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Relationship AdviceHow To Dismantle ShameHave you ever felt like something about you was just…wrong? In this episode, we dive deep into the roots of shame—where it comes from, why we all experience it, and how it impacts our relationships in sneaky ways like defensiveness, over-explaining, or shutting down. Unpack the experience of shame, tracing it back to early childhood moments when we first began to believe something was wrong with us. They explore the difference between shame and guilt, how shame shows up in relationships through defensiveness or withdrawal, and why healing it requires identifying core shame messages and grief over unme...2025-06-2553 minRelationship AdviceHow To Dismantle ShameHave you ever felt like something about you was just…wrong? In this episode, we dive deep into the roots of shame—where it comes from, why we all experience it, and how it impacts our relationships in sneaky ways like defensiveness, over-explaining, or shutting down. Unpack the experience of shame, tracing it back to early childhood moments when we first began to believe something was wrong with us. They explore the difference between shame and guilt, how shame shows up in relationships through defensiveness or withdrawal, and why healing it requires identifying core shame messages and grief over unme...2025-06-2553 min
Relationship AdviceWhy We Rush To Solutions & What We Should Do InsteadWe often rush to offer solutions when a loved one expresses emotional distress, not because we don't care, but because it's uncomfortable to witness pain—both theirs and our own. While advice and plans may seem helpful, skipping over empathy and validation can make others feel dismissed or misunderstood. In this episode, the hosts unpack why we default to fixing and offer tools to slow down, connect emotionally first, and ask what support is actually needed.
In this episode, we cover topics such as:
- Fixing as a Coping Strategy
...2025-06-1849 minRelationship AdviceWhy We Rush To Solutions & What We Should Do InsteadWe often rush to offer solutions when a loved one expresses emotional distress, not because we don't care, but because it's uncomfortable to witness pain—both theirs and our own. While advice and plans may seem helpful, skipping over empathy and validation can make others feel dismissed or misunderstood. In this episode, the hosts unpack why we default to fixing and offer tools to slow down, connect emotionally first, and ask what support is actually needed.
In this episode, we cover topics such as:
- Fixing as a Coping Strategy
...2025-06-1849 min
Relationship AdviceKnowing How To Name Emotions Will Deepen Your Connection To Yourself And OthersBeing able to name and understand your emotions deepens your connection to yourself and improves your ability to connect with others. Language gives shape to emotional experiences, much like how having more words for color can help us better distinguish shades. By learning the core emotions—anger, fear, guilt, and pain—and understanding their physical and relational functions, we gain tools to navigate conflict and communicate more vulnerably and effectively.
In this episode we talk about:
Language Shapes Emotional Awareness
The Four Core Emotions
People Vary in Emotional Intensity
Connection Requires Vulnerability
Self-Reflection Tools...2025-06-1154 minRelationship AdviceKnowing How To Name Emotions Will Deepen Your Connection To Yourself And OthersBeing able to name and understand your emotions deepens your connection to yourself and improves your ability to connect with others. Language gives shape to emotional experiences, much like how having more words for color can help us better distinguish shades. By learning the core emotions—anger, fear, guilt, and pain—and understanding their physical and relational functions, we gain tools to navigate conflict and communicate more vulnerably and effectively.
In this episode we talk about:
Language Shapes Emotional Awareness
The Four Core Emotions
People Vary in Emotional Intensity
Connection Requires Vulnerability
Self-Reflection Tools...2025-06-1154 min
Relationship AdviceMaking Non-Evil, Generous Assumptions About Our Partner’s ResponsesIn this episode, examine how our assumptions about our partner's behavior shape the emotional climate of our relationship. Often, we default to interpretations that paint our partner as careless or intentionally hurtful, which leads to defensiveness and distance. By learning to make generous, non-evil assumptions—like believing our partner is overwhelmed rather than selfish—we create more space for empathy, curiosity, and connection.
We cover topics such as:
We often assume the worst based on our own insecurities.
Generous assumptions reduce conflict.
Shift from “they’re against me” to “they’re struggling.”
Mutual generosity creat...2025-06-0453 minRelationship AdviceMaking Non-Evil, Generous Assumptions About Our Partner’s ResponsesIn this episode, examine how our assumptions about our partner's behavior shape the emotional climate of our relationship. Often, we default to interpretations that paint our partner as careless or intentionally hurtful, which leads to defensiveness and distance. By learning to make generous, non-evil assumptions—like believing our partner is overwhelmed rather than selfish—we create more space for empathy, curiosity, and connection.
We cover topics such as:
We often assume the worst based on our own insecurities.
Generous assumptions reduce conflict.
Shift from “they’re against me” to “they’re struggling.”
Mutual generosity creat...2025-06-0453 min
Relationship AdviceWhen Are Needs Implied In A Relationship Vs When Should They Be Made ExplicitDive into how often people use indirect or protective strategies—like assuming or demanding—when trying to get their relational needs met, and why making needs explicit through vulnerability is both challenging and essential. Colter, Cayla, and Lauren emphasize that even though vulnerable communication is uncomfortable and risky, it’s the most effective way to build connection and avoid misunderstandings or resentment. They offer practical guidance on organizing your thoughts, understanding your own context, and inviting your partner into a collaborative conversation rather than a demand-response dynamic.
We cover topics such as:
Protected vs Vul...2025-05-2858 minRelationship AdviceWhen Are Needs Implied In A Relationship Vs When Should They Be Made ExplicitDive into how often people use indirect or protective strategies—like assuming or demanding—when trying to get their relational needs met, and why making needs explicit through vulnerability is both challenging and essential. Colter, Cayla, and Lauren emphasize that even though vulnerable communication is uncomfortable and risky, it’s the most effective way to build connection and avoid misunderstandings or resentment. They offer practical guidance on organizing your thoughts, understanding your own context, and inviting your partner into a collaborative conversation rather than a demand-response dynamic.
We cover topics such as:
Protected vs Vul...2025-05-2858 min
Relationship AdviceFor When You Feel Disillusioned In Your RelationshipThis episode dives into the feeling of disillusionment in long-term relationships—when the connection, ease, or intimacy from the early days starts to fade and partners question what changed. The hosts unpack how this shift is often tied to attachment dynamics, life stressors, and the transition from novelty to responsibility in relationships. Instead of jumping to blame, the episode encourages listeners to get curious, explore the root causes of change, and decide whether to grow through it or lovingly let go.
We cover topics such as:
Feeling let down in a relationship is normal
Life stress ma...2025-05-2154 minRelationship AdviceFor When You Feel Disillusioned In Your RelationshipThis episode dives into the feeling of disillusionment in long-term relationships—when the connection, ease, or intimacy from the early days starts to fade and partners question what changed. The hosts unpack how this shift is often tied to attachment dynamics, life stressors, and the transition from novelty to responsibility in relationships. Instead of jumping to blame, the episode encourages listeners to get curious, explore the root causes of change, and decide whether to grow through it or lovingly let go.
