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Living Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraMastering Conflict Resolution with the Core Values Index (CVI) Part 2Want to take the CVI test? Go here: https://www.livingwholehearted.com/cviUnderstanding conflict through the lens of the Core Values Index (CVI) has been a game-changer in our relationships, leadership, and personal growth. This week, we continue our deep dive into conflict strategies, exploring how Builders, Merchants, Innovators, and Bankers respond to tension—and how we can shift out of unhealthy reactions into wholehearted engagement. We share real-life examples from our own marriage, parenting, and leadership to illustrate how honoring core values can transform conflict into connection. From recognizing physical cues to asking the right que...
2025-02-2556 min
Living Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraHealthy Principles for a Healthy MarriageMarriage takes work, but the rewards of a strong, connected relationship are worth it. In this episode, we dive into the healthy habits that help couples thrive, exploring the importance of commitment, curiosity, and growing together through every season. We discuss practical ways to stay engaged, know each other deeply, and navigate the inevitable changes that come with time. With personal stories—including a lighthearted reflection on our own bobby pin debates—we unpack what it means to love with intention, foster admiration, and build a relationship that lasts. How well do you really know your spouse, and what smal...
2025-02-1152 min
Living Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraGrowth, Grace, and Leading TogetherWhat does it take to lead well, especially during challenging seasons? Matt and Rachael Gilbert share how our wholehearted leadership cohort has been a transformative space for personal and relational growth. We hear Rachael reflect on learning to pause rather than push forward, resisting the urge to perform or prove herself in the face of hardship. Matt highlights a new awareness of healthy leadership, reshaping how we evaluate leaders in our lives and organizations. Together, they emphasize the value of doing this journey as a couple, multiplying the impact through shared language and tools like the Core Values Index...
2025-01-2853 min
Living Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 241: Mastering Conflict Resolution with the Core Values Index (CVI)Want to take the CVI test? Go here: https://www.livingwholehearted.com/cviThe Core Values Index (CVI) serves as a practical lens for navigating conflict in relationships, workplaces, and personal growth. We explore how the four core values—Builder, Merchant, Innovator, and Banker—highlight individual strengths while revealing unique conflict strategies. Through insights from Tara and Jeff Mattson, we unpack the ways each value responds under stress, from the Builder's drive for results to the Merchant's pursuit of connection, the Innovator's quest for wisdom, and the Banker's need for fairness. Understanding these patterns help...
2024-12-3139 min
Living Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 239: When You Want to Want God AgainWhat do you do when you find yourself lacking joy in life, or feeling a heaviness about things that you just can't quite put your finger on? What happens when you know that you want to want God in your life, but right now you don't feel like wanting Him in your life at all? Today we talk with Lisa Whittle as she shares her story of surrender to God in an outcry for Him, the only one who can revive her soul.Lisa Whittle is a bestselling author, speaker, podcast host, and ministry leader. She has...
2024-12-0347 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 237: Growing Our Listening SkillsHow we listen to one another matters, especially when we are listening to the ones we love the most. In our marriages, with our children, and in our leadership roles, sometimes we can take each other for granted, falling into patterns and expectations of listening that may not be the healthiest. Let's take a deeper look today at how it is that we can continue to grow in our ability to listen to one another effectivley. How can we actively engage in listening to someone while having both conviction and civility present during a conversation?We are...
2024-11-0544 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 236: The Power of Meals with FamilyMeaningful mealtimes: When was the last time you sat down as a family, for longer than a half hour, without technology? During the pandemic, families all over the country were eating together, playing together and making vows never to go back to the rat race of life that we were living before everything came to a halt. Yet here we are, nearly 5 years later, and we have seemingly fallen back into the pace of busyness that we did not intend to return to. Listen in to today's episode to learn the first intentional steps in turning the tide back...
2024-10-2238 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 235: What to Do With Big EmotionsBig emotions. They are there whether you want them or not. Emotions are a real part of who we are as humans and we encounter them in every relationship we are involved in. Today, we discuss our wiring as it relates to emotions and offer some tools on how to regulate and care for your emotions.We are Jeff and Terra Mattson, a husband and wife team, and co-hosts of the Living Wholehearted Podcast. We are the founders of Living Wholehearted, a professional counseling, executive coaching, and organizational development firm outside Portland, Oregon, helping leaders live and...
2024-10-0855 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 234: Growing with EmotionsApply to our Executive Wholehearted Leadership Cohort -https://www.livingwholehearted.com/leadership-cohortsEmotions. You either love them or wonder what's the point of having them? They often get in the way. The importance of cultivating healthy emotions to enhance one's spiritual and leadership journey is vital. Today we will be talking with guests who bring practical insights and guidance on how emotion impacts your personality, strategies for managing stress, the distinction between depression and sadness and the significance of empathy for emotional and spiritual development. Bill and Kristi Gaultiere are Drs of Psychology and the F...
2024-09-241h 02Living Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 233: The Best Test for Your Growth - CVIApply to our Executive Wholehearted Leadership Cohort -https://www.livingwholehearted.com/leadership-cohortsWhen leaders can see themselves and how they are wired, from the most accurate lens possible, they are able to learn to live within their limits. Today we are throwing it back to the beginning and discussing the Core Values Index (CVI) tool that we have been using for 13+ years. This tool has been an integral piece of the work we do here at Living Wholehearted whether it is utilized with individuals, organizations, marriages or families, it has proven time and time...
2024-09-101h 00Living Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 230: How Can I Be Free From Porn?Join the movement and connect with us. Go to: http://www.livingwholehearted.com/Living Wholehearted Counseling Team https://www.livingwholehearted.com/professional-counselingHow does pornography impact our lives, our relationships and our brains? Are you someone who struggles with a pornography addiction, does someone you love struggle, or are you curious about how to talk to your children about this sensitive subject? Today's episode will give a wholistic perspective and a grace based approach on ways to think, feel and respond when conversations regarding pornography are presented to us.If you are seeking...
2024-07-3040 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 228: Parenting On Phones and Social MediaWhat do we know to be true about digital devices and social media? Today we are talking as clinicians, executive coaches and parents about what the research is showing with regard to the impact that the digital world is having on us, our children and our teens.We are Jeff and Terra Mattson, a husband and wife team, and co-hosts of the Living Wholehearted Podcast. We are the founders of Living Wholehearted, a professional counseling, executive coaching, and organizational development firm outside Portland, Oregon, helping leaders live and lead with integrity. Our amazing team...
2024-07-0253 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 223: Parenting - Shaping Good Theology with our Kids and Women in Ministry"Developing good theology with our chidlren can be a difficult responsibility. It's hard to answer their questions about ""where is God"" and ""why do bad things happen?"" Where do we go, as parents, to find resources to help guide us along the way? Today, this conversation will be a gift - whether you are a parent trying to raise your children in a faith they won't be wounded by - or someone who is trying to heal from church wounds yourself. We also dive into the topic of women in ministy, as our guests are ordained ministers in the h...
