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Grey Areas with Petra BagustUnforeseen grief | Tatiana HotereBrazilian-born actor and playwright Tatiana Hotere joins Petra Bagust for a poignant conversation about navigating the sudden loss of her husband Jason six years ago. Tatiana shares how debilitating her grief could be at times, a profound way she discovered to navigate those waves of grief, and the complications of grieving in community. Tatiana's play Skin Hunger was written as a way to process her grief and was performed at Auckland’s Q Theatre this year. She also blogs about grief on her website Crazy Grief. For more conversation about grief, check out Seaso...2023-06-141h 03
An Eclectic Life with Andrew WhitesideThe Skin Hunger and how grief can make you hornySkin Hunger is a theatrical production coming to Auckland in September 2022 that is part of the Fringe Festival. It is a grief-stricken woman coming to terms with the death of her husband and her sexuality. It promises to be a drama with a lot of comedy in it. To talk about the production is director Romy Hooper and the writer and one of the stars of the production Tatiana Hotere who hails originally from Brazil. Towards the end of the interview, we also touch on one of Romy’s side gigs as an intimacy coordinator in film and theatre.2022-09-0417 min
Crazy Grief24. This too shall pass. Really? - SolocastIn this finale episode of the first season of Crazy Grief Podcast, we talk about the 3 P's - Personalisation, Permanence and Pervasiveness. And we explore some of negative thought patterns we can become attached to, which may affect our wellbeing and our progression through our grief journey.
Crazy Grief Podcast is now officially in hiatus for a few months, while I tend to some other important parts of my life.
ButI would still love to hear from you. Please connect with me through facebook https://www.facebook.com/crazygrief or Instagram https://www...2021-03-1149 minCrazy GriefGrief Shame - The dangers of minimising our own grief - SolocastEvery loss is unique. Every loss comes with its own unique challenges. But often when we negate the impact of our own grief because we feel like we can't compare our loss with someone else. we end up invalidating our own grief experience.
There is a tendency to diminish our own grief in light of someone else's loss, especially if the person we lost is not a spouse, a child or a parent. However, when we are feeling the loss of a brother, a friend, a work colleague, but we do not acknowledge our grief...2021-02-1940 minCrazy Grief22. Grief in the Workplace - How to navigate the difficulties bereavement when you have to show up at work.Edit Horvath is the driving force behind Active WorkLife Solutions. As an organisational psychologist, Edit uses her expert knowledge in a professional and pragmatic fashion. With more than 25 years experience in business and consulting worldwide, Edit has faced a broad-range of issues. She loves a challenge and enjoys complex problems, both strategic and operational.
Her strengths are in supporting organisations and meeting their specific needs that contribute to maximise their effectiveness, efficiency and ultimately their productivity. Her professional approach and sophisticated solutions have been proven to be effective and powerful for her clients.
Edith...2021-02-121h 15Crazy Grief21. Reframing our questions - The questions we ask can either help or hinder our grief journey.We have so many unanswerable questions when our person dies. More often than not, those questions start with "Why" and these types of questions can be detrimental to our own mental and emotional wellbeing. But what is the alternative when we are plagued with questions to which we can never get an answer?
I hope this episode may give you some insights into reframing your questions so you can discover more empowerment, peace and strength for the long journey ahead.
Let me know what you think, I would love to hear from you...2021-02-0448 minCrazy Grief20. Motherhood Grief - Looking after yourself so you can look after your grieving children - with Megan HillukkaMothers often put themselves last in order to care for everyone else. But when the death of a family member brings paralysing grief, how can a grieving mother continue to care for her children who are also grieving?
