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Gender: A Wider LensJoin Us for Monthly Live & Unfiltered Events with Sasha and StellaStella O’Malley and Sasha Ayad are two therapists interested in how the concept of gender is impacting our culture and shaping our society. For nearly a decade, we've been exploring sex and gender and helping patients and families impacted by gender issues. As we've dug into the shifting concepts of identity, gender, and transition, we felt unsatisfied by clichés, mental health platitudes, and modern gender jargon.Have you ever thought there's got to be more to all this trans stuff than political slogans? Well, we're right there with you. Since 2020, on our podcast, Gender: A Wid...2025-02-2502 min
Gender: A Wider Lens205 - What's Next for Sasha Ayad, Stella O'Malley, and the Gender A Wider Lens Podcast?Sasha and Stella come together for the finale episode of Gender: a Wider Lens, reflecting on four years of sharing conversations, psychological analysis, and interviews centered around the exploration of gender identity, the evolving cultural landscape, and the trans discourse. Together, they have produced over 200 episodes providing informative insights and practical approaches for listeners, whether they have loved ones questioning their gender, are professionals encountering or supporting gender-questioning youth, or individuals grappling with their own gender identity.In this final conversation, Sasha and Stella reflect on some of their most memorable episodes and pivotal discussions, marking significant...2025-02-141h 08
Gender: A Wider Lens204 - Clementine Breen Sues Famous Gender Doctor, After Rushed Medical TransitionSasha and Stella welcome Clementine Breen, a 20-year-old young woman who detransitioned after undergoing rapid medicalization as a child. Clementine was a patient of Dr. Johanna Olson-Kennedy, one of the most prominent advocates for pediatric gender medicine. Beginning at age 12, she was placed on puberty blockers, prescribed testosterone, and underwent a double mastectomy—all by the age of 14.In this episode, she shares her story, shedding light on the devastating consequences of fast-tracked gender-affirming care. Clementine discusses how following her surgery, she experienced severe mental health struggles, including dissociation, self-harm, and a suicide attempt, yet clinicians remained fo...2025-02-071h 11
Gender: A Wider Lens203 - Gender Clinicians Should Take the Family's Input Into Account, with Marieke den OudenSasha and Stella welcome Dr. Marieke den Ouden, a medical biologist and psychologist, about pediatric gender medicine in the Netherlands. While the Dutch Protocol is believed to ensure thorough mental health evaluations, Marieke reveals inconsistencies in its application. She discusses a new survey gathering input from extended family on a child’s mental health and gender identity, raising questions about bias in reporting. The conversation also explores the clinical foundations of gender medicine, examining how early researchers with backgrounds in disorders of sexual development (DSDs) shaped the field. Their search for a biological basis of gender identity—wheth...2025-01-311h 09
Gender: A Wider Lens202 - Detransitioned After Three Decades as a Trans Man, with JessiSasha and Stella welcome Jessi, a 69-year-old detransitioned butch lesbian, who shares her extraordinary life story. Jessi’s journey challenges misconceptions about detransitioners, confronting the common assumption that they are predominantly young people who transitioned in adolescence. Instead, her experiences shine a light on older individuals who made these life-altering decisions in vastly different cultural and social contexts. Her life as a gay rights advocate, shaped by threats and hardships, reveals the complexities behind her decision to transition during a time when living openly as a gender non-conforming lesbian carried significant risks.This episode offers a compelling ex...2025-01-241h 14
Gender: A Wider Lens"Mercilessly Attacked" for Not Wanting to Transition Children, with Rep. Shawn ThierryIn this episode, former Democratic State Representative Shawn Thierry reflects on her role in advocating for Texas Senate Bill 14 (TX SB14), which raised the minimum age for gender transition procedures to 18. Despite sharing concerns about the medicalization of minors with her fellow Democratic colleagues, Shawn was warned that her seat would be at stake for going on the record with her position and voting in favor of the bill. Her steadfast commitment to integrity led her to take a stand, even though it ultimately cost her re-election. Shawn discusses the two-year research process that shaped her decision, the personal...2025-01-171h 05
Gender: A Wider Lens200 - ROGD Boys Exist! with LydiaSasha and Stella welcome mother and advocate, Lydia, to the show for an insightful discussion about the emotional and relational dynamics impacting boys experiencing gender dysphoria. They reflect on the critical work of ROGDBoys.org, a website dedicated to raising awareness and providing vital information about the impact of medical interventions on boys and men with gender identity confusion.Many families face distinct challenges rooted in the intersection of social expectations, emotional needs, and emerging gender identity beliefs. Boys, unlike their female counterparts, often struggle with expressing vulnerability or gentleness, leading some to seek alternative paths to...2025-01-101h 16
Gender: A Wider Lens199 - Life After Mumford & Sons with Winston MarshallThis conversation was recorded prior to the U.S. presidential election. Any references to the election or its potential outcomes reflect the perspectives and context at the time of recording.Stella and Sasha welcome Winston Marshall, former banjoist for Mumford & Sons, to discuss the personal and professional fallout following his tweet about Andy Ngo's book Unmasked. He opens up about navigating censorship, conformity, and the immense power of social media in shaping public discourse. Winston reflects on the pressure artists face when balancing personal beliefs with industry expectations, and how political events influence cultural movements....2025-01-031h 09
Gender: A Wider Lens198 - The Trans Inclusion Controversy That Took Over La Leche League with Helen Joyce & Marian TompsonIn this special episode, Sasha and Stella pass the mic to honorary guest host, journalist, author, and feminist campaigner, Helen Joyce, who interviews Marian Tompson, in connection with Joyce’s recent article about Marian in The Times, "Why I Quit the Breastfeeding Charity I Founded Over Trans Ideology".Marian Tompson, along with six other mothers, founded the global breastfeeding support network, La Leche League, in 1956. In November 2024, Tompson resigned from both the organization and its Board of Directors, believing it had strayed from its original mission to support biological mothers in breastfeeding.Helen’s conversation with...2024-12-201h 14
Gender: A Wider Lens197 - We Have a BIG Announcement!Nearing the podcast’s 200th episode just around the corner, Stella and Sasha mark the 4-year milestone of Gender: A Wider Lens! Together, they reflect on the show’s remarkable evolution and its impact on their respective journeys. With a vast catalog of episodes filled with profound insights, transformative stories, intriguing interviews, and relentless curiosity, the show has progressed alongside the ever-shifting landscape of gender and the ripple effects of the medicalization of youth.In this episode, they share insights into both the psychological and societal shifts surrounding gender identity and reveal a BIG announcement for what list...2024-12-1355 min
Gender: A Wider Lens196 - Are Puberty Blockers the Next Consumer Fraud Scandal? with Glenna GoldisSasha & Stella welcome seasoned attorney Glenna Goldis to the show, offering invaluable perspectives into the legal developments in gender medicine.With extensive knowledge of gender medicine and consumer fraud, Glenna provides a comprehensive analysis of pivotal legal cases and controversies in the U.S., breaking down complex legal language into accessible insights. She brings her expertise and unique perspective on the evolution of gender medicine. She also examines consumer fraud allegations against the American Academy of Pediatrics, using her legal expertise to shed light on the broader societal and legal implications of these claims. Glenna further explores...2024-12-061h 13
Gender: A Wider Lens195 - The Autogynephilia Controversy with Phil IllyStella and Sasha welcome author and podcaster, Phil Illy, to the show for a thought-provoking conversation on sexuality, identity, and self-understanding. They engage with Phil’s concept of auto-heterosexuality, explore his interpretation of "erotic target identity inversion," and examine how these theories relate to broader discussions around sexuality and identity. As the discussion evolves, Stella and Sasha offer their critiques and challenge Phil's framework, pushing for a deeper understanding of these complex concepts.Phil Illy is the author of Autoheterosexual: Attracted to Being the Other Sex, a provocative exploration of sexuality, identity, and gender. In his book, Ph...2024-11-291h 33
