Shows
Lost in our 40s#96 - How your African upbringing affects you in the corporate spaceHave you ever frozen up at work unable to speak and couldn't figure it out? Are there situations that plain make you uncomfortable with sweaty palms and prickly heat even though you don't know why? Listen in and uncover what past trauma and teachings may be holding you back.Reference:Lean In by Sheryl SandbergDate Like Cleopatra by Shiro NduneContact: info@shirondune.com
2025-10-1736 minLost in our 40s#94 - Auditing Your LifeAre you going through a change? Great! Let's run an audit!1:27 Auditing friendship13:24 Internalized racism16:50 Cleaning up your digital space21:48 Consciousness27:00 Auditing your content consumption30:49 Job/Career35:52 Auditing your mood39:35 Auditing your family41:53 Auditing your shopping habits45:50 Your relationship with time
2025-10-0549 minLost in our 40s#92 - Making the patriarchy work for womenThe patriarchy is a fact around us. What can we do to improve our experience of life within the patriarchy? Listen in!Reference:Date Like Cleopatra by Shiro NduneContact: info@shirondune.com
2025-09-0831 minLost in our 40s#90 - Corporate Girl Failing in LoveIf you're making waves in the corporate world like a boss but failing in love, this ones for you. You could be approaching love the way you do that big work deal - from your masculine energy. It doesn't work in your love life because you and he can't both be in your masculine. That leaves you to connect with your feminine energy. Before you say that that's asking for too much, have a listen to the steps that put you in your feminine and give them a try!References:On Self Esteem and Scolars, Witches and Other Freedom...
2025-08-2155 minLost in our 40sErasing women from historyIf you've ever doubted yourself as a woman and your abilities to do certain things, watch this one. We unpack how woman have been trained to think less of themselves and use historical examples to do so. The rallying call? You can do anything!References:Normal Women by Philippa GregoryWhen Women Ruled the World by Kara CooneyHer Space Her Time by Shohini GhoseDate Like Cleopatra by Shiro NduneGet in touch at info@shirondune.comDrop your take in the comments and...
2025-08-1428 minLost in our 40s#85 - Creating Your Own RealityHow energy and self belief affects your life experienceReferences:Cesar Milan, The Dog WhispererBeyoncé Knowles & Sasha FierceNapoleon HillBook: "Date Like Cleopatra" by Shiro NduneCourse: Finding Me at shirondune.com
2025-08-0153 minLost in our 40sRecognize when you are being mistreated at workRecognize toxicity and bullying in the workplace. Sometimes we deny our lived experience which can come with a grave toll to our well being and health. What steps can you take to change the narrative of toxic work experiences?Video references:The Good Girl at Work - Might you be the toxic one? https://youtu.be/qheawMXXggI Earning Self Points - The Path to Worthiness https://youtu.be/GKydQfIC-T0Managing the Voices in my head - https://youtu.be/q6wNJAqMCv8 Your Unknown Unknowns and dealing with performance...
2025-07-311h 31Lost in our 40s#87 - A journey down the history of Christianity and the source of beliefsLooking at the Bible, its translation, patriarchy, colonialism, genocide and even the pandemic ... this is a heavy one in which we ask: what is the basis of what you believe?References provided in the video.We'd love to hear your comments so leave them below.Contact: info@shirondune.comShiro Ndune is the author of "Date Like Cleopatra" available on Amazon and shirondune.com
2025-07-3040 minLost in our 40s#84 - Your Unknown UnknownsHow do you get access to the parts of you you don't even know exist? what if these are running the show? Listen on in!Singer reference is Billie Eilish!Book reference:Date Like Cleopatra by Shiro NduneWant to reach out? info@shirondune.com
2025-06-3043 minLost in our 40s#83 - How I Connected to my Intuition3 powerful steps that helped me connect to my inner guidance system.Course available at:https://shirondune.com/the-path-back-to-self/Book Available at:https://shirondune.com/books/Contact: info@shirondune.com
2025-06-2318 minLost in our 40s#81 - Meet Irene as she conquers the world!"Africa Speaks" is a series that re-brands the African woman. She's much more than the sad poor woman plagued with disease and poverty as is often portrayed on the international scene. She's frankly just like you. Come listen in and discover her for yourself.On this episode, Irene, a distinguished professional in the corporate scene, takes us through her career path. She has settled and worked in 6 different countries across 3 continents. We speak of the weight moving has on family, how to figure out the cost of living in a new space, adjusting to food, weather and new cultures...
2025-06-221h 34Lost in our 40s#80 - Anxious & Avoidant - How I worked towards Secure AttachmentWorking on your attachment style is double the work if you have the disorganised attachment style i.e. both anxious and avoidant. I share 8 points I've used towards achieving secure attachment. Website: shirondune.comGet in touch here: info@shirondune.comInsta: @shironduneTikTok: @lostinour40sFor details on my book "Date Like Cleopatra - The Good Girl Flips the Script" go to https://shirondune.com/books/
2025-06-2228 minLost in our 40s#82 - Creating Time to Follow Your PassionsIf you have niggling longing to do something but can't find the time for it, this ones for you. Do you fear success? What steps can you take towards achieving your goal? And wait ... is it even your goal?
