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Coaching Your Family RelationshipsFamily Reactivity and Anxiety: Why Your Relationship Feels StuckLet us know what you think about the podcast!Episode 207 - Family Reactivity and Anxiety: Why Your Relationship Feels Stuck Do you feel stuck in painful cycles of family conflict and emotional reactions? Maybe you feel like you are walking on eggshells around your child. Or maybe your emotions take over, and you say things you later wish you had handled differently.In this episode of the Coaching Your Family Relationships Podcast, Tina Gosney, family conflict coach and family life educator, teaches you why reactivity is one of t...
2026-02-1025 minCoaching Your Family RelationshipsHow to Reconnect with an Estranged Adult Child by Calming Your Righting ReflexLet us know what you think about the podcast!Episode 205: How to Reconnect with an Estranged Adult Child by Calming Your Righting Reflex What if the harder you try to help your adult child, the more they pull away? In this episode, we talk about why your adult child won’t talk to you, how our child-centered parenting culture has increased anxiety for both parents and kids, and how that anxiety is now playing out in your relationship with your grown child. Tina Gosney is a family conflic...
2026-01-2727 minCoaching Your Family Relationships"Why Won't My Adult Child Talk to Me?" An Unhelpful QuestionLet us know what you think about the podcast!Episode 204: Why Won’t My Adult Child Talk to Me? An Unhelpful QuestionIf you’re lying awake asking yourself, “Why won’t my adult child talk to me?” you are not alone.This question sits at the heart of so much pain for parents navigating emotional distance from adult children. Many parents feel rejected, confused, and exhausted—especially when they’ve tried so hard to be loving, supportive, and present.In this episode of the Coaching Your Family Relationships...
2026-01-2018 minCoaching Your Family RelationshipsPowerful Lessons to Carry Into the New Year - Listener Favorites from 2025Let us know what you think about the podcast!Episode 201: Powerful Lessons to Carry Into the New Year – Listener Favorites from 2025 Are you ready to start the new year with strength, clarity, and hope?In this special compilation episode, I’m bringing you highlights from four of the most impactful and talked-about episodes of 2025. These conversations struck a deep chord with so many listeners—and if you’re like most of the parents I work with, they’ll speak directly to your heart too.I'm Tina Gosney, family conflict coach and f...
2025-12-192h 55Coaching Your Family RelationshipsWhy Gratitude Changes Everything: Abundance, Joy, and Healing in Family LifeLet us know what you think about the podcast!Episode 200 - Why Gratitude Changes Everything: Abundance, Joy, and Healing in Family Life In today’s episode of the Finding Joy Series, Tina dives deep into one of the most powerful emotional tools available to us—gratitude. This isn’t the shallow “write three things” gratitude list you’ve heard a thousand times. Instead, Tina teaches you how gratitude helps regulate your nervous system, rewires your brain’s negativity bias, and creates real emotional safety in your body.Drawing from the Eight Pillars of Joy...
2025-11-2522 minCoaching Your Family RelationshipsTwo Communication Habits that Hurt Your Family RelationshipsLet us know what you think about the podcast!Episode 199: Two Communication Habits That Hurt Your Family Relationships Are your efforts to connect actually driving disconnection? In this episode of the Coaching Your Family Relationships Podcast, Tina Gosney, family conflict coach and family life educator, unpacks two common communication habits that silently sabotage family trust and closeness—Unbridled Self-Expression and Punishment and Retaliation. These habits often come from a place of deep hurt or high expectations, but they rarely get you the connection you want. Inste...
2025-11-1823 minCoaching Your Family RelationshipsWhy Needing to Be Right and Staying in Control Are Hurting Your Relationship with Your Adult ChildLet us know what you think about the podcast!Episode 198 - Why Needing to Be Right and Staying in Control Are Hurting Your Relationship with Your Adult Child"Why won’t my adult child talk to me?" If you’ve found yourself asking that question, you're not alone—and this episode is for you.I’m Tina Gosney, family conflict coach and family life educator. In this special rebroadcast, I’m bringing back two powerful episodes because the messages inside them are so important. They highlight two common...
