from their childhood during the critical bonding stage affect them even if they have little memory. Additionally, beliefs formed years in childhood are also part of the foundation from which...2021-10-2818 minWhole Self PodcastUnderstanding the Teen BrainAt our practice, we see a lot of teenagers and a lot of parents of teenagers. In this podcast, Cait Beiler and Sharon Wegman talk about the teen brain and why it is essential to understand what is happening during these developmental years. As therapists, we believe when you can receive knowledge about something, that can bring empowerment. Learning about the brain is so essential! In this podcast, we address why teenagers need stimulation all the time, how to communicate with your teen and some things the teenage brain needs to feel safe. Our brains always take in new information...2021-03-1836 minWellsprings Solutions Counseling and Wellness ServicesUnderstanding the Teen Brain
At our practice, we see a lot of teenagers and a lot of parents of teenagers. In this podcast, Cait Beiler and Sharon Wegman talk about the teen brain and why it is essential to understand what is happening during these developmental years. As therapists, we believe when you can receive knowledge about something, that can bring empowerment. Learning about the brain is so essential! In this podcast, we address why teenagers need stimulation all the time, how to communicate with your teen and some things the teenage brain needs to feel safe. Our brains always take in new...2021-03-1836 minWhole Self PodcastManaging The Holidays with COVIDFor a lot of people, the holidays can be a triggering time of year for a variety of reasons. While you may have been practicing how to manage these triggers, one new aspect has been thrown in the mix - COVID. In this episode, Sharon Wegman and Kayla Seader explore triggers such as rejection, fear of missing out, and having to say no, and setting firm boundaries. Sharon and Kayla then go on to explore areas that boundaries may need to be set, how to go about setting and respecting boundaries, and alternatives to still experience aspects of joy in...2020-11-1927 minWellsprings Solutions Counseling and Wellness ServicesManaging The Holidays with COVID
For a lot of people, the holidays can be a triggering time of year for a variety of reasons. While you may have been practicing how to manage these triggers, one new aspect has been thrown in the mix – COVID. In this episode, Sharon Wegman and Kayla Seader explore triggers such as rejection, fear of missing out, and having to say no, and setting firm boundaries. Sharon and Kayla then go on to explore areas that boundaries may need to be set, how to go about setting and respecting boundaries, and alternatives to still experience aspects of joy in th...2020-11-1927 min
Wellsprings Solutions Counseling and Wellness ServicesMindfulness
Have you ever thought to yourself, “What is mindfulness? What does that mean?” Mindfulness is the process of doing specific exercises to transform how your brain engages with the rest of the world. We often find that we have an automatic fight, flight, freeze, or fawn response to something that triggers a feeling similar to trauma events from our past. For example, perhaps we were abandoned by our parents in some way in our childhood, and in turn, when someone behaves in a way that makes us feel the same emotion, we automatically respond in the same manner. Our emotional...2020-10-3021 minWhole Self PodcastMindfulnessHave you ever thought to yourself, “What is mindfulness? What does that mean?” Mindfulness is the process of doing specific exercises to transform how your brain engages with the rest of the world. We often find that we have an automatic fight, flight, freeze, or fawn response to something that triggers a feeling similar to trauma events from our past. For example, perhaps we were abandoned by our parents in some way in our childhood, and in turn, when someone behaves in a way that makes us feel the same emotion, we automatically respond in the same manner. Our emotional brain res...2020-10-3021 min
Whole Self PodcastHow Trauma Impacts Your RelationshipsRelationships and the associated conflict of relationships can have behavioral reactions that have nothing to do with the person with whom we have strife. Many of us learned trauma coping skills at a very early age. If attachment patterns form during 0-3 years and our world view forms during 0-12 years, then much of how we interpret our world occurs before we have adult relationships. HOWEVER, we can heal our brain patterns as we discover the truth and start thinking about our formative memories differently. Cait Beiler and Sharon Wegman discuss common trauma coping responses that people have in relationships bas...2020-10-1627 minWellsprings Solutions Counseling and Wellness ServicesHow Trauma Impacts Your Relationships
Relationships and the associated conflict of relationships can have behavioral reactions that have nothing to do with the person with whom we have strife. Many of us learned trauma coping skills at a very early age. If attachment patterns form during 0-3 years and our world view forms during 0-12 years, then much of how we interpret our world occurs before we have adult relationships. HOWEVER, we can heal our brain patterns as we discover the truth and start thinking about our formative memories differently. Cait Beiler and Sharon Wegman discuss common trauma coping responses that people have in rel...2020-10-1627 minWhole Self PodcastShame: Your Worst EnemyShame is the most significant behind the scenes motivator of a lot of the counseling topics that come through our office. It is the enemy of your being. It drives addictions, self-image problems, marriage struggles, depression, anxiety, etc. Whatever problem you name, there is an element of shame that may not have caused the root of the problem, but now exists.2020-07-0226 minWellsprings Solutions Counseling and Wellness ServicesShame: Your Worst Enemy
