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Breakup to BlessingWhy We Choose the Wrong Partners (and How to Choose Better)In this episode of Breakup to Blessing, Sylvia dives deep into the patterns behind how we make decisions in our relationships — whether it’s choosing who to date, who to commit to, or even why we stay in relationships longer than we should. Are we being led by logic, or are our emotions quietly in control? Sylvia explains how we often create logical stories to justify emotional decisions, and she helps listeners uncover the hidden patterns that may be guiding them. Key Topics Covered: Logical Stories vs. Emotional Truths: How we convince ourselves our choices are...2025-05-1111 minBreakup to BlessingPreparing For Your Next Relationship While You're SingleHey everyone, welcome to another episode of Breakup to Blessing! Last week, we talked about second chances in relationships—what it takes to make things work the second time around. But what if getting back together isn’t an option or isn’t what you want? That’s exactly what we’re diving into today. This episode is all about the inner work you can do now, while you're single, to grow into the person you want to be in your future relationships. Because even if there’s no hope for a second chance with your ex, the...2025-03-3013 minBreakup to BlessingSecond Chances: Do They Really Work?In this episode of Breakup to Blessing, we dive deep into the topic of second chances in relationships. Whether you’re the one asking for a second chance or you're on the receiving end, there’s an important truth to remember: a second chance only works if something actually changes. Insight alone won’t change behavior. Real change happens when you become someone who can show up differently, especially when it comes to handling conflict and emotional regulation. We explore how emotional reactivity can escalate situations and why learning to pause, regulate, and communicate effectively can tr...2025-03-2319 minBreakup to BlessingFinding Yourself Again After HeartbreakIn today’s episode of Breakup to Blessing, I’m addressing a question submitted by someone who recently ended a 3-year relationship and is feeling lost and lonely. I also want to extend this conversation to anyone currently in a relationship and feeling disconnected from themselves. It’s common to prioritise others—partners, families, children—and forget what makes us come alive. If that resonates with you, this episode is for you. We’ll explore how to reconnect with yourself after a breakup or in the midst of a relationship where you’ve lost touch with your individual nee...2025-03-1613 minBreakup to BlessingHow To Heal Faster - Bringing It Back To BasicsIn this episode, Sylvia brings it back to basics and reminds us of the essential foundations for healing, especially when life feels overwhelming. Whether you're deep into your healing journey or just starting out, sometimes we need a reminder of the most important things to focus on. Sylvia discusses Maslow’s hierarchy of needs and how our basic needs—like food, water, shelter, and emotional safety—must be met before we can progress to higher goals, such as self-actualisation and personal growth. She explains why it's crucial to check in with ourselves to ensure we're addressing these fundamental needs...2025-02-0213 minBreakup to BlessingClarify Your Vision for 2025: 5 Steps to Achieving Your Best YearIn this final episode of the year, Sylvia shares a practical and simple 5-step framework to help you start 2025 with clarity and confidence. After offering free strategy sessions to some of her followers, Sylvia wanted to ensure that everyone has the tools to set meaningful goals and create a vision for the year ahead. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to take inventory of your life by reflecting on key areas like relationships, health, career, finances, personal growth, and more. How to identify your priorities and choose what matters most to you in the coming mo...2024-12-2914 minBreakup to BlessingStop Believing Stories That Hold You BackIn this episode, Sylvia reflects on a life-changing lesson she learned from communications expert Vinh Giang. Inspired by his insights, Sylvia delves into how the beliefs and narratives we hold about ourselves are not fixed and can be changed. Drawing from personal experiences and neuroscience, she explores how our behaviours often stem from old beliefs and how we can consciously break free from them. You'll learn how to identify and challenge limiting beliefs that may be holding you back and discover the power of neuroplasticity—your brain's ability to reorganise itself and create new neural connections. This ep...2024-11-2411 minBreakup to BlessingLearning To Be Okay With Not Being OkayIn this episode, we dive into a topic that’s relevant to everyone at some point in their lives—how to be okay with not being okay. Whether you’re going through heartbreak, dealing with a difficult situation at work or home, or just feeling like you want the pain to disappear, this episode is for you. I explore how many of us, growing up, weren’t taught to sit with our feelings. Instead, our parents or caregivers tried to make us feel better as quickly as possible, unknowingly teaching us to avoid discomfort. As a result, many of...2024-10-2013 minBreakup to BlessingHow To Rebuild Your Life After HeartbreakIn today’s episode, I dive into the process of rebuilding your life after a breakup. If you're feeling lost or unsure of how to move forward, you're not alone. Many people experience this after a relationship ends, and it can feel like you're wandering through life without direction. Last week, we talked about shifting your mindset and taking control of your life – if you haven’t listened to that episode, I recommend checking it out first to lay a strong foundation for today's discussion. In this episode, I walk you through the steps of making...2024-10-1313 minBreakup to BlessingHow to Shift Your Mindset and Take Control of Your LifeIn this episode, I reflect on the biggest shift that transformed how I view my life, no matter the circumstances. From my childhood to my rebellious teen years, marriage, divorce, and the journey of self-discovery, I've come to realise that my attitude has always been the deciding factor in how I feel and respond to life. We often let our circumstances dictate our happiness, but today, I want to talk about finding sufficiency in the here and now. I share how I moved from feeling powerless during a difficult divorce to gaining clarity, gratitude, and control by...2024-10-0614 minBreakup to BlessingHeartbreak Hijack, Stress and How to Reduce AnxietyIn this episode, Sylvia delves into the impact of breakups on our brains, highlighting the concept of "amygdala hijack" and how it influences our emotional responses. Drawing on insights from Daniel Goleman’s Emotional Intelligence, she explains the interplay between the amygdala and the prefrontal cortex, and how stress hormones like cortisol and adrenaline affect us during tough times. Discover why understanding your thoughts is crucial for healing and learn practical strategies to manage anxiety. Sylvia shares techniques from Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) to help you become more aware of your thought patterns and introduce mindfulness practices to...2024-09-2914 minBreakup to BlessingInserting Hope and Possibility Into Your LifeIn this episode, I expand on last week's discussion about moving forward one small step at a time, and we dive into the idea of incorporating hope and possibility into your life. Moving forward after a breakup is a three-phase process: letting go of the past, accepting the present, and creating your future. Sometimes we can get stuck in the first two phases, but choosing to let go is key to making that shift towards healing. I’ll guide you through how to open your mind to what’s possible for your future, and how to use this...2024-09-2214 minBreakup to BlessingHow To Move On, One Small Step at a Time Ep. 88In today’s episode, we’re diving deep into the process of moving on after a breakup, one small step at a time. Too often, people rush to let go and move on before they’re ready, leading to frustration and disappointment. I talk about how to break down the overwhelming goal of "moving on" into smaller, manageable steps that can help you heal gradually without feeling like it’s impossible. We explore: Why jumping straight to "moving on" can feel daunting and unattainable The brain’s response to stress and how it affects your