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Divorce CaféWhat is Collaborative Law? with Selina-Jane TriggIf you have ever wished there were a better way of resolving relationship property issues than lawyers' letters and Court room battles this episode is for you. A structured, people-focussed approach to divorce, Collaborative Process redesigns divorce negotiations with no scary letters, no threats of litigation and no option to head off to Court (at least not with the same lawyers). If you thought you were already a collaborative lawyer, listen up because this US import may have something to teach you.Watch on Youtube https://youtu.be/bAtcXrT-FWEIf you love this podcast or ha...
2025-04-291h 02
Divorce CaféWhat is Family Dispute Resolution (FDR) with Gaye GreenwoodParenting after separation is tricky. So where to do you go for help when things aren't working? FDR is a subsidised mediation service that is designed to get parents resolving their own issues with the help of an experienced mediator.Gaye Greenwood is brilliant at helping people work through conflict, resolve issues and start working as a team on the most important job in the world.You have to go to FDR before you can go to Court. But that is a good thing, and, says Gaye, the result is much bet...
2024-09-1547 min
Divorce CaféBusiness Breakups: how to break up without breaking the businessWhat happens when you break up when you are also in business together? Can you keep running it together? What can go wrong? Does it ever go right? If you have been watching Ted Lasso, you will be familiar with the character Rebecca who in the divorce takes over her husband’s beloved football team - “the only thing he ever loved”- and sets about trying to destroy it. In the same way that custody battles can be devastating, a contest over an enterprise you have built from scratch feels very personal, can be bitter, and when not handl...
2024-05-0944 min
Divorce CaféWho keeps the family home and other burning questions.What happens to the family home when you separate? Who has to move out? Can it be sold out from under you? What if you live in a trust owned house or a rental? We discuss these and other burning questions that keep people up at night. Advice on practical ways to resolve these issues, amicably or through the Courts. And Shelley tells us what advice she would give herself if she could go back to the early days of her separation..."Chill Shelley, it will all be ok." Watch episode here Taina Henderson - Henderso...
2024-02-1243 min
Divorce CaféPutting the house in a trust (a cautionary tale) with Viv Crawshaw KC and barrister Sam WilsonWhen is it safe to put your house in a trust? That's a question that went all the way to the Supreme Court this year... and spoiler alert, the answer is that the only way to put the family home out of reach of your beloved is to be upfront about it (and contract out). What was the crux of the case? What have we learned about section 44? And what should lawyers be advising their clients? Find out what it's like to take a case to the Supreme Court, why you'd clone a hard drive, and what Taylor Swift has...
2023-11-1644 minDivorce CaféJudge Lex de Jong: an insider's guide to the Family CourtDoes it sound too judgey to say this interview was full of surprises? Kicked out of Morrinsville High School as a teenager, Judge de Jong had a winding path to law, but once he got there has made it his life's work to fight (and innovate) for better outcomes for the victims of family violence. He talks about: lawyers who irritate judges, about setting up the ground breaking, wrap-around Family Violence Court, and his top tips for lawyers and self represented litigants. Do judges ever get thank yous? What really annoys him about how Judges are represented in the...
2023-09-2354 min
Divorce CaféParenting Disputes Across International Borders: What is the Hague Convention?What happens when a couple separate while living overseas, and only one wants to return home? If you no longer agree on where to live...what happens to the children?We were lucky enough to speak with Alex Ashmore one of Auckland’s leading experts on Hague Convention cases - fresh from the biennial Hague Convention Convention. Listen for a master class on the how to (and how not to) of Hague Convention work, what you need to know if you are a parent wanting to relocate overseas, and how to write a short letter (lawyers, listen up...
2023-08-081h 03
Divorce CaféWhat about the kids: Children and the Property (Relationships) Act 1976Why aren't we judging our relationship property laws by how well they protect children? Champion of children's rights, much loved family law lecturer and family law reformer Professor Mark Henaghan gives us a master class on the laws that exist to protect children caught up in relationship property disputes, their effectiveness, and what we could be doing to improve outcomes for children.More information about MarkWatch the episode here.Read the article here.Interesting Reading:Borrin Foundation / University of Otago research into the impact of relationship property divisions
2023-06-291h 01
Divorce CaféUnderstanding Mediation with mediator Tony LendrumHighly successful mediator and ex Family Court Judge Tony Lendrum gives his top tips for a successful mediation, explains why mediation can save you money, and shares his insights from years of successful mediations. If you are going to mediate, or are thinking about whether you should, listen to this.Watch the episode here.Read the article here.More information about Tony.Taina Henderson - Henderson Reeves (hendersonreeveslawyers.co.nz)Shelley Funnell - Henderson Reeves (hendersonreeveslawyers.co.nz)
2023-05-0244 min
Divorce CaféContracting out agreements: do you need a prenup? with relationship property expert Amanda MorganNavigating a contracting out agreement conversation is never easy. Knowing why we have them and what different arrangements can be put in place can make it a better and less stressful experience. This episode - with our resident expert on tricky prenups and complicated relationships - deals with why you would have a contracting out agreement, when you don't need one, and why it is so important to do a thorough job of it. A fair and well thought out agreement is better for you AND for the health of your relationship. T...
2023-03-0956 min
Divorce CaféSpousal Maintenance - financial support after a separation with legal legend Vivienne Crawshaw KCIn this episode we talk to our hero Vivienne Crawshaw (King's Counsel) about her epic battle in the case of McQueen v Penn - at the time the highest maintenance award ever made in New Zealand - a game changer amongst other things because it made legal fees a legitimate part of a spousal maintenance claim.Vivienne gives a master class in spousal maintenance, why court room etiquette matters, and what it takes to be a great lawyer.Divorce Cafe aims to demystify, detangle and (hopefully) detox the legal process that...
2023-03-0849 min
Divorce CaféDIY Relationship Property Division with Stuart HendersonThis episode delves into when you can do your own relationship property division, when you should not, and how to set yourself up for success. Veteran Family Court lawyer Stuart Henderson talks about the benefits of negotiating your own agreement, what not to do, and the upside of your ex picking ‘the best lawyer in town’.Watch this episode:https://www.youtube.com/@divorcecafe/Read the article:https://hendersonreeveslawyers.co.nz/can-you-diy-a-relationship-property-division/ Taina Henderson - Henderson Reeves (hendersonreeveslawyers.co.nz)Shelley Funnell - Henderson Reeves (hendersonreeveslawyers.co.nz)
2023-03-0734 min