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Connected Divergents70. Lived Experience Template: self-coaching through a rumination spiral :)2025-06-2818 minConnected Divergents70. Lived Experience Template: Self-coaching through a rumination spiral :)2025-06-2818 minConnected Divergents69. "Where did that fiery little girl go?"In this episode, I read a personal essay about growing up as an undiagnosed PDA-profile autistic child. It’s a story about control, shame, and the misunderstood ways resistance shows up in kids who are fighting for autonomy. I talk about meltdowns, self-harm, emotional neglect, and the long path toward healing and self-trust.This is about what happens when you bury parts of yourself to survive... and what it looks like to slowly bring them home.Content note: This episode includes reflections on childhood trauma, spanking, emotional neglect, self-harm, and depression. Please listen with care.2025-06-1811 minConnected Divergents68. Outcome-based vs Process-based GoalsThe start of this episode features Biscuit's purring! :D Quick lil dive on how if you're neurodivergent, you might be better-off setting process-based goals instead of outcome-based goals. Outcome-based goals tend to be fairly rigid, and often feel very 'far away'. With process-based goals, we are here to have you feeling focusing on there here & now, and the present that's right in front of you—not a distant dream for a some-day, one-day future! 2025-06-0516 minConnected Divergents67. Breaking away from rumination spiralsIn this episode, I'm sharing a recent discovery about a "program" that runs in my brain when I'm feeling unsafe: the belief that I need to do MORE to fix it and reach safety. But the truth is, doing more & more & more only heightens my stress and anxiety—and makes me feel very, very unsafe. I'm talking about a framework and perspective on what actually reinforces the experience of safety—not to fix the problem at hand, but to close the loop on the "I'm not doing enough" program itself.2025-05-2222 minConnected Divergents66. Did an allergy spray fix my burnout?!?I think I might actually be coming out of burnout—and the turning point was... an allergy spray? In this episode, I'm sharing my experiences navigating burnout, the subtle shifts and surprising changes I've been noticing lately, and how a new medication has unexpectedly started reshaping my relationship with work, rest, and energy. If you've ever struggled with burnout, this one's for you.2025-04-2839 min
WildmakingEight Gentle Ways to Transition Into Creative WorkDo you often find it hard to kick off a creative session? Transition activities can be a game-changer, helping you ease more gently into creative work. Let's explore eight ideas to get you started...Mentioned this episode:Read this episode on the blogCreating Presence courseAuDHD coach Tina EthridgeOther links:Discover my Wildmaking membership Explore my Everything page2025-04-1009 minConnected Divergents65. CBT vs DBT vs ACT for AuDHD? My personal experiencesDisclaimer: This episode is not medical advice. It reflects my personal, highly subjective experiences with ACT, CBT, and DBT. Please talk to a qualified professional for support tailored to you!Resources:dbt.toolsBook rec: ACT Made Simple by Russ Harris2025-04-0852 minConnected Divergents64. Creative Persistence: Why Sticking with the Problem Leads to SolutionsIn today's episode I'm sharing a tool for reflection and curiosity that I am LOVING for building intimacy around the things you want/love to do (but are finding very hard to do!). Updates on how I've figured out what works for my brain & body around movement, and ways that I've incorporated what works for me with movement into my writing practice!Instagram Post: Thinking about doing the thing COUNTS as doing the thingEssay: 'This Counts as Work' for Burnout Recovery2025-03-1146 minConnected Divergents63. Why I don't use transactional rewards systemsIn this episode, I chat through my thoughts on why I don’t use transactional rewards systems. This is more of an exploratory, verbally-processing kind of episode as I try to untangle my feelings about rewards, motivation, and what actually works for me (and maybe for you too!). It’s a casual, chatty deep dive into the nuance of motivation and why gold stars don’t always do it for me.2025-02-2625 minConnected Divergents62. An Introspective on Four Thousand Weeks by Oliver BurkemanAn introspective exploration after reading Four Thousand Weeks by Oliver Burkeman! Thoughts about what I enjoyed from this book, what didn't hit for me, and what still chewing on after reading in. SPOILERS AHEAD!2025-02-2134 minConnected Divergents61. Why I *dislike* reading books about ADHD??I've felt this way for a long time... Why do I feel such a strong dislike towards reading books about ADHD? I'm an ADHD coach! Should I enjoy them??? Diving in with you to explore why, and sharing some *book recs* for the books I absolutely freaking ADORED and what made them different!