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Journey to GratefulEP185: The Space Between: Learning to Live in the In-Between of Then and NowAfter loss, we find ourselves caught between two worlds — the life we once knew and the one we never asked to live. In this episode, Tim explores that difficult in-between space where identity, purpose, and belonging feel uncertain. Through his own story of rebuilding life after the death of his wife, Colleen — from purchasing a townhome in their family’s “happy place” near Disney to rediscovering his passion for photography and stepping into a new chapter of purpose — Tim reflects on what it means to live not just beyond grief, but within it.This conversation is about learning to...
2025-12-2312 minJourney to GratefulEP169 - When Grief Comes Again: Love, Family, and Unexpected LossGrief doesn’t always come just once—it circles back when we least expect it. In this deeply personal episode, Tim shares the recent and sudden loss of a dear friend and how that grief ripples through his life, touching memories, love, and family all over again. From navigating the emotions of supporting a grieving family to confronting the echoes of his own loss, this conversation is a reminder that grief doesn’t follow a timeline—and neither does healing. Whether you’re walking through a fresh loss or supporting someone who is, this episode speaks to the heart of what it...
2025-09-0211 minJourney to GratefulEP167 - Grief Without a Timeline: Letting Go of “Should Be Over It by Now”There’s no schedule for grief—yet so many of us feel the pressure to “move on” as weeks, months, or even years pass. In this heartfelt episode, Tim opens up about a recent, unexpected wave of emotion that reminded him just how present grief can still be, even five years later. Through a personal story of love, remembrance, and shared community, he explores why grief doesn’t expire, how it evolves over time, and why releasing the timeline can open the door to deeper, more honest healing.
2025-08-1921 minJourney to GratefulEP166 - The Body Remembers: How Grief Shows Up PhysicallyGrief doesn’t just break your heart — it takes a toll on your entire body. In this episode of Journey to Grateful, host Tim Bigonia explores the physical symptoms of grief that often go unspoken: the fatigue, the brain fog, the muscle aches, the anxiety, and the general feeling that something just isn’t right.If you’ve recently experienced a loss, you may be wondering why your body feels so off. You’re not alone. Grief activates our stress responses, affects our sleep, and shows up in ways we never expected — and understanding these changes is an important...
2025-08-1215 minJourney to GratefulEP163 - Helping Your Teen Navigate Grief After the Loss of a ParentWhen a parent dies, teens face a unique, often silent struggle — and the surviving parent is left to guide them while carrying their own grief. In this heartfelt episode, Tim explores how parents can support their teen’s grief journey with compassion and patience, while helping them move forward in a healthy, authentic way. Learn how to hold space for your teen’s emotions, encourage an ongoing connection with their lost parent, and remind them that simply being themselves is enough. If you’re navigating life after loss with your child, this conversation offers gentle guidance and hope.
2025-07-2215 min
The Authentic CommunicatorEpisode 9: Featuring Tim Bigonia of Journey to GratefulIn Episode 9 I'm joined by Tim Bigonia, an Art Director/Graphic Designer with more than 30 years of experience, a photographer, and the host of Journey to Grateful. The Journey to Grateful podcast began after Tim lost his beloved wife, Colleen, on July 3, 2020 after a long battle with breast cancer. Colleen's was diagnosed with breast cancer in February of 2017, treatment was aggressive, including radiation, chemo, and operation. In 2018 she was progressing nicely after treatment was adjusted to a maintenance level. However, December 30, 2018, a necessary trip to the ER revealed her cancer had metastasized into brain tumors. In May of 2020, additional...
2024-10-1754 minJourney to GratefulThree Years After LossNo matter how many years you are from your initial loss, your grief will be part of your everyday life. Each day that passes will allow you to find different ways to take another step forward, providing you strength when you need it and confidence when you feel you have none. If you are the support system for a friend walking with grief, you may need to better understand what grief looks like years after loss to more efficiently help your friend navigate grief. Join me as I discuss my grief experience three years after loss and provide insights...
2023-08-1827 minJourney to GratefulDoes Grief Change You or Does It Reveal You?The true definition of the words we use sometimes escapes us when we use them, or we just don't consider their meaning in detail. We often find the words we choose not to be the perfect fit for the moment, but we use them anyway with little thought as to the appropriateness of our choice of words. In this episode, I will look closer at the words “change” and “reveal” as they are associated with the word grief. The base question regarding these words is deceptively simple; “Does grief change you or does grief reveal you?” Better yet, have you ever cons...
2023-07-2720 minJourney to GratefulWhat to do When You're a Complete Mess?All around you, it may seem as though everyone else is doing just fine. Meanwhile, you are a complete mess dealing with your grief, trying to take just one more step each day with no sign that your sorrow will ever subside. Friends may wish for strength in this time of need while others may secretly wonder when you will "get over it." Outside your window the world seems to be going on as usual, no one seems to feel the way you do, and you have no idea how to stop feeling like a complete mess. In this...
2023-07-1321 minJourney to GratefulLeave Nothing for LaterThis episode will speak to you whether you have lost someone close or distant or only know someone who has. Perhaps you have been fortunate enough not to experience loss in your life. The message of this show is pertinent no matter what your experience with grief may be, and it will fit whatever season of life you currently find yourself within. For my friends who are on their path with grief, I ask that you listen intently with your heart and open your mind to the truths you may already know. I realize how the dark clouds can som...
2023-07-0814 minJourney to GratefulAs the World Walks On ByThere are so many pieces of this grief puzzle, aren't there? Whether you have been directly affected by a loss or have yet to be, even just knowing someone and seeing them work through their grief, you get an idea of the many puzzle pieces in their life. Recently I've been feeling as though I might be watching the world walk by in this new life I find myself defining. It should not be a surprise that I question, "Am I living enough yet?" How about you? Can you relate to this thought?
