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Conversations on Sex, Addiction, and Relationships7 stages of male betrayal trauma especially angerAdam Nisenson speaks about the overlooked emotional journey of men navigating betrayal trauma. He introduces the 7 stages of what he calls masculine betrayal trauma, a healing framework that includes taboo topics like ego wounds, self-worth, suppressed anger, competitiveness, and intrusive thoughts.
Adam shares how men often internalize pain, avoid vulnerability, and struggle with the concept of safety in relationships. From unhealthy fantasies to the courage it takes to cry, this discussion challenges outdated beliefs around masculinity and healing.
If you've ever felt lost, angry, or unsure how to move forward after betrayal—this episode offers cl...2025-07-2605 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsLight in the Dark: Ken Adams on Adult Children of Sex Addicts & Breaking Family ShameDr. Ken Adams, renowned clinician, author, and expert in the field of sex addiction treatment—joins Wendy Conquest and Jeanne Vattuone live from the IITAP Symposium to discuss his groundbreaking new book Light in the Dark co-authored with Dr. Mary Meyer and Culle Vande Garde, this book is the first of its kind to give voice to the lived experiences of adult children of sex addicts.
Ken opens up about his own journey, the shame he carried, and the powerful decision to share his personal story in the book. He also breaks down the core structure of th...2025-07-2623 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsKen Adams Opens Up About Writing His First Book Silently Seduced and then Light In the DarkDr. Ken Adams never set out to become an author but sometimes, the story finds you before you know how to tell it. In this moving and honest conversation, Ken recounts the origin of his newest book Light in the Dark, a long-awaited exploration into the lives of adult children of sex addicts.
Speaking with Jeanne Vattunne and Wendy Conquest live at the IITAP Symposium, Dr. Adams shares how his professional path intersected with his own unresolved pain. Discovering Patrick Carnes’ work in the late ’80s opened his eyes to dynamics that felt all too familiar. Yet some...2025-07-1505 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsAdult Children of Sex Addicts; How Does Someone Know? Ken Adams on Family Betrayal and Silent PainDr. Ken Adams joins hosts Wendy Conquest and Jeanne Vattuone to explore a topic rarely spoken about: the invisible burden carried by children who grow up in homes shadowed by sexual secrets and betrayal.
Drawing from decades of clinical experience, Ken sheds light on how children absorb the confusion, shame, and broken trust that ripple through families affected by sex addiction.
This conversation opens a door to understanding the profound impact of betrayal trauma across generations, and the courage it takes to finally name it.
2025-07-1205 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsWhen Men Are Betrayed: A Raw Conversation on Male Partner Betrayal TraumaWhat happens when a man is sexually betrayed and no one talks about it?
In this powerful episode, Adam Nisenson joins Dan Drake and Tim Stein live at the ITAP Symposium to break the silence around male partner betrayal trauma.
Adam shares his personal story of discovering his wife’s affair over a decade ago, and how that painful experience led him to write A Man’s Guide to Partner Betrayal, the first book of its kind written by a man, for men.
The conversation explores why betrayed men often stay silent for year...2025-07-0823 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsWhy Men Struggle to Heal Alone — And How Connection Can Change EverythingHealing from sex addiction and betrayal isn’t a solo journey—especially for men. In this insightful conversation, the struggle many men face with opening up, often stuck in the “ego trap” of having to fix everything alone, is explored. The truth? Recovery requires connection, empathy, and tools—and it often starts when one man breaks the silence, encouraging others to do the same.
Discover why a brotherhood or supportive community is crucial, and why professional guidance can make all the difference in sustained healing. The importance of understanding from betrayed partners and how recovery books and workbooks...2025-07-0504 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsAdam Nisenson speaks to being a betrayed partner“I was told once that women cheat to leave and men cheat to stay.” But is that really the whole story? In this candid discussion with therapist Adam Nisenson, we explore the deeper realities behind why people cheat and challenge common stereotypes. Drawing from years of experience working with both men and women, Adam uncovers how infidelity often reflects complex emotional struggles rather than simple motives.
2025-07-0103 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsNEW BOOK! Breaking the Silence: Kim Litton’s Raw Journey from Addiction to RedemptionJoin therapist and author Kim Litton as they courageously share their personal story of recovery from sex, love, and substance addiction in their memoir I Do It For Her. In this heartfelt conversation recorded at the ITAP Symposium, Kim opens up about the intense shame, struggles, and pain they faced—and how they found hope, healing, and freedom through recovery. Whether on your own healing journey or supporting someone else, Kim’s story is a powerful reminder that transformation is possible, even when it feels impossible.
In this interview, Kim talks about the challenges of female sex and...2025-06-2832 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and Relationships"I Do It For Her": Kim Litton Shares Her Powerful Journey Through Addiction and RecoveryIn this intimate conversation, Kim Litton opens up about the deeply personal story behind their memoir, I Do It For Her: A Memoir of Recovery and Redemption from Sex, Love, and Substances. With over 21 years in recovery, Kim reflects on the hidden struggles she faced—not only with drugs and alcohol but also with sex and love addiction, which went unrecognized for years.
They share how early sobriety was marked by confusion and pain, navigating relationships without understanding the true nature of the addiction. From experiences as a therapist to the challenges of acting out while trying to...2025-06-2405 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsNEW BOOK by Allan Katz: Navigating Sex Addiction Recovery with Integrity & ConnectionWelcome to a conversation with Allan Katz, author of Navigating the Phases of Sex Addiction Recovery. In this interview recorded live at the ITAP Symposium, Allan shares their unique journey from a marketing consultant to a certified sex addiction therapist, diving deep into what true recovery really means.
This video explores how sobriety is just the beginning — the real work is adding meaningful value, purpose, and integrity to life beyond abstinence. Allan introduces their workbook designed to help people identify distractions like technology, work, and unresolved feelings that block authentic connection and fulfillment.
If you or...2025-06-2027 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsDating in Recovery with Kim LittonDating in recovery can feel overwhelming—especially when rigid “plans” feel like homework or too much pressure. In this heartfelt discussion, we explore the Compassionate Structure Plan written by Kim Litton, a flexible daily and weekly checklist designed to support women addicts navigating the dating world without losing their sense of self or feeling overwhelmed.
Created as a softer alternative to traditional dating plans, this approach helps people stay aligned with their values through simple check-ins like:
Am I doing most of the emotional heavy lifting?
Are my partner’s actions matching their words?2025-06-1405 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsPhases of Recovery in Sex Addiction: Moving Beyond “I Can’t” Into Integrity and HealingIn this episode, Allan Katz offers a clear and compassionate map for navigating the phases of sex addiction recovery—not just through abstinence, but through deep character transformation in his new workbook, Navigating the Phases in Sex Addiction Recovery.