2024-05-0755 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 219: Friendship Part 2 - Healthy Vs. Unhealthy, Myths and More with Connie Armerding Today we are continuing our conversation around friendship with an emphasis on boundaries, unhealthy friendships, and where counseling and coaching come in throughout the seasons of life. Every healthy leader has good friends. Our personal friendships help us sustain our integrity over the long-haul of life, so, it's worth spending two full episodes to unpack the healthy and unhealthy elements of friendship. Terra Mattson, co-host of the podcast and co-founder of Living Wholehearted, has a candid conversation with one of the Living Wholehearted Executive Coaches, Connie Armerding, about friendship; what it is and what it is not. Connie and...
2024-03-1254 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 218: Friendship Part 1 - Healthy Vs. Unhealthy, Myths and More with Connie ArmerdingEvery healthy leader has good friends. Our personal friendships help us sustain our integrity over the long-haul of life. So it's worth spending two full episodes to unpack the healthy and unhealthy elements of friendship. Terra Mattson, co-host of the podcast and co-founder of Living Wholehearted, has a candid conversation with one of the Living Wholehearted Executive Coaches, Connie Armerding, about friendship - what it is and what it is not. Connie and Terra were friends before working together at Living Wholehearted. They offer some genuine insights into the myths that run interference, particularly with female leaders, and how...
2024-02-2741 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 213: How to Ditch Your Control with Tara SunTara Sun is the host of Truth Talks with Tara and author of, Surrender Your Story: Ditch the Myth of Control and Discover Freedom in Trusting God (Thomas Nelson, March 7, 2023). After trying to white-knuckle her way through life, Tara discovered that surrendering to God leads to a life filled with joy, peace and meaning. Coming from a performance based tradition and living so many years with constant striving, her encounter with grace is a gift she wants to share with everyone she knows. She shows how to break down God’s Word into understandable pieces, while also adding an ar...
2023-12-2636 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 212: Forgiveness - What It Is and What It's Not with the MattsonsAs we reflect on 2023, it's important to consider the fact that we’ve all picked up offenses over the past twelve months. One of the ways we stay healthy and wholehearted is doing our forgiveness work. The church isn't always clear about how to forgive, leaving many of us with the right motive, but not always the right methods. Sometimes we even confuse forgiveness with reconciliation, trust, or with forgetting. As you move through the rest of this year and into the next, keep in mind that becoming a wholehearted leader at home, work and in the community requires ea...
2023-12-1950 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 211: Creating Homes & Spaces for Peace, Comfort and Deeper Connection with Anh LinWe are ending 2023 with some lighter topics! So let's talk about our HOME and the spaces we live in. The word HOME has layers of meaning for so many. If you pause long enough to reflect, you might find some good, or not so good, emotions floating under the surface. Whether you never had a stable place you called home, you moved a lot, your family didn't have many resources, or your home was a place of safety and comfort, today's conversation is for anyone who wants to create meaningful spaces for their own peace of mind, their family, a...
2023-12-1239 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 210: Problems Leaders Face & The Wholehearted Leadership Cohort with the Mattsons and Connie Armerding"Wherever you go, there you are." Whether you are a leader at home, in the workplace, in a faith community, or somewhere else, your individual story and wiring inform the type of person you are when you show up to lead. Today Terra and Jeff Mattson have a round table conversation with our guest, Connie Armerding, about how coming to the leadership table, as your most unique, integrated and healthy self, can ultimately lead to less stress and more peace for you and those within your circle. If you are a leader looking for a sp...
2023-12-0543 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 206: The Power of "No" as You Prepare for the Holidays with Jeff and Terra MattsonIt's NOVEMBER! The holidays are upon us. Some of you have already been watching Hallmark movies and others are in denial, as you anticipate being overwhelmed by all the extra things that will clamor for your time and attention…Christmas celebrations, children's choir concerts, office holiday parties, and complicated family dynamics. Listen in as we, Jeff and Terra, give you some real-time tips on how to move through the holidays with more joy, more peace, and more MARGIN! Get ahead of what's coming and prepare yourself well. We cover how to say "no" to all the offers, “no” to spendi...
2023-11-0731 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 205: Do the Thing With Grace and Grit, with Rebecca GeorgeOur guest for this episode is author and podcaster Rebecca George. She is here to spur us on with her latest book entitled, Do the Thing: Gospel-Centered Goals, Gumption, and Grace for the Go-Getter Girl (Esther Press at David C. Cook, April 4, 2023). Rebecca George is the founder of Radical Radiance® —a podcast community where listeners are equipped to blend what they love with the Jesus who makes them shine. In addition to being a podcaster and a writer, Rebecca is a gifted speaker and certified career coach whose greatest joy in life is discipling others to pursue their passions in...
2023-10-3136 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 204: Parenting Series - Teens and Anxiety with Dr Kristin ValeriusWe are in the middle of our fall parenting series. Being a parent is one of the most important leadership roles you can have, and ironically, with all the books and wisdom offered in the world, there is only one of you and one version of your child - and no one wrote a parenting manual for your child. So, as parents, we all need to lean into principals, lots of grace, and a bit of trial and error. Which…may cause some anxiety if you are a follow-the-rules kind of person. Listen in as my friend and colleague in t...
2023-10-2450 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 202: Parenting Series - Raising Wholehearted Kids, with Dr. Danny HuertaThis is the first episode in our fall parenting series. As parents ourselves, we know parents need a lot of support. It’s normal to feel overwhelmed and unsure about what messages and parenting philosophies to trust. In this episode we talk with parenting expert, Dr. Danny Huerta. Listen in as we talk about; the common struggles parents are facing today, what a mentally healthy child and home really look like, practical tools to help build healthy children who know they are loved and love others well, and how parents can care for themselves well as they balance the we...
2023-10-1038 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 201: Healing From Church Wounds - Being Known & Finding Hope in Suffering, with Dr. Curt ThompsonThis is the final episode in our series, Healing From Church Wounds. The theology of suffering is one area where we have struggled as a church - but we see signs of improvement. It’s not a fun topic, but it’s at the crux of our human experience and even our faith, rooted in the suffering of our Savior Jesus Christ. On our podcast we love to bridge the gap between Biblical, clinical and relational wisdom - and for this episode our guest is one of our mentors and influencers, Dr. Curt Thompson. He was o...
2023-10-0346 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 199: Healing From Church Wounds - Grace, Grace, Grace with Max LucadoAre you feeling discouraged by your life, leadership, or church? Are you frustrated with all the broken unhealthy systems? Are you losing hope as you struggle to serve, lead, and do what is right? We get it. There is a lot of hard in the world and it's difficult to finish the race well. You are not alone. But we have good news for you. Our guest today is near and dear to our hearts. His children’s book series, “You Are Special” has been a key part of our own family routine over the years, e...
