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THE EMPOWERED WOMAN, Storytelling, Speaking, Brand Awareness, Business Growth, Marketing, SalesAttachment-First Parenting: Transforming Families Through Connection — with Todd SarnerJoin us as we explore the transformative journey of Todd Sarner, a dedicated parenting coach and couples counselor, who shares his unique insights into attachment-first parenting. Through Todd's personal story of transitioning from an aspiring psychotherapist to a parenting expert, we learn about the crucial role of attachment in nurturing both child development and adult relationships. Todd offers valuable perspectives on how prioritizing connection with children can resolve behavioral issues and foster healthier family dynamics. Listen in as we discuss the complexities and triumphs of couples counseling for parents and uncover how understanding each child's unique needs can lead...
2025-11-2131 min
The Personal Success Podcast with Ryan Watts#118 - Transformative Parenting Part 2: Raising Calm & Connected Kids in a Disconnected World With Todd SarnerIn part two of my conversation with Todd Sarner, MFT, we move from theory into practice...exploring how to bring attachment-centered parenting to life every day. Todd explains the developmental journey of individuation and integration...how children grow from a sense of “we” into healthy independence without losing connection.
We discuss what it means to “collect before you direct,” the simple yet powerful act of reconnecting before giving instruction or correction, and how guilt and repair can become transformative instead of shame-based. Todd offers practical examples for parents of toddlers through teens, emphasizing that presence, empathy, and leadersh...
2025-11-1945 min
Moms on the Rise129. How to Bring More Calm and Connection Back Into Your Home with Todd SarnerIf you’ve ever ended the day wondering why parenting feels so hard when you’re trying so hard, this episode is for you.Today I’m sitting down with Todd Sarner, a psychotherapist and founder of Transformative Parenting, to talk about how we can bring more calm, connection, and confidence into our homes. We get into why even the most loving moms lose their patience sometimes, how to see our kids (and ourselves) with more compassion, and what it really means to be the “answer” our kids need. Todd’s insights are such a reminde...
2025-11-191h 09
The Pediatrician Next Door - Simple Advice on Parenting and Family HealthEp. 142: Why Kids Push our Buttons: Staying Calm and Connected - with Todd SarnerWhy does your calm, reasonable self disappear when your child refuses to put on their shoes? Therapist Todd Sarner answers Dr. Wendy’s questions about why kids seem to know exactly how to push our buttons—and why it’s not about defiance at all. Discover why common discipline tactics don’t work, and what to do instead. Learn how to reset after a blow-up, and get back on the same page with your partner—no sticker charts required.
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2025-11-1933 min
The Personal Success Podcast with Ryan Watts#117 - Transformative Parenting Part 1: The Missing Piece — Why Attachment Is Everything With Todd SarnerIn this first part of my conversation with Todd Sarner, MFT, we dive into what it really means to be a calm and connected parent in a world full of distractions... technology... and overwhelm. Todd shares his journey from helping children directly to realizing that the most powerful way to support them is by helping parents strengthen attachment... the glue that makes every other parenting strategy work. We talk about why connection always comes before correction... what it means to stay in the “alpha” or leadership position as a parent... and how the simple act of getting in your chil...
2025-11-1735 min
The Self Esteem and Confidence Mindset: Confidence Strategies for Ambitious ProfessionalsParenting Tips for Raising Confident Kids: Building Self-Esteem in Children with Todd SarnerMore from Todd:Book: The Calm & Connected Parent: An Attachment-First Guide to Raising Resilient Kids in the Age of Screens and AI – releasing November 18, 2025. Learn more at www.transformativeparenting.com.Free Masterclass: The Connection Cure: How to Raise Resilient, Emotionally Secure Kids (Without Yelling or Giving In) — a concise 20-minute training that gives parents a practical framework for calm, confident leadership at home. Watch at www.masterclassforparents.comAre you raising kids who are confident, resilient, and emotionally healthy? Or are you accidentally passing down your own insecurities and fears? In this essent...