Using a framework built around values like integrity, ethics, respect, and vulnerability, Allan invites individuals to move from a mindset of “I can’t” to “I don’t”—shifting from pressure and deprivation to purpose and choice. This isn’t just about stopping old behaviors; it’s about becoming someone new.
They explore how recovery can help people reconnec...2025-06-0705 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsPushing My Partner to Have Sex: with Allan KatzWhat happens when sexual addiction doesn’t just take place outside the relationship—but inside it, too? In this conversation, Allan Katz explores how emotional pressure, lack of safety, and compulsive sexual behaviors can deeply affect intimacy within committed partnerships.
They discuss how Allan’s workbook guides people toward meaningful change by moving beyond avoidance into emotional connection, personal integrity, and recovery built on values. Sobriety may be necessary—but it’s not sufficient. Real transformation happens when individuals choose to live differently, with purpose and clarity.
This episode offers insight for anyone ready to repair wha...2025-06-0605 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and Relationships“I’m Doing the Work—Why Isn’t She?” Navigating Disconnection in RecoveryIn this deep-dive April Mailbag episode, the hosts tackle a heartfelt email from a listener in recovery who’s doing everything “right”—meetings, therapy, step work—but still feels shut out by his partner. Why isn’t she engaging? Is it unresolved trauma, burnout, or a deeper disconnection? The team explores common pitfalls in couples healing after betrayal, the power of empathy, the danger of resentment, and the importance of relational repair—even when the door feels closed. If you're in recovery and feeling stuck, this episode offers validation, insight, and a challenge to lean in harder—with humility and heart.
2025-05-3125 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsWhen She Shuts Down: How Addicts Can Keep Showing Up with EmpathyWhat should you do when your partner won’t engage, even after you've committed to recovery? In this April Mailbag episode, the hosts discuss the emotional complexities of healing after betrayal—especially when the wounded partner closes off.
From the importance of empathy letters and impact processing to resisting defensiveness and building emotional resilience, conversation gives insight is a must-listen for anyone walking the rocky path of relational repair. Even if the door feels closed, how you show up can shape what happens next.
2025-05-2705 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsWhy Isn't My Partner Loving Me? A Hard Look at Partner's Reactions to A Recovering AddictIn this thought-provoking April Mailbag episode, the hosts unpack a listener's email that dives into the painful space between recovery and reconnection. Why do some partners struggle to re-engage even when the addict is “doing the work”?
Is it unresolved trauma, unspoken resentment, or just the truth of incompatibility? With candid insights into addiction, healing, and the emotional toll of long-term damage, this reflection offers a powerful reminder: recovery is only part of the story. What happens next is just as critical—and often more complex.
2025-05-2401 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsUnderstanding Kink: Healthy Expression or Hidden Addiction? -- Dr. Stefanie Carnes ExplainsKink. Fetishes. BDSM. Are they expressions of healthy sexuality—or signs of addiction and unresolved trauma? In this powerful and nuanced conversation, Dr. Stefanie Carnes joins the Conversations on Sex Addiction and Relationships team to unpack what kink really means, how it intersects with sex addiction, betrayal trauma, and recovery, and what therapists and couples need to know when navigating arousal templates, consent, and communication.
Whether you're in recovery, partnered with someone who is, or simply curious, this is the kink conversation most are afraid to have—until now.
2025-05-2041 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsWhen Kink and Sex Addiction Recovery Collide – Dr. Stefanie CarnesWhat happens when non-traditional sexual behavior, recovery, and relationship dynamics intersect? In this 3.5-minute deep dive, Dr. Stefanie Carnes explores the delicate balance of reintroducing sexual expression in relationships impacted by sex addiction and betrayal trauma.
From managing arousal templates and consent, to honoring recovery boundaries and partner triggers, this conversation opens up crucial dialogue for couples and clinicians alike. Tune in to find out more.
2025-05-1705 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsKink or Addiction? How to Tell the Difference: Dr. Stefanie Carnes ExplainsIs kinky sexual behaviors a healthy sexual expression or a sign of addiction?
In just 2.5 minutes, Dr. Stefanie Carnes unpacks the critical difference between kink and compulsive sexual behavior. Whether you're a therapist, someone exploring your sexuality, or simply curious, this short but powerful conversation tackles the intersection of healthy sexuality, fetish, BDSM, and when it might cross the line into addiction.
Don’t miss this essential guide to understanding what the difference is—and what might be an escalation driven by addiction.
2025-05-1305 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsWhen Is the Right Time to Make Amends?Is there a "right" time to make amends in sex addiction recovery? What if the person in recovery isn’t following the 12-step model—or isn’t “there yet”? In this heartfelt discussion, we explore how true amends are less about perfection and more about presence, intention, and accountability.
This episode breaks down what “living amends” really means—how small, consistent, and humble actions can begin to repair trust even before a formal ninth step. We also look at how couples navigate the tension between healing timelines, what good recovery looks like even without a program, and why it’s never t...2025-05-1005 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsWhen Parents Hurt Without Knowing: How Betrayal Trauma Impacts ChildrenWhat happens to children when they grow up in a household shaped by addiction, betrayal, and emotional absence? In this emotional and raw conversation, we explore the long-term impact of sex addiction on kids—and what parents can do today to help stop the cycle.
Through lived experience and clinical insight, the discussion touches on how a parent’s unhealed shame, absence, or addiction—whether it’s to substances, sex, or emotional avoidance—can lead to deep developmental wounds in their children. Even when unintentional, the emotional neglect, rage, and instability create a lasting imprint.
This episo...2025-05-0605 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsWhat Does Real Amends Look Like? Humility, Healing & Showing Up DailyMaking amends isn’t just a step—it’s a way of living. In this powerful and honest conversation, the hosts explore what it truly means to make amends in sex addiction recovery, especially when it comes to relationships. From the early days of confusion and disclosure to those pivotal “aha” moments when empathy finally lands, this episode breaks down the real heart behind the amends process.
Together, we discuss:
When is the right time to make amends?
What does a living amends actually look like?
How can you repair relational damage whe...2025-04-2927 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsWhen “I’m Sorry” Isn’t Enough: Making Amends That Truly HealIn sex addiction recovery, there’s a moment—often unexpected—when everything shifts and the addict really "gets it". The defenses fall, empathy clicks into place, and for the first time, the betrayed partner feels truly seen and heard. This episode dives deep into that moment—the turning point in recovery when an addict can finally make meaningful amends.
