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Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Understanding the Business Side of Fashion
Fashion Business and Marketing for Success Module Summary Are you passionate about fashion but need the business know-how to turn your dreams into reality? This course is designed to equip you with the essential tools and strategies to succeed in the competitive world of fashion. Key Takeaways: * Beyond the Runway: Discover the crucial business aspects of the fashion industry beyond design and creativity. * The Power of Marketing: Learn how to effectively reach your target audience and build a strong brand. Join Tavershima Ayede, a seasoned Business Growth Consultant and Podcaster, as he guides you through the intricacies of the fashion...
2024-09-26
07 min
Into The Podverse
Tavershima Ayede on Podcasting Perseverance and Business Education
In this episode of "Into the Podverse," Tony Doe sits down with a pioneering Nigerian podcaster, Tavershima Ayede, who shares his journey of using podcasting as a tool for business inspiration and learning. Discover how the frustrations of long fuel queues during the Goodluck Jonathan era spurred him to start his show, driven by a mission to educate and promote business growth in Nigeria.Despite the challenges of podcasting in a relatively young market, Tavershima remains undeterred. He views himself as a pioneer and embraces the reality that gossip-based podcasts often overshadow business-focused ones. His steady emotions...
2024-06-24
11 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Stop Guessing, Start Selling: Data-Driven Strategies for Sales Growth
Beyond Numbers: Uncover the Secrets to Sales Success with Data (Even Qualitative Data!) In this episode, we smash the myth that data in sales is all about cold, hard numbers! Host Tavershima Ayede dives deep into the world of data-driven sales, showing you how to harness the power of both quantitative and qualitative data to refine your strategy and skyrocket your sales. We'll explore: Why data is your secret weapon: Discover how data can help you identify your ideal customer profile (ICP), personalize your communication, and improve your sales and marketing processes. Data beyond the spreadsheet: We'll go beyond just...
2024-05-02
20 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
The Early-Stage Entrepreneur's Toolkit: Free & Affordable Sales & Business Development Tools
Sales on a Budget: Free & Low-Cost Tools for Early-Stage Startups Ever dreamed of growing your business but worried about the cost? This episode is for you, especially if you're an early-stage startup, a tech entrepreneur, or an aspiring social media influencer! We dispel the myth that sales and business development require a ton of money. Host Travershima Ayede shows you how to leverage free and low-cost tools to get things moving. We explore different categories of free and affordable tools to help you: Tools of Record: Track your sales activities and progress (pen & paper, mobile phone, computer, etc.) Tools for...
2024-04-30
34 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Secret Weapon: WhatsApp Business Features You Didn't Know Existed
From Chats to Customers: Turning WhatsApp into Your Lead Generation Machine This episode dives deep into the untapped potential of WhatsApp for explosive lead generation. Host Tavershima Ayede shatters the myth of WhatsApp being just a platform for memes and gossip, revealing powerful business features you've been missing. Here's what you'll learn: How to leverage WhatsApp's massive user base to connect with potential customers who are already comfortable using the platform. Hidden business features like the product catalog with external links to capture leads and drive traffic to your website, online store, or other desired destinations. The art of the...
2024-03-30
14 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Kicks & Conversions: Building a Sales Process for Your Nigerian Streetwear Brand
Episode Summary: The Nigerian Hustle: Turning Sneakerheads into Customers Forget the hard sell! This episode takes you on a journey with a fictional Nigerian entrepreneur launching an online streetwear and sneaker brand. Host Tavershima Ayede uses this case study to demonstrate how to build a winning sales process specifically tailored for the Nigerian market. We ditch the one-size-fits-all approach and instead focus on creating conversations. Learn how to identify your Ideal Customer Profile (ICP) - the perfect Nigerian sneakerhead for your brand. Here's what you'll discover: Why a sales process should be a conversation, not a forced close. How to u...
2024-03-28
33 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
From Curious to Committed: Building Your Winning Sales Process
Cracking the Code: Your Step-by-Step Guide to Sales Success Forget chasing leads and forcing closes! This episode dives deep into the secrets of building a winning sales process. Host Tavershima Ayede breaks down the key stages, from generating qualified leads to closing deals with confidence. In this episode, you'll learn: What a true "lead" really is (and how to find them). Lead generation strategies that attract the right people. The art of qualification - separating curiosity from genuine interest. Powerful conversation tactics to guide prospects on a buying journey. The secret to closing deals with confidence (without being pushy). Ready...