2025-11-1129 minCoaching Your Family RelationshipsThe Emotionally Immature Things We Say (And Why They Don’t Work)Let us know what you think about the podcast!Episode 196 - The Emotionally Immature Things We Say (And Why They Don’t Work)Have you ever walked away from a conversation with your adult child and thought, “Why did I say that?” or “That did not go how I wanted”?In this episode, Tina dives deep into the emotionally immature things we say—often without realizing it—and why those words don’t create the connection we long for. You’ll learn how your nervous system hijacks your responses, how to notice your patter...
2025-10-2112 minCoaching Your Family RelationshipsDo I Have to Choose Between Peace and Honesty in My Family?Let us know what you think about the podcast!Episode 194 - Do I Have to Choose Between Peace and Honest in My Family?Have you ever felt stuck between keeping the peace in your family and being honest about how you really feel?In this episode, Tina Gosney, Family Conflict Coach and Family Life Educator, explains why that “peace vs. honesty” tug-of-war is actually a false choice—and how you can show up with both calm and clarity in even the hardest conversations.You’ll learn:Why fixing, pleasing...
2025-10-0715 minCoaching Your Family RelationshipsWhen Conflict or Silence Feels Like Love: What Fighting and Avoidance Say About Your FamilyLet us know what you think about the podcast!Episode 191 - When Conflict or Silence Feels Like Love: What Fighting and Avoidance Say About Your FamilyIs your family stuck in conflict—either yelling and arguing or avoiding everything in silence? In this episode, family relationship coach Tina Gosney explains how conflict styles shape marriage, parenting, and your relationship with adult children—and how to move from destructive patterns to constructive conflict and emotional safety. In this episode of Coaching Your Family Relationships, Tina Gosney, Family Life Educator and Family Relat...
2025-09-2315 minCoaching Your Family RelationshipsWhy Taking Care of Yourself Isn’t Selfish: How Wise Selfishness Strengthens Family RelationshipsLet us know what you think about the podcast!Episode 190: Why Taking Care of Yourself Isn't Selfish: How Wise Selfishness Strengthens Family RelationshipsIs taking care of yourself selfish—or is it the very thing your family needs most?In this episode of Coaching Your Family Relationships, Family Conflict Coach, Tina Gosney, explores the belief so many women were raised with: that self-care is wrong, selfish, or indulgent. Using the story of “Sarah,” a mom running on empty from years of self-sacrifice, Tina unpacks how burnout, resentment, and guilt often come from i...
2025-09-1619 minCoaching Your Family RelationshipsWhy Strategies Aren’t Enough to Heal Family Disconnection (And What Actually Works)Let us know what you think about the podcast!Episode 189: Why Strategies Aren’t Enough to Heal Family Disconnection (And What Actually Works)Have you tried everything to fix your family—but nothing seems to work?You’ve read the books. You’ve followed the scripts. You’ve apologized, stayed calm, set boundaries… And you’re still walking on eggshells.In this episode, Tina Gosney, Family Relationship Coach and expert in Bowen Family Systems Theory, explains why strategies and tools—while helpful—are not enough to heal deep famil...
2025-09-0914 minCoaching Your Family RelationshipsStress: What Happens to Your Brain and Body (And How to Stay Grounded)Let us know what you think about the podcast!Stress: What Happens to Your Brain and Body (And How to Stay Grounded) Have you ever felt hijacked by your emotions in the middle of a family conflict—and later wondered, “Why did I react that way?” In this episode, Tina Gosney breaks down the powerful brain and body science behind your stress response. You’ll learn what happens when your nervous system senses danger, why it’s so hard to stay calm in high-conflict situations, and how to ground yourself when you feel emotionally...