**Thank you for being patient as I refigure my audio quality settings! This episode has a lot of pops in it, and I wish it didn't—I promise I'm trying really hard to work out new settings after having to move my setup into th...2025-01-3020 minConnected Divergents60. When systems/tools/apps meet Demand AvoidanceI've had a REALIZATION hit me the last few days on why I'm no longer using apps/services like Flow Club (Ep 57) or even the Capacity Compass I talked about earlier this week (Ep 59)—they are too filled with *demands* to be sustainable for my brain wiring. Here's what happened for me to realize this, and the "strategy" I am replacing them with to reclaim my autonomy!Episode 3: Intentional NoveltyApps/Services Mentioned:RescueTimeBoss As a ServiceFlow Club2025-01-2330 minConnected Divergents59. Capacity Compass for High/Med/Low Brain DaysLook, some days you're ready to conquer the world and some days putting on matching socks feels like a win. In this episode, we're diving into a chill way to roll with whatever energy you've got: the high/medium/low capacity compass! It's like a choose-your-own-adventure for your tasks, but make it realistic. No more pretending you're a productivity robot - instead, pick from your personalized menu of options based on whether you're feeling like a sparkly unicorn or more like a sleepy sloth. Because hey, doing something small still counts as doing the thing!2025-01-2121 minConnected Divergents58. Dreams for 2025The difference between setting "goals" and setting "intentions" and sharing my dreams for 2025! Do you have some for this year? Share with me @comfortandkindness on Instagram, or tina@comfortandkindness.co. You can also find my latest essays & newsletter archive over on Substack! 2025-01-0122 minConnected Divergents57. Am I not supposed to be shiny?I love feeling shiny. But sometimes, I'm my sparkly, warm self and it ends up getting me hurt. Is this just masking? Is this a trauma response—fawning? Is it patriarchal expectations that have been brainwashed into me? Or is it my authentic nature? How do I untangle it all? And what's the reason why all of the help I've received in therapy ("just set boundaries!!) has never been enough? Find out why with me in this episode.2024-12-1831 minConnected Divergents56. 'Flow Club' for body doubling!!??Have you ever tried the platform 'Flow Club' for body doubling?! I actually am so surprised, but I really have been enjoying it this week!! Breaking down why I prefer it over other platforms like FocusMate—this is coming as someone who historically has loathed and detested body doubling on principle (and I have a whole episode that explains why—Ep 41, When body doubling feels like Masking!). Take a peek!! Here's a link to try it out!2024-11-2913 minConnected Divergents55. Hurricane Helene UpdateJust a quick little ep to break the seal for me when it comes to podcast recording again—Updating you on my life after Hurricane Helene, the challenges I am navigating, the priorities I have for taking care of myself, and the mindsets that are carrying me through. ❤️🩹2024-10-2222 minConnected Divergents54. How to Build Intrinsic Motivation with AuDHDIn this episode, I dive into the difference between intrinsic vs. extrinsic motivation, especially for those of us with ADHD. Learn how to build and nurture your own intrinsic motivation to get things done in a way that feels good and sustainable. Whether you're tired of relying on external rewards or struggling to tap into your inner drive, this one's for you! 2024-09-1835 minConnected Divergents53. When you hate exercise & have a negative relationship with moving your bodyDISCLAIMER: I am not a personal trainer or a medical professional!! This is not medical advice! These are just my thoughts, opinions, and experiences as someone who has a strong personal connection to this and has struggled for *years* with negative and self-punishing experiences around movement. Thanks for listening! 