2023-06-2117 minJourney to GratefulRemember When…Over the past two years of producing this podcast and living through grief for three years, I've discovered one thing is always true. It’s difficult for some people to understand grief. Specifically, it’s hard for some to understand what people are actually “going through” daily with their grief. In addition, many don’t quite get why grief can never be considered to have an end. To help shed a brighter light on these common and difficult-to-understand truths about grief, I’d like to approach it differently with a poignant question that will hopefully lead to a better understandin...
2023-06-1414 minJourney to GratefulFailing at Grief I want to discuss failure. Ask yourself this; "Are you failing at grief?" Or, more accurately, do you "feel" you are failing at grief? I'd suggest you most likely do, but is it an absolute failure, or simply just something you perceive? In this episode I discuss why that's ok and, more importantly, normal. The significant steps you can take to allow your failure to become a positive thing will provide you with a better understanding of how your feelings of failing at grief can help you grow through your grief.
2023-06-0716 minJourney to GratefulWhat I’m Actually GrievingIn this episode, I’ve chosen to share with you a list I believe is quite important in helping us understand grief on a deeper level. Often I see or hear stories of someone who has experienced a friend or family member in their life not quite understanding how grief affects them even years after their loss. Perpetuating the misunderstanding of grief, its depth, and why there is no end to grief. This discussion will shed light on grief and allow you to understand better the “forever of grief” and why that is a fact.
2023-06-0224 minJourney to GratefulHow to Grieve Quietly Among 10,000 PeopleToday’s episode takes on a voice and an experience unlike any episode before. I’ve decided to take you along on a very personal experience and relay to you my thoughts as I searched for memories I discovered I longed for. I hope to enlighten you on how we might best approach grieving positively and with uplifting results. To ultimately help us truly navigate our loss and set us on a path forward.
2023-05-2316 minJourney to GratefulEP84 - Busy is a Friend of GriefThrough tragedy and difficult times in your life, how often have you heard the suggestion to keep busy? As we navigate our grief journey, I'm sure there have been several times you've heard yourself answering a friend's inquiry about how you are doing with, "I'm keeping busy." Here's the question I'd like you to consider today. Have you thought about your answer about "keeping busy"? Are you "keeping busy?" And does it help? Lets discuss this a little more.
2023-05-1711 minJourney to GratefulAre You in a Healthy Conversation with Grief?We all understand that losing someone special brings plenty of grief. How we navigate our grief is the key to a successful journey through grief. Our goal through grief should be to survive our loss for our loved ones and ourselves and find a way to move forward. To do so, we need to understand grief better and discover the tools available to do so. Today, we will explore how a healthy conversation with grief can help us accomplish this more confidently and with a positive understanding of the process.
2023-05-0921 minJourney to GratefulMaking Room for HopeIn today’s episode I’d like to examine what it means to “Make Room for Hope” in your life after loss and during your grief journey. It’s an important aspect of grief which one day will we will all come to face. In my opinion, to live without hope is not to live at all. The ultimate question is how can you best begin to consider making room for hope without ignoring your current feelings of loss and your need to grieve?
2023-05-0315 minJourney to GratefulFive Considerations to Help You Move Forward from LossI've recently realized, with the help and insight of a new friend, that often, in grief, we focus on the loss and how we came to deal with it and not as much on the tangible suggestions and successes we may have experienced as we attempt to take a step forward from our loss. The common question put forth by someone who's experienced loss is simple; "How do you move forward?" This question never seems to be quickly answered for a good reason… it's nearly an impossible question to answer. However, I believe suggestions can be shared to help gu...
2023-04-2616 minJourney to GratefulEP 80 - Grief Doesn't Fight FairInspiration comes from many places that I've discovered if I'm not listening, I may miss it. Thankfully, last week, I was listening. In this episode, I will share with you a few truthful messages shared with me by some incredible, insightful people. Their words are reminders for us to stop, listen, consider, and reexamine the depth of grief our family or friends may be experiencing daily. Join me in understanding the depth of grief and what we can do to help others walk through it.
2023-04-1817 minJourney to GratefulThe Endlessness of Grief and Moving ForwardAs we know, there is no end to grief. But why? What is it about grief that seems to allow it to live on years past the initial loss? Is it the shock and despair of it all? Or is it the hopeless feeling of the loss itself? Come along with me as I discuss a new perspective on grief and the never-ending hold it can have on those left behind. We will also examine important reasons we should consider trying to move forward in our grief while honoring our loved one lost.
2023-04-1118 minJourney to GratefulReflections of Life and LoveReflecting on life generally is recognizing where we came from, a point in our past. To grow from our experiences, and to strive for better as we move forward, is a noble but essential goal. Through the love instilled within us as we develop and grow, we hope always to find gratefulness not far from our hearts, no matter what we are going through. As we walk our path with grief and discover what tomorrow has to offer, we may find it challenging to carry on. The best way to approach this is not to forget each day ahead...
2023-04-0414 minJourney to GratefulHow Do You See Grief?I've been thinking about how grief shows up in my life and others I know who are dealing with grief. I've been more aware of how I allow my grief to be present in my daily life and with others. It seems to be a question focused on how we, as a society, genuinely see grief in others and what we do with what we see. Do we reach out with a helping hand or an ear to bend, or do we wonder why they haven't "gotten over it" yet? Let's examine together how we see grief and how...
2023-03-2415 minJourney to GratefulFive Ways to Avoid Being Defined by Your GriefBeing defined by our grief is a risk we face when we allow ourselves to feel deeply and love unconditionally. However, allowing our grief to overwhelm us, externally as well as internally, is not healthy. While we walk through our grief journey, it becomes important to understand how to avoid allowing our grief to define us. We have a choice to let either our grief encompass us, or we can choose to walk with grief more positively. The decision is ours. Here are five helpful ways to avoid being defined by our grief as we move forward.
