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Our Modern Emotional Lives113. The Wake Up Call to EvolveI’ve been sitting with the intensity of what’s happening in the world right now, and it’s clear to me that the disruption we’re witnessing is an invitation. An invitation to evolve and grow as a species. We need to finally start leading from wisdom rather than fear. In this episode, I take a wide-angle view of the chaos and ask what role each of us is meant to play. I explore how we’ve overvalued masculine energy and underappreciated the feminine. I emphasize how rebalancing these forces in our own lives is the key to healing ou...2025-07-1826 minOur Modern Emotional Lives112. The Invisible Pressure Carried by Midlife WomenHave you ever felt like you’re doing all the right things like keeping it together, staying productive, being the “good girl” and yet underneath it all, you're carrying a quiet heaviness you can’t quite name? In this episode, we bring that invisible pressure into the light. I walk you through the four most common emotional loads I see in the smart, capable midlife women I coach, and share how these internalized stories are not facts, they're thoughts we can learn to question. Together, we’ll look at what it means to truly turn down the pressure by shifting h...2025-06-1328 minOur Modern Emotional Lives111. Top 5 Benefits of Learning Thought WorkHave you ever felt irritated by someone’s behavior but told yourself to just get over it because you knew your thoughts were creating your feelings? In this episode, we look at why that kind of self-coaching can backfire and how embracing your full emotional experience is actually a path to deeper empowerment. I share a real story from a coaching session that highlights the difference between avoiding negative emotions and using them as a growth tool. Together, we’ll explore why it’s not only okay to feel things like irritation or anger, but why those feelings are often...2025-05-3019 minOur Modern Emotional Lives109. Part 2: Upgrade to a Modern Mind for a New WorldHave you ever felt a quiet nudge—an inner voice urging you toward something that didn’t quite make sense on paper, but felt deeply right? In this episode, I’m sharing what it means to trust that voice, even when the world around you says otherwise. We’ll explore how letting go of old conditioning, shifting from fear to trust, and tuning out the noise of collective opinions can help you reconnect with your inner wisdom. You’ll learn how to ride the wave of rapid change with more ease, why silence and stillness are powerful tools for clarity, a...2025-04-0434 minOur Modern Emotional Lives108. Upgrade to a Modern Mind For a New World; Part 1Have you ever had a moment that completely shifted how you see the world? In this episode, I’m sharing a story from college that quietly but powerfully shaped the work I do today. We’ll explore how learning to question what we’ve always believed can open up new ways of thinking, why developing a more flexible and conscious mind is essential in today’s world, and how we can move away from fear-based decision-making. You’ll learn why your thoughts aren’t always facts, how to handle negative emotions with more confidence, and why living authentically is more than ju...2025-03-2823 minOur Modern Emotional Lives107. Navigating Turbulent TimesHow do we stay grounded and resilient in a world that feels increasingly chaotic? In this episode, we’re exploring the balance between fear and spaciousness—how our minds react to uncertainty, why fear can become overwhelming, and how to shift towards a more open and centered way of being. We’ll talk about recognizing when information is helpful versus when it becomes a source of stress, learning to navigate emotional ups and downs without suppression, and finding ways to contribute meaningfully without losing ourselves in overwhelm. Whether you’re feeling the weight of current events, struggling to regain a sense...2025-03-0721 minOur Modern Emotional Lives106. Black & White ThinkingHow do we get out of our rigid thinking patterns and open ourselves up to a more subtle, flexible way of seeing the world? In this episode we’re looking at black-and-white thinking—how it influences our decisions, fuels anxiety and limits our growth. We’ll get into why our brains seek certainty, how society conditions us to think in binaries and the ways this mindset keeps us stuck. Most importantly we’ll uncover practical ways to shift towards an open, empowered way of thinking that allows complexity, self-trust and ease and confidence in life. Whether you’re navigating personal c...2025-02-1427 minOur Modern Emotional Lives105. Midlife Crisis? Follow These First StepsHave you ever felt unmoored, uncertain, or even stuck during a big life transition? I know I have. Midlife often brings questions about purpose, identity, and what comes next, leaving many of us feeling lost. But what if this isn’t a crisis at all? What if it’s an opportunity to recalibrate and rediscover ourselves? In this episode, I’m sharing insights and tools to help you transform midlife uncertainty into empowerment. We’ll talk about how self-compassion, processing emotions, and reframing our thoughts can open the door to clarity and intention. If you’re ready to embrace this trans...2025-01-2422 minOur Modern Emotional Lives104. How to Set a Resolution That Actually WorksAs we begin the new year, many of us are considering the changes we want to make in our lives. But how can we develop goals that will stick and also reflect who we truly are? In this episode, I'll share some tips on how to make meaningful resolutions by tying them to our values. We'll look at why standard goal-setting often falls short, and how adopting self-compassion, inquiry, and a better understanding of our emotions can lead to long-term improvement. Isn’t it time to find clarity about what you really want and set resolutions that actually work? If...2024-12-1316 minOur Modern Emotional Lives103. Meet My Client: Embracing Her Leadership Style in MidlifeHow do we step into our power and redefine leadership in a way that feels authentic to who we are? In this episode, I’m joined by Amanda Jane, a senior talent acquisition manager who shares her inspiring journey of embracing her unique leadership style, overcoming self-doubt, and finding a new sense of empowerment in her mid-60s. Together, we’ll explore how childhood experiences and societal expectations shape our self-concept, and how we can reclaim our personal power by rewriting the stories we tell ourselves. We’ll dive into the importance of self-awareness, the challenges of overcoming limiting belief...2024-12-0653 minOur Modern Emotional Lives102. Why Live From the Inside Out?How do we reconnect with ourselves and each other in a world that constantly pulls us apart? In this episode, I’m diving into the stories we tell ourselves, how our brains naturally create the illusion of separation, and how we can shift that perception. We’ll explore the power of living authentically, embracing both the challenges and the beauty of being human, and learning to see beyond the surface of division. I’ll share practical ways to reframe your mindset, stay grounded in connection, and discover a sense of unity in your everyday life. It’s about finding balance—...2024-11-2220 minOur Modern Emotional Lives101. Post Election HelpIn a world full of noise and tension, how do we stay grounded and focused on what really matters? In this episode, I’m diving into the challenges we’re all feeling right now—from navigating big emotions to finding peace in a divided world. I’ll share practical tips for managing social media overwhelm, embracing creativity to recharge your mind, and staying connected to your values when everything feels uncertain. We’ll talk about the power of letting go of rigid thinking, respecting different perspectives, and focusing on what you can truly influence. If you’re looking for ways to feel...2024-11-1520 minOur Modern Emotional Lives100. Five