We cover topics such as:
Feeling let down in a relationship is normal
Life stress ma...2025-05-2154 min
Relationship AdviceHow Much Of Our Intimate Partner Relationships We Should Be SharingThis episode explores the nuanced question of how much we should share about our intimate relationships with others, highlighting the spectrum between healthy connection and potential boundary violations. The hosts reflect on personal experiences and therapeutic insights to unpack the motivations behind sharing—such as co-regulation, validation, or humor—and examine how factors like upbringing, culture, and attachment styles shape our comfort with disclosure. The conversation emphasizes that couples benefit from explicit conversations about preferences, risks, and the importance of flexibility when navigating this topic.
We cover topics such as:
Motivations for Sharing
Risk...2025-05-1451 minRelationship AdviceHow Much Of Our Intimate Partner Relationships We Should Be SharingThis episode explores the nuanced question of how much we should share about our intimate relationships with others, highlighting the spectrum between healthy connection and potential boundary violations. The hosts reflect on personal experiences and therapeutic insights to unpack the motivations behind sharing—such as co-regulation, validation, or humor—and examine how factors like upbringing, culture, and attachment styles shape our comfort with disclosure. The conversation emphasizes that couples benefit from explicit conversations about preferences, risks, and the importance of flexibility when navigating this topic.
We cover topics such as:
Motivations for Sharing
Risk...2025-05-1451 min
Relationship AdviceHow To Know When To Call It Quits In A RelationshipIn this episode, the hosts unpack the complicated process of knowing when it's time to leave a relationship, highlighting the emotional risks, attachment patterns, and fears of regret that often make the decision so difficult.
They emphasize that while love and good qualities may exist, non-negotiable differences, broken trust, or persistent disconnection can signal it's time to move on. The episode encourages self-trust, gathering support, experimenting with boundaries, and, when needed, seeking professional help like couples therapy or intensives for greater clarity.
We cover topics such as:
Why...2025-05-0750 minRelationship AdviceHow To Know When To Call It Quits In A RelationshipIn this episode, the hosts unpack the complicated process of knowing when it's time to leave a relationship, highlighting the emotional risks, attachment patterns, and fears of regret that often make the decision so difficult.
They emphasize that while love and good qualities may exist, non-negotiable differences, broken trust, or persistent disconnection can signal it's time to move on. The episode encourages self-trust, gathering support, experimenting with boundaries, and, when needed, seeking professional help like couples therapy or intensives for greater clarity.
We cover topics such as:
Why...2025-05-0750 min
Relationship AdviceHow to Know When To Take A Break in ConflictIn this episode, the hosts illustrate how noticing when you need a break during conflict is essential for maintaining emotional regulation and protecting connection. They highlight how pushing through conflict without pausing can lead to emotional collapse or blow-ups, and how a break should be intentional, involving both calming the body and organizing thoughts before reengaging. The episode emphasizes that reframing breaks not as avoidance but as tools for better communication can help couples build trust and deeper understanding.
We cover topics such as:
Recognizing Dysregulation
Breaks vs Avoidance
Organizing During...2025-04-3050 minRelationship AdviceHow to Know When To Take A Break in ConflictIn this episode, the hosts illustrate how noticing when you need a break during conflict is essential for maintaining emotional regulation and protecting connection. They highlight how pushing through conflict without pausing can lead to emotional collapse or blow-ups, and how a break should be intentional, involving both calming the body and organizing thoughts before reengaging. The episode emphasizes that reframing breaks not as avoidance but as tools for better communication can help couples build trust and deeper understanding.
We cover topics such as:
Recognizing Dysregulation
Breaks vs Avoidance
Organizing During...2025-04-3050 min
Relationship AdviceHow To Handle Different Paces In Emotional GrowthWhen emotional growth happens at different paces in a relationship, it can create disconnection and frustration. This episode explores how partners can navigate this dynamic by cultivating curiosity, avoiding shame-based interpretations, and validating the complexity of individual growth paths. Rather than rushing to conclusions or trying to control the other, the hosts encourage compassion, open dialogue, and creative ways to reconnect.In this episode, we cover topics such as:
Avoiding Righteousness
Pause the Binary Thinking
Asking Open-Ended Questions
Exploring Other Support Systems
Discernment and Clarity
Give Me D...2025-04-2349 minRelationship AdviceHow To Handle Different Paces In Emotional GrowthWhen emotional growth happens at different paces in a relationship, it can create disconnection and frustration. This episode explores how partners can navigate this dynamic by cultivating curiosity, avoiding shame-based interpretations, and validating the complexity of individual growth paths. Rather than rushing to conclusions or trying to control the other, the hosts encourage compassion, open dialogue, and creative ways to reconnect.In this episode, we cover topics such as:
Avoiding Righteousness
Pause the Binary Thinking
Asking Open-Ended Questions
Exploring Other Support Systems
Discernment and Clarity
Give Me D...2025-04-2349 min
Relationship AdviceWhy Do My Partner And I Have Different Sex DrivesExplore the common relational challenge of mismatched sex drives in partnerships, emphasizing that differences in sexual desire are normal and often rooted in individual biology, life stage, or emotional dynamics. Rather than seeking a “right” or “normal” amount of sex, the hosts encourage couples to approach the topic with curiosity, vulnerability, and a willingness to understand one another’s needs. The conversation also challenges common gender-based assumptions about sex and introduces the idea of sexual pursuit and withdrawal patterns as part of a couple’s dynamic.In this episode, we talk about topics such as:
Mis...2025-04-1651 minRelationship AdviceWhy Do My Partner And I Have Different Sex DrivesExplore the common relational challenge of mismatched sex drives in partnerships, emphasizing that differences in sexual desire are normal and often rooted in individual biology, life stage, or emotional dynamics. Rather than seeking a “right” or “normal” amount of sex, the hosts encourage couples to approach the topic with curiosity, vulnerability, and a willingness to understand one another’s needs. The conversation also challenges common gender-based assumptions about sex and introduces the idea of sexual pursuit and withdrawal patterns as part of a couple’s dynamic.In this episode, we talk about topics such as:
Mis...2025-04-1651 min
Relationship AdviceWhat To Do When Your Partner is Still DefensiveIn this episode, the hosts explore the emotional complexity of being vulnerable in relationships and not receiving the supportive response we hope for. When partners often respond in protective ways—like shutting down or snapping back—can feel frustrating and disheartening—especially when you’re trying to be vulnerable and connect. Understanding what’s happening under the surface of that defensiveness and learning how to respond can completely shift the dynamic between you and your partner. Listen to today’s show to learn how to stay grounded, break negative cycles, and build true emotional safety—even when your partner is still react...2025-04-0946 minRelationship AdviceWhat To Do When Your Partner is Still DefensiveIn this episode, the hosts explore the emotional complexity of being vulnerable in relationships and not receiving the supportive response we hope for. When partners often respond in protective ways—like shutting down or snapping back—can feel frustrating and disheartening—especially when you’re trying to be vulnerable and connect. Understanding what’s happening under the surface of that defensiveness and learning how to respond can completely shift the dynamic between you and your partner. Listen to today’s show to learn how to stay grounded, break negative cycles, and build true emotional safety—even when your partner is still react...2025-04-0946 min