2023-03-1620 minJourney to GratefulSimplify and Shift PerspectiveIn today's episode, I will begin by reflecting on how I approach a new calendar year. Instead of resolutions typically engaged in the new year, I choose a word for the year designed to help me focus on the year ahead and provide a clear path of intention. With Spring right around the corner and our lives firmly in the third month of the year, reflecting on how we've approached the new year so far - especially as we deal with grief - is a good way to allow ourselves to readjust if we find the need.
2023-03-0724 minJourney to GratefulLeaning Into Spring and All That is NewIn today's episode, I'd like to invite you to discuss the "New" ahead on our various Journeys with Grief. Through my Journey, I have experienced so much over the past 2 and a half years that I wish you all to learn the things I have learned. To understand the intricacies of grief - the differences between mine and yours and anyone else's and what we can walk away with by knowing those experiences. Understanding the emotions on the horizon or the surprises around the corner. Come with me as I explain why I believe we should lean into Spring...
2023-02-1516 minJourney to GratefulFinding Help Where You AreIf you're lucky, you are surrounded by people who love and support you through your grief. That goes a long way in helping you to recover from your loss, but it's often not enough. You need to find a different kind of help that understands where you are and what you are going through. You need a resource that "gets you." But where can you find help that can meet you where you are? Listen now to discover the answer to this question and to hear about hope on the horizon.
2023-02-0715 minJourney to GratefulA Picture is Worth a Thousand TearsIn this episode, I'll explore memories, tears, raw feelings, and the importance of all three. We'll discuss the benefits of tears, more ways to approach your feelings, and how we can better face our choices for a better tomorrow. In your grief, the place you hold for your memories can either bring a thousand tears or present unlimited smiles. How you show up through your memories will be the deciding factor in how you view those memories.
2023-01-2414 minJourney to GratefulNavigating Your JourneyFor this episode, I thought I'd discuss my thoughts regarding the "Grateful" aspect of our shared grief journey. I'll define what I believe it means and share with you how that definition affects and informs me. I will recite a few inspiring words that have been placed in my life recently, hoping they help us all finally begin our journey toward gratitude with purpose. I suppose the beginning of this brand new year has prompted me to question if I am navigating this journey or if this journey is navigating me.
2023-01-1718 minJourney to GratefulSelf-Care: A New Year, A New YouToday we discuss Self-Care, what it is, what it promises, and how we can begin to use it to grow in the New Year. Let's explore together what this term means and the steps we can take today to improve our self-care, and what benefits it can provide us going forward.
2022-12-2916 minJourney to GratefulChristmas, Grief, and Something GoodIn this episode, I thought I'd speak of the holidays - the expectations we all feel and the truth we all must face. Not only as we approach Christmas or New Year's Eve but right after… those suddenly empty days that can effect our grieving thoughts and emotions just as much as preparing for the constant joy expected for holiday gatherings themselves. So sit back, and grab a moment alone with me as I discuss thoughts, feelings, and beliefs I have brought with me this Christmas season.
2022-12-2515 minJourney to GratefulAssumptions of Grief and MenToday's episode title may say a lot or be a bit intriguing at best, but its underlying message here is simple. Men need to toss aside the perceived norms of how they think the world expects them to act in a crisis of grief and sorrow and understand this experience will break them down to their lowest point. If there's a time in your life, guys, to begin focusing on what you need to survive your loss and not what you believe society expects you to need, or how to act, or in what way to navigate this all… no...
2022-12-1314 minJourney to GratefulProgress, Faith, and the UniverseIn this episode, I briefly discuss the differences between "moving forward" and "moving on." The overarching idea is to progress on this journey in whatever way that is supposed to look. I then take a slightly different turn with this episode as I take you along with me as I experience something in-the-moment. Sharing an event in my day which came accidentally and as a surprise has helped to reveal a more profound understanding of how we may all better take on our grief journey with a refreshing point of view. Looking forward while having faith that the universe...
2022-12-0622 minJourney to GratefulThe Other Side of YesIn this episode, I explore a deceivingly simple idea, which is quite simply to stop saying no and begin saying yes. The thought process here is first to be willing to discover what yes can provide for you, what opportunities you may find on the other side of simply saying yes. Still confused, then dive into the episode and discover the possibilities.
2022-11-2411 minJourney to GratefulApproaching the HolidaysThe holidays… a daunting time of year when you are on your path of grief. In this episode, I provide you with my honest take on how best to approach this specific time of year and the steps you can take to make it through with a bit more confidence. I discuss how feeling twist and turn during the holidays and how you may struggle with the combination of joy and sorrow you will most likely experience. This episode is specifically beneficial for anyone new to grief, providing for you guideposts through the holiday season. For anyone experiencing the ho...
2022-11-1716 minJourney to GratefulLiving Forward Through Your GriefToday's episode will focus on the idea of adjusting your mindset, preparing yourself to take those first steps forward, and allowing yourself to live forward. I'm not suggesting we move on. However, I suggest we consider how to create and live life in a forward motion. As we continue to mourn our loved ones, we need to begin to allow life back in, to feel ok about focusing on ourselves, and to know that none of this means we will leave anything behind. Please pick it up, and take it with you, but understand we need to start to...
2022-11-0430 minJourney to GratefulDear Lost, Grieving FriendThis episode is a letter, of sorts, to anyone new to the loss of a close loved one. In addition, it will benefit anyone on their grief path needing a reminder of how grief will continue to affect their life going forward. It’s also a welcome letter offering comfort and guidance for anyone who may feel lost in this new normal while attempting to walk through life with a semblance of balance and purpose. Listen in as I discuss many truths of grief while guiding those who strive to find a way to rebuild their life.
2022-10-1815 minJourney to GratefulThe Days are Long and the Years are ShortThere are times when the motivation for this podcast is quite simple. An event that leaves an impression on a grieving soul. A milestone needing a bit more explanation than a quick overview. Or the changing of the season. October brings with the turn of the calendar a shift in scents, air that is crisp, and colorful changes in our daily landscape. An adjustment of life. With that adjustment, some feel the shift in their life once again as not a milestone or a grand moment but instead a shift of life with grief. Together we discuss and discover...