Join us as we explore how amends aren’t just about apologies, but about transformation, timing, and truly taking responsibility—not only for the betrayal itself, but for the emotional aftermath during recovery. From the addict’s growth process to the...2025-04-2605 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsThe Truth About Amends in Sex Addiction Recovery - Can You Ever Make It Right?What does it really mean to make amends after betrayal? In this deeply vulnerable and honest episode, therapists explore the amends process from both the addict’s perspective and the betrayed partner’s experience. It's not just about apologies or flowers—it’s about understanding the full emotional impact, taking responsibility, and learning how to rebuild trust over time.
We unpack the emotional weight behind amends in sex addiction recovery, why it can’t be rushed, and how true healing requires empathy, accountability, and a whole lot of humility. If you’ve ever asked, “How do I make things ri...2025-04-2204 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and Relationships"Talking About Being the Adult Child of a Sex Addict and the Legacy of Sex Addiction with Culle L. Vande Garde "What happens when you grow up in a home where sex addiction, secrecy, and emotional disconnection define the family dynamic? In this intimate conversation, the author of Light in the Dark: The Hidden Legacy of Adult Children of Sex Addicts share how the book came to life—and why it's opening doors for healing across generations.
Featuring Culle L. Vande Garde, one of the co-authors and a certified sex addiction therapist, this episode explores the 12 core characteristics of adult children of sex addicts, the invisible weight of carried shame, and what it truly means to reclaim your vo...2025-04-1937 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsCarried Shame and How It Shapes Your Childhood and RelationshipsToday we talk about the concept of "carried shame"—a form of inherited emotional pain that can follow us from childhood into our adult lives. Through powerful storytelling and deep clinical insight, we explore the difference between healthy shame and carried shame, and how upbringing, parenting styles, and unspoken family dynamics shape our sense of self-worth.
Featuring a vulnerable account from someone who began their healing journey as a young adult, this conversation brings clarity to a topic many of us feel but rarely name. If you’ve ever questioned why certain triggers run deep, or why you...2025-04-1504 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsBeing A Child of A Sex AddictToday we speak on the long-term impact of sex addiction on children who grow up in hypersexualized households - a topic rarely discussed, but deeply important.
We discuss the 12 characteristics of being an adult child of a sex addict.
Whether you're a therapist, someone in recovery, or just curious about how family dynamics and hidden trauma can shape us, this episode offers education, validation, and a call for more open, compassionate conversations.
#SexAddictionRecovery #TraumaBonding #GenerationalHealing #MentalHealthAwareness #ACSA #TherapyTalk #ChildhoodTrauma #FamilyDynamics #EmotionalHealing #ShameRecovery #SexualHealth #TherapistLife #HealingJourney
2025-04-1204 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsIs Avoidance A Part of Sex Addiction?Why do so many people struggling with addiction also struggle with avoidance? In this deep dive, we explore how avoidance manifests in addiction, relationships, and emotional healing—and why overcoming it is critical for long-term recovery.
Avoidance may have once been a coping mechanism, but in addiction and relationships, it often leads to more harm than protection. How can individuals recognize their patterns and move towards true healing?
2025-04-0830 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsHow Fear Shapes Addiction & RelationshipsIs avoidance at the root of sex and love addiction? In this episode, we explore how different attachment styles influence addiction and why avoidance—whether emotional, relational, or physical—plays a significant role in both addiction and intimacy disorders.
Many struggling with addiction are unconsciously protecting themselves from deeper pain. But how does this avoidance impact their relationships, and what steps can they take to break free from these patterns?
2025-04-0505 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsYou Aren't There For Me!Is avoidance a core trait of addiction? In this discussion, we explore how avoidance manifests in sex addiction and other compulsive behaviors—whether it's emotional avoidance, distraction, or withdrawing from relationships and responsibilities.
Many people struggling with addiction use avoidance as a way to escape pain, fear, and emotional discomfort. But is avoidance the same as distraction? And how can breaking this pattern lead to real healing?
#AddictionRecovery #Avoidance #MentalHealth #EmotionalHealing #Sobriety
2025-04-0105 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsAre 12 step meetings necessary?"Welcome to our February Mailbag episode, where we tackle your most pressing questions on addiction, therapy, and relationships! 💬
In this discussion, we cover:
🔹 Does skipping 12-step programs increase relapse risk?
🔹 Should addicts share what they discuss in therapy with their partners?
🔹 Can privacy and transparency coexist in recovery?
🔹 When is divorce the right choice after betrayal?
🔹 The impact of group therapy vs. individual therapy in long-term healing.
We dive deep into the complexities of sobriety, trust, and relational healing. Whether you’re navigating recovery, supporting a loved one, or seeking clarity on relations...2025-03-2936 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsWhy Isn't A Sex Addict Sharing?When it comes to addiction recovery, how much transparency should there be between partners? Should an addict share what they’re working on in therapy, at their 12 step meetings, or is it a private space for personal growth?
While therapy is a personal journey, shutting out a partner completely can create barriers to healing. How can couples navigate this balance for a healthier relationship?
#AddictionRecovery #Transparency #TrustInRelationships #MentalHealth #Sobriety #SexAddiction #BetrayalTrauma
2025-03-2505 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and Relationships12 step sex addiction meetings needed for sobriety?Is attending a 12-step program essential for addiction recovery, or can therapy alone be enough? In this episode, we break down the key factors that contribute to long-term sobriety and discuss the role of community, therapy, and personal commitment in preventing relapse.
This episode is answering our a mailbag question. Send your questions to conversations.sar@gmail.com. We will answer them!
#AddictionRecovery #12StepProgram #RelapsePrevention #Sobriety #MentalHealth
2025-03-2405 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsTalking Healthy Use of TechnologyTechnology is evolving rapidly, making our lives easier, saving us time and energy. But as we gain more convenience, are we losing meaningful human connection?
While technology offers incredible opportunities—like remote work and online therapy—it also challenges our ability to connect authentically. How do we embrace its benefits without falling into disconnection?
#Technology #DigitalAge #TechAddiction #HumanConnection #MentalHealth #SexAddiction
2025-03-2204 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsPorn Addiction: Has to be a Secret?Is secrecy a core component of porn addiction? In this short but insightful discussion, we explore the complexities of porn addiction, including the role of secrecy, social norms, and personal values.
Join us as we break down the psychological and behavioral factors behind excessive pornography use.
#PornAddiction #MentalHealth #Psychology #BehavioralScience #CompulsiveBehavior
2025-03-1805 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsSobriety & Recovery With Terry CrewsTerry Crews shares his journey of overcoming sex addiction, healing his marriage, and reclaiming his life. From his early struggles with pornography to the moment his wife confronted him with the question that changed everything—Terry reveals the truth about addiction, shame, and the power of recovery.