Things I've Learned as a PodcasterAs we reflect on our paths to growth and fulfillment, we often focus on outcomes, comparing ourselves to others or striving for more achievements to feel successful. But what if the true journey lies in embracing the present process and redefining our own benchmarks of progress? In this episode, I’ll share the pivotal lessons learned over the past 100 episodes, like the importance of prioritizing the journey over results, practicing daily mental resilience, and recognizing that growth comes with new challenges at every stage. We'll discuss how to let go of rigid goals, foster genuine empathy, and navigate life wi...2024-11-0118 minOur Modern Emotional Lives99. How to Increase Emotional MaturityAs we journey through life seeking positive change, many of us focus on trying harder, gathering more information, or waiting for external circumstances to shift. But what if the key to transformation lies in understanding the deeper mechanics of change itself? In this episode, we'll explore the essential components of lasting change, particularly the role of emotional maturity and the power of conscious choice. I'll share practical insights about why simply wanting to change isn't enough, and how taking full responsibility for our emotions can transform our daily experience. Whether you're looking to reduce stress, improve relationships, or simply...2024-10-2522 minOur Modern Emotional Lives98. That Thing Someone Said That Still HurtsAs human beings, we're shaped by our experiences, but sometimes, the meaning we attach to those experiences can keep us stuck in cycles of insecurity and doubt. But what if the story we’re telling ourselves isn’t the full picture? In this episode, we'll explore how shifting our perspective—choosing new beliefs—can transform how we feel and show up in life. I share real-life examples, showing that while we can't change the past, we can absolutely change how we think about it today. By recalibrating our thoughts, we open the door to greater emotional freedom and power. If you’r...2024-09-2017 minOur Modern Emotional Lives97. How Is the Opposite True?We are living in an extraordinary time where we are pioneers in exploring the vast potential of our own minds. Experienced navigators know that a tiny change in direction can land them in a completely different place. The same goes for our ways of thinking. A tiny change in our thinking can create a ripple effect in our lives. If you would like to be at peace and have a little more control check out my Feel Better Masterclass. Today’s episode explores a way to expand our thinking. Our brains default to the story that they’re used to...2024-08-3022 minOur Modern Emotional Lives96. What Is It Like to Be One of My Students?I'm thrilled to introduce my special guest, Kristine Ashworth, a recent graduate of the Feel Better Masterclass. This transformative six-week program, designed specifically for smart midlife women, teaches behavior change using cutting-edge neuroscience research and cognitive behavioral science. Kristine, a retired teacher with 32 years of experience who now works part-time as a writing tutor, will share her journey through the masterclass. We'll explore how she applied the concepts to transform her approach to emotions, relationships, and personal growth. Whether you're dealing with perfectionism, people-pleasing tendencies, or simply wanting to feel more authentic and empowered, Kristine's story demonstrates how the...2024-08-1641 minOur Modern Emotional Lives95. Help With Aging ParentsCaring for aging loved ones can be incredibly challenging. That's why I've invited Mary Remmes here today. She is a life coach specializing in helping adults navigate the complexities of caring for aging family members. Her extensive background in nursing home administration makes her a trusted expert on this topic. Caring for aging parents is a demanding experience that many of us will face. Our family has first-hand experience, and I've seen countless clients grapple with similar challenges. Mary compassionately reminds us that one in five adults is involved in elder care. You're not alone. Caregiving can be emotionally...2024-08-0952 minOur Modern Emotional Lives94. Growing Up--Not Just for Kids!Most of you know that I teach a masterclass called "Feel Better," designed to help smart, midlife women adjust their thoughts and emotions. This episode, drawing from my masterclass, is all about the true purpose of our lives and achieving emotional maturity. We often think happiness is our ultimate goal, but the true purpose lies in growth. Through increased awareness, challenges, and discomfort we grow and increase our emotional maturity, which leads to increased well-being and life satisfaction. Today, I’ll share insights on life's purpose, overcoming challenges, and practical applications for continued self improvement. Sho...2024-07-2624 minOur Modern Emotional Lives93. Rewind: Lessons Learned From a Near Death ExperienceThis is a rebroadcast of Episode 47. During the pandemic when we were under lockdown, I took an incredibly powerful class from Anita Moorjani. Anita has an amazing story that really inspired me in several ways, so I am spending today’s episode sharing what I learned from her class, including but not limited to the idea that being spiritual is at our core, that a challenge can come with a blessing that we might not see until we are past the challenge, and the importance of loving oneself. We are here to always be learning and growing, so it is...2024-07-1224 minOur Modern Emotional Lives92. The Truth About Hard ThingsDo you ever find yourself thinking, "This is so hard," and feel overwhelmed by the challenges in front of you? It's a thought that might seem true but often goes unexamined. The real question is: What do we create when we think that thought? Do we like the outcomes it brings? By becoming aware of this thought and understanding that it’s an opinion, not an objective truth, we can start to see how it might not be serving us. Negative emotions, not the tasks themselves, often make things feel hard. In this episode, we’ll learn how to beco...2024-06-2819 minOur Modern Emotional Lives91. Accumulated ThoughtsDo you ever feel like there's something important you want to do, but you just can't make it happen? Do you get mad at yourself for not sticking with it or making a lasting change? In spite of our best efforts, it can feel impossible to change. A lot of this boils down to the thoughts we’ve accumulated over time. Actions don’t arise out of the blue; they are based on our thoughts, which lead to feelings, which lead to actions. In this episode, we’ll explore how to override those negative accumulated thoughts and create a state...2024-06-1428 minOur Modern Emotional Lives90. What You Can Do When You Are Stuck in Your HeadIf you're struggling with a problem or stuck thinking about a conflict or issue with another person, always start by asking yourself, "What am I thinking?" Your thoughts are what create feelings of worry or irritation. It's all coming from the thoughts you are thinking now. More analysis isn't always the answer. That's why, in this episode, I'm going to give you a few alternatives for when you are struggling and stuck in a state of irritation, annoyance, or worry. Show Highlights feelings of worry are created by our thoughts and what we're thinking2024-05-3116 minOur Modern Emotional Lives89. If It’s Not This Problem, It’s AnotherThis week I share a story from a client who has been making great progress with Thought Work and learning how to turn down the volume on worrying. Just as she thought she was making headway, she started the same pattern of worrying and fretting about a new thing. Sound familiar? This is exactly how the brain works. And understanding this is the difference between creating the lasting change you desire and quitting on yourself. Show Highlights the importance of understanding the lower mind shifting attention and redirecting focus positively ho...2024-05-1015 