2022-10-1016 min
The Teacher's Pep RallyS5 E70: Journey to Grateful with Tim BigoniaOur guest, Tim Bigonia, wears many hats. He is a Creative Director and has taught graphic design/computer graphics for over 22 years at the Milwaukee Institute of Art and Design. Tim shares his family's personal story about losing his sweet and brave wife to cancer. Through his grief, he has created a safe platform and insightful content to support others who are grieving. We have an honest conversation about just being human and ways we can support each other, our students, and colleagues when someone is grieving. Let's talk about life and learning! Please leave a review an...
2022-10-0855 min
Message In The MiddleGrief Is Love With No Place To Go - A Conversation On Living Life After Loss with Tim BigoniaLet's dig into Life after Loss with Tim Bigonia, host of the Journey to Grateful, Navigating Through the Loss of Life and Love podcast that was created after Tim suffered his own personal loss and realized he had "messages" to share with others going through their own loss or dealing with grief.On this episode we will talk about several grief/loss related topics:Grieving isn't something that only comes with a death, it can be a job, relationship...This one is hugeGrieving is not linear, it's a tangled ball of stringThoughts on visiting one of...
2022-10-0147 minJourney to GratefulFacing Change and All That it BringsChange is constant in life, but more so with grief. Around every corner after the passing of your loved one, change rears its ugly head to challenge you one more time. Life changes can also cause grief and issues that are often associated with grief. Discussing change now and concepts to face it in the best possible way can help anyone through future change, no matter how it comes about. Join in me as I share with you a website resource that inspired this episode. Be prepared to view change from a slightly different lens as we better understand...
2022-09-2028 minJourney to GratefulExplaining Grief While Living ItIn today's episode, I find myself needing to discuss the impossibility of explaining grief accurately. From a widower's point of view, I find there's so much about the process of grief that is quite difficult to put into words. Some may ask why I need to create a podcast episode to discuss this. Honestly, there's an unspoken detail associated with grief, one that creates this unrelenting desire to make at least someone understand what you feel as you journey through grief. It's hard to carry it all alone, and I want others to understand they, indeed, are not alone...
2022-09-1416 minJourney to GratefulLife is Like a PencilInspiration is a tool I use often on my journey with grief to help me through difficult days. In this episode, we will explore the importance of inspiration in grief and the idea of moving forward one step at a time. I will also share with you the one way you can be the inspiration for the person you are trying to support through their grief. Learn how to allow yourself grace while providing others with it as well.
2022-09-0723 minJourney to GratefulThe Weirdness of GriefIn this episode, I discuss specifics about grief of which you may not be aware. Unless you are months or years into your grief, you most likely have not been confronted with the weirdness of grief, the simple, insignificant details of grief that make you do - or not do - certain things in your new life with grief. This episode is perfect for anyone trying to support someone on their grief journey who wants to understand what that person is dealing with daily. It is also appropriate for anyone new to significant personal loss, looking for guidelines to...
2022-08-3028 minJourney to GratefulThe Good Ol' DaysIn today's episode, I face a memory from 2015, which was presented its;f just this past weekend. I discovered there was much inside this memory that I hadn't considered in quite a while. Within the memory, I found inspiration and a lesson that I'd like to highlight and provide you a bit of guidance as you walk your path of grief.
2022-08-2314 minJourney to GratefulDare to GrieveDare to Grieve. If the title of this episode is the only thing you walk away with, I will be confident that I have made a difference. In this episode, I explain the meaning behind "Dare to Grieve" and examine details you may need to avoid or face when on your path with grief. I also suggest ways you can grieve your way while still allowing for support and help on your journey. Come with me as you and I, together, discover why it's important for us to "Dare to Grieve".
2022-08-1829 minJourney to GratefulGuys and GriefLet's talk about guys, grief, and stereotypical myths. Today I lay down some honesty and share with you my take on grief as it relates to men and how men can best approach it. I offer suggestions for guys dealing with the various aspects of grief, from sudden breakdowns to asking for help. Come along with me as I help guide those new to loss through with bold considerations and ways to take steps forward with life.
2022-08-0922 minJourney to GratefulShowing Up for Others in GriefIn this episode, I examine how to support someone grieving or dealing with a great illness. This episode is for everyone who is trying their best to support a friend or family member through grief but feels the need to do it better. Offering support to others is the most selfless thing you can do for someone… often by simply being there for them. You may wonder what support is "supposed to look like" and if you are doing it "right." You may also be wondering how best to support someone after a loss. We will dive in and di...
2022-08-0221 minJourney to GratefulWalking Through GriefFor episode #53 I’m taking you on a walk for a more authentic discussion of the grief process from my point of view. Today's content will be pulled from questions I’ve received in face-to-face discussions or via email and voicemail through the website. A casual walk allows me to discuss common questions or issues as if you were walking right beside me. I invite you to come along with me as I walk and talk about the grief process, what to expect, and a few unknown details that could help you with your journey through grief.
2022-07-2737 minJourney to GratefulHonesty, the Blank Page, and Being UncomfortableJoin me for an unconventional episode as I discuss facing honesty, the blank page, and being uncomfortable. Pulling back the curtain and revealing how grief can be similar to common everyday issues you may never consider in life. Perhaps something didn't go as planned, you are now faced with deciding how to handle it going forward. Do you push it aside and move on, never confronting it any further, or do you face it head-on and deal with the messy, uncomfortable feelings before you? How is everyday life for others similar to grief and the decisions you face daily...
2022-07-2020 minJourney to GratefulInspiration in GriefIn this episode, I'd like to talk about inspiration and how it helps me pick myself up when I'm down. It's an important part of how I move forward in this life experience with death and loss. It's there when I am in need of redirecting my thoughts and I discover it in a variety of ways. It can be from comments or discussions with friends and family, from a song, or from an article I stumble across online. One thing I've discovered about inspiration, it's always there if you are willing to find it.
