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Loving Me Before I Love You Podcast with Tammy Nicole and FriendsUnshackled: Reclaiming My Freedom as a Confident, Unapologetic WomanSend us a textOn this empowering episode, I explore what it means to truly reclaim one's freedom as a confident, unapologetic woman. Joining me is Andreia Ferreira, a personal brand image mentor who overcame years of severe camera anxiety to help introverted entrepreneurs build self-confidence. Our conversation dives into the journey of shedding societal constraints and external expectations to fully embrace your authentic self. Andreia shares powerful insights on leveraging your personal brand to intentionally express your essence without apology. Get ready to feel inspired as we discuss how to break free from self-limiting beliefs and...2024-07-2342 min

Divorce University OnlineThe Tragic EndingThe Tragic Ending – Episode 239 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Life is nothing if not constant change. This episode is our most personal yet. On May 1, 2023 the world lost the most beautiful soul known as Thomas D. Ferreira. Join me (Tammy) for my first solo episode. The pain is raw and real right now but I’m here and we’ll push through together. If you’d like to support our family through this tragic time, our greatest need is financial. So, please share our gofundme link: https://gofund.me/5968e174 2023-05-1024 min

Divorce University OnlineREPLAY: Out of the Mouth of BabesOut of the Mouth of Babes - In this BONUS Episode, we decided to give you a more personal look at divorce from the viewpoint of children, specifically our own. We have invited our four boys to join us in studio this week to share their experiences of our divorces. Tammy’s two sons, Dalton, age 29, Kevin, age 24 and Thomas’ two sons, Isaiah, age 16 and Isaac, age 15 talk about the impact our divorces had on them. The boys were 15, 11, 2, and 1 at the time of our divorces and given their wide range of ages, they saw things very differently. We also...2022-12-221h 15

The Fab Fempreneurs Podcast ShowFeatured Fempreneur: Tammy Ferreira, Divorce University OnlineTammy Ferreira, Founder of Divorce University Online, shares must-know tips to make the divorce process feel less stressful and more manageable. Whether you're at the very beginning stages or still working through post-divorce challenges, this conversation will be supportive!2022-01-1930 min

Divorce University OnlineStop the Madness!Stop the Madness! – Episode 105 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Has your court case become a runaway freight train? Are you up to your eyeballs in attorney fees? We often see this problem after people have become weary from the extended battle of divorce. The good news is, you can stop the insanity. Are you ready to learn how? For more information, please visit us at divorceuniversityonline.com. Thank you for listening!2020-09-0836 min

Divorce University OnlineForging Your AllianceForging Your Alliance – In Episode 104 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we take an in depth look at how to forge an alliance with your ex. In episode 101, we talked about your ex being your natural ally in divorce but in this episode, we’ll dive in to how to actually create that alliance. And the good news is, there are things you can do to start building that alliance even if your ex isn’t on board yet. Trust us, these tips will work if you apply them over the long haul with consistency! For more information, please visit u...2020-09-0133 min

Divorce University OnlineRemembering Your Wedding DayRemembering Your Wedding Day – In Episode 103 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we talk about looking back on our wedding day. I know what you’re thinking. What?! Why would I want to remember that! Actually this reflection, although sometimes painful, can give you some great insight int handling your divorce and creating your future. Join us as we also share our experiences. For more information, please visit us at divorceuniversityonline.com. Thank you for listening!2020-08-2539 min

Divorce University OnlineLeaving an Abusive SpouseLeaving an Abusive Spouse – In Episode 102 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we give you some things to think about in planning your exit. Leaving is never an easy decision, but neither is staying in an abusive relationship. We have seen many cases where people struggled more after leaving due to lack of planning in advance. We discuss, timelines, the Court process, and try to give you an overview of what to expect. For more information, please visit us at divorceuniversityonline.com. Thank you for listening!2020-08-1837 min

Divorce University OnlineIn Every Divorce, Your Ex Is Your Natural AllyIn Every Divorce, Your Ex Is Your Natural Ally – In Episode 101 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss your natural ally in any divorce, your ex. Say what? Well, we know this sounds a bit crazy but if you really think through what you want out of your divorce, you’ll realize that you and your ex share more goals than you and your attorney, you and your children, or you and any other expert in your case. Don’t believe us? Join us now to learn how you can use this to your advantage. For more information, please...2020-08-1132 min

Divorce University OnlineCollateral DamageCollateral Damage – In Episode 100 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we talk about collateral damage in divorce. Collateral damage in divorce usually comes in the form of destroyed relationships including your ex, your kids, and even friends and family. And yet, most people are so focused on other aspects of the divorce such as the parenting schedule, support, and division of assets that they don’t realize they need to protect their family from the collateral damage. Even if you have an attorney, the attorney’s focus is on the core legal aspects of your case, not your relationships. So, ca...2020-08-0436 min

Divorce University OnlineParenting During CoronavirusParenting During Coronavirus – in Episode 99 we talk about co-parenting during the coronavirus pandemic. What do you do if the other parent doesn’t take enough precautions? Should you continue to follow your current Court orders? Should you stop transitioning your child between homes? Join us as we answer these and other common questions we’ve received over the past few months. For more information please visit us at divorceuniversityonline.com. Thank you for listening!2020-07-2832 min

Divorce University OnlineNo Pain, No GainNo Pain, No Gain – in Episode 98 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we talk about that famous saying we’ve all heard “no pain, no gain”. During divorce, no doubt we have all experienced emotional pain. But are there benefits to that pain? Where can we find the “gain”? Join us as we help you find the silver linings of divorce. For more information please visit us a divorceuniversityonline.com Thank you for listening!2020-07-2139 min