Shame is the most significant behind the scenes motivator of a lot of the counseling topics that come through our office. It is the enemy of your being. It drives addictions, self-image problems, marriage struggles, depression, anxiety, etc. Whatever problem you name, there is an element of shame that may not have caused the root of the problem, but now exists. In this podcast, Sharon Wegman and Cait Beiler discuss Paul Gilbert’s theory of emotional regulation and how shame can make any one of the three elements of emotional regulation (soothing, threat, and drive) encompass the balance we ca...2020-07-0226 minWellsprings Solutions Counseling and Wellness ServicesGaslighting 101
In 1944 there was a famous movie released by the name “Gaslight.” The film is the story of a man who marries a woman after a whirlwind relationship to manipulate her for financial gain. Throughout the movie, the husband proceeds to do a variety of deceptive things to convince his wife that she is insane to gain control over her and her wealth. The movie’s theme slowly created the term gaslighting, to describe a type of manipulative behavior that a person uses to try to deceive another out of truth. Examples of gaslighting actions might include; Blatant lying, frequent use of deni...2020-06-1134 minWhole Self PodcastGaslighting 101In 1944 there was a famous movie released by the name “Gaslight.” The film is the story of a man who marries a woman after a whirlwind relationship to manipulate her for financial gain. Throughout the movie, the husband proceeds to do a variety of deceptive things to convince his wife that she is insane to gain control over her and her wealth. The movie’s theme slowly created the term gaslighting, to describe a type of manipulative behavior that a person uses to try to deceive another out of truth. Examples of gaslighting actions might include; Blatant lying, frequent use of denial...2020-06-1134 minWhole Self PodcastUnderstanding Self-HarmSelf Harm is a growing trend amongst pre-teen and teens, and it is a topic that frequently comes up in the world of counseling. Parents, concerned friends, and even the person doing self-harm, often feel confused regarding the behavior. Self-harm touches all people groups, but it manifests itself in different expressions. Unfortunately, many people learn this behavior from their friends or from websites in which there is a pro-injury theme, and yet many parents feel ill-equipped to handle the discovery when they learn of their child’s self-harm. Below are the statistics of self-harm from 2019
Each year, 1 in 7 seven males an...2019-12-1022 minWellsprings Solutions Counseling and Wellness ServicesUnderstanding Self-Harm
Self Harm is a growing trend amongst pre-teen and teens, and it is a topic that frequently comes up in the world of counseling. Parents, concerned friends, and even the person doing self-harm, often feel confused regarding the behavior. Self-harm touches all people groups, but it manifests itself in different expressions. Unfortunately, many people learn this behavior from their friends or from websites in which there is a pro-injury theme, and yet many parents feel ill-equipped to handle the discovery when they learn of their child’s self-harm. Below are the statistics of self-harm from 2019
Each year, 1 in 7 se...2019-12-1022 minWellsprings Solutions Counseling and Wellness ServicesCodependency Looks Like
Co-dependency was a word that was coined by people working in the field of addictions to describe the behavior of members of an addict’s family that enabled the addict to continue with addict choices. However, in the world of counseling, we have taken over the term to describe the behaviors of individuals who carry things for others that are not their responsibility. This could look like several things. Sometimes people can have an unhealthy need for people to make them feel better. For example, if someone struggles with anxiety, they might be dependent on another individual to make them...2019-11-1223 minWhole Self PodcastCodependency Looks LikeCo-dependency was a word that was coined by people working in the field of addictions to describe the behavior of members of an addict’s family that enabled the addict to continue with addict choices. However, in the world of counseling, we have taken over the term to describe the behaviors of individuals who carry things for others that are not their responsibility. This could look like several things. Sometimes people can have an unhealthy need for people to make them feel better. For example, if someone struggles with anxiety, they might be dependent on another individual to make them feel...2019-11-1223 minWellsprings Solutions Counseling and Wellness ServicesWhy Counseling is So Helpful