ability to move fo...2024-09-1614 minBreakup to BlessingWhen You’re the One Who Messed Up: Rebuilding Trust After a MistakeIn this episode, I’m talking directly to those of you who feel responsible for the end of your relationship. Whether it was a moment of infidelity, an outburst, or ongoing anxiety that led to the breakup, this episode is here to help you navigate the guilt and find a path forward. I’ll guide you through the importance of owning your actions, understanding your partner’s feelings, and what it takes to rebuild trust if you’re both committed to moving forward. We’ll also explore the value of introspection and how addressing your underlying behaviours can preven...2024-09-0817 minBreakup to BlessingWhy They Left - Inside The Mind of the One Who Ended ItIn this episode, we dive into a crucial yet often overlooked stage in relationships—the period before a breakup. While there’s plenty of advice on what to do after a breakup, today, we’re focusing on the internal process someone goes through when they start to consider whether their relationship is still right for them. We’ll explore the doubts, the inner conflicts, and the stages of deliberation that lead up to the decision to end a relationship. We also touch on insights from Esther Perel, who reminds us that relationships involve three entities: you, your partner...2024-09-0118 minBreakup to BlessingHow YOU Can Move On In 12 Weeks In today's episode, I’m diving deep into how you can move on from a breakup in just 12 weeks. Moving on doesn’t mean you’re fully healed, but it does mean freeing yourself from attachment to your ex and any lingering desires to be with them. I’ll break down the three key factors that determine how quickly you can move on: belief in your ability to do so, your desire to move forward, and your willingness to step into the unknown. We’ll explore how you can shift your mindset, build a new self-concept, and take respo...2024-08-2516 minBreakup to BlessingWhen The Breakup Doesn't Make Any SenseIn this episode of the Breakup to Blessing podcast, I delve into the complex feelings surrounding breakups that leave us searching for answers, especially when they just don't seem to make sense. As a breakup and relationship coach, I'm passionate about helping individuals navigate their emotional landscapes and find clarity during turbulent times. This particular discussion centers on the common misconception that we find closure solely through understanding our ex’s actions, and how often what we really need is to accept that their reasoning may forever remain a mystery to us. I begin by addressing the co...2024-08-1815 minBreakup to BlessingHow To Let Go When You Don't Want To Let GoToday we delve into the challenging process of letting go, especially when it feels impossible to do so. Many of us struggle with this, even when we know it's the right thing to do. This episode will guide you through understanding why letting go is difficult and provide actionable steps to help you move forward. In This Episode, We Discuss: Why Letting Go is Difficult: Understanding the emotional attachment and why it's hard to accept the end of a relationship. The Importance of No-Contact: Treating no-contact like overcoming an addiction to help you move on. ...2024-08-1216 minBreakup to BlessingIf You're Anxious When Dating and in Your RelationshipsWelcome back to episode 82. Today's episode is for anyone who feels anxious in their relationships or while dating, and also for those who are dating someone with anxious attachment. In this episode, we discuss: Defining Anxiety in Relationships: Understanding what it means to feel anxious and how it impacts your emotional and physical state. Behavioural Side Effects: The constant need for reassurance, avoidance of important conversations, and the oscillation between clinginess and withdrawal. Physical Side Effects: How anxiety can lead to sleep disturbances and affect your overall wellbeing. Communication Challenges: The difficulties anxiety introduces in maintaining...2024-08-0519 minBreakup to Blessing8 Signs You Have Moved On From Your ExWelcome to episode 81! In today's podcast I show you 8 positive signs you have moved on from your ex and how you can use these to guide your journey as a way to measure your progress. In this episode, we cover: Neutral or Indifferent Feelings: You feel neutral or indifferent about your ex. No Future Fantasies or Past Romances: You don’t fantasise about them in your future or think about them romantically in the past. Sense of Closure: You feel a sense of closure about the relationship, even without direct closure from th...2024-07-2911 minBreakup to BlessingSetting Healing IntentionsWelcome to episode 80. Since starting this podcast in November last year, I’ve been releasing episodes twice a week. My Monday episodes focus on practical tips and strategies, while Friday episodes offer inspiration for the weekend. Moving forward, I’ll concentrate more on the Monday episodes, providing more depth, and this will be the final Friday bitesized episode for now. Future interviews might bring back the twice-weekly schedule. Today's episode is essential for anyone trying to move on or heal from heartbreak. Whether your relationship ended recently or it's been months or even years, if you still stru...2024-07-2809 minBreakup to BlessingHealing Vs Moving OnIn this episode of Breakup to Blessing, we explore the crucial differences between healing and moving on after a relationship ends. Understanding these distinctions is key to achieving emotional freedom and forming healthier future relationships. Show Notes: The Difference Between Healing and Moving On: Moving on means being free from your ex in terms of attachment and desire. This involves not having any romantic feelings towards them and not letting emotions like resentment, anger, or jealousy prevent you from committing to another relationship. Healing: Healing is a more complex process that varies...2024-07-2111 minBreakup to BlessingPep Talk: "I Should Have" ThinkingIn Episode 78, we tackle the common and often painful habit of "should have" thinking after a breakup. We explore the tendency to question what we could have done differently and offer constructive ways to address these thoughts. Tune in for a motivational pep talk that encourages growth, self-reflection, and moving forward. Key Points Discussed: The Trap of "Should Have" Thinking: Common thoughts about what could have been done differently to save the relationship. Examples of self-doubt: being too needy, not needy enough, or appearing ambivalent. Doing Your Best: Emphasis on the belief...2024-07-1807 minBreakup to BlessingIf You’ve Ever Said "I Wasn't Good Enough"In this episode, we dive deep into the feelings of not being "good enough" that often accompany breakups. I'll share personal stories and insights to help you understand that your worth is not determined by someone else's ability to meet your needs. Join us for a transformative discussion on self-worth and relationships. Key Points Discussed: Upcoming Masterclass: Heal Your Heartbreak Masterclass Date: Thursday, 18th July 7pm AEST Duration: 60 minutes Register at sylviasuwan.com Feeling Not Good Enough: Common feeling post-breakup, especially when the relationship ends unexpectedly Natural to think if we were...2024-07-1412 minBreakup to BlessingPep Talk: Overcoming Loneliness After HeartbreakIn today's episode, we address a struggle that many face after a breakup—loneliness. If you're feeling like the sadness will never end or wondering how you'll ever overcome the loneliness, this episode is for you. Key Points Discussed: Acknowledging Loneliness: The challenge of loneliness often stems from not knowing how to overcome it, making it feel unknown and scary. Simple advice like "go out and meet people" can seem intangible when compared to the tangible relationship you had with your ex. Taking Intentional Action: Use this time to take intentional action an...2024-07-1208 minBreakup to BlessingHandling Stress and Heightened EmotionsIn this episode, we explore the nature of stress and heightened emotions, inspired by a recent Esther Perel podcast. We delve into the differences between good stress (eustress) and bad stress (distress) and discuss practical strategies for managing these feelings. Key Topics Discussed: Reframing Stress: Inspired by Esther Perel, we discuss why society often views stress negatively and how we can shift this perspective. Personal Journey: I share my own experiences balancing career ambitions with personal life and how stress