minOur Modern Emotional Lives88. Rewind: Claiming Your Own AuthorityTune in this week as we revisit episode 43 of the show, “Claiming Your Own Authority.” Sharing insights from my recent Feel Better master class, I rewind to episode 43 to delve into the profound importance of tuning into our inner world amidst societal pressures. Exploring the concept of "claiming your authority," I invite listeners to envision themselves as the authors of their own lives, emphasizing the power of aligning decisions with personal values and desires. From navigating career choices to managing daily schedules, I highlight the liberating shift that occurs when we prioritize self-awareness and intentional decision-making. Whether it’s you...2024-05-0327 minOur Modern Emotional Lives87. How Coaching Helped This Mom Overcome Her Prescription Drug AddictionJoin me for a truly inspirational episode this week as I sit down with Becky Garner, a life coach with a remarkable journey from addiction to empowerment. Becky shares her intimate story of overcoming addiction, revealing the deep struggles and pivotal moments along her path to recovery. From battling depression and opioid addiction to finding hope through coaching, her resilience shines through. Becky and I delve into the transformative power of coaching, exploring how it offered Becky the tools to navigate cravings, manage pain, and cultivate self-acceptance. Becky imparts wisdom on breaking free from self-judgment, finding purpose...2024-04-2649 minOur Modern Emotional Lives86. Creating Safety in Your Nervous SystemI delve this week into a crucial topic that often sparks confusion: the distinction between emotions and nervous system reactions, and why it's essential to discern between the two. I guide my clients through understanding how their thoughts create emotions and how these reactions are intertwined with their nervous system's responses, but here's the thing: you can't effectively address your thoughts if your nervous system is in overdrive, so listen as I explore techniques to calm the nervous system, from somatic practices to cognitive approaches, empowering you to take charge of your emotional state and harness the power of...2024-04-1928 minOur Modern Emotional Lives85. One Step Powerful Morning RoutineDo you ever feel like your day is hijacked before you even open your eyes? This week on the podcast, I am diving into the power of mornings, inspired by those oh-so-popular morning routines. Don't worry, though – I am not here to add 21 steps to your already busy day - just one simple, game-changing step to kickstart your morning and set the tone for your entire day. Join me as we explore the ancient wisdom of the Stoics, Marcus Aurelius, and the art of directing your attention. It's all about that first splash of consciousness, so please tu...2024-04-1212 minOur Modern Emotional Lives83. Four Gifts I Gave MyselfJoin me on a reflective journey this week as I explore the four transformative gifts I gave myself that shaped my entrepreneurial journey and personal life. From investing in self-directed learning to embracing authenticity and love, I'll share insights and practical tips for crafting a fulfilling path tailored to your desires. Discover the power of asking the right questions, trusting yourself, and prioritizing what truly matters. Let's embark on a quest to unlock our potential and design lives infused with purpose, joy, and abundance. Show Highlights Investing in Self: Prioritize learning w...2024-03-2931 minOur Modern Emotional Lives82. Creating Your FutureWe are diving this week into the whirlwind of life, from the excitement of my daughter's college acceptance journey to the intriguing tales my husband uncovers while writing his latest book about... wait for it... the tuba. Amidst it all, I find profound joy in my coaching practice, guiding others through life's twists and turns, so join me as we explore the power of envisioning our futures, challenging the status quo of our thoughts, and embracing the transformative potential within us. Plus, don't miss out on the upcoming “How to Feel Better” master class. Sh...2024-03-2228 minOur Modern Emotional Lives81. Moving Beyond Good vs. BadDiscover how perceptions shape reality and how questioning beliefs can transform our emotional landscape. Listen as I discuss the importance of not solely relying on external validation and instead focusing on examining your own beliefs for personal growth, understanding that everyone's opinions are just perspectives, not absolute truths. It's time to prioritize self-reflection and learning, recognizing our minds as our most valuable asset, and I invite fellow midlife women to join me in this journey through my upcoming master class available on my website. Show Highlights external feedback doesn't define you; i...2024-03-1527 minOur Modern Emotional Lives80. The Essential Life Skill of High Functioning AdultsJoin me today as I tackle a crucial life skill: disappointing people. As adults, we grapple with this, especially women conditioned to be nice and compliant. I get it; it's hard, but here's the key - disappointing others or ourselves is an inevitable choice. Listen in as I discuss how to navigate this discomfort, drawing from my own struggles. Trust me; it's worth the temporary unease for the long-term benefit of living authentically. Dive into this episode for actionable tips on embracing authenticity, and remember, the better you feel, the better life you'll have. I...2024-03-0829 minOur Modern Emotional Lives79. What Is So Special About Being “Present”?Join me this week as we dive deep into the concept of being “present.” We often hear about the importance of presence, especially in our most cherished moments, but what does it truly mean to be present, and why is it so powerful? I break down the dynamics of our brains, the right hemisphere capturing the essence of now, while the left brain constantly compares to the past and projects into the future. Our ability to be present is our true superpower, aligning us with the vitality of life itself. Listen as we explore how to starve the...2024-03-0116 minOur Modern Emotional Lives71. Tensions RisingIn this week’s discussion, I explore the power of conscious thinking in the face of a world filled with rising tensions and fear. As we navigate the five elements of life - circumstances, thoughts, feelings, actions, and results - I make a compelling case for maintaining our sense of well-being as a profound contribution to the world. Unraveling the interconnectedness of thoughts, feelings, and actions, I guide you through the transformative process of choosing your beliefs consciously. Drawing from personal beliefs that have shaped my own journey, I share insights on embracing life's messiness, finding calm am...2023-12-1523 minOur Modern Emotional Lives70. Family DynamicsJoin me this week as I delve into the complexities of family dynamics during the holiday season. Following the feedback I received around episode 64 in which I shared a coaching session about Thanksgiving anxieties, this episode explores another client's struggle with family dynamics. The client, happily married but grappling with her brother-in-law's behavior, seeks guidance on how to navigate her opinions without causing harm. We unravel the layers of judgment and shame, emphasizing the importance of embracing one's humanity before attempting to change. I hope that you will grab a seat and listen in as...2023-12-0817 minOur Modern Emotional Lives69. Cultivate SolitudeJoin me today as I reflect on the changing nature of downtime in our lives, from the simplicity of listening to vinyl in high school to the constant bombardment of information in today's digital age. I seek to rediscover solitude, not the lonely kind, but the intentional act of being alone with our thoughts. In a world where constant distraction becomes the norm, let's challenge ourselves to embrace moments of quiet, carve out time for true solitude, and reconnect with the present moment. It's