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The Reconnection Club Podcast202. A Reconnection StoryFollow The Reconnection Club on Instagram @Reconnectionclub. In this inspiring episode, one parent shares his personal journey from estrangement to reconciliation with his adult child. Through his voice, we hear not only a story of healing and hope, but also surprising insights into the meaning of reconnection. This powerful account comes to us thanks to the generosity of one Reconnection Club member, who courageously offers his story in his own words. For information and tools to repair your relationship with your estranged adult child(ren), read Tina's book, Reconnecting With Your E...2025-07-1409 min

The Reconnection Club Podcast201. Validation FAQsIn this final episode of a series on validation (see links below), Reconnection Club Podcast host Tina Gilbertson brings clarity and compassion to one of the most emotionally charged applications of this skill: validating estranged adult children. Earlier episodes explored what a lack of validation looks like, offered a two-step validation technique (be sure to review Ep. 199 before listening to this one), and suggested reasons to practice validating yourself before trying it with others. This episode features tips for applying validation in the sensitive context of a trouble relationship. To round out this episode and...2025-06-3008 min

The Reconnection Club Podcast200. Validation and You, The Estranged ParentIn this thought-provoking third episode of a 4-part series on validation, Tina Gilbertson takes listeners deeper into the heart of the topic. She makes a compelling case for why self-validation isn’t just helpful, it’s essential. Without it, our attempts to validate others, especially estranged adult children, can fall flat or even backfire. Tina shares a powerful (and somewhat unsettling) example that highlights just how tricky it can be to validate someone’s emotions when you’re the one they’re upset with. What do you do when you don’t agree with their version of you? How do...2025-06-1609 min

HomeWord with Jim BurnsEpisode 58-Reconnecting with your Estranged Adult Children with Tina GilbertsonDid you know that 27% of adults are estranged from at least one family member? In this heartfelt episode, Jim Burns sits down with therapist and author Tina Gilbertson to unpack the many layers of parent–adult child estrangement. They explore the different forms this can take—whether emotional distance, total silence, or an on-again, off-again connection. Tina shares practical do’s and don’ts for reaching out, how to apologize authentically, and why being both direct and loving—with clear boundaries—is essential. The conversation touches on codependency, enmeshment, and how the need for personal space can sometimes be mistaken...2025-05-2940 min

The Reconnection Club Podcast198. Validation (Or Lack Thereof)Reconnection Club Members can use the player on our Podcast Player page to play episodes continuously. Follow us on Instagram. * * * Many estranged adult children report feeling invalidated in their interactions with their parents. These feelings -- of being dismissed, misunderstood, or emotionally unseen -- often contribute to ongoing disconnection. But what exactly does invalidation sound like in everyday conversation? And how can parents begin to recognize these pitfalls, to make sure they’re being as supportive as they want to be? In this compassionate and informative episode, host Tina Gilbertson begins a vita...2025-05-1907 min

The Metamorphosis Project#63 - Reconnecting, Feeling, and Healing: A Conversation with Tina GilbertsonSend us a textIn this heartfelt episode of The Metamorphosis Project Podcast, Tenya sits down with psychotherapist and author Tina Gilbertson to talk about all things emotional processing, estrangement, and how to reconnect with others and ourselves.Tina is the author of two transformative books: 📘 Constructive Wallowing – https://a.co/d/5zWszBF 📙 Reconnecting with Your Estranged Adult Child – https://a.co/d/a0pTdF7In this episode, we explore:The TRUTH Techn...2025-05-1440 min

The Reconnection Club Podcast197. Uncovering Trauma with Harold "Pat" PatrickThis important episode features excerpts from a previously recorded conversation between host Tina Gilbertson and trauma expert Harold “Pat” Patrick, regarding trauma from adverse childhood experiences (ACEs). Their discussion uncovers how unresolved trauma from even the distant past can subtly shape the emotional lives of parents today -- especially those facing rejection from their adult children. Even after years of therapy, deep-seated emotional wounds can persist, influencing parents’ reactions. In two separate excerpts, Pat offers valuable insights on how to recognize the hidden remnants of trauma, and explores the powerful idea that it's never too late t...2025-05-0508 min

The Reconnection Club Podcast196. Collateral DamageWhen adult children become estranged from their parents, the ripple effects can often spread to other family members—siblings, grandparents, and even close friends. These "innocent bystanders" can become collateral damage in the fallout of a family rift. In this clarifying episode, host Tina Gilbertson explores four common reasons why estranged adult children might distance themselves from others in the family, and even beyond. Understanding these motivations can offer a clearer picture of the situation and may help ease parents’ fears about the extent of the rift. You’ll learn that collateral damage doesn’t always m...2025-04-2108 min

The Reconnection Club Podcast195. Letting Them Go In Your HeartParents have various ways to cope with the pain of prolonged estrangement from their adult children. One of them is to find a way to let their children go, with love, in their hearts. Letting an adult child go can bring a measure of relief to those who are able to do it. They may feel more peaceful and less sad. It's relatively easy to let go of someone in silence. But what happens if they suddenly contact you? Reconnection Club Podcast host Tina Gilbertson speaks to parents having just that experience. They're...2025-04-0707 min

The Reconnection Club Podcast194. Room For ImprovementThe journey through unwanted estrangement from adult children can remain challenging even after extensive personal work and therapy, as hidden barriers continue to surface. In this pivotal episode, Reconnection Club Podcast host Tina Gilbertson explores how parents who have built fulfilling lives and invested in their own growth may still have blind spots that hinder their healing journey. Key Insights: Even with extensive therapy and personal development, we may have unrecognized areas that need attention The assumption that we've "done enough work" can itself become a barrier to deeper healing Parents who have created...2025-03-2407 min

The Reconnection Club Podcast193. The Truth of the MatterWhen adult children cut contact with their parents, they often cite experiences and memories that their parents remember completely differently. But what happens when two people recall the same events in contradicting ways? In this illuminating episode, Reconnection Club host Tina Gilbertson tackles the complex nature of truth in family relationships. Through an engaging example of a backyard barbecue, she demonstrates how seemingly opposing versions of events can both hold validity – and why trying to prove your adult child "wrong" about their memories may be counterproductive. Tina explains that emotional truth in...2025-03-1007 min

The Reconnection Club Podcast192. Balancing Activity With RestWhen your adult child goes “no contact,” it can feel like you’re suddenly in a state of emergency. How did this happen? What is a parent supposed to do? How do you fix this painful problem if your child won’t talk to you? When dealing with a crisis, the last thing you might be concerned about is balance. But balancing activity with sufficient rest is critical for anyone trying to solve an important problem. We’re simply not at our best when we’re out of balance. We don’t have our full capabilities, and we suffer from...2025-02-2409 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastRCP191 Mixed MessagesHaving a no-contact adult child can be not only painful, but genuinely confusing. They might agree to receive texts from you, but not reply to any texts you send. Maybe they tell you they love you, even as they continue to create distance. When you stop contacting them at their request, why do they then claim you don’t care about them? What’s going on? What do they want? How can you figure that out if they won’t talk to you? In this reassuring episode, Tina Gilbertson suggests that maybe...2025-02-1009 min