Every family, every death, and every situation is unique, but there are some common elements bereaved mothers face. Drawing from her personal experience and her work as a grief coach, Megan Hillukka shares practical advise on self-care which enables mothers to find health ways to care for themselves in their process of grief, while also being present for...2021-01-281h 19Crazy Grief19. Embrace the grief to recover the joy - Feel the feelings and let them move through your body.Megan Hillukka is a mother of 6 beautiful Children. 5 who are still here. Of them, her daughter Aria, died as a baby and her death plummeted Megan into PTSD and into a long recovery journey, where she has done the work to find healing in her brain, in her body and in her life. Now, Megan wants everyone to know that PTSD is not a life sentence, and that healing is possible. She has become a grief coach, encouraging and supporting grieving mothers to embrace their grief and to discover that though the worst thing has happened to them, their...2021-01-211h 00Crazy Grief18. Sex for one: The intersection of grief and sexuality - Christy LantermanFix the sex and you fix the relationship (according to Esther Perel). But how does a widowed person deal with the challenges of their sexual desire for a partner who is no longer here. To make things even more complex, when spiritual beliefs bring shame, condemnation and secrecy about sex, what is a healthy path towards exploring our own sexuality when we are now on our own?
Together with my dear friend Christy Lanterman, who is an amazing counsellor based in Kansas City, I share some of my very personal journey of struggle and celebration in...2020-11-1400 minCrazy Grief17. Dating after the loss of a spouse - Claudia Coenen Part 2Not everyone is interested in dating again after the death of a spouse, but for many of us, being alone is not something we want either. For many people the possibility and challenges of finding love after loss, of connecting with someone special in a physical and emotional level is a deep desire because as human being we are wired for connection and intimacy. We thrive in healthy relationships and we wither in the absence of it.
It is incredibly difficult exploring how to heal our own lives, specially how to engage in loving again while...2020-10-2200 minCrazy Grief16. Creativity in Grief - Claudia CoenenHuman beings are by nature creative and imaginative. Because grief is a holistic experience that affects every level of our being and it requires an outlet, tapping into a creative process can be extremely cathartic during our grief journey. Creativity can really help us process our emotions and find a way through. Be it journaling, drawing, dancing, singing, or even having a mindful walk in nature, any big or small creative is valuable.
Claudia Coenen is a certified grief counsellor and thanatologist with a Masters in Transpersonal Psychology. Her life experience as a performer, mother, chef...2020-10-1700 minCrazy Grief15. Holding space for someone to grieve - Edna GasparThere are people who show up and pay their respects when a death occurs. There are people who show up and bring practical help in the days and weeks after a funeral. And them, there are people who continue to show up months and years later as a grieving person tries - and often fails - to rebuild a new life after the death of their person.
My dearest friend, soul sister, delightful "companheira" Edna Gaspar is the kind of person who can do all of the above and beyond. And she does it with intention...2020-09-171h 03Crazy Grief14. Attachments Beyond Death - Ruth Lawson-McConnellOur attachments don't die with the person we lost. In many cases they do intensify but in the absence of their physical presence it's vitally important to redefine what kind of relationship we can still have with our person. In this episode Dr. Ruth Lawson- McConnell explains the 6 stages of attachment, and how we can redefine them in order to foster a new way to relate with our loved one who is not physically present.
Dr. Ruth Lawson -McConnell is a brilliant therapist who also happen to be my dear friend. Ruth is a sought-after counsellor...2020-09-101h 23Crazy Grief13. Talking about the "Death" Elephant in the room (Part 2) - Nada FrazierWe are continuing our conversation with Nada Frazier where we explore some of the important aspects and benefits of having open and honest dialogues about death and dying with our loved ones. We also talk about what we can do to get our affairs in order before the hot minute* - when death is arriving and emotions may cloud our vision and ability to do what is necessary for our loved ones who are dying and for ourselves are caregivers facing the challenges of grief.
Nada is the founder of The Sacred Servant,™ where she serves as...2020-09-031h 00Crazy Grief12. Talking about the "Death" Elephant in the room (Part 1) - Nada FrazierMany people don't want to talk about death because quite frankly we are scared to face the big death elephant in the room. That is, until death is starts knocking on our door through a terminal diagnosis or has already bursted into our lives unannounced through a sudden death of a loved one. If you struggle to talk about death and dying as a family or if you are on your own and don't know who to turn to, you may want to consider reaching out to someone like Nada Frazier, who helps people as an End-of-Life Doula.