2025-06-2214 minLost in our 40s#79 - Let's talk about our PartsWe're talking exiles, managers and firefighters as we look at the parts within us as described by Richard C. Schwartz. Come listen in!Website: shirondune.comGet in touch here: info@shirondune.comInsta: @shironduneTikTok: @lostinour40sFor details on my book "Date Like Cleopatra - The Good Girl Flips the Script" go to https://shirondune.com/books/
2025-05-2817 minLost in our 40s#78 - Ending lonelinessIf you know that feeling of a hollow space in your heart and longing for a means to fill it, this ones for you. Loneliness can come about even when you're surrounded by others or in your home town. Get 5 inner work pointers that will lead you to sealing the gap.References:Brené Brown, Joe Dispenza, Michael A Singer, Dr. Phil, Oprah Winfrey, Bruce Perry, John Townsend, Henry Cloud, Bessel van der Kolk & Lindsay Gibson.Date like Cleopatra by Shiro Ndune
2025-05-2645 minLost in our 40s#77 - What is Feminine Energy?There's a lot of talk online about Feminine Energy, but what is it really? Do you need it? Do you have it? Join us for the detailed conversation!References:The Path of Femininity by Elé de PossonDate Like Cleopatra by Shiro NduneThe Power of Now by Eckhart Tollehttps://www.youtube.com/@eledeposhttps://www.youtube.com/awwlexis As for me, you know the drill! But for our new gorgeous friends:Website: shirondune.comGet in touch here: info@shirondune.comInsta: shironduneMy book Date Like Cleopatra is available on Amazon, and in Nairobi at Text Book Centre, Nuria Stores o...
2025-05-1251 minLost in our 40s#76 - Unlocking your Authentic Style with AleksEver looked into your wardrobe and thought you had nothing to wear? Listen in to this conversation with the beautiful Aleks as she demonstrates how your style could literally change your life! We touch body shapes, changing needs, and then somehow get distracted by s3x, sensuality and passion! You won't want to miss it!References:Pussy a Reclamation by Regena ThomashauerThink and Grow Rich by Napoleon HillDate Like Cleopatra by Shiro NduneEmily Fletcher, Eckhart Tolle & Michael A. Singer Contact Aleks at:Insta: aleksandranaglik.stylist
2025-05-0756 minLost in our 40s#75 - Why you should play games in relationshipsWhen you say that you don't play games in relationships, what does that actually mean? Are you masking the fact that you're chasing him? Let's deconstruct this!Reference: The Art of Seduction by Robert GreeneDate Like Cleopatra by Shiro Ndune
2025-05-0112 minLost in our 40s#74 - Emotional FlashbacksWhat is an emotional flashback?How do you recognize that you are going through one?What steps can you take to get out of it?Resource:https://pete-walker.com/13StepsManageFlashbacks.htm
2025-04-3008 minLost in our 40s#71 - Let's talk MicroaggressionOur guest Madisen leads us on a conversation on this topic. We discuss:- what are microaggressions?- what are the types of microaggressions?- who can be a target?- might you be a perpetrator of microaggression without knowing it? Take the test: https://implicit.harvard.edu/implicit/takeatest.html - microaggression in the work place- what to do if you are dealing with microaagressionMadisen gives a shout out to "Coding for Immigrants" https://linktr.ee/coding.for.immigrantsWebsite: shirondune.comGet in touch here: info@shirondune.comMy book Date Like Cleopatra is available on Amazon
2025-04-2935 minLost in our 40s#75 - Why you should play games in relationshipsWhen you say that you don't play games in relationships, what does that actually mean? Are you masking the fact that you're chasing him? Let's deconstruct this!Reference: The Art of Seduction by Robert GreeneDate Like Cleopatra by Shiro Ndune
2025-04-2812 minLost in our 40s#73 - 6 Ways to Start Accepting Your BodyWe've all been there with the body issues that make us dislike ourselves ... Here are tricks and tips to get you loving your own form!References:Gloria Steinem: Outrageous Acts and Everyday RebellionGoop documentary featuring Amanda Peterson on mirror workhttps://goop.com/wellness/mindfulness/what-is-mirror-work/ "When I was first confronted with mirror work—the practice of looking in the mirror and really seeing yourself—it was challenging. It went against everything I’d been told all my life about how I should see myself and how I should see others. Mirror work moves us out of this space where our be...