2025-08-2618 minCoaching Your Family RelationshipsWhen It Comes Out of Nowhere: The Emotional Gut PunchLet us know what you think about the podcast!Episode 183 - When It Comes Out of Nowhere: The Emotional Gut PunchWhat do you do when a family conflict hits you out of nowhere and leaves you reeling? In this episode, Tina Gosney shares how to navigate the emotional “gut punch” of sudden family hurt. You'll learn why these moments are so disorienting, how our reactions can intensify suffering, and how to begin responding with clarity, courage, and self-compassion.Tina explains the Buddhist teaching of the Two Arrows and the difference betw...
2025-07-2922 minCoaching Your Family RelationshipsHow Your Nervous System Shapes Reactions, Relationships, and Resilience with Leah DavidsonLet us know what you think about the podcast!Episode 180: How Your Nervous System Shapes Reactions, Relationships, and Resilience with Leah DavidsonHave you ever wondered why pausing before reacting feels impossible for you? Why do your automatic responses keep hijacking your intentions, especially with the people you love most?In this powerful conversation, Tina is joined by Leah Davidson, a Nervous System Resilience Coach, life coach, and Speech Language Pathologist with over 26 years working in traumatic brain injury. Leah explains how our nervous system is running the show behind the...
2025-07-081h 01Coaching Your Family RelationshipsBreak the Cycle and Lead Your Family with Calm, Loving Energy and Personal IntegrityLet us know what you think about the podcast!Episode 179 - Break the Cycle and Lead Your Family with Calm, Loving Energy and Personal IntegrityYou don’t have to repeat the patterns you were raised with.Whether you're parenting toddlers, teens, or adult children, this powerful season opener will help you step into a new kind of leadership in your family—one rooted in calm, love, and integrity.Tina Gosney shares why unprocessed emotions get acted out in parenting, how every family member is living their own version of t...
2025-07-0118 minCoaching Your Family RelationshipsYou’re Not Broken—You’re Becoming: What to Expect This SeasonLet us know what you think about the podcast!You're Not Broken - You're Becoming (Season 5 Trailer)Welcome to a brand-new season of Coaching Your Family Relationships! In this kickoff episode, Tina shares a vulnerable personal story about spiraling after a difficult conversation with a loved one—and what it taught her about emotional resilience, identity, and the power of curiosity. You’ll learn what to expect this season, including expert guests and real conversations that go deeper than relationship “tips” and tackle the true root of family conflict: how you see yourself. If you’ve...
2025-06-2610 minCoaching Your Family RelationshipsWhat Your Young Adult Child Wants You to KnowLet us know what you think about the podcast!What Your Young Adult Child Wants You to KnowIf you've ever wondered what your young adult child is really thinking—but they're not telling you—this episode is for you. Tina Gosney sits down with two self-aware and deeply insightful young adults, Clarice Paulsen and Caleb Price, to give parents a rare look inside the young adult experience.You’ll hear honest and vulnerable stories about how parents unintentionally make life harder for their young adult children—and what they actually need ins...
2025-04-081h 00Coaching Your Family RelationshipsHow to Stop Walking on Eggshells and Create a Healthier RelationshipLet us know what you think about the podcast!Episode 174: How to Stop Walking on Eggshells and Create a Healthier Relationship If you have ever felt like you are walking on eggshells around your adult child—constantly giving but not receiving respect in return—you are not alone. Setting boundaries is one of the most common struggles parents face, but many misunderstand what boundaries actually are. Boundaries are not about controlling your child or shutting them out; they are about creating a healthier, more balanced relationship based on mutual respect. In this e...
2025-03-1114 minCoaching Your Family RelationshipsThe Power of Courage: Transforming Your Family RelationshipsLet us know what you think about the podcast!#172 The Power of Courage: Transforming Your Relationship with Your Family RelationshipsAre you struggling with a difficult relationship with your adult child? Do you feel stuck in frustration, sadness, and confusion, unsure of how to reconnect? In this episode of The Coaching Your Family Relationships Podcast, host Tina Gosney explains why courage is the essential emotion needed to break free from painful relationship patterns and rebuild a meaningful connection.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:How emotions li...