2025-11-1740 min
Elisha's Space: Counseling and Authentic Conversations on HealingTransformative Parenting & Counseling: Secure Attachment and Resilient Kids with Todd SarnerIn this episode of Elisha's Space, a counseling show dedicated to authentic conversations on healing and personal development, discover expert insights on transformative parenting. Todd Sarner, MFT, discusses how secure attachment, mindful parenting rituals, and trauma-informed strategies help raise resilient children. Learn practical counseling approaches for overcoming parenting challenges, fostering emotional connection, and nurturing long-lasting resilience in kids. Whether you're navigating depression, trauma recovery, or parenting struggles, this conversation equips you with valuable tools to create a supportive family culture.
2025-11-0941 minElisha's Space: Counseling and Authentic Conversations on HealingUnlocking Attachment: Healing and Secure Parenting with Todd Sarner, MFTJoin host Elisha and guest Todd Sarner, MFT, in this insightful episode exploring attachment theory, trauma, and counseling strategies for parenting and healing. Discover practical methods for fostering secure relationships, healing childhood wounds, and creating calm, connected homes. Todd shares expert advice on secure attachment, personal development, and the critical role of self-care for parents. Whether you're a parent, therapist, or embarking on your own healing journey, this episode offers actionable guidance for nurturing healthy relationships and emotional well-being through counseling and authentic conversations.Get your copy of The Mental Health Handbook: Strategies for...
2025-11-0745 min
Parenting Great Kids with Dr. Meg MeekerEp. 300 Unlocking Connection and Calm in Parenting: The Attachment-First ApproachIn this transformative episode of Parenting Great Kids, Dr. Meg Meeker welcomes psychotherapist and parenting coach Todd Sarner to unpack powerful, research-backed parenting strategies that prioritize connection and attachment over behavior control. Sarner challenges the traditional "behavior-first" models and instead encourages a relational, attachment-first parenting style that fosters emotional regulation, trust, and long-term resilience in children.From exploring the root causes of conflict to rethinking discipline through the lens of unmet needs, this episode provides practical tools, mindset shifts, and actionable advice for parents navigating the complexities of raising emotionally healthy children in today's world. Todd also...
2025-11-0648 min
The Parenting WisdomThe Transformative Power of Attachment Parenting: How to Become the Calm, Confident Leader Your Kids NeedThe Transformative Power of Attachment Parenting: How to Become the Calm, Confident Leader Your Kids NeedIn this episode of The Parenting Wisdom Podcast, Efrat Amira sits down with parenting coach and therapist Todd Sarner, founder of Transformative Parenting, to explore what it truly means to parent with both connection and leadership.Drawing on the wisdom of attachment science and the teachings of Dr. Gordon Neufeld (Hold On to Your Kids), Todd shares how modern parents can reclaim their natural authority—not through control or punishment, but through calm, co...
2025-11-051h 00
Families Matter MostEp 128 Transformative Parenting (Featuring Todd Sarner)In this episode, psychotherapist and parenting coach Todd Sarner shares powerful insights into defiance, attachment, and the instincts driving our children's behavior. We explore why kids resist, what's really behind "challenging" behavior, and how understanding their emotional needs can transform how we respond. Todd brings clarity and compassion to the parenting journey, helping us move from reactivity to connection—with tools rooted in attachment theory and neuroscience. Perfect for any parent wanting to go deeper than discipline and discover the why behind their child's behavior. When we understand the why, everything begins to ch...
2025-11-0537 min
A Year and a Day: Divorce Without DestructionBridging the Gap: Kids and Divorce AnxietyWelcome to A Year and a Day. In this episode, Jaime Davis, a board-certified family law attorney at Gailor Hunt, focuses on helping children during family transitions by talking with Todd Sarner, founder of Transformative Parenting and a licensed psychotherapist.Todd's work is built on Attachment First Science, which centers on the child's need for security in their primary relationships. He explains how his personal experience as a child of divorce inspired his mission to help parents move from daily chaos to lasting calm.Jaime and Todd discuss why a child's behavior—such as resistance an...