Divorce University OnlineCan I Save This Marriage?Can I Save This Marriage? – in Episode 97 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we talk about saving marriages and what situations or behaviors lead to a struggling marriage. We dive into our own experience in our marriage that is successful and our past marriages that have ended. It takes two people to have a successful marriage. We dive into habits that you and your spouse can form or get rid of to help save your marriage. For more information please visit us a divorceuniversityonline.com Thank you for listening!2020-07-1444 min

Divorce University OnlineUsing Humor to Help You Have Difficult ConversationsUsing Humor to Help You Have Difficult Conversations – In Episode 96, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we talk about using humor in certain situations to help lower conflict and stress in difficult conversations. We know divorce isn’t exactly a funny topic, but as the old saying goes, if you don’t laugh, you’ll cry. So, why not try some of our tips on injecting humor into this difficult situation. It will make it easier for you, your spouse, and anyone else involved in your case. Honestly, it’s the main tool we use on a daily basis to help us...2020-07-0729 min

Divorce University OnlineHow to Get the Best Result in Divorce MediationHow to Get the Best Result in Divorce Mediation – In Episode 95, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we talk divorce mediation. Mediation is a great alternative to the typical divorce process and mediation nearly always succeeds in resolving the issues if you have a skilled, knowledgeable mediator. An experienced mediator can provide you with the education and information you need to make optimal decisions and can help you resolve almost any dispute by facilitating the conversation. Join us as we share how to get the best results possible in your mediation process. For more information please visit us a di...2020-06-3045 min

Divorce University OnlineWhen Should I Introduce My Kids to My New Mate?When Should I Introduce My Kids to My New Mate? – In Episode 94, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we talk new mates. People often ask about if, when, and how they should introduce new mates to their children. We find that ex-spouses often disagree on this issue and new mates often create a hiccup in co-parenting at a time when things were just starting to calm down. Join Tammy and Thomas as they share their own experience as well as what they’ve seen go right for clients and what they’ve seen go very wrong. For more information please...2020-06-2336 min

Divorce University Online7 Tips to Deal with Uncertainty7 Tips to Deal with Uncertainty - In Episode 93, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we talk about uncertainty, which most people find to be an uncomfortable feeling. Uncertainty often accompanies change and as you know, divorce is all about change, and lot’s of it! So, how do you deal with uncertainty when your anxiety, stress, and emotions are out of control. Join Tammy and Thomas as they share practical strategies to help you cut through the uncertainty and get your life back on solid ground. For more information please visit us a divorceuniversityonline.com Thank you for listening!2020-06-1644 min

Divorce University OnlineCan This Marriage Be Saved?Can This Marriage Be Saved? - In Episode 92, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we talk about the possibility of saving marriage even though it’s been pushed to the brink of divorce. In a large percentage of cases, one spouse does not want the divorce. But can your marriage be saved or are you holding on to false hope? Listen now as we look at characteristics that we feel are key indicators of whether or not a marriage can be rescued from the brink of divorce. For more information please visit us a divorceuniversityonline.com Thank you for li...2020-06-0945 min

Divorce University OnlineAre You Ready For Your Court-Sponsored Child Custody Mediation?Are You Ready For Your Court-Sponsored Child Custody Mediation? - In Episode 91, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we talk about child custody mediation that is conducted by the Court, not a private mediator. Whether your Court system keeps the mediation private or has the mediator report to the Judge, there are certain things you should do and say and certain things you should not. If you want things to go your way, you need to be prepared with an effective strategy for communicating your desires and concerns involving your children. Listen now as we share our insights from...2020-06-0244 min

Divorce University OnlineDifficult ConversationsDifficult Conversations - In Episode 90, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we talk about the difficult conversations that are often part of divorce. Maybe you are making “the announcement” or maybe your negotiating finances or a parenting schedule. Or maybe, you need to talk about the difficulty one of your children is having. Regardless, these types of conversations are particularly difficult during divorce when emotions run high. Listen now as we share tips and advice to help your conversations remain calm and effective. For more information please visit us a divorceuniversityonline.com Thank you for listening!2020-05-2644 min

Divorce University OnlineIt All Starts With Your ThoughtsIt All Starts With Your Thoughts - In Episode 89, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we dive inward to look at common internal thoughts people have during a divorce or breakup. Your thoughts can often be your own worst enemy. They can lead you to say and do things that hurt you, your ex, your kids, and your Court case. Listen now to learn about the damage these thoughts can do and more importantly, how you can stop them. For more information please visit us a divorceuniversityonline.com Thank you for listening!2020-05-1948 min

Divorce University OnlineCo-Parents! Written Communication Is BetterCo-Parents! Written Communication Is Better - In Episode 88, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we talk about why it is imperative for co-parents to use written communication. This is especially important if you have a high-conflict relationship with your ex. Written communication can even give you an advantage in your Court case, if you are communicating correctly. Join us now to learn what you should and shouldn’t do when communicating with your co-parent. For more information please visit us a divorceuniversityonline.com Thank you for listening!2020-05-1230 min

Divorce University OnlineIs Litigation Killing You?Is Litigation Killing You? – In Episode 87, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss the most common problem in the industry that no one wants to talk about, litigation. Litigation can cause major rifts between families and hurt feelings or damaged relationships for years to come. Worst of all, it can be especially damaging for children going through the process. But why is litigation so damaging? Why do alternative options have less conflict? What can be gained for your life by avoiding the litigation process? Listen in for the answer to these questions. For more information please visit us at...2020-05-0528 min