2024-09-051h 03Connected Divergents52. My lifelong medication journey as a late-diagnosed ADHD'erDISCLAIMER: This is not medical advice! In this ep I am diving way back to my early childhood, adolescence, young adulthood, college, and working life about my misdiagnoses & all of the meds that I took that were not right for my brain—what it felt like to try stimulants after my ADHD diagnosis, and why I later decided to get off of them in 2022. Currently contemplating whether I want to give stimulants another shot or not, but being okay sitting in the unknown. Show Notes: Growing up as an internalized PDAer from the At Peace Parents Podcast2024-08-161h 04Connected Divergents51. showing up authentically + unmasking journey thoughtsIn this episode I say a big thank you for 10,000 downloads and share what it means to me to be able to show up authentically without masking, and without the thought of, "If I don't mask, then I won't be perceived as worthy/good enough." Chatting about how academia + education pressures us to write in a certain "professional" way instead of cultivating our authentic voice (at least for my line of education!) and how I used makeup as "armor" for so many years. And also about the idea of "regressing" and how yes, it can be true in some...2024-08-0219 minConnected Divergents50. ADHD/AuDHD Journaling Tips + Keeping a "Lab Notebook"Talking about ADHD+AuDHD-affirming tips for journaling and why it can be helpful to keep a "lab notebook" style journal instead of a diary to help you experiment with your brain ☺️Episodes referenced: Episode 9, Storm Journaling & Emotional Dysregulation + Episode 19, How to Come Back to "Doing the Thing" After Time Away (about persistence!)YouTube video referenced ~ Commonplace books for self-discovery2024-07-1734 minConnected Divergents49. Entering Autonomy & Agency as a Resource StateWhat does it feel like to be free from the heavy, sticky state of "DEMAND," and enter the lighter and freer space of autonomy and personal agency, away from demands? 2024-07-1026 minConnected Divergents48: "Comfort Zones" Framework: Breaking Away from the All-or-NothingWhat are "comfort zones" when you're AuDHD and how do we "get out of our comfort zone" when we're neurodivergent??? In this episode, I take a neurodiversity-affirming approach to the idea of comfort zones, sharing a few examples of how I've approached it in my own life. Listen in for nuggets about making class webinars in a way that doesn't feel dangerous, Magic The Gathering and socializing as an autistic person, and dog training!2024-07-0340 minConnected Divergents47. Radically Self-Accepting a Meltdown & Post-Meltdown BreakdownI had a meltdown this week…. And I actually embraced it? Listen in to hear some post-meltdown reflections and analysis, and my key takeaways from what I learned from this experience. (Also! I got a cat!!!)2024-06-0718 minConnected Divergents46. Why “should” we be breaking up with neurotypical social scripts?So many of our cultural scripts tell us that there’s a “right” way to do things. If you’re going to write, you have to use a real computer with a keyboard. If you’re going to make art, you need a studio. If you’re going to do the dishes, it has to look THIS way. These scripts are worth questioning, because so often, the wisdom of our brain’s resistance is saying, “There is a social script here we believe to be correct and ‘right’, but it doesn’t not work for me to do it this way. I need...2024-05-2415 minConnected Divergents45. When to *Pause* (instead of desperately searching outwards for answers)On "the fertile void" and the spirit of being willing and open to receive, instead of chasing after the answers.2024-05-1736 minConnected Divergents44. Why you need a Close Why *AND* a Far Away WhyYou PROBABLY have a "far away why" for the things you want & need to do. But do you have a "close why"? Is it close enough? Listen to learn more about this expanded neurodiversity-affirming framework for "finding your why!"2024-05-0929 minConnected Divergents43. When "tricking yourself" to do it stops working."I just don't wanna" and The Power of a Visit2024-05-0122 minConnected Divergents42. The (MULTIPLE!) Stages of Making A ChangeIf you have something pop into your head about yourself or your life that you want to make a change in, **action is not step one**. Action is actually step FOUR, and there are three other critically important stages to move through before even beginning to take action. Listen to hear more about a self-compassionate approach to creating change in our lives.2024-04-1926 minConnected Divergents41. When body doubling feels like MASKING???If you've ever used body doubling in the past to great success, but have found that the shininess of this tool has worn off for you, and now you're at the point where you know you *could* use body doubling resources, but your brain is like NAHHHHH.... This episode is for you. If you have thoughts to share about ideas for unmasked & radically neurodivergent-affirming body doubling, please reach out to me at @comfortandkindness on Instagram or tina@comfortandkindness.co!2024-04-0434 min
Unreasonably happy36 - The Tina one! - Finding the right kind of hard, the ripple effects of joy and 7000 other things (like strawberries!)Tina Ethridge is one of my favorite humans to follow online for acceptance and gentle self kindness reminders, which makes perfect sense, as she is a radical ADHD and AuDHD acceptance coach.