Gender: A Wider Lens194 - How the Gender Agenda Captured Iceland, with Eldur Smári KristinssonStella and Sasha welcome freelance writer, free-thinker, and current chairman of the Lesbian and Gay Alliance in Iceland, Eldur Smári Kristinsson, offering a revealing overview of Iceland’s rapid societal transformation into what he describes as a "gender-crazed dystopia”. In this episode, Eldur describes how over the last 25 years, Iceland has transitioned from a nation advancing progressive gay rights to one where gender ideology has infiltrated institutions, including government, education, and even the Church of Iceland. This change, Eldur argues, has been driven by ideological activists and well-funded interest groups seeking to perpetuate their influence.His...2024-11-221h 13
Gender: A Wider Lens193 - Frauds, Fetishes, and Frameworks in Today's Trans Movement, with Dr. Az HakeemStella & Sasha welcome author, psychiatrist, and psychotherapist Dr. Az Hakeem to the show, sharing his experience and insights from his extensive career spanning over two decades in the field of gender dysphoria. He reflects how he initially recognized the growing confusion around the issue and noted that the real "madness" was not in the individuals struggling with gender identity, but in society's response to them.In this episode, not only does he revisit his poignant and popular “goth mock-5” analysis as referenced in his previous appearance on Gender: A Wider Lens, but Dr. Hakeem also outlines his four...2024-11-151h 11
Gender: A Wider Lens192 - Paving a Way Back for Detrans Lesbians, with Aaron KimberlySasha and Stella welcome Aaron Kimberly back to the show, nearly a year after her first appearance on the podcast. Aaron has undergone a remarkable transformation, returning to her female identity and embracing a new understanding and acceptance of herself. This episode delves into Aaron’s complex journey of self-discovery, shaped by her unique experiences with a rare ovotesticular disorder of sex development (DSD), her longstanding identity as a butch lesbian, and the medical, professional, and social experiences that have shaped her path.In this episode, Aaron examines the role of the butch lesbian community that once fo...2024-11-081h 08
Gender: A Wider Lens191 - Holding the Line on Liberal Values, with Helen Pluckrose and Carrie ClarkSasha and Stella welcome writers Carrie Clark and Helen Pluckrose to the show for thoughtful and provocative dialogue, critically examining the intersections of identity, sex-based rights, mental health, and societal influences. Drawing from both personal experiences and professional insights, they explore complex and sensitive ideas around self-expression, feminism, and gender, encouraging a nuanced and reflective perspective. The conversation also delves into the controversy following Genspect’s 2023 Bigger Picture Conference in Denver, known as "Blue Dress Gate," unpacking the cultural and social tensions surrounding the event.For links and resources relevant to this episode, access the full show no...2024-11-011h 12
Gender: A Wider Lens190 - From Addict to Champion to Activist, with April HutchinsonSasha & Stella welcome April Hutchinson — former team Canada powerlifter, North American deadlift record holder, fairness for women in sports advocate and grateful recovering alcoholic — to discuss her incredible journey from battling alcohol addiction to becoming a world-class powerlifter. During COVID, she turned to powerlifting as part of her recovery, and within a short period, she achieved record-breaking lifts, catapulting her to elite status in the sport holding national records, an extraordinary feat given her short time in the sport. However, her career took a dramatic turn.In this episode, April recounts the controversy she faced in the power...2024-10-251h 10
Gender: A Wider Lens189 - What Happened at the Genspect Conference in LisbonIn this episode, Sasha and Stella reflect on the Bigger Picture Conference in Lisbon, discussing notable takeaways from various speakers. A key theme explored is how the gender debate has expanded into a multidisciplinary conversation, no longer just confined to therapists or concerned parents but drawing in academics, sociologists, and political thinkers worldwide.Their discussion covers a range of topics, including institutional capture, mass formation theory, societal movements, the roles of parents—particularly mothers—in navigating gender questioning, the ethics within the field of gender medicine, and the power of truth in countering ideological extremism.For...2024-10-1855 min
Gender: A Wider Lens188 - Why Do People Double Down in the Face of Contrary Evidence?This conversation connects cognitive dissonance surrounding gender identity to cultural and institutional dynamics, including developments in gender medicine and resistance to emerging evidence that challenges prevailing medical practices — illustrating how deeply held beliefs become difficult to abandon even in the face of contradictory evidence. The core idea is that just because something cannot be proven false doesn’t mean we should accept it as true. Stella and Sasha imply that trying to "research a way out" of this issue isn't the answer, as many are emotionally invested in their decisions regarding medicalization, especially parents of trans-identified children. T...2024-10-111h 01
Gender: A Wider Lens187 - Gender: A Wider Lens Live from Lisbon with Billboard ChrisSasha and Stella speak live from the Genspect Conference in Lisbon, Portugal, with special guest Billboard Chris, a Canadian activist dedicated to challenging gender ideology through public engagement and thought-provoking messages. In this conversation, Chris explores the psychological and cultural forces influencing social changes around gender, sharing his motivations for activism and the journey that led him to raise awareness about the implications of puberty blockers for children. He also discusses strategies for facilitating constructive dialogues with those who hold differing views, emphasizing the significance of calm, rational discourse in controversial discussions. This episode examines th...2024-10-041h 04
Gender: A Wider Lens186 - Courage is Contagious, with Whistleblower Vanessa SivadgeIn this episode, Stella & Sasha sit down with Vanessa Sivadge, a former pediatric nurse at Texas Children's Hospital, who courageously exposed the illegal use of federally funded insurance programs to cover sex hormones and transgender treatments for minors. Initially coming forward anonymously as a whistleblower, Vanessa believed her concerns would incite meaningful change, only to face repercussions from the government. After disclosing the hospital’s concealed practices, she was met with an unexpected visit from FBI agents—an act she interprets as intimidation.Vanessa recounts her journey, reflecting on her decision to publicly come forward in June 2024. She...2024-09-271h 01
Gender: A Wider Lens185 - Tales From Genderland with Julie BindelSasha & Stella invite renowned feminist and author Julie Bindel to reflect on her decades-long advocacy for women and girls, in-particular her recent work investigating gender ideology. Julie shares her motivation behind her new podcast series, Julie in Genderland, which amplifies the voices of parents grappling with their children being caught in the gender identity craze.In this episode, Julie discusses her undercover work exposing gay conversion therapy, drawing parallels to what she calls modern "gay conversion therapy" through transgender ideology impacting gender-nonconforming youth. She explores evolving narratives around sexuality, the weaponization of female empathy in trans activism, a...2024-09-201h 18
Gender: A Wider Lens184 - Chanting, Humming, and Silencing–The Attack on Free Speech in NYC Schools with Maud MaronStella & Sasha welcome former public defender and education advocate, Maud Maron to the show for a fascinating conversation examining the intersection of education and politics. Maud reflects on the troubling shifts within schools, where merit and academic standards are being overshadowed by ideological pressures.In this episode, Maud discusses the evolving landscape of education, where traditional academic standards are increasingly being influenced or overshadowed by ideological pressures from social and political agendas. She highlights the impact of identity politics, gender ideology, and equity measures on core educational values. Drawing from her personal experiences from pushing for enhanced...2024-09-131h 09
Gender: A Wider Lens183 - Running From Rockets and Walking Toward Womanhood, with Maia PoetAnother special mid-week episode release! Sasha will be back for our next episode, but don’t miss this deeply moving conversation between Stella and guest, Maia Poet, who shares her powerful story of self-discovery through the lenses of gender identity, conflict, and societal expectations. Maia recounts the emotional and psychological conflict she faced living as a trans man in a religious society, and how war—especially the harrowing events of October 7th—shifted her entire perspective on her body and identity.In this conversation, Maia opens up about the transformative power of community, particularly her encounters with detran...2024-09-101h 05