2022-07-1416 minJourney to GratefulTop Ten Common Grief MythsIn today’s episode, I’ve created a list of what I believe are the Top Ten Common Grief Myths. There are far more than ten, but I've chosen the most common, many with a higher impact on the grief community than others I've encountered or heard about from others. No matter the myths, this episode exists to help you navigate what you may encounter in the future or help you navigate what you've already experienced firsthand. At the end of the episode, I provide you a Bonus: Five Things Never to Say to Someone Who's Grieving. Thes...
2022-07-0641 minJourney to GratefulTaking a Step Forward, Not a Leap PastWhile on your journey with grief there will come a time when a friend or professional may ask you what steps you are taking to move forward. Although they tend to have your best interest in mind, the idea of taking a step forward in your life without your passed loved one can be daunting and not something you might want to hear at the time. But there will be a need for you to consider this fact. How will you take your first step forward? I examine the necessary need to begin your first step forward and share...
2022-06-3016 minJourney to GratefulBuilding Fortitude with Gratitude with Holly BertoneIn today’s episode, I've had the pleasure to chat with and get to know an incredible woman who is a breast cancer survivor, Hashimotos Warrior, and a #1 Amazon bestselling author, Holly Bertone. Holly spent 25 years rising through the ranks of consulting and federal government service before her failing health shattered her corporate dreams. Since then, Holly has leaned into her path of true purpose and fulfillment as a Gratitude Coach by helping women view their cancer or autoimmune diagnosis as a gift so they can unwrap their resilience to build fortitude with gratitude. Join me as Holly and I ex...
2022-06-2243 minJourney to GratefulGoing it Alone – Milestones without Your SpouseA milestone in life is often considered a large event; a wedding, the birth of a child, or the purchase of a house, but are you aware of the mini-milestones that can occur in your grief journey? The milestones most no one notices, but are felt just as deep. These are usually common, almost everyday experiences that can affect you as much as the first anniversary of your loss. Join me as I dive into going through this new life alone and identify unexpected milestones without your spouse.
2022-06-1416 minJourney to GratefulThe Power of Inspiration and MotivationThrough grief, we must come to a point where we begin to take one step forward. No matter how small or seemingly insignificant, that step doesn't happen on its own. The power of inspiration and motivation can be instrumental in helping us transition from the grief that is overwhelming to grief that is enlightening. To find the gratitude in your memories and the strength in your heart to take a step forward is to grow in your grief. How will you take your next step forward?
2022-06-0117 minJourney to GratefulWhat's in Your Cup?While we travel through our days — our lives — we have many things inside us at any given moment. Some things are delicate or fragile; others are joyful or satisfying. However, there are moments what's inside comes spilling out because life has shaken our cup around. In today's episode, we will examine what's in your cup and what we need to do to make certain what spills out tomorrow is something better than today.
2022-05-2413 minJourney to GratefulTwelve Helpful Tips for Supporting a Grieving FriendIt's difficult to know what to say or do for someone who has experienced the loss of a significant person in their life. With the help of Horizon Homecare & Hospice, we will examine twelve tips offered by those who are grieving such a loss. Some will be obvious and sometimes make me wonder why they need to be mentioned, while others may surprise you. No matter your knowledge of grief, these twelve tips will offer an insight as we discuss their importance and what I've experienced myself.
2022-05-1029 minJourney to GratefulThe Worst PartMany times, in our everyday lives, we may reference something specific to be "the worst part" of an experience. Often times we do so without putting too much thought into it. Into the details. Today's episode was inspired by a blog post written by Chelsea Ohlemiller at HopeAndHarshRealities.com. In fact, I was so taken by its message that I'd like to share it with you in its entirety and together examine the why this simple phase says more than you think.
2022-04-2611 minJourney to GratefulFinding Motivation in GriefMotivation and grief seem to be an unlikely pair, but motivation can be found in grief. Or at least, in its journey. In today's episode, I challenge you to recognize how grief can take over and choose, instead to find motivation within your sorrow. There is strength to be found in every challenge in life, and this challenge is no different. I share my motivation and present an insight into how you can find it as well.
2022-04-2010 minJourney to GratefulPerspective in Unlikely PlacesEveryday life has a funny way of providing you with perspective during your journey through grief. Often times it is something very minor that you witness or experience in life that presents itself with a different perspective because of your loss. Perhaps it's a better appreciation of small moments in life, or maybe a slightly different lens from which to view a moment. Either way, perspective suddenly becomes an integral part of your life after loss.
2022-04-1112 minJourney to GratefulFinding Confidence to Make a DifferenceIn all of us, there is the ability to make a difference in someone else's life. Whether it be a simple text to reach out to a friend who is grieving, or sharing a coffee and good conversation to show someone you're there for them… you're listening. No matter the gesture, the impact can be great. On this one-year anniversary of the Journey to Grateful podcast, we celebrate making an impact in the lives of others and finding inspiration to do so all around us.
2022-04-0514 minJourney to GratefulLooking Back While Moving ForwardWhen I strip away all the sorrow, loneliness, tears, and frustration associated with loss and grief, I find at its core consists the delicate balance of two things: Looking Back & Moving Forward. As you enter into grief life becomes overwhelming as you attempt to navigate this new piece of your life's puzzle. The thought of moving forward is simply not possible. There will come a time when you become aware that you need to consider making strides to take steps forward. Understand those memories, that history you are grasping onto so dearly, needs to come along, because there's a...