plays a role in growth and development. Good Stress vs. Bad Stress: Eustress (Good Stress): Motivating, e...2024-07-0715 minBreakup to BlessingPep Talk: If You Never Want To Get Hurt AgainIn this episode, we dive into the concept of dualism and how it relates to the experiences of heartbreak and love. We'll explore the idea that heartbreak is a natural part of life and an essential experience for growth and development. I challenge you to consider if you would still choose to experience love, knowing that heartbreak is a potential outcome. By understanding and embracing both sides of the coin, we can fully appreciate the depth of romantic love. Key Topics Discussed: Dualism Explained: Understanding the philosophical concept of dualism and how it applies to our...2024-07-0607 minBreakup to BlessingDealing With Anger Towards Your ExIn this episode, we dive deep into one of the most challenging emotions to manage—anger, especially when directed towards an ex-partner. Using concepts from Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy, we explore how to understand and navigate these intense feelings. Highlights: Understanding Anger: Learn why anger is a common but complex emotion to handle, especially post-breakup. IFS Therapy Insights: Discover how IFS therapy helps us recognize that all parts of ourselves, including the angry parts, serve a protective purpose. Healthy vs. Unhealthy Anger: Differentiate between anger that protects and anger that consumes, and learn how to ch...2024-06-3019 minBreakup to BlessingPep Talk: Handling Social Media TriggersIn this episode, we dive deep into strategies for resisting the urge to check your ex’s social media. Whether it's blocking them, distracting yourself, or understanding your triggers, I’ll share practical tips to help you maintain your mental health and focus on your own healing. Tune in for a compassionate and non-judgmental discussion on how to manage this common challenge. Key Points: Resist the Temptation: The best approach is to resist the temptation from the start. Assess your own ability to resist. If it’s too difficult, consider blocking your ex or deleti...2024-06-2709 minBreakup to BlessingCatastrophising: Why We Do It And How To StopIn this insightful episode, we delve into the phenomenon of catastrophizing after a breakup. We explore why our minds tend to spiral into worst-case scenarios and how various factors—emotional, cognitive, behavioral, social, biological, and psychological—contribute to this overwhelming response. Learn practical strategies to recognise and halt these catastrophic thoughts, empowering yourself to navigate the difficult aftermath of a breakup with resilience and self-compassion. Tune in to understand the underlying causes and how to support yourself through this challenging time. Show Notes: 1. Why Do We Catastrophize After a Breakup? Intense Emotional Pain: Breakups trig...2024-06-2316 minBreakup to BlessingPep Talk: Overcoming Self-Doubt and Self-WorthIn this empowering episode, we tackle the pervasive issue of self-doubt and feelings of unworthiness. Join us as we delve deep into the roots of why you might feel unworthy and explore practical strategies to reclaim your self-worth. Whether you struggle with negative self-perceptions or find it difficult to recognize your own value, this episode is for you. Learn how to challenge and change these limiting beliefs, focus on your strengths, and build a mindset that propels you towards success and self-acceptance. 1. Understanding Self-Doubt and Unworthiness Why do we often feel unworthy? The impact of placing...2024-06-2006 minBreakup to BlessingDo You Need Therapy After A Breakup?Show Notes: In this episode, we discuss the journey of seeking therapy after a breakup and the profound impact it can have on your healing process. Whether you believe you "need" therapy or not, understanding its potential benefits can be crucial to your recovery and personal growth. Key Points Covered: Starting the Conversation: Sharing a story about a person going through a divorce who believed they didn't need therapy because they weren't obsessing over their breakup. Addressing the misconception that only those who are deeply struggling need therapy. Extraordinary Benefits of...2024-06-1613 minBreakup to BlessingPep Talk: Your Feelings Are Valid In this episode, we're diving deep into the emotional landscape of heartbreak, addressing the doubts and insecurities that often accompany the end of a relationship. Whether you're questioning if you should be further along in your healing process or wondering if what you're feeling is "normal," this episode is here to affirm that your feelings are valid and important. Key Points Covered: Validation of Feelings: Emphasising that whatever you're feeling is completely valid. There’s no “right” or “wrong” way to process a breakup. Recognising the importance of seeking support and advice, but also being mind...2024-06-1311 minBreakup to BlessingHow Long Is TOO Long To Move On? In Episode 67, we delve into the complex relationship between personality and the speed of recovery from heartbreak. This episode addresses the subjective nature of healing from a breakup and explores how various factors such as circumstances, support systems, and personality traits influence the process. Key Points Discussed: Subjective Nature of Heartbreak Recovery: Understanding that the timeline for getting over a breakup varies widely among individuals. Influence of Relationship Depth: How deeply someone felt about their ex at the time of the breakup can be more significant than the relationship's duration. The Big Five Personality Traits: Neuroticism...2024-06-0922 minBreakup to BlessingPep Talk: If You Want To Break No-ContactIn this episode, we dive deep into the concept of the no-contact rule and explore why it is essential for your healing journey after a breakup. We discuss the emotional and psychological challenges that come with maintaining no-contact and provide practical tips to help you resist the urge to reach out to your ex. Key Points Covered: Explanation of No-Contact: Definition and purpose of the no-contact rule. The importance of avoiding all forms of communication with your ex, including direct and indirect contact. Emphasising the goal of emotional healing, gaining perspective, and rebuilding your...2024-06-0608 minBreakup to BlessingBeing Single Vs Being Lonely In Episode 65 of Breakup to Blessing, host Sylvia Suwan explores the often misunderstood distinction between being single and being lonely. Many people conflate the two, but it's crucial to understand that one doesn't necessarily lead to the other. Whether you're single or in a relationship, loneliness can still be a challenge. This episode delves into the nuances of these states and offers insights on how to thrive, regardless of your relationship status. Key Topics Discussed: The Difference Between Being Single and Being Lonely: Why it’s important to distinguish between the two. Common Misconceptions: Addressing the my...2024-06-0216 minBreakup to BlessingBuilding a New Routine: Creating Structure and Stability after a BreakupIn this episode of Breakup to Blessing, host Sylvia explores the transformative journey of rebuilding your life after a breakup. Breakups can leave us feeling lost and uncertain, but by creating new structures and routines, we can lay a solid foundation for healing and growth. Discover the importance of establishing morning and evening routines, the power of new habits in shaping your identity, and how to push through resistance to become the person you want to be. Plus, get our book recommendation to guide you through this process. Key Topics Discussed: Life After a Breakup...2024-05-3009 minBreakup to BlessingDating As A Single Mother Welcome back to Breakup to Blessing! In this episode, we're diving into a topic that many of you have asked about: Dating as a Single Mother. Join us as we explore the stigma and assumptions that often surround single mothers in the dating world. We’ll cover: The common misconceptions about dating single mothers and why they persist. How to understand and navigate the deeper concerns these assumptions represent. Personal stories and experiences, including my own journey of dating post-divorce. The importance of working through past issues and showing up...2024-05-2612 minBreakup to BlessingPart #5 Moving Forward With Courage Welcome back to Breakup to Blessing! In the final part of our 5-part Friday series, we're discussing a crucial step in the healing journey: Moving Forward with Courage. In