Gender: A Wider Lens182 - What Exactly is a "Transcendent Sense of Gender"? with Alex ByrneIn this episode, Sasha and Stella welcome Alex Byrne, philosopher and author of Trouble with Gender, to explore the evolving concept of gender, its historical roots, and the myths that shape modern discourse. Byrne offers an erudite yet accessible analysis of the term "gender," reflections about how much the term has changed and the far-reaching implications of those changes, and insights on influential figures like Jack Turbin and John Money.Expect a thought-provoking conversation exploring; the complexities and confusion surrounding the different meanings and uses of the terms 'sex' and 'gender', the concept of gender identity and...2024-09-061h 11
Gender: A Wider Lens181 - From Activist to Apostate–A Twisty-Turny "Gender Journey," with TaliTali shares her journey from an ardent activist deeply immersed in gender and identity politics to someone questioning and ultimately walking away from the dogmatic beliefs she once held. Her story is a roller coaster of conviction, self-discovery, and transformation, particularly as she navigates the complexities of having encouraged her wife towards a trans identity of her own.Listeners will gain insight into the mindset of passionate activists, the impact of societal pressures on personal identity, and the challenges of disentangling oneself from groupthink. This episode offers a glimpse into the delicate process of questioning deeply held...2024-08-301h 29
Gender: A Wider Lens180 - The Many Roots and Presentations of Gender Dysphoria in MalesSPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT FROM OUR SPONSOR: Therapy First is hosting a live webinar August 29th at 7pm EDT. “Moral Injury and the Call to Recovery” with therapist, author and social scientist, Amber Ault, PhD. CLICK HERE TO REGISTER. *Therapy First has been approved by NBCC as an Approved Continuing Education Provider,ACEP No. 7505. This webinar provides 1.5 hours of CE credits.This episode is a special mid-week release! No special guest for this conversation, just an important and thoughtful exchange between hosts, Sasha and Stella, exploring some of the common and yet intensely complex manifestations of gender dysphoria in males. T...2024-08-281h 10
Gender: A Wider Lens179 - Healing From Sissy Porn and Gender Dysphoria with Shane ColeSPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT FROM OUR SPONSOR: Therapy First is hosting a live webinar August 29th at 7pm EDT. “Moral Injury and the Call to Recovery” with therapist, author and social scientist, Amber Ault, PhD. CLICK HERE TO REGISTER (or visit therapyfirst.org/webinars for more information). *Therapy First has been approved by NBCC as an Approved Continuing Education Provider,ACEP No. 7505. This webinar provides 1.5 hours of CE credits.---Sasha and Stella welcome Shane Cole to the show for a riveting exploration of the intricate layers of male gender dysphoria. Shane's journey offers a powerful narrative of recov...2024-08-231h 29
Gender: A Wider Lens178 - How Brands Influence Culture (For Better or Worse) with Jennifer SeyFormer big brand marketing powerhouse and national gymnastics champion, Jennifer Sey, joins Sasha and Stella to dissect trans-themed ads, corporate HR's influence, and the impacts of the adjustments to Title IX. This is a bold conversation about the evolution of corporate messaging, the rise of woke capitalism, and the growing influence of HR and DEI initiatives in shaping corporate culture.Whether you’re in marketing, leadership, athletics or simply interested in the intersection of business and social change, this conversation will challenge your perspectives and provide valuable insights into the profound shifts within corporate America, the advertising wo...2024-08-161h 19
Gender: A Wider Lens177 - How Gender Ideology Came to Denmark with Jesper RasmussenSasha and Stella welcome Jesper Rasmussen, a Danish filmmaker, teacher, and head of the Rainbow Council, to the show, offering a critical look at pediatric gender medicine and the broader impact of gender ideology in Denmark.A key moment emerges when Jesper introduces three essential “yes/no” questions that that anyone can use to critically evaluate the issue and guide the debates around gender affirming medical interventions for minors. This episode vital for those attempting conversations about the medical and ethical aspects of pediatric gender transition.For links and resources relevant to this episode, access the...2024-08-091h 12
Gender: A Wider Lens176 - Funding Lawsuits for Detransitioners with Lynn ChadwickAs the mother of two trans-identified children, Lynn Chadwick has navigated the pain of estrangement and now channels her experiences into her work with Themis Resource Fund, an independent, nonprofit, and nonpartisan organization providing financial resource aimed at connecting detransitioned plaintiffs in the United States with attorneys interested in representing their cases.Lynn expresses her deep concern about the potential for re-traumatization among detransitioned individuals who engage in legal battles. She emphasizes the harsh and uncertain nature of these legal processes, where plaintiffs often face aggressive questioning and blame. Lynn’s work with Themis advocates for the di...2024-08-021h 04
Gender: A Wider Lens175 - What Really Happens to a Female Body on Testosterone? with Elaine MillerIn this episode, Sasha & Stella welcome Elaine Miller, a physiotherapist specializing in pelvic health and award-winning comedian to join them for a riveting conversation unpacking the cascading effects of testosterone on the female body, with particular attention to the pelvic area. This conversation uncovers shocking insights about incontinence and other physiological changes as the result of putting a female system on disproportionately high levels of testosterone. A must-listen for therapists, parents, individuals considering testosterone therapy, and healthcare professionals who want to understand the real, often overlooked, consequences of cross-sex hormones on female bodies.For links and resources...2024-07-261h 08
Gender: A Wider Lens174 - How Porn Can Influence the Desire to Transition, with ForrestSasha and Stella sit down with Forrest, a young man whose journey through gender identity, pornography, and societal expectations lends a profound and complex quest for self-acceptance. A compelling conversation about Forrest's journey through transition and detransition, revealing how an innocent curiosity for cartoons spiraled into a full-scale porn addiction, leading to unhealthy behaviors and regrettable surgeries. Explore Forrest’s experiences with intense shame, his complicated relationship with sexual drives, and his time living with the ‘radical fairies’ in a trans commune. For links and resources relevant to this episode, access the full show notes at https://www.wi...2024-07-191h 49
Gender: A Wider Lens173 - Why Are Trans Activists Rewriting History? with N3VLYNNNSPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT FROM OUR SPONSOR: Therapy First is hosting a webinar July 29th at 12pm EDT. “The Comprehensive Psychiatric Evaluation of Minors with Gender Dysphoria: Key Concepts” with Dr. Stephen B. Levine. CLICK HERE TO REGISTER. *Therapy First has been approved by NBCC as an Approved Continuing Education Provider,ACEP No. 7505. This webinar provides 1.5 hours of CE credits.------Sasha & Stella sit down with the creatively multifaceted and dynamically articulate artist N3VLYNNN, exploring the intersections of identity, creativity, expression and activism. Nevline's nuanced perspective on the trans movement's impact on black lesbians and the wome...2024-07-121h 15
Gender: A Wider Lens172 - Arielle Isaac Norman Knows More Than Dave ChappelleSasha and Stella welcome comedian Arielle Isaac Norman to the show for a refreshing critique of identity, comedy, and societal norms. They talk pronouns, reality, the impact of Trump's win in 2016, and what it means to be politically non-binary.The discussion emphasizes Arielle's skill in using humor to address evolving dynamics within the queer community, particularly in response to today's political landscape, delivering profound insights with a comedic twist. Arielle brings an informed critique that resonates across the political spectrum, ensuring that her audience finds both laughter and moments of introspection. Sasha affectionally describes Arielle as...2024-07-051h 04
Gender: A Wider Lens171 - Breaking News: The Latest WPATH Scandal, with Lisa Selin DavisIn this episode, Sasha and Stella sit down with journalist Lisa Selin Davis to discuss “the endless upside down somersaulting of reality.”The latest controversy not only questions the integrity of guideline creation but also exposes collaboration among federal authorities, advocacy groups, and academic institutions to suppress evidence-based research.Mainstream media responses (or lack there of) highlight how prominent journalism groups align with activists, perpetuate narratives, and compromise objectivity by succumbing to advocacy pressures and biased reporting practices.This episode emphasizes how the prioritization of empirical evidence in both media reporting and policy-making is c...2024-07-0151 min