2022-03-2916 minJourney to GratefulUnfinished Conversations, Hope, Gratitude, and Saying Yes to LifeIn this episode, I welcome my new guest, Katty Douraghy, author of The Butterfly Years: A Journey Through Grief Toward Hope. In this book, Katty details her personal journey through grief, her mission to demystify grief and create a space where people can talk about loss without feeling judged or rushed. In our conversation, we touch upon hope, gratitude, self-help, and saying Yes to life. Join me and Katty as we inspire and empower everyone on their journey with grief.
2022-03-1840 minJourney to GratefulSeasons of LifeI'm joined in this episode by my friend, Angela Batista, owner of Adventures by Angela, but more importantly, a survivor of grief. Angela and I discuss experiencing loss at a pivotal point in her life and how she and her family have been shaped by the experience. We dive into the many seasons of life and embrace the wonderful experiences that can be found there. Join us as we discuss, discover, share, and experience the Seasons of Life.
2022-03-0846 minJourney to GratefulEP36 - How Am I Moving Forward?There comes a time when you have to consider if you are moving forward with your grief. In this episode, I ask the question and examine a few ways I have been moving forward. However, I've discovered over the past weeks I have work to do. Strides I need to make to truly move forward and I find that my late wife is a source of inspiration with this goal. Listen to see how she has inspired me to take another step to move forward.
2022-03-0115 minJourney to GratefulIdentifying a Better Path Through GriefThroughout your grief journey, you will find there are several details of grief that will affect you differently as time moves on. Because of this, your path through grief will change, never looking like anyone else's experience, however, both paths can still have similarities. There is truly no right way to grieve, nor is there a proper path to follow. Instead, there are choices to be made, guidance to be shared, which can provide you with a better experience or simply a better understanding of grief overall. In this episode, I discuss four ways to begin your journey with...
2022-02-2214 minJourney to GratefulEP34 - When Will the Envy Stop?With grief comes envy. It's an unspoken side effect of loss which I believe is common, but not often mentioned. It approaches your everyday life as grief does, however with a much different result. It can be an additional internal fight with yourself, making you feel a bit selfish or possibly angry for the many lives around you moving on while you sit alone on the sidelines. I discuss how long envy may stay and try to find ways to move on from envy toward a more grateful life.
2022-02-1512 minJourney to GratefulEP33 - Supporting Someone Through LossSupporting someone through their loss journey can be a challenging mission. Feeling helpless to make a difference is a common side-effect, but you need to understand, just being there is helpful enough. In this episode, we examine my experiences with those who've helped my family and me in common and unique ways. You don't have to feel like there's nothing you can do to help, you just have to consider one thing in everyday life that you can offer and simply take that burden off their to-do list. Even the common things help more than you could ever know.
2022-02-1120 minJourney to GratefulEP32 - An Empty TankFor anyone experiencing this thing called life, it is easy to relate to the title of this episode; An Empty Tank. We all too often are running ourselves on an empty tank, not taking the time to refill what is empty or replenish what is needed. When dealing with the loss of someone, feeling empty becomes a whole new ache we were not prepared to feel. The need to focus on ourselves and refill what's needed is all the more important. Come listen and refill yourself…
2022-02-0210 minJourney to GratefulEP31 - The Power of ChoiceLife is filled with many opportunities to make choices. Some may choose the good, while others may choose a darker path. In grief, choices are abundant as well. As we navigate through grief we can choose to face the day with strength and optimism, or sorrow and frustration. One thing is certain, no day is like the next. In this episode, I present a story that focuses on the power of choice. A simple reminder that each and every day we are presented with the power to choose how that day will play out. Are you consciously choosing the...
2022-01-2811 minJourney to GratefulEP30 - Personality Types, Support, and Choosing a Word for the YearThis episode promises to provide you with a better way to understand yourself as well as others. It will help you identify why some friends may shy away from those hard subjects, while others dive in and have always been by your side. We identify key traits to find within yourself that can offer up a better understanding of how you feel, interact, process thoughts and emotions, and much more. I chat with my friend and Life Coach, Angie Robinson, about the people who support you, how to best support others, and we introduce why you might want to...
2022-01-2039 minJourney to GratefulGrowing Through Loss - How to Journey ForwardForward motion in life is important, however, with loss comes the overwhelming sense of moving forward an impossibility. As with any challenge in life, taking one step at a time is the best way to gain enough momentum to move forward, no matter the pace. So the question remains, how does one take those steps forward? Although the answer is not an easy, one-size-fits-all solution, it does require the same basic foundation no matter what your loss; support, inspiration, and determination.
2022-01-1213 minJourney to GratefulHow to Begin AgainAs we adjust to the new year ahead we see January as the start of something new. For those who are on their journey with grief, each month, each week, and for many, each day can feel the same, however, with the start of something much different. Not necessarily the promise of something new. To "Begin Again" becomes a daily aspect of your new life with its own peaks and valleys. Today we discuss a few ways to adjust your mindset to approach the new year while on your journey with grief. Also, in this episode, we reveal the...
2022-01-0512 minJourney to GratefulFinding HappinessDuring this time between Christmas and the New Year, we often find ourselves reflecting back on the previous year. Taking stock in our successes, our failures, and the things that have affected our lives. Happiness is usually another measuring stick we use to establish the tone of the year that has come to an end, but when you are grieving, happiness, is at best, fleeting. Join me in this episode as I chat with my friend, Crystal Steers of the Chasing Happiness podcast. Her insights, mindset, enthusiasm, and overall focus on the happiness we live intentionally are refreshing and...
2021-12-2937 minJourney to GratefulGrowing Through Loss - So This is ChristmasDuring Christmas, the joy and festivities presented by so many can be daunting to someone who is on their journey in grief. With the world tilted toward holiday cheer and everything merry, adding grief to this anxious time of year presents to many a nearly impossible task. To have a Merry Christmas… as usual. In this episode, I discuss ways to shift your mindset to still have a good holiday season. For those supporting a friend or family member during grief, I discuss ways to help them through this difficult time of year.