a reminder we all need, myself included, to slow down, rest our minds, and listen...2023-11-1710 minOur Modern Emotional Lives68. Put Your Focus Back Where It BelongsI want to welcome you as I take a dive into the concept of female empowerment, addressing the common struggle women face in seeking a definitive "right answer." I explore the tendency to be entangled in others' lives, especially in situations involving our loved ones, and how this fixation on someone else's thoughts and feelings can lead to confusion and agitation. Through the lens of cognitive behavioral science, I explain the importance of understanding one's own model (comprising thoughts, emotions, and actions) and emphasize the power of focusing inward. I guide listeners in breaking free from the...2023-11-1017 minOur Modern Emotional Lives67. Sugar and Your Brain: A Conversation with Dr. Nicole Avena, Pioneer Researcher in Food AddictionJoin me this week as I sit down with Dr. Nicole Avena, an esteemed neuroscientist, as we delve into the fascinating world of sugar addiction. We explore Nicole's groundbreaking research at Princeton, where she uncovered the surprising parallels between sugar and drug addiction. From her early days battling imposter syndrome to her profound discoveries about sugar's impact on the brain's opioid system, Nicole shares her journey of unraveling the complexities of our modern sugar-centric society, and we discuss the importance of understanding the science behind sugar addiction, dispelling shame, and embracing a mindful approach to consuming sugar.2023-11-0358 minOur Modern Emotional Lives66. Rewind: Facts versus ThoughtsToday, I want to revisit a fundamental concept that can revolutionize how you perceive your existence: the idea that your thoughts are optional. This realization is profound; it marks a turning point where you begin to recognize that the meaning you assign to events is within your control. We so often confuse facts with thoughts, letting our interpretations dictate our emotions and behaviors, but understanding the distinction can free us from unnecessary suffering, so listen in as we explore the power of differentiating between facts and interpretations, giving you the tools to navigate life's challenges with clarity.2023-10-2728 minOur Modern Emotional Lives65. When Things Feel HardReflecting on my recent move to a new house, join me today as I explore the inherent stress and uncertainty that comes with change, drawing parallels between physical relocation and the emotional upheaval that occurs when unexpected circumstances force us to dismantle our existing realities. Together, we examine the power of deliberately directing our thoughts, embracing temporary discomfort, and trusting that even in the midst of chaos, clarity will eventually emerge. Show Highlights the transformative power of dismantling our lives amidst chaos and discomfort how to purposefully direct your thoughts, reducing u...2023-10-2019 minOur Modern Emotional Lives64. How to Believe Something NewIt is officially Autumn, and as we gear up for Thanksgiving, I have been thinking about something that might just change so much for you. When I mention Thanksgiving, you're probably thinking about those family gatherings that either warm your heart or make you cringe. We all have that one person, like my client's brother-in-law, who seems to ruin every occasion, but here's the revelation - it's not their actions but rather our thoughts about their actions that shape our experience. This is the very Thought Work that I teach my clients, the power to distinguish between...2023-10-1328 minOur Modern Emotional Lives63. DesiresListen in today as I dive deep into the essence of what it means to be human: having wants and desires. Desire is more than just a yearning; it's a fundamental force that shapes our lives, and I unravel the layers of our wants, exploring how they define us, push us to grow, and connect us to the universe's creative energy. I encourage you to challenge the notion that wanting is inherently negative, inviting you to embrace your desires as sacred whispers guiding you towards your true self. From the simple joys that bring a smile to your face...2023-10-0619 minOur Modern Emotional Lives62. Rethinking Inherited Beliefs: A Conversation with Rae Tsai, Life CoachTune in to this episode as I interview Rae Tsai, an individual whose life journey is both inspiring and deeply introspective. Rae shares her experiences of growing up in Taiwan, her early struggles and responsibilities within her family, and her determination to pursue education against the odds. She discusses her transition to the United States, her marriage, and the challenges she faced in adapting to a new culture and balancing family responsibilities. Rae also delves into her career as a life coach and the profound impact of Asian cultural values on relationships, emphasizing the importance of breaking free from inhe...2023-09-2954 minOur Modern Emotional Lives61. Easiest Way to Improve Your Emotional Life--Stop MirroringAs we journey through life, we often find ourselves mirroring the emotions of those around us, whether they are loved ones, colleagues, or even our children, but what if there was another way, a path to emotional maturity and true personal power? Tune in to this episode as we explore the concept of emotional mirroring and how it influences our relationships and decision-making. Join me as we delve into the practice of taking responsibility for our emotional experiences and learn to navigate life's challenges with intention. Discover how breaking free from the default setting of mirroring can...2023-09-2215 minOur Modern Emotional Lives60. What You Will Need to Feel to Have the Life You WantListen in today as I dive deep into the power of embracing our emotions, even the uncomfortable ones. Through a compelling client story, I explore how the fear of disappointment can hold us back and how societal norms have taught us to avoid negative emotions. I also share insights on why it's essential to make room for all our feelings, as they are a significant part of the human experience. By acknowledging and befriending our emotions, we can start living a more fulfilling life. Join me as we unravel the mysteries of our modern emotional lives and...2023-09-1522 minOur Modern Emotional Lives59. How to Improve Your Marriage Without Couples TherapyListen this week as I dive into the challenges of couples therapy and how it's often seen as the solution for dissatisfied relationships, but what if just getting to therapy seems impossible? What if you and your partner have different ways of dealing with conflict? I share insights on how to shift your perspective and approach, emphasizing the importance of focusing on yourself and your own growth, and I provide three key ideas to prepare your mindset and five actionable steps to change your relationship experience from within. Whether you're in a relationship that needs...2023-09-0822 minOur Modern Emotional Lives58. Let’s Talk About FOMOIn this episode, I am diving deep into the world of FOMO, and it's not just about those sneaky social media comparisons. We're getting into the nitty-gritty of why some of us feel that gnawing FOMO more intensely than others, and you're not alone if it feels a tad overwhelming. Join me as we uncover the root causes of this sensation and explore five empowering ways to flip the script. Let's tame that FOMO beast together and embrace the contentment we deserve. Show Highlights FOMO explained: seeking pleasure and human connection while avoiding discomfort2023-09-0125 minOur Modern Emotional Lives57. Growing thru Grief: A Conversation with Krista St.-Germain, Host of The Widowed Mom PodcastOn today’s episode, I sit down with Krista St.