2024-03-27
23 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Trust & Familiarity: The Secret Sauce of Nigerian Sales
Forget the one-size-fits-all sales pitch! This episode dives deep into the world of sales in Nigeria, exploring the nuanced relationship between universal sales principles and cultural context. Host Tavershima Ayede argues that while core principles like trust and familiarity remain crucial, their application requires a deep understanding of personal, social, and cultural contexts. The episode unpacks the importance of adapting traditional sales tactics. We explore familiar stages like prospecting, qualification, and closing, highlighting the need for cultural sensitivity at each step. Here's what you'll learn: * Why universal sales principles require cultural adaptation for success in Nigeria. * The importance of trust...
2024-03-25
26 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Selling Smart in a Tough Market: Nigeria's Business Landscape
Nigeria's business landscape presents unique challenges for entrepreneurs and self-employed individuals. This episode dives deep into the current realities, including high cost-push inflation and rising energy costs. We explore the impact on living conditions and the increased burden on businesses due to generator fuel, rent, and other production factors. The episode doesn't shy away from the difficulties, but host Tavershima Ayede offers solutions and strategies. We discuss how increasing sales and adjusting pricing can help offset rising costs and ultimately improve quality of life. We delve into the question: Can you still sell more even in a harsh economic climate...
2024-03-24
09 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Turning Passion into Profit? Alexia's Journey from Law School to Successful Retail Brand
Podcast shownotes - Links and other details for Alexia The older "Alexia" episode: The Business of Beauty - Building a Retail Brand with Alexia Horsfall - Business Feature Lagos https://anchor.fm/tavershima-ayede1/episodes/The-Business-of-Beauty---Building-a-Retail-Brand-with-Alexia-Horsfall---Business-Feature-Lagos-e2b0f3i Instagram: https://instagram.com/alexiahorsfallbeauty Website: alexiahorsfall.com
2023-11-02
14 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
What is the best way to use the phone for promoting your business? Phone etiquette 102
What's the best way to use phones in business? Make sure you don't have too many numbers! - difficult to promote on marketing material Make sure all numbers are publicly available - if you don't put them on social media, billboards, website, etc, no one will know where they are and can't call in Send SMS/ voicemail/ Voice Notes/ email/ etc after missed calls - people need to know WHO called and WHY before they can decide if it's worth calling you back and taking further action. Case in point - scrap metal buyer LAG - multiple numbers (who's calling...
2023-05-12
18 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Who are you? And what is this podcast about?
This is a response to a question that I got over the weekend about who I am, what I do, and the nature and the purpose of this podcast.
2021-09-20
09 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Zig Ziglar’s POGO
The POGO framework is another conversation prompt that is built around questions. To be effective at this you should ask questions about the Person, their Organization, their Goals, and the Obstacles that they face. You’ll find that this is a simple and useful framework for carrying on with social conversations and in networking circles. The spirit behind it? By being interested in other people, we get to grow our influence and social capital.
2021-09-16
10 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
The 3 “why” conversation framework
The 3 “why” conversation framework is a handy tool for driving conversations when you are trying to get to the root, and the most important problem that your client is trying to solve in buying your product or service. It only when you have “hit the spot” that you’ll have a happy client at the end of it all.
2021-09-15
21 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
The “W” conversation framework
The “W” conversation framework is a simple conversation outline that’ll come in handy next time you are talking to a prospective client, or you’re at a networking session. For conversations with clients this will help you tease out what’s most important to them and the key things that you have to hit with your service delivery. At networking sessions this framework will help you sort through the dozens of people you’ll be meeting and quickly figure out who will be worth spending more time with outside of the networking session.
2021-09-14
11 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
In person selling?
"In person selling", "relationship marketing" and "customer experiential marketing" are euphemisms that have been created to talk about the dirty word “sales”. Whether you like it or not, there are benefits to getting on the train!
2021-09-10
13 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
A conversation outline will make sales and networking easier
Yes it is possible to “freestyle” with clients and when you’re mingling at events, but that is a more stressful approach because of the mental exertion required every time you’re in a new social context or conversation. Also there’s the problems of scaling your sales and marketing efforts when you “freestyle” because you can’t teach everyone to “do it” like you. So freestyle at your peril! Or templatize what you can and watch things grow.