Retrieving SanityT.R.U.T.H. in feelings: with Tina GilbertsonWelcome Tina Gilbertson to Retrieving Sanity! Tina is the author of "Constructive Wallowing: How to Beat Bad Feelings By Letting Yourself Have Them", a book that changed my life! Let's ask her about emotional intelligence through something she developed called the T.R.U.T.H. technique! #mentalhealth #recovery #awareness #emotionalintelligence #constructive #wallowing #grief #difficultfeelings Call 988 if you are experiencing ANY mental crisis! Be sure to check out Retrievingsanity.com for all past guest resources! Want to be a guest on Retrieving Sanity: A Mental Health...2024-10-2758 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastImportant announcement regarding episode expirationTRANSCRIPT: These are uncertain times for those of us who create and freely share content via the Internet. I mentioned on the podcast earlier this year that I needed some time to assess the impact of all the changes happening in the world of digital information, including the widespread, unregulated use of AI. At that time, I removed the show from a couple of the larger platforms, and stopped releasing new episodes to those platforms. Unfortunately, many smaller platforms were also affected. And that’s made it a lot harder for the show to...2024-07-1703 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastImportant Announcement Regarding AccessThere are many more episodes to come! To find ALL episodes of the Reconnection Club Podcast, go to Reconnectionclub.com/podcast.2024-02-0501 min

Therapy Chat410: When Your Adult Child Won't Talk To You - With Tina GilbertsonThis week on Therapy Chat we are revisiting a conversation from a few years ago that will feel timely to many of us as we move through the holiday season. Whether you are a parent or an adult child, the holidays - which are supposed to be a time of family togetherness - can often feel very stressful. This week's guest is Tina Gilbertson. She specializes in supporting parents who are estranged from their adult children, and not by choice. Tina Gilbertson is a psychotherapist and author of Reconnecting with Your Estranged Adult Child.Her work has be...2023-12-0146 min

Once Upon A Time: From Storybook to EstrangementEPISODE 48: HEART TO HEART with PSYCHOTHERAPIST AND HOST OF THE RECONNECTION CLUB PODCAST, TINA GILBERTSONHEART TO HEART with PSYCHOTHERAPIST AND HOST OF THE RECONNECTION CLUB PODCAST, TINA GILBERTSON Tina Gilbertson specializes in supporting parents of estranged adult children. In addition to her weekly podcast, Ms. Gilbertson has written several books including Constructive Wallowing: How to Beat Bad Feelings By Letting Yourself Have Them, and Reconnecting with Your Adult Child. Please listen to the wisdom she shares with me over the course of several segments.2022-07-1514 min

Once Upon A Time: From Storybook to EstrangementEPISODE 46: HEART TO HEART with PSYCHOTHERAPIST AND HOST OF THE RECONNECTION CLUB PODCAST, TINA GILBERTSONHEART TO HEART with PSYCHOTHERAPIST AND HOST OF THE RECONNECTION CLUB PODCAST, TINA GILBERTSON Tina Gilbertson specializes in supporting parents of estranged adult children. In addition to her weekly podcast, Ms. Gilbertson has written several books including Constructive Wallowing: How to Beat Bad Feelings By Letting Yourself Have Them, and Reconnecting with Your Adult Child. Please listen to the wisdom she shares with me over the course of several segments.2022-07-0215 min

Once Upon A Time: From Storybook to EstrangementEPISODE 45: HEART TO HEART with PSYCHOTHERAPIST AND HOST OF THE RECONNECTION CLUB PODCAST, TINA GILBERTSONHEART TO HEART with PSYCHOTHERAPIST AND HOST OF THE RECONNECTION CLUB PODCAST, TINA GILBERTSON Tina Gilbertson specializes in supporting parents of estranged adult children. In addition to her weekly podcast, Ms. Gilbertson has written several books including Constructive Wallowing: How to Beat Bad Feelings By Letting Yourself Have Them, and Reconnecting with Your Adult Child. Please listen to the wisdom she shares with me over the course of several segments.2022-06-2309 min

Once Upon A Time: From Storybook to EstrangementEPISODE 44: HEART TO HEART with PSYCHOTHERAPIST AND HOST OF THE RECONNECTION CLUB PODCAST, TINA GILBERTSONHEART TO HEART with PSYCHOTHERAPIST AND HOST OF THE RECONNECTION CLUB PODCAST, TINA GILBERTSON Tina Gilbertson specializes in supporting parents of estranged adult children. In addition to her weekly podcast, Ms. Gilbertson has written several books including Constructive Wallowing: How to Beat Bad Feelings By Letting Yourself Have Them, and Reconnecting with Your Adult Child. Please listen to the wisdom she shares with me over the course of several segments.2022-06-1812 min

Once Upon A Time: From Storybook to EstrangementEPISODE 43: HEART TO HEART with PSYCHOTHERAPIST AND HOST OF THE RECONNECTION CLUB PODCAST, TINA GILBERTSONHEART TO HEART with PSYCHOTHERAPIST AND HOST OF THE RECONNECTION CLUB PODCAST, TINA GILBERTSON Tina Gilbertson specializes in supporting parents of estranged adult children. In addition to her weekly podcast, Ms. Gilbertson has written several books including Constructive Wallowing: How to Beat Bad Feelings By Letting Yourself Have Them, and Reconnecting with Your Adult Child. Please listen to the wisdom she shares with me over the course of several segments.2022-06-0209 min

The Liberty HopeCastRelationships with Estranged Parents and Adult Children: Part 2 of Interview with Author/Therapist Tina GilbertsonIf you missed Part One of our interview with Tina Gilbertson, please take a listen to that really helpful conversation about dealing with our emotions! In Part Two of our interview, Tina shares many resources to help address the very challenging situation of an estranged relationship between parents and adult children. Links below provide ways to find these helpful options. Find Tina Resources Related to this Episode:Tina's article on dealing with relationship estrangementsTina's podcast for estrangement issuesTina's community for estranged parentsDr. Jo...2022-04-1822 min