Divorce University OnlineDo I Need A Divorce Coach?Do I Need A Divorce Coach? - In Episode 86, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss the most under utilized divorce professional in the industry, a Divorce Coach. What is a divorce coach and how do you know if you need one? A divorce coach can be an invaluable resource in almost any divorce, if you find the right one. And unlike your attorney, they have no vested interest in making the situation take longer or be more expensive. Listen now to learn how you can gain a great advantage in your case and your life by relying...2020-04-2839 min

Divorce University OnlineThe Right of First RefusalThe Right of First Refusal - In Episode 85, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss a common Court order in many parenting plans, the “Right of First Refusal”. If you don’t know what that is, then this a must-listen episode for you. A Right of First Refusal, at first glance, seems logical and good for the kids. But there are many aspects of this arrangement to explore. If you have a particularly controlling or manipulative ex, then a right of first refusal can backfire unexpectedly. Join us now as we explore whether you should or shouldn’t ask for...2020-04-2130 min

Divorce University OnlineMoving On From DivorceMoving On From Divorce - In Episode 84, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss the difficulty of moving on after divorce. Many people feel stuck emotionally, financially, and in their co-parenting. We’ll discuss how you can deal with all of these issues in a way that helps you create a post-divorce life that is free from the interference of your ex. Join us now as we help you create a happy, peaceful future. For more information please visit us a divorceuniversityonline.com Thank you for listening!2020-04-1437 min

Divorce University OnlineMy Kids Are Saying………My Kids Are Saying……… - In Episode 83, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss the kids and the things they say about the other parent or the other parent’s home. Often, it’s TMI and you can find yourself thrown back into the emotional rollercoaster of divorce. So, what do you do? You want your kids to feel heard and feel like they can talk to you. But how do we know if what they are saying is accurate? And how do we know if we need to be concerned? Join us now as we explore this delicate i...2020-04-0738 min

Divorce University OnlineVerbal and Emotional AbuseVerbal and Emotional Abuse - In Episode 82, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss the number one complaint we hear about relationships, verbal and emotional abuse. Courts are concerned about abuse, but abuse that comes in the verbal and emotional form is much harder to prove. This often leaves the person being abused with no real resource to deal with it except for their own management of it. Often, when verbal and emotional abuse was present in the marriage, it will remain present in the post-divorce relationship. So, how can you help the Court understand what’s happening on...2020-03-3142 min

Divorce University OnlineWhat's Love Got To Do With It?What's Love Got To Do With It? - In Episode 81, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss love. Now, I know you’re thinking it’s odd for divorce professionals talk about love. But trust us, we see what love IS NOT, all day, every day. And if you’re like us, and you’ve come out of a high-conflict or unloving relationship, it can be difficult to recognize true love. So, how do you know? Join us now as we share our perspectives on this complicated issue. For more information please visit us a divorceuniversityonline.com Thank you for...2020-03-2432 min

Divorce University OnlineLong Distance ParentingLong Distance Parenting - In Episode 80, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss Long Distance Parenting. Are you a Mom or Dad struggling to bond with your child over a long distance? Or perhaps your trying to help maintain the connection between your child and the other parent, who lives far away. We’ve seen many clients navigate this issue and we’ve had some recent experience in our own situation. We’ll share our best tips to help you make sure your bonded to your child, no matter the distance. For more information please visit us a divorc...2020-03-1736 min

Divorce University OnlineI Want My Divorce to Be Done, So What’s Taking So Long?I Want My Divorce to Be Done, So What’s Taking So Long? - In Episode 79, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss the timeframe for a typical divorce, which is usually shocking for most people. We’ll dive into the two stages of every divorce process and share the one thing everyone can do to speed up the Court process. For more information please visit us a divorceuniversityonline.com Thank you for listening!2020-03-1035 min

Divorce University OnlineBecome A Relationship NinjaBecome A Relationship Ninja - In Episode 78, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss the relationship warfare that overtakes many divorcing families. Are you approaching your relationships in a way that encourages battle? Or perhaps your fighting the completely wrong battle? How can you tell? We discuss ways to end the war and nurture your family and your relationships.. For more information please visit us a divorceuniversityonline.com Thank you for listening!2020-03-0335 min

Divorce University OnlineOvercoming Blaming OthersOvercoming Blaming Others - In Episode 77, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss the bad habit of blaming others for our problems. Do you have this problem? You may not think so but we’ll give you some questions to ask yourself so you can find out if you have this tendency. We discuss how to stop blaming others and shift yourself into a positive mindset. This shift will give you hope for the future instead of keeping you stuck in the past. For more information please visit us a divorceuniversityonline.com Thank you for listening!2020-02-2536 min

Divorce University OnlineHolding On to HopeHolding On to Hope - In Episode 76, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss having hope. Hope is generally thought of as a positive feeling, but it can work against you if you are holding out hope for the wrong things or for the wrong reasons. Sometimes hope exists because your brain is trying to protect you from pain or hurt. Do you have hope? Is it good hope? Bad hope? Should you have it? Listen now to find out. For more information please visit us a divorceuniversityonline.com Thank you for listening!2020-02-1835 min