In this glorious all-over-the-place conversation we touch on so many elements of happiness and figuring out who we are, topics of fun and joy and pleasure, how to work with your brain, how to know if you're feeling joy, what a happiness-worker is and a ton of non-sense. I hope you'll love it as much as I do!
Find more info below and...2024-03-261h 27Connected Divergents40. Post-Meltdown Reflections 1.5, an UpdateJust wanted to share an update post-post-meltdown now that I'm feeling better & my head is feeling less fuzzy/cloudy. Grateful for the support of kind people. May we all find our people. 2024-03-2010 minConnected Divergents39. Post-Meltdown ReflectionsThis week I had an autistic meltdown. IT WAS NOT FUN! I wanted to share my insights and reflections on it, in case it helps anyone feel less alone in the experience. I see you. I'm with you.2024-03-1630 min
The Neurocuriosity Club Podcast141 | Harm Reduction for auDHD with TinaToday we’re talking to Tina Ethridge, an ADHD and auDHD acceptance coach, about auDHD harm reduction and radical self-acceptance. We discuss:
breaking away from all or nothing thinking
persistence based mindset vs consistency based mindset
what is harm reduction
how radical self-acceptance and self-compassionate has helped Tina find peace
how “storm journaling” has helped Tina validate their emotional experiences and hold space for their feelings
Tina’s experience as a PDAer
creating a relationship with your brain
& making it safe to do less
...2024-03-0948 minConnected Divergents38. When you feel like your needs are an inconvenience to othersAre you carrying an old wound like me, where you feel like your needs are an inconvenience to others, even though all of the evidence you have suggests otherwise? And even though maybe you know its objectively "a good thing" to communicate your needs & your feelings, you're also kind of like... BUT WHY? Why why why? Why would I do this? Why not just deal with it myself? Aren't my feelings my own responsibility??? What's the point of sharing what your needs and your feelings are when you can theoretically regulate your own emotions??... #lonewolf. If you're reading this...2024-03-0748 minConnected Divergents37. How to feel proud & self-celebrate—on purpose!In this episode I talk about neuroplasticity frameworks for feeling proud & celebrating ourselves when we have a disconnect between the cognitive experience of—"Yeah, I would like to feel proud of myself about this"—and the deeper, embodied, somatic and emotional experience of feeling proud of ourselves. Also, in this one, I sing you a little song ☺️🎶2024-02-2320 minConnected Divergents36. Why we NEED to be "F*cking around and faffing about""Your brain will do it when it's ready to do it," is a profound truth for me. BUT, sometimes, we can't always wait! Sometimes we have hard deadlines and rigid timelines. So, what do we do then??? The mindset that I talk about today dives into a more active approach that still allows for the intuition and subconscious-level processing that many ADHD + AuDHD brains *need* when it comes to doing the things we want to do.2024-02-1524 minConnected Divergents35. "What if it's meant to feel easy?"WHAT IF IT'S ACTUALLY MEANT TO BE EASY??? In this episode we dive into resource states and neuroplasticity frameworks for creative problem solving when we're experiencing executive dysfunction!2024-02-0117 minConnected Divergents34. Masking & Unmasking with Guest Peter HarrisonIn this episode I explore with the pod's first guest, Peter Harrison about autism assessments, masking & unmasking, and what it feels like to mask (and how to approach unmasking!). 2024-01-2657 minConnected Divergents33. When every week is a sh*t week & on blowing up your lifeOkay, cool, let's normalize shit weeks, yes... But what do we do when every week feels like a shit week? How do we know what requires radical self-acceptance, and what requires radical change? In this episode I talk about the circumstances in which it might actually be a good thing for someone blow up their whole life.2024-01-1916 minConnected Divergents32. When your New Year isn't feeling very *Sparkly*New Year's got you feeling down? Me too, friend. Me too. If you're not feeling very "woo" or sparkly and shiny at the start of 2024, this message of comfort is for you.2024-01-0529 minConnected Divergents31. All About Uncommon(ly) Talked About Hyperfixations!In this episode I talk about uncommonly talked about hyperfixations!! It's not all sunshines and rainbows and crochet amigurumi on this ship! We