2021-09-09
12 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Case studies in using the phone - from DM to WhatsApp
The phone is a useful tool because of the time saving it affords, the level of rapport it allows you to build, and the prompt feedback you can get while discussing business opportunities. This episode fleshes out examples using a phone conversation with the brain behind Love Weddings NG and Wedding Vendor 101. The conversation was around content collaborations for celebrating the International Podcast Day 2021.
2021-09-08
16 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
The phone is king!
When it comes to ease of communication, the ability to build rapport, guaging nuance in conversation, and getting prompt feedback on all discussion points between you and the client, the telephone is king! Email and other text based media are mere vassal states!
2021-09-07
10 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Fears you fall into when meeting people for the first time
Talking to strangers in a business context or a networking session can be scary because we’re worried about what to say, and we’re worried about being rejected or snubbed. The solution to the problem is to realize that it’s not all about you! Focus on the right kind of questions to ask to get the other person talking, and realize that even when you have been “rejected” it not personal. They are only saying NO to your value proposition.
2021-09-06
16 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
How do you record a podcast?
Having been in the podcasting game for over a year now and close to 200 episodes, I get the question a lot from enthusiasts who think podcasting is fun and they’d like to get in on the action. The podcasting “how” isn’t as much important as the the “why” and “who”. Figure out who you’re talking to, what you have to say, why your point of view is unique, and the rest of the podcasting journey should be (relatively) easy!
2021-09-04
20 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
It’s not just hustle and muscle, rest and recuperation too!
It’s not just hustle and muscle, rest and recuperation is part of the deal as well. For high performance disciplines like sports and the military, they know that it’s not just about time spent on the field, but time spent in rest and rejuvenation that makes the ultimate sportsman and the ultimate soldier. As salespeople and business owners we are in a high performance scenario... so the same principle applies to us as well.
2021-09-03
11 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Our clients get busy! They may have forgotten!
Whenever we have agreed to key terms and important obligations between us and our clients, it pays to have it repeated multiple times over the course of the engagement. We cannot trust that if we say it once, then the client has heard and will remember. Every one leads busy lives... including our clients.
2021-09-02
10 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
It’s not the client’s fault!
It’s not the client’s fault if they don’t have proper expectations about the delivery of your product or service. This is something you should have laid out in conversations multiple times. We can’t just put it in a contract or proviso document and hope that they’ll read it. We have to be proactive about this and take full responsibility for setting expectations upfront about what the experience of working with us will be, as well as the delivery times we hope to meet.
2021-09-01
07 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Don’t make excuses! Your clients have difficulties too!
Sometimes you’re unavailable because of personal commitments or difficulties you can’t work your way around. It’s enough to simply say you can’t make “so and so time” because of prior commitments that you have. No need to go into details! Life gets difficult for everyone. Spare your clients the details.
2021-08-31
06 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Be humble! It’s Jeff Daniels, not Kiss Daniels!
It’s okay to be a “know it all” so long as you are open to situations where you get to be the student and learn things. Humility and grace may be good personal qualities to have, but eventually they’ll parlay well into business and other high stakes situations.
2021-08-22
12 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Do what you say you will!
It is a cardinal tennent of growing your business to be trustworthy and reliable. This is only possible when people feel that you will meet your commitments. Even when there are circumstances beyond your control that make meeting your promises difficult, you have to find professional ways to stay in touch, service the relationship and redress the situation.
2021-08-14
14 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Name dropping? Not a bad idea if you do it right!
Name dropping is a handy skill to establish your competence and credibility. However it can backfire if not done right and make you seem off putting, proud and haughty. Name drop with finesse using storytelling conversational techniques, and always ask questions to be sure who you’re talking to, so you know which names to drop. It’s not every high profile name that is going to impress everyone.
2021-08-13
11 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Nobody has to know! Keep it professional
Sometimes we have significant heath challenges on the job. We need to find professional ways of communicating this and rescheduling our commitments when we’re under the weather. This affects how our potential clients perceive us, and whether they’d be comfortable referring us in the future.
2021-08-13
08 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
It is okay to up-sell if the client needs it!
Up selling doesn’t have to be unethical if we have our client’s satisfaction and their goals in mind. The trick is to be “other” focused, not tack on too many items, and to be sure that the up-sell is related to the chief item that they have come to you for.
2021-08-11
10 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Customer success! The key to recurrent income!