2025-11-0441 min
Holding the Fort Abroad#82 How to nurture parent child attachment when work travelling - with Todd SarnerSynopsis:“Building an attachment culture, which is what I'm talking about, is a way to just make kids feel more connected more often. That doesn't depend on just you being with them. When you have this culture built around them, they feel more connected more often.”If you’ve ever worried about how frequent travel or long work assignments away from home affect your connection with your children, this episode is for you. This week, host Rhoda Bangerter sat down with expert guest Todd Sarner - licensed marriage family therapist and former Neufeld Institute faculty member...
2025-11-031h 11
The Revolutionary Man PodcastHow Fathers Can Lead with Confidence and Connection with Todd SarnerLet me know your thoughts on the show and what topic you would like me to discuss next.In this episode of the Revolutionary Man Podcast, host Alain Dumonceaux is joined by family coach and licensed therapist Todd Sarner to explore the challenges and triumphs of fatherhood. They delve into the importance of being present over being perfect, the middle path between dominance and connection, and the need for fathers to be positive, empathetic leaders in their families. The discussion also covers the significant influence of childhood experiences and the role of mentorship in becoming an evolved...
2025-11-0348 min
Live and Be GreatParenting Myths Debunked: Leadership, Connection, and True Emotional SafetyAre you stuck in the cycle of trying to be the perfect parent? In this transformative episode of Live and Be Great, host Latonya McDonald sits down with Todd Sarner, renowned Marriage and Family Therapist and founder of Transformative Parenting, to explore how perfectionism, pressure, and digital distractions silently shape family life — and how to break free for good.Together, they unpack what it means to lead with calm, build emotional connection, and raise resilient kids in today’s overstimulated world. You’ll discover practical, science-based tools for emotional regulation, secure attachment, and conscious parenting — without losing your san...
2025-10-311h 11
Hopestream: Parenting Kids Through Addiction & Mental HealthWhy Your Struggling Child Pushes You Away: The Attachment Connection, with Todd SarnerABOUT THE EPISODE:When a young person you love is struggling with substances or challenging behaviors, the instinct to fix everything can feel overwhelming. In this illuminating conversation, marriage and family therapist Todd Sarner brings decades of attachment science into sharp focus, and offers a roadmap for parents navigating the turbulent waters of adolescence. Drawing from his training with Dr. Gordon Neufeld and other attachment pioneers, Todd reveals why our kids' most hurtful behaviors often mask their deepest needs for connection. We explore the delicate dance between holding firm boundaries and maintaining compassion – wha...
2025-10-231h 04
Hopestream for parenting kids through drug use and addictionWhy Your Struggling Child Pushes You Away: The Attachment Connection, with Todd SarnerEpisode 296
ABOUT THE EPISODE:
When a young person you love is struggling with substances or challenging behaviors, the instinct to fix everything can feel overwhelming. In this illuminating conversation, marriage and family therapist Todd Sarner brings decades of attachment science into sharp focus, and offers a roadmap for parents navigating the turbulent waters of adolescence.
Drawing from his training with Dr. Gordon Neufeld and other attachment pioneers, Todd reveals why our kids' most hurtful behaviors often mask their deepest needs for connection. We explore the delicate dance between holding firm boundaries and maintaining c...
2025-10-2300 min
Coparenting Beyond Conflict: High-Conflict Divorce and Custody StrategiesAttachment Science for Coparents: Expert Guidance from Todd Sarner, LMFTIn this conversation, we explore the journey of shifting focus from working directly with children to engaging with parents for greater impact. The discussion delves into the importance of resilience, the challenges of parallel parenting, and strategies for fostering a calm and confident family environment. The episode emphasizes hope and the potential for positive change in family dynamics, even in the face of co-parenting difficulties.Learn more about Todd Sarner at: https://www.toddsarnermft.com/ and https://transformativeparenting.com/ Also check out Todd’s LinkedIn profile and YouTube channel.Get the...
2025-10-1632 min
Mama's PlaygroundThe Secret to Calm, Connected Parenting — with Todd SarnerIn this heartfelt and eye-opening conversation, Darlene and Monica sit down with Todd Sarner, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and founder of Transformative Parenting, to explore what it really means to raise emotionally healthy kids. Todd shares powerful insights about why parenting starts with the parents, how to stay connected with your children even on tough days, and what to do when you and your partner have totally different parenting styles.From “attachment-first” parenting to managing stress, marriage dynamics, and the impact of screens on kids, this episode is filled with practical advi...