Divorce University OnlineBreaking Up Is Hard to DoBreaking Up Is Hard to Do - In Episode 75, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss the emotional difficulty of breaking up. We often hold on to the old relationship through conflict or begging for reconciliation. Once we do start to move on, we often repeat old patterns by selecting a new partner with similar behavior patterns to our old partner. So how do you heal yourself and move forward into a happy, healthy relationship? Listen now to find out. For more information please visit us a divorceuniversityonline.com Thank you for listening!2020-02-1135 min

Divorce University OnlineWhat Does A Good Marriage Even Look Like?What Does A Good Marriage Even Look Like? - In Episode 74, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we remarriage after divorce. Often, divorcing people have been in a high-conflict or dissatisfying marriage and don’t even know what it’s like to be in a good marriage. Second marriages fail at even higher rates than first marriages so we must learn from our past mistakes if we want a happy marriage the second time around. We discuss commitment, humor and most importantly why thing must be done very differently in regard to children. For more information please visit us a di...2020-02-0453 min

Divorce University OnlineFEAR – False Evidence Appearing RealFEAR – False Evidence Appearing Real - In Episode 73, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we talk about fear in divorce. Fear is a common human emotion that is meant to protect us but what happens when the fear becomes overwhelming? Fear takes many forms in divorce: stress, anxiety, worry. We worry about finances, we worry about our kids but you don’t have to let fear dominate your divorce. We’ll help you break through the fear so you can make good decisions during this difficult transition. For more information please visit us a divorceuniversityonline.com Thank you for listen...2020-01-2834 min

Divorce University OnlineWhere Do Your Kids Want to Live, and Should You Care?Where Do Your Kids Want to Live, and Should You Care? In Episode 72, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we talk about how to honor our children’s preferences about where they live after divorce. What do your kids need from you? How do you create stability for them? What happens when one parent is trying to manipulate the situation? Should you ask the children where they want to live? Why or Why Not? Join us for all this and more! For more information please visit us a divorceuniversityonline.com Thank you for listening!2020-01-2139 min

Divorce University OnlineOut of the Mouth of BabesOut of the Mouth of Babes - In this BONUS Episode, we decided to give you a more personal look at divorce from the viewpoint of children, specifically our own. We have invited our four boys to join us in studio this week to share their experiences of our divorces. Tammy’s two sons, Dalton, age 29, Kevin, age 24 and Thomas’ two sons, Isaiah, age 16 and Isaac, age 15 talk about the impact our divorces had on them. The boys were 15, 11, 2, and 1 at the time of our divorces and given their wide range of ages, they saw things very differently. We also...2020-01-171h 15

Divorce University OnlineWhat Is Your Divorce Goal?What Is Your Divorce Goal? In Episode 71, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we look at goal setting within the context of divorce. A New Year often brings resolutions but that’s different than goals. You may wonder how goal setting can help you manage divorce. We share some statistics that may surprise you. Goal setting is something that anyone can do and the impact it can have on your future and happiness is immeasurable. Join us now for deeper look into this issue. For more information please visit us a divorceuniversityonline.com Thank you for listening!2020-01-1436 min

Divorce University OnlineDo You Want to Win Your Case or Feel Heard?Do You Want to Win Your Case or Feel Heard? In Episode 70, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss our human desire to feel heard and understand which unfortunately, does not necessarily help us win our Court case. The Court approaches our case from a very logical perspective that applies the law without emotion. We typically have a completely emotional approach. When we proceed from emotion, one of two things happen, we either lose our case or the Court cuts us off and won’t let us express our emotions. Even when people “win” they are often upset if the...2020-01-0730 min

Divorce University OnlineCo-Parenting TeenagersCo-Parenting Teenagers - In Episode 69 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we explore the unique aspects of co-parenting teenagers. Being the parent of a teen is already full of daily challenges, but co-parenting adds another layer of difficulty. Differences in the two homes are often an aspect that the teenager is aware enough to use for their own benefit. Whether you’re struggling to get them to listen or you just want them to participate in family life, we share our best tips for divorced parents of teens. For more information please visit us a divorceuniversityonline.com Thank you fo...2019-12-3143 min

Divorce University OnlineAre You In the Divorce Box or Riding the Wave?Are You In the Divorce Box or Riding the Wave? In Episode 68 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we bring a different perspective on the ever-changing process of divorce. All Tammy’s fellow type A personalities will relate to this episode and frankly, so will the type B’s thanks to Thomas! Divorce is a fluid period in your life and we all have to learn to ride the wave of change. Join us as we share our best strategies for keeping you out of the box and riding the wave! For more information please visit us a divorceuniversityonline.com...2019-12-2439 min

Divorce University OnlineTo Date or Not To Date?To Date or Not To Date? In Episode 67 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we talk about the pleasures and perils of dating after divorce. While our own situation is unique, we do not recommend our approach for everyone. There are definitely bad reasons to date right away, which we’ll discuss. We also talk about job one, healing yourself, and how to gain some perspective that will help you figure out when the time is right for you. For more information please visit us a divorceuniversityonline.com Thank you for listening!2019-12-1739 min

Divorce University OnlineDigging Holes in the SandDigging Holes in the Sand…… In Episode 66 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we talk about digging holes in the sand with your kids, which is an example of how to be an awesome Mom or Dad. We all have a tendency during divorce to focus on our ex and what they are or aren’t doing with and for our children. But the most important thing you can do at this stage is build relationship with your kids. And best of all, it’s the key to winning your child custody issues. So, how do you do that? Well, it...2019-12-1036 min