this episode, we explore how to find the courage to move on from your breakup and embrace the future with confidence. We’ll cover: The common fear of moving forward and why it's often mistaken for finality. Understanding the comfort of familiarity and why we tend to hold on to the past. The importance of genuinely moving on, not as a tactic to...2024-05-2304 minBreakup to BlessingDivorce and Co-ParentingHey everyone, welcome back to "Breakup to Blessing." In this episode, we dive into the topic of divorce and co-parenting. Over the weekend, I attended a support group for individuals navigating divorce, which prompted me to reflect on my own experience from almost six years ago. Join me as I share personal insights, lessons learned, and valuable advice for anyone going through a divorce. Key Points Covered: Personal Reflections: I share a brief recap of my own divorce experience and how it relates to this episode. Seeking Legal Advice: Exploring the advice I received from friends...2024-05-1917 minBreakup to BlessingPart #4 Self-Reflection and InsightWelcome back to episode number 60, part 4 of my 5-part Friday series of self-development tools to practice for healing heartbreak. In this episode, we'll delve into the importance of self-reflection and insight in the healing process. Why Self-Reflection and Insight? Self-reflection and insight are vital because they empower us to take responsibility for our experiences and avoid feeling like victims of our circumstances. When we're able to reflect on our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors, we gain clarity, understanding, and perspective on our inner world. The Self-Reflection Process Exploring Emotions: Dive into the...2024-05-1609 minBreakup to BlessingCan You Be Friends With Your Ex? In Episode 59 of "Breakup to Blessing," we delve into the complex question: Can you be friends with your ex? Sylvia unpacks various scenarios and considerations, offering insightful questions to guide listeners through their own introspection. From examining intentions to assessing emotional maturity, this episode provides valuable insights for those navigating post-breakup dynamics. Key Points: Why Do You Want to Be Friends?: Explore your motives behind wanting to maintain a friendship with your ex. Is it driven by a fear of losing them completely or a genuine desire for friendship? Consider Their Perspective: Put yourself in your...2024-05-1212 minBreakup to BlessingPart #3 Embracing GrowthIn Episode 58, part 3 of our 5-part series on building yourself up from heartbreak, we delve into the transformative power of embracing growth. Join Sylvia as she explores the concept of a growth mindset and how it can turn heartbreak into a catalyst for positive change. Key Points: Understanding Growth Mindset: Explore the concept of a growth mindset—a perspective shift that views challenges as opportunities for learning and personal development. Navigating Difficult Challenges: Whether facing divorce proceedings or other tumultuous times, learn to embrace growth amidst adversity. Find ways to cultivate self-compassion and handle conflicts constructively. Ce...2024-05-0908 minBreakup to BlessingLetting Go Of Expectations To Find Fulfilment In Your Relationships Shownotes: In this episode, we delve into the topic of letting go of expectations. Drawing from personal experiences and client interactions, we explore the complexities of managing expectations in relationships and personal growth. Introduction to Expectations: Defining expectations and their impact on relationships and personal well-being. The balance between prioritizing personal goals and responsibilities in relationships. Useful Self-Expectations: Personal Development: Setting goals for continuous growth and fulfillment. Accountability: Taking responsibility for actions and decisions, fostering integrity and trust. Resilience: Cultivating the ability to...2024-05-0516 minBreakup to BlessingPart #2: Finding Strength In AdversityShownotes: Welcome to part 2 of our Friday episode series, where we delve into 5 crucial topics to empower you through any situation. Last week, we discussed the resilience mindset, and today's focus is on building upon that foundation by finding strength in adversity. The Importance of Inner Strength: Adversity often pushes us beyond our perceived limits, revealing the depths of our inner strength and resilience. Even in the darkest moments, cultivating inner belief can empower us to overcome challenges and emerge stronger. Exercise: Strengths Reflection: Grab a notebook or journal and reflect on...2024-05-0208 minBreakup to BlessingOvercoming Fear Of RejectionIn episode number 55, we delve into the common fear of rejection and discuss strategies for overcoming it. Whether it's in dating, friendships, or social situations, fear of rejection can hold us back from fully engaging with the world around us. Join us as we explore the roots of this fear, practical steps to overcome it, and how to embrace rejection as part of the journey towards authentic connection and self-discovery. Key Points: Understanding the fear of rejection: We discuss the evolutionary and modern-day reasons why rejection can trigger such intense emotional responses. Overcoming the fear: Learn...2024-04-2813 minBreakup to BlessingPart #1: Building Resilience In HeartbreakIn this bite-sized episode, we're diving into the power of adopting a resilience mindset to navigate challenges and setbacks in life. Part 1: Understanding Resilience Mindset Define what a resilience mindset is and its importance in overcoming adversity. Explore the key attitudes, beliefs, and behaviors associated with a resilience mindset, including optimism, adaptability, perseverance, and self-efficacy. Part 2: Behaviors and Outlook of Resilient Individuals Discuss how individuals with a resilience mindset tend to behave and their outlook on life. Highlight the optimism, adaptability, perseverance, and self-efficacy exhibited by resilient individuals in the face of adversity. ...2024-04-2506 minBreakup to BlessingThe 6 Stages Of Grief and HeartbreakIn Episode 53 of Breakup To Blessing, we dive into the profound stages of heartbreak and how to navigate through them. Host Sylvia explores the striking similarities between grieving a breakup and grieving the loss of a loved one. Drawing parallels, she unpacks how both experiences entail an emotional rollercoaster, physical symptoms, a sense of void, and a journey toward healing and acceptance. Delving into the renowned 5 stages of grief by psychiatrist Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, Sylvia adds a sixth stage: rebuilding or moving forward. Highlighting the importance of this stage, she emphasizes that true closure often comes through r...2024-04-2120 minBreakup to BlessingSelf-Compassion vs Self-PityIn Episode 52, Sylvia delves into the crucial distinction between self-compassion and self-pity, particularly in the context of navigating a breakup. Exploring the attitudes, behaviours, and consequences associated with each, Sylvia provides valuable insights and practical tips for fostering self-compassion and overcoming self-pity during challenging times. Episode Highlights: Sylvia begins by elucidating the concept of self-compassion, emphasising the importance of treating oneself with kindness, understanding, and acceptance, especially during a breakup. She highlights the role of self-talk and the need to cultivate a supportive inner dialogue that acknowledges the natural pain of a breakup while fostering resilience...2024-04-1812 minBreakup to BlessingThe 5 Stages Of ChangeWelcome back to Episode 51 of "Breakup to Blessing" with Sylvia Suwan! In this episode, Sylvia delves into the 5 stages of change, a model developed by psychologists Prochaska and DiClemente, and applies it to the context of breakup recovery and major life transitions. Sylvia shares her personal journey of navigating multiple life changes over the past six years, highlighting the challenges and opportunities for growth that accompany significant transitions. Drawing on her expertise as a breakup and relationship counselor, Sylvia explores each stage of change and provides practical insights and strategies for individuals navigating breakup recovery and other...2024-04-1412 minBreakup to BlessingHow Long Does It Take To Heal?Welcome back to Episode 50 of "Breakup to Blessing" with Sylvia Suwan! In this insightful episode, Sylvia tackles a question that many individuals face after a breakup or divorce: How long does it take to get over a breakup? Sylvia begins by