Gender: A Wider Lens170 - The Legal, Emotional and Physical Consequences of Secret Social Transition with Vernadette BroylesStella and Sasha welcome distinguished attorney Vernadette Broyles to the show offering a rich and informative discussion for anyone interested in the evolving dynamics between schools, families, and the legal system around issues of gender identity and parental rights; valuable resources for parents and concerned adults; and practical recommendations on how parents can be proactive and better equipped to protect their children, empowering them to navigate these challenging situations with confidence and clarity.For links and resources relevant to this episode, access the full show notes at https://www.widerlenspod.com/p/episode-170 Buy Our B...2024-06-281h 03
Gender: A Wider Lens169 - Growing up with a Trans Parent, with Emma Thomas from Children of TransitionersSasha and Stella warmly welcome Emma Thomas to the show highlighting her significant role as an advocate for children of transitioners. Emma talks about growing up with an AGP dad, the importance of safeguarding children, the misinformation around chestfeeding, and her hope that autogynephilia is treatable or preventable.For links and resources relevant to this episode, access the full show notes at https://www.widerlenspod.com/p/episode-169 Buy Our Book – When Kids Say They’re Trans: A Guide for Thoughtful Parents at https://whenkidssaytheyretrans.com/ Join Our Listener Community to Access Exclusive Content...2024-06-211h 09
Gender: A Wider Lens168 - Bad Therapy and Irreversible Damage with Abigail ShrierSasha and Stella welcome author and journalist Abigail Shrier to the show, and what a remarkable conversation exploring the impact of mental health culture on young people and families, how therapeutic attitudes are shaping schools and parenting practices, and the adverse effects of specific social and psychological interventions on youth.For links and resources relevant to this episode, access the full show notes at https://www.widerlenspod.com/p/episode-168 Buy Our Book – When Kids Say They’re Trans: A Guide for Thoughtful Parents at https://whenkidssaytheyretrans.com/ Join Our Listener Community to Access...2024-06-141h 02
Gender: A Wider Lens167 - Dawn of the Detransitioner Lawsuits, with Josh PayneIn this episode, Sasha and Stella welcome lawyer, Josh Payne, co-founder of Campbell Miller Payne, a law firm dedicated to representing individuals who were misled and abused – many as children – into psychological and physical harm through a false promise of “gender-affirming care.” Campbell Miller Payne is committed to its mission to speak up for these victims, assert their rights, and pursue justice.This is a conversation about various legal challenges faced by detransitioners, such as issues with informed consent, systemic healthcare problems, and the experimental nature of many treatments. The discussion emphasizes the vulnerability of clients, the lack of...2024-06-071h 05
Gender: A Wider Lens166 - Dr. Joshua Coleman and How Parents Can Heal or Prevent EstrangementIn this episode, Sasha and Stella delve into the intricate world of family estrangement with psychologist and author, Dr. Joshua Coleman. Coleman's insights highlight the complexity and emotional strain of estrangement, emphasizing empathy, responsibility, and strategic communication as essential tools for parents navigating these challenging dynamics.For links and resources relevant to this episode, access the full show notes at https://www.widerlenspod.com/p/episode-166 Buy Our Book – When Kids Say They’re Trans: A Guide for Thoughtful Parents at https://whenkidssaytheyretrans.com/ Join Our Listener Community to Access Exclusive Content at https...2024-05-311h 09
Gender: A Wider Lens165 - Meghan Daum Wants Women To Stop Silencing ThemselvesSasha and Stella sit down with the multifaceted Meghan Daum, distinguished author, cultural commentator, and fellow podcast host, for a compelling exploration of societal change, the complexities of modern life, and coping through humor. Known for her incisive commentary and fearless exploration of complex topics, Meghan shares her personal reflections on identity and the central and contentious nature of gender in modern culture.For links and resources relevant to this episode, access the full show notes at https://www.widerlenspod.com/p/episode-165 Buy Our Book – When Kids Say They’re Trans: A Guide for Thoug...2024-05-241h 09
Gender: A Wider Lens164 - Gen Z and the Agony of a Screen-based Life with Freya IndiaStella and Sasha welcome writer and columnist Freya India to the show this week, offering deep insights about the impact of screens and technology on young people and practical advice for balanced living in the digital age. They explore Gen Z's relationship with Instagram and dating apps, the fixation on mental illness and identity, and the misleading notion that you can buy your authentic self.For links and resources relevant to this episode, access the full show notes at https://www.widerlenspod.com/p/episode-164 Buy Our Book – When Kids Say They’re Trans: A Guide...2024-05-171h 08
Gender: A Wider Lens163 - Trans Ideology is a Restriction of Freedom, Not an Expansion of It, with Heather HeyingEvolutionary biology, gender dynamics, societal norms, chemicals, technology…there is no denying the intricate interplay between biological, psychological, technological and cultural factors in shaping human behavior and identity. Sasha and Stella welcome guest, Heather Heying to the show for a grounding conversation exploring the complexity of human behavior, the inevitability of making mistakes, the anxieties and fears prevalent among the younger generation, and the importance of understanding risk thresholds in navigating life's uncertainties.For links and resources relevant to this episode, access the full show notes at https://www.widerlenspod.com/p/episode-163 Buy Our Bo...2024-05-101h 11
Gender: A Wider Lens162 - The Over-treatment of Young PeopleThis episode covers a lot of ground, emphasizing the complexities of therapy, the necessity for critical examination of conventional wisdom, and the importance of nurturing authentic relationships both inside the family and social circles (but more specifically, outside of the clinical setting).For links and resources relevant to this episode, access the full show notes at https://www.widerlenspod.com/p/episode-162 Buy Our Book – When Kids Say They’re Trans: A Guide for Thoughtful Parents at https://whenkidssaytheyretrans.com/ Join Our Listener Community to Access Exclusive Content at https://www.widerle...2024-05-031h 04
Gender: A Wider Lens161 - The Unlikely Whistleblower with Tamara PietzkeIf you work in pediatric gender medicine and have concerns about the safety of practice, you are not alone. Contact the LGBT Courage Coalition for guidance and support (including finding legal counsel and connecting you with media contacts).Stella and Sasha welcome whistleblower, Tamara Pietzke for an important conversation highlighting the valuable role that clinicians who are able to speak openly play in revealing insights from ‘behind the gender affirming care curtain’.Tamara’s story highlights the challenges and ethical dilemmas involved in providing gender-affirming care to children and the difficulties whistleblowers are facing in speaki...2024-04-261h 01
Gender: A Wider Lens160 - People Deserve Better Than This "Gender-Affirming Care" with Christina ButtonsThis episode opens with an extended introduction exploring the recent release of The Cass Review - Final Report, as this is a massive development in the world of gender medicalization. The guest feature begins at the 00:10:30 timestamp, so please feel free to skip ahead if you’d like.Sasha and Stella welcome guest, Christina Buttons, for a special conversation covering everything from her personal experiences with autism, her troubled adolescence, and her work as an investigative journalist, to her awakening to gender issues and her extensive research efforts. The episode gets into the concept of str...2024-04-191h 14
Gender: A Wider Lens159 - From Opioids to Gender, How Harmful Policies Scale in our Modern Healthcare System with Dr. Carrie MendozaSasha and Stella welcome Dr. Carrie Mendoza back to the show for her second appearance with the Wider Lens duo. Together, they dive into crucial topics surrounding medical practice, healthcare education, ethical healthcare standards and policy implementation in healthcare administration. Carrie’s insights draw from her experience with the opioid epidemic, highlighting the lessons learned about its origin, scale, and mitigation, shedding light on how these insights can inform our understanding of medicalizing radical gender ideology and preventing its harm.For links and resources relevant to this episode, access the full show notes at https://www.widerlenspod.co...2024-04-121h 05