2021-12-2114 minJourney to GratefulMaking Changes: Around the Home and In Your LifeAfter the loss of someone close, it is a common suggestion not to make any large changes in the first year. Good advice, however, when making changes anytime after loss, it is wise to understand that specific advice is not a one-size-fits-all scenario. As each experience is different, so too are the responses associated with that experience. When grieving, some may wait more than a year to clean out a loved one's closet while others may do so in the first few months. The question posed is often, which is best? That is solely determined by the one who...
2021-12-1418 minJourney to GratefulDealing with Grief During the HolidaysThe holiday season is a tough time of year for many people, but it can be particularly difficult for those who are grieving. Grief is an individual experience that's different for everyone. Grieving the death of someone you love is never easy, especially during the holidays when memories are everywhere and traditions may not be observed in the same way anymore. Grief doesn't have to get in the way of enjoying your family or friends this holiday season - in this episode, I discuss some tips that have helped me cope with grief this Christmas.
2021-12-0815 minJourney to GratefulEP23 - Bereavement Groups and Counseling: Filling Your Bucket FirstIn this week's episode, I explore the positive benefits of joining a bereavement group as well as helping you to consider engaging a counselor. Support and help, when dealing with a significant loss, can come from many sources. For myself and my family, our community, our friends, and our vast families have been our primary support system. Supporting us during the diagnosis of my wife's breast cancer through the difficult decision to stop treatment, our support was incredible. But there are times when even that support may not seem to be quite enough. Discover why a bereavement group may...
2021-12-0317 minJourney to GratefulGrowing Through Loss - A Refreshing Point-of-ViewThrough each experience in life, there are times when our own perspective could use a boost or a second look through different eyes. This episode offers a glimpse of just that, a new point-of-view from my daughter, Karen. Although a shorter episode of the Growing Through Loss Series, Karen and I touch upon her perspective of the support of others while on her own grief journey. A viewpoint not only from another person but from a different generation provides a priceless opportunity and insight in a younger generation that deserves more credit than they receive.
2021-11-1920 minJourney to GratefulBeing Told How to GrieveLet me be clear, the title of this episode doesn't relate to an experience I've had or a specific experience from anyone I know. Instead, it's the subject of a written piece by John Roedel that a good friend shared with me this past week. It is so good and on point, I felt I had to share it. It's a lengthy piece, so I've decided to read excerpts with some thoughts sprinkled in, sharing why a particular passage may have touched me. I'm certain if you are new to your grief journey or if you are years into...
2021-11-0220 minJourney to GratefulGrowing Through Loss - Why Grateful?As Journey to Grateful grows its community I realized some may not fully understand why the title of this podcast has been chosen. I explain the thought process behind the name of the podcast and encourage everyone, no matter their experience, to find the grateful in their lives. Grief is a lengthy journey, one which can become an integral part of your life for the foreseeable future. Finding your "grateful" through your journey can help to ease the pain while providing you with solace and comfort. Listen as I explain how looking to gratitude has helped me and my...
2021-10-2916 minJourney to GratefulEP19 - Growing Through Loss - Am I Doing It RightWhen experiencing and navigating grief there are times when you might wonder if you're doing it right. This Growing Through Grief Series episode quickly addresses that question not only with a direct answer but also explores the many additional aspects of how your grief will be different than someone else's grief. Join me as I discuss my experience with this exact question and what I've heard from many others. As we walk down our path of grief, there will be times you wonder how everyone else is dealing with specific areas of their journey, today we examine a few...
2021-10-2119 minJourney to GratefulTen Surprises of Grief, Part 2Welcome to Part 2 of the Ten Surprises of Grief episode. As I've said before, through my grief journey, I've experienced many aspects of grief that have surprised me. I've also discovered more surprising experiences others have had with family or friends which became a large reason I began this podcast. It has been important to demystify the grief journey and shine a spotlight on misconceptions related to grief which I believe is important for every one of us to understand. Join me as we discuss the last 5 items of the Ten Surprises of Grief that will, for some, come...
2021-10-1316 minJourney to GratefulGrowing Through Loss - Ups and DownsDuring this new weekly series, I will share with you details of my grief journey as it's happening this week. Today I share with you my thoughts on Ups and Downs during grief, something I've been experiencing a bit more lately. Downs are not obviously external and they often don't feel the same way every time. I explain what I've been feeling this week, why I believe I'm a bit down lately, and things you can do to support someone who might be down because of their grief journey.
2021-10-0616 minJourney to GratefulTen Surprises of Grief, Part 1Through my grief journey, I've experienced many aspects of grief – internal and external – which have surprised me. During early meetings with my bereavement group, I discovered more surprising experiences others have had with family or friends which became a large reason I began this podcast. It has been important to demystify the grief journey and shine a spotlight on misconceptions related to grief which I believe is important for every one of us to understand. Join me as we discuss Ten Surprises of Grief that will, for some, come as no surprise and for many will be enlightening as they...
2021-10-0415 minJourney to GratefulGrowing Through Loss - Helping Someone Through LossWhen trying to help a friend or family member through their loss journey it's important to remember not to try too hard. The simplest of gestures will make as much of a difference and often times more. Don't try to compare your experience, instead, show understanding what they may be feeling and offer to be there for them as they need. Make your offers of help specific and easy for your newly grieving friend to more easily accept. Make it less of a chore for them to think of how you can help and more of a helpful gesture...
2021-09-2210 minJourney to GratefulEP14 - Growing Through Loss - Things Pile UpAs with living life for most anyone with a house and children, things tend to pile up. Responsibilities, issues, repairs, and school. When you add the process of grief into the mix, many small, inconsequential things have a way of having a larger impact on you. In this episode I explain my current grief journey as it reflects on every-day-life and offer words of encouragement for those who are finding the simplest things in life to be a struggle.
