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The Voice of Hope with Dr. Ken HueyTim Thayne, Rebuilding Trust at Home with AIFamily therapist and Trustyy founder Dr. Tim Thayne joins host Dr. Ken Huey to tackle the hardest part of treatment: coming home. Tim shares why discharge plans often fail, why trust is a fragile currency, and the crucial role of parental unity. He explains how Trustyy’s AI coach helps teens earn back freedoms through an 8-step trust-building process, why 24/7 coaching changes follow-through, what surprises him about teens opening up to AI, and how to balance autonomy and accountability. The conversation ends with real stories of...
2025-10-1424 min
Not By Chance PodcastBeyond the End Zone: Erik Kramers Game-Changing MissionReady for a game-changer in teen parenting? This episode of "Not By Chance" with Dr. Tim Thayne tackles the tough stuff head-on. We're diving into the world of Eric Kramer, former NFL quarterback turned mental health champion. It's a story of grit, loss, and an ultimate comeback that'll leave you inspired.Ever felt like you're fumbling in the dark when it comes to your teen's mental health? Eric's journey from the football field to rock bottom and back again sheds light on the shadows many families face. He opens up about losing his son Griffin to addiction...
2025-09-1835 minNot By Chance PodcastMarriage First: The Foundation of Effective Parenting | Mike GurrEver felt like you're juggling flaming torches while trying to parent a troubled teen? Get ready to transform that precarious act into a masterful performance as Mike Gurr and Tim Thayne explore the art of intentional parenting after treatment. This episode of "Not By Chance" is your backstage pass to creating a family culture that's not just stable, but thriving.Mike Gurr, with his 23 years in the mental health trenches, shares his playbook for keeping your marriage strong even when your teen's struggles threaten to consume everything. You'll learn why putting on your own oxygen mask first...
2025-09-0557 minNot By Chance PodcastFreedom as Fuel: The Science of Motivating TeensReady to revolutionize your approach to teen independence? Join Dr. Tim Thayne and Roxanne Thayne as they unpack the power of freedom as a motivator in this eye-opening episode of "Not By Chance." We're diving deep into the world of intentional parenting, where trust becomes your secret weapon and your teen's autonomy isn't just respected—it's celebrated.Ever felt like you're constantly battling over freedoms with your teen? We've got game-changing strategies that'll transform those conflicts into collaborations. Discover how to craft "slip-up plans" that put your teen in the driver's seat of their own accountability. It's no...
2025-08-2141 minNot By Chance PodcastThey're Wired for Freedom, Are You Wired to Let Go?Ready to revolutionize your approach to parenting teens? Join Dr. Tim Thayne and his wife Roxanne as they unpack a groundbreaking shift in teen treatment and family dynamics. This episode of "Not By Chance" challenges the old control-based parenting model, replacing it with a fresh perspective that honors your teen's innate drive for autonomy.Discover why giving your teenager more freedom—not less—might be the key to unlocking their potential. The Thaynes share personal stories and professional insights that will transform how you view trust, competence, and the delicate balance of power in your home. You'll lear...
2025-08-1427 minNot By Chance PodcastUnderstanding Teen Resistance: Signals, Not DefianceAre you tired of feeling like you're in a constant tug-of-war with your resistant teen? Get ready to transform your parenting approach as Tim and Roxanne Thayne dive deep into the world of teen resistance, offering you a lifeline of understanding and practical strategies.In this eye-opening episode, we explore the hidden emotions behind your teen's defiant facade. Through vivid storytelling—like the scout conquering his fear of heights—you'll gain insights into the complex world of adolescent behavior. We'll unpack the hormonal hurricane that hits at puberty, helping you navigate the sudden mood swings that leave you...
2025-08-0730 minNot By Chance PodcastResilience Runs in This Family: Teaching Teens to Draw Strength from Pioneers, Heroes, and ModelsReady to revolutionize your parenting game? Join Dr. Tim Thayne and Roxanne as they uncover the hidden superpower of family history in building teen resilience. This episode of "Not By Chance" isn't just a walk down memory lane—it's a blueprint for crafting unshakeable teen confidence using the stories etched in your family tree.Ever wondered how to turn dusty old tales into vibrant life lessons? We've got you covered. From creating eye-catching legacy boards to crafting digital timelines that pop, you'll learn how to make your family's past come alive for your teens. It's not just ab...