debunking common myths surrounding breakup recovery, emphasising that there are no set calculations or timelines for healing. Instead, she encourages listeners to set intentions for their healing journey and prioritize their emotional well-being. Drawing on her expertise as a breakup and relationship counselor, Sylvia explores the multitude of factors that influence the healing process...2024-04-1110 minBreakup to BlessingCoping When Your Ex Moves OnIn Episode 49, we delve into the often challenging experience of discovering that your ex has moved on. Whether through social media updates or mutual acquaintances, this realisation can trigger a whirlwind of emotions, symbolising the definitive end of a chapter and extinguishing any lingering hopes of reconciliation. As you grapple with these emotions, it's crucial to understand that your initial reactions are completely normal, regardless of the passage of time since the breakup. Even if your ex's swift transition to a new relationship catches you off guard, it's vital to recognise that their processing of the breakup...2024-04-0715 minBreakup to Blessing5 Important Affirmations For HeartbreakToday, I've got something special for you— a set of affirmations designed to help you navigate through the tough moments of your breakup. I know how challenging it can be to deal with feelings of sadness, hopelessness, and uncertainty, but trust me, you're not alone in this journey. Now, I've mentioned before that I'm not a huge fan of affirmations that feel disconnected or unrealistic. But today, I'm sharing affirmations that are rooted in truth— affirmations that, with time and repetition, can truly uplift and empower you. Let's dive in: "I am strong and resi...2024-04-0406 minBreakup to BlessingHow To Deal With Being GhostedIn today's episode, we talk about the concept of ghosting and its impact on relationships. From its origins in hip hop culture to its prevalence in modern dating, ghosting has become a common phenomenon that leaves many feeling confused and hurt. Sylvia Suwan explores the different scenarios of ghosting and offers insights on how to navigate this experience with resilience and self-reflection. Key Points: Defining Ghosting: Ghosting, popularised in the 90s, refers to abruptly ceasing communication with someone without explanation or closure. Understanding the level of relationship establishment is crucial in defining ghosting accurately. Reacting to...2024-04-0114 minBreakup to BlessingDealing With Challenging Times In Your LifeIn this heartfelt episode, Sylvia reflects on the complexities of managing emotions amidst the demands of parenting three children at different stages of life. From confronting the necessity of reprioritisation to finding joy in simple pleasures, she shares valuable lessons learned through navigating life's transitions. Key Takeaways: Embracing change as an inevitable part of life's journey. Finding solace in moments of self-care and reflection. Cultivating resilience through adaptability and open-mindedness. Making peace with life-altering decisions and embracing the present moment. Recognizing opportunities for growth and alternative solutions. Featured Topics: Parenting challenges and the importance...2024-03-2810 minBreakup to BlessingHow To Get Closure From A BreakupToday, we're diving into a topic that resonates with so many of us: closure. Whether it's from a romantic relationship, a friendship, or a family dynamic, the need for closure is universal. Join me as we explore how to find closure independently, regardless of the type of relationship you're navigating. From understanding the importance of closure to practical steps for achieving it, this episode offers valuable insights and guidance for anyone seeking peace and acceptance after a breakup or loss. Highlights: Understanding the significance of closure and its role in making sense of relationships. Exploring the...2024-03-2516 minBreakup to BlessingWill My Ex Come Back?In this episode, we delve into the intriguing question: Have you ever had an ex come back, and did it actually work out? Join us as we explore the scenarios where reconciliation is highly unlikely, when it could possibly happen, and what needs to change for it to succeed. Drawing from real-life examples and personal experiences, we unravel the complexities of post-breakup dynamics and the importance of self-reflection and growth. Whether you're hoping for a reunion or striving to move forward, this episode offers valuable insights into relationships, healing, and self-worth. Highlights: Exploring the common motivations...2024-03-2214 minBreakup to Blessing7 Most Common Reasons Relationships FailIn today's episode of Breakup to Blessing, we delved into the intricate dynamics of relationships and explored the most common reasons why they fail. We discussed several significant factors, including the absence of trust, lack of compatibility, insufficient intimacy, financial strain, commitment issues, waning attraction, and the overarching importance of effective communication. We highlighted how trust serves as the bedrock of any healthy relationship and how breaches in trust, whether through betrayal or dishonesty, can severely strain the bond between partners. Moreover, we explored the significance of compatibility, emphasizing the importance of shared interests, values, and goals...2024-03-1713 minBreakup to BlessingPep Talk For The WeekendIn today's Friday bitesized episode, we're switching gears to offer a little something special: a pep talk for anyone who's feeling overwhelmed or struggling with life's ups and downs. Life's Challenges: Whether you're grappling with heartbreak, feeling overwhelmed by the demands of daily life, or navigating the sleepless nights of newborn parenthood, know that you're not alone in your struggles. The Illusion of Social Media: We often fall into the trap of comparing our lives to the highlight reels we see on social media, but it's important to remember that these snapshots don't tell the whole story. Everyone...2024-03-1404 minBreakup to BlessingThe ONLY 2 Things You Need To Work On To Heal Your HeartbreakHey everyone, welcome back to Breakup to Blessing. Today, let's dive into something that's been on a lot of our minds: how to handle the aftermath of a breakup. I know it can feel overwhelming, with so much advice out there about self-improvement, journaling, etc. But I want to take a different approach today. I'm all about keeping it real and relevant, so let's focus on just two key things that can really make a difference in your healing journey. These are simple, actionable steps that you can tailor to your own unique situation. So, let's get...2024-03-1018 minBreakup to BlessingHow To Let Go And Move OnWelcome back to Breakup to Blessing! In today's episode, we dive into the topic of letting go and moving on. Inspired by a recent conversation, we explore why holding onto anger or blame ultimately hinders our progress and how taking responsibility for our situations is key to personal growth. Living in anger or blame can trap us in a cycle of resentment and prevent us from living authentically. As we reflect on the regrets of elderly individuals facing death, we're reminded of the importance of pursuing our dreams and living in alignment with our values. ...2024-03-0708 minBreakup to BlessingWhen Is Too Soon To Start Dating After A Breakup? 