-Germain, creator of The Widowed Mom Podcast. Krista shares her story of resilience after the tragic loss of her husband. From navigating the complexities of grief to embracing post-traumatic growth, Krista's experiences offer invaluable insights for anyone dealing with loss. We dive into the myths around grief, emotional processing, and how becoming a life coach has been a guiding light in Krista's journey. We also explore the power of self-compassion, debunk misconceptions, and uncover the deep connections between emotions, thoughts, and healing. Show Highlights...2023-08-251h 03Our Modern Emotional Lives56. How to Enjoy Your Life MoreMy clients have made the courageous decision to change. In this episode, I share one client’s experience of showing up more authentically at work, inspired by the changes she has made in her own self-concept. I have been so inspired by my clients’ transformations and wanted to use this episode to shed light on the power of commitment, consistency, and self-discovery. Through their journeys, you'll discover the simple path to embracing change and enjoying life more fully. Stay tuned for an episode that's all about celebrating growth, authenticity, and the beautiful evolution that comes with it. 2023-08-1820 minOur Modern Emotional Lives55. Your Kids: Are You Helping or Interfering?I hope that you will join me today as I delve deep into the intricate world of parenting, a world where love, concern, and an impulse to help often intertwine. As the founder of my coaching platform, I've had the personal privilege of guiding professional midlife women through the labyrinth of their emotions, and it's a recurring theme that keeps surfacing – the delicate balance between offering assistance and interfering in their children's lives. I tackle the issue of well-meaning over-involvement, or what some may call being a "fixer." As our young adults grow and evolve, so must ou...2023-08-1128 minOur Modern Emotional Lives54. The Art of Getting StartedI want to share with you in this episode about how to really make lasting change in your life and in your work. I know we often think we need to get that perfect plan and perfect motivation first, but the truth is that action is what makes things happen. Taking that first step, even if it's a baby step, gets the ball rolling and helps momentum and clarity build. Once we begin to act on our goals, the universe seems to cooperate and help us stay the course. If there's something in your life that you...2023-08-0423 minOur Modern Emotional Lives53. Four Things to Unlearn From Your School DaysJoin me in this episode as I discuss the various things that we were trained from a young age to believe that we might still believe today even though they don't serve us. Maybe you have thoughts like, "I'm not good at math" or "Knowing the answer is what makes you smart." However, these are just ideas that became 'truths' because we've thought about them so much. If we can try on new thoughts, we expand what we're capable of. After all, life rewards curiosity, not having all the answers, and as we question the programming of o...2023-07-2826 minOur Modern Emotional Lives52. Lessons from a Year of PodcastingI hope that you will join me for this momentous occasion - the podcast turning a year old. Listen as I reflect on a year of podcasting, reminiscing on some of the challenges that I initially faced as a new podcaster and how this podcast has grown over the last year. The podcast initially began as a free, accessible source of advice for clients, but it has truly morphed into so much more. The feedback that I’ve gotten has shown me that this podcast has become a cherished part of listeners’ routines, and it has also taug...2023-07-2120 minOur Modern Emotional Lives51. Our Desire to ControlMany clients come to me because they want to feel more in control. They don’t want to feel like a passenger in the car of life but rather the driver. However, the desire for control can also sometimes have adverse effects, such as wanting control through food, alcohol abuse, and so forth. Control is not always needed. We sometimes tell stories about ourselves and frame them as if they are conflicts when control isn’t really what is needed because there ultimately is no battle. Fear creates conflict which is why I encourage you to be mind...2023-07-1415 minOur Modern Emotional Lives50. The Power of Conscious DecisionsWe have so many dilemmas that come up about wanting to improve something about our lives such as our relationships, our financial situation, the quality of our health, and so forth. I am here to tell you that the answer to all of these is in the decisions that you make. That’s why it is so important to be making decisions regularly, especially conscious decisions. We really want to get to the point at which we recognize that we are creating our lives rather than believing that life is happening to us. Listen in as...2023-07-0719 minOur Modern Emotional Lives49. Maintaining Good Brain Health: A Conversation with Dr. Melissa Sundermann You may recall how I talked on the podcast back in January about my trip to a spa resort and what I learned on that trip. Well, on that trip, I met Dr. Melissa Sundermann, and I am so happy to have the opportunity to talk to her on this podcast. Melissa is a double-board certified physician in internal medicine and lifestyle medicine and has been practicing for over two decades, always adding new elements to her methods over the years. I hope that you listen in as she shares her journey and discusses lifestyle medicine and...2023-06-3057 minOur Modern Emotional Lives48. Create Your Belief PlanWe sometimes feel stuck, like we have goals that we feel we cannot reach, and sometimes, we really need to take a step back and ask ourselves what our beliefs are about our ability to make it happen. Everything stems from what we believe, so if we don’t believe in ourselves, we aren’t going to see the results that we want, and it’s just that - ourselves - in which we need to believe. If you are feeling overwhelmed, train your brain to create belief plans first before making action plans, and this is such a powerf...2023-06-2323 minOur Modern Emotional Lives47. What I Learned About Life from Anita Moorjani's Near DeathDuring the pandemic when we were under lockdown, I took an incredibly powerful class from Anita Moorjani. Anita has an amazing story that really inspired me in several ways, so I am spending today’s episode sharing what I learned from her class, including but not limited to the idea that being spiritual is at our core, that a challenge can come with a blessing that we might not see until we are past the challenge, and the importance of loving oneself. We are here to always be learning and growing, so it is my hope that sharing a fe...2023-06-1625 minOur Modern Emotional Lives46. Improving Your Relationship with MoneyWhat if money were a person with whom you were in a relationship? If you thought about that person the way that we think about money, it would probably be a very unhealthy relationship. Today we explore your relationship with money and how to improve it. What you appreciate appreciates, so aligning yourself with appreciative thoughts about this needed resource is an important first step in improving your relationship with money. Show Highlights how some people think money = worth how to define your relationship with money why you should i...2023-06-0919 minOur Modern Emotional Lives45. Why It’s Hard to Hate Something AND Change ItI have come to realize on my own journey that you can’t ever change something permanently when you hate it. It seems like a contradiction. After all, if you didn’t hate what you want to change, then you wouldn’t want to change it, right? This can be a very tough concept to get your head around, but bear with me today as I take a shot at explaining it to you. Remember, situations themselves do not create negative emotions. Situations are neutral. It’s what we think about situations that create negative emotions. When we look...2023-06-0218 minOur Modern Emotional Lives44. What We Think We KnowAs human beings, we have a very limited perspective of the world around us. It’s something to which we don’t usually give much thought, but science even tells