2023-09-1930 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 198: Healing From Church Wounds - Battling the lie, “Your needs don't matter,” with Jeff and Terra MattsonIs it selfish or is it healthy to advocate for your needs? In this episode, the first in our series, Healing From Church Wounds, we address the difference between grace-based systems, where imperfect people can safely express their needs, versus rigid and legalistic systems, often led by unhealthy toxic leaders, where individual needs are ignored or dismissed. How do we learn to honor our own needs and the needs of others at home, at work, and in our community? When do we go to God with our needs and when do we lean into relationships to help us? Join u...
2023-09-1240 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 197: Breathe - How to find rest in the midst of stress with Bonnie GrayWe love talking with this guest. In fact, we aired her first interview as one of our favorites as she shared her own story of being a leader who has faced the trauma in her past. We are passionate about helping leaders, who often appear quite confident and polished on the outside, but who are doing the difficult and messy work of healing from the inside out. In a western culture that values image, productivity, and impressive resumes, we enjoy talking to leaders who have come to terms with what it means to love God as He loves us - f...
2023-09-0551 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 196: Reset - Getting Beneath the Surface to See Real Change with Debra FiletaEvery year, people make new year’s resolutions. It's August, and by this time, most of us have probably forgotten what they were! There is a reason most people don't change their lives and their habits. Our guest for this episode, Debra Fileta, is an expert in this arena. In today’s conversation we are going to get under the hood and talk about how to actually change your habits with a reset. As a Licensed Professional Counselor specializing in relationship issues and mental health, Debra Fileta knows that to achieve effective, long-lasting change, you have t...
2023-08-2935 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 195: Healing Triggers & Trauma with Dr. Michelle Watson CanfieldTriggers. Trauma. These words are thrown around quite frequently in our culture today, but few really understand what they mean and how to find healing. As we consider burnout and how to be a healthy leader in our home, at work and in the community, we have to talk about the reality of trauma and its effects on our brain, body, heart, and relationships. Join this lively and real conversation with Jeff, Terra and Dr. Michelle as they define trauma and triggers, and give you some practical tools and next steps if you, or someone you love, is struggling.
2023-08-2245 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 194: God Is Not Done With You - Moving From "Why?" to "What Now, God?" with John MeadorYou don’t have to go far in anyone’s story to find suffering, trauma, loss and adversity. In our humanity, we often wrestle with the question, “Why, God? Why?” But what if the story isn’t the focus of our lives and God has something beautiful through the storms and struggles of life? We know deeply the pages of trauma, personally and professionally, and we don’t like giving trite responses to pain. But, we know that there isn’t a story out there that God won’t use for His purposes in our lives. Our guest today, who has lived a...
2023-08-1532 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 193: Rekindling Your Marriage When You Feel Like Roommates with Dr. SmalleyIt’s not news to say that marriages are struggling. Statistics show that 50% of first marriages will end in divorce (in and outside the church) and second marriages have an even greater chance of ending in divorce. With twenty years as a Marriage and Family Therapist, I’ve worked with couples in just about every stage of marriage and have found some key factors in whether marriages make it or not. So today we’re going to talk about hope and help for marriages with our guest, Dr. Greg Smalley. Dr. Smalley serves as the vice pre...
2023-08-0840 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 191: What You NEED to Know About Internet Safety for Your Kids with BJ ParkAre you concerned about internet safety for your kids? Where are kids vulnerable today? Is TikTok safe or not? What makes a kid more vulnerable to an online predator? This episode is vital to every parent and any adult working with children today. However, know that this topic might be triggering. We do hope you will share this information, or even this whole podcast with your kids, but make sure you listen first and decide what is appropriate for the age and stage of your children. Our guest, BJ Park is a prosecuting attorney for th...
2023-07-2553 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 190: Blindspots: Learning to be a non-anxious presence, listen well and handle interruptions with Jeff & Terra MattsonBlind spots. We all have them, but none of us want to face the reality of what we are missing unless we are ready to grow and become more wholehearted leaders at home, at work and in the community. Join Jeff and Terra Mattson, co-founders of LIving Wholehearted, authors of Shrinking the Integrity Gap, executive coaches, and co-hosts of the Living Wholehearted Podcast as they talk about the reasons we all need to ask all those in our sphere of influence (especially our spouse and children), "How am I impacting you?". And then we need to listen. Jeff and T...
2023-07-1832 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 189: Raising Prayerful Kids with Steph ThurlingParents ask how much is too much? How do I balance all the things? Should we do club sports or music lessons? Should I homeschool or send my kids to public school? How do I make sure my kids don't lose their faith after they leave? Help! If you are a parent (or would like to be someday), this conversation is for you. Leading in the home is one of the greatest responsibilities we have - shepherding the life of a child. Though there are countless books written about all the research, wisdom, and personal stories of parenting, there...
2023-07-1136 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 188: Busy to Joy - How to Live for What Matters Most with Crystal PaineLiving Wholehearted co-host, Terra Mattson, is a marriage and family therapist, executive coach, author and co-founder of Living Wholehearted and Courageous Girls. She knows what it's like to be busy - running companies and meeting with clients, while trying to raise two girls who love the Lord and know they are loved. Any parent knows the struggle. So this conversation between Terra and Crystal Paine, is about grace and learning to find the rhythms of joy, rest, and peace in the reality of living a full life. As a type A, very organized woman, Crystal shares her four steps...
2023-07-0437 min
Living Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 188: Busy to Joy - How to Live for What Matters Most with Crystal PaineLiving Wholehearted co-host, Terra Mattson, is a marriage and family therapist, executive coach, author and co-founder of Living Wholehearted and Courageous Girls. She knows what it's like to be busy - running companies and meeting with clients, while trying to raise two girls who love the Lord and know they are loved. Any parent knows the struggle. So this conversation between Terra and Crystal Paine, is about grace and learning to find the rhythms of joy, rest, and peace in the reality of living a full life. As a type A, very organized woman, Crystal shares her four steps...
2023-07-0437 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 187: Shrinking the Gap: Concentric Circles and How To Actually Live From our Priorities with Jeff and Terra MattsonThere is so much to do. Our kids need to be fed and driven to their activities. Bills need to be paid. Church is asking for volunteers. Friends and family want our time. Bible study. Work deadlines. There are expectations and demands everywhere we look no matter what stage of life we find ourselves in. As leaders in the home, at work, and in the community, we are modeling to everyone in our wake what is most important to us by the way we spend our time. We are also modeling boundaries (or lack of boundaries). The Mattsons share...
2023-06-2735 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 186: Dads, Daughters & Anger with Dr. Michelle Watson CanfieldAre you a dad who struggles with anger? Do you have a daughter? Do you want to learn from one of the leading experts on dads and daughters? This podcast episode is for you! Michelle Watson Canfield, PhD, LPC, is a national speaker, author, licensed professional counselor of 27 years, and founder of The Abba Project, a nine-month group forum for dads whose daughters are in their teens and 20s. She writes guest articles regularly for journals and magazines (online and print), as well as her own bi-monthly Dad-Daughter Friday Blog, and has been interviewed on n...