2025-04-2139 minLost in our 40s#72 - He needs to earn more than youDating a guy who earns less money than you? Listen to this.Website: shirondune.comGet in touch here: info@shirondune.comMy book Date Like Cleopatra is available on AmazonMusic by Atemi Oyungu
2025-04-1514 minLost in our 40s#70 - Decentering men - Get a hobbyWe discuss what we expect from relationships and how we can manage those expectations to avoid disappointment.Books mentioned:All About Love by Bell HooksAtlas of the Heart by Brene BrownDate Like Cleopatra by Shiro Ndune (available on Amazon)Get in touch here: info@shirondune.com
2025-04-1412 minLost in our 40s#71 - Let's talk microaggressionOur guest Madisen leads us on a conversation on this topic. We discuss:- what are microaggressions?- what are the types of microaggressions?- who can be a target?- might you be a perpetrator of microaggression without knowing it? Take the test: https://implicit.harvard.edu/implicit/takeatest.html - microaggression in the work place- what to do if you are dealing with microaagressionMadisen gives a shout out to "Coding for Immigrants" https://linktr.ee/coding.for.immigrantsWebsite: shirondune.comGet in touch here: info@shirondune.comMy book Date Like Cleopatra is available on Amazon
2025-04-1435 minLost in our 40s#66 - Ditch that FriendWe're talking about letting friends go.You know you need to do this because of constant disagreements, differing perspectives on everything or you constantly want to change them.Why aren't you leaving? You're afraid you won't get new friends (scarcity mindset), don't want to hurt them, or just always thought friendships are meant to last forever.What's at stake? Your internal happiness and peace of mind. And guess what? It's better for that friend too in the long run if you can be honest about who you are and how you feel.
2025-03-2722 minLost in our 40s#65 - Negotiating Pleasure in the Bedroomshirondune.comDo you want him? Do you it? How do you ask for what you want? How do you know what you want? Listen in as we have this chat!References:Come as You Are by Emily NagoskiDate Like Cleopatra - The Good Girl Flips the Script by Shiro Ndune
2025-03-0224 minLost in our 40s#64 - Accepting the B00ty callsshirondune.comWhy accept to answer these calls and what effect do they have. We also look into self worth, beliefs and how to get out of the cycle that taught us that this was ok.Book: Date Like Cleopatra - The Good Girl Flips the ScriptAvailable on Amazon & Nuria (in Nairobi)
2025-02-2733 minLost in our 40s#63 - Dating married menshirondune.comWe look at the pitfalls of dating married men, how you got there and how to get out!Book: Date Like Cleopatra - The Good Girl Flips the Script by Shiro NduneAvailable on Amazon and Nuria Books (Kenya)
2025-02-2757 minLost in our 40s#62 - Question your faithshirondune.comThe things you believe were introduced to you by others. We look at questioning them to arrive at your own set of beliefs and avoid following others blindly
2025-02-2715 minLost in our 40s#61 - Tell your girl when she's in a toxic relationshipLet's talk about this! I share my experience to help you raise questions on your experience.shirondune.comBook - Date Like Cleopatra - The Good Girl Flips the ScriptAvailable on Amazon and Nuria books in Kenya
2025-02-2720 minLost in our 40s#60 - Trauma & datingshirondune.comDate Like Cleopatra - The Good Girl Flips the Script by Shiro NduneReference: The Myth of Normal by Gabor MateMusic by Atemi Oyungu
2025-02-2726 minLost in our 40s#59 - The Good Girl fallacy in relationshipsshirondune.comDate Like Cleopatra - The Good Girl Flips the Script by Shiro Ndune available now on AmazonWe explore how being a good girl is keeping you stuck on the relationship frontWatch "Breaking out of the Good Girl Bind" with Nikki - • Breaking out of the Good Girl Bind Music by Atemi Oyungu
2025-02-2752 minLost in our 40s#58 - Earning Self Points - the path to Worthinessshirondune.comWe take a leaf from Meadow Devon's book "The Worthy Project," to discuss how to build up self worth.Music by Atemi Oyungu
2025-01-0419 minLost in our 40s#57 - Let's talk AlcoholAre you drinking too much? Does it matter?
Reference: "Girl Walks Out of a Bar" by Lisa F. Smith
shirondune.com
Music: Atemi Oyungu
2025-01-0112 min2024-12-2916 minLost in our 40s#51 - Inner work and the mirroring effecthttps://shirondune.comCome join the conversation with Mame Astou around children, triggers and how to inch towards your higher self!
2024-12-2939 minLost in our 40s#50 - How media silently affects youWe talk about how music, TV programming and even books have an impact on our energy and what to do about it.
2024-12-2931 minLost in our 40s#49 - Activating your Body & Soul with Mariahttps://shirondune.com
Do you have trouble with your tummy or sleep? Are you stressed? Or maybe it's some aches and pains? Bring your cup of tea for this informative session where Maria spills the tea on the hacks and cures!
Maria (on YouTube as @GlowingBodyAndMind) is a wholistic health and inner work coach and her website is https://www.glowingbodyandmind.com
2024-12-2950 minLost in our 40s#48 - When you don't understand your reactions - Effects of TraumaWe discuss:
-The workings of the brain with emphasis on the brain stem and the cortex
-The fight & flight response
-Emotional flashbacks
-The inner and outer critic
References:
What Happened to You by Oprah Winfrey and Dr. Bruce Perry
Complex PTSD - From Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker
The Body Keeps a Score by Bessel van der Kolk
2024-12-2935 minLost in our 40s#54 - An Invitation to IntrospectionTaking the time to question your views on religion, the holidays, your body image and your career trajectory. Just thing to do before a new year!shirondune.com
2024-12-2925 minLost in our 40s#56 - Teachings from "Damsel"shirondune.com
We look at the movie Damsel and uncover teachings about patriarchy, women, society, the pure self and the ego. Grab your popcorn and let's go!