Relationship AdviceHow To Let People Feel Their FeelingsThe concept of "letting people feel their feelings" may be confusing to some, however in this episode, Colter, Cayla and Lauren emphasize the importance of allowing others to experience emotions like anger, disappointment, or frustration without trying to fix, dismiss, or control them. Listen to unpack the internal discomfort that often drives our impulse to manage others’ emotions, which can stem from fear of being misunderstood, shame, or a lack of emotional literacy. The conversation highlights the value of emotional regulation, self-reflection, and understanding the function of emotions as keys to fostering healthier and more authentic relationships.2025-04-0247 minRelationship AdviceHow To Let People Feel Their FeelingsThe concept of "letting people feel their feelings" may be confusing to some, however in this episode, Colter, Cayla and Lauren emphasize the importance of allowing others to experience emotions like anger, disappointment, or frustration without trying to fix, dismiss, or control them. Listen to unpack the internal discomfort that often drives our impulse to manage others’ emotions, which can stem from fear of being misunderstood, shame, or a lack of emotional literacy. The conversation highlights the value of emotional regulation, self-reflection, and understanding the function of emotions as keys to fostering healthier and more authentic relationships.2025-04-0247 min
Relationship AdviceHow To Decide What Are Non-Negotiables In A RelationshipThis episode of the Relationship Advice podcast explores the value of creating a Non-Negotiables List to establish clear boundaries and expectations in relationships. Colter, Cayla, and Lauren discuss how striking the right balance—neither too rigid nor too lenient—can lead to healthier connections in both dating and marriage. They also offer practical strategies for crafting a personalized list that promotes self-awareness, intentional decision-making, and meaningful communication.In the episode, we talk about topics such as:
Understanding Non-Negotiables
Balancing the List
Application in Dating
Role in Marriage
Flexibility / Rigidity
and more!
2025-03-2651 minRelationship AdviceHow To Decide What Are Non-Negotiables In A RelationshipThis episode of the Relationship Advice podcast explores the value of creating a Non-Negotiables List to establish clear boundaries and expectations in relationships. Colter, Cayla, and Lauren discuss how striking the right balance—neither too rigid nor too lenient—can lead to healthier connections in both dating and marriage. They also offer practical strategies for crafting a personalized list that promotes self-awareness, intentional decision-making, and meaningful communication.In the episode, we talk about topics such as:
Understanding Non-Negotiables
Balancing the List
Application in Dating
Role in Marriage
Flexibility / Rigidity
and more!
2025-03-2651 min
Relationship AdviceCuriosity Over QuestioningWhat’s the difference between curiosity and questioning in relationships? Learn about the importance of approaching emotional challenges with openness rather than interrogation. Colter, Cayla, and Lauren share their personal journey into couples therapy, attachment theory, and the development of resources to help individuals heal from anxious attachment. In this episode, they talk about topics such as:
Difference in Curiosity and Questioning
Impact of Questioning
How to Lead w/ Curiosity
Communicating Emotional Need Effectively
Developing Healthier Responses to Triggers
and more!
Give Me Discounts!Amazfit - Visit www...2025-03-1952 minRelationship AdviceCuriosity Over QuestioningWhat’s the difference between curiosity and questioning in relationships? Learn about the importance of approaching emotional challenges with openness rather than interrogation. Colter, Cayla, and Lauren share their personal journey into couples therapy, attachment theory, and the development of resources to help individuals heal from anxious attachment. In this episode, they talk about topics such as:
Difference in Curiosity and Questioning
Impact of Questioning
How to Lead w/ Curiosity
Communicating Emotional Need Effectively
Developing Healthier Responses to Triggers
and more!
Give Me Discounts!Amazfit - Visit www...2025-03-1952 min
Relationship AdviceHow To Heal Insecure Attachment With Julie MenannoJoined by special guest, Julie Menanno, our hosts sit down to discuss how to heal insecure attachment by focusing on self-awareness, emotional regulation, and developing a secure relationship with oneself. She emphasizes that attachment wounds manifest through self-abandonment, which leads to unhealthy relational patterns. Healing involves learning to sit with and process difficult emotions rather than seeking external reassurance, shifting from self-protection to self-support. In relationships, individuals must take turns being caregivers for one another, creating an attachment-friendly environment that fosters trust and security.Listen to learn more about topics like:
Self-Abandonment as t...2025-03-1258 minRelationship AdviceHow To Heal Insecure Attachment With Julie MenannoJoined by special guest, Julie Menanno, our hosts sit down to discuss how to heal insecure attachment by focusing on self-awareness, emotional regulation, and developing a secure relationship with oneself. She emphasizes that attachment wounds manifest through self-abandonment, which leads to unhealthy relational patterns. Healing involves learning to sit with and process difficult emotions rather than seeking external reassurance, shifting from self-protection to self-support. In relationships, individuals must take turns being caregivers for one another, creating an attachment-friendly environment that fosters trust and security.Listen to learn more about topics like:
Self-Abandonment as t...2025-03-1258 min
Relationship AdviceBoundaries And What's RightExplore the tension between personal experience and factual correctness in relationships, particularly in boundary-setting and decision-making. The hosts discuss how relying too heavily on logic and research to "win" arguments can create gridlock and emotional disconnection, emphasizing the importance of curiosity, empathy, and slowing down difficult conversations. They demonstrate how shifting from a debate-style approach to one focused on safety and understanding can lead to more productive and fulfilling discussions between partners.In the episode, we talk about topics such as:
Struggle Between Experience and "Being Right"
The Role of Control in Relationship...2025-03-0555 minRelationship AdviceBoundaries And What's RightExplore the tension between personal experience and factual correctness in relationships, particularly in boundary-setting and decision-making. The hosts discuss how relying too heavily on logic and research to "win" arguments can create gridlock and emotional disconnection, emphasizing the importance of curiosity, empathy, and slowing down difficult conversations. They demonstrate how shifting from a debate-style approach to one focused on safety and understanding can lead to more productive and fulfilling discussions between partners.In the episode, we talk about topics such as:
Struggle Between Experience and "Being Right"
The Role of Control in Relationship...2025-03-0555 min
Relationship AdviceRitualsThis episode explores the importance of rituals in relationships, emphasizing how they create trust, connection, and predictability between partners. Whether it is daily acts, like greeting each other after work or having a bedtime routine, or larger, less frequent traditions, like weekly date nights, annual celebrations, or even rituals for personal space. Without these conversations, there an be an unspoken expectations around rituals that can create frustration and misinterpretation in relationships. In the episode, we talk about topics such as:
Defining Rituals & Their Purpose
Unspoken Expectations
Types / Frequency of Rituals
Actionable Steps
and m...2025-02-2647 minRelationship AdviceRitualsThis episode explores the importance of rituals in relationships, emphasizing how they create trust, connection, and predictability between partners. Whether it is daily acts, like greeting each other after work or having a bedtime routine, or larger, less frequent traditions, like weekly date nights, annual celebrations, or even rituals for personal space. Without these conversations, there an be an unspoken expectations around rituals that can create frustration and misinterpretation in relationships. In the episode, we talk about topics such as:
Defining Rituals & Their Purpose
Unspoken Expectations
Types / Frequency of Rituals
Actionable Steps
and m...2025-02-2647 min
Relationship AdviceWhat Is A Negative Couples Cycle?A negative couples cycle is a recurring pattern of interaction in which partners react to each other’s protective moves, escalating conflict rather than addressing the underlying emotions. Colter, Cayla, and Lauren illustrate how miscommunication and emotional defenses—such as criticism, defensiveness, or withdrawal—reinforce each other in a self-perpetuating loop. By identifying these cycles and understanding the emotions driving them, couples can shift from blame to curiosity, fostering better connection and repair.In the episode, we touch on relationship topics such as:
The Root of Negative Cycles
Common Protective Moves
Emotional Drivers of Con...2025-02-1947 minRelationship AdviceWhat Is A Negative Couples Cycle?A negative couples cycle is a recurring pattern of interaction in which partners react to each other’s protective moves, escalating conflict rather than addressing the underlying emotions. Colter, Cayla, and Lauren illustrate how miscommunication and emotional defenses—such as criticism, defensiveness, or withdrawal—reinforce each other in a self-perpetuating loop. By identifying these cycles and understanding the emotions driving them, couples can shift from blame to curiosity, fostering better connection and repair.In the episode, we touch on relationship topics such as:
The Root of Negative Cycles
Common Protective Moves
Emotional Drivers of Con...2025-02-1947 min
Relationship AdviceSex: When To Say Yes & When To Say NoToday Colter, Cayla, and Lauren dive into the “taboo” topic of sex, offering advice on when to say yes and when to say no. This episode explores how partners can navigate differences in sexual desire by recognizing how things like stress, emotional connection, and personal preferences impact intimacy and why a simple "yes" or "no" isn’t always the best response. In the episode, we touch on topics such as:
Understanding Individual Preferences
Accelerators & Breaks (Turn Ons/Offs)
Importance of Communication
Counter Offers / Negotiation
Creating a Safe Environment
Give Me Disc...2025-02-1251 minRelationship AdviceSex: When To Say Yes & When To Say NoToday Colter, Cayla, and Lauren dive into the “taboo” topic of sex, offering advice on when to say yes and when to say no. This episode explores how partners can navigate differences in sexual desire by recognizing how things like stress, emotional connection, and personal preferences impact intimacy and why a simple "yes" or "no" isn’t always the best response. In the episode, we touch on topics such as:
Understanding Individual Preferences
Accelerators & Breaks (Turn Ons/Offs)
Importance of Communication
Counter Offers / Negotiation
Creating a Safe Environment
Give Me Disc...2025-02-1251 min
Relationship AdviceBoundariesToday Colter, Lauren and Cayla dive into boundaries, emphasizing their importance in maintaining personal energy, trust, and healthy relationships. The hosts delve into the pitfalls of rigid or non-existent boundaries, offering strategies to navigate requests thoughtfully while prioritizing individual values and needs. By sharing real-life examples, they highlight how to say "yes," "no," or propose counter-offers based on personal capacity and relational dynamics.In the episode, we touch on topics such as:
Binary Boundaries: Resentment vs. Guilt
Values-Based Decisions Making
The Cost of Impulsive Responses
Counter Offers: Editing Requests
and more!
2025-02-0548 minRelationship AdviceBoundariesToday Colter, Lauren and Cayla dive into boundaries, emphasizing their importance in maintaining personal energy, trust, and healthy relationships. The hosts delve into the pitfalls of rigid or non-existent boundaries, offering strategies to navigate requests thoughtfully while prioritizing individual values and needs. By sharing real-life examples, they highlight how to say "yes," "no," or propose counter-offers based on personal capacity and relational dynamics.In the episode, we touch on topics such as:
Binary Boundaries: Resentment vs. Guilt
Values-Based Decisions Making
The Cost of Impulsive Responses
Counter Offers: Editing Requests
and more!
2025-02-0548 min
Relationship AdvicePursuersWe hate absolutes, but are pretty confident in saying that every relationship has a pursuer and a withdrawer. In this two part series we are breaking down each of these roles, how to help, how to love, how to communicate. And if there are two podcasts you listen to of ours let this be them!In this episode we discuss:
The protective moves that pursuers gravitate towards
How pursuers handle conflict
How we can love our pursuer partners more
How there is a different energy between pursuers and withdrawers
...2025-01-2958 minRelationship AdvicePursuersWe hate absolutes, but are pretty confident in saying that every relationship has a pursuer and a withdrawer. In this two part series we are breaking down each of these roles, how to help, how to love, how to communicate. And if there are two podcasts you listen to of ours let this be them!In this episode we discuss:
The protective moves that pursuers gravitate towards
How pursuers handle conflict
How we can love our pursuer partners more
How there is a different energy between pursuers and withdrawers
...2025-01-2958 min
Relationship AdviceWithdrawersWe hate absolutes, but are pretty confident in saying that every relationship has a pursuer and a withdrawer. In this two part series we are breaking down each of these roles, how to help, how to love, how to communicate. And if there are two podcasts you listen to of ours let this be them!In this episode, we discuss:
The protective moves that withdrawers gravitate towards
How withdrawers handle conflict
How we can love our withdrawer partners more
How there is a different energy between pursuers and withdrawers
...2025-01-2236 minRelationship AdviceWithdrawersWe hate absolutes, but are pretty confident in saying that every relationship has a pursuer and a withdrawer. In this two part series we are breaking down each of these roles, how to help, how to love, how to communicate. And if there are two podcasts you listen to of ours let this be them!In this episode, we discuss:
The protective moves that withdrawers gravitate towards
How withdrawers handle conflict
How we can love our withdrawer partners more
How there is a different energy between pursuers and withdrawers
...2025-01-2236 min
Relationship AdviceYou Can Either Be Right Or Be In Relationship.In this episode Colter, Cayla, and Lauren dive through what it means to be relational over being right. We've heard it said before that you can be right or you can be in a relationship. Which is so hard when you like being right as much as we all do! We also dig through how we get so focused on the content of the conversation but how the process is really what is important. In the episode, we touch on topics such as:
Focusing on how vs what
Understanding emotional needs
Effective Communication S...2025-01-1557 minRelationship AdviceYou Can Either Be Right Or Be In Relationship.In this episode Colter, Cayla, and Lauren dive through what it means to be relational over being right. We've heard it said before that you can be right or you can be in a relationship. Which is so hard when you like being right as much as we all do! We also dig through how we get so focused on the content of the conversation but how the process is really what is important. In the episode, we touch on topics such as:
Focusing on how vs what
Understanding emotional needs
Effective Communication S...2025-01-1557 min
Relationship AdviceIndividuation Is The Key to Your RelationshipIn today's episode Colter, Lauren and Cayla explore the relationship between emotional needs and actionable requests in the context of individuation. They discuss how recognizing individual differences and pairing emotional needs with specific requests can enhance communication and connection in relationships. The episode highlights practical strategies for navigating common relational challenges, emphasizing the importance of understanding and negotiating needs.In the episode, we touch on topics such as:
Understanding Individuation
Emotional Needs vs. Actionable Requests
Raw Spots and Their Influence
Negotiation and Boundaries
Effective Communication Strategies
and more!