This is a conversation about courage, honesty, and transformation. Whether you or someone you know is struggling with addiction, this episode is filled with hope, wisdom, and actionable steps toward recovery.
#TerryCrews #SexAddictionRecovery #Healing #OvercomingAddiction #MentalHealth #Relationships #SexAddiction #Relationships
2025-03-0853 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsTerry Crews Opens Up: Childhood Trauma, Addiction & HealingTerry Crews shares his personal journey of overcoming childhood trauma, addiction, and the struggles that shaped his life. From growing up in a strict religious household to discovering unhealthy coping mechanisms at a young age, Terry opens up about the challenges he faced and how they impacted his relationships and self-worth.
Terry’s story is one of resilience, self-discovery, and breaking generational cycles. If his journey resonates with you, don’t forget to like, comment, and subscribe for more powerful conversations.
#TerryCrews #TraumaHealing #AddictionRecovery #BreakingTheSilence #MentalHealthMatters
2025-03-0404 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsTerry Crews: Why I Stopped Using PornTerry Crews opens up about the devastating impact of his sex addiction on his wife, his family, and himself. He shares the moment he realized the depth of her pain, the weight of his secrets, and how self-pity fueled his addiction.
This is a raw and unfiltered look at accountability, healing, and the difficult road to redemption.
#TerryCrews #SexAddictionRecovery #Healing #OvercomingAddiction #MentalHealth #Relationships #SexAddiction #Relationships
2025-03-0105 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsTerry Crews' Breaking Point: The Moment That Changed His LifeTerry Crews reflects on the moment he had to face his deepest fears, the consequences of his actions, and the truth about himself. Forced to confront his reality, he opens up about the struggle of maintaining an image, the loneliness of fame, and the hard path to redemption.
#TerryCrews #SexAddictionRecovery #Healing #OvercomingAddiction #MentalHealth #Relationships #SexAddiction #Relationships #Cheating
2025-02-2505 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsTerry Crews' Raw Confession: Wife Confronts HimTerry Crews opens up about his struggles with pornography addiction, infidelity, and the impact it had on his marriage. He shares the moment he was confronted regarding his addiction, the weight of the secrecy, and how this revelation became the turning point in his life.
A story of redemption, self-discovery, and the battle to break free—this is Terry Crews like you’ve never seen him before.
#TerryCrews #SexAddictionRecovery #Healing #OvercomingAddiction #MentalHealth #Relationships #SexAddiction #Relationships #Cheating
2025-02-2205 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsHow Do You Build Healthy Relationships With The RaabsmithsWhat does it take to have a healthy relationship??
Honesty, safety, trust, and vulnerability—these are the building blocks of true intimacy. It’s a process, a skill, and sometimes, a complete re-education.
#TrustBuilding #HealingTogether #Codependency #HealthyRelationships #SelfAwareness #SexAddiction #BetrayalTrauma #TheRabbsmiths #DanDrake
2025-02-1306 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsPartners Blamed for Sex Addiction With Barbara SteffensAre we doing enough to educate professionals on betrayal trauma and sex addiction?
Many therapists graduate without proper training in these areas, leaving people struggling to find the right support. If you're seeking help, it’s crucial to find a specialist who truly understands your experience—not just someone who checked a box.
#MentalHealthMatters #HealingJourney #BetrayalTrauma #BarbaraSteffens #Podcast #Sexaddiction #Addiction
2025-02-0805 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsBuilding True Intimacy book with The Raabsmiths and Dan DrakeMatthew and Joanna Raabsmith talk about their journey as a couple with sex addiction and betrayal trauma in recovery.
Together with Dan Drake they have written the Building True Intimacy workbook which gives couples a clear path towards healing.
2025-02-0404 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsDo We Truly Understand Betrayal Trauma? With Barbara SteffensMental health awareness has come a long way, but we still need more understanding about trauma, addiction, and healing.
Betrayal trauma, in particular, is widely not understood by addicts, therapists and the general public.
#MentalHealthMatters #HealingJourney #BetrayalTrauma #BarbaraSteffens #Podcast #Sexaddiction #Addiction
2025-02-0103 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsUnderstanding NarcissismIn this episode, we talk about the complex dynamics of narcissistic relationships with Dr. Janie Lacy, particularly focusing on how being with a narcissist can create lasting emotional harm.
Through relatable insights, we highlight how love bombing, devaluing, and discarding cycles play out in long-term relationships, leaving partners feeling inadequate or to blame. This conversation aims to provide clarity and empower individuals to shift from confusion and despair to self-healing and growth.
2025-01-2803 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsWhen to Leave a Relationship?In this episode, we break down the dynamics of toxic relationships with Dr. Janie Lacy, helping you identify patterns and behaviors that may dangerous. We explore the emotional roller coaster of push-pull dynamics and unfulfilled needs that keeps people stuck.
We also address the underlying feelings of abandonment, anxiety, and loneliness that can make it difficult to leave. This conversation aims to reduce shame, normalize these experiences, and remind viewers that anyone can find themselves in these situations. Tune in for valuable insights and practical guidance.
2025-01-2503 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsCodependency and Sex Addiction: Are They Connected?Today, we tackle the compelling question: Is codependency a part of sex addiction?
Through a dynamic conversation, we explore if and how codependency manifests in addiction and recovery.
We examine the intersection of addiction, control, and the veneer addicts use to manage how others perceive them, shedding light on the deeper dynamics at play. Whether you’re navigating addiction, recovery, or exploring the concept of codependency, this discussion provides valuable insights and guidance.
2025-01-2123 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsWhat is Codependency?In this episode, we explore the fine line between genuine care for others and the patterns of codependency. Through an insightful discussion, we examine the difference between healthy caregiving and behaviors that lead to self-depletion, resentment, or feelings of martyrdom.
Using real-world examples, we highlight how codependency often stems from a need to ensure others are okay to maintain personal well-being, while genuine care feels more balanced and self-sustaining.
#Codependency #HealthyRelationships #SelfAwareness #SexAddiction
2025-01-1804 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsCodependency part of Sex Addiction?In this episode, we talk about the complex world of codependency, exploring its roots, dynamics, and if it is a part of sex addiction. Drawing from expert insights, we unpack the definition of codependency.
Through thoughtful discussion, we examine the fear of expressing needs, the denial of self, and the deep-seated desire to manage others’ perceptions and emotions. This conversation sheds light on the unconscious patterns of codependency and offers valuable perspectives for those seeking to understand and address these behaviors.