2025-02-2519 minCoaching Your Family RelationshipsNavigating Estrangement: How to Reconnect with Your Adult ChildLet us know what you think about the podcast!Episode 169: Navigating Estrangement: How to Reconnect with Your Adult ChildIn this Ask Me Anything episode, Tina Gosney, The Family Conflict Coach, answers two heartfelt questions from parents struggling with estrangement from their adult children. These relationships are complex, emotional, and often deeply rooted in family patterns that span generations. Tina shares insights from Bowen Family Systems Theory and differentiation of self to help parents navigate these challenging dynamics.If you're dealing with a strained relationship with your adult...
2025-02-0419 minCoaching Your Family Relationships**Bonus Episode - Get to Know Your Host, Tina Gosney, Family Conflict CoachLet us know what you think about the podcast!Bonus Episode: Get to Know Your Host – Tina Gosney, Family Conflict CoachMeet the host of the podcast, Tina Gosney, Family Conflict Coach. In this episode, you’ll hear a glimpse into my story and about why I decided to become a coach that focuses on family relationships. At minute 14 you’ll hear about The Mother Tree – the oldest trees in the forest who help to stabilize and nourish younger trees when they are in stress. For you to become your own v...
2025-01-2019 minCoaching Your Family RelationshipsHow to Take a Time Out That Really WorksLet us know what you think about the podcast!Episode 156 – How to Take a Time Out That Really WorksWhen you get emotionally flooded, that is a signal you need a time out!This week’s episode outlines Terry Real’s 10 New Rules of Time Out1. The time out is a circuit breaker2. Take your time out from the “I” position.3. Take distance responsibly.4. Use the phrase “time out” or gesture the T signal with your hands. 5. Don’t let yourself get stopped.6. Use check...
2024-09-2419 minCoaching Your Family RelationshipsRespond to Your Family Members Intentionally, Don’t React from Automatic ProgrammingLet us know what you think about the podcast!Episode 155 - Respond to Your Family Members Intentionally, Don’t React from Automatic ProgrammingEveryone is capable of learning to control their reactions to other people and situations. No one needs to take on the identity of a person who can’t control themselves. Learning to manage your own responses to the world is a skill you can learn just like any other skill. It takes consistent effort over time. Learning to manage your own responses to others is your responsibility, not anyone else’s.
2024-09-1725 minCoaching Your Family RelationshipsThe One Decision that will Change EverythingLet us know what you think about the podcast!Episode 154 – The One Decision That Will Change Everything Big issues and problems can feel overwhelming and cause us to act with a lot of fear. Making decisions and acting from a feeling of overwhelm rarely leads to anything productive. So do something else instead. When you slow down and act intentionally, you might just see that there is one action, one decision that will affect everything else in the way you’re hoping it will go. What is that one decis...
2024-09-1023 minCoaching Your Family RelationshipsBe an Agent in Your FamilyLet us know what you think about the podcast!Episode 152 – Be an Agent in Your Family Family relationships run on systems, and each family has its own system. One system many families use is to blame each other for how we act and react, and not take ownership of our own choices. My husband and I were stuck in this blame/blame system for years. And then we decided we wanted something more and we wanted to clean up our relationship so that we could move forward into a new...
2024-08-2720 minCoaching Your Family RelationshipsHow to Love Your Marriage - Bonus episodeGive your relationship a gift this year - sign up for this in-person marriage workshop in Meridian, ID. The How 2 Love Your Marriage Workshop will be held January 19-20. Aimee Gianni, MFT and Master Relationship Coach will be teaching how to create an honest, intimate, and collaborative marriage. The greatest indicator of our happiness, life satisfaction, and overall health can be tied directly to the quality of our closest relationship. There is no greater gift you can give yourself and your relationship this year. No matter where your relationship is right now, you will...