Once Upon A Time: From Storybook to EstrangementEPISODE 41: HEART TO HEART with PSYCHOTHERAPIST AND HOST OF THE RECONNECTION CLUB PODCAST, TINA GILBERTSONHEART TO HEART with PSYCHOTHERAPIST AND HOST OF THE RECONNECTION CLUB PODCAST, TINA GILBERTSON Tina Gilbertson specializes in supporting parents of estranged adult children. In addition to her weekly podcast, Ms. Gilbertson has written several books including Constructive Wallowing: How to Beat Bad Feelings By Letting Yourself Have Them, and Reconnecting with Your Adult Child. Please listen to the wisdom she shares with me over the course of several segments.2022-04-0709 min

Once Upon A Time: From Storybook to EstrangementEPISODE 40: HEART TO HEART with PSYCHOTHERAPIST AND HOST OF THE RECONNECTION CLUB PODCAST, TINA GILBERTSONHEART TO HEART with PSYCHOTHERAPIST AND HOST OF THE RECONNECTION CLUB PODCAST, TINA GILBERTSON Tina Gilbertson specializes in supporting parents of estranged adult children. In addition to her weekly podcast, Ms. Gilbertson has written several books including Constructive Wallowing: How to Beat Bad Feelings By Letting Yourself Have Them, and Reconnecting with Your Adult Child. Please listen to the wisdom she shares with me over the course of several segments.2022-03-3114 min

The Liberty HopeCastRelationships with our Emotions Part 1: Featuring Author/Therapist Tina GilbertsonWhile we are publishing episodes less frequently these days, we are certainly embracing the motto of “quality over quantity”, and we’re so glad to have the opportunity to bring you this enlightening conversation with author and psychotherapist Tina Gilbertson. Resources Related to this Episode:Forgiveness Article by Tina Find Tina Contact Us!! Hope on FB New Hope New Liberty Counseling Email: hope.brown@nhnlc.com Twitter 2022-03-2828 min

Once Upon A Time: From Storybook to EstrangementEPISODE 39: HEART TO HEART with PSYCHOTHERAPIST AND HOST OF THE RECONNECTION CLUB PODCAST, TINA GILBERTSONHEART TO HEART with PSYCHOTHERAPIST AND HOST OF THE RECONNECTION CLUB PODCAST, TINA GILBERTSON Tina Gilbertson specializes in supporting parents of estranged adult children. In addition to her weekly podcast, Ms. Gilbertson has written several books including Constructive Wallowing: How to Beat Bad Feelings By Letting Yourself Have Them and Reconnecting with Your Adult Child. Please listen to the wisdom she shares with me over the course of several segments.2022-03-2410 min

Once Upon A Time: From Storybook to EstrangementEPISODE 38: HEART TO HEART with PSYCHOTHERAPIST AND HOST OF THE RECONNECTION CLUB PODCAST, TINA GILBERTSONHEART TO HEART with PSYCHOTHERAPIST AND HOST OF THE RECONNECTION CLUB PODCAST, TINA GILBERTSON Tina Gilbertson specializes in supporting parents of estranged adult children. In addition to her weekly podcast, Ms. Gilbertson has written several books including Constructive Wallowing: How to Beat Bad Feelings By Letting Yourself Have Them and Reconnecting with Your Adult Child. Please listen to the wisdom she shares with me over the course of several segments.2022-03-1710 min

Be The Adult PodcastBTA-Season3 Episode 2- Psychotherapist/Author Tina GilbertsonJoin us as Psychotherapist Tina Gilbertson, author of Constructive Wallowing: How to Beat Bad Feelings By Letting Yourself Have Them and Reconnecting With Your Estranged Adult Child and host of The Reconnection Club Podcast provides expert adulting guidance!--- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/be-the-adult/messageSupport this podcast: https://anchor.fm/be-the-adult/support 2022-02-1340 min

Psychology Talk PodcastEncore Episode: Reconnecting with Your Estranged Adult Child with Tina GilbertsonOn this episode of Psychology Talk Podcast, Dr. Hoye is joined by Tina Gilbertson. Tina holds a master’s degree in counseling psychology, and she is a licensed professional counselor (LPC) in Oregon and Colorado. She discusses her new book Reconnecting with your Estranged Adult Child: Practical Tips & Tools to Heal Your Relationship, published by New World Library. Tina primarily works with the parents off estranged adult children in her private practice. They discuss the pain involved with having an estranged adult child. They also issues of attachment involved with this issue, and ways to manage and cope wi...2021-12-2847 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastRoad Map to Reconnection, Part 3Episodes 97, 98 and 99 form a 3-part series outlining an overall stepwise approach to reconnecting with your estranged adult child. In the 3rd and final episode of this series, you'll find out why it's important to go through the steps in order, and not to enter Step 3 prematurely. By the time you get to this last step, you should already have completed 90% of the work of reconnection -- even without your adult child's participation. Tina cautions that many rejected parents go through the steps backwards, expending energy in fruitless efforts for which they haven't yet built a foundation.2021-10-1820 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastRoad Map to Reconnection, Part 1Episodes 97, 98 and 99 form a 3-part series outlining an overall stepwise approach to reconnecting with your estranged adult child. In the first episode, Tina explains why it's important to slow down and avoid acting impulsively, from a place of desperation. This foundational episode provides a rationale for Step 1, and then lists specific tasks appropriate for this first phase of responding to your adult child's estrangement. You'll learn why it's necessary to pay attention to your nervous system, and how best to avoid unnecessary suffering. (According to Buddhism, pain is unavoidable, but suffering is optional.)2021-10-0416 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastThe Deep Pain of the Rejected ParentThis week’s episode begins with an assertion that neither pain nor compassion is a zero-sum commodity. Estranged adult child are in some ways wounded by the relationship they share with their parents. Most people in this position are in pain over the necessity of estrangement. Acknowledging that fact, we can still find compassion for the rejected parent who finds himself left behind. It’s usually the case that he did the best he knew how to do, and didn’t mean to hurt his child(ren). Estrangement involves pain on both sides. Tina talks about...2021-09-2011 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastYou're Both Adults, But Not PeersThe parent-child relationship is not like any other. In so many ways, your role has always been a more demanding one than your child’s. If you were lucky, you had no responsibility for your parents when you were growing up; they took care of you, and not the other way around. Parents care for their children, and children are cared for by parents. There's something inherently asymmetrical about the relationship. That dynamic gets etched into both of your psyches as your child grows to maturity. And even though she’s now an adult, she’s never...2021-09-0611 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastHow to Let Them Know You've ChangedOnce you start learning, growing and healing through estrangement from an adult child, you might feel like sharing new insights with your child. Why wouldn’t s/he be interested in hearing what you’ve learned? And how exciting, to have new knowledge that can create a positive impact in your relationship. That’s why many parents ask, “How do I let my estranged adult child know I’ve changed, if we’re not currently in contact?” Tina’s answer is, “Don’t be in a hurry to do that.” Find out why you might want to wait...2021-05-2407 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastAnnouncement: Summer Hiatus 2021Weekly episodes will continue through May 31st, but after that, the next new episode will come out the first Monday in September. Tina is available over the summer (or winter if you're in the Southern Hemisphere) for private consultation. Also, the Reconnection Club is open to all parents who've listened to the podcast and read Reconnecting With Your Estranged Adult Child. The Club offers even more resources created by Tina, along with a friendly community of parents experiencing estrangement from their adult children. For information about private consultation with Tina, go...2021-05-1902 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastHumility vs. HumiliationIt’s not uncommon for parents rejected by adult children to feel humiliated by the experience of estrangement. And humiliation is a terrible feeling for anyone. So when you’re faced with the idea of approaching your estranged adult child(ren) with humility, you might think, ‘Why on earth would I sign up for that?’ And also, ‘I’ve still got my pride,’ and perhaps also, ‘I’m not giving up my dignity along with my child(ren).’ But humility is not the same as feeling humiliated. Humility empowers, rather than disempowering, those who adopt it as an attitude.2021-05-1012 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastWhen You Don't Get a ResponseParents of estranged adult children often get no response to messages they send. With every lack of response, parents become more and more discouraged. They take their child’s silence as continued rejection, and they start to feel powerless. While it’s true that adult children often don’t respond if they don’t like the message, there are other reasons why they might not reply, even if the messages lands well. In this inspiring episode, Tina suggests that getting a response shouldn’t be considered the only measure of success. As long as they know their mess...2021-04-2609 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastSupportive, Yes. Doormat, No.If you’ve been in the Reconnection Club environment long enough, you’re probably on board with the idea of taking your estranged adult child’s point of view. You want to be supportive, to validate his thoughts and feelings, while you work on repairing the relationship. But how do you do that in the face of poor behavior, without feeling like a doormat? In this week’s show, Tina looks at 3 scenarios where parents are vulnerable to feeling like doormats: - Your adult child only contacts you when she needs something, then disappears again....2021-04-1213 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastPatience Is Not PassiveMany parents rejected by an adult child are committed to working toward a healthy, mutually satisfying relationship. But they recognize that even if they work very hard and do everything right, reconciliation can take more time than they’d like. Some estranged adult children simply need more time before they’re ready to try again. They may be too busy or too anxious right now to take the relationship off the back burner and re-engage. This leaves parents with nothing to do but wait. Or does it? For unwillingly estranged parents, waiting should not be a pa...2021-03-2910 min