Spoiler alert!
2024-12-2920 minLost in our 40s#52 - Parts of YouJoin me in a discussion about the Ego, body, intuition, inner critique and inner child.
Visit: https://shirondune.com
2024-12-0437 min
Lost in our 40s#47 - Breaking out of the Good Girl BindNikki (YouTube: @nicholaspindler3066) comes to visit us for a conversation on the Good Girl Syndrome. We discuss:
The social conditioning that creates the Good Girl
The Limiting Beliefs that stem from being a Good Girl
The Way out of Good Girl-ism!
Reference: Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend
Visit: shirondune.com
2024-11-0445 min
Lost in our 40s#46 - Africa Speaks - Business across Africa with MarilynA chat with Marilyn where we tackle the different dimensions of the African continent with everything from culture, propriety, brain drain and even ignorance. Join in and listen!
2024-11-0153 min
Lost in our 40s#45 - Letting go of our maskshttps://shirondune.com
We look at 5 masks we learn to put on as we navigate our lives as young children, and what causes them. All are encouraged to see which masks (if any) they carry, recognize how it is showing up in their lives and we then delve into the joys available at the other end when each mask is taken off.
References: Lise Bourbeau (Les 5 blessures qui empêchent d'être sois-meme), Dr. Nelson Bradley (The Emotion Code), Michael A. Singer
The Coaching Circle with conversation on the shadow:
https://www.youtube.co...
2024-11-0139 minLost in our 40s#44 - Childhood trauma beyond colonialismThe different nations within Africa had their own systems and ways of life before the advent of colonialism. Torn away from this, we look at the impact this trauma may have visited on the childhoods of those now in their 40s. We lay emphasis on Emotional Flashbacks.
References: Maslow's hierarchy of needs, Evy Poumpouras, Pete Walker (Complex PTSD, From Surviving to Thriving), Kacheche Podcast (@Kachechepodcast)
2024-10-2723 minLost in our 40s#43 - What if your background didn't leave room for assertiveness?Might your lack of assertiveness be a result of your culture or upbringing? If so, what to do?
Reference: Etaf Rum (A Woman is no Man)
2024-10-1722 minLost in our 40s#42 - Overcoming ResistanceDiscussion on how to stop swimming against the tide and accept what is in front of you.
References: Dr. Bradley Nelson (The Emotion Code) & Eckhart Tolle (The Power of Now)
https://shirondune.com
2024-10-1721 minLost in our 40s#41 - Shining a Light on ShameWe talk about improper and unwanted male advances and the shame of keeping quiet. Let's discard that shame once and for all while appreciating small steps as we take them.
2024-10-1017 minLost in our 40s#39 - Letting go of ControlWhat is it that makes you crave for control? Have a talk with your inner child to learn more about this.
https://shirondune.com/2024/04/24/a-day-in-vedic-art/
2024-10-0621 minLost in our 40s#40 - The Good Girl at Work - Acing the InterviewWe have our first guest! Alex from https://www.youtube.com/@alex_antoinette joins me in a discussion around the interviewing process. We touch on work environments, values, intuition, self worth and of course - how to approach the money question in the interview process! It's really great! Come listen in!
Reference: "Never Split the Difference" by Chris Voss
We had a second discussion on toxicity at the work place and that's available on Alex's channel (link above). Check it out!
2024-10-0659 minLost in our 40s#38 - Are you Avoidant?We look at the avoidant attachment style noting that most avoidants are not aware of it.
"The Coincidence Makers" by Yoav Blum
Brené Brown Ted Talk on Vulnerability: https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_the_power_of_vulnerability?subtitle=en
2024-10-0134 minLost in our 40s#37 - The Good Girl at work - Might you be the toxic one?Using the term "toxic" to refer to negativity and "meanness", we look at things you may be doing to raise the toxic vibe in your work place.
For the blog, book reviews & coaching opportunities, visit us at https://shirondune.com
2024-09-2521 minLost in our 40s#36 - Manifesting the busI discuss my morning routines and how I have come to manifest the bus! Listen in!
References include Dr. Joe Dispenza, Hal Elrod and Napoleon Hill.
2024-09-2018 minLost in our 40s#35 - The Good Girl at Work - Toxicity at the workplaceWe look at how to recognize toxicity in the work place, it's effects and what to do about it.
2024-09-1922 minLost in our 40s#34 - The Good Girl at Work - Learning how to say "No"Our culture, society and upbringing affect how we show up at work and how free we are to ask for help when overwhelmed. This episode bursts some myths around workplace etiquette, empowering women to say "no" when they have too much on their plate.
2024-09-1936 minLost in our 40s#33 - Good Girl at Work - Speaking upWhat does it take to start speaking up and occupying space at work if you've been taught to be a self effacing good girl?