dive into the experience of hyperfixating on PEOPLE, body-focused and medical hyperfixations, and a "perfectionism" hyperfixation on shiny things in our environment. I also mention how ADHD meds affected my experience of many of these—listen in! **CW: I talk about cancer in this episode**2023-12-2238 minConnected Divergents30. Hobbies aren't meant to stress you out!Editor's note: Hobbies aren't meant to stress you out *without your own enthusiastic consent*. Like, skydiving? Probably stressful. But if it's what you signed up for, because you LOVE IT, because it's worth it to you—then hell yeah. I'm rooting for you. Rock on. But if we're talking about... crochet? Journaling? Scrapbooking??? Learning how to roller-skate again? A different perspective can be helpful.I hope you remember to have fun 2023-12-0512 minConnected Divergents29. Building "Intimacy" with The Things We Want to Do!Intimacy is important for human relationships—and it's *also* important for the things we want to do!! These are a reflection of the human relationship with have with ourselves. So, how do we build intimacy, and why should we?? Listen to learn more!2023-11-3016 minConnected Divergents28. How To Do "To Do's": Common Pitfalls of the To Do ListIn this episode I lay out common pitfalls of the dreaded "to do list" and explore ideas on how to approach task initiation executive dysfunction in ways that are more accessible for your ADHD!2023-11-2247 minConnected Divergents27. Why transition time is NOT procrastination (Honoring your needs, Meetings Edition)Transition time, decompression time, and time to recharge—this is NOT procrastination!!!! Transition time is ESSENTIAL for neurodivergent brains. Learn the "why" in this episode. 2023-11-1717 minConnected Divergents26. Frameworks for *Hyperfixation* Spending + Impulsive Spending $$$If you experience hyperfixation spending or impulsive spending (or have an interesting relationship with grief, BECAUSE, Y'KNOW, MY ADHD BRAIN SPAGHETTI'S ON HERE SOMETIMES), this episode is for you!!! In this ep, I talk about some of the main frameworks for impulsive + hyperfixation spending that I teach in my Impulsive Spending Masterclass.2023-11-1033 min
The Faithful Fatherhood Podcast51. TV Dads, Boogers, and Nature vs. NurtureThis first-of-its-kind episode unfolds in a new format that we're calling "Quick Hitters," where Brett and Perry tackle five questions relevant to fatherhood while attempting to answer them in under two minutes each.
The questions they take on are:
What are you currently reading?
Who was your favorite TV dad growing up, and why?
What's the grossest thing you've ever had to do as a dad?
What's the #1 lesson you've learned about fatherhood?
What is the Lord calling you to as a father right now?
Prepare to laugh, be grossed out, and overall have some...2023-11-0839 minConnected Divergents25. How to reconnect with identifying YOUR needsIn this episode I talk about why it's so freaking hard to know what your needs are when you're late-diagnosed neurodivergent, and a strategy for connecting with your intuition! 2023-10-2716 minConnected Divergents24. Touchstone Libraries: A Hack for UnderstimulationHere is one of my FAVORITE support tools for when I'm understimulated, or even for when I'm just wanting to follow my dopamine but I have no idea what I want to do! Create a library for yourself, a physical menu of options—make it as visual and accessible as possible! 2023-10-1912 minUnreasonably happy11 - "But... I don't have green hair?" - A mindset shift for criticismOh hi friend! Here is one of my favorite ways to let others mean, judgmental comments stay with them, instead of being something that you carry around with you and let infiltrate the way you feel about yourself. Easier said than done, I know, but check with your body how detached you feel from others assessment if they say you have green hair. Can you feel that? That distance, that "meh", that "that doesn't bother me" feeling? Yeah, knowing you CAN feel like that in the face of others comments, imagine the power to stand in someones feedback and...2023-10-1007 minConnected Divergents23. NORMALIZE HAVING SH*T WEEKSThis is my love letter, my mission statement, for NORMALIZING having absolute garbage weeks. Have you been having a rough day, a rough week, a rough year? This message is for you. Not everything we experience is meant to be fixed—not every hard moment means that we're broken.2023-10-0410 minConnected Divergents22. What to do when you think: "Ahhh, I have no time! I've wasted my entire