2023-06-2031 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 185: Blended Families - the rebirth after death of a spouse or divorce with Bo Stern and Cliff BradyGoing through the loss of a marriage after the death of a spouse or divorce is very difficult. And then trying to blend a family and create something new adds a whole other layer. The average blended family takes at least 7 years to blend, so today - if you hear anything, we hope you hear grace for the journey as we talk with a couple who truly gets this assignment. We have Cliff Brady and Bo Stern today. You might have heard Bo share last month about suffering well. Bo is the author of Beautiful Battlefields, When Holidays Hurt...
2023-06-1336 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 184: What women need to know about finances and divorce with Amy OliverToday we want to talk about what women need to know before they consider divorce. There are a lot of confusing messages - especially in the church - about divorce. It’s hard because marriage is meant to be a beautiful image of God’s covenant with His people - what the Bible calls the “Bride of Christ”. We see this marital covenant reflected throughout scripture. We are for marriage and as a marriage and family therapist, I have spent decades helping good and hard marriages heal and repair. However, restoring a marriage where trust and commitment have been violated...
2023-06-0636 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 183: How to Have a Healthy Body Image with Rachael GilbertDo you struggle with your body image - fixated on calories and losing weight? Do you find yourself yo-yo dieting or trapped by the comparison game? Maybe you, or a loved one, have a history with disordered eating or dysphoria? In this episode, Rachael Gilbert, author of Image Restored (March 2023, Esther Press), and I (Terra Mattson, MA LMFT, LPC) talk about our own journeys with our bodies, confidence, and finding wholeness. Rachael offers insights into the struggle and shares tools for the healing journey. Living in a culture that idealizes youth and outward beauty with narrow definitions, it's more...
2023-05-3040 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 182: Mental Health for Our Teens with Laura SmithMental health is a vital part of our spiritual formation. And teens are struggling big time today! If you are leading teens (at home or at work), listen in to this conversation. Laura Smith shares from her own story and experiences, as well as the wisdom she has learned from raising four teens herself. Laura is a Jesus lover, best-selling author, speaker, wife and mom. It took her years to discover her true beauty, to fully grasp who she is - made in the image of God. Her books are filled with concepts, stories and images to help others...
2023-05-2337 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 181: Mental Health for Mamas - Finding Time for You in the Margins of Motherhood with Ashlee Gadd“God did not create us to be mere spectators, watching on the sidelines inhaling popcorn while He does all the work. Rather, He invites us to be active participants, co-laborers in making the invisible Kingdom visible. The act of creating is part of our calling as image bearers,” writes Gadd. “There is no better permission slip than this: to know and believe with your whole heart that the God who made you, the same God who designed blueprints for the galaxies and poured the foundation of the earth, designed you in His likeness, on purpose, for a purpose.” ...
2023-05-1635 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 180: Sexual Wholeness - Sex Ed Reclaimed: Rethinking Sex Education with Kristen MieleAt Living Wholehearted, we are passionate about helping people, particularly leaders, grow in integrity. We define integrity as bringing all of who we are before God and others - living a more integrated life, rather than a compartmentalized life. This includes our sexuality. Most of what we learn about sex is from our younger years - it’s what is said - and what is left unsaid. The rest of our life is spent trying to figure it out. What if we set our kids up for health and wholeness in this area? Whether you are a parent trying to...
2023-05-0939 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 179: Sexual Wholeness - Raising Healthy Kids: Sex, Porn, and Shame with Jay StringerWe are finishing up our Sexual Wholeness series and if you haven’t been listening, make sure you go back and tune it to some of the fantastic interviews with Shaunti Feldhahn and Dr. Michael Sytsma. We are bringing Jay Stinger back on the podcast to help us talk about how to develop healthy sexuality in our children. We have a lot of kindred connections with Jay and we so appreciate his work. Jay Stringer is a licensed mental health counselor, ordained minister, researcher and speaker on the subject of sexual desire. Jay is the author...
2023-05-0244 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 176: Sexual Wholeness - Secrets to Sex & Marriage (Part 2) with Dr. Michael SytsmaWe’ve started a series on sexual wholeness and today we are going to continue our conversation about Secrets of Sex & Marriage: 8 Surprises That Make All The Difference. If you missed last week, make sure you check out our initial interview with Shaunti Feldhahn. Today, in our conversation with Dr. Michael Sytsma we dive deeper into the practical reality of the data and how it can inform, and maybe transform, our thinking and our attitudes about sex and our spouses. Warning, when you talk with a sex therapist, nothing is off the table! Our guest unpacks the myths and th...
2023-04-1134 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 173: A Guide for Parents Questioning Their Faith with Bekah McNeelThere are many people who were raised in the Church (capital "C") and have walked away with doubts, questions, and major wounds. Our conversation with Bekah McNeel, journalist and author of Bringing Up Kids When Church Lets You Down, was an authentic look at what it means to stay open to the process. Whether someone is "deconstructing" their faith or what we might call "reconstructing" their faith, Bekah gives voice to those who love Jesus but are not sure how to reconcile their experience in unhealthy or toxic systems. From disciplining to discipleship, and typical versus atypical spiritual formation, t...
2023-03-2150 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 170: A Conversation around Theology and the Roles of Women with Erin Lane“Your biological clock is ticking.” “You’ll regret not having kids.” Any woman who even hints she is maybe questioning whether or not she wants to have kids has heard some form of these cultural scripts. Our guest today asks, “Is it possible to do something more meaningful than mothering?” (Hint: the answer is yes.) The conversation today is for anyone—whether mom or non-mom, stepparent or foster parent, infertile or ambivalent—who has been shamed, in particular by American Christianity, for not feeling what they’re “supposed to feel” about motherhood. Our guest for this episode is Erin S. Lane, a writer, theol...
2023-02-2833 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 169: Tips and Tricks for Raising Daughters with the Founders of Courageous Girls, Jeff & Terra MattsonBeing a girl can be hard - especially in a world of confusing messages. We wanted to jump onto today's episode to share some insights from years of raising our own two daughters, teaching others about raising girls, and the deeper needs all women have (young and old). Whether you are raising daughters or working with girls (of any age), this episode is for you. From anxiety and big emotions to changing bodies, healthy boundaries and more…we hope to give you some tools you can use today! We are Jeff and Terra Mattson, a husb...
2023-02-2130 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraWhat Makes a Healthy Marriage and Tips for Couples Who Work Together with Jeff & Terra MattsonMarriage. Work. Life. It’s hard to juggle it all, especially if you have chosen to work together as husband and wife. Today, we are unpacking some of the myths around being a husband and wife team and looking at the layers of a healthy marriage through the lens of the Gottman’s Relationship Sound house. You want real insights about growing a healthy marriage? Listen in to this episode and then choose one thing to take into your world this week. We are Jeff and Terra Mattson, a husband and wife team who co-founded Living...