5 Questions To Ask Yourself Before You Start Dating AgainIn this episode of Breakup to Blessing, we tackle the daunting question: When is it too soon to start dating after a breakup or divorce? Today Sylvia delves into the complexities of post-breakup dating and offers insightful guidance on how to navigate this challenging terrain. Key Points: Setting Intentions: Before diving back into the dating scene, it's crucial to clarify your intentions. Are you seeking companionship, distraction, or a long-term relationship? Understanding your motives can help you avoid wasted time and unnecessary confusion. Personal Reflection: Sylvia shares personal experiences and insights into the importance of self-discovery...2024-03-0320 minBreakup to BlessingHow To Become More Securely Attached Part 2Welcome back to Breakup to Blessing! In this episode, we delve deeper into attachment theory and explore practical strategies to cultivate a more secure attachment style in your relationships. Whether you identify as anxiously attached or avoidant, this episode offers valuable insights and actionable steps to promote greater emotional connection and intimacy. Join me as we navigate the journey toward secure attachment and healthier relationships. Key Points: Recap of attachment theory and the different attachment styles: secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganised. Understanding the impact of attachment styles on current relationships. Focus on transitioning from anxious or...2024-02-2915 minBreakup to BlessingWhat Attachment Style Are You? Pt 1Hey everyone, welcome back to another episode! Today's topic is so important that we've split it into two parts. In this episode, we're diving deep into the concept of unhealthy attachments in relationships and how to identify your own attachment style. Exploring Attachment Theory: We begin by unpacking attachment theory, a groundbreaking concept developed by psychoanalyst John Bowlby in the 1950s. Bowlby's research on infant-mother relationships laid the foundation for understanding how our early experiences shape our attachment styles in adulthood. The Study by Mary Ainsworth: We delve into Mary Ainsworth's study, where she observed...2024-02-2523 minBreakup to BlessingThe Truth About Vulnerability You Don't Want To KnowHey everyone, welcome back to another Friday bite-sized episode of Breakup to Blessing! If you're not feeling too excited about the upcoming weekend, I completely understand. Weekends can feel daunting, especially when you're navigating heartbreak. But don't worry, I've got some insights to share that might help lift your spirits. In today's episode, we're diving into the powerful concept of vulnerability, as explored by renowned researcher Brené Brown. You might have heard of her groundbreaking work on vulnerability and its role in fostering connection, courage, and resilience. After years of research, Brown discovered something profound: t...2024-02-2213 minBreakup to BlessingIf You Feel Like You've Lost Yourself After A BreakupHey there, it's Sylvia, back with another episode of Breakup to Blessing. Today, we're diving deep into a topic that many of us can relate to: feeling like we're not enough after a breakup. I've been there myself, grappling with those relentless thoughts swirling in my head after my divorce. Questions like, "What if no one likes me? What if I'm not attractive enough?" These doubts can haunt us, leaving us hesitant to put ourselves out there again. But here's the thing: feeling unworthy after a breakup is common, even if you were once confident...2024-02-1817 minBreakup to Blessing5 Things You Can't Avoid After HeartbreakIn today's episode, I want to dive deep into something we all go through but often feel alone in: the aftermath of a breakup. Join me as we explore the five unavoidable aspects of healing after a breakup and why it's crucial to embrace them, even when they feel overwhelming. We'll talk about riding the rollercoaster of emotions, facing triggers and memories head-on, and allowing ourselves to grieve the loss fully. Plus, I'll share insights on adapting to change and the incredible opportunity for self-reflection and growth that comes with heartbreak. If you're going through...2024-02-1513 minBreakup to BlessingBonus Episode: Valentines Day Special for SinglesIn this episode, I share practical tips on how to celebrate Valentine's Day without being reminded of painful memories. I also offer a sneak peek into my new course, Breakup Fast Track, to help you kickstart your healing journey. Here's what you'll learn: Reducing Triggers: Discover effective ways to minimize exposure to reminders of your breakup, including tips on managing social media and avoiding places that hold sentimental value. Celebrating Self-Love: Explore five meaningful ways to celebrate Valentine's Day solo or with friends, focusing on self-care, new experiences, and creating empowering traditions. 2024-02-1305 minBreakup to BlessingThe No-Contact Rule: Why You're Doing It Wrong And The Right Way To Do ItIn this episode, we delve into the often-misunderstood concept of no-contact after a breakup. Drawing from real-life experiences and common misconceptions, we explore why implementing no-contact is crucial for emotional healing and moving forward. From emotional detox to gaining clarity and preventing relapses, we uncover the multifaceted benefits of this practice. Join us as we navigate the complexities of post-breakup recovery and learn how to embrace the power of no-contact for your journey to healing. Key Points: The Story of No-Contact: A compelling narrative illustrates the consequences of failing to adhere to no-contact and the impact...2024-02-1115 minBreakup to BlessingThe #1 Key To Enjoying Your Weekends AgainIn this episode, we're dedicating time to anyone navigating challenging times amidst the craziness of a busy life. Whether you're going through heartbreak or your relationship isn't where you want it to be, and you're feeling stressed about that, this episode is for you. I want to offer practical tips to infuse a bit of self-care into your weekend. Personal Inspiration: I was inspired to write this episode because self-care is something I struggle with. The past couple of years, it hasn't made it high enough on my list of priorities. The past couple of months have...2024-02-0910 minBreakup to BlessingHow Trauma Shows Up in Your Relationships: Interview with Joelle MaletisToday we have a special guest, trauma expert and psychotherapist Joelle Maletis where we reflect on the intricacies of the breakup process, emphasising the natural tendency to swing between self-blame and blaming the other person. The importance of introspection and finding a middle ground is discussed, acknowledging the role of both partners in a relationship. Unpacking Trauma and Identifying Core Beliefs The conversation delves into Joelle’s personal experience of dealing with trauma during a breakup. Insights are shared on how acknowledging and admitting to trauma can be the first step towards healing. The importance of...2024-02-0551 minBreakup to BlessingIs Forgiveness Really Necessary?Today, we're stepping into the powerful world of forgiveness. It's a bit of a maze, especially when it comes to healing from heartbreak. So, grab a metaphorical flashlight, and let's explore how forgiveness can truly liberate you. Defining Forgiveness Let's kick things off by diving into what forgiveness really means. It's a term that gets thrown around a lot, but when it comes to heartbreak, the waters get a bit murky. I'm pulling out the Oxford and Cambridge definitions to shed some light on the confusion many of us face when we think about forgiveness. ...2024-02-0107 minBreakup to BlessingImportant Reminders When Everyday Is A StruggleIn this episode, I discuss the challenges of going through a breakup and provide essential reminders for navigating the healing journey. From acknowledging your feelings to practicing self-care and embracing future opportunities, each reminder aims to support you through this tough transition. Join me as I explore strategies to stay present, reflect without overthinking, and emphasize the importance of patience in the healing process. Remember, you're not alone in this journey, and there are brighter days ahead. This Will Pass (Reminder #1): Emphasizing that the pain is temporary and part of a challenging transition. Reassurance that the...2024-01-2821 minBreakup to BlessingHeartfelt Gratitude: A Prescription for HealingIn today's episode, I share a transformative tool that helped me navigate the darkest moments of my heartbreak and find direction after a breakup. This simple yet powerful tool has the potential to change your life too. Tune in as I discuss the impact of gratitude, how it shifted my perspective post-divorce, and the remarkable benefits it can bring to your mental and physical well-being. Highlights: Overcoming the challenges of a breakup or divorce and finding direction. The turning point at a women’s business event that led to a profound realization. Recommendation of the life-changing bo...2024-01-2612 minBreakup to Blessing6 Signs You Are Not Ready For A RelationshipHey everyone! Today's episode is a deep dive into a crucial topic – the unmistakable signs that signal it's time to prioritise your healing before embarking on a new relationship. You might be wondering, "How much healing is enough before I consider being with someone new?" While there's no exact formula, these clear indicators will tell you when you need to pause and focus on yourself. 