us that the human brain and the human eyes are only able to perceive a negligible percentage of the electromagnetic light spectrum. We make meaning based on what our limited perspectives are capable of understanding, and this can be so freeing. We tell ourselves stories about ourselves such as I’m broken, I’m no good at relationships, my body isn’t good enough, but there is no upside t...2023-05-2628 minOur Modern Emotional Lives43. Claiming Your Own AuthorityWhen it comes to teaching Thought Work, I am ultimately teaching how to take charge of your own authority. Many of us, especially women, will believe what someone else says or thinks about us over our own opinions, and some of us do this without even realizing. We don’t realize that we aren’t claiming our own authority. Listen in as I tackle the idea of why it’s so important that we claim our own authority and how to get started doing that. It’s so important to know and pay attention to what you want and...2023-05-1223 minOur Modern Emotional Lives42. ForgivenessLiving with resentment, even if it’s in the basement of your mind rather than the living room, can be very draining to our batteries and can make for a very difficult way to live. I should know, because one of the things that drew me to Thought Work was how it helped me look at my resentment in a new way. Our brains are, by nature, repetitive, which is one of the reasons why it can be so easy to get stuck on a negative feeling such as resentment. Remember, though, that feelings are caused by tho...2023-05-0523 minOur Modern Emotional Lives41. Being GoodMost of us are taught from a young age to be good, and some of us have come to think of this as a bad thing, that rules stifle creativity and individuality. Rules can be a good thing, but because we learn them as children, we sometimes shape our identities around them and think that we can never be good enough. As children, we are often instructed to do (or stop doing) something that goes against what we really want, and as autonomous adults, the challenge is reprogramming ourselves and finding harmony with what we truly want. 2023-04-2821 minOur Modern Emotional Lives40. Finally Free: A Conversation with Kristen Gilliland, Ph.D., Warren Center for Neuroscience Drug DiscoveryI am so thrilled to welcome Kristen Gilliland to today’s podcast. Kristen is an organic chemist by training and is currently working at the Warren Center for Neuroscience Drug Discovery here in Nashville, currently acting as Director of Outreach and Advocacy. In that role, she teaches neuroplasticity to teenagers. She is also a musician and a mom. Tune in to hear her talk about how her sons profoundly influenced her professional life. She also touches upon how her band was formed, how she came to be interested in organic chemistry and what neuroplasticity is to Kristen, wh...2023-04-211h 02Our Modern Emotional Lives39. Are You Taking Too Much Responsibility?Many of my clients like to be in control and take on a lot of responsibility, and when I tell them that they are responsible for their thoughts, they tend to take on even more responsibility. That’s why I want to take this episode to discuss responsibility - what you are responsible for and what you’re not. There are three common examples of too much responsibility being taken on, including but not limited to taking on other people’s feelings and problems and believing that you don’t have a good enough reason to not take som...2023-04-1427 minOur Modern Emotional Lives38. For the Teenagers: Six Ideas to Empower YouHere in Nashville, there have been peaceful protests lately trying to push legislators to place a ban on assault rifles, and most of the people protesting were teenagers. This really got me thinking about positive things that I would like to share with today’s youth, and I narrowed that down to six things, hence today’s episode. Included in the six ideas I have to offer youth to help empower them are (1) what creates abundance and how abundance is a feeling, (2) how and why negative emotions are normal and not to be feared, (3) what it truly mean...2023-04-0722 minOur Modern Emotional Lives37. All That Moves Us, A Conversation with Pediatric Brain Surgeon Dr. Jay WellonsDr. Jay Wellons is the author of the beautiful memoir All That Moves Us: A Pediatric Neurosurgeon, His Young Patients, and Their Stories of Grace and Resilience. He is the chief of pediatric neurosurgery at Vanderbilt Children’s Hospital. This episode was recorded just days before the tragic shooting at The Covenant School in Nashville. Dr. Wellons’ voice is relied upon by many in the medical community here in Nashville for so many issues that affect the health of our children. Guns have become the number one cause of death in children and teens in the US. I hop...2023-03-3157 minOur Modern Emotional Lives36. My Thoughts on This Work I LoveI did my first webinar three years ago, so I went back and revisited that webinar only to realize that it was much better than I feared. I was undoubtedly nervous and am much more confident now, but I was much better prepared for it than I had realized. That also got me reflecting back on my work over the last three years and my belief in the importance of what I teach. Learning about how your brain works is so important to understanding ourselves and how we can grow and develop. I have spoken...2023-03-2419 minOur Modern Emotional Lives35. Aging WellMany of my clients are women in midlife, and most of them are working and/or taking care of children. Many of them are also dealing with issues involving aging parents, and that often leads to them worrying about their own aging. Aging has three dimensions to it: physical, cognitive, and emotional. Listen in as I discuss how that last one, emotional, is the only one that doesn’t actually have a direct link to aging. We can’t control physical and cognitive aging, but your emotional health is something that we can control. There is a...2023-03-1718 minOur Modern Emotional Lives34. Self-SabotageWhat is self-sabotage, and why does it feel so terrible? Self-sabotaging is when we create unnecessary problems for ourselves that get in the way of our goals, and part of the reason that it feels awful is that we blame ourselves for it; we think that we are the problem. Remember that our primitive brain loves familiarity and repetition. It serves up familiar thought patterns in an effort to keep you the same, and that sometimes makes it feel like we are sabotaging our own interests when in reality, it is our brain trying to protect us f...2023-03-1021 minOur Modern Emotional Lives33. Clean PainI have talked a lot on the podcast about how to reduce unnecessary suffering, but if there is unnecessary suffering, then that begs the question of whether or not there is necessary suffering. The short answer is yes, and it’s something that some people call clean pain. Think of the loved ones you’ve lost, the homes that you loved that you had to leave behind, or the beloved jobs that you had to leave. These types of losses are a part of life, and they can be beautiful because they’re reflective of what we love a...2023-03-0319 minOur Modern Emotional Lives32. What Do Love and Compassion Have to Do with Focus?Listen in today as I share a story about a client who felt conflicted between her compassion for her mother who was going through a tough time and her responsibilities toward her job, a story that serves as a perfect example of the Thought Work that I teach and talk about on this podcast. We often create a lot of unnecessary suffering for ourselves when we don’t bring the Thought Work back to ourselves and are not giving ourselves enough compassion. Your primary responsibility in life is to yourself. You are in charge of you, and it...2023-02-2422 minOur Modern Emotional Lives31. How Are You Using Your Personal Power?If I were to ask you how you use your personal power, what would you say? Do you know what your personal power is? Your thoughts are energy, and energy animates your