#Codependency #RelationshipHealing #SelfAwareness #SexAddiction #BetrayalTrauma
2025-01-1405 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsA Deep Dive into Recovery and RelationshipsIn this special mailbag episode of Conversations on Sex, Addiction, and Relationships, we tackle a powerful question from a viewer about the addict wanting to be heard and seen in the relationship.
Through engaging analogies and thoughtful insights, our experts explore the critical importance of timing in addressing trauma, the challenges addicts face in expressing their needs, and the nuanced dynamics of rebuilding trust and connection.
From understanding the complexities of unmet needs to rebalancing power within a relationship, this rich conversation offers practical guidance and validation for couples navigating the path of recovery.
2025-01-1116 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsBuilding Trust After BetrayalWe want to speak to you about the delicate balance of addressing needs and rebuilding trust in relationships affected by sex addiction and betrayal trauma. We examine the early stages of recovery, emphasizing the importance of prioritizing the betrayed partner’s healing and grief before delving into deeper relationship dynamics.
Through expert insights, we unpack the challenges addicts face when focusing on their needs too soon and how this can hinder the rebuilding of trust and connection. The discussion dives into the nuances of unmet needs, the role of past experiences, and the intricate process of fostering mu...2025-01-0705 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsSex Addict Wants to be Heard Too!In this episode, we dive deep into the complex dynamics of healing relationships impacted by sex addiction and betrayal trauma. We discuss why addressing betrayal trauma must take priority before tackling broader relationship issues and how timing is a critical factor in the recovery process for both the addict and the partner.
We explore the challenges addicts face when expressing their needs during healing and why stabilization is essential before delving into deeper marital concerns. Join us as we shed light on these intricate topics and provide valuable guidance for navigating the path toward recovery and reconnection. 2025-01-0405 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsIs Healing Possible After A Betrayal? Featuring Michelle MaysToday we speak with Michelle Mays, a leading voice in the field, we unwrap topics like betrayal blindness, relational fear, and the empowering journey of recovery. With compassion and evidence-based approaches, Michelle provides tools and perspectives to help individuals navigate complex emotions, reclaim their reality, and find healing. Whether you're on your own recovery path or looking to support others, this episode offers hope and actionable strategies.
#Cheating #Infidelity #Relationships #Trust #SexAddiction #BetrayalTrauma #Honesty #Communication #Podcast2024-12-3107 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsHow Does Attachment & Betrayal Correlate With Michelle MaysToday we explore the profound connections between attachment, trauma, and healing. Featuring expert insights from thought leaders like Michelle Mays, we dive into topics such as betrayal trauma, attachment systems, and the phases of relational recovery.
Michelle Mays brings a wealth of knowledge and compassionate strategies, offering a holistic and research-driven approach to emotional well-being. Whether you're on a personal journey of healing or looking to deepen your understanding of these transformative topics, you're in the right place.
#Cheating #Infidelity #Relationships #Trust #SexAddiction #BetrayalTrauma #Honesty #Communication #Podcast
2024-12-2907 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsCheating and Infidelity: Signs, Confronting, and Healing in RelationshipsIn today’s episode, we dive deep into the complex topic of cheating and infidelity. We explore what it really means to cheat in a relationship—whether it's crossing physical boundaries or keeping significant secrets. We discuss the emotional impact, the signs to watch for, and how partners can handle the discovery of infidelity.
This isn't a “how-to” guide but an open, honest conversation aimed at shedding light on this sensitive issue. We cover everything from subtle emotional betrayals to the crucial importance of trust and communication in a relationship. Whether you're dealing with infidelity in your own rela...2024-12-2324 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsCheating: How Do You Know?In today's video, we dive into the subtle signs that may indicate someone is being cheated on, even when there’s no hard evidence. If you’ve noticed changes in behavior, communication, or secrecy and suspect something might be wrong in your relationship, this video offers insights into what to look for. From evasive maneuvers, unaccounted-for time, and mysterious texts to unusual financial behavior and phone secrecy, we explore the red flags that could suggest infidelity.
Should you confront your partner, or could there be another explanation?
We share some important tips on how to hand...2024-12-2105 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsHow To Ask If Your Partner Is CheatingFrom intuition and secret behaviors to difficult conversations in today's episode we dive into how someone can identify the signs of infidelity and express their feelings.
We also discuss the importance of having clear, ongoing conversations with your partner about boundaries, behaviors, and expectations. Relationships are unique, and the line between acceptable and unacceptable behavior can be subtle. We share tips on how to keep communication open, address concerns early, and adjust expectations as the relationship evolves.
Whether you're navigating your own suspicions or just looking to understand how infidelity can impact a relationship, this...2024-12-1704 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsWomen's Connection Between Sex and Love Addiction with Heather Cronemiller, CSATToday we sit down with Heather Cronemiller, CSAT, to discuss her book Going Deeper for Women: How the Inner Child Impacts Your Love and Sex Addiction. Written alongside Lacey Bentley and Eddie Caprucci, this groundbreaking book explores the connection between sex and love addiction and unresolved childhood trauma.
In this episode, we dive deep into the nuances of love and sex addiction, particularly from a female perspective, and explore how inner child work can play a significant role in healing. Cronemiller shares her expertise and experience, shedding light on how addiction often stems from unmet emotional needs...2024-12-1436 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsSex and Love Addiction for WomenIn this episode with guest Heather Cronemiller, we dive deep into the powerful concept of inner child work, especially in the context of addiction, trauma, and healing. We discuss how our inner child can take over when we face unmet needs, and how coping mechanisms like seeking validation through unhealthy relationships or behaviors often stem from these wounded parts.
Discover how to recognize when your inner child is activated and how to step in as your functional adult to offer comfort and healing.
Whether you're working through love addiction, trauma, or healing from past wounds...2024-12-1005 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsHow To Heal Love Addiction for Women With Inner Child WorkFrom visualizing our younger selves to nurturing those parts of us that still need love, care, and attention, we talk with guest Heather Cronemiller to explore how these practices help us heal, especially from love addiction.
While the work is deeply personal, both men and women can benefit from this approach—though there are differences unique to each.
👉 Ready to explore more about healing and recovery?
Hit the subscribe button, leave a comment sharing your experience with your inner child work, and make sure to like this video if it resonated with you!
Sta...2024-12-0705 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsMastering Communication: Tools to Navigate Reactivity and Build Connection With Sherod Miller and Dan LordJoin us with our special guest Sherod Miller and Dan Lord, we dive into the critical topic of communication and effective tools for connection.