Gender: A Wider Lens158 - The Little-Known Shocking History of Gender Identity Ideology with Malcolm ClarkIn this episode, Sasha and Stella welcome Malcolm Clark for a really interesting conversation exploring various facets of historical ideas and identities around gender, homosexuality, and the evolution of identity activism. This discussion navigates the intricate and contentious terrain of understanding gender non-conformity and identity expression across history. For links and resources relevant to this episode, access the full show notes at https://www.widerlenspod.com/p/episode-158 Buy Our Book – When Kids Say They’re Trans: A Guide for Thoughtful Parents at https://whenkidssaytheyretrans.com/ Join Our Listener Community to Access...2024-04-051h 03
Gender: A Wider Lens157 - Is Our Culture Incentivizing Men to Transition? with Sascha BaileyGuest, Sascha Bailey, reflects on his journey as a model, art curator, and pioneer in the NFT (Non-Fungible Tokens) art scene. A captivating account of the intersection where art, tech, and culture collide with personal identity. Sascha differentiates between emotional and functional motives for transitioning, discussing transmaxxing, incentives, and societal trends. Offering listeners a blend of unexpected insights, even challenging hosts, Sasha and Stella, to step outside their familiar gender-centric framework.For links and resources relevant to this episode, access the full show notes at https://www.widerlenspod.com/p/episode-157 Buy Our B...2024-03-291h 05
Gender: A Wider Lens156 - "WPATH Has No Respect for Medical Ethics" with Mia HughesSasha and Stella welcome Mia Hughes to the show for a chilling conversation covering WPATH's evolution from a medical organization to an activist-driven group, societal implications of medical scandals across history, and the delicate distinctions within individual experiences of gender dysphoria.For links and resources relevant to this episode, access the full show notes at https://www.widerlenspod.com/p/episode-156Buy Our Book – When Kids Say They’re Trans: A Guide for Thoughtful Parents at https://whenkidssaytheyretrans.com/ Join Our Listener Community to Access Exclusive Content at https://www.widerlenspod.com/ Supp...2024-03-221h 08
Gender: A Wider Lens155 - Loop de Loops and Deepities of Sex and Gender with Colin WrightGender, sex, intersex conditions, hormonal interventions, sexual signaling, behavioral differences…this episode covers them all. Sasha and Stella welcome evolutionary biologist, Dr. Colin Wright for a long overdue discussion going deep into the intersection of biology, psychology, and social factors in shaping our understanding of sex and gender. This is a refreshing conversation exploring insights into the evolving discourse surrounding trans identities, the distinction between sex and gender, the principles of scientific inquiry, behavioral development, sexual orientation, and societal perceptions. There is no denying that Colin's expertise and clarity of thought contribute to a nuanced discussion on these complex to...2024-03-151h 05
Gender: A Wider Lens154 - "My Entire Childhood Was Medicalized" with ScarletSasha and Stella share a profound and moving conversation with Scarlet, a young person who just wants “my story to add to the conversation around the impacts of transitioning as a youth - physically, mentally, and socially - both positives and negatives.” A crucial Detransition Awareness Day exploration of the nuances of self-discovery in a gender-affirming landscape. For links and resources relevant to this episode, access the full show notes at https://www.widerlenspod.com/p/episode-154 Buy Our Book – When Kids Say They’re Trans: A Guide for Thoughtful Parents at https://whenkidssaytheyretrans.com/ Join...2024-03-121h 34
Gender: A Wider Lens153 - Why Smart, Quirky, Artistic Girls Take Up the Transition Fantasy w/Laura BeckerWith Stella on break this week, a solo Sasha welcomes guest Laura Becker who offers insightful and endearing reflections about the misdirected creativity of ROGD girls being channeled into queer theory ideas. She shares some intimate details of her personal story including the impact of chronic abuse on her mental health, her journey on testosterone, her radical double mastectomy, and her decision to detransition.For links and resources relevant to this episode, access the full show notes at https://www.widerlenspod.com/p/episode-153 Buy Our Book – When Kids Say They’re Trans: A Gui...2024-03-081h 03
Gender: A Wider Lens152 - Trapped in a Language Cul-De-Sac with Kathleen StockSasha and Stella welcome Dr. Kathleen Stock. Explore the complexities of identity, the nuances of “inclusive” language, societal expectations, and the balance between fiction and truth. Uncover the implicit importance honest, empathetic discussions rooted in truthful language for fostering self-discovery and acceptance.For links and resources relevant to this episode, access the full show notes at https://www.widerlenspod.com/p/episode-152 Buy Our Book – When Kids Say They’re Trans: A Guide for Thoughtful Parents at https://whenkidssaytheyretrans.com/ Join Our Listener Community to Access Exclusive Content at https://www.widerlensp...2024-03-011h 04
Gender: A Wider Lens151 - "These Doctors Have Forgotten the Meaning of Medicine" with Dr. Eithan HaimWith such a scarcity of voices from the surgical community chiming in on about their insights and reflections on gender-affirming care, Sasha and Stella eagerly welcome Dr. Eithan Haim to share his compelling perspective on his experiences and observations at a leading pediatric hospital in the United States.For links and resources relevant to this episode, access the full show notes at https://www.widerlenspod.com/p/episode-151 @EithanHaim on X(Twitter) - https://twitter.com/EithanHaimLegal Defense Fund for Surgeon Whistleblower - https://www.givesendgo.com/texas_whistleblowerBuy O...2024-02-231h 03
Gender: A Wider Lens150 - The Consumerism of Gender-Affirming Care with Leor SapirJoin Sasha and Stella in welcoming Leor Sapir back to the show. In addition to hearing his analysis of the recent New York Times piece by Pamela Paul on youth gender medicine and detransition, listen as they explore comparisons between gender medicine and consumer-driven cosmetic practices, bans on gender-affirming care in the United States, the fostering of narcissism, and parallels with the recovered memory craze from the 1990s.For links and resources relevant to this episode, access the full show notes at https://www.widerlenspod.com/p/episode-150Manhattan Institute - Leor Sapir...2024-02-161h 06
Gender: A Wider Lens149: Walking My ROGD Daughter Through Desistance with January LittlejohnJoin January Littlejohn in this powerful episode as she shares the impact of her daughter's school facilitating social transition without parental consent. Uncover the challenges, strategies, and emotional turmoil of navigating desistance while fighting against a prevailing ideology. Learn about repairing parent-child relationships, setting boundaries, and embracing a radical reset. January's story sheds light on the urgent need for awareness and critical thinking in the face of a misguided ideological wave affecting families.For links and resources relevant to this episode, access the full show notes at https://www.widerlenspod.com/p/episode-149 B...2024-02-091h 04
Gender: A Wider Lens148 - Identity Indoctrination & the Black Hole of GenderIn this episode, Sasha and Stella explore the complexities facing therapists curious about supporting gender dysphoric patients. Join us for a well-rounded take on investing in the process, embracing client-therapist dynamics, managing differing worldviews, and leaning into the fundamental therapeutic value of asking questions.For links and resources relevant to this episode, access the full show notes at https://www.widerlenspod.com/p/episode-148Buy Our Book – When Kids Say They’re Trans: A Guide for Thoughtful Parents at https://whenkidssaytheyretrans.com/ Join Our Listener Community to Access Exclusive Content at https...2024-02-021h 06
Gender: A Wider Lens147 - Can We Win the Gender Culture War in 2024?Happy 3-year anniversary to Gender: A Wider Lens! This episode marks the celebration of Sasha & Stella’s third year together sharing insightful conversations contemplating gender from a depth perspective.From engaging listener comments, to memorable guests, to unforgettable aha moments, this episode is packed full. Sasha and Stella share their big takeaways from 2023 and reflect on the incredible journey since their first episode was released in 2020. They highlight some of the fan-favorite episodes from all three seasons, showcasing the evolution of the podcast, and they share about anticipated guests and topics planned for 2024....2023-12-221h 06
Gender: A Wider Lens142 - When Gender Hits the Holidays Part 2Sasha and Stella join forces for a “Part 2” episode about navigating family dynamics during the holidays for families with trans identified children or young adults. This conversation touches on the complexities of estrangement, handling relationships with trans-identified partners, the delicate balance between intervention and bonding, with a focus on managing emotions, setting boundaries, and fostering open conversations within the family. Sasha and Stella carefully remind parents that conflict and distress can be part of the unfolding sense of character and personality development during adolescence. They also emphasize the importance of self-care when coping with holiday stress and givin...2023-11-2157 min