2023-02-1437 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 167: Raising Amazing Kids Who Like Their Family and Do The Dishes Without Being Asked, with Dave and Monica Swanson (aka: Boy Mom)Parenting is not easy. Let’s just start there. And yet, being a parent is one of the most important leadership roles we can have. Parents remain the most powerful and important influence in their kids’ lives. Many parents lose sleep over their responsibility, wondering if they’re providing the right boundaries, discipline, and examples to ensure their children have a bright future. Commonly known as the GIRL MOM with Courageous Girls and the Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters courses, the number one question I, Terra, get asked is, “Where are the resources for boys?” Well, good n...
2023-02-0741 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 166: Wisdom for Parents of Gamers with Drew DixonThanks for being a part of our Living Wholehearted community, shrinking the gap between what we preach and how we live. This week, we are talking about video games! Are you a parent who is confused by all the controversial opinions about video games? Are they okay for our kids? When do they become a problem? Which games should our kids play? We have friends and clients who confront these questions daily. To shed some light and offer some wisdom on this topic, Drew Dixon is our guest for this episode. Drew is an Executive E...
2023-01-3147 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 165: The Unique Challenges of Female Leadership with Connie ArmerdingHow familiar are you with the unique challenges of women in leadership? From childcare concerns, to re-entering the workforce after years devoted to parenting, to the lack of resources and training available for women leadership. This conversation is one we have in our coaching practices with female leaders over and over again. Today, we decided to bring one of our very own Living Wholehearted Executive Coaches on the podcast to talk more about this. Connie Armerding is an Executive Coach & Leadership Consultant, Writer, Speaker, and Teacher. She is passionate about equipping ministry and marketplace leaders b...
2023-01-2433 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 162: Detoxing from Insecurity and Standing in Confidence with Amanda PittmanAre you a woman who feels bombarded with narratives about how you should look, behave and live? Do you feel exhausted by trying to live up to opposing expectations from social media feeds, entertainment, and peer groups? Do you find yourself struggling with insecurity, self-doubt, and negative self-talk? You’ve come to a safe place… and if you are a guy tuning in today - stay with us! This might be just what you need to equip you to be a good partner and a strong advocate for the women in your life. Sharing her own j...
2023-01-0354 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 158: The Power of One Man with Dr. Ron Archer (the Mattson’s favorite from the LW podcast library)For years, the Mattsons have claimed that most high-capacity leaders have a trauma story (though many would never call it that). This episode is not only telling of this research, but it’s profoundly encouraging to anyone with a story who needs a reminder of how God uses it ALL. Jeff and Terra, co-hosts of the podcast, had an incredible time listening to Dr. Ron Archer share his powerful story. It first aired during Super Bowl week back in 2021. Though we generally stick with 30 minute interviews, the Mattsons let Dr. Archer roll as they just couldn’t stop listening and...
2022-12-061h 07Living Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 157: Trauma-Informed Theology (part 2) with Kimi & Joel Harris (most popular episode from the LW archives)We are diving into an important topic today addressing abuse and how the church can grow in health and wholeness in our response to survivors. We talk about why victims do not speak up, helpful messages from the pulpit and not so helpful messages. We address how a person can find healing from their abuse and the compassion needed for the long journey. Listen to the first half of this vital conversation in last week’s episode #62. In part 2, we are talking specifically to leaders and how the church can better come alongside those who hav...
2022-11-2940 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 156: Trauma-Informed Theology (part 1) with Kimi & Joel Harris (most popular episode from the LW archives)After launching the Living Wholehearted Podcast two years ago, the Mattsons are airing their first reruns. The Trauma-Informed Theology episodes from January 2021 were the most listened to podcasts of all time. It might seem odd, but the truth is, people are becoming more and more aware of how trauma is affecting all of who we are - even our understanding of God, the church, and our communities. Our guests on this episode help us dive into an important discussion; How do we help sex abuse survivors, as well as prevent more abuse in the church? T...
2022-11-2234 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode155: Fostering Being Still and Knowing God With Our Kids: Liturgies for Parents with Kayla CraigHave you not known the words to pray? Have you been so exhausted in your parenting journey, all you needed or wanted was for someone to read your mind and care for you? Well, this conversation will not only be a breath of fresh air, but one that will nourish any season you are in as a parent. Whether you are changing diapers, teaching your child to drive, or preparing to send them off to college, there is a message for you. Terra and Kayla Craig explore the power of liturgy prayers. Terra and Kayla s...
2022-11-1532 min
Living Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 153: Soul Care for the Weary LeaderIs your soul dying to be fed, nurtured, and comforted? Are you facing fears, struggles or even triumphs? Is the news making you mad? Are you white-knuckling your way through the grind of every day? Consider listening to this podcast on the Psalms. Whether you’ve never read the Bible or you have every page memorized (that would be amazing!!), or like many of us, you are somewhere in between, this episode is for you. From the clinical applications of how reading the Psalms heals us, to some practical ways to dive deeper into its pages, our guest is gi...
2022-11-0137 min
Living Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 152: Broken and Leading: When, how and who to be vulnerable with along the way with Toni CollierThis is one of co-host, Jeff Mattson’s favorite interviews! The Mattsons want everyone to meet Toni Collier, a hope coach (don’t you just love that term?!) and founder of Broken Crayons Still Color, an international women’s ministry to help women process their brokenness and reclaim hope. Toni is full of passion and she talks about the moment she realized that God is in the business of using broken people. And yet, leading from a place of brokenness is not where He leaves us or wants us to stay. God invites us to do the hard work our he...
2022-10-2536 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 151: When Life Is More Than You Can Handle with Nicole JacobsmeyerDo you ever feel like God is giving you more than you can handle? In your trials and suffering, do you find yourself doubting and questioning His goodness, or even his existence? Where is God in the suffering? Maybe you are at a loss when it comes to figuring out how to walk alongside others who are in pain? Or maybe you are just tired of the myths around suffering and the trite sayings that come in replacement of true lament? You are not alone. Suffering is one of the number one reasons people leave t...
2022-10-1828 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 149: Beyond Awkward Side-Hugs: Healthy Gender Relationships in a Sex-Crazed World with Bronwyn LeaThe relationship between men and women in the church has some history, to say the least. Do you find yourself wondering why it's so much more complicated than it needs to be? Especially as we labor together in the workspace. Questions rise around stereotypes and gender roles, marriage and singleness. Confusion and frustration surround the conversation and it gets muddled as we continue to see the headlines about church leaders crossing sexual boundaries...again. That's why we invited Brownyn Lea, who serves as an editor for Propel Women and a member of the pastoral team at her local church. S...
2022-10-0447 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 148: Building a Business Without Losing Your Integrity (or your sense of humor) Molly StillmanIf you’ve seen Molly Stillman on social media, you know what you are in for. Her heart, passion, and humor is a gift to anyone who follows. Jeff and Terra enjoyed hearing the backside of Molly’s story, how she became a Christian and her journey to building a content driven business through blogs and podcasting, all with a purpose. If you are an entrepreneur, an aspiring creative, or a parent who has some desires in your heart but are not sure where to start, this episode is for you. Molly shares how she has remained a person of in...