In this episode, we welcome special guests Sherrod Miller and Dan Lord, creators of the innovative Awareness Wheel. This practical tool, supported by neuroscience and years of research, offers insight into personal and relational dynamics. They’ve developed two comprehensive workbooks: one for deepening inner awareness and another for enhancing interaction skills. Learn more at awarenesswheel.com and couplescommunication.com.
🧠 Let’s bridge the gap between science and relationships to create meaningful change.
#EffectiveCommunication #AwarenessW...2024-12-0342 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsA Guide to Building Connection & Understanding with Sherod Miller and Dan LordUnlock the power of the Awareness Wheel in this insightful video with Sherod Miller and Dan Lord. This framework breaks down human perception, emotions, thoughts, and actions to enhance communication, build stronger relationships, and resolve conflicts. Learn how each zone—Action, Sensory Data, Thoughts, Emotions, and Wants—can transform your understanding of yourself and others.
Discover how focusing on both wants for self and wants for others leads to healthier, more meaningful connections. Whether you're a professional or just someone looking to improve your interpersonal skills, this tool is a game-changer!
#AwarenessWheel #PsychologyTools #CommunicationSkills #ConflictResolution #Self...2024-11-3005 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsThe Four R's: Transforming Reactions with the Awareness Wheel with Sherod Miller and Dan LordIn this episode, we with special guests Sherod Miller and Dan Lord explore another transformative element of the Awareness Wheel: recognizing and managing our reactions. Reactions are deeply rooted in our body and mind, and understanding them is a key step toward emotional balance and intentional action. 🌟
Learn how to identify reactions and navigate them with the Four R’s framework:
1️⃣ Recognize: Catch the reaction early and name it—""name it to tame it.""
2️⃣ Rebalance: Center yourself through mindfulness and breathwork to restore calm.
3️⃣ Reflect: Turn inward to analyze and understand what triggered the reaction.
4️⃣ R...2024-11-2605 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsAddressing Sex Addiction, Infidelity, and Relationship DynamicsIn this special ""Mailbag"" episode of Conversations on Sex, Addiction, and Relationships, you ask and we listened to your listener-submitted questions about navigating complex issues around sex addiction, infidelity, and relationship struggles. From differentiating between addiction and betrayal to understanding love addiction and managing gaslighting, our team tackles it all with a compassionate, open approach.
We share insights into recognizing patterns, assessing behaviors, and finding effective ways to seek help, including professional assessments and personal support options.
Join the conversation as we answer your questions and work towards healthier relationships together.
#Addiction #RelationshipAdvice #In...2024-11-2323 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsIs An Affair Sex Addiction?📬 Mailbag Question: ""Is my partner's infidelity a sign of sex addiction or just bad behavior?""
In this discussion, we explore the differences between infidelity and addictive behavior. When does a pattern of cheating signal a deeper issue like love or sex addiction? We dive into the key signs—obsession, compulsive behavior, using the affair as a coping mechanism—and the importance of identifying patterns across multiple behaviors. Addiction often goes beyond a single behavior, showing up in a ""trifecta"" of actions like pornography, fantasy, or inappropriate boundaries.
Not sure how to distinguish between harmful habits and add...2024-11-1903 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsConvinced Husband Is A Sex Addict - What Do I Do?📬 Mailbag Question: ""I'm convinced my husband is a sex addict, but he won’t admit it. When I confront him, he denies everything—even things I’ve seen myself. Gaslighting and rage have become the norm. How can I encourage him to open up? I want to work on this because I love him.""
In this episode, we unpack this listener's question about managing a partner’s denial and gaslighting, especially when it involves addiction concerns. We discuss the importance of setting boundaries, effective ways to communicate, and the essential steps to take for your own mental health. Rem...2024-11-1605 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsDr. Patrick Carnes, father of sex addiction, speaks.Dr. Carnes, who first identified sex addiction, shares...
Throughout this engaging discussion, Dr. Carnes shares his journey of pioneering sex addiction treatment and delves into the scientific understanding of addiction as it relates to both adults and children. He reflects on decades of doing therapy and conducting research on sex addiction but all addictions and his view of the future
Tune in to hear insights on how addiction impacts younger generations, the role of technology, and why understanding sex addiction is more relevant than ever.
#Sexaddiction #Addiction #Podcast #SexualAddiction #BetrayalTrauma #PatrickCarnes #IITAP
2024-11-1251 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsTechnology in Families causing sex addiction?Whether it's scrolling through our phones or getting lost in a digital world, fubbing can distance us from real connections with family and friends. This experience is common across families today, where parents and children alike may find themselves disconnected due to screen time.
As we look deeper, the shift in our culture from in-person to online interactions has impacted social development and even academic achievement. This shift is clear when comparing how kids and families used to connect through shared activities versus today’s digital distractions. By understanding fubbing, we can start to reshape these connections an...2024-11-0905 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsAddiction in Children with Patrick Carnes: Gaming, Internet & PornWhen we think of childhood illnesses, we often think of physical issues like heart disease or cancer. But addiction is affecting children in significant ways, and the evidence is growing. Around the world, researchers are finding that young people are being exposed to multiple addictive influences—gaming, the internet, and explicit content—at an alarming rate.
Every hour, hundreds of children are exposed to explicit content online, with about a third of them potentially facing lifelong struggles. In this video, we’ll explore these findings, real-world implications, and the challenges schools are facing in managing digital devices and co...2024-11-0705 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsExploring Psychedelics for Trauma Healing: Psilocybin and Beyond with Dr. Dan SuchIn this episode of Conversations on Sex, Addiction, and Relationships, hosts Wendy Conquest, Dan Drake, and Tim Stein dive deep into the world of psychedelics, specifically psilocybin. We are joined by Dr. Dan Such, a psilocybin facilitator and consultant, who shares his experience working at psilocybin retreat centers and guiding clients through this transformative process.
The conversation touches on the recent decriminalization of psilocybin in Colorado and the potential benefits of psilocybin for trauma healing, personal growth, and other forms of neuroplasticity. Dr. Dan Such explains the differences between microdosing and macro dosing, emphasizing the p...2024-10-2934 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsNavigating the Ethics and Safety of Psychedelic Retreats with Dr. Dan SuchIn this episode of Conversations on Sex, Addiction, and Relationships, we dive into the growing popularity of psychedelic retreats, discussing both the potential benefits and critical considerations. Our guest highlights concerns about unethical practices in some retreat centers where clinical oversight is lacking and boundaries may be violated. We explore how to properly vet a retreat center, including speaking with past participants, researching the staff-to-guest ratio, and assessing the center's reputation.
