Surabhi Maheshwari - Podcast Details

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GuftuguuAnxious AttachmentThe bane of my existence. Talking doesn’t necessarily solve a lot of things, but to know that there are people around who are going through something similar takes a part of the shame away. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/support 2023-08-0850 min

GuftuguuHow does a man know you are the one ?It’s so important in our world what men think, what they feel and who they desire, we spend our lives creating our personalities around it. With all of our equal rights shenanigans, feminist and woke philosophy, the right to choose ultimately rests with men. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/support 2023-06-2514 min

GuftuguuFeeling Small can be BeautifulSo much suffering can come from us feeling like we are too important to suffer. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/support 2023-04-0121 min

GuftuguuHeartbreaks & RejectionsThere‘s plenty of content online , and books to read, about dealing with failures in life, heartbreaks and rejections. There’s just one thing I didn’t come across; that there is honor in failing, there is honor in being rejected, and there is honor in getting your heart broken. We don’t have to walk through it all with shame. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/support 2023-01-1224 min

GuftuguuFemale Role modelsGrowing up, I haven’t seen women who exist for themselves , around me , in movies, in pop culture, anywhere. It’s a tragedy because our generation must learn that. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/support 2022-12-1418 min

GuftuguuThe Grief of Lost TimeA lot is said about the grief that comes with losing people. Nobody talks about the grief of lost time. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/support 2022-10-2417 min

GuftuguuGulon mein rang bhareWhy poetry and prose is so important.. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/support 2022-09-2028 min

GuftuguuHow do I feel at 27 ?Besides being shit scared, obviously.. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/support 2022-08-1625 min

GuftuguuWalking back to our humanityWhy is it so easy for a guy we like to come up to us and tell us that we aren’t attractive, or are fat, or flat, and completely destroy us.. or for a friend who we are very invested in tell us we aren’t fun, and give us very deep scars? I feel like, somehow, as we grow up, we lose touch with the part of ourselves that’s not sellable , but extremely priceless. We forget who we are without the parts of ourselves that are profitable to others. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotif...2022-08-0327 min

GuftuguuWell - traveledWe pride ourselves on being well-traveled. Travel can be enlightening and it can definitely broaden our worlds. But in my experience, a lot of times, as our worlds become bigger, each person in those worlds becomes smaller, and more replaceable. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/support 2022-07-2526 min

GuftuguuWe died for those who didn’t care at allMaybe in the end, it won’t really matter whether or not our love was reciprocated. It’ll matter what we leave behind when we are gone. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/support 2022-06-2012 min

GuftuguuLonelinessIt needs no introduction. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/support 2022-05-3028 min

GuftuguuHum Dekhenge and the Abortion DebateI feel that, for people truly looking for 'Love' , it is very important that they find this love outside of a person. I kinda found a semblance of it in poetry. "Hum Dekhenge" is a nazm by Faiz Ahmad Faiz, about and against the then dictatorial regime of Pakistan. It's like a reminder that freedom is always fought to be achieved and must also be fought to be maintained. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/support 2022-05-0930 min

GuftuguuDear TuffyAn Ode to Tuffy --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/support 2022-05-0424 min

GuftuguuWhy Fight?“We fight , so we don’t have to”- My online Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu instructor. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/support 2022-04-2341 min

GuftuguuRape as a weapon of war ( Why Soldiers Rape)The oldest weapon of war, since the beginning of time. Our ideas of how the state should be run have evolved. Political ideologies have evolved. The technology for wars has evolved. But a single war / riot , a little bit disturbance in the social order, and all that modernity cannot prevent the beast inside us from coming out. Rape as a weapon of war seems to be as old as wars themselves . And the possibility of justice for victims seems to be just as non-existent today as it was before democracy ever became a thing. --- Send in a voice message...2022-04-1923 min

GuftuguuBeen thinkingPoem recitation ( Text available on https://guftuguu.com) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/support 2022-04-1405 min