Gender: A Wider Lens140 - Gender: A Wider Lens Live from Denver with Chloe ColeWelcome to a special edition of Gender: A Wider Lens podcast! Recorded live from Genspect’s The Bigger Picture Conference in November 2023 from Denver, CO, USA with special guest in-person appearance from the delightful detransitioner, Chloe Cole. Hear Chloe share candidly about her journey through gender transition and detransition. From the challenges of societal expectations and the pressure to conform to gender norms, to the emotional impact of undergoing hormone therapy and a double mastectomy all before the age of sixteen. Chloe opens up about the highs and lows of her trans identity experience. Discover how she navigated the co...2023-11-101h 14
Gender: A Wider Lens134 - Genspect’s “The Bigger Picture” Comes to DenverJoin Stella and Sasha as they discuss the exciting lineup of speakers and topics at the upcoming conference in Denver. From brain sex to the opioid epidemic, gender ideology to detransition stories, this event promises to be intellectually stimulating, heartwarming, and inspiring. Don't miss the chance to meet these influential voices in person and engage in important conversations.Explore Genspect’s The Bigger Picture Conference in Denver this November! Be there for enlightening discussions on gender, politics, and society. Experts from diverse backgrounds, including biology, psychology, law, and more, will tackle essential topics. Discover a nuanced approach to...2023-10-0437 min
Gender: A Wider Lens127 - Help! Gender Is a Mess at My School: For Teachers, Counselors, & AdministratorsAdolescence is a natural time for identity exploration. In this episode, Sasha and Stella address the challenges schools face when dealing with students questioning their gender identities. They focus on strategies for finding a balanced approach, honoring students' self-expression, preserving opportunities for further developmental progress and discovery, and respecting family dynamics. They highlight the pressure on schools to quickly respond and adopt policies, often without sufficient evidence of their effectiveness. They discuss the misconception that social transition is the only solution, questioning the long-term efficacy of this intervention and its potential for unintended psychological consequences. The conversation also touches...2023-08-181h 09
Gender: A Wider Lens126 - Hot Takes: Sasha & Stella Revisit Controversies from Season 3Sasha and Stella take time together to dig deeper in reflection and analysis from some of their recent episodes. They also chat a little bit about a few of their latest projects and endeavors including their upcoming book release: When Kids Say They’re Trans: A Guide for Thoughtful Parents. Visit whenkidssaytheyretrans.com to pre-order your copy of the book before Aug 25th and request an invite to their free webinar: When Kids Say They’re Trans: Do’s, Don’ts and Damage Control.This episode also offers the official announcement with details of their 2023 live parent event. R...2023-08-111h 00
Gender: A Wider Lens122 - We Wrote a Book: When Kids Say They're Trans | A Guide for Thoughtful ParentsThere are so many books available for parents who want to help their kids transition, right? Of course there's no shortage of affirmative guidebooks for parents. But there are very few books written for parents about how to actually encourage critical thinking, how to slow down, exercise caution about the medical interventions and focus on developmental health first. Family dynamics and attachment are each key variables that are important not to neglect. Sasha and Stella joined forces with Lisa Marchiano to write "When Kids Say They're Trans: A Guide for Thoughtful Parents" because they wanted to give parents a...2023-07-141h 05
Gender: A Wider LensFollow-Up Episode: 116 Part II - Retraction w/ Dr. Michael BaileyBONUS EPISODE coming in hot! We’re changing things up a bit this time around, in a few ways actually. Consider this some special mid-week bonus content for our dedicated listeners and the many, many professionals following the gender paper trails. And not only is it a surprise extra conversation for the week, you’ll notice that our dear Stella O’Malley is flying solo without her charismatic co-host Sasha Ayad. Not to fear, Sasha will return for our regularly scheduled programming!Today, we’re bringing you an update to one of our previous episodes...2023-07-1237 min
Gender: A Wider Lens112 — Jamie Reed: “Every Ethical Line I Drew Was Walked On… We Are Hurting People”In this episode, hear a personal first-hand whistleblower account of the harmful practices taking place inside an American gender clinic. Jamie Reed, a former Case Manager at the Washington University School of Medicine Pediatric Transgender Center at St Louis Children’s Hospital reflects on her experiences inside the clinic that ultimately lead to her profound decision to file for whistleblower protection from the Missouri Attorney General’s office to publicly express her concerns with the judgment and care provided for the patients at the gender clinic.Jamie, who herself identifies in the LGBTQIA community and is also a pr...2023-05-051h 13
Gender: A Wider Lens111 — Affirmation Therapy: Necessary, But Not SufficientUntil recently in many parts of Europe, and currently in the United States and Canada, the affirmative model of care is the primary practice in place for working with gender-nonconforming and gender-diverse youth and children. In this episode, Stella and Sasha put some intention into a deeper exploration of what affirmation therapy is exactly. They take time flushing out not just what it is but also facilitate consideration of what it means and what it achieves. Together they reflect on where the concept of affirming therapy came from, how it evolved into its current practice, when a clinician follows...2023-04-211h 06
Gender: A Wider Lens108 — Genspect Vision: The Bigger Picture with Joe Burgo & Alasdair GunnIn this episode, Stella & Sasha talk with Joe Burgo and Alasdair Gunn about the Genspect’s new direction and the upcoming first-ever live event. As you will hear them discuss, the Genspect Conference, themed “The Bigger Picture,” will bring together experts from many fields holding a myriad of perspectives: eminent scientists, researchers, lawyers, doctors, psychologists, psychiatrists, psychotherapists, sociologists, educators, feminists, and some well-known detransitioners.Guest Joe Burgo is a clinical psychologist and psychoanalyst who’s been in practice for almost 40 years. He’s particularly interested in the concept of narcissism and shame. He’s also a really big part of...2023-03-311h 03
Gender: A Wider Lens107 — What Your Teen is Trying to Tell YouIn this episode, the Wider Lens duo takes a slight detour from gender to explore teenage years from a developmental approach and how parents can better connect with and support their teen children through a challenging but powerful season of life — adolescence.Sasha interviews Stella about her latest book, What Your Teen is Trying to Tell You. The book empowers parents to distinguish between opportunities in which intervention makes sense or moments that are best left for the teens to work out for themselves. Reviewed as somewhat of a deep dive into the teenage brain, the book pr...2023-03-241h 00
Gender: A Wider Lens103 — Follow the Gender-brick Road: from Bi to Pan to TransMany young people who first claim to be bisexual will later identify as pansexual and then trans. Sasha and Stella discuss this common but contemporary pathway to trans identification and analyze why this might be happening and what it could mean subconsciously. They offer parents some ideas for how to engage their child during this time of exploration.Sasha and Stella both have parent coaching membership sites that offer an expansive catalog of resources curated to support and empower parents of gender-questioning teens and young adults. Depending on the membership level, you have access to full-length in-depth...2023-02-2455 min
Gender: A Wider Lens100 — Falling Down the Gender Rabbit Hole: A Tale of Two TherapistsSasha & Stella take a walk down “memory lane,” recalling the evolution of events and circumstances that lead them each towards a deeper concentration on gender identity exploration in their work. With very different stories to tell, they each share their observations of society at large and describe their individual experiences within the culture of their communities and in their workspaces. They explain what intrigued them and led them to explore deeper questions about identity development, dive into the research behind gender affirmative care and gender reassignment surgery, gender stereotypes, and basic human development in general.They also refl...2023-02-031h 19
Gender: A Wider LensTOP 5 of 2022 Countdown: #2 EP 69 - Pioneers Series: Post-Series Analysis & Break!This episode is being rereleased as part of our Top 5 Episodes of 2022 Countdown! We have completed eleven interviews and today we analyze the second half of our Pioneers Series. Stella and I discuss the psychological and emotional impact of some recent interviews. We review the shocking discussions we’ve had with several of our guests and reflect on the flawed Dutch Protocol, which is often held up as the gold standard in childhood dysphoria medical treatment. Dr. Anne Lawrence’s reflections on Autogynephilia and the extreme measures she feels some might take are discussed in the context of th...2023-01-201h 06