Additionally, we emphasize the importance of doing your own emotional work before embarking on a psychedelic journey, ensuring that the experience complements an ongoing healing process...2024-10-2504 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsExploring Psychedelic-Assisted Healing: Microdosing and Trauma Recovery With Dr. Dan SuchIn this episode of Conversations on Sex, Addiction, and Relationships, we talk about the growing interest in psychedelic-assisted healing, specifically microdosing and its impact on trauma recovery. Our guest Dr. Dan Such shares their experience working with clients who have microdosed and attended ayahuasca retreats, highlighting the lasting benefits observed in their mental health and emotional well-being.
We explore how psychedelic experiences can help break through old patterns, stabilize emotional gains, and create long-lasting healing, even when conventional treatments reach a plateau. Join us for an enlightening conversation on how alternative treatments like psilocybin and ayahuasca are...2024-10-2101 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsWomen in Love Addiction Recovery: A Conversation with Dr. Janie LacyWelcome to another episode of Conversations on Sex, Addiction, and Relationships with Tim Stein, Judy Vitone, and Wendy Conquest. In this special episode, we are thrilled to have Dr. Janie Lacy as our guest. Janie is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT) who has done extensive work with women in recovery from love addiction. She also founded the Women Redeemed program, helping women reclaim their lives from unhealthy relationship patterns.
We dive deep into love addiction, women's recovery, and how Janie's approach has changed the lives of countless women. Learn about the challenges women face in seeking...2024-10-1637 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsBreaking Free from Toxic Relationships: Why Leaving Is So Hard? With Dr. Janie LacyEver wondered if you're in a toxic relationship? In this video, Dr. Janie Lacy breaks down the key signs to look for—like obsessive behavior, emotional roller coasters, and the painful cycle of trying to leave but being pulled back. She also touches on the common misconception of narcissism and how it impacts relationships. If you've ever felt trapped in unhealthy relationship patterns, this video is for you. Stay tuned for our full episode with Dr. Janie Lacy.
2024-10-1403 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsNarcissism in Relationships: Understanding Covert Abuse and Breaking Free With Janie LacyIn our latest video, Dr. Janie Lacy speaks on the complexities of narcissistic relationships, particularly with covert narcissists who often go undetected. She explains how these dynamics trap women in toxic cycles for years, leaving them feeling confused and blaming themselves. Stay tuned for our full episode with Dr. Janie Lacy.
2024-10-1203 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsIs This You? How to Recognize Signs of a Toxic Relationship with Dr. Janie LacyEver wondered if you're in a toxic relationship? In this video, Janie breaks down the key signs to look for—like obsessive behavior, emotional roller coasters, and the painful cycle of trying to leave but being pulled back. She also touches on the common misconception of narcissism and how it impacts relationships. If you've ever felt trapped in unhealthy relationship patterns, this video is for you. Stay tuned for our full episode with Dr. Janie Lacy.
2024-10-1005 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsFrom Trauma to Healing: Dr.Janie Lacy's Journey into Love Addiction RecoveryDr. Janie Lacy shares how her career in counseling began, sparked by a pivotal experience with a young client who survived sexual assault. This led her to explore trauma, love addiction, and eventually join the CSAT community. Subscribe for more insightful conversations and empowering stories! Stay tuned for our full episode with Dr. Janie Lacy.
2024-10-0905 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsSex Addiction Therapists Get RealIn this episode, they provide insight into how we balance empathy, accountability, and challenge while working with addicts. We explore the complexities of detecting deception, handling relapses, and creating safe spaces for clients to share their struggles. This candid conversation offers a deep dive into the nuances of therapy for sex addiction and the transformative power of recovery.
2024-09-2733 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsWhy We Love Working with Sex Addicts?Working with sex addicts can be deeply challenging but also incredibly rewarding. In this discussion, we share our experiences and perspectives on why we are passionate about this specialty. The work isn't just about addressing sexual dysfunction or relational issues; it's about guiding people through their journey of healing, transformation, and self-restoration. We talk about the privilege of being trusted to help clients navigate their shame, trauma, and pain, and how we help them turn these dark experiences into growth and hope.
2024-09-2505 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsQuick Conversations: Balancing Empathy and AccountabilityThe discussion also touches on balancing empathy with accountability. While it's important to avoid shaming the client, it's equally essential not to minimize their relapse. The approach includes both encouragement and challenge, analyzing what happened and identifying steps to prevent future relapses.
The goal is to help clients harness feelings of regret as motivation for change, without letting them fall into a deep shame spiral. This balanced approach seems to foster more open communication and honesty from clients regarding their behaviors.
2024-09-2305 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsMailbag: Relapse and Recovery With Sex AddictionToday’s mailbag episode tackles a complex question from a listener about relapse and recovery.
The question revolves around the pain of discovering a partner’s hidden sex addiction and the struggle with the concept that relapse is part of recovery. We explore whether relapse is acceptable or justifiable, discuss the impact on partners, and delve into the accountability of sex addicts.
We address the idea that while relapse can occur, it’s not an excuse for continued harmful behavior. Our discussion highlights the importance of clear expectations and accountability in recovery, and we offer insigh...2024-09-2023 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsWould the treatment for sex addiction differ if most addicts were women instead of men?Would the treatment for sex addiction differ if most addicts were women instead of men?
Clinically, the model remains the same for both genders, holding all addicts to the same standards of recovery. However, societal perceptions often differ, giving different leniencies to men and women. While the treatment approach focuses on ""progress, not perfection"" for everyone, societal and partner reactions to addiction and relapse can vary based on gender dynamics.
Stay tuned for our future video!
2024-09-1805 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsIs Relapse an Excuse? The Hard Truth About Addiction, Sobriety, and RecoveryIn our latest discussion, we explore the complex issue of addiction, relapse, and recovery, particularly in the context of sex addiction. The central question is whether it is ""okay"" for a sex addict to cause harm to their partner and family, with the justification that ""relapse is part of recovery.""
While relapse may occur for some addicts, it is not ""okay"" or an excuse for harmful behavior. There is a distinction between sobriety and recovery; sobriety is the starting point, and recovery involves ongoing work to heal the damage caused by addiction. Stay tuned for our future v...2024-09-1604 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsTechnology's Influence on RelationshipsJoin us for an insightful discussion on the double-edged sword of technology in today's world, featuring Tim Stein, Jeannie Vittoni, Dan Drake, and Wendy Conquest. In this episode, we dive into how technology shapes our lives and relationships, the impact it has on our brain chemistry and development, and the challenges we face in staying truly connected.
