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Not So LinearGrief & Anxiety, with Josh Fletcher (@anxietyjosh)In this episode I speak with Joshua Fletcher (@anxietyjosh on IG), who is a psychotherapist specialising in anxiety disorders. I wanted to understand why grief can often be a catalyst for anxiety and how we can learn to retrain our brain to manage it more effectively.Josh opens up about the experience of losing his brother to cancer as a teenager and how the unprocessed grief led him to a mental breakdown. However, he now commits his career to providing psychoeducation and spreading awareness about the topic. He is a best-selling author of two anxiety self-help...2021-11-2648 minNot So LinearDarkness is Golden, with Mary HoangMary Hoang is a psychologist who thinks creatively about what makes humans lead more meaningful lives. She is founder of the mental health organisation 'The Indigo Project' and is tearing down the walls of traditional psychology.After her fathers death in 2017, Mary turned to art and writing to explore how the darker aspects of life hold the keys to insight and purpose. Losing him was her life changing moment, which she so beautifully documents in her book ‘Darkness is Golden’ and explores alongside us how we can deal with life’s messiness. We talk ab...2021-10-2555 minNot So LinearTam Talks #1Hey everyone! I'm back from a little break in podcasting and returning with a new sort episode type called 'Tam Talks', which is full of my little ramblings and thoughts! I talk about:Lockdown lifting in SydneyTaking your time to get back in to socialisingAustralia's crazy border rulesFeeling excluded as a temporary visa holderFocusing on gratitude and what I do haveTrying to live in the momentPatreon Click here to become a Patron MemberSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/not-so-linear. See acast.com/privacy...2021-10-2015 minNot So LinearMy Grief Journey Pt.2, with Tamsin & Lily MillardHey! Welcome back to another episode of Not So Linear, where I talk about my grief journey and the last 6 months of change since launching the podcast. This time I'm interviewed by my younger sister Lily, which is very special as it shows how much we've grown through our grief together.I talk honestly about how my relationship with my grief and my mum have evolved, as I have tried to make peace with my emotions and find ways to connect with her again. I also talk about the importance of finding a strong community of others...2021-08-2341 minNot So LinearGrief & Loss Education in the Workplace, with Katrina Preisler-WellerHey guys! On today's episode I am joined by fellow motherless daughter, Katrina. After experiencing multiple losses within her early life and witnessing the uncomfort and lack of knowledge around her, Katrina began her journey as a grief & loss educator.Katrina specialises in providing workshops within organisations and businesses. For many people, returning to work after a significant loss can be daunting and anxiety inducing. Therefore, it's so important that our workplaces are able to support those who are grieving and can provide their employees with the tools to deal with such scenarios. Katrina also t...2021-08-0833 minNot So LinearLosing my twin brother Will, with George FalckIn this episode I'm joined by George Falck, who lost his twin brother Will when he was 24. Will was diagnosed with terminal cancer and the boys decided they would do as much as they could in the few years that they had left together.From following England Football matches all over Europe, to Will running a marathon in Amsterdam, they didn't let the anticipatory grief get in their way of quality time together. However, George is very open about how he felt relief once Will passed away, since his last few months and weeks were an extremely d...2021-08-0237 minNot So LinearJustice for Jon, with Jennifer SolorzanoTrigger warning: This episode contains conversation around gun crime and violence. In today’s episode I talk with Jennifer from LA, who lost her boyfriend Jon in last year, in a brutal, unprovoked attack. His killer shot him multiple times. We talk about how she has coped with her grief after losing him in such a horrible way and how she’s now protesting current policies in place that are preventing his killer serving a full sentence. Don’t forget to follow and you can find me on Instagram: @tamsinmillard_ Click here to become...2021-07-2631 minNot So LinearHeartbreak, with Jessie StephensIn this episode, I am joined by Jessie Stephens, a Sydney based writer, podcaster and Assistant Head of Content at Mama Mia! We talk all things Heartbreak and how it is often a form of grief that is totally dismissed. Jessie explains how a series of failed