The Reconnection Club Podcast"We Used to Be So Close"You’d be surprised how many estranged adult children come from close families. It’s a myth that parents must have been toxic and abusive for adult children to seek estrangement. Sometimes the very closeness that characterizes a family is what underlies the adult child’s need for distance. But how can that be? Aren’t close families good for children? Yes, close families are wonderful environments for children to grow up in. But not every family is close in the right way for children to thrive. In this episode, Tina distinguishes between closeness and enmeshme...2021-03-1509 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastHow Do Adult Children View Estrangement?How can they do this? Is it really okay with them? Are they happy? Research suggests answers to these questions, and Tina shares the information in this informative episode.2021-03-0112 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastResponding to Foul LanguageEstrangement from your adult child may or may not include verbal assaults from him or her, featuring foul language. If you’re faced with this kind of behavior, given the current estrangement, what’s the best way to respond? You don’t want to push your child further away. But does that mean you have to tolerate whatever language they may fling at you in a text? In this episode, Tina offers a 2-part response for parents. Her approach takes into account both your family’s communication history and the importance of healthy boundaries, even during estrangement. Do...2021-02-1512 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastWhat Caused Your Adult Child's Estrangement?Estrangement doesn’t happen on a whim. If your adult child has cut ties with you at the moment, he has reasons that make sense to him, and that are probably long-standing. In order for the estrangement to end, those reasons usually need to be addressed and neutralized. Many parents rejected by their adult children are in such a hurry to end the estrangement that they don’t take sufficient time to investigate the “why” of what happened. They miss opportunities to understand and correct missteps that led to problems in the first place. Even if they sea...2021-02-0114 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastThe Mother-Daughter Relationship with Rosjke HasseldineMothers and daughters have the potential for a very close, lifelong relationship. But not every mother-daughter pair enjoys a harmonious, supportive bond. You may have seen your friends get together with their grown daughters, and watched them with envy. Your daughter, in contrast, has become estranged. How did this happen, and why? If the mother-daughter bond is supposed to be so close, why do so many mothers and daughters become estranged? Mother-daughter relationship coach Rosjke Hasseldine has some important thoughts on that question, and she shares them in this episode. Listen to an excerpt from...2021-01-1811 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastThree Ways Rejected Parents Give Away Their PowerIt’s common for rejected parents who are unwillingly estranged from an adult child to feel utterly powerless. And that's a horrible feeling in the face of a breach in an important relationship. But there are three specific assumptions parents make that leave them truly powerless. These insidious assumptions are: Your child’s estrangement is entirely about something that happened in the past, Someone else is controlling (or has brainwashed) your child, and Your child has a personality disorder that’s making him act this way. Each of these assumptions in the parent says, in eff...2021-01-0411 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastIt's OK to Enjoy Yourself During EstrangementIt’s the festive season – always a complicated time for people experiencing estrangement from family. The holidays are full of friendship, gift-giving, celebrating and creating memories. But for parents rejected by one or more of their adult children, it can feel wrong to participate. Having a good time feels … unseemly. How can parents enjoy themselves when such an important relationship is in trouble? Don’t they miss their children? Don’t they love them? In this episode, Tina suggests that it’s not only okay, but healthy and important, for rejected parents to enjoy themselves during estrangement...2020-12-2109 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastWhy Can't My Child Show Some Empathy?Your adult child, who’s always been such an empathetic soul, has ruthlessly cut you off. How can such an empathetic person have no empathy for the parents who raised him? Doesn’t he care that he’s hurting you? It seems like a mystery. The problem of empathy is that it can’t coexist with estrangement. To be empathetic, you have to stop being estranged. But if contact is painful for you, then it’s a win-lose situation. Either the parent “wins” because the child is back in contact, or the child “wins” the prize of the dista...2020-12-0708 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastWhy Your Estranged Adult Child Doesn't RSVPIt’s painful when estranged adult children don’t respond to invitations at the holidays. At this time of year, even a video chat would be meaningful in lieu of a family gathering. If you’ve issued an invitation and not heard back, you have plenty of company. It’s frustrating and hurtful. Why do they do it? In this episode of the podcast, Tina suggests three reasons why an otherwise polite adult child might fail to respond to invitations during estrangement. If you haven’t already sent one out, Tina recommends not issuing in...2020-11-2311 min