Drawing insights from an interview with Dr. Pat Carnes, we explore topics like screen time, social isolation, and the addictive nature of our devices. From personal stories to research findings, we discuss how to find balance and stay mindful in...2024-09-1325 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsQuick Conversations: Are we happier with cell phonesDid you know that 39% of Americans report feeling lonely or lacking significant relationships? In today's episode, we explore the growing sense of isolation and disconnection many of us feel in our technology-driven world. From walking our dogs while glued to our phones to missing out on real-life interactions, we're slowly burying ourselves in our devices. We discuss an alarming trend: the inverse relationship between a country's wealth (GDP) and its happiness levels. Stay tuned for our future episode.
2024-09-1105 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsQuick Conversations: Don't Touch My PhoneHave you ever thought about how often you reach for your phone daily? In this episode, we dive into our growing attachment to technology—phones, computers, and beyond. Stay tuned for our future episode.
2024-09-0905 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsHealing From Sexual Betrayal with Dr. Barbara Steffens, PhD, BCC, CCPS, CPCToday, we are thrilled to host Barbara Steffens, a trailblazer in betrayal trauma research. Barbara shares her groundbreaking PhD study, which revealed that nearly 70% of betrayed partners met the criteria for PTSD. Discover how her work has reshaped the understanding of betrayal trauma and the treatment of affected partners. Don't miss this insightful discussion with a true pioneer in the field.
2024-08-0931 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsQuick Conversations: How Is Trauma Recognized In Betrayed Partners with Dr. Barbara Steffens, PhD, BCC, CCPS, CPCIn this video, we explore the early days of recognizing trauma in betrayed partners, particularly focusing on the impact of infidelity. Dr. Barbara Steffens shares her journey, highlighting the anxiety and determination she felt while presenting their groundbreaking work around 2006-2008. Stay tuned for our upcoming full-length video soon.
2024-08-0605 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsQuick Conversations: What Happens To Partners Who Were Betrayed & Experience Trauma with Dr. Barbara Steffens, PhD, BCC, CCPS, CPCIn our latest episode, we speak on the groundbreaking PhD study that explores whether partners who were betrayed experienced trauma and to what degree. With a background in trauma and crisis intervention, we discuss with Dr. Barbara Steffens, PhD, BCC, CCPS, CPC, a researcher set out to understand this dynamic beyond the traditional labels of co-addiction and codependency. Stay tuned for our full episode.
2024-08-0402 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsConversations: Betrayal Violence with Hope RayeWelcome to Conversations on Sex, Addiction, and Relationships with Dan Drake and guests Wendy Conquest, Jeannie Vittone, and Tim Stein. Today, they delve into the challenging topic of betrayal violence with therapist and magazine creator Hope Ray. Hope introduces the concept, defining betrayal violence as a complex dynamic involving secrecy, repeated fidelity violations, and abusive behavior.
2024-06-2447 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsQuick Conversations: Men Support GroupsIn this insightful conversation, Hope Ray discusses her work with men in a support group called Getting Dire Straight, where they delve into sensitive topics like male entitlement and misogyny.
2024-06-2105 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsQuick Conversations: What are the dynamics of relationships affected by addiction and betrayal?In this episode, we speak with special guest Hope Ray on the dynamics of power and control in relationships affected by addiction and betrayal. We discuss how withholding essential information creates a power imbalance and restricts a partner's agency, ultimately leading to exploitation and harm. The conversation emphasizes the importance of transparency and informed consent in rebuilding trust and fostering healthy relationships post-recovery.
2024-06-1705 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsConversations: Dating After A Break UpIn this episode of Conversations on Sex, Addiction, and Relationships, we discuss the topic of dating for partners after a relationship ends. We explore the challenges faced by partners when relationships don't work out, emphasizing the lack of conversation and support for those navigating life after a breakup or divorce.
2024-06-1442 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsQuick Conversations: Why Is It Important To Have A Support System In The Dating Scene?In this discussion, we delve into offering guidance for betrayed partners re-entering the dating scene post-recovery. We emphasize the importance of building a supportive social network before diving into dating. Self-exploration and identity formation are key steps to feeling confident and secure before seeking new relationships. Instead of viewing trust and safety as binary, we encourage seeing them as degrees, allowing for gradual progress.
2024-06-1004 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsQuick Conversations: Betrayed Partners & Dating Scene Post-RecoveryIn this discussion, we explore the challenges of readiness and intimacy for betrayed partners entering the dating scene post-recovery. We challenge the cultural pressure to rush into sexual encounters and advocate for a more deliberate approach to building emotional connections. By reframing the question to focus on compatibility and emotional safety, we highlight the importance of self-awareness and setting boundaries.
2024-06-0705 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsQuick Conversations: What happens when partners end a relationship with a partner with addiction?In this heartfelt discussion, we delve into the challenges partners face when deciding to end a relationship affected by addiction and trauma. We explore the complex emotions of sadness, relief, fear, and excitement that accompany this decision, highlighting the importance of acknowledging and processing grief and loss.
The conversation emphasizes the significance of trauma healing and self-discovery as essential steps towards embracing empowerment and vulnerability in new relationships.2024-06-0305 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsConversations: Disclosure to Children with Casey AllisonToday, we're discussing the impact of sexual betrayal on families and children, a vital but often overlooked topic.
We're excited to have Casey Allison, a certified partner coach, who has created a unique children's book addressing this issue. Her book provides age-appropriate explanations about betrayal and recovery, featuring beautiful illustrations. Casey's experience as a mother of nine gives her valuable insights on helping children understand and cope.
Join us for this important discussion. Don't forget to like, comment, and subscribe!
2024-05-3140 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsConversations: Can a Betrayed Partner Traumatize the Addict?In this insightful discussion, we explore the nuanced dynamics of trauma within relationships affected by addiction. We consider the possibility that partners' behaviors, both before and after discovery, can contribute to the addict's experience of trauma. By examining the interplay between autonomy, codependency, and unconscious coping mechanisms, we gain a deeper understanding of how trauma manifests in these complex relationships.
2024-05-2732 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsQuick Conversations: How Does Abandonment Correlate With Addiction?In this thought-provoking discussion, we delve into the concept of abandonment wounds in relationships affected by addiction. We explore the idea that partners' actions, such as focusing on personal goals or life changes, may inadvertently exacerbate these wounds, potentially contributing to addictive behaviors in the addict.
2024-05-2405 minConversations on Sex, Addiction, and RelationshipsQuick Conversations: Can Addicts Be Enabled By Their Partners?In this discussion, we explore whether partners enable addictive behaviors in relationships affected by addiction. We note that while some partners may engage in behaviors to stay connected to the addict, we hesitate to label it as enabling. Our conversation highlights the complexity of addressing both addiction and underlying issues in therapy, emphasizing the need for comprehensive approaches to relationship dynamics impacted by addiction.
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