The key to having folks come back with friends, family and associates is to be sure that our services were “on point” in the first place and helped them achieve their goals and desired outcomes. This is not just good business practice for people in the start up and software space, but it is surprisingly employed by roadside mechanics as well!
2021-08-10
08 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Qualify! Ask the right questions!
Sometimes we’re quick to say YES or NO to an offer before we have all the details. The idea behind qualification is simply to ask all the relevant questions so we can assess if we can help the prospective client, and if this opportunity is worth our while or not.
2021-08-10
12 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
What’s sales got to do with it?
Success in the big brother show or any other endeavor isn’t guaranteed unless we put some sales and promotional muscle behind us. This is another example of why the gospel we preach on the podcast will be evergreen and ever relevant.
2021-08-07
09 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Don’t hide behind emails and SMS
Emails and SMS are easier to start conversations with because they don’t come with a sense of personal rejection if you get ignored. Being rebutted over the phone has a certain sting to it! However we should opt for the phone when we can for more effective and personable communications. A simple outline should do the trick for those of you wondering “what do I say?”
2021-08-06
12 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Sell well so that you can take time off!
Having a healthy sales pipeline means that you can take time off for the holidays securely and guilt free because you have a certain level of predictability with your business and it’s cash flows. Learn to sell well so that you can pamper yourself and your family. If you don’t, you’ll be like the rest of us who have to take jobs even over the new year and holiday period!
2021-08-03
05 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Adopt the hustlers paradigm
Regardless of our goals to have the perfect “lifestyle business” or build the dream behemoth of a business with all the systems, infrastructure and buildings ...it’ll have to be built on an alter of market “traction” which can only happen when sales and marketing efforts are a huge preoccupation of our time. No sales, no vitality, and no dreams!
2021-07-31
04 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Who is your ideal customer?
This question should be the cornerstone of any sales or marketing drive. If you don’t know who you are aiming for, then you’ll go looking in the wrong places either physically or online. You’ll also be using the wrong kind of bait to lure them in, and you won’t have a good idea of who to invest time with!
2021-07-29
06 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Keep your charity alive and learn to sell
Even though business people are supposed to be “money motivated”, you’ll find that many of us are interested in charitable causes and social impact schemes to make society better off. The transferrable skills we learn around sales, selling, and marketing can come in handy in making sure that we have thriving NGOs and that our social causes never run out of steam.
2021-07-26
10 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Hustle and flow
Sales and marketing activity yields results. Work ethic is important in getting us the results that we seek. There’s no arbitrary debate about working hard vs. working smart because ideally you should do both!
2021-07-24
10 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Mompreneurs and Fempreneurs
Lifestyle titles are useful for motivating us in the day to day grind of running a business. These terms might not be useful however if the come with connotations that limit our horizon and our picture and hopes for the future.
2021-07-22
09 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
How do you get money for the business?
Money provides fuel for business systems, infrastructure and expansion. Your sources of capital can either be sales, bootstrapping, or borrowed money. Which ever option you go for, you’ll need an adequate questioning and conversation framework to achieve your goals.
2021-07-20
16 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Sales is not a dirty four letter word
Until you increase your sales, you cannot achieve your business or your personal goals. Dreams of business expansion and personal stuff such as holidays, school fees, entertainment, and housing are directly tied to the amount of sales that you bring in. Sales isn’t sleaze! It’s a necessary business function.
2021-07-19
05 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Why are you fussed about your title?
It’s not of primary importance if you are the Chief Executive Officer or the Customer Experience Officer. What matters especially in the early days is that nothing happens in the business unless a sale is made. Your primary responsibility is making sales, or hiring the person who can bring in the sales for you.
2021-07-15
07 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Who, what, why, how, and when?
When socializing and networking, it helps to have useful questioning frameworks to get the conversation rolling. If you’re worried about what you should say, networking is going to be nerve wracking. If you have the right questions or primers, networking will be a breeze!
2021-07-12
09 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Stop worrying about what to say!
Worrying about what to say at social functions can be very crippling when you are trying to network. Instead of focusing on yourself, think about questions to ask that will help you sort out who is in the room? Who should spend more time with later? How you can add value to them? And who can be of value to you in the future? If you focus on questions, instead of what to say, networking can be less daunting.
2021-07-09
06 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
The dynamics in play at networking
Networking shouldn’t seem so daunting. The reason why we should “paddy” up every now and then? No one is an island! We need shared information and experiences to make us better. We’re all connected a la “6 degrees of separation”. We have to know each other to add value to others... and “give and take” only occurs if you’re in the room in the first place!