Episode...2025-01-0846 minRelationship AdviceIndividuation Is The Key to Your RelationshipIn today's episode Colter, Lauren and Cayla explore the relationship between emotional needs and actionable requests in the context of individuation. They discuss how recognizing individual differences and pairing emotional needs with specific requests can enhance communication and connection in relationships. The episode highlights practical strategies for navigating common relational challenges, emphasizing the importance of understanding and negotiating needs.In the episode, we touch on topics such as:
Understanding Individuation
Emotional Needs vs. Actionable Requests
Raw Spots and Their Influence
Negotiation and Boundaries
Effective Communication Strategies
and more!
Episode...2025-01-0846 min
Relationship AdviceThe Window of Tolerance And Staying Emotionally RegulatedIn this episode of Relationship Advice, Colter Bloxom, Lauren Mokarry, and Cayla Bozovich explore the concept of the "Window of Tolerance," a framework developed by Dr. Dan Siegel. They discuss its importance in maintaining emotional regulation and improving relationships. The hosts delve into how understanding this concept can help navigate stress, build resilience, and foster healthier interpersonal dynamics.In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:
Window of Tolerance Overview
Emotional Regulation
Fight, Flight, Freeze Impulses
Triggers and Resources
Relational Applications
Practical Tools
SponsoredSpark...2025-01-0252 minRelationship AdviceThe Window of Tolerance And Staying Emotionally RegulatedIn this episode of Relationship Advice, Colter Bloxom, Lauren Mokarry, and Cayla Bozovich explore the concept of the "Window of Tolerance," a framework developed by Dr. Dan Siegel. They discuss its importance in maintaining emotional regulation and improving relationships. The hosts delve into how understanding this concept can help navigate stress, build resilience, and foster healthier interpersonal dynamics.In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:
Window of Tolerance Overview
Emotional Regulation
Fight, Flight, Freeze Impulses
Triggers and Resources
Relational Applications
Practical Tools
SponsoredSpark...2025-01-0252 min
Relationship AdviceWhat Can You Learn After 500 Episodes? Chase Celebration!On this episode, Colter, Cayla, and Lauren sit down with the long-running Relationship Advice podcast host Chase Kosterlitz as he reflects on ten years of hosting, sharing key lessons/insights about relationships and emphasizing the importance of friendships and somatic practices for personal growth and relational well-being.In this episode we discuss topics that include:
Chase's Reflections on Hosting
Attachment Styles
Effective Communication
Balance in Relationships
Friendships and Support Networks
Therapeutic and Somatic Practices
SponsoredSpark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com...2024-12-2654 minRelationship AdviceWhat Can You Learn After 500 Episodes? Chase Celebration!On this episode, Colter, Cayla, and Lauren sit down with the long-running Relationship Advice podcast host Chase Kosterlitz as he reflects on ten years of hosting, sharing key lessons/insights about relationships and emphasizing the importance of friendships and somatic practices for personal growth and relational well-being.In this episode we discuss topics that include:
Chase's Reflections on Hosting
Attachment Styles
Effective Communication
Balance in Relationships
Friendships and Support Networks
Therapeutic and Somatic Practices
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Relationship AdviceFoundations of a Healthy RelationshipThis episode introduces the foundations of a healthy relationship through four key pillars. Colter, Cayla, and Lauren use relatable examples, such as navigating differing preferences in dance lessons or understanding the dynamic between pursuers and withdrawers, to illustrate these concepts. They emphasize the importance of shared language, emotional safety, and empathy in building deeper connections. Rather than prescribing rigid rules, the episode advocates for learning and practicing relational skills through therapy and real-life experiences.In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:
Emotional Regulation / Window of Tolerance
Recognizing/Breaking Negative Cycles
...2024-12-1851 minRelationship AdviceFoundations of a Healthy RelationshipThis episode introduces the foundations of a healthy relationship through four key pillars. Colter, Cayla, and Lauren use relatable examples, such as navigating differing preferences in dance lessons or understanding the dynamic between pursuers and withdrawers, to illustrate these concepts. They emphasize the importance of shared language, emotional safety, and empathy in building deeper connections. Rather than prescribing rigid rules, the episode advocates for learning and practicing relational skills through therapy and real-life experiences.In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:
Emotional Regulation / Window of Tolerance
Recognizing/Breaking Negative Cycles
...2024-12-1851 min
Relationship AdviceProtective Moves With Our New Hosts!In this episode we sit down with licensed therapists and our incoming Relationship Advice hosts Colter, Cayla, and Lauren to talk about the "protective moves," or behaviors people exhibit during conflict to shield themselves emotionally or regain a sense of control in relationships. These 3 are experienced therapists specializing in attachment, trauma, and anxiety, explore how these moves—like defensiveness, criticism, passive aggressiveness, avoidance, or over explaining—are common yet often disconnecting strategies.Key Points Include:
Understanding Protective Moves
Examples and Intentions
Origins and Patterns
Moving Through Conflict
Building Resources
The...2024-12-1151 minRelationship AdviceProtective Moves With Our New Hosts!In this episode we sit down with licensed therapists and our incoming Relationship Advice hosts Colter, Cayla, and Lauren to talk about the "protective moves," or behaviors people exhibit during conflict to shield themselves emotionally or regain a sense of control in relationships. These 3 are experienced therapists specializing in attachment, trauma, and anxiety, explore how these moves—like defensiveness, criticism, passive aggressiveness, avoidance, or over explaining—are common yet often disconnecting strategies.Key Points Include:
Understanding Protective Moves
Examples and Intentions
Origins and Patterns
Moving Through Conflict
Building Resources
The...2024-12-1151 min
Relationship AdviceCreating A Values Driven RelationshipUnderstanding our values and communicating them with our partner is an important exercise to create a thriving relationship. Listen to today's episode to learn more about creating a values driven relationship. In this episode with Colter Bloxom we discuss relationship advice topics that include:
The important difference between values and goals
How to clarify your values and communicate them with your partner
What to do when your values don't align with your partner's
Understanding and clarifying your non-negotiable values
When what we think we want is not what is really best for us
The importance of di...2024-06-0642 minRelationship AdviceCreating A Values Driven RelationshipUnderstanding our values and communicating them with our partner is an important exercise to create a thriving relationship. Listen to today's episode to learn more about creating a values driven relationship. In this episode with Colter Bloxom we discuss relationship advice topics that include:
The important difference between values and goals
How to clarify your values and communicate them with your partner
What to do when your values don't align with your partner's
Understanding and clarifying your non-negotiable values
When what we think we want is not what is really best for us
The importance of di...2024-06-0642 min
Relationship AdviceUsing Attachment Theory to Understand Ourselves and Our PartnerBecome A Love Tribe Member Today — When you become a Love Tribe Member, you'll gain access to exclusive, ad-free content not available on our regular, free feed. The membership provides you even more amazing and actionable relationship advice from the world's leading experts. Sign Up Here! How we relate with our partner can be largely influenced by how we were attached to our parents as children. Listen to today's episode to better understand attachment theory, and how it can improve your relationship. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How attachment the...2020-08-1946 min