Divorce University OnlineAre You a Co-Dependent?Are You a Co-Dependent? In Episode 65 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we talk about one of the most common labels we hear in divorce, “Narcissist”. But people often fail to understand why they are with a Narcissistic Personality type and what part they play in that dynamic. Many people who are in a relationship with a narcissist are themselves a co-dependent. Why is it important to understand this? As the say, those who don’t learn history are doomed to repeat it. Join us now to learn how to help break the cycle of a Narcissistic-Co-Dependent relationship. For more i...2019-12-0335 min

Divorce University OnlineAre You or Your Attorney Drinking from a Firehose?Are You or Your Attorney Drinking from a Firehose? In Episode 64 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we talk about what it feels like to drink from a firehose. Have you had this experience? People going through a divorce often want to tell their whole story and provide their attorney or the Court with an overabundance of information. When the droplet of information the Court needs is in the middle of an overpowering stream of water, it usually gets lost in the flood. Join us now to learn how to increase your chances of success in Court by presenting...2019-11-2640 min

Divorce University OnlineWhat Is the Court’s Agenda in a Divorce?What Is the Court’s Agenda in a Divorce? In Episode 63 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we talk about the Court’s agenda in a divorce case versus our own agenda. We often expect the Court to deal with problems, that frankly, either they don’t address or aren’t able to solve. We often expect the Court to be fair and reasonable and to handle our difficult ex. But is that what’s on the Court’s agenda? Tune in now to find out! For more information please visit us a divorceuniversityonline.com Thank you for listening!2019-11-1938 min

Divorce University OnlineHow to Defeat Loneliness.How to Defeat Loneliness. In Episode 62 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we talk about loneliness, a feeling that is common in divorce. Divorce pulls apart the family and shuffles our children between the homes. You suddenly find yourself having days of no spouse and no kids. So, what do you do with yourself? Join us as we explore solutions to this problem! For more information please visit us a divorceuniversityonline.com Thank you for listening!2019-11-1239 min

Divorce University OnlineIs Your Spouse Having a Midlife Crisis?Is Your Spouse Having a Midlife Crisis? In Episode 61 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we answer your questions about midlife crisis. What is a midlife crisis and what causes it? What can you do to help your spouse? What can you do to help yourself? Frequently we want to talk to our spouse about the relationship, but that’s actually one of the worst things you can do when you are dealing with a spouse in midlife crisis. Tune in now to learn more about midlife crisis. For more information please visit us a divorceuniversityonline.com Thank you fo...2019-11-0539 min

Divorce University OnlineWhat Can We Learn From #Ellen about Kindness?What can we learn from #Ellen about kindness? In Episode 60 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss Ellen's recent stance on kindness and how she's been attacked in the media for it. More importantly, we dive into the similarities between these events and divorce. How can you model Ellen's behavior to help you in your divorce or child custody case? Tune in now to find out! For more information please visit us at divorceuniversityonline.com. Thank you for listening!2019-10-2937 min

Divorce University OnlineHow Can I Protect My Kids?How Can I Protect My Kids? In Episode 59 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss our desire as parents to protect our kids, particularly during divorce. We all want to minimize the negative impact of divorce, whether it’s protecting them from the divorce process or protecting their health, safety and welfare when they are with the other parent. In some circumstances, we may even need the Court’s help in protecting the children. Listen in to understand your options and to learn how you can use the divorce to have a positive impact on your kids. For more...2019-10-2242 min

Divorce University OnlineHelp! The Fighting Never Ends!Help! The Fighting Never Ends! In Episode 58 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss the four main types of high-conflict personalities. High-Conflict Personalities are seen frequently in divorce cases and often have a history of repeated appearances in front of the Court that never seem to end. We share strategies to help you deal with them in Court and in your day-to-day life. Join us now to stop the madness! For more information please visit us a divorceuniversityonline.com. Thank you for listening!2019-10-1541 min

Divorce University OnlineWhat Is Parallel Parenting?What Is Parallel Parenting? In Episode 57 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss the concept of parallel parenting. If you’re not familiar with this term and you have continuing conflict with your co-parent, then this is a must-listen episode for you. Parallel parenting is the best way to eliminate co-parenting conflict, particularly in the early period following the divorce or breakup. As a parent, conflict is one of the most harmful things you can expose your children to so taking immediate steps to minimize or eliminate conflict is critical. Join us now to learn how! For more in...2019-10-0836 min

Divorce University OnlineWhat Do You Want On Your Tombstone?What Do You Want On Your Tombstone? In Episode 56 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss tombstones. Ok, we know it sounds a bit morbid but you’ll love hearing our favorite funny ones. More importantly, we discuss legacy and how your current choices in your divorce will help to create the legacy you leave for your family, be it good or bad. Listen now to learn steps you can take to create a lasting legacy of love, life and impact regardless of your current situation. For more information please visit us a divorceuniversityonline.com. Thank you for li...2019-10-0338 min

Divorce University OnlineMy Ex Is A Liar!My Ex Is A Liar! In Episode 55 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss how to handle an ex that continually lies. Why do they lie? What do you do if they are even willing to lie to the Court? If their lying is working, should you lie too? Most importantly, how do you take down a liar? We answer all your questions about liars in this episode. For more information please visit us a divorceuniversityonline.com. Thank you for listening!2019-09-2434 min

Divorce University OnlineSo, You Think Your Ex Is Crazy?So, You Think Your Ex Is Crazy? In Episode 54 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss how to handle crazy exes with high-conflict personalities such as Narcissist and Borderline. We’ll give you strategies for dealing with these impossible personalities and help you insulate yourself from the insanity! Listen now to give a try. For more information please visit us a divorceuniversityonline.com. Thank you for listening!2019-09-1729 min