GuftuguuThe terrible Isolation of a Mental IllnessEvery mental illness brings an isolation that , in my experience, can’t be opted out of. This is my journey with isolation and how I have , may be, learnt to work around it, over the years. There are really no solutions. Just maybe understanding the problem a little better than before. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/support 2022-04-0627 min

GuftuguuHolding two worlds together !!For anyone who migrated thousands of miles away from where they grew up, how do you hold the two worlds together? --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/support 2022-03-2334 min

GuftuguuMy Love Story with New YorkThe most epic love story of my life yet… My longest and most transformative relationship has been my relationship with New York. It wasn't love at first sight. New York grew on me slowly. Over seven years and countless moments, a part of my heart lives there & with everyone I loved there. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/support 2022-03-0649 min

GuftuguuIntensityPerhaps romantic love can be a little more than just a farce. Perhaps there is some truth to two people being able to connect to each other at the same intensity, and not all of it is based on selfish motives or hormonal urges. Maybe there can be something more real that draws two people together. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/support 2022-02-1014 min

GuftuguuThe Weaker Half of a RelationshipPower is never evenly distributed, in any ecosystem. In most relationships, there is a weaker half and there is a stronger half. What makes a person weak in the context of a relationship/ friendship, especially when, in most other areas of life, they may not be weak at all ( or in fact they may be stronger ) ? --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/support 2022-02-0327 min

GuftuguuHumiliation and Injustice - Why we tolerate them ?“ Hatred cannot drive out hatred. Only love can do that”…..Anger cannot fight anger. Violence cannot fight violence. We have all been taught that since childhood. But there has to be a missing link to this argument that no one knows. Real life just doesn’t seem to work like that. ( P.S My very personal take) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/support 2022-01-2147 min

GuftuguuHappinessFor some of us, this state of relative ease with life, that is sometimes called ‘Happiness’, is just not so readily available, or it’s much less available than it is to some others around us. Is Happiness really so important ? --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/support 2022-01-1921 min

GuftuguuWhat advice would you give to your 19 year old self ?The older you grow, the more you start realizing that you have been fed so many lies by the world, by movies, by books, by teachers, even by your parents, and by each other. You wish someone had told you so many things before, you wish you didn’t have to live and learn. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/support 2021-12-2033 min

GuftuguuNo Country for Old MenIs there going to be a day when we have outgrown the world around us ? With age, will there be a day that the world around us no longer makes sense to us; when we are 'overmatched', the world has moved on and the idea of the world we had no longer represents what we see around us..? If yes, what would that age be ? I have never actually seen this theme being touched upon before this movie. The movie is 'No Country for Old Men'. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/s...2021-12-0513 min

GuftuguuTo be in the world but not of it…„I have given them thy word; and the world hath hated them, because they are not of the world, even as I am not of the world“ - John 17:11, 14-15. How do you be, participate and act in the world, and not get swept away by it? Not believe this is all there is..? --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/support 2021-11-2921 min

GuftuguuThe Cool Girl Trope"Men always say that as the defining compliment, don’t they? She’s a cool girl......Cool Girls are above all hot. Hot and understanding. Cool Girls never get angry; they only smile in a chagrined, loving manner and let their men do whatever they want. Go ahead, shit on me, I don’t mind, I’m the Cool Girl........Because “I like strong women” is code for “I hate strong women.” " - Gone Girl, Gillian Flynn One of the most honest, accurate and brilliant pieces of writing I have come across recently. The Cool Girl Trope; This hits much closer to home f...2021-11-1244 min

GuftuguuLoving is an act of absolute Integrity.The world is a Jungle and it is each man for himself and each woman for herself. What would be the place for ideals like compassion, love & peace if we accept this model of the world. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/support 2021-11-0634 min

Guftuguu“Friends For Life”Is there such a thing as a ‘friend for life’..? A lot of religions of the world say things come and go. But a part of us wants to believe at least some things will last for at least one lifetime. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/support 2021-10-2027 min

GuftuguuWho will miss you when you are gone?Meeting people has its perks, but in my experience, the number of people whose lives you touch deeply enough to be missed after you are gone… that’s very rare, regardless of how many you meet. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/support 2021-09-2719 min