1. Unresolved Emotional Baggage: If past traumas or emotional baggage still dominate your thoughts, taking time to achieve emotional neutrality is crucial before considering another relationship. Rebounds often hide rather than re...2024-01-2119 minBreakup to BlessingHealing After Heartbreak: Prioritising Habits, Health, and Guidance in 2024 Before we dive into today's episode, I'm thrilled to announce that enrollment is now open for my signature program, Get Over Heartbreak. This comprehensive program, launching on the 29th of January, is designed to guide you through a step-by-step process—from overcoming heartache to creating your personalized blueprint for a meaningful life. Spots are limited, so secure yours now at sylviasuwan.com/yes or find the direct link in the show notes. The Only 3 Things You Should Prioritize This Year for Your Best Life: Habits, Health, and Guidance Hey, everyone! Today, let's explore how much con...2024-01-1810 minBreakup to BlessingWhen You've Tried Everything But Still Can't Move OnIn today's episode, we're delving into a topic that many of us grapple with—what to do when you've given your all but still can't move on from a breakup. Whether it's been a month or five years since the split, the expectations we place on ourselves can be overwhelming. I want to explore common strategies people try, why they may not have worked, and, most importantly, what you can do to shift your perspective and truly move forward. The Myth of Instant Healing: If you're only a month post-breakup and expecting to be fully moved on, be ge...2024-01-1411 minBreakup to BlessingThe Simple But Powerful Technique to Heal From Heartbreak FasterHey there, it's Sylvia here and I'm so stoked about today's episode! Ever wondered why some people seem to move on effortlessly while others get stuck in the heartbreak loop? Well, that's what we're dissecting today. There's a lot at play, and I'm passionate about shedding light on actions that either propel us forward or hold us back during the healing process. Key Insights: The Thought-Feeling-Behavior Connection: In psychology, there's this model called Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). It's all about how our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors are so intertwined they practically dance together. Think...2024-01-1208 minBreakup to Blessing5 Common Myths Holding You Back From Moving OnWelcome to Breakup to Blessing, the place where we dive deep into the intricacies of heartbreak and guide you on your healing journey. In today's episode, I debunk the most common heartbreak myths that might be hindering your progress in moving on after a breakup. But before we get started, I have an exciting announcement about a free live masterclass I'll be hosting soon. If you're eager to learn the 4 actionable steps to get over your ex and rebuild your life, click here to learn more! Myth 1: Time Heals All Wounds: "Have you ever heard the saying...2024-01-0716 minBreakup to BlessingHow To Be Single On Purpose - Bitesize FridayBefore we dive into today's episode, I've got some exciting news to share. I'll be hosting a FREE Live Masterclass soon on overcoming heartbreak and rebuilding your life. If you're navigating through a challenging time, this masterclass is tailor-made for you. Head over to my website at sylviasuwan.com or click here to secure your spot. 1: Exploring the Freedom of Singleness Now, let's talk about something that's been on a lot of people’s mind—how to be single on purpose. For those of you in a transitional phase, maybe healing from a past relationship, this episode is f...2024-01-0404 minBreakup to BlessingNew Year, New You: Break Out Of Unhealthy Relationships AND Make 2024 Your Best Year YetHello, wonderful listeners! 🎉 Welcome to Breakup to Blessing, and Happy New Year! I'm Sylvia Suwan, your host, and I'm genuinely thrilled to kick off the first day of the year with you. In this episode, I share my excitement about the possibilities that 2024 holds for each of you. While my New Year's Eve might not have been filled with grand celebrations (thanks to the challenges of parenting young kids), I believe that starting the year feeling refreshed sets the tone for a remarkable journey ahead. As we embark on this new year together, I want to...2023-12-3113 minBreakup to Blessing2024 Kickstart: Breakups, Breakthroughs, and Building Future YouHey there, wonderful listeners! 🎙️ Welcome to another episode of Breakup to Blessing, I'm thrilled to have you here as we approach the end of 2023. First off, a massive thank you for your continuous support and for tuning in. Your engagement means the world to me. Now, before we dive into today's episode, I have some exciting news. I'm hosting a free masterclass to kickstart your 2024 with a bang! Join me as I share 4 simple steps to get over your ex and guarantee a better life. Don't miss out – register here or visit https://www.sylviasuwan.com/masterclass N...2023-12-2809 minBreakup to BlessingA Christmas Day Special on Growth and Creating New TraditionsMerry Christmas! This is Sylvia, and I'm genuinely honoured that you're spending this special day with me. I know the holidays can be tough, especially when things didn't turn out as planned. It's okay to feel down, and I'm here to acknowledge and support you through it. Sharing a Personal Story: Let me share a bit of my own journey, particularly how the disruption of our family traditions during the holidays affected me. Traditions hold a special place in our hearts, and when they change unexpectedly, it can be challenging. I recount a specific year when our...2023-12-2418 minBreakup to BlessingLetting Go of Expectations: A Journey to LiberationHey there, lovely listeners! Sylvia here, and I'm excited to dive into today's topic: expectations, the art of letting go, and the beautiful dance of surrender. Expectations: A Double-Edged Sword Expectations can be both guiding lights and tricky traps. We often find ourselves caught up in societal norms, measuring our success against predetermined milestones. But here's the catch - these expectations can lead to constant disappointment and living inauthentically. Let's explore how we can break free from this cycle and reclaim our authenticity. The Art of Letting Go Picture this: helium balloons tied to your...2023-12-2108 minBreakup to BlessingThe 7 Biggest Breakup Mistakes And Why You Should Avoid Making ThemWelcome back! I'm thrilled to have you here because today's topic is incredibly relatable and packed with valuable insights. We're diving deep into "The 7 Most Common Mistakes People Make After a Breakup and Why You Should Avoid Making Them." Whether you're healing from a recent breakup or simply seeking guidance, there's something here for everyone. Mistake #1: Rushing Into Another Relationship We explore the temptation to fill the void left by a breakup with a new relationship. While it might provide temporary distraction, we discuss why taking time to heal is a crucial investment in your...2023-12-1716 minBreakup to Blessing4 Powerful Mindset Changes for Healing This Holiday SeasonHello, wonderful listeners! Welcome back to another episode of Breakup to Blessing. With the holiday season upon us, I know it can be a challenging time, especially if you're navigating heartbreak. But guess what? It doesn't have to be all gloom and doom. In today's episode, I'm here to share some powerful mindset reframes and actionable steps to help you find joy and create new traditions during this festive season. Introduction: The holidays can be tough, but it's all about taking control of what you can and letting go of what's beyond your control. In this episode...2023-12-1511 minBreakup to BlessingWhat Is Healing And How To Measure Your Own Healing ProgressHey there, Breakup to Blessing community! In today's episode, we dive deep into the concept of healing, a term often thrown around during breakups but rarely understood. I want to offer you a clearer understanding of what healing truly means and how you can measure your progress. Let's set benchmarks together to guide you on this transformative path. Have you ever felt stuck in the pain of heartbreak, not knowing when or if it will end? It's like enduring physical pain without a clear recovery timeline. In the absence of clarity, our minds can spiral into hopelessness...2023-12-1018 minBreakup to BlessingLiving Your Best Single Life: Making The Most Of The PresentWelcome back to the Breakup to Blessing podcast! In this episode, I delve into the transformative power of perception during the post-breakup phase. If you've been feeling down about being single, I encourage you to see this time as a golden opportunity for personal growth and exploration. Episode Highlights: Shifting Perspectives: Discover how changing your viewpoint from solitude being a source of sadness to an opportunity can positively impact your emotional state. Unleashing Freedom: Recall those times in your past relationship when your desires took a backseat. Explore the newfound freedom of being...2023-12-0706 minBreakup to BlessingReflections And How To Make Next Year BetterHey there, wonderful listeners! Can you believe we're almost at the end of the year? Time is flying, and I've been doing some serious thinking about the year we've had. Join me today as we dive into reflection and planning – it's like a little personal journey we can embark on together. You know, life can get so hectic, right? In today's episode, we're talking about living with intention in a world full of distractions. Let's figure out how to create some structure to keep us on the path we want to be on. Living with In...2023-12-0321 minBreakup to BlessingTurn Your Pain into Progress: An End of Year ChallengeHappy Friday, dear listeners! As we approach the end of the year, I want to extend a warm welcome to everyone, especially those navigating heartbreak during this potentially challenging time. The holiday season can intensify feelings of loneliness and sadness, and I'm here to offer you a challenge that might spark a bit of joy and inspiration into your life. Challenge for the Remainder of the Year: For the remainder of the year, I'm proposing a challenge. I encourage you to discover at least one hobby or activity that brings you joy. It could be anything – from a...2023-11-3007 minBreakup to BlessingWhy You Can't Move On From Your Ex In this episode, I explore the powerful journey of accepting a breakup as a crucial step towards personal growth and healing. Many of us struggle to let go of past relationships, holding on to the hope of reconciliation. Today, we delve into the reasons behind this reluctance and how embracing the reality of a breakup can pave the way for profound transformation. Key Points: The Struggle to Let Go: Many individuals find it challenging to accept that a relationship has ended, often clinging to the hope of a reunion. This reluctance can manifest in...2023-11-2611 minBreakup to BlessingWeekend Empowerment: Rewrite Your StoryIn this Friday episode, I talk about the power of storytelling and how the story you tell yourself has an impact on how your life plays out, and how it impacts your healing. Here are the headlines of this bite-sized episode: The Victim Mindset The Power of Self-Reflection Empowerment vs. Disempowerment Your Story, Your Reality Positive Impact on Healing Free Healing Affirmations PDF for Self-love Take this weekend to reflect on what your story is, and write a NEW story. To help you with this download my free healing affirmations PDF by clicking the link b...2023-11-2305 minBreakup to BlessingRebuilding Self-Worth After HeartbreakIn this empowering episode of Breakup to Blessing, we explore the journey of rebuilding self-worth after heartbreak. Join Sylvia as she shares principles and tips to elevate your sense of value. Let's dive into the key takeaways: Authenticity Over Conformity Acknowledging the common tendency to question one's worth after a breakup. Emphasizing the importance of authenticity and staying true to oneself. Exploring the negative impact of molding oneself into someone else to gain love. Defining Self-Worth Challenging misconceptions by defining self-worth beyond external factors. Introducing the concept of living in alignment with personal values. Reflecting on the host's...2023-11-1916 minBreakup to BlessingWeekend Wisdom for HealingIn this special Friday episode of "Breakup to Blessing," I delve into the challenges that weekends can bring, particularly during times of heartbreak. Join me as I explore the transition from eagerly anticipating weekends to dreading them due to loneliness. Key Points: Empathy and Purpose Introduction to the purpose of Friday episodes: offering inspiration, hope, and practical tips for more meaningful weekends. Highlighting the intention behind the episodes as a source of comfort during challenging times. The Power of Mindset Illustration of how mindset impacts approaching challenging tasks, with a p...2023-11-1606 minBreakup to BlessingFinding Your Purpose During Heartbreak and Why Its Important Welcome back to Breakup to Blessing! In today's episode, we're building on last week's discussion about the importance of finding true purpose after a breakup. If you haven't listened to that episode, I recommend starting there for context. Summary of Last Episode: Recap: In the previous episode, we explored how distractions alone aren't enough to help you move on from an ex. Many find themselves stuck in a cycle of busyness without true fulfillment. The Concept of Ikigai: Introduction to Ikigai The Four Essential Circles: Something you love Something you are good at Something...2023-11-1413 minBreakup to BlessingWhy Distractions Don't Work And What To Do Instead Sylvia warmly welcomes listeners back to the Breakup to Blessing podcast, expressing gratitude for their dedication to healing and personal growth. In this episode, Sylvia delves into the common post-breakup advice of finding distractions, shedding light on the nuanced difference between merely distracting oneself and investing in activities that nurture one's future. Episode Highlights: 1. Distraction vs. Investment: · Sylvia addresses the misconception around post-breakup advice, emphasizing the importance of distinguishing between mindless distractions and purposeful investments in one's well-being and growth. 2. Individual Circumstances Matter: · She highlights the uniqueness of each person's healing journey, emp...2023-10-3111 minBreakup to BlessingLove Addiction: Understanding the Neuroscience of Heartbreak In this episode, I delve into the often overwhelming experience of feeling obsessed or addicted to an ex-partner after a breakup. I explain the scientific underpinnings of this phenomenon, shedding light on why these emotions can feel so intense and difficult to overcome. Episode Highlights: The Neuroscience Behind Obsession: The Withdrawal Effect: Love as an Addiction: Practicing Self-Compassion: Breaking Destructive Habits: The Power of Conscious Choices Connect with Sylvia: Website: www.sylviasuwan.com Instagram: @breakup2blessing2023-10-2908 minBreakup to BlessingStalking Your Ex On Social Media And How To Resist The TemptationIn this episode, Sylvia delves deep into a common modern dilemma: the irresistible temptation to check up on our exes via social media. With the accessibility of today's technology, this seemingly innocuous habit has become prevalent. Sylvia explores the motives behind it, its impact on our well-being, and shares strategies to break free from this cycle. Episode Highlights: Emotional Connection through Digital Connectivity Sylvia uncovers the emotional pain of loss, leading individuals to seek any means of reconnecting, even if it intensifies their pain. Research draws parallels between post-breakup emotions and those experienced in addiction, shedding...2023-10-2715 minBreakup to BlessingThe 7 Most Common Breakup Questions In this episode, Sylvia addresses the most pressing questions women face when blindsided by a sudden breakup. She empathetically explores the turmoil of seeking closure when the person you trusted and loved deeply has hurt you. Sylvia offers valuable insights into understanding the situation, even if answers seem elusive, and highlights the value of self-growth in such challenging times. Episode Highlights: Why Did They Break Things Off? Sylvia emphasizes the importance of open communication in a relationship. She urges listeners to reflect on their own listening skills and encourages healthy dialogue as a key to understanding...2023-10-2618 min
Breakup to BlessingTurning Breakups into Breakthroughs: A Journey of Healing and Transformation In this episode, Sylvia, a breakup and relationship therapist, shares her personal journey of transformation from a hectic business owner to a compassionate coach. She reveals how her own divorce became the catalyst for helping others navigate the often treacherous terrain of heartbreak. Episode Highlights: From Business Owner to Breakup Coach Sylvia reflects on her transition from a demanding business to her current role as a breakup and relationship coach. She emphasizes the importance of acknowledging personal growth during this period. Navigating a Painful Divorce Sylvia candidly discusses the challenges she faced in her marriage, acknowledging...2023-10-2506 min