The trend and comfort of going to counseling has only developed popularity within the past decade or so. This is a good thing, but as a therapist, I still encounter the negative views or “cliches” people see in counseling. As a culture, we are just now starting to come out of the perspective that going to counseling somehow means “you’re crazy” or “there’s something wrong with you.” In reality, we all go through hard things, and the point is we need support and safe places to process these experiences to stay healthy and receive healing. In this podcast, Sharon...2019-10-2830 minWhole Self PodcastWhy Counseling is So HelpfulThe trend and comfort of going to counseling has only developed popularity within the past decade or so. This is a good thing, but as a therapist, I still encounter the negative views or “cliches” people see in counseling. As a culture, we are just now starting to come out of the perspective that going to counseling somehow means “you’re crazy” or “there’s something wrong with you.” In reality, we all go through hard things, and the point is we need support and safe places to process these experiences to stay healthy and receive healing. In this podcast, Sharon and I dis...2019-10-2830 minWellsprings Solutions Counseling and Wellness ServicesAnxiety Symptoms and Self Care
Anxiety rates are on the rise in the western world. In fact, in 2018 study on anxiety, it was determined that “1 in 5 five individuals deal with some form of anxiety and would be considered the highest prevalent form of mental illness in the United States”. Most people feel a lot of shame about not being able to control their anxiety or the fact that they have anxiety, however as research on this topic evolves we are coming to understand that changes in our culture have strong influences on the development of anxiety in our culture. For example, researchers have determined that...2019-06-1137 minWhole Self PodcastAnxiety Symptoms and Self CareAnxiety rates are on the rise in the western world. In fact, in 2018 study on anxiety, it was determined that “1 in 5 five individuals deal with some form of anxiety and would be considered the highest prevalent form of mental illness in the United States”. Most people feel a lot of shame about not being able to control their anxiety or the fact that they have anxiety, however as research on this topic evolves we are coming to understand that changes in our culture have strong influences on the development of anxiety in our culture. For example, researchers have determined that 90% of t...2019-06-1137 minWhole Self PodcastSummer: When the Kids are Home and Moms Go Crazy!School summer vacation has an immense undercurrent to it these days. Below the surface of the joy that the children feel about summer vacation from school, there exists a hint of angst when parents think about children being home in summer. It is rare though when a parent openly shares their negative feelings of shame and guilt associated with children being home. There is less structure, less mom time, and less money available because food, entertainment, camp, and vacation expenses go up. Moms, in particular, feel more guilt and shame over not being able to be the fantastic mom portrayed in...2019-05-1441 minWellsprings Solutions Counseling and Wellness ServicesSummer: When the Kids are Home and Moms Go Crazy!
School summer vacation has an immense undercurrent to it these days. Below the surface of the joy that the children feel about summer vacation from school, there exists a hint of angst when parents think about children being home in summer. It is rare though when a parent openly shares their negative feelings of shame and guilt associated with children being home. There is less structure, less mom time, and less money available because food, entertainment, camp, and vacation expenses go up. Moms, in particular, feel more guilt and shame over not being able to be the fantastic mom po...2019-05-1441 min
Wellsprings Solutions Counseling and Wellness ServicesChanging How We Relate to People by Understanding OurselvesHow do you relate with others? Are you secure? Do you struggle with social anxiety? Sometimes understanding the truth of how we relate to people is the first step to […]2019-05-1332 minWhole Self PodcastChanging How We Relate to People by Understanding OurselvesHow do you relate with others? Are you secure? Do you struggle with social anxiety? Sometimes understanding the truth of how we relate to people is the first step to beginning to make the necessary changes in how we relate to people. Most people fail to understand that attachment takes place in the first three years of a person’s life, and the individual’s world view is primarily established in the first twelve years of a person’s life. We have very little control over how we learned to attach to and relate to people, but we do have power over...2019-05-1332 minWellsprings Solutions Counseling and Wellness ServicesHow Your Past Influences Your Spiritual Walk