2020-08-271h 03Crazy Grief11. Widow's brain and the healing power of self-love and self-kindness - Pauline SkeatesWidow's brain is a real thing, but it's not necessarily a bad thing. When we suffer a trauma such as the death of our person, our amazing brains respond to the immediate trauma and the consequent grief in intricate ways. One of the them is to shut down areas that are not immediate crucial for survival and fire up our danger instincts: fight, flight, freeze or collapse. In this episode we explore what can happen to our brain and our capacity to think when we are grieving, and we also talk about ways in which we can make our...2020-08-201h 00Crazy Grief10. Grieving with your grieving friend - Cristiane HealeIt's hard to see someone you care for grieving. And it's even harder when you are also grieving. Too many times as friends of the person who died and of the partner who was left behind, our desire to help and our drive to make things better can cloud our judgment and lead us off track from what really matters: seeking support for our grief elsewhere so we can provide the support our grieving friend needs, not the support we think they should have.
Cristiane Heale is a brilliant counsellor and she one of my closest...2020-08-121h 20Crazy Grief9. When grief triggers mental distress - John KatsavosJohn Katsavos has faced some intense grief and mental distress and he found his saving grace through martial arts. By choosing to submit his body to the arduous training of Systema, John built physical strength but most importantly, mental and emotional resilience. His training methods are not for the faint of heart and may not suit everyone, but his experience with grief and loss are most certainly very relatable.
John is the creator of VIO Fitness, an online training program. You can get in touch with him through his linkedin account https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-katsavos-5551...2020-08-0657 minCrazy Grief8. Being present with the discomfort of grief - Mark PiersonOftentimes when we are grieving we don't know how to be present with our pain. We want it to go away, and in doing so we miss the opportunity to be present with ourselves and to become aware of what are our deepest needs are.
Other times, when someone is grieving our first response is to DO something, because as human being we are uncomfortable with someone else's pain. So we try in may ways to make them feel better, but in doing so we fail to acknowledge that often the only thing we can do is...2020-08-0144 min
Crazy Grief7. How to start your life again little by little - Noelene JuddFacing another day can feel overwhelming when we are grieving. Adding tiny drops of goodness to our routine and taking little steps towards the life we would like create can help us to carry on. And over time those tiny drops can make a big difference for the better.
Noelene Judd, has discover this simple but powerful truth after her husband Phil died 20 years ago. Her two self-published books "Feathers" and "Little by Little" are jam packed with beautiful insights she uncovered in her own journey with grief. If you would to purchase a copy of her...2020-07-291h 15
Crazy Grief6. Finding acceptance and beauty in the harsh places - Vic HathawayACT - Acceptance and Commitment Therapy - can helps us unhook from negative thought patterns and expand our focus, when we are in distress or when grief seems all consuming.
Vic Hathaway is a NZAC therapist based in Auckland, New Zealand. She offers in person and online sessions. You can contact Vic Hathaway through her website https://vichathaway.com/
Her poem "Small Beauties" which we mentioned in this episode is available here https://underyourwings.wordpress.com/2020/07/28/small-beauty/
For those interested in exploring some of the grounding exercises Vic suggested, check out...2020-07-2654 min
Crazy Grief5. How can grown ups support a grieving teen - Yuriy NayerIt's often hard to know what to do to help teenagers who suffer the loss of a parent. Here are some helpful suggestions.2020-07-2442 min
Crazy Grief4. The many facets of grief - Scott MartinDifferent griefs have some things in common, even though we all process it in our own way. 2020-07-231h 08
Crazy Grief3. Our connection with our loved ones never die - Monica BarnesFinding ways to maintain a healthy connection with our loved ones after their death. 2020-07-191h 07
Crazy Grief2. Let's talk about griefSharing our grief stories makes room for others to feel less alone - To Lesley, may you sing once again in the presence of angels.2020-07-1015 min
Crazy Grief1. My Crazy Grief JourneyGrief can make us feel like we are going crazy and often it's very hard to talk openly about it. If you ever experienced this, you are not alone. Welcome to Crazy Grief, the podcast.2020-07-0707 min