2024-09-1949 minLost in our 40s#32 - How to set BoundariesWe're looking at how to set boundaries, especially taking the "good girl" concept into perspective
References:
Atomic Habits by James Clear
2024-08-0924 minLost in our 40s#31 - How to Reconnect to SelfIn this episode we look at steps you can take towards re-establishing a connection to yourself.
2024-08-0918 minLost in our 40s#30 - Dating while disconnected from selfWe look at the signs to look out for to show that your dating life may be in trouble because you are disconnected from yourself.
Music by Atemi Oyungu
2024-08-0721 minLost in our 40s#29 - Disconnection from SelfHow would you recognise if there was an element of yourself that you were not connected to? What if this connection is what you've been craving for all your life through? That missing puzzle piece? Join me as we discuss signs that you can look out for to see the disconnect.
2024-08-0525 minLost in our 40s#28 - How to uncover trauma affecting youhttps://lostinour40s.com
It is possible to live through trauma without being aware of it. In this episode, we look at steps that can help uncover past trauma and how it is showing up in your life.
References:
"The Myth of Normal" by Gabor Maté
"No Bad Parts" by Richard C. Schwartz
"Split" movie starring James McAvoy
For more on Johari's Window see https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Johari_window
2024-08-0430 minLost in our 40s#27 - How to allow yourself to be seenhttps://lostinour40s.com
We look at 7 points that can help in getting over the fear of being seen.
References:
Lean in by Sheryl Sandberg
2024-08-0222 minLost in our 40s#26 - Releasing ExpectationsThis episode takes a look at the workings of the mind and why it is that each person's world view is unique to them. It encourages us to release expectations and explore an openness to new experiences.
2024-08-0123 minLost in our 40s#25 - Recognizing bad relationshipshttps://lostinour40s.com
Hind sight is always 20/20, but how do you get ahead of the curve and see when the relationship you're in is no longer serving you? We dive into this with input from my own experiences.
Reference:
"Born a Crime" by Trevor Noah
2024-07-2921 minLost in our 40s#24 - The Truman Show and Choosing new Pathshttps://lostinour40s.com
What does it take to listen to the voice in your being calling you down a specific path? Where does one find the courage to accept the call? What challenges can be expected? This episode discusses this, using the movie The Truman Show as the chalkboard for the learnings.
Resources:
The Truman Show (movie)
"The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle
2024-06-3027 minLost in our 40s#23 - In Search of Purposehttps://lostinour40s.com
Existential Crises! 40 is a time many find themselves pondering what life is all about and what it all means. In this episode, we look at a couple of thinkers who have contemplated just that query, sharing their musings.
Resources:
"The Coincidence Makers" by Yoav Blum
The Holy Bible
"How to think about God" by Marcus Tullius Cicero
"The Little Prince" by Antoine de Saint-Exupery
"The Alchemist" by Paulo Coelho
"Man's Search for Meaning" by Viktor E. Frankl
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2024-06-2920 minLost in our 40s#22 - How to know if you're wronghttps://lostinour40s.com
When's the last time you remember being wrong? What if those around you have a different perspective? How do you know if you are wrong? This episode gives 6 pointers on how to do just that, also touching on why it's so difficult for us to notice our own flaws in the first place
Resources:
"Attached" by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller
"Mary Magdalene Revealed" by Meggan Watterson
"How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie
2024-06-2821 minLost in our 40s#21 - Rewriting the place of Women in Traditional African societyhttps://lostinour40s.com
This episodes nudges us to explore what we've been told about the role that women played in traditional African Society through a look at the 'House of Mumbi' in Kenya and the Dahomey women warriors of Benin characterized as the warriors of Wakanda in the Marvel movie "Black Panther".
Resources:
"The Perfect Nine - the Epic of Gikuyu and Mumbi" by Ngugi wa Thiong'o
"The Creation of Patriarchy" by Garda Lerner
"Mary Magdalene Revealed" by Meggan Watterson
Nation Newspapers Kenya...
2024-06-2321 min
Lost in our 40s#20 - Origins of Patriarchyhttps://lostinour40s.com
Dipping a toe into demystifying the origins of patriarchy, we are lead by definition and the works of great women who have lead the way in looking into the topic. We touch on the impact of religion in the entrenchment of patriarchy, so join us for a listen!
Resources:
"When Women Ruled the World" by Kara Cooney
"The Creation of Patriarchy" by Gerda Lerner
https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/patriarchy (as at 240608)
2024-06-0923 minLost in our 40s#19 - The importance of Words & Languagehttps://lostinour40s.com
If you don't have words to describe something, then is it even real? What happens when words change meaning? In this episode we explore all this and more, looking at how words and language can help shape our experience.