body. What you choose to think and believe acts as your own personal steering wheel, and every single one of us underutilizes this power. On this episode, I share three main ways that we tend to misuse our personal power, including (1) not taking the time to stop and think about what we are thinking, (2) trying to be positive all the time, and (3) not deliberately setting...2023-02-1715 minOur Modern Emotional Lives30. Are You Doing Enough for Your Kids?I have a client who recently expressed worry that she isn’t doing enough for her kids, an example of how we set ourselves up to be spinning and anxious. How do you know when you have or haven’t done enough? The real fear around whether or not you’re doing enough for kids is the fear that if something goes wrong in the future, you will hold yourself accountable for it. However, it’s important to remember that kids are humans and are going to live human lives that we can’t control. At the end of the...2023-02-1013 minOur Modern Emotional Lives29. What I Learned About Anxiety on my Spa TripI recently took a trip to Canyon Ranch in The Berkshires, the ever glorious destination health spa. I went by myself for my birthday, and listen in today as I talk about how that went for me and how I have changed so much since the last time that I went. It was such a great experience, but I do want to talk about what I believe to be a missing component from what was offered. We need to learn not just how to reduce stress and resist it but also how to accept it as part...2023-02-0326 minOur Modern Emotional Lives28. Interview with Award-winning Journalist Sam Quinones, My HusbandI have a very special guest today. Sam Quinones is a New York Times bestselling author and much admired journalist, and he also happens to be my husband. Sam has achieved something many of us seek - a deeply fulfilling career. In this episode, we focus on his path to becoming a journalist including some of his early influences and pivotal moments. We also talk about the craft of writing and what is required, personally and professionally, to go after what you truly love. Show Highlights Sam’s credentials where Sam grew up why...2023-01-271h 04Our Modern Emotional Lives27. Common Misconceptions About ChangeWe all have similar blindspots when it comes to our belief in our ability to change. In this episode I share common misconceptions about what it is really like to change. Remember that change doesn’t mean that we will never feel negative emotions again, nor should it. Negative emotions are part of our design, and they are necessary and helpful. Show Highlights what makes not knowing so powerful how doubt does not necessarily mean that it’s the wrong decision why “doing it right” doesn’t mean that nothing bothers us negative emotions are...2023-01-2013 minOur Modern Emotional Lives26. Make Space for What You Really WantWe don’t always realize it, but we hold onto things - both material and immaterial - mostly out of fear that there won’t be something to replace them. However, not all of those things serve us, and we can’t allow new things to enter our lives without making space for them. Clearing space physically can help clear space mentally, so I am giving you a few resources on how to organize your home and how to get started, encouraging you to ask yourself what you want. Everything having a place also helps prevent...2023-01-1323 minOur Modern Emotional Lives25. She Hates Her JobI want to spend the first episode of 2023 sharing an individual story from over the holiday. Sharing such stories can help people see elements of themselves in them and give people hope which is what I am hoping will happen for those of you who need it. So many people get caught up in the feeling of being trapped in a situation and not knowing how to cope with a challenging emotion. They feel helpless and powerless, feeling like there is no choice, but I want to remind you that there is a choice and a way...2023-01-0619 minOur Modern Emotional Lives24. Interview with Psychiatrist, Dr. Brian WuOn today’s episode I speak with Dr. Brian Wu, a psychiatrist who has a special interest in helping people get unstuck from symptoms that are blocking their full alignment. He has been a supporter of my work and has some refreshing ideas about what is needed in the mental health space. Show Highlights Dr. Wu’s academic background and current role what a psychiatrist is and what they do the important role of coaching thoughts on the current mental health crisis Dr. Wu’s views on diagnoses advice from Dr. Wu on how to improve...2022-12-3029 minOur Modern Emotional Lives23. Powerful End of Year Mini-MeditationWith this podcast episode being published close to the very end of 2022, I want to encourage you to think about the year ahead and how you can decide to make 2023 a year in which you step into a more peaceful version of yourself. What does it look like to be more peaceful? How do we actually go about achieving that? Listen as I guide you through a mini-meditation that will help you achieve it. Remember that as long as you’re moving toward better, even if it’s just baby steps, you’re doing it right. It’s okay i...2022-12-2315 minOur Modern Emotional Lives22. Q&A 3 Coaching QuestionsListen in today as I share some questions that were submitted for coaching to a group that I am part of, including a question from a person who doesn’t like living alone, how to improve on a difficult relationship with a family member, and how to make new thoughts stick when you’re using Thought Work. Our thoughts about the facts of our lives lead to feelings, but those thoughts are not facts. Learning the information that I have been sharing on this podcast can be helpful, but the real magic happens when you are able to a...2022-12-1620 minOur Modern Emotional Lives21. When You’re Stuck in I Don’t KnowDo you know much about the primitive brain (also known as the lizard brain)? I have found that many of my clients don’t fully understand how the primitive brain not only serves them in many ways but also holds them back. It can be so helpful to understand this. One of the many ways that the primitive brain does its job is by keeping you confused via generating the thought I don’t know, but this thought is an optional thought. Listen in as I talk you through what happens if you let the primitive brain take...2022-12-0925 minOur Modern Emotional Lives20. Learn This Modern Emotional Super PowerWe have pain, physical or emotional, and then we have thoughts about our pain. Our thoughts are like volume knobs that allow us to turn up the volume on our pain or turn down the volume. When we feel the pain of a negative emotion, we can respond in three different ways: (1) avoid it, (2) resist it, or (3) allow it. Our instinct is often to either avoid it or resist it, but so much unnecessary suffering can be avoided if we actually allow it. I refer to this skill as a modern super power, and it’s...2022-12-0224 minOur Modern Emotional Lives19. What is the Opposite of People Pleasing?Some of us consider ourselves people pleasers by nature, wanting to please people at our own expense by saying yes when what we really want to say is no. Why do we do this? It’s human nature to want to be liked and accepted. However, when we identify something as wrong, our frequent go-to is to do the polar opposite, but that isn’t always the answer, nor does it always work. The concept of pleasing others is sometimes a good thing. Wanting to make others happy can be a beautiful trait, and I’m not here t...2022-11-1818 minOur Modern Emotional Lives18. Facts versus ThoughtsThere are facts of life that can be proven that no one can reasonably disagree with, but we often don’t talk about our lives strictly via facts. We don’t always get to choose these facts, but we do get to choose what we think, and our brain often confuses facts and thoughts. Our minds often assign meaning to facts in the form of thoughts, but these are just that - thoughts. Our thoughts don’t have to be positive all the time, and it’s okay to have negative thoughts, but it’s helpful to recognize...2022-11-1122 minOur Modern Emotional Lives17. Why You Are Afraid to Make the Wrong Decision and How to Change ItMany of my clients struggle with the intense fear of making the wrong decision. Why do so many of us struggle with this fear, and why is it so intense? Listen in as I walk you through all of this, including how your childhood is linked to this fear and why women tend to struggle with this intense fear more often than men do. Based on values instilled in us in childhood, we sometimes find ourselves feeling stuck between what is right and what is wrong, which is why we fear making the wrong decision. Stepping up...2022-11-0424 minOur Modern Emotional Lives16. 