2025-07-3133 minNot By Chance PodcastWhen Your Teen Stops Caring - What to do When Consequences Don’t WorkAre you feeling like you're in a constant tug-of-war with your teen? Get ready to transform that power struggle into a powerful partnership! In this episode of "Not By Chance," Dr. Tim Thayne and Roxanne Thayne dive deep into the world of modern parenting, where traditional consequences just don't cut it anymore.We're tackling the tough questions head-on. Why do our old strategies fall flat? How can we navigate the treacherous waters of teen independence in today's complex world? And most importantly, how can we shift from seeing our teens as problems to embracing them as partners...
2025-07-1738 minNot By Chance PodcastShifting Paradigms: How Treatment Programs are Further Empowering TeensReady for a revolution in teen treatment? Join Dr. Tim Thayne and Trina Packard as they unpack the seismic shifts reshaping adolescent care. From behavioral boot camps to family-centered healing, discover how treatment programs are evolving to meet the needs of today's teens and their families.Ever wondered how to truly empower your teen in their recovery journey? Trina shares game-changing strategies that put teens in the driver's seat of their own treatment. You'll learn how student councils and collaborative planning are transforming the treatment landscape, recapturing joy in the process.But what happens when...
2025-06-0554 minNot By Chance PodcastThe Secret to Lasting Change: One Teen’s Move from Rebellious to ResponsibleEver wondered how a troubled teen transforms into a beacon of hope for others? Join Dr. Tim Thayne on the "Not By Chance" podcast as he sits down with Ciara Fanlow, a former troubled teen turned mentor. Together, they explore Ciara's journey through the stormy seas of adolescence, highlighting the pivotal role of wilderness therapy in her transformation. Discover how this unique approach provided Ciara with a new sense of stability and peace, setting the stage for her future success.In this episode, we dive into the importance of structure and hierarchy in a teen's life. Ciara...
2025-05-2951 minNot By Chance PodcastFrom Powerless to Powerful: Influencing Change In Your FamilyEver feel like you're stuck in a cycle of powerlessness when it comes to parenting challenging teens? This episode of the "Not By Chance" podcast is your guide to transforming that feeling into a sense of empowerment. Join Dr. Tim Thayne and his wife Roxanne as they explore strategies to help parents become effective leaders in their family dynamics.Discover the power of family-based approaches—Dr. Thayne shares insights from a National Institute on Drug Abuse study showing a 30% reduction in relapse rates with these methods. It's all about involving parents, the most invested stakeholders, in the tr...
2025-05-2236 minNot By Chance PodcastWhen Safety Comes First—What Comes Next? How Great Programs Shift from Supervision to Self-LeadershipEver wondered how wilderness therapy can transform a teen's life? Join Tim Thayne and guest Danny as they explore the intricate balance of safety and growth in teen treatment programs. This episode dives into the heart of wilderness therapy, where safety isn't just a protocol—it's the foundation. Danny shares insights on creating a culture that believes in every teen's potential, emphasizing the power of seeing beyond behaviors to the core needs of each individual.Discover the concept of "programmed unavoidable success," a strategy that breaks down challenges into manageable steps, ensuring teens experience success and build co...
2025-05-0854 minNot By Chance PodcastFrom Long-term to Short-term: One Founders Take on the Future of Adolescent TreatmentEver wondered how to navigate the maze of adolescent mental health treatment? Join Tim Thayne and Tony Moshier in this enlightening episode of the "Not By Chance" podcast, where they unravel the complexities of residential treatment programs. With Tony's extensive experience as a past president of NATSAP and co-founder of multiple treatment programs, the conversation is rich with insights and practical advice.Discover the evolution of aftercare in treatment programs and why it's crucial for long-term success. Tony shares his journey from skepticism to advocacy for short-term residential treatment, highlighting the importance of managing expectations and planning...
2025-05-0144 minNot By Chance PodcastShow Up at the Door of Discharge: One Mother’s ExperienceIn this episode of the "Not By Chance" podcast, Dr. Tim Thayne welcomes Kristin Oliver, a mother from Wisconsin, to share her heartfelt journey through her daughter's long-term residential treatment for mental health and behavioral challenges. Kristin opens up about the struggles her daughter faced, including bullying, self-harm, and substance use, which led to the difficult decision to seek residential care. She recounts the transformative experience at Turning Winds in Montana, where the focus on building trust and relationships played a pivotal role in her daughter's recovery.The conversation delves into the complexities of transition planning, highlighting...
2025-04-1736 minNot By Chance PodcastOwnership: The Missing Ingredient in Transition PlanningEver feel like traditional transition plans for teens are more of a burden than a benefit? In this episode, Dr. Tim Thayne and Roxanne Thayne introduce a groundbreaking shift in approach that promises to change the game. Imagine a world where teens take the reins of their own transition plans when they come home from treatment, supported by the innovative Trustyy app. This isn't just a tweak—it's a transformation.Dr. Thayne shares his excitement about this new method, highlighting the pitfalls of parent-driven plans that often unravel soon after a teen returns home. With Trustyy, teens ar...