Resources:
"Daring Greatly" by Brené Brown
"1984" by George Orwell
"Cultish the Language of Fanaticism" by Amanda Montell
https://www.sbs.com.au/voices/article/is-it-time-to-reclaim-the-word-virgin-to-its-original-meaning/rmzn1aau4
https://professorwhatif.wordpress.com/2008/08/07/what-if-we-used-the-word-‘virgin-in-accordance-with-its-original-meaning/
2024-05-1816 minLost in our 40s#18 - The Workings of the MindCheck out www.lostinour40s.com
In this episode we question whether our thoughts are really our own and the extent to which we are influenced by things that arose even before we were born. We touch on neural pathways, the concept of the "Pain Body" and you are invited to try out new things in your life.
References:
"The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle
"The Myth of Normal" by Gabor Mate with Daniel mate
"Pussy a Reclamation" by Regena Thomashauer
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2024-04-2820 minLost in our 40s#17 - The BodyThis episode considers the body as a separate entity from us. We are invited to use this as a basis for being kinder towards it and seek to find the space within ourselves to appreciate it for all it does. A couple of hacks to get us more in touch with our bodies are shared.
References:
https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/wellness-and-prevention/the-brain-gut-connection
2024-03-3020 minLost in our 40s#16 - Facing FearIn this episode we look at hacks that will help us address and slay the dragon that is fear. Or at least have the wherewithal to turn around and look it in the eye. Welcome!
Resources:
"Why has Nobody Told Me This Before" by Dr. Julie Smith
"Life Code" by Dr. Phil McGraw
"Outwitting the Devil" by Napoleon Hill
Contacts:
lostinour40s@yahoo.com
X: @lostinour40s
2024-03-2718 minLost in our 40s#15 - Quantum LeapingThis episode explores quantum leaping and what this can practically look like for you as well as ways in which it can help improve your life experience. Hold on to your hat - this is available for you and may even be something you've explored before. Welcome!
Resources:
"The 4-Hour Work Week" by Timothy Ferris
Contacts:
lostinour40s@yahoo.com
X: @lostinour40s
2024-03-2325 minLost in our 40s#14 - Mirroring effectThis episodes explores the mirroring effect in the context of what triggers us in others.
Resources:
"You are a Badass" by Jen Sincero
"Life Code" by Phil McGraw
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Johari_window
Contacts:
lostinour40s@yahoo.com
X: @lostinour40s
2024-03-1515 minLost in our 40s#13 - You are the Light of the World!This is a mini-episode in which I read a story bringing out each individual's importance and touching on purpose. Enjoy!
Reference:
https://medium.com/@redofdark/you-are-the-light-of-the-world-7c40fbe078e0
Contacts:
email: lostinour40s@yahoo.com
X (Twitter): @lostinour40s
2024-03-0506 minLost in our 40s#12 - Core Strategies keeping us from AuthenticityIn this episode, we use the book "Warrior Goddess Training" by Heatherash Amara to guide us into learnings and strategies around how we may be limiting our will, and ideas on how to tackle them head-on.
Resources:
"Warrior Goddess Training" by Heatherash Amara
Contacts:
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2024-02-2920 minLost in our 40s#11 - Self Identity and the NowThis episodes looks at the different "boxes" we use to identify ourselves and provides the challenge of getting to know who we really are. It also touches on the human experience of time and the tendency to live in the past and the future, inviting us to mindfulness.
References:
"Technofeudalism" by Yanis Varoufakis
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2024-02-1621 minLost in our 40s#3 - The Joys of Being a WomanExplicit content! 4 letter words freely used to describe body parts.
In this episode we celebrate the woman and look at some of the positives that attach to womanhood. This is a feel good episode if the language doesn't offend you.
References:
"Come as You Are" by Emily Nagoski Ph.D
"Yoni Massage" by Michaela Riedl
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2024-02-1119 minLost in our 40s#10 - Emotions and DanceLooking at the need to feel our emotions, how to recognise what we're feeling and how to liberate emotions stored in our bodies.
References:
"Why has Nobody Told me This Before" by Dr. Julie Smith (pg. 100 - 101)
"Becoming Supernatural" by Dr. Joe Dispenza
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2024-02-0916 minLost in our 40s#9 - Baiters and Our Shadow SelvesIn this episode, we look at the relationships we have and consider whether there may be some wolves hiding in sheep skins amongst our favourite people. We address how to raise our own antenna to this. We also look at the kind of people we ourselves are, and discuss the fact that there are repressed aspects of ourselves that can come out unexpectedly to wound those around us.
References:
"Life Code" by Dr. Phil McGraw
Backstabbers
Abusers
Imposters
Takers
Exploiters
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2024-02-0723 minLost in our 40s#8 - The Energetics of MoneyTaking an indirect approach to the issue of money, this episodes invites the listener to consider their relationship with money and the conversations they have with themselves on the topic.
References:
The Psychology of Money by Morgan Housel
Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor E. Frankl
Emotion Vibration Diagram: https://blisspot.com/blogs/wp-content/uploads/album_photo/0a/74/01/00a59c2ad4b8c96e6caba8e289bc6954.jpg
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2024-02-0418 minLost in our 40s#7 - ArgumentsThis episode looks at the factors that influence arguments and are worth taking into account in our interactions with others.