8 Principles of Excellent Emotional HealthHow can we know whether or not we have excellent emotional health? We often think that not feeling good is a symptom of being emotionally unhealthy, but listen in as I argue that that is a dangerous mindset and explain why. We need a more realistic view of emotional health so that we can more accurately measure it and improve it, so I share the eight principles of excellent emotional health. Understanding these eight principles and not being afraid to feel unpleasant emotions can really open us up to new possibilities. I also have exciting...2022-10-2817 minOur Modern Emotional Lives15. It’s Not Me I’m Worried AboutToday’s episode is dedicated to those of you who worry about others. One of the biggest challenges of being human is wanting to help others who are in pain, especially people who are the closest to our inner orbit. Listen in as I share four principles of transforming your worry about other people. I remind you of the Thought Work that I teach and what role it plays here. Remember that we can’t control what others think, but we can work to control our own thoughts. The actions that we take to help othe...2022-10-2117 minOur Modern Emotional Lives14. How to Solve for OverwhelmGetting overwhelmed and exhausted is something to which a lot of us can probably relate, and many of us also likely feel that it’s necessary, especially if we want to meet our goals and succeed. I am here to tell you, however, that overwhelm is something that needs to be solved, not tolerated. I teach Thought Work, and I share with you how to use it to solve for overwhelm. Listen as I share what overwhelm is, what causes it, and how you can begin to use it as a signal so that you don’t get...2022-10-1415 minOur Modern Emotional Lives13. 3 Steps to Worry Less About What Other People ThinkSo many of us seem to do things or not do things in response to the fear of what other people might think about us, and we’re working toward solving that problem today. Caring about what others think can be healthy, but it becomes a problem when it is obsessive and when it makes us vulnerable, and that is a problem worth solving. In order for us to solve this problem, we have to understand why it happens in the first place, and I walk you through some of the reasons why we care ab...2022-10-0712 minOur Modern Emotional Lives12. What You Believe About YouWho gets to decide what beauty is and who is beautiful and who isn’t? It is arbitrary, and women have been trained to validate themselves via external metrics. Culture tells us what to think about ourselves, causing us to compare ourselves to others, and we believe what we are told because of confirmation bias. Your body does not create your feelings. Your thoughts about your body create your feelings, and that is helpful to know because it is within your power to change what you think. Loving yourself regardless of whether or not your appearance matches wh...2022-09-3013 minOur Modern Emotional Lives11. The 3 Reasons You OvereatOne of the things that I do as a behavioral specialist is to help people understand why they do what they do, and one of those things is overeating. Statistics from nutritionists can be helpful, but they don’t work for everyone because of the conflict between math and the mind. Our thoughts are uniquely our own. They drive how we feel, and how we feel drives what we do. That’s exactly why what we think is much more important than data. Before anything else, we need to work on dropping shame, and we need to unde...2022-09-2318 minOur Modern Emotional Lives10. How You Let GoLetting things go can be easier said than done, but that doesn’t mean it’s impossible. Listen in as I share how to let go of parts of our pasts that might be causing us pain, starting with letting go of small things to practice getting rid of larger things. When we can’t let go of something unpleasant, that is a vibration or stuck energy. We are designed to dislike feeling negative emotions, so we try to avoid feeling them, but a lot of trouble would be avoided if we just let ourselves feel them and le...2022-09-1617 minOur Modern Emotional Lives9. How to Stop BufferingOne of several things that I teach is how to stop buffering. Buffering includes overeating, overdrinking, overshopping, overscrolling on social media, etc. - really anything that is done in excess that ultimately has a negative impact on us. Many of us buffer because we aren’t allowing ourselves to feel unpleasant emotions. Instead of feeling them, we avoid them by taking part in something that temporarily brings us pleasure. Our brains are engineered to avoid discomfort and seek pleasure, but in our modern lives, it’s important to keep in mind that unpleasant feelings will usually go away...2022-09-0916 minOur Modern Emotional Lives8. To Change Anything, You Need to Understand Confirmation BiasWe are talking about all things confirmation bias today, and while you might think that you already understand this topic, this podcast episode will likely help you see it in a different way. Confirmation bias is our brain's natural tendency to recall or interpret new information in a way that confirms our already existing beliefs. We tend to see it as a character flaw, but when we do that, we don't learn from it. The more we understand it, the better chance we have of using it to better ourselves. Beliefs are thoughts that we...2022-09-0218 minOur Modern Emotional Lives7. How to Feel Better, Part 3The last two episodes of Our Modern Emotional Lives have covered how to feel better, and I welcome you to part three. In the last episode, I covered the quantity of our thoughts about the past, and I am now moving into discussing the quality of those thoughts. We tell ourselves stories of our past and believe that our version is accurate since it’s our story, but there is still a lot of personal bias and interpretation, so with the thought-work modality that I teach, I encourage you to change the way you tell your own sto...2022-08-2618 minOur Modern Emotional Lives2. How to Stop WorryingWelcome back to Our Modern Emotional Lives where I, behavior change specialist and coach Sheila Tully, talk about mental and emotional health and how to rewire our brains so that we are happier and healthier. If you are someone who tends to do a lot of worrying, then this episode is for you because that is exactly what I am covering today – worrying and how to stop doing it. Believe it or not, worrying is not necessary. It masquerades as necessary, but it serves no purpose in our lives. There is, of course, a natural reason why we do...2022-07-2916 minOur Modern Emotional Lives1. Why You are Avoiding Doing the ThingMy name is Sheila Tully, and welcome to the very first episode of Our Modern Emotional Lives. This podcast will be looking at mental and emotional well-being from my perspective as a behavior change specialist and coach. I teach practical applications of the latest in neuroscience research and cognitive behavioral science to help people change how they think and feel. There has never been a better time to work toward rewiring your brain (which is known as neuroplasticity) and recalibrating your thoughts and feelings! We are currently living in a time in which the world feels more...2022-07-2918 min