Therapy Chat253: Family Estrangement with Tina GilbertsonWelcome back to Therapy Chat! This week, host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C speaks with Tina Gilbertson, the author of Reconnecting with Your Estranged Adult Child. As the winter holidays approach, many families will have uncomfortable conversations happening about politics. Many families have found relationships strained by the stress of the political situation in our country. Laura and Tina discussed how family estrangement happens and what parents who want to reconnect with their estranged adult children can do to repair their relationships. Tina Gilbertson is a psychotherapist and author of Reconnecting with Your Estranged Adult Child. Her work has bee...2020-11-2046 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastWhat You Resist PersistsWhen you go in for a vaccination, the nurse might tell you to relax just before he gives you the needle. Obviously, relaxing is not natural in a situation like this. And yet resisting the needle creates tension, and may even make the shot more painful. Resistance is not only futile, it often creates more pain than does acceptance. Thus, acceptance of a painful process can actually make it less painful than resistance. There’s a lesson here for parents of estranged adult children. They naturally resist silence, the inherent rejection, and the estrangement itself. Im...2020-11-0910 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastDid Therapy Turn Your Child Against You?It’s not unusual at all for an adult child to cut off parents after getting into therapy. And the cut-off may extend to other family members and even old friends. When this happens, it’s tempting to blame it on therapy. Your child was fine and so was your relationship, until he went into counseling. If it seems your child has been brainwashed by a counselor or therapist and that’s why she’s become estranged from family, that’s understandable. But there are underlying assumptions there that might simply not be true. One is that your...2020-10-2609 min

Psychology Talk PodcastReconnecting with Your Estranged Adult Child with Tina GilbertsonOn this episode of Psychology Talk Podcast, Dr. Hoye is joined by Tina Gilbertson. Tina holds a master’s degree in counseling psychology, and she is a licensed professional counselor (LPC) in Oregon and Colorado. She discusses her new book Reconnecting with your Estranged Adult Child: Practical Tips & Tools to Heal Your Relationship, published by New World Library. Tina primarily works with the parents off estranged adult children in her private practice. They discuss the pain involved with having an estranged adult child. They also issues of attachment involved with this issue, and ways to manage and cope wi...2020-10-2047 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastHow to Survive Birthdays During Estrangement (Yours and Theirs)Will your estranged child send you birthday wishes this year? Should you celebrate your child’s birthday even though she’s not currently speaking to you? How do you survive not only your own birthday without them, but theirs? Estrangement doesn’t respect birthdays. In many or perhaps most cases, you’ll be disappointed if you expect your child to contact you on your birthday, or answer a text from you on theirs. For tips on whether to send something on your child’s birthday, listen to Episode 33. This episode (#59) is all about...2020-10-1207 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastHow to Cope With Feelings of RejectionOne of the hardest things about being estranged from your adult child is the feeling of rejection that often accompanies the enforced separation. It’s not easy to live with the pain of rejection day after day. So in this episode, Tina offers five specific ways to cope constructively. You won’t want to miss this show if the sense of rejection is getting to you.One of the hardest things about being estranged from your adult child is the feeling of rejection that often accompanies the enforced separation. It’s not easy to live with the pa...2020-09-2810 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastReconciliation Is a MarathonReconciling with your estranged adult child may be the brass ring, but once you attain it, you find that another phase of estrangement has just begun. Reconciliation is a process, not an event. It can be a phase that lasts quite a long time. It’s challenging. It’s confusing. That’s why Tina created this episode. In it she shares a few simple truths about the marathon of reconciliation – things to keep in mind during the process. If you’re feeling uncomfortable around your child, If your child seems to be testing...2020-09-1409 min

The Reconnection Club Podcast10 Rules of Thumb for Communicating With an Estranged Adult ChildNot every parent estranged from an adult has received a request for no contact. If you have, then the most appropriate response might be to acknowledge the request and take a step back for a while. But if your adult child just seems less interested in the relationship and won’t tell you why, or hasn’t indicated that you shouldn’t reach out now and then, you can engage in thoughtful contact without making the estrangement worse, by applying some of Tina’s 10 rules of thumb for communicating with estranged adult children. Join our mailing list at reconn...2020-08-3111 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastWhy They Won't Take 5 Seconds to Text You BackEstranged adult children often fail to return texts. This is true even if parents are requesting a simple, one-word answer. Why do otherwise kind and polite young people refuse to offer their parents the courtesy of a brief reply? It turns out that a text is not just a text. It represents your relationship, and reflects what’s going on at the moment. Tina explains why asking for a return text is actually asking for more than just time. The whole process of communication is fraught with complex dynamics, especially when relations are str...2020-08-1710 min

Reconnecting With Your Estranged Adult Child: Tina GilbertsonAge brings about a number of challenges in many areas of our lives. Without a doubt, one of the most painful of these is that, for a variety of reasons, we can lose connection with our adult children. Our guest, Tina Gilbertson, MA, LPC, is a psychotherapist and also the author of an incredibly helpful book, Reconnecting with Your Estranged Adult Child. Her work has been featured in Forbes, Fast Company, Glamour, Real Simple and Redbook. In 2019, Tina cofounded www.ReconnectionClub.com, offering education, community, and support to help estranged parents repair their relationships with their older children. Tina joins us to share...2020-08-0716 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastEmotional EstrangementThere’s a special type of pain reserved for parents who still have contact with their adult children, but feel disconnected anyway. Tina calls this sense of distance “emotional estrangement,” meaning that the distance between you and your child is not physical, but emotional. This condition can happen following a physical estrangement, or it can constitute the estrangement itself. In this episode, Tina posits 5 potential sources of emotional estrangement: An elephant in the room Feeling like strangers Hurt feelings Life circumstances Implicit boundary setting Click on the player below to listen. ...2020-08-0315 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastHow to Win Back Your Estranged Adult ChildTina talks through three ideas from How to Win Friends and Influence People that you can begin to implement today. Use these tips to meet the needs of your estranged adult child and draw them back into connection with you in an honest and generous way. If you like the idea of attracting your adult child with sincere attempts to meet his or her emotional needs, you’re in the right place with the Reconnection Club. Learn more at https://reconnectionclub.com/learn-more 2020-07-2008 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastDeclare Your IndependenceFor parents estranged from adult children, the concept of independence is often overlooked. But cultivating independence can have a positive impact on a rejected parent’s quality of life. That includes how you handle unwanted estrangement.2020-07-0609 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastHow Can They Do This After Calling You the Best Parent Ever?“To the world’s best mom...” If you ever received a note like this from your child, you might be wondering, how on earth did that adoring child become the silent, unyielding estranged adult she is today? How did you fall so far from grace, without doing anything differently? Tina suggests there are two main reasons for this seeming discrepancy in your child's feelings.2020-06-2212 min