2022-09-2748 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 146: How Our Stories Fuel Our Leadership with Scott Hatley (Part 2 of 2)What beliefs do you hold about people with disabilities? Do you want to see positive change in education, the workplace, and the world for people with different abilities? Jeff Mattson hosts part 2 of a conversation with Scott Hatley. A native and resident of Portland, Oregon, Scott was born with Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy. He is Co-Founder and Executive Director of INCIGHT. In this episode, you’ll hear how Scott’s story influenced his call as he wanted more than what he saw others with disabilities experiencing. God seems to use what we see as limitations, disabilities, or struggles as the very...
2022-09-1340 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 145: When Our Stories Fuel Our Leadership with Scott Hatley (Part 1 of 2)What beliefs do you hold about people with disabilities? Do you want to see positive change in education, the workplace, and the world for people with different abilities? Jeff Mattson hosts part 1 of a 2 part conversation with Scott Hatley. A native and resident of Portland, Oregon, Scott was born with Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy. He is Co-Founder and Executive Director of INCIGHT. In this episode, you’ll hear how Scott’s story influenced his call as he wanted more than what he saw others with disabilities experiencing. God seems to use what we see as limitations, disabilities, or struggles as the...
2022-09-0629 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 144: Leadership at the University & Beyond with Joseph ClairJeff Mattson sits down with Joseph Clair, Executive Dean at George Fox University, to discuss life and leadership on the university campus and beyond. Joseph shares how he has integrated his passion for faith and learning, stemming from his own story, finding Christ in high school and being hungry for knowledge and intellectual challenge. He wants students to have the same experience where they do not have to compromise one or the other. Joseph also shares his observations on the changing landscape of college life for students from a pre-pandemic to a post-pandemic world. As an expert student of...
2022-08-3052 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 143: How to become a more connected leader with Karen HardwickLeaders often operate like “lone rangers”. How about you? Do you desire to be more connected, to grow in healthy interdependence? Do you long to be seen, known, and understood? Listen in as Terra talks with her guest, Karen Hardwick, an author, leadership consultant, podcast host, and speaker. Karen shares years of wisdom about how to become a healthy, well-connected leader. The conversation draws from her new book, The Connected Leader: 7 Strategies to Empower Your True Self and Inspire Others. To connect with Karen Hardwick, visit: ONLINE - https://karenj...
2022-08-2335 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 141: A roadmap for LESS conflict using the Core Values Index (part 2 of 2-part series)This second part of the Core Values Index series addresses the very heart of conflict. Did you know every wiring has a unique type of conflict strategy? Using the wisdom of the Core Values Index, Jeff and Terra explore how our unique wiring gives us clues about why we act the way we do and how we can better navigate our relationships - at home, at work and in the community. If you missed episode 140, make sure you listen before diving into this one. If you are not familiar with the Core Values Index, the M...
2022-08-0941 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 140: Living by our design through the lens of the Core Values Index (part 1 of 2-part series)Living with integrity is not just about living from the right motives. It’s about living within one’s design and learning to love your limits. Have you ever wondered how your wiring impacts the way you communicate, your energy levels, your passions, your anxieties and your greatest contributions to any community? This week, Jeff and Terra take time to share insights, based on their experience using the Core Values Index (CVI), that will impact every relationship that matters to you. If you are not familiar with the Core Values Index, the Mattsons have used this time-tested assessment for the...
2022-08-0236 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 139: Why Leaders Need Rest & Play AND How We Actually Do ItJoin Jeff and Terra for a conversation about why it’s so hard for leaders to rest and play. They address two common lies leaders believe: The first, “If I don’t do it, no one else will … do it, do it right, or do it well.” The second lie, “I am what I do” and playing and rest feels outside my sense of self or identity. Though it’s common for leaders to regularly fire on all cylinders, to live in a constant state of busyness, the Mattsons are calling wholehearted leaders to LEARN how to rest and play. This is cr...
2022-07-1237 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 138: Raising Girls in Today’s World: A Conversation with the Host’s DaughterAdonia Mattson is Jeff and Terra Mattson's oldest daughter. She's 15 and just finishing her freshman year of public high school outside Portland, Oregon. Listen in as Terra interviews Adonia about the impact of their years having intentional conversations. She talks about confidence, identity, comparison, pressures, and she shares an inside peek at Jeff and Terra's marriage. Adonia leaves parents with a word of encouragement. Terra hopes that this open and honest conversation with Adonia will not only encourage your parenting journey today, but will inspire you to lead well and pursue your daughter's heart. Terra i...
2022-07-0533 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 137: Leadership & Marriage: The Choices We Have to Make to Thrive with Audra & Andy Mahoney Jeff and Terra are co-founders, co-leaders, and co-laborers at Living Wholehearted working with many leaders who are married to their ministry or business partner. In other cases, leaders are married to a supportive spouse but they find themselves going in completely separate directions due to career choices or leadership demands. It can be hard to balance the daily grind, trying to balance the many hats leaders wear. From home life, to parenting, to work, friendships, extended family, and community efforts - who really has the time to sit down and look their spouse in the eyes and say hi?
2022-06-2835 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 136: How Fathers Can Shrink Their Integrity GapsDo you enjoy the episodes when the Mattsons jump on the podcast to share their own insights and the principles they live and lead from? Well today is one of those days. Terra and Jeff are honest about their own humanity as they come alongside leaders from all over the country. So, Terra thought it would be fun to interview Jeff about his own journey as a dad to their two daughters as well as the many struggles and triumphs he sees walking alongside men who are attempting to shrink their own integrity gaps at h...
2022-06-2136 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 135: What Christians Actually Think About the Value of Life with Natasha SmithAt first glance, pro-life and pro-choice ideologies appear staunchly opposed to each other. But what if life and choice didn’t have to be in opposition to one another? What if a woman’s life, and the life of the unplanned unborn, could both thrive simultaneously? Terra flies solo today as she interviews Natasha Smith, co-author, with Brittany Smith, of Unplanned Grace: A Compassionate Conversation on Life and Choice (David C. Cook, 2021). Natasha also served on staff at Save the Storks, a pro-life nonprofit that exists to support pregnancy centers nationally, change the narrative around unpla...
2022-06-1435 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 134: Faithfully Different: Living From a Biblical Worldview in a Secular World with Natasha CrainIn an increasingly secular society, those who have a biblical worldview are now a shrinking minority. As mainstream culture grows more hostile toward the Bible’s truths and those who embrace them, how can Christians stand firm as they face the mounting pressures—from family, friends, media, academia, and government—to change or even abandon their beliefs? Today the Mattsons talk with Natasha Crain about leading well in the midst of our modern American culture, both in our homes and in our communities. Natasha Crain recently published a book, Faithfully Different: Regaining Biblical Clarity in a Secular Culture.
2022-06-0749 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 132: Beautifully Broken - finding beauty and healing through suffering with Randy HartleyOne of the greatest questions for many is, “If God is a loving God, why is there so much suffering in the world?” Though we would love to answer this question in a 30 minute episode and set the record straight for us all…this is a complex question that many more qualified individuals have tried to explain, including C.S. Lewis, Tim Keller, and Max Lucado. Instead, we are going to look at suffering from a different angle and process the truth lived out by so many: suffering is not the end of the story. In epis...