It’s common for people sitting across from me in the counseling office to talk about their inability to feel safe or connected to God. Their walk with God seems very distant or is plagued with feels of guilt and shame. Some people are pretty clear that they want no part of God because of how God was presented to them by authority figures. They are clear that God represents pain and they want no part of him because of the way he has been described to them. An essential piece of developing an excellent spiritual walk involves understanding how...2019-04-1629 minWhole Self PodcastHow Your Past Influences Your Spiritual WalkIt’s common for people sitting across from me in the counseling office to talk about their inability to feel safe or connected to God. Their walk with God seems very distant or is plagued with feels of guilt and shame. Some people are pretty clear that they want no part of God because of how God was presented to them by authority figures. They are clear that God represents pain and they want no part of him because of the way he has been described to them. An essential piece of developing an excellent spiritual walk involves understanding how our...2019-04-1629 minWellsprings Solutions Counseling and Wellness ServicesHealthy Sexuality in MarriageBy Cait Beiler
“Because sex isn’t properly introduced to us as a gift from God, an act of worship, and a holy binding act that should be celebrated in the right context, we know sex as something as scandalous and devious and guilt-carrying to desire.” – Moh Iso
Yup, that’s right you read the title correctly. This blog post and podcast is all about sex. If you are someone who instantly felt negative feelings surrounding this topic, this blog post and podcast are precisely for you. We currently live in a constant sexually s...2019-01-1633 minWhole Self PodcastHealthy Sexuality in MarriageBy Cait Beiler
"Because sex isn't properly introduced to us as a gift from God, an act of worship, and a holy binding act that should be celebrated in the right context, we know sex as something as scandalous and devious and guilt-carrying to desire." - Moh Iso
Yup, that's right you read the title correctly. This blog post and podcast is all about sex. If you are someone who instantly felt negative feelings surrounding this topic, this blog post and podcast are precisely for you. We currently live in a constant sexually stimulated culture. The problem is as a...2019-01-1633 minWellsprings Solutions Counseling and Wellness ServicesCoping with The Holiday Blues – Part TwoIn the last months, I have been impressed with God’s sunset shows. I am not sure if it was that I was driving that direction at the time of the sunset or if it was because we had such a deary summer with lots of rain and clouds that I was aware of the sunsets, but none the less, I was mindful of the beauty. The artist in me wanted to chase the photography shot, but with each turn to try and capture the beauty, I found myself losing the vision as the sun was setting. I was chas...2018-11-2923 minWhole Self PodcastCoping with The Holiday Blues – Part TwoIn the last months, I have been impressed with God’s sunset shows. I am not sure if it was that I was driving that direction at the time of the sunset or if it was because we had such a deary summer with lots of rain and clouds that I was aware of the sunsets, but none the less, I was mindful of the beauty. The artist in me wanted to chase the photography shot, but with each turn to try and capture the beauty, I found myself losing the vision as the sun was setting. I was chasing suns...2018-11-2923 minWellsprings Solutions Counseling and Wellness ServicesCoping with Holiday Blues- Part OneThe holiday blues are authentic for many people. When people sing the phrase, “ it’s the most wonderful time of the year,” for many people the words could be changed to “it’s the most triggering time of year,” or “it’s the most depressing time of the year.” In climates where the weather becomes cold, and the sky is more overcast, depression symptoms increase because of the lack of sunlight and less time outdoors. November is typically the month I begin to see more cases of Seasonal Affective Disorder (S.A.D.); which is depression symptoms tied to less sunlight expos...2018-11-1427 minWhole Self PodcastCoping with Holiday Blues- Part OneThe holiday blues are authentic for many people. When people sing the phrase, “ it’s the most wonderful time of the year,” for many people the words could be changed to “it’s the most triggering time of year,” or “it’s the most depressing time of the year." In climates where the weather becomes cold, and the sky is more overcast, depression symptoms increase because of the lack of sunlight and less time outdoors. November is typically the month I begin to see more cases of Seasonal Affective Disorder (S.A.D.); which is depression symptoms tied to less sunlight exposure...2018-11-1427 minWellsprings Solutions Counseling and Wellness ServicesThe Seven Cardinal Sins of Manipulative ParentingHow do you feel after someone has manipulated, guilted or shamed you into doing something for them? You do not feel good about yourself. You feel shameful and have poor self-esteem after the matter. To compound matters, how do you feel when you have no choice in a matter, and you are not allowed to share your feelings or say no? You probably feel powerless and violated in addition to feeling guilty, shameful, condemned, and perhaps lacking trust in the other person. Unfortunately, parents in their own feelings of powerlessness sometimes resort to manipulative techniques to get their children to...2018-10-3027 minWhole Self PodcastThe Seven Cardinal Sins of Manipulative ParentingHow do you feel after someone has manipulated, guilted or shamed you into doing something for them? You do not feel good about yourself. You feel shameful and have poor self-esteem after the matter. To compound matters, how do you feel when you have no choice in a matter, and you are not allowed to share your feelings or say no? You probably feel powerless and violated in addition to feeling guilty, shameful, condemned, and perhaps lacking trust in the other person. Unfortunately, parents in their own feelings of powerlessness sometimes resort to manipulative techniques to get their children to com...2018-10-3027 minWellsprings Solutions Counseling and Wellness ServicesCharacteristics of Successful Parentshttp://mockup2.beachysolutions.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/10/Emotional-and-Spiritual-Wellbeing-10-Characteristics-of-Successful-Parenting.mp3