Relationship AdviceParent Like A Pro and Keep Your Relationship StrongBecome A Love Tribe Member Today — When you become a Love Tribe Member, you'll gain access to exclusive, ad-free content not available on our regular, free feed. The membership provides you even more amazing and actionable relationship advice from the world's leading experts. Sign Up Here! Parenting can create a lot of relationship stress even in the best of times. During a global pandemic, parenting can take on a whole other level of stress! Listen to today's episode to learn how to maintain your relationship, and parent like a pro during challenging times. In this ep...2020-08-1243 min
Relationship AdviceTools For Spiritual GrowthBecome A Love Tribe Member Today — When you become a Love Tribe Member, you'll gain access to exclusive, ad-free content not available on our regular, free feed. The membership provides you even more amazing and actionable relationship advice from the world's leading experts. Sign Up Here! Spirituality can be a valuable practice both individually, and in your relationship. Listen to today's show to understand how to cultivate a spiritual practice, and share it with your partner. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to use your relationship as a path to spiritual growth How to start a spi...2020-08-0546 min
Relationship AdviceTaking Responsibility For OurselvesBecome A Love Tribe Member Today — When you become a Love Tribe Member, you'll gain access to exclusive, ad-free content not available on our regular, free feed. The membership provides you even more amazing and actionable relationship advice from the world's leading experts. Sign Up Here! It's easy to blame our partner or other external factors when dealing with relationship issues. However, we can only control ourselves and often need to look inward to address relationship issues. Listen to today's show to learn great relationship tips and how to take responsibility for ourselves. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topic...2020-07-2934 min
Relationship AdviceNavigating Passive Aggressiveness In RelationshipsBecome A Love Tribe Member Today — When you become a Love Tribe Member, you'll gain access to exclusive, ad-free content not available on our regular, free feed. The membership provides you even more amazing and actionable relationship advice from the world's leading experts. Sign Up Here! Passive aggressiveness is a destructive behavior with negative relationship impacts. Those who use this behavior are often not even aware of it. Listen to today's show to learn how to deal with passive aggressive behavior in your relationship. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How...2020-07-2333 min
Relationship AdviceUnderstanding Our Emotions For Better RelationshipsBecome A Love Tribe Member Today — When you become a Love Tribe Member, you'll gain access to exclusive, ad-free content not available on our regular, free feed. The membership provides you even more amazing and actionable relationship advice from the world's leading experts. Sign Up Here! Understanding our emotions is a fundamental requirement for personal and relationship growth. Listen to today's episode to learn how to better understand your emotions, share with your partner and connect more deeply. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understanding how emotions work in the min...2020-07-1249 min
Relationship AdviceWhy Rocking The Relationship Boat Is GoodBecome A Love Tribe Member Today — When you become a Love Tribe Member, you'll gain access to exclusive, ad-free content not available on our regular, free feed. The membership provides you even more amazing and actionable relationship advice from the world's leading experts. Sign Up Here! Many people in relationships think they should 'not rock the boat' to keep things steady and to avoid conflict. However, this conservative approach to relationships can actually backfire. Listen to today's episode to understand why rocking the relationship boat can sometimes be good and necessary for a happy and healthy relationship....2020-06-3038 min
Relationship AdviceThe New MonogamyMost of us have an understanding of what traditional monogamy in relationships and marriage means. What if we worked toward a new monogamy where the rules were negotiated and not simply followed by outdated societal standards? Listen to today's show to learn what the new monogamy is all about. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: What are your assumptions about how a relationship will go? The specialness of a relationship and what it means Negotiating a new monogamy with your partner Collaboratively negotiating with your partner around the relationship and fidelity Understanding y...2020-06-2435 min
Relationship AdviceCommon Sexual Challenges And How To Overcome ThemHaving sex is not as straight forward as it may seem, especially in long term relationships. Our personal sexual history, combined with another individual's personal sexual history, can make things quite complicated! Listen to today's show to learn how to navigate the sexual challenges that can arise in a relationship. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to deal with desire discrepancy and communicate in the most productive ways possible Understanding the deeper reasons that you want sex in the first place Becoming embodied in order to have better, more enjoyable sex E...2020-06-2044 min
The Million Dollar Body Podcast | Burn Fat and Get Motivated with NatePlan Your Relapse with Colter BloxomLook, we’re not in control of what’s happening right now in the world around us… So, let’s talk about that stress.It’s unavoidable – you’re going to struggle with maintaining healthy habits when there’s a lot going on in your head. So, how do you prevent neglectful relapses? Plan for them!My guest today is Colter Bloxom – he’s runs Thrive Therapy Phoenix in Phoenix, Arizona (you can find him on Instagram @thrivetherapyphx). Colter helps people bring balance to their lives, so I brought him on the show to chat about healthy coping...2020-06-1933 min
Relationship AdviceMoney And RelationshipsFinances can be a huge area of stress in your relationship. Now more than ever, it's important to understand your individual relationship with money, and how it can impact your relationships. Listen to today's show to learn how to deal with money, so it doesn't negatively affect your relationship. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to understand your personal relationship with money and communicate this with your partner Tools to have productive conversation about finances with your partner How to deal with the uncertainty and stress of COVID-19 on your finances a...2020-06-1339 min
Relationship AdviceHow to Have Better Sex Now!Sex is an important part of any healthy relationship. Listen to this episode for some great new tips on how to improve your sex life, especially during these challenging times. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to improve your sex life if you're feeling anxious about the state of the world The importance of distinguishing between facts and the stories we tell ourselves about the facts Erotic triggers and how to use them to improve your sex life How to communicate properly around issues of sexuality in your relationship Using your i...2020-06-0439 min
Relationship AdviceEverything You Need To Know About Couples TherapyIn this episode, we talk about the different skills you need to know to improve your relationship. And one of the best ways, no matter what state it's in, is through couples therapy. Listen to today's show to learn what goes on during couples therapy and why you should start going! In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn the importance of going to therapy before things are 'bad' How to work up the courage to start going to therapy or tell your partner that you want to start going What to do i...2020-05-2955 min
Relationship Advice251: Strengthening Intimacy And Connection In Your RelationshipWe all want to feel more connection and intimacy in our relationships. However, it's not always easy to understand how to make this happen. Listen to today's show for actionable tips to increase the connection and intimacy with your partner. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: What should intimacy look like in a relationship? What to do if your partner has difficulty opening up to you to create more intimacy Why we have different ideas of what intimacy is to us personally and the importance of understanding this Actionable tools to create m...2020-05-2144 min