2022-05-2436 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 131: Church Hurt, Trauma and Grace with Amber JonesSpiritual abuse and church wounds are far too prevalent. The question for many is how does one not leave their faith altogether or how do they avoid carrying such toxicity to others? With stories like the one told in the The Rise and Fall of Mars Hill Podcast, many wonder if they can ever trust again. Today’s conversation is about a story of spiritual abuse and the grace found when we choose to face our stories of trauma and heal. Terra Mattson interviews Amber Jones, founder of GraceStory Ministries, an organization helping people who’ve be...
2022-05-1745 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 130: Say All the Things: A letter to his daughter with John SowersAt the end of our parenting journey, there are so many things we hope to have said, done, and passed on to our kids. Are you a parent or grandparent who needs a little extra inspiration and courage to share your heart with your kids? This is the show for you! The Mattsons had a powerful conversation with Dr. John Sowers about his crazy love for his daughters, intentional parenting, and his latest book, Say All the Unspoken Things: A Book of Letters (Thomas Nelson, February 1, 2022). Dr. John Sowers is the author of several books a...
2022-05-1035 min
Living Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 129: Tips & Tricks to Healthier Conflict with Jay PayleitnerConflict. You either stir it up or avoid it. But few of us know how to move through it well. What if we told you that conflict is a necessary ingredient for healthy relationships? Jeff and Terra Mattson interview Jay Payleitner with a focus on his most recent book, "Don’t Take the Bait to Escalate: Conflict is Inevitable. Being a Jerk is Optional." Jay unpacks four factors anyone can use to help de-escalate a conflict. From marriage to work relationships, this conversation applies to everyday issues. From which peanut butter to buy, to bigger cha...
2022-05-0332 min
Living Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 120: The Ins and Outs of being a Women in Leadership with Connie Armerding & Audra MahoneyCo-host and founder of Living Wholehearted and Courageous Girls, Terra Mattson, is kicking off a March series focusing on women and leadership. Most of you listening this month are probably women, but if you are a man, don’t turn this episode off! You will better understand your colleagues and bosses, your sisters and your wife, and be better equipped to raise healthy daughters if you keep listening this month! Terra is excited to have Living Wholehearted teammates, Audra Mahoney, MA LPC Associate and Connie Armerding, MA on the podcast. Audra and Connie are both fem...
2022-03-0136 min
Living Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 117: Dating, Love, Abuse, and Healthy Boundaries with Ainsley BritainWith Valentine’s Day quickly approaching, we decided to focus for a moment on dating, love and healthy boundaries. We love Ainsley’s new up and coming book title: Don’t Date a BooBoo Dude: Raise Your Standards, Realize Your Worth, and Remove Shame From the Dating Game. And that summarizes the conversation on today’s episode with the Mattsons. Jeff and Terra sat down to talk virtually with Ainsley Britain, a well known social media influencer who is helping raise the bar for teens and young adults who want direction when it comes to love and...
2022-02-0837 min
Living Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 113: The Power of Time Budgeting & Our Core Value Index (Part 2)It’s the beginning of the year and as you are considering what goals to set or reset, the Mattsons thought it would be the perfect time to discuss the skill of TIME BUDGETING. In Part 2 of this conversation, Jeff and Terra explore the impact of one’s Core Value Index on the way they view and steward time. If you are not familiar with the Core Values Index, the Mattsons use this time tested assessment in their twenty years of practice, helping parents, couples families and organizational teams grow in their understanding of self and others. The CVI is o...
2022-01-1136 min
Living Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 112: The Power of Time BudgetingIt’s the beginning of the year and as you are considering what goals to set or reset, the Mattsons thought it would be the perfect time to discuss the skill of TIME BUDGETING. Like budgeting money, time is a resource we often believe we have little or none to give away. Leaders are at the top of the list, running ragged and sacrificing what they say they love the most at the end of each day. So in this episode, Jeff and Terra talk about the art of stewarding our calendars, giving practical tips to shrink the integrity ga...
2022-01-0434 min
Living Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 97: Finding Our PurposeWhat is my purpose? How do I find it? Will it change? Can I live without a purpose and what are the effects? Can I miss my purpose? In this episode, Jeff and Terra share their personal stories and how they stumbled upon their unique purposes. They share how they then cultivated a shared meaning as a married couple. They have helped thousands understand their purpose through exploring wiring, story, and God-given talents. The Mattson simplify the common questions and help listeners find freedom and peace, rather than striving and FOMO (fear of missing out). Listen in to better...
2021-09-2124 min
Living Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 90: Becoming a Woman Today with Bethany Beal of GirlDefinedAre you raising a daughter or mentoring girls? This podcast is for you. Being a girl and a woman today is hard and the messages women are hearing are so confusing! Join Terra Mattson, co-host of this podcast as well as licensed marriage and family therapist, co-founder of Courageous Girls and author of Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace, for a conversation with Bethany Beal on what girls need today. Bethany, along with her sister, Kristen, launched GirlDefined Ministries in 2014. GirlDefined is helping the modern girl understand and live out God’s timeless truth for wom...
2021-08-0339 min
Living Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 88: The Makings of the Living Wholehearted Lodge & RetreatJeff and Terra share the vision of the new Living Wholehearted Lodge and Retreat, coming Fall 2021. While they talk about their shared meaning as a couple, they discuss marriage principles based on the Gottman’s “sound relationship house” model and what lies ahead for the LW Lodge & Retreat. Jeff and Terra, the hosts of the podcast, are co-founders and co-owners of Living Wholehearted and Courageous Girls. Just celebrating 20 years of marriage, they met with a vision to utilize their education, wirings, and resources to help people dive deeper into relationships with God and others. Whether it’s ma...
2021-07-2025 min
Living Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 82: Her Story, Bulimia & Body Image Issues with Terra Mattson, MA LMFT, LPC In a world that determines the value of a person based on appearance, Terra exposes the subtle lies we’ve bought into regarding our body image, relationship with food, exercise and our emotions. In today’s episode, following Dr. Rhona’s episodes on food addiction, Terra shares her own story with her battle with bulimia as a teen. Her journey as a licensed marriage and family therapist and licensed professional counselor has led her to understand more of her own healing journey as she has walked with hundreds of men, women and teens over the years who have had simila...
2021-06-0834 min
Living Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 66: Our Love Story, Part 2We are Jeff and Terra Mattson, a husband and wife team who is helping leaders live with integrity. We started @living_wholehearted ten years ago to bring professional counseling and consulting to leaders who felt alone in the work they do both at home and in their work spaces. Now, we have a team of professionals, books, @mycourageousgirls, and this podcast. Though we share a passion for people, we are oldest children trying to play nice in our marriage. (wink) Our humanity gets in the way, just like yours. But we have learned a few things over our 23 years...