Divorce University OnlineWhy Am I Losing My Custody Case?Why Am I Losing My Custody Case? In Episode 53 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss what happens when you aren’t getting the results you want in your custody case. It’s easy to blame your attorney, your ex, or even the Court. The problem is, you have no control over any of those people involved in your case. So, what can you do? The one thing you have control of is you. We’re going to give you specific strategies to turn the tables on your custody case using the only thing you have control of, your o...2019-09-1034 min

Divorce University OnlinePride Goeth Before DestructionPride Goeth Before Destruction, In Episode 52 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss how pride, especially in divorce, creates the sense that “I’m the only on” or “you don’t know my ex”. We tend to feel like our situation is so much harder or more difficult than the next persons. When you can begin to cultivate humility instead of pride, you begin to see your situation in a more objective way which allows you to identify your part in the conflict. This allows you to have more charitable feelings toward your ex. And why do you want this? B...2019-09-0330 min

Divorce University OnlineFeelings – Yours, Mine, and Ours!Feelings – Yours, Mine, and Ours! In Episode 51 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss the root of many problems before, during and after divorce, feelings. Feelings around divorce are a constant rollercoaster, one day you’re happy your ex is gone, the next you feel angry about it, and the next you are in total grief and crying about it. Sound familiar? Yeah, we’ve been there too. So, what do you do? It’s not like you can just turn off your faucet of feelings Join us now to learn how to slow the emotional rollercoaster and the reas...2019-08-2736 min

Divorce University OnlineIt’s All About Control!It’s All About Control! In Episode 50 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss our human need for control, which is at the heart of conflict in many divorce cases. Many times the conflict shifts from trying to influence your spouse to trying to influence the Court. And the Court often becomes a “superparent” in these battles. So, how do you stop the struggle for control and minimize the Court’s management of your family life. Join us as we share our best strategies, especially if you are a fellow “control enthusiast”. For more information please visit us a divorceuni...2019-08-2040 min

Divorce University OnlineVindication: The Heart of Post-Divorce ConflictVindication: The Heart of Post-Divorce Conflict. In Episode 49 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss our human need for vindication. We see it in almost every case and it’s natural. More importantly, it’s the driving force behind a vast majority of high-conflict Court battles. If vindication is what so many are seeking, why is it we rarely see the Court process satisfy this need? It all comes down to what the Court can’t control in this process. What is that? Listen now to find out! For more information please visit us a divorceuniversityonline.com. Thank you fo...2019-08-1337 min

Divorce University OnlineNo Fault Divorce…….Really?No Fault Divorce…….Really? In Episode 48 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we look back on the evolution of “no fault divorce” and examine how the shift to no fault divorce changed the divorce process. What was the idea behind the “no fault” revolution? Did it accomplish what the Court’s were trying to accomplish. Do we really have “no fault” divorce? How did this influence the battleground we see in today’s divorce process? Join us to understand the history of no fault divorce and how it continues to impact today’s divorce process. Listen now! For more information please vis...2019-08-0641 min

Divorce University OnlineCover Your……..Monkey’s Butt!Cover Your……..Monkey’s Butt! In Episode 47 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss three specific action that make you look like a “monkey’s butt” to the Court and to your ex. Why should you care? Because this can have a significant impact on your case. We also discuss what you can do to turn it around if you’ve made mistakes that leave the Court thinking you are the problem instead of your difficult ex! Listen now to find out! For more information please visit us a divorceuniversityonline.com. Thank you for listening!2019-07-3033 min

Divorce University OnlineGot Parental Alienation?Got Parental Alienation? In Episode 46 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss the devastation that is parental alienation. As much as we would love to think one parent would never do this to another, it happens. So what should you do? How do you handle this? And, more importantly, what shouldn’t you do? The Court often has difficulty dealing with this issue and that’s why your own actions and reactions become even more important if the other parent is trying to alienate you. But, have hope, there are things you can do. So, what are they? List...2019-07-2339 min

Divorce University OnlineWhy Won’t the Pain Stop?!Why Won’t the Pain Stop?! In Episode 45 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss the pain that is divorce. We always say that if a person has never been through a divorce, you can’t possibly explain the extreme emotional pain of it. We often try to (unknowingly) hold on to the relationship and since we are divorcing, the only way to do that is through negative contact, or pain. This results in conflict and sometimes people use the Court system to play out that conflict in an effort to “win”, which they think will stop the pain. If...2019-07-1637 min

Divorce University OnlineDON’T Behave the Way You Feel!DON’T Behave the Way You Feel! In Episode 44 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss how important it is for you to behave differently than you feel. Let’s face it, we are often filled with grief and extreme emotion at a point where the Court is expecting “Adult Behavior” from us. You can’t always control the way you feel but there are things you can do to help you control the way you behave. Although a divorce or breakup can feel like a tearing down process, it’s often a turning point for us to build up a ne...2019-07-0940 min

Divorce University OnlineREVENGE: We All Want It!REVENGE: We All Want It! In Episode 43 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss the most common feeling we see in working with divorcing clients, the desire for revenge. While we aren’t always willing to admit this feeling, we definitely all have it on some level. We have the need for revenge because we all want vindication, whether it’s financial or emotional. So, what can you do? How do deal with those feelings in a way that helps you move forward in your own life and happiness? Listen now to find out! For more information please visi...2019-07-0236 min