References:
"How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie
"Surrounded by Idiots" by Thomas Erikson
"The Laws of Human Nature" by Robert Greene
"Wages Against Work" by Silvia Federici https://warwick.ac.uk/fac/arts/english/currentstudents/postgraduate/masters/modules/femlit/04-federici.pdf
“You must accept the reality of other people. You think that reality is up for negotiation, th...
2024-01-3116 minLost in our 40s#6 - Changing our MindIn this episode we look at the ease with which we can change our mood: laughing our way to happiness, power poses and the need to watch our thoughts. (Always seek medical advice where needed)
References:
"Come as You Are" by Emily Nagoski (pg 39)
"The Laws of Human Nature" by Robert Greene
Amy Cuddy Ted Talk "Your body language may shape who you are": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ks-_Mh1QhMc
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2024-01-1817 minLost in our 40s#5 - The allegory of the caveToday we look at reality not being real. Take a hold of my hand as I walk us through ...
Show References:
Plato's works. See a handy overview of the Allegory of the Cave here: https://www.masterclass.com/articles/allegory-of-the-cave-explainede#
"Becoming Supernatural" by Dr. Joe Dispenza
Sacred Roots Podcast by Ele de Posson. #45 - The Whore wound or why you might feel shame around your body, sensuality and power https://open.spotify.com/episode/12YKMGID20ekdSNmwDbSa5?si=6fccdc2a8ece4f6e
2024-01-1316 minLost in our 40s#4 - Coercive ControlIn this episode we look at a little spoken of element of gender based violence called coercive control. It's insidious in its nature since it is effected in such tiny steps it's almost impossible to note. And even when noted, we don't all know it has a name. We use a narrative - a story written by me - to paint a picture.
Resources:
"See what you made me do" an Australian documentary by Jess Hills a journalist speaking up on domestic violence
https://medium.com/@StepfordMum/coercive-control-how-to-spot-it-and-how-to-stop-it-f61689c10cfa
2024-01-1222 minLost in our 40s#2 - Good Girl SyndromeLooking at the Good Girl Syndrome:
Definition
Signs
Impact
Activity
Quoted sources:
https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/letting-go-good-girl-syndrome-anna-lundberg
https://health.clevelandclinic.org/good-girl-syndrome
"The Myth of Normal - Trauma, Illness & Healing in a Toxic Culture" by Gabor Mate with Daniel Mate
Referenced sources:
"Wordslut - a feminist guide to taking back the English language" by Amanda Montell
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2024-01-0317 min
Lost in our 40s#1 - Who's that living rent free in my head?!In this episodes, we look at factors in our upbringing and around us that affect our everyday lives, thoughts and decisions - even when we're not consciously aware of them! We touch on:
Our parents/caregivers
The Church
African traditions
Society, and
Capitalism
To top it off, we do an exercise to make us more presently aware of our likes and dislikes.
Karibu!
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2023-12-2819 minLost in our 40sTrailerHey Girls! The retailer sets the scene for the topics the podcast will cover. We're looking at inspiring change in Kenyan women that will benefit them and the society at large. Welcome!
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2023-12-2702 min
madina_idnSHIROH_Sahabat Ahli Surga Abdurrahman bin 'Auf🌟Bismillahirrahmanirrahim🌟 🌹Kajian Shiroh🌹
_Sahabat Ahli Surga_
*" _ABDURRAHMAN BIN AUF_ "*
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Abdurrahman bin Auf adalah salah seorang dari sahabat Nabi Muhammad yang terkenal. Ia adalah salah seorang dari delapan orang pertama yang menerima agama Islam, yaitu dua hari setelah Abu Bakar.
Abdurrahman bin Auf dikenal sebagai seorang yang ahli dalam perniagaan Islam dan berjaya. Selain itu beliau juga sangat dermawan, banyak menyumbangkan harta kekayaan nya ke jalan Allah.
Lalu, bagaimana kisah semasa hidupnya? Bagaimana kiat agar sukses berniaga di dunia namun dijanjikan syurga ala Abdurrahman bin Auf?🤔
Yukk, cari tahu lebih lanjut di Kajian Rutin kita @madina_idn
2022-03-2132 min
madina_idnSHIROH_Shahabiyyah Ummu Habibah binti Abu Sufyan🌟Bismillahirrahmanirrahim🌟 🌹Kelas Shiroh Shahabiyyah🌹
*"Ummu Habibah binti Abu Sufyan"*
Ummu Habibah binti Abu Sufyan adalah salah satu istri Nabi Muhammad SAW yang juga merupakan wanita generasi pertama yang memeluk islam.
Ummu Habibah atau juga dikenal dengan Ramlah, adalah putri dari Abu Sufyan, yang merupakan salah seorang pemimpin dan pedagang dari suku Quraisy. Berbeda dengan ayah dan suaminya, Ummu Habibah telah menemukan hidayah dari Islam sejak awal kerasulan hingga pada akhirnya dipersunting oleh Nabi Muhammad SAW.