2021-07-07
13 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
When not to rely on writing only!
It is a bad idea to rely on written communication exclusively when we’re dealing with complex topics, or when things have gone wrong with the client and we’re in “damage control” mode and trying to resolve the dispute. Using text only will get you into more hot water.
2021-07-05
12 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Insecurity? Infrastructure? You?
The government of the day isn’t to blame for your current situation with your finances and prospects. Yes they are important when it comes to determining macro economic issues, but ultimately the reason why your business is suffering has to rest with you and not Buhari or Biden.
2021-07-02
14 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Active listening! Don’t be a wet sponge!
Listening involves more than just sitting still and being quiet. Some active steps have to be employed like avoiding distractions, asking questions to check for understanding, and not interrupting the client when she’s talking.
2021-06-30
15 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Why should you listen anyway?
Listening is useful in biulding relationships, understanding others, and demonstrating empathy... Of course listening is also important because it will help us gather the information we need to close the deal and make some money! Don’t tell your clients I said that!!
2021-06-28
12 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
More things to look out for in communications
Typographical errors, grammatical errors, brevity, having a clear purpose and providing information sources? Little things that make an impact with our clients especially when we’re going text based!
2021-06-25
08 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Non verbal communication
Non verbal aspects of communication including body language, tone, inflection, and gestures are more important in the communications process than you think! To be effective in engaging with our customers, we have to pay attention to these subtleties.
2021-06-23
15 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Customer feedback! Did they get it?
For communications with our clients and potential customers to be effective, we should focus on how useful our communications efforts were. Did it get the desired result? It is only feedback that will determine if the goal was met.
2021-06-21
10 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
How was your message received?
This episode looks behind the process of decoding the message that you send to your potential customers. We look at the different listeners filters, biases, expectations, perspectives, and different cultural outlook that come with the process of trying to communicate with your clients.
2021-06-16
12 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Don’t worry about the results. Stick to the process.
Don’t worry about the results. Stick to the process.
2021-06-14
20 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Encoding your message and the best channel to use!
Encoding your message and the best channel to use!
2021-06-12
08 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Communicating with high intent
Communicating with high intent
2021-06-10
09 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Common perspectives in communications
Common perspectives in communications
2021-06-08
12 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Follow up after the event as well!
Follow up after the event as well!
2021-06-03
25 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Listen first! What do they need?
Listen first! What do they need?
2021-05-28
20 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Lateness and dressing again?
Lateness and dressing again?
2021-05-27
14 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Why bother with being professional?
Why bother with being professional?
2021-05-26
16 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Case management methodology
Case management methodology
2021-05-25
16 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Communicate clearly to be professional!
Communicate clearly to be professional!
2021-05-24
22 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Questions will help bring about the solution!
Questions will help bring about the solution!
2021-05-21
23 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Professionalism - Dress and Punctuality!
Professionalism - Dress and Punctuality!
2021-05-19
19 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Professionalization of the Nigerian Wedding &Event Industry
Professionalization of the Nigerian Wedding &Event Industry
2021-05-15
23 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
No one wants to be sold but everyone has a need!
No one wants to be sold but everyone has a need!
2021-05-11
11 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Professionalism
Professionalism
2021-05-10
14 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Innovation in product and service delivery
Innovation in product and service delivery
2021-05-09
13 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Marketing and innovation
Marketing and innovation
2021-05-07
07 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
What’s the purpose of a business anyway?
There’s more to the money, social impact and the sense of personal growth and development that we get from running a business. There’s something more fundamental to the equation!
2021-05-06
12 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Professionalism, business communications and networking II
These three are important because they give us not just internal focus, but an outward focus as well in dealing with our publics, stakeholders and customers. They are the basis of effective client relations.
2021-05-04
07 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Professionalism, business communications and networking?
This trifecta is necessary for business growth!
2021-05-02
17 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
How should you use your contracts?
Contracts are best used as a map to lay out agreed outcomes, timeframes and obligations. Contracts can only be “protection” in an environment that regards the legal system and it’s protections. Also contracts can only be sufficient protection when the naira amount in question is worth the hassle of fighting over in court.
2021-05-01
14 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Trust and rapport rather than litigation!