day!"Do you frequently find yourself looking at the clock and saying, "AHHH!! I have no time!! I've wasted my entire day!!!" If this is you, this is the episode for you! Here are some mindset downloads based on neuroplasticity techniques to require your brain to hold different beliefs—(on purpose! Very very very intentionally!!!) and require the actually incredibly neutral trigger point of looking at a clock. This simple shift I talk about in this episode creates nervous system safety, supports unshaming, and is aligned with radical self-acceptance... and also break away from all-or-nothing thinking!! Also, like, hi, your br...2023-09-2714 minConnected Divergents21. Exploring the idea of a "bare maximum"Okay, so we've heard of bare minimums, but what about bare maximums??? Do we even need bare maximums? When is it a good idea to use them? And is hyperfocus a bad thing??? Listen to this episode to learn more! And if you are looking for it, here's the link to sign up for my Neurodivergent Love Letters in your inbox! 2023-09-2118 minConnected Divergents20. Defining *YOUR* Version of RestDo you ever feel guilty for not "resting enough" on the weekends? Or have you tried to make sure you're getting enough rest by taking naps, chilling on the couch, watching Netflix—and found yourself feeling bored AF? Here is my love letter to you: Rest doesn't *always* have to look like physical rest. It can!! And we love that!!! But rest for your brain can actually look highly active—especially with ADHD! Listen to learn more!2023-09-1307 minConnected Divergents19. How to Come Back to "Doing the Thing" After Time AwayDo you have a hard time coming back into your routines after they've been disrupted? Maybe you went on vacation or traveled for work, maybe you had an unexpected chaotic life even happen (me + Hurricane Idalia), or maybe you just burned out. In this episode, I walk you through gentle approaches toward coming back to doing the things you want to do.2023-09-0824 minConnected Divergents18. Hobby RewiringWhy I think it's important for our brains to have experiences (through things like hobbies!) that reflect our values back at us. Not "shoulds," but true, authentic values for the people that we want to be, and the beliefs that feel like home in our brains and in our bodies.2023-08-2323 minConnected Divergents17. Two Tools for Negative Self-TalkLately I've had a lot of people tell me, "Wow! You are so nice to your brain!!" But I have not always been so nice to my brain. My go-to default was beating myself up and shaming myself for not doing enough. I reflected on it a bit, and there are two tools in particular that I tend to utilize *a lot* when it comes to this particular form of brain-changing via neuroplasticity—using *new*, different neural networks and breaking away from those default patterns. I invite you to try these out and see how they feel for your br...2023-08-1622 minConnected Divergents16. Why I *LOVE* (Yes, Love!!!) When Clients Cancel On MeI have clients with chronic pain, chronic illness. I have clients who are in burnout, or just on the cusp of coming out of burnout. I have autistic clients with sensory overload and ADHD clients who take stimulants and find that no pharmacy can fill their prescriptions due to the shortage, leaving them in withdrawal.I have clients who have had MAJOR life crises. The loss of loved ones. Clients with the stress and challenge of moving, of new job transitions, of vacation transitions. This is what life looks like. A fully lived life. A t...2023-08-0318 minConnected Divergents15. Intuitive Eating, Anti-Dieting & ADHD!In this episode, I talk about my journey with disordered eating & finding my way to intuitive eating / anti-dieting... all before I ever even knew that I had ADHD! But of course, learning that I did have ADHD made this entire journey make SO MUCH more sense. Intuitive eating changed my life. I went from obsessing 24/7 about food, restricting food, and my weigh on the scale to recovering from my binge eating disorder and being able to totally change my relationship with food, to the point of being able to happily coexist with sweets and treats in the house without...2023-07-2827 minConnected Divergents14. Mindset Downloads Around Your To-Do ListIf you hear panting in the background, it's my dog Melody! :D Join me today for this episode about mindset downloads for your to-do list and how to use a to-do list as a support tool instead of having it be a fascist dictator that throws value-judgments at you for not being "good enough" if