2021-09-1410 minJourney to GratefulGrowing Through Loss - Forward MotionWith fall on the horizon, a seasonal transition here in the midwest becomes more obvious. With the shift of cooler weather, we find change is necessary to accept and move through. In grief, similar transitions are experienced far more than I ever thought possible. I've found only one thing that helps these transitions other than support, and that's maintaining a forward motion… one step at a time. Join me as I discuss this week's Growing Through Loss series episode focusing on Forward Motion.
2021-09-0710 minJourney to GratefulEP12 - Growing Through Loss - The School Year Begins AgainWelcome to my new weekly series, Growing Through Loss. This series is designed to strip back the typically planned podcast episode with a more off-the-cuff discussion of experiences I've had over the last week as they relate to my loss journey. This week I take an honest look at beginning a new school year once again without my teammate, my wife. I reflect on my lack of planning as it compares to my wife's and how I stumble – albeit slightly – with picture day, supplies, and just the usual transition back to school. Lastly, I make certain not to come down...
2021-08-3111 minJourney to GratefulEP11 - An Honest New Perspective on Managing GriefIn this episode, I chat with my guest, Mary Ellen, about her new perspective on sharing grief, which allows us to navigate our grief in a healthy manner. We also examine many aspects of loss where we find the need to ask for help while identifying our need for normal and what that looks like for us individually. Mary Ellen lost her husband just over two and a half years ago while I have recently passed the one-year milestone. Our differing perspectives of where we are in our grief journeys allow us to find the similarities while providing me a...
2021-08-2457 minJourney to GratefulEP10 - Suddenly Single ParentingAlthough specific to those who have lost a spouse or partner who they have relied on to help with parenting, this episode examines another aspect of loss often overlooked. In the first days and weeks after loss, it's common to feel disorientated, and even more common to feel downright surprised at the many details of everyday life we took for granted when our spouse or partner was here. Parenting is one of which I knew – on the surface – would be a challenge and something I'd have to face head on, but one of which has continued to surprise me at ever...
2021-08-1317 minJourney to GratefulEP9 - A Healthy Path of GriefIn this episode, I welcome back a special guest, Mary Ellen to discuss our perspective grief journeys and to provide for our listener's guideposts to help anyone on their own path of grief. We touch upon how we have approached a more healthy path of grief, accepting grief bombs as they come, holding tight to memories that have helped to shape our lives and to make room for taking care of ourselves in our new life going and growing forward. Do you know of someone who has recently lost a loved one… share with this podcast and our contributor st...
2021-06-261h 06Journey to GratefulEP8 - Approaching Milestones Head OnWith nearly a year since the loss of my wife, I've had my fair share of milestones to push through and I've found only one way to deal with them. Head on. Pushing them down or away will not allow you to prepare for them in a manner that is healthy. However, there is one thing about milestones you must prepare yourself for… and that is the unexpected. No matter how well you think you've prepped for that upcoming milestone, something may surprise you that you hadn't considered. But then again, with my life full of unexpected grief bombs th...
2021-06-1824 min
Journey to GratefulEP7 - Early Grief – Leaning Into GriefJoin me as I and my guest, Mary Ellen, experience our first grief conversation. Our focus begins with early grief and the many ways we have personally navigated those first days and weeks of our grief. We explore the idea of the individuality of grief and how to best embrace the journey and the process. We offer suggestions of coping, as we have experienced it, and share our personal expressions of support which have meant the most to us while on our specific paths of loss. Lastly, we offer insights into what works best for us when receiving support...
2021-05-1049 min
Journey to GratefulEP6 - WALKING WITH GRIEF: WHAT GRIEF LOOKS LIKEIn this episode, you will join me on a walk and discuss with you What Grief Looks Like. This new format came about through a challenge from a fellow podcaster. I tend to walk to clear my head, so this friend suggested I walk away from my computer & notes, instead take you on a walk with me as I freely discuss the misconceptions of what typical grief looks like. I will share with you my experiences as well as other's who have shared similar encounters with well-meaning friends. Together, we will clear up a few inaccurate interpretations as to...
2021-05-0319 min
Journey to GratefulAccepting Death Before it HappensAlthough a loss, however it occurs, is a difficult thing to face, we discuss accepting death before it happens and what details are involved in doing so. With everything in life, there are positive and negative aspects to almost everything we experience. Could there be a positive aspect of the anticipation of a loss that could be considered a blessing? If so, how best can we handle this to make the most of the opportunity we are afforded? Join me in this episode as we discuss a difficult subject and reveal its potential positive gifts. Admittedly death is not an ea...
2021-04-2615 min
Journey to GratefulAn Unexpected Support GroupWhen it comes to support, we, as a family, have been very blessed. In numbers as well as types of support, our family and friends have truly been there for us through the illness and loss of my wife, Colleen to cancer. There is a group, however, that I feel the need to highlight as their constant support and heartfelt, thoughtfulness has simply been wonderful. It's not the usual adult friends, neighbors, or extended family, but rather, a younger group of which being a strong, consistent source of support and personal comfort is just not typically present.
2021-04-1114 min
Journey to GratefulEP3 - Asking for Help Months After Your LossIt truly shouldn't matter if you are 6 days or 6 months past the loss of someone special, your ability to reach out to your support system and ask for help does not have an expiration date. You may feel it's been too long to ask for help, but your friends and family feel differently. In fact, many are themselves, wondering how to reach out to you, how they can offer to help. I'm sure of it because I've heard it from my friends. This podcast explores my experience with asking for help and my personal thoughts on how you can...
2021-03-2513 min
Journey to GratefulEP2 - Pushing Through the First Days After LossThe first days after a loss are never easy. There's no arguing that point. However, there can be moments of comfort seeded in the memories uncovered. Throughout the planning that will encompass much of the first week, I was able to find bright rays of sunshine in what I knew was my darkest days. Based on memories and stories shared by family and friends, this became the catalyst of how I pushed through those first days. I discovered many grateful moments while people gathered and shared story after story, lifting me up and displaying our love for everyone to...
2021-03-0913 min