Gender: A Wider Lens80 — Desistance Part II — Advice for ParentsFollowing on from the first episode on desistance (77), Sasha and Stella address a common question they get from parents of gender-questioning children: Could my child be desisting, and if so, how should I respond? The episode begins with a description of how it might look if a child is desisting or developing more psychological flexibility around gender. Then, they explore the many different responses parents can have when they suspect their child is in a desistance process. Commonalities among parents of desisted kids are discussed, and Sasha and Stella offer some practical advice for parents who may be confused...2022-07-291h 01
Gender: A Wider Lens77 — Desistance Pt 1 — Accepting Reality: Now vs ThenThis is Part 1 of a 2-part series on desistance. The difference between desistance and detransition is quite stark and in this episode, Sasha and Stella focus on the complex experience of desistance. How might a child come to desist? What facilitates or hinders this process, and what complicated feelings go along with this experience? Sasha and Stella also discuss the changes that have arisen in recent years and how compared to previous generations, society today responds very differently to children with gender dysphoria. In the next episode on desistance, EP 80, Sasha and Stella will help answer the question: How...2022-07-0858 min
Gender: A Wider Lens74 - Detransition - Part 1: Going Back & Moving ForwardIn today’s episode, Stella and I begin our discussion of detransition. This is an incredibly rich, important, and complex topic, and we certainly don’t think we can lift up EVERY aspect of it. But in this episode, and episode 76 (the one after next), we’ll begin to explore detransition. Today, you’ll hear our initial observations and some random musings. We touch on some of the patterns and dynamics we’ve observed and how things have evolved in the world of detransition over the last several years. We highlight the vast differences between people’s experiences of detransition...2022-06-171h 06
Gender: A Wider Lens72 - Disenchanted by TransitionThis episode was made especially for anybody who might feel a sense of regret or anxiety about their medical transition. This does not mean they should necessarily detransition. Rather, it means that they are undergoing a reckoning with themselves. While some people choose to detransition, others are deeply ambivalent about transition but may feel they are “at a point of no return” and choose to remain in a trans identity. Others may find the detransition process too difficult and disappointing and decide to retransition. Sasha and Stella explore the blurry lines between terms like “transition” “detransition” and “transition regret” and hope to help...2022-06-031h 01
Gender: A Wider Lens70 - We're Back! — Parents Lost in a Medical ScandalWe’re back! Sasha and Stella update listeners with how they’ve spent their six-week break and jump right into discussing the plight of parents whose kids are experiencing gender distress. The first-ever in-person Wider Lens retreat for parents was held in Maryland in March 2022. This was a profound experience for the attendees and also for Sasha and Stella, who reflect today upon the common themes picked up at the retreat. These include medical negligence, parental guilt, and the transformative and comforting power of connection that emerged between parents who truly understand each other. Forthcoming plans for Season Two are...2022-05-201h 01
Gender: A Wider Lens69 - Pioneers Series: Post-Series Analysis & Break!We have completed eleven interviews and today we analyze the second half of our Pioneers Series. Stella and I discuss the psychological and emotional impact of some recent interviews. We review the shocking discussions we’ve had with several of our guests and reflect on the flawed Dutch Protocol, which is often held up as the gold standard in childhood dysphoria medical treatment. Dr. Anne Lawrence’s reflections on Autogynephilia and the extreme measures she feels some might take are discussed in the context of the Dutch researcher’s interview. We also think back about the role Az Hakeem’s groups...2022-04-011h 05
Gender: A Wider Lens63 - Pioneers: Mid-Series AnalysisSasha and Stella sit down to discuss their thoughts and reflections on the Pioneer interviews they’ve conducted so far in the series. This analysis attempts to synthesize what they’ve learned, what differences in perspective they hold compared to their previous guests, and reiterate the importance of these discussions within the wider context of childhood transition, scientific inquiry, and deep exploration of all things gender. Links:Butch Identity DevelopmentExtended NotesSasha and Stella give a mid-series update on some of the thoughts they have had so far and talk...2022-02-181h 03
Gender: A Wider Lens56 - New Year’s Resolutions & Introducing the “Pioneers Series”For Sasha and Stella’s last episode of the year, they introduce a very exciting series that will be coming up in 2022. In the “Pioneers Series,” they will be interviewing experienced clinicians, researchers, and other professionals whose contributions to our understanding of gender dysphoria and sexuality are foundational. Consider this a back-to-basics 101 course on gender and sexuality. Stella and Sasha also talk about their own personal goals and priorities for the new year. They offer up 10 resolutions that listeners might focus on along with them as we all move into 2022. Links:100...2021-12-311h 02
Gender: A Wider Lens53 - You Affirmed Your Child's Gender... How to Roll BackSometimes parents come to realize that the affirmative approach hasn’t worked out for their gender-distressed child and they could benefit from alternative approaches. In this episode, Sasha and Stella discuss the many complicated reasons some parents reluctantly affirm their child’s gender and how difficult and brave it can be to rethink the strategy. Parenting styles are explored, and Sasha and Stella point out the importance of finding your confident voice and parenting authority. They also offer tips and suggestions for steering the ship in a better direction once a family has gathered more information and observed an unfa...2021-12-101h 03
Gender: A Wider Lens51 - Clearing of the Pink Mist: A Conversation w/ Debbie HaytonUK transwoman Debbie Hayton discusses how she came to the decision to medically transition when she was a 44-year-old father of 3 children. We discuss Debbie’s appearance in Stella’s film, Trans Kids: It’s Time to Talk and the intense public reaction to her story. Male sexuality, shame, and autogynephilia are explored openly in a bid to gain a deeper understanding of the complicated mosaic of traits that encompass MtF transition. She also shares how she became disillusioned with transgender ideology and coined the phrase, “trans women are men. Get over it.” Links:Criticall...2021-11-261h 08
Gender: A Wider Lens50 - When Gender Hits the HolidaysThe holiday season is often associated with big expectations and high hopes. It can be fraught for families, whether they are going through challenging times with a child’s gender identity. Sasha and Stella discuss the meaning of extended family, big celebrations, and how to keep the stakes low and reasonable during the holidays. They also discuss the holidays as a time some young people try to ‘come out,’ while others feel hesitant to reconnect with loved ones who haven’t yet seen their new ‘gender presentation.’ Sasha and Stella also provide practical strategies that families can use to recruit lovin...2021-11-191h 02
Gender: A Wider Lens43 - Sasha & Stella Answer Your Questions: Part 3The listeners’ questions continue to absorb our interest and influence our discussion. The issue of power struggles between parents and children has been raised along with a special focus on knowing when to hold ’em and when to fold ’em. The script that trans-identified teenagers often use to declare their trans identification is outlined and Sasha & Stella discuss a kind of counter script for parents. Finally, we suggest a liberal parents’ guide to explaining your child’s gender-related distress with friends, neighbors, and the wider community.Links:Sasha’s Video: Effects of Affirmation: Gender Identity vs Sexual Or...2021-10-011h 06
Gender: A Wider Lens32 - StereotypesAre stereotypes always harmful? Should we use stereotypes to predict and impose behaviors and preferences onto others? Some people believe transgender identities defy stereotypes while others believe they reify them. And where does stereotyping come from? This is a mental shortcut with complex roots and crucial implications for the gender debates.Links:Carole Hooven: Testosterone: The Story of the Hormone that dominates and Divides Us Noam Shpancer: Stereotype Accuracy: A displeasing truth Extended NotesThere are so many stereotypes in this space. What’s the right definition of ge...2021-07-161h 00