2025-10-0849 min
Parents of the Year181. How can parents set boundaries without punishment?Parenting expert and therapist Todd Sarner joins Andrew and Caroline to unpack what it really means to guide children without shame or punishment. From his 20+ years of experience, Todd outlines the three pillars of proactive parenting: strengthening attachment and connection, creating a rhythm and environment that supports kids, and teaching natural consequences without shame. Together, they explore how separation anxiety shows up at bedtime, mornings, and school transitions, and why “collect before you direct” can change everything. This episode gives parents practical tools to reduce power struggles, hold boundaries with empathy, and raise resilient, emotionally secure...
2025-10-0153 min
Talk To DanielleFrom Daily Chaos To Lasting Calm: Transformative Parenting That Works with Todd SarnerTodd Sarner joins me this week to open up an important conversation on what parenting really is all about. In a world where debates continuously occur between gentle parenting and disciplinary parenting, Todd reveals a more important topic that both are right!Devoting his practice to transformative parents where building a healthy connection with your child matters first, Todd also advocates for the fact that our role as parents, is to have to set firm boundaries as well. Talking about the strain different parenting approaches can have on a couple, the...
2025-09-2745 min
Talk to DanielleFrom Daily Chaos To Lasting Calm: Transformative Parenting That Works with Todd Sarner, MFTTodd Sarner joins me this week to open up an important conversation on what parenting really is all about. In a world where debates continuously occur between gentle parenting and disciplinary parenting, Todd reveals a more important topic that both are right!
Devoting his practice to transformative parents where building a healthy connection with your child matters first, Todd also advocates for the fact that our role as parents, is to have to set firm boundaries as well.
Talking about the strain different parenting approaches can have on a couple, the di...
2025-09-2731 min
Speak Out Stand Out by Green CommunicationsRaising Calm, Confident Kids in a Chaotic WorldHave you ever wondered why modern parenting feels more challenging than ever before? In this eye-opening conversation with licensed family therapist Todd Sarner, we explore how parents can transform daily stress and disconnection into calm, confident leadership at home.Todd shares his profound insight that effective parenting starts with placing relationship first. Drawing from decades of experience helping thousands of families, he reveals that most parenting should be proactive rather than reactive—focusing on building strong connections, creating supportive environments, and developing crucial maturity processes in children.The discussion delves into three essential maturity processes ch...
2025-09-2334 min
Authentic ParentingThe Middle Path of Parenting: On Attachment and Why Who You Are Matters MoreTodd Sarner is a parenting coach and psychotherapist with over 20 years of experience helping families turn daily power struggles and emotional chaos into connection, calm, and cooperation at home. [00:00] Introduction — why quick fixes on social media backfire [02:35] What parents really need instead [05:10] The foundational role of attachment [08:25] "Collect before you direct" explained [12:00] Walking the middle path between chaos and rigidity [16:40] Parenting as our kids (and we) grow and evolve [20:15] What children need most from us today [24:50] How Todd's philosophy has shifted over time...
2025-09-1858 min
Complicated KidsThe Importance of Attachment with Todd Sarner Spoiler Alert: the secret to your child's toughest behaviors isn't discipline; it's the strength of your connection with them. 🤯 In this episode of The Complicated Kids Podcast, I sit down with parent coach and therapist Todd Sarner to talk about what attachment really means (and what it doesn't). Todd shares how shifting from "fixing kids" to empowering parents transformed his work, and why secure attachment is the key to both child development and adult relationships. We explore the three pillars that support families—connection, structure, and compassionate responses to behavior—and dive into what it really takes to rais...
2025-09-0235 min
Dad Improvement103. Secure Attachment and Our Children with Todd Sarner"Never assume connection with your kid." -Todd SarnerI was able to have an enlightening chat with Todd Sarner this week on the podcast. Todd explains secure attachment between us and our children and how it is the foundation upon which the rest of parenting is built. As long as our children feel secure to come to us, then we are doing a good job.If you would like to get in touch with Todd to work with him or hear more about what he does, please...