Lalu, bagaimana kisah Ummu Habibah semasa hidupnya? Apa saja yang dapat kita teladani dari beliau sebagai seorang muslimah? Yuk, cari tahu lebih lanjut di @madina_idn
2022-01-3134 min
madina_idnSHIROH_Sahabat Ahli Surga Zubair bin Awwam🌟Bismillahirrahmanirrahim🌟🌹Kelas Shiroh Sahabat Ahli Surga🌹
*"Zubair bin Awwam"*
Zubair bin Awwam adalah sepupu Nabi Muhammad SAW yang juga termasuk dalam 10 orang pertama yang memeluk islam. Beliau juga pengawal Rasulullah yang dikenal sebagai pahlawan islam yang gagah berani di medan perang.
Lalu, bagaimana kisah dan perjuangan beliau semasa hidupnya? Apa saja yang dapat kita teladani dari beliau sebagai seorang muslimah? Yuk, cari tahu lebih lanjut di kajian ahad kita, yang insyaaAllah akan dilaksanakan @madina_idn
2022-01-1634 min
madina_idnSHIROH_Sahabat Ahli Surga Talhah bin Ubaidillah🌟Bismillahirrahmanirrahim🌟🌹Kelas Shiroh Sahabat Ahli Surga🌹
*"Thalhah bin Ubaidillah"*
Thalhah bin Ubaidillah mendapat julukan _Al-Khair_ oleh Rasulullah SAW karena sangat dermawan. Beliau juga termasuk salah satu sahabat Nabi yang sudah dijamin masuk surga.
Lalu, bagaimana kisah dan perjuangan beliau semasa hidupnya? Apa saja yang dapat kita teladani dari beliau sebagai seorang muslimah? Yuk, cari tahu lebih lanjut di kajian @madina_idn
2021-12-1236 min
madina_idnSHIROH_Sahabat Ahli Surga Ali Bin Abi Thalib🌟Bismillahirrahmanirrahim🌟 🌹Kajian Shiroh🌹
_Sahabat Ahli Surga_
*" _ALI BIN ABI THALIB_ "*
Ali Bin Abi Thalib dikenal sebagai seseorang yang bijak dalam memberikan nasihat dan petuah. Beliau juga merupakan salah satu dari deretan orang pertama yang memeluk Islam. Beliau menjabat sebagai Khalifah keempat yang berkuasa setelah Utsman Bin 'Affan.
Ali Bin Abi Thalib merupakan sepupu Nabi Muhammad SAW yang juga menjadi menantu Nabi Muhammad SAW karena pernikahannya dengan putri Nabi, Fatimah Az-Zahra.
Lalu, bagaimana kisah semasa hidupnya dan perjuangan beliau bersama Agama Islam? Apa saja yang dapat kita teladani dan kita ambil dari kisah dan petuah beliau sebagai seorang muslimah di masa ini? Yukk, c...
2021-11-141h 04
madina_idnSHIROH_Sahabat Ahli Surga Utsman bin Affan🌟Bismillahirrahmanirrahim🌟 🌹Kajian Shiroh🌹
_Sahabat Ahli Surga_
*" _UTSMAN BIN AFFAN_ "*
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Utsman bin Affan dikenal dengan pedagang yang kaya raya dan handal dalam bidang ekonomi serta beliau sangat dermawan. Utsman bin Affan mendapat julukan _Dzunnurain_ karena beliau menikahi 2 putri Nabi Muhammad.
Lalu, bagaimana kisah semasa hidupnya dan pengorbanan beliau terhadap Agama Islam? Apa saja yang dapat kita teladani dari beliau sebagai seorang muslimah di masa ini? Yukk, cari tahu lebih lanjut di Kajian Rutin kita @madina_idn
2021-10-2452 min
madina_idnSHIROH_Sahabat Ahli Surga Umar bin Khattab🌟Bismillahirrahmanirrahim🌟
🌹Kelas Shiroh Sahabat Ahli Surga🌹 *"Umar bin Khattab"* Umar bin Khattab mendapat julukan dari Al-Faruq oleh Rasulullah SAW karena bisa memisahkan antara kebenaran dan kebatilan. Di tangannyalah peradaban Islam mulai terkenal dan menyebar ke berbagai wilayah. Lalu, bagaimana kisah dan perjuangan beliau semasa hidupnya? Apa saja yang dapat kita teladani dari beliau sebagai seorang muslimah? Yuk, cari tahu lebih lanjut di kajian ahad kita di @madina_idn
2021-09-2630 min
madina_idnSHIROH_Sahabat Ahli Surga Abu Bakar Ash Shiddiq🌟Bismillahirrahmanirrahim🌟
🌹Kelas Shiroh🌹
_Sahabat Ahli Surga_
*"Abu Bakar Ash-Shiddiq"*. Beliau adalah ayahanda Ummul Mukminin, Aisyah ra. istri Rasulullah shallallahu alaihi wassallam yang merupakan khulafaur Rasyidin pertama dan dijamin masuk surga.
Lalu, bagaimana kisah dan perjuangan beliau semasa hidupnya? Apa saja yang dapat kita teladani dari beliau sebagai seorang muslimah? Yuk, cari tahu lebih lanjut di kajian ahad kita @madina_idn
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