Divorce University OnlineThe Five Stages of Divorce Grief RecoveryThe Five Stages of Divorce Grief Recovery. In Episode 42 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we discuss the emotional process of moving through divorce which in effect, is a process of grieving. If you are familiar with the work of Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, you’ll recognize our discussion around the 5 stages. No matter what stage you’re at, you’ll recognize parts of yourself and current emotional processing. We’ll also share tips on how to move quickly through to the other side of grief, where you can reclaim your joy! For more information please visit us a divorceuniversityonline.com. Thank yo...2019-06-2533 min

Divorce University OnlineWisdom from on High – 5 Biblical Quotes to Live By After Divorce or SeparationWisdom from on High – 5 Biblical Quotes to Live By After Divorce or Separation. In Episode 41 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we share our 5 favorite biblical verses that helped us personally during our divorces. Divorce is not easy regardless of which religious beliefs you hold. However, the Bible can provide us with some comfort and wisdom to help us understand how to deal with what is happening to our marriage and our family relationships and how to forge a path forward into the unknown. For more information please visit us a divorceuniversityonline.com. Thank you for listening!2019-06-1837 min

Divorce University OnlineOne Powerful Idea to Revolutionize Your Co-Parenting RelationshipOne Powerful Idea to Revolutionize Your Co-Parenting Relationship. In Episode 40 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we analyze the difficulties of co-parenting. How do you deal with conflict? How do you get privacy from your ex and get them to leave you alone? Most parents are frustrated with their co-parent and the manipulation that is often used by one of the parties to cause the other parent as much grief as possible. How do you create a boundary that protects your sanity and allows you to have a loving and nurturing relationship with your kids? Join us as we...2019-06-1139 min

Divorce University OnlineDo You Know the ONE Resource That Will Turn the Tables on Your Divorce?Do You Know the ONE Resource That Will Turn the Tables on Your Divorce? In Episode 39 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we help you assess what you actually want from your post-divorce life and how to get it. Most people utilize resources such as aggressive lawyers, financial experts and therapists to try to help them get to their post-divorce life. Often, these resources keep you stuck in the mire of divorce. So, what’s the one resource that can help move you forward? Listen now to find out! For more information please visit us a divorceuniversityonline.com. Thank yo...2019-06-0442 min

Divorce University OnlineHow can you combat post-divorce grief?How can you combat post-divorce grief? In Episode 38 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we examine the different areas of our lives that grief can creep into following a divorce. In our experience working with clients, this is an area that everyone struggles with. We’ll also each share how this affected each of andus personally, professionally, and on the homefront during our divorces 13 years ago. More importantly, we’ll give you tools you can use to overcome this overwhelmingly painful part of the process and get back to life! For more information please visit us a divorceuniversityonline.com. Than...2019-05-2843 min

Divorce University OnlineHow do you handle the religious training of children after divorce?How do you handle the religious training of children after divorce? In Episode 37 of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we walk you through many of the struggles co-parents have around this issue. What if one of you isn’t religious or doesn’t attend church? What if you have different religions? How do you talk to the kids about attending separate churches post break-up? And what do you do for special church events? There are workable solutions as we’ve discovered in our 12 years of co-parenting. Join us now as we help you navigate this potential conflict! For more inform...2019-05-2137 min

Divorce University OnlineI Am Not a VictimWelcome to Episode 36 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. In Episode 36, I Am Not a Victim, we help you reframe the mindset that traps many of us during divorce. It’s common to feel that your spouse destroyed your family by having affairs, spending excessively, constantly criticizing or whatever other issues broke down your marriage. This puts us in a mindset of “I can’t because” and when we start saying those words, we become weak, full of self-doubt, and vulnerable to continuing attacks from our ex. Wouldn’t you rather feel strong, confident and immune to feelings about your ex an...2019-05-1444 min

Divorce University OnlineUnderstanding Attorney Retainers, Fees, and BillingWelcome to Episode 35 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. In Episode 35, Understanding Attorney Retainers, Fees, and Billing, we try to remove the confusion around attorney fees. Many divorcing people have never had a prior need for legal services and don’t understand an attorney retainer or how it works. Furthermore, they don’t understand how billing and fees are charged to them and are often shocked when they receive the first bill from their attorney. In this episode we demystify the retainer, hourly billing rates, and how clients are charged during the divorce process. We also give you tips on w...2019-05-0742 min

Divorce University OnlineDivorce Court Process Flyover – Understanding the BasicsWelcome to Episode 34 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. In Episode 34, Divorce Court Process Flyover – Understanding the Basics, we talk about the legal process that everyone goes through during divorce. It’s important to have a basic understanding of the process so that you can make decisions regarding your case. Divorce is a lawsuit that involves pleadings, motions, discovery, and trial. For most people this part alone feels overwhelming. Confused yet? Listen now as we help you find your way through the legal mud. For more information please visit us a divorceuniversityonline.com. Thank you for listening! Episode 34 Resources: Writ...2019-04-3048 min

Divorce University OnlineWhat Are Your Divorce Superpowers?Welcome to Episode 33 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. In Episode 33, What Are Your Divorce Superpowers?, we talk about common feelings we all have during divorce such as anxiety, anger, fear, and depression. Then, we help you discover the divorce superpower lurking inside of you that will help you fight those enemies. Finding your inner Superman or Wonderwoman is easier than you think. For more information please visit us a divorceuniversityonline.com. Thank you for listening! Episode 33 Resources: The Alter Ego Effect by Todd Herman 2019-04-2344 min