GuftuguuSometimes I wannna be that girlThis is just a personal journal/podcast. My experience of being in a woman’s body in this world and the thoughts, insecurities, fears, etc that come with it. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/support 2021-09-2718 min

GuftuguuMy personal Augustus WatersDo we really want a Prince Charming? --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/support 2021-09-1807 min

GuftuguuFinding HomeKisi ko ghar se nikalte hi mil gayi manzil, koi hamare tarah umr bhar Safar me raha - Some found their destination right outside their homes, while some others, like me, kept looking all their lives. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/support 2021-09-1718 min

GuftuguuRelocating across continents at 17 vs 26I relocated from India to the US at 17. Now at 26 I’m about to move to another continent altogether. I saw and felt such stark differences in how I went about the entire thing at both times, and this particular relocation has been such a peculiar experience in my life, that I wanted to record it in time. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/support 2021-08-3123 min

GuftuguuThe Four Ashrams of Life - HinduismA section of Hindu philosophy divides life in 4 stages (or Asharams) - Brahmacharya (Disciple), Grihastha (Householder), Vanprastha (Forest Dweller) and Sanyasa (Renunciation). This was supposed to be the ideal life cycle of a man as he transversed through the material realm while keeping 'Dharma' and 'Moksha' (ultimate liberation from the cycles of birth and death) at the center of it. It is a very fascinating contrast to our lives today, and one, that I thought definitely deserved a discussion. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters...2021-08-2530 min

GuftuguuWho Decides What You Do With Your pain?Who decides how we deal with our pain? Pain is the most fundamental reality of life. Can somone outside of us truly tell us how to deal with our particular pain, to forgive or not, forget or not, drop the pain or not, to make peace with it or not ? (P.S. Continued prayers for Afghanistan, as the world already seems to have moved on to the next piece of sensational news.) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8...2021-08-1929 min

GuftuguuWhose Problem is Afghanistan ?Prayers for the people of Afghanistan. A significant part of the population, especially women, have so much to lose . --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/support 2021-08-1719 min

GuftuguuRegrets, Self-Respect, Dignity & living a life of integrity, etcWhat’s the place for regrets in life? How important is Self respect and Dignity ? And why is integrity so hard to obtain? --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/support 2021-08-0627 min

GuftuguuThe Price You Pay For Having a UterusJust heard something interesting on whether mere careers can bring women the satisfaction and meaning that they need in life , or is having children and getting married necessary to fulfilling life's ultimate purpose (especially for women). These are some thoughts on the same. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/support 2021-08-0128 min

GuftuguuWhat to do when your partner has anxiety ?I have experienced debilitating anxiety myself, and from that space I thought I could provide a few insights on how a partner (or even a friend), who wants to help, can play a part in creating an environment of some kind of healing for their partner so that eventually their mind has some space to resolve or calm the patterns creating anxiety. The idea is not to be a saviour or enabler or justify abusive behaviour citing mental health, but just to be a friend in need, I guess. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify...2021-07-2851 min

GuftuguuValue Differences in Friendships : How can we ever know when to let go ?A lot of us are in and / or around a lot of dysfunctionality as we grow up, and therefore what to expect out of healthy and well functioning friendships or relationships can be next to impossible to picture at first. In this conversation, I’m primarily talking about , the possible scenarios of what happens when our personal values ( as we grow up) severely clash with those of our ‘friends’ , or we start to feel unaccepted or unvalued by our peers or friend groups. BOOK RECOMMENDATION !!! - “Women Who Love Too Much” by Robin Norwood. I have spoken a bit about that in he...2021-07-2435 min

GuftuguuYouth is Wasted on the Young ?I always found this quote so fascinating. Just some Friday night thoughts on why they say this. And what kind of actions might entail actions that are genuinely meaningful. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/support 2021-07-1711 min