2025-04-1031 minNot By Chance PodcastThe Silver Lining of Sending Them To TreatmentEver feel like the transition of bringing your teen home from treatment is a daunting task? In this episode of "Not By Chance," Dr. Tim Thayne and Roxanne Thayne transform this challenge into an opportunity for growth and positive change. They guide you through reframing anxiety as excitement, turning what seems like a tightrope walk into a confident stride.Discover the power of finding "silver linings" in life's toughest moments. Roxanne shares insights from her "Dark Days and Silver Linings" journal, helping you uncover lessons hidden within disappointments and obstacles. With narrative therapy, Dr. Tim shows how...
2025-04-0344 minNot By Chance PodcastSeason 5 Premiere: Trustyy - The Game-Changer in Adolescent AftercareWelcome to the fifth season of the "Not By Chance" podcast, where we embark on a journey of innovation and support for families navigating adolescent treatment. Join Dr. Tim Thayne and his wife Roxanne as they unveil Trustyy, a groundbreaking app and service designed to bridge the gap between treatment programs and home life. With decades of experience in adolescent treatment, the Thaynes are on a mission to make their expertise more accessible and affordable.In this episode, we explore the evolution of adolescent treatment support, highlighting the challenges of transitioning teens back home. Discover how Trustyy...
2025-03-2842 minNot By Chance PodcastSeason 5 Premiere: Trustyy - The Game-Changer in Adolescent AftercareWelcome the "Not By Chance" podcast, where we embark on a journey of innovation and support for families navigating adolescent treatment. Join Dr. Tim Thayne and his wife Roxanne as they unveil Trustyy, a groundbreaking app and service designed to bridge the gap between treatment programs and home life. With decades of experience in adolescent treatment, the Thaynes are on a mission to make their expertise more accessible and affordable.In this episode, we explore the evolution of adolescent treatment support, highlighting the challenges of transitioning teens back home. Discover how Trustyy combines technology, curriculum, and coaching...
2025-03-2742 min
Building the Premier Accounting FirmIntegrating Family Therapy Principles in Business Leadership with Dr. Tim ThayneWelcome to another insightful episode of Building the Premier Accounting Firm, hosted by Universal Accounting Center President Roger Knecht. In this engaging discussion, Dr. Tim Thayne takes listeners on an exploratory journey through the realms of family therapy and business organization. From Academia to Business Consultant: Learn about Dr. Thayne's transition from an academic path with a master's from BYU and a PhD from Virginia Tech to a practical role in applying marriage and family therapy principles to business environments. Solution-Focused Leadership: Discover the core concepts of the leadership program Dr. Thayne spearheaded, where he...
2024-03-061h 39Building the Premier Accounting FirmThis Week on BPAF : Dr. Tim ThayneJoin us this Wednesday for a new episode where Roger discusses integrating family therapy principles in business leadership with Dr. Tim Thayne
2024-03-0400 minNot By Chance PodcastMastering Negotiation and Intentionality with Gen ZEver feel like you're walking a tightrope when it comes to parenting teens? Get ready to transform that precarious walk into a confident stride as Dr. Tim Thane and I explore the art of intentional parenting. Discover how to turn your home into a hub of negotiation savvy, where business smarts meet family hearts, providing a solid foundation for both personal growth and career success.In a lively discussion with Dr. Thane, we uncover the nuances of co-parenting during the rollercoaster teenage years, offering you a toolkit for setting boundaries that stick. You'll learn how to influence with...
2024-01-1129 minNot By Chance PodcastBrainstorm, Categorize, Trust: The New Teen Requests Approval MethodEver wish granting your teenager's requests wasn't such a minefield? We're here to guide you through an innovative approach that starts with your teen, enabling them to brainstorm their wishes, categorize their timeframes, and understand their trustworthiness from your perspective. In this episode, we also challenge you to consider how to handle requests that defy family values, and how to encourage your teen's dreams while maintaining boundaries. It's a radical shift, but worth the journey.Let's not forget the vital role communication plays between parents and teens! We focus on this critical topic and shed light on...
2023-11-0715 minNot By Chance Podcast10 Years of Not By Chance, the Book: More Important Today Than A Decade AgoIn this episode Tim and Roxanne celebrate 10 years of the influential book “Not By Chance.” They discuss the initial struggles of publishing the book and why they did it in the first place. Ever wondered how a book could redefine an entire field? “Not By Chance” did just that. Discover how it transformed teen treatment by reinstating parents as the primary focus, shifting from program-centric to family-centric approaches. You'll hear about one impactful parent, how the book helped families transition, and why it’s been dubbed the "transition Bible". This book has even influenced the language used in treatmen...