Divorce University OnlineThe Number One Divorce Secret: It Will Be Better Tomorrow,Welcome to Episode 32 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. In Episode 32, The Number One Divorce Secret: It Will Be Better Tomorrow, we talk about the crisis of divorce that almost every single person experience including the strong illusion that your current misery will last forever. Fortunately, it won’t. Divorce is a transition to a new life. But how do you get to that new life? What steps can you take to get out of the misery and get excited about your future? Join us as we help you connect with family, friends, and maybe a new version of yo...2019-04-1638 min

Divorce University OnlineFour Weapons That Demolish Post-Separation NegativityWelcome to Episode 31 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. In Episode 31, Four Weapons That Demolish Post-Separation Negativity, we talk about the common cycle of negativity often see in newly separated people. Hurt, anger, and resentment are common emotions in divorce and unfortunately, many people stay stuck in those emotions for extended periods of time. Often our exes are the target of these negative feelings but staying stuck actually hurts you way more than it hurts them. But unless you have a magic wand, you may be like us and struggle to move forward in a positive way that helps...2019-04-0944 min

Divorce University OnlineHow to Turn Around a Bad Child Custody SituationWelcome to Episode 30 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. In Episode 30, How to Turn Around a Bad Child Custody Situation, we talk about what to do if you have a restraining order, are on supervised visitation, or just have less parenting time than you wanted. Thomas always says child custody is a marathon not a sprint and we’re going to help you run that marathon in a way that will help you get more parenting time. We’ll discuss how to build a closer relationship with your child with the time you currently have and how to increase the...2019-04-0250 min

Divorce University OnlineThe Secret to Healthy Post-Divorce RelationshipsWelcome to Episode 29 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. In Episode 29, The Secret to Healthy Post-Divorce Relationships, we talk about what caused the misery in our previous relationship, how we can get ourselves emotionally healthy, and how not to get ourselves into the same situation all over again! If you’re anything like us, you definitely have no desire to repeat the past! Understanding dependence, independence, and interdependence and how they all work together to form a healthy relationship is the first step. Join us this week for an in-depth discussion on how to create your emotionally healthy post-divorce li...2019-03-2639 min

Divorce University OnlineFive Resolutions to Transform You After DivorceWelcome to Episode 28 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. In Episode 28, Five Resolutions to Transform You After Divorce, we talk about how maddening the divorce process is for most people. It is inherently negative and therefore, easily framed in negative ways by those of us going through it. Unfortunately, the Court process only perpetuates more negativity. But what if there was a way to turn the tables on that process and find your joy again? Divorce is an opportunity to find yourself or even reinvent yourself. What is important to you? What do you enjoy? Join us as we...2019-03-1945 min

Divorce University OnlineCourts Can’t Change Your ExWelcome to Episode 27 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. In Episode 27, Courts Can’t Change Your Ex, we talk about most peoples’ desire for the Court to know what’s going on in their situation. Courts are really good at managing big issues but not so good at managing the day-to-day aspects of relationships. So, what do you do? Join us as we talk about solutions to the day-to-day issues and steps you can take to help you manage aspects of your case and dealing with your ex even when the Court can’t really help you. For more informat...2019-03-1236 min

Divorce University OnlineThe Shot Heard Round The WorldWelcome to Episode 26 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. In Episode 26, The Shot Heard ‘Round the World, we talk about how an aggressive stance is a recipe for heartache and expense in any divorce case. A conflict of interest exists for an attorney in any divorce case because the more conflict there is, the more money they make. How well do you know your attorney and understand what motivates their decision making? Breaking up is difficult for almost everyone but the choices you make at the outset can have a lasting impact on your divorce matter. You need to de...2019-03-0534 min

Divorce University OnlineStep-ParentingWelcome to Episode 25 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. In Episode 25, Step-Parenting, Family Life's Most Thankless Gig we talk about the difficulty of incorporating new mates into a divorced family. We share some of our own experiences and discuss common questions. How much authority should your new mate have with the kids? How do you get the kids and your ex-spouse on board with the new relationship? Join us as we share our own mistakes and help you avoid common pitfalls. For more information please visit us a divorceuniversityonline.com. Thank you for listening!2019-02-2641 min

Divorce University OnlineCommunication 201 - Examples of Effective CommunicationWelcome to Episode 24 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. In Episode 24, Communication 201 - Examples of Effective Communication we dive into concrete examples of communication between coparents and explain how we would revise the communication and why we recommend the changes. These examples are designed to help you model your own communication and create more cooperative and peaceful communication with your coparent. For more information please visit us a divorceuniversityonline.com. Thank you for listening!2019-02-1949 min

Divorce University OnlineThe Key Is YouWelcome to Episode 1 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. In this Episode we discuss the number one key to success in any divorce. You may be surprised to learn that the "secret sauce" is not the attorney you choose, the judge you have, or who is your ex’s attorney. Rather, the "secret sauce" is you. You are the key to your own success in this situation. And that's great news because you are in control of your behaviors, your thoughts, and your decisions. Thomas and Tammy will teach you to use this "secret sauce" to your advantage! For mo...2018-09-1842 min

Divorce University OnlineAbout Your Hosts - Thomas & Tammy FerreiraIn this episode, Thomas and Tammy discuss their own divorce experiences in 2006 and how their experiences created a desire to help others traveling the road of divorce. Learn more at www.divorceuniversityonline.com 2018-09-1234 min