you don't get enough things done. 2023-07-2012 minConnected Divergents13. A Tool for "Following Your Dopamine" with Decision OverwhelmHave you heard me talk about "following your dopamine" but struggle to feel what your intuitive pulls/calls/longings are? If following your dopamine feels challenging, that makes sense. This is a mental muscle, a spiritual skill, that we've often not been taught how to develop. It gets overcome by "shoulds" and shame. We were taught not to listen to our intuitive pulls because they're childish, immature, lazy, or wasteful. But the concept of "following your dopamine" is a critical skill when it comes to trusting ourselves and learning how to meet our needs. Learning how to answer the...2023-07-1412 minConnected Divergents12. Insights on Demand AvoidanceThis episode is all about demand avoidance, my experiences around it and how I approach it in ways that are helpful for my brain (instead of harmful). Demand avoidance is something that I've struggled with since childhood. For me, the experience is an internal cringe combined with a teen-angsty feeling. Very often, demand avoidance for me causes emotional dysregulation and in extremes, meltdowns & shutdowns. Today I share about what strategies, mindsets, and approaches help me work with my demand-avoidant brain. I also briefly talk about how exercise, moving my body, and dieting/diet culture represented demands for much of...2023-07-0621 minConnected Divergents11. The Nominalization of ProcrastinationProcrastination is a nominalization—which means, it's a verb that we conventionally use as a noun. Taking back the "verb" of procrastination allows us to gain insights about what exactly is holding us back & keeping us stuck. The wisdom that lies within our resistance. This was a challenging podcast to record, not because I didn't want to record it, but because I was incredibly emotionally dysregulated from a stressful week. But I wanted to be here. I wanted to record it. I talk about a few ways that I created safety in my nervous system to sit down and pr...2023-06-3008 minConnected Divergents10. How to Deconstruct Old (Neurotypical) Mindsets & ValuesHi friends!! On this episode, I talk about how I approach deconstructing old mindsets & values that we learned from our parents/culture/society, but no longer wish to carry because it's not serving us anymore. *AND* how to adopt & embody new mindsets and values by experimenting with our brain to create concrete evidence to grasp onto that this shift does, in fact, serve us better. Listen in!2023-06-2217 minConnected Divergents9. Storm Journaling & Emotional DysregulationIn this episode, I share a tool I like to call "Storm Journaling" as an act of radical self-acceptance & unshaming when we experience intense emotional dysregulation. Emotional regulation is a part of our Executive Functioning & has a huge impact on the experience of both ADHD & Autism. I've spent so much of my life trying to "fix" my big emotions, when what I really needed was to learn how to embrace them fully. I hope you enjoy. **Important note**: I don’t recommend Storm Journaling as a daily journaling practice. That’s a pretty quick ticket to feeling like crap, a lo...2023-06-1622 minConnected Divergents8. Are you a Verbal Processor?What does it mean to be someone who is a "verbal processor?" And how can we lean into this to help ourselves understand our feelings, challenges, wins, and experiences? This is my love letter to verbal processors!2023-06-0909 minConnected Divergents7. Two Structural Approaches for Time BlindnessThere are two structural facets when it comes to "time blindness," or, the non-linear perception of time that ADHD'ers experience. The first is external / environmental: If we don't see it, it doesn't exist! The second is internal / emotional: We vaguely know what time it is, but we're so ashamed about being late that we throw ourselves into nervous system dysregulation (flight), and it makes us EVEN MORE late. Listen to learn my approaches for both. 2023-06-0217 min