2023-10-1940 minNot By Chance PodcastDeveloping Leadership: Navigating the Challenges of a Parental HierarchyWhat if there were a way to lead your family with intention, navigating the complex dynamics of the parent-child relationship, and ultimately building a resilient bond with your teenagers? As a single parent or a member of a two-parent family, you might be seeking guidance to balance hard work and recreation, or perhaps you're embarking on the challenging journey of parenting a teenager. This episode is for you. Today, we shed light on the importance of a parental hierarchy, exploring its crucial role in fostering a healthy family environment. Parents, it's your duty to lead your pack. B...
2023-09-2131 minNot By Chance PodcastFrom Eggshells to Empowerment: The Journey Towards Proactive ParentingImagine holding all the keys to unlock the full potential in your children. The truth is, you do! We're here to guide you on harnessing your inherent power as a parent, an indispensable force that shapes your family's success journey and happiness. In this episode, we navigate the essence of intentional parenting, the incredible influence you have, and how to step up as the indisputable agent of change in your teen's life.We delve deeper, challenging you to understand the significance of parental knowledge and the emotional dynamics in your interactions with your offspring. It's time to...
2023-09-1427 minNot By Chance PodcastSteering the Ship: The Transformative Power of Intentional ParentingNavigating the ever-evolving landscape of parenting can feel like braving stormy seas without a compass. Promising to be that guiding light, today's podcast explores the concept of intentional parenting, and how it can be the anchor amidst the turbulent waves of everyday challenges. Through the lens of personal experiences and community influences, we'll uncover how my parents, though unaware, were pioneers of this approach, and how crucial it has become in this fast-paced era.Embarking on a parenting journey requires us to be acutely self-aware, making every decision with intention. Our next discussion orbits around the trials...
2023-08-3127 minNot By Chance PodcastUnraveling Parenthood: Breaking the Chains of Destructive CyclesDo you ever feel trapped in the cycle of "good cop, bad cop" with your partner when it comes to parenting? Have you wondered how the echoes of your own upbringing have shaped the way you parent? Tag along with us as we navigate these intricate dynamics. In the authenticity of sharing my personal journey as a newlywed, you'll find an enlightening take on how I broke a destructive cycle before it could take root. Unraveling the intricacies of harmful cycles that breed confusion, we illuminate common pitfalls parents often fall prey to. From the undermining of a...
2023-08-2431 minNot By Chance PodcastThe Healthy Results of the Controversial Authoritative ParentingThe trends around parenting swing like a pendulum from authoritarian to permissive. Instinctively we know either extremes isn't ideal, but we may not know the literature around it. Studies show that authoritative parenting produces the healthiest outcomes in teens. Authoritative can be found in between the two extremes but leaning more towards authority than permissive. We all yearn for a harmonious family environment, but have you ever thought about the role hierarchy plays in achieving this? It's often seen as negative, but can be essential to maintaining order. Parenting isn't all about softness and leniency, sometimes it r...
2023-08-1725 minNot By Chance PodcastHillary Weeks: "Keep Going" Musics Ability To HealHilary Weeks, a top 10 Christian Billboard singer, connects with her audience by unlocking and expressing the feelings of the heart through music. Her song "Keep Going" addresses depression and has helped thousands of people individually. This interview with Hilary will make you ask how you can use music in your family’s dynamic so that it harbors safety, healing, and connection. Keep GoingIG handles:@hilaryweeksmusic@drtimthayne
2023-06-1532 minNot By Chance PodcastEric Turner: Leadership From Marine To COOEric Turner shares stories from his life that lead him to work at Trustyy. Coming from a family that often lived paycheck to paycheck, he joined the Marines right after high school. He got to visit home after boot camp. September 11th, 2001, he was sitting on a plane ready for takeoff when he heard about the attack on the world trade center. Eric served several tours and learned a lot about leadership being in charge of 25 other marines and 50+ local police. While still in the reserves he has transitioned his career into tech and become a vital member of...
2023-06-0847 minNot By Chance PodcastMichele Benyo: Good Grief Parenting, How To Help Your Child Deal With LossMichel Benyo is a grief coach. She specializes in helping Children deal with loss in their life. Having children of her own and losing one put her through a heart wrenching journey. While grieving, she learned how to help her daughter with her grief. As you listen to Michelle's stories and practical advice, you will feel better equipped to help those in your life deal with their grief. So many of us avoid grief, but there's a reason "good grief" is a common phrase; it's because there is a good way to do it. notbychance...