2025-08-271h 09
Anxiety Simplified - Beyond Traditional PsychologyEpisode # 266 Attachment Science in Parenting- Todd Sarner Todd Sarner, www.transformativeparenting.com Shares Three Realms in Parenting: 1. Family attachment/connection to feel secure to have a secure base, for deeper relationships. Connect before you direct to be listened to. 2. Build a culture of structure in the home, emotional regulation- fear recreates reactions fight or flight. 3. Behavior and discipline, consequences, cause and effect. 6 levels of attachment in adult relationships.Youtube@transformativeparentingwithTodd Could a Dog be your answer to reducing your anxiety? Free book answers 99% of quesitons, to fly with your dog, be in Housing with no fees or restrictions and access public places under ADA law...
2025-08-2549 min
Psych TalkEpisode 239 | Transformative Parenting with Todd Sarner, MFTIn today's episode of Psych Talk, I chat with Todd Sarner, MFT about his Transformative Parenting Process. We discuss Todd's journey into specializing in parenting and how he developed his Transformative Parenting Process. Todd discusses why understanding attachment is so important when it comes to parenting, as well as touches on what trauma-informed parenting is. We discuss how many parents are aware of various parenting strategies, yet struggle to apply evidence-based parenting strategies and how can they overcome this struggle. Todd shares some strategies he teaches parents in his Transformative Parenting Process and ends the episode by providing words...
2025-08-111h 00
The Warrior Parent PodcastRaising Emotionally Healthy Kids in a Digital World: Amid Screens, Social Media, and AI with Todd SarnerIn this episode of the Warrior Parent podcast, hosts Debbie DiManno and Marci Mitchell engage in a profound conversation with Todd Sarner, an experienced MFT, parenting coach and psychotherapist. They delve into the pivotal role of connection and attachment in parenting, especially in today's digital age, discussing how to nurture emotionally healthy and resilient children. Todd shares insights from attachment theory and his transformative parenting approach, offering valuable advice on managing screen time and fostering secure, loving relationships with children. Resources from this episode: Connect With Todd Sarner Know More About T...
2025-08-0742 min
The FOCUS Podcast with TaraleeEpisode 14: Why Connection Changes Everything- A Conversation with Todd SarnerEpisode 14 – Why Connection Changes Everything: A Conversation with Todd Sarner What if the most effective parenting strategy isn't a strategy at all—but a relationship? In this powerful and heartfelt episode, Taralee sits down with parenting coach and psychotherapist Todd Sarner, founder of Transformative Parenting and former faculty member at the Neufeld Institute, for a conversation that every parent needs to hear. Todd shares his personal journey into parenting work, shaped by his own adolescence and deeply informed by attachment science and the teachings of Dr. Gordon Neufeld (Hold On to Your Kids). Toge...
2025-07-1853 min
Old Firehouse School ChatDeepening Relationships with your ChildJoin hosts Alexandra Dutton and Rachel Turtledove for a wonderful discussion with Todd Sarner, MFT, about how to deepen your relationship with your child. Todd shares ways to connect with a child after a separation (like being apart all day with work and school) as well as why some children will seemingly reject you or your overtures of support and love. His strategies focus on Attachment Theory, which is at the heart of Old Firehouse Schools. Together they share some of the day-to-day struggles parents may have about connecting with children, setting boundaries, and understanding their child's shifting needs.
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2024-06-1438 minOld Firehouse School ChatSibling RivalryWhen siblings fight, it can drive parents crazy! Dorothy Stewart talks with Judy Haus and Alexandra Dutton about how to help create positive relationships between siblings and specific language to use. They discuss why comparing your children is unhelpful (02:23), what to do when name calling occurs (05:30)and how to handle the classic, "That's not fair!" (10:56)
We were greatly inspired by Todd Sarner's Transformative Parenting video about sibling relationships, as well as Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish's "Siblings Without Rivalry."
2019-01-1417 min