2023-11-1017 minCoaching Your Family RelationshipsTake Radical Responsibility for Your RelationshipsLet us know what you think about the podcast!#102 – Take Radical Responsibility for Your RelationshipsIf you’re like most people, when you’re struggling in a relationship, you fall into either blaming another person for how they are making you feel, or you’re trying to get them to be different so you can feel better. Maybe you’re doing both!What if you didn’t have to do either, and instead of focusing on the other person, you’re focusing on yourself and your own responsibility for the thoughts you’re having...
2023-08-1031 minCoaching Your Family RelationshipsPersonal and Relational Growth, with Aimee Gianni, GROW part 1Let us know what you think about the podcast!Episode 88 – Personal and Relational Growth, with Aimee Gianni, GROW part 1March is GROW month in the Know, Love, Grow series. There have been some really great episodes on KNOW in January and LOVE in February. It would be helpful to get caught up on those if you haven’t already watched them. When we know who we are, and we work on accepting and loving ourselves right where we are in our lives, we can begin to grow. Growth sounds really...
2023-03-0258 minCoaching Your Family RelationshipsTop 5 Lessons Learned in 2022, with Micah GosneyLet us know what you think about the podcast!Episode 77 - Top 5 Lessons Learned in 2022, with Micah GosneyMicah is back and we talk about some of the things we've learned this year that were significant to us. Micah's List:1. Differentiation2. Thoughts create feelings3. Letting go of old habits is necessary to become your new self4. Learning new information and practice using it 5. Learning to access creativityTina's list:1. The stories in our heads are really just stories and we get t...
2022-12-3047 minCoaching Your Family RelationshipsLet's talk about "Original Grace" by Adam Miller, with Micah GosneyLet us know what you think about the podcast!#076 - Let's talk about "Original Grace" by Adam Miller, with Micah GosneyI've saved this episode for the week of Christmas because this book - Original Grace - was pivotal this year in the growth I've experienced this year in understanding grace, justice, Christ, and the Atonement. Adam Miller, a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, and a professor of philosophy, and a prolific author of many great books you can find at Deseret Book and on Amazon.
2022-12-2249 minCoaching Your Family RelationshipsNavigating the Holidays with a Mixed-Faith Family, with Jennifer BarnhartLet us know what you think about the podcast!Episode 71 - Navigating the Holidays with a Mixed-Faith Family, with Jennifer BarnhartIf this is your first holiday season as a mixed-faith family, this is your episode. This is also your episode if you have been a mixed-faith family for a long time and want new ideas of how to celebrate the religious holidays. Jennifer Barnhart, a fellow life coach, is very intentional in the way she celebrates Christmas and how she connects with God and her family when not...
2022-11-1742 minCoaching Your Family RelationshipsThe Pyramid of Influence - What Other People Feel, part 4 of 5Let us know what you think about the podcast!Episode 70 - The Pyramid of Influence - What Other People Feel, part 4 of 5Tina Gosney and Brent Bartel are back to discuss level 2 of Stephen R Covey's Pyramid of Influence - the relationship level and what other people feel when they are around you. This episode is the 4th in a 6 part series on the Pyramid of Influence. Want to listen to the first 3 in the series, click belowEpisode 65 - The Pyramid of Influence - What Other People See, p...
2022-11-151h 04Coaching Your Family RelationshipsThe Pyramid of Influence - What Other People Feel, part 3 of 5Let us know what you think about the podcast!Episode 69 - The Pyramid of Influence - What Other People Feel, part 3 of 5Tina Gosney and Brent Bartel continue their discussion on Stephen R. Covey's Pyramid of Influence and in this episode they focus on the 2nd level of influence - what other people feel when they are around you. If you are wishing and wanting to have more influence in the lives of your family members, influence in a non-controlling, authentic, and loving way, this series of discussions will be very...