Moments with MarianneOn My Watch with Virginia Buckingham & Reconnecting With Your Estranged Adult Child with Tina GilbertsonWhat if you were publicly blamed for the 9/11 attacks? In Virginia Buckingham's memoir, On My Watch, she explains just how that happened, and how she rebuilt her life after these traumatic events. Virginia Buckingham was the seventh of eight children born to blue-collar parents. A truly self-made success story, Buckingham has lived in Massachusetts for nearly 40 years and spent many of those shattering glass ceilings: She was the first woman to serve as chief of staff to two consecutive Massachusetts governors and was subsequently the first woman appointed to head that state’s Port Authority, owner and operator of...2020-06-201h 08

The Reconnection Club PodcastSeek First to Understand“Seek first to understand, then to be understood.” For parents of estranged adult children, this is one of the most practical and powerful tips available to help them in their quest for reconciliation. While this bit of wisdom didn’t originate with Stephen R. Covey, there’s a very good reason why he made it one of his 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. Seeking first to understand is rocket fuel for relationships. But as Tina points out in this episode, it’s hard to put “seek first to understand” into practice. Learn how to r...2020-06-0809 min

Let the Words Transport You With Free AudiobookReconnecting with Your Estranged Adult Child: Practical Tips and Tools to Heal Your Relationship Audiobook by Tina GilbertsonListen to this audiobook in full for free onhttps://hotaudiobook.com/freeID: 425984 Title: Reconnecting with Your Estranged Adult Child: Practical Tips and Tools to Heal Your Relationship Author: Tina Gilbertson Narrator: Coleen Marlo Format: Unabridged Length: 07:47:21 Language: English Release date: 05-26-20 Publisher: Tantor Media Genres: Health & Wellness, Marriage & Family, Parenting Summary: Parents whose adult children have cut off contact wonder: How did this happen? Where did I go wrong? What happened to my loving child? Over time, holidays, birthdays, and even the birth of grandchildren may pass in silence. Anguish may turn into anger. While time, in and of...2020-05-267h 47

Listen to Top Full Audiobooks in Health & Wellness, Relationships & IntimacyReconnecting with Your Estranged Adult Child: Practical Tips and Tools to Heal Your Relationship by Tina GilbertsonPlease visithttps://thebookvoice.com/podcasts/1/audiobook/425984to listen full audiobooks. Title: Reconnecting with Your Estranged Adult Child: Practical Tips and Tools to Heal Your Relationship Author: Tina Gilbertson Narrator: Coleen Marlo Format: Unabridged Audiobook Length: 7 hours 47 minutes Release date: May 26, 2020 Ratings: Ratings of Book: 4 of Total 2 Genres: Relationships & Intimacy Publisher's Summary: Parents whose adult children have cut off contact wonder: How did this happen? Where did I go wrong? What happened to my loving child? Over time, holidays, birthdays, and even the birth of grandchildren may pass in silence. Anguish may turn into anger. While time, in and of itself...2020-05-267h 47