Gender: A Wider Lens30 — Sasha & Stella Answer Your Questions: Part 2Sasha and Stella answer listener questions… again! They start by highlighting recent episodes inspired by listener feedback. Next, they discuss the financial implications and complexities involved in adult children using their parents’ medical insurance. They reflect on the different roles that can emerge between mothers and fathers of gender dysphoric youth. Other questions address the similarities between body dysmorphia, gender dysphoria, OCD, and other ruminative anxieties.Links:Activist Perspective on Body Dysmorphia & Gender Dysphoria Austenhartke.com/blog/2015/5/19/o08szlrrhc8jaasya9s285qenydpy6 Homosexual OCD: Centerforanxietydisorders.com/treatment-programs/obsessive...2021-07-021h 00
Gender: A Wider Lens28 - Behind the Curtain: Wrapping Up Gender Exploratory TherapyAs they wrap up their initial Behind the Curtain series , Sasha and Stella discuss important issues surrounding the termination of therapy. How do we know when the therapeutic process should end? Does a resolution of gender dysphoria mean it’s time to end the therapeutic relationship? Does the start of a medical transition indicate a good time to end? And how can therapists leave the door open for a client who may want to return at a later date? Extended Notes● When a long-term client leaves. It can be a bittersweet moment.● If the therapy process is work...2021-06-181h 02
Gender: A Wider Lens26 - Behind the Curtain: Depth Work in Gender Exploratory Therapy - Part IISasha and Stella continue their series which peers behind the curtain of depth work with gender-questioning clients. Today, they weave in philosophy and psychology to discuss the importance of authenticity, happiness, and connectedness. They also explore the value of art in the slow evolving process of an emergent Self.Links:The Catcher in the Rye: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/5107.The_Catcher_in_the_Rye The Bell Jar : https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/6514.The_Bell_Jar Taxi Driver: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Taxi_Driver The Scream: https...2021-06-041h 03
Gender: A Wider Lens25 - Behind the Curtain: Depth Work in Gender Exploratory TherapyAfter the therapist has laid the foundations of therapy and established a trusting relationship, the process moves into the middle stage. This is the meat of the therapy! In this episode, Sasha and Stella explore the dynamics that can elicit change in the individual. They consider the curious vs. fixed client, self-esteem issues, broadening the client’s focus, and how to speak meaningfully about gender in therapy.Links:The Importance of an Unhappy Adolescence: Youtube.com/watch?v=zcUI1Hk0GRU&feature=emb_title Gender Care Consumer Advocacy Network: Gccan.org2021-05-281h 04
Gender: A Wider Lens24 - Behind the Curtain: Getting Started In Gender Exploratory TherapyThis is the first episode in a short series which takes listeners behind the scenes of a gender exploratory therapy process. Although there has been plenty written about Gender Affirmative Therapy, very little has been written about a concept often described as Gender Exploratory Therapy. Sasha and Stella discuss the specifics of establishing a therapeutic alliance when a person is questioning their gender identity. They describe different strategies involving issues such as names, pronouns, clothes and hairstyles and reflect on the different stages of therapy, which they’ll discuss in subsequent series episodes. Anastassis Spiliadis: ‘Taking the lid...2021-05-211h 03
Gender: A Wider Lens23 - Sasha & Stella Answer Your QuestionsIn today’s episode, we begin to answer some of the many questions sent to us by listeners.Can we be born in the wrong body? Do parental role models influence children to reject or seek transition? What is the impact of a trans partner on a teenagers’ sexuality? How do siblings of trans people experience these changes in the family?Listen in to see if your question was answered and how Sasha and Stella plan to explore these topics in future episodes.Links:TED Talks — “Own Your Face” Happiness isn’t found in y...2021-05-141h 11
Gender: A Wider Lens18 - COVID, Dysphoria & Listener Shout-OutsThis last year of lockdown has been a strange and unsettling time for many. We have heard reports of gender issues escalating rapidly and we have also heard accounts of people leaving all thoughts of gender identity far behind. The impact of our restricted lifestyle on our mental health is explored and some strategies that might help in these difficult times are suggested. Stella and Sasha give listeners from around the globe shout-outs and audience members are invited to request future show topics and to share their burning gender questions.Links:Msnet thread: Mumsnet.com/Talk...2021-04-0959 min
Gender: A Wider Lens13 - Are Brilliant People More Likely Trans?Gifted and exceptional children seem more inclined to gender nonconformity and they represent a significant proportion of the ROGD teens discussed in Dr. Littman’s research. Sasha and Stella explore why there may be a link between brilliance and transgender identity.Links:“Overexcitability and the Gifted”, by Sharon Lind“Where Overexcitability and Gender Dysphoria Meet,” by Jessie Mannisto“Gender Identity and Overexcitability Profiles of Gifted College Students” Researchgate (2009)“Gender Dysphoria and Gifted Children,” by Lisa MarchianoDr. Lisa LittmanLiving with Intensity: Understanding the Sensitivity, Excitability, and the Emotional Development of Gifted Children, Adolescents, and Adults, Edited by Susan Daniels and Mi...2021-03-051h 02
Gender: A Wider Lens12 - Identity vs Role Confusion in AdolescenceThe psychologist Erik Erickson’s theory of psychosocial development makes some essential observations about the period of adolescence and identifies the questions at this phase of life as “Who Am I?” and “What can I Be?”. Sasha and Stella examine this developmental period and ask how the concept of gender identity lays atop the teenage struggle for belonging, individuation, sexual development, and autonomy.Links:The Adolescent Psyche: Jungian and Winnicottian Perspectives, by Richard Frankel Untangled: Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions into Adulthood, by Lisa Damour, Ph.D.Hold on to Your Kids: Guiding Teenage Girls Throug...2021-02-261h 02
Gender: A Wider Lens10 - Queer Theory: Subverting Life's CategoriesFew people are aware of how much the political discussion around gender and sexuality has been touched by queer theory. This philosophy questions how we know what we know and turns hierarchies on their heads. Sasha and Stella explore the “smashing of binaries” in their therapeutic work and personal lives and discuss the positive and negative outcomes of taking queer theory thinking to its limits.Links:Butler, Judith (2007). Gender Trouble: Feminism and the Subversion of Identity. Routledge.Jagose, Annamarie (1996). Queer Theory: An introduction (Reprint. ed.). New York: New York Univ. PressFoucault, Michel (1978) [1976] The History of Sexuality: Volume 1...2021-02-121h 03
Gender: A Wider Lens7 - Collective CollusionIn therapy, collusion happens when the therapist (consciously or unconsciously) participates in a client’s bid to avoid an important issue instead of helping the client to gain a deeper understanding or take a more helpful perspective. In the collective, society has colluded with the fantasy of gender identity, much to the detriment of dysphoric and transgender people themselves. Sasha and Stella discuss what factors contribute to this kind of collusion and how individuals have the power to steer us towards a more truthful and thoughtful direction.Links:JK Rowling Essay: Jkrowling.com/opinions/j-k-rowling-writes-about-her-reasons-for-speaking-out-on-sex-and-gender-issues/Pluralistic Ig...2021-01-221h 00
Gender: A Wider LensHormonal Interventions — from Fringe to Mainstream: A conversation with Dr. Will MaloneQuick Notes
Endocrinologist Will Malone joins Sasha and Stella to discuss the pivotal position that endocrinologists have in the new practice of childhood transition. In this conversation, Will describes attending a conference in 2017 run by the Endocrine Society where suddenly everything related to trans healthcare appeared to shift, without any discussion or analysis.
Extended Notes
A quick introduction about Dr. Will Malone.
How did Dr. Will get involved in this field?
Dr. Will was seeing small clusters of females declaring they were trans. What was going on?
Primary doctors were calling Dr. Will for help. They had never seen anything...2021-01-081h 18
Secrets of the Motherworld“It's the world that's crazy -- not us parents.”“Hi Lisa and Stella. This is not so much of a question, but a warm and heartfelt THANK YOU. I think (hope!) that we're slowly getting to the end of some really tough years. Two years ago our youngest daughter at 13 rapidly developed anxiety and then presented herself as trans. Now I know it was pretty much the usual ROGD-story of no earlier signs, lots of internet contacts and a withdrawal from the family. But we didn't know that at the time. We felt so lonely and desperate, didn't know how to help her. Our con...2020-06-1625 min