Regardless of the documents you signed at the contracting stage, resolving disputes would be made a lot easier between you and your potential customers if you have established a high degree of trust, Rapport, and you figure out exactly what it was that they need.
2021-04-30
13 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Questions will get you all the information that you need!
Using questions when interacting with prospective customers will help you flesh out what they want, when they want it, the timelines you will be working with, what the general obligations are, and the level of cooperation you guys are expected to have to make everything pull through.
2021-04-28
08 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Dress to impress! And to be rightly addressed!
How you and your business premises come across are important to how professional and credible you appear. Start the consultation process of right by making sure you have the right look.
2021-04-26
11 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Are you sure you guys are on the same vibe?
It’s important when first meeting with prospective customers to find out if they have a need that you can meet in the manner and style that you can deliver it. If you don’t do this, you might run into issues later on.
2021-04-25
10 min
Sales For The Nigerian Business Person
Do you trust me?
Trust is essential to greasing the wheels of business! How do we establish trust? By building commonality with our prospective customers, and by showing credibility and competence!
2021-04-24
15 min
So You're Getting Married?
Episode 20 - We're Not Done Yet!
New episodes available
2021-04-22
05 min
So You're Getting Married?
Episode 19 - Why I started the podcast and why I’ll be gone for a while!
I started the podcast to see how I could elevate the level of discourse around the topics of marriage, family life and relationships... all borne out of my past experiences as a kid, as well as my current adventures as a wedding photographer who is constantly around occassions of life and love. Unfortunately the journey will have to come to an end for now until I resolve issues around hosting of the podcast. Fear not! I’ll be back on the airwaves soon, and when I do, y’all should be hearing from me again.
2021-01-26
10 min
So You're Getting Married?
Episode 18 - Traditional weddings are still important!
It’s often assumed by modern couples that traditional ceremonies are the least important of the three 1. Civil/ registry marriages 2. Church unions 3. Traditional marriages. They’re all important and have distinct characters and purposes. Civil ceremonies invite the state The recognize and lend it’s power of enforcement to the union. The Church makes the marriage sacramental and makes it a sign and a source of God’s grace, while the traditional wedding is the starting point and the most natural form of marriage where the communities come together to assent and witness the start of a new family.
2021-01-24
14 min
So You're Getting Married?
Episode 17 - The coronavirus finale!
From the inception of the podcast up until now, we have been exploring ways that couples can either save money on the wedding or reduce the scope of the wedding to the bare minimum to make sure that we get married safely on the coronavirus restrictions. After that we took a detour to explain what some of the key requirements are for getting married under traditional law and customs. Now that we are done with exploring these issues, we should be moving on to some more interesting and juicy topics for the next season. Be sure to keep an eye...
2021-01-22
08 min
So You're Getting Married?
Acquired taste in marriage!
When we are getting married to people from other tribes, there is the matter of a different palettes across different cultures. This also happens where you’re getting married to someone of the same tribe as well! It is not something to be afraid of or avoided, because they often descend into matters of good ribbing and jokes between in-laws.
2021-01-20
14 min
So You're Getting Married?
Is “item number 7” essential for traditional marriages?
Merriment and “jolification” aren’t formally necessary for a valid traditional marriage to take place. However! Families of good and proper standing usually make sure their guests are “taken care of” and would host with appropriate traditional cuisines.
2021-01-17
14 min
So You're Getting Married?
Episode 14 - Why exchange consent at a traditional wedding?
Even though the traditional proceedings have a community element to it, a lot of the validity for “modern” village weddings stem from the personal assent from the couples. The drama surrounding this can be varied and drawn out, but we should all take this in good jest. The whole community wants to be sure that the couple is entering into this with eyes wide open.
2021-01-12
15 min
So You're Getting Married?
Episode 13 - Why do we have to identify the bride and groom anyway?
We do so because even though we’ve undertaken a communal covenant, the actual responsibility for living out the marriage “day to day” is an individual one. We have to be absolutely sure that the “children” know who they intend to marry and are doing so willingly of their own accord.
2021-01-10
13 min
So You're Getting Married?
Episode 12 - About choir masters and sisters in church
It’s a wonderful thing when we find love in the service and pursuits of God. We also have to be careful to be sure no ethical and spiritual lines are crossed when dating in the church.
2021-01-08
14 min
So You're Getting Married?
Episode 11 - Why you need to appease the extended family!