2022-11-1057 minCoaching Your Family RelationshipsMastering the Pause ButtonLet us know what you think about the podcast!Episode 68 – Mastering the “Pause Button” through breathworkPausing before you react to difficult people and difficult situations in life is something most people are trying to get better at. One way to gain more control of your reactions is to sustain a daily meditation practice, but most people struggle to make meditation a habit. It’s not an easy habit to adopt. An intentional breathing practice has similar results as meditation, but is much easier to adapt and maintain. This episode outlines why we a...
2022-11-0317 minCoaching Your Family RelationshipsLearning from FailureLet us know what you think about the podcast!Episode 67 – Learning from FailureNo one wants to fail, but everyone does. It doesn’t really matter how many times you fail, but it does matter what you do after you fail. Especially when you have fails in your family relationships. You can dwell on those failures for days, weeks, even years. Or you can take time to learn from them. We never fail at anything if we take the time to learn, make amends, and then try to do better next time...
2022-10-2735 minCoaching Your Family RelationshipsThe Pyramid of Influence with Brent Bartel, part 1 of 5Let us know what you think about the podcast!#065 - The Pyramid of Influence with Brent Bartel, part 1 of 5If you're a parent, you probably wish you had more influence on your children than you do. But, how do you make that happen?Brent Bartel, a coach, and Tina Gosney talk about Stephen R Covey's Pyramid of Influence in his book, "Principle-Centered Leadership" and how to begin having more influence on the people you love the most. This is episode is part 1 of 2 as Brent and Tina discuss just the...
2022-10-1337 minCoaching Your Family RelationshipsThe Pyramid of Influence with Brent Bartel, part 2 of 5Let us know what you think about the podcast!Episode 66 - Pyramid of Influence with Brent Bartel, pt 2 of 5If you're a parent, you probably wish you had more influence on your children than you do. But, how do you make that happen?Brent Bartel, a coach, and Tina Gosney talk about Stephen R Covey's Pyramid of Influence in his book, "Principle-Centered Leadership"and how to begin having more influence on the people you love the most. This is episode is part 2 of 2 as Brent and Tina discuss just the bottom...
2022-10-1348 minCoaching Your Family RelationshipsThe Way Other People Treat You Gives You InformationLet us know what you think about the podcast!Episode 64 – The Way Other People Treat You Gives You Information When you feel mistreated by another person, it is easy to become very reactive, to feel victimized, angry, and justified in your reactions. But that doesn’t have to happen. The way another person acts towards you gives you information about them and what is going on inside of them. The way you react to them tells you and them what is going on inside of you. Takeaways: #1...
2022-09-2924 minCoaching Your Family RelationshipsProcessing EmotionsLet us know what you think about the podcast!#063 – Processing EmotionsI’ve helped hundreds of people process emotions and I can help you too. Don’t let your emotions take you for a ride and drive you around. You can get back in the driver’s seat of your own life if you know how to process them and learn from them. Listen to this episode to learn how. Set up a 50-minute call with me and let me help you learn how to process your emotions. Let’s talk about the e...
2022-09-1535 minCoaching Your Family RelationshipsLet People Tell You Things You Don't Want to HearLet us know what you think about the podcast!#062 Let People Tell You Things You Don’t Want to HearWarning! This podcast will cover an advanced topic that is helpful after you have done the foundational work. Of course, you can listen to this episode without learning the basics first, but you will get more out of it if you have listened to the foundational topics beforehand. If you have not done foundational work yet, listen to these podcasts first:· #6 – How to Find Emotional Resilience· #17 – Why Your Thoughts are S...
2022-09-0830 minCoaching Your Family RelationshipsSlow Down and Stop Being So ReactionaryLet us know what you think about the podcast!#061 – Slow Down and Stop Being So ReactionaryOne thing I teach my clients is to slow down their reactions to other people and choose intentionally how they want to respond. Most people struggle with this! So, if you’re one of those people, you’re in good company!Being reactive – saying and doing things you regret later – has a lot to do with your nervous system and letting it be in charge. You can begin to change this response in yourself when you work o...
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