The Reconnection Club PodcastParent-Adult Child Estrangement and Your Self-EsteemIn this episode, Tina describes specific problems created during estrangement by the parent’s low self-esteem, and what you can do to improve your self-concept. She also talks about why adult children become estranged after going into therapy. It may not be why you think it is.2020-05-2513 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastReconciiliation -- The 4 Stages of CompetenceTina often says that reconciliation is a process, not an event. In this episode, she discusses specific stages of learning that parents must traverse in order to get to the ultimate prize of permanent reconciliation with their children.2020-05-1112 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastWhy Rejected Parents Act Impulsively (And How Not To)Have you ever sent a text or email to your estranged adult child that you later regretted? Most rejected parents have done something like this at one time or another. If you haven’t yet, you probably will… unless you listen to this episode.2020-04-2711 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastShould You Send a Birthday Card?Estrangement from an adult child is difficult, but when a birthday comes around, it becomes complicated as well. Should you send her a gift? A card? An email? Or nothing at all? What’s the etiquette for recognizing an estranged child’s birthday? There’s no rulebook to go by, but common sense suggests that there are two ways to handle birthdays during an estrangement. The first is to respect your child’s request for no contact. This keeps it simple, but what if it doesn’t feel quite right in your case? You can al...2020-04-1312 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastWhy Don't Other Relatives Help?It’s bad enough to be estranged from your adult child, but when other relatives stand by and watch without attempting to help, you feel twice burned. Once by the rejection, and again by the abandonment of passive family members. Why do people who supposedly care about you continue to communicate with an estranged adult child who’s breaking your heart? Why do they insist on posting pictures of your child on their social media pages, where they know you can see them? Why do they favor the child with their friendship, instead of s...2020-03-3010 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastContacting Your Estranged Adult Child During the COVID-19 OutbreakInspired by a member's post entitled "To Reach Out or Not?" in the Reconnection Club forums, Tina addresses the question of contact in the shadow of the novel coronavirus. Members can find the discussion, "To Reach Out or Not?" in the General Discussion forum at reconnectionclub.com. To learn more about the Reconnection Club, go to reconnectionclub.com/learn-more.2020-03-2416 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastIf Your Child Asks You to Get Therapy“You should get therapy.” Has your adult child said those words to you? Have they made therapy a condition of continuing the relationship? Being told to seek therapy is no one’s idea of a compliment. But for parents of estranged adult children, it may be the start of a fantastic voyage into their own inner depths. Not to mention an unexpected portal to a better relationship with themselves and their child(ren). What does it mean when a child suggests therapy, and what should you do if they say it’s a condition of reconciliation? Is...2020-03-1611 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastEstrangement Hurts, But Not On PurposeThere’s no question that estrangement from an adult child is painful for rejected parents. But many parents suffer even more than necessary, because they believe their child is willingly hurting them. Nobody wants to think of their child as heartless, cruel, mentally ill, easily brainwashed, or any of the other qualities often attributed to people who estrange themselves from family. Instead, Tina suggests throwing out unsatisfying and inaccurate explanations, and relying instead on the mental model of Hanlon’s Razor: “Never attribute to malice that which can be adequately explained by neglect.” Tina puts an estra...2020-03-0208 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastEstrangement: A Phase of Development?Although estrangement from family isn’t normal for young adults, a normal phase of development can contribute to your child’s need for distance. In this episode, Tina briefly explains individuation and differentiation, and why these natural processes sometimes require distance from family. More importantly, she talks about specific steps you can take if you suspect your child’s estrangement is largely or wholly motivated by a developmental phase. Whether your child is 19 or 39, a phase of development can contribute to a sudden pulling away. That’s why it’s important not to personaliz...2020-02-1713 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastThree Elements of a Good ApologyIf you’re having trouble in any relationship… Especially if you’re the parent of an estranged adult child… You can’t afford NOT to be good at apologies. We know that people who estrange themselves from family don’t do it to be hurtful. They do it because they feel hurt in those relationships. They’re protecting themselves. That’s why apologies are sometimes the only communication that can break through a wall of silence. Until they receive an apology, anything else is not that interesting to someone who feels hurt. In this episode, Tina de...2020-02-0311 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastAdopted and EstrangedWhat’s the difference between estrangement from your biological child vs. an adopted child, particularly when that child is of a different race, or comes from a different country? Eli Harwood of the PASS Center in Denver, Colorado answers that question for us on today’s episode. This episode will be of interest to both adoptive and biological parents who want to make sure they’re on the same page with their adult children when they communicate with them. Tina shares an excerpt from her interview with Eli, who co-founded the PASS center to provide training and co...2020-01-2010 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastIs Your Child Blaming You for HER Problems?Rejected parents sometimes say things like, “My child has made a lot of bad choices. She’s miserable, and according to her, it’s all my fault.” In other words, the adult child is choosing to blame her parent or parents for her problems. Treating them like garbage because she feels bad about herself. Turning parents into scapegoats. Blaming someone else for our problems is common, but we usually blame people who are in some way involved. So if your child has at least average intelligence, why would he blame you for something you’re n...2020-01-0607 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastWalking on Eggshells After ReconciliationAt last, your child is back in touch! And while it feels wonderful to be close again, you don’t want to say or do the wrong thing. You instinctively know what the research has shown, which is that estrangements can and do happen over and over again within the same parent-child relationship. And every time your child becomes estranged, you don’t know if this will be the last time. So you’re walking on eggshells, hyper-aware of your behavior and wondering if you’ll ever calm down about the whole thing. You may...2019-12-2310 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastDo You Need an Estrangement Specialist for Therapy?You might seek out an estrangement specialist for therapy, because you want someone with a certain amount of compassion for what you’re going through – probably someone who’s been there. This is true of most estrangement specialists. Apart from your podcast host, Tina Gilbertson, most professionals who specialize in estrangement coaching are, or have been, involved in their own estrangements. In this episode, Tina shares both good and bad news. The bad news is that estrangement specialists are exceedingly hard to find, and there probably isn't one near you. The good news is, yo...2019-12-0908 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastHoliday Survival GuideFor parents estranged from adult children, it’s not easy getting through the holidays. This episode contains six survival tips to help see you through a potentially difficult time of year. One of the ideas mentioned, perhaps not surprisingly, is to volunteer (as long as you’re up for it mentally, emotionally and physically). Not only can helping others boost your mood, but it’s easier than ever to find things to volunteer for in December. See the links below to get started. Join our mailing list at reconnectionclub.com/mailing-list to receive our “T...2019-11-2512 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastHow Often Should You Reach Out?The question of how often to reach out to an estranged adult child is probably one of the top concerns of rejected parents. That’s mostly because they’re in a hurry to resolve the situation, which is understandable. They want to know how soon they can try again. If you’re feeling anxious about when you can or should contact your estranged child, please listen to Episode 1 to get another perspective. Unfortunately, there’s no formula that every parent can apply when it comes to a schedule of contact. Some should probably step back entirely...2019-11-1108 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastHow to Stay Positive When You're EstrangedIt's incredibly sad and distressing to be estranged from your adult child or children. Yet a positive attitude can make life more manageable, no matter what’s going on. Being more positive is good for both mental and physical health. But adopting such an attitude is so much easier said than done, when you're estranged from your own child! You can’t feel more positive just by wanting to. But the good news is, you can adopt particular behaviors that tend to lead to more positive emotions. Behavior is a direct path to motivation and other...2019-10-2808 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastPreparing for Unexpected ContactWhether your adult child lives in the same city as you, 100 miles away, or on the other side of the globe, it’s always possible that you could be faced with sudden, unexpected contact. What if he calls or texts you out of the blue? What if you bump into her at the farmer’s market? You may be surprised by spontaneous contact, but you don’t need to be unprepared. This episode offers parents 4 steps to prepare for unforeseen contact with your estranged adult child. Join our mailing list at reconnectionclub.com/mailin...2019-10-1408 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastThe 4 Horsemen of the ApologyA good apology is the ultimate relationship repair tool, and a must for anyone estranged against their wishes. Still, many parents are hesitant to embrace the idea of apologizing to their estranged adult children. I’ve thought a lot about why this is, and have come up with what I call the “Four Horsemen of the Apology.” These are things that get in the way of parents making use of this incredibly effective tool. In descending order of severity, the four horsemen are trauma, low self-esteem, fear of vulnerability, and concerns about fairness. ...2019-09-3012 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastAvoid These 3 Mistakes When Trying to Reconnect with Your Adult ChildWorking your way back to an adult child when they’ve cut off contact is a time-consuming process. This is maddening, when all you want to do is to reconcile and reconnect as quickly as possible. But haste makes waste, because being in a hurry almost always means making mistakes. This is true for any important endeavor. Today we discuss 3 common mistakes parents make in reaction to their adult child’s distancing. These are drawn from the “Top 7 Mistakes to Avoid” checklist at reconnectionclub.com, which you can get when you sign up for our mailing list at recon...2019-09-1608 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastEstrangement is an Ambiguous LossEstrangement from an adult child is what author Pauline Boss called an “ambiguous loss.” She wrote a book by that name in 1999, and although she didn’t talk specifically about estrangement, the circumstance definitely qualifies as similar to a familiar member being missing in action, or having a disease like Alzheimer’s, in which case they’re “there but not there.” These are losses that aren’t complete, and so can’t quite be grieved. Boss recommends two things for people experiencing ambiguous loss: Holding the ambiguity of the situation consciously in your mind, and Finding meaning, even in w...2019-09-0910 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastWhy Time is Your FriendMost estranged parents feel like time is a thief, stealing opportunities and happiness while they’re estranged from an adult child. This makes parents feel a bit desperate, so they reach out in ineffectual ways. But the reality is, you can only do so much. You can’t push the river. Fortunately, in addition to be a thief, Time is also your friend. Time heals heartbreaks and bad feelings, and can even help heal estrangement. If your child has asked for space, only Time will allow you to grant that request. Letting Time work its healing magic, allows your estr...2019-09-0208 min

