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We Don’t Know w/ SylviaEP 08: F*ck Scarcity – Pleasure, Power & Enough through Adrienne Maree Brown’s Pleasure ActivismIn this episode, I read and discuss with reverence the introduction from adrienne maree brown’s (she/they) book Pleasure Activism: The Politics of Feeling Good. All credit for the words I read goes to adrienne maree brown. I’m sharing these excerpts for commentary and educational purposes, as a way of unpacking and engaging with her ideas.Side note: Dear adrienne (and/or her publishers), if for some reason you’re not down with this, let me know and I’ll take this episode down in a heartbeat. A literal heartbeat. 2025-07-2444 minWe Don’t Know w/ SylviaEP 07: Love, Possession, Resentment & the Lighthouse That Was Andrea GibsonExcavating The Porous Boundaries Between Art and Love. And How Aliveness is a Form of Resistance.This week, I take a walk through Eagle Rock, California, and reflect on what’s been surfacing—grief, impermanence, desire, and the wild fucking ride of trying to stay present when everything’s changing. I read a poem by the late queer poet and kindred Andrea Gibson, and share the ache of not just their loss, but the mourning of all the selves I’ve been… and the paradigms I’ve outgrown—romantic dynamics, old...2025-07-1839 minWe Don’t Know w/ SylviaEP 06: Holding Multiple Truths Super Imperfectly (a convo with My Mom)In this week’s episode, I sit down with my 83-year-old mom, Martha (who I bribed with a brownie) for a wide-ranging conversation that spans queerness, Catholicism, grid logic, Palestine, and Pac-Man. Well… this turned out to be more intense than I anticipated... what starts as a cozy chat between mother and daughter unspools into a much deeper exploration on how we inherit beliefs about gender, faith, politics, and identity—and what it takes to unlearn them and why it’s helpful to us.We discuss grid logic, how binaries...2025-07-1048 minWe Don’t Know w/ SylviaEP 05: PMS, Duality, & The Power of MaybeBurned out on my own obsession—but still showed up to talk ocean logic, grid logic, and why Alan Watts knows what the f*ck is up.My mind is toast after a week of spiraling (lovingly) on ocean and grid logic—mentally, emotionally, and in my Substack—while editing several projects. I basically burned out on my own obsession (very classic of me), and now I’m over it… for the moment 😅But I practiced hardcore contrary action and recorded and edited this bitch on schedule despite all my exhaustion...2025-07-0324 minWe Don’t Know w/ SylviaEP 04: Audre Lorde & The Erotic: It’s Not Just Hot. It’s Holy.Why owning your erotic power is actually one of the most radical and deeply important things you can do—for yourself and the world.After Dead Dad Week, I figured we could all use a palate cleanser—so Episode 4 is a sonic diary/love letter to Uses of the Erotic: The Erotic as Power by Audre Lorde—poet, prophet, and a gift to this wild, unruly world.We read through her iconic 5-page (I think I accidentally said 7 in the podcast) essay and shoot the shit about why it’s life-a...2025-06-2651 minWe Don’t Know w/ SylviaEP 03: Dead Dad Week in La La LandCheers to Death, Destruction, and the Gifts Hiding in Our Shady Shadow Shit.Episode 03 was recorded here in L.A. during what I call Dead Dad Week — Father’s Day, my dad’s birthday, and the anniversary of his death all rolled into one.I talk about what it means to feel my dad visit — in a real-ass, unmasked, sixth-sense kind of way (which, by the way, is a sense I believe we all have, if we nourish it).I don’t unpack all the ways t...2025-06-1936 minWe Don’t Know w/ SylviaEP 02: Unpacking the ‘Just Be Present’ BullshitFuck the buzzwords—in this second episode I talk about what I think presence actually costs, and what it can give, plus more...Episode 02 of this unhinged gospel to the unknown was recorded in the high desert of Arizona . It builds on last week’s intro—laying more foundation for the feral playground we’re creating here: one that embraces uncertainty, cultivates solidarity, and challenges the status quo.This is for mature audiences only. I swear a lot, and be warned, this episode also includes mentions of death, trauma, sex, and...2025-06-1235 minWe Don’t Know w/ SylviaEP 01: Intro - Mother Nature’s B*tchEpisode 1: An introduction to what this unhinged gospel to the unknown will attempt to explore—and a little about your host, Sylvia Saether (queer, feral, tender, and definitely not an expert).This space is messy. It’s unscripted. It’s full of questions and cussing. Consider yourself warned.Some rules of engagement: I’m not a therapist, coach, or authority on anything. If you’re struggling, please seek actual professional support. You don’t have to agree with me to be here—but don’t be a dick. Openness and curiosity a...2025-06-0521 min