GuftuguuWhat is the right place of sex in life ?Not an exhaustive conversation by any means. Just a few key thoughts and observations about how I feel we treat sex, what would be the correct approach towards sex and then the difference I saw in the way it is approached in my ‘own’ culture vs where I live currently. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/support 2021-07-1419 min

GuftuguuMan Cannot Stand a Meaningless Life : LogotherapyCarl Jung said, in one of his interviews from 1959, 'Man Cannot Stand a Meaningless Life'. Victor Frankl, in his book, 'Man's Search for Meaning', says that when people have a why, they can endure any how. He also says that every age has its own mass neurosis, and the neurosis of our age is the neurosis of meaning. He developed his own school of psychotherapy, and his approach towards psychoanalysis, which he called 'Logotherapy'.He proposed that the primary motivation behind all human actions is a desire to meaning. He has written over 20 books in German on the same...2021-07-1139 min

GuftuguuArranged Marriage v/s “Love” MarriageFor several cultures where Arranged Marriages are an alien concept, the entire set up can be looked at as quite outlandish, and sometimes with a bit of condescension. This is my attempt to demystify what really happens in the process of an arranged marriage, strictly as I have seen it around me, and to humanize the entire concept a little bit. The reality of an arranged marriage set up , though with flaws of its own like every other set up, can really be as ‘normal’ & ‘functional’ ( or ‘dysfunctional’ ) as settings where marriages aren’t arranged. --- Send in a voice message: https...2021-07-0831 min

GuftuguuShame : Shame and it’s relationship to Depression.Shame is a very primal human emotion, which I feel isn’t talked about enough in comparison to how big of an influence it has in our personalities, decisions, public demeanor and even the relationship it has with some very serious and chronic mental illnesses. This is my two-bits on shame and how it’s relates to depression and other mental health illnesses, based on my own experience and what I ended up reading after in order to learn more about it. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/message Support this podcast: https://podc...2021-07-041h 00

GuftuguuPain and Art - 1How I think Pain, Conflict and Art are related. P.S. All the Urdu poets I have mentioned in the podcast ( Faiz, Faraz and Ghalib) are dead. Apologies if I spoke of them in the present tense !!! The podcast is in English, except for some pieces of Urdu poetry. And since the topic is too abstract, I have had to take more pauses to formulate my sentences !! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/support 2021-07-0125 min

GuftuguuRape AnxietyConstant thoughts of fear and panic relating to a possible sexual assault, even when a person is in places where they feel relatively safe. This is my experience with what I can call 'Rape Anxiety', and how shockingly common the phenomenon seems to be amongst all genders. P.S. I really hope I spoke sensitively enough for the conversation to not be triggering. But the topic is a difficult one. If you do find any part of the conversation triggering, sincere apologies and suggestions are welcome. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/p...2021-06-2928 min

GuftuguuGive what you want the most !This is one of the ‘10 Guiding Principles’ of City of Joy, a transformational program for women who have been subjected to the horrific trauma of sexual violence as a result of the on-going conflict in Eastern DRC. This is what I learnt from their guiding principles , and me wondering how people , when confronted with unspeakable brutality, can still stand up and try to find beauty and meaning in life. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/support 2021-06-2710 min

GuftuguuIs the idea of romantic love abused ?'Looking for Love', 'Finding Love', 'Losing Love', 'Falling in and out of love' , I think 'love' must be one of the most frequently used words today, and the idea of this 'love', primarily romantic love, and the idea of 'finding the one' and 'living happily ever after' has fueled so many industries worth millions of dollars. This is the journey of my relationship with the word 'Love' and me discovering I don't really know what it means. I have tried to keep it in English primarily, with some Hindi thrown in, in bits ! Hope this is found to be meaningful. ...2021-06-2434 min

GuftuguuPeople ruin beautiful things ?I came across a quote from Khalil Gibran a few days ago. It ended with , 'People ruin beautiful things'. This is a personal anecdote from my life, where I felt something beautiful did not remain beautiful because I shared it. Do you feel this way about something you shared? --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surabhi-maheshwari8/support 2021-06-2231 min