relationships and whirlwind romances, led her to feel isolated, depressed and a lack of self esteem. Until one day, she realised she needed to move through the grief, face her emotions head on and as a result wrote her new book 'Heartsick'.We also discuss toxic dating app c...2021-07-1944 minNot So LinearExpat life during a global pandemic, with Caroline MckennaIn this week's episode I speak with Caroline McKenna, about how it feels to be an expat in Australia during a ban on international travel. It is an unusual type of grief for those living overseas, since it can be emotionally stressful, anxiety inducing and tiresome not knowing when we can reunite with loved ones again.By day Caroline is a teacher but within her spare time, she hosts social events and her podcast 'A County Down Under', to help people feel les alone. Expect to hear a very raw conversation on how it feels t...2021-07-1243 minNot So LinearAustralia's Black Summer, with Ray LawIn the summer of 2019/2020, Australia experienced grief and loss on a national scale. It was one of the most catastrophic bushfire seasons in history, resulting in the loss of 33 people, 3 billion animals and 24 million hectares of land. In my new season of Not So Linear, I speak with Ray Law, from one of the worst hit regions in New South Wales. I was curious to know what life was like during those months and to my surprise, I learnt of the sheer negligence that the community experienced and how the volunteer firefighters were ignored by those in p...2021-07-0530 min
The QUO PodcastGrief that speaks: peer support for motherless daughters“How can we help a grieving person if the other person who is meant to listen won’t even give them five minutes of their own discomfort?” Tamsin Millard and Danielle Snelling talk about the power of peer support and the unique experience of processing complex grief as young motherless daughters.2021-06-2550 minNot So LinearMy Daughter Dorothy, with Rachel WhalenIn this week's episode I talk with Rachel, who some of you may recognise from her blog and social media community 'An Unexpected Family Outing'. It's a place for her to share and connect with others, over the loss of her daughter Dorothy.At 28 weeks, Rachel was diagnosed with severe preclampsia and HELLP syndrome. She was left fighting for her life, whilst having to deliver Dorothy still born.Prior to Dorothy, Rachel had also experienced two miscarriages, so becoming a mother was something she'd been desperately awaiting. She didn't realise how hard the journey to...2021-04-181h 02Not So LinearLosing my superhero grandad, with James RoycroftHey guys, welcome back to Episode 9! This week I chat with James, who is the host of 'The Rut pod', a podcast that explores men's mental health. It's important to note that we do talk about depression and suicidal thoughts, in case this is triggering for you. James speaks so openly about losing his grandad, who he was incredibly close to. Quite often people are floored by the grief of a grandparent, yet society can sometimes dismiss it because of the person being elderly. Please remember, your grief is totally valid and James is great proof of t...2021-04-0938 minNot So LinearHow can I process my complicated grief? With Dr. ChloeHey listeners, welcome to Episode 8! In this episode I chat with Dr. Chloe, who is a chartered counselling psychologist that specialises in traumatic loss and grief. We talk through my 'layers of loss', as I experienced losing my mum twice - once whilst she was alive (due to her mental health condition) and then her passing away when I was 18. We cover:Dr Chloe's background and research in trauma and griefWhat is complicated grief?What are the symptoms?What frameworks / advice can I follow to process my emotions?Mental health conditionsCoping mechanisms for anxietyDr. Chloe believes t...2021-04-0231 minNot So LinearFrom fighting in Afghanistan, to the war on his own mental health, with Craig MonaghanTrigger warning: This episode contains discussions around suicide and self harm. Craig fought in one of the bloodiest battles in Afghanistan, where he lost 10 soldiers within his company and a further 10 to suicide upon returning to the UK. He encountered serious blast injuries and had difficulty adjusting back to 'normal' life. How could anybody else understand what he had just witnessed at war?He then spiraled in to a path of self destruction, which led to drinking, fighting and sadly three attempts of suicide. Craig was then fighting a war on his own mental health an...2021-03-2633 min