2023-05-2539 minNot By Chance PodcastSherry Fernandez: Love Your Kids HardSherry Fernandez was a hippy turned business woman. With insane drive and
2023-05-0440 minNot By Chance PodcastDianne Kosto: How Neurofeedback Saved Her Sons LifeDianne Kosto is a mother and CEO of Symmetry Neuro-Pathway Training. Dianne had a son who was kicked out of military school and almost kicked out of a treatment program for teen boys. She fears what could've happened if she hadn't found Neurofeedback. Neurofeedback is a non-invasive alternative to medication. It is painless, drugless, free of harmful side effects, and produces noticeable improvements that can enhance the effect of other traditional therapies. If you are interested in looking more into Neurofeedback, then reach out to Dianne at Symmetryneuropt.com
2023-04-1338 minNot By Chance PodcastPt. 5 How To Be Your Teens Number One Influencer: Story, with Roxanne ThayneDr. Thayne interviews his wife, Roxanne, on the power of storytelling. You must be as entertaining and compelling as your competitor (social media) to influence your teen. Become a master storyteller to encourage your teen to take action, adopt value, and come closer as a family. After this episode, you will ask yourself what stories you have that would impact your teen. Challenge: Find a story in your life that teaches a principle. Take your time to craft it into something compelling and entertaining. And when you share your story, hold back f...
2023-04-0632 minNot By Chance PodcastPt. 4 How to Be Your Teen's Number One Influencer: FearDr. Thayne speaks about the role of fear when we are trying to be our teen's number one influencer. Fear is natural and can be healthy in doses, but when it isn't handled right, it can spiral out of control and have a domino effect on the family. Tim explains that you have to recognize the fear first. Then you can address it by talking yourself down from expecting the worst and taking action despite your fear. Challenge: When you feel fearful, articulate what you are afraid of. Communicate with s...
2023-03-2324 minNot By Chance PodcastPt. 3 How To Be Your Teens Number One Influencer: LISTENListening is one of the most influential things you could do. We might think that listening is too passive to possibly have an influence. Most of the time, however, no one cares to be swayed by someone they feel doesn't understand them. Dr. Tim Thayne gives some practical tips on how to listen to your teen. Some of them include going into the conversation being willing to have your mind changed. Challenge: Prioritize listening. Let go of the need to control the conversation. At the end of the day ask yourself how you did.
2023-03-0922 minNot By Chance PodcastPt. 2 How to Be Your Teen’s Number One Influencer: Values Along with being a deliberate example, parents need to be aware of the values you are modeling. Today’s episode explores some virtues that seem to be less common in today’s self-centered and fast paced world. We also discuss how to create moral literacy with stories.
2023-02-1622 minNot By Chance PodcastPt. 1 How to Be Your Teens Number One Influencer: ExampleWould you allow a stranger to sit on your teen's bed and talk to them for hours a day? Never. Yet this is what's happening and this is how you can put yourself back in the number one influencer position with your teen, through your deliberate, though not perfect, example.
2023-01-3116 minNot By Chance PodcastAre You Reading the Stories Your Teens are Writing About Themselves?What if you could read your teen's thoughts about themselves? Would their story of their worth match yours about them? Dr. Thayne talks about how the stories we choose to tell ourselves can lead to vastly different outcomes, ranging from destructive to a springboard for success.0:00Intro1:28Self Esteem Stat4:58Student Body President9:04Daughter Wants To Drop Out14:07App Announcement15:15Driving To the Airport17:11Closing Self Esteem Talk20:23...
2023-01-1920 minNot By Chance PodcastThe Story of My Choice to Leave the Wilderness for HomeDr. Thayne takes this opportunity to share with Casi Fariello of OPLM why he felt it was time to turn his attention to the needs of families after their teen's out-of-home treatment programs. He shares his journey from an owner and therapist in a wilderness treatment program, to working where the "rubber meets the road" of therapeutic treatment . . . in the home.
2022-12-1340 min
ReleasedDr. Tim Thayne: Sustaining the Change After the Mission Is Not By Chance.Send us a textIn this first episode, Talmage interviews Dr. Tim Thayne, his father. Dr. Thayne is a marriage and family therapist specializing in after-treatment transition to real life. He's worked in a situation similar to a returned missionary's experience his entire career. He's even written a book for parents to help their kids transition home while maintaining the change (Not By Chance). Dr. Thayne and Talmage will be teaming up to write a book for returned missionaries.Email releasedthepodcast@gmail.com and ask about winning a copy of the Not By C...
2022-12-1355 min