Relationship AdviceDealing With UncertaintyLife is uncertain. Now, more than ever, we're collectively feeling the uncertainty brought on by the COVID-19 pandemic. Listen to today's how to get great tips for dealing with uncertainty both individually and in your relationship. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The importance of understanding that things are always uncertain How to cultivate an acceptance of the uncertainty Understanding how we process stress and uncertainty, and why you should share this with your partner Why behind every criticism of your partner there is an unmet personal need And much more! D...2020-05-1540 min
Relationship AdviceAll About Sex TherapyMost of us have a rough idea what traditional couples therapy looks like. However, sex therapy for couples seems to be less well known. Listen to today's show to learn more about sex therapy and how it can help your relationship. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understand the key differences between sex therapy and regular couples therapy The most common reasons couples go to sex therapy Why all sex is group sex Redefining sex in your relationship Expanding your sexual menu Men and women's different approaches to sex in the relationship A...2020-05-0748 min
Relationship AdviceCo-Parenting and SexualityThe new normal family dynamic is evolving and co-parenting plays a big role in many of these new situations. In today's episode, Dr. Lis tells us how to co-parent better and how to reduce the shame around sexuality for ourselves in our kids. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to co-parent more effectively Dating new people when you have kids How to talk about sexuality with your kids starting at a young age Cognitive re-framing exercises when thinking about your own sexual story And much more! Dr. Lea Lis, M.D...2020-04-3051 min
Relationship AdviceThe Seasons Of Your RelationshipOur relationships go through natural rhythms and cycles just as the rest of nature does. If you can understand that your relationship will go through different seasons, you can better navigate the changes. Listen to this episode to learn about the different seasons of your relationship and life. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Becoming aware of the patterns in nature and working with them in your relationship Understanding that whatever is happening in your life will change How we can personally change with the seasons of the year and throughout our l...2020-04-2350 min
Relationship AdviceHow To Create Meaning, Purpose And Happiness In Your RelationshipAccess our new Love Under Quarantine series here: Love Under Quarantine This show's title sounds like a big project, huh? Well, we believe it's definitely one worth pursuing! Listen to today's show to get the tools and information to start creating more meaning, purpose and happiness in your relationship today! In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to create meaning and reach goals in your relationship Importance of not looking to your partner to make you happy Building something bigger in your relationship The two phases of our realities and...2020-04-1747 min
Relationship AdviceManaging Stress & Anxiety During COVID-19Access our new Love Under Quarantine series here: Love Under Quarantine You're not alone if the current crisis is causing you to feel stressed and anxious. Anxiety can manifest itself in many ways that prove detrimental to our own personal health, as well as our relationships. The sense of uncertainty, worrying about the future and the general demands of life are all forms of anxiety. Don’t let anxiety bog you down and negatively affect the relationship with yourself and your partner. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How anxiety ca...2020-04-0947 min
Relationship AdviceLove Is Not EnoughMark Manson is a NYT bestselling author who has written books about hope, living a good life and now an audible original about love and relationships. Listen to today's show to hear Mark's perspective on relationships through his own personal experiences and through putting together an audiobook about them. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The importance of recognizing the false 'Disney narrative' about love and relationships Learning to be skeptical of yourself as a tool for living a good life How to decide who you should date Why Mark believes love i...2020-04-0135 min
Relationship AdviceUnderstanding Personalities for Better RelationshipsOur personality is created by a multitude of complex factors to create a way in which we view the world and relate with others. One theory on the dimensions of our personality comes from the 19th-century spiritual philosopher George Gurdjieff. Today's guest, John Cottone, Ph.D., walks us through Gurdjieff's personality theory and shows us how we can apply it to ourselves and our relationships. Gurdjieff believed that personality types can be divided into physical, emotional and intellectual categories and that each person would be well-served by following the spiritual path that resonates with her respective personality orientation. We...2020-03-2546 min
Relationship AdviceThe Coronavirus And Your RelationshipThe Coronavirus pandemic is on everyone's minds, and is likely adding stress to your life and relationships. Listen to today's show with Dr. Melanie Joy as we discuss how to navigate your personal and relational life specifically during these difficult times. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to help yourself and your partner feel secure during times of insecurity What to do if your partner does not care about the health situation as much as you do Why it's important to understand innate personal views on hygiene How to communicate in t...2020-03-1844 min
Relationship AdviceFinancial Planning and Your RelationshipPersonal finances and insurance are not the most sexy topics when it comes to working on your relationship. However, these things can pull two people apart and even end relationships all together. Listen to today's show to learn how to get your financial and relational life in order with your partner. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn a recommended route to a more financially responsible partnership Where to start when talking about insurance and financial responsibilities with your partner How does a financial planner budget for his wedding? Contributing to investments f...2020-03-1138 min
Relationship AdviceCoercive Control In RelationshipsCoercive control is a seriously negative strategy introduced in some relationships. Listen to today's show to understand if you are in a coercive control relationship, and how to navigate this territory. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Coercive control as a strategy for your partner to dominate others through manipulation, isolation and other toxic behaviors How to stand up to a coercive controlling partner How to determine if your partner exhibits coercive controlling behavior Changing the negative patterns and seeking professional help And much more! Lisa Aronson Fontes, PhD is the a...2020-03-0536 min
Relationship AdviceIs Love Best When It's Fresh?Our romantic lives with our partners will inevitably change over time. How can we navigate these changes in long term relationships? Listen to today's show to learn some tools and insights into this thing we call LOVE. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Experiences of early intense love contrasted with longer term profound love How can we make love and sexual desire last long term? The importance of focusing on the profound aspects of your partner Options for relationship styles depending on age and life circumstances Answers to the BIG question: Is l...2020-02-2849 min
Relationship AdviceWhen Sorry Isn't EnoughMuch of a successful relationship involves properly apologizing to your partner and repairing the relationship. Relationships are not necessarily about preventing disagreements and arguments, but apologizing and moving forward positively. Listen to today's show to learn how to apologize the right way! In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Why simply saying you're sorry is usually not enough The five apology languages that you and your partner will likely fall into Blame and its role in apologizing How to communicate if you are desiring an apology from someone not giving it How to m...2020-02-1939 min