The Reconnection Club PodcastIntroducing the Reconnection Club PodcastThis episode introduces you to your host, Tina Gilbertson, and what this show is all about. I talk about where I'm coming from (and not coming from), and what I'm hoping to accomplish with this show. I also introduce you to reconnectionclub.com, the genesis of the podcast. If you’re interested in personal growth, lifelong learning and becoming your best self in addition to reconnecting with your estranged adult child, make sure you subscribe. Episode 1 is scheduled for September 2, 2019. Subscribe today and/or join our mailing list at reconnectionclub.com/mailing-list. 2019-07-2005 min

Listen to Audiobook in Newspapers & Magazines, News & CultureDoing These Two Simple Things Can Help You Get Motivated When Youre Feeling Stuck by Tina Gilbertson | Free AudiobookListen to full audiobooks for free on :https://hotaudiobook.com/freeTitle: Doing These Two Simple Things Can Help You Get Motivated When Youre Feeling Stuck Author: Tina Gilbertson Narrator: Jenny Hoops Format: Unabridged Length: 3 mins Language: English Release date: 09-05-16 Publisher: The Washington Post Genres: Newspapers & Magazines, News & Culture Summary: "Doing These Two Simple Things Can Help You Get Motivated When Youre Feeling Stuck" is from the September 5, 2016 Inspired Life section of The Washington Post. It was written by Tina Gilbertson and narrated by Jenny Hoops. ©2016 The Washington Post (P)2016 Audible, Inc. Contact: info@hotaudiobook.com 2016-09-0603 min

How to Beat Bad Feelings with Therapist Tina GilbertsonSister Jenna welcomes Therapist Tina Gilbertson to the America Meditating Radio Show. Tina Gilbertson was living the dream. She resided in New York and had inched her way up the corporate ladder to finally arrive at a successful position in television. The only problem was; it wasn’t her dream – it was everyone else’s. Eventually Tina’s dissatisfaction led to the therapy couch; she had decided to find her answers in therapy. This time of self-examination came with a surprise; Tina uncovered her true passion— she wanted to help people as a professional counselor. After going back...2015-05-1233 min

America Meditating RadioHow to Beat Bad Feelings with Therapist Tina GilbertsonSister Jenna welcomes Therapist Tina Gilbertson to the America Meditating Radio Show. Tina Gilbertson was living the dream. She resided in New York and had inched her way up the corporate ladder to finally arrive at a successful position in television. The only problem was; it wasn’t her dream – it was everyone else’s. Eventually Tina’s dissatisfaction led to the therapy couch; she had decided to find her answers in therapy. This time of self-examination came with a surprise; Tina uncovered her true passion— she wanted to help people as a professional counselor. After going back...2015-05-1233 min

America Meditating RadioHow to Beat Bad Feelings with Therapist Tina GilbertsonSister Jenna welcomes Tina Gilbertson to the America Meditating Radio Show!Tina Gilbertson was living the dream. She resided in New York and had inched her way up the corporate ladder to finally arrive at a successful position in television. The only problem was; it wasn’t her dream – it was everyone else’s. Eventually Tina’s dissatisfaction led to the therapy couch; she had decided to find her answers in therapy. This time of self-examination came with a surprise; Tina uncovered her true passion— she wanted to help people as a professional counselor. After going back to col...2015-04-0233 min

How to Beat Bad Feelings with Therapist Tina GilbertsonSister Jenna welcomes Tina Gilbertson to the America Meditating Radio Show!Tina Gilbertson was living the dream. She resided in New York and had inched her way up the corporate ladder to finally arrive at a successful position in television. The only problem was; it wasn’t her dream – it was everyone else’s. Eventually Tina’s dissatisfaction led to the therapy couch; she had decided to find her answers in therapy. This time of self-examination came with a surprise; Tina uncovered her true passion— she wanted to help people as a professional counselor. After going back to col...2015-04-0233 min

Constructive Wallowing with Therapist Tina GilbertsonTina Gilbertson was living the dream. She resided in New York and had inched her way up the corporate ladder to finally arrive at a successful position in television. The only problem was; it wasn’t her dream – it was everyone else’s. Eventually Tina’s dissatisfaction led to the therapy couch; she had decided to find her answers in therapy. This time of self-examination came with a surprise; Tina uncovered her true passion— she wanted to help people as a professional counselor. After going back to college and becoming licensed, Tina found herself specializing in feelings and how people...2015-03-1833 min

America Meditating RadioConstructive Wallowing with Therapist Tina GilbertsonTina Gilbertson was living the dream. She resided in New York and had inched her way up the corporate ladder to finally arrive at a successful position in television. The only problem was; it wasn’t her dream – it was everyone else’s. Eventually Tina’s dissatisfaction led to the therapy couch; she had decided to find her answers in therapy. This time of self-examination came with a surprise; Tina uncovered her true passion— she wanted to help people as a professional counselor. After going back to college and becoming licensed, Tina found herself specializing in feelings and how people...2015-03-1833 min

CHI FOR YOURSELF host: John KobikCHI FOR YOURSELF guest: Tina Gilbertson“Constructive wallowing” seems like an oxymoron. Constructive is a good thing, but wallowing is bad. Right? But wait a minute; is it really so terrible to give ourselves a time-out to feel our feelings? Or is it possible that wallowing is an act of loving kindness, right when we need it most?Our CHI FOR YOURSELF guest, Tina Gilbertson, says uncomfortable feelings like anger, despair and resentment don't go away just because we try to ignore them. She says a little constructive wallowing goes a long way when you want to let go of the past and move forw...2014-09-1626 min $Coach Cafe\' Radio$ Coach Cafe' RadioConstructive Wallowing with Tina GilbertsonCoach Cafe' Radio is THE Self Empowerment Place to Meet -Where you Get you Weekly Cup of Inspiration every Friday 11 am eastern on BlogTalk Radio with certified Law of Attraction Life Coaches Kathleen Martin, LOACC and Estra Roell, LOACC. We all have negative feelings. What do you do with yours? Chances are, when it comes to the small losses, irritations, upsets, and annoyances that the vast majority of us suffer daily and weekly, year in and year out, we say, “It could be worse” or “At least I’ve got my health.” In this effort to look on the bright side, we succ...2014-07-2500 min

"Life Mastery Radio" with Todd & JackieConstructive Wallowing with Tina Gilbertson 7/15/14Tina Gilbertson, shares how to beat bad feelings by yourself have them. In her book, Constructive Wallowing, she highlights the T-R-U-T-H about connecting with feelings and letting the critical gremlin within have a day off while essential and “constructive” healing takes place. Although not a new idea, Gilbertson’s spin on this mental health technique is refreshing, thorough, and straight-forward. The results are the end of an “internal war” with old wounds and new found energy to enjoy true bliss. Tina Gilbertson is a mental health counselor who teaches assertiveness and self-esteem workshops on goal-setting, decision-making, overcoming anxiety and finding the right...2014-07-1554 min