Characteristics of Successful Parents
Parenting is the toughest job out there. It triggers more emotional reactions than we could ever imagine before walking out the journey of parenting. Each phase of the child’s development triggers different responses from us, but the underlying theme is powerlessness. Am I doing this right? Am I messing up my child with my dysfunction? How can I parent well in the midst of a busy schedule? All these questions are just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to parent...2018-10-2335 minWhole Self PodcastCharacteristics of Successful Parentshttp://mockup2.beachysolutions.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/10/Emotional-and-Spiritual-Wellbeing-10-Characteristics-of-Successful-Parenting.mp3
Characteristics of Successful Parents
Parenting is the toughest job out there. It triggers more emotional reactions than we could ever imagine before walking out the journey of parenting. Each phase of the child’s development triggers different responses from us, but the underlying theme is powerlessness. Am I doing this right? Am I messing up my child with my dysfunction? How can I parent well in the midst of a busy schedule? All these questions are just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to parenting while feeling powerless. In the fi...2018-10-2335 minWhole Self PodcastA Dozen Ways You Can Help a Person Who is StrugglingFrom the dawn of time, we have documented stories from the Bible in which people did not know how to help others who were grieving and in emotional and physical pain. There are so many reasons that people are not skilled in helping those in distress. Those reasons can range from their own childhood trauma, lack of seeing it modeled and a plethora of other reasons. However, we are called to be a people who comfort those who mourn and many times our western culture does not know how to do that when pain lasts for longer than a couple of...2018-10-1130 minWellsprings Solutions Counseling and Wellness ServicesA Dozen Ways You Can Help a Person Who is StrugglingFrom the dawn of time, we have documented stories from the Bible in which people did not know how to help others who were grieving and in emotional and physical pain. There are so many reasons that people are not skilled in helping those in distress. Those reasons can range from their own childhood trauma, lack of seeing it modeled and a plethora of other reasons. However, we are called to be a people who comfort those who mourn and many times our western culture does not know how to do that when pain lasts for longer than a co...2018-10-1130 minWellsprings Solutions Counseling and Wellness ServicesEmotionally Healthy Dating RelationshipsI had a funny dream the other night. In the dream, I was at a hair salon getting a service done to my hair and the price quoted to me […]2018-09-2041 minWellsprings Solutions Counseling and Wellness ServicesManipulation in RelationshipsManipulation in relationships is pervasive in all relationships in life. Be it our relationships with our significant other, our child or with a friend, most people resort to some form of manipulation in the course of their life to get what they want without having to be vulnerable and state exact needs. We fear vulnerability because of the fear of rejection and abandonment; denial of our needs feels much more hurtful than that of getting our needs met through manipulation. When one person wants another person to do something, our human nature can readily resort to some type of ma...2018-08-1333 minWellsprings Solutions Counseling and Wellness ServicesMental Health and The ChurchThere is a different kind of math that we as therapists use when we meet people. I refer to it as therapy math. It is different because we are assessing people based on their family mental health history, traumas, life experiences, childhood communication patterns, and a number of other assessment tools. These different factors help create a detailed picture of the person sitting across from us in the therapy room. Rarely is there a simple reason that explains why the person makes the choices they do. Most of the time, the emotional math equation that defines the person is...2018-07-1025 minWellsprings Solutions Counseling and Wellness ServicesSummer: When the Kids are Home and Moms Go Crazy!School summer vacation has an immense undercurrent to it these days. Below the surface of the joy that the children feel about summer vacation from school, there exists a hint of angst when parents think about children being home in summer. It is rare though when a parent openly shares their negative feelings of shame and guilt associated with children being home. There is less structure, less mom time, and less money available because food, entertainment, camp, and vacation expenses go up. Moms, in particular, feel more guilt and shame over not being able to be the fantastic mom po...2018-05-2941 min