Relationship AdvicePitfalls of Using Others to Manage Your AnxietyRelationship partners and friends can offer valuable support for managing stress and anxiety in our lives. However, sometimes relying on others to manage our emotions can create negative effects in our lives and relationships. Listen to today's show to learn how to balance this sometimes complicated dynamic. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understanding if you are automatically pulling in a third person to help manage your relationship anxiety The negative effects of relying too much on others How to sit with your own anxiety before projecting it onto others Writing things down to help process you...2020-02-1438 min
Relationship AdviceBonus: Wondery Presents Dying For Sex When host Nikki Boyer’s best friend Molly is diagnosed with Stage IV breast cancer, she decides to do something bold. She leaves an unhappy marriage and embarks on a series of sexual adventures to feel alive. Over this six-part miniseries, Molly shares the details of her hilarious escapades in a story about friendship, death, and what you do with the time you have left. From Wondery, the creators of Dirty John and The Moment comes Dying For Sex. Listen now at https://wondery.fm/DFS20. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/ad...2020-02-1208 min
Relationship AdviceThe Amazing Expanded OrgasmWhat if we told you that a woman is capable of having an hour-long orgasm? Sounds too good to be true right!? Well, there are techniques that can make this happen. Listen to today's show to learn about the expanded orgasm practice and its benefits for both men and women. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The practice of expanded orgasm and how to begin your journey to become an erotic master Spirituality and expanded orgasm as meditation Meaning making through sexual experience with your partner The value of no male expectation f...2020-02-0644 min
Relationship AdviceHow To Create The Relationship You WantWant to feel empowered? How about realizing that YOU have the power to create the relationship of your dreams and find your own happiness. Many of us look to our partners to make us happy in our relationships. Listen to today's show to understand why that's the wrong approach and how to switch that mindset. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Getting rid of the expectation that our partner will make us happy Self reflection practices to understand your contribution to creating conflict Realizing that relationship issues don't always get solved Using c...2020-01-2954 min
Relationship AdviceBrain First Approach To RelationshipsThe brain — Sometimes we take it for granted, and don't realize its importance as an organ in shaping our relationships. The better we understand and take care of our brain, the better chance we'll have for relationship success. Listen to today's show to learn how to optimize your brain for a better relationship. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understanding our brains drive our behavior How to optimize brain health through nutrition, movement, sleep and breath The importance of play as an adult in relationship How to avoid 'fight or flight communication' And...2020-01-2345 min
Relationship AdviceSetting Emotional Boundaries In Your RelationshipDo you feel like you're constantly on the receiving end of your partner's emotions? In relationships we want to be emotionally available for our partners and maintain healthy communication. However, sometimes emotional boundaries need to be set to help protect your personal mental health and to benefit your relationship. Listen to today's episode to learn how to set healthy emotional boundaries. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn why 'keeping the peace' by not standing up for yourself can lead to unhealthy relationship dynamics Pausing to understand what it is that you r...2020-01-1743 min
Relationship AdviceNon-Monogamy And Open Relationships Deep DiveThe best estimates are that 1 in 5 people have participated in some kind of non-monogamous relationship. These kinds of relationship structures are gaining wider awareness and acceptance in today's society. Learning about non-monogamy can be valuable whether it's appealing to you or not. Listen to today's show to learn all about non-monogamy and open relationships! In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understanding the different forms of non-monogamy Polyamory vs swinging vs open relationships Why debating whether non-monogamy or monogamy is most 'natural' is unproductive How to talk to your partner about non-monogamy Questions t...2020-01-101h 00
Relationship AdviceUnderstanding The Menstrual Cycle Will Improve Your Relationship!Attention men and women! Do you know the menstrual cycle and how hormones ebb and flow throughout this 4 week time period? Maybe your answer is yes. But, if you're like us, the answer is no. Even if you do know the details of hormone changes and how that affects a woman's body and brain, do you know your own or your partners exact day on the cycle right now? Knowing all of this information can be incredibly helpful for relationships! Listen to today's episode to learn why and how to keep track of the cycle. The importance of...2020-01-0146 min
Relationship AdviceAvoiding Fatigue In A Long Term RelationshipLet's face it, being in a relationship is HARD WORK! Long term relationships are even harder. It's not a walk in the park to live with the same person for years and communicate, love, fornicate and just live a life. The more tools you have to continually do the work on your journey, the more successful and happy you'll be in your long term relationship. Listen to today's episode to learn how to avoid long term relationship fatigue. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The importance of keeping your expectations in check W...2019-12-2549 min
Relationship AdviceConceiving With Love And Chinese MedicineTrying to conceive with your partner is a big deal. The process of baby making can be fun, but it can also be very stressful on the relationship. Listen to today's episode to learn the best ways to approach the process through both western and Chinese medicine perspectives. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to avoid conceiving as a job and take the pressure off both partners Taking care of your body in preparation for conceiving How to have deep and honest communication about the process Using Chinese medicine for conceiving a...2019-12-1941 min
Relationship AdvicePsychedelics, Dance and Breathing: How Ecstatic Practices Can Improve Your RelationshipWhen was the last time you experienced ecstasy? This feeling is fundamental to being human, and yet we don't get it nearly enough — if at all in our lives. You don't have to use psychedelic medicine, although they can be a viable choice, to have an ecstatic experience. Listen to today's show to learn other ways to produce ecstatic experiences, and how they can produce profound impacts on your relationship. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Exploring the mind-body connection through ecstatic dance practices Psychedelic research and it's application to improving relationships Hol...2019-12-1255 min
Relationship AdviceGetting Off Without Checking OutMindfulness is having a much deserved moment in the world of podcasting and popular culture. Learning how to bring mindfulness into the bedroom is a skill that can improve your relationship and sex life — something most of us can benefit from. Learn how to get off without checking out in today's episode. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn how to get out of a state of fear and judgement around sex in your relationship How to bring attention to what feels good during sex and communicating this with your partner Becoming mor...2019-12-0254 min
Relationship AdviceTapping Into Your IntuitionHave you ever had a 'gut feeling' about something? This feeling can also be know as our intuition or inner self. Listening to our intuition can help us make better decisions and improve our relationships. Listen to today's show to learn how to tap into your intuition. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How the noise of modern life blocks out our intuition Learning from our mistakes and listening to our intuition How to get out of our minds and thinking about the past Listening to your intuition to improve your relationship T...2019-11-2748 min