Not So LinearNavigating sudden loss, to becoming a mental health first aid officer, with Sandra RodriguezIn this week's episode I talk with my friend Sandra, who I met through my Sydney support network 'our grief'. Sandra received a call to say she'd suddenly lost her mum to suicide and had the exhausting task of returning back to the US to be with her family. We talk about how she brilliantly navigated the return to work, how opening up to peers and a therapist helped her to process the grief and how she is now training to be a mental heath first aid officer. A big thank you to Sandra for coming on to the p...2021-03-1928 minNot So LinearI had a miscarriage, with Dr Jessica ZuckerDr. Jessica Zucker is a Los Angeles-based psychologist specialising in reproductive and maternal mental health. She writes extensively on this topic for outlets such as The New York Times, The Washington Post, New York Magazine, and Vogue. Dr. Zucker is the creator of the #IHadaMiscarriage campaign.We talk through how her own experience of miscarriage reshaped the way she thought of her own theory, how many women blame and punish themselves for something that is so out of their control and what not to say to people experiencing early pregnancy loss. Her first book I HAD A...2021-03-1127 minNot So LinearA pre Mother's Day message from me, Tamsin MillardHey guys! Since you said you wanted to hear more from me, I thought why not take the opportunity to send you a pre Mother's Day message. For those of you who are motherless daughter's like me, or may have lost a child, please know it is okay for you to deal with this day in whichever way suits you best. It's also important that if you are supporting someone grieving, that you reach out to check they are okay.I also chat about my upcoming birthday trip to Tasmania and the great feedback I have had...2021-03-0805 min
Not So LinearLet's Talk about Loss, with Beth FrenchIn today's episode I talk to Beth French, founder of the UK charity 'Let's Talk about Loss'. Beth's mum passed away when she was 20 and found her grief to be both isolating and confusing. She didn't want other young people to go through the same experience, so she set up her own grief support network. We talk about what helps her to cope in the days where she still finds her grief difficult, the weird things people have said to her since her mums death and how horrendously bad bereavement cards are!You can find Beth on...2021-03-0425 min
Not So LinearContinuing Rachael's legacy, through 'You, Me and the Big C', with Steve BlandWelcome back listeners! In today's episode I speak with Steve Bland, who lost his wife Rachael to Breast Cancer in September 2018. Rachael was a BBC newsreader and during her cancer diagnosis she set up her BBC Radio 5 Live podcast 'You Me and the Big C', to help support others in their journey. Steve talks openly about how they dealt with anticipatory grief and he tells us about the book Rachael wrote for their son Freddie, so he has memories to keep forever. We also discuss how he's navigated life as a young widow, his experience with grief a...2021-02-2525 minNot So LinearLearning how to find happiness again after losing her mum to cancer, with Kathryn HookerIn today's episode I talk with Kathryn Hooker, who you may recognise from Episode 1! Kathryn lost her mum to cancer in 2015, whilst she was at university. We talk about how she struggled with her mental health for the year after her mum's death and how important it is to find the things that make you feel better in your own grief. As motherless daughters we both have common understanding and share thoughts on how losing someone so close can often create anxiety about the death of others around us. Kathryn's grief has now pushed her to becoming an inspiration...2021-02-1822 minNot So LinearMy grief journey Pt.1, with Tamsin MillardHey listeners!Welcome to the very first episode of my podcast, where I tell my own grief story. I’m joined by the lovely Kathryn Hooker, who is host of the Dead Parent Club Podcast. We talk openly and honestly about the death of my mum at 18 years old and how we can't help but sometimes feel a little bitter about being a motherless daughter. I also discuss how my grief impacted my own mental health and how I’ve now found my happy place in Sydney, Australia. You can find me on instag...2021-02-1025 minNot So LinearIntroductionHey and welcome to not so linear, the podcast that aims to normalise the topic of grief and help people feel less alone in their own journey.When I was 18, my mum died and due to our complicated relationship, my grief was difficult and unresolved. Fast forward ten years and I am now using my experience to help others!In this season I have interviewed some amazing guests, who have gone through a range of different grief journeys. Naturally there are a handful of episodes with young women like me, who are navigating their life...2021-02-1002 min