2021-02-1634 min
Living Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 45: Shrinking Our Integrity Gaps in our Marriages, Part 2 with Dave & Ann WilsonThe demands of leadership on any marriage is enormous. In part 2 of our Shrinking the Gap Series, Jeff and Terra continue their discussion with long-time pastors and leaders, Dave & Ann Wilson. Make sure you start with part 1 if you missed out. After 40 years of marriage and ministry, raising three boys, Dave & Ann are the Family Life Today radio hosts and founders of Kensington Church, a national, multicampus church that hosts more than 14,000 visitor. The Wilsons unpack when their marriage was on the rocks and they came face to face with their failing contributions right in the midst of starting...
2020-09-2231 min
Living Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 44: Shrinking Our Integrity Gaps in our Marriages, Part 1 with Dave & Ann WilsonJeff and Terra get the honor of interviewing long-time pastors and leaders, Dave & Ann Wilson. After 40 years of marriage and ministry, raising three boys, Dave & Ann are the Family Life Today radio hosts and founders of Kensington Church, a national, multicampus church that hosts more than 14,000 visitor. The authors of Vertical Marriage, they are the creative force behind the DVD teaching series Rock Your Marriage and The Survival Guide to Parenting. We had a powerful conversation in part 1, as Dave & Ann share the realities of marriage, ministry, and raising boys. Having a healthy marriage as a leader is not...
2020-09-1536 min
Living Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 42: Tools for Helping Our AnxietyAnxiety is at the top of most conversations right now in light of a world pandemic. Unknowns are at every turn and whether you recognize you have anxiety or not, or are parenting a child or teen who struggles with anxiety, this season has created a whole new way of being for all of us. We are anxious about being anxious. Getting practical in episode 42, Terra puts on her clinical hat to help us learn how to reduce anxiety in our bodies and gain peace and presence to face our days. “Do not be anxiety…” was not a command in the...
2020-09-0129 min
Living Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 25: Candid Covid-19 Conversations with Jeff & Terra (Part 2)Business is not as usual in these uncharted COVID-19 waters. However, we can still apply what we knew to be true in the light to darker days. Jeff and Terra continue their COVID-19 conversation as they discuss leadership at work, home and in our communities. They touch on everything from layoffs, how to make the most of the quarantine life, to helping our children adjust to the new routines. Jeff and Terra share principles they have learned from other challenging seasons in business and life (9/11, 2008 recession, and other epidemics) and hope to bring hope amidst this anxious period of life. Subscr...
2020-04-1427 min
Living Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 24: Candid Covid-19 Conversations with Jeff & Terra (Part 1)In this episode, we are bringing you tools, tips, and honest talk. Healthy coping during this Covid-19 and quarantine life is key to our short-term and long term integrity. The way we are engaging our work, our homes, and our communities has all drastically changed and the impact is so real on every level. As a married couple, business partners, parents, and a counselor/coach to many, Jeff and Terra have an honest conversation. Our hope is to help you find some sense of peace and healthy new normals in the midst of all the abnormal and unknown.Subscribe for more...
2020-04-0725 min
Living Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraComparison to Confidence // Connie ArmerdingLeadership is not about power or position—it’s about obedience, integrity, and stewarding our influence well. In this powerful conversation with writer, speaker, and curriculum developer Connie Armerding, we continue unpacking the unique journey of women in leadership. We discuss the cost of leadership, the weight of responsibility, and the importance of discerning God's timing in stepping into our callings. Connie shares wisdom on overcoming comparison, navigating seasons of motherhood and leadership, and building a supportive community. Whether you're a stay-at-home mom, a working professional, or a high-capacity leader, this episode will encourage you to lead with confidence, grac...
2019-12-1031 min
Living Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraWomen & Leadership // Connie ArmerdingWomen in leadership face unique challenges, both internally and externally, but stepping into the spaces God has called us to requires courage, confidence, and community. In this conversation with writer, speaker, and curriculum developer Connie Armerding, we unpack the struggles many women face—doubting their place, battling comparison, and overcoming limiting beliefs. Connie shares her personal leadership journey, the importance of championing other women, and how trusting God’s design allows us to lead with integrity. We explore biblical examples of women who boldly stepped into their callings and discuss how embracing our God-given wiring helps us thrive in lead...
2019-12-0333 min
Living Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraCore Values Index & Conflict ResolutionConflict is inevitable, but how we navigate it can transform our relationships, leadership, and personal growth. In this episode, we explore how the Core Values Index (CVI) reveals the underlying triggers behind conflict and provides practical strategies for shifting back to the best of who we are. From understanding anxiety cues in our bodies to identifying our core conflict strategies—whether manipulation, intimidation, interrogation, or aloof judgment—we unpack how self-awareness can help us lead with integrity. Join us as we dive into the neuroscience of conflict, the power of shifting perspectives, and how honoring our core values creates heal...
2019-11-1832 min
Living Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraConnections on the Core Values IndexWe continue our deep dive into the Core Values Index (CVI), exploring how our unique wiring impacts leadership, relationships, and decision-making. Understanding the way we prioritize tasks, engage with others, and process information can transform how we lead—whether at home, in business, or in the community. From the intuitive instincts of merchants and builders to the analytical depth of bankers and innovators, we unpack the powerful connections between these core value types. Join us as we discuss how self-awareness helps us lead with integrity, honor our strengths, and navigate conflict with wisdom.========================================================We LOVE th...
2019-11-1124 min
Living Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraThe Core Values Index (CVI): Builders, Merchants, Innovators, and BankersWant to take the CVI test? Go here!In this episode, we share about the importance of living from who you are (not who you're not). We share about the Core Values Index (CVI), an assessment tool we use in our counseling and organizational development practices that has replaced all the other personality-based assessments we've used over the last 20+ years. This is the second of a 4-part Podcast around this theme.========================================================We LOVE that you’ve decided to join us this week for the Living Wholehearted Podcast. We hope you enjoy...
2019-11-0434 min
Living Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraThe Core Values Index (CVI): Understanding Your WiringWant to take the CVI test? Go here!We’re diving into the Core Values Index (CVI), a revolutionary tool with 97% reliability that reveals the unchanging ways we’re wired. Unlike other assessments, the CVI gets beneath personality and life circumstances to uncover what motivates us and helps us thrive. Jeff and Tara share how this tool has transformed marriages, parenting, leadership, and teams by helping us embrace our unique design and better understand those around us. Whether you’re leading at work or at home, the CVI equips you to live authentically, strengthen relatio...
2019-10-2925 min
Living Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraWelcome To The Living Wholehearted Podcast!Welcome to the Living Wholehearted Podcast! We’re Jeff and Tara Mattson, and in this very first episode, we’re excited to introduce ourselves and share the heart behind Living Wholehearted. We’ll unpack what it means to lead with integrity—whether you’re a mom, a CEO, or someone striving to grow—and explore how relational wisdom impacts every area of life, both at home and in the workplace. We also share the story of Courageous Girls, a movement we started to help moms and daughters build grace-filled, resilient relationships. Together, we’ll define integrity, talk about the “integrity gap,”...
2019-10-1016 min