Even though a covenant/ bride price has been exchanged with the “main part” of the family, smaller appeasements have to be made here and there (in good jest) in recognition of the fact that the bride is part of a larger family and social structure as well! So grooms don’t be embarrassed when you’re asked to empty out the final coins in your purse after all the festivities. And brides don’t be mortified! All this is done in jest... it usually doesn’t have fixed costs attached and is often something that can be waived ahead of time where t...
2021-01-06
14 min
So You're Getting Married?
Episode 10 - Why is the bride price important?
The bride price is a sign of a covenant and is a pledge to show that our marriage vows before our families is a “weighty” one. The practice gets abused in different times and by lots of families, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t a valuable custom. Either way, the bride price is not a sale because you can’t put a price on another person’s life. And contrary to what most people believe, the bride price isn’t just an African thing, it’s a near universal custom...and for good reason.
2021-01-02
14 min
So You're Getting Married?
Episode 9 - The one about why you need to show up with your father’s people!
For traditional weddings it’s absolutely important that the right party’s show up on either side. Both the bride and the groom need to be adequately represented in the process by their kin because it’s not just a covenant between two individuals, but two families. Also this is tradition’s way of ensuring that we’re all in agreement, all accountable, and all in one accord.
2020-12-29
12 min
So You're Getting Married?
Episode 8 - The one about complementarity or sameness in finding your soulmate
Whether you have practical or more romantic notions about marriage, only a firm commitment to your marriage is the major ingredient that will make it endure. In this episode we look at this and a lot more as well as riffing on ideas about complementary strengths and weaknesses in couples, having the same ideals, and the necessity of friendship and mutual respect.
2020-12-21
14 min
So You're Getting Married?
Episode 7 - The one about Polyandry and Polyamory
To keep things objective, after having explored forms of marriage that leave the options of multiple wives open, I figured I’d explore the options that give leeway to women for multiple partners. In either case it’s better to have open discussions about these things before walking down the aisle, rather than falling into things by default! These podcast episodes are not an endorsement of any of these kinds of marriages or sexual practices :)
2020-12-12
14 min
So You're Getting Married?
Episode 6 - The one on traditional weddings
Costs can be kept to a minimum in traditional weddings as well so long as we keep a keen focus on the key elements of the wedding which include the proper delegates, the pledge or bride price, and rituals for showing consent from the couples.
2020-12-10
14 min
So You're Getting Married?
Episode 5 - Why You Should Attend Wedding Fairs!
Wedding fairs are good place to begin your research when planning your wedding! to make the most of your time while at the bridal expo, you should have a good sense of the questions you oughta ask your wedding vendors. The price and money conversations are ok and a good place to begin! but don't forget to ask questions about the key parts of the service that are important to you and how the vendor promises that he or she will be able to deliver and what they do when things go wrong.
2020-12-02
14 min
So You're Getting Married?
Episode 4 - The One About Polygamy!
For couples who are open to the idea of polygamy, it's a conversation that is best hard early on in the wedding planning process. Both of you need to be open and Frank about the limits of the marriage, because this has serious implications for which kind of marriage you guys are going to enter into! Whether you're going to be married according to native law and customs, whether you will have a statutory marriage, or whether you will get married according to the religious injunctions of your community. This episode is by no means an endorsement of the practice...
2020-11-27
14 min
So You're Getting Married?
Episode 3 - Dealing With Benefactors And People Who Promise You Money!
benefactors who run away from promises that they made to you during the wedding planning process are not necessarily bad people! they probably didn't realise the extent of the commitment and how much money would be involved! These things will be easier to manage when we have all the money conversations upfront, set the right expectations, and have a mutually agreed plan on what the next step should be going forward! the same process applies when you are already married and people promise to help you with specific projects you guys are working on in the marriage.
2020-11-24
13 min
So You're Getting Married?
Episode 2 - Your Body Doesn't Belong To You!
We have reciprocal obligations as husband and wife and you'll be pleased to know that the "good Book" endorses the idea that a wife has a hold on her husband's body just as the husband has a hold on the wife's!
2020-11-22
09 min
So You're Getting Married?
No You Don't Have To Elope To Save Costs!
After the Corona virus lockdowns across the globe, some brides and grooms have figured that it would be a good idea to elope to save costs and have a small wedding. This is not necessarily the case so long as you meet the essential requirements for having a valid wedding! you can still get married in the church or in the court system and not have to spend a ton of money!
2020-11-20
14 min