The Impulsive Spending MasterclassHighlights & Recap2023-05-241h 02The Impulsive Spending MasterclassCreating New Pathways for Dopamine2023-05-2347 minThe Impulsive Spending MasterclassIdentity Work2023-05-2344 minThe Impulsive Spending MasterclassShame & Unshaming Our Spending2023-05-2340 minThe Impulsive Spending MasterclassNervous System Regulation2023-05-2334 minThe Impulsive Spending MasterclassMoney Mindsets2023-05-2329 minThe Impulsive Spending MasterclassThe Neurobiology of Impulsive Spending2023-05-2313 minThe Impulsive Spending MasterclassPersonal Histories2023-05-2314 minThe Impulsive Spending MasterclassIntro & Welcome2023-05-2310 minConnected Divergents6. Ping Pong BrainHow to embrace your ping-pong spaghetti brain AND get the things done that you care to get done—we embrace our ping-pong spaghetti nature, because this is how our brains are wired. And instead of fighting against it or trying to change it, we work with it instead. Here are my mindsets & tricks for working through projects and tasks in a way that's practical & accessible for neurodivergent brains.2023-05-1711 min
Witchy Wellness with EmUnshaming ADHD with Tina EthridgeTina Ethridge is an ADHD coach who specializes in unshaming & neurological reprogramming. We discuss the different approaches neurodivergent women need when it comes to fitness, self love, & mental health. Why persistence is more important than sustainability for fitness & how ADHD looks different for women than the stereotypes we grew up with! This conversation is a magical treat for you guys!Find Tina:On InstagramOn TiktokThe Spiritual Thirst Trap Podcast✨FREEBIE: 50 magical tips for your fitness journeySchedule a ca...2023-05-1156 minConnected Divergents5. The 3 Steps to UnshamingUnshaming is a critical skill in any self-acceptance journey, and especially an ADHD acceptance journey. In this episode I walk you through 3 steps to unshame any experience. I talk about how shame is pervasive in the neurodivergent experience and why, and how to take power away from shame and take it back for yourself. Edit: My brain *COMPLETELY FORGOT* how Kristin Neff is actually pretty ableist—her book on self compassion, while it has wonderful parts to it, also has a part where she claims her autistic son was "healed" by a shaman. Eugh. I blocked all tha...2023-04-2814 minConnected Divergents4. All About Body DoublingThis episode is all about body doubling!! Here's how to make your body doubling sessions more effective by using co-regulation, and strategies to body double *with yourself* if you're an introvert like me.2023-04-2013 minConnected Divergents3. Intentional Novelty: Adding Sparkle to Your SystemsHere's what to do BEFORE you dive into using traditional ADHD coaching tools: Investigating harm-reductive and de-shaming mindsets for when the novelty wears off for that new tool, that new visual timer, that new planner.2023-04-1311 minConnected Divergents2. Perfectionism: Do it Badly. On Purpose.Today I'm talking about my top "mindset downloads" for overcoming perfectionism and how to break away from your all-or-nothing thinking. (And a cute story about the first time I met Shawn, and how he blew me away on our first date!). 2023-04-0611 min
Connected Divergents1. Sustainable HabitsHi friends! Welcome to the Connected Divergents Podcast. On this episode, I'm talking about the mindsets & perspectives that are essential in order to create sustainable habits when you have ADHD. It's not about forcing yourself to adhere to the neurotypical rules. It's about creating space to honor your brain, and work with your executive dysfunction instead of always fighting against it. Follow me @comfortandkindness on Instagram to learn even more. 2023-03-2910 min
Confidently InsecureADHD is misunderstood as HELL | TINA ETHRIDGETRIGGER WARNING: mental health month will include sensitive conversations each episode not limited to su*cide, anxiety, depression, ED, OCD and ADHD conversations. Its the last week of a beautiful informative and EMOTIONAL mental health month baby!! Rounding us out with a fascinating convo is Tina Ethridge, an ADHD coach and someone who was once misdiagnosed as bipolar because of the crossovers of ADHD symptoms. We learn a TON in this episode so take notes because you might just recognize some tips and similarities you'll want to ask your doctor or therapist next time...2021-05-3155 min
Songcraft: Spotlight on SongwritersEp. 145 - DAVID PORTER ("Soul Man")PART 1Co-hosts Scott B. Bomar and Paul Duncan chat about how they’re continuing to adapt their Songcraft recording sessions for the world of COVID-19 before getting into a discussion about whether they’d take a time machine to Abbey Road Studios in London, Stax Studios in Memphis, Motown in Detroit, or FAME in Muscle ShoalsPART 2 - 12:35 markThe in-depth interview with David Porter: Named one of Rolling Stone magazine’s “100 Greatest Songwriters of All Time,” Porter is best known for his songwriting partnership with